Thank you so much for watching 💖. It’s so sad how there is a policing of how we all should act in the black community, we are all not the same. Love your channel btw.
@@prettycoloredgirlsI really appreciate your mindset; you focus on what you can do rather than what you can complain about. I wonder what your take is on content that highlights men's historical misogyny and the horrible things done to women throughout the years. This type of content often leaves me with resentment and anger but doesn't offer solutions or guidance on how to navigate life without being bothered by these issues. In reality, what they say is true, and I can see it in my family and surroundings. But what can we do about it?
I was called Oreo by my own family 🤦🏽♀️ just because I didn’t fit their stereotypical black person 😂😂 I can relate because my dad is Haitian while my mom is black American. I face diaspora from both sides
Sorry to hear that, it’s always worse when it comes from your own family. Being adopted by a Haitian women I will say there is a lot of inferiority complex there also so I understand. Thank you for watching💖.
I relate! I'm bi-ethnic as well, Ghanian father/African American mother; I was born in Long Island, NY. I got called an oreo when I lived in Florida quite often. Both sides also want me to fit into their stereotypical cultural boxes and... I don't. I don't think I even can while still being myself, so I stopped trying; hence, I don't fit in on either side. I know it's not exactly the same, but I imagine that this is how biracial people must feel.
Omg I relate to that oreo thing so much. It was purely because I read a lot of books, watched anime, wore my natural hair (which doesn't make any sense as that's literally the blackest thing you can do), and didn't live in the hood (or the "endz" as they call it here in England). I felt obligated to dumb down my speech and abandon my hobbies but no longer. :)
I have not had someone directly try to cut off my hair but there was a few times that I went to a hairdresser (which I don't usually go to because I prefer to take care of and style my own hair) and even though her children had long 4c hair, she would rake a comb through my hair and blow dry it with high heat, no heat protectant, and when it was already dry (which makes no sense because why are you blowdrying dry hair??). I'm not a very confrontational person so I kept my mouth shut about it. I don't go anymore and I don't think that I can trust anyone else with my hair. The last time was last year and my hair has only just reach mid back again after I had to chop a lot of the damage off. :(
That’s horrible, some people should not be stylist. Their job is to care for and style hair, not ruine it. I’ve heard so many horror stories it’s crazy. That’s why I style my own hair also, I am not taking any chances. I’m happy your hair is thriving though, thanks for your comment. 💖
I absolutely resonated with you talking about being called an oreo. For me it was my accent because I barely had a bahamian accent especially when I was young. However for me I feel like it can be attributed to my neroudivergencies
I’m sorry that happened to you. Bahamians have a beautiful accent, I was born in Turks and Caicos so we have a similar accent I believe. That’s another big problem is the lack of acceptance of the neurodivergent people in the community. Thank you so much for watching 💖.
Yeah unfortunately it tend to happened to women with a looser curl pattern, or girls with longer type 4 hair. I’m glad it didn’t happen to you though, and wearing twist is a safe way to keep the jealousy away. Keep being beautiful, thank you. 🥰
@@prettycoloredgirls tbh I used to wear it in "nani" plaits when I was young. So nobody commented on it. I also never wear slicked back buns. However in my country we havr the looser end of type 4 but we have an abundance of 4c hair. Yet I always notice how they only call 4c hair nappy or peasy if its short, but when its long thoes comments change lol.
You should definitely do a DNA test- I'm willing to bet you have a high percentage of east indian in you ( the east african look plus being caribbean/ west indian). Douglas/ mixed indian black ppl generally have thus phenotype. Great video, you hit the nail on every head ❤
@NanaSaga you missed the main point. You are clearly west african so stay out of caribbean dialogue. In the caribbean the indian/ black mix is very common- she mentioned she is caribbean. And no,keen features are not found in indigenous Africans stop lying to yourself
@NanaSaga east african have keen features and are mixed with Arabs, so do north africans, west african banter features reflect a truly indigenous look. Wide flat nose larger lips coarser hair
Excellent video ! ❤ I can relate to being called an Oreo as well 😂
Thank you so much for watching 💖. It’s so sad how there is a policing of how we all should act in the black community, we are all not the same. Love your channel btw.
This is so relatable , I've been called a coconut by relatives .
@@prettycoloredgirlsI really appreciate your mindset; you focus on what you can do rather than what you can complain about. I wonder what your take is on content that highlights men's historical misogyny and the horrible things done to women throughout the years. This type of content often leaves me with resentment and anger but doesn't offer solutions or guidance on how to navigate life without being bothered by these issues. In reality, what they say is true, and I can see it in my family and surroundings. But what can we do about it?
I was called Oreo by my own family 🤦🏽♀️ just because I didn’t fit their stereotypical black person 😂😂 I can relate because my dad is Haitian while my mom is black American. I face diaspora from both sides
Sorry to hear that, it’s always worse when it comes from your own family. Being adopted by a Haitian women I will say there is a lot of inferiority complex there also so I understand. Thank you for watching💖.
The fact they called someone with a hatian parent an oreo is proof that the black community lost the plot
I relate! I'm bi-ethnic as well, Ghanian father/African American mother; I was born in Long Island, NY. I got called an oreo when I lived in Florida quite often. Both sides also want me to fit into their stereotypical cultural boxes and... I don't. I don't think I even can while still being myself, so I stopped trying; hence, I don't fit in on either side. I know it's not exactly the same, but I imagine that this is how biracial people must feel.
Omg I relate to that oreo thing so much. It was purely because I read a lot of books, watched anime, wore my natural hair (which doesn't make any sense as that's literally the blackest thing you can do), and didn't live in the hood (or the "endz" as they call it here in England). I felt obligated to dumb down my speech and abandon my hobbies but no longer. :)
I have not had someone directly try to cut off my hair but there was a few times that I went to a hairdresser (which I don't usually go to because I prefer to take care of and style my own hair) and even though her children had long 4c hair, she would rake a comb through my hair and blow dry it with high heat, no heat protectant, and when it was already dry (which makes no sense because why are you blowdrying dry hair??). I'm not a very confrontational person so I kept my mouth shut about it. I don't go anymore and I don't think that I can trust anyone else with my hair. The last time was last year and my hair has only just reach mid back again after I had to chop a lot of the damage off. :(
That’s horrible, some people should not be stylist. Their job is to care for and style hair, not ruine it. I’ve heard so many horror stories it’s crazy. That’s why I style my own hair also, I am not taking any chances. I’m happy your hair is thriving though, thanks for your comment. 💖
I absolutely resonated with you talking about being called an oreo. For me it was my accent because I barely had a bahamian accent especially when I was young. However for me I feel like it can be attributed to my neroudivergencies
I’m sorry that happened to you. Bahamians have a beautiful accent, I was born in Turks and Caicos so we have a similar accent I believe. That’s another big problem is the lack of acceptance of the neurodivergent people in the community. Thank you so much for watching 💖.
I also never related to people trying to cut off my hair but I have long coily type 4 hair. Maybe because I keep in twists soo
Yeah unfortunately it tend to happened to women with a looser curl pattern, or girls with longer type 4 hair. I’m glad it didn’t happen to you though, and wearing twist is a safe way to keep the jealousy away. Keep being beautiful, thank you. 🥰
@@prettycoloredgirls tbh I used to wear it in "nani" plaits when I was young. So nobody commented on it. I also never wear slicked back buns. However in my country we havr the looser end of type 4 but we have an abundance of 4c hair. Yet I always notice how they only call 4c hair nappy or peasy if its short, but when its long thoes comments change lol.
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Because short hair is not a beauty standard wherever you go around the world….😅
@@NanaSaga oh that makes sense
Coconut was the term for me. UK based.
You should definitely do a DNA test- I'm willing to bet you have a high percentage of east indian in you ( the east african look plus being caribbean/ west indian). Douglas/ mixed indian black ppl generally have thus phenotype. Great video, you hit the nail on every head ❤
Interesting, I will be ordering my test soon, and I’ll do and update video I’ve always been curious. Thank you so much for watching.💖
…you don’t have to be mixed to have keen features😅 West Africa is not a stereotype
@NanaSaga you missed the main point. You are clearly west african so stay out of caribbean dialogue. In the caribbean the indian/ black mix is very common- she mentioned she is caribbean. And no,keen features are not found in indigenous Africans stop lying to yourself
@NanaSaga east african have keen features and are mixed with Arabs, so do north africans, west african banter features reflect a truly indigenous look. Wide flat nose larger lips coarser hair
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Great video
Thank you so much 💖.
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