at 3:21 did you say "being CHASED" or "being CHASTE"? Audibly sounded like the latter but I think from context you said the former. Being chaste is the ethos of true love!
5-year-olds can separate fact from fiction better than most adults can. The vast majority of adults still think "outer space", "nukes", and the "news" are real!
I remember watching Grease as a little girl and being sad that Sandy felt she had to give up her beautiful innocence to “get her man”. And then at the end watching her become overly sexualized willingly didn’t sit right but it was so celebrated that it made it seem ok. So evil.
I am so glad to know that others feel the same way. I remember sitting 🪑 there at the movies 🎥 being disappointed in Sandy’s choice too. Peer pressure is what they used to call it. It is especially sad when you think about how Danny was willing to give up his bad boy image so he could be with good girl Sandy. Things are so sexualized today. Christians have been complaining about the film 🎞️ industry since its inception. There is an excellent book 📕 about it called Tinseltown. I am sure that the entertainment industry has been like this ancient times.
@@holyexperience1976 , I think that you misunderstood or did not properly comprehend my earlier comment. Maybe you should watch the film again to refresh your memory. Towards the end of the movie, Danny was going to give up his bad boy image/ways so he could pursue a relationship with Sandy. After Sandy chose to switch to a bad girl, Danny went along with it. Obviously 🙄, if I am agreeing with the other commenters, and with the content creator, I am not pleased with Sandy adopting a bad girl persona.
I was in a toxic relationship and then I married him and had 3 kids with him. If you ask me “WHY” ? I was getting old and I wanted a family so badly so I married that guy. My mistake was that i didn’t trust God enough and had the patience enough to wait for the man who was meant for me! Today we are divorced because he was abusive. What did I learn from this? In the long run it’s better to lean on God and trust him in the process!!!!!!!
A good lesson in the Bible is God didn’t give Abraham and Sarah a child till they were very old. They ended up doing something other than Gods will which complicated things( Sarah giving Hagar to her husband). God knows what’s best sometimes it’s not on our timeline though.
I’m really sorry you had to go through this. God loves you. I wish I knew who you were and my friend, I would have given you a hug. You are out of this now. Continue trusting the Lord. Past is past. Let’s together see what God has in store for us. 😊 God bless you my sister!
What about The Little Mermaid? I used to think that Ariel was so bold, because she was willing to give up everything she knew and loved for a man she was in love with. Now, I just think she was foolish and brash. She knew nothing about Eric - whether he was a good man, etc. She merely had a massive crush on him. For that, she was willing to give up her voice and lose her family, to become a shrimp and belong to Ursula forever, just to try to make Eric fall in love with her - in THREE DAYS! It takes much longer to really fall in love. This teaches impressionable young ladies that it's heroic and admirable to risk it all for a man. Uh oh.
@@elegantgiraffe9570 Satan's kingdom includes marine spirits... plenty of information on line... Leviathan is one of them but mermaids are sirens. They are usually evil and a part of the kingdom of darkness.
Disney in general is Demonic its filled with all kinds of witchcraft wizards and sorcery. Plus all the characters parents are always dead. Or they only have one parent. Disney promotes all this Sexual stuff to children it's not hard to miss. All my kids Disney stuff got tossed in the trash back in 2021 . Our family doesn't support ANYTHING DISNEY
True, but you did not always know nor understood the love story...you grew into this and your eyes being open. Let's pray that eyes will be open to God's truth💖
When you love someone you often have to say you're sorry. We're all human, we make mistakes. Sometimes we hurt someone else and that may not be what we intended, but that's the result we got. When that happens, guess what, we need to apologize to the person we hurt and make amends. That's life.
Love means never having to say you’re sorry ..in my mind it means that you will never hurt the one you love. Therefore you will not have to say “sorry”. Unrealistic
After 75 years of life, I have a lot of mistakes to look back on. I have wondered why I had problems with “romance” and even as a Christian I fell into sin thinking I had fallen…”in love”. What you have explained here is definitely a huge part of the problem. Good grief… we have all been conditioned to look for poisonous fruit and think it’s what we need.
At 71, I'm still learning these lessons. We get older and wiser but the youngsters look at us like we are from Mars. You are so right when you say we are conditioned to act this way. I now focus my love on Jesus
If you don't fall in love, then what do you do, marry him for money, wealth, power, influence? Do youo make a rational decision as to who you should fall in love with based on certain criteria? I'll tell you why I fell in love with my wife, she had character, I was never good at attracting women, lots of women are attractive, its just that they were not attracted to me, she chose me, I loved her character, she was beautiful, but she was also trustworthy, lots of women are just fickle, and those women were never interested in me anyway, but I have seen the dump a lot of boyfriends, after a while I just got tired of hanging out with them, I was wasting my time.
@@thomaskalbfus2005 you are right! The problem is “falling” in love… as if that attractiveness means something. I think choosing to love someone who has good character and kindness is what we should do, and not just look for surface beauty.
“Love is never having to say you’re sorry” is the worst line ever! Being an adult and being humble means saying you’re sorry when you’re wrong! Also pursuing someone who is clearly not interested in you isn’t romantic it’s creepy annoying and bordering on stalker behavior. If he/ she is open to you they will clearly let you know. If not, respect their choice and move on.
Amen!!!!👍🏽💯spoken with grace and truth u can't make someone love l'm old school l Believe in a Divine connection from God ordained by him when we try to do it our self that's when we get hurt so wait on the Lord for the one that is supposed to be in your life not who you want in your life 🙋🏽✋🏽❤️😁👍🏽🤗🙏💞💞💞 good things come when we are patient and when we wait on the Lord and
Have to make a part 2 to this. This movies are the main reason why people stay in toxic relationships. The world promotes toxic relationships. Especially whenever people are looking into the world for love instead of God the Father's standards of what REAL love is. We have to stop living in a fantasy world and live in reality!
As someone who has been married for 10 years now just Pray 🙏 on it and Pray God Sends the right man at the right time and Don't be over eager to Fall for the 1st one to give attention it's supposed to be leading up to a lifetime commitment so Don't rush into Love too quickly let it take it's time 🙂
Wow!!! My top movies were listed on here. I have always been a beauty and the best fan! Loved the notebook!! Ugh, but she’s absolutely right. I’ve had this twisted false impression of love my whole life. I made wrong choices because of my ignorance and illusion of love. Finding my way back to Christ has reset my standard and I now understand agape love! Thank you Kris for this! Always learning, growing and healing! God bless you!!!
@@Kris_Reece Kris, would you watch the video on RUclips by Facts Verses titled Cary Grant’s Daughter ? I would like your thoughts on Cary Grant’s Mother’s as to why Cary Grant’s father had his wife committed to an asylum for depression. Women were so easily committed in those days ..sad
Hallmark movies are all about romance and how I can get the right mate especially for Christmas. I have celebrating plenty of Christmases without a boyfriend.
Beauty and the Beast doesn't count. 1. She didn't love Beast when she was forced to stay. 2. He let her go, because he fell in love with her, but his love wasn't enough to break the spell. 3. She came back from her village to save him from Gaston and then she fell in love, when she saw that the Beast didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. She saw the goodness in him.
I guess thigs are only "toxic" when it's nothing but anti-male bigotry. It's funny how she only bashes the MEN in these movies and seems to set up all the female characters as the eternal victims.....like always. LOL Let's take a look...... 1. Grease - are you kidding me? the ENTIRE film is nothing but Danny (John Travolta) doing everything he possibly can to "change" to be more of the "person" that princess Sandy could want. He tries out for sports, baseball, wrestling, track in order to please her. And what does she do?? oh she just goes out with some football player guy to make him jealous........real nice. But somehow "Danny" is the bad guy?? knock it off. And sure, she changes in the end for the big final song.....but Danny had been changing the ENTIRE movie in an attempt to please HER!!! 2. Jerry Maguire - The hypergamous single mom trying desperately to hook a man WAY WAY out of her league. But somehow Tom Cruise is the bad guy?? Really?? Renee Zellwegger, a single mom who ran her Childs father off because he wasn't good enough for her, decides to latch onto Tom Cruise (a single successful good-looking guy) and then demand that he change his life to suit her....when he could clearly get a woman prettier, younger, and without the financial burden of a child from a former relationship. 3. The Notebook - Are you kidding me?? Rachel Mcadams character is the WOSRT person on earth. She dumps Ryan gosling because he's a poor Army Veteran, living with his Dad in a trailer. So she goes with the rich lawyer from Chicago instead. Only when Ryan Gosling's character buys an enormous southern plantation house (and remodels it specifically for her) does she consider coming back to him?? What a load of CRAP!!! 4. Beauty and the Beast - A fairy tale reasserting the time honored tradition of "A man is not happy or complete until he finds a woman to make him suitable for society". Typical female self-aggrandizing BS. Men are nothing but UGLY ANIMALS until they get a woman to love them?!??! nonsense!! Another children's story where the male character is mean, disheveled, lonely, and violent.....while the females' character represents all that is wholesome and good, virtuous and holy......Again, another load of BS!!!!
''Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable' "Romans 2:2"
Yeah. The message there, “sex for sale equals your happily ever after with a good looking rich man who finds the love of his life in a prostitute.” Totally ignoring God’s law of sowing and reaping.
@@KatI422-r3m this actually does happen, happened to family friend and now she’s repented and preaches the word of God, her husband met her as a prostitute and fell in love with her and they’ve been in love ever since, it’s been 22 years now.
@@KatI422-r3m yeah if that person is delusional. I didn’t know anyone during that time that thought like that. Not teens or young adults. Prostitution wasn’t glorified in our eyes it was that she overcame her lifestyle and actually met a real genuine man to rescue her from that life.
I grew up watching Little House on the Prairie, the Walton’s, the Brady Bunch. My expectations have always been that way. Many have called me a prude. Stick and stones . Don’t let your kids watch the filth that out on tv now.
Have you ever considered the fact that almost every actor we watch in these “good” shows are in fact not married to each other in real life. So when we watch a “married” couple in a movie kiss (or other forms of “affection”) we are actually being entertained by fornication or adulterous behavior. Would you be okay with your husband or wife kissing a co worker and say it’s no big deal just part of their job? Families are being destroyed on every front. Even the “good” movies also paint an unreal expectation that plants seeds of discontentment in our relationships. We need to stop supporting the corruption in the entertainment world. Period.
Someone called it out!!! Yes, I agree. Those movies perpetuate toxicity and abuse, not at all portraying what true love is, which is sacrifice. Not an unequal give & take relationship between a codependent and a narcissist. May God guide us into all Truth by the power of His Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.
Beauty and the Beast: I completely disagree with you. 1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist. 2. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell. 3. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
yes, I totally agree. I was thinking the same while listening to the video. It has nothing to do with staying with your abuser. The whole point of the story is that he understands and changes completely.
Yeah I'm still trying to figure out how Beauty and the Beast showed toxicity. The only toxic person was that Gatson, but the Beast changed and that's why Belle stayed of her own free will when he gave her the chance to go. Belle helped him get over his issues like the way you would help a child get over something. I'm still trying to figure out where the toxicity in that is.
@@yarenot9878. Sounds Christian, Grace helps save Beast, but, just like “East of Eden,” the Father is helpless, dying or invalid. Our Father is not dying! I don’t understand why that has to be an element of these stories, besides to imply God needs our help and not the other way around!
Beast changed for her. She didn’t ask him to. It was his idea to try and be nicer to her. She doesn’t put up with him. She only stays as long as she does because she’s forced to. She comes back because she wants to. It’s a wonderful story.
Exactly, I agree with you about Titanic. The movie that brought DiCaprio into such fame depicts him as a high school aged gambler, smoker and seducer of an engaged woman, sleeping with her immediately. It’s all compressed to 2-3 days in movie time because of the need for them to connect before the Titanic sinks. Movie watchers tend to overlook his bad conduct because he’s handsome, he helped Rose to not fall off the boat early, and to find a wooden door to cling onto at movie’s end. Rose’s fiancé is purposely portrayed as an unpleasant, overbearing, I’ll tempered personality, else DiCaprio’s character would have been exposed as a philanderer. Meaning he could have restrained his conduct and sought a meaningful connection with Rose in a proper slower pace, post the Pacific crossing, but him having morality would have made the movie “boring” to the general audience. Ironically, this philandering lifestyle is who DiCaprio is in his real life also. Fornicating with a laundry list of young models, but never marrying.
Beauty and the Beast is not Stockholm syndrome. She does not stay out of love for the Beast, but for the love of her father. However, her care for others inspires the beast to become less selfish and entitled and they strike up a true friendship. It's not until he sacrifices everything, including letting her go, that she even realizes that she loves him. Belle's example might have influenced the beast to change, but it was completely his decision and she didn't wait around to see what happened...as soon as she was released she went back and helped the person she truly loved, her father. When she came back, she came back to help all her friends in the castle, not because she was blindly infatuated with the beast. Besides, I think the beast is really portrayed as being a caring person, he just throws childlike tantrums-which given that he was like 11 when he turned into a beast with no real parental guidance isn't really a surprise...
Please do more of these! I have been telling my parents that something was wrong with these movies and now I finally know what!! I could recognize some but not others until I got into a relationship myself and didn't want to accept how terrible of a situation I put myself in because I had messed up my idea of Love. Nothing is more wicked than confusing a child on what is loving and what is not.
Have a mature conversation with them. But don’t blame them for anything. Ask them questions and hear their thoughts. example- “ it never made me feel comfortable how the girl in Greece gave up her innocence to start smoking to be the bad girl for him. Do you think she should have set up boundaries with him and only joined in relationship with him if he changed? I mean he was trying to pressure her to have, you know. This movie doesn’t give me fuzzy feelings, I don’t like it, why do you like the story?”
If they like the movie grease it probably came from a place of nostalgia, loving the costumes, loving the music, not actually thinking about the message it sent. I don’t know how old you are, but one thing that happens as we have our own kids we might not want our kids watching what we watched, but we have to have a mature conversation with our parents so they actually honor us.
@@SRose-vp6ew Thank you for your response! And yes I did have a conversation. It basically went along the lines of Mom I think its important that when you raise kids that you are purposeful about the movies that you watch and having conversation about the things that aren't correctly portrayed in movies. She agreed and for the future whenever I have kids I now know this! I also completely agree, I think they most likely associate the movie with nostalgia, I mean I thought the notebook was awesome when I watched it but she did bring up many good points.
The entire "Hollywood System" is based entirely on MK ultra programming. All the words are witch language, you get to "choose your programming and receive it via the CHANNEL of your choice" . It comes from the City of "fallen" Angels....where everyone wants to have a STAR imbedded in the ground. Another reference to fallen angels. The huge wooden sign which reads HOLLYWOOD looming over the entire city...look up what hollywood actually is, it is a specific type of wood sourced only in the pagan druid forests and is the single exclusive wood used to make magic wands used to cast spells on people. MK ultra is a real thing, watch videos about it. It is about mind control and by making the movies and tv shows we choose to watch they can direct and control all of society in every country on earth. The ultimate war propaganda. We watch it and blindly follow suit over time, even if it is offensive originally.
I remember thinking I was in love so many times in my teens and twenties. One day my mom’s friend said to me, your in love with being in love ! I really had to stop and think about that for a moment and she was right. Love is a choice not a feeling, you choose to show up for each other everyday, work together, problem solve, and love each other. Feelings come and go but choosing to stay and love is everlasting love and friendship.
There's an old song from the 1940s called You're Nobody Until Somebody Loves You. Don't apologize for having a need to be loved. There's no shame in it. Nobody wants to be "one of many"; all of us want to feel special and be loved by someone not for what we own or what we've accomplished but for who we are. I am very fortunate that I have found such love but it didn't come easy. I spent many lonely days and getting involved with the wrong women before I found true love but I can honestly say, I am somebody because of this lady. I hope you have found true love also but if you haven't yet, hang in there. Trust me, once you find it, you'll be glad you did. It will be worth it.
@@Kris_Reece I look forward to hearing the light get shined on that, I've been detoxing from so called "love songs" for years and trying to explain it to my friends. God showed me how those songs were bewitching and keeping me in non reality romanticism. God also showed me how it was one of the major influences that made me marry an abusive manipulator!
Hallelujah! I love this topic! Watching soup operas in my country, Mexico, I developed codependency at a early age. Thank you sister for serving God. I share your videos with my friends, but many of them speak only Spanish 😢. I pray you can translate all your videos. I know the God Almighty will be glorified.
I was watching latinotelenovelas sińce 6 years but they were beautiful, especially from Venezuela, Cristal was my first one, but sory with Maite Perroni they are horrible.... From Mexico with Fernando Colunga were very good and popular in world
There is a lot of competition between women and they learn to be thieves and steal each other’s boyfriends and husbands. Hopefully they later learn how to restitute what they stole in order to purify themselves.😢
@lilia when you said, "codependency" that really hit me. I have always put "love" and "a relationship" as my main priority.. since third grade I remember thinking, "I want to be married when I grow up." I never really picked a career or tried to focus on God's plan for me.. I just wanted a lifelong partner (which he gave me in the most amazing way.) :) But yeah.. I really blame all the love movies I watched. Too many to list here. :)
Wow, the Beauty and the Beast one really shook me. It was one of my favorite stories growing up, but I never connected the dots. Thanks for making this video.
@@miasvera3214 I disagree with you. 1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist. 2. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell. 3. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 I always saw this movie as a lesson on looking past the surface and seeing the real person behind the facade presented to the world. Beast had years to consider how he became what he was and to regret it. But it took Belle becoming his friend to fully change his attitude, and learn to love.
Agreed. Produced by The Lord of the Air. All G-nostic love involving mystical unions. Women just don’t get that When Lucifer masquerades as an Angel of light, that could be a Star, a president, a rapper, a cowboy, Superman, Spider-Man, Batman, or a Warlock. There is a reason cracked up homeless women insist they are princesses.
The World of Hollywood is full of toxic movies or with a message about toxic relationships and to keep a pattern, to normalize this kind of relationships. It's better to avoid these influences. Greetings and Blessings.
I think a lot of these movies are written and/or directed by people who are struggling or have struggled with codependency and abuse. No way these people create such toxic movies and are in healthy relationships with others, themselves or God. I pray for their healing and peace of mind 🙏🏾
Silver linings playbook is the first movie that popped in my mind when I clicked on this; whoever wrote that one must be familiar w these toxic situations
I told my daughter this when she was ~10-12 year old. I told her, “these types of movies are just entertainment, they are NOT REAL! They are actors playing parts, written by someone else, and they don’t have ANYTHING to do with REAL LOVE. The movies are FANTASIES, pure and simple. Want love, find a man that loves God, and start there.
Useful advice to tell children during their life might be a good topic. I told my daughters when they were in middle school, that a boy's idea of love is to be together for a couple months not a lifetime. A man thinks in terms of decades. Actors BTW are paid to lie, to not be genuine.
Spot on. Even before coming to my faith in Jesus Christ, I seen all these movies as toxic and never liked a single one on ur list BC of it. I just got sick of experiencing degrees of toxic relationships, that I was learning the hard way these are not to be idolized. Thanks for this video, it will help many ignorant girls wake up to the truth of God that the Beast/badboy isn't sexy and just trouble! God bless you and ur own in Jesus Christ 🙏🏻🕊️✝️❤️
Can you keep my friend list and prayer. Because every since her husband died, she's been in bad relationships. And she's been dating this move for quite some time. And she's the one with the job and not him he's a loser. Desperate need for 🙏📖
@@janieluna4167 I will pray for your friend! I will pray it all works out right the way God wills. I hope she will have her eyes open and let this relationship go and take some time to rest. I hope she finds someone great!
This is a confirmation. I have been saying this to people in my church: that idea of love coming from Holywood is not biblical. It is intereting you mentioned number 3 cause I remember 10 years ago, telling God I felt incomplete without a partner. One Sunday a pastor preached that we are all incomplete without Christ, but He makes us whole. A decade after, still not married, but very happy in my singleness.
The problem with the Notebook is that the girl didn't want him until he finally started making enough money for her to maintain her rich-girl-lifestyle. THAT'S toxic. That boy should have turned his back on that spoiled ungrateful brat that both made him leave his long time serious girlfriend, and after a while"forgot all about him" and their questionable "love". She never loved him in the first place. And he was a typical idiot man who would rather break a faithful girlfriend's heart just to try and be with the "one who's running away". Ugh. That whole fake relationship makes me want to puke. Never liked the movie, despised it from the first second.
She always wanted him, she didn’t care that he was poor. The one who cared was her parents ( mostly toxic mother) so she separated them. She didn’t show the letters Noah was writing everyday to Ali. Ali always wanted Noah and always loved him.
Years ago I was on a Christian dating site. A woman asked me if I believed in soulmates. I responded that God is our only soulmate. She didn't like that answer.
That’s a great video ! One of the things God made me stop when I fully committed my life to Him is romantic movies, Korean dramas and TV shows I didn’t understand what was bad about them until I realized I was completely idolizing romance and these exemples of "true love” filled with false idealism on relationships. I have never been in a relationship although I’m close to my 30s now but I’m so thankful I’m learning God’s agape love before I ever do.
Grease has been one of my favorite movies since I was a child. When you said Grease I was like whatttt? But everything you said makes so much sense and definitely makes me see the story in a different light. Thank you for this ❤ im gonna rethink what movies I allow myself and my soul to consume. The notebook and Beauty and the Beast are also movies I grew up watching. The notebook was something I wanted to base my dream love life around as a teenager. It's crazy how impressionable romantic movies are on young woman.
Allow yourself? 😂🙄 See it's language like that, that makes non Christians make fun of Christians it's not about allowing or not watch whatever you want to watch just have your eyes 👀 open and know how to separate Truth from Fiction 😉
@@rustyshackleford6035 of course I am careful about what I allow into my eye gate and soul. Why would I just let anything enter and then dissect it like you suggest. I would rather not entertain that idea because no one is perfect everyone is sinful so you can't catch or see everything in the spiritual. Also I said nothing to differ people away from Christ or make Christians look bad. The only one that look's bad here is you with your ugly and arrogant attitude
Rusty there is a spiritual reason as to why you don’t even see yourself contradicting yourself or pushing what you seem to say you don’t like. Re-read what she wrote and then read what you wrote in humility prayerfully asking God if he is real to open your eyes to the truth and help set you free. She is the one in control, yet you tried to take it away from her. Why? You put very assuming issues onto her based off your strongly held “beliefs” and not the reality of the situation. Christianity isn’t about controlling others or bullying, and I realize you’re not a Christian, you don’t follow Christ, you don’t understand, but if you ever want to, God loves you, right where you’re at, and he can free you from things you don’t even see you need freedom from. John 3:17 (yes, 17, not 16). But Christian or not you need to look back and recognize what you did. You don’t have to be a Christian to apologize to someone when you wrong them. You now see the control the joker had on your life and I praise God that you’re done mocking Christians and looking like a fool for it. That spirit of confusion is bound from interfering with you being able to hear the truth. Jesus got nailed to a cross for your sins, you never asked him to, he did it anyway and now you don’t need to be punished, but he won’t force himself on you, you can absolutely choose to reject him and separate eternally from all his good. With salvation comes forgiveness, but it doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want from that point forward you need to actually become a follower of Christ or you’re following the Devil down a path of distraction. Some day Christians aren’t going to be around you if you choose hell. Hell won’t have any of the good things that God gave us because God is only good, God is love. Christianity isn’t about belief, other than the belief to follow what we know it’s true. Scripture also says if a person chooses a hardened heart God will solidify the hardening. That’s what happened to pharaoh who was given so many chances out of God’s mercy. But God is merciful and eventually Pharaoh needed his heart to no longer be able to change so the Israelites could be free, free from the enslavement they caused themselves when they didn’t go back to the promised land that God had given them. that’s what you’re missing, Christians don’t stay away from things because religion quits limits on them, Christians stay away from things that they recognize was causing them problems and they run to the things of God that are 100 times better, literally perfect. Humbling before the Lord, seeking the truth, accepting him (Jesus) in submission is the narrow way to Heaven. Romans one says man is without excuse, that’s a positive verse, it means everyone has a chance, but no one‘s gonna force you to do the right thing you can absolutely choose to send yourself to hell, a place God didn’t even build for humans. If you want to follow your own ways, look at where it’s gotten you, do you have the peace that passes understanding? Is the joy of the Lord your strength? Are you looking forward to the day when you get to stand before the judgment seat of Christ? Or do you live a life of distraction, do you not want to think about death, do you not want to think about the impact your life has on this world? I’m not gonna ask you to read all of the Bible. Paris Jeremiah 29:11-13, Isaiah 53 promise to the Jews about the arm of the Lord that would come to save them, then read John 1-3. Read all of that humbly willing to accept that there might be a God that loves you, whose plan for your life are good, who doesn’t want you to miss out, who can redeem the seemingly unredeemable but also those who are prideful so blind to self they don’t see how mean they actually are. They can humble and be saved forgiven not only by God, but by others.
You had me all the way up to Beauty and the Beast. Honestly, for my own past, Dirty Dancing is wayyy more of a problem for women than B&B. Beauty didn't fall in love with him until after he changed.
Or a more modern issue is Aria in pretty little liars dating her teacher. 🤢 although that show is probably off the air it definitely affected a lot of millennials and Gen Z romanticizing toxic everything by putting a pretty spin on child abuse and even murder.
I think the reason she placed Beauty and the Beast is that it provides this false impression to women that you can change someone "with the power of love and kindness". This perpetuates the idea that "maybe he'll change his ways once he sees how much I care for him" or "he'll change when he sees that the world is kinder than he thinks" thus encouraging women to stay in abusive relationships in the hopes of this "change" to happen. But reality is a lot bleak, and "beastly" people in real life don't give a damn about your efforts. From many experiences, all I saw was that these "beasts" continue to hurt the people caring for them until that relationship turns to resentment.
What I also never understood about these movies was how addicted the couples were to each other BEFORE marriage. Why? That kind of invested emotions should only be towards a spouse. If I sense that there is already going to be some emotional drama while dating someone, I am out of there.
completely disagree!! admittedly I've never read the books, but one thing I've always loved about the movies is that, at least to me, they seemed to promote abstinence until marriage. I love the twilight movies.
@BrightBlue The abstinence was good but lets be honest, the purpose was to build the sexual tension. The relationship was weird and a little toxic and consumed both characters while making that type of relationship desirable to viewers/readers.
What struck me in The Notebook is that the man she is dating and then leaving again for Noah would have been a totally great choice but the viewer is made to think he's not 'passionate' enough
The Notebook - Are you kidding me?? Rachel Mcadams character is the WOSRT person on earth. She dumps Ryan gosling because he's a poor Army Veteran, living with his Dad in a trailer. So she goes with the rich lawyer from Chicago instead. Only when Ryan Gosling's character buys an enormous southern plantation house (and remodels it specifically for her) does she consider coming back to him?? What a load of CRAP!!!
@@topseykretts7608 actually it wasn't. I've seen the movie many times. He broke up with HER because the snooty dad warned him to...she freaked out! She loved him and didn't want to break up. She DID NOT break up with him because of social standing or to go be with another man of higher standing. Noah went to war right after her parents caused him to break up with her. Her mother intercepted all the letters he wrote her while he was away...she never got them and thought he didn't love her! She didn't get involved with anyone for some length of time until she was a nurse caring for the wounded soldier who fell in love with her. THAT is what happened folks!
@@floridagirl5250 Yeah, I wonder if she would have left the rich lawyer for Ryan's character if he still lived in a trailer with his Dad?? Answer....hell no!! After he bought a plantation house and made her an "art room" for her worthless paintings.....only then did she decide he was "worthy of her golden vagina".....LOL
GREAT VIDEO! For every movie like 'It's A Wonderful Life', there are probably 100 crap movies. I agree with another commenter that the producers of crap movies are trying to vicariously live their perverse and/or pathetic desires, through movies, rather than get counselling.
“Legends of the Fall” (1994) messed me up. I was 18 & had just lost my virginity to a (now I know) sociopath who was very manipulative/ abusive. He loved this movie. I was Catholic & had a mental breakdown around this time. Thank the Lord, 20 years later I became born again after a failed marriage that humbled me & I started to seek God in His word. I look back on how much Disney movies & “Christian “ romance novels messed me up in my teen years. I regret not ever learning about what God says about men’s & women’s roles in marriage. I was always looking for my soul mate. What a fantasy world! The Lord has blessed me with a husband who loves the Lord & my love for him grows more every year. It’s a miracle.
Thank you for going here! Subscribed because of the truth you are dropping here! My only point: it isn't just the most recent version of *_A Star Is Born_* ... it is EVERY VERSION!
Grease was my favorite movie as a kid. We had a recording of it and I knew every word. Many years later I watched it again and realized I did exactly what Sandy did. It was like the movie programed me.
Actually in "Beauty and the Beast", Belle chose to stay with the Beast so her father would be released. She gave up her freedom because of the love and concern for her father.
True, and while BEAST get’s better, “redemption story,” he never fully repents, he did kidnap her and part of the problem is you might not even see her as a prisoner in the ballroom scene, but she still a prisoner at that point. He even started the relationship by trying to use her to break a spell. She wasn’t even privy to that.
Good message. You just confirmed something that God had been convicting my heart about. All the more reason why I hate romance movies now. They distort love into lust and are very worldly entertainment. They do promote romantic/sexual intimacy outside the bounds of marriage. Grease, Beauty & the Beast, The Notebook and Jerry MacGuire are sadly very popular movies. I spit on those.
I've happily sworn off all movies. There is not a single form or instance of communication or entertainment that does not contain anti God messaging. And that is deliberate. It's all evil.
I’m pretty sure you could do a part 2, part 3 and more. I would be interested in a list of the movies that came the closest to a healthy relationship dynamic
Fire proof Chosen (Simon Peter and Eden) Family camp (husband has growth) Father of the bride (they try) Jesus revolution (although not the beginning of the relationship) Frozen 1 vs 2 for Anna And it’s been a while but I think my big fat Greek wedding
It starts with children's TV, where everyone is portrayed to solve their problems with the solution where everyone gets their own way, then it moves on to the Disney style TV and movies where the children are the focus, they teach to follow their "heart" which is actually their "feelings" aka flesh, and that what their "heart" wants is what is morally right, and to disobey parents (if they even exist in the program) and rebel against authority to do so. And notice how most now revolve around the female. All of this is chiseling away at the biblical foundations to pave the way later in life for what is talked about in this video.
Yes! So I was pretty sheltered then we started to watch movies I was probably about 8 and I would literally feel guilty for the characters in the movies that hid things from their parents ughhhh
Okay maybe it is because I am mostly an animated Disney fan but the most Disney’s films were about obeying your parents. Which films were about disobedience.
Wow! Thank you for saying this out loud. I've never heard anyone ever make a video about the lies in romantic movies. God knows young women need this so badly.
Hi from South Africa Kris, Thanks for this teaching it was jam packed. Could you do an in-depth teaching on the first portion of this video, I would love to use it for the teenagers in my life. God bless you and your ministry
Yeah, cause he didn't even try to change for her, right? It's not like he tried out for multiple sports before finally finding one he was good at, just to be the popular jock type of guy she apparently wanted. And she was so good to him, too. Not like she dated that dumb jock just to make Danny jealous. Let's bash men some more, huh?
I felt the Holy Spirit telling me this for the past year, I was wondering why there is so much divorce in our society compared to my grandparents who were married 60 years before they both passed away a month apart from each other, I believe the Holy Spirit told me it is because people have unrealistic expectations due to movies and romance novels.
I always wondered why I cried at the end of Beauty and the Beast. My ex is an abusive narc with BPD. I wonder if I hoped to fix him because of the indoctrination of that film in my early life. Oddly enough he referred to the Notebook when I pointed out how flawed his volatile nature and telling me I need to fight with/for him to prove my love for him.
BS. Stop comparing your relationship with animation. 1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist. 2. She teaches him how he should behave, successfully. 3. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell. 4. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
So many things happening here in America, let’s pray for our country. And may we never forget that the Lord is our rock and our strength 💪🏼 Continue to share the word with everyone, and with anyone! ❤
I am so glad you said this. It needed to be said about how people fall in love and their idea of how to form a relationship. I would probably express some of the details differently but overall, it is spot on.
Father God, thank you for putting me back in the world without making me belong to this world! In accordance with this word and philippians 4:19 I bind myself being led to inspiring, god-approved movies to help me grow as a human being and giving answers to what it means to live in this world and with others while I pray God will raise more good film makers, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I agree with the comments about Grease. I had just become a Christian when the movie came out. I remember being so sad when in the ending Sandy changed to the "dark side" to become one of them. Also why no mention of Dirty Dancing. I saw it one time and that was it for me. The whole premise of the movie was to prepare Baby to take a dancer's place in a performance so that she could have an abortion. She was praised at the end for her sacrifice. There was a sacrifice - the baby to molech. This movie grieves me.
Wow, something about that movie always bothered me and I couldn’t put a finger on it. Loved the dancing. But I had no idea about the abortion part. Wow.
@mrss4328 I love the dancing. I've danced my whole life. But I cannot bring myself to watch the movie again or even praise it because of the abortion issue which is mainly what the movie is about. It grieves me.
I hated dirty dancing mostly because Johnny treated her like crap and she just kept coming back for more.... over and over and then he ends up leaving her in the dust, literally!
The Star ⭐️ is born has been made at least 4 times. I don’t think I have ever heard anyone criticize the “Star” movies like this. I have never looked at the movies that way-as co-dependency. Wow. Thank you for the comment.
One aspect of the relationship that is never questioned is "stardom", itself. One or the other must be a "star", and the other must be the "loser". So Esther is so _kind_ to stay with him, in his "loser" stage, but being lifted up to stardom is definitely her entitlement, hers to enjoy. But I guess you'd have to have Hollywood in the picture, to make stardom seem like a natural right of an (superior!) individual, like it is in the movie. Or maybe it was necessary at the time of the first versions of the story. Not so much now, with everyone a diva. What we don't realize is that a star is a _marketable, sellable_ individual. At least the movies do bring this out, in the parts about the downfall of the older star. The cruelty with which they tell him he's a has been, was memorable. I remember thinking back to that "you ain't nothin" treatment in some of the older versions, trying to explain many situations dealt out by life. To treat people like that is definitely wrong, and nothing any Christian should have anything to do with, but it is definitely the truth of the world. But bear in mind, our turn to be so mistreated will arrive. You have to credit the movie with telling that much truth, but you don't get the impression that it is anything that would ever happen to Esther, entitled star that she is. They flatter these people to the heights (although it's not necessarily so great behind the scenes), then drag them behind the vehicle until they are dead, unless they escape. Since there are no circumstances under which a Christian should ever think herself/himself a star, someone with "star quality" (big, financial exploitability), we ought to judge and control our passions for these scenarios, by at least judging our own hearts about it. Sure, we like them, but why so we like them so much?
@@lindajohnson4204 , Well, ideally what the public likes about stars ✨ is their ability/talent to entertain us. Frankly, most of these people off script don’t have anything to say that the majority of us want to hear 👂. Stars 🌟 are a fantasy. The illusion can only hold itself for a limited time and then the public is bored 🥱 and ready for the next star 💫. The new kid on the block and then the cycle repeats itself. That is part of the reason why we keep seeing new versions of the same stories.
@@phalynwilliams4119 But we need to realize that when we treat stardom like that, it is rank idolatry. But as Americans of our time, we think we are entitled to this deep fantasy life about stars, which makes us kind of own them. And they are just the same garden variety kind of human beings that we are, full-fledged human beings, and not our property. That infantile self-indulgence is not just idolatry, but it is positively harmful in their lives, and the lives of the whole system. They might think it's fine; after all, they make tons of money out of it. But it isn't fine, or good for anyone, themselves and their fans included. I enjoy stars and old movies, up to a point. That doesn't make my interest in stars sacrosanct, because, like our other involvements with other people, there are all kinds of vulnerabilities to sin (but just being by ourselves has plenty of opportunity for sin, too. We're sinners)
In Beauty and the Beast the Beast initially plans to keep Belle's father as his prisoner as punishment for trespassing, but Belle VOLUNTARILY agrees to switch places with her father. It is HER idea, not the Beast's. Belle DID try to run away at one point in fear of the Beast's temper, but she was surrounded by the wolf pack. The Beast saved her from the wolves. She was going to walk away at that point, but she saw him lying there unconscious and took him back to his castle to treat his wounds. Again, it was HER decision to show compassion. Both Belle and the Beast eventually get to know each other, but the Beast eventually frees her, on HIS OWN, to return to her ailing father. ("I release you. You are no longer my prisoner.") He did it out of love for Belle, but it is important to note that the curse was not yet broken at this point because Belle, as grateful as she was, had not yet truly fallen in love with him. The curse is broken when Belle, ON HER OWN VOLITION, returns to the Beast's castle to protect him from the village mob and confesses her love as he's dying. As it see it, the love between Belle and the Beast took hold when each sacrificed his or her own self-interests for the other. The Beast willingly let Belle go even though he knew full well that that was probably his only chance to break the curse; he was willing to remain a beast for the rest of his life because of his love for Belle. Belle willingly put herself into a dangerous situation when she returned to the castle to face the mob to help the Beast. Each thought about the other more than themselves.
So she “willingly” became his prisoner? Come on. She exchanged herself for her father. She was still a prisoner. He eventually lets her go. How wonderful of him to eventually free an innocent prisoner, she should be so grateful. Good grief. How skewed can your life view be if you think this is a healthy relationship?
@@sunithagirish2139 whether I can blame him or not, the fact is that it wasn’t a healthy relationship. And, yes, I can blame him for the way he acted. If he wanted the curse broken, maybe he could have tried changing his behavior that got him cursed in the first place.
I loved Beauty and the Beast when I was little, and then I learned about narcissism. I realized that the Beast is very narcissistic and abusive. I still love the music. Beast was my favorite Disney character. I was so sad to watch it after understanding about narcissism. Thank you for all that you do.
My generation grew up on movies and shows with lead women in love triangles, such as Twilight and Lost, where she loses interest in the good guy because the bad boy is sexier. I don't think it is a coincidence that 60% of women in my generation who are in relationships have a second guy in her inbox just in case, and cheating on the good guy with the bad boy is the social norm.
As someone from the Twilight generation, I strongly disagree with your percentage. Because 60% of women in your generation haven't watched Twilighy. Account for the other continents and how many women are in one generation.
Twilight honestly should have been included. I remember being a pre teen and girls were OBCESSED with that movie. I know its become sort of a joke now but for the young girls of the time, they took it very seriously
I was expecting a lot of conservative nonsense about male-female relationships, so I was shocked that I actually agreed with this woman's assessment of the flaws in these movies, and that she actually stood up for a woman's right not to be abused, trapped, or taken for granted. I also appreciated that she said that God wants you to stop romanticizing these movies--not to stop watching them. Now I have a challenge. Ma'am, can you think of five mainstream or independent movies that come closer to what you believe is God's view of a healthy male-female romantic relationship? The relationship doesn't have to be perfect, but healthier than not, in your opinion. Can you do this, please?
Melanie Lee - It's a Christian movie (not so much "mainstream"), but I would recommend "Fireproof (2008)". The acting can be a bit cheesy at times, but the message - and the ultimate conclusion - is spot on for how God wants us to love our spouse. Also, check out "The Song (2014)". It's a bit more gritty, as it deals with some real temptation issues and gets pretty grounded with its content.
@@robertfleischmann4119 Thank you for your recommendations. I don't promise to watch them, but perhaps I will, and I'm fairly sure that others will, too.
THANK you for saying this! As a Jr. High Philosophy teacher an ESL Teacher of 13 through college- age classes, I was once so shocked after seeing one of these movies - that I had gone to see on a date with my husband (ruined the date, of course) in order to understand what my kids were being exposed to. So thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you so much! I thought I was the only one who noticed the codependency in Grease, and the unrealistic story of The Notebook, which in real life, would've turned into divorce. Because men who act like that in real life often turn out to be abusive.
My ex wife broke up our relationship. She said I love you, but not in love with you. I thought I was in a movie set for a second. I truly did not know what this woman wants.
Thanks for posting this. It really bothered me that people hype the Notebook. Rachel McAdams’ character unapologetically cheated on a good man for the sake of so-called love and the story deems it a happily ever after.
I do think that men and women complement each other. Men and women are similar but very different, both created in God's image. I think when the two very different come together in a healthy relationship is when they are most like a fuller image of God our Creator!
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at 3:21 did you say "being CHASED" or "being CHASTE"?
Audibly sounded like the latter but I think from context you said the former.
Being chaste is the ethos of true love!
Adults can separate truth from fiction.
Isn't God kind of a toxic narcissist?
5-year-olds can separate fact from fiction better than most adults can. The vast majority of adults still think "outer space", "nukes", and the "news" are real!
"When your identity is in Christ, you're already complete." Wow. So true!
I remember watching Grease as a little girl and being sad that Sandy felt she had to give up her beautiful innocence to “get her man”. And then at the end watching her become overly sexualized willingly didn’t sit right but it was so celebrated that it made it seem ok. So evil.
had the same reaction to Grease. It gave the wrong message to women
Same we used to watch it again and again
I am so glad to know that others feel the same way. I remember sitting 🪑 there at the movies 🎥 being disappointed in Sandy’s choice too. Peer pressure is what they used to call it. It is especially sad when you think about how Danny was willing to give up his bad boy image so he could be with good girl Sandy. Things are so sexualized today. Christians have been complaining about the film 🎞️ industry since its inception. There is an excellent book 📕 about it called Tinseltown. I am sure that the entertainment industry has been like this ancient times.
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Nada wrong with giving up bad boy/bad girl image. Bad is not 😎.
@@holyexperience1976 , I think that you misunderstood or did not properly comprehend my earlier comment. Maybe you should watch the film again to refresh your memory. Towards the end of the movie, Danny was going to give up his bad boy image/ways so he could pursue a relationship with Sandy. After Sandy chose to switch to a bad girl, Danny went along with it. Obviously 🙄, if I am agreeing with the other commenters, and with the content creator, I am not pleased with Sandy adopting a bad girl persona.
I was in a toxic relationship and then I married him and had 3 kids with him. If you ask me “WHY” ?
I was getting old and I wanted a family so badly so I married that guy. My mistake was that i didn’t trust God enough and had the patience enough to wait for the man who was meant for me!
Today we are divorced because he was abusive.
What did I learn from this?
In the long run it’s better to lean on God and trust him in the process!!!!!!!
A good lesson in the Bible is God didn’t give Abraham and Sarah a child till they were very old. They ended up doing something other than Gods will which complicated things( Sarah giving Hagar to her husband).
God knows what’s best sometimes it’s not on our timeline though.
That kind of immature decision making and lack of accountability. You were never marriage material to begin with.
I’m really sorry you had to go through this. God loves you. I wish I knew who you were and my friend, I would have given you a hug. You are out of this now. Continue trusting the Lord. Past is past. Let’s together see what God has in store for us. 😊 God bless you my sister!
God bless you and your family 🙏❤️
Yes…so blessed to finally believe in God’s love
What about The Little Mermaid? I used to think that Ariel was so bold, because she was willing to give up everything she knew and loved for a man she was in love with. Now, I just think she was foolish and brash. She knew nothing about Eric - whether he was a good man, etc. She merely had a massive crush on him. For that, she was willing to give up her voice and lose her family, to become a shrimp and belong to Ursula forever, just to try to make Eric fall in love with her - in THREE DAYS! It takes much longer to really fall in love. This teaches impressionable young ladies that it's heroic and admirable to risk it all for a man. Uh oh.
Good point... Plus it promotes marine spirits...
@@Amgirl03 Marine spirits?
You're right on Ariel... Sadly that mirrors how I went about my marriage. 6 years later....I now see it
@@elegantgiraffe9570 Satan's kingdom includes marine spirits... plenty of information on line... Leviathan is one of them but mermaids are sirens. They are usually evil and a part of the kingdom of darkness.
Disney in general is Demonic its filled with all kinds of witchcraft wizards and sorcery. Plus all the characters parents are always dead. Or they only have one parent. Disney promotes all this Sexual stuff to children it's not hard to miss. All my kids Disney stuff got tossed in the trash back in 2021 . Our family doesn't support ANYTHING DISNEY
The ULTIMATE love story is found in John 3:16❤ This love story trumps all the others!
Absolutely 💯
True, but you did not always know nor understood the love story...you grew into this and your eyes being open. Let's pray that eyes will be open to God's truth💖
Amen🥰
❤️❤️❤️ Yes indeed.
God having his son killed?? WOW, True Love!!!
One film I've always had an issue with is 'Love Story'.
It's most famous line is...
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
No.
No, it doesn't.
Love is never saying I’m sorry I loved you.
When you love someone you often have to say you're sorry. We're all human, we make mistakes. Sometimes we hurt someone else and that may not be what we intended, but that's the result we got. When that happens, guess what, we need to apologize to the person we hurt and make amends. That's life.
@@moeball740 I agree.
Love means never having to say you’re sorry ..in my mind it means that you will never hurt the one you love. Therefore you will not have to say “sorry”. Unrealistic
@@MonaMonatte
Completely unrealistic.
After 75 years of life, I have a lot of mistakes to look back on. I have wondered why I had problems with “romance” and even as a Christian I fell into sin thinking I had fallen…”in love”. What you have explained here is definitely a huge part of the problem. Good grief… we have all been conditioned to look for poisonous fruit and think it’s what we need.
Exactly! “We have been conditioned..” 😐
At 71, I'm still learning these lessons. We get older and wiser but the youngsters look at us like we are from Mars. You are so right when you say we are conditioned to act this way. I now focus my love on Jesus
If you don't fall in love, then what do you do, marry him for money, wealth, power, influence? Do youo make a rational decision as to who you should fall in love with based on certain criteria? I'll tell you why I fell in love with my wife, she had character, I was never good at attracting women, lots of women are attractive, its just that they were not attracted to me, she chose me, I loved her character, she was beautiful, but she was also trustworthy, lots of women are just fickle, and those women were never interested in me anyway, but I have seen the dump a lot of boyfriends, after a while I just got tired of hanging out with them, I was wasting my time.
@@thomaskalbfus2005 you are right! The problem is “falling” in love… as if that attractiveness means something. I think choosing to love someone who has good character and kindness is what we should do, and not just look for surface beauty.
You should make more videos like these on children's movies and series, because that's the main target the entertainment industry has their eyes on🤞🏼
Agree💯%
Show your kids studio ghibli movies
“Love is never having to say you’re sorry” is the worst line ever! Being an adult and being humble means saying you’re sorry when you’re wrong!
Also pursuing someone who is clearly not interested in you isn’t romantic it’s creepy annoying and bordering on stalker behavior. If he/ she is open to you they will clearly let you know.
If not, respect their choice and move on.
Yeah. That line never made sense to me. Even as a child.
I always disagreed with it too! It always bothered me.
Amen!!!!👍🏽💯spoken with grace and truth u can't make someone love l'm old school l Believe in a Divine connection from God ordained by him when we try to do it our self that's when we get hurt so wait on the Lord for the one that is supposed to be in your life not who you want in your life 🙋🏽✋🏽❤️😁👍🏽🤗🙏💞💞💞 good things come when we are patient and when we wait on the Lord and
Have to make a part 2 to this.
This movies are the main reason why people stay in toxic relationships. The world promotes toxic relationships.
Especially whenever people are looking into the world for love instead of God the Father's standards of what REAL love is. We have to stop living in a fantasy world and live in reality!
So true.
As someone who has been married for 10 years now just Pray 🙏 on it and Pray God Sends the right man at the right time and Don't be over eager to Fall for the 1st one to give attention it's supposed to be leading up to a lifetime commitment so Don't rush into Love too quickly let it take it's time 🙂
Wow!!! My top movies were listed on here. I have always been a beauty and the best fan! Loved the notebook!! Ugh, but she’s absolutely right. I’ve had this twisted false impression of love my whole life. I made wrong choices because of my ignorance and illusion of love. Finding my way back to Christ has reset my standard and I now understand agape love! Thank you Kris for this! Always learning, growing and healing! God bless you!!!
God bless you too my friend.
@@Kris_Reece Kris, would you watch the video on RUclips by Facts Verses titled Cary Grant’s Daughter ? I would like your thoughts on Cary Grant’s Mother’s as to why Cary Grant’s father had his wife committed to an asylum for depression. Women were so easily committed in those days ..sad
Hallmark movies are all about romance and how I can get the right mate especially for Christmas. I have celebrating plenty of Christmases without a boyfriend.
Beauty and the Beast doesn't count.
1. She didn't love Beast when she was forced to stay.
2. He let her go, because he fell in love with her, but his love wasn't enough to break the spell.
3. She came back from her village to save him from Gaston and then she fell in love, when she saw that the Beast didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. She saw the goodness in him.
I guess thigs are only "toxic" when it's nothing but anti-male bigotry. It's funny how she only bashes the MEN in these movies and seems to set up all the female characters as the eternal victims.....like always. LOL
Let's take a look......
1. Grease - are you kidding me? the ENTIRE film is nothing but Danny (John Travolta) doing everything he possibly can to "change" to be more of the "person" that princess Sandy could want. He tries out for sports, baseball, wrestling, track in order to please her. And what does she do?? oh she just goes out with some football player guy to make him jealous........real nice. But somehow "Danny" is the bad guy?? knock it off. And sure, she changes in the end for the big final song.....but Danny had been changing the ENTIRE movie in an attempt to please HER!!!
2. Jerry Maguire - The hypergamous single mom trying desperately to hook a man WAY WAY out of her league. But somehow Tom Cruise is the bad guy?? Really?? Renee Zellwegger, a single mom who ran her Childs father off because he wasn't good enough for her, decides to latch onto Tom Cruise (a single successful good-looking guy) and then demand that he change his life to suit her....when he could clearly get a woman prettier, younger, and without the financial burden of a child from a former relationship.
3. The Notebook - Are you kidding me?? Rachel Mcadams character is the WOSRT person on earth. She dumps Ryan gosling because he's a poor Army Veteran, living with his Dad in a trailer. So she goes with the rich lawyer from Chicago instead. Only when Ryan Gosling's character buys an enormous southern plantation house (and remodels it specifically for her) does she consider coming back to him?? What a load of CRAP!!!
4. Beauty and the Beast - A fairy tale reasserting the time honored tradition of "A man is not happy or complete until he finds a woman to make him suitable for society". Typical female self-aggrandizing BS. Men are nothing but UGLY ANIMALS until they get a woman to love them?!??! nonsense!! Another children's story where the male character is mean, disheveled, lonely, and violent.....while the females' character represents all that is wholesome and good, virtuous and holy......Again, another load of BS!!!!
''Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable'
"Romans 2:2"
Amen well gglloorryy angel 😇 from brick NJ
“Pretty Woman” did more harm than all these put together.
Oh good catch....I missed that one!
Yeah. The message there, “sex for sale equals your happily ever after with a good looking rich man who finds the love of his life in a prostitute.” Totally ignoring God’s law of sowing and reaping.
"Be a prostitute. You might meet a handsome rich billionaire"....
@@KatI422-r3m this actually does happen, happened to family friend and now she’s repented and preaches the word of God, her husband met her as a prostitute and fell in love with her and they’ve been in love ever since, it’s been 22 years now.
@@KatI422-r3m yeah if that person is delusional. I didn’t know anyone during that time that thought like that. Not teens or young adults. Prostitution wasn’t glorified in our eyes it was that she overcame her lifestyle and actually met a real genuine man to rescue her from that life.
I grew up watching Little House on the Prairie, the Walton’s, the Brady Bunch. My expectations have always been that way. Many have called me a prude. Stick and stones . Don’t let your kids watch the filth that out on tv now.
Same
👍👏🇦🇺 💯 % agree!!
Have you ever considered the fact that almost every actor we watch in these “good” shows are in fact not married to each other in real life. So when we watch a “married” couple in a movie kiss (or other forms of “affection”) we are actually being entertained by fornication or adulterous behavior. Would you be okay with your husband or wife kissing a co worker and say it’s no big deal just part of their job?
Families are being destroyed on every front. Even the “good” movies also paint an unreal expectation that plants seeds of discontentment in our relationships.
We need to stop supporting the corruption in the entertainment world. Period.
Someone called it out!!! Yes, I agree. Those movies perpetuate toxicity and abuse, not at all portraying what true love is, which is sacrifice. Not an unequal give & take relationship between a codependent and a narcissist. May God guide us into all Truth by the power of His Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.
Amen!
Beauty and the Beast: I completely disagree with you.
1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist.
2. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell.
3. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
yes, I totally agree. I was thinking the same while listening to the video. It has nothing to do with staying with your abuser. The whole point of the story is that he understands and changes completely.
Yeah I'm still trying to figure out how Beauty and the Beast showed toxicity. The only toxic person was that Gatson, but the Beast changed and that's why Belle stayed of her own free will when he gave her the chance to go. Belle helped him get over his issues like the way you would help a child get over something. I'm still trying to figure out where the toxicity in that is.
@@yarenot9878. Sounds Christian, Grace helps save Beast, but, just like “East of Eden,” the Father is helpless, dying or invalid. Our Father is not dying! I don’t understand why that has to be an element of these stories, besides to imply God needs our help and not the other way around!
@@GracieDontPlayDat except the father is human, so of course he's going to die.
Beast changed for her. She didn’t ask him to. It was his idea to try and be nicer to her. She doesn’t put up with him. She only stays as long as she does because she’s forced to. She comes back because she wants to. It’s a wonderful story.
You missed Tittanic, it's loved around the world for being an epic love story but it's riddled with problems and has deceived many
Exactly, I agree with you about Titanic. The movie that brought DiCaprio into such fame depicts him as a high school aged gambler, smoker and seducer of an engaged woman, sleeping with her immediately. It’s all compressed to 2-3 days in movie time because of the need for them to connect before the Titanic sinks. Movie watchers tend to overlook his bad conduct because he’s handsome, he helped Rose to not fall off the boat early, and to find a wooden door to cling onto at movie’s end. Rose’s fiancé is purposely portrayed as an unpleasant, overbearing, I’ll tempered personality, else DiCaprio’s character would have been exposed as a philanderer. Meaning he could have restrained his conduct and sought a meaningful connection with Rose in a proper slower pace, post the Pacific crossing, but him having morality would have made the movie “boring” to the general audience. Ironically, this philandering lifestyle is who DiCaprio is in his real life also. Fornicating with a laundry list of young models, but never marrying.
@@MrListen2meplez Yes exactly, well said
Yep. Toxic as hell, and it had an absolute cultlike following. Teenage girls saw it dozens of time.
Oh come on.....not the Titanic! 😇😁
You should also mention monster ball which should be called narcissist ball
Beauty and the Beast is not Stockholm syndrome. She does not stay out of love for the Beast, but for the love of her father. However, her care for others inspires the beast to become less selfish and entitled and they strike up a true friendship. It's not until he sacrifices everything, including letting her go, that she even realizes that she loves him. Belle's example might have influenced the beast to change, but it was completely his decision and she didn't wait around to see what happened...as soon as she was released she went back and helped the person she truly loved, her father. When she came back, she came back to help all her friends in the castle, not because she was blindly infatuated with the beast. Besides, I think the beast is really portrayed as being a caring person, he just throws childlike tantrums-which given that he was like 11 when he turned into a beast with no real parental guidance isn't really a surprise...
Well said!
Please do more of these! I have been telling my parents that something was wrong with these movies and now I finally know what!! I could recognize some but not others until I got into a relationship myself and didn't want to accept how terrible of a situation I put myself in because I had messed up my idea of Love. Nothing is more wicked than confusing a child on what is loving and what is not.
Have a mature conversation with them. But don’t blame them for anything. Ask them questions and hear their thoughts. example- “ it never made me feel comfortable how the girl in Greece gave up her innocence to start smoking to be the bad girl for him. Do you think she should have set up boundaries with him and only joined in relationship with him if he changed? I mean he was trying to pressure her to have, you know. This movie doesn’t give me fuzzy feelings, I don’t like it, why do you like the story?”
If they like the movie grease it probably came from a place of nostalgia, loving the costumes, loving the music, not actually thinking about the message it sent. I don’t know how old you are, but one thing that happens as we have our own kids we might not want our kids watching what we watched, but we have to have a mature conversation with our parents so they actually honor us.
@@SRose-vp6ew Thank you for your response! And yes I did have a conversation. It basically went along the lines of Mom I think its important that when you raise kids that you are purposeful about the movies that you watch and having conversation about the things that aren't correctly portrayed in movies. She agreed and for the future whenever I have kids I now know this! I also completely agree, I think they most likely associate the movie with nostalgia, I mean I thought the notebook was awesome when I watched it but she did bring up many good points.
The entire "Hollywood System" is based entirely on MK ultra programming. All the words are witch language, you get to "choose your programming and receive it via the CHANNEL of your choice" . It comes from the City of "fallen" Angels....where everyone wants to have a STAR imbedded in the ground. Another reference to fallen angels. The huge wooden sign which reads HOLLYWOOD looming over the entire city...look up what hollywood actually is, it is a specific type of wood sourced only in the pagan druid forests and is the single exclusive wood used to make magic wands used to cast spells on people. MK ultra is a real thing, watch videos about it. It is about mind control and by making the movies and tv shows we choose to watch they can direct and control all of society in every country on earth. The ultimate war propaganda. We watch it and blindly follow suit over time, even if it is offensive originally.
Satan is the prince of the power of the air.
I remember thinking I was in love so many times in my teens and twenties. One day my mom’s friend said to me, your in love with being in love ! I really had to stop and think about that for a moment and she was right. Love is a choice not a feeling, you choose to show up for each other everyday, work together, problem solve, and love each other. Feelings come and go but choosing to stay and love is everlasting love and friendship.
There's an old song from the 1940s called You're Nobody Until Somebody Loves You. Don't apologize for having a need to be loved. There's no shame in it. Nobody wants to be "one of many"; all of us want to feel special and be loved by someone not for what we own or what we've accomplished but for who we are. I am very fortunate that I have found such love but it didn't come easy. I spent many lonely days and getting involved with the wrong women before I found true love but I can honestly say, I am somebody because of this lady. I hope you have found true love also but if you haven't yet, hang in there. Trust me, once you find it, you'll be glad you did. It will be worth it.
I love the saying, "Don't judge a book by it's movie."!
Right on! and music too, all those toxic "love songs" That really are the musings and whinings of attachment disorder....
Oh, don't get me started on toxic songs.....maybe that's another video :)
@@Kris_Reece I look forward to hearing the light get shined on that, I've been detoxing from so called "love songs" for years and trying to explain it to my friends. God showed me how those songs were bewitching and keeping me in non reality romanticism. God also showed me how it was one of the major influences that made me marry an abusive manipulator!
Hallelujah! I love this topic! Watching soup operas in my country, Mexico, I developed codependency at a early age. Thank you sister for serving God. I share your videos with my friends, but many of them speak only Spanish 😢. I pray you can translate all your videos. I know the God Almighty will be glorified.
I was watching latinotelenovelas sińce 6 years but they were beautiful, especially from Venezuela, Cristal was my first one, but sory with Maite Perroni they are horrible.... From Mexico with Fernando Colunga were very good and popular in world
There is a lot of competition between women and they learn to be thieves and steal each other’s boyfriends and husbands. Hopefully they later learn how to restitute what they stole in order to purify themselves.😢
@lilia when you said, "codependency" that really hit me. I have always put "love" and "a relationship" as my main priority.. since third grade I remember thinking, "I want to be married when I grow up." I never really picked a career or tried to focus on God's plan for me.. I just wanted a lifelong partner (which he gave me in the most amazing way.) :) But yeah.. I really blame all the love movies I watched. Too many to list here. :)
Wow, the Beauty and the Beast one really shook me. It was one of my favorite stories growing up, but I never connected the dots. Thanks for making this video.
Honestly they weren’t in a relationship until he was changed. So I don’t know if that movie actually counts 🤷🏾♀️
My favourite movie as a child… and I can’t believe how right she is about it.. it influenced me exactly like she said🥺
@@miasvera3214 I disagree with you.
1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist.
2. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell.
3. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 I always saw this movie as a lesson on looking past the surface and seeing the real person behind the facade presented to the world. Beast had years to consider how he became what he was and to regret it. But it took Belle becoming his friend to fully change his attitude, and learn to love.
A fairy tale about Stockholm syndrome...never liked it.
When she said “Stay with your abuser, he will change” when talking about Beauty and the Beast, I was SHOOK
Early subtle conditioning
Only 5 movies? If you listed all the popular films that are toxic when it comes to their portrayal of romance, this video could go on for days!
Agreed. Produced by The Lord of the Air. All G-nostic love involving mystical unions. Women just don’t get that When Lucifer masquerades as an Angel of light, that could be a Star, a president, a rapper, a cowboy, Superman, Spider-Man, Batman, or a Warlock. There is a reason cracked up homeless women insist they are princesses.
The World of Hollywood is full of toxic movies or with a message about toxic relationships and to keep a pattern, to normalize this kind of relationships. It's better to avoid these influences.
Greetings and Blessings.
I think a lot of these movies are written and/or directed by people who are struggling or have struggled with codependency and abuse. No way these people create such toxic movies and are in healthy relationships with others, themselves or God. I pray for their healing and peace of mind 🙏🏾
Silver linings playbook is the first movie that popped in my mind when I clicked on this; whoever wrote that one must be familiar w these toxic situations
@@manda-panda I haven't seen that one and don't plan on it. If you can, what made you think of it? What is toxic about it? /gen
@@rahbeeuh it's about 2 mentally ill people with a lot of trauma falling in love & hooking up. Its a good movie to watch, but super unrealistic
I told my daughter this when she was ~10-12 year old. I told her, “these types of movies are just entertainment, they are NOT REAL! They are actors playing parts, written by someone else, and they don’t have ANYTHING to do with REAL LOVE. The movies are FANTASIES, pure and simple. Want love, find a man that loves God, and start there.
Useful advice to tell children during their life might be a good topic. I told my daughters when they were in middle school, that a boy's idea of love is to be together for a couple months not a lifetime. A man thinks in terms of decades. Actors BTW are paid to lie, to not be genuine.
Spot on. Even before coming to my faith in Jesus Christ, I seen all these movies as toxic and never liked a single one on ur list BC of it. I just got sick of experiencing degrees of toxic relationships, that I was learning the hard way these are not to be idolized. Thanks for this video, it will help many ignorant girls wake up to the truth of God that the Beast/badboy isn't sexy and just trouble!
God bless you and ur own in Jesus Christ 🙏🏻🕊️✝️❤️
Can you keep my friend list and prayer. Because every since her husband died, she's been in bad relationships. And she's been dating this move for quite some time. And she's the one with the job and not him he's a loser. Desperate need for 🙏📖
@@janieluna4167 I will pray for your friend!
I will pray it all works out right the way God wills. I hope she will have her eyes open and let this relationship go and take some time to rest. I hope she finds someone great!
Yeah I was already a Christian when I watched these movies I Loved 😍 most of them especially Grease and Beauty and the Beast but yeah 😂👍
This is a confirmation. I have been saying this to people in my church: that idea of love coming from Holywood is not biblical. It is intereting you mentioned number 3 cause I remember 10 years ago, telling God I felt incomplete without a partner. One Sunday a pastor preached that we are all incomplete without Christ, but He makes us whole. A decade after, still not married, but very happy in my singleness.
The problem with the Notebook is that the girl didn't want him until he finally started making enough money for her to maintain her rich-girl-lifestyle.
THAT'S toxic.
That boy should have turned his back on that spoiled ungrateful brat that both made him leave his long time serious girlfriend, and after a while"forgot all about him" and their questionable "love".
She never loved him in the first place.
And he was a typical idiot man who would rather break a faithful girlfriend's heart just to try and be with the "one who's running away".
Ugh. That whole fake relationship makes me want to puke.
Never liked the movie, despised it from the first second.
that’s on point
Same. I hated it. And I hated that people spout that as “love”. No that is indeed not love.
I always wondered how he got up the stairs with his pants down around his ankles. LOL
I got the impression that she did love him almost from the start Yes, she was born with a silver spoon in her mouth, but Noah grew on her
She always wanted him, she didn’t care that he was poor. The one who cared was her parents ( mostly toxic mother) so she separated them. She didn’t show the letters Noah was writing everyday to Ali. Ali always wanted Noah and always loved him.
Years ago I was on a Christian dating site. A woman asked me if I believed in soulmates. I responded that God is our only soulmate. She didn't like that answer.
I’ve seen The Notebook only once. I remember Allie’s mom hid all of the love letters that Noah had written to her. I thought that was cruel.
Noah was actually toxic, but so was the mom, and the daughter. Basically don’t learn about love from that movie.
In the real story, the book, they had a 14 year split.
That’s a great video ! One of the things God made me stop when I fully committed my life to Him is romantic movies, Korean dramas and TV shows I didn’t understand what was bad about them until I realized I was completely idolizing romance and these exemples of "true love” filled with false idealism on relationships. I have never been in a relationship although I’m close to my 30s now but I’m so thankful I’m learning God’s agape love before I ever do.
Next you should make a video about healthy relationship movies.
Do you know any lol ?
The Notebook is quite similar to Titanic, “if you jump, I jump”
Thanks for the video. So informative and true 💯 we need to live more for Christ ❤️
Grease has been one of my favorite movies since I was a child. When you said Grease I was like whatttt? But everything you said makes so much sense and definitely makes me see the story in a different light. Thank you for this ❤ im gonna rethink what movies I allow myself and my soul to consume. The notebook and Beauty and the Beast are also movies I grew up watching. The notebook was something I wanted to base my dream love life around as a teenager. It's crazy how impressionable romantic movies are on young woman.
Allow yourself? 😂🙄 See it's language like that, that makes non Christians make fun of Christians it's not about allowing or not watch whatever you want to watch just have your eyes 👀 open and know how to separate Truth from Fiction 😉
Ditto
@@rustyshackleford6035 of course I am careful about what I allow into my eye gate and soul. Why would I just let anything enter and then dissect it like you suggest. I would rather not entertain that idea because no one is perfect everyone is sinful so you can't catch or see everything in the spiritual. Also I said nothing to differ people away from Christ or make Christians look bad. The only one that look's bad here is you with your ugly and arrogant attitude
Rusty there is a spiritual reason as to why you don’t even see yourself contradicting yourself or pushing what you seem to say you don’t like. Re-read what she wrote and then read what you wrote in humility prayerfully asking God if he is real to open your eyes to the truth and help set you free.
She is the one in control, yet you tried to take it away from her. Why? You put very assuming issues onto her based off your strongly held “beliefs” and not the reality of the situation. Christianity isn’t about controlling others or bullying, and I realize you’re not a Christian, you don’t follow Christ, you don’t understand, but if you ever want to, God loves you, right where you’re at, and he can free you from things you don’t even see you need freedom from. John 3:17 (yes, 17, not 16). But Christian or not you need to look back and recognize what you did. You don’t have to be a Christian to apologize to someone when you wrong them.
You now see the control the joker had on your life and I praise God that you’re done mocking Christians and looking like a fool for it. That spirit of confusion is bound from interfering with you being able to hear the truth. Jesus got nailed to a cross for your sins, you never asked him to, he did it anyway and now you don’t need to be punished, but he won’t force himself on you, you can absolutely choose to reject him and separate eternally from all his good. With salvation comes forgiveness, but it doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want from that point forward you need to actually become a follower of Christ or you’re following the Devil down a path of distraction.
Some day Christians aren’t going to be around you if you choose hell. Hell won’t have any of the good things that God gave us because God is only good, God is love. Christianity isn’t about belief, other than the belief to follow what we know it’s true.
Scripture also says if a person chooses a hardened heart God will solidify the hardening. That’s what happened to pharaoh who was given so many chances out of God’s mercy. But God is merciful and eventually Pharaoh needed his heart to no longer be able to change so the Israelites could be free, free from the enslavement they caused themselves when they didn’t go back to the promised land that God had given them. that’s what you’re missing, Christians don’t stay away from things because religion quits limits on them, Christians stay away from things that they recognize was causing them problems and they run to the things of God that are 100 times better, literally perfect.
Humbling before the Lord, seeking the truth, accepting him (Jesus) in submission is the narrow way to Heaven. Romans one says man is without excuse, that’s a positive verse, it means everyone has a chance, but no one‘s gonna force you to do the right thing you can absolutely choose to send yourself to hell, a place God didn’t even build for humans. If you want to follow your own ways, look at where it’s gotten you, do you have the peace that passes understanding? Is the joy of the Lord your strength? Are you looking forward to the day when you get to stand before the judgment seat of Christ? Or do you live a life of distraction, do you not want to think about death, do you not want to think about the impact your life has on this world?
I’m not gonna ask you to read all of the Bible. Paris Jeremiah 29:11-13, Isaiah 53 promise to the Jews about the arm of the Lord that would come to save them, then read John 1-3. Read all of that humbly willing to accept that there might be a God that loves you, whose plan for your life are good, who doesn’t want you to miss out, who can redeem the seemingly unredeemable but also those who are prideful so blind to self they don’t see how mean they actually are. They can humble and be saved forgiven not only by God, but by others.
whoah! this opened up my eyes! thank you for your Godly advice! God Bless
You had me all the way up to Beauty and the Beast. Honestly, for my own past, Dirty Dancing is wayyy more of a problem for women than B&B. Beauty didn't fall in love with him until after he changed.
I would actually put dirty dancing as a number five as well.
Or a more modern issue is Aria in pretty little liars dating her teacher. 🤢 although that show is probably off the air it definitely affected a lot of millennials and Gen Z romanticizing toxic everything by putting a pretty spin on child abuse and even murder.
I think the reason she placed Beauty and the Beast is that it provides this false impression to women that you can change someone "with the power of love and kindness". This perpetuates the idea that "maybe he'll change his ways once he sees how much I care for him" or "he'll change when he sees that the world is kinder than he thinks" thus encouraging women to stay in abusive relationships in the hopes of this "change" to happen. But reality is a lot bleak, and "beastly" people in real life don't give a damn about your efforts. From many experiences, all I saw was that these "beasts" continue to hurt the people caring for them until that relationship turns to resentment.
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But in fact that's exactly how God changes us as sinners. He loves us and shows us how to be better.
Yes, it is better to turn back to the books by Jane Austen, Proud and Prejudice etc. to learn real values.
The Bronte sisters explore several types of love.
“ Jane Eyre” was interesting and Catherine and Heathcliff were chilling.
What I also never understood about these movies was how addicted the couples were to each other BEFORE marriage. Why? That kind of invested emotions should only be towards a spouse. If I sense that there is already going to be some emotional drama while dating someone, I am out of there.
Emotions are part of human nature! Even if you have them while dating it doesn't mean you won't have them in a marriage! 🙏🏽
Also the Twilight series!
oh my yes!
Gosh yes probably the worst!
completely disagree!! admittedly I've never read the books, but one thing I've always loved about the movies is that, at least to me, they seemed to promote abstinence until marriage. I love the twilight movies.
@BrightBlue The abstinence was good but lets be honest, the purpose was to build the sexual tension. The relationship was weird and a little toxic and consumed both characters while making that type of relationship desirable to viewers/readers.
@@alexacramer608 Not to mention the part where the several hundred year old adult was pursuing a minor.
What struck me in The Notebook is that the man she is dating and then leaving again for Noah would have been a totally great choice but the viewer is made to think he's not 'passionate' enough
The Notebook - Are you kidding me?? Rachel Mcadams character is the WOSRT person on earth. She dumps Ryan gosling because he's a poor Army Veteran, living with his Dad in a trailer. So she goes with the rich lawyer from Chicago instead. Only when Ryan Gosling's character buys an enormous southern plantation house (and remodels it specifically for her) does she consider coming back to him?? What a load of CRAP!!!
@@topseykretts7608 that's NOT what happened in the movie. At all.
@@floridagirl5250 ....yeah, it's exactly what happens
@@topseykretts7608 actually it wasn't. I've seen the movie many times. He broke up with HER because the snooty dad warned him to...she freaked out! She loved him and didn't want to break up. She DID NOT break up with him because of social standing or to go be with another man of higher standing. Noah went to war right after her parents caused him to break up with her. Her mother intercepted all the letters he wrote her while he was away...she never got them and thought he didn't love her! She didn't get involved with anyone for some length of time until she was a nurse caring for the wounded soldier who fell in love with her. THAT is what happened folks!
@@floridagirl5250 Yeah, I wonder if she would have left the rich lawyer for Ryan's character if he still lived in a trailer with his Dad?? Answer....hell no!! After he bought a plantation house and made her an "art room" for her worthless paintings.....only then did she decide he was "worthy of her golden vagina".....LOL
GREAT VIDEO! For every movie like 'It's A Wonderful Life', there are probably 100 crap movies. I agree with another commenter that the producers of crap movies are trying to vicariously live their perverse and/or pathetic desires, through movies, rather than get counselling.
Would LOVE for you to give us a (practically) full list of ALL the toxic romantic films, too, Kris Reece!
Wow I really hope you do some more of these videos this insight is really needed in the body of Christ! Thanks!
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“Legends of the Fall” (1994) messed me up. I was 18 & had just lost my virginity to a (now I know) sociopath who was very manipulative/ abusive. He loved this movie. I was Catholic & had a mental breakdown around this time. Thank the Lord, 20 years later I became born again after a failed marriage that humbled me & I started to seek God in His word. I look back on how much Disney movies & “Christian “ romance novels messed me up in my teen years. I regret not ever learning about what God says about men’s & women’s roles in marriage. I was always looking for my soul mate. What a fantasy world! The Lord has blessed me with a husband who loves the Lord & my love for him grows more every year. It’s a miracle.
Yes she was drawn to Tristians Narcissist personality disorder.
Thank you for going here! Subscribed because of the truth you are dropping here!
My only point: it isn't just the most recent version of *_A Star Is Born_* ... it is EVERY VERSION!
Grease was my favorite movie as a kid. We had a recording of it and I knew every word. Many years later I watched it again and realized I did exactly what Sandy did. It was like the movie programed me.
Must have a weak mind if a movie can program you!
@@tkcurtis1725 I was a very young child when I started watching it and I watched it countless times for years. Children's minds are easily programed.
@@justjamie7577 That's where a parent should step in, if they feel like it's inappropriate.
@@justjamie7577 I would say that religion does the same thing as these movies you dislike....programs minds, as in, doesn't allow them to remain open!
Aside from Danny and Sandy, Rizzo and Kenickie were not great role models either.
Actually in "Beauty and the Beast", Belle chose to stay with the Beast so her father would be released. She gave up her freedom because of the love and concern for her father.
Only at first then she fell in love with him
True, and while BEAST get’s better, “redemption story,” he never fully repents, he did kidnap her and part of the problem is you might not even see her as a prisoner in the ballroom scene, but she still a prisoner at that point. He even started the relationship by trying to use her to break a spell. She wasn’t even privy to that.
I hated this movie. It reminded me of my loud overbearing ex husband
Excellent points! I wish I’d been aware of these when I was younger!
多謝！
❤️thanks 4 this video
Good message. You just confirmed something that God had been convicting my heart about. All the more reason why I hate romance movies now. They distort love into lust and are very worldly entertainment. They do promote romantic/sexual intimacy outside the bounds of marriage. Grease, Beauty & the Beast, The Notebook and Jerry MacGuire are sadly very popular movies. I spit on those.
Are you referring to sexual intercourse? At the very least, I doubt Belle and the Beast went that far before his transformation!
So glad the Lord delivered us from those desires. 🙌🏼 I used to love those movies too even though something felt off
God said subscribe and I listened.
I just found your videos and I resonate.
I've happily sworn off all movies. There is not a single form or instance of communication or entertainment that does not contain anti God messaging. And that is deliberate. It's all evil.
I’d try The Passion of the Christ! There are some exceptions.
@@christopherd6399 same. I don't pay attention to movies television or celebrities.
I’m pretty sure you could do a part 2, part 3 and more.
I would be interested in a list of the movies that came the closest to a healthy relationship dynamic
Fire proof
Chosen (Simon Peter and Eden)
Family camp (husband has growth)
Father of the bride (they try)
Jesus revolution (although not the beginning of the relationship)
Frozen 1 vs 2 for Anna
And it’s been a while but I think my big fat Greek wedding
Rewatched Grease as an adult and it’s totally sleazy
It starts with children's TV, where everyone is portrayed to solve their problems with the solution where everyone gets their own way, then it moves on to the Disney style TV and movies where the children are the focus, they teach to follow their "heart" which is actually their "feelings" aka flesh, and that what their "heart" wants is what is morally right, and to disobey parents (if they even exist in the program) and rebel against authority to do so. And notice how most now revolve around the female. All of this is chiseling away at the biblical foundations to pave the way later in life for what is talked about in this video.
Yes! So I was pretty sheltered then we started to watch movies I was probably about 8 and I would literally feel guilty for the characters in the movies that hid things from their parents ughhhh
Okay maybe it is because I am mostly an animated Disney fan but the most Disney’s films were about obeying your parents. Which films were about disobedience.
Wow! Thank you for saying this out loud. I've never heard anyone ever make a video about the lies in romantic movies. God knows young women need this so badly.
Please check Becket Cook's youtube channel. He has some very interesting videos about lies in our culture.
Jerry Maguire
Notebook
Pretty Woman
Grease
Beauty and the beast
Hi from South Africa Kris, Thanks for this teaching it was jam packed. Could you do an in-depth teaching on the first portion of this video, I would love to use it for the teenagers in my life. God bless you and your ministry
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I didn't see the other films, but totally agree about Grease. I felt like it was terrible that she's the one who changed when he should have.
Yeah, cause he didn't even try to change for her, right? It's not like he tried out for multiple sports before finally finding one he was good at, just to be the popular jock type of guy she apparently wanted. And she was so good to him, too. Not like she dated that dumb jock just to make Danny jealous.
Let's bash men some more, huh?
I felt the Holy Spirit telling me this for the past year, I was wondering why there is so much divorce in our society compared to my grandparents who were married 60 years before they both passed away a month apart from each other, I believe the Holy Spirit told me it is because people have unrealistic expectations due to movies and romance novels.
I needed this video when I was 15..totally agree with everything you said! Thank you !
I always wondered why I cried at the end of Beauty and the Beast. My ex is an abusive narc with BPD. I wonder if I hoped to fix him because of the indoctrination of that film in my early life. Oddly enough he referred to the Notebook when I pointed out how flawed his volatile nature and telling me I need to fight with/for him to prove my love for him.
BS. Stop comparing your relationship with animation.
1. Bell leaves IMMEDIATELY after the Beast yells at her. Girl didn't stay with him to fix him. She didn't want to deal with his shenanigans, just because she liked him. She's a bookworm, not therapist.
2. She teaches him how he should behave, successfully.
3. The Beast let her go to her father, because he fell in love with her. She didn't loved him then because staying with him for all those days wasn't HER choice. She had to love him back to break the spell.
4. She fell in love with Beast only when she came back and saw that he didn't want to hurt Gaston to save his own life. Then she saw him in a completely different light.
To "have my back no matter what."
So many things happening here in America, let’s pray for our country. And may we never forget that the Lord is our rock and our strength 💪🏼 Continue to share the word with everyone, and with anyone! ❤
Super valuable content! God bless!
I am so glad you said this. It needed to be said about how people fall in love and their idea of how to form a relationship. I would probably express some of the details differently but overall, it is spot on.
Thanks!
This was a good one... I remember telling a chick one time that, " it seems like you all have the same mother". And I was right, it was Hollywood.
You're so respectful... "Chick", ha?
Good one 😂
Thankyou Jesus.
Father God, thank you for putting me back in the world without making me belong to this world! In accordance with this word and philippians 4:19 I bind myself being led to inspiring, god-approved movies to help me grow as a human being and giving answers to what it means to live in this world and with others while I pray God will raise more good film makers, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Are there some inspiring movies you could recommend?
I love this video. So much wisdom is here. And I love what you said at 9:50-10:04.
Yup so true! Hollywood has made these scenarios seem “ normal” and like healthy relationships
Subscribing! I was surprised to see Beauty and The Beast but you are CORRECT.
Why only 473 likes out of 6.3K views? Kris you are brilliant! Thank You for shining the light ✨
Because sane people know this is completely ridiculous!
What an excellent analysis using the word of God really brings it home. I need to see these movies with a spiritual eye. 🙏 very very informative 👏
I agree with the comments about Grease. I had just become a Christian when the movie came out. I remember being so sad when in the ending Sandy changed to the "dark side" to become one of them. Also why no mention of Dirty Dancing. I saw it one time and that was it for me. The whole premise of the movie was to prepare Baby to take a dancer's place in a performance so that she could have an abortion. She was praised at the end for her sacrifice. There was a sacrifice - the baby to molech. This movie grieves me.
That's the truth
Terrible movie
I have wondered if she (Sandy) changed her look so much, cause she felt like she had to complete with Chacha to get Danny's attention.
Wow, something about that movie always bothered me and I couldn’t put a finger on it. Loved the dancing. But I had no idea about the abortion part. Wow.
@mrss4328 I love the dancing. I've danced my whole life. But I cannot bring myself to watch the movie again or even praise it because of the abortion issue which is mainly what the movie is about. It grieves me.
I hated dirty dancing mostly because Johnny treated her like crap and she just kept coming back for more.... over and over and then he ends up leaving her in the dust, literally!
You could start an endless series detailing all the toxic messaging in Hollywood romance films. I would keep up the good work!
Beauty and the Beast always seemed sus to me. The title just reminded me of the story in the book of Revelations
The Star ⭐️ is born has been made at least 4 times. I don’t think I have ever heard anyone criticize the “Star” movies like this. I have never looked at the movies that way-as co-dependency. Wow. Thank you for the comment.
Thank you for watching.
One aspect of the relationship that is never questioned is "stardom", itself. One or the other must be a "star", and the other must be the "loser". So Esther is so _kind_ to stay with him, in his "loser" stage, but being lifted up to stardom is definitely her entitlement, hers to enjoy. But I guess you'd have to have Hollywood in the picture, to make stardom seem like a natural right of an (superior!) individual, like it is in the movie. Or maybe it was necessary at the time of the first versions of the story. Not so much now, with everyone a diva.
What we don't realize is that a star is a _marketable, sellable_ individual. At least the movies do bring this out, in the parts about the downfall of the older star. The cruelty with which they tell him he's a has been, was memorable. I remember thinking back to that "you ain't nothin" treatment in some of the older versions, trying to explain many situations dealt out by life. To treat people like that is definitely wrong, and nothing any Christian should have anything to do with, but it is definitely the truth of the world. But bear in mind, our turn to be so mistreated will arrive. You have to credit the movie with telling that much truth, but you don't get the impression that it is anything that would ever happen to Esther, entitled star that she is. They flatter these people to the heights (although it's not necessarily so great behind the scenes), then drag them behind the vehicle until they are dead, unless they escape. Since there are no circumstances under which a Christian should ever think herself/himself a star, someone with "star quality" (big, financial exploitability), we ought to judge and control our passions for these scenarios, by at least judging our own hearts about it. Sure, we like them, but why so we like them so much?
@@lindajohnson4204 , Well, ideally what the public likes about stars ✨ is their ability/talent to entertain us. Frankly, most of these people off script don’t have anything to say that the majority of us want to hear 👂. Stars 🌟 are a fantasy. The illusion can only hold itself for a limited time and then the public is bored 🥱 and ready for the next star 💫. The new kid on the block and then the cycle repeats itself. That is part of the reason why we keep seeing new versions of the same stories.
@@phalynwilliams4119 But we need to realize that when we treat stardom like that, it is rank idolatry. But as Americans of our time, we think we are entitled to this deep fantasy life about stars, which makes us kind of own them. And they are just the same garden variety kind of human beings that we are, full-fledged human beings, and not our property. That infantile self-indulgence is not just idolatry, but it is positively harmful in their lives, and the lives of the whole system. They might think it's fine; after all, they make tons of money out of it. But it isn't fine, or good for anyone, themselves and their fans included.
I enjoy stars and old movies, up to a point. That doesn't make my interest in stars sacrosanct, because, like our other involvements with other people, there are all kinds of vulnerabilities to sin (but just being by ourselves has plenty of opportunity for sin, too. We're sinners)
@@lindajohnson4204 , agreed.
In Beauty and the Beast the Beast initially plans to keep Belle's father as his prisoner as punishment for trespassing, but Belle VOLUNTARILY agrees to switch places with her father. It is HER idea, not the Beast's. Belle DID try to run away at one point in fear of the Beast's temper, but she was surrounded by the wolf pack. The Beast saved her from the wolves. She was going to walk away at that point, but she saw him lying there unconscious and took him back to his castle to treat his wounds. Again, it was HER decision to show compassion. Both Belle and the Beast eventually get to know each other, but the Beast eventually frees her, on HIS OWN, to return to her ailing father. ("I release you. You are no longer my prisoner.") He did it out of love for Belle, but it is important to note that the curse was not yet broken at this point because Belle, as grateful as she was, had not yet truly fallen in love with him. The curse is broken when Belle, ON HER OWN VOLITION, returns to the Beast's castle to protect him from the village mob and confesses her love as he's dying. As it see it, the love between Belle and the Beast took hold when each sacrificed his or her own self-interests for the other. The Beast willingly let Belle go even though he knew full well that that was probably his only chance to break the curse; he was willing to remain a beast for the rest of his life because of his love for Belle. Belle willingly put herself into a dangerous situation when she returned to the castle to face the mob to help the Beast. Each thought about the other more than themselves.
Thanks a lot 😁😁
This actually makes sense. Love overcoming all the challenges.
So she “willingly” became his prisoner? Come on. She exchanged herself for her father. She was still a prisoner. He eventually lets her go. How wonderful of him to eventually free an innocent prisoner, she should be so grateful. Good grief. How skewed can your life view be if you think this is a healthy relationship?
@@circedelune he needed that curse broken. Can you blame him? His life was hell
@@sunithagirish2139 whether I can blame him or not, the fact is that it wasn’t a healthy relationship. And, yes, I can blame him for the way he acted. If he wanted the curse broken, maybe he could have tried changing his behavior that got him cursed in the first place.
I loved Beauty and the Beast when I was little, and then I learned about narcissism. I realized that the Beast is very narcissistic and abusive. I still love the music. Beast was my favorite Disney character. I was so sad to watch it after understanding about narcissism. Thank you for all that you do.
My generation grew up on movies and shows with lead women in love triangles, such as Twilight and Lost, where she loses interest in the good guy because the bad boy is sexier.
I don't think it is a coincidence that 60% of women in my generation who are in relationships have a second guy in her inbox just in case, and cheating on the good guy with the bad boy is the social norm.
As someone from the Twilight generation, I strongly disagree with your percentage. Because 60% of women in your generation haven't watched Twilighy. Account for the other continents and how many women are in one generation.
Twilight honestly should have been included. I remember being a pre teen and girls were OBCESSED with that movie. I know its become sort of a joke now but for the young girls of the time, they took it very seriously
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This is such a beautiful piece. God bless you for enlightening many.
Good Topic, Reece! This video is stepping outside of the box and it's refreshing! Thank you!
Thanks Kyla. Always great to see you here.
Soap operas did a number on women and on the culture too.
They sure did!
Excellent point
Good commentary and advice. We all need God’s Word
I was expecting a lot of conservative nonsense about male-female relationships, so I was shocked that I actually agreed with this woman's assessment of the flaws in these movies, and that she actually stood up for a woman's right not to be abused, trapped, or taken for granted. I also appreciated that she said that God wants you to stop romanticizing these movies--not to stop watching them.
Now I have a challenge. Ma'am, can you think of five mainstream or independent movies that come closer to what you believe is God's view of a healthy male-female romantic relationship? The relationship doesn't have to be perfect, but healthier than not, in your opinion. Can you do this, please?
Melanie Lee - It's a Christian movie (not so much "mainstream"), but I would recommend "Fireproof (2008)". The acting can be a bit cheesy at times, but the message - and the ultimate conclusion - is spot on for how God wants us to love our spouse.
Also, check out "The Song (2014)". It's a bit more gritty, as it deals with some real temptation issues and gets pretty grounded with its content.
@@robertfleischmann4119 Thank you for your recommendations. I don't promise to watch them, but perhaps I will, and I'm fairly sure that others will, too.
WOW! This is a great lesson! I wish you were my mom - now I'm 72 and still learning with JESUS' help! Thank you, Kris!❤Be richly blessed! 🌹🌹🌹
Wowww what an eye opener, especially Beauty and the Beast. Well done Ms Reece.👍blessings
Thanks for watching
THANK you for saying this! As a Jr. High Philosophy teacher an ESL Teacher of 13 through college- age classes, I was once so shocked after seeing one of these movies - that I had gone to see on a date with my husband (ruined the date, of course) in order to understand what my kids were being exposed to. So thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you so much! I thought I was the only one who noticed the codependency in Grease, and the unrealistic story of The Notebook, which in real life, would've turned into divorce. Because men who act like that in real life often turn out to be abusive.
My ex wife broke up our relationship. She said I love you, but not in love with you. I thought I was in a movie set for a second. I truly did not know what this woman wants.
Thanks for posting this. It really bothered me that people hype the Notebook. Rachel McAdams’ character unapologetically cheated on a good man for the sake of so-called love and the story deems it a happily ever after.
Well sometimes better sex is actually important. Way it is sometimes. Her fiance probably sucked in bed.
Thank you! I'm going to watch or re-watch these so I can know what the red flags are that I've missed so far in life 🙏
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This was sooo good. Thank you Minister Kris!
No idea why this video was recommended, but I loved it!
Cheers from Brazil!
I do think that men and women complement each other. Men and women are similar but very different, both created in God's image. I think when the two very different come together in a healthy relationship is when they are most like a fuller image of God our Creator!