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Hey julien, i watched a lot of your videos these months and they helped me just like you helped this girl, i learned a lot about myself and my insecurities and all that and i think i identified the major part of them and now im a lot better and more capable of identifiyng the things that trigger me but, i dont know exactly what to do now, i now i have to let go of them but i dont know exaclty how, i feel better when i do these exercices you talk about (like what the girl did in the video) but for some reason i dont think that is enough, i sooner or later get those back again. Can you make a video in more depth about how to trully "let go"?? The complete process, from the begining to the end and then, how to know if im really getting better and doing it right. I think that help a lot, not just me but everyone. Thanks a lot, you are being so important since i discovered your videos, you dont even know how much, thanks a lot! :)
Julien Just incredible awesome explanation of how to do the work. I have spent many hours listening to you and Owen Cook. You say you need to do more work on yourself as we all do ! That is most honest and humble of you ! Have you listened to Neville Goddard teachings on RUclips by Timeless knowledge or Emmett Fox. After you listen to them . Test the principles they point out and look back on your life lived. You will have a holy fucking shit moments many OMG 😲 😳 😍 😭. WHICH will be enlightening to you both. For me it started with Dr. Joseph Murphy The Power of the subconscious mind. Then Eckhart Tolle The power of NOW. This is all Devinly presented to me on my path of life. Then Neville Goddard teachings. New Years day 2024 Julien you were next . After many hours of work and enjoying your videos. I just wanted to share with like minded people this knowledge. Can help thousands of people to realize being . Bliss 😊 within ! My friend I haven't had coffee with yet ! Blessings 🙌
i have that feeling too that i‘m not smart enough because i can‘t articulate myself properly even in my native language. when i work on it, it actually gets better, but i always need to prepare in my head what i have to say and i can never speak fluently and spontaneously.
Dude that’s been me the last 38yrs of my life. You described me in a nutshell. I now speak 3 languages but also in my native language (English) I’ve always felt behind everyone. What’s helped me out is reading and being interested in more things. Non-dualism also helped big time but honestly just owning my idiosyncrasies and flaws because there will always be someone better and something to improve upon.
@@JulienHimselfI've watched a few of your videos now and I feel better about myself every time. I have a lot of trauma from my childhood and learning how to cope or fix the obvious psychological issues that I've faced because of it has been a slow process. but I feel after watching your videos I feel better about who I am as a person. so thanks man I appreciate your help you're awesome 👍
This is the kind of content I’ve truly needed. Your videos have helped me feel so much more *free* to just be myself. The way you explain things is so clear and on point, it’s really shifted my perspective. I’ve watched a lot of your videos now, and one thing is crystal clear: we’re all a little ‘weird’, and that’s what makes us unique. I’m done with clinging to labels or endlessly searching for ‘who I am.’ That search only pulled me further away from myself. Thanks to your insights, I feel so much more liberated from other people’s expectations and the pressure society puts on us. I no longer feel the need so much to seek approval from the outside or pretend to fit in. You’ve shown me that true freedom comes from fully accepting who I already am, with all my quirks and imperfections. That realization has been life-changing. I just want to thank you for everything you’re doing and continue to do. Your videos have not only helped me see myself differently, but they’ve freed me from so many limiting beliefs that were holding me back. I’m excited to keep watching your content and continue down this path of freedom. Thank you again, truly! Greetings, Valerie
For ages i’ve seen well known Jungians like Jordan Peterson talk about integrating the shadow. But they never actually talk about how do fucking do it! So thanks for this.
Aside from talking in the mirror, I don't get what else to do for "shadow work"? I've heard the idea of "Letting Go" a ton, but my mind can't grasp how that works in Execution?
Omg this girl is sooo beautiful 😍 and she articulates herself well too and has the demeanor of a kind-hearted, caring person ❤. it really sucks that she could have developed such a distorted self-image 😢
I know it doesn’t beat one on one interaction with someone you’ve taught or you yourself but imagine a shadow work video where you ask a question and then record your response to the most common answers and go deeper and deeper and then end with exercises to help. It would be a huge video but each individual person would be able to jump through it like a pick your adventure book. These videos have already helped me in a big way and I’m grateful you’ve done all this. Your guided meditations are the truth for real. Much love ❤️
Gabriella has a really authentic look and expressions. When julien is explaining things, she is just focus to listen and understand every word and link it to her past experiences probably. Otherwise she is just cheerful and engaging. Love this.
The Shadow question “ Am I enough” made me realize that I actually don’t think I am. Just felt like I don’t measure up but as Julien says, measure up to what. I already am enough right now, I just had some deep acquired beliefs that make me believe I am not and I am willing to let all of that go. Thank you so much Julien you are saving lives❤
The best thing about Julien, is he doesn't tote himself as a savior or a new jesus he wears random sometimes crazy clothes that are like he just woke up. Modern Degniones? I can't spell but props to him for all he's done and I'm glad he is succesful in this!
He actually does that on purpose, just like the hair. It is to show that you can be yourself. Your hair, your clothes, they do not make you... YOU. It is your inner self that makes up who you are. Second to that, it also shows that you must not base your opinion of yourself on what others think about you. If you wear weird clothes or have fuzzy hair, it still doesn't change the actions and self-identity that you have as a person. Very clever!
Thank you for this exercise. I triggered by the shadow questions especially about physical appearance. I will start to accept and say positive words about myself. It may take time but I hope someday I'm gonna believe that I'm beautiful and that I love myself for being me.
Creative expression thru flower gardening, painting, music, dance, writing, etc. will get your mind off yourself and make you feel beautiful and if you feel beautiful you will be more beautiful.
As a clinician I love to work with my clients on the shadow aspects that create the cognitive distortion and how we operate from the lens of those distortions to essentialy prove its truth. Confirmation bias… Its such amazing work to see the clients make the connections and see how they have been living a lie due to their own distortions stemmed from the shadow..
I'm from Turkiye, everytime i watch a video from your channel, i put myself in a place of the person on the stage and it really helps to analyze myself and it really resonates. Even doing this seems to work, I can't imagine how much more would it be beneficial if I were to be next to you. Thanks Julien, you are great.
It's true. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves (some much more than others) as a result of our influences growing up, to be somehow "better" than who we are. Hence, it's an endless chase to believe that we are enough versus knowing we are good enough NOW to exist. Good message by Julien.
Julien, I have been on my own self-improvement journey and part of it included journalling to manage my emotions and philosophical beliefs to help me maintain my productivity. I came across the videos and the concepts you talk about hit every single point I had on my notes which I crafted to recognise patterns in my thinking. The author of 48 laws of power also has a video on the exact concepts you teach and its crazy but I don't think I have seen most self-help and self-improvement gurus ever talk about the things you mention. Everyone always preaches body language, what to say, frameworks for speaking, how to be confident, what to think, how to use the "exposure ladder" yet the actual answer is to just be authentic. It's like Jordan Peterson says, you either be authentic and face the consequence of who you truly are good or bad or face the consequence of living in a shadow of yourself.
Self-improvement should be because you want to do it for yourself, not because of someone else. I learned this the hard way; but honestly once I did it for me the fears I held dissipated and I realized that heck...the me I strove to become was more than what the person I originally set on this journey for deserved. So now I love myself, for myself and for my daughter.
I think we have that need of approval either because we need to feel loved or we want something someone has to get somewhere to have a certain thing or status. It feels good to be cheered and awful to be boo’d. Life will give you both of those even if it’s at your best effort, so Julien is expressing that you should enjoy it all. The good, bad and the ugly!
I was trying to relearn subjects so I don't appear dumb. With Julien's logic I realized I'm only trying to appease other people or reinforce that I feel stupid. He's given me lots of aha moments like stop adding and start letting go.❤
I love how he always uses that analogy. The one he uses at 08:24! So useful in your everyday life, if you can remind yourself this. Good work, Julien! You rock!
Yes, I'm not run by disapproval or approval!!! Yes, I believe this is the Master Key to set oneself free from being a slave of what other's think or say of me!!!
I'm still trying to get rid of this feeling of self inhibition It might have started with being told to be quite to not disturb people but I was told that I've always been a quite kid
It gets weird when you learn astrology and it coincides with exactly what you are going through and how you handle things. Especially because the time you are born and day is what determines your natal chart. Like it’s pre destined… so obviously some of us aren’t as shabby when it comes to different things. Learning to love yourself helps allegory of Christ is the key. And to live by it id say…. And that’s what he is basically doing not letting the ego fears keep him from love of self and self acceptance
Hey julien, i watched a lot of your videos these months and they helped me just like you helped this girl, i learned a lot about myself and my insecurities and all that and i think i identified the major part of them and now im a lot better and more capable of identifiyng the things that trigger me but, i dont know exactly what to do now, i now i have to let go of them but i dont know exaclty how, i feel better when i do these exercices you talk about (like what the girl did in the video) but for some reason i dont think that is enough, i sooner or later get those back again. Can you make a video in more depth about how to trully "let go"?? The complete process, from the begining to the end and then, how to know if im really getting better and doing it right. I think that help a lot, not just me but everyone. Thanks a lot, you are being so important since i discovered your videos, you dont even know how much, thanks a lot! :)
Julien, one thing id keep in mind is that symptoms people want to get rid of are often required for their core beliefs to function. For example, someone comes in with low self-esteem and wants to feel more confident. They do all the work here and can’t seem to shake it. After exploring its function, said person unearths the core schema that “ I must never feel good about myself or I will succeed and surpass my own parent.” Assume coherence between symptom and belief system
when they boo-ed at her i literally started crying.. is that normal cmon 😭my brain jjust makes me think it's real or it just imagines for a moment.. ah.. also.. i recieved an email from your team Julien! about that online course and they are interested in talking with me.. it's been like 2 weeks or so and i'm so scared to talk to your team.. so anxious.. so scared to be involved or present on the course or being a center of attention even for a moment.. but id do anything to change myself and my life, ugh.. i hope i'll make it.. Greetings from Serbia! - Sara
Thank you for this. I guess this is what I feel is lacking in CBT. Shadow work is truly difficult, I guess there are parts of ourselves that protect us from our shadow.
The problem i have is i underestimate myself and lack confidence. I am currently watching your videos to get guidance on whwre i feel i am going wrong.
19:53 Not being smart or beautiful is nothing to be ashamed of. I don't think you need to force yourself into believing you're smart or beautiful if you think you're not but instead force yourself to not feel too bad about it by for example accepting that the avarage iq is 82.
It is very important to believe in your own self-worth. yet it is as important to be self-aware. the "it's me" thing is trending, this is taking people out of their own self-awareness into a world of individualism and carelessness. balance is critical.
Anyone know the best Julien video on letting go of regrets? Maybe specifically missed opportunities / getting rid of scarcity mindset? I trade options, and any time I am close to a big trade but miss it, it really screws with me for a week or two; not to mention ruminating in other areas of life too.
@Julien is there possibility that Gabriela or others can't make complements on their self out loud because then we think "what would others think when I would just say IM BEAUTIFUL"? Sometimes I think that we are afraid to talk good about ourselves because we don't want to be judged by others and that others don't think about us as selfish, egoistic etc. I'm always wondering, if you can say to your loved ones "I love you, you are amazing, beautiful..." and so on... why can't we just say it about ourselves.
At 0:51, I felt something in my own chest when I saw the guy filming was conveyed that he shouldn't film. Logically I know that there are going to be times where you're making people a little comfortable with what you're doing and I know social awareness is key but for someone who is in between the way of complete social awareness, it still feels somewhat humiliating. How to handle that? Is it just that you tell yourself "Hey, it's okay that you were filming and you were told to stop it and mocked a little"? That guy might be feeling "Oh my god, everybody is laughing at me for filming this and being told to stop doing so!". Now ofcourse, Julien's intension might not be to call out on him or say mock him but there's a good chance that he'd feel humiliated (or at least I would feel that if I were in his place). I bet he'd even lost attention to what Julien said the next 30 seconds after that moment. I actually paused the video to post this comment. Thanksa lot, Julien for posting such videos! I always manage to find a lot of nuances with each of the video (even those nuances which you are not directly calling out!). Thank you so much!
Hey there! The way to deal with this is exactly what I explain in this video here, when it comes to detaching your self worth from the approval/disapproval of others... What anyone think of you does NOT affect who you are as a person! 👌
@@JulienHimselfBut it affects your reputation and your reputation has a real effect on your life. If there’s a repeating pattern of people thinking you’re incompetent or socially awkward or whatever…that’s not good. What people think of you has real world consequences. Your reputation is important. It affects your social life, your career, your dating life, etc…you can’t just pretend that these things aren’t important.
It's pretty rude to film in a seminar setting when the person you're supposed to be listening to is right next to you and it would creep me out too. I think he handled it pretty well by making a joke out of it instead of getting angry, that would have been way more humiliating. Even then that feeling of humiliation comes from being insecure in the first place.
@@nickp3949 It's the good old "It's not about the thing, it's about the place it's coming from". The nuance is that yes your reputation is important but it shouldn't run you.
I feel like my ex would do this to me. Bring me up and then bring me down … if i was of service to him i was the best bla bla bla and if i wanted to establish boundaries or space .. i was cold and i was mean… and logical etc. I got so sick of feeling up and down. I finally broke free and said “im a human being! Im not perfect”
I just want to be part of the group but i dont want to destroy it. And also i dont want to be destroyed by the group. So my greatest fear in live are just other people not me. I think i hate myself pretty much but really if i am alone im good with myself. I am not the problem and this realisation makes me free. I can ignore other people but i cant ignore myself.
I also have the same issue where I don’t feel smart enough, good enough. I also reinforce the lens to the point of extreme negatively. When he was saying you’re -this- all of it brought up tightness and man. Definitely got some shit to work on. 2nd video I’ve seen of this dude and absolutely astounding how just little nudge like he said brings up a ton of shit. Embarrassing as hell typing this but it’s online so it ain’t as bad
Regarding your practices when you mentioned like being smart in the video and saying you are smart can help our insecurities . Im conflicted I read a book called "the subtitle art of not giving a fck" and it basically said by doing these things your reminding yourself of something you desire and lack and instead of just being it
Hey plz reply When i am with my close friends i am very comfortable and confident but when i am alone in college or other places i feel very shy and awkward Whyy??😢
what about if a part of me is happy to have bouh ? and hate to be cheered ? i'm not sure of that but it's what i thought when i imagined in the situation .. is it that i hate people and tend to reverse the psychology ? (if they hate me its cool because i have contempt for them ..)
im new here and there is a lot of valuable Content. specially for me because i am pretty Interested about social things . Thank you :) by the way , any advice for increasing social status?
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Hey julien, i watched a lot of your videos these months and they helped me just like you helped this girl, i learned a lot about myself and my insecurities and all that and i think i identified the major part of them and now im a lot better and more capable of identifiyng the things that trigger me but, i dont know exactly what to do now, i now i have to let go of them but i dont know exaclty how, i feel better when i do these exercices you talk about (like what the girl did in the video) but for some reason i dont think that is enough, i sooner or later get those back again. Can you make a video in more depth about how to trully "let go"?? The complete process, from the begining to the end and then, how to know if im really getting better and doing it right. I think that help a lot, not just me but everyone. Thanks a lot, you are being so important since i discovered your videos, you dont even know how much, thanks a lot! :)
@DiogoGaming2 Yes, I completely agree with this, and feel the same way!
Julien
Just incredible awesome explanation of how to do the work.
I have spent many hours listening to you and Owen Cook.
You say you need to do more work on yourself as we all do ! That is most honest and humble of you !
Have you listened to Neville Goddard teachings on RUclips by Timeless knowledge or Emmett Fox.
After you listen to them . Test the principles they point out and look back on your life lived. You will have a holy fucking shit moments many OMG 😲 😳 😍 😭.
WHICH will be enlightening to you both.
For me it started with Dr. Joseph Murphy The Power of the subconscious mind.
Then Eckhart Tolle The power of NOW. This is all Devinly presented to me on my path of life.
Then Neville Goddard teachings. New Years day 2024 Julien you were next . After many hours of work and enjoying your videos.
I just wanted to share with like minded people this knowledge. Can help thousands of people to realize being . Bliss 😊 within !
My friend I haven't had coffee with yet !
Blessings 🙌
i have that feeling too that i‘m not smart enough because i can‘t articulate myself properly even in my native language. when i work on it, it actually gets better, but i always need to prepare in my head what i have to say and i can never speak fluently and spontaneously.
I feel and I am in the exact situation! How do you do it? Can you give me some tips?
Me too! I wish you guys the best
Articulate the way it's you.
Get proper sleep, eat healthy food and minimise stress. Verbal fluency improves a lot when you have an optimised mind
Dude that’s been me the last 38yrs of my life. You described me in a nutshell. I now speak 3 languages but also in my native language (English) I’ve always felt behind everyone. What’s helped me out is reading and being interested in more things. Non-dualism also helped big time but honestly just owning my idiosyncrasies and flaws because there will always be someone better and something to improve upon.
Gabriella is the kind of girl whose smile will make you smile as well✨ hopefully she is the happiest now!!
This guy changed my life for good.
Amazing to hear! Glad my content has been so impactful for you! 🙏
Yes, same. A blessing he is :)
B😢h
@@JulienHimselfI've watched a few of your videos now and I feel better about myself every time. I have a lot of trauma from my childhood and learning how to cope or fix the obvious psychological issues that I've faced because of it has been a slow process. but I feel after watching your videos I feel better about who I am as a person. so thanks man I appreciate your help you're awesome 👍
This is the kind of content I’ve truly needed. Your videos have helped me feel so much more *free* to just be myself. The way you explain things is so clear and on point, it’s really shifted my perspective. I’ve watched a lot of your videos now, and one thing is crystal clear: we’re all a little ‘weird’, and that’s what makes us unique. I’m done with clinging to labels or endlessly searching for ‘who I am.’ That search only pulled me further away from myself.
Thanks to your insights, I feel so much more liberated from other people’s expectations and the pressure society puts on us. I no longer feel the need so much to seek approval from the outside or pretend to fit in. You’ve shown me that true freedom comes from fully accepting who I already am, with all my quirks and imperfections. That realization has been life-changing.
I just want to thank you for everything you’re doing and continue to do. Your videos have not only helped me see myself differently, but they’ve freed me from so many limiting beliefs that were holding me back. I’m excited to keep watching your content and continue down this path of freedom. Thank you again, truly!
Greetings, Valerie
Julien hugged her like a proud older brother at the end. So cute 🤗 💚💚
I know right? So heartwarming to watch
27:13 this part right here is a CERTIFIED BANGER 🔥
The more she interacted and showed her genuine, natural self - and the accent *wow* she became so beautiful! Gabriella - you're amazing!
For ages i’ve seen well known Jungians like Jordan Peterson talk about integrating the shadow. But they never actually talk about how do fucking do it! So thanks for this.
I know right!!! That's absolutely what it is. Integrate your shadow, blah-di-blah, do good by yourself, for yourself. How the fuck though?
This!
Thank you for saying this!! Every damn time it’s “what are the benefits” “what is the shadow” not here’s what you can do to integrate it
‼️‼️‼️ What was that guy doing at the 1:00 minute mark, that Julien didn’t like? I don’t understand what happened that Julien corrected him.
Aside from talking in the mirror, I don't get what else to do for "shadow work"?
I've heard the idea of "Letting Go" a ton, but my mind can't grasp how that works in Execution?
The video game reference is like just because you changed your skin into something fancy doesn't mean you get better at the game.
She is my favorite person by far that you've had on. She was so relatable and easy to connect with.
She's amazing, yes... Massive respect to her! Glad this connected with you! 🙏
My broke up was just 2months ago😢it hurts
Omg this girl is sooo beautiful 😍 and she articulates herself well too and has the demeanor of a kind-hearted, caring person ❤. it really sucks that she could have developed such a distorted self-image 😢
And that may have come from her family, peers, or perhaps the media. Whatever external source, it actually makes me very angry 😡
Cannot believe I wasted so many years of self improvement when I could of been doing this work the real inner work. Thankyou Julien!
It all led to this. It wasn’t a waste. You’ve got this
@@0oChrisHBKo0beautifully put my friend
Truth
I know it doesn’t beat one on one interaction with someone you’ve taught or you yourself but imagine a shadow work video where you ask a question and then record your response to the most common answers and go deeper and deeper and then end with exercises to help. It would be a huge video but each individual person would be able to jump through it like a pick your adventure book.
These videos have already helped me in a big way and I’m grateful you’ve done all this. Your guided meditations are the truth for real. Much love ❤️
Gabriella has a really authentic look and expressions. When julien is explaining things, she is just focus to listen and understand every word and link it to her past experiences probably. Otherwise she is just cheerful and engaging. Love this.
No one cares what you think 😁
That ending made me shed a few tears, for her and for me. These videos hurt to watch, but by the end I feel so much better. Thank You!
Same!!
The Shadow question “ Am I enough” made me realize that I actually don’t think I am. Just felt like I don’t measure up but as Julien says, measure up to what. I already am enough right now, I just had some deep acquired beliefs that make me believe I am not and I am willing to let all of that go. Thank you so much Julien you are saving lives❤
The best thing about Julien, is he doesn't tote himself as a savior or a new jesus he wears random sometimes crazy clothes that are like he just woke up. Modern Degniones? I can't spell but props to him for all he's done and I'm glad he is succesful in this!
He actually does that on purpose, just like the hair. It is to show that you can be yourself. Your hair, your clothes, they do not make you... YOU. It is your inner self that makes up who you are.
Second to that, it also shows that you must not base your opinion of yourself on what others think about you. If you wear weird clothes or have fuzzy hair, it still doesn't change the actions and self-identity that you have as a person.
Very clever!
Man she was so pretty, its amazing what negative beliefs can do
Absolutely beautiful. Made me cry at that last “yes!!!!”
You're so gentle and firm at the same time. I am fairly new to you, and binge watching/listening to your teachings. So relatable and real. Thank you!
Julien you've come such a long way and I want to emphasize my appreciation for the latest content 🥰🥰
Thank you so much! 🙏
Socrates
Thank you for this exercise. I triggered by the shadow questions especially about physical appearance. I will start to accept and say positive words about myself. It may take time but I hope someday I'm gonna believe that I'm beautiful and that I love myself for being me.
This gentleman is really doing alot to, seriously help people. This presentation really hit home for me personally
Creative expression thru flower gardening, painting, music, dance, writing, etc. will get your mind off yourself and make you feel beautiful and if you feel beautiful you will be more beautiful.
You could just tell how proud of herself she was when she did that scream at the end
Thank you julien.i was suffering from insane social anxiety..by watching your videos I'm back to my confident self❤❤❤❤
As a clinician I love to work with my clients on the shadow aspects that create the cognitive distortion and how we operate from the lens of those distortions to essentialy prove its truth. Confirmation bias…
Its such amazing work to see the clients make the connections and see how they have been living a lie due to their own distortions stemmed from the shadow..
I'm from Turkiye, everytime i watch a video from your channel, i put myself in a place of the person on the stage and it really helps to analyze myself and it really resonates. Even doing this seems to work, I can't imagine how much more would it be beneficial if I were to be next to you. Thanks Julien, you are great.
I'm watching from Ankara - Türkiye too
I can tell she's a strong soul.
Thank you Julien for your help!🙏
She needed that.❤
It's true. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves (some much more than others) as a result of our influences growing up, to be somehow "better" than who we are. Hence, it's an endless chase to believe that we are enough versus knowing we are good enough NOW to exist. Good message by Julien.
Your content is the most raw and authentic I've ever seen. This was simply beautiful. God bless you Julien. 🙏
Julien, I have been on my own self-improvement journey and part of it included journalling to manage my emotions and philosophical beliefs to help me maintain my productivity. I came across the videos and the concepts you talk about hit every single point I had on my notes which I crafted to recognise patterns in my thinking.
The author of 48 laws of power also has a video on the exact concepts you teach and its crazy but I don't think I have seen most self-help and self-improvement gurus ever talk about the things you mention.
Everyone always preaches body language, what to say, frameworks for speaking, how to be confident, what to think, how to use the "exposure ladder" yet the actual answer is to just be authentic.
It's like Jordan Peterson says, you either be authentic and face the consequence of who you truly are good or bad or face the consequence of living in a shadow of yourself.
Self-improvement should be because you want to do it for yourself, not because of someone else. I learned this the hard way; but honestly once I did it for me the fears I held dissipated and I realized that heck...the me I strove to become was more than what the person I originally set on this journey for deserved. So now I love myself, for myself and for my daughter.
I think we have that need of approval either because we need to feel loved or we want something someone has to get somewhere to have a certain thing or status.
It feels good to be cheered and awful to be boo’d. Life will give you both of those even if it’s at your best effort, so Julien is expressing that you should enjoy it all. The good, bad and the ugly!
I was trying to relearn subjects so I don't appear dumb. With Julien's logic I realized I'm only trying to appease other people or reinforce that I feel stupid. He's given me lots of aha moments like stop adding and start letting go.❤
I love how he always uses that analogy. The one he uses at 08:24! So useful in your everyday life, if you can remind yourself this. Good work, Julien! You rock!
Yes, I'm not run by disapproval or approval!!! Yes, I believe this is the Master Key to set oneself free from being a slave of what other's think or say of me!!!
Damn you Julien! Always got me crying with joy seeing these amazing people open up and be free!!!
I'm still trying to get rid of this feeling of self inhibition
It might have started with being told to be quite to not disturb people but I was told that I've always been a quite kid
12:40 why am I not good enough?
27:30 Instead let go and remember that ive always been good enough
It gets weird when you learn astrology and it coincides with exactly what you are going through and how you handle things. Especially because the time you are born and day is what determines your natal chart. Like it’s pre destined… so obviously some of us aren’t as shabby when it comes to different things. Learning to love yourself helps allegory of Christ is the key. And to live by it id say…. And that’s what he is basically doing not letting the ego fears keep him from love of self and self acceptance
Hey julien, i watched a lot of your videos these months and they helped me just like you helped this girl, i learned a lot about myself and my insecurities and all that and i think i identified the major part of them and now im a lot better and more capable of identifiyng the things that trigger me but, i dont know exactly what to do now, i now i have to let go of them but i dont know exaclty how, i feel better when i do these exercices you talk about (like what the girl did in the video) but for some reason i dont think that is enough, i sooner or later get those back again. Can you make a video in more depth about how to trully "let go"?? The complete process, from the begining to the end and then, how to know if im really getting better and doing it right. I think that help a lot, not just me but everyone. Thanks a lot, you are being so important since i discovered your videos, you dont even know how much, thanks a lot! :)
Look for this: "Letting Go Technique Explained In 3 Easy Steps (MUST TRY)"
Is already uploaded on this very channel
@@mmeping I never watched that video, thanks a lot man, i will try it out for sure! :)
This is good stuff Julien, thank you. I've been around since 2013 I love where it all led you to
Thank goodness for this mans work!
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Julien, one thing id keep in mind is that symptoms people want to get rid of are often required for their core beliefs to function. For example, someone comes in with low self-esteem and wants to feel more confident. They do all the work here and can’t seem to shake it. After exploring its function, said person unearths the core schema that “ I must never feel good about myself or I will succeed and surpass my own parent.” Assume coherence between symptom and belief system
when they boo-ed at her i literally started crying.. is that normal cmon 😭my brain jjust makes me think it's real or it just imagines for a moment.. ah..
also.. i recieved an email from your team Julien! about that online course and they are interested in talking with me.. it's been like 2 weeks or so and i'm so scared to talk to your team.. so anxious.. so scared to be involved or present on the course or being a center of attention even for a moment.. but id do anything to change myself and my life, ugh.. i hope i'll make it..
Greetings from Serbia!
- Sara
Iskoristi sansu koju su ti dali, samo jako!💪
You will never forgive yourself if you don't do it now and you know this. Good luck!
Really blessed to have found these videos lately. This shit should be taught in school, but that’s where we are conditioned most!
Thank you for this. I guess this is what I feel is lacking in CBT.
Shadow work is truly difficult, I guess there are parts of ourselves that protect us from our shadow.
Chasing dont bring happiness
Gabriella is honestly so gorgeous couldn’t keep my eyes of her face it’s interesting to look at
what a great session! so much value. thank you
Good job on the table example
The problem i have is i underestimate myself and lack confidence. I am currently watching your videos to get guidance on whwre i feel i am going wrong.
Thinking is difficult that ‘s why most people judged!
19:53 Not being smart or beautiful is nothing to be ashamed of. I don't think you need to force yourself into believing you're smart or beautiful if you think you're not but instead force yourself to not feel too bad about it by for example accepting that the avarage iq is 82.
It is very important to believe in your own self-worth. yet it is as important to be self-aware. the "it's me" thing is trending, this is taking people out of their own self-awareness into a world of individualism and carelessness. balance is critical.
This has to be my favorite of your videos. Absolutely amazing and inspiring ❤
Amazing stuff, wish I could've seen it irl so I can sense the fake/authentic energy better than through a screen
Here's my upcoming tour schedule for that: www.noanxietytour.com 👌
Excellent, well done ❤
Anyone know the best Julien video on letting go of regrets? Maybe specifically missed opportunities / getting rid of scarcity mindset? I trade options, and any time I am close to a big trade but miss it, it really screws with me for a week or two; not to mention ruminating in other areas of life too.
I'm absolutely in love with this guy.
@Julien is there possibility that Gabriela or others can't make complements on their self out loud because then we think "what would others think when I would just say IM BEAUTIFUL"? Sometimes I think that we are afraid to talk good about ourselves because we don't want to be judged by others and that others don't think about us as selfish, egoistic etc. I'm always wondering, if you can say to your loved ones "I love you, you are amazing, beautiful..." and so on... why can't we just say it about ourselves.
At 0:51, I felt something in my own chest when I saw the guy filming was conveyed that he shouldn't film. Logically I know that there are going to be times where you're making people a little comfortable with what you're doing and I know social awareness is key but for someone who is in between the way of complete social awareness, it still feels somewhat humiliating. How to handle that? Is it just that you tell yourself "Hey, it's okay that you were filming and you were told to stop it and mocked a little"? That guy might be feeling "Oh my god, everybody is laughing at me for filming this and being told to stop doing so!". Now ofcourse, Julien's intension might not be to call out on him or say mock him but there's a good chance that he'd feel humiliated (or at least I would feel that if I were in his place). I bet he'd even lost attention to what Julien said the next 30 seconds after that moment.
I actually paused the video to post this comment.
Thanksa lot, Julien for posting such videos! I always manage to find a lot of nuances with each of the video (even those nuances which you are not directly calling out!). Thank you so much!
Hey there! The way to deal with this is exactly what I explain in this video here, when it comes to detaching your self worth from the approval/disapproval of others... What anyone think of you does NOT affect who you are as a person! 👌
@@JulienHimselfBut it affects your reputation and your reputation has a real effect on your life. If there’s a repeating pattern of people thinking you’re incompetent or socially awkward or whatever…that’s not good. What people think of you has real world consequences. Your reputation is important. It affects your social life, your career, your dating life, etc…you can’t just pretend that these things aren’t important.
It's pretty rude to film in a seminar setting when the person you're supposed to be listening to is right next to you and it would creep me out too. I think he handled it pretty well by making a joke out of it instead of getting angry, that would have been way more humiliating. Even then that feeling of humiliation comes from being insecure in the first place.
@@nickp3949 It's the good old "It's not about the thing, it's about the place it's coming from". The nuance is that yes your reputation is important but it shouldn't run you.
So incredibly powerful
Nice.. Julien has the best Shadow work
Thank you!
Thank you so much for this
I cant stop doing things for others. My emotions depend on theirs. I'm hyper aware of their words. What should I do?
Work on LETTING GO of this... Here's a good place to start: www.julienhimself.com/8p?l=yip2z0dj7x
oet go
Just let go of it.
Let it go
Let go mane. Easier said than done but all the resources you need are right here.
This is the best self develooment video i have ever seen
Thank you so much! Glad this was impactful!
Lol . . .I could actually feel that hug at the end coming on . . .and then it was a double hug. Great session...🙌🙌🙌🕺🕺🕺
thank you for the epiphany😭 found the younger me i lost.
It was great meeting you in Dallas, keep it up man!
I feel like my ex would do this to me. Bring me up and then bring me down … if i was of service to him i was the best bla bla bla and if i wanted to establish boundaries or space .. i was cold and i was mean… and logical etc.
I got so sick of feeling up and down. I finally broke free and said “im a human being! Im not perfect”
You are changing lives bro
She is beautiful like a classic painting
Yes!!! I believe in this 100%
Glad this resonates with you! 🙌
Shadow work is improving yourself. Speak sense.
I just want to be part of the group but i dont want to destroy it. And also i dont want to be destroyed by the group. So my greatest fear in live are just other people not me. I think i hate myself pretty much but really if i am alone im good with myself. I am not the problem and this realisation makes me free. I can ignore other people but i cant ignore myself.
I also have the same issue where I don’t feel smart enough, good enough. I also reinforce the lens to the point of extreme negatively. When he was saying you’re -this- all of it brought up tightness and man. Definitely got some shit to work on. 2nd video I’ve seen of this dude and absolutely astounding how just little nudge like he said brings up a ton of shit. Embarrassing as hell typing this but it’s online so it ain’t as bad
Regarding your practices when you mentioned like being smart in the video and saying you are smart can help our insecurities . Im conflicted I read a book called "the subtitle art of not giving a fck" and it basically said by doing these things your reminding yourself of something you desire and lack and instead of just being it
Gabriela!!!! ❤️💪
"beeing good enough" is throwned around, alot. But what does it really mean? Some clarification would be good.
Hey plz reply
When i am with my close friends i am very comfortable and confident but when i am alone in college or other places i feel very shy and awkward Whyy??😢
Thanks Julien ❤
As a Christian, if we are made in God’s image, we are enough.
Im struggling with low self -esteem,self love .,low confidence.i need help
Love her French accent. She is pretty and beautiful 😍
Idk why but i feel she was pretty grounded the moment she stepped up on the stage than most of the people that had stepped up on stage.
Music to my ears goes in one goes out the other (no shade)
Great event!
Thanks!
4:16 "Off the stage!" 😂
Notification SQUAD!! Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
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So, if we are watching this, does that mean we are chasing the idea of not being good enough? Are we compensating by learning this information? 🤔
Thank u so much sir..I was always struggling with these stuffs..u gave me a new perspective and solution to my problems..love u sir 💕💕
‼️‼️‼️ What was that guy doing at the 1:00 minute mark, that Julien didn’t like? I don’t understand what happened that Julien corrected him.
She is beautiful! ❤
what about if a part of me is happy to have bouh ? and hate to be cheered ? i'm not sure of that but it's what i thought when i imagined in the situation .. is it that i hate people and tend to reverse the psychology ? (if they hate me its cool because i have contempt for them ..)
im new here and there is a lot of valuable Content. specially for me because i am pretty Interested about social things .
Thank you :)
by the way , any advice for increasing social status?
Thank you
Well done ❤