The PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Read Anyone & SPOT A LIAR | Evy Poumpouras
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How do you know if someone is lying to you? How often should you trust your intuition? What is the best way to deal with conflict and confrontation? These are the kinds of questions that everyone asks, and former Secret Service Agent Evy Poumpouras has devoted herself to answering them systematically and effectively. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Evy Poumpouras shows you how to tell if someone is lying, explains when and how you should listen to your gut feelings, talks about why she embraces confrontation, and gives a surprising lesson on why she thinks that respect is a gift--a gift she doesn’t need.
SHOW NOTES:
Evy explains how to build mental armor by dealing with small amounts of stress [3:36]
Evy talks about how she overcame her weaknesses and outperformed expectations [5:46]
How to differentiate between opinions you should heed and those you should ignore [8:22]
Don’t get distracted by your own mental chatter [8:56]
You can’t make people respect you. Respect is a gift, and you don’t need it. [10:15]
Within the first five seconds people make their impression of you [13:12]
What is your goal in every interaction you have with people? [15:21]
In order to succeed at interrogation, you have to get your ego out of the situation [17:00]
Everyone lies. And it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with them. [19:42]
Evy used self-assessment to learn how to not let her emotions take control [20:33]
Evy explains what it means to “introduce a disruptor.” [23:48]
Why you should trust your instincts [24:51]
The more prepared you are, the easier it is to pivot if things go wrong [27:43]
Why you should welcome confrontation [29:39]
Speak to people in a way that they can understand, and that they will appreciate [32:02]
Evy explains the basics of body language, verbal language, and para-linguistics [34:38]
Don’t be someone you’re not, but bring out the version of yourself that works [36:39]
Shut up and listen. Ask open-ended questions. [38:00]
Don’t assume your conjectures are facts [38:42]
How to tell if someone is lying to you [41:12]
There’s no gimmick to understanding people. Always be curious and empathetic. [45:55]
Evy says her superpower is that she fails a lot [47:24]
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Thank you for your Guest, very helpful. Thanks
Smart people should be the new Celebrities! Humans need to start follow brain!
simpson6106 absolutely
Yes, so true.
YES
they'd prefer sheeples twerking on instagram, they don't want a bunch of Assanges to have to cart away, geez c'mon
No more freaking CELEBRITIES, no more idol worship. Comrades together in the quest of knowledge.
my dad always told me that he who angers you, conquers you
Wow thanks for your comment I'll be keeping this in mind
Lol its a very know proverb hunny
Love that, wil hold on to that, thanks Elizabeth's dad.
he told u wrong
holy crap
usa is sjit
Elizabeth *** Nice! I like it so much! Cause even if you are angered by their stupid behavior, for being rude etc,.. you can always be better and not let Your anger get to you. Thanks for the comment.
1. Certain levels of stress are good. They teach you how to cope, they teach you how to problem solve, they teach you how to fail and then to do better the next time.
2. I am ___(put the labels you think puts you in a disadvantageous position). No one’s going to like me. If you put labels on yourself, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage.
3. You just perform. In areas, you are weak, perform. Earn your place.
4. If after you perform, people still have an issue with you, know that you are not the problem, they are.
5. Focus on putting one foot forward the other. Think about the next thing you are going to do. If I am not performing. And I’m there waiting for people to accept me, then now it’s me.
6. It’s 50% you and 50% the other person.
7. Respect is a gift. If someone wants to give it to you, they will, if they don't they don't.
8. Don't tell people you are the authority. Show them. Don't demand respect, command respect. Show you are the in charge by how do you walk into a room, how do you carry yourself, how do you speak, how do you project your voice. All those things exude power, and all those things command respect.
9. People make your impression in first five seconds. Think about what you are exuding, how you are dressed, think about the audience. You are going to wear one outfit for something and a different outfit for something else.
10. There are different versions of us. There is no just one you. What version of you are you bringing to the table?
11. Your goal shouldn’t be to make someone like or fear you. What is the end result you want? Likability is important.
12. Competent and warm not competent and cold.
13. No one is 100% bad.
14. Don't make it personal. Focus on the end result.
15. When things happen to you, rather than completely losing your mind, take a minute, don't respond, and don't do anything. Introduce a disrupter such as time or movement.
16. If you feel threatened in a situation, listen to your gut. Don't worry: about making the other person feel that you are rude.
17. Embrace and not avoid confrontation. Also, you should be able to confront people about things you don't feel right about in your life. Don't sit there and swallow it.
18. Mirror the other person’s language. If they say hi, say hi, if they say hello, say hello. Connect. But dint fake it.
19. Get in the right mindset and then decide how you want to speak to the other person.
20. 80% listen, 20% talk.
21. Talk to people not the way you want to be spoken to but the way they want to be spoken to.
22. You are not going to own my response to you. I am going to own it.
23. You have to create those barriers for yourself. You have to self-assess who you are going to let in your inner circle. Select the people in your inner circle.
24. People should audition to be in your inner circle.
25. Don't embarrass people but don't hesitate from confronting them.
26. There should be standards that you create for yourself. You get what you tolerate.
27. When you make a conscious decision to be done with someone, be done with them.
28. It should be about your mental conviction. Speak with confidence to make sure those who heard your message heard it clearly the first time. It should not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of your abilities.
29. Strengthen your voice and believe in what you are saying and why are you saying that.
30. The more adversity you deal with, the more resilient you become.
31. Repetition, repetition. Create habits that are healthy so when things happen, you default to those habits and pull out that version of you.
32. There are two types of people you should be careful of: people who are extremely self-righteous and people who use justification.
33. Look at people holistically who are they with everybody because that’s going to come back to you.
34. You feel dirty with someone be aware of them.
35. Don't get energy from the outside things such as your job, your family etc. Give your energy to those things but be mindful of how much of your energy you put out there into things.
36. Don't be surprised. Everybody at the end of the day is looking after their self-interests.
37. Don't be a victim.
38. Indecisiveness is a very dangerous thing. Indecisiveness causes us to look to others to give us the advice, it causes us to not make decisions in life, indecisiveness keeps us paralyzed, and indecisiveness is bad for our self-esteem and our confidence. I am going to do this right or wrong I am doing this.
39. You don't become this person overnight. It’s work. It’s a lot of work.
40. This person has an emergency. It’s their emergency. It’s not mine.
41. Choose to make it a lesson.
42. Remember you do not know everything.
43. “I messed up. So what? Everyone does.”
44. Have some humility.
45. Establish yourself as an authority from the moment “go”.
46. Think of your words as “money”. The more powerful and impactful the words, the more money you are putting down. My words matter and they have weight. They are going to impact the other person positively or negatively and their connection with me.
47. Don't stand behind the podium when you teach.
48. Be prepared, wear the right outfit, and do your hair and makeup in way that make you feel confident.
49. Own your shit. Be responsible for yourself even if the person sitting across you is authority.
50. If you are constantly being victimized by people, ask yourself: what am I doing to let people think they can do this to me.
51. Realize that you have choices. Fight back, speak back, or walk away.
52. Realize you have power. You can choose to not stay there in victim mentality. You can get back up.
Watched all three of her videos and put it on all three. This is of so much value.
Love this summary of all the pearls she shared. Thank you for taking the time to write and share!
Thank You ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much!! 💜
Thank you sooo much...💐👍
"Recpect is a gift. If somebody wants to give it to you, they will. And if they dont, they dont." ..."You cant force it.. and sometimes, you dont need it."
As they use to say, "you cant claim or demand to respect you,
you can only earn respect... "
My favorite part
@in ter agreed
I think she didn’t say “sometimes”
@@tzimiz77 yes, you cant change THEM as people, but you can certainly show them ( often without words ) what you are going to allow .....
I love the fact the interviewer did not interrupt evy once when she spoke. So we fully got the message.
I was just about to say that.
Oh she wanted to.
Thanks so much!!!
Good point/observation
@@arisn32 then why didn't she?
This interviewer is incredible. She listens and lets the person speak. Wow.
AND she asks relatable questions
cool she used entry level interview techniques... get educated
She did what the one being interviewed said xD
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Joseph Flohr -Some of the most famous and highly paid interviewers haven’t mastered that technique. Jennifer L was right in acknowledging the fact that she listens and doesn’t interrupt.
"I fail a lot.. yeah failure is my superpower, the more I fail the more resilient I become and the less afraid I am of it.." BOOM
If only we all could understand this concept! This chatter is important I'm 47 and if I only knew! Hoping all the young girls that become women get this asap! Thank you for sharing! You are awesome!
Out of all this convo, you found a cliche one yo quote? 🤦🏻♂️
Stole my line
Wow I love your comments
Boom
This woman has helped me more in 48 hours (of binge watching her speaking) than most of the adult figures in my life combined. I’ve seen a real change in the way I interact with people, with myself.
❤absolutely me too 100%
Same! This is the woman my mom wanted to be (investigator for children). She ended up becoming a narcissist and used her position to abuse her kids. I see in this woman the good side of her I can't let go of.
YES, First video watching her and really listening, understanding, has helped me tremendously! I've suffered so long of being and letting myself be a doormat, I am a changed person. I cannot get enough.
I came from CEO Podcast too lol
This woman is a powerhouse! So refreshing to see someone embrace stress and obstacles, rather than the head-in-the-sand "good vibes only" bullshit that so many subscribe to.
It all has its place. None of it is "bullsh**".
@@milkandspice1074 Thanks for the reply! I do, however, beg to differ. That mentality has been making people soft and weak- often unable to cope with any real adversity. It is very possible to frame obstacles in a positive yet realistic way. Embrace the suck.
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@@sendy_wendy Well, I use what has worked for me. Sometimes I push forward hardcore and at times I need time to wallow. Other times, I need good vibes. Ya know, I let myself be human.
But, I mean...you probably fit in nicely with psychopaths/robots.
@@milkandspice1074 Nope- just as human as you! I've just learned to make hell my living room.
Often times being "underestimated" works to your advantage.
Ive always lived by that! Glad you commented😎🙏
I'd much rather be underestimated than overestimated
As a psychopath, can confirm
Idiot! It's MISUNDERESTIMATING 😜
@@RoninDreamer God damn. This person possibly is one
Notice how her character changed when she talked about failure being her superpower? That was her emotional side breaking out. The way she looked down and smiled is what we do when we're remembering something specific. She's probably remembering a time of her life which she failed so hard it forced her to wake up. She's grateful for the experience of that event because it fortified her. We must look at all our failures this way.
Her eyes also watered and she had a more sincere expression which would convert hardships.
@@autumnnights6414 l LP pl
"failure is my super power-the more I fail the more resilient I become --the less afraid of it I become." Priceless
I ALWAYS trust my gut. It’s saved me so many times. Including a time when a neighbor offered to watch my children. I turned them down because of my gut. It was uncomfortable, but the gut feeling was really strong.1 week later he was arrested for sexually molesting his siblings. Never feel embarrassed about something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Great interview!
WOW... Serious call!!
100000% agree! You should never feel bad about going with your gut. You don’t have to be mean about it, you just refuse, go a different direction, don’t get on the elevator, wait for a friend to go with you, whatever it is!
I’m so glad you went with your gut on that. You’re a good parent.
This is such stupidity.. yes of course trust your gut feeling but dont pretend you know what its saying.. All you know is that you recognize something. thats IT!!! Its mostly your insecurities you recognize.. Not truth or reality..
@@willyouwright who said they knew what their gut was saying? why are you creating an argument in your own head? lol.
@@garyodriscoll7988 Its one thing listening to your instinct, its totally a different thing to understand and or act on it.. Its dangerous to advise or encourage people to listen to their instincts.. Not many people are wise enough or aware enough.. agreed?
Im a guy and i feel empowered as a women after watching this
Tangeni Shikukutu BOOM!! Welcome!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Haha 👍👍👍
It's called gay
Tangeni Shikukutu I love your comment. Made me smile. Thanks
RIGHT ON BROTHER!!!!!!
I absolutely love that she gives permission to leave a situation without guilt or shame. This is my go to for healthy coping with PTSD. I’ve given myself permission to leave a situation and I always make sure I have an “out” and that my freedom / mobility is not in the hands of another person.
Amen
Great idea for any situation. I practice this always for physical safety and to never lose control of any situation.
Yes💯💯💯
She’s remarkable. I can’t get enough of her honest conversations
"Respect is a gift...and sometimes you don't need it."
That idea was very new to me. But I guess it makes sense. If I am trying to succeed and my haters don't believe in me or respect me, that doesn't matter. I don't need their respect to accomplish my success.
@Species 443764 Breen
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@Species 443764 Breen
Ya I think that is really a typical man's point of view. Selfish and egotistical...they don't even respect themselves so of course you'd say that about women. 🤣🤦
Problem with society is no one respects anyone.
Good talk you prove a great point.
@Species 443764 Breen You are talking non-sense. You are the only one here disrespecting a whole section of the population. You are the disrespectful one 😂
Bella Barbee this part really helped me!!
Don't ask, "How do I want this person to feel about me?" but rather, "What is the outcome I want from receive from this interaction?"
That's high level training I respect. That kind of thinking can come in useful on both professional and intimate levels.
Sure that’s not manipulating.
Or creating narcissism without self awareness.
Chelsea Smile exactly!! Love that point!
Doug G ex’s! That’s what o was thinking! Grade minds? How are employing it with coronavirus?
I’m an intuitive empath, so I read people immediately. I have an instant feeling about people upon meeting them. If something isn’t right with them, my spidey sense ramps up! Bless her heart, Evy worked with evil administrations from both parties. I’ve watched several of Evy’s videos and she’s pure badassed-ness! I’ve heard things I already knew and learned some valuable information! Evy is a wealth of information. My super power is chronic illness of over 10 yrs. Pain is an amazing teacher. All love to both of you, in oneness! 🙏🏻💞🕊🕊
This interview is so incredible!
Talking about gut feelings reminds of something weird that happened last summer...
I had a casual "date" last year with a tourist who was on holiday where I live.
We went for dinner.
Halfway through what was originally witty and intellectual banter between us, I started to feel very uneasy in this man's company.
I couldn't pinpoint why, but I had developed an unshakable feeling of anxiety.
So, I made my excuses to go home to sleep early etc.
He invited me to go for a walk on the beach at his hotel, but I declined.
Then, he offered to drive me home.
I declined again.
We walked out of the restaurant together and chatted a bit before we would of made separate turns.
As we walked, he asked me again if I'd like a lift home.
I live in a hilly Greek village, and in a moment of laziness, I thought to myself,
"What's the worst that can happen if he drives me? I know these roads better than him, plus it saves me walking uphill!"
However, in that moment of internal deliberation, I heard somebody call my name in a whisper, as if they were right next to me.
(Which was odd, as all the bars and restaurants were so noisy.)
I spun around to see who could be standing so close to me to whisper like that, but there was nobody.
I suddenly had the strongest instinct to RUN.
By now, my gut was in somersaults and I was freaked out by all these feelings...
Plus, I didn't want this guy to think I'm a crazy person just randomly running off into the night down a busy high st lol...
As I was assuring myself he is not dangerous and that I was overreacting, I turned back to look at my "date".
His eyes that bore into mine sent utter chills down my spin.
They were pure malevolence.
I will never forget those eyes.
In that instant, I heard my name called out again by the same voice. But now loudly, urgently.
As I turned to the direction of the voice, I saw in the distance Alecos, my neighbour and taxi owner.
He was walking some customers to in his taxi.
I knew I had to RUN.
By this point, I didn't care how rude or crazy I looked. I just knew I had split second timing to reach Alecos before he drove off.
My "date" was left standing on the pavement.
By luck, Alecos was driving his customers near my home.
So my story has a safe and happy ending.
However, I truly believe I was saved from a terrible experience.
As for who I think was calling my name?
My guardian angel.
Indeed, better to trust your intuition and look crazy, than to appear sane and possibly end up dead. I’m glad someone/something was watching out for you or maybe it was your own gut feeling, screaming at you to listen and you trusted those signs and got home safely that night.
Hearing a woman saying that starting with the "I'm a woman" mindset being a negative from the start is so bloody refreshing. Jesus.
Yeah. Any label is limiting. We can be limitless!
I used to be you but now ive got a billion dollar company
Ben Gnaden Gee, so do I ha ha ha.
Exactly!
@@tula__ If someone is something, it isnt a label. Her being a woman in that field wasn't a label, it is what she is and it wasn't and isn't a negative or a hindrance.
My mentor was a homicide detective and he always told me to trust my gut “feeling” bc that’s just my brain processing information so quickly that it feels like “intuition” even though it’s usually not
Hi, I've been studying personality for quite some years now. Not officially though. Despite that, I can tell you that current research supports this as a possible real thing. You can look at Jungian Psychology.
Other than that I have similar experiences. And I tell you, if you use that 'feeling' combined with "intuition" its like you have accelerated access to more distanced relations between information. Unfortunately, it also takes more wisdom to manage as it brings more insecurity. (In the beginning those combined skills will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead. Just keep going you'll get better at it as you go. )
Wise mentor to realise and correlate.
The other interesting aspect of this idea is that people who grew up in abusive household were forced to learn to “read people” as a survival mechanism. A that skill grows... sometimes it becomes a “human lie detector” type of skill.
@@msc8382 interesting take about "in the beginning those combined skillsets will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead". Never seen in that way, it explains a lot of things that i had questioned about myself before
It's actually your whole nervous system, which does include the brain. But our gut and heart are part of a biological feedback system which understands your environment before your brain does, and before you become consciously aware of the precise reasons behind what you're feeling.
But thet is the very definition on "intuition".
It’s so great for women, but also for teaching teens to listen to that inner voice or ‘gut’ or intuition! It is a valuable life skill that can be life saving. Additionally, to not be afraid to act on that feeling - meaning don’t be afraid to look crazy for a moment. For example, when I was about 17 I had to walk home after work at a fast food restaurant. We lived in a very, very rough area, but we were very poor and I had two after school and weekend jobs. So I took whatever shifts were offered. One night I helped close and started walking home at 11pm. Suddenly I realized three guys following me and cat calling. Then I noticed they were closing the distance between us. It felt like a pack of wolves getting closer. Just as they got within 10 feet of me I notice two adult young men about 20 feet ahead. I had never see them before, but called out, ‘hey guys wait up! You are supposed to be walking me home!’ with a cheery voice. They turned around surprised and laughed as I started jogging towards them. They had stopped to watch this strange teenager in her silly uniform coming towards them. The wolf pack stopped and then turned a corner. I never made it to the two young men, as they laughed again and went on their way. Yet, I am sure that I saved myself from being harmed that night. That was the first time I trusted my gut and took action. I wish I had done that when I was younger, as it may have saved me from being raped across the street from the apartments where we lived - in broad daylight.
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This channel is my daily ritual, I clean, cook, relax listening to these interviews. I feel empowered and prepared and SAFE in this virtual space you’ve created, and for that I am eternally grateful. I will continue to support you and the women and men that participate to cultivate this incredible community! Thank you so much Lisa and team ❤️
Wow. This is probably one of the most influential interviews I’ve ever watched. She just schooled me on so many levels. She is goals at life.
She schooled me as well. Listened to this video three times
The only times I’ve gotten into trouble or had bad results is when I don’t trust my gut.
Exactly!!
True.
You should never trust your gut, only trust Jesus Christ! He never lied, trusted His gut, sought after material gain, etc. He was God in human flesh, but NEVER sinned. People need to follow Him, not any man! I speak from experience. God bless you
Yup!!
!!!!! FOR REAL
Wow. What a woman. 20 mins in and I already know that I’m watching this for a second time, just to make sure that what she says here goes in properly.
I really appreciate her letting her talk without interrupting constantly, great interview!
I wish it were mandatory for all schools to have at least one talk a month from people like this, there is so much to learn (other than what kids learn at school, which isn't real life lessons). Children and adults need to listen to this talk. Thank you so much!
Jessica Tackett hear that lovely! I think we can all relate. Keep undoing 🙏🏻💜
Bal 💯 parents and schools need to start educating themselves and the children in their care. Let’s break the cycle! 👏🏻💪🏻❤️
Bal I like this idea so much !
So very true
When I was in elementary school maybe middle school I can remember having speakers but that was 30 years ago!!!! I agree that they would totally benefit from a speaker such as her!!!
The best 52 minutes I've invested on. I will continue to replay this video from time to time to really absorb everything she said. Such an intelligent and articulate woman.
Lili Rodas amazing to hear! So glad you invested 😉❤️👏🏻
Yes! I feel the same way.
That was exactly what I was thought. I would do the same.
Me too
Buy her book then! 😅
Silence is the loudest response towards ignorance ( my quote) 🎯 I love her! Just ordered her 📕
Evie has changed my life by just watching two of her interviews. she’s truly helped me step into my power again after an extremely abusive relationship.
Right there is the utmost poster girl for "beauty and brains".
everybody has a different view on what is beautiful.
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And brawn! She looks like she can kick anybody's ass!!
A.T. Here I don’t typically find white pple attractive but she is striking.
@@EB-ok3io
Shes half Greek, maybe that's why you suddenly like a 'white' girrŕl ?
She's like so many 'whites', including me a blend, people think is 100% white , I'm not
Some might say I look French or Spanish, but I'm halfway Italiano
Everyone thinks I'm 100% white, it's presumptuous
You don’t learn anything when things are going right. You learn when things are hard.
True
I’m getting hard just thinking about it
@@MrTrda 🤨🤔🤭😂🙌🤦🏽♂️
This i find interesting. I learn stacks when things are going right...like..."ooooh...things are going right...how did i do that?..and get here......must remember to repeat that..somehow.
HA HA HA HAAAAH!!....nice one TROY.
As a midshipman at the naval academy I love seeing the parallels between her training and the training in the military. Putting people under stress in controlled environments, making them get comfortable being uncomfortable, and developing mental resilience are all things the training shares. She is amazing and spot on about being a woman in a male dominated field! You simply perform and let your actions speak for you
but women shouldn’t have to do that. they should just be accepted already, period.
Lisa is so admirable. She tops any network news interviewer. She is strong, humble and naturally beautiful in and out.
I have ADHD and this interview is the first that I listened to without getting distracted and needing to rewatch to understand.
I love her so much.
GURRRRRL ME TOO!!!!!!💯💯💯💯💕💕💕💕💕💕
Mood
ADHD'er love understanding people :D
Flickan Rimsky I can relate. Kept my attention the entire time!
Saaaame!
She's authentic; focusing on being her best self and her goals, rather than what others think. There is no other way to live, in my opinion. Way to go!
Excellent job by the interviewer as well!
Amy Maier 🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
Amy Maier yes!! 🔥
Except that her natural greek hair color is not blond!
@@jenniferthom4066 more power to her, for coloring her hair as she desires!😊
I was just pointing out use of the word "authentic"- (genuine, true, natural origin, un-altered)
I wish someone like her would have been my role model when I was younger
"Failure is my superpower." - Eva
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It’s okay to be rude, to get to safety, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong. Thinking about it now, I feel pretty stupid that I put my not being rude above my safety. Needed to hear this
I know exactly what you mean... It is absolutely absurd the way we as women are willing to risk our own safety for the sake of possibly offending someone. Unfortunately I have been guilty of this so many times, but I've learned to get better the older I get. Some times our God-given "spidey-senses" might be off skew a bit, but 9 times out of 10 they're pretty dead on accurate. We mustn't be afraid of offending someone who is giving us an "off feeling" about them. The worst thing that can happen is that we were wrong and we'll need to apologize - but at least we will be alive and unharmed to do so.
Thats so so true! It's okay to not be nice sometimes.
Interesting, I've never feared being rude if I were uncomfortable. But I think that's because I had experience with some very bad people at a very young age.
I know! When she said that I thought of quite a few dangerous situations I have put myself in .... Yikes if I only knew then what I know know..
I'm on the fence about this in terms of clarity....what does one mean by 'rude'??? Is ignoring someone 'rude' vs thinking we have to be confrontational? There's this weird spinning off on this advice for women to be pushy. I mean if some guy I don't like is talking to me I look another way and appear genuinely distracted but if he approaches me in a threatening manner and he's just bigger than me I'm not about to be stupid n think being mouthy is enough....because it may only be enough to get your bell rung like an idiot🤷♀️
I start moving and looking for exit strategies not ways to act stupidly big n bad *ss when I'm just not.
"Weak people push other people down so that they can feel stronger" - great quote, for all of life, for anyone! Im only 15 minutes in and loving this advice. Be likeable but dont make being liked the goal, also great.
But after those 15 minutes they to back to their insecure self hatred selves😉
@@cauha12 pardon me?
@@sheilajac what i said was about those weak people who try to push others down, because deep down they are miserable
@@cauha12 oh really, what's with the "wink"? ps here's a link to her most recent video, linked at what I feel is the best part of this one - personas to be careful of: ruclips.net/video/FmMTb2lF7jM/видео.html
@@sheilajac whats wrong with the wink?
Amazing woman! I'm a guy and I can relate to this .. Unfortunately, I have almost all of the "negative" things that she said that doesn't make you a better person and now I'm more challenged, eager and motivated to be the best version of myself so that I can influence people better .. Thank you! I really needed this, this is such a wake up call to me!
I really like listening to this woman! I’ve always struggled with controlling emotions and responding with what I’m feeling in the moment. I want to listen to more of what she has to say.
"If you're blaming everything that's going wrong outside of you. . . You're not being you." Personal responsibility requires emotional maturity.
Presenting yourself 13:28 Influence towards goal 15:35 Self Assessment 21:36 Introduce a disrepute 23:40 Intuition (gut instincts) 25:12 Researching 6th Sense 27:20 Plan & Preparation/Training for the 'What If' 28:08 Embracing Confrontation 29:55 How to Confront without the Battle 33:20
Body Language, Verbal Language, Para-linguistics 34:50 - continued discussion throughout interview
Examples of Interviews 37:00 Listen to People (open ended questions) 38:10 Assumptions (Confirmation Bias) 39:10 Knowing when someones lying (study human behavior) 41:30 Myth 'Look me in the eye' 43:30 Lying through Omission 44:40 Saying 'I' a lot 45:10 Lying and being Vague 46:00 Learn people (Empathy) 46:30 Put yourself in their place 46:53 Superpower - Failure 47:36
Thank you
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Tysm!
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This woman is the embodiment of greatness : beauty brain and strength !
She's such an inspiration. I have to get her book.
"People had an issue with me dispite out performing even them. I'm not the problem, you are. Weak people push other people down."
Omg! I definitely lived this. They would come for me. I had this inner love & high vibe, customers loved me and would ask for me at many of my jobs. Other co workers HATED this. lol Especially in low vibrational enviornments (the small, low income city I lived in) At the time I didn't realize what was going on, I was just being me. I'm sorry if just being me outshined others. Not sorry. lol
Thank you God, realized my blessings.
i struggle with this in a small town. us big city girls/people are a different breed. it has for years made me feel it was me. now, people are starting to have conversations/opinionsetc., i had 10 years ago and it’s a sigh of relief. i’m leaving this small state, btw, lol. ❤
Insanely strong person. Her attitude is everything and it was probably 90% of her achievements and success. Great job Lisa and her team for this guest.
Olga Anisimova thank you sweetie 😊💕
I'm honored to witness these beautiful, intelligent women 🙏
Yamileh R. 🙏🏻❤️
@@yamilehr.5269 yeah...she was GREAT...i loved it ..
Olga Anisimova I agree 100%! I hope I get the chance to interview her one day
Just because you know someone is lying, does not mean they will actually tell you the truth.
BushPiG0 Also, as she stated, don’t jump to assume the reason they are lying (the drug reference, the assumption it’s them doing drugs but it could be something else, like a loved one that they care about and makes it an uncomfortable subject for them).
What if they know, that you know, that they are lying
Just because it rains, doesn't mean I'll get wet.
yes its not hard to know that someone os lying but its hard to prove that they are lying & have them accepted with proofs .
Body language gives subtle warnings , our feelings get in the way of exposing it
True story regarding not wanting to look foolish or being “ rude”.... in grade school on a class field trip , I was kinda in the rear end of about 60 children. A strange man came up to me and took my hand and turned me out of the group and starting walking away with me. I didn’t make a peep because I didn’t want to be “ rude”. Fortunately the teacher saw what had happened and intervened.
So glad you were saved. Blessings
Stumbled upon this video and did not think I would watch till the end, yet here I am 50 minutes in. Great content and a stunning intellectual.
Time flew by.
same same
The same here
Marquisha Sparkes me too girl
omg I didn't even know it was 52 minutes long until I read your comment
This is real education.
You are an amazing interviewer. You let her talk and educate us. Thank you for doing this series
I love the way she perceives failure. It’s AMAZINGGG
Dang. I want to read the comments, but the conversation is tooo interesting.
Same!
Evy is amazing. Articulate, confident and knows what she's talking about. And so was the interviewer... asking the right things and not interrupting. Loved it.
She’s not “the interviewer”, she’s Lisa Bilyeu. My gosh! This is her show.
Often show hosts don't know how to interview. They like to hear themselves talk and think it's their show. This showhost is interviewing her guest with the intent to get information from her guest that will help others. That is exactly why she is a good interviewer and a good host. Guests don't want to be on a show where they can't share the information they were invited to share.
Confirmation bias is a massive problem in nearly every professional field from law enforcement to health care to education and it needs to be addressed. This leads to a time intuition told me to remove myself from the classroom of an eventually charged and, under biased circumstances, acquitted murderer.
Day one of hs bio my new teacher creeped me out. I couldn't place why but I didn't like him at all. I spent the night trying to point out what I thought was odd about him. I found him manic, leering, already knew he at minimum was in an unhappy marriage, thought his posters of women in swimsuits in class to be unprofessional at best, that he lacked self-control, and didn't respond like most people would to normal things. He didn't laugh unless he told the joke and it was always a disturbing joke about dead babies/little kids and murder. Day two he was a completely different person when it came to being calm. He still leered at me and talked about his home life but didn't joke. He in fact lost his temper when one of the boys commented he thought one of the prior jokes was funny. By now my brain is screaming to run. I told my parents I was switching classes or dropping out but I wouldn't go near him again. They didn't want to let me and I said to mark my words he will have bodies in a crawlspace if he doesn't already.
Cut to the middle of the year and his wife and two small children were brutally and horrifically murdered. While he was acquitted I will never understand how but for the bias of him coming from a "good family" having access to money, and if he would speed. The evidence even included a gas receipt for the early morning when he could have been headed back to the conference he had as an alibi. Confirmation bias of the jury set him free, good 'ol boys, confirmation bias, and people still thinking if you're job is x, y cannot be possible lead the police to stop looking for suspects. Someone killed them yet once he was free no one kept looking. Google John Feeney Missouri Teacher Murder and see for yourself. BTW he was allowed to teach during the trial.
she is so tough , resilient and so authentic.. i almost see her tear when she narrated about her ex. she is a role model for how genuine empathic people can build up resilience and emotional strength and survive the world that is becoming dominated by cluster b folks... phew...
love and more power to her..
Evy is such a freakin BOSS! That energy is so assertive yet it also communicates, "I don't have time for your shit and I don't know how to beat around the bush" I loved this interview so much!
sidra ahmed 💪🏻💪🏻
She worked with a man that flew 26 times to EPSTEIN ISLAND and we are to TRUST HER? Please. CASE CLOSED BOOM. I WIN THE INTUITION AWARD for today.
Oh Lord, she is breathtaking: her attitude, intelligence! Such a powerful woman on every level!
you must be surrounded by real dumbasses then if she is breathtaking.
What is SOO powerful about her??? What a joke.
damn i smell jelousness ;)
Wow, some bitter folks under this comment... 👀😂😂😂
Some slimy, slimy people in this comment section. I guess “self-control” is not in your vocabulary. Ok. We get it.
So great I found your channel! Thanks to all your guests. I had a "feeling" while walking alone and switched over to the side. He followed. I walked into a pub and explained the situation. Sat awhile and was walked home. Next day the news reported a serial rapist/killer matching the description of last night's stalker.
I enjoyed every minute of this interview. Evy is an inspiration.
"Weak people put other people down so they can feel stronger" - So true - see it for what it is and recognize it is a reflection of the other person and not of you. Remember who you are and don't let anybody dim your shine in your mind. Never give the power of your self away. When you know your worth and all that is great about you - you have the mental strength to validate yourself - you don't need to prove your worth or argue your value to some third-person who will never know you as well as you know yourself - thank you
Thank you!!!
AMEN TO THIS 🙏🏼
If she steals my man I'll just be jealous she didn't want me.
😂😂😂
Lol hero worship much? It let's your guard down. There's some bad advice in here peppered in. Always be vigilant about truth. Ppl like this are kinda dangerous for this reason. Confidence doesn't equal righteousness... Js
Edit: Omg she's a cia interrogater... Think meet the fockers! No wonder! Now it really makes sense
@@pirjocheerio4016 think it was meant in a light hearted way. A joke if you will 😉👈
@@pirjocheerio4016 I was totally kidding. Calm down.
@Dieguismama. “Calm down” 🤣🤣
NKR. Pirjo cheerio completely missed your quick wit and hilarity!
KT
This is the second video of this channel I've watched (so far). I listen to mostly podcasts and interviews and I ADORE how this host doesn't interrupt even once.
Be so good that they can’t ignore you... Profound words and so absolutely inspiring even when you know it but to hear someone else say it out loud 😁!! Soo Great!!
Wow, I came across this video by accident. It's like the universe led me to this video for a reason.
EMPOWERING WOMEN! AMEN!
#impact
Same here! I needed this message at for sure. :)
To any men or women who care about men that see this and feel a little down because it seems everyone thinks that excluding men from people who should be empowered, or given aid, or shown empathy towards, know that it isn't everyone. I for one favor the idea of caring about, empathizing with, and providing aid to men as well, and recognize that excluding them from these things is a form of discrimination, and that it isn't fair or right.
@@MrJuliopolis that was not my intention to exclude men.
As a child I was told how I should think and feel, so I learned not to trust my instincts. As a result, I've spent most of my life doubting myself, and over thinking everything. It's been a slow, painful learning process. I like her 24 hour rule of responding vs. reacting. My gut feelings have never been wrong.
J. Skye Phoenix completely feel this! Has been a painful journey but one of the most beautiful as well :) good luck with your journey ✨
@@watsupgirl7 Thankyou. Good luck to you as well ❤
Sometimes we don't have the luxury of waiting to deal with a conflict, though. In retail you can't just walk away from an angry customer, and you are limited in what you are allowed to say to them to get them to calm down, too. I'd like to ask Evy for tips in situations like that.
Yes same! We had a rough start but we can get better guys 💪🏾
I just love her! I was trained some of these skills in martial arts & psychology. She's teaching me how to elevate. Thank you both for your time spent sharing
I Thank you for this episode!! - I was beginning to feel I was losing my own understanding in people. I’ve had a few betrayals! - I can take my power back now! I’m encouraged with all this new information! I have read Bullet proof! But I’m definitely taking more in from a video! Xx
The interviewer is such an empath. I want to hug her. haha
Yeah, she's the kind of woman you want to be friends with.
She is Lisa Bilyeu - famous in her own right. Better learn about her...
She truly is!
She just knows the interviewee all too well. And yes like some said, research on her.
Look ima be honest I can’t relate I’m not a fan and I really wanna get through this whole video but I’m so sick of hearing “I love that”
I love how the interviewer reflects back what has been said and clarifies, instead of pushing an agenda
She is an excelleng interviewer who not only listens but adds interesting elements to the conversation
Oh my god, the stuff about instincts is so true. It seems it is a natural gift but too often we are taught to ignore it. When I was four years old, I was stepping in puddles with my new wellies and got to one puddle and just didn't want to step in it. It was just me and my Dad, and he was pressuring me ''just step in the puddle'' I was like ''no, I don't want to'', but he was so insistent that eventually I gave in and stepped in it. I ended up neck-deep in water because the puddle obviously covered a hole. I wasn't even surprised because deep down I had known not to step in the puddle. I feel like a lot of my life I have seen other people underestimate my gut feelings and I'm only just trying to get back to fully ignoring other people so that I can embrace myself and my inner knowledge. This interview is so good. We need more of this in the world! X
I just discovered this channel and I adore it so far! I love all the brilliant, accomplished women you interview and the insights they share. I’ve gotten so much practical advice for work and life from this channel. Keep up the great work ❤️
This is complete validation! lol I'm a therapist and I teach these principles to my adolescents and teens in middle school ("Know Your Audience" so they can anticipate reactions; "Use your intuition" for protection from dangers in life and not silence it; "Disagree Tactfully" so you can have a conversation of differing opinions and not an argument, listen to LEARN not to ARGUE and be RIGHT because they may give information that triggers a shift for you.) YES!! Reframing is also a therapeutic technique I teach parents (You can yell all their flaws at them or you can acknowledge their mistake and talk to them about how and why to make a different choice)
Shea McMillan amazing lessons!! 👏❤️
I'm glad that someone with your reach is digesting this type of information to use in your work. You're making a difference in young people's lives. Even if the nuggets you initially share come to the surface years later, you are planting the seeds now.
@@quickgirl80 Thank you! I appreciate hearing that. I have definitely come to learn that I may not always see the fruits of my labor, but if I can plant some good seeds and let life and others finish watering and cultivating them, I’ve done my part😌 (And I use that phrase all the time! It’s what keeps me sane in the hard days! lol)
It’s so great that you are teaching teens to listen to that inner voice or ‘gut’ or intuition! It is a valuable life skill that can be life saving. Additionally, to not be afraid to act on that feeling - meaning don’t be afraid to look crazy for a moment. For example, when I was about 17 I had to walk home after work at a fast food restaurant. We lived in a very, very rough area, but we were very poor and I had two after school and weekend jobs. So I took whatever shifts were offered. One night I helped close and started walking home at 11pm. Suddenly I realized three guys following me and cat calling. Then I noticed they were closing the distance between us. It felt like a pack of wolves getting closer. Just as they got within 10 feet of me I notice two adult young men about 20 feet ahead. I had never see them before, but called out, ‘hey guys wait up! You are supposed to be walking me home!’ with a cheery voice. They turned around surprised and laughed as I started jogging towards them. They had stopped to watch this strange teenager in her silly uniform coming towards them. The wolf pack stopped and then turned a corner. I never made it to the two young men, as they laughed again and went on their way. Yet, I am sure that I saved myself from being harmed that night. That was the first time I trusted my gut and took action. I wish I had done that when I was younger, as it may have saved me from being raped across the street from the apartments where we lived - in broad daylight.
@@diannrogers5464 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I got goosebumps reading your story.
There’s not a dull moment in this episode. This is something I would like to come back to time and again
Elvina Fernandes wow! Thank you 🙏🏻💕
The part about intuition gave me literal goosebumps! This video is so insightful and empowering. I'm so glad this video showed up in my recommended. I want to hear more words of wisdom from this woman. And shout-out to the interviewer for asking such great questions!
I learned so much in this interview myself for bringing Evy in! She's fab!
Evy is like a real-life Disney princess, her eyes are incredibly beautiful. This is the kind of person I look up to! I deeply admire her skill and intelligence. We need more people like her in the world! 💗
BeckyLoves Bucky I agree, I find her so stunning and undoubtably intelligent too.
she is like one, not literally :)
More idol worship in action. Your doing what they are teaching you to not do.
@@mjrotondi5086 😅😅😅
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This woman is not only stunning, classy & articulate, but also brilliant! I learned a lot. Thank you for this amazing interview.
i would like her to piss on me!
Afgan No3 😐
Afgan No3 wtf
yes we exist
I cant get enough of this - I bought her audiobook and I love this- thank you both. As a SAHM of 5 we thank you
I love how the guest always put shoes of the other side. Im learning how to be empathy from her. The host asks wonderful questions!! Big thanks for the channel!
I have been "binging" on TED talks and old Oprah interviews the past few weeks, trying to keep my mind focused on something not related to COVID19... This is by far the most interesting and useful talk I have watched.
Danielle Bissonnette amazing!!! So glad you thought so and thanks for commenting 💪🏻
You should look at Jordan Peterson, he has some amazing video’s imo on YT ☺️
Danielle Bissonnette , look up some George Webb videos. He’s an investigative journalist who travels around getting information on criminals.
Oprah is the devil, it's better to watch healthy content like this. Oprah is connected to "John of God"... That's very bad! If you want something to listen to that's full on wholesome and helpful look up (Mel Robbins). She is the bomb!!! 🙏👌💃🔥💯
@@annafrances5118 yes yes!!! I came here to say the same thing!!!
Oh my goodness this was in my recommended and I almost didn't click on it and I'm just so glad I did. This woman is remarkable.
olivia 🙏🏻🙌🏻💕
I really like these videos with Lisa and Evy I can listen to them all day. You ladies are really helping me build up my inner self.
Such a wonderfull interview,when the reporter let her talk without interruptions, and the interviewed is not only smart, either warm, kind, Cheers from Argentina
INCREDIBLY IMPRESSIVE.
I`ve watched hundreds, maybe thousands of interviews and speeches about psychological topics... So many people out there giving their 2 cents on what they think they know about human psychology and she just handed us a whole f*** DOLLAR.
WOW!!!!
Stiliani Fakidaraki BOOOOM!! 💥💪🏻🙌🏻🔥
Absolutely agree, this interview was so amazing, so much to learn, so clever and well explained!!!
Absolutely agree!
She is absolutely amazing!! "The more I fail the more resilient I become!"
Which is not true. Imagine she would never had a job and failed in everything she did would you listen to such a person? I guess this just sounds nice to those who are not thinking...
@@nachtschicht7276 Crisis let you see a person's true color.
I really love this woman! 😁 What she is saying, what topics she is bringing up...so much to learn. But Lisa you are a really good host! You're making such a good job. I'm glad you found something what obviously brings you joy, fullfillness and is suiting you.
This is the 3rd time I’ve watched this and each time I learn something or hear something I missed before! Def going to find her book. And Lisa’s! Thank you for such an informative and USEFUL video-love to watch these Greek ladies!
Wow I was so upset , just watching this made me calm down and realize my ego was in the way and the goal . And never self checked myself. Thank you
Nawa Muyatwa pleasure! Glad it resonated ❤️
Nawa Muyatwa wet
@@anthonyramirez2576 ???
Nicely done
...and something worthwhile...thanks
Nawa Muyatwa If that is you in your profile girl you are beautiful. very nice skin.
The vagueness is so true... someone who's lying is extremely vague.
Melvin Lombard They also distant themselves, speak from a 3rd person perspective and sometimes offer way too much info and seemingly just ramble on (when details are completely unnecessary). For example: Q = Did you eat? A = Pizza, thin crust with pepperoni, extra cheese and a robust sauce. It took a long long long time to get they were super busy, but the waitress a girl named Jessica, was really friendly and apologized for the wait. Did I mention it was thin crust? It was incredibly delicious, we really should go there together sometime. I can’t remember the name of the place, but it was pretty good... and not really that busy. So how was your day? (Notice the over the top response and inconsistencies)
@@GhostSal I completely agree, they projectile vomit information that's not relevant, they have no conscience of what's right or wrong, they just go on and on... like I've officially had it with these people. Parents and family sometimes believe they have a free pass for twisting the facts to suit their narrative. I can still tolerate people who lie casually because it's clearly got to do with themselves and their reality, but people who lie to cause malicious damage to someone's character are trash, they are so far detached from reality that they lie so skillfully and convincingly. As they carry on with their deceitfulness you can see their minds working, the incessant talking, vagueness of whatever BS they are concocting as they go along, unoriginal and usually a projection or regurgitation of their own insecurities, twisting the true version of events. I mean if you're going to lie, atleast make it original, and don't you dare point them out a contradictory statement made previously, they'll tell you you're the lier. I'm dealing with this psycho and who I personally believe is not mentally well 🙄
or extremely specific and detail oriented
This comment thread: A person who is vague is lying. Also this comment thread: A person who is specific is lying. I'm never trusting anyone ever again
Nsikelelo Mthembu Lol, too much info and inconsistencies are what you’re looking for (not just specifics). Also, body language is part of it too, you have to look for and recognize clues.
I'm excited for some down time this week! Just ordered Becoming Bulletproof! Evy is my superhero! I can't watch enough of her. I've watched this video a couple times already, you can always hear good advice more than once!!!
I am SO grateful that I stumbled upon this video! Thank you so much Lisa and Evy! I love everything that was said in this video and it really hit home for me! Thank you for being an inspiration ❤
ALOT of men do that ladies , put you down to make themselves go higher ! And women are not loving themselves enough to see that!
@ Marie F You are not wrong, but don't you think that are a lot of women who put men down to do the same thing?
Marie F I agree with you!
BOTH men and women do this. Narcissism and Manipulation is non gender specific. FACT.
Bella Luxx she means in a men dominated workplace 🙄
Bella Luxx
Did she say the opposite 🤨 ?
I feel like I was brought to this video at the perfect time in my life!
Trina 🙌🏻
Me 2
Amazing interview from both sides of it. It’s so nice to hear all the Evy’s advices and the Lisa’s remarks.