I didn't know about this stuff and tried to speak to a friend about his hot cold behavior. He found it hurtful. I tried very hard not to get triggered. I didn't know about dismissive avoidant. After we spoke I saw he blocked me on whatsapp. Yesterday he saw my story on Instagram after 6 weeks of silence. Is there hope. I thought this was done.
If you get a "hey", that's pretty big for a DA. Like Coach said, don't put too much hope in it, because they are really just testing the waters . . . to see if you will reply. They could be just looking for validation.
I’m an FA & haven’t recently started thinking about reaching out to my FA ex. I feel some anxiety about doing it. 1.) I’m afraid of rejection (least likely but still a fear). 2.) I’m afraid that even if I were received warmly by my ex; I’m concerned that he hasn’t grown & that we will repeat the same useless cycle
This is an awesome video. I never address and it continues to be this covert bs relationship. He reaches out, and nothing gets resolved. I will be thinking about this a lot. Thank you! And you were spot on with some of the examples, like the happy bday & meme ones!
Calmly take the bull by the horns and resolve it. People tip toe around DAs in fear of triggering them. We totally forget about our own needs, fears and what caused the breakup, so you get covert bs, wash, rinse and repeat. You don't have to do it within minutes, but try to stick to a day or two. Why is it really important? You've got 4 months plus of healing under your belt and you don't want to totally undo that and have to start over. If things don't work out, please don't beat yourself up. Only a avoidant can heal themselves. You didn't break them and it ain't your job to fix them.
@@rolotomassi5139 On the one hand, starting to reconnect with a feeling of fear is already a bad sign of the past. People should be happy to reconnect. It's so horrible with DAs, which until a moment that was supposed to be good, becomes this ETERNAL WALKING ON EGGSHELLS. Well, this subject should be the first to come up: either you mature and put yourself open to comunicate or any kind of relationship (even friendship) is not possible. How much is it worth losing your authenticity for someone who can't go through conflicts and leaves you without a second thought?
Not true... I got a thoughtful gift right after we discussed about taking a break. But still went cold. And reached out right like Coach said, after a month, with "hey, how are you, I hope you are doing well". I got gifts before. DAs don't like you make a fuss about gifts or signs of attention, they like to see that you appreciate, but dislike if you get emotional.
A healing FA female and it has been 7 weeks of no contact for me and my DA! This is the longest he has allowed no contact to go on. Maybe he got the point that I’m done with him when I unfollowed him and removed him as friends on ALL social media platforms!! 😁
It is me I am the frustrating one and I'm laughing but I'm so sad that I'm being called out right now but thank you for your video I am so working on myself
Mine has blocked me. Shattered. I don't understand and never will how someone can do this to someone. I've watched 100's of content and still don't understand.
For months I used to think my avoidant ex fears and insecurities would come down and he would miss me, until I recently learned his baby mama was extremely jealous of our healthy relationship the whole time. Months after he deactivated she stilo sees me as a threat. Kinda glad I learned about the anxious avoidant trap along the way bc just by me being secure I understand that's a trauma bond they don't want to break. Baby mama's friends were relieved he deactivated because our happiness was making her unbearable. I fully accept that I will never be missed, and that's OK 😌
Hey Coach! I broke up with him over a month and a half ago. I'm FA but healing so I'm actually more secure; however, that relationship revealed all the wounds and then some lol. I just turned 40, working out, keeping up my therapy. I pray he finds that one who will fit his styles, I don't do superficial. We use our words over here ✌🏽🙏🏽. Also I have a question: do you have a video on if YOU are the phantom ex? I was always the one who got away to him so when we reconnected after 15 yrs I thought it was meant. I don't see any videos on what happens when they actually do get back with that phantom ex?
Agree with this! I also had a DA reconnect with me around 15 years and we tried to make it work. It didn’t. We’re very different people now. The “phantom ex” syndrome should probably be called the “fantasy ex” syndrome.
@@Ahb2121 haha exactly! I was so shocked that he had been ruminating and trying to find me all these years. I literally kept dreaming about him and reached out, which is something I don't do. First thing he said was I love you, I was blown away lol. I realize many of the qualities I admired so much over the years as him being calm and collected, was really just avoidance. I wish we could've worked bc honestly I never felt a peace like that before. But that peace turned into turmoil. I wrote a long text goodbye and that was the end. He never responded. Which is fine. Sucks but I get it.
@@IamCoachCourt Video idea: please, a video on the loss of authenticity in relationships with avoidants. How and why does this happen - what is the dynamic that happens? What is the behavior that generates this type of problem, this fear of saying what is necessary by the partner? I notice that DAs don't seem to be aware of this type of problem or behavior. At the same time, it seems to me that walking on eggshells is the loss of freedom to place oneself in the relationship. It's horrible for a DA's partner. How not to fall into this problem and approach with authenticity?
Hey Coach, remember me? We're two and a half years down the line now, and yes, he's started to send these texts in the last few months, and has admitted he misses me and my family. Not to me though, he has messaged one of my kids instead. I left my job a year ago, where he also worked, and he hasnt seen me since. Six months ago he started messaging my daughter out of nowhere just before she got married. He was meant to be coming to the wedding. He missed the holiday we all had planned. He messaged when my Mom passed away. Im in a much better place now, life is good. I've done a lot of work, healed some. Made a new life for myself. Just thought I'd check in and say Hi. Hope you are well.
@@adoptioncorner1984 There's always hope as long as both of you are still breathing. I think if you detach yourself from the possibility and concentrate on your own journey, healing, building a new life without them in it and so on, that helps. If they come back in, well its up to you and where you are in your process at that point to make a choice. A lot of that depends on why you broke up, whether work has been done, and as Coach says if you have a discussion. Personally, a lot of my choice would be based also on what his motivation is for coming back. Right now, I'm just doing me, and if he makes the effort to reach out directly, we'll see what happens. But yes, its okay to hope, as long as you dont live your life with that hope as your sole focus. Wanting them in your life is fine. Needing them is co-dependency ;)
Haven't seen my DA ex of 4years in 1 month. No contact for 1 week. Reaches out via text to ask if it's ok to ask how I am. (breakup was relatively "amicable" albeit his decision... "he reckons I deserve better..." I'm honestly so conflicted. I'm not sure how to navigate this. This was a big love for both of us I think.
I have a weird one for you coach. Was with my ex for 15 years. We split up, im the dumpee. Been around 9 months now and we have 2 children also. Only contact we have is smart contact and usually via text. After a month of the split she got with her snake of a best mate who lives on the otherside of the world. Cost her 2-3k to go and see him. When she got with him id never seen her in a state of what looked like drugged to the eyeballs. Theyre obsessed with one another to the point the kids tell me all they do is spend every day all day on call. I know the new guy. Friend of 10yrs whos always wanted her and hates my guts. They often bad mouth me as i know from my daughter as it upsets her. Even after 9 months still bad mouths me. Ive done the work on myself and sadly im the reason she called it quits. Done therapy, become a better person, new job etc. What i want to know is what you make of all this. Shes always been an AA style. Loves physical intamcy and cuddles etc but is super happy in her ldr. Any thoughts on the topic? There is a lot more to it. Just a long synopsis. 😅
In the instance of a meme, is it okay to just ignore it or is it better to respond? He blocked me on Discord a few weeks ago, and then the other day sent me a meme on instagram. I looked at it but didn't react/respond in any way. I want to connect with him, but I also don't want to come across as desperate and willing to give into crumbs..
2 months no contact and he Told me happy birthday I said thank you with a heart and he hearted the message lol wasn’t sure where to go from there but leaving it alone
Hope you see this since its an old video. We have been in no contact for 2 months. He was cold and dismissive at the break up. I tried to understand for about a week then told him i care for him but im stepping back. Anyway, havent talked to him in 2 months. We were in the same place at the same time and i saw him purposely position himself in a way for him to be able to say hello. I did smile and say hello but didnt prolong the conversation. This was two days ago. Should i wait for him to reach out via text or should i initiate the next move?
Hey coach, I am friends with an avoidant girl, we've known each other for 4 years. She told me she never knew safety before me, and she's very vulnerable with me, telling me things she doesnt tell anyone. A year ago she started having romantic feelings towards me but then sabotaged "us" by getting with someone she met on holiday and pushed me away. She said she didnt feel underserving of the love I have to give her as she described it as scary. She recently broke up with this guy because she said she couldn't stop thinking about me and realised she made a mistake, now she wants to work on "us", and to rebuild the connection. She said her heart belongs to me and no one will ever have the hold on her that i do. Truth is i don't trust her, what do you think? Do avoidants lie? Thank you :)
Mine pops up about every 6 months. My AP mind wants to know why I keep responding. I was friendzoned about 10 years ago and like a clock, he keeps reaching out each time he’s single.
He asked in WhatsApp if he could call me the next day, i allowed it, he called, talked about superficial stuff share together, as if stuff why i broke up never happened.. not ready to talk to him again...
I have a question on how to proceed. WHen i noticed her getting cold i wanted to know whats going on, maybe i did something, how to fix it(probably im anxious type) and i definitelly pushed her even more away, now we rarelly speak at all, and when we do, its very clear shes not interested in talking to me. The thing is, after i pushed her by being too clingy, we had almost no contact for around 3 weeks and if we had some i was the one initiating(ofc got disapointed with the result), but after those 3 weeks she started sending me memes again, almost always every 3 days. What i do is comment on the meme, something funny, or if it reminds something we did together i comment that, and send a meme back, and every single time im just ignored for another 3 days. If we talk even a little, its because i contacter her first for some reason(i do that rarelly now like once every week, because something comes up that i think i need to contact her, for example im gonna next time gonna be international womans day im gonna congratulate her. Anyway what my should steps should be with her sending me a meme every 3 days and then imediatelly ignoring me, should i respong or should i ignore totally or waht>?
Hey coach, my dismissive avoidant ex broke up with me 3 months ago. Since then she had texted me happy birthday at exactly midnight, and reached out to me wanting to talk about mutual friends. I wondered why she was still talking to me and tried to have a convo about it… didn’t really go anywhere. She reached out to me again super casually 2 weeks later and that was 2 weeks ago. What is the best piece of advice you can give me for my situation?
My experience left me confused over the course of several months. Initially went well first date was physically attracted "maybe next time we have sex." then second date we messaged about sex then got "my stomach hurts." afraid of intimacy unless unemotional sex. Got worse I continued messaging, which she used for validation to cope with her loneliness. I then got a reluctant coffee appearance for her birthday, which I gave her a present asked her to be girlfriend got "You don't live in my country and I want to see someone once a week." Asked for 2 dates got "i don't know." She friend zoned me then reached out a week later, I naively thought she could be a date again got "I'll let you know." So on Christmas sent a picture of me and another girl then said "Sorry it didn't work out. What you like or don't like isn't a reflection of me. As a friend I hope you find what your looking for." "okay Merry Christmas." I don't regret one bit. Some people are emotionally incapable of being in a relationship. Sucks because I really fell for her, but I have to tell myself constantly it didn't work out for a reason.
@CoachCourt I have been reaching out to my avoidant. Because honestly I’m afraid. If I don’t he will not reach out to me. He is responding back slightly. Using certain emojis and gifs. When we are texting. I consider it progress. Being that he had stopped all of that. He sent me a video of him singing a song to me. Truly melted my heart. I am nervous, happy, puzzled at the same time. Especially with me having the anxious attachment style. What should I do coach?
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He called me after 4 months!!! ;)
Haaa, bingo 😉
How. Did u respond?
I didn't know about this stuff and tried to speak to a friend about his hot cold behavior. He found it hurtful. I tried very hard not to get triggered. I didn't know about dismissive avoidant. After we spoke I saw he blocked me on whatsapp.
Yesterday he saw my story on Instagram after 6 weeks of silence. Is there hope. I thought this was done.
If you get a "hey", that's pretty big for a DA. Like Coach said, don't put too much hope in it, because they are really just testing the waters . . . to see if you will reply. They could be just looking for validation.
Yeah, test the waters but be ready to be disappointed!
My DA ex unblocked me after 2/ 1/2 months after he dumped me on my birthday. I took no chances and blocked him 💀
Wow 😕
I’m an FA & haven’t recently started thinking about reaching out to my FA ex. I feel some anxiety about doing it.
1.) I’m afraid of rejection (least likely but still a fear).
2.) I’m afraid that even if I were received warmly by my ex; I’m concerned that he hasn’t grown & that we will repeat the same useless cycle
Wow, I’ve heard this from FA women often. Thank you!
This is an awesome video. I never address and it continues to be this covert bs relationship. He reaches out, and nothing gets resolved. I will be thinking about this a lot. Thank you! And you were spot on with some of the examples, like the happy bday & meme ones!
Thanks for watching Kristi!
Calmly take the bull by the horns and resolve it. People tip toe around DAs in fear of triggering them. We totally forget about our own needs, fears and what caused the breakup, so you get covert bs, wash, rinse and repeat. You don't have to do it within minutes, but try to stick to a day or two. Why is it really important? You've got 4 months plus of healing under your belt and you don't want to totally undo that and have to start over. If things don't work out, please don't beat yourself up. Only a avoidant can heal themselves. You didn't break them and it ain't your job to fix them.
@@rolotomassi5139 On the one hand, starting to reconnect with a feeling of fear is already a bad sign of the past. People should be happy to reconnect. It's so horrible with DAs, which until a moment that was supposed to be good, becomes this ETERNAL WALKING ON EGGSHELLS. Well, this subject should be the first to come up: either you mature and put yourself open to comunicate or any kind of relationship (even friendship) is not possible.
How much is it worth losing your authenticity for someone who can't go through conflicts and leaves you without a second thought?
@@rolotomassi5139It amazes me how these people destroy relationships. It has to be very troublesome.
A dismissive avoidant sending gifts😳😲. Nah maybe fearful avoidant! DA will never give you nothing! Let alone a gift after breaking up.
I’ve seen it happen on many occasions
@@IamCoachCourt 😭😭😭 wow!
Not true. My DA has helped more since he's been gone than ever. His way of showing affection.
Not true... I got a thoughtful gift right after we discussed about taking a break. But still went cold. And reached out right like Coach said, after a month, with "hey, how are you, I hope you are doing well". I got gifts before. DAs don't like you make a fuss about gifts or signs of attention, they like to see that you appreciate, but dislike if you get emotional.
A healing FA female and it has been 7 weeks of no contact for me and my DA! This is the longest he has allowed no contact to go on. Maybe he got the point that I’m done with him when I unfollowed him and removed him as friends on ALL social media platforms!! 😁
It is me I am the frustrating one and I'm laughing but I'm so sad that I'm being called out right now but thank you for your video I am so working on myself
I see you Nicole 👀lol
I’m glad you’re working on healing 🙏🏾
Mine has blocked me. Shattered. I don't understand and never will how someone can do this to someone. I've watched 100's of content and still don't understand.
Nothing is worse!!
@@cherylthompson2731 on and off for over a year now. I don't know why I keep putting myself through this. I'm insane
Because it's not about you it's who they are
Pfft blocks are just tantrums. Ignore
For months I used to think my avoidant ex fears and insecurities would come down and he would miss me, until I recently learned his baby mama was extremely jealous of our healthy relationship the whole time. Months after he deactivated she stilo sees me as a threat. Kinda glad I learned about the anxious avoidant trap along the way bc just by me being secure I understand that's a trauma bond they don't want to break. Baby mama's friends were relieved he deactivated because our happiness was making her unbearable. I fully accept that I will never be missed, and that's OK 😌
You found your own closure
Hey Coach! I broke up with him over a month and a half ago. I'm FA but healing so I'm actually more secure; however, that relationship revealed all the wounds and then some lol. I just turned 40, working out, keeping up my therapy. I pray he finds that one who will fit his styles, I don't do superficial. We use our words over here ✌🏽🙏🏽. Also I have a question: do you have a video on if YOU are the phantom ex? I was always the one who got away to him so when we reconnected after 15 yrs I thought it was meant. I don't see any videos on what happens when they actually do get back with that phantom ex?
Ok wow. That would be a great topic! Thanks for sharing your experience with the community
Agree with this! I also had a DA reconnect with me around 15 years and we tried to make it work. It didn’t. We’re very different people now. The “phantom ex” syndrome should probably be called the “fantasy ex” syndrome.
@@Ahb2121 haha exactly! I was so shocked that he had been ruminating and trying to find me all these years. I literally kept dreaming about him and reached out, which is something I don't do. First thing he said was I love you, I was blown away lol. I realize many of the qualities I admired so much over the years as him being calm and collected, was really just avoidance. I wish we could've worked bc honestly I never felt a peace like that before. But that peace turned into turmoil. I wrote a long text goodbye and that was the end. He never responded. Which is fine. Sucks but I get it.
@@IamCoachCourt Video idea: please, a video on the loss of authenticity in relationships with avoidants. How and why does this happen - what is the dynamic that happens? What is the behavior that generates this type of problem, this fear of saying what is necessary by the partner? I notice that DAs don't seem to be aware of this type of problem or behavior. At the same time, it seems to me that walking on eggshells is the loss of freedom to place oneself in the relationship. It's horrible for a DA's partner. How not to fall into this problem and approach with authenticity?
Hey Coach, remember me?
We're two and a half years down the line now, and yes, he's started to send these texts in the last few months, and has admitted he misses me and my family.
Not to me though, he has messaged one of my kids instead. I left my job a year ago, where he also worked, and he hasnt seen me since.
Six months ago he started messaging my daughter out of nowhere just before she got married. He was meant to be coming to the wedding. He missed the holiday we all had planned. He messaged when my Mom passed away.
Im in a much better place now, life is good. I've done a lot of work, healed some. Made a new life for myself.
Just thought I'd check in and say Hi. Hope you are well.
Hey! I'm so happy for you. Keep healing and thank you for the update!
Wow 2 and a half years later. It has been 8 months for me. I see there is possibly still hope 🙏
@@adoptioncorner1984 There's always hope as long as both of you are still breathing. I think if you detach yourself from the possibility and concentrate on your own journey, healing, building a new life without them in it and so on, that helps. If they come back in, well its up to you and where you are in your process at that point to make a choice. A lot of that depends on why you broke up, whether work has been done, and as Coach says if you have a discussion. Personally, a lot of my choice would be based also on what his motivation is for coming back. Right now, I'm just doing me, and if he makes the effort to reach out directly, we'll see what happens.
But yes, its okay to hope, as long as you dont live your life with that hope as your sole focus.
Wanting them in your life is fine. Needing them is co-dependency ;)
@@airbubble. healing!!
But what if i broke up with him?? Does this still apply??
I would like to know this too
Haven't seen my DA ex of 4years in 1 month. No contact for 1 week. Reaches out via text to ask if it's ok to ask how I am. (breakup was relatively "amicable" albeit his decision... "he reckons I deserve better..." I'm honestly so conflicted. I'm not sure how to navigate this. This was a big love for both of us I think.
I have a weird one for you coach. Was with my ex for 15 years. We split up, im the dumpee. Been around 9 months now and we have 2 children also. Only contact we have is smart contact and usually via text. After a month of the split she got with her snake of a best mate who lives on the otherside of the world. Cost her 2-3k to go and see him. When she got with him id never seen her in a state of what looked like drugged to the eyeballs. Theyre obsessed with one another to the point the kids tell me all they do is spend every day all day on call.
I know the new guy. Friend of 10yrs whos always wanted her and hates my guts. They often bad mouth me as i know from my daughter as it upsets her. Even after 9 months still bad mouths me.
Ive done the work on myself and sadly im the reason she called it quits. Done therapy, become a better person, new job etc.
What i want to know is what you make of all this. Shes always been an AA style. Loves physical intamcy and cuddles etc but is super happy in her ldr.
Any thoughts on the topic? There is a lot more to it. Just a long synopsis. 😅
I DO NOT GET THIS!!!
He said he loves me but scared.
I told him I loved him. Why can’t we just love each other?
In the instance of a meme, is it okay to just ignore it or is it better to respond? He blocked me on Discord a few weeks ago, and then the other day sent me a meme on instagram. I looked at it but didn't react/respond in any way. I want to connect with him, but I also don't want to come across as desperate and willing to give into crumbs..
2 months no contact and he
Told me happy birthday I said thank you with a heart and he hearted the message lol wasn’t sure where to go from there but leaving it alone
My ex contacted me 26-days post-breakup.
Great content coach 6 weeks in no contact just waiting for her to come out the shadows 😅
Hope you see this since its an old video. We have been in no contact for 2 months. He was cold and dismissive at the break up. I tried to understand for about a week then told him i care for him but im stepping back. Anyway, havent talked to him in 2 months. We were in the same place at the same time and i saw him purposely position himself in a way for him to be able to say hello. I did smile and say hello but didnt prolong the conversation. This was two days ago. Should i wait for him to reach out via text or should i initiate the next move?
Coach Court, what if they reach out after two and a half weeks with Hope you’re doing well?
✨🙏🏽🌟YOU ARE AMAZING! So helpful! Thank You with all my heart! ✨💖💫
❤️❤️
What if they didn’t make the first move. You did? And all they do is respond with bibles over and over again.
That’s interesting haha
He send me a random video on TikTok what does that mean anyone help 😭
Hey coach, I am friends with an avoidant girl, we've known each other for 4 years. She told me she never knew safety before me, and she's very vulnerable with me, telling me things she doesnt tell anyone. A year ago she started having romantic feelings towards me but then sabotaged "us" by getting with someone she met on holiday and pushed me away. She said she didnt feel underserving of the love I have to give her as she described it as scary.
She recently broke up with this guy because she said she couldn't stop thinking about me and realised she made a mistake, now she wants to work on "us", and to rebuild the connection. She said her heart belongs to me and no one will ever have the hold on her that i do.
Truth is i don't trust her, what do you think? Do avoidants lie?
Thank you :)
Well. I think anyone had the capacity to lie, but if you think you can trust her again eventually go for it.
Avoidants lie A LOT when they feel overwhelmed by intimacy. Yes, too much intimacy will drive them away. It's weird, I know.
Mine pops up about every 6 months. My AP mind wants to know why I keep responding. I was friendzoned about 10 years ago and like a clock, he keeps reaching out each time he’s single.
😑😑😑
He asked in WhatsApp if he could call me the next day, i allowed it, he called, talked about superficial stuff share together, as if stuff why i broke up never happened.. not ready to talk to him again...
I have a question on how to proceed. WHen i noticed her getting cold i wanted to know whats going on, maybe i did something, how to fix it(probably im anxious type) and i definitelly pushed her even more away, now we rarelly speak at all, and when we do, its very clear shes not interested in talking to me. The thing is, after i pushed her by being too clingy, we had almost no contact for around 3 weeks and if we had some i was the one initiating(ofc got disapointed with the result), but after those 3 weeks she started sending me memes again, almost always every 3 days. What i do is comment on the meme, something funny, or if it reminds something we did together i comment that, and send a meme back, and every single time im just ignored for another 3 days. If we talk even a little, its because i contacter her first for some reason(i do that rarelly now like once every week, because something comes up that i think i need to contact her, for example im gonna next time gonna be international womans day im gonna congratulate her. Anyway what my should steps should be with her sending me a meme every 3 days and then imediatelly ignoring me, should i respong or should i ignore totally or waht>?
When she sent me a gif meme, I simply just didn't respond because she sent it through social media when you have my personal number.
Hey coach, my dismissive avoidant ex broke up with me 3 months ago. Since then she had texted me happy birthday at exactly midnight, and reached out to me wanting to talk about mutual friends. I wondered why she was still talking to me and tried to have a convo about it… didn’t really go anywhere. She reached out to me again super casually 2 weeks later and that was 2 weeks ago. What is the best piece of advice you can give me for my situation?
Do you want to be with her ?
@@themoonbleu627 yes I do
My experience left me confused over the course of several months. Initially went well first date was physically attracted "maybe next time we have sex." then second date we messaged about sex then got "my stomach hurts." afraid of intimacy unless unemotional sex. Got worse I continued messaging, which she used for validation to cope with her loneliness. I then got a reluctant coffee appearance for her birthday, which I gave her a present asked her to be girlfriend got "You don't live in my country and I want to see someone once a week." Asked for 2 dates got "i don't know." She friend zoned me then reached out a week later, I naively thought she could be a date again got "I'll let you know." So on Christmas sent a picture of me and another girl then said "Sorry it didn't work out. What you like or don't like isn't a reflection of me. As a friend I hope you find what your looking for." "okay Merry Christmas." I don't regret one bit. Some people are emotionally incapable of being in a relationship. Sucks because I really fell for her, but I have to tell myself constantly it didn't work out for a reason.
I think you may have fell too soon.
@Coach Court your right. Im generally focused on myself but in this case your right. It happened over 8 months unfortunately 😅
@CoachCourt I have been reaching out to my avoidant. Because honestly I’m afraid. If I don’t he will not reach out to me. He is responding back slightly. Using certain emojis and gifs. When we are texting. I consider it progress. Being that he had stopped all of that. He sent me a video of him singing a song to me. Truly melted my heart. I am nervous, happy, puzzled at the same time. Especially with me having the anxious attachment style. What should I do coach?
Push and pull..Breadcrumb…..All the time. No thanks my peace of mind is more important.
He texts me have a great week every Sunday for the last three weeks but says he just wants friends. I dumped him and went no contact for 2 months!!!
What if its a week into no contact and they reach out with a picture and an inside joke? Is that significant? Should i respond or leave it alone?
Wow mine reached out about Thanksgiving and our next couples counseling session like we hadn’t broken up
DA reached out on my birthday after 4 months of no contact what does that mean?
Match your effort with their effort
After 8 months he said hey you
He missed me 😁
What if you as the anxious preoccupied dumped them? With explanation of course
If it was a protest then you should probably appreciative for another chance. Also think about if this is the right fit