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It's not the people around you who should have responsibility of avoiding your triggers. It is you responsibility to find a way of managing your own responses in a healthy way. Triggers are potentially everywhere and we cannot make a perfect world for any one person because it would always be imperfect for others. I also learned through my own experience that your thoughts are just that - YOUR thoughts. So when your brain says 'she's doing that on purpose, she's copying me', try to remind yourself that your thoughts may be skewed.
I understand this, thats why i dont ever take my triggers out on her, only maybe ask her to stop making a repetitive sound. Qlso she has confirmed since filming this, that she does copy me intentionally.
@@BoboCoOfficial "It's not the people around you who should have responsibility of avoiding your triggers." this is true to an extent, but you could also ask for people closer to you to respect certain boundaries, if they are willing to, and try to live around people that are willing to accept those boundaries. But yeah, out in the rest of the world, it's not really possible to do that.
I think one of the unintended consequences of pushing mental health awareness is normalizing behaviors that shouldn’t be, and pathologizing normal behaviors that aren’t clinically significant. Hence “trends” like “bed rotting” and similar things. I think people who do have issues and have historically not received good mental health care can have empathy burnout more easily, especially towards individuals who claim to suffer from symptoms or disorders and do not seek to get help for them.
Diagnosis fishing is RAMPANT among youth, and yes, diagnosis can be difficult especially with the rise in self diagnosis and it is very nuanced. Even so, it’s so frustrating to watch people fish for diagnoses online and pull the “fakeclaiming” card when you don’t dignify their armchair self diagnoses. It might be a “boomer” take but imho anyone who gets upset by that are the ones self diagnosing and turning severe symptoms and mental illnesses into quirky “trends.” All that to say your frustration is valid and not necessarily an overreaction.
I completely agree. I personally found that when people started using the word "triggered" for literally anything and everything while laughing about it, that my serious triggers were not taken seriously. I'd confide in friends and get laughed at. I confide in friends and they'd compare it to themselves, when it absolutely was not the same thing. These kinds of trends take the seriousness away from behaviours and words which make it a lot harder for those suffering to come forward and get the help they need. They say "take mental health seriously" , while devaluing real trauma. One bloke even compared CSA to getting the wrong flavour icecream .Its ridiculous and pushes back progress we've made in mental health awareness
That was one skill I failed at was sewing or krocheing. Ha ha, I can't even spell it. 😅.. such a talent you have for that. I have another dear friend who does that too. Also, the shark and pillow are adorbs. Also the toxic stuff I understand, it seems like once you have someone harm you online, that feeling of fear & anger never goes away. Then the people copying ur name and clothes and even your sayings, gets annoying too. Like people don't even know how to be themselves or become obsessed with you and follow or copy others that you follow.. like some (Spacetime) head. Chin up and chat soon hopefully.😊
Thought you said bed wetting, our head went a very different direction for a very long time
Thatd be a craaaazy thing to become a trend 😭😂
I have OSDD. PTSD, OCD,OCPD ADHD, severe generalized anxiety disorder and major depressive disorder. Yes I do this. I believe that you had said before that you have OCD and I’m not trying to be a therapist or a psychiatrist but one of the facets of that is that and the unfortunately the type of OCD that I have is that I think things like oh if I write down the negative things that could happen, and I’m scared about then they’re gonna happen, and even though intellectually and logically, I know that that’s not true emotionally. My brain gives me anxiety and won’t let it rest, because for some reason the whole manifestation thing and good things not happening to good people and bad things. Only happen to bad people that’s been just some thing I’ve always felt. It’s not the best feeling, but the best thing to do is to look at that person look at their previous behavior, and if their previous behavior has been toxic and their previous behavior has been some thing they’ve done, especially towards other people or even just not been recognized by other people, but it makes you feel bad and just don’t don’t complicate it for yourself maybe write things down. Maybe try to see if logically it doesn’t make sense but emotionally it’s making you feel bad then maybe it is some thing that has to do with the way that your brain chemistry is.
Therapy definitely would help him. I don’t know how England’s healthcare system is I know Americas is terrible but I do see a fantastic therapist twice a week for trauma. It’s interesting because I never knew that I had OSD I found out after my mother passed in 2021 it took until 2022 I think or three maybe for it to kind of show itself also if any of this is weird I’m sorry I have to use talk to text
But one thing I do want you to know is that every once in a while I come back here to check on you and see if you’re OK because there is a certain person on RUclips who keeps making returns and gaslighting their entire community I believe that there are people who are on this website that truly have DID because I do believe that it is a thing. God knows some of my disorders like I have PMDD, and most people don’t even believe PMS exists but it’s it’s a hard thing for people to understand because it seems so out of this world but if you really talk about not talk about you wanna talk about anything but if you really think about the way, the brain structure is and the milestones that you hit a certain age as it makes sense
I mean you literally develop your attachment style in between the ages of like zero and three you’re like that’s it that’s your attachment style and you can work on how you react instead of how you feel because you can never really change how you feel. But like I was saying, I really want you to be OK. I don’t know what it is but I just want you to be OK because that person with the million subscribers I feel like they did some really terrible things and now I feel like it almost has been this like shadow over you I’m not sure if I’m right I’m making a lot of assumptions but I am really glad that you’ve been crocheting and I really am hoping that you’re doing OK. I worry about you as a human being. I don’t know what it is I think it’s because you’re one of the few people that I do truly believe has the things that you have, and due to that it means that certain things happened that sort of happened to me, but probably not to as severe of an extent as a child, and I I just wanna give you a hug and tell you. that it’s going to be OK and that nothing was your fault but then again, it’s not gonna fix anything but at the same time know that if I saw you in person, I would obviously ask for consent to give you a hug, but I would give you a hug and tell you that it’s not your fault, and that you are a beautiful person, and that you are capable of so much and that I hope you are able to find happiness and peace within your life and if something feels toxic to you don’t overthink it really don’t because I do the same thing I blame myself for people, not being in my life when they’re not in my life because of their own issues I am addressing any of mine, and I’ve always been kind and considerate and I do take responsibility for my actions so you seem like the same kind of person where you’re trying to figure out what it is you’ve done instead of trying to understand and except the fact that there are toxic people out there there are bad people out there and there are people that don’t have your best interest in mind which is hard for people who always have everyone else around them in their thoughts all times because they want them to be OK and you like children of abuse want everyone to be OK because we are more aware of changes in mood patterns and and facial expressions and body language and all of those things because we always had to be alert to that
So in closing this is probably very confusing I woke up from a nap but I am very glad to see that you are alive and that you are posting I I really hope that you’re doing well don’t post on your RUclips channel for other people do it because it’s something you want to do which seems what you’re doing I really was worried for a while but I am glad to see you. The blue hair is really cute. By the way I’m not trying to be creepy, i’m just a person who died a lot of other peoples hair well, not anymore. I’m pretty isolated at the moment but anyway enough about me. Glad you’re here and I’m really happy to see you’re doing OK. I haven’t watch the whole video but I just wanted to leave an incredibly long paragraph of text on your anyway
Thank you for sharing your artsy side us ❤ going into the public is very hard for this exact reasoning -you have always been bobo&co....it's weird for them to do that...a other trend of mental health,,,,it's getting out of control,,,,I honestly feel they need real help...to address the issues really happening....you have such a realistic approach to things...keep doing you❤ I honestly think your an infj personality type....you notice things....I am excited for you to move!!!!!!!
The move sounds like a good news...hopefully everything goes well...
And about the "copycat"...don't analyze it, just think it like you're influencing her...like all the influencers on social media 😂😂😂
It seems like you're on the right path with the positive videos...remember you're starting goal...go back at your roots with your channel ❤ you're doing great!
Your emotions are valid, if something is bothering you, you are not an asshole for bringing it up. I’m thinking your room mate is desperately seeking connection, but doesnt have the tools and skills to do it in a good way. Its not your responsibility to help her deal with it.
How is there anyway to say that you're stimming when you aren't? How can you get that confused with anything else? What would it get confused with? /gen
That is not cool that people make a trend of any mental illness or symptom period. None. Never. I am 37 and live with OSDD, and people ask me - oh, are you on Tiktok, why isn't your hair pink, do you want to be famous? No. I was talking about having alters 20 years ago, and I thought I had a twin sister and her ghost was following me when I was 5. Turned out it was an alter. My arms are covered in burns.
It's not cool. It's not. I get sooo angry. It's not a boomer thing.
Also, I just keep commenting during your video cause I feel like you’re talking directly to the audience and I feel like you’re talking to me and I just don’t want you to feel like you should feel bad for noticing things that people probably have told you before that you’re just being sensitive about or you’re just overreacting too because that is some thing that the people around us who have been kind of like covertly abusive like my males in my family kind of making me feel like I’m not doing something right like I should be in school full-time and working full-time in my 20s when that was not some thing that I was able to do I didn’t know why until recently but that doesn’t mean that I wasn’t living my life OK or correctly that’s just their fucking opinion so I don’t want you to Consistently gaslight yourself into thinking that someone isn’t doing something toxic because if you do that you’re gonna end up in relationships with people or friendships of people where they are toxic. I think that word is overused a bit but I would say the whole thing about if you’re thinking that everyone around you is an asshole then you’re the asshole that’s not true. My therapist is literally hammering into my head right now that because of the way I look at people and because of the stupid puppy dog trust I having people in because I have faith in people for some unknown reason, and I blame myself for other people’s behavior, and I blame myself for the way their behavior makes me feel. I’ve put myself into a victim role, many many times, and in no way, shape or form should anyone victim blame me or should I victim blame myself.
I don’t know how you could potentially reach out, but I would really love to be there for you to talk to you. Obviously there are times when I have like no spoons and I can’t but I’m a little bit older than you and I don’t know I just I don’t judge I don’t I don’t know if you wanna reach out just let me know. I understand I’m a stranger on the Internet I don’t know you you don’t know me but I just I wish I could lick reach through the computer and just I’m not even on the computer I’m on an iPad. You think you’re a boomer I just want you to know that it’s not always you sometimes it may be but it’s not always you and you don’t have to put everything into one basket and look at it as am I toxic or are they toxic? Am I thinking it’s toxic or am I I just being overly sensitive OK I have to stop at the walls of text but just know that people get it I get it I truly do I truly get it and I really think that you’re the kind of person who wants to take responsibility for the negative things they’ve done if they’ve done some thing negative but you drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what you did negative if you didn’t and someone’s reacted negative to you. I’m also not like trying to be para social or anything and I’m not like a “” fan I’m just a human being who genuinely cares for other human beings and just I can’t imagine having to deal with them for the amount of time that you’ve had to deal with them and also like I just feel like you shows such a human side of yourself and I think that more people need to appreciate the fact that it’s hard for people to show themselves at their lowest points. I couldn’t right now I barely even wanna go out in public.
Maybe this room mate is just not working? They sound kinda dumb honestly. Some of it is probably you, some of it is probably just an annoying a senseless room mate, that has some issues, like they're a bit demented maybe and it makes them copycat you? Maybe they are just dumb and thought they try out the stuff you try out because they haven't an imagination to decide for themselves what they want? I don't think the Boboco channel named his channel that way to annoy you though. It just sounds like this room mate is wearing on your nerves and you need your own place, or at least a better room mate... I guess that problem is getting fixed.
i hope u live forever
Bed rotting are you serious I was in bed for a month with depression, and I have aches and pains that won’t go away. I am having a hard time with my stamina. I gained weight due to the amount of cortisol in my system, which is hurting my back that’s the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard, and there is nothing wrong with you being upset that people are literally trivializing some thing that happens to people that is literally them being debilitated emotionally like one day people realize that your brain is part of your body and what your brain is doing to you affects everything and my God I just wanna be able to talk to you I feel like don’t allow people to do things to you, knowing whatever your conditions happen to be whatever your triggers happen to be if you are clear about these things with people and not defensive an angry, and they choose to ignore that it is not you being toxic. I have Missaphonia. And I have to be very clear with the people that I’m around more than once that I will be offended if they chew certain ways and it’s not them it’s me. And if they continue to do things that make me seriously anxious and I try to keep it under control as much as I can so if I’m working on it and they’re not and they’re just ignoring it and they’re not taking my mental and this is seriously that’s not on me that’s on them
And if you don’t think that the name thing is a dig on you come on we all know it is anybody who does not think that that person has what that person has allegedly and I’m not going to say that they don’t because I am not a professional, but I have my doubts, but I’m never going to say someone doesn’t have something that they’ve taken digs at you there they were jealous of you and I I don’t really understand why because like yes you’re I think you’re a better person but I also think that you have a disorder that they want for some unknown fucking reason I would give my childhood trauma way and lose a leg if I had to.