Even if ur a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur hornyness hope that help you out see her as person with no sexual desire ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it and get help
1. 2:20 - Say what you want 2. 5:23 - Have goals and put yourself first 3. 7:30 - Stop always seeking approval 4. 8:50 - Face your fears and change your mindset 5. 10:22 - When you're in conversation with a woman, slow down
Simple rules 1.Make your money 2. Love yourself most 3. Don't care too much 4. Be resolve 5. Don't let her know you love her too much even if you do. 6. Women minds are in a state of confusion.
Isn't that true ... and sad. Iv had conversations with people about it before, openly talking about this idea, in the end i dont think it changes much talking about it
@@0Hitmanofnorway0 Yeah man, it's both good and bad advice. This behavior may initially attract women, but if you don't know what to do with that attraction, then it's not going to help in the end.
Watch the video. She said to embrace it. But basically, don’t drop your life for her. If anyone is too available, it means they don’t have a fruitful life. People who are sometimes busy seem more valuable.
I understand this problem too well because I'm too much of a nice guy down to the core and even once could be considered the epitome of one I am sure. With enough healthy help and advice as well as the willingness and work to change You and I can change to something more ideal and we may never be perfect and it's not to change for everybody But to improve and level out ourselves which happens to be attractive and very good for a woman as well
I don’t need to be rich, I don’t need to be powerful, I just need to be me. And I’ve always been proud to be me, and I never regretted being me. And that’s all I ever will be.
1) Say what you want. This is how this worked for me: First girl - I was making the decisions, I lead the way, I want this, I don’t want that. She later complained that I was too controlling and that I should also let her have some say in things (I thought women liked men who took control) Second girl - After the first, I took it down a notch and let the second girl have her say and let her make some decisions, etc She later complained that I was the man and that I needed to make the decisions and take control. What the hell do you women want? Seriously?
It really depends and you gotta communicate and talk things out and then decide who is good for you, you will eventually find that person and You will need to change and improve some things but generally they will be patient and not so demanding and critical
I said what I wanted on the last 3 women relationship I was in, I told them I wanted honesty, all 3 lied to me within 4 months. Women today are not very honest and play more games than men.
kenny ross heres the thing women act like nice is bad and go to another than have kids with him jalf nice guy and gets fucked when he leaves her for another. When she should of stayes with the nice guy sit on that
Women are like publishing companies-send your beautifully written material and if they reject it there is always another company. After dating a “mentally fucked up woman: Borderline” I’m not afraid to say I forgot this mentality. Well from now on I’m working to get it back again.
Never change for her. She will simply lose respect for you. If she doesn't want you as you are now, she sure will not be able to stay with you if you change, and submit to her demanding you change. Women are Narcissistic by their nature,no morals,no principles and never loyal.
Just got told I was hot by a girl, asked her out she said I just got out of a relationship I need to get myself back together before I date someone, a week later she’s with someone else. I swear to god I’m done being nice
Would she have said that to Chris Hemsworth, or Henry Cavill? When women are interested they'll make it obvious and jump straight on an opportunity. She just wasn't into you. Women make rule for betas and break rules for alphas.
that happened to me! except she didn't say I was hot lol but we flirted and then I went in. silly mistake! boy am I feeling stupid now! here's what I think: men fall in to the trap very easily when lead on by the hot ones especially, and this comes down to experience. taking the bait. imo, you have to play the game for a while, as stupid as it sounds, before taking the plunge otherwise they think you are gullible and easily lead, which can also mean weak-mindedness. when they don't know you, this is a big turn off to them (unless they fall for you straight away). they like a challenge, otherwise they think they can dominate you, which in fairness in marriage, does happen a lot lol. its cat and mouse and part of the fun for them. I was told this by a female colleague, that the girl I went for wanted that game to carry on for longer before getting involved. however I think these relationships are doomed, as nothing would stop her from being with you if it were love at first sight.
My father died when I was 12 yrs old, he never was able to teach me how to treat a woman and what not to do. I learned the hard way from plenty of mistakes..and dating different women.
My father is nice guy that never taught me anything ,women, work ethic, life,thank god i had a grandmother who taught me about, work ethic,and a lot about life,women well that's another story.She just said I'm going to teach you to do everything for yourself that a woman can do for you.lmao,but seriously thanks grandma
Dad didn't die. He stayed and abused every member of the family physically and emotionally. As a result I think I tend to shy away from conflict and confrontation which a strong man shouldn't. I just thank God I'm starting to realize all this shit now I'm 25 and moved out.
Simple rules: 1. Stop wasting your time on women. 2. Stop giving them free attention. 3. Stop validating women, by complimenting them online or offline. 4. Ignore women, stop looking at them. All they want is that sweet validation. Women never initiate contact and never put any effort. (except if you're a tall and good looking guy) So why would you? It's all one sided, having to jump through all sorts of hoops and even then it's never good enough. Just don't bother.
I used to put her first, love her too much, then noticed I was second or fifth in her list of priorities, most women I met, maybe all. Istopped being the nice guy by experience, by learning how cold most women are, even the "good ones". They swear they are good in their own imagination though. They make you bad, they make you start watching over your shoulder, they make you be careful with them, they make you not be too good to them because at the end they be ungrateful as heck. I hate to say. You have to keep a balance
I couldn't agree with you more. I was too nice to my ex and she gradually took my niceness for granted because I was too available. We've broken up for more than a month now, and I feel good thinking how much she is missing out when she initiated the break.
Real shit, but it's the design of the 20th-21st century, there is no equality on Earth in any shape and form, and men never used to complain about these things because you just take the woman you want and then you both know your place, but we give them too much now and they keep wanting more.
Do not make a woman everything in your life. Have a life of your own! See other women ...dont have her be number 1 in your life. Have options. Dont care too much!
Took me 10+ years and thousands of dollars lost to figure all this out. My top issues were not putting my priorities first, as much as your girl talks about spending all this time with you, don't get comfortable and leave your friends and personal hobbies and goals to the side. Those are the things that make you interesting and keeps her on her toes. She'll just end up losing respect for you. In your head you're thinking "chick I gave all this up for you" don't do it! The other was putting women on some unearned pedestal. Women are insecure and craving validation just like men, when you stop putting beautiful women on pedestals they'll start dating you. Secret tip to this. Actually make friends with beautiful women (don't try to date them) when you start being around them more you'll realize how Normal they are. You can then use your beautiful friends to be your social proof. You can meet their friends or they will make your dates jealous. Good luck fiyz
What kind of bullshit is that?..a real man needs no proof cause there is nothing to prove.. And fuck making anyone jealous..That's the mentality of a woman
I learned the truth of what you say from reading a nonfiction book, where the author was a scam artist (art forger), and lived a very edgy existence in Manhattan, and he hung out with gorgeous models who also lived that same existence! He was no hunk or prize, but got them all in bed as part of his daily life (all residents in the same east side flophouse hotel).
Why would you make girls your friends bro? I did that in high school when I was actually cool with them but now as a adult I can’t that happening maybe
*Many guys don’t realize that being the nice guy often leads to suppressing personal needs and overcompensating for others. The key is finding balance - being respectful without sacrificing self-respect. Developing assertiveness and learning to set boundaries can instantly change the dynamic in relationships.*
Guys just be a man. Don't be afraid to say no. If you have no drama. Be cool. But just know your not for everybody. And avoid women that aren't reciprocating the same interest. Some women want what they can't have.... Peace
It took me years to learn the things she said in this video. I got married at 23; and did a lot of the things Apollonia said you should not do, and she is right. My wife at the time lost respect for me, and I could not understand why. Hard life lessons. As I got older my confidence grew, and I stop looking for the validation of others and women I dated became even more drawn to me. So yes; share your life, but don’t give up all your time to one person, in the long run they won’t appreciate you.
Me too I married the same age with u bro and as our love we’re better I became nice guy and she completely lost but after break up I learned not to communicate a girl everytime whatevwr she is to me now no one can make sad 😂😂
Women are more attracted to the idea they have of you than who you are as a person. This is what I’ve learned in my 35 years. The algorithm brought me here ;)
1. express clearly what u want(tricky) 2.dont be always available(for respect and shit) 3.dont seek validation(appears insecure or something) 4.face ur fears( so u appear masculine and mysterious lol) 5.dont talk too much and too fast(I agree with this one)
This video just told me everything i was doing. I was the nice guy. The quiet guy. Fit, nurse, passive, and went about my way. Everything said here is true.
If a woman limes a bad guy over a nice guy, then they will only learn the hard way If a woman is attracted to negativity then she may have issues that may relate to her childhood or something A true partner will accept u for who u are
Men, it's time to man up and handle your business and only get with women who want to add to your positive visions and goals. You can't be a leader if you aren't going anywhere! Women follow strength, bravery, and courage which is what it takes for any vision worth having. Apollonia, when you talk, it seems like you're saying what a woman like yourself, is attracted to and I can respect that. It sounds like me!
If a woman wants a man she's gonna be with him . The minute she gets bored of him . She dont care about how much money ,looks or success he has . That goes out the door . FACTS!!
@@pr0faker beauty is in the eye of the beholder, firstly. Secondly, there's no indication that what he meant was physical beauty. Someone who loves you, respects you and supports you is beautiful, regardless of looks. Someone whose secure in themselves, authentic, easy going is also beautiful, regardless of looks. Beauty isn't a one dimensional diamond my friend.
I have a lovely relationship that’s falling apart day by day because I lost my confidence and spark ⚡️ due to health and finances, I realized I’m doing all the opposite in the above and it’s making her lose interest and started talking to others, I’m going to start trying these from today and see how best it works. Watching it alone has made me feel better About myself . I will keep you updated
Yes, they play mind games. When I was in my early 20s I was sprung on this one girl at my job, but in her severe friend zone, so much so that I could never muster the guts to share my feelings (we were both bank tellers). But she knew how I felt. One day she told me that one of her friends liked me. Then she told me that if I ever got with the friend, nothing could ever happen between her and I. And I...... fell for it. lol I should have talk to the friend but never did. Now I regret the opportunity lost. And to make matters worse, she ended up sleeping with one of MY friends. What a great woman, eh!? What. A. SUCKER. I. was. You can't make this stuff up.
I'm from Georgia and it's amazing how many beautiful women in Atlanta choose to be with a thuggish man or someone who disrespects her over someone who would respect her and treat her like a lady. I don't have anything against the thug life, not hatin' at all. It appears that Apollonia is right, their self esteem must be low.
It's not always the "thuggish" ones who disrespect women. That's a stereotype. Sometimes it's the one with money, because.like many other materials in their life, they're replaceable to them.
Kenny Cooper, yeah man I totally agree with you man. That's right! I can't change of who I am because I'm really a nice guy that's respects women, I respect them on everyday basis and that's all but I don't treat them like Goddesses. I'm just on my own way. I stopped dating for 15 years. I learned my lessons. Women don't want Nice Guys but they want assholes and dickheads. That's why I seperates myself from others, the only time I need women is only for pleasure that's all. But for everyday basis I don't don't talk to them if it's not a related matters about my works, because I'm a Licensed Contractor and a Handyman I met a lot of women everyday as my customers/clients, most of them are single moms, widowed wives, divorced wives, and some cheater wives but hell I don't give a damn about them! What I really give a damn about is what I came for, and that's to fix their Houses, do maintenance repairs, and building, home improvement stuffs I'll do it and work on it and gets paid and get the fuck out of there.
I never had a problem with dating and always had a girlfriend. That doesn’t mean I always knew what I was doing, hahaha. I wish I learned this back in my high school and college days. This is a true life skill that should be taught in high school or college. It’s really plain and simple. A woman wants a man to be a MAN!! A woman wants to look up to her man, not have her man looking up to her always seeking her approval and validation. This is having ALPHA qualities and CONFIDENCE. Great video Apollonia, and keep it REAL. Thank you.
Its easy to not be the "nice" guy. Just don't do ridiculous favors that they ask unless you are in a relationship with them. Be respectful but protect your time and resources. I guarantee that you will find out everything you need to know
Everyone needs to listen to Apolloia’s advise. These are jewels of knowledge. And when I say; “everyone” I’m also talking about women too. Because too many women play childish shenanigans. They’re the type of women that watch their potential knight in shining armour walk away, only to be replaced by a loser in aluminium foil
They want you to be perfect. They want the secret mind telepathy conversations. They want you to have money. They want you to be full of muscles. They thinks they deserve everything, but never want to put in any work.
Jamacan women can be very loud and angry. They are almost always sweethearts if you offer just a little kindness. Many Jamacan women have never even experienced kindness in in quantity.
This is actually decent advice. The problem is trying this with these immature girls out there will get you nowhere. And there's a lot of them out there
So treat her like a Queen too early and she'll see you as a peasant but treat her as your respected equal and she'll see you as a King.. It all goes back to the currency mentality you've been teaching us about.. I love it!
How about we swap roles? I don't do shit, and if the woman likes me, then it's her job to attract me!....Stop chasing women guys, I've been doing it for the past two years and it worked wonders...Of course when you do that you can't choose tail, tail chooses you, but hey, the quality of tails gets better with time as you get more confident
@Mic Rophone - From what I have seen, more and more guys are just sitting back,waiting for women to approach THEM, so they can at least know that the woman is actually interested.
Hands down the most informative & BEST 12min video i’ve ever seen. I feel like a new man already. You are 100% on point and made me realise, damn, i was doing so much shit wrong
No one is truly secure with themselves, just know what you want in life and get it. If you don't know what you want just start something and give it your all you'll fall in love with it as you go
Just be yourself. It's crazy how you have to act totally different just to get some woman's attention. Focus on getting money and traveling the world. The right woman will come into your life if she wants to build something with you.
My wife just passed away, I am now 66 still in good health,house is paid for. Don't have plans to be with anyone else for now. But I really would like to learn how to be happy and content being single. I think this time around the woman will have to come to me, and if that doesn't happen so be it. I want to travel and enjoy whatever time I have left;and just play my guitar.
What’s worse we consciously took the word nice and made it something bad, it’s not even like it’s some weird confusion nobody notices it’s right in front of us. People even say “but… but…. nice guys aren’t nice they have expectations!” Yea, that’s why “nice” should stop getting attached to the common descriptor term for that type of man. Yet here we are doing anything but that.
This woman is correct. Keep it 100 with all of them. When you are older, you don't have tine to beat around the bush. You gotta do what you gotta do for you and she has to respect that
I have a group of friends.. I'm an ass with them, pretty mean, (mean cause im naturally like that not following anyones advice) NONE of the women like me.. meanwhile there is one friend whos extremely nice with them and gets all their attention.. everyone likes a nice guy including women, what this videos dont tell you is that being the asshole technique only works on certain women.. women who are not worth a single second of your attention, youre better off being nice to women and finding a gal who would love the real you and respect you.
Good advice honestly. I've been friend zoned one too many times and now I'm just gonna focus on myself, do my thing, and not try to chase after women. One girl I had a crush on even flat out said this to me..."you must not get laid very often...you're a super nice guy". All I thought was wow, that definitely validated the fact that women actually think that. Needless to say I definitely stopped talking to her cuz I learned I had zero chances with her lol But it was definitely an eye opener at the same time. Stop being the Nice Guy!
_1.Say what you want.(Dont hesitate) 2.Have Goals,Put yourself First always. 3.Not always Seek Approval/Validation 4.Face your Fears/Fix them & confident 5.Slow & steady conversations thanks._
I've been all these flaws with the exception of needy. Never was and never will be. But I have been the type to drop what I am doing, focus a bit more on taking her out etc and making plans etc. Try my best to be there etc, Still got dumped after a year and a half together in a freaking pandemic lmao. Why? Most women, not all, are so impatient. Working on stability as usual, but women seem to want full products. Even if some say they don't but you guys mostly do!!!! Lmao Anyways, I appreciate this segment. Taught me a lot to basically do me and put myself first.
Relationships are overrated; nothing but games and Jedi mind tricks. So pleased that I'm content at being single. Any standup man who looks halfway decent, and has above average numbers, will never have an issues with landing various women. Single life certainly works for me; I'm only bothered when I wanna be! Quite frankly, I value money over p*ssy.
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I have now come to that conclusion myself, seen too many friends financially butt fucked by girls that were supposed to love them
you saved my relationship twice, I'm the needy nice guy who waits by the phone.... i'v come along way to stay out of friend zone. I say what I want and she responds in kind
This has worked well for me because it was true: “I think there is a spark between us, and I want to find out more. I’m thinking X PM, X night, X restaurant.” And if she is hesitant, ask what do we have to lose. If she says no, say “too bad, I thought we could have had something” and walk away. Now some women like to play hard to get, you are on your own on that, I never play that.
Jim Jones exactly. Just be a savage bro. Even if you hurting inside Don’t Don’t ever never show it, if you gotta cry go for a good drive but don’t ever let then know you bothered no matter the case .
Relationships are draining i seem to meet workholics n werdios there the ones that wont put the effort in so your left feeling empty and sad there are women you can gel with that dont play mind games games
To me " Stop being the 'nice guy' " is: Don't be the guy that is buying her really nice gifts all the time. Don't be the guy that says "wherever you want to go is ok with me" Don't be the guy that acts like an angel around her parents - have a personality, have a backbone. Say what's on your mind, (nothing pervy unless you know she'll be cool with it).
AGREE, bruh! I'm 53, and in my experience very few women accept a man for who he truly is, largely b/c most women come into it with a preconceived idea in their head of how they feel a man should be, or what they believe a man is.
@@drjohnsonhungwell5115 True! I have been on a few dates and from my experiences women don't really like it if you were married before for some reason it's a turn off for them. Hell I lied once and this girl literally told me lying leads to cheating. I'm like shit, so you tell them the truth you are a red flag, if you lie you are a red flag.
Well...what most ladies on RUclips adverts wanna explain only after you have purchased their coaching program, you you have clearly and very well simply explained it...👌...thanks
@@emmahas2moms8038 it's not that women like lies it's how men try to make that lie sounds good but they tell truth in a very rude way even men don't like to be told the truth in a rude way
What would change the world is for women to tell men what they want. Stop dropping subtle, constant hints. We men are not mind readers. Popeye said it best. "I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam." Don't try to change me. Take me as I am.
ussling best one yet bro! I hate when they say “ blah blah blah... vibe..” wtf is a vibe? Use language and communicate what u want without requiring me to be a mind reader😂
I like your insights Apollonia, very practical and profound. Everything starts in the mind and most men give away their power to women when they lose their way and forget their true purpose, always remain true to yourself and your ideals.
When I found out that ALL women ( in my opinion), have "Daddy Issues" ( which can be extremely positive experiences or extremely negative experiences with their Father , or somewhere between those two extremes ), it was a huge breakthrough for me. I'm 65, and I am not good looking, I would definitely not be attractive to a woman based on a possible financial benefit to them, etc. I've been told that I have an honest, straight-forward, dominant "vibe" ( and I think a lot of women pride themselves on their intuition, whether it is right or wrong ), I cannot go into public, grocery store, etc. without making a strong connection with a woman, including if my (30 year younger) girlfriend is just 1 aisle over from me when I'm shopping. It is worse when they see you with an attractive young woman...for some reason they think it is open season for hitting on you, and if my girlfriend sees it, it makes me look like a "player", which I am definitely not. I couldn't even offer a date a ride in a nice car ( 20 year old used car ), and I don't own my own home ( primarily from a divorce), I'm on social security, so I really know it's not related to money. A "date" for me is Pizza and then home to TV ( but I am open to a lot of good conversation )..now the problem is, how do I give off the opposite "vibe" without having to say a word to these women that are interested in me ? It is putting a strain on my current relationship. Sometimes to me it boggles my mind about "why" ? are they attracted ???...I have girls attracted to me who are very beautiful, very intelligent, very high IQ, beautiful runway model who was 25, etc. etc...( FYI, these qualities are usually not in the same woman )....I guess it's delusional, but I actually think that if given a little time that there isn't a woman that I couldn't attract, as long as she is single, and it's difficult to get that attitude out of my head... The point of this comment is not to brag about my exploits, but just to offer another opinion, that I have no "game", I have no "pick up lines", etc. etc...to encourage other men to just be yourself as your first priority.
I lessen to a woman point of view about women more than men,because who's know more better,than another woman,I am going to use her advice,because I feel that it's going to help me in the long run,because I use to be too nice,and now that I am not like that too much.
Good luck. Be the nice guy like so many of us are/were and get screwed. You’re too easy and will be shot to the curb after a given amount of time. She said you don’t have to be a jerk, but trying to be the always jumping through hoops guy, to keep her happy, will surely end you up with nothing.
Apollonia very good video. I have been told by people that I am too nice to females but I do know my worth and I am sure of myself. I am guilty of being yes person to women but I discontinued that and I see the reason why it is bad. You explain your topics very well.
Isaac..be yourself. If a woman doesnt like that your nice then she really doesnt like you..you shouldnt have to manipulate and act like a bad boy to get a silly ass woman to like you..
That's v good advice. At first it's hard to force yourself to do it if you are a kind person with principles - but you must, and eventually you won't even feel bad about it. The other thing you should do is lie straight to their face about your property ownership status. For gods sake tell them you own your own place as its proven to make you 5 times as attractive - one of the main reasons you shouldn't even feel bad actually :o)
I like dating one girl at a time. I've found doing that you oftentimes have to lie, and what kind of genuine relationship can be built on lies? Did that, can't live like that any longer. I hate lying!
Men get friend-zoned because they don't make their move early enough. State your intentions within the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman. After 30 seconds you are already in the friend-zone and the longer you beat around the bush the farther you will have to claw your way back out of the friend-zone. If you don't be assertive and confident she will lose respect.
I agree 100% with your comment randy fricke. My friend and I used to experiment when we went out. We would enter a club separately and would each look at the girls to see who was looking at me/him. We both would then tell each other which girl was looking and approached immediately. It worked almost all the time. The times we went to them later it was 99% failure.
Realize that you don't have to be nice to these females being nice is a privilege every female do not deserves your kindness you'll be surprise on what they do behind closed doors, they got flaws too, if your a nice person that's fine but you gotta play tit for a tat with these women.
It’s called “The flow” - literally what I said. If you like her, ask question that reveals if she is able or interested you. If not your cocked hard hehe
I got the message. Stop being nice. So, I saw this woman carrying a bag, and she was struggling. I thought about stopping to help her, and then I realized, that would be nice. It was a great feeling just driving on and having a great day. It's very freeing.
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You know what's crazy? I've been using your methods and advice... IT WORKS!!!!!!! LMFAO!!!!! IT FREAKIN WORKS!!!!!!
HAHA. Awesome!
Agreee
LMFAO means?
@@ApolloniaPonti honestly you are so beautiful.
Martyn Watson It means “laughing my f***ing ass off”
Truth is that women don't know what they want...simple!
Excellent
Underrated comment 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I would like to send you a check for that truth
Too complicated and expect too much!
Well said! 👌...
Rule number 0: Come as you are and if she doesn't like it, then walk away!
djef ardeur -Period!!
Even if ur a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur hornyness
hope that help you out see her as person with no sexual desire
ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it and get help
Facts.
NeverStopAskin tru
Well said
So basically: be yourself, do whatever makes you happy, don't change for anyone and stay single - got it!👌🏾
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LMFAO 🤣💯💯
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Basically 😂
Hahaha
1. 2:20 - Say what you want
2. 5:23 - Have goals and put yourself first
3. 7:30 - Stop always seeking approval
4. 8:50 - Face your fears and change your mindset
5. 10:22 - When you're in conversation with a woman, slow down
Thank you for writing down here. This bitch always talk so much. Really thank you for saving my 12 minutes and learn the important parts
AmonEKO TV common bro why call her Bitch?
@@AmonEKO 😂😂😂😂
Amoneko tv😂🔥no filter🤜🏽
@@AmonEKO hhhh youre right bro. Hit the point
Simple rules
1.Make your money
2. Love yourself most
3. Don't care too much
4. Be resolve
5. Don't let her know you love her too much even if you do.
6. Women minds are in a state of confusion.
Straight facts 💯
On the spot
Exactly 👍
My man 😎👍
So stay single.
The person that cares less about the relationship, controls the relationship
Isn't that true ... and sad. Iv had conversations with people about it before, openly talking about this idea, in the end i dont think it changes much talking about it
True.
It’s crazy that we have to play these games. Not my idea of a high quality relationship
Being single and focusing on yourself the best thing you can do!
Rest will follow!😎
Amen
Me: also still single 4 years later
You still would have yo learn how to love them...
Doing that for 10 years now. Not helping at all. Think ill take my life soon. Im so lonely
@@0Hitmanofnorway0 Yeah man, it's both good and bad advice. This behavior may initially attract women, but if you don't know what to do with that attraction, then it's not going to help in the end.
I will not go out of my way to impress a woman , I am what I am
Facts.
Did any of you watch the video or just reply to the title only with presumption?
Needy
thank you men
I strongly 100% agree
I like being the nice guy and I like me just the way I am. That’s good enough for me. All I can say is, it’s their loss.
Agreed
Being nice guys we just can't help it. I guess we're the type women are meant to take advantage of.
Yah...??? And thats why you don't get any pussy...
Watch the video. She said to embrace it. But basically, don’t drop your life for her. If anyone is too available, it means they don’t have a fruitful life. People who are sometimes busy seem more valuable.
I understand this problem too well because I'm too much of a nice guy down to the core and even once could be considered the epitome of one I am sure. With enough healthy help and advice as well as the willingness and work to change You and I can change to something more ideal and we may never be perfect and it's not to change for everybody But to improve and level out ourselves which happens to be attractive and very good for a woman as well
Never ever ask a women . Where do you want to eat. Never do it! I’ve been married 43 years and my wife still can’t answer that.
Paul Grimm lol
Wait a minute...why are you here? 🤔😂
@@robjay7862 good question Robert 01010101010101
You are right. They are to be led. They are their most happy when they follow.
VSAK2007 how women think, brought to you by a man lmao
I don’t need to be rich, I don’t need to be powerful, I just need to be me. And I’ve always been proud to be me, and I never regretted being me. And that’s all I ever will be.
That's right..
@@edwinkarani5593 and because of that you are powerfull !
1) Say what you want.
This is how this worked for me:
First girl - I was making the decisions, I lead the way, I want this, I don’t want that. She later complained that I was too controlling and that I should also let her have some say in things (I thought women liked men who took control)
Second girl - After the first, I took it down a notch and let the second girl have her say and let her make some decisions, etc
She later complained that I was the man and that I needed to make the decisions and take control.
What the hell do you women want? Seriously?
Have you tried to balance it? More like, controlling but also listening.. like you control her but ask her first what she wants.
It really depends and you gotta communicate and talk things out and then decide who is good for you, you will eventually find that person and You will need to change and improve some things but generally they will be patient and not so demanding and critical
@@vashj212 Not worth the time and energy
Basically you need to just adopt the two things u said
Almost as if women are not a monolithic entity with only a single opinion and personality
I said what I wanted on the last 3 women relationship I was in, I told them I wanted honesty, all 3 lied to me within 4 months. Women today are not very honest and play more games than men.
kenny ross heres the thing women act like nice is bad and go to another than have kids with him jalf nice guy and gets fucked when he leaves her for another. When she should of stayes with the nice guy sit on that
kenny ross
You don't say
You are attracting those type of women.
Women are like publishing companies-send your beautifully written material and if they reject it there is always another company. After dating a “mentally fucked up woman: Borderline” I’m not afraid to say I forgot this mentality. Well from now on I’m working to get it back again.
Then you are dating the wrong kind of women
The worst thing you can do is try to please a woman. It will never happen.
John Dyer you can please them by not giving a fuck about their stupid shit.
Not lying man. I bent over backwards for a past girlfriend and the more I gave, the more she wanted.
Never change for her. She will simply lose respect for you. If she doesn't want you as you are now, she sure will not be able to stay with you if you change, and submit to her demanding you change. Women are Narcissistic by their nature,no morals,no principles and never loyal.
The beguiling nature is that of the devil..this is what they seek...
@@TitanT38 you shouldn't bend over backwards for her or anyone
Just got told I was hot by a girl, asked her out she said I just got out of a relationship I need to get myself back together before I date someone, a week later she’s with someone else. I swear to god I’m done being nice
True
Maybe that could’ve been her ex she got back with and was a bit confused at that moment
Never date someone that just broke off a relationship
Would she have said that to Chris Hemsworth, or Henry Cavill? When women are interested they'll make it obvious and jump straight on an opportunity. She just wasn't into you. Women make rule for betas and break rules for alphas.
that happened to me! except she didn't say I was hot lol but we flirted and then I went in. silly mistake! boy am I feeling stupid now! here's what I think: men fall in to the trap very easily when lead on by the hot ones especially, and this comes down to experience. taking the bait. imo, you have to play the game for a while, as stupid as it sounds, before taking the plunge otherwise they think you are gullible and easily lead, which can also mean weak-mindedness. when they don't know you, this is a big turn off to them (unless they fall for you straight away). they like a challenge, otherwise they think they can dominate you, which in fairness in marriage, does happen a lot lol. its cat and mouse and part of the fun for them. I was told this by a female colleague, that the girl I went for wanted that game to carry on for longer before getting involved. however I think these relationships are doomed, as nothing would stop her from being with you if it were love at first sight.
I treat her like she's replaceable, while focusing on my life! Its always kept them wanting more and on their best behaviour
Right on! Women need to be managed!
LOL. That's a smart tactic.
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Why would u want a woman who settles for less?
And how did you do that?like it.s replaceable ?can you share some info?
My father died when I was 12 yrs old, he never was able to teach me how to treat a woman and what not to do. I learned the hard way from plenty of mistakes..and dating different women.
Same here bro
What did you learn
My father is nice guy that never taught me anything ,women, work ethic, life,thank god i had a grandmother who taught me about, work ethic,and a lot about life,women well that's another story.She just said I'm going to teach you to do everything for yourself that a woman can do for you.lmao,but seriously thanks grandma
Hey I Lost My Dad At Age 12 Too But My Dad Always Told Me There Are Times You Can't Trust No Women 💯
Dad didn't die. He stayed and abused every member of the family physically and emotionally. As a result I think I tend to shy away from conflict and confrontation which a strong man shouldn't. I just thank God I'm starting to realize all this shit now I'm 25 and moved out.
Simple rules:
1. Stop wasting your time on women.
2. Stop giving them free attention.
3. Stop validating women, by complimenting them online or offline.
4. Ignore women, stop looking at them. All they want is that sweet validation.
Women never initiate contact and never put any effort. (except if you're a tall and good looking guy) So why would you?
It's all one sided, having to jump through all sorts of hoops and even then it's never good enough. Just don't bother.
I strogly agree
Focus on your purpose or finding it.
Welcome to the women of 2020
What if I dont think I'm good looking and not tall, what do they want when talkin to me about their life? This is a confusing time😖😕🙃
Yes DONT bother.. if you try you’ll be rejected
This video is a wonderful insight to why millions of women are going to die single.
Lol
Boom
So that includes mens too?? Equal proportion
Precisely
Hey guys don't say that
I used to put her first, love her too much, then noticed I was second or fifth in her list of priorities, most women I met, maybe all. Istopped being the nice guy by experience, by learning how cold most women are, even the "good ones". They swear they are good in their own imagination though. They make you bad, they make you start watching over your shoulder, they make you be careful with them, they make you not be too good to them because at the end they be ungrateful as heck. I hate to say. You have to keep a balance
Amen brother! Truth!!
Great comment about stopping the nice guy routine from experience I honestly KNOW that most men change via the same way myself included
I couldn't agree with you more. I was too nice to my ex and she gradually took my niceness for granted because I was too available. We've broken up for more than a month now, and I feel good thinking how much she is missing out when she initiated the break.
Real shit, but it's the design of the 20th-21st century, there is no equality on Earth in any shape and form, and men never used to complain about these things because you just take the woman you want and then you both know your place, but we give them too much now and they keep wanting more.
I couldn’t have said it better bro. Women really teach men that being nice will make them disrespect you. Period i have experienced it myself.
How can a nice guy not be nice! That’s why he’s nice...he’s not fake!
@ A J - Not to worry, they get JUST what they deserve . . . .
Do not make a woman everything in your life. Have a life of your own!
See other women ...dont have her be number 1 in your life. Have options. Dont care too much!
Very true !
Very true
Because we are busy being number 1 FOR A WOMAN AND NOT OURSELF.
Yup
Bingo
Took me 10+ years and thousands of dollars lost to figure all this out. My top issues were not putting my priorities first, as much as your girl talks about spending all this time with you, don't get comfortable and leave your friends and personal hobbies and goals to the side. Those are the things that make you interesting and keeps her on her toes. She'll just end up losing respect for you. In your head you're thinking "chick I gave all this up for you" don't do it! The other was putting women on some unearned pedestal. Women are insecure and craving validation just like men, when you stop putting beautiful women on pedestals they'll start dating you. Secret tip to this. Actually make friends with beautiful women (don't try to date them) when you start being around them more you'll realize how Normal they are. You can then use your beautiful friends to be your social proof. You can meet their friends or they will make your dates jealous. Good luck fiyz
Never EVER leave your homeboys for pu$$$yyy
What kind of bullshit is that?..a real man needs no proof cause there is nothing to prove.. And fuck making anyone jealous..That's the mentality of a woman
I use this METHOD ALL THE TIME 🙂🙂.
I learned the truth of what you say from reading a nonfiction book, where the author was a scam artist (art forger), and lived a very edgy existence in Manhattan, and he hung out with gorgeous models who also lived that same existence! He was no hunk or prize, but got them all in bed as part of his daily life (all residents in the same east side flophouse hotel).
Why would you make girls your friends bro? I did that in high school when I was actually cool with them but now as a adult I can’t that happening maybe
*Many guys don’t realize that being the nice guy often leads to suppressing personal needs and overcompensating for others. The key is finding balance - being respectful without sacrificing self-respect. Developing assertiveness and learning to set boundaries can instantly change the dynamic in relationships.*
Guys just be a man. Don't be afraid to say no. If you have no drama. Be cool. But just know your not for everybody. And avoid women that aren't reciprocating the same interest. Some women want what they can't have.... Peace
You are the man. Liked what you said in your last sentence
Force her to reciprocate 😮😁🙀
My boy told me this about women. We men also want what we can't have. Never thought about the opposite. Thanks brother!! Stay woke.
It took me years to learn the things she said in this video. I got married at 23; and did a lot of the things Apollonia said you should not do, and she is right. My wife at the time lost respect for me, and I could not understand why. Hard life lessons. As I got older my confidence grew, and I stop looking for the validation of others and women I dated became even more drawn to me. So yes; share your life, but don’t give up all your time to one person, in the long run they won’t appreciate you.
Me too I married the same age with u bro and as our love we’re better I became nice guy and she completely lost but after break up I learned not to communicate a girl everytime whatevwr she is to me now no one can make sad 😂😂
Women are more attracted to the idea they have of you than who you are as a person. This is what I’ve learned in my 35 years. The algorithm brought me here ;)
true asf 😂
1. express clearly what u want(tricky)
2.dont be always available(for respect and shit)
3.dont seek validation(appears insecure or something)
4.face ur fears( so u appear masculine and mysterious lol)
5.dont talk too much and too fast(I agree with this one)
"It doesn't has to be her." one of the most important advices.
That one line she just had to say 😂
This video just told me everything i was doing. I was the nice guy. The quiet guy. Fit, nurse, passive, and went about my way. Everything said here is true.
I used to be a nice guy years ago. These days, I just simply don't give a rat's ass anymore.
Believe!!!
Great.
Idk why I laughed hard @ I don’t give a rats ass anymore 🤣
I do the same thing and now ladies want me to notice them.
The Doctor Jekyll turns into mr. Hyde who disrespect women I get it
If a woman limes a bad guy over a nice guy, then they will only learn the hard way
If a woman is attracted to negativity then she may have issues that may relate to her childhood or something
A true partner will accept u for who u are
Men, it's time to man up and handle your business and only get with women who want to add to your positive visions and goals. You can't be a leader if you aren't going anywhere! Women follow strength, bravery, and courage which is what it takes for any vision worth having. Apollonia, when you talk, it seems like you're saying what a woman like yourself, is attracted to and I can respect that. It sounds like me!
Accept your childhood at your peril!
Woman will adopt qualities of her man.
If a woman wants a man she's gonna be with him . The minute she gets bored of him . She dont care about how much money ,looks or success he has . That goes out the door . FACTS!!
It's great to see a woman that actually speaks the truth on this. A lot of times when women give relationship advice it's crap, but Apollonia is good!
Anybody else tired of jumping through hoops just because you want someone beautiful in your life?
❤️❤️❤️😃
I don't need a beautiful perfect '10', I'm totally happy with a very confident and down-to-earth '5.'
if you are looking for someone 'beautiful' instead of someone that loves you good luck finding that mystery unicorn as a normal person.
Light the hoops on fire, and watch them burn. Stop wasting your time with women. Your life will be better for it.
@@pr0faker beauty is in the eye of the beholder, firstly. Secondly, there's no indication that what he meant was physical beauty. Someone who loves you, respects you and supports you is beautiful, regardless of looks. Someone whose secure in themselves, authentic, easy going is also beautiful, regardless of looks.
Beauty isn't a one dimensional diamond my friend.
I have a lovely relationship that’s falling apart day by day because I lost my confidence and spark ⚡️ due to health and finances, I realized I’m doing all the opposite in the above and it’s making her lose interest and started talking to others, I’m going to start trying these from today and see how best it works. Watching it alone has made me feel better About myself .
I will keep you updated
When I get a girlfriend that’s when all the friend zone girls act interested in me.
Don’t fall for it!
Yes, they play mind games. When I was in my early 20s I was sprung on this one girl at my job, but in her severe friend zone, so much so that I could never muster the guts to share my feelings (we were both bank tellers). But she knew how I felt. One day she told me that one of her friends liked me. Then she told me that if I ever got with the friend, nothing could ever happen between her and I. And I...... fell for it. lol I should have talk to the friend but never did. Now I regret the opportunity lost. And to make matters worse, she ended up sleeping with one of MY friends. What a great woman, eh!?
What. A. SUCKER. I. was.
You can't make this stuff up.
They dont want you they just want your attention dont fall for it bro.
I only tried it once, but found it is true that wearing a wedding ring makes other women hit on you.
😀
I'm from Georgia and it's amazing how many beautiful women in Atlanta choose to be with a thuggish man or someone who disrespects her over someone who would respect her and treat her like a lady. I don't have anything against the thug life, not hatin' at all. It appears that Apollonia is right, their self esteem must be low.
What's important is not to become one of those men. The woman with a weak psychology is second's away from falling to another hand.
Really that sucks
Trust me bruh, it's the same in Chicago, and probably anywhere that thug life and drug dealers exist.
It's not always the "thuggish" ones who disrespect women. That's a stereotype. Sometimes it's the one with money, because.like many other materials in their life, they're replaceable to them.
Kenny Cooper, yeah man I totally agree with you man. That's right! I can't change of who I am because I'm really a nice guy that's respects women, I respect them on everyday basis and that's all but I don't treat them like Goddesses. I'm just on my own way. I stopped dating for 15 years. I learned my lessons. Women don't want Nice Guys but they want assholes and dickheads. That's why I seperates myself from others, the only time I need women is only for pleasure that's all. But for everyday basis I don't don't talk to them if it's not a related matters about my works, because I'm a Licensed Contractor and a Handyman I met a lot of women everyday as my customers/clients, most of them are single moms, widowed wives, divorced wives, and some cheater wives but hell I don't give a damn about them! What I really give a damn about is what I came for, and that's to fix their Houses, do maintenance repairs, and building, home improvement stuffs I'll do it and work on it and gets paid and get the fuck out of there.
I never had a problem with dating and always had a girlfriend. That doesn’t mean I always knew what I was doing, hahaha. I wish I learned this back in my high school and college days. This is a true life skill that should be taught in high school or college. It’s really plain and simple. A woman wants a man to be a MAN!! A woman wants to look up to her man, not have her man looking up to her always seeking her approval and validation. This is having ALPHA qualities and CONFIDENCE. Great video Apollonia, and keep it REAL. Thank you.
A girl I knew in college used to say “nice guy, no butterflies” for the nice guys that got dumped into friend zone
Evil guys that put into prison for life
What zone were you in. I'm guessing the friend zone as she was being honest and upfront with you.
Its easy to not be the "nice" guy. Just don't do ridiculous favors that they ask unless you are in a relationship with them. Be respectful but protect your time and resources. I guarantee that you will find out everything you need to know
Do not worship them or beg them or be controlled by them!
Everyone needs to listen to Apolloia’s advise. These are jewels of knowledge. And when I say; “everyone” I’m also talking about women too. Because too many women play childish shenanigans. They’re the type of women that watch their potential knight in shining armour walk away, only to be replaced by a loser in aluminium foil
Confident women don't need assurance. The biggest problem nowadays is women are confused, clueless, We men don't have time for your insecurities.
Yes
It honestly goes both ways
Say it again 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
She thinks we can read her mind. The truth is women always contradict themselvs
The truth will contradict itself🙈😍
@@halcioncocaine2096 what do you mean
They want you to be perfect.
They want the secret mind telepathy conversations.
They want you to have money.
They want you to be full of muscles.
They thinks they deserve everything, but never want to put in any work.
@@realtruth97 facts
I'm so glad to have a copy of Dr. Robert Glover's book No More Mr Nice and this book changed my life.
Growing up in Jamaica I never knew it was possible to be too nice.
Jamaica, I spent some time there on a missions trip and also have Jamaican in my family so I know what you mean here. :)
Glad fi hear dat . ha mi fi tel yu
Yardie in the house
@@SirBrucie you done know
Jamacan women can be very loud and angry. They are almost always sweethearts if you offer just a little kindness. Many Jamacan women have never even experienced kindness in in quantity.
This is actually decent advice. The problem is trying this with these immature girls out there will get you nowhere. And there's a lot of them out there
Indeed
So treat her like a Queen too early and she'll see you as a peasant but treat her as your respected equal and she'll see you as a King..
It all goes back to the currency mentality you've been teaching us about.. I love it!
How about we swap roles? I don't do shit, and if the woman likes me, then it's her job to attract me!....Stop chasing women guys, I've been doing it for the past two years and it worked wonders...Of course when you do that you can't choose tail, tail chooses you, but hey, the quality of tails gets better with time as you get more confident
@Mic Rophone - From what I have seen, more and more guys are just sitting back,waiting for women to approach THEM, so they can at least know that the woman is actually interested.
Hands down the most informative & BEST 12min video i’ve ever seen. I feel like a new man already. You are 100% on point and made me realise, damn, i was doing so much shit wrong
*"No woman wants to have a man around that is not secure with himself"* Guess i'll just die alone lolol
Felt
ill stick to being a nice person. women can grow up or be ignored.
No one is truly secure with themselves, just know what you want in life and get it. If you don't know what you want just start something and give it your all you'll fall in love with it as you go
Bro bitches be stupid assuming you insecure when In reality they the ones always wanting attention
Facing a fear was the best one.
Just be yourself. It's crazy how you have to act totally different just to get some woman's attention. Focus on getting money and traveling the world. The right woman will come into your life if she wants to build something with you.
My wife just passed away, I am now 66 still in good health,house is paid for. Don't have plans to be with anyone else for now. But I really would like to learn how to be happy and content being single. I think this time around the woman will have to come to me, and if that doesn't happen so be it. I want to travel and enjoy whatever time I have left;and just play my guitar.
Brutally correct
What’s worse we consciously took the word nice and made it something bad, it’s not even like it’s some weird confusion nobody notices it’s right in front of us. People even say “but… but…. nice guys aren’t nice they have expectations!”
Yea, that’s why “nice” should stop getting attached to the common descriptor term for that type of man. Yet here we are doing anything but that.
This woman is correct. Keep it 100 with all of them. When you are older, you don't have tine to beat around the bush. You gotta do what you gotta do for you and she has to respect that
I have a group of friends.. I'm an ass with them, pretty mean, (mean cause im naturally like that not following anyones advice) NONE of the women like me.. meanwhile there is one friend whos extremely nice with them and gets all their attention.. everyone likes a nice guy including women, what this videos dont tell you is that being the asshole technique only works on certain women.. women who are not worth a single second of your attention, youre better off being nice to women and finding a gal who would love the real you and respect you.
Yah the bad boys of the world disagree! It has been proven over and over the less you care the more they do the.
If u are nice guy be ur nice don't be overly nice everything is a little to the left or to the right period
Good advice honestly. I've been friend zoned one too many times and now I'm just gonna focus on myself, do my thing, and not try to chase after women. One girl I had a crush on even flat out said this to me..."you must not get laid very often...you're a super nice guy". All I thought was wow, that definitely validated the fact that women actually think that. Needless to say I definitely stopped talking to her cuz I learned I had zero chances with her lol But it was definitely an eye opener at the same time. Stop being the Nice Guy!
damn.
@@philmatophthat’s crazy
_1.Say what you want.(Dont hesitate)
2.Have Goals,Put yourself First always.
3.Not always Seek Approval/Validation
4.Face your Fears/Fix them & confident
5.Slow & steady conversations thanks._
I've been all these flaws with the exception of needy.
Never was and never will be.
But I have been the type to drop what I am doing, focus a bit more on taking her out etc and making plans etc.
Try my best to be there etc,
Still got dumped after a year and a half together in a freaking pandemic lmao.
Why? Most women, not all, are so impatient.
Working on stability as usual, but women seem to want full products.
Even if some say they don't but you guys mostly do!!!!
Lmao
Anyways, I appreciate this segment.
Taught me a lot to basically do me and put myself first.
Relationships are overrated; nothing but games and Jedi mind tricks. So pleased that I'm content at being single. Any standup man who looks halfway decent, and has above average numbers, will never have an issues with landing various women. Single life certainly works for me; I'm only bothered when I wanna be! Quite frankly, I value money over p*ssy.
I have now come to that conclusion myself, seen too many friends financially butt fucked by girls that were supposed to love them
I'm a woman who dates a woman and got to say WOMEN ARE WORK! I say just be yourself love yourself and let her be added happiness and second to you!
stfu....you have no say in this....
Be honest,
Respect yourself 1st,
Know you are never her "only"...
Stay on your purpose.
✌🏿️❤️💪🏿
Ma brotha
I've never dated and I'm 33, I'm definitely listening tho.
CR TV dude contact me immediately
Wtf is wrong with you
Don’t shy women say what you want
Bro...
my guy
yeah, I'm 33 and I've only dated once.
we should hang out.
Being a nice guy and starting a relationship is a recipe for failure.
better to buy pu$$y instead.
@pedro ceballos who you telling bro lbs
@@axk6047 💯
@@axk6047 best comment. Just rent a whore its much less of a headache and will save you lots of precious time and cash!
HHOW IS BEING NICE BAD
you saved my relationship twice, I'm the needy nice guy who waits by the phone.... i'v come along way to stay out of friend zone. I say what I want and she responds in kind
Great to hear. We live and learn from our mistakes. Bad boys were once nice guys but the harsh reality taught them to unlearn the blue pilled nonsense
This has worked well for me because it was true: “I think there is a spark between us, and I want to find out more. I’m thinking X PM, X night, X restaurant.” And if she is hesitant, ask what do we have to lose. If she says no, say “too bad, I thought we could have had something” and walk away.
Now some women like to play hard to get, you are on your own on that, I never play that.
Yes!!! Exactly!!!! You got this!
-Apollonia
To cut the long story short first learn to love yourself then think about someone else👍
I'd rather be single than stop being who i am. (Nice guy)
You can be that, just as long as you're assertive and not too much of a pushover.
@@mdotbeedot Exactly.
I think the greatest advice to anyone is to stop seeking outside validation! Do this and you'll shine like never before. I've seen it first hand
I believe you
Rule 1 don't be a sucka
sami sadler you show any real kindness to women they will destroy you.
@@abryepenez124 I should've read your comment way before. Too late now
Jim Jones exactly. Just be a savage bro. Even if you hurting inside Don’t Don’t ever never show it, if you gotta cry go for a good drive but don’t ever let then know you bothered no matter the case .
Don’t get too attached*
Too many simps out there.
Being honest.. Means a true friend.. Helping her always..
Women just annoy me now , I can’t even get the urge to want to date anymore .... anyone else at this point ?
Fullrusher : yeah. They are full of dramas
Relationships are draining i seem to meet workholics n werdios there the ones that wont put the effort in so your left feeling empty and sad there are women you can gel with that dont play mind games games
Fullrusher I'm with you bro
In beyond this point, I actually get pissed off when a woman finds me attractive and flirts with me
@Jerry Phillips so women are basically users, and lazy, got it. I'll pass
To me " Stop being the 'nice guy' " is: Don't be the guy that is buying her really nice gifts all the time. Don't be the guy that says "wherever you want to go is ok with me" Don't be the guy that acts like an angel around her parents - have a personality, have a backbone. Say what's on your mind, (nothing pervy unless you know she'll be cool with it).
Exactly!!!!! Thank you!
Treat women how they treat their selves most of these women look for lust
Im not a nice guy but i like to buy my bitches really nice gifts all the time.. they can go wherever they wona go who gives a fuck..
@@oozyvsak47ll31 😂
@@CosmicHarmony58 😆 🤣 😂 hahaha this guy make me laugh
I’m done putting in the work and jumping through hoops and being disappointed. My life, my terms and I’m not compromising anymore.
I ain't changing for no woman..they like who I am or they can do one...
I'm a nice guy but I'm no pushover...
nice guys Finish last could known that
I'm staying single. I feel free.
Then why you watching this video fool.
Checkmate
Maybe he's learning to teach other men what she teaches? Lol #optimistic
MegaBlueEyezz maybe this dude as well as me sometimes wants to be pissed off.
Is this a choice you made or something that's out of your hands 🤣🤣
I haven't seen any woman who likes the truth they love players
AGREE, bruh! I'm 53, and in my experience very few women accept a man for who he truly is, largely b/c most women come into it with a preconceived idea in their head of how they feel a man should be, or what they believe a man is.
Same here I don't even bother with them it's a waste of time let them go find the dirtbags of their dreams.
@@drjohnsonhungwell5115 True! I have been on a few dates and from my experiences women don't really like it if you were married before for some reason it's a turn off for them. Hell I lied once and this girl literally told me lying leads to cheating. I'm like shit, so you tell them the truth you are a red flag, if you lie you are a red flag.
Boom
Yeah majority of women like players
Well...what most ladies on RUclips adverts wanna explain only after you have purchased their coaching program, you you have clearly and very well simply explained it...👌...thanks
Take it from me...when it comes to women TRUTH KILLS.
Absolutely
Yes, men should ALWAYS lie their ass off. Telling the truth literally gets nowhere.
Apply butter before speaking truth.
@@emmahas2moms8038 it's not that women like lies it's how men try to make that lie sounds good but they tell truth in a very rude way even men don't like to be told the truth in a rude way
Never tell them the truth
I couldn't agree more with tip number four."face your fears"..it works just perfect
What would change the world is for women to tell men what they want. Stop dropping subtle, constant hints. We men are not mind readers.
Popeye said it best. "I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam."
Don't try to change me. Take me as I am.
True. The problem still is to find one that does know what she wants!
ussling best one yet bro! I hate when they say “ blah blah blah... vibe..” wtf is a vibe? Use language and communicate what u want without requiring me to be a mind reader😂
"She Changed Her Mind When She Couldn't Change me" Montgomery Gentry
so a women bases a complete relationship on a guy getting a few sentences correct ..bullshit no thanks
Be rich and never give away your money, your resources free do the transaction.
100%
Great advice . Dated a chic several years and go and lost myself dating her
There are plenty of rich guys that have zero game.
So fucking true man.
I'll keep my resources,thanks,if I could help it!
I have never seen a woman so brave and honest in treating a delicate topic with simplicity and efficiency.
God bless you apollonia, you are a gem💎💎💎
Thank you so much
I like your insights Apollonia, very practical and profound. Everything starts in the mind and most men give away their power to women when they lose their way and forget their true purpose, always remain true to yourself and your ideals.
So... don't be yourself, jump through hoops, play mind games. Thanks for the advice.
@Sunday Dunaway Who is we?
Lol
That's it right there ^
That's how you get women
Amazing video I think number one was saying what you want is very important
Dating is like a video game...you never show all your levels at once. Period dot.
Legend bruh👏👏😆👌
Or hack the game
Now this is the language i understand haha
Damn, never thought it about that way. You ain't wrong lol
When I found out that ALL women ( in my opinion), have "Daddy Issues" ( which can be extremely positive experiences or extremely negative experiences with their Father , or somewhere between those two extremes ), it was a huge breakthrough for me. I'm 65, and I am not good looking, I would definitely not be attractive to a woman based on a possible financial benefit to them, etc. I've been told that I have an honest, straight-forward, dominant "vibe" ( and I think a lot of women pride themselves on their intuition, whether it is right or wrong ), I cannot go into public, grocery store, etc. without making a strong connection with a woman, including if my (30 year younger) girlfriend is just 1 aisle over from me when I'm shopping. It is worse when they see you with an attractive young woman...for some reason they think it is open season for hitting on you, and if my girlfriend sees it, it makes me look like a "player", which I am definitely not. I couldn't even offer a date a ride in a nice car ( 20 year old used car ), and I don't own my own home ( primarily from a divorce), I'm on social security, so I really know it's not related to money. A "date" for me is Pizza and then home to TV ( but I am open to a lot of good conversation )..now the problem is, how do I give off the opposite "vibe" without having to say a word to these women that are interested in me ? It is putting a strain on my current relationship. Sometimes to me it boggles my mind about "why" ? are they attracted ???...I have girls attracted to me who are very beautiful, very intelligent, very high IQ, beautiful runway model who was 25, etc. etc...( FYI, these qualities are usually not in the same woman )....I guess it's delusional, but I actually think that if given a little time that there isn't a woman that I couldn't attract, as long as she is single, and it's difficult to get that attitude out of my head... The point of this comment is not to brag about my exploits, but just to offer another opinion, that I have no "game", I have no "pick up lines", etc. etc...to encourage other men to just be yourself as your first priority.
I lessen to a woman point of view about women more than men,because who's know more better,than another woman,I am going to use her advice,because I feel that it's going to help me in the long run,because I use to be too nice,and now that I am not like that too much.
Since when being a nice guy is bad for finding a partner?
Hello Carlos,
It's not. When did you get that point out of this video? I mentioned that several times. Maybe watch till the end! :)
Best,
Apollonia
since feminism!
Good luck. Be the nice guy like so many of us are/were and get screwed. You’re too easy and will be shot to the curb after a given amount of time. She said you don’t have to be a jerk, but trying to be the always jumping through hoops guy, to keep her happy, will surely end you up with nothing.
@Gregory KEROR Davis he must be one of those guys who has many friends and female friends who be trying to get sex from him all the time.
There's a line where your too nice. It's a balance. Be nice but don't be a sucker, don't let her have all the control.
Apollonia very good video. I have been told by people that I am too nice to females but I do know my worth and I am sure of myself. I am guilty of being yes person to women but I discontinued that and I see the reason why it is bad. You explain your topics very well.
Isaac..be yourself. If a woman doesnt like that your nice then she really doesnt like you..you shouldnt have to manipulate and act like a bad boy to get a silly ass woman to like you..
So much better than those "pick up" artist videos. Real substance here. Thank you.
Date multiple girls at once until one of them commits.
What if three of them commits at the same time?
That's v good advice. At first it's hard to force yourself to do it if you are a kind person with principles - but you must, and eventually you won't even feel bad about it. The other thing you should do is lie straight to their face about your property ownership status. For gods sake tell them you own your own place as its proven to make you 5 times as attractive - one of the main reasons you shouldn't even feel bad actually :o)
@@dermotdawkins6031 Playa Playa!!!
I like dating one girl at a time. I've found doing that you oftentimes have to lie, and what kind of genuine relationship can be built on lies?
Did that, can't live like that any longer. I hate lying!
@@dermotdawkins6031 Pick the one you like the most.
Men get friend-zoned because they don't make their move early enough. State your intentions within the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman. After 30 seconds you are already in the friend-zone and the longer you beat around the bush the farther you will have to claw your way back out of the friend-zone. If you don't be assertive and confident she will lose respect.
I agree 100% with your comment randy fricke. My friend and I used to experiment when we went out. We would enter a club separately and would each look at the girls to see who was looking at me/him. We both would then tell each other which girl was looking and approached immediately. It worked almost all the time. The times we went to them later it was 99% failure.
Realize that you don't have to be nice to these females being nice is a privilege every female do not deserves your kindness you'll be surprise on what they do behind closed doors, they got flaws too, if your a nice person that's fine but you gotta play tit for a tat with these women.
that's sound a good way to get arrested for sexual harassment....
It’s called “The flow” - literally what I said. If you like her, ask question that reveals if she is able or interested you. If not your cocked hard hehe
Randy Fricke i just ignore her completely with very, little responses.
I got the message. Stop being nice. So, I saw this woman carrying a bag, and she was struggling. I thought about stopping to help her, and then I realized, that would be nice. It was a great feeling just driving on and having a great day. It's very freeing.
Lmfao, I think you got it twisted 😂 But I get your joke
Man this makes so much sense, very well explained. I recognized that I do these things in relationships. Thank you
You're welcome. :)
First you make the money, then you get the power, then when you get the power, you get the woman.
I agree, woman want to go on an adventure they don’t want to be the adventure.
One of everyone’s biggest problem is not possible to do is pleasing everyone yourself comes first