Hats off and huge respect for this man for acknowledging, facing and confronting not only his troubles, challenges and illness, but also standing up to society's cliche expectations and stigmatizations. As a great musician, he brought happy times to our lives, but beyond that he is an even more inspirational human being.
Fair play to Duff revealing his story on mental health.He is so honest about his struggles and how incredibly difficult mental health issues are for a man's sense of masculinity. His honest story is helping thousands of men confront their own mental struggles. They say, helping others is the best way mentally to help yourself. Great guy and I wish him all the happiness and health.
I was never a GnR fan, but the more I read and see of Duff, the more respect I have for him. He is such a good person, his kindness to Mark Lanegan in a time of great need, probably saved his life and speaks volumes to the humanity of the man. He is one cool guy.
DON'T FORGET MR. BROWNSTONE DUFF !!❤❤❤❤❤❤ U CAN BEAT THIS TOO DUFF !!❤❤❤❤ ANXIETY IS A BI .. SOMETHING BUT A HUGE PAIN IN THE BUTT !!. .BUT WE AND U DUFF AND NUMEROUS OTHER PEOPLE REALLY CAN LEARN TO. CONTROLL THE ANXIETY BEAST !!!❤❤❤❤❤
WE CAN LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANXIETY ATTACKS OR AS I PREFER TO CALL IT MY ANXIETY BEAST I AM LEARNING TO CONTROL MY ANXIETY BEAST !!!❤❤❤❤❤ U GUYS CAN LEARN TO. CONTROL YOUR OWN ANXIETY AS .WELL OVER TIME HARD WORK AND KNOW HOW AND LOTS OF PRACTICE !!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
U CAN ALL WE CAN ALL LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANXIETY WITH A LOT OF TIME AND WORK !! SORRY BUT QUICK FIXES DON'T EXIST !! ❤❤❤!!! PAMS. ARE VERY TEMPORARY HELP !! ... NEVER EVER GIVE UP TRYING !!❤❤❤ U CAN LEARN TO. CONTROL YOUR ANXIETY TOO ❤❤❤❤❤❤ ...
Had insane 4 hr panic attacks in my twenties. Resulted in agoraphobia and alcoholism. I was broken. Then someone gave me a tip. Let it happen. Just..... let it happen. Tell yourself, "I have time, i have time for this panic attack, let's do it." Instead of "OMG IMG OMG NO NO NOOOO!" It killed them forever. I still get a quick onset rush maybe once a year, but it doesn't matter, because I remember to not fight it, just let it happen. Then I began to think positively in general. This changed my whole body chemistry. Anyways good luck to all of you! Don't fear! Fear is the fuel! You can beat it. PERIOD.
Panic attacks are absolutely paralyzing! Sweaty palms lightheaded dizzy my legs tremble like bambi, a huge fear is passing out. It is the worst feeling and knowing your mind is making this all happen physically is hard to grasp. I thought I was dying the first one I had at work, Im a hair stylist and was on break and BOOM it hit and I told the girl I wasn't ok and she told me breathe and got water, in my head I was thinking I'm dying call 911. I did go to the ER that day and it was a panic attack. I've been through trauma and I am at a point where its hard for me to even leave my house now. I know I can't keep going this way. I'm overwhelmed with things and its hard to know where to begin. For me I was always a worrier but my first panic attack I was 26, and I went years where I was fine. I'm 45 now and man this is the worst its ever been. Listening to both of you talk openly is so HUGE! THANK YOU AND SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU BOTH!
@@richardramsey5839 I went for my first one when I was about 26 years old. I just was divorced, I broke my foot and was casted, my mom was sick and had 2 brain tumors removed, and also was hit by a drunk driver. I had some weird head injuries that one is permanent, vestibular nerve damage left ear. That's your balance and all that kind of stuff. I was a wreck, I thought stroke tumor, you name it. It built up to where I went into work and went in backroom and told my boss came back, I started just crying I can't do this. I am not a crier, I hate it. I can't go out there with clients I can't. She tried to get me to take 2 months off, and I do hair, and I said I cant take 2 months off. So I ended up 2 to 3 weeks and started counseling. I danced with studio still and competed that was gone, lifetime of it from 3 years old. Dr put me on stuff to get me through this point. He asked me do you feel like its Dooms Day and I said yes. I won't ever forget how powerful that question was. I took antidepressant idk 2 or 3 months. I wouldn't touch the xanax, my boss goes one day just take the damn thing. I did and it helped. I always kept that in check. I went years fine no panic no anxiety. I learned how to manage it. My mom passed when I was 32 and that one was a big hit, I still managed to be ok through those years. Now I'm in a different phase of life, Salon owner, alot of life changing things have happened and all of it is in my face right now and I don't know how to fix anything this time. A huge overwhelming feeling. I am having bad anxiety panic at night. Sorry I didn't mean to write a novel but somehow maybe needed to see it written out? I don't know
@@richardramsey5839 I'm going to say that's worst thing to say. They are ridiculous scary what they do to us physically. That's the huge awful part of when they happen. Sorry that happened to you.
What I love THE MOST about this interview is Lily was ready with questions and LET Duff give his message. Thanks so much Lily for an excellent interview ❣
Having had panic attacks for nearly 20 years, I can relate to his experience. It's very scary, and it can make you feel "broken". It's nice to hear how he is open and honest about it.
I know this is a few years old now. But I am so thankful for both of you on this. There is no way to express the level of importance of this conversation. May both of your meditations and relationships with loved ones fill your souls completely.
Huge respect to Duff, he knows all about depression having been "the one" to last see Kurt Cobain before his suicide and being aware of how sad Kurt was but didn't have the tools or knowledge to help him at the time, he said he could feel Kurt pleading for help in his eyes as he took that last fateful glance towards his greenhouse 😔
I dont think they ever went to kurts house to see the greenhouse. Pretty sure they parted ways at the airport and duff had regrets about not asking him to hang out and talk or whatever, just not part at the airport I wish i could be a fly on the wall of that plan flight and listen to their converaation.
I didn’t know what a panic attack was until I read duffs book. I’ve been having them from the age of 14. Easier now that I know what they are . Thought I had brain damage
Thank you both for this video. I've been going through severe anxiety, panic and depression since I was a kid. I'm 54 now and have been through hell. Music helps me cope in addition to meditation.
I’m the same age as Duff and he is 100% CORRECT....When we were teenagers you did not talk about it out of fear....So we turn to BOOZE AND DRUGS...KIDS PLEASE REMEMBER THERE IS HELP OUT THERE..
I had these fobia's too, but completely lost them when I read Carl Gustav Jung. People with fobia's tend to control their lives in such a strict way, that they immediatly panic if they are in a situation in which they don't control anything. The solution is to loose control in your personal life, not demanding anything. Then, when you are in an uncontroled environment, the anxiety is not there anymore. It worked for me and it could work for you.
I’m around the same age as Duff and my daughter is the same age as his girls and we both love Guns and Roses and have such a deep respect for Duff sharing this with us since we both suffer from anxiety. My daughter has Duff’s book , actually she has all of the members books and I think that helped her out a lot with her anxiety. My kid is a great musician, guitar drums and now clarinet. I think hearing this from your peers and someone so famous that he (Duff) didn’t have to tell all but he bared his soul and that in turn is going to help a lot of people with this huge struggle. Lilly you’re amazing! And a natural at interviewing people and getting so deep! Keep up the good work! You can be your generation’s Oprah! 🙏💕🙋🏻♀️
You can thank the evil Republicans for that. Most of them with "God" or "Christian" in their bio. Trump came along and exposed the cruelty all across America.
Lilly has a pretty smile, she's gonna soak up a lot of game from these OGs. There's a very advantageous benefit to speaking 1 on 1 in heart-to-heart conversations w/ older people when you yourself are young. It might not be evident immediately, but when you yourself gradually get older, those lessons are already stored in your mental hard drive. Great that these guys are willing to speak to her and wisen her up to the world so that she can have that information stored.
I love Duff & his candor, as well as yours. You're an excellent interviewer & obviously intelligent. For the record, I love the hell out of your dad, who always will remain one of my musical heroes.
Omg I have Major Depressive disorder and I experience panic attacks, they are horrible, you definitely have to know what your triggers are, last week I thought I was having a heart attack I went to the hospital and they said it was a panic attack and wouldn’t treat me they called me an Uber to go home.
Thankyou guys and girls. Open conversation about panic attacks helps us all. Im sorry to hear Duff and others struggled with panic attacks. For me it was the most scariest thing in the world. During a Work meeting. It just hit me, I had to get up and leave. Spent half hr in toilet and the tried to go back but NAh. I ran out of the office walked to city. I felt like i was dying. Called partner she drove me home. I had no Idea what was happenning to me. So I drank. Spoke to a doctor eventually figured it was Depression and Anxiety disorder. Got the right meds but I was already binge drinking, so meds dont work. Im artistic and 3D modeler, but i havent worked for 15YRS. Still self medicating. Rehab 12 times. For me now its all about being part of a tribe. Dont stay alone. REACH OUT!! Thankyou Marjorie and Duff. Your words are gold.
Shame. Yes! I'm so glad to hear him say this. We have panic attacks for reasons- at the time very unbeknownst to us, until we finally realize we have been thru some serious shit. My first also landed me in the ER at 23. Fast forward 40 years- I could write a book, but his journey is very much like mine. So scary. After much therapy I realized I'm fighting the affects of life long Narcissistic abuse from my birth person. I also have CPTSD. Today, after a lot of work with my therapist, I feel healthy, and normal. I still have the occasional panic attack, but have an arsenal of skills to get thru them.like Duff says, I have had different types of attacks, worse, some recently d/t extreme stress in my life, one that landed me back in the ER, because during a meditation, I had pain going down my left arm, and you're supposed to go the the Er for that, right? I never could have imagined laying in the ER with stroke level b/p, heart rate, and nothing is working! I felt such despair! After a couple doses of beta blocker, I was good to go home, but it was another day before my body evened out again. So, I went back to another therapist a couple times, and got it all figured out, and made a plan to deal and set boundaries, but damn! It's so important to others that people like Duff can speak out on this and help others, cause so many more people are out there thinking they're the only ones. I'm glad I stumbled upon this Lilly, thank you, and many blessings to you and Duff ❤
Thank you for this Duff and Lily.People don't understand how bad panic and anxiety attacks can be and alot of people don't believe its real.live it everyday
I'm glad that you also thanked Lily. It is great that Duff spoke with her & I'm a huge fan of GN'R & so happy to see them all sober & doing well but I'm sure that she also is & has dealt with a lot of things & thanks to her for speaking out as well!
Guns n Roses was my rock (Grounding stability rock) during my depression and anxiety growing up. I grew up with them. They help save me during hard times.
Thank you, Lily, for this type of interview. You have a very good style about you because you listen and come across as very pleasant and you care. This has made me want to learn more about anxiety. The general public have no idea about this, the word 'anxiety' to people who don't suffer from it or are directly affected from it think it is just a stronger form or 'worrying'. Congratulations for doing something that IS actually changing the world in a small way.
I'm so glad Duff talked about this. I don't know anyone who hasn't gone through something like this or know someone who has. Some of us don't realize they are going through this. Support and education is key.
It's such a beautiful vision seeing Duff in such a good place in his life . I hope he truly understands what a huge impact he has been on so many people like myself not only in his GnR's days, but even more so today, having become the amazing Man that he is. I believe that he is exactly right, when he has spoken about how he believes that his experiences must have been"meant to be".. he is "our" gift, our reason to be able to live, and understand what we know to be "our panic attacks or depression.. he has given so many of us " hope", and a reason to move on".. I love you Duff!! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️ And you're doing such a wonderful job sweetheart! You hang in there and keep doing what you're doing! You have the right people and resources around you, to get through everything you're dealing with! ❤️ Like Duff, you are an inspiration, and light, helping so many!! ❤️ Hugs!!
Great Video!!! Thanks so much for posting, and thanks Duff for being so open and honest. We need so much more of this in our lives. Openness and honesty is so important!! No more stigma, or turning a blind eye to people in need!!
I am 25 years old. The first panick attack has been in my mom's bedroom I was screaming and nervous "mom don't leave me" I was screaming to her to not leave me. I tried Invega Amisulpride Clozapine, now I take clozapine but I don't see progress. I take even mirtazapine, for anxiety I take enn 35 drops a day and clozapine 500 mg a day. Nothing happens. I am schizoaffective it's schizophrenia and a personality disorder. Now I am in rehabilitation community, it's been 7 months here. Really Duff reaminds me my mom both blond tall and both aquarius, my mom was a Kurt lover she loves nirvana.
Hi and thank you for sharing your story duff 🎉🎉🎉🎉 im over 9 months clean off Alcohol 😊 and over 3 months from meth use as well these 2 drugs have been the most destructive habits in my life it damperd my family relationships and the meth ripped up my marriage as well i too have panic attacks and social anxiety as well along with some depression and ptsd also so i totally relate
My whole life I suffered from general/social anxiety and began getting panic attacks in HS.. Duff is right in that alcohol at first helps, but like with all forms of self medications through use and abuse it eventually turns on you, stops working,etc!...
Glad your doing good we need you guns n rose's couldn't do without you your really talented and have a great voice and your voice sounds good with everyone especially love hearing you sing with axlrose you guys sound good together and much love to you and your family
I love Duff. When he talked about the sugar in a GALLON of vodka, I couldn’t help but laugh like dude I think sugar was the least of your problems. Duff is so awesome and completely turned his life around. Great interview and I enjoyed hearing him talk about serious topics. 🤙
Hard alcoholics often develop diabetes due to the sugar in liquor, even though you don't taste it, the average bottle of PLAIN vodka has a TON of sugar in it!. I've never met anyone who could drink more than a half gallon of vodka (Duff claims two) regardless, all of these people were in and out of the hospital for pancreatitis, though I've never had it and it's very painful they say, let alone having ones pancreas rupture as in Duff's case.. I on the other hand had been hospitalized with malnutrition, iron deficient anemia and a failing liver from drinking a handle (half gallon) a day at the end of my drinking career!.…
I feel like he forgot to finish that thought. Like the sugar contributed to the pancreatitis and possibly prevented him from actually eating food during that time because he was drinking his calories?
11:25/30 " YEAH LIKE THAT MOMENT OF CLARITY & TRUTH RIGHT THERE...( OR AT LEAST THE EMOTIONAL FEELING!). I THINK YOU WENT THROUGH RIGHT THEN JUST TO HELP ME. I NEED HELP & I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.. THAT WAS A SOBERING HELPFUL "REAL" MOMENT.. I LOVE YOU . I DONT KNOW YOU BUT I BLESS YOUR SOUL FOR OPENING UP AND SHARING.. AND I DON'T MEAN I LOVE HIM LIKE A MENTAL CASE . I JUST MEAN HUMAN TO HUMAN FOR SHARING & BEARING HIS SOUL JUST TO HELP ANOTHER . WHICH MAY VERY WELL BE ME.. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!!. THANK YOU FOR INTERVIEW.. 🤘🤩 🎸
I remember having a panic attack for failing to get positive results in my research. It was the feeling of getting stuck (not necessarily claustrophobia). Then I started watching cave explorers and how positive they were when they got "stuck". I realized that they were grateful for being able to move even a millimeter. That really helped me with my anxiety and panic attacks. It made me overcome my fear of getting stuck in my work.
I’ve been sober 22 years I am also 56 years and duff has been and inspiration and a cautionary tale, I also being doing martial arts as a fundamental part of my recovery as an action meditation also the meeting and try to do service, I also deal with a deep sadness that is part of my me, I have used outside therapy but the way I understand my addiction is as a chronic disease that need to be address as part of my adult routine that is also a degenerative diseased and fatal if is untreated, thank you for this interview ❤
So so happy 40 years suffered from addiction and mental health illness been a very lonely place at times in my life Family friends ashamed .been told makes things worse .just thank you all for slowly changing things 💛💚💙
This was so incredibly real & I loved you both being so honest! I suffer from anxiety & depression. It’s so great to hear people share their experiences m. It lets you know your not the only one! Thank you so much to the both of you!😘😘
Dear Duff ! Can you make book or yt all of this ? You are so feed land personally. I give all respect to you and Susan. You have good spirit and because I believe that your and older man's gets lot of strong advise, because you are you. Respect. ☮️. Love. I'm middle-aged woman from FI. 🇺🇦♥️🇫🇮
Duff.....a guy with courage n heart to tell his story n struggle to help people....I hope the good he does will get h back to a normal life he deserves....after all the madness.....good luck
Thank you again we meet at strands book signing I also suffer from attacks thank you for your music and books god bless and live in peace and harmony a life long fan
I don't know how to describe the impact of Duff and the team on me that began during my high school and university years. He and, of course, subsequently Axl and Slash were like gods in my eyes. I'm 46 now and this influence hasn't faded. They were flawless, immortal, living life as it should be fully lived, extraordinary in intelligence and talent. I have watched this video and Duff's candid explanations with my mouth open and sometimes my eyes filled with tears. He's probably aware of it, not entirely sure, but what he says is very important and vital for some people in this world. The words of an artist who has touched the lives of millions like me, changed these lives, and seeped into their veins, even the sincerity of the environment, has been very helpful to me. I'm shaken, but I'm okay. Thank you very much.
Ativan and Xanax are extremely hard to get off of because of increased anxiety symptoms. I can totally relate to the feeling stuck in a cycle of high anxiety. For me, it just seems to have to wear off. In my past, in can take anywhere from 3-6 months. I read a book that had a technique that seemed to be really effective. That is.................letting the panic attacks come. Don't fear them. They will fade. Diet is really important leaning towards a lower carbohydrate diet. Eliminating caffeine and sugar. Hope some of this might help someone. Panic attacks are awful.
I have a genuine question as to why/how/what would push a 16 yo..hell even 12 yo to panic attacks… I’m a 36 yo, got my fair share of mental issues and went thru 10 years of therapy. Yet panic attacks in such an early age..I can’t quite wrap my head around it. Ps. Hearing about ppl that deal with their mental issues and make it to the other side, one day at a time, makes me so proud for them, every time! It really is a journey. XO from Greece
I've been listening to loads of Guns and Roses lately. I grew up with them, but only caught the radio play. I'm catching up now! This is how I came across this video. I have also suffered with anxiety with panic attacks throughout my life, but periodically; thankfully, not a constant issue. It is horrible.
I loved guns my whole life before I saw them in 2017 as a 16 year old. They played for 3 hours full fucking blast and it was the best show I’ve ever seen. Axl sounded so amazing and everyone played their asses off. I love GnR so much man. Thanks for the wisdom Duff. I’m struggling right now. Been 3 years of depression now. Getting used to the day to day of it all. Listening to stuff like this makes it a lot easier. Luv u Duff ♥️
I first saw GnR in 1992 with Metallica and Faith No More, I was a teen too, what a show!!! Listened to them all through my teens and 20s, still love them now. From my experience what you're feeling is not unusual, I still struggle with depression and anxiety now. See if you can get really still once a day, just find a quiet place, close your eyes and breathe. After some practice you'll find that the little voice inside of you will whisper something. There may be something in your life that needs a change or a tweak, your heart will guide you to the answer. Be patient because the guidance ebbs and flows. And remember how much you are LOVED, you are a beautiful child of God. Big hugs to you brother. :)
Trying to get help with mental health issues like anxiety in my home town is harder than getting a record deal. If you are under 18 there’s little support, past from pillow to post, once you know or love someone dealing with this nightmare you quickly understand the struggle to even face the day. Great that you both are highlighting this out in the open for all to listen, understand, share the experience and gain knowledge. I remember Duff getting sober I believe he was a great inspiration to Slash who had his problems with drug and alcohol abuse back in the day, Cool that two people of different generations can show it’s not age related, it’s real and we need to take it serious. All schools need to wake up and have a support system in place to help their student excel on an equal playing field. Same for the work place. Doctors need to know the signs and if they don’t then listen send the patients quickly for diagnosis, support and relative treatment. Great conversation but what happened to the boat?
he strikes me as a good hearted, kind type.
For the ones that don't know him: Duff was on top of the world during the 90s. It's inspiring to see him now this humble.
Hats off and huge respect for this man for acknowledging, facing and confronting not only his troubles, challenges and illness, but also standing up to society's cliche expectations and stigmatizations. As a great musician, he brought happy times to our lives, but beyond that he is an even more inspirational human being.
100%
I totally agree with you
Well he was the one to see Kurt Cobain last at the airport, after he had fled rehab
All tgat you just wrote is very very cliche
Eloquently stated
Fair play to Duff revealing his story on mental health.He is so honest about his struggles and how incredibly difficult mental health issues are for a man's sense of masculinity. His honest story is helping thousands of men confront their own mental struggles. They say, helping others is the best way mentally to help yourself. Great guy and I wish him all the happiness and health.
Sounds like anxiety. Love Duff for always being honest. Good man.
We need more of these conversations about mental
health.
Not really....its all anyone ever seems to do lately,it seems to be hip to be depressed,so boring.
@@mjh5437 Go fake happy somewhere else then
Chris daughter shows so much kindness and compassion for such a young girl.
I was never a GnR fan, but the more I read and see of Duff, the more respect I have for him. He is such a good person, his kindness to Mark Lanegan in a time of great need, probably saved his life and speaks volumes to the humanity of the man. He is one cool guy.
You should read Duff's book. 'It's So Easy and Other Lies'. It's a great read.
DON'T FORGET MR. BROWNSTONE DUFF !!❤❤❤❤❤❤ U CAN BEAT THIS TOO DUFF !!❤❤❤❤ ANXIETY IS A BI .. SOMETHING BUT A HUGE PAIN IN THE BUTT !!. .BUT WE AND U DUFF AND NUMEROUS OTHER PEOPLE REALLY CAN LEARN TO. CONTROLL THE ANXIETY BEAST !!!❤❤❤❤❤
WE CAN LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANXIETY ATTACKS OR AS I PREFER TO CALL IT MY ANXIETY BEAST I AM LEARNING TO CONTROL MY ANXIETY BEAST !!!❤❤❤❤❤ U GUYS CAN LEARN TO. CONTROL YOUR OWN ANXIETY AS .WELL OVER TIME HARD WORK AND KNOW HOW AND LOTS OF PRACTICE !!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
U CAN ALL WE CAN ALL LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANXIETY WITH A LOT OF TIME AND WORK !! SORRY BUT QUICK FIXES DON'T EXIST !! ❤❤❤!!! PAMS. ARE VERY TEMPORARY HELP !! ...
NEVER EVER GIVE UP TRYING !!❤❤❤ U CAN LEARN TO. CONTROL YOUR ANXIETY TOO ❤❤❤❤❤❤ ...
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ HELLO DUFF HOPE I WAS ABLE TO SHARE SOMETHING HOPEFULL WITH U AND OTHERS AS WELL !!❤❤❤ BEST WISHES TO. ALL ❤❤❤❤❤!!!!❤❤❤❤ .....
Had insane 4 hr panic attacks in my twenties. Resulted in agoraphobia and alcoholism. I was broken. Then someone gave me a tip. Let it happen. Just..... let it happen. Tell yourself, "I have time, i have time for this panic attack, let's do it." Instead of "OMG IMG OMG NO NO NOOOO!"
It killed them forever. I still get a quick onset rush maybe once a year, but it doesn't matter, because I remember to not fight it, just let it happen. Then I began to think positively in general. This changed my whole body chemistry. Anyways good luck to all of you! Don't fear! Fear is the fuel! You can beat it. PERIOD.
Panic attacks are absolutely paralyzing! Sweaty palms lightheaded dizzy my legs tremble like bambi, a huge fear is passing out. It is the worst feeling and knowing your mind is making this all happen physically is hard to grasp. I thought I was dying the first one I had at work, Im a hair stylist and was on break and BOOM it hit and I told the girl I wasn't ok and she told me breathe and got water, in my head I was thinking I'm dying call 911. I did go to the ER that day and it was a panic attack. I've been through trauma and I am at a point where its hard for me to even leave my house now. I know I can't keep going this way. I'm overwhelmed with things and its hard to know where to begin. For me I was always a worrier but my first panic attack I was 26, and I went years where I was fine. I'm 45 now and man this is the worst its ever been. Listening to both of you talk openly is so HUGE! THANK YOU AND SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU BOTH!
😢😢. I have had 3 in my life. I stopped my vodka craze and i am much better, but I always fear 😨 another panic attack
I went to the ER and the doctor told me to grow up and be a man it was only anxiety and I was having a panic attack. I was 32.
@@richardramsey5839 I went for my first one when I was about 26 years old. I just was divorced, I broke my foot and was casted, my mom was sick and had 2 brain tumors removed, and also was hit by a drunk driver. I had some weird head injuries that one is permanent, vestibular nerve damage left ear. That's your balance and all that kind of stuff.
I was a wreck, I thought stroke tumor, you name it.
It built up to where I went into work and went in backroom and told my boss came back, I started just crying I can't do this. I am not a crier, I hate it. I can't go out there with clients I can't. She tried to get me to take 2 months off, and I do hair, and I said I cant take 2 months off. So I ended up 2 to 3 weeks and started counseling. I danced with studio still and competed that was gone, lifetime of it from 3 years old. Dr put me on stuff to get me through this point. He asked me do you feel like its Dooms Day and I said yes. I won't ever forget how powerful that question was. I took antidepressant idk 2 or 3 months. I wouldn't touch the xanax, my boss goes one day just take the damn thing. I did and it helped. I always kept that in check. I went years fine no panic no anxiety. I learned how to manage it. My mom passed when I was 32 and that one was a big hit, I still managed to be ok through those years.
Now I'm in a different phase of life, Salon owner, alot of life changing things have happened and all of it is in my face right now and I don't know how to fix anything this time. A huge overwhelming feeling. I am having bad anxiety panic at night.
Sorry I didn't mean to write a novel but somehow maybe needed to see it written out? I don't know
@@jamie.777 yes the fear of having one is awful. I hope your doing well now 💜🙏
@@richardramsey5839 I'm going to say that's worst thing to say. They are ridiculous scary what they do to us physically. That's the huge awful part of when they happen. Sorry that happened to you.
What I love THE MOST about this interview is Lily was ready with questions and LET Duff give his message. Thanks so much Lily for an excellent interview ❣
i have so much respect for him
Having had panic attacks for nearly 20 years, I can relate to his experience. It's very scary, and it can make you feel "broken". It's nice to hear how he is open and honest about it.
Duff! You are saving lives and inspiring souls!! Thank you.....thank you!
This interview is so, so important. Hat's off to Lily for being such a brilliant host and to Duff for the humility and insight. Excellent.
I know this is a few years old now. But I am so thankful for both of you on this. There is no way to express the level of importance of this conversation. May both of your meditations and relationships with loved ones fill your souls completely.
I’ve always loved Duff. He is a wonderful example for me and my journey. A good man.
Huge respect to Duff, he knows all about depression having been "the one" to last see Kurt Cobain before his suicide and being aware of how sad Kurt was but didn't have the tools or knowledge to help him at the time, he said he could feel Kurt pleading for help in his eyes as he took that last fateful glance towards his greenhouse 😔
I dont think they ever went to kurts house to see the greenhouse. Pretty sure they parted ways at the airport and duff had regrets about not asking him to hang out and talk or whatever, just not part at the airport
I wish i could be a fly on the wall of that plan flight and listen to their converaation.
I didn’t know what a panic attack was until I read duffs book. I’ve been having them from the age of 14.
Easier now that I know what they are . Thought I had brain damage
She looks so much like her pops. Duff is a good egg for talking about this. Alcohol doesn’t bury anything. ❤️❤️to both of ya !
Thank you both for this video. I've been going through severe anxiety, panic and depression since I was a kid. I'm 54 now and have been through hell. Music helps me cope in addition to meditation.
I’m the same age as Duff and he is 100% CORRECT....When we were teenagers you did not talk about it out of fear....So we turn to BOOZE AND DRUGS...KIDS PLEASE REMEMBER THERE IS HELP OUT THERE..
What help? You ask for help and they lock you up!
where????
He seems like a genuine good emphatic man especially for being around Axel
I understand now why Duff's marriage is so strong; Susan is his rock.
i love duff so much he’s so honest 💗
I had these fobia's too, but completely lost them when I read Carl Gustav Jung. People with fobia's tend to control their lives in such a strict way, that they immediatly panic if they are in a situation in which they don't control anything. The solution is to loose control in your personal life, not demanding anything. Then, when you are in an uncontroled environment, the anxiety is not there anymore. It worked for me and it could work for you.
Which book of Jung’s did you read?
I’m around the same age as Duff and my daughter is the same age as his girls and we both love Guns and Roses and have such a deep respect for Duff sharing this with us since we both suffer from anxiety. My daughter has Duff’s book , actually she has all of the members books and I think that helped her out a lot with her anxiety. My kid is a great musician, guitar drums and now clarinet. I think hearing this from your peers and someone so famous that he (Duff) didn’t have to tell all but he bared his soul and that in turn is going to help a lot of people with this huge struggle. Lilly you’re amazing! And a natural at interviewing people and getting so deep! Keep up the good work! You can be your generation’s Oprah! 🙏💕🙋🏻♀️
very well done! as a psychiatric nurse mental illness is very stigmatized and there is not enough resources available for patients and family
You can thank the evil Republicans for that. Most of them with "God" or "Christian" in their bio. Trump came along and exposed the cruelty all across America.
I feel like Lilly is amazing helping these people. Amazing!!
She is just smart as a whip…Strong Young Woman
and Duff is Duff hes always great and has good input
Lilly has a pretty smile, she's gonna soak up a lot of game from these OGs. There's a very advantageous benefit to speaking 1 on 1 in heart-to-heart conversations w/ older people when you yourself are young. It might not be evident immediately, but when you yourself gradually get older, those lessons are already stored in your mental hard drive. Great that these guys are willing to speak to her and wisen her up to the world so that she can have that information stored.
I love Duff & his candor, as well as yours. You're an excellent interviewer & obviously intelligent. For the record, I love the hell out of your dad, who always will remain one of my musical heroes.
Trinity and Hank Hanegraaff bless us
Omg I have Major Depressive disorder and I experience panic attacks, they are horrible, you definitely have to know what your triggers are, last week I thought I was having a heart attack I went to the hospital and they said it was a panic attack and wouldn’t treat me they called me an Uber to go home.
Thankyou guys and girls. Open conversation about panic attacks helps us all. Im sorry to hear Duff and others struggled with panic attacks. For me it was the most scariest thing in the world. During a Work meeting. It just hit me, I had to get up and leave. Spent half hr in toilet and the tried to go back but NAh. I ran out of the office walked to city. I felt like i was dying. Called partner she drove me home. I had no Idea what was happenning to me. So I drank. Spoke to a doctor eventually figured it was Depression and Anxiety disorder. Got the right meds but I was already binge drinking, so meds dont work. Im artistic and 3D modeler, but i havent worked for 15YRS. Still self medicating. Rehab 12 times. For me now its all about being part of a tribe. Dont stay alone. REACH OUT!!
Thankyou Marjorie and Duff. Your words are gold.
You have potentially helped a lot of people Duff, and well done to the girl as well, respect ❤️
Shame. Yes! I'm so glad to hear him say this. We have panic attacks for reasons- at the time very unbeknownst to us, until we finally realize we have been thru some serious shit. My first also landed me in the ER at 23. Fast forward 40 years- I could write a book, but his journey is very much like mine. So scary. After much therapy I realized I'm fighting the affects of life long Narcissistic abuse from my birth person. I also have CPTSD. Today, after a lot of work with my therapist, I feel healthy, and normal. I still have the occasional panic attack, but have an arsenal of skills to get thru them.like Duff says, I have had different types of attacks, worse, some recently d/t extreme stress in my life, one that landed me back in the ER, because during a meditation, I had pain going down my left arm, and you're supposed to go the the Er for that, right? I never could have imagined laying in the ER with stroke level b/p, heart rate, and nothing is working! I felt such despair! After a couple doses of beta blocker, I was good to go home, but it was another day before my body evened out again. So, I went back to another therapist a couple times, and got it all figured out, and made a plan to deal and set boundaries, but damn!
It's so important to others that people like Duff can speak out on this and help others, cause so many more people are out there thinking they're the only ones. I'm glad I stumbled upon this Lilly, thank you, and many blessings to you and Duff ❤
Thank you for this Duff and Lily.People don't understand how bad panic and anxiety attacks can be and alot of people don't believe its real.live it everyday
I'm glad that you also thanked Lily. It is great that Duff spoke with her & I'm a huge fan of GN'R & so happy to see them all sober & doing well but I'm sure that she also is & has dealt with a lot of things & thanks to her for speaking out as well!
Guns n Roses was my rock (Grounding stability rock) during my depression and anxiety growing up. I grew up with them. They help save me during hard times.
Thank you, Lily, for this type of interview. You have a very good style about you because you listen and come across as very pleasant and you care. This has made me want to learn more about anxiety. The general public have no idea about this, the word 'anxiety' to people who don't suffer from it or are directly affected from it think it is just a stronger form or 'worrying'. Congratulations for doing something that IS actually changing the world in a small way.
I'm so glad Duff talked about this. I don't know anyone who hasn't gone through something like this or know someone who has. Some of us don't realize they are going through this. Support and education is key.
It's such a beautiful vision seeing Duff in such a good place in his life . I hope he truly understands what a huge impact he has been on so many people like myself not only in his GnR's days, but even more so today, having become the amazing Man that he is. I believe that he is exactly right, when he has spoken about how he believes that his experiences must have been"meant to be".. he is "our" gift, our reason to be able to live, and understand what we know to be "our panic attacks or depression.. he has given so many of us " hope", and a reason to move on".. I love you Duff!! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️ And you're doing such a wonderful job sweetheart! You hang in there and keep doing what you're doing! You have the right people and resources around you, to get through everything you're dealing with! ❤️ Like Duff, you are an inspiration, and light, helping so many!! ❤️ Hugs!!
Great Video!!! Thanks so much for posting, and thanks Duff for being so open and honest. We need so much more of this in our lives. Openness and honesty is so important!! No more stigma, or turning a blind eye to people in need!!
Thanks to both of you. Your conversation made me reflect on similar situations with panic attacks and depression.
I am 25 years old. The first panick attack has been in my mom's bedroom I was screaming and nervous "mom don't leave me" I was screaming to her to not leave me. I tried Invega Amisulpride Clozapine, now I take clozapine but I don't see progress. I take even mirtazapine, for anxiety I take enn 35 drops a day and clozapine 500 mg a day. Nothing happens. I am schizoaffective it's schizophrenia and a personality disorder. Now I am in rehabilitation community, it's been 7 months here. Really Duff reaminds me my mom both blond tall and both aquarius, my mom was a Kurt lover she loves nirvana.
Hi and thank you for sharing your story duff 🎉🎉🎉🎉 im over 9 months clean off Alcohol 😊 and over 3 months from meth use as well these 2 drugs have been the most destructive habits in my life it damperd my family relationships and the meth ripped up my marriage as well i too have panic attacks and social anxiety as well along with some depression and ptsd also so i totally relate
Have so much respect for Duff 👍❤❤❤
This is a wonderful interview. Thanks for sharing!💯🙏🏼💯
Don't mention it :)
That was beautiful, and helpful. Thanks to you both.
Duff is such a great guy , I'm so glad he made it.
Thank you for this. I am not alone.
So happy I've stumbled up on this. So timely- in my case. Thanks you two
Glad you got your life is back on track your fans need you to be here and much love to you n your family
Duff the world's greatest Alpaca and Bassist
My whole life I suffered from general/social anxiety and began getting panic attacks in HS.. Duff is right in that alcohol at first helps, but like with all forms of self medications through use and abuse it eventually turns on you, stops working,etc!...
Thank you Duff and Lily.
Glad your doing good we need you guns n rose's couldn't do without you your really talented and have a great voice and your voice sounds good with everyone especially love hearing you sing with axlrose you guys sound good together and much love to you and your family
I love Duff. When he talked about the sugar in a GALLON of vodka, I couldn’t help but laugh like dude I think sugar was the least of your problems. Duff is so awesome and completely turned his life around. Great interview and I enjoyed hearing him talk about serious topics. 🤙
Hard alcoholics often develop diabetes due to the sugar in liquor, even though you don't taste it, the average bottle of PLAIN vodka has a TON of sugar in it!. I've never met anyone who could drink more than a half gallon of vodka (Duff claims two) regardless, all of these people were in and out of the hospital for pancreatitis, though I've never had it and it's very painful they say, let alone having ones pancreas rupture as in Duff's case.. I on the other hand had been hospitalized with malnutrition, iron deficient anemia and a failing liver from drinking a handle (half gallon) a day at the end of my drinking career!.…
I feel like he forgot to finish that thought. Like the sugar contributed to the pancreatitis and possibly prevented him from actually eating food during that time because he was drinking his calories?
Sugar is poison to anyone sick. Alcohol is pure sugar to the body. Mental illness is inflammation. Sugar is as inflammatory as it gets.
We love you little lily love from Australia 🥰🥰
Way to go duff,👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
This video popped up on my feed and was glad it did. Thanks to both of you for taking the time to do this.
11:25/30 " YEAH LIKE THAT MOMENT OF CLARITY & TRUTH RIGHT THERE...( OR AT LEAST THE EMOTIONAL FEELING!).
I THINK YOU WENT THROUGH RIGHT THEN JUST TO HELP ME.
I NEED HELP & I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO..
THAT WAS A SOBERING HELPFUL "REAL" MOMENT..
I LOVE YOU .
I DONT KNOW YOU BUT I BLESS YOUR SOUL FOR OPENING UP AND SHARING..
AND I DON'T MEAN I LOVE HIM LIKE A MENTAL CASE . I JUST MEAN HUMAN TO HUMAN FOR SHARING & BEARING HIS SOUL JUST TO HELP ANOTHER . WHICH MAY VERY WELL BE ME..
GOD BLESS YOU
BOTH!!.
THANK YOU FOR INTERVIEW..
🤘🤩 🎸
I love this man so much
I remember having a panic attack for failing to get positive results in my research. It was the feeling of getting stuck (not necessarily claustrophobia). Then I started watching cave explorers and how positive they were when they got "stuck". I realized that they were grateful for being able to move even a millimeter. That really helped me with my anxiety and panic attacks. It made me overcome my fear of getting stuck in my work.
I’ve been sober 22 years I am also 56 years and duff has been and inspiration and a cautionary tale, I also being doing martial arts as a fundamental part of my recovery as an action meditation also the meeting and try to do service, I also deal with a deep sadness that is part of my me, I have used outside therapy but the way I understand my addiction is as a chronic disease that need to be address as part of my adult routine that is also a degenerative diseased and fatal if is untreated, thank you for this interview ❤
Thanks Duff. Sounds a lot like what I go through.
This was amazing. Thank you. ❤
Total RESPECT DUFF, WHAT MEDICATION ARE YOU TAKING NOW.??
What You just said, felt, feel... Is me, 50yr old.. And WANTING A DRUG FREE LIFE !!!
So so happy 40 years suffered from addiction and mental health illness been a very lonely place at times in my life
Family friends ashamed .been told makes things worse .just thank you all for slowly changing things 💛💚💙
This was so incredibly real & I loved you both being so honest! I suffer from anxiety & depression. It’s so great to hear people share their experiences m. It lets you know your not the only one! Thank you so much to the both of you!😘😘
This is why I love Duff‘s, so real with the stuff that he goes through. ❤ rock on Duffy 💋🤘🏼
Awesome. Duff's autobiography is great. I wish Chris was still here. I adore his voice. Much love to Lily, Toni, Duff and Vicky
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ U CAN BEAT IT DUFF.. ❤❤❤!!!!!! I CAN LEARN TO BEAT ANXIETY ATTACKS !!!! SO CAN YOU ... DUFF !!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊
I understand completely. ❤😢
Dear Duff ! Can you make book or yt all of this ? You are so feed land personally. I give all respect to you and Susan. You have good spirit and because I believe that your and older man's gets lot of strong advise, because you are you.
Respect. ☮️. Love.
I'm middle-aged woman from FI. 🇺🇦♥️🇫🇮
Thanks for this inspiring help you give!
Great interview! Thank you 😊
Awesome interview i learned so much. Depression is no joke. Thanks so much for this
Duff.....a guy with courage n heart to tell his story n struggle to help people....I hope the good he does will get h back to a normal life he deserves....after all the madness.....good luck
Wow... just wow. Gotta work on my flashpoint. Duff you're wonderful.
Thank you again we meet at strands book signing I also suffer from attacks thank you for your music and books god bless and live in peace and harmony a life long fan
Fantastic.
What an amazing man! I'm so happy for Duff that he has a supportive angel like Susan.
Duff, they gave out Appetitem the best rock album ever, singing and playing the troght fealings. Now I just tottaly respect this guy. I
I don't know how to describe the impact of Duff and the team on me that began during my high school and university years. He and, of course, subsequently Axl and Slash were like gods in my eyes. I'm 46 now and this influence hasn't faded. They were flawless, immortal, living life as it should be fully lived, extraordinary in intelligence and talent. I have watched this video and Duff's candid explanations with my mouth open and sometimes my eyes filled with tears. He's probably aware of it, not entirely sure, but what he says is very important and vital for some people in this world. The words of an artist who has touched the lives of millions like me, changed these lives, and seeped into their veins, even the sincerity of the environment, has been very helpful to me. I'm shaken, but I'm okay. Thank you very much.
Ativan and Xanax are extremely hard to get off of because of increased anxiety symptoms. I can totally relate to the feeling stuck in a cycle of high anxiety. For me, it just seems to have to wear off. In my past, in can take anywhere from 3-6 months. I read a book that had a technique that seemed to be really effective. That is.................letting the panic attacks come. Don't fear them. They will fade. Diet is really important leaning towards a lower carbohydrate diet. Eliminating caffeine and sugar. Hope some of this might help someone. Panic attacks are awful.
Awesome that DUFF is doing this. Guns is one of the greatest bands of all time. How he is still alive is beyond me
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I have a genuine question as to why/how/what would push a 16 yo..hell even 12 yo to panic attacks…
I’m a 36 yo, got my fair share of mental issues and went thru 10 years of therapy.
Yet panic attacks in such an early age..I can’t quite wrap my head around it.
Ps. Hearing about ppl that deal with their mental issues and make it to the other side, one day at a time, makes me so proud for them, every time! It really is a journey.
XO from Greece
I've been listening to loads of Guns and Roses lately. I grew up with them, but only caught the radio play. I'm catching up now! This is how I came across this video. I have also suffered with anxiety with panic attacks throughout my life, but periodically; thankfully, not a constant issue. It is horrible.
This is probably true for lost good artists but especially GnR. Their back catalogue is where all the good shit is
Duff.. im last of 8 kids my twin brother 7th😊. Ty for your truthfulness ❤
I wish more of these interviews were mainstream.
bardzo fajny wywiad, dużo info i w szoku jestem jakie ma wspaniałe myślenie, to o dzieciach że są w połowie nim więc mogą sie uzaleznic itp
Love you duff!
I loved guns my whole life before I saw them in 2017 as a 16 year old. They played for 3 hours full fucking blast and it was the best show I’ve ever seen. Axl sounded so amazing and everyone played their asses off. I love GnR so much man. Thanks for the wisdom Duff. I’m struggling right now. Been 3 years of depression now. Getting used to the day to day of it all. Listening to stuff like this makes it a lot easier. Luv u Duff ♥️
I first saw GnR in 1992 with Metallica and Faith No More, I was a teen too, what a show!!! Listened to them all through my teens and 20s, still love them now. From my experience what you're feeling is not unusual, I still struggle with depression and anxiety now. See if you can get really still once a day, just find a quiet place, close your eyes and breathe. After some practice you'll find that the little voice inside of you will whisper something. There may be something in your life that needs a change or a tweak, your heart will guide you to the answer. Be patient because the guidance ebbs and flows. And remember how much you are LOVED, you are a beautiful child of God. Big hugs to you brother. :)
This guy’s lucky he got to grow older.
Addiction is a struggle and there needs to be more studies of how to help people with it. So many have it
Duff is a great guy! Garden Variety alcoholic like myself.
Trying to get help with mental health issues like anxiety in my home town is harder than getting a record deal. If you are under 18 there’s little support, past from pillow to post, once you know or love someone dealing with this nightmare you quickly understand the struggle to even face the day. Great that you both are highlighting this out in the open for all to listen, understand, share the experience and gain knowledge. I remember Duff getting sober I believe he was a great inspiration to Slash who had his problems with drug and alcohol abuse back in the day, Cool that two people of different generations can show it’s not age related, it’s real and we need to take it serious. All schools need to wake up and have a support system in place to help their student excel on an equal playing field. Same for the work place. Doctors need to know the signs and if they don’t then listen send the patients quickly for diagnosis, support and relative treatment. Great conversation but what happened to the boat?
it floated away 😄
I been there done same stuff except drugs but I booted the drinking and medications still feel the pain of the past
Extremely honest way of talkin' about a very profound subject. Delicate.
Touchin'😊
I had my first attack at 50. Thought I was dying.
I starting reading his first book today after finishing Slash’s book. I think I’m 15 chapters in and so far it’s really good.