At this point, texturism is just biracial WORSHIP.
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As a dark-skinned black woman, I agree with that fact that biracial worship takes place in our community. I have seen both black men and women being colour-struck with light skin/mixed race beauty. Sometimes this life is just exhausting. I always feel empowered and built up when I travel back home (Ghana) where I am complimented on my dark skin and where dark skin and black features are celebrated and preferred.
Amen!! Tell the truth!!!!
Isn’t there a lot of skin bleaching in Africa tho? Or is that just certain countries
@@MonkeyDJaden75 there is skin bleaching in some parts of Africa yes, the lasting effects of colonialism. It’s banned in some African countries. That doesn’t invalidate what I was saying though. Dark skin and black features are still widely preferred (in Ghana at least).
Darker skin and features are very beautiful. I'm multiracial and fair skinned (I guess). But I have always noticed darker complexions and features no matter where they are from. Maybe it's an opposites thing... But, my father was very dark skinned. I don't really notice the light tone folks -- yes, some are very attractive, but it's too familiar for me I suppose. I always admire darker complexions and their stunning bone structure!! My Mom was this way also.
@@LeLeebell55 I appreciate your comment. There’s beauty all across the spectrum. It’s just tiresome when you have to deal with ignorance of so many when it comes to have a dark skin tone.
Omg I have been saying this myself! That both sides (black and white) are vying for that coveted space in the middle = biracial. Hence "black fishing" is really "mixed-fishing."
Lately I have started unsubscribing from negatively titled videos about black women. I feel like some creators just for views are compelled to wallow in this negative stereotypes soup under the pretense of being truthful. It’s just tiring.
💯 speaking truth to power is what they cling to
I told a very new content creator "I get it you’re fighting with your comment section and standing on business calling fanita some kinda of horrible adjective (I forget) but I can’t sub boo it’s a matter of personal ethics for me but good quality edit tho & wish you the best in your RUclips journey genuinely etc
Why do I look at the other content on her channel and I gotta let her know "yh hun this biracial (that is 25 percent black at the very most best) is a WELL KNOWN BULLY it’s been televised and the whole of RUclips has told me this with receipts so…. Until you change THIS title and add bully that’s when I can say you’re a truth teller "
You’re so right when you say we police each other based on biracial beauty standards because how are you (as a black woman) looking at me crazy because I’m wearing my afro? 😂
But not all non mixed bw have Afro type hair, and we get looked at crazy too🤷🏽♀️
I hope the same people who are complaining about Zendaya wearing a coily afro aren’t wearing straight silky wigs
Right! This is why i need to go back to being offline because i didn't even know anyone had an issue with this. Its wasn't like the photoshoot was degrading where i could understand questioning it, it was cutesy like a dolly.
You know they are 😂
Say it again
@@kimlove4740those black women never wear their coily hair either so until they do they shouldn't be acting so pressed about it.
They were also mad at Storm Reid at that time too even though she has two BS BLK parents. I agree with you.... can't get mad at others wearing type 4 hair texture when they are not wearing their own hair type 4 texture.
Biracial worship is so real 😂
SO real and people are in denial about it, crazy
We live in a society where multiracial and biracial women are used as the face of black women. Out of a 80% black country Tyla is the face of South African music. People with lighter skin and looser curls like Beyonce are seen as the most beautiful. We rarely ever see black dark skin women as the face of black beauty who don't have a shaved head and something that implies a boyishness about them.
@@thewordsmith5440 this is just my opinion, but I don't think people see Tyla as the face of South Africa. I think they see her as an artist that just happens to be from there..... although many are embarrassingly obsessed with what she identifies as. As for the DS representation of BW being shaved head, I think it is some.... perhaps many that don't find that beautiful whereas the rest of the world does.....or else they wouldn't pick them for modeling, beauty campaigns, print work etc. To me, they don't look manly at all and are gorgeous and unique looking rather than the cookie cutter models we see in advertisements. Like the previous person said, I think as a collective, many are in denial that they don't find their own features beautiful or appealing and are projecting that on others who are very confident with themselves and love themselves.
Biracial isn’t black and that’s okay! It’s OKAY! She’s also WHITE. BOTH. DUH. being unambiguous is completely different…
I’ve always said the same thing!! Biracial is not black. America has never had a black President, a biracial one, yes, but not black. And that’s just the truth. 😊
@@A_Wilson Say this again please!! I was in 7th grade during the Obama/Biden campaign. I kept hearing all of these rumors about a "black man running for presidency" through the grapevine, and I was adamant to lay eyes on this so-called potential black president. The first time I saw him on TV... my 12 year old eyes knew he was biracial. He doesn't even look like any black man I've EVER seen with two black parents; he looked like a darker skinned biracial man, which is exactly what he is. I always acknowledged him exactly as that: the first HALF white president.
@@A_Wilson The American President is apparently Kenyan through his father's lineage. Hence why they call him the first Black President. And also because he is a light brown hue. They see a brown hue as a Black Classification. The same with Beyonce who is Afro-American and Creole.
The Eurocentric elite will not accept a woman as Zendaya as European or white, she is light brown so as she is mixed with Afro-American and Nigerian ancestry, then they class her as 'Black' due to her being a 'light brown girl.'
The father determines the lineage regardless.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335 Obama is a Mulatto and so is Beyonce 😂. Stop claiming us please. You have your own wins. Guess what, the former president of Ghana Jerry Rawlings was NOT black either . He's daddy is English/Scottish and he never denied it.
“If you take care of coils like curls, they’re going to be ashy!” 😅This is some hair wisdom I’m going to live by forever. 🦋
Thats deep..everyone is trying to look biracial.. I remember Chrissie mentioning Black women trying to look mixed using baby hairs.
That was the first smart thing chrissie ever said
@@Aries.Goddess30Chrissie has said alot of truth. We look better with textured hair ect I don’t understand the hate she gets
Who’s Chrissie y’all
Hey, please tell me in which video did Chrissie say that. I would love to watch it.
Some black women actually have baby hairs though. Lol. Everybody monoracial doesn't have the same textured hair. Not to mention some women have big ass foreheads or hairlines they hate so they try to frame them in the best way they can.
Personally I just think baby edges are just cute and girly. Also "baby hair" can be considered a neotenous feature like big eyes which is associated with feminine beauty. Probably why alot of girls are drawn to them.
I notice the ppl who would benefit the most from softening their face with some tendrils and baby hairs hate them the most. If women want to walk around boring and hard faced that's their issue but putting self hate on women who just rather lay their edges is goofy. The same ppl talking shit are the same ones snatching their edges bald bc they rather die then have a little type 4 frizz around the crown.
I wear my hair all 3 ways (frizzy, baby edges, smooth)bc at the end of the day when you're actually confident in your own face and hair it really doesn't matter.
Also, Zendaya has naturally curly hair. No one says she’s “cosplaying” as white when she straightens her hair so why is she “cosplaying” as black when she wears an Afro? She is both black & white so she should be able to lean as far as she wants to in either direction. She actually has more right to wear an Afro than full black women who wear straight blonde wigs. Not saying I’m against that. People should be able to do whatever they want with their hair. But I will say, that a black woman wearing a straight, blonde wig is so far removed from her own natural beauty when she does that whereas a biracial person embracing an Afro is embracing something that’s apart of their heritage and a prominent feature of their people. A white woman rocking an Afro, now THAT is cosplaying and appropriation because it is not part of her heritage at all. & although Zendaya doesn’t have Afro textured hair, her grandmother probably does. Her cousins probably do. This is her connecting to them. None of this is the case for a fully white woman rocking an Afro nor is it the case when black women wear long, straight, blonde wigs.
Yes....my mother always said, the issue with all the hatred is that I was the best of both worlds as a multiracial girl. It took me years to even understand.
@@LeLeebell55 My mom taught me the same. We’re Louisiana Creole & her grandfather was Nicaraguan as well so my parents, grandparents, & beyond are all mixed race and ambiguous and they knew about all of this from first hand experience so I’ve always had my mom to help me navigate through all of it. She had already endured everything before I did.
I'll play devil's advocate here. (Also, I love Zendaya)
Zendaya is not black, she is mixed, just like grey is not black and not white. It's a mix of both, but it's also its own thing with its own traits.
Since she benefits from texturism, she can performatively try on the hair that black people must live with all the time, then she gets to take it off the next day. She doesn't have to face the discrimination that unambiguous black people face daily for our hair texture. She gets the aesthetic without the struggle, basically, and that's the problem.
I'd love to have discourse about this!
@@leslytheflamingo I don’t disagree. I use this same black, white, grey analogy on my own channel. BUT until more people are willing to let go of the one drop ideology, mixed people will be free to walk in and out of blackness as much as we want to. Taking bits & pieces of what we like at our whim. But I do agree that mixed people are something else entirely and if our unique identity was respected as such THEN people could say “hey you’re not black, you’re mixed, abc doesn’t belong to you” & I’d respect that but if half of the African American population is in our ear damn near forcing us to say we’re black over anything else, then blackness is ours to do what we want with. But I’m right here with you, I completely understand where you’re coming from as someone who doesn’t agree with the one drop rule but if mixedness itself isn’t going to be a widespread respected identity within America then we have to belong to the races that we come from and she does come from blackness so it’s hers until we can give mixed people the space and freedom to have our own separate identity without all the backlash and insults such as “we just don’t want to be black.” This is what gets hurled at us when we identify as “grey” rather than black. So this is her being black 🤷🏻♀️
Y’all need to stay out of monoracial women’s spaces. Go create your own culture and leave our hair types and cultures alone.
I 100% agree with your “majority privilege” statement. It’s human nature.
This!!..
Not really just look at South Africa...
This video is soooo real it’s insane. I have been bombarded with natural hair videos lately and I think it was a spiritual thing tbh. I took out my braids 2 weeks ago; I could actually feel a spirit of fear- telling me that I won’t be seen as beautiful, telling me I’m pushing myself back. The self hatred is so real :( I have to battle everyday with my hair :(. It’s videos like this that remind me that I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM BLACK NIGERIAN 4C HAIR BEAUTIFUL. I will battle everyday until I no longer have to battle to believe it. Please pray for my journey so that I don’t go putting those so called “protective” styles back in my head 🤦♀️ (and yes, it’s all about men. Just remember that men will dog and cheat and ruin any girl they want to- no matter how ‘attractive’ the world finds them. Adriana Lima gave her virginity to a man who ended up cheating her 🤦♀️)
Asian women or people in asia still prefer whiteness its still strong even with Indians they still too prefer whiteness.
Biracial isn't black
People in America need 2 stop with the 1 drop rule
It helps them sleep better at night by living through these women.
black isn’t Black either. Our ethnic group isn’t based on what you look like…it’s based on your ancestry. A very specific ancestry in America.
Yeah, the 1 drop rule was invented to keep the yt race "pure". They did not want to breed with anyone remotely non-yt. It's amazing that we accept that so blithely as some kind of "true race" test. I think we use the 1 drop as a shield to say we're not stepping outside our own race when we covet the ones with the natural silky hair and or milky skin tone.
It's men who shout "she really black" the loudest. C'mon. You like the hair to be naturally straight, naturally long and flowing. You like the mixed texture. She ain't black because of some biased rule. She's a 3rd race. A Labradoodle.
How you gonna say stop the one drop rule when most Black Americans, as in over 70%, have about from 15 to 30% European ancestry?! MOST Black Americans are mixed. So where is the cut off? 10%, 12.5%? Dog. The truth is phenotype determines treatment and as you mentioned who is in power.
@@MaryQueenHeavyIsTheCrown TEA
🔥🔥🔥"Sis it's never been you because you don't have the courage to wear your afro anywhere" 🔥🔥🔥
An I oop
Y’all keep saying courage when I think you mean consequence. We literally had to pass a bill that protects Black people from being fired from their job for wearing Afro textured hair and it’s still not working! Kids are being suspended and expelled because the afros they have the courage to wear is kicking them out of education in the US, Zuleikha in SA had to rally for this too with other students to name prominent occurrences. Black women get fired from jobs because our Afros don’t fit corporate codes…do you think perhaps that people’s actions occur outside the idea that they have the “choice” to?
@@JO-fk5hoand what happened to your hours outside of work? Did you rock the afro on weekends? Photoshoots, IG, wedding , parties, bars? NO
And after the protection act was passed did you wear it at work? NO
Honestly, where's your own zendaya afro photoshoot?
In terms of nuance I think it’s important to remember that many of us as black people grow up going to white schools and living in a white society and a lot of times to get good grades or to have intellectual value you have to memorize white stories. Very rarely do school systems include books that have nuances in black beauty and most books of that sort are banned. So in defense of Romeo and Juliet, we are raised to appreciate American literature as it is one of the only ways to pass the grade from k-12 until more options are presented in college. I believe if we’re forced to hear these stories we should at the very least be given the right to create our own spins on these stories as we’ve also had our own stories suppressed or burned or mocked out of existence. It’s important we find our own nuances in these stories and create versions of our own to more clearly see ourselves as we’ve been denied of our history for centuries. I see your perspective as well though.
Hmmm I never thought of it like that! You're right, I grew up primarily in a PWI environment for most of my school experience. But before high school, I grew up in Nigeria and I remember a few black written stories that I really enjoyed, which is probably where my perspective comes from. When you put it like that, I can see why people may be attached to the new spins. I feel like we have more of an opportunity now to write our own stories so I'd love to see more of that -- but thank you for highlighting this!
@@thisiscoilette no problem your content is stunning
When it comes to women although people love to use biracial and black women interchangeably….. make no mistake, everyone notices the difference between a black woman and a biracial woman even if they choose to deny the difference. In society biracial women are preferred over black women generally due to most of them having an ambiguous look. However, beauty is beauty at the end of the day. If you are a pretty woman irregardless of not being biracial you will be preferred as well. The problem with a lot of these conversations is that people assume because someone is biracial that it equates to automatic beauty. That is a false statement. Although biracial attractive women are promoted in the media as black women, rarely do you see the unattractive biracial women promoted even though they exist. It’s propaganda, it’s a way to assume that black women are not attractive enough which is why they have to promote these biracial women. The truth is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and as much praise as biracial women get for being biracial it doesn’t stop black women from being beautiful and enjoying life and going after what they want. Propaganda is one thing, but reality is another. There is no such thing as biracial women.l being better than black women or more attractive than black women. That statement is subjective and unrealistic.
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This right here!!!
What do you think about "laid edges"? Those of us with 4c hair for the most part do not naturally have wispy baby hairs... so laying our edges seems to be about approximating features that don't belong to us.
By the way just to add there are many ethnicities with broad features. It's not just people of some Afro-descent. There are East Asian people with broad features.
Yup I’ve literally witnessed those people irl😂
We are talking about averages tho
@@vinelend2832 LaTavia Roberson is Afro-American and Creole she has a broad nose. There are quite a few East Asians who have similar broad features also.
@@vinelend2832yh exactly. for example, on average, people from the Filipino, Malaysia, Indonesia, have wide noses and wide features on average.
Nope most dont
"Kayla Nicole is west indian" West indian is not a race, its a geographical identifier (as in xyz is from the West Indies) I am Trinidadian but can be also called West Indian because the english speaking Caribbean used to be called the WEST INDIES. Kayla Nicole can be West Indian (by parentage only; she was not born in the Caribbean/West Indies) AND be black. She looks like the average brown skinned black girl in Trinidad, maybe Barbados, etc. She is not biracial or mixed.
Ah okay - I didn’t know that. Thanks for clarifying.
I’m Trinidadian also, to be honest some Cocoa Payols and Dougla can also look like a “average brownskin black girl”.
Most definitely West Indian is not a race. I think because people claim Kayla Nicole said she’s mixed with Asian is why she is a mixed woman. She could possibly be Dougla or have a parent that is.
@Aloe_Sky hi I'm Triny to is cocoa payola and old person saying?
The original West Indians are the Taino Indians. Someone who is from the Caribbean who is mixed with Taino Indian has West Indian ancestry. If they are Dougla then they are Afro-mixed West Indian.
The soca song “Dear Promoter” by Kes and Voice with Peter Minshell is what comes to mind when I read this 😅 His spoken word at the beginning tells a lot about what being West Indian means. Trinidad has an incredibly diverse population with almost a quarter of the population being mixed. And the rest pretty evenly divided by Afro Trini and Indo Trini in the majority and the smallest minorities being Chinese/European/Arab decent but at its core we’re all just West Indian no matter the race
Guurrlll, speak! Let’s keep peeling the onion back! I’m loving this! 🌺💕
loved your points, you’re definitely not lying about the biracial worship. also can i just say, i was laid flat out when you said NAMJA 😂 was not expecting you to bust out the Korean 😂
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Love the closing point about coils being pushed out of the conversation. Makes me want to intentionally use the term.
Kayla Nicole isn't "racially ambiguous" she's a beautiful dark skinned, unambiguous, mono race looking black woman. Question: "What does it say how a group or person feels about themselves, when they call someone who clearly, unmistakably is member of their race "ambiguous" simply because they're attractive???" Answer: "They don't think highly of their race." 😮
This video is so on point and so necessary! I feel like its become a competition for who is more jealous of who when both sides are really seeking outside validation. Also, it's crazy how the BW who complain about their phenotype not being preferred or the standard seem to take huge issues with wmn with the same phenotype or even more unambiguous features having high confidence in themselves and actually liking their features. It's as if because the one's who dont like themselves are livid at the ones that do like themselves.
I disagree with your take on the Romeo and Juliette colorblind casting. Certain playwrights, like Shakespeare and the Ancient Greek playwrights, are classics in western theatre. They are cannon, and foundational to western theatre. All formally and classically trained actors study Shakespeare and the Ancient Greeks. Both are genres of theatre in and of themselves, and casting people of different race or ethnicity in these roles is not lazy, especially considering that, with a few exceptions, the majority of Shakespeare’s work and the work of his predecessors, tell stories that speak to the shared human experience, and have nothing to do with race or ethnicity. Your argument is the same as saying that POC who are musicians shouldn’t perform western classical music because the composers were European. Should white people not play jazz? Should black people not play the saxophone? Because jazz was created by African Americans, but the saxophone was invented by a white European man.
Also the facial filters on ig is also biracial worship lol
It's a lot of black ppl hurt in the comment section. Instead of worrying about y'all self hate y'all worrying about someone else's heritage. 💔
This whole conversation has a very narrow view. The whole entire continent of Africa has many indigenous features that would be considered "exotic" or "mixed" to various people who are not accustomed to seeing certain indigenous features among melanated people but that should not be mistakened for being biracial or mixed. It says a lot about ones own view of themselves to project that onto other melanated people who clearly are not "mixed" with any foreign lineage outside of their own immediate region. And why are melanated people who have rare features made the standard phenotype for melanated people? The rare Batwa Pygmy features from the Congo, apparently for certain people, have been made the standard features for melanated people. That's just nonsense and plain weird to do so. You have Bushinengue Indigenous "tribes" from the Northern Amazon in South America who are the darkest people in the entire continent of America, on average, and they look nothing like Batwa Pygmies in their features. Does that now make them mixed? Imagine taking the "Black Aboriginal Australians" rare facial features, who live in the Northern territory, and making them the standard for Black people's features in the world and then telling people if they didn't have those facial features, then you are biracial or mixed-looking. That's just as ridiculous as the Congo Pygmy standard that certain people love to project onto swathes of melanated people around the world. Are the Indigenous Khoisan of South Africa, who have no foreign ancestry, mixed or biracial because they don't fit the false standard that has been set for what a melanated person is supposed to look like?? People need to use intelligence and get a grip.
Why does everyone call that girl “Stormy”? Her name is Storm
Unfortunately, a lot of blk women see what they hate about themselves in us and see what they love about whites, and other races, in us and they project it onto mixed women and even ligh-tskinned women with 2 black parents. A lot of us are starting to clap back cuz we're tired of the bullying online and in real life! But, that's a very interesting perspective you have about white privilege living in different communities.
@@fandommenace9575 To be honest, I'm tired of hearing about your woes. Darkskinned people are the majority in the blk "community", not biracials or lightskins. If any biracial or lightskinned person was being "mean," 9 times out of 10 it was in self defense. Ive only witnessed darkskinned people being colorist to other darkskins AND lightskins. So, miss me with the BS rhetoric!
@@MariahYanezno even light skins are mean in my school they literally said you can’t hang with them unless you’re light skin too. Lol biracials aren’t innocent either
Thank you for sharing this. As a light-skinned woman myself, I am sick and tired of hearing dark skinned women talk about them being bullied. How can the few overthrow the majority? If anyone is being bullied it’s us. I don’t remember a time in my life where I was ever in a place where there were more light-skinned blacks than dark skinned blacks. But what am I saying? Some people like to play the victim card to gain sympathy.
@@shaunacoleman3306 Exactly. Within black society, we are the minority. So, the discrimination, bullying, hatred, etc is extremely disproportioned. The bullying dark skinned women complain about comes from other dark skinned people...not mixed and/or light-skins. They just take it out on us and when we defend ourselves they cry foul. Tha'ts all thats really happening, in a nutshell.
@@MariahYanez thank you for pointing out that it is dark skinned people who make fun of each other. Maybe I should start a channel a talk about that, lol. But, really, even where I work, there are just a few light skinned black people. There are a lot of Latinas though. I witness micro aggression every day at work and it is not light skinned black folks who are the antagonists. But dark skinned black people, especially women, LOVE to play the victim. They are the ones with the low self confidence, they are the ones who are the aggressors, yet when we defend our selves they say “it’s because of my color”. They don’t want to admit that there are more of them than there are of us. So how can so few people dominate the masses. It doesn’t make sense! But I don’t think it’s ever going to change. Too many people have caught the victim virus and they see how it benefits them. It’s just going to be passed down from generation to generation until the ends.
Mixed fishing 🤔 You’re right. That changes my whole perspective.
Biracial can be dark skinned too just like fully bl1ck/afric1n can be light
Featurism and Texturism are wayy more prevalent in my opinion
When people show a dark skinned woman they find beautiful 90% she's mixed race
I've been saying for a long time that BLACKFISHING is actually (Lightskin) MIXED RACE FISHING
Look when YT people do a black face they use straight black paint which proove again that they don't see light brown people and dark skin as the same they clearly known the differences but some black people love to have biracial mostly light skin on theirs side and after get mad when they represent them.
Apparently you haven't seen the gorgeous non ambiguous dark-skinned African models strutting their stuff on runways and in print.
@@kellyroyds5040yes, most of who are sudanese or east african. (and yes there are many West/Central/South African models but the biggest black models with that aesthetic are mostly Sudanese). In the West it is specifically the typical West African phenotypes that are unfavourable (obviously there are exceptions, like Fulani people). Do people genuinely not know this?!??
@@DDoubleEDoublethey know this. But they ignore the obvious😂. They look for the dark skinned people with the most ambiguous or Eurocentric facial features to be their “beautiful black queen or king”. They would never praise an unambiguous dark skinned person as their “standard of beauty”. There is strength in numbers people! If black people who have unambiguous features and skin color would unite a promote people who look like them to be their standard of beauty they would be way better off than they are now.
Damnnnn it is sooo refreshing to ear someone talk like that!!
Her name is Juliana, and she said that Zendaya smelled like Patchouli oil
Hi, you definitely raised a lot of good points. I heard this phrase, "Performative acceptance" which really is something to delve into and a topic in itself. I don't think we realize just how much we play a role in placing biracial/ multicultural, white adjacent features on a pedestal.The funny (hmm) thing for me is the attributes ( Yes, we are all still different, but generally speaking) we have, we don't see the beauty in it, until we see it on someone else. The Kardashians always come to mind for me. Here you have non-black women imitating the aesthetics of black women, who then imitate the beauty of non-black women who in them they can now see their own beauty....And yes, a lot of that has to do with the attention of certain men. ( Side note: Men have been affected by this as well) you also have places that are predominantly brown and there's still this casting system or shadeism that's like, "Wow." It's like the snake eating Its tail really.
🗣Speak on it!!! Mixed people who are dark skinned (kayla nicole) & biracial people are loved & hated by the same people. People with 4c hair always wear curly wigs. Why can't zendaya wear an afro?? 3B hair should be gatekept as well.
It’s ok for woman to wear straight blonde wigs and straighten (burn their hair) trying to look European BUT zendaya blow dry her hair into an Afro and black woman are mad 😂
@@HeartBreakHigh you do realise that the majority of biracial people with half white European genetics don’t need to relax or silk press our hair to get it straight ? Like a white girl would use tongs to curl her hair we can use straightening on ours it doesn’t really damage our hair at all as we have loose curls not kinky Afro (not most but majority) I have really curly hair but it’s very easy for me to straighten I do not use any chemicals or relaxers.I can straighten my hair then wash it and it goes back to perfect curls again
@@HeartBreakHigh it’s not bragging it’s called self love and I’m half white so I’m biracial so I can talk about our hair I have it ,the majority of the biracial people that I know have curly hair I’m speaking on my friends/family yes I am half white and I’m proud of that I’m half black too like I said my natural hair is curly so it’s a mixture and I love my hair 😅 I love my parents and the genetics that they gave me what’s the problem with that I don’t get it 🤣 I just don’t agree with self hate and low self esteem - I was raised to love myself and others
@@HeartBreakHigh get a life and learn to love yourself 💗
@@HeartBreakHigh I’m proud to be half white if that offends you I don’t care I am what I am you clearly have deep rooted insecurities if you didn’t my self esteem wouldn’t offend you.I’m not one of the biracial people that denies my whiteness and is desperate to fit in to the black community I go where I’m excepted and if I’m not I keep it moving I couldn’t care less
This is a very honest discussion on texturism, jealousy and competition for men.
Clearly biracial or not black is subjective.
Also making being biracial the focus of a lot of discussion is due to personal beliefs. People don't do research on the race and parent of every celebrity.
How the hell are genetics subjective
It’s a fact. If you came out of a non black woman, how are you black???
2 black parents=black
1 black parent= non black
@@raphaelsimmons4309 I said clearly biracial or not.
Notice the word "clearly" meaning that whether someone is clearly biracial or monoracial or not is subjective.
Omggg you were coming for throats 😂😂😂😂 lol pointing out the goddess braids
14:31 omg yes. idk if it comes across that I don't like your channel, but first of all, let me say i do. im just opinionated and want to share my views as well. just to clear this up in case you can't tell lol. but you have so many opinions that i do agree with as well. and this one I STRONGLY agree with. there is an obsession with calling our hair curly and refusing to use the word coily. it's like they have an aversion to it. even though no one is really thinking of type 4 hair when you say curly. No one thinks of wavy hair either really when you say curly since there's already a word for wavy. So why is it that we wanna call our hair tightly curly or curly. just say coily cause that's what it is and people would actually picture our hair when you say coily...they do not picture type four hair when you say curly.
The woman who is speaking can obviously wear her natural type 4 hair because she is most likely light-skinned. Black men are more colorist before texturist in my opinion. A light-skinned or bi-racial woman can get away with type 4 hair compared to a dark-skinned black woman.
Who's stopping dsbw from wearing type 4 hair though? They are willfully choosing not to wear it (not all but a good portion). Who is saying that only lsbw can get away with wearing type 4? I hear across the board no matter the skin hue, BW who have type 4c hair specifically complaining about it. I personally think type 4c hair is beautiful and able to be worn in any way.
@@LPcapricorn1980 Women all around the world are trying to compete for the best men, whether that be based on looks or resources. Therefore, women are willing to wear weave and get surgery in order to get the best men. Based on my observation, black men with the best looks and/or resources will normally not provide for a dark-skinned black women with 4c hair.
@@PurpleGalaxies123 then maybe they ain't the best men after all.....for them. So they have two choices: 1. Wait idly by for that unicorn BM to appreciate and prefer them in all their natural glory (to no avail in most cases as evidenced in many BM saying so with their whole chest) or 2. Go where they are celebrated which may or may not be another demographic(non-blk)/region (BM from another country) of men. Because what they are doing now is clearly not getting the desired results. BM are still not appreciating their efforts to alter their looks in order to obtain said BM. FYI, I'm an unambiguous brown skin BW from the Midwest of which they consider you either light or dark....no in between.
@@PurpleGalaxies123 The best man wouldn't be a Black man though as they do not have a lot of resources on a grand scale. Furthermore, why continue to chase after men who have made it very clear that they do not desire you instead of just going where you are actually wanted/appreciated?
@@afrofelinesmost people don't have resources on a grand scale though. It's like top 15% then everyone else that are broke with nothing to look forward to in retirement. Don't be fooled by what people say. The reason yt supremacy is still so strong is because everyone poor is bound to fight with each other rather than realize who created the illusion around them.
A lot of people do love to claim to be mixed of some kind. This has been going back decades past generations in the black community and not just in the Black American community also in the Latin community in the Caribbean community they always claim some type of Indian some type of Spanish but never proud of their black African roots. Lots of black Americans claim the full blooded American they don't have no African bloodline that they know of. Also the Dominicans the Latinos the same thing they would rather claim Spain or Portugal download the mother Africa
Kayla Nicole is unambiguously black though
No she isn't. She looks multi generationally mixed
@@Aries.Goddess30 I dunno, I live in an African country and she looks like certain full black girls here🤷♀
Tbh I was confused as to why she was included next to Zendaya and FKA Twiggs. To me she looks unambiguous black. 🤷🏽♀️
She’s just beautiful I’m sorry if there are unattractive woman out there but so is life 🤣
Lol , exactly. Like ambiguous where ? Lol i was confused . she looks like the average black woman . There is no mistaking her race when looking at her …
I feel like People use the word unambiguous as a euphemism for ugly 🤦🏾♀️
I personally don't see it that way, but people who think that Afro features are inferior do that a lot.
Unambiguous means no one can mistake you as mixed
@@Aries.Goddess30👍🏾
@@Aries.Goddess30 I know what it means. Sometimes people use it in a negative way.
Interesting…what people?
Theres a podcaster called Texture Talks , she talks about a lot of the topic you discussed and came out with a merch that has coily on the t-shirt, it looks so cute. It was my first time seeing this word celebrated .
Whilst I agree with the underlying message of genuinely embracing one's look, it's foolhardy to reduce beauty politics to the dating market. It's so much more than that. Equally so with the majority privilege comment, white privilege, or better yet, white supremacy, is more pernicious than simple in-out group dynamics. I'd also encourage you to take note of what happens to original Black characters and stories, if they don't get lack of funding from behind the scenes, the backlash they receive is often unwarranted. The issue is not the race-bend, which for Romeo and Juliet, is hardly a new thing, especially in the West End. Just think your argument would hit harder without discounting the real challenges people are facing. At some point we must make that choice for ourselves, be we can do that and speak truth.
8:19 white privilege does exist especially on the large scale due to colonialism they hold most of the worlds wealth. But typically when it’s being talked about it’s an American concept where as you said they are the majority
I agree with everything you’ve laid out except the part about being delusional about loving yourself or your phenotype. I think that we all need to learn to genuinely appreciate our characteristics no matter what they are. I mean we could “fake it ‘til we make it,” but that just seems to defeat the purpose. What do we need to do to come to a place of self-love despite the messages all around us. Like the anthem from James Brown about being Black and Proud didn’t start from a delusional place. It was genuine. Great video. Really appreciated the perspective and bi-racial worship is such a thing that even Whyte women are dating Black men to achieve the designer look in their offspring.
For Educational purposes:The West Indies are a group of 13 Caribbean Islands(countries)....All consisting of different races of people....and depending on which island you are from.....mostly full black people will populate it. I keep seeing foreigners use the term interchangeably or inassociation with words like biracial and mixed race.....which is incorrect .....To continually make the assumption that because some one is from the West Indies they are mixed... It is indirectly bordering on the erasure of the descendants of slaves who still exist across the West indies ....who have very similar issues that the rest of black diaspora experience (colorism/texturism/featurism/racism) etc....I personally have no idea whether Kayla Nicole is mixed or fully black ....but to frame she is mixed/bi racial based on west Indian heritage is not accurate. It is in line with assuming someone from Latin America is mixed when there are different races specifically full black people there as well. I do acknowledge that some celebrities and people further perpetuate the misuse of the word....as a way to other themselves from black americans .....and make them selves seem exotic....but typically people born and raised from the West Indies lead with their country first.
Thank you for clarifying x
I've never heard Caribbean be interchanged with biracial. Where is that a thing?
I've never heard anyone try and make the Caribbean seem monoracial outside of Haiti
While in school elementary-high school, predominantly black schools, that outside the of school, black groups, everyone else thought I was beautiful. Like I didn’t know I was cute until some white boys in elementary school gave me valentine cards saying I was a beautiful black princess and how loved my smile and how my nose widens when I smile😅
Growing up my whole experience was being called ugly by dudes darker and with bigger features than me, and being asked out my dudes that looked nothing like me😂
Sadly throughout that time I held the belief that “black is king” and that only black men were for me🤦🏿♀️
I could’ve had the best experiences if I wasn’t a “sista soulja”😤
BP in America have a weird mindset. I do agree there is some biracial worship that goes on but I'm confused as to why. LSBP don't get the privilege we think they do and if we are being honest a lot of their privilege depends on the help of DSBP. I don't understand what BP want. I think we use biracials against each other, but I also think we use these same people with the hopes of getting some sort of privilege from the white community. But I don't understand what privilege we are looking for. The whole thing is strange and we could really use some therapy to get to the true bottom of it because it doesn't make sense....at all.
How are you confused? It's white supremacy that makes DSBP uplift LSBP and mixed people. Simple, also you'd have to be extremely ignorant to think lighter skinned women aren't out on a pedestal by the black community, and of course it's with the help of dark skinned black people, that's the whole point of this conversation... I'm confused as to why you're confused when you answered your own questions. It can be a double edged sword for mixed people for sure but it's still a privilege that they can benefit from being set apart and higher than darker skinned people and a lot do them do and will use that against darker skinned people, especially women. The only point that made sense was the therapy one, the black community is filled with a lot of hurt and self hate. Outside oppression causes inner community oppressions and we all as a community have a lot to heal from.
Biracial/MGM admixtures are the preferred Hollywood Beauty token especially the light to tan skinned ones. A lot of the brown skinned or dark skinned women in Hollywood like Foxxy Brown, Tatyana Ali and Amera Le Negra are browner/darker skinned Afro-ethnic mixed women. The European/Caucasian woman is not a so soughted beauty most women of some type of Afro-descent do not emulate to look like Taylor Swift. They emulate to look llke Alicia Keys, Zendaya, Amera Le Negra, Naomi Campbell , Ryan Destiny, YaYa Decosta and these women are all mixed. A lot of women are in denial that there are brown skinned/dark skinned women who are mixed or with MGM/Admixtures as these are the women they are inspired by and try to emulate.
naomi is fully black
2:29 well it's not ingrained because it's a social construct. it's not based on biology. it's based on society. to me that's asking how racism or slavery could havw existed if there were quakers. just like in our society, it would be very disingenuous to say fat is the standard of beauty. it's not. in our society fatness is looked down upon and it would be disingenuous to say it's not. but some men like fat women and there are thin women who will get mad af when they see a fat woman getting positive attention. it's the same thing happening here. they're not saying black women are always ugly or than white women are always pretty (cause lord knows they not) but it's talking about the world in a sociological sense (which is literally the study of social life, social change, and the social causes and consequences of human behavior). I didn't get further into the video yet though lol so idk maybe you say this? but I wanted to add some nuance.
edit: got a little further. i live in asia (and have for about a decade) and white privilege exists here lol. I'm glad that it doesn't exist in Nigeria tho. that's good to know. majority privilege is a thing here too obviously but white people have privileges that south/south east asian and black people do not get.
Idk if i agree with you on the privilege thing, but i think i see where ur coming from.
I would’ve never guessed Kayla Nicole was anything other than black American, she’s just pretty to me rather than benefitting off of being west indian or having other admixtures? I didnt know she was until this video, i only hear about her when Taylor fans try to doxx her for no reason. She looks very black to me personally
But i can agree with the general sentiment of this whole thing either being linked back to men and/or biracial beauty being the standard everyone’s trying to grab at. Because even the context of being “ugly” or something is ugly, say for example if my mom tells me i should try harder with my looks now that my hair is only 2 inches, she will follow up and say “your future husband could be around the corner!” And im like well maybe he is, but if he doesnt like what I look like with 2 inches, why he get me when i have 22 inches of hair? Like at some point even with white ppl creating the rules, not enough of us do the work of making sure the chilldren grow up loving ALL their black features (for whatever reason ppl think they can dissociate hair pattern from being black and still love themselves while calling their hair curses)
@@CherryBerry383 they think anyone who is pretty is mixed.
such a great video. I agree with all your unpopular opinions, from the idea of white privilege to race swapping in media and how disgustingly lazy it is. I would equate race swapping to white people giving us the crumbs from their plate after they finished a whole meal, and black people go crazy for those crumbs 😭 no one in the black community is honest anymore and I appreciate you for always keeping it real.
This may not have any relevance to the conversation, but as someone who is biracial, and has studied historical biracial experiences, biracial worship has not been something written in stone throughout the ages. During slavery in the United States, there are accounts of biracial enslaved peoples describing how some slaveholders targeted them with an intense violence due to their complexion, and being "within the house" meant being in closer proximity to violent masters. This of course is one example, and does not mean that biracial privilege did not exist during slavery. It shows that biracial worship isn't a definite experience throughout history to modern day, but rather being biracial is full of complexities, just as many racial lived experiences are.
Thank you for the added nuance 😊
To avoid this confusion have children that will look you period.
I agree with everything that you've said except for the Cleopatra thing but that is for historical reasons which a lot of people don't fully understand.
(This is not that type of channel so I'll only explain if people want me to. )
However, your point about biracial identity jumping in and out of black identity stands firm. The only thing we need to assess is whether or not their feature set is an accurate representation of our beauty.
Or is it a fantasy of our delusions. The delusion, of course being that we are not the attractive blueprint that we are.
Our attractiveness goes well beyond the subset and should never be confined by parameters that can't even reach us.
Mixed race titles of the past, that are now covertly hidden:
Mulatto- Half African, Half European
Griffe- 3/ 4 African, 1/4 European
Sacatra- 7/8 African, 1/8 European
Quadroon- 1/4 African, 3/4 European
Octoroon- 1/8 African, 7/8 European
Zambo- 3/4 African, 1/4 Indigenous Indian
Marabou- European, African, Taino Indian, South Asian
Why did the elite choose to hide these race labels with the racial classification 'black'? When these mixes are still present today?
Regardless of mixed heritage you are your father's seed, especially a son. A daughter can be more of her mother. But you are your father's seed regardless...
Black and White is a manmade racial classification to build a construct of a racial hierarchy......
If you are what the father is, this means 40 percent of so called “black Americans” are actually white Americans no matter how dark they are because 40% of black Americans have a European aka white forefather
i personally dont agree with the “white privilege doesnt exist” argument because for americans specifically (which i can only share my experience of because i am african american) there are more deep historical and racial context that encapsulate white privilege. for example white supremacy and systemic racism in America. But, i think the majority privilege idea is really interesting and makes a lot of sense as well
I initially thought I was going to disagree with you, but I decided to listen because my mom says things that many black people will hate, but are actually true. And I found myself completely agreeing with you. Like completely. Its painful to accept the truth of ones-self attimes. But once we begin to see the truth of things, we can actually move on.
This video right here 👀☕️ Speak on it ‼️🗣️ 😂
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Ambiguity is trending....for now
I think you make very valid points but your video is missing swathes of context or misconstrues it in some places. The idea of appropriation is not exclusive to racial structure it’s a function of power dynamics as relates to any isolated THEN cumulative instance of privilege. First is that, the imposition (not choice) of coily and loosely textured hair being the acceptable form of Black/Biracial hair types has deep history. Along with the paperbag test that light skinned and biracial people used to discriminate against unambiguous Black people in the establishment of their blue vein societies, there was a hair comb test. Being lighter and having loose hair directly translated into access into historically and current “Black” institutions for education, careers, banking, acting…every industry. This was a power structure erected and sustained by Biracial, passing and lighter skinned people that had tangible measurable effects still felt and seen today. Look at most diversity and inclusion advertisements that feature “Black” hair- it’s a very particular type of 3a-4a hair( and 4a if they’re feeling particularly generous that day). For most Black women in corporate, we understand that the closest texture of natural hair one can safely wear before your fired for “ wearing our Afro anywhere”, are kicked out of school for being unkempt etc. There is still an unsung but very turbulent and violent reaction to 4b-Z hair existing on a “non-preferred body” that people in privileged bodies have a higher rate of exemption from. The criteria for appropriation is fulfilled here. You have the combination of social privilege, institutional power, and a history of discrimination for said feature. Yes Biracials suffer at the hands of white societies, but they have also been active participants of discrimination at their earliest convenience- literally from a historical perspective 😂. This is the reason why cosplaying kinky textures would be considered in bad faith. You don’t institutionalise or aid in the institutionalisation of hair discrimination and then turn around and wear the same hair, because naturally, it is safer for you to than the unambiguous black girl. Same thing with whiteness and blackness with respect to appropriation of culture. Texturism is complex and has a more violent history than a comment section will allow me to write about but I think calling it jealousy is intellectually lazy because it refuses to place this into context and ultimately blames Black women for their own oppression. It also reflects how we refuse to see the social and structural power imbalances held by Biracials over Black people because we don’t have intersectional analysis of our histories.
I think being ‘intellectually lazy’ in this case is better for most people’s mental health. I don’t know about anyone else, but walking around with my head high as a person with highly textured hair would be VERY difficult for me if I constantly kept all of this in my mind. On a basic level, it’s jealousy - even if it’s about access to a ‘privilege’ (which I consider subjective) that you don’t have. That is more empowering and makes it easier to find and implement feasible solutions - which is my whole point. If none of this provides feasible and actionable solutions, then I don’t care to carry it around with me, credible or otherwise.
Loved this video.
Thank you so much for this video 💙
Awesome video! I love your commentary!!
Absolute truth 💯
I’m obsessed with your content ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you! 💕💕
I agree with everything
Maybe because I'm a wash and go wearer myself but I don't actually see the big thing with having to use coily in place of curly. I've always used it for my hair with or without modifiers (e.g., kinky curly, afro curly) and I never thought that meant my hair would look, behave, or be cared for the same as a zendaya type 😅. Not opposed to calling them differently tho, that's a thing in many languages including where I live. I never really used "coily" since my hair doesn't really coil like that in most places
So does your hair curl?
@@LethalLemonLime I'd say so in the sense of calling a bend a curl. I have small S curls and waves/zigzags. When I said doesn't coil I mean in that proper spiral sense like a spring. Unfortunately only small sections of my hair do that
Bottom line. Most black people do not in fact have curly hair. They have afro coils. Nothing wrong or unattractive about it. Just not curls
@@Ascension1004 🤷🏾 I don't get this comment... I'm not saying afro hair is unattractive? I'm in that hair category. I guess I just define curly much broader than others.
@@Ascension1004white or mixed people do t have a lock on curly hair. Black hair is curly hair. Some of you are so narrow minded
Love the biracial queens!
Biracial what???👀
7:25 spot on
Speak on it!
Poor Zendaya. She reminds me of that Alex Haley movie about his grandmother Queen?
I’m biracial I’m half black and half white I never claim to be fully black or fully white - most black woman seem to dislike me for being born as I am it’s stupid people love projecting their insecurities on others.
Biracial people with a mixture of features look beautiful just admit it stop hating us and love us 🤣 how you perceive us is not our problem.
Zendaya is half black if black people claim her as black that’s not her problem
Love your comment❤ I’m a mixed raced woman as well. These mono black women hate to admit that they do worship us as mixed and place us on pedestals. We are mixed not just black 😁
@@CreolePearls_ I honestly wish that people could break out of the conditioning that teaches them to hate themselves it’s hard but loving yourself and others feels amazing.
There’s beauty in everyone but I will never apologise to anyone for being who I am or what I am my skin,features body etc I will never apologise because I love myself.
Other people insecurities do not belong to me they need to go within and heal their hearts 💕
@@arianalovelace1133 THIS 🫶🏽
@@GreenGorgeousness I genuinely don’t want to be in anyone’s “spaces” I can relate to biracial people the most because we have the same experience but there’s so much divide gender,skin colour,class,religion it just gets stupid just like who you like that’s how I live
Why are you always bringing up bw???👀this lady who's a mono racial bw didn't hate on you so why are you trying to push this agenda that bw are hating on y'all??😂😂😂 Y'all have problems with bw honestly just admit your animosity of us 😏
You are the only other person in this black youtube space mentioning that everythnng is not white privilege. I really appreciate that. Its a majority thing privilege. So when it comes to white ppl telling more white ppl stories, or promoting white beauty, its a very normal human thing. That is what we are supposed to be doing. Not complaining about white ppl prioritising themsleves.
So
Nothing but facts
Same challenge we have in south africa..because we are mixed race and have that exotic look as coloureds..the first thing you would hear from black people is that you think that you are deputy whites...you think you are better than us...we like..whhaaaat..always
The reason you're called deputy whites is because a lot of Coloured people are disgustingly racist to Black people, disparage Black features and distance themselves from blackness. Don't pretend that Coloured people have not aligned with white and Indian people in oppressing Black people.
It bothers me when people say blackfishing when they mean mixedfishing 😬
3:38 It was Giuliana Rancic.
It's so sad that ppl that think like us are a minority
Erm sorry just double checking as a black Brit name the names of who ever came for fka twigs blackness so I can beef all 5 - 10 of them personally
But you know when you put Kyla nicole into this it let me know that it’s featurism, texturism, exoticism all bundle into one which yh for the most part often does have biracial worship as the end result but doesn’t always
From personal experience I’m maybe 2 shades at the most lighter than Kayla Nicole and the very faint exoticism & featurism that both races try and apply to me in different settings is meant to be a compliment & they genuinely don’t let it go not because I look mixed race but because i look mixed ethnically to them I can’t just be from one country in west Africa (apparently in that moment I look too cute for them to believe that they wanna know if there is a West Indian in the mix, a bit of East African or heck even North African ) 😅it’s very cringe that I’ve learned to just be fake and say "omg no way you’re the 1st person to say that; not that I’m aware of at all 😅how random - I’ll ask my momma and let y’all know next time anyway…. "
Because when I came to understand why this kept happening and what it really meant it made me very uncomfortable not only do I think that mindset is gross, uneducated and a tad xenophobic but I don’t like my looks being a thing of focus unless like I’m literally on a date with someone I like or I’m intentionally asking for an opinion or assessment
Zendaya facial features look very black to me!
She doesn't look nothing like her mom, lol
Y'all are so desperate to see yourself in her
THE GIRL LOOKS BLACK AND I AM RACIALLY AMBIGUOUS! That NOSE gives it all away!
Yeah, I’m sure everyone would mistake zendaya for Lupita.
There y'all go again 💀
I said the same. Why are they pulling out biracial to talk about hair growth
In my school basically every guy including myself who is at least 25% non black is sexualized by women
Same goes both ways
Sometimes I be getting jealous of my half European half East Asian kids, because they have like perfect silky straight hair but it’s light brown in color like mine, like how y’all get the best of both? That’s not even fair.
I haven’t fully finished but you said “namja” instead of “man”. You speak Korean? I barely know any words but that one I recognize lol
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Can you please use better words like 'authentic ' rather than unambiguous. We don't call European/Caucasian women with Caucasian/European features unambiguous so why do it to women of Afro-descent?...
The reason why the word "authentic" will never be used in this context is because it insinuates that someone else is "inauthentic" or "unauthentic", which is derogatory.
"Unambiguous" just means that you can tell with certainty what something is/means. Where as "ambiguous" means that it isn't 100% clear what something is/means.
We don't call white women "authentic" either. Don't be weird.
I don't see how this is a better word or clarifies anything. Its not applied to white european women because its not something that they're judged against to the same extend. Xenophobia between european nations can impact that though, especially when people talk about south or east european women, their features are very much judged and considered. East european women are hypersexualised because of poverty and the sex trade.
@@Candyrock15 You don't call European women unambiguous either, nor do you call any other ethnicity of women unambiguous. You women are your own worst enemy, with your self-inflicted remarks about yourself. The enemy runs away with it.
@@Nottiy Keeping a group 'Black or White ' is the worst device the enemy could do. The polar effect is working.
You told the truth