I am dealing with empty nest syndrome right now . I am a single mom and they’ve all left . It’s lonely and I can’t speak of it because I don’t want to burden my kids
I would say go ahead and talk to them more. It’s not something like there’ll never gonna come again near you. I’m sure they miss you too don’t feel lonely. youll always be remembered somewhere out there
i'm a daughter of a wondering mother just like u :D. I'll be leaving for college this July. I've been doing research becuz I'm afraid for my mom to be sad. As a daughter. The things I've said to my mother. I would like to tell u and I hope it can ease ur heart. I hope to talk with my mom minimum atleast once a week. I hope she starts learning new things she enjoys, she's recently started going to fitness and has made tons of friends. Seeing her happy is the most precious gift. I hope she visits her family often (though it may be hard since some circumstances in my family) but if possible I would love her to visit her parents and sisters (they live in the same city and apartment colony). I hope she travels alot. mumma loves traveling n seeing new things. I hope she sets new goals for herself and works towards it. I hope doing these things can ease her mind a bit and i hope u would try these things as well. If it's too tough I hope u seek help for a therapist. And i think it is also important to convey ur feelings to ur child. Ik u dont want to be a burden. They cant visit u often but knowing how u feel may atleast make them feel responsible to call u often and visit u as well. and I hope u dont give up and get better with time
@@HangCay yes , with work it is getting better . I have made effort to get together with my friends a lot more and do enjoy working in the garden and reading good books . Also I started watching my diet and eating healthy foods and noticed it helps so much with mood . Our family is still our family, the way we live changed but our children are always going to be our babies . I just want you to know it does get better with a little effort ♥️
single mother with only daughter who left in September. At first we stayed in touch but now she's pushing me away as she gets more confident. Happy for her but I live with a permanent sense of nausea and constant bursts of tears.
I’m a 51 year old dad and my boy has gotten 2 degrees and move into his own place and got a job that he leaves for weeks at a time. I was in a helicopter accident working offshore and that left me disabled so I was home and did everything with him and he is gone working. I went deer hunting and while in the stand I just cried because this is what we did together every year a now I’m alone. I am having a way harder time than my wife.
Do you ladies have any idea how special you are? As a therapist, I rarely hear people speaking, so candidly, and so intelligently about any subject… Much less empty nesting syndrome. I just want to thank all three of you for this talk. I feel like somebody really understands and that is a tremendous gift.
I don't know how the one woman didn't cry during this interview. 48 hours and I'd still be a mess. My daughter hasn't even left yet & I can't seem to stop crying.
Glad you wrote this. My son just got his housing agreement and he's moving many many hours away and I'm a mess. I've been crying for like 14 hours straight. I just can't stop. I can't even look at my son or his paperwork without flooding into tears so thanks for saying your crying alot, it helps me know it's normal
My eyes are sore from crying😢. It's so painful knowing you'll only see them a few times a year when the they've been your life since they were conceived and even before in my imagination.
Happens to men, too. Raised my amazing son by myself. The man he has become is amazing. To no longer be able to witness this is an agonizing pain. We were the embodiment of a perfect life.
I feel the same way. I am suffering and grieving. My son moved out for a great job out of state. I am so happy for him and am so happy that he is doing what he loves in a state that he loves living in. But I am falling apart. He is my only one and his father passed away 8 years ago. It is so heart wrenching.
I went through it; as a big Sister I took care of my siblings, and so much energy and part of my life...and then, they left, I felt so lonely and void...
My son just left home tonight and I'm so happy for him, but heartbroken for me. For Mother's that stay home and make their entire lives about their children, this grief is something Father's usually do not understand. I literally have pain in my heart. I have no idea who I am or what to do with myself now. I sacrificed my life to raise my son and make a home. I don't know what is my purpose or what I'm good at. My husband still has his job and has purpose. I'm guessing my job is to find myself now. The house will be so empty and so quiet tomorrow morning. I'm not looking forward to it. A lot of tears of grief in the near future to close this big chapter in my life, but part of me is excited to discover the new chapters of my future with my incredible husband. I will miss my son though. He will always be the beat of my heart.
I’m very grateful for this clip. It is filled with so much needed understanding, wisdom, insight and support. It’s a very difficult time letting go and this helps.
I lost my two children, daughters, in less than a year. I was a stay-at-home mom and I homeschooled them. They were my life. Their marriages and departure ruined me. My health fell apart, and I became incapable of doing anything. I’ve been isolated at home for 8 months as I had to quit my job due to fibromyalgia. I cry every day. If it weren’t for the Lord and the wonderful husband He gave me, I would’ve blown my brains out a long time ago. I was not expecting this and I still, 2 years later, am struggling.
I have 2 girls & 2 boys. The youngest girl took a job in another state a year ago. The oldest girl is getting married this year. I still have the boys but me and my girls did so much together. My heart is broken & I cry in silence.
I am here trying to figure out whats wrong with me. My son is in college and his Dad is hogging him. Gets him every weekend. Takes uo all his free time. We are obviously separated. Now I have to figure ME out.
I remember when I moved out at 17, to a dorm. Best part of my life, wish I could go back. I didnt think of what my mum was feeling at the time. I actually thought she would be glad to get rid of me!!! I’m now saying goodbye to my 18 yr old son who is moving out for an apprenticeship. I’m heart broken. I can only imagine my mum felt the same. I brought my son (and my daughter 25, she left 4 yrs ago) up on my own, so for the past 25 yrs I’ve always had a child in my life to care for. I hope my son visits at the weekend if he’s not too tired from work 😢
Me too..my 15 year old son shows so much love towards his girlfriend and I am shocked how much it bothers me. He was my little boy only 5 minutes ago. My daughter is 13 and hardly speaks to me. I'm really really struggling and I feel like not many people talk about this??
I’m toning through this right now and I feel no one understands me. Thank you for this!
i understand 😢
I'm going thru this for the 2nd time
now, my 19 ur old daughter moved out days ago and now its me and my almost 16 years old daughter
I'm in the middle of grieving a loss while thankful for the time I still have with my youngest, the dread when she moves. I'm a single mom
It tears the mom's heart .....things are never the same again .
My heart is paining... it's so hard.
My heart silently hurts in silence.
My baby left today and I can't stop crying. I miss her so much already
I am dealing with empty nest syndrome right now . I am a single mom and they’ve all left . It’s lonely and I can’t speak of it because I don’t want to burden my kids
I would say go ahead and talk to them more. It’s not something like there’ll never gonna come again near you. I’m sure they miss you too don’t feel lonely. youll always be remembered somewhere out there
i'm a daughter of a wondering mother just like u :D. I'll be leaving for college this July. I've been doing research becuz I'm afraid for my mom to be sad. As a daughter. The things I've said to my mother. I would like to tell u and I hope it can ease ur heart. I hope to talk with my mom minimum atleast once a week. I hope she starts learning new things she enjoys, she's recently started going to fitness and has made tons of friends. Seeing her happy is the most precious gift. I hope she visits her family often (though it may be hard since some circumstances in my family) but if possible I would love her to visit her parents and sisters (they live in the same city and apartment colony). I hope she travels alot. mumma loves traveling n seeing new things. I hope she sets new goals for herself and works towards it. I hope doing these things can ease her mind a bit and i hope u would try these things as well. If it's too tough I hope u seek help for a therapist. And i think it is also important to convey ur feelings to ur child. Ik u dont want to be a burden. They cant visit u often but knowing how u feel may atleast make them feel responsible to call u often and visit u as well. and I hope u dont give up and get better with time
Hi, I am going through the emptiness syndrome now, how are you now? Does the syndrome fade a little bit with time?
@@HangCay yes , with work it is getting better . I have made effort to get together with my friends a lot more and do enjoy working in the garden and reading good books . Also I started watching my diet and eating healthy foods and noticed it helps so much with mood . Our family is still our family, the way we live changed but our children are always going to be our babies . I just want you to know it does get better with a little effort ♥️
I’m going through it now and sometimes I can’t bare the pain. But every day gets a little easier
single mother with only daughter who left in September. At first we stayed in touch but now she's pushing me away as she gets more confident. Happy for her but I live with a permanent sense of nausea and constant bursts of tears.
Struggling so hard with this right now.
the pain is unbearable
Yeah, you feel abandonned and void...
I’m a 51 year old dad and my boy has gotten 2 degrees and move into his own place and got a job that he leaves for weeks at a time. I was in a helicopter accident working offshore and that left me disabled so I was home and did everything with him and he is gone working. I went deer hunting and while in the stand I just cried because this is what we did together every year a now I’m alone. I am having a way harder time than my wife.
Do you ladies have any idea how special you are?
As a therapist, I rarely hear people speaking, so candidly, and so intelligently about any subject… Much less empty nesting syndrome. I just want to thank all three of you for this talk. I feel like somebody really understands and that is a tremendous gift.
I don't know how the one woman didn't cry during this interview. 48 hours and I'd still be a mess. My daughter hasn't even left yet & I can't seem to stop crying.
@@sv6320 I agree & feel for you. *hug*
Glad you wrote this. My son just got his housing agreement and he's moving many many hours away and I'm a mess. I've been crying for like 14 hours straight. I just can't stop. I can't even look at my son or his paperwork without flooding into tears so thanks for saying your crying alot, it helps me know it's normal
@@kassiep Not that it makes the pain go away, but I agree that it's nice to know you're not alone in your grief *hug*
My eyes are sore from crying😢. It's so painful knowing you'll only see them a few times a year when the they've been your life since they were conceived and even before in my imagination.
I feel for all of you. As a father of boy and girl twins that just left for college, it's miserable. I just can't stop crying
Happens to men, too. Raised my amazing son by myself. The man he has become is amazing. To no longer be able to witness this is an agonizing pain. We were the embodiment of a perfect life.
My son is nine right now and I’m already dreading this.
I feel the same way. I am suffering and grieving. My son moved out for a great job out of state. I am so happy for him and am so happy that he is doing what he loves in a state that he loves living in. But I am falling apart. He is my only one and his father passed away 8 years ago. It is so heart wrenching.
I went through it; as a big Sister I took care of my siblings, and so much energy and part of my life...and then, they left, I felt so lonely and void...
My son just left home tonight and I'm so happy for him, but heartbroken for me. For Mother's that stay home and make their entire lives about their children, this grief is something Father's usually do not understand. I literally have pain in my heart. I have no idea who I am or what to do with myself now. I sacrificed my life to raise my son and make a home. I don't know what is my purpose or what I'm good at. My husband still has his job and has purpose. I'm guessing my job is to find myself now. The house will be so empty and so quiet tomorrow morning. I'm not looking forward to it. A lot of tears of grief in the near future to close this big chapter in my life, but part of me is excited to discover the new chapters of my future with my incredible husband. I will miss my son though. He will always be the beat of my heart.
I’m in the same boat stay at home mom no idea what to do with my life
Love is the death of peace of mind. We love them completely with our whole heart.
I’m very grateful for this clip. It is filled with so much needed understanding, wisdom, insight and support. It’s a very difficult time letting go and this helps.
this woman explains it perfectly - made me cry again - it's perfect love and although it will always be, it is an emptiness now
I falling apart as we speak. I don’t know where to turn. It feels like I’m drowning in sadness.
I am going through this misery now and have been for two years when my first left. Physical pain. It’s so hard. Nonstop crying.
I think I’d rather have a baby in my 40’s than have to go through this pain.
I lost my two children, daughters, in less than a year. I was a stay-at-home mom and I homeschooled them. They were my life. Their marriages and departure ruined me. My health fell apart, and I became incapable of doing anything. I’ve been isolated at home for 8 months as I had to quit my job due to fibromyalgia. I cry every day. If it weren’t for the Lord and the wonderful husband He gave me, I would’ve blown my brains out a long time ago. I was not expecting this and I still, 2 years later, am struggling.
I have 2 girls & 2 boys. The youngest girl took a job in another state a year ago. The oldest girl is getting married this year. I still have the boys but me and my girls did so much together. My heart is broken & I cry in silence.
She’s absolutely right! Wow…Thank you.
Thank you It is a necessary adjustment but I’m allowing myself to feel the pain of adjustment.
I am dealing with this right now. Im so heartbroken
It so difficult. The pain is real ,
I absolutely agree with you I'm going through this at the moment have been for a few months it's so horrible
I am here trying to figure out whats wrong with me. My son is in college and his Dad is hogging him. Gets him every weekend. Takes uo all his free time. We are obviously separated. Now I have to figure ME out.
My only child left emd of August to live in the dorm. Right now I take him meals weekly. But recently he says he doesnt need it so much.
I remember when I moved out at 17, to a dorm. Best part of my life, wish I could go back. I didnt think of what my mum was feeling at the time. I actually thought she would be glad to get rid of me!!! I’m now saying goodbye to my 18 yr old son who is moving out for an apprenticeship. I’m heart broken. I can only imagine my mum felt the same. I brought my son (and my daughter 25, she left 4 yrs ago) up on my own, so for the past 25 yrs I’ve always had a child in my life to care for. I hope my son visits at the weekend if he’s not too tired from work 😢
My sons not gone but w his gf all the time every night n its bugging me. 😒 😂
Me too..my 15 year old son shows so much love towards his girlfriend and I am shocked how much it bothers me. He was my little boy only 5 minutes ago. My daughter is 13 and hardly speaks to me. I'm really really struggling and I feel like not many people talk about this??
🫥 *Motherhood is validation for lots of Women. Some have NOTHING else going on for themselves but that*