It all starts with parenting. If your parents never told you they loved you, never showed you they loved you, never seen them show genuine love to anyone else, it will be very hard, if not impossible to love oneself.
Honestly, I continue to be humbled by JUST how many BW navigate dating and interpersonal relationships from this space of deep insecurity and fear. Not sure how to approach that…
You don't approach that, like at all. Dating and family. Yes, that also means your daughter. All the ways that men voice wisdom towards women are now immoral or illegal. Voice yourself, don't stutter or repeat, and walk away in silence.
If you can be alone with yourself and not get bored or feel empty, you're at a place where you can begin to love yourself. How can you be happy or get along with someone else when you can't get along with yourself? Most adults don't understand what it means when they say that they're bored or bored in a relationship. Self love means you can see your negatives or things you need to address about yourself, your bad habits, the root causes of things that seem follow you everywhere you go. Stop denying and defending and work to recognize and acknowledge. Self love has nothing to do with money, material gains or indulgences.
Its funny how they call it self love, But when we as men have Love ourselves we are called conceited, arrogant or cocky for having standards, demands and expectations. When we care about working on ourselves or we isolate ourselves from women we are called disparaging names, teased, taunted, or ridiculed as of means to coerce us to deal with women regardless of what we got going in life. A video of a man who was building a business comes to mind, an woman approached him an asked why wouldnt he date her.
Self love is definitely a basic concept that we should all be practicing on a regular basis....but when you have generations of trauma coupled with social standards ...it breeds insecurity and fraudulent lifestyles so to place self love and self care back on a pedestal, seems fitting for the TIMES.
I never saw "working on myself" as a totally isolating period of life. Of course you were in community with others, but the isolation gave you time to slow down, reflect, and examine your processes that hinder your being in a solid relatiobship. This is assuming you are "doing the work." The problem comes when you use this "working on myself" for years on end.
When I hear a black lady say that she is engaging in self love, I have seen the lady show me that she will put herself first before anyone else. I understand that there are circumstances when this idea is valid particularly in a self-perservation state while in a bad situation. But saying and holding g fast to the idea of self-love in the midst of a decent relationship tends to lead to a path of no relationship or a one-sided one relationship at best
This is a good concern. I have started to treat a person's lack of self-love as negative energy. It really is taxing to have to keep convincing an older woman. It takes too much energy when that energy can given to an emotionally healthy woman who can appreciate it and glow with happiness
So many times people use relationships to fill some kind of hole in their lives, when focusing on yourself would've been more productive for your life. If you have knowledge of yourself as a black person and love the God within and are living with principles, can function and survive as an adult in this world, enjoy your own company, are fit and healthy and are ready or open to marriage and making a family, your self love is on par. You can decern better, aren't in a rush, and can probably meet people organically because you'll draw your compliment to you and it won't be some symbiotic relationship that's destroying your quality of life. Personally I've found that you always attract what your mentality is and that's why having self love and awareness is so important. The money, high powered job or business, gorgeous home, etc, feels nice alone, but with a husband and family, it's home and so precious to witness and be a part of every day ❤
As a black man, it seems that self love is the new default for women. The issue is, I often question the authenticity of this self love. It’s become the front for the public. Like a self love mask women wear for protection or a badge they wear for the perception of value. Even worse, some have taken self love to mean that they should celebrate the negative aspects of their being. .
It's self preservation plain and simple which is understandable. At the end of the day we have to factor in reality. This series is called "uncovered" for a reason. Reality tells you that you are prey and as prey you need to either know the game and play a better game or don't play the game at all.
@@Indivinethyme the self love movement has done more good than evil in my opinion. If any group of people needed to be conscious of the concept of self love, it’s black people. Historically notorious for self hatred. I love that aspect. I love how Nneka is emphasizing that self love should not be the end game to be throw in peoples face daily 😂.
@@darylgholson4481 people are free to have their own experience especially when we don't really know what's at the root of their decisions. What I will say though, I believe both BW and BM are experiencing a different version of self preservation as a result of the "movement" and it's causing a divide.
@@darylgholson4481 spot on! We have to acknowledge that truth and in acknowledging it, recognize how we can change it because we're not robots. We have to make conscious decisions that are actually serving our greater good and not what is expected of us. We have become predictable because we're behaving in our lowest nature. A higher consciousness can beat this "game" but we need togetherness for that.
You’re absolutely right about the loving yourself term being overused. I would also say that these term can potentially turn into a form of narcissistic or selfish behavior.
You hit the nail on the head, but it isn't self-love. It's falling in love with themselves. They seek validation at the level of vanity to overcome their insecurities as opposed to getting closer to those deep seeded expectations of life just not from self. What they expect from life doesn't complement what they expect from self, so it never comes.
There are many who are exhausted. There are people that put in the work and sacrificed to walk away depleted from one sided relationships. So yes let these people love on themselves so they never make the mistake of sacrificing themselves again. We say this about BW. But there are so many BM that think because they have a decent job, a car, and their own place that they should be regarded as a prize in our community especially when they have no kids or maybe 1. So some of our brothers want to be regarded highly for simply being responsible adults…? The delusion! There are many BW doing the work. But then y’all saying it’s too much work and wearing it as a mask to hide behind. BW enough is enough. You are enough. You accept a lot and tolerate a lot. Keep your self love in place so you won’t allow anything to disturb your peace ever again. Because no matter what we do there will always be those that will find fault in us even when we are trying to heal and do the work.
Alexandra Solomon has this idea she calls “relational self awareness” and it’s very much connected to the ideas you present here. It’s rooted in the idea that how we show up in relationships allow us to become more aware of ourselves. She also posits that we cannot truly know ourselves but within the dynamics of a relationship. Self awareness is very hard. Humans are self deceptive creatures and to become aware of ourselves in isolation is nearly impossible. J. Krishnamurti has very similar ideas. He too also believes that to truly know yourself you must be in relationship with others. I know that this idea might provoke the hyper independent types from receiving its message but I think people need people and our growth and evolution as a person relies a lot on us being in a relationship with another.
The thing I think most people are missing is that there are so many men and women that are in fear of dating due to disappointments. So working on yourself while dating may seem more beneficial but the pool candidates worth dating that can even carry a conversation a lot of times is limited. Who wants to invest time in dating emotionally immature people who are not competent enough to even carry a conversation. To anyone that’s married and you found your person great for you. However I’m talking to single men and women out there that are experiencing dating and it’s a lot of delusional people out there that aren’t even governing themselves accordingly but want someone to take them seriously while displaying unattractive behaviors and lifestyles for people that claim they want relationships. I think both sides of the fences are tired and at this point self love is them saying I’m good. No one has time to keep healing themselves or to keep letting people in with triggering behaviors.
It's always interesting listening to conversations about self love because no one really even defines what that means. And even though it can be person to person, there is essentially an umbrella meaning. To think that self love is a cut and dry concept is what makes the idea of even loving oneself a difficult journey and trust me... it is a journey. And while I agree, real world relationship experience is an ultimate way to grow and to become aware of the parts of ourselves to love those parts, there are so many factors to consider as to why we didn't start off with what Maslow perceives as the "basic". Considering that we live in reality, It's almost inconceivable psychologically and biologically to "love yourself" when you are wired to just survive from day one. Survival looked different for all of us. Most BW didn't have the experience that Maslow based the theory on and as such cannot use that framework as is hence why most haven't made it to self actualization. If we're sticking to the fact, most BW don't even feel safe in this world so most decisions are made with the intention of self preservation. It's human nature! I say all of that to say, it's not the practice of "I'm going to love myself" that's holding us back, it's the "belief" that we need to preserve ourselves because no one else will. And that sometimes looks like avoiding the very thing that we need to grow as people until it looks and feel safe to step outside again. It also looks like staying in relationships that don't build us but tear us down but that's a whole different conversation and one most people aren't ready for.
That’s called dating. If the woman is not sleeping with these men then I would advise she does date multiple men to collect data to see who is going remain consistent then once that is shown the compatibility comes into play. I think women should be slow to be physically intimate while keeping their options open if they are not in committed relationship. One may have to go on 100 first dates to get 101st that may be a good match for them. I see too many that got stuck on the wrong man too soon and fall in love with the idea of a man while ignoring more viable partners.
@@derellsplace I beg to differ. It’s called options so you can have comparisons. People need to have other experiences to relate to so they recognize when someone is not right for them.
I have to disagree all that self love troupe is masquerade as Toxic Positivity to a Major degree. Why ? Since when did it ever become a flex to brag about self love that majority of these women do and then outside social media world end up completely dissatisfied with the result they didn't get in the long run. Start with accountability first and work your way down.
Do you mean after all the selfishness as seen in society people still need a course on self love? I thought the selfishness is the result of self love😅
Matthew 22:39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” Titus 2:4 in order to train the younger women to love their husbands and children,
Any single woman has chosen to be single. Men are always around but they are not interested in them. More women need to drop the ego. Being humble gets you better results in life. Self love is a code word for selfishness and insecurity. Working on being a good person is more productive.
This is a great question. It took me years to answer this. Google and Chat GPT would definitely correct me lol. I’d say having many more good days than bad. Also, the relationship should enhance your life and both ppl should be constantly working to improve the relationship.
I advise younger men to always have confidence, believe in yourself, put yourself first. Don't be humble be confident always. As for women, there is no woman out of your league, just those who feel a connection with you. Shoot your shot at who you desire most, not what others think you should settle for, or what they make you think you should take. Go for the best from your subjective perspective. Go for alot different women to see which ones feel a connection and chemistry and spark with you. Your height don't matter Your money dont matter Your looks dont matter What matters most young man is if your the guy that gives her butterflies.
It's a big picture 🖼️ situation and this is a waste of time however its planted I've seen it my entire life 45 years and I think black women are taught to be childish forever this is sad everything else is moving and we still talking about this. Im over them and im the son of a single mom who infact left him lied to me then dropped me off at 9 not to him but her sister who had a whole abusive house. My aunt literally used to sleep in the basement and leave her daughters upstairs with him and later I saw my daughters mom i have two daughters I watched it couldn't take her to court she would leave the state im sure because my daughters are adults who are doing the same thing.
Love ourselves? No GOD never intended that. The true purpose of life is not to focus on yourself. The real point of life is gradually get back to the Creator, to understand the Creator. This life is a vessel to do that, make no mistake. Focusing on self love turns left REAL quick. It leads to other dangerous things. Please understand, Adolf Hitler came to power first by galvanizing his embarrassed people and teaching them to believe that they were the superior group. Then he pivoted Fascism. Never forget the sin of Lucifer , it’s pride, self love, arrogance.
My last relationship was a whole college course. ❤❤❤ Now on summer vacation! Till the casket drops . What's also limiting is the labels ,black and woman . I'm 52 and this year I want to learn how to fly .
Nneka, just a sidebar, if you are black what is the color of your dress and Common's coat and bowtie? Like all people, we are African people that live all over the world, that come in various colors and physical features! One of the first steps to recovery is being honest with yourself.
MEN HEAR 'AFER YOU HAVE MADE EVERY MISTAKE - Even GETTING RAN THROUGH ' - THAT IS WHEN MEN GRIN At the CHAGRIN = cha·grin /SHəˈɡrin/ noun distress or embarrassment at having failed or been humiliated.
It all starts with parenting.
If your parents never told you they loved you, never showed you they loved you, never seen them show genuine love to anyone else, it will be very hard, if not impossible to love oneself.
Exactly. You can't have what wasn't given to you in the first place.
1000% TRUE- I NEVER LIVED MY LIFE BECAUSE I NEVER RECOVERED FROM MY CHILDHOOD
Honestly, I continue to be humbled by JUST how many BW navigate dating and interpersonal relationships from this space of deep insecurity and fear. Not sure how to approach that…
You don't approach that, like at all. Dating and family. Yes, that also means your daughter. All the ways that men voice wisdom towards women are now immoral or illegal. Voice yourself, don't stutter or repeat, and walk away in silence.
If you can be alone with yourself and not get bored or feel empty, you're at a place where you can begin to love yourself. How can you be happy or get along with someone else when you can't get along with yourself? Most adults don't understand what it means when they say that they're bored or bored in a relationship. Self love means you can see your negatives or things you need to address about yourself, your bad habits, the root causes of things that seem follow you everywhere you go. Stop denying and defending and work to recognize and acknowledge.
Self love has nothing to do with money, material gains or indulgences.
Its funny how they call it self love, But when we as men have Love ourselves we are called conceited, arrogant or cocky for having standards, demands and expectations.
When we care about working on ourselves or we isolate ourselves from women we are called disparaging names, teased, taunted, or ridiculed as of means to coerce us to deal with women regardless of what we got going in life.
A video of a man who was building a business comes to mind, an woman approached him an asked why wouldnt he date her.
This is so true Geno! I didn’t even think of that. What a double standard!
Self love is definitely a basic concept that we should all be practicing on a regular basis....but when you have generations of trauma coupled with social standards ...it breeds insecurity and fraudulent lifestyles so to place self love and self care back on a pedestal, seems fitting for the TIMES.
I don’t think self love holds black women back. I think it doesn’t take them far enough
I never saw "working on myself" as a totally isolating period of life. Of course you were in community with others, but the isolation gave you time to slow down, reflect, and examine your processes that hinder your being in a solid relatiobship. This is assuming you are "doing the work." The problem comes when you use this "working on myself" for years on end.
1000 percent agreed. It's a convenient excuse for some not to move on in life.
Very true.
When I hear a black lady say that she is engaging in self love, I have seen the lady show me that she will put herself first before anyone else. I understand that there are circumstances when this idea is valid particularly in a self-perservation state while in a bad situation. But saying and holding g fast to the idea of self-love in the midst of a decent relationship tends to lead to a path of no relationship or a one-sided one relationship at best
Thank you for stating out loud what is often felt but unsaid.
This is a good concern. I have started to treat a person's lack of self-love as negative energy. It really is taxing to have to keep convincing an older woman. It takes too much energy when that energy can given to an emotionally healthy woman who can appreciate it and glow with happiness
So many times people use relationships to fill some kind of hole in their lives, when focusing on yourself would've been more productive for your life. If you have knowledge of yourself as a black person and love the God within and are living with principles, can function and survive as an adult in this world, enjoy your own company, are fit and healthy and are ready or open to marriage and making a family, your self love is on par. You can decern better, aren't in a rush, and can probably meet people organically because you'll draw your compliment to you and it won't be some symbiotic relationship that's destroying your quality of life. Personally I've found that you always attract what your mentality is and that's why having self love and awareness is so important. The money, high powered job or business, gorgeous home, etc, feels nice alone, but with a husband and family, it's home and so precious to witness and be a part of every day ❤
This is also true.
As a black man, it seems that self love is the new default for women. The issue is, I often question the authenticity of this self love. It’s become the front for the public. Like a self love mask women wear for protection or a badge they wear for the perception of value. Even worse, some have taken self love to mean that they should celebrate the negative aspects of their being. .
It's self preservation plain and simple which is understandable. At the end of the day we have to factor in reality. This series is called "uncovered" for a reason. Reality tells you that you are prey and as prey you need to either know the game and play a better game or don't play the game at all.
@@Indivinethyme the self love movement has done more good than evil in my opinion. If any group of people needed to be conscious of the concept of self love, it’s black people. Historically notorious for self hatred. I love that aspect. I love how Nneka is emphasizing that self love should not be the end game to be throw in peoples face daily 😂.
@@darylgholson4481 people are free to have their own experience especially when we don't really know what's at the root of their decisions. What I will say though, I believe both BW and BM are experiencing a different version of self preservation as a result of the "movement" and it's causing a divide.
@@Indivinethyme the divide! Whew it’s growing..
it’s the decades of social engineering manifesting
@@darylgholson4481 spot on! We have to acknowledge that truth and in acknowledging it, recognize how we can change it because we're not robots. We have to make conscious decisions that are actually serving our greater good and not what is expected of us. We have become predictable because we're behaving in our lowest nature. A higher consciousness can beat this "game" but we need togetherness for that.
BINGO!!!!!
Want Love in Theory but Not in Practice.
You’re absolutely right about the loving yourself term being overused. I would also say that these term can potentially turn into a form of narcissistic or selfish behavior.
Queen sister! Thank you for sharing.
Love is a team sport. The obsession with “self” in our culture is part of why so many have mental health issues.
When you don't have a team...... 😢😢😢😢
You hit the nail on the head, but it isn't self-love. It's falling in love with themselves. They seek validation at the level of vanity to overcome their insecurities as opposed to getting closer to those deep seeded expectations of life just not from self. What they expect from life doesn't complement what they expect from self, so it never comes.
I REALLY ENJOY YOUR CHANNEL- GREAT MATERIAL
Thanks so much for tuning in!
Thanks for this. You really changed my perspective...
That get used a lot. It's almost like they saying they don't want a mate.
I agree with you 💯 percent on this. Great video goddess. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾✌🏾
Thank you!🙏🏾
4:09 - that sounds very complicated and tiring. Oh my word.
Great page and video
WE DESIRE LOVE BUT NEVER HAD LOVE SO WE NEVER KNOW HOW TO GET IT
There are many who are exhausted. There are people that put in the work and sacrificed to walk away depleted from one sided relationships. So yes let these people love on themselves so they never make the mistake of sacrificing themselves again. We say this about BW. But there are so many BM that think because they have a decent job, a car, and their own place that they should be regarded as a prize in our community especially when they have no kids or maybe 1. So some of our brothers want to be regarded highly for simply being responsible adults…? The delusion! There are many BW doing the work. But then y’all saying it’s too much work and wearing it as a mask to hide behind. BW enough is enough. You are enough. You accept a lot and tolerate a lot. Keep your self love in place so you won’t allow anything to disturb your peace ever again. Because no matter what we do there will always be those that will find fault in us even when we are trying to heal and do the work.
💜💜💜💜💜
Gotta reparent yourself
Alexandra Solomon has this idea she calls “relational self awareness” and it’s very much connected to the ideas you present here. It’s rooted in the idea that how we show up in relationships allow us to become more aware of ourselves. She also posits that we cannot truly know ourselves but within the dynamics of a relationship.
Self awareness is very hard. Humans are self deceptive creatures and to become aware of ourselves in isolation is nearly impossible.
J. Krishnamurti has very similar ideas. He too also believes that to truly know yourself you must be in relationship with others.
I know that this idea might provoke the hyper independent types from receiving its message but I think people need people and our growth and evolution as a person relies a lot on us being in a relationship with another.
So "self love" can be , in most but not all cases, a front for something else.? @Nneka..
Exactly!
The thing I think most people are missing is that there are so many men and women that are in fear of dating due to disappointments. So working on yourself while dating may seem more beneficial but the pool candidates worth dating that can even carry a conversation a lot of times is limited. Who wants to invest time in dating emotionally immature people who are not competent enough to even carry a conversation. To anyone that’s married and you found your person great for you. However I’m talking to single men and women out there that are experiencing dating and it’s a lot of delusional people out there that aren’t even governing themselves accordingly but want someone to take them seriously while displaying unattractive behaviors and lifestyles for people that claim they want relationships. I think both sides of the fences are tired and at this point self love is them saying I’m good. No one has time to keep healing themselves or to keep letting people in with triggering behaviors.
It's always interesting listening to conversations about self love because no one really even defines what that means. And even though it can be person to person, there is essentially an umbrella meaning. To think that self love is a cut and dry concept is what makes the idea of even loving oneself a difficult journey and trust me... it is a journey. And while I agree, real world relationship experience is an ultimate way to grow and to become aware of the parts of ourselves to love those parts, there are so many factors to consider as to why we didn't start off with what Maslow perceives as the "basic". Considering that we live in reality, It's almost inconceivable psychologically and biologically to "love yourself" when you are wired to just survive from day one. Survival looked different for all of us. Most BW didn't have the experience that Maslow based the theory on and as such cannot use that framework as is hence why most haven't made it to self actualization. If we're sticking to the fact, most BW don't even feel safe in this world so most decisions are made with the intention of self preservation. It's human nature! I say all of that to say, it's not the practice of "I'm going to love myself" that's holding us back, it's the "belief" that we need to preserve ourselves because no one else will. And that sometimes looks like avoiding the very thing that we need to grow as people until it looks and feel safe to step outside again. It also looks like staying in relationships that don't build us but tear us down but that's a whole different conversation and one most people aren't ready for.
Very well said. I completely agree with you! I also like your use of prey. That suits us very well, unfortunately.
Excellent content per usual.
Would love to collaborate with you this year.
I would love to. I am working on stepping my game up to begin doing interviews and collabs. I’m about to add you to my list of ppl to collab with. 🙏🏾
Self Love should mean not having a rotation of a bunch of men
That’s called dating. If the woman is not sleeping with these men then I would advise she does date multiple men to collect data to see who is going remain consistent then once that is shown the compatibility comes into play. I think women should be slow to be physically intimate while keeping their options open if they are not in committed relationship. One may have to go on 100 first dates to get 101st that may be a good match for them. I see too many that got stuck on the wrong man too soon and fall in love with the idea of a man while ignoring more viable partners.
That's called confusion and makes it hard for women to decide. Having more than one man in your ear is the problem.
@@derellsplace I beg to differ. It’s called options so you can have comparisons. People need to have other experiences to relate to so they recognize when someone is not right for them.
Good one
BW gotta let their issue wit Common go
Thanks!
Thanks so much for your support Cedric! 🙏🏾
Do I know you? I never forget eyes.
MARRIED PEOPLE WHO DON'T THINK ABOUT LEAVING THEIR FAMILY EVEN THINKS Like THAT
I have to disagree all that self love troupe is masquerade as Toxic Positivity to a Major degree. Why ? Since when did it ever become a flex to brag about self love that majority of these women do and then outside social media world end up completely dissatisfied with the result they didn't get in the long run. Start with accountability first and work your way down.
What makes you think the women that Common dated wanted to get married at that time?
Do you mean after all the selfishness as seen in society people still need a course on self love? I thought the selfishness is the result of self love😅
Matthew 22:39
And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
John 13:34-35
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Titus 2:4
in order to train the younger women to love their husbands and children,
🙏🏾🎯💎💯👑
Any single woman has chosen to be single. Men are always around but they are not interested in them. More women need to drop the ego. Being humble gets you better results in life. Self love is a code word for selfishness and insecurity. Working on being a good person is more productive.
Well said!!! Absolutely 💯
What does a healthy relationship look like?
This is a great question. It took me years to answer this. Google and Chat GPT would definitely correct me lol. I’d say having many more good days than bad. Also, the relationship should enhance your life and both ppl should be constantly working to improve the relationship.
I advise younger men to always have confidence, believe in yourself, put yourself first.
Don't be humble be confident always.
As for women, there is no woman out of your league, just those who feel a connection with you.
Shoot your shot at who you desire most, not what others think you should settle for, or what they make you think you should take.
Go for the best from your subjective perspective. Go for alot different women to see which ones feel a connection and chemistry and spark with you.
Your height don't matter
Your money dont matter
Your looks dont matter
What matters most young man is if your the guy that gives her butterflies.
You-all are threw, just listen to the craziness in this video
It's a big picture 🖼️ situation and this is a waste of time however its planted I've seen it my entire life 45 years and I think black women are taught to be childish forever this is sad everything else is moving and we still talking about this. Im over them and im the son of a single mom who infact left him lied to me then dropped me off at 9 not to him but her sister who had a whole abusive house. My aunt literally used to sleep in the basement and leave her daughters upstairs with him and later I saw my daughters mom i have two daughters I watched it couldn't take her to court she would leave the state im sure because my daughters are adults who are doing the same thing.
Love ourselves? No GOD never intended that. The true purpose of life is not to focus on yourself. The real point of life is gradually get back to the Creator, to understand the Creator. This life is a vessel to do that, make no mistake. Focusing on self love turns left REAL quick. It leads to other dangerous things. Please understand, Adolf Hitler came to power first by galvanizing his embarrassed people and teaching them to believe that they were the superior group. Then he pivoted Fascism. Never forget the sin of Lucifer , it’s pride, self love, arrogance.
6:39 - oh my gosh. Is she nice in some way?
.."Self..Love??"...🤔🤔... female... babble...😅😅
My last relationship was a whole college course. ❤❤❤
Now on summer vacation! Till the casket drops . What's also limiting is the labels ,black and woman .
I'm 52 and this year I want to learn how to fly .
Wow, no dating forever?
Nneka, just a sidebar, if you are black what is the color of your dress and Common's coat and bowtie? Like all people, we are African people that live all over the world, that come in various colors and physical features! One of the first steps to recovery is being honest with yourself.
Ewe the arrogant attitude makes it obvious this woman has not been through the type of abuse and trauma that some of us have. What a horrible video.
...Maslow's pyramid comes from FBA's and you should be coming down the pyramid not going up.
MEN HEAR 'AFER YOU HAVE MADE EVERY MISTAKE - Even GETTING RAN THROUGH ' - THAT IS WHEN MEN GRIN At the CHAGRIN =
cha·grin
/SHəˈɡrin/
noun
distress or embarrassment at having failed or been humiliated.