7 Stages of a Long Distance Relationship

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  4 года назад +1301

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    • @darklover158
      @darklover158 4 года назад +2

      ^_^❣️

    • @habibaamir2450
      @habibaamir2450 4 года назад +3

      Can you make a ved on maladaptive daydreaming most people don't think it as serious or know it at all

    • @darklover158
      @darklover158 4 года назад +2

      @@habibaamir2450 Please, please, and we need translation.. ♥️Thank you very very much

    • @calimaasalt1590
      @calimaasalt1590 4 года назад +1

      i know this isn't the best video to say this but you have help me and my friends through depression and bad friends thanks so much

    • @GreyKlouds
      @GreyKlouds 4 года назад +2

      Just reading this comment make me laugh a little. xD

  • @DontBemadAtMePls
    @DontBemadAtMePls 4 года назад +4536

    Who else is in a long distance relationship just miss her or him so much and watches this video ?

    • @jesscompton9903
      @jesscompton9903 3 года назад +19

      Not me bc my partner is non binary lmao

    • @joshm4179
      @joshm4179 3 года назад +46

      @@jesscompton9903 you are sad

    • @jesscompton9903
      @jesscompton9903 3 года назад +8

      @@joshm4179 i-
      How??

    • @j_wolf_0277
      @j_wolf_0277 3 года назад +36

      6 months apart, her phone's been off or WhatsApp not working for 3 weeks, I'm worried incase something is wrong, but most of all, I just want to be able to hold her, physically I mean 😥

    • @DontBemadAtMePls
      @DontBemadAtMePls 3 года назад +5

      @@j_wolf_0277 I feel u dude I feel u so fckn much, don’t u tried to hit up some of her friends ?

  • @rinabobina8453
    @rinabobina8453 4 года назад +6362

    To give someone some hope: My husband and i started out long distance and next May will be 10 years since we been together.🥰🥰🥰

    • @emu7782
      @emu7782 4 года назад +63

      I just feel like he gave up already, before i even dreamt of doing that..

    • @Dramulus
      @Dramulus 4 года назад +216

      Me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for going on 4 months and we've been through all these stages but we keep choosing each other over and over again like the video said. Its tough but we both are working towards living together in the future at some point. We both fell in love without ever seeing each other in person which most people probably think is impossible but I'm here to tell you its not and it can work if both people are committed 100% 100% of the time
      Update:
      It’ll be 6months on Dec. 13th and still going strong. Still haven’t met in person due to COVID but we’re planning on buying her a plane ticket cause she’s from Canada and they’re allowed to fly to the US and then we’ll move in an apartment together by Jan 2021 ... We’ve talked about marriage and kids and the whole nine. We’re very much still in love and wanting to be together. Still talk everyday/night and still have an argument about something stupid every now and then 😂

    • @colorfulkitty3646
      @colorfulkitty3646 4 года назад +32

      I can´t wait till i marry mines

    • @cynicaltoast69
      @cynicaltoast69 4 года назад +5

      Needed this

    • @kimifw58
      @kimifw58 4 года назад +1

      Are you still long-distance?

  • @maxroonie
    @maxroonie 4 года назад +8022

    Don’t lose hope me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years we finally met this year.. it was the best.

    • @noodlezwish6968
      @noodlezwish6968 3 года назад +140

      @Max Roonie how were you able to keep the relationship strong

    • @noodlezwish6968
      @noodlezwish6968 3 года назад +81

      And how far apart were you

    • @maxroonie
      @maxroonie 3 года назад +375

      @@noodlezwish6968 Japan to Texas, and we had a schedule to follow

    • @MusicalJourney__
      @MusicalJourney__ 3 года назад +210

      congrats. We are almost 9 months already

    • @maxroonie
      @maxroonie 3 года назад +72

      @@MusicalJourney__ just know we are all supporting you! No matter what.

  • @aranzarc6895
    @aranzarc6895 11 месяцев назад +25

    I met him at work. He was on “vacations” in my city, but he lived in another city. We started dating, and just clicked, we knew he had to go back to his town, but we didn’t care, we decided to keep messaging and talking in the phone, because he told me he’d get back. I’ve just seen him once, last year. Right now we are choosing each other everyday, wishing one day we see each other again.

  • @Raja-bz4yw
    @Raja-bz4yw 4 года назад +3649

    I'm currently in a long distance relationship...i love him a lot. :) He's a great guy and I hope we stay together for a long time.

    • @Thatprettygirl_01
      @Thatprettygirl_01 4 года назад +8

      😇🙌👏🙏💙

    • @bobbyahmad5197
      @bobbyahmad5197 4 года назад +24

      Same with my girl

    • @deepikachandra7857
      @deepikachandra7857 4 года назад +35

      i wish the best for you! ♥︎

    • @tiredstudent4547
      @tiredstudent4547 4 года назад +125

      @Nikolai bruh, you dont say that. My bf and I have been together for over a year and no cheating on either side. We met online too.

    • @thejollydiaries444
      @thejollydiaries444 4 года назад +86

      @Nikolai Hey, not all cheat. Don't generalize it.

  • @allysondelaguila9010
    @allysondelaguila9010 3 года назад +4647

    Long distance is even harder when you have no friends 😞 All I want is a hug from my bf 🥺

    • @trial6186
      @trial6186 3 года назад +88

      Me too😭...Long distance relationship will be a bit better if friends are there to help you. I really hate my friends for this...PS: I don't have friends too :-( ....
      I'm waiting and hoping for that day when I become an independent and drive my own car to my bf's🥰

    • @allysondelaguila9010
      @allysondelaguila9010 3 года назад +46

      @@trial6186 people can be really shady I’d rather have none than any at all.

    • @trial6186
      @trial6186 3 года назад +17

      @@allysondelaguila9010 yeah... that's why I'm better off alone than staying with those who gives me mentally ill 🥺🥺

    • @chanezk3214
      @chanezk3214 3 года назад +5

      Same here :(

    • @kaoshiyuki
      @kaoshiyuki 3 года назад +1

      Same..

  • @ally6233
    @ally6233 2 года назад +5866

    If you’re feeling doubtful, here are some pros of LDR:
    1. You learn to really cherish moments together because they are rare - every time you see each other feels like a vacation
    2. You get to focus on yourself and build up your life knowing you have their support whereas it can be easy to get lost in a traditional relationship and lose sight of your life separate from theirs
    3. You learn to communicate really well because sometimes communication is all you have when you’re apart

    • @readyforachallenge9042
      @readyforachallenge9042 2 года назад +1

      you should *** now

    • @vakorako
      @vakorako 2 года назад +15

      Damn thank you

    • @kirstinweber3250
      @kirstinweber3250 2 года назад +60

      This is actually super true. My bf and I go to different colleges so we’re pretty far apart. Anytime I get to see him I will not leave his sides and there’s always so much to catch up on, and I’ve built up my joke repertoire so I can make him laugh. Communication was really important for us, we used to call everyday, and now we do date nights once a week (virtually). I had really bad jealousy problems when I was with really bad roomies that were bullying me and he and his friends kept posting pictures of them having fun. Yet once I actually focused on myself and stayed busy and got a life? I felt a lot happier. We support each other in everything and it really is rewarding. But at least we both move back home in the summer so I can annoy him in person :)

    • @zadock6370
      @zadock6370 2 года назад +5

      Me: you fool, communication is everything to me with EVERYONE

    • @kirstinweber3250
      @kirstinweber3250 2 года назад +1

      @@manostsompanakis422 ?? I don’t see it?

  • @Abhishek-vz6ud
    @Abhishek-vz6ud Год назад +491

    Funny how i overcame my long distance realtionship challenges. We were about to breakup. Both of us held grudges. But then i accidently found this couple quiz game. I think its called lovify. Its a 2 round game, first you answer then your partner has to guess. Got to know my partner well. Maybe sometimes we are just finding reasons to break it and not to save it. All LDR couples, trust me when you finally get to meet, Its gonna be awesome :)

    • @JuBeoN
      @JuBeoN 5 месяцев назад +4

      Meeting mine for the first time in a month!

    • @death_knell
      @death_knell 4 месяца назад +1

      @@JuBeoNTHAT IS SO EXCITING!!! Please update us on how it goes!!!

  • @evelyneazalia5134
    @evelyneazalia5134 4 года назад +13879

    This video hits different when you're actually facing this right now.
    Update:
    Hey everyone, first of all, I would thank you so much for all the support you gave towards me and each other in the comments. I was hesitant at first to give some updates about it, but I figured this would help you guys who had the same experience like me. After being in a LDR for almost two years, I finally had the chance to met him two months ago, until today. It wasn't easy for us to reach this point together, but we were quite happy that we finally beat the distance together.
    For you guys that are in a LDR right now, it might be hard and crazy, especially when it's full of uncertainty of when you guys will meet each other again. But believe me, you and your partner are both strong enough to do it. Distance might not be easy, but always know that distance is what makes us stronger and grow both as an individual and a partner.
    For you guys who didn't make it, I'm so sorry. It must've been hard to deal with all that especially in the middle of the pandemic itself. But know that there are wonderful things waiting for you ahead. You're strong enough to get over that and move on.
    That said, thank you so much for reading until this point, and I hope you guys have a wonderful day.

    • @makmak9777
      @makmak9777 4 года назад +103

      RIGHT😭😭

    • @makaelawillis863
      @makaelawillis863 4 года назад +167

      I totally agree especially in the craziness of life right now and the uncertainty of seeing each other any time soon. I was honestly crying by the end of it.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 года назад +174

      I see! Which stage are you in right now?

    • @kokomithedivinepriestess5341
      @kokomithedivinepriestess5341 4 года назад +36

      Yup especially during this pandemic..

    • @ImRafa100
      @ImRafa100 4 года назад +27

      yep definitely hit hard because the stages are so accurate :(

  • @kkimda5781
    @kkimda5781 4 года назад +20087

    If you're in long distance relationship, remember: PewDiePie and his wife were in LDR too, and now look at them

    • @greaterthings5652
      @greaterthings5652 4 года назад +929

      No one wants to be compared to pewdiepie and his wife..

    • @jazs2300
      @jazs2300 4 года назад +152

      dirty pricey lmaoo

    • @kkimda5781
      @kkimda5781 4 года назад +680

      @@greaterthings5652 well, i'm not saying about the people, I'm saying that they were so long together far away from each other. Now they're husband and wife living together and happy.

    • @syirox
      @syirox 4 года назад +112

      Not all of us will end up like that me and my girlfriend (bisexual btw) got break up because of my jealousy 👁👄👁👍🏻

    • @greaterthings5652
      @greaterthings5652 4 года назад +159

      @@syirox you should be watching videos on controling your emotions or how to better manage your jealousy. Haha. Its hard trust me i know. Especially when youre apart and they have many friends that you dont know.

  • @thefairydina
    @thefairydina 3 года назад +3964

    A long distance relationship is super hard to maintain, but if you do manage and ultimately find a way to live together, it’s the best test that any couple can go through. We started dating long distance with my boyfriend, it was hard for months, but when he finally could move to my country (France) we were SO IN LOVE and knowing each other SO MUCH for having spent countless hours on the phone talking… that nothing could break us apart. Now we’ve been happily living together for more than 3 years and I still love him more than I ever loved anybody, and feel loved the same way ❤️
    Sending force and courage to every couple going through that hard trial, believe me… it’s worth it ❤️
    Edit: 6 years together tomorrow, and counting ❤️ hold on to your special someone everyone!

    • @goddessenergy5050
      @goddessenergy5050 3 года назад +1

      *i pray for the universe grant your heart desire I know of a great man in USA🇺🇸 that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay. he just help me restore my relationship of 2 years back with law of attraction manifestation last week............*

    • @oar241
      @oar241 2 года назад +33

      Thanks so much for the story!
      I am going through the same situation right now, it almost seems like the world is against our relationship. But I know everything will work out, even until the next year I see her:)

    • @sandern69
      @sandern69 2 года назад +6

      the whole idea and story wre amazing, i hope your relationship lasts and grows even stronger if possible and i wish you guys the best of luck!

    • @hayatkaidi7889
      @hayatkaidi7889 2 года назад +5

      Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Hope same thing will happen to me too. Can't wait to meet him💔 we re 6 months apart now, but I believe in this relationship and am patient ♥️

    • @biancagavilan8816
      @biancagavilan8816 2 года назад +5

      u can bear it girl! Hope your LDR works well! and u and your bf can be together soon! I'm in an LDR too and this looks awful 😪 but I'm still having faith that he and I can face the problems that this type of relationship has 🤞🏼 best of luck! 🙌🏼

  • @zara_went_aesthetic1612
    @zara_went_aesthetic1612 Год назад +664

    Me and my boyfriend met online about almost 2 years ago. We lived on different continents so we never thought dating was an option. We were like best friends and talked all day.
    A year later we decided we want to be together despite the distance. Although it’s been hard, we made it work. I think it was a good thing because we fell in love with each other before we even entered a physical relationship.
    I moved to the same continent 3 months later for college. We were still in different countries but same time zone and it wasn’t as far.
    It’s been almost a year of us dating. Next month he’s flying here to meet me for the first time.
    If you really want it, great things can happen :))

    • @mounahaddouch1401
      @mounahaddouch1401 Год назад +9

      Did you meet? How was it?

    • @callmeOdhisee
      @callmeOdhisee Год назад +2

      What an intercontinental love😍

    • @zara_went_aesthetic1612
      @zara_went_aesthetic1612 Год назад +68

      @@mounahaddouch1401 we did!!!! He is still here he’s leaving tomorrow :((( but it’s been like a fairy tale. I got sick in the last few days and he took such great care of me. He’s perfect 🤍🤍🤍

    • @joannawyand2703
      @joannawyand2703 Год назад +11

      Girl this me I met my boyfriend online to him in West Virginia me in New Hampshire in the US he and I have been together for about 2 and half years he has come up to where I live about 4 times 5 times in June he's coming again for my birthday he has never wanted me to come down to visit him cus where he lives it's not the safest place and he doesn't want me to get hurt but hopefully soon he will be able to move to where I live soon

    • @zara_went_aesthetic1612
      @zara_went_aesthetic1612 Год назад +10

      @@joannawyand2703 omg this is so cute I'm so happy for you guys!! We still haven't figured out our living situation, I'm still in college and I can't move to the US because I don't have citizenship. Sometimes it stresses me out lmao but we will figure it out.

  • @maddicatxo
    @maddicatxo 3 года назад +2671

    Did long distance for 19 months and it was never easy. If you have enough love for that person and strong will you can make it through. We constantly were reminding each other that the distance was temporary and we would be together soon. We ended up marrying each other and now almost two years later we’re happily spending our lives together. To all those out there with long distance relationships, stay strong and focus on the finish line❤️

    • @Reditter01
      @Reditter01 2 года назад +21

      Awwww you guys are married so happy to hear that

    • @amann3161
      @amann3161 2 года назад +12

      Wow this is beautiful me and my girlfriend are not giving up on each other we’ll be meeting up in November can’t wait to see her

    • @LaDiiNaya90
      @LaDiiNaya90 2 года назад +4

      Hey, thank your for this! I needed to read this right now. 💙 So happy for you!

    • @_RAINBOW_
      @_RAINBOW_ 2 года назад +3

      Not all long distance stories have a happy ending ☺️

    • @JinoFrance
      @JinoFrance 2 года назад +5

      We have been together my gf in 8yrs and now shes in germany its really really hard. But were in love each other. Were facing a hard ldr right now. But i know this is all temporary. We will be together soon.

  • @benazirsultana2612
    @benazirsultana2612 3 года назад +1194

    "There they are going out with friends when can't even eat properly because you miss them so much" that really hits different 😭

    • @giffarmasabih8108
      @giffarmasabih8108 3 года назад +7

      Okay i wanna hit likes button a thousand times actually but i cant. Just like the possibility of meeting up soon. Its nonexistent.

    • @subutainoyan9138
      @subutainoyan9138 2 года назад +2

      for real

    • @catalinaoncza3061
      @catalinaoncza3061 2 года назад

      I felt that part so hard 🥺🥺🥺

    • @pladimir_vutin
      @pladimir_vutin 2 года назад +3

      so many emotional peole here!
      what's wrong with them going out with friends or so?

    • @sadiesstuff4270
      @sadiesstuff4270 4 месяца назад

      ​@@pladimir_vutinI agree in a way. But, while there's nothing wrong with them going out with friends, it's just an internal and illogical feeling

  • @jamilylaipoon1101
    @jamilylaipoon1101 4 года назад +592

    Im in a LDR and the most heartbreaking part is the parting. I'm so tired of being separated with him everytime. It sucks but after LDR you'll be the toughest couple ever❤️

    • @swayamlute2372
      @swayamlute2372 3 года назад +14

      Parting is seriously painful ik how it feels parting everytime

    • @Floatingpooper
      @Floatingpooper 3 года назад

      Felt that

    • @dizzybruuh6924
      @dizzybruuh6924 3 года назад +1

      I had to part from my s/o today, and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It was our first time meeting after 9 months, but most certainly not the last 😁.

    • @johnbollinger277
      @johnbollinger277 3 года назад

      I had to access my partner's device including video calls & the rest because she was acting suspicious now I've got full proof of everything thanks for keeping to the non-disclosure agreement cyberlogics_ on IG

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      Doubt is the hardest part of all -- you always keep wondering how they feel about you!

  • @radwa1879
    @radwa1879 2 года назад +250

    I'm in a long distance relationship with the man of my dreams. At first it was extremely difficult for both of us because we didn't really know how to communicate well to each other but we figured it out. We always spoke on the phone whenever we had free time, tell each other about our days, talk about any doubts we had and reassured each other. Another thing that surprisingly helped was getting each other small gifts so the other person knows you're thinking of them or even sending letters! We would also visit each other once or twice a year if we could. Now we're both getting married and I feel like our relationship couldn't be stronger. Long distance relationships teach you to be vulnerable with each other and give that extra attention

  • @hoikatia
    @hoikatia 3 года назад +1192

    who else here gets triggered when your friends say, "actually you've been PHYSICALLY TOGETHER xxx many days" ... dude. we are together, talking, laughing, debating, learning about each other, every day, for hours. are you even doing the same with your partner whose "physically" there? love and support can be felt though thousands of miles. reaching inner peace and confidence in your partner and your relationship, feeling that validation, and choosing each other over and over again even though its "inconvenient". every. day. counts.

    • @elza6195
      @elza6195 3 года назад +9

      ive been struggling to realize this, your comment helped out a lot

    • @Night_Owl
      @Night_Owl 3 года назад +39

      I've had friends tell me my long distance relationship is not a real relationship since we're not physically together and it's so stupid of them to say that. So I completely agree with what you said. Just overall spending time together learning about each other and sharing moments together even if it isn't in person is something you and your significant other can cherish together each day.

    • @emmaline2375
      @emmaline2375 3 года назад +7

      if one of my friends ever said this to me, im not sure i would consider them a good friend

    • @CaneLiberoo
      @CaneLiberoo 3 года назад +2

      oh my god i hate those friends, they are just jealous....

    • @illseedez
      @illseedez 3 года назад

      Oh YEAH TALK TO EM

  • @katherinep708
    @katherinep708 3 года назад +647

    it's different when you STARTED long distance from the beginning vs being close distance and then go on long distance. the odds of failing are higher in the latter.

    • @BoyReporterTV
      @BoyReporterTV 3 года назад +2

      damn

    • @mikmikslg
      @mikmikslg 3 года назад +5

      True

    • @lilylol1515
      @lilylol1515 3 года назад +17

      me and my boyfriend have started out in long distance and we've only met up once so far and we've been together for a year and our relationship isn't healthy at all right now and we're both scared that we won't be able to do this but we can't lose hope because i know that once we both turn 18 then we will be so happy together:)

    • @isa-sn3ng
      @isa-sn3ng 3 года назад +1

      @@lilylol1515 awe, i’m so sorry honestly, but you guys will get through this! you can do it!! i’m wishing you both the very best

    • @chrisnotpratt1903
      @chrisnotpratt1903 3 года назад +7

      I'm currently in one and honestly, this is not something I wanted to hear.

  • @selfhelpchampion9664
    @selfhelpchampion9664 4 года назад +2320

    "If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love". Bernard Byer🙏❤️selfhelpchampion

    • @aoisora9003
      @aoisora9003 4 года назад

      Sadly

    • @flexiveganc7441
      @flexiveganc7441 4 года назад +8

      I see that now different. Love can be for short Times. Then we Both have another padh, we keep the love in our hart, we take it with but respect that we Both have to walk out own way.

    • @AdnamaBriefs
      @AdnamaBriefs 4 года назад +9

      While this can be very true, sometimes relationships (especially ldrs) can last for way longer than they need to. Just because you last for years does not mean it is set in stone. As a relationship can go very well, but last a very short amount of time for long distance reasons it is always up to the people to 1. decide which path to take, though that doesn't mean they "failed the test of love". It's just important to communicate no matter how long or short the distance and no matter how long or short the relationship.

    • @colewilder7353
      @colewilder7353 4 года назад +4

      Thing is love we share with humans is fake. Unless its your kid pifft.
      Love is just a chemical reaction. That typically lasts about 6 to 12 years varys P2P which is roughly the time it takes to raise a child.
      OTOH True love imo is that you show your dog.
      I care about my dogs far more then any of my relatives.
      And while i love my gal id have to pick my dog if it came down to it.
      Dogs dont cheat yo. Unless its for dem snacks

    • @littlefishbigmountain
      @littlefishbigmountain 4 года назад +15

      @@colewilder7353
      If you genuinely think love is merely a chemical reaction, I feel bad for you. And your girlfriend for that matter

  • @daniellasanchez7521
    @daniellasanchez7521 3 месяца назад +181

    The efficiency of this almond cybergenius is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To help gain phone access like this is really something. Awesome work!!

    • @alygomes5023
      @alygomes5023 3 месяца назад +1

      this same almod's guy gain me direct access into my partner's phone remotely

    • @vivianbarbara525
      @vivianbarbara525 3 месяца назад +2

      He gave me whatsap and geo location access of my partner remotely, he's a genius

    • @JoanieAllred
      @JoanieAllred 3 месяца назад +1

      they helped me in LDR too remotely acces my cheating spouse phon

    • @vivianbarbara525
      @vivianbarbara525 3 месяца назад

      hes legit

    • @luhgarlicbread
      @luhgarlicbread 3 месяца назад

      wut

  • @PlanetPsych
    @PlanetPsych 4 года назад +1131

    💖.........................💖
    "Distance is just a test of how far love can travel"

  • @pierrotcvb2
    @pierrotcvb2 4 года назад +212

    Been with my boyfriend for over 8 years in a long distance relationship. We never lose hope we can meet someday face-to-face, but we love each other, we devote time and resources, use photos, webcams, videocalls and most importantly, we keep everything realistic and honest. That's how we survive.

    • @Conorize
      @Conorize 3 года назад +20

      Eight years? That's incredible, keep it up!

    • @Yzygraph
      @Yzygraph 3 года назад +1

      Cg 👌

    • @gideone9802
      @gideone9802 3 года назад +5

      GODDAMN, thats brave

    • @SofiaMedina-ci5fp
      @SofiaMedina-ci5fp 3 года назад +4

      Wowww i hope you can meet in person one day, please please let me know when you do, i want to congratulate you 💖

    • @positivity8924
      @positivity8924 3 года назад

      I can feel that..
      Here completing 5 years..
      Nd it hurt sometimes

  • @talhyia2990
    @talhyia2990 3 года назад +3271

    It’s 4AM, im on a call with my LDR girlfriend and she’s asleep we’ve been together for 3 years almost 4 in December and I love her so much. I get to see her next year and I’m not giving up! She’s the loml and I won’t let others tell me otherwise. I love you Ari ☹️💗
    Edit: We broke up 💀
    Yes I know a very unfortunate turn of events. She’s still my best friend. 4 years was a long time and I’m still healing but I’m getting better now. We don’t talk anymore sadly and I miss her but I think it was for the best. I did love her very much and I still do. I wasn’t the best girlfriend but I made sure I loved, cared for her and protected her in the best way I could. For the others out there in long distance relationships, don’t give up and don’t let others tell you that it isn’t real love. It is real love and it’s a special kind of love. And I’m proud of you for sticking through it together🤍

    • @gloriang5026
      @gloriang5026 3 года назад +78

      I hope everything works out for you too😊

    • @itssvo1042
      @itssvo1042 3 года назад +35

      God bless both of you ❤️

    • @kyysteinbrecher4855
      @kyysteinbrecher4855 3 года назад +6

      how’s it going

    • @FMKAnimation
      @FMKAnimation 3 года назад +16

      Oh my God 😭😭❤️

    • @yingphokonyak4349
      @yingphokonyak4349 3 года назад +42

      We have been together for 3 years too and we see eachother once a year. But now she is going further away for her studies and will have to wait another 3 years to see her. I miss her so much.

  • @jasonprechtl8182
    @jasonprechtl8182 2 года назад +269

    Me and my current girl have known each other for going on 9 years now. For 8 of them we had not EVEN seen each other in person. After going through my share of relationships I had tried LD relationship before but nothing has compared to this!! That feeling of being in person, weather its different cities, different states (my case) or even different Countries!! Seeing your beautiful and loving significant other is one of the best feelings I have ever experienced. After all the time of listening to her voice and imagining how'd it feel to hold her in my arms I finally got the chance. That bus ride to her took FOREVER!!
    Now though, 9 years in the making, we will be finally be residents of the same state! (may sound corny but so what ;)). No more of "how is the weather there?" "I wish you were here..." or "you should have seen what happened!!" To all who took this approach to love I salute you because just as I've experienced, when you are truly in love distance is just a state of mind.

    • @zoomy7488
      @zoomy7488 2 года назад +1

      Update?

    • @jasonprechtl8182
      @jasonprechtl8182 2 года назад +19

      @@zoomy7488 I just got myself a new job nearby where she lives and my parents going to be giving me a ride up to meet her (their first time) in person!! It is so nerve wrecking but, as I will be on the 18th (move out/move in date) I am soo utterly excited for what is to come.

    • @zoomy7488
      @zoomy7488 2 года назад +5

      @@jasonprechtl8182 that’s amazing to hear dude! I’m proud of you.

    • @quirogatnonerrat3214
      @quirogatnonerrat3214 2 года назад +5

      May God bless you both and watch over you love birds 🥰🥰❤️❤️

    • @Nola5427
      @Nola5427 2 года назад +2

      Actually that sounds sweet and romantic .

  • @abigailwiggins1779
    @abigailwiggins1779 4 года назад +164

    Success story to give someone out there hope:
    I met my now husband online, I lived in Missouri, he in New Mexico. We flew back and forth for small visits here and there, we dated LD for a year and were engaged LD for another year before getting married and me moving to New Mexico. We've now been back in Missouri for over a year. We've been married for over 3 years now ❤

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 года назад +18

      Thank you so much for your success story! I'm sure it would be really inspiring for those who are in an LDR right now! What other advice would you give to those who are still far away from their partner?

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html

    • @pladimir_vutin
      @pladimir_vutin 2 года назад

      plot twist:
      she's married to Walter White without realizing it

  • @loubidou_1586
    @loubidou_1586 3 года назад +584

    I felt so relieved that jealousy is totally normal and common in this type of relationship because I face it a lot. And it’s this kind of jealousy where you aren’t jealous of the other gender but the life the other person is living, that he’s having fun with other people and they have so much time with him. And I felt really bad because I thought I need to be happy that he’s happy but it’s just so difficult when you’re not having as much fun :/

    • @yourlittlemeowreen58
      @yourlittlemeowreen58 3 года назад +44

      i feel you! my bf has a lot of friends and i just feel really lonely sometimes

    • @vi.2838
      @vi.2838 3 года назад +33

      Dw, you’re not alone..My bf just got his first ever job 3 months ago and he’s made a bunch of new friends at work and ngl I feel the same way, cause he spends hours with these ppl every day, but I have no one else besides him and it makes me sad that they get to see him every day, but I don’t..And I just feel super alone when he’s gone for hours. :(

    • @alectakaewa9364
      @alectakaewa9364 3 года назад +9

      @@vi.2838 İ feel you. Can't stop feeling that he'll meet someone new and will be over me 😔

    • @vi.2838
      @vi.2838 2 года назад +3

      @@alectakaewa9364 I know the feeling, but I’m sure he loves you a lot and won’t leave you. Stay strong !

    • @darkmoon259
      @darkmoon259 2 года назад +5

      Me too i just hated the fact that his classmates are able to chat and play and have fun with him while i cant... i thought its my fault too being too jealous... until i saw this vid

  • @THANATOS-PRIME
    @THANATOS-PRIME 4 года назад +407

    The fact this channel always happens to post a topic I need to hear or whenever I need reassurance on something is nothing short of incredible!

    • @oscarthomas1682
      @oscarthomas1682 4 года назад +3

      so true it’s actually crazy

    • @nanalyo3696
      @nanalyo3696 4 года назад +3

      Me too, it seems like they guess what I'm going through! Lol

    • @just-A.randomdude
      @just-A.randomdude 4 года назад +1

      Yea... it's been happening over a year for me now...it's kinda creepy but it's cool at the same time

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 года назад +2

      We hope this video has helped you in some way :) Are you in a long-distance relationship right now?

    • @aaryakilledar538
      @aaryakilledar538 4 года назад

      Yesssss

  • @African_Yoga_Girl
    @African_Yoga_Girl Год назад +157

    Currently in a LDR! I never thought it was going to be so hard. Because we both supported each other emotionally and physically. I have felt all of these stages and I can say it’s worth it when the two of you stay committed to each other regardless of the distance.
    To those of you starting out on this journey, don’t let the break up rates and statistics discourage you. Communicate with your partner, trust them and you stay committed on your part. Spice up your relationship too, dates night, movies or even read something etc., it’ll make your bond stronger and make you fall in love all over again! Sending you all my love!!!❤❤❤❤❤

    • @applepeel1662
      @applepeel1662 Год назад +4

      Hope you're still together

    • @African_Yoga_Girl
      @African_Yoga_Girl Год назад +4

      @@applepeel1662 yes we are! He surprised me this summer by traveling home to see me and his family! This summer was so much fun because of this trip! And I’m so excited we are closing the distance next year 🤭

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      And if visiting is NOT possible?

  • @macaronncheese
    @macaronncheese 4 года назад +979

    1. 0:52 Decision (the decision to try to make Long-Distance work)
    2. 1:37 Parting (time together before Long-Distance)
    3. 2:02 Transition (Start of Long-Distance)
    4. 2:33 Realization (Adjusting to life without partner nearby)
    5. 3:12 Jealousy (Jealous of people spending time with partner)
    6. 3:55 Doubt (Doubts about relationship)
    7. 4:21 Validation (Used to and accepting of Long-Distance)
    Good luck fellow Long-Distance Relationship gang! :D

    • @Kurupt26
      @Kurupt26 4 года назад +20

      This was posted half a minute ago how do you have the timestamps

    • @harshpatel5100
      @harshpatel5100 4 года назад +16

      This comment shows "2months ago".... Time travel!

    • @riventheexile667
      @riventheexile667 4 года назад +2

      @@harshpatel5100 Lol this person hit time distance relations

    • @priyansudasgupta7148
      @priyansudasgupta7148 3 года назад

      Thank you :’)

    • @michelleamog242
      @michelleamog242 3 года назад

      Was looking for this. Thanks very much. :)

  • @lauravaldez3282
    @lauravaldez3282 4 года назад +711

    7 stages of a long distance relationship:
    1. Desicion.
    2. Parting.
    3. Transition.
    4. Realization.
    5. Jealousy.
    6. Doubt.
    7. Validation.

    • @sephorapatricia4832
      @sephorapatricia4832 3 года назад +4

      Yeah 😭 I miss my bff so much

    • @lauravaldez3282
      @lauravaldez3282 3 года назад

      @@sephorapatricia4832 Where is him Sephora?

    • @sephorapatricia4832
      @sephorapatricia4832 3 года назад +1

      @@lauravaldez3282 Pardon?

    • @lauravaldez3282
      @lauravaldez3282 3 года назад

      @@sephorapatricia4832 I mean, where is your boyfriend?

    • @andreeazaharia717
      @andreeazaharia717 3 года назад +1

      Me and my bf skip 6, we are in a ldr for almost 6 mouth now. The comunication is key

  • @gracelambrecht
    @gracelambrecht 4 года назад +2993

    What if your relationship started long distance...

    • @phoenixc7245
      @phoenixc7245 4 года назад +534

      My relationship started long distance too

    • @inah.j.743
      @inah.j.743 4 года назад +233

      Mine did too

    • @kkimda5781
      @kkimda5781 4 года назад +138

      Same

    • @tnvg6526
      @tnvg6526 4 года назад +113

      Same

    • @missmimington9606
      @missmimington9606 4 года назад +397

      Me too...! Been with him for over a year so just maybe it’s not ALL doom and gloom... If we started off long distance, things will only be better when we meet, right?

  • @lilbubbletea5293
    @lilbubbletea5293 2 года назад +451

    I recently found myself in a long distance relationship. In a way, this video was comforting to see that what I am feeling can be felt by many others in LD relationships. My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months now and we have definitely went through our ups and downs. We met in person last month and it was honestly the best two days I could have asked for. But as an overthinker, I tend to get in my head when something feels off or when we get into small arguments. I am afraid i developed codependency being in our relationship and it makes me scared. I just wish I could stop overthinking and feeling this pain in my chest :( This is my first relationship and everything feels so new and overwhelming sometimes.

    • @lifewithyana2924
      @lifewithyana2924 2 года назад +35

      omg i'm in my first real relationship too and it is long distance! you explained everything i'm feeling, but me and him haven't met yet. we've been talking for 6 months now and its crazy how time flies by but sometimes i get really overwhelemed just in general because he's kinda far away and just the pressure of it all, wanting things to be perfect, idk.. but i hope your relationship goes well ! it's not easy but glad i can relate to someone.

    • @therealjdixx4732
      @therealjdixx4732 2 года назад +12

      Omg I total understand I feel the same way sometimes and the constant arguments is just too much. Because all we av the phone to keep the relationship together omg this is so hard sometimes I feel like giving up.

    • @srushtishelar6826
      @srushtishelar6826 2 года назад +28

      Hey there,
      Your fears and insecurities are very normal and honestly very relatable too.
      This is my first relationship too and that is a long distance.
      I faced the same issues, fear of codependency, losing him and us.. It's a scary feeling. That person is your home, and suddenly it's not.
      That feeling is terrible indeed, especially in LDR! Where you are living your parallel lives in different time zones. Jealousy, insecurity, uncertainty is at peak
      People often ask me, is LDR tough?
      Well, of course it is!
      But the question here is..
      Is it worth it?
      Is it worth facing all those tough times?
      And if the answer comes soo obvious to you, then take that call and be responsible for it no matter how hard it's gonna get!
      Be there, consistently, patiently, face and tackle all the hurdles together, when the answer is yes, 'it's worth it!'
      Just hang in there buddy! Your love will find a way ❤

    • @XUlalaWiskerX
      @XUlalaWiskerX 2 года назад +14

      all of this is exactly the situation I’m currently in… overthinking all the little texts like what if he’s getting bored of me? it doesn’t help that he’s not a very expressive Texter, and we are both so busy with uni. but when we meet in person, it’s so so special and it just feels like it’s meant to be, so i just remind myself of that and count down to our next meeting

    • @jonnyblanka
      @jonnyblanka Год назад +3

      Touching to hear this.. 4 months later are you guys still doing well? 😌

  • @theswiftvet7107
    @theswiftvet7107 4 года назад +264

    I met my lover online during lockdown and he's the centre of my world

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html

    • @-ix-3152
      @-ix-3152 4 года назад +15

      This is really sweet, I'm starting to feel that I've found something similar too

    • @YungEPolo
      @YungEPolo 4 года назад +1

      Pog

    • @Parisxoxxo
      @Parisxoxxo 3 года назад +1

      I feel the same way

    • @theswiftvet7107
      @theswiftvet7107 3 года назад

      @@Parisxoxxo aww good x

  • @klaytonickinson
    @klaytonickinson 3 года назад +422

    From someone who's had close partners and long-distance partners, I must say that the most important part of any relationship is to find the right one. It sounds corny but once you have found someone who understands you easily, shares similar values etc, the long-distance factor shouldn't be a problem. good luck to all of you

    • @SupremeQUEEN668
      @SupremeQUEEN668 3 года назад +11

      I agree. Bcs my BF is long distance but I still cling to him and know we are gonna meet each other and live a life together full of happiness and joy cus he really makes me feel special and nobody else could do that.

  • @tylerpasotti8561
    @tylerpasotti8561 4 года назад +488

    After 6 months of distance relationship I'm finally moving close to my boyfriend and I'm so proud of us and excited about my new life coming 😍😭

    • @colewilder7353
      @colewilder7353 4 года назад +3

      Pifft i cant imagine dating someone ive only known u months let alone just met.
      I love the "friend zone"

    • @fdtyler
      @fdtyler 4 года назад +8

      6 months is a very short amount of time to know someone trust me

    • @tylerpasotti8561
      @tylerpasotti8561 4 года назад +2

      @@fdtyler thank you for your comment

    • @shannonliyanage
      @shannonliyanage 4 года назад +1

      Wishing you guys the best ♥️

    • @alieenoir
      @alieenoir 4 года назад +1

      so exciting

  • @abbielo3050
    @abbielo3050 2 года назад +34

    watching this while i just broke up with my ldr partner of 2 years. we spent 85% of our time together doing long distance. even though it didn’t work out, it’s a bittersweet memory and i will never regret starting this relationship. to those who’re trying to make it work, hang in there❤️

  • @TTMS-Khaz-kun
    @TTMS-Khaz-kun 4 года назад +230

    I've known my girlfriend for nearly 11 years and have been together for roughly 9 years ( with some breaks in between ). We started online and have met a total of 4 times, but with the 4th time, I had moved over to her side for half a year, however due to circumstances we're apart again, but on the bright side we're currently working to get a home for ourselves so we'll be able to be together proper and end the long wait once and for all! We're dead set and serious and we'll get our future together.
    LDR is definitely possible. Very, very difficult, but possible.
    Good luck and a wonderful day for you all!

    • @azazelc.9306
      @azazelc.9306 4 года назад +4

      Awww so cute you two! I know its gonna work out I aspire to have what you have. Personally me and my girlfriend have known each other for 10 years since we were childhood friends, unfortunately we moved states but because of my parents divorce my dad still lived there, for years after I moved I couldn't find her but then I remembered where her grandmothers house was and over the summers with a long distance friendship in between we started to catch up when this year I decided to move back to my hometown we shortly started dating after I announced it to her and we started long distance until I went for the summer as usual currently I am not in my hometown because I need to pack and carry stuff over to my fathers house so we are back at it in long distance but I return this weekend and i'm very excited

    • @emu7782
      @emu7782 4 года назад +7

      Its harder when the person u love is giving up and constantly thinks that the best option is to break up..

    • @TTMS-Khaz-kun
      @TTMS-Khaz-kun 4 года назад +1

      @@azazelc.9306 That's very nice to hear you'll be able to see each other again! Be sure to make the absolute most of your time together. Perhaps try and make an unforgetable memory or two or just something really nice! I wish you both the best of luck in your relationship!
      @Ema S. That does sound tough.. It's difficult for me to offer any specific advice as I don't know your situation :/ But do hang in there! They say something along the lines of "Relationships go through things. Real relationships get through things." or something like that. I don't remember exactly how it went.
      @Cassandra Asencio Do have hope! There's a happy ending ( or perhaps beginning is the better word ) waiting for everybody :)

    • @WelcomeeBackk
      @WelcomeeBackk 4 года назад

      did you guys have ups and downs? like have you guys broken up because of distance?

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html

  • @cathyborek5597
    @cathyborek5597 4 года назад +494

    This is about partners that started out as close distance. A lot meet on line these days. Some don't even live in the same country.

    • @DobermannDaze
      @DobermannDaze 4 года назад +20

      My current partner and I. I'm Canadian, he American. It's been hard to say the least.

    • @darrionanaya
      @darrionanaya 4 года назад +6

      My fiance lives in a different country than me I've known him since I was young he used to live in the USA but moved when he was in his teens

    • @darrionanaya
      @darrionanaya 4 года назад +4

      @@DobermannDaze it is hard really hard

    • @Dramulus
      @Dramulus 4 года назад +8

      @@DobermannDaze yeah its been hard for sure. I'm American my girlfriend is Canadian. The Canada borders are closed to the US so that makes it double challenging but we found out she can fly over here to California though so we're planning that trip soon. The US borders are not closed to Canada flights so you should be able to fly here and see him

    • @DobermannDaze
      @DobermannDaze 4 года назад

      @@Dramulus I did last July. The problem is the mandatory 2 week quarantine when I get back. I'm glad you'll get to see her soon. I don't know when I'll next be able to head to Utah ☹️

  • @chelseahalcomb5292
    @chelseahalcomb5292 4 года назад +80

    Currently in a long distance relationship and have been for 4 years we've been doing great don't let others tell you it won't work if it's meant to be you'll power through just fine 💕

    • @mariferoxas3773
      @mariferoxas3773 4 года назад

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    • @pladimir_vutin
      @pladimir_vutin 2 года назад

      any of u ever cheated ?

  • @shovel4prez492
    @shovel4prez492 2 года назад +89

    The line about jealousy hit hard, especially because a general routine is important to me and on the (albeit rare) occasion they spend a weekend or longer with friends, I get slammed with a mix of jealousy and anxiety, an end up realizing how important they are in my little routine, which always makes me feel awful because I haven’t had to deal with jealousy a lot.
    Nonetheless we’ve been properly in a relationship for 5 months and best friends for 3 1/2 years!

    • @huntermacknak3376
      @huntermacknak3376 Год назад

      You’ve almost described my same story best friends for almost 4 years and dating for just under a year ldr since September

    • @ebogar42
      @ebogar42 Год назад

      Then you obviously don't trust them and should end it if you get that jealous over hanging out with friends.

  • @kachowtime
    @kachowtime 3 года назад +82

    My parents had an 8 year long distance relationship in their 30s between Berlin and San Francisco. Eventually my mom moved to the US and they got married at 40 and had me at 43. They're in their mid 70s now and still married.
    This was in the 80s, without internet and with very expensive phone calls. They'd visit each other twice a year for a few weeks and otherwise send each other snail mail letters.
    It's definitely possible, stay in there whoever needs to read this!

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      And even you had it easy compared to John O'Reilly and his girlfriend -- back then, when you went away to sea as he did, there was NO way to keep in touch AT ALL unless you could (1) send a letter with another ship (only in port, which might only happen 2-3 times in a year, and the letter would take as long to get back to her as you did to get there), or (2) use a homing pigeon to deliver your message (only within a few hundred miles of your home port at most), or (3) send a message in a bottle (which could take YEARS to get there, and there was no guarantee of it getting there AT ALL)! And sea voyages back then could take YEARS -- during which time, as I already explained, both partners would be practically cut off from all contact with each other! And I also have to add that back then, sailing was a VERY dangerous line of work -- sailors died by the hundreds from accidents, from disease and sometimes from enemy action, when you went to sea there was NO guarantee that your sweetheart would EVER see you or hear from you again!

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      Here's that old song about John O'Reilly (which is probably one of the favorites of every person who's ever been in a long-distance relationship, at least in the English-speaking world): ruclips.net/video/1g9OHlKPOrE/видео.html (Personally, I hate Joan Baez's very guts, but I have to admit this is a beautiful song, whether or no!)

  • @status101-danielho6
    @status101-danielho6 4 года назад +262

    I entered a long distance relationship in a different manner. I was introduced to my hair stylist’s sister-in-law’s sister who was living overseas in Vietnam. This was in November. She didn’t have internet, so we wrote a few letters back and forth. I decided to visit her. This was in April.
    After I landed and met her for the first time at the airport on a Wednesday night, I had about 6 days to settle whether to marry her or not, who wants a long distance relationship to just drag on? I decided by Saturday morning, but told her on Sunday. No need to rush things.
    After the proposal, I flew back to Canada and mailed her a few thousand dollars to get the wedding preparations done. We were married in September, and she flew here in May of the following year once the immigration paperwork was processed.
    In hindsight, I might have naively rushed things. haha
    BTW, we’re still happily married 14 years later.

    • @blissreframed1681
      @blissreframed1681 4 года назад +9

      That is wonderful! I don't believe anything is too fast when there is real love there. I met my son's father 30 years ago at a Christmas party. I saw him across the room. My friend I was with went over to get him and brought him back to meet me. I told him that night that I knew we were going to get married one day and have children. He laughed. We danced and talked all night then we went to breakfast. The next day we went on a day and we were never again apart.

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html

    • @rualgajda7781
      @rualgajda7781 4 года назад +2

      my girl lives like 4 hours away it isn’t to long buts it’s inconvenient but she makes my day every minute of the day and changed my mood in a snap and we just connect any advice please 😊🥺

    • @imonlyfw1hp
      @imonlyfw1hp 3 года назад

      THAT'S A WIN, DANIEL

    • @prjdghyt
      @prjdghyt 3 года назад +1

      I love love stories like this that didn't take too long to decide. 😅

  • @ashar1780
    @ashar1780 3 года назад +197

    Long distance relationships definitely hurt when u went through so much with that person but then they leave u for somebody else saying "she lives few blocks away from me so bye"

    • @kaoshiyuki
      @kaoshiyuki 3 года назад +24

      Omg, that would be so cruel 😥

    • @shantellestone158
      @shantellestone158 3 года назад +5

      I felt this on a whole new personal level 😬

    • @cassie7162
      @cassie7162 3 года назад +3

      Just went through this today, and what do ya know! This video pops up in my feed 🥲

    • @kiraelizdeleon6643
      @kiraelizdeleon6643 3 года назад +1

      You know, my dad was like this. He said he had a long distance girlfriend, but then he met my mother and fell in love with her. The LD girlfriend broke up with him and never spoke again.
      I, do not want to be like my father in this sense. I'm going to prove to him and my bf that long distance relationships definitely works ❤️

    • @anuragsosa
      @anuragsosa 3 года назад

      Well I'm in a scenario something like that. I'm talking to a girl since last 3 months. We were friends but now she's in love with me and wants me to court her 😅. I'm (19) from India and she's (17) from Philippines.
      Now my mentality is that she's too far from me and we'll never be able to get together as we want. So i tried distancing myself from her for her sake because she'll suffer like this longing for me while we never meet. This made her get mad at me and she's now hurt on the fact that I'll leave her and get together with someone else. She feels heartbroken. What should I do in this scenario ? It's like the first time in something like this so idk much.

  • @Hikk1ii
    @Hikk1ii Год назад +65

    I met my girlfriend through the internet back last year. We dated for 6 weeks until she decided that she couldn't do this long distance relationship thing. We started dating again back in January and I can tell a lot of stories about it. But the thing that makes our relationship so special is how proud we can be of each other if we genuinely reach a point in the future where we can wake up next to each other every morning one day. I've already visited her twice. And I'm going again in October and she is coming over in December for christmas.
    If you, who is reading this right now, are in a long distance relationship, then always think of how proud you can be of yourselves for committing to such a thing that requires lots of determination.

  • @rachaelroux3247
    @rachaelroux3247 4 года назад +276

    This is just about relationships that became long distance. What about all of us in relationships that have been long distance from the start!

  • @elvanoir4790
    @elvanoir4790 3 года назад +1120

    I'm in a LDR between Germany and Japan for almost a year now. I was planning to go to Japan in summer but most likely the travel ban won't be lifted. T.T
    Here are some things I've learned:
    - trust is really important and you should open up to eachother, open up yourself first, if the other person is not someone who does it often
    - just tell about your worries and what bothers you without accusing eachother
    - staying positive is the most
    important thing
    - be there for eachother/support eachother, if its just a virtual hug before an exam :)
    - call frequently and create time for eachother, it still makes you feel close
    - it doesnt matter if you are talking or not, its also great to do nothing together while being on videocall or zoom, at least this way you feel kinda close
    - maybe you can watch series together, play video games, take videos for YT or just listen to music
    - just do something together you both enjoy, so that you can relax and take it easy :)
    - don't loose hope and keep trying to make plans to meet
    - talk about the dreams you have together
    One more thing when you start doubting: it helped me to see it as test for the relationship. If it doesn't work its also okay, then it was not supposed to be. But if you keep dreaming of a future together then its proof your relationship is strong and its worth doing your best to keep it.
    I hope this helps someone :) I wish everyone all the best!

    • @ArgentDeer
      @ArgentDeer 3 года назад +29

      I definitely needed to read this. I'm in a LDR between West Coast USA and Poland with my boyfriend. It's been difficult and there were times when the worst of my thoughts or friends tried to tell me that it wouldn't work out, but we've been alright so far. We both have lives and obligations outside of our messaging but we still try to make time for one another everyday or every time we can. Thank you for your advice. I hope the relationship between you and your partner will be prosperous and happy. :)

    • @Sharon-vs8go
      @Sharon-vs8go 3 года назад +7

      Thanks for this
      From me an indian and my gf Indonesian)
      Hope we all meet our loved ones

    • @anomyous1518
      @anomyous1518 3 года назад +17

      Im from Russia and I have long distance relationship with a girl from Philippines. We been friends since beginning 2020. We both are from diffrent cultures and have diffrent values in life. But I still like her and I cannot wait to meet her in real life. I feeling it is true love between us.

    • @Sharon-vs8go
      @Sharon-vs8go 3 года назад +1

      @@anomyous1518 don't worry, everything will be fine)

    • @vieeeeeeeeeeee
      @vieeeeeeeeeeee 3 года назад +6

      I'm a malaysian dating an austrian for half a year now. Everything seems uncertain but we're doing our best to make it work. Hoping to see him once the travel ban lifted.

  • @AggroBear
    @AggroBear 3 года назад +167

    LDR is rough, but knowing that my mom gets just as excited as me when he comes in town definitely makes things a little nicer < 3

  • @aryansamadi613
    @aryansamadi613 2 года назад +57

    It's not just one of the stages at a time. I can feel all those stages in even a single day. Sometimes I feel how much we are having is great, sometimes I doubt it, sometime I feel jealousy. It's kind of a mixture of all those feelings.

  • @cik.ninette
    @cik.ninette 4 года назад +282

    Im in LDR for 2 years and i experience all this stage. We met online and i never meet him..meybe next year (2021) i will meet him😊 i think i choose the right person. Never ever regret about our relaltionship❤ *edit We broke up in 2021: (reads reply to know why)

    • @justdistantone
      @justdistantone 4 года назад +9

      Good luck with that! Hope you both find happiness

    • @pritigupta8165
      @pritigupta8165 4 года назад +7

      That's exactly same with me.. Same pinch to u.. 😆
      I wish u good luck in your relationship and may u both always be together forever and find your successful life with each other.. 🤗

    • @Thatprettygirl_01
      @Thatprettygirl_01 4 года назад

      😇🙌👏🙏💙

    • @constanciachiwera3755
      @constanciachiwera3755 4 года назад

      My experience too
      Hope it works out

    • @chocobossxii9457
      @chocobossxii9457 4 года назад +33

      I can promise you that meeting up for the first time is one of the most knee shaking and nervous yet exciting moments ever. I still remember when I first met my fiancé who came all the way from UK (I live in South Africa so it's very far away) to see me, and boy was it one of the most anxious yet heartwarming experiences I ever had. Fun thing is, I feel that way every time we pick him up at the airport. I hope that you have it as fortunate as I was able to, and that you two will end up together physically in the long run, I know that's the goal I'm working towards 👍

  • @livingwikipedia1952
    @livingwikipedia1952 4 года назад +380

    Someone: "Cries because they can't see their partner once a week."
    Me: "Pathetic. "
    Now I am in my first ever relationship, and it is long distance. Here are some things that I have learned.
    1)It is important to manage your time at school or work, so that you can have enough time for them.
    2)Playing videogames together is amazing. I only bought GTA V bc my bf plays it and I am happy that I did so. I spend my whole birthday evening and night with him.

    • @shm_vlla2967
      @shm_vlla2967 3 года назад +9

      wow..nice advice...especially number 4

    • @user-iv2yg5be4b
      @user-iv2yg5be4b 3 года назад +3

      thx your advice are helpful

    • @elgoblinax8796
      @elgoblinax8796 3 года назад +6

      Number 4 hits home right now

    • @trial6186
      @trial6186 3 года назад +7

      Number #4 is my problem right now😔.
      Even though I want to chat with my Bf whole time, I just don't have the idea of what topic to talk to him.
      And by that time, he'll be bored and focus on his video games🥺

    • @210lucile
      @210lucile 3 года назад +3

      @@trial6186 if you want to talk to him but have nothing to say, send him memes, it always works ^^

  • @Professor_James
    @Professor_James 4 года назад +63

    I met my girlfriend on Snapchat this past February. It was so unexpected because nobody ever inboxes me on there when I add them lol, so we started talking on Facebook messenger to better communicate and surprisingly we clicked. She's from Liberia which is in west Africa and I'm from the USA (Chicago). We been together for 8 months now and we're waiting to see each other. We've had our bad days with disagreements, people's criticism and the circumstances but we still overcame it all. I'm planning on seeing her in February 2021 after a whole year of planning this trip so we're praying on it and we're really excited. I never ever met a woman like her in my life. She makes me happy.

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html

    • @TheSm1thers
      @TheSm1thers 3 года назад

      I've recently entered an LDR with a girl over snapchat too. We've been talking/flirting for just over a week almost any time we could, and on boxing day when she was feeling sad we talked all day, but when I was talking about what we could do on our date that night, when lockdown is over, she got freaked out. For the past few days she seems to have detached almost completely and isn't putting effort in when I try to create conversation/banter with her. I feel a lot of heartache and worry about the relationship. Do you have any advice on how to continue it? Seems weird because it's the strongest connection I've ever felt with anyone and seems to have changed so suddenly.

    • @Professor_James
      @Professor_James 3 года назад +1

      @@TheSm1thers Well communication is definitely one of the strongest foundations in a relationship, especially long distance so it's highly recommended she contributes that same amount of energy you are putting in as well. It shows you that she's also staying committed to reaching out. When you mentioned "freaking out" maybe she's fearful about something and can't really tell you. Again, she has to communicate that with you💯. If she's really isolated herself from you, it sounds to me that she's breaking away from you. I understand you feel good about her and you don't want to get disappointed, but if she's not even trying to talk to you then you have to save yourself from deeper pain and disappointment by ending it. U don't want to put too much into something that somebody is not even considering so be cautious of that. I been through quite a few long distance relationships to realize when the right one was coming. Hope this helps and best of luck💪

    • @TheSm1thers
      @TheSm1thers 3 года назад +1

      @@Professor_James Thank you very much for your response. I appreciate it. We have talked about it yesterday and she said although the connection was amazing she got scared that it was moving too fast and now she doesn't know how she feels. I asked if she wanted to call and talk about it cos it's difficult to properly understand each other through messaging. She said she had no idea when she'll be available but I think it's bullshit cos even the busiest person can make time for a phone call at some point. We haven't communicated at all today and I'm starting to move on. I think she might just not be ready for a relationship, especially a long distance one, which is a shame cos she was so open to me and I felt I could share anything with her too until she freaked out. If she's not putting in the effort anymore though I suppose there's no point in continuing.
      Thanks again for your response 🤜

    • @ItachiUchiha-in4lq
      @ItachiUchiha-in4lq 3 года назад +2

      Soooo, did you guys meet? 🥺

  • @sandrahuges3309
    @sandrahuges3309 3 месяца назад +96

    Hey, almondcybergenius online! I just wanted to drop by and shower you with some virtual love and appreciation! You guys are like the fairy godmothers of truth, waving your digital wands and making all the lies disappear. Thank you for being my rock when everything else seemed to crumble. You're the real MVPs for LDR!!!!!

    • @tonyharii
      @tonyharii 3 месяца назад +3

      i dont get it how did they help you

    • @sandrahuges3309
      @sandrahuges3309 3 месяца назад +1

      they gained me access to my ex phone in a LDR, saved me from the liar i called bf

    • @tonyharii
      @tonyharii 3 месяца назад

      wow that must be cool, can i see their details pls🙏

    • @sandrahuges3309
      @sandrahuges3309 3 месяца назад

      ok, allgenues

    • @sandrahuges3309
      @sandrahuges3309 3 месяца назад

      @ G M a l l .

  • @ShamsaShakir
    @ShamsaShakir 4 года назад +47

    what about the long distance relationships that start online and stay online for years

  • @mikkocruz1963
    @mikkocruz1963 4 года назад +1838

    Just realized that if you died your online girlfriend won’t know just wonder why you disappeared

    • @kucingmerah7563
      @kucingmerah7563 4 года назад +12

      😂😂😂

    • @poorhai9321
      @poorhai9321 4 года назад +308

      probably thinking your "ghosting" them literally

    • @linguafranca7834
      @linguafranca7834 4 года назад +6

      😂😂

    • @Renee-wo8pe
      @Renee-wo8pe 4 года назад +214

      this is my BIGGEST fear

    • @jajj9385
      @jajj9385 4 года назад +48

      Quirky sense of humour but true😂😂🙁😯

  • @martisendrell9305
    @martisendrell9305 4 года назад +102

    I’m in a LDR going on three years. We’ve Both not been able to meet up because of money (we both live in different countries), and more recently because of our flights being canceled do to sars. I’ll say while it’s hard and hurts to be apart everyday, that we don’t regret anything. We both put in 100% effort into our relationship and communicate to each other about everything. She knows me better than anyone else. She’s perfect! I can hardly wait to see her!!

    • @kuro9445
      @kuro9445 4 года назад

      @Shelly Brooklyn just wtf ;-;
      Like I'm happy that u got ut husband back but-
      A spell caster rlly helped you out?;-;
      Wow

    • @mentalbanana736
      @mentalbanana736 4 года назад +4

      @@kuro9445 This person is just making up lies look at the others comments, she copy and paste this post in other replies.

    • @Jenndaniellee
      @Jenndaniellee 4 года назад +3

      kaito kun it’s a scam

    • @kuro9445
      @kuro9445 4 года назад +3

      @@mentalbanana736 😂😂😂😂
      Yea, maybe she is trying to make money out of it

    • @NyuAkiyama
      @NyuAkiyama 4 года назад +1

      That's so sweet!! Totally understand u bro 😢

  • @jaydee10251
    @jaydee10251 2 года назад +538

    The 7 stages of a Long Distance Relationship:
    1. Decision
    2. Parting
    3. Transition
    4. Realization
    5. Jealousy
    6. Doubt
    7. Validation

    • @SphereofCygnus
      @SphereofCygnus Год назад +2

      Thank you!

    • @aplive58
      @aplive58 Год назад +18

      Holy shit, this is so accurate. As someone who lost on steps 5 & 6 and broke up with my partner. Our distance came with us being open, and it hurt me so terribly.

    • @tiana1017
      @tiana1017 Год назад +1

      Times

    • @tommac21
      @tommac21 10 месяцев назад

      Dead on !!

    • @Sarcasmka14
      @Sarcasmka14 9 месяцев назад +1

      8breakup

  • @littleflowers7678
    @littleflowers7678 2 года назад +116

    My girlfriend and I have been long distance for over a year after we had been in a close-distance relationship for six months. Through this experience, I've found that although I miss being able to physically meet up with her, I feel like both of us have learned a lot during our time apart. One of our biggest challenges was during a time when she began feeling unsure about our future and despite these doubts, which I had at times as well, we talked about it and worked through it. I'm saving up money to visit her before the next academic year and we're planning on going camping!

  • @Seashellgamesyt
    @Seashellgamesyt 3 года назад +2054

    My boyfriend and I met when we were 14-15 online now we are 20-21 we haven’t met yet in person but we are 5 years and 4 months together and we have a really healthy relationship, it gets hard but we never give up ♥️♥️

    • @corgsie9367
      @corgsie9367 3 года назад +116

      omfg im 14 rn and he's 15 and we're so in love. he's coming to my state in 3 years and ahh im really hoping we'll last

    • @FMKAnimation
      @FMKAnimation 3 года назад +45

      Do you guys talk every single day ?🥺

    • @fortunescarlet2883
      @fortunescarlet2883 3 года назад +54

      give tips please! we are in 6 months now, the conversation is hard, and now there is doubt

    • @swagdaddy270
      @swagdaddy270 3 года назад +134

      @@fortunescarlet2883 its fine to not to talk every single day! i used to feel obligated to give constant updates to my long distance bf through text, but the thing is, we all have our own lives outside of a screen, and its exhausting to talk to one every single night all the time, especially if you guys are feeling doubtful. regardless, talk about it with ur significant other and set boundaries; communication is key!

    • @saddamramadhan4103
      @saddamramadhan4103 3 года назад +6

      How do u guys maintain it ?

  • @19yamyam97
    @19yamyam97 4 года назад +2732

    Anyone else can’t go to their boyfriend country because Borders are closed 😪

    • @drghadir6876
      @drghadir6876 4 года назад +44

      Yaaas, and this is was our annual time🤦🏻‍♀️💔

    • @angelinakristyne6496
      @angelinakristyne6496 4 года назад +12

      Me 🥺

    • @MelChan30
      @MelChan30 4 года назад +10

      Same...

    • @eenkip4851
      @eenkip4851 4 года назад +6

      I just dont wanna go to america to see my gf, that's why i dont visit her

    • @lara3388
      @lara3388 4 года назад +4

      Yes, unfortunately

  • @miahzw0rld210
    @miahzw0rld210 2 года назад +14

    my bf and i went from close to LDR. i started with an anxious attachment style for a whole year before LDR. Now i have a very secure attachment style and was forced to deal with my personal issues. we’re still together and I see him in two days. Creating a goal for our relationship and having a plan for when to close the distance was very helpful as well. It can be very hard sometimes though because at times I just want a hug!!!!

  • @randomshow9366
    @randomshow9366 3 года назад +72

    Communication is key!! Be honest about your feelings but also realize and accept what you feel deep down. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be, and if it’s not? Then accept it as a healthy partition and move on with whatever ambition, goals, and drive you have in life.

  • @sarahwebb2801
    @sarahwebb2801 4 года назад +22

    I’ve been long distance from my boyfriend for four months and today’s the day I finally see him again. 🥺❤️

  • @lisellenoronha2155
    @lisellenoronha2155 3 года назад +280

    Reading the comments section about how people went through their LDR gives me so much hope and positivity. My boyfriend and I are most likely going to be in an LDR for quite a long time soon. He wants to go pursue his future. It breaks my heart a lot but ik we can do it. Y'all are great examples ❤️ much love and I admire everyone going through it
    Edit (8 months down the line): lol he turned out to be a jerk and broke up with me because of ldr 🌝 (stupid me) I'm glad it ended

    • @girla5997
      @girla5997 3 года назад +1

      Love you too! Thanks ❤️

    • @gumlock478
      @gumlock478 3 года назад +4

      omg-👁👄👁

    • @sudipmoirangthem2k1
      @sudipmoirangthem2k1 3 года назад +1

      😂😂😂😂lol

    • @girla5997
      @girla5997 3 года назад +2

      Lmaooo lmao ok

    • @wealdsz
      @wealdsz 3 года назад +12

      we do be havin' a little plot twist right here

  • @cloudy7007
    @cloudy7007 7 месяцев назад +4

    In a long distance relationship, we finally met during our anniversary and he stayed here for 10 days and travelled 25 hours just to meet me. My family loves him and his too! He went here even if it is his first ever solo trip and first time riding a plane, he just turned 19 and he is only 3 months older than me. Did I mention that we only met in discord? Never lose hope, once you meet genuine people- you will recognise them anywhere. I love him so much, more than words can ever explain ❤

  • @nicoleflores3828
    @nicoleflores3828 4 года назад +29

    I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and we've been together for a year now, the last time we had physical dates was January 1. It's true that during these tough times it shows the only genuine people who really builds you up as a person, sex is nothing without any Real connection. I'm happy to say that I've found my soul mate. 😊❤️

  • @iraaaleigh4123
    @iraaaleigh4123 3 года назад +60

    This is so relatable. I envy those people who got the chance to see, talk and spend time with him every single day. Also, i wonder what a day-to-day life with him look like.

    • @Arleth_99
      @Arleth_99 3 года назад +2

      I feel you guys.

    • @MiniMagit
      @MiniMagit 2 года назад

      Man I fucking felt that

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle 4 года назад +816

    I know this isn’t the same but I’m in a long distance friendship and it equally sucks :( all my closest friends are geographically super far from me

    • @amilkshake3843
      @amilkshake3843 4 года назад +16

      Same, my only friend which I don’t feel like I have to change myself with, lives 2 hours away from me. I don’t have a license and I only see her about 2/3 times a year. But after all, when we get to see each other, it’s like I never left.

    • @SamElle
      @SamElle 4 года назад +7

      @@amilkshake3843 omg i can relate!! I have a license but I dont have a car so I only see her once a year when she comes back to visit her family :(

    • @ahmedbokhari7048
      @ahmedbokhari7048 4 года назад

      Same.

    • @SamElle
      @SamElle 4 года назад

      @@ahmedbokhari7048 it really sucks :(

    • @jahzr
      @jahzr 4 года назад

      same here:/

  • @allycat7587
    @allycat7587 Год назад +10

    me and my bf just started long distance a month ago. every day feels harder than the last but we talk through our problems and help raise each other up. i have very high hopes we’ll get through this. remember to stay strong and keep your end goals in mind to keep you going. everyone else in ld you guys got this!!!!

  • @queenxox6547
    @queenxox6547 3 года назад +432

    LDR is definitely not for every couple. It really depends on both's love languages, preferences, and willingness to commit. I didnt event think of entering a long distance relationship but my boyfriend works on a cruise for at least 8 months and goes home only for 2 months. He just left a few days ago for his job and I got used to it already. It really is hard in the beginning but it takes two to learn how to manage and maintain the relationship. :)
    I miss him, though.
    UPDATE: my boyfriend is going home in January 2022 😊 and yeah, I am well aware of the adultery and cheating that are happening amongst cruise employees. My bf tells me stories haha. I only hold on to trust, that he wont betray me. Likewise, I dont break his trust. It goes bothways. Hell, I am only his long term GF haha he better not play with me.
    So far, we haven't had any issues with any of his colleagues/girl co-workers. We are already past 4 years so that trust has been built through time. 💗

    • @illseedez
      @illseedez 3 года назад +1

      I love these comments

    • @celigoodall6254
      @celigoodall6254 3 года назад

      Here with you on this one, my boyfriend just got on a plane to travel half around the world to get on a cruise as an officer, his dream job, his dream ship, his away for 4 months, then back home for two, back on for 4, breaks my heart everytime he leaves, but his my home and I support him. I know that in a week or so, I'll get used to it, but damn I want him here with me. It's worth it on the long run, if it makes you happy.

    • @isistorres3684
      @isistorres3684 3 года назад +1

      I used to work on cruise ships, sorry to tell you this but everyone is cheating there :/

  • @juanignaciosilvestri6782
    @juanignaciosilvestri6782 3 года назад +242

    after almost 3 year of being in a LDR with a girl i met in New York, this week she told me she couldn't keep going with it. Watching this video made me realize how hard all this process was, and how valuable our relationship was as well. I wish i could be back a few weeks ago and let her know all of this.

    • @ananyaavarma15
      @ananyaavarma15 3 года назад +18

      I'm sorry to hear that buddy

    • @aliciahall20
      @aliciahall20 2 года назад +2

      Yea mine said the same but would love to date again if I’m there

    • @nav4688
      @nav4688 2 года назад

      where was she from?

    • @bevyy_a
      @bevyy_a 2 года назад +9

      It’s never too late to tell someone how you feel.

    • @JuhusOnY
      @JuhusOnY Год назад +1

      @@bevyy_a exactly!

  • @bella9282
    @bella9282 3 года назад +40

    My partner and I got thrown into a LDR once COVID kicked up, and have been on and off in one since. There have been countless nights of tears and I definitely experienced every stage, but next week, we’re finally gonna be in the same city again. As long as you both communicate and are equally committed, it can definitely be worth the wait.

  • @sweetpea3365
    @sweetpea3365 Год назад +33

    My boyfriend and I started out long distance. We met online. Were in two different states so we live 6 hours away from each other. While that’s not terrible it’s still really hard at times. Communication is what will make or break the relationship. You’re phone is your best friend. If you’re not a good communicator I would not recommend LDR. I have really bad separation anxiety so it can get hard at times. It’s been a little over a year and I couldn’t be happier. He was built in a factory specifically for me. We’re always going to be together and I wouldn’t want this with anyone else ♥️

    • @hiscanvasofgrace3391
      @hiscanvasofgrace3391 Год назад +1

      My guy and I are 6 hrs away too and we see eachother about once or twice a month. When both are invested it makes it sooo worth it. Saying goodbye til next time and driving away hurts so much 😢

    • @sweetpea3365
      @sweetpea3365 Год назад

      @@hiscanvasofgrace3391 yes! That is the hardest part. It feels like the movie Dumbo. You’re apart most of the time and then reunite. It’s really emotional 🥲 but I’m happy to do it with him ♥️

    • @hiscanvasofgrace3391
      @hiscanvasofgrace3391 Год назад +1

      Ahhh me too. You got this girl. When it's meant to be, nothing can stop it or quench that fire 🔥 🤗

    • @sweetpea3365
      @sweetpea3365 Год назад

      @@hiscanvasofgrace3391 thank you ❤️ you got this. It’s day by day. What’s meant to be will. Thank you for your kind words 🤗

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      And if you're both introverts, AND there's NO way for you to visit each other???

  • @eating_in_US
    @eating_in_US 4 года назад +36

    I feel like every relationship (in person or not) requires a lot of work and dedication. Yes, long distance relationships are more challenging but are incredibly rewarding at the same time. They are all about teamwork and communication. They can be successful ❤

  • @qeroexuwu7030
    @qeroexuwu7030 3 года назад +51

    Ever since the pandemic hit us all, long distance relationships has been the most common thing ever nowadays..

  • @alejandromatute5079
    @alejandromatute5079 4 года назад +73

    Others: Commenting about their LDR stories.
    Me: Just scrolling and reading comments from them 😎

  • @cozymarshmallow_6650
    @cozymarshmallow_6650 Год назад +170

    This video is so helpful, and what every LDR need to know...
    When I first get into a relationship with my bf he told me we have to make it work by working on it. It reminds me how long distance relationship need a lot of effort from both parties. Tbh It's hard and there's a time we just get frustrated and argue, but communication and being honest for whatever you feel at the moment is important because you can't see,and be in each other arms.Now we're still living miles away from each other but we planned to get marry next year❤️ wishing all the best to anyone who in a long distance relationship!🥰

    • @matrix9046
      @matrix9046 Год назад +3

      Well its different in my case...i was the one working..well i was a student 2nd yr of degree it was during covid when i met her, we both got close to eachother, fell for eachother she wanted to meet and we had some future plans together like marry travel and made lot promises "infact she used to say that i never leave her" , we used to be on calls, video calls for 24 hrs literally gave alot time to her we were there for eachother she did the same she helped me alot mentally and emotionally we literally talked abt everything, i also used to tell her that "there will be people and times that won't be in our favour and i want you to stay strong and trust me coz i won't leave you" tbh i really wanted to take care of her look after her uno... but yeah covid got over, i was in my final year i had to work hard clear my exams.. focus on to do something so that i can get to her and meet and work on our plans and dream...well didn't get enough quality time as i used to with her b4, tho i would update what im upto and ofcourse ask abt her health made calls during nights make her laugh feel loved and do as much as i can... yeah sometimes i would feel low too she never was trying to help or understand me, she was possesive or attention grabber in which i wasn't able to pay attention to her at those days , but yeah i had hope & it was her...and she got fed up said i dont give enough time to her i wasn't there much as i used , i don't make her feel loved, she cutted herself (ik she was lying) says i used her 😂🤚🏻(like frl & how), she wants to breakup, even tho i explained her and she knows what i was going through like it was strange to see her change all of a sudden , she asked for space alot of things ik of her were just changed but anyways i tried not to contact her but failed kept messaging her calling her begged her to come back i was worried abt her, she said we broke up (from her side and i didn't even agree and i told her)...but yeah i found out she was talking to some other dude, just coz he spent more time with her and i was working hard for her for us...and shattered the hell out of me, no trust , no loyalty, disbelief heartbroken crying, all the promises.. she started say "our relationship was shit", "he is a better man than you" and even tho i satisfy her, i started to Shake lot of grief and i am still going through it ..and as soon as we officially broke up the hour she went to this new dude... we were together for almost 3 years....we were in LDR was going to meet her this month Dec 2022 but 2 days b4 booking the flight this happend... and yeah she in LDR too with her new partner....it was love not a casual realtionship she knew it but she still went to him, sometimes i can't accept the fact that she is gone, i miss her, i immensely loved her alot....im really low and help?

    • @cozymarshmallow_6650
      @cozymarshmallow_6650 Год назад +3

      @@matrix9046 I'm so sorry for what you've been through😭 even just by reading your comments makes my heart aches 💔it must be still really really hurt and shocking for the memories and the bond you shared already deeply rooted in your life, You've done a lot of things to save the relationship and I can tell you really love and care for her.
      Love meant to be last but we need two to make the love lasts . And sometimes, it sad but it's true we do have to let go when we already try everything we can but it just can't works anymore. And sometimes it's also when we realised our partners stop and don't want to paddling anymore. I believe everyone that view relationships seriously knows that it's not just about " I want to be the receiver" but it's when both parties giving and taking, to create a healthy and balance relationship. The stereotype of its always the man that have to gives and care for women is not it.
      But I know a nice person like you deserve to be happy! And happiness can be found in many things too. Like doing things that'll make you happy and make yourself busy with things,etc. As time goes by you'll find yourself completely moving on and even stronger than before. You have to, and I believe one day when the time comes they'll be someone out there somewhere, that'll treasure and loves you the way you do! So it's okay to being sad but please be strong for yourself! But hey you are amazing because I can tell you are amazing! Haha😁

    • @matrix9046
      @matrix9046 Год назад +2

      @@cozymarshmallow_6650 oh she loved me 100% i can say that she had her efforts, you know we can feel it right, same as u guys in beginning we would argue fight talk it out forgive alot of times love and laugh she would cry when we used to fight., it showed how geniune she wanted " us" to happen, it melted my heart, i couldn't let this girl down, i had a vision she was in it and every step i thought abt the future she was there in it and i had a strong mindset ... but this year for past 6months as i said sometimes due to my tight schedule (excluding my friends and my own entertainment) i couldn't spend enough time with her like max 5-6 hrs, our timezone were different... sometimes I would feel distant tbh, sometimes i didn't feel loving her due to personal problems and yeah i would discuss it with her at some extent(not all problems) coz i didn't want appear a cry baby infront of her..she knows it...and this is darkest phase of any relationship trust me this is were ppl get lost or fail to understand.. it is crucial to understand its just a bad time (sometimes our partners don't feel it, its common, the best thing we can do is be calm relax and understand and support).... sometimes i would tease her when she used to be sad try to distract her encouraged her to study do anything in my power to love her (and boii she didn't like it, she said during our Brk up)...ig she found this new dude in mid of Sep she started to act diffrent in Oct & Nov , i found abt him in Dec she claimed he is just a friend from Norway and yk the rest...yk the hard thing is when they change act like they never knew me it hurts, like never anything happend ...like all of this time i gave everything re-assured u was it all fiction wasn't it enough..yk what she said b4 going "atleast he treats me like a princess"(aka new guy)...and i kept her like a queen, can't even hate her frl lol, im just worried if he will hurt her...me being a positive & optimistic person abt life never knew i would be in this situation....is this how depression/sadness feels like?...im sorry for all who are facing it .

    • @matrix9046
      @matrix9046 Год назад

      @@cozymarshmallow_6650 and thank you so much your words helps alot tbh ...it really does make me calm thank you for ur support ❤️

    • @matrix9046
      @matrix9046 Год назад

      And im genuinely happy for you gyz... I really wish you gyz a happy and good future together

  • @vmeixiao
    @vmeixiao 3 года назад +217

    Frankly? Yeah, I feel that I go through these stages over and over again. I've been in a long distance relationship for 3ish years now, and I would have to say, yeah, these stages are pretty accurate. I feel good when we have a nice call or chat session together, and then fall through the stages of 'everything is okay', to 'this sucks, I wish he were here', to 'is he happier not always being with me?', to 'I hate that he enjoys spending time without me', and finally back to 'I still love him, and I will get to speak to him soon. I don't have to worry'. Frankly, it is very, very difficult, especially when one person is super busy during the week, and takes their weekends to do stuff that they wanna do; which isn't a bad thing, but if you aren't one of the people that is able to do the stuff your partner wants to do? It kind of hurts, makes you think weird things, and the stage doubt sets in. But at the end of the night, we call and validation sets in for the next few days. It is a Rollercoaster ride, but in the end, it all works out. (:

    • @ItsKeysTv
      @ItsKeysTv 3 года назад +2

      This the one ☝🏽 exactly what I’m going through…

    • @bubteaa8897
      @bubteaa8897 2 года назад +2

      I'm going through this too. I would love to chat and call all day but sometimes things get awkward and it's hard to maintain interesting conversation because I'm not used to communicate with other people. I've been alone by myself for years and suddenly I'm in a relationship so I'm totally lost. I also feel guilty that my boyfriend have to experience this with me.

    • @juli6205
      @juli6205 2 года назад +1

      Starting a ldr soon and I am already scared of experiencing what u went through. But the biggest concern for me is that he may be not love me as much and stop the relationship. Hate thinking about that

    • @Reditter01
      @Reditter01 2 года назад +3

      @@juli6205 hey don't worry i felt the same, we were senior junior first we talked hours and the convos would never be uninteresting, we talked for 6 months then got into relationship. Its been 4 months of relationship now and some days are when we both have 0 topics to make a convo and then we start to fight or ignore , we literally had a big fight but thanks to us both we literally thought we should close that topic and never talk about that. I used to feel the same that "if he really loves me or not" but now it turns that he loves me much more that even its so distance i could still feel the love he is giving me

    • @fatoumatasylla5419
      @fatoumatasylla5419 2 года назад +1

      Definition of my life rn wow

  • @randomsoul9970
    @randomsoul9970 3 года назад +19

    I was in a long distance relationship for 1 and a half years too, it was really hard but we finally met last month and it was like heaven… don’t give up it’s the best feeling ever !!! I love him so much ❤️

  • @carolinacoreas7716
    @carolinacoreas7716 4 года назад +69

    I've been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years and about two years was spent in a long-distance relationship. I technically also have an LDR during school breaks when I have to go back home. It's always a hard thing to do, to depart with him and not be able to see him for such a long time. But one pro is that it builds up the excitement and mystery of being physically together again. There's been many times I've felt sick out of excitement because I also get super nervous to see him again. It is also a great way to prove and improve your trust in each other. The feeling that you'll always feel the same excitement to see each other again and not have a shadow of a doubt that they'll still love you or not having a single absence of affection. It's a hard commitment that is very rewarding in the end.

    • @ChewingGum113
      @ChewingGum113 4 года назад +5

      I wish you lot's of success. I was also in a long distance relationship for about 6 years, it was tough but we learn to communicate and slowly build up trust. What we also learn is to be happy for ourselves, even when we are not physical together, but always communicate clearly when things goes bumpy. At the end, it is very worth it... because we are now happily married for 5 years :).

  • @estherstone4860
    @estherstone4860 2 года назад +39

    My husband went to college out of state. I was so lonesome and felt neglected and worried that he would find someone else. He felt pressured and mistakenly thought that I wanted him to quit. He moved back home and we got married and he transferred to a local school. He finished school with honors but without accumulating any debt since I continued to work. We’ve been married for 50 years.

  • @sadeikadawkins6523
    @sadeikadawkins6523 3 года назад +82

    It’s been just 3 days since my boyfriend went away and we have 11 months before we see each other. Let the count down begins🙏☺️

    • @monikachand8819
      @monikachand8819 3 года назад +1

      Same goes for me😩

    • @cherrycoked3
      @cherrycoked3 3 года назад +3

      It's going to be really hard but it's just for a few months. Hang in there.

    • @sadeikadawkins6523
      @sadeikadawkins6523 3 года назад

      @@monikachand8819 I hope you are getting through this with your boo… I’m actually doing fine now. We try to do everything together just the same.

    • @sadeikadawkins6523
      @sadeikadawkins6523 3 года назад

      @@cherrycoked3 thank you!

    • @monikachand8819
      @monikachand8819 3 года назад +1

      @@sadeikadawkins6523 yeah.. We r doing fine now. We r planning to see each other again but in 2022.

  • @er6714
    @er6714 4 года назад +16

    i didnt think i was going to cry. i cried. ive felt most of these stages.. it hurts. i hope we can be together again soon ❤

  • @adityathakkar4301
    @adityathakkar4301 3 года назад +17

    it gets even harder when they actively ignore you, with no explainations, there's no way to keep the trust going if they don't let you in anymore

  • @A-CIM
    @A-CIM Год назад +5

    Reading comments about everyone with hopes and wishes is heartwarming. Hold onto them before it gets too late. May all of your relationships succeed.
    Mine didn’t…..

  • @afriendofGod2024
    @afriendofGod2024 2 года назад +11

    It's really hard but it's worth it The feeling, emotion and love is not just based on physical attraction but spiritual, emotional and mental attention and connections also. Always keep it real

  • @ebogar42
    @ebogar42 Год назад +7

    Only stage I go through is the realization that we will be together one day. I don't worry about all that other drama or getting jealous.

  • @stxr9246
    @stxr9246 7 месяцев назад +6

    my boyfriend and I had been together for 5 years since we were 14.... against all ods, our relationship has survived. now we are in college and he might be leaving our home country forever. seeing this video hits hard when youve grown together with your partner, you spend every single day with them, you lived your first relationship, your first kiss, your first brand new car, everything. the thought of him leaving kills me inside. but love is love, even when theres distance between it.

  • @torilevine7407
    @torilevine7407 Год назад +7

    Did it for 4 years.. at one point didn’t see eachother for a year. Luckily have been done with the distance for 9 months now. Was worth it 🥰

  • @JayyCee777
    @JayyCee777 3 года назад +23

    I’m currently going through the doubt stage and haven’t been handling it too well, but this video helped so much, if it’s real it’ll work, we just have to breathe and take it one step at a time, thank you so much ❤️

    • @agentorange153
      @agentorange153 2 месяца назад

      Same here -- the doubt is the hardest part of all!

  • @f.k6920
    @f.k6920 4 года назад +106

    I don't know why I'm even watching this, I'm not even in a relationship.

    • @DreamerFromTheDepths
      @DreamerFromTheDepths 4 года назад +1

      It just shows up in recommended I just go with the flow and write some nonsense because I want to.
      I'm just like my namesake right now, bored, nothing going on.

    • @akali5029
      @akali5029 4 года назад +1

      same. I'm too young for relationships, but I just watched it. IDK, I had no idea.

    • @gummybeanfairy9719
      @gummybeanfairy9719 3 года назад

      Bro high five 🖐️

    • @roseosbourne6448
      @roseosbourne6448 3 года назад

      Maybe it's so that when you do find yourself in one it's not ldr. And if it is, at least you'll know what to expect and how to deal with it lol

  • @KarmaPolice42_28
    @KarmaPolice42_28 4 года назад +25

    The timing couldn't be better... I broke up with my long distance boyfriend four days ago... It was a mutual decision. We both love each other and we didn't have any other major problem in the relationship apart from the distance. We realised that we couldn't handle it. Everything was so good when we were together that when we were apart it was really frustating. Also, the lack of a common future together was making me very anxious.
    Edit: we first met summer last year, we stayed in contact, but we didn't became a couple until two months ago, so we started long distance. I just watched the video and it's more about relationships who started close distance and then became long distance.

    • @kylayu6784
      @kylayu6784 4 года назад +3

      We are the same. But he was the one who broke up with me. It's due to distance, he wanted someone who can be there for him physically. We also lack common future together. But even though it's like that, I would definitely make my future be aligned with him. We met last autumn and I really felt we've known each other for so long. Probably more like a soulmate thing. But then reality of life has to happen.. even so I have enjoyed and loved him truly even if it was long distance and 7 months only. If fate allows and if he is really for me, we will be.

  • @nusaybahossain56
    @nusaybahossain56 2 года назад +11

    Have been doing LDR for over 4 years. My partner and I were in the same class from grade 2 until my parents moved abroad after grade 8. We already liked each other but made things official after I moved. Ever since, we’ve only been getting stronger as more time goes, as we work in the same capacity towards a united goal. We work on ourselves for each other when we need to, and communicate about every issue no matter how little it may seem. Most importantly we never stopped prioritising each other and making each other laugh until our cheeks hurt everyday. Consistency is very important. We never stopped going above and beyond for each other like we did in the initial stages. As we are both anxious people, we always reassure each other about everything and I believe that is essential for a healthy relationship. We focus on the pros of LDR rather than the cons.

  • @emilyjones9787
    @emilyjones9787 4 года назад +75

    My boyfriend and I have been LDR for 2 and a half years, I'm still so in love////

    • @noddingbeetroot9881
      @noddingbeetroot9881 4 года назад +11

      Awww I wish you the best for your relationship

    • @shannonliyanage
      @shannonliyanage 4 года назад +1

      Wishing you both the best ♥️
      Please show some love to my channel by watching my LDR surprise videos and subscribe the channel for more exciting videos ♥️

    • @SkyfuWaifu
      @SkyfuWaifu 4 года назад +2

      Can you give me some tips? I'm gonna possibly move away to go to university and i feel sad of the thought of leaving my boyfriend behind. I wanna know how to maintain a long distance relationship without the possibility of a break up cause of the distance.

    • @shannonliyanage
      @shannonliyanage 4 года назад +3

      @@SkyfuWaifu I m in a long distance relationship from the start. Now it’s been 4 years. We had our ups and downs but we still manage to keep the trustworthiness first. Don’t feel the insecurity. Try to talk whenever possible and talk about the daily stuff you guys did. I think it’s all about the communication. Communicating with each other is very important. Don’t worry. Everything will be alright. Keep the bond strong always.

    • @ZA1ISTYPING_
      @ZA1ISTYPING_ 4 года назад

      How do you not get bored in an LDR? I'm asking advice

  • @kennysbs1933
    @kennysbs1933 2 года назад +15

    I am in a long distance relationship since july 2020. My advice is to communicate often, our boundaries are text throughout the day and talk before bed and it works great. I am very jealous person, but with talking, listening and doing actions, compromises from both side you will nail it, but for that is required both 2 people to be committed. I miss her and i can't wait to see her again❤️

  • @Duckarefun101
    @Duckarefun101 3 года назад +6

    The voice acting of the speaker was so amazing. It seems so fruitful, the music choice was incredible, the colored backgrounds and characters along with the animations were absolutely so beautiful and very informative

  • @erickc.g.8357
    @erickc.g.8357 2 года назад +64

    I didn't expect to see a video like this when I'm starting a LDR, it's great to see something like this to get my hopes high so both my partner and I can make things work out.

    • @Lilith_Asmodeus94
      @Lilith_Asmodeus94 2 года назад +3

      Yeah Im facing the same thing right now. But I truly feel in my soul he is the right one for me.

    • @erickc.g.8357
      @erickc.g.8357 2 года назад +2

      @@Lilith_Asmodeus94 I'm already 3 months in with my partner, and this has been the most beautiful time of my life, hope everything is going smoothly with yours too!

    • @noelblack8159
      @noelblack8159 Год назад

      Hey!
      Everything still going smooth at y’all?

    • @hajarlak5524
      @hajarlak5524 Год назад

      any updates?

    • @erickc.g.8357
      @erickc.g.8357 Год назад

      @@hajarlak5524 well, we were tgtr a long time, but we broke up due to inconviences between us and family, but we end up in good terms and we are still talking and hoping the Best for the both of Us.

  • @yutagayrights
    @yutagayrights 4 года назад +34

    to everyone reading this i hope u stay healthy & safe !!
    u matter
    u r important
    u are valued
    u deserve all the love in this universe

    • @DavidUtau
      @DavidUtau 4 года назад

      You must matter to yourself*
      You must be important to yourself*
      You don't deserve love for the fact that you are alive, you MUST go out and achieve it*
      Figth on, bois and gals, y'all got it.

  • @walaasy2045
    @walaasy2045 3 года назад +67

    After 7 years, we were faced with long distance. Its definitely hard, and we drifted apart for a while, but we're making it work. I can relate to so many things in this video, thanks for sharing!

    • @sanyamehra
      @sanyamehra 2 года назад +1

      how is it going, i am really looking for positive answers here, wish you well :)

  • @daktavixen6364
    @daktavixen6364 4 года назад +83

    My relationship started as long distance and has been for years. We both can’t wait until the day comes for us to meet

    • @MlleMetaphysic
      @MlleMetaphysic 4 года назад +6

      Years without meeting ? 😨 I couldn't bare

    • @alexandraaquino5057
      @alexandraaquino5057 4 года назад +5

      Same, road to 2 years but still waiting for the right time for us to meet❤️

    • @_-soulesssira-_9949
      @_-soulesssira-_9949 4 года назад +5

      Same for me... But we talk different languages, so we're studying each other's languages for when we meet... But we both know english anyways..

    • @ldrcouple.things773
      @ldrcouple.things773 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eMUNLAXJ4_M/видео.html