Give Up On Self Improvement & Instead Do SHADOW WORK
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Give Up On Self Improvement & Instead Do SHADOW WORK
Discover the root cause of low self esteem and how you can improve your self confidence today!
Shadow work benefits and how to do shadow work! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the benefits of asking yourself shadow questions... Discover the best shadow work questions to ask yourself!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
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Hey Julien I am sort of curious, I have what I believe is called Relax Induced Anxiety. When I try to sit and close my eyes, few minutes go by and I get shot with a jumpscare and like a heart attack I sweat...from nowhere. What is a good focus point to work on it?
I hope I can join the Guild with you one day.
Every video similar to this, that I’ve watch, has been a younger individual up front. It’s nice to see older individuals open to helping themselves let go and open up to themselves
Yes, MASSIVE respect to her for having the courage and willingness to do the work! 🙏
@@JulienHimself❤
@@JulienHimselfthank you for being such great teacher your videos are so helpful ❤❤x
This 🙌
Not gonna lie. This got me tearing up. I resonated with the fear of feeling worthless. Thank you man. You're doing life changing work
She craves acceptance and runs from discomfort. People will judge us whether we speak or not based on our appearance and their experiences.
Some ppl are genuinely fked up in life 😞that they throw their own harsh insecurities on us.
That's why I don't speak to anyone so that I don't have to put up with any of that bullshit, and if no one is going to be vulnerable whether online of in public, then I don't have to either and also letting go is overrated
@@joshuabuchanan1141wait what, are you disagreeing with julien?
She's absolutely adorable, one of those people you know you would like. People connect to vulnerability.
Bro lives life like he's in his living room, brilliant.
Confidence and happiness isn’t something to build up to, it’s something to rewind ourselves back to
🎯🎯🎯💯
Nice quote.
Meh, not really, status brings confidence
@@constantthought6082 what you mean by status?
@@vicentegeonix status based on achievement, or status in regards to financial success. These things brings confidence
When Lori started to talk about her abusive ex husband it made me cry 😭💔 - it brought my own memories of abuse from my psychopathic ex boyfriend.
I'm almost all the way better from this kind of stuff happening 10 years ago.... sending positivity and healing vibes to you. ❤❤❤❤
I cried when she opened up deeply
Maybe cause i’m emphatic
Or maybe cause deep down i understand how it feels.
I connected so much as soon as she got real. I answered these questions for myself in my head and I had the exact same reaction as what she said. "I keep thinking Ive let it go but I didnt" I couldn't accept it because I did the entire TMA course and didnt want to believe I hadn't let go of my biggest "thing". But this got to me, I turned the video off and I think I had the most intense letting go exersise Ive ever had. This felt so different than all the others before. Just felt like sharing this
This is awesome. Bless you❤
Thank you for sharing
Teach me what the letting go excercise is? How do I do it i have to start video just pre read comments.
@beasthaven1571 I'm fairly sure the exercise depends on what youre letting go of. So figure that out first
I realised that i wanted people to hear and see me singing this one song i had practiced for a week .this realisation was very triggering because i was always taught that wanting someone's attention for whatever reason was shameful and wrong and weak.so, i had a lot of resistance around my wish and ended up telling myself that if i achieve more academically i would not feel the need for others to hear and see me sing. But i slowly realised that it was not true. I am not a singer so it was really daunting to really go out there and allow myself to fulfill my wish. So i headed to the garden with my twin sis and took this opportunity to sing in public. My hand started to shake and the voice inside of my head got stronger but i started to sing louder and it took about one and a half hour for my hand to stop shaking and feeling funny. But to my surprise nothing happened. Nobody stared at me or no one passed any rude comments. Everybody eas just busy doing their thing. This experience was really unexpected.
As a RUclipsr who plays horror games on my channel, watching you're videos has helped me tremendously.
She avoids to feel rejected. She has to be entrataining to get aceptance and attention. When she doesnt have to try to win over anybody. She is very nice.
I connected with her ALOT. My dad used to always call me tacky and make fun of my style of dress to the point I just gave up. Well into my 20’s I wore raggedy clothes because he destroyed my confidence in my appearance. I’m trynna go back to a time I didn’t know him but he’s been around my whole life 😂
I feel for her when she said she had a lot of life wasted. My ex said that and I've been single now for 11 years, preventing myself from wasting other's time. And now I'm improving myself
You don't know how happy it makes me seeing these people breakthrough barriers like this.
When the woman started playing patty cake with him it put such a smile on my face... I'd kill for the opportunity she had. So sick of battling my own mind, being lonely and feeling so hopeless. I will pull through though. Just need to take this advice to heart and get my confidence back
I have been wanting to be a therapist for years and your videos definitely help me with that, I feel this childish exitement when I see you helping your clients and it's both wholesome and informative!
I tried the cold shower mentioned in this video
Not experiencing it for a second and leaving, but truly embracing the discomfort of it. I felt my body lock up as I stood below the shower head. In that moment, the discomfort I felt was raw and intense, which lead me to believe I would give up instantly. However, I stayed- hoping to reach the epiphany that is accepting my fear and discomfort. While my mind revolted, irrationally believing I would pass out, I forced myself to stick it out. At some point (I couldn’t even comprehend the amount of time passing) my body relaxed, and strangely I felt warmth and relaxation. The experience was nothing but surreal.
You might love cold showers (more power to you), but that experience to me was daunting at first. All my mind could do was panic over the sudden shock to my nervous system, and to stay with that feeling was something else entirely. However, I feel as tho I’m beginning to understand what Julien meant about embracing raw emotions: we elect fear and discomfort as “bad” emotions, but as I came to accept what fear and discomfort really were, I realized that these emotions are vital to life. While we may choose to block out certain emotions as a way to promote the perfect life (I feel like I’m a perfect example of this), we’re actually selling ourselves short of our natural existence. While I may not be an expert on the matter, I can say with confidence that fear and discomfort are good feelings if you allow them to be, for it’s what gives life depth and sensitivity. By blocking out emotions, we are choosing to numb ourselves and shy away from the possibilities life may offer.
Again, a cold shower is nothing compared to all the fears and pain this world can conjugate, but it made me aware of the possibility that theses emotions aren’t as “bad” like we play them out to be. Similarly, both happiness and sadness are essential to the human experience, with neither being worth more than the other.
While I’ll continue to have irrational fears surround me, I’m learning to embrace them. I hope that you all can learn to accept your existence as well, and learn that you are A LOT stronger than you allow yourself to see. Thank you Julien and thank you all! ❤
I agree with everything you said. You realy have a great way of explaining in detail, i learned something new. I just wanted to add that in this modern world theres so many ways to distract ourselves from feelings. Not just talking about the internet but our job and fast pased disciplined life. I just realised that being alone with our thoughts is a lot more valuable, and it should be practiced every day.
julien, i talked to this person that had no friends, introduced myself and told her about me. i was sweating and shaking but i'm glad i did it!! your videos help
Thank you Julien, you're giving so much value. I remember in my childhood how I started to hide my emotions of sadness or when I cried in front of my family and siblings. It was because everyone considered that as a being weak and everybody was making joke of me.
And it's still something with what I am fighting against. To not hide..
Your comment spoke to me, but in my case, I was conditioned to suppress anger and all of the other shades like that, which made me people's pleaser and being scared of a conflict. Not to mention, that type of behavior provoked even more of conflicts, and I just went from one experience to another, completely unsatisfied with the situation and my reaction.
Nowadays I'm gently providing myself with being a safe space for myself and all of my emotions, feelings and states, and that is crucial for me in my self-healing journey. But because I had such a little contact with my anger, I still often times don't use it when I feel so.
Right now, when war came to my country (Ukraine), im dealing with tons of anger, hatred, pain etc, and I wouldn't be able to even stay on this planet if I didn't start to be a safe space for myself, at least a little bit.
So my point is: I'm sorry you had to deal with that reaction of your family. Your emotions are valid, and exactly in being able to feel them all lies a great power. True power is in admitting weakness as well, because there's nothing wrong with that. When we feel overwhelmed with shock, for instance, there's nothing wrong with feeling powerless and hopeless, and true power is in admitting that.
It seems to me members of your family were not in contact with their raw emotions and were conditioned themselves to think so, and you as a child triggered their fear to be true.
Now you're probably one of a few from your clan who realizes reasons and effects, so be there with yourself every step of the way.
💔🤝🌌
@@iamjoy888That was beautiful and insightful.
Julien is changing lives, old and young. Making people become wholesome again, conquer their fears and just an awesome person to learn from. Thanks bud.
What do you think about his former life as a PUA? I hadn't heard about it until yesterday. First came across him a few weeks ago.
@@formulaic78 He started out giving advice on how to pick up girls but got cancelled, like his events got cancelled cause it got a bad reputation. RSD Julian le blanc was his name lol along with RSD Tyler. He revamped himself quite well though and i can see how he helps people come out of their shell. He knows pyschology really well
I really love this because she talks with the tone of a confident person but she has the same problems as most of us watching this . When she said the words self confidence it made me think we need to concentrate on the word self . It's not for others it's for us .
For her to just get up and come up was a big deal! This was a not a easy tough cookie to crack. I am glad to see a situation where you not always going to get what you are looking for, even as a master teacher. Julien tried and tried but guess what it's a reality called time. ❤❤
Time?
23:13 danggg.. that “he didn’t wanna hear me.” response was so powerful. You can tell it has been there under the surface for a long time, itching to come out.
If you ever see this: you are VERY WORTH listening to! You have worthwhile things to say, and we want to hear them!!!
What's interesting is when she says he didn't want to hear me, she's referring to her ex but really referring to her dad. As a father, I can see how badly my children want me to look at them, to approve of them. I saw the little girl in her wanting her dad to hear her.
She should have called out Julian’s resistance to play paddy cake and made him play more
There was a waterfall near us, such a lovely thin streak of water, like a thread but white and moving. It fell from a great height, but it looked quite low, and it was half a mile away, though it did not seem fifty paces. I loved to listen to it at night, but it was then that I became so restless. Sometimes I went and climbed the mountain and stood there in the midst of the tall pines, all alone in the terrible silence, with our little village in the distance, and the sky so blue, and the sun so bright, and an old ruined castle on the mountain-side, far away. I used to watch the line where earth and sky met, and longed to go and seek there the key of all mysteries, thinking that I might find there a new life, perhaps some great city where life should be grander and richer--and then it struck me that life may be grand enough even in a prison.
I cannot stop banging on about you to everyone around me 😂 I wish I found you years ago, everything has fallen into place in my mind after listening to you and I can't put into words how much of a difference there is to my mindset and the way I think about things that trigger me. I'm noticing the things that wpuld trigger me so badly now don't and its only been about a week!! I am beyond grateful, thank you julien ❤
Julien you are talented in analyzing people, asking the right questions and making them realize the aha moments in funny, authentic and human way. You are a real healer, just wow! Keep doing your work, love it. You can have great impact on society in the process of awakening !
This is beautiful. Thank you for what you do. Very similar to when I went to therapy. You allow myself to ask the important questions.
This was great...your content gets straight to the point and challenges your audience in a way they (we) need in order for growth to happen.Much appreciated 👍
Nicely done Julien. I've watched your progress and it's great through the years! One of the rare teachers that I find helpful.
This was so moving, also to see the raw emotion in you by the end, txs Julien
Im glad this lady stood up and dud the hard work. Thank you for being open. Thanks Julien as well for leading her so gracefully❤
Such a sweet sweet lady im so glad you were able to open her up. I hope she finds happiness and continues to grow❤️
A beautiful penetration of the intellectual mind/front while still creating safety. Well done to both you Julien and the woman here.
I am so grateful to have found your videos. And you are absolutely right, keep your childlike spark ❤ i will never hide that part of me again, if people don't like it thats fine. I don't need their approval.
All social fear comes down to fear of not being welcome - you could become excluded from the group (primal fear) or being attacked - either way you subconsciously fear consequences leading to death. That's why fear is there, to protect you from making mistakes by making us flee or flinch. Trouble is, it doesn't always serve us. The only thing I have found that can conquer the fear of death, is to have a greater fear of not living with courage.
what could you describe as courage? you have an interesting point and you're using that fear to your advantage, something everyone should implement.
Lori and Julien that was so helpful to me! Thankyou for the leg-up! ❤
This lady is shining like a star. Thanks for sharing
Go Lorri! You can do it. Let it go dive deeper and you will crush it!!!
Soooo glad i found this channel!!! Im ready to navigate the shadow side of my healing journey. I can relate to Lori a lot
You're videos having been helping me identify what's been going on in my mind and body for 30 years that i could never put a finger on. So helpful. I love when you feature women too it makes it really relatable.
Wow. This was particularly helpful today. I've been struggling for a long time with letting go, specifically allowing instead of constantly pushing. There's far too much to unpack in a little comment here. Briefly, the series of "why" questions to dig deeper struck a special chord today. I realized: for 40+ years, I've been pushing so hard to become "enough" by trying to achieve ideals, things that may just not be possible or reasonable or most beneficial in the moment and then vilifying myself if I don't do it better than perfectly. That needs some editing, now doesn't it? Thanks so much to all involved with this video for your contributions to far more than what we see in the video itself.
Thank you for what youre doing Julien… I am so grateful for you creating awareness amongst people and great things start with awareness🙏🙏♥️
I've been following your advice for years now and it's nice to see your demographic expanding. I am very happy for your continued success.
Thank you! 🙏
the energy shift by the end was beautiful
"you're a grown man. Love being a kid with me." Lori has a beautiful soul! love her energy!! great video!!
Very emotional video! and so real! Thanks Julien for helping finding the root causes of the problems! Very useful ❤
Julien coming out with another banger! i take notes while watching your vids
Thank you! And great job taking notes! 🔥👊
Love it. ❤❤❤ this was deep and beautiful
Thank you she needed this so bad ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Big hugs to her proud of her
Oh my goodness. Julien…..you have helped me SO much my emotions are leaking, like um, in response to a LOT of your videos. I want you to help me. I have made a lot of changes. I have dug kidney-deep. Felt the feelings. I’m beginning to value me, love me. I’m a recent widow. But the pain has broken me open, instead of breaking me. Im so close. (I actually thought you were a bit of a stinker….before I began digging deeper. 😂😁♥️) Your work brings light to me as I peel the layers.
Yours truly,
Another imperfect human comprised of stardust and silliness
It’s more than a feeling, it’s the consequences of that action, being left alone when speak out for yourself/your own opinion in a group, being broke cause you criticized your boss infront of the team and getting fired and so on. Scared of not being able to handle the new situation and ending completely wasted, depressed, suicidal. Getting physically attacked by someone who doesn’t like you when speaking your mind.
What an actual sweetheart. I wanna be friends with this woman! I love her smile and she was so brave and relatable. I feel like I blank out a lot
as you were speaking to Lori i felt as if you speaking to me. i struggle with confidence and speaking too. and I felt everything she was saying. what a powerful demonstration of doing the work. I'm blown
I am afraid of the feeling that will result from experiences, and that's why I run away from those experiences. 😮😮😮 Massive breakthrough
3:15 “stop hating bad sensations”
this guy is a fucking genius
I appreciate this content it helped me reflect on "my" life and translate this technique to my self.
I'm always crying in videos like this. I fkn need healing man. This video makes me realize what I need to do.
Thank you Julian
You're so welcome!
Looking forward to seeing you next weekend in NY!
Yes! You’re going to LOVE it! 🙌
Julien. We need a book written by you about shadow work. This thing is real
Amazing work Julien, watching through this now 🙏
Thank you! 🙏
You are a psychologists , a healer and a guru all in one ✨🫡🍀👏🏼
This one episode especially is like free therapy. I almost cried.
wow I’m definitely gonna try the tips u gave us!
I can’t help but tear up for that beautiful woman. It just tells that life is unfair and we just got brave it with grace and an open mind.
Grateful for having an Educator with swag teaching me how to talk with confidence. I have a speech tomorrow on AI in front of my class. Thank you again for your videos!
swag?
“With swag” 😭
He has good sense of fashion lol@@icytidal3228
@@icytidal3228swag swag 😎
Bahaha swag
Wow this was amazing thank you 🙏 😮😊
You’re very welcome! Glad this resonated with you!
great job julien. thank you
Man this gives me so mutch insight, love the vids!
Wow. It takes lot of courage to take a step towards real stuff like this in my opinion and she did that!👏🏻👏🏻
I've listened to the whole video Lori! Good job x
Thank you for this
Intense , great wrk , thankyou julien
VALUE!!!! Thanks, Julien
enlightment comes with end of duality
This is seriously amazing
So grateful for your videos Julien. You are an inspiration and help so many. I wish you all the best in life!
Thank you so much! 🙏
Amazing video. Made me tear up ❤❤❤❤
Disease and health, like circumstances, are rooted in thought. Sickly thoughts
will express themselves through a sickly body. Thoughts of fear have been
known to kill a man as speedily as a bullet, and they are continually killing
thousands of people just as surely though less rapidly. The people who live in
fear of disease are the people who get it. Anxiety quickly demoralizes the
whole body, and lays it open to the entrance of disease; while impure thoughts,
even if not physically indulged, will soon shatter the nervous system.
To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self made prison-hole. But
to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in
all-such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by
day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to
their possessor.
Where did you get this. Its good
@@JolinHard As A Man Thinketh
Thank You
So grateful that I found your channel! Great videos. Just took a cold shower, haha
You are the answer of my biggest questions julien sir❤😊 i feel very greatful for you and your channel...thank you so much for such a authentic content...nd yaa...i really want to meet you once in my life...and want to talk with you 😊
This is so beautiful!! Sousan
Love your videos Julien ❤
Thank you! Glad they resonate!
this guy is so good
Your videos are very amazing I look at myself from a different perspective it's very cool to be in touch and understand why I have been feeling the way I have you are a cool dude
Wow! Amazing that this work is bringing different GENERATIONS together to rise to their potential as human beings!
Yes! 🙏
Go lori! Love this
respect 💌
Thank you 😊
Keep the childhood spark- and a tune it with focus and you'll be able to get through
Wow sir! You certainly remind me of Jeebus with all that healing work 😮
Your content is too great
Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
Im definitely not giving up on self improvement though!
You are in fact whole and complete, u just dont know it yet :)
This is some amazing stuff...
oh my god you are amazing, my english is not that good but I just want to say that your vidios are halping me a lot thanks
This is quite weird to mention but yesterday I traveled to my village and a lot of mosquitoes bite me round my neck. I was resisting to feel how itchy it wa and it got worst then I remembered a part of your video that said it’s beneficial to feel then I leaned into to sensations and discomfort of it and it was crazy hard the scratch was bad I even had a tear but I softened into it and eventually fell asleep. When I woke up the bite didn’t scratch at all and almost looked healed, which hardly happens cause it always get worst. What that taught me is really what you resist persists
I just love it
Hi Julien.
Doesn't anybody fear that when they are talking to a group of people, their facial expressions and their gestures in their delivery are not going to fit into the standard facial expressions and gestures of the society and they stand out as a weird character? Is it just me? I always look for someone who talks about this and no one did so far.
I feel this way all the time, u are deffo not alone.
@@tadeuszmusic thanks for sharing
I think the same, the facial expressions when someone has social anxiety are very different, I would literally be there blushing shaking, my voice would shake simply in shock.
Funnily enough, I sat on this exact worry for YEARS until I realized that it’s linked to the fundamental fear that I’m not ‘normal.’ It made me feel like I was always putting on a performance when I was with other people and overthinking every single detail that often MADE me awkward and weird. It kind of went away on its own after I started reading about other people’s embarrassing stories on the internet and making an effort to notice nervous tics and awkwardness in the people around me. It struck me how often it happened and how little anyone actually cared about people’s social missteps (unless they were really rude and thoughtless). It helped me release judgment of myself because I realized I wasn’t feeling like judging other people and no one else around me really did either.
You really are your own worst critic. When you just give yourself a chance to relax, body language does what it’s supposed to do intuitively, you don’t have to think about it
@@muroturco No worries 💜