MAY CHECK-IN | Hannah Louise Poston | MY BEAUTY BUDGET
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
- This is my official May check-in, finally! I hope the video itself explains why it was late. Thank you all so much for watching and for being so lovely and supportive. This is my HLP-the-writer website, in case anyone is curious: www.hannahlouis...
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That flash of green every time you blink 💚
I definitely feel you on stress making you backslide. I have been so stressed every day for a couple of months, and I just feel good when I pick up something that I've been wanting (food, makeup, beauty stuff)
Girl, I feel you. Shopping isn't my particular unhealthy coping mechanism. For me, it is desserts. My brain skips right to " I feel bad, let's eat sugar!" And I find that I have zero chill when it comes to desserts when I'm stressed. I am bottomless and I try to fill it with cake. Which works just as well as Sephora browsing. In that it doesn't work at all. When I see that I'm seeking out desserts to comfort instead of for the actual enjoyment of tiramisu, the only thing that works is a dessert ban to force myself into healthier coping mechanisms. I don't diet or demonize sugar, but I don't think it is healthy to rely on pie for emotional support. That's what friends, family, dogs, and therapists are for - not banana pudding.
I will now cease blathering about dessert in your comment section. Just wanted to say: I see you and I totally get that out of control feeling.
I feel you too! I have had a similar relationship with sweet treats that has only been put in check by going cold turkey, similar to my no-buy. Sugar is amazingly addictive. If you enjoy reading long-form articles, this one about the history of sugar in health is one of my top 2 long-form reads of all time: www.theguardian.com/society/2016/apr/07/the-sugar-conspiracy-robert-lustig-john-yudkin
@@HannahLouisePoston I will! Thank you for the recommendation. I believe I recently read a book by Robert Lustig, but I read a lot of books, so I could be scrambled. (Occupational hazard for a librarian)
Joanna B What a great comment! “I don’t think it’s healthy to rely on pie for emotional support” I know you are being serious, but lol, girl. How right you are. And neither is it healthy to rely on eyeshadow and lipsticks.
i'm buying 'fun' makeup (stuff other than replacements of 'boring' concealers etc) only twice a year. It's every 6 months - my birthday, and the black friday sales. It means i keep my 'want' feeling for months rather than satisfying it and wanting a new thing. My budget makes me prioritise and by the time the purchase comes it's more of an errand. I'm happy to be a consumer and want stuff, but doing it through a wishlist is free. By the time i buy, i've been and swatched and played in the shop SO many times, I'm never disappointed by what I've bought.
That's a good strategy!
amazing plan!
Once again I have to say : how brave of you to come to this platform and be this honest. I had a terrible month as well and shopped way more than I had planned to. The only saving grace is all the things I bought I was planning to buy, but at a more spaced out pace throughout the year. I decided to go from a monthly budget to a no buy for the rest of the year because this abundance of items coming my way and giving me shopper's high is a sensation that can be quite addictive, especially since the things that were bothering me have not improved.
Babe you are so cool! We all have the I-deserve-to-buy-something-after-the-day/week-/year-I've-had and that's okey. What shows our character is to still not do it. And cannot WAIT to meet you!
thank you!!!
Angelica Nyqvist you both are two of my favorite RUclipsrs!! I’m so excited for you lovely humans to meet! I would love to see a collab video if you have time to film but if not I hope you have a wonderful trip :)
Would be amazing if you two did a very long video together ...plzzzz n thk you 🙏🏾
This 38 minute video went by so fast! And I found your critique of your spending habits so interesting and familiar.
I am much older than you Hannah and have built up a lovely nest egg with my husband because we have always been savers.
But a few years ago we suffered extreme stress that lasted over a number of years, and that’s when my shopping habits changed to the detriment of our bank balance.
And I can’t stop.
It’s so good to hear you voice so clearly your thoughts and feelings about ‘stuff’.
It helps.
Love you 💖 , love your channel 💕 , take care.
you can stop! If I could do it, so can you. I believe in you
Hannah Louise Poston
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Ugh - 'looking for something to want.' Yeah - what is that even about???? Perfect way to describe myself.
The "big spender" feeling! Your reenactment cracked me up, especially because it was like looking in a mirror. I get just the same way whenever I make a big purchase, whether it's an emergency that I was thankfully able to handle or a special item I'd been saving up for. I replaced my iPad earlier this year and it was like flipping a binge-shopping switch. Self-awareness is the all-important first step! My therapist once referred to "letting triggers change into alarms," and I think about that in all areas of my life.
Instead of, "Ooh, I just dropped $300 on an iPad, I'm rich, looks like it's time to buy three new pairs of shoes and also start a new skincare regime!!", I want to train my mind to go "Yay, I was able to replace my iPad! - Beep beep beep, warning, warning, impulse to overspend approaching."
I didn't have an emergency financial cushion and, thanks to you, I have saved over £400 so far this year. I'm now saving £100 a month. Before this year, I was supposedly saving £50 a month but actually always ended up spending it because of my frittering habit. You've been my inspiration and I appreciate your honesty. That glass of wine may or may not have buggered up your laptop, but sometimes the occasional glass of wine (or piece of dark chocolate) helps with stress.
Your discussion today makes “pruning for new growth” come to mind. Can’t wait to here about your secret project!
Thank you for your valuable thoughts!
Spending and stress/state of mind is very interesting. I’m bipolar and mania = spending. I have to be very vigilant or it can be a disaster!
I'm shocked by how much it overwhelmed me this month! I think paying close attention is key.
@Anouk another victim of bpd purchasing....Hannahs videos help a bit, so thank you very much for them!!
On the idea of putting a harness on Sadie, introduce it slowly, with pets and treats. When I first put a harness on either of my boy cats, they decided they couldn't walk anymore and life was over. After working with them, they now come running when they hear their harnesses being moved. They adore going out on a leash, and I honestly think I could take Loki for a walk down the block if I had patience to walk slowly enough to let him sniff everything. Like many things with cats, you have to work them up to it, but once you do, it's a great form of enrichment for them! Good luck!
this is very encouraging. She's still at "can't walk life is over" stage when we put it on her.
I bought Erin's faces as I was out of sunscreen, excited to try it out! Also, i read your essay on 'about fear of horses. As a musician, reading the section about teaching, the quote about how it's like bleeding out and some people catch and some people just watch you bleed, was so....ahhh it was just one of those moments where the key clicks in the lock for me. And then to read about that moment of joy, that "noncreative" dude that expressed so beautifully how he took in your poetry, made me tear up. Because yes, the torturous art of bearing soul onto page is rewarded so infrequently and in such fleeting moments yet somehow it is Redemption with q true capital R. I just...I get it, and I appreciate those words on the page so, so much. Not only in their content, but in their musicality as the words splay across my brain. Thank you for that essay, it touched me. Sorry this has zero to do with your video lol
Girl, you are so cool ! That money hand gesture, like you're throwing money away, made me laugh out loud. Thank you for being open about what happened this past month . It really helps me when I can see that other people are also not perfect at whatever it is I'm doing too. It's a breath of fresh air. Thanks again.
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Thank you for your wonderful, thoughtful videos. I have to go on a forced no buy and shopping is how I cope with my very stressful life. Your candour made me feel less alone. Thank you.
Oh my god! your video is a God sent! Thank you for being so fabulously sincere! All your thoughts and what you went trough really resonated with me. I am so happy I could hear you today, it gave meaning to everything I am going trough at the moment... I felt less overwhelmed, less alone. Thank you! Looking forward in hearing all your up coming projects!
17:49 the joy expressed in those moments 💕
One more thing - I do have this issue of 'if I just get this one/two/three more things, THEN I'LL BE ALL SET AND WON'T NEED ANYTHING ELSE.' That's what never seems to work out so well.
I'm very excited about your videos on your thoughts on PR! Sorry to hear it was a stressful month...but somewhat selfishly glad that you're human too.
yay, thanks! I'm excited to film them!
Looking for something to want is such a great phrase when curating your stress becomes too much.
This video is the first time I’ve heard of someone doing the same behaviors as myself. You’ve explained the driver so clearly! I’ve been watching your content to try to break my own shopping problem. Thanks for sharing!
Your thoughts on how you don't want to feel like you need to shop to hit the dopamine button, but want a more stable base of happiness and actual contentment... That really hit me hard. I realized that's exactly what I was doing before my no buy started in January (still going strong!). It feels like by watching your videos, and hearing your intelligent and well spoken thoughts, I'm getting to know myself better. And I can't thank you enough for that.
YAY congrats on your no-buy!! That is amazing! I learned SO much about myself during mine, a lot of what I speak about now comes from what my no-buy taught me
@@HannahLouisePoston It's all thanks to you! If it wasn't for your videos, I think there was a moment earlier this year I would have broken my no buy. But now, almost 6 months in, I really feel like I can do this.
Yeah, that accountability thing. I recently needed some clothing for summer and even though my husband genuinely does not care what I spend or what I buy, I showed him everything, showed him everything I ordered that didn't fit and was getting returned, and added up the total for him. It was just a protection against resuming binge shopping behavior. So yeah that accountability helps me a lot too.
awesome!
I've been doing that too. Not because I need permission but because I need a reason to pause and guard against all my demons when it comes to shopping
I had a similar experience this month. I was doing a no buy and I made it a good 6 months pretty well. June was very stressful and I had a lot of things going on. I ended up buying a few things and that pretty much opened the flood gates. The more that I bought the more I wanted and the easier it became to just buy the thing. I think that is need to move on, get back on the no buy, and learn from my mistake. This video came at the perfect time for me. Thanks!
yes, the main thing is to get back on the no-buy and make it another 6 months! you can do it!
The way you talk about it in this video really puts it all in perspective. Thank you for sharing.
I love that you talked about your coping mechanisms in a hard month. The truth is we all find ways to cope. And bringing an awareness to the coping mechanisms we're choosing is so powerful!
Yet again, you've articulated things I've felt and experienced in myself but didn't have fully developed. "The life of the mind" and needing it to be fed and healthy is something I very much feel is a necessity for me, but it sounds kinda crazy to those who don't have that need. Thank you for making a quirk seem like something beautiful.
I feel the EXACT same and this video hit me hard. I've been on an unofficial low buy since January just because I didn't feel like buying makeup and I also recognised the behaviours you talk about. I was doing so well, I had only bought one replacement and didn't have an urge to buy makeup but then I got my birthday money... I bought a pair of boots I needed, and then did a small looxi haul of four shadows and a highlight. After that, I found myself constantly window shopping online, looking for things to want. When I know that we need to be saving to move. It sucks but your video helped me also snap back to reality and recognise those bad behaviours! Thank you for always being honest with us ❤️
Wow. So happy Samantha March connected me to you. Your rawness is so relatable--especially your honesty about your spending compulsion. You are certainly not alone. I wish there were mire youtubers like you. Thank you.
This was amazing and I love that you reaped the reward of all your hard work of a no buy year and then moving into your budget. Love your “ya I got this, I was able to buy that!” One thing that has helped me not buy so impulsively is to use the wish list or favorites that a lot of websites have now. It is interesting, when I go back later to look at those items, almost all of the time I am wondering why I thought that item was so attractive to me. All of this content is multi layered of our emotions.
Love this video! Please could you make one speaking about ways for writers to pursue publication, particularly for short form work/the trajectory of your writing career? Would be so interesting to hear from you about it!
I would like to make some writing content!!
That’s great to hear! Look forward to hopefully seeing some in the future :)
Always enjoy your content-don't mind if it's easier things. I also shop/browse when I'm stressed. Sometimes I feel its no worse than overeating or other serotonin boosting activities. It's tough. Don't be so hard on yourself. Budgeting is a massive change. My helpful strategies for stress involve writing lists, saying no to things that are not my priority, walking in the woods exercise and sleep. However last months I just overeat 😫
rosieposy8 You’re right! I had a very stressful end of the month last month and my previously successful no buy went to heck. I bought a ton of makeup in all of the Memorial Day sales. It was like the floodgates opened. I need to gather myself and get it back together.
I feel like you were talking about me when you explained about pressing the shopping dopamine button when down or overwhelmed. I used to have an addiction, which I’ve tackled quite well I think. But recently, work has been crazy and I’ve two young kids so when I’m not working I’m giving all I have to them. I found myself “wanting to want” for the same reasons you explained, but also it’s something for me. It’s an unhealthy form of self care, and quicker and easier than trying to find the time and childcare to do something better like exercise or get a massage.
This video helped me so much. One of my income streams has dried up this month at the same time that I have had to spend my savings for some required expenses. I am on an extreme financial fast this month- only essential purchases. It has been tough but watching this video has really helped me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
thank you Maurey! You will pull through! So nice to hear from you
Hannah Louise Poston you have really changed my life. Thank you for your ongoing support xxx
Oh my gosh, Hannah, don’t leave us hanging!! What is the verdict on Sadie’s food, what made her the happiest?!?!?
Crystal Kalenze Yesssss!!! We need to know!!!
I feel this so much. I am a creative, too, and when I cannot create because I'm too busy with other stuff, I just want to shop and shop until I feel that spark again.
When spoke of your laptop, I knew you were going to say that it stoked the fire of wanting to spend. Making a large purchase has the same effect for me. It's like, I did it, nothing bad happened, so it feels easier to do it again. Cultivating gratitude takes so much more work than the easy spend.
What a thought provoking video! In my recent experience, what has seemed most bizarre was how deeply the feelings of eustress and distress have felt interconnected; I love school and was so excited to hand in my Bachelor Thesis and present it, but at the same time, the process weighed on me so heavily that I've been having nightmares about the final exam (despite having passed with flying colors weeks ago) and have observed how the shopping mindset (like online browsing but not buying) seems to have persisted past the distressful work period. I think the way you describe the stress related to high-stakes events/accomplishments is on point. Before this past month, the no-buy felt effortless, but suddenly I was tempted by drugstore products and almost dropped a lipliner into my basket without thinking! 😂
On a more optimistic note, I am so excited about your new project, I wish you the best of luck!!!!!
I love getting to hear about your struggles! Not hearing that you’re struggling but hearing that someone who seems to have it so together also struggles and overcomes those struggles.
Also! I totally feel you in regards to the creative burnout. If I don’t take time to fill my soul with dance and theatre, my creativity fizzles and I resort to eating/shopping to make me happy, rather than actually filling my soul.
“I don’t have the money to spend” you know, neither do I, empties Ulta cart. Thank you Hannah for saving me from myself ❤️
Oof, girl, go you.
So, I've already watched this particular video three times! And, I don't think I'm done yet! Things I stopped to jot down a note about: Cultivating the life of the mind, its risky to go after the life you want, and using constraints and clear rules to change your brain. I'm going to LITERALLY meditate over these things, they speak directly to my being!
Thank you a million times over for your vulnerability, Hannah❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Ps--I would LOVE videos about your writing!
This video rang very true for me and was just what I needed to hear at this moment in time. I’m an airline pilot currently on maternity leave, I’ve decided to give up half of my maternity leave and go back to work early because I’ve been offered a job with my dream airline. Talk about stress! I’m so excited to tackle this new opportunity but the idea of having to do it with a baby at home, lack of sleep, long nights, etc. is terrifying.
CONGRATS ON YOUR JOB!!!!! Remember to take extra good care of yourself!
Life of the mind... I love that. As an introvert I live in my mind. I work things out like you. I think and think and think. I analyze the why I do certain things. Shopping is certainly one of those things. Old patterns are hard to break because our brains want to go back onto that off ramp when we should be gliding down the interstate going to where we need to be. Just when we think we have things under control those old patterns pop up. I just got back from a trip to England in which I spent a lot of money to go but it was an experience of a life time and I spent a lot of money before I left getting ready to go. When it was over, I cried because everything I had done for the last six months was prepare for a big adventure. Now it is over and I am home. My idea was to go on a no buy like you to cut down on spending. I had to go buy a vacuum cleaner today. It is a necessity and I went to the mall. I do not live in a city like I used to and I have to drive an hour to be at one. I looked at all the sales and saw pretty things but was not tempted because I had bought so much before my trip. I went off my weight loss program and I have to get back on. I have to remember the reasons and motivations behind it to begin with. I do not want to lose ground. I have to work my program. It's hard being a grown up and telling ourselves NO. We do need accountability. Sort of a mom to say, Did you need it? My mom always said, "Spend wisely". Don't beat yourself up. Honey, we were born to shop. Just pick yourself up and get back on the interstate. Find your center and the whys you are doing things to begin with. You're ok. You're going to be ok.
Hi Hannah. I just want you to know that because of your recommendation I bought the sunscreen from Erin's Faces. I love it. I've had skin cancer and so you can imagine how important a good sunscreen is to me. Every time I apply it I hear your voice saying "it is so cosmetically elegant" I love it. I just received an email from Erin's Faces about their Monoi Tiare Oil. I read the article they posted about it on their page and bought it right away. Thank you for bringing Erin's Faces to my attention.
It took me all day to finish watching. So many thoughts. Forgive me if this comes across as disjointed, but I don’t want to lose my train of thought. Stress/anxiety=fear. What were you afraid of during the stress of the month? You spoke about how you distracted yourself, but from what? Sit with that and see if you can find an answer. You might be breaking some boundaries into unknown territory and growing. Plus, moving so recently, is also a factor you managed and it isn’t to be dismissed. The moving was actual and symbolic. I don’t know many people who can take much “extra” in their lives without some kind of blow back. Lastly, be kind to yourself as you do your work in the world. On any particular day, we could be various versions of ourselves, therefore be kind to the version that shows up. Incorporate some quiet time, or music, or reading, or something that is pleasurable that nurtures your soul, a bath, some nature, to ground yourself. Life is not a race, or projects, or even accomplishments. The joy you recognize for yourself you have already and I wish more joy for you in the stillness of just being.
Kind of in a rush to leave the house but this is my first video on your channel and you are speaking to my soul!! Oh my gosh I am. Shopping addict and I want to break this habit, so much! Thank you for this gift of talking through the logic of spending. I feel stronger now.
I've been extra stressed and sleep deprived because I'm helping my hubby recover from surgery. I'm working 2 jobs and everything else he normally does and I'm *tired*. I, too, have been looking for stuff to buy, to escape, etc. Everything you mentioned. I'm also working on consumer debt and other loans. While I know this is a phase of life that will end, I'm not coping as well as I would like. All this to say, I understand and commiserate 💜. And, thank you for your words, they really do help.
Also, my oven died last week :(. I used money from my emergency fund, plus a generous donation from my inlaws, to buy a new range. Yay for emergency funds!
Great video. IDK if you bought your cat a harness but I had a very funny experience with that. My cat Chloe wouldn't get up so I picked up my phone to take a picture of her. She decided to walk around the couch with the retractable leash attached to her harness. The handle got caught on the leg of the couch, pulled out, released from the couch and rapidly retracted toward the harness, scaring the living crap out of my cat. I tried to get to her but she started running around the couch, retracting, releasing and the handle was flying wildly as this happened. I basically covered my head and backed away. Finally silence. I looked behind the couch. The harness was empty. My cat hid under the futon for hours until I pulled it out and grabbed her. Nope. Haven't tried it again but it was pretty hilarious! Anyway, keep up your good work. You are an inspiration. Having the support of others makes it easier but ultimately, you are only accountable to yourself. We accept you as you are. That's why we enjoy your channel.
If it would cheer you up - the point that is clearly different is that a ‘Socratic dialogue’ is always going on now - you have a great deal of self- awareness. Personally I enjoy listening to your check- ins most. I find it therapeutic!!!!!! I also suffer from too much Desire!!!!! The only thing I would say is that I watched a utuber de- clutter such quantities recently I could have wept. Landfill landfill. Otherwise enjoy the things your work brings because it is work.
"Spending money breeds spending money." RELATABLE 100%. I get the same way: when I *have* to spend money, then I *want* to. I still have that desire and it drives me crazy. But unlike my 20-something self, who would just spend the money anyway on anything that she thought was cute, my 30-something self has the self-control and foresight to not give in to that desire...although, I am so, so tempted to because May was a hard month for me as well :/ and the retail therapy thing is real.
I have a kitty and the trick is you gotta keep them in the harness full time!! my kitty, Jelly Bean, got used to her harness after about a day this way. she still freaks out if I even so much as attach the leash though, even giving it full slack. still working on it!! I hope Sadie fulfills her curiosity desires (safely)
Oh and Hannah tell me what the shades you wanted from MUG was, I think I have them here at home, give me a list haha :P
I'll email you!
Yes and yes to eustress! It’s absolutely a thing and I agree that the bad and good stress both do the same thing to your body! Thanks for being so transparent and open with us on here. It’s a unique and wonderful thing here on RUclips.
Maya has so much to offer. She will always have so much to offer. Maya is Maya. Illusion.
I’m so happy I found your channel! Love your videos. I’m in the same boat that I constantly need or want to buy something. I have been buying makeup, candles, shower and body care and it’s out of hand. I want to do a no buy year.
I do the same with food/exercise. I usually stay within a weight range but I do fluctuate. Every once in a while I’ll gain weight outside of my norm and then I’ll refocus and go on a strict diet to get back on track. Usually with a strict diet for a month or so. Then I get back into my normal weight range and loosen my rules back up again.
Accountability is huge. I can always tell I need to examine my habits when I feel the compulsion to hide receipts and shopping bags from my husband. If I'm ashamed for him to see what I've been spending money on, whether or not we can afford it, I know have a problem.
Perhaps this was the wrong month to send you a list of eyeshadows and blushes I could send you for free! Haha ... I so much enjoy your writer brain, Hannah. There's a reason yours is the only channel I watch since my month off youtube in January.
I don't have a shopping addiction, but I recognise so much of what you talk about, and for me it's screens. I notice now that when I'm using devices too much my brain cannot slow down enough to think deeply and creatively, and that feels like a wasted life. I like how you describe it as the life of the mind, it's exactly that. I'm doing a 3 week screen fast in July, perhaps we'll be fasting at the same time! Of course the first thing I'll do after it is to catch up on your videos!
AH Sarah I'm so sorry I haven't responded to your email yet! I'm weeks behind on email :( Will do it soon! I love the idea of a screen fast!
@@HannahLouisePoston Oh don't apologise, I saw your videos and I totally understood! That's the last thing you need to worry about when you have so much else going on. If it helps, I give you permission to reply in six months, or never! I'd prefer you to take care of yourself.
I am putting my son on a screen fast after much reading and thinking, so it only seemed fair that I do it too. I'm really looking forward to it!
@@saraht3786 please send her the shadows hehe I'm super curious what they are
@@Creamy_Goodness They're mostly discontinued, because I can't use discontinued products in my kit
Oh my, Hannah! I totally feel what you're talking about... Sometimes I even feel that I can't take in the eustress or excitement something brings because of all the distress I feel due to a million other things going on at the same time. I deal with way too many things, much like you with the sawing the modeling, youtube, writing, dancing, and every other thing that comes up in life as a goal or social commitment etc, and sometimes feel like I'm crushing under it all and can't enjoy the good things that come my way, or the process leading to those. I'm sure great things will come in the future for you but remember to practice what you preach what you always tell us at the closing of your videos! I certainly try to remember it and apply it as much as I can and it helped me!
Tired and stressed=online shopping for me. I have to keep reminding myself to save for the big item I really want. Be sure to up your vitamins when you are stressed. Illness follows stress...even the good kind.
Hannah, are you writing a book about your no buy year? 😮😮😮
(and psst, this is why you get a stationary and not a laptop. because fixing it is cheap and easy hehe)
Yay!! Fingers crossed for your big project. ❤️❤️❤️
thanks Kellen!
Please let it be a Colourpop collab 🙏
Wow, you nailed it. I also waste SO MUCH TIME "looking for something to want". Knowing damn well I need nothing. Hopping feom Sephora app, Ulta app, different brand websites, etc. So glad I found your channel- coming over from Samantha March's channel ❤
I broke my no buy / low buy plans that I had early on in the year. I felt very ashamed at the time, I even felt guilty watching your videos after I did because I told you about my plans. I did manage to get through about 3 months of a no buy and I do see the progress in my mental state regarding shopping. I have since been spending much less than I was before on makeup and I do not feel the compulsion to buy things like I did at the end of last year but I do think I could use a no buy again. I think I'll plan for it to be from July through September. I was about to say I would start a replacement no buy only now but I do want to pick up a couple of lip glosses. Otherwise I think I'm set. I might buy a replacement tinted brow gel and a back up mascara but otherwise I think that will be it leading in to my no buy beginning in July.
I am choosing to not eat sugar right now for personal reasons. For the past 2 days, I have had to sit at classes with candy in the middle of the table. Your acts of putting items in the cart reasonates with me alot because I was basically doing the same thing mentally with the candy. I was very uncomfortable because I really wanted it and had to talk myself through it, acknowledging that it was okay to be uncomfortable and to sit and endure my discomfort. Crazy!
*hug* just another quick note to tell you how appreciated you and your content are
Thanks for sharing your struggle. It was really helpful for understanding similar habits I’ve been noticing when I’m stressed or feeling down. Thanks for coming on here and continuing to motivate me to be financially responsible as well as take a close look at my psyche :).
Great video with very insightful commentary to think about!
I think this is one of the best videos yet. I really appreciate how raw you got and I feel the same way about wanting and spending more. Thank you for the video :)
That was an interesting chat on stress! I really get that!
Hey Hannah!!!
My 3 yr old got sick while we were out of town. We had to take him to the hospital and leave the trip early. (My 32nd bday beach trip btw). He’s doing better now but I was so crippled and I definitely went on a mini rampage at Sephora. I’m actually trying to reel it back in. When I’m scared, I spend. I really hate that. At the same time, I love everything I bought.
you can do it!! a short no-buy can be a great re-set. I hope your babe is fully recovered!
I feel where you're coming from so much. My editor sent me an email letting me know she was almost finished compiling her developmental edit letter for my novel, and I'm girding my loins for the work coming. As a result of this good stress, my bad habits are resurfacing -- sugar cravings, carb cravings, and the urge to shop. Even though this work is going to bring me closer to my life goals, it's still triggering my tendency toward bad habits.
And yes! Creative people need our downtime to process and ruminate in order to do our best work. It's hard when you feel pulled in so many directions. I go to Big Sur when I need a recharge -- that place fulfills my spirit. Thank you for the insight and validation. I hope you get a chance to daydream and practice the self-care rituals you need this month. Congrats on approaching your dreams!
"The life of the mind" I love that! I write prose, mostly short stories, and when I am stressed I just can't write. I always say it's "writer's block", but that's not really it, because it's not a lack of inspiration, it's a lack of... Well, "life of mind"!
I hope someone describes looking at me the way Hannah describes looking at her eyeshadow palettes one day 😍
Such a great video, and I love listening to your internal dialogue, because it happens so often.
I really needed to hear all this today. Thank you for your raw transparency.
Completely unrelated: I’ve noticed that your home goods spending has been really minimal. You bought a candle, the strap thing for your sheets, and ONE plant. That’s amazing! Do you feel a lack of contentment with your home as a result of not spending? Like, are your towels ratty and sad? Do you need/want new sheets? I’m really impressed with your lack of spending in that particular department!
I have so many things that this video has made me think about, but I’ll try to keep it to this one: what about going on a no-buy but not limiting PR or gifts, then seeing what that does to your shopping behaviors? If the issue is how PR/gifts interact with your budget, then it would be interesting to change one of those things, but not the other, sort of like a science experiment where one factor is the control and the other is the variable. Instituting a no buy and restricting free things may not tell you much about how the two interact, because you’d be restricting both. But I’d be very interesting to see what happens to desire when you can buy nothing but do receive things. Maybe then a few months later you could switch them-back to a budget but no PR. Then compare notes-what were the results from these different experiments in moderation?
I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough month. My March and April were like that-I felt like I was constantly booked and never had a chance to stop and breathe. And my shopping behaviors also grew far worse than they had been at the beginning of my low buy, and I’m still trying to get back on track. I’m glad things are slowing down for you.
"looking for something to want" is THE WORST. I'm pretty good at budgeting, but sometimes even knowing I have that money to spend means I keep looking for things to buy!
Yes! Last year I really enjoyed hearing you talk about such topics, and I am glad you decided to talk about this again. There is a void of such candid talk when it comes to no buy or finance videos. I relate to your experience so much. I had a busy and exhausting month as well, and found myself engaging in the same activities. Browsing Amazon, looking for something to want. In the midst of being overstressed and exhausted, I found myself procrastinating and slow, often sabotaging my productivity. And then I would misplace something and waste loads of valuable time to look for it. I had to step back and allow myself time to decompress and do what I love, even if it comes at a cost of taking time away from other things, like housework.
I get ya, I have been having all kinds of stress piled on, piece after piece, and it's virtually stopped my work on my book. It's all I can do to manage a basic writing practice at all. Let's hope things improve for the rest of June & July!
You are such a sweetheart Hannah 💖wishing you best of luck for everything and thank you for making these videos!
Great discussion! I am currently in counseling for anxiety and we’ve been talking about self-soothing behaviors like being glued to RUclips anytime I’m alone or eating sugary foods and how to decide if a soothing habit is good or bad longterm. You didn’t use the term self-soothing but that compulsive online searching sounds similar to my habits. Gave me more things to think about. I think my main question when you put your hard stop brakes on like a no buy, do you just sit with the anxiety/stress feelings or do you have an alternative activity to calm yourself down?
I have decided to do some “no buy” things for 3 mos. starting in July...In 2 categories I will only buy to replace, only if I really need to replace...if it’s something I can go without, I will not replace it...example a eyeshadow...I have too much makeup, even though I went through a big makeup declutter a year ago...
Also, I love planner stuff (stickers, washi & note pads), I have a lot!! But; I still want to buy more...I have more on my list, but; these 2 things are on the top...I found your channel through another RUclipsr...
I totally agree with you about needing to be able to have the grit to do it. However, you (or anyone else who needs it) might like the book The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. Some people need more accountability than others and knowing what helps you to stick to things is a life-changer! Highly recommend. Especially if you’re having trouble not breaking a no-buy or a low-buy.
I so identify with the big spender philosophy. Never thought about t before but you articulated my experience perfectly.
You're doing great Hannah! I'm having a hectic time in my life right now and I'm in a budget year too (thanks to your channel), and because of that anxiety I found myself looking for shoes, new lipsticks and dresses as a crazy lady.
It is completely normal to have those ups and downs, you're not alone and you have to see the bigger picture. Cheer up, and do not be very harsch with yourself.
Kisses from Spain xoxo :)
The struggle continues.....recently I experienced big time wanting to want something when Sephora sent me a one time use 20% off...online coupon. It would expire in about 10 days of receipt. I looked and looked online...at my favs list (no, I don’t really want that after all...don’t need this or that). There was a Sephora eyeliner pencil on sale for $4...really now...waste a coupon on that? I put things in cart...took them out. Started over every day. My day of reckoning, Hannah. The deadline day. I did order something...a Charlotte Tilbury flawless and finish I 🤔 it is....not sure I’ll like it. We will see. If not, I’ll return it to the store. But for sure I don’t need it.
BTW I had a cat Ruby we would let her out in the third floor hallway to roam...neighbors would pet her...at least the ones she would let come near her. She was particular about who she let come near her. 😆
I went on a three month no-buy and now I am on a low buy until the end of the year. Now that I think about it, I may have gone on little "shopping fasts" or "sugar fasts" throughout my life when I knew I needed to slow down or save some money. There just wasn't a word for it.
Moderation is against our biological makeup; exercising will over biology is a difficult and perpetual internal struggle.
Yes! That is a very insightful comment. Another instance where an adaptation ( like the impulse toward calorie-dense foods) would have served our ancestors well in an environment of scarcity. But now, it’s like a curse.
Thank you for a wonderful video. This is exactly why I always keep coming back to your channel
I am an Enneagram 4. I work as a designer with a serious millinery hobby. I, too, want everything to be lovely. I want all the creative tools and materials for possibilities. Yet, my mind gets so cluttered with all of the "Stuff".- So -Yes! This! Exactly! I "feel" and "think" no matter how much I explain no one will ever understand. Do you find that what you feel and what you think can be in opposition? As a "Doing" repressed stance, I am in awe of all that you actually accomplish. BTW - I was starting to "connect" in Argentine tango lessons before Covid.
I had a month, too! I broke my low buy but didn’t really even realize it until much later. Guess what I broke it on? PLANTS. 😭😭😭 I think a no buy for the rest of June, July, and August might be in order. 🤔 One of the things I loved when I started my low buy was the lack of anxiety I felt. It’s actually stressful to constantly be on the lookout for new stuff. I felt this sense of peace and deep relaxation to just exit the hamster wheel of consumerism. I want to go back to there.
Oh wow I just want to give you a hug!! You are doing fantastically! Good for you for pursuing the life that you want, I hope you're very proud of yourself and I'm sure I'm not the only one who's grateful to you for sharing the journey with us :) xx
thank you!!! Hug received!!
While the computer crapping out sucks, it was terrific that you were able to takes care of it. Great job!
May was a strugglebus month for me as well. Fortunately, I decided to do a no buy for May and that made the spending easier, but everything else was insane. It is the busiest time of year for my business, I am helping another business get off the ground, and I’m trying to start my blog. I need both of the first two things in my life right now financially. Unfortunately that means the blog, which is a passion project, only has one post and is temporarily put on the backburner until things simmer down which makes me so sad. I am still writing and have 9-10 posts in the works; Im just not happy with them to post them yet. As you mentioned my days are completely packed and I’m not having time to “inhabit my mind”. I’m hoping that things simmer down by the end of the month.
Even with the insanity in my life my no buy went well because it’s easier to not buy than to regulate buying. I did spend a lot of time with shopping behaviors but when I consider the insanity my life is I’m trying not to beat myself up too much. So I very much agree that going back to your base rules can help to ground you. It did for me.
I’m excited about your videos about PR. I think it’ll be interesting and insightful. I think a lot of “normal” (non youtuber) folks receive PR in their lives in their own way. For example, my MIL often gives me beauty products as well as an esthetician friend, and it definitely does not “keep me from wanting to shop”. So I’m very very much looking forward to these videos.
I’m so so PROUD of you for having and being able to use your Emergency Fund. Having an EF is one of the only things that keeps my anxiety in check.
Big Spender Hannah had me laughing out loud.
Love this! So important to talk about emergency funds and saving money! Thank you
I'm wondering if you do an experiment when you want to shop to get dopamine, if you do something else..? Maybe do a video trying different things to curb your desire to shop and see if anything works.