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- Hear the untold story of college proposals, feminist resistance and how they navigate their Islamic roles in this open and honest conversation between Daniel Haqiqtou and his wife, Umm Khalid!
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I got married when I was 19 and my hubby was 24. We knew and loved each other for years before we got married. When we got married I was in University, 4th semester. My first son was born the next year and my second son born 2 years later. When I graduated my second son was 5 months young. My hubby has supported me the whole time without demanding for me to have to have a corporate job after graduating. University is just a way to seek knowledge and hoping for Allah's blessings.
My hubby doesn't have a college degree up until now and it has never been a problem in our marriage. He is strong and responsible. After graduating I stayed at home, manage the house, and take care of the children. We now have 5 children and my first son is 12 years old.
At the beginning of marriage we didn't have much. Instead of immediately jumping on the "job wagon" I stayed at my post and supported my hubby at his endeavors to sustain our little family. Alhamdulillah in time our financial condition little by little improved and he is still the main provider of our family. He is also a good father who prepares his children for life, not just the typical throwing children into school and hoping for the best.
What's interesting is hubby's own upbringing. His father provided for the family and his mother stayed at home to take care of the children (4 boys and 1 girl). It was my father in law's wish and wisdom that their children needed their mother to be at home. Hubby said it was the best thing because he sees him and his siblings grew more stable emotionally and had better relationship with their parents and now have good and stable relationship with their spouses. May Allah pour down his rahmah upon us all.
I think this feminist thinking has also pulled down men to think of the wife as a burden if she doesn't make money. So, men become weaker and unashamed if the wife is bussy taking care of everything and on top of that having an income. In some families it's so bad that even the mother in law sees her daughter in law a burden to her son if she doesn't "work." This has taken a toll in many marriages.
Anyway, I follow Umm Khalid on Fb and am thankful that this Islamic gender roles are being appreciated more of its beauty and not as something backwards.
Thanks so much for sharing that was really insightful JazakAllahu khair
Beautifully said. May Allah bless you
Mashallah sister such a beautiful story Mashallah. May Allah continue to bless your beautiful family. I too got married a few weeks after my 19 birthday to my husband who is 13 years older than me Mashallah. Im 22 and we have to sons two years apart Mashallah.
May Allah bless you.
Iam medical docter i want a lady who is ready for house wife and also +2 science and of course niqab wearing
Iam indian
Please tell anyone have
I want wife like u
Got married at 18
First child at 20
Second at 22
Expecting the third inn shaa allaah
Insha Allah it will be successful
May Allah grant your entire family Jannah for preserving the family unit and our building block as an Ummah
Please make dua for me and other brothers it’s very difficult to find sisters who aren’t feminists career oriented, don’t d is regard motherhood and homemaking.
Please also make dua for sisters who have held firm on the ropes of feminist jahiliyah knowingly or unknowingly and they are busy chasing career in their early 30s of pressure ising parents to look for a spouse
May Allah give us all hidayat Ameen
mashallah
@@H.a.q.qmay Allah ease your burden and grant you an amazing wife
Inshaa2Allah your whole family is granted Jannah Alfirdaws Al2a3laa
I'm a religious Jew and I love this. I've been gradually unlearning the feminism secular society has conditioned me into
MashaAllah! May Allah bring you closer to Islam and reward you immensely.
Alhamdullilah, I’m a revert Christian and I am unlearning the feminist orthodoxy that I was raised in.
@@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD what is feminist orthodoxy?
@@hamizulhafiz475 In a nutshell. The “boss babe”, women are identical to men, the deconstruction of traditional gender roles, and the over emphasis of education and career for a woman in her early 20s and 30s over marriage and motherhood.
@@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD ah the crypto feminist😂
Daniel and Umm Khalid My favorite duo! 😍
cannot wait.
No he does not
If he does not want to
@apridai you should mind your business
@apridai What cave do you live in where men have multiple wives? I don't care what Islam says - that practice is outdated. A woman defending men's right to marry 3 other women while she is stuck with 1 is one of the saddest sites to see. I don't even argue - it's just depressing.
@apridai What cave do you live in where men have multiple wives? A woman defending men's "right" to marry 3 other women while she is stuck with 1 is one of the saddest sights to see. I don't even argue - it's just depressing. Why hurt yourself like this?
Mashallah, great conversation.
“Feminism is really just female narcissism “
@apridai maybe he doesn't want because all the men don't want to marry multiple wives . Anyway I support polygyny
@apridai bruv, he doesn't have to marry other wives to preach polygyny. Why u assuming his wife doesn't let him maybe this is his choice , he doesn't have time or etc, 7usna dhan if u really follow the salaf
@apridai there is no saying that a man must have multiple wives. There is no condition for marrying multiple wives to show your manliness. Marrying to one person or multiple is not a sign of manliness.
The best of you are those who are best to their wife/wives. As long as brother Daniel is best to his only wife, then surely he is successful and Allah will reward him for it. May Allah protect him and his wife from evil eye and keep them in the right path. Ameen
@apridai it's not fear. It's called being committed. He is not obliged to marry another women even if he has the means.
Plus marriage is not fardh. So if one wants to remain single, he can do so.
@apridai how is he bashing other men to have multiple wives in this video. I haven't checked other videos of his so I'm not sure he's doing that.
Plus there is no sin if one does not want to marry multiple wives. Whether they have the ability to do so, it is not shariah law that he take on multiple wives. There are millionaires who only have 1 wife.
Plus it's important we take account of the feelings of our wife and the struggles if men were to have multiple wives. Plus it's an even bigger responsibility for men to ensure he is equally treating his wives and satisfying them to meet their needs.
I really like how he brought his wife so it wasnt just a convo with just the two of them. Lots of respect
I am so happy to see this video especially with umm Khalid. Oh what an educated humble sister, MashaAllah Allahummah bariklaha.
Allahumma barik just finished the video and it was the greatest pleasure listening to y'all playing the ball to each other back and forth! There was so much wisdom spilled and so much truth put to the table! It is a topic more relevant than ever and this needs to be spread all over, hope I can make sure to translate this gem anytime soon for the German audience
Love this collab!! I am deeply inspired by the works of Na’ima, Umm Khalid and Br. Daniel.
Immediately opened once I saw Umm Khalid in the title 😍 thank you for having her on! ❤️
Maash Allah, I love how the conversation was conducted, thorough. Clarifying any room for misconceptions. I loved the interview style, sis Naima levelling up Maash Allah !!6!
Subhanallah. Very beautifully put. Maashallah. Am going to share this with my friends and family. 💕💞May Allah bless you all
Three of my favorite Muslims? Live? Cool!
Wow! MaashaaAllah tabarakallah!🎉! This was such a deep rooted intellectual conversation. The brother and his wife’s conversation was clear and guided. Alhamdulillah the entire discussion was what a cold sahlab drink would be to a runaway servant on a hot summer day in the middle of the desert!
Jazakumullah Naima.
Frankly, from the first time I come across your channel, I learned a lot about this life university called (Marital life) before I venture into it. May Allah bless you and give you the opportunity to do more so that our ummah will learn how best to navigate the obstacles of this important Ibadah of marriage.
Mashallah amazing talks. Thoroughly enjoyed it and so agree. I’m going to share it with my network. May Allah bless all the speakers’ work and grant them barakah and success, ameen.
MashaAllah! Such a comprehensive and useful session, highlighting the very core issues of marriage in Islam from the lens of modern mindset.
Always, it's a pleasure to listen to the analysis of brother Daniel and sister Umm Khalid!! Thank you sister Na'ima for conducting this!!
May Allah bless you all!! ✨️
I really enjoyed this conversation. Quite balanced. MashaAllah!! It’s really important for younger people to be listening to these conversations.
A very beneficial talk subhanallah, I love how honest @MuslimSkeptic Daniel was about the financial side of things, how men won't be put off by a successful woman if she is pious and the man is still the provider regardless. I love how Umm Khalid asked for clarity and reflected on Khadija (RA). This is really helping me a lot as an entrepreneurial woman, married now for 5 years with a husband who is revert, I am one year older (we married at 20 and 21. I recently decided before I try to have children I want to learn to homeschool with Umm Khalid and Daniels classes inshallah. I came from revert parents and not a strict practising background so I thank Allah (SWT) for blessing me with the convictions he did. Seeing Niqabi women doing such inspiration talks is so empowering as I would like to one day share my story in halal way to help others like you all have helped me. This year I finally started wearing hijab full time no one else empowered me me to wear it the same way no one told me to get married or homeschool etc. like I said these are the convictions I am grateful to from Allah (SWT) without him I am lost. I don't wear Niqab but if I did RUclips I would wear it as something in my heart makes me fear going public without it , may Allah guide me to wear it full time too in my day to day life If this is better for me. Jazkakallah Na'ima for this interview.
This was a GREAT video !!! I would like to see them on your show again.
Absolutely loved the conversations. There were so many good insights 👍
Mash a ALLAH Brother Daniel and Sister Umm is such an intelligent and honourable Muslim couple!!!
Following them since quite a bit time.
May ALLAH bless them!
Wonderful conversation, I like the clarification of having the norm and the exception.
Amazing conversation wal hamdulilah. بارك الله فيكِ يا أختي نعيمة
Allahumma barik what a wonderful wonderful collaboration! So delighted to watch this! May Allah bless you all
EXCELLENT video, very informative none of that click bait stuff. May Allah swt bless your channel and reward you for such great content! AMEEN.
Everyone needs to watch this video! So much to learn from it and it makes perfect sense! Jazak Allah!
Mashallah great people from our ummah 👍 The ummah is back on track
I'm currently in kind of the same situation as brother Daniel was in: 20 years old, in college, and having found a practising sister that could be a potential wife. Definitely taking notes on this one. Gonna see what I can do next semester or the semester afterwards.
Good luck brother, Allaah grant you the best.
Good luck bro May Allah make it easy for you
@@Oo786oO Thanks y'all
Plz remember to avoid fitnah, being alone with her, going on dates etc. May Allah make it easy for you
@@Ayesha______ Ameen and I definitely will try to go about it in the most halal way possible inshaAllah
A must watch for everyone everywhere
Jazakallah khairan. Love this. My favorite part was when Umm Khalid mentioned all different masculine roles of different Sahabas.
Yes, that is very true, parents don't teach their daughters to be a wife or a mother.
I don't have daughters, I have 3 sons, and I do my best to prep them to be the husband and father, the responsible person, the one who will be the head of his family, the role model, the loving husband and father who respect and cares for his wife and children.... however, the social media is so powerful, and the society norms are quite the opposite of this Islamic ideal... and I ask help from Allah to help my children understand.... as at this point of time, it seems they are more inclined to follow the current trend... this is the fact with most practicing Muslim families in secular societies....
احبك في الله اخي دانيال
بارك الله لك في اهلك و في دعوتك و ثبتك الله و نصرك و أطال في عمرك
Mashallah! I can’t think of three people I would want in conversation more right now.
16:46 to 20:35 Why women should Prioritize marriage over career? Explained beautifully ماشاء الله
nowadays marriage does not come without career
Why can men have both? Simply having a job doesn’t prevent you from having a husband, having a husband doesn’t prevent you from having a job
@@ariellewallian5364 Thats the case
Deen has become harder and more challenges in getting married and being married
you guys are so cool - best wishes from Germany. I hope a lot of pp will benefit from this, cause I did too. Alhamdulillah. Its worth the time to watch it.
Hello I'm also in Germany, would like to chat you
Ma Sha Allah ❤️ enjoyed the video ❤️🌻may Allah(swt) reward you all 🌻
The conversation is lacking a lot of layers. Economical abuse is not mentioned for instance as any many people pursue with academic education. In my opinion It would have been more insightful to speak about it, how to prevent it, how it is in a problem in western societies as in Islamic ones, rather than emphasising on feminism and connoting negatively.
If someone wants to focus on their marriage, on their career path, academic education, Mash'Allah, who are we to judge?
Also certain dynamics are working differently for many people.
I am Black dark-skinned person and I need to be financially independent in this world. Why?
I am not financially privileged and have to rely on myself.
Because colorism , featurism , anti-blackness, fetishization iare playing a huge role in many cultures around the world and with such factors, it is harder for me to find someone to settle to and take more time.
So what should I do during this time?
That's just a small insight of my perspective as you have many other, people suffering from physical, mental issues, ableism, etc...
yes this convo was lacking a lot of nuance and assumes that all men are willing to be these perfect husbands even if they find the perfect wife. Women should absolutley pursue means to provide for themselves if and when her 'protecter" decides he doesn't want to be a husband or father anymore.
Two things: Rizq comes from Allah SWT, not your education/career. Second, sister Umm Khalid wrote an amazing article about the need to input “nuances” in every conservation to circumvent calling it how it is, I would definitely recommend a read.
@@blumachine Umma Khalid addresses this in her reaction video to feminist college debate.
It's about doing your role, and then trusting God.
You want to be "independent" because you're sacred of "domestic neglect"? Imagine a child is born in your hospital, and you say : we will take the child away from his parents because there's always a chance of "child-neglect".
It's not reasonable because EVERYTHING has risks.
It's about having the right intentions and doing the right things. Don't study/work for independence, that's not what God gave us as a role.
I found this example really helpful cause I struggled with mistrust in men.
Have the right intentions for whatever (permissible) act you do, and leave the rest to Allah.
@@fluffymountainshow u recover trust in men?????
@@Khannajmah It was a journey.
-I listened to seerah of our Prophet pbuh; those who love Allah and his prophet pbuh will do their best to be the best to their wives.
-I saw many muslim content creators and speakers on youtube, instagram and marriage apps who think like me and have good character.
-I spent time seeking more knowledge, learning about marriage and psychology and building tawaqqul, trust in His Plan.
I understood that there are good and bad men. Men are imperfect like us women. If I can improve myself, I will be granted someone just perfect for me. I made lots of dua and did umrah. Alhumdulillah, my Lord responded.
ما شاء الله تبارك الرحمن بارك الله فيكم وجزاكم الله خير الجزاء
Assalaamualaikum Sister Naima,
I do follow your videos and I do enjoy viewing these conversations around marriage. However some of your videos are affected by bad Internet connection. I know its difficult and I think you can take a few steps to resolve some of this.
1. Maybe when you realise your Internet connect is poor, switch off your video. This should have less affect on the audio.
2. Try and find another way to record your audio. Maybe join in via phone. That way if you do lose your connection for video, the audio should still run.
May Allah accept all your efforts. Great videos, great talks!
@apridai you have issues. Please get some help.
Mashallah! Verry Good beneficial discussion! BarakAllahu Feekom
When I Married My husband, I was in the Last semesters of my Master dagrees, My husband was in the Bachelor dagrees. It wasnt a problem for me because i had other priorities for marriage. Now, few years later, my husband does his doctors, now he is one lever higher than Me. I think it was a big support for him that his wife educated. I Supported him Alhamdulillah. Now i am mother and i love my job, i think a muslim mother needs a good Organisation to handle this. But i think also, not everyone is able to manage this. There a super moms, i think bether than me. But there a jobs, whitch we need to do because our Community need it: women Dr. / nurse/ hairdresser /educator/ teacher and so on
But I do understand what the brother and sister are saying, surround yourselves with enough degenerates at university and you shall become one. Not to say everyone will I didn't, but we must judge each person to determine whether they can take on such responsibility. There is absolutely nothing wrong with higher education, but if I had two children and one was more likely to engage in sin at university I would be more inclined to try and stop them, and if the other was more religious I would send them. Do not forget major sin occurs at university regularly.
@@hitmanx3475 the proportion of good compared to bad is pretty much nonexistent
Exactly we are very important to the world around us, men are not going to fill all those jobs we do, not to mention it's also fulfilling to use our intelligence we have been bestowed upon. My peers don't all have husbands that are more educated or have bigger paychecks. They work together to make a good living for themselves and family.
Don't think anyone is saying don't have degrees or good jobs but that it shouldn't become more important than being the best mother.
Many non Muslim parents know their teenagers have partners and are intimate with each other, essentially they are like a married couple without the label.
جزاكم الله عنا كل خير ♥︎
May Allah ﷻ bless Ustadh Daniel for his efforts. Ameen :)
the most beautiful thing i saw today . May ALLAH bless you and your family all of you .
Very wholesome Mashallah! May Allah Bless you all!
I concur ;) Mashallah.
Mashallah, brother is really good in these types of topics.
Very insightful thanks mrs and mr daniel and naima
MashAllah TabaraAllah, beneficial 👍🏻
Mashallah I really love the three of you for the sake of Allah .
Mashallah sisters Naïma, Umm Khalid and brother Daniel. I loved every bit of it and may Allah bless you all tremendously.
Is the Islamic homeschooling curriculum developed by Umm Khalid ready and available somewhere?
I have a 3 year old son and I’m looking forward to using an Islamic curriculum with him.
Would like it o know it as well please thank you
Ooooh I’d like that too please!!
@@nam9xx1 SubhanAllah! Is there anything to support your statement?
@@helentme838 lol there is no support to back up his claim instead pf listening to unknown comments I think you should directly asks them on their social medias sister
I have purchased the Quranic Homeschool curriculum and it is very good.
This is going to be a long one! But I feel like we need to unpack this more.
I think that there are clear parameters in Islam about gender roles, but there is also SO much leeway to create the type of relationship that different personalities need.
No one relationship should be the same as the other. Because personality matters. Passions, purpose, values, etc all matters. And what works for one couple may not work for another.
It’s not black and white. Women and men are different, but we also have an overlap, and that overlap is human.
We have both differences and similarities.
I think we have to be careful with fighting back the liberal/feminist way by swinging to the opposite end of the spectrum. (I’m against the feminist theory.)
The women of makah were different than the woman of madina. A stark difference between them. Women of makah had that traditional surrendered way of being. And the women of madina were strong minded and would question, etc. it was a stark difference. To the point that the Sahabas came to the Prophet and complained that their women are changing because of the ansari (Madina) influence.
But the Prophet didn’t scold the women, he didn’t tell the men that this was bad and we need to squander it, he smiled. And Aisha said she sees herself like the madina women (because she was raised the most amongst them). Yet the Prophet’s favorite wife was Aisha.
I think we shouldn’t be so black and white. I think divorces are happening not just because of feminism and hypergamy, I think it’s an amalgamation of so many factors.
One factor is that our men’s testosterone levels have plummeted. Men who reach the age of thirty today have the same testosterone level as a 60 year old man three generations ago. And after the age of 29, their testosterone are declining each year.
I think this plays a prominent role with men not being truly strong men who are service oriented and sacrificial (not just feminism). Therefore, I think the true enemy here is the chemical companies, food companies, pharma, etc.
Also, we know that women are highly nurturing. Because of our agreeable Natures, we become who our children need. Which means we will embody the traits that our husbands disembody.
I agree with so many points being said here, I think it’s not as comprehensive as it could be. I think we are attacking women and their lack, as the decline of relationship. But that’s not true.
Both men and women have lost their ways. Men have lost the self discipline they need to lead and be deliberate in their thinking. Which makes it hard for women to trust them and surrender. And women have also lost their feminine essence and the art of receiving, which makes a man want to serve her/the family.
It’s not this black and white. Everyone at the end of the day have different personalities (mbti, enneagram, temperaments, humors, etc are good sources to look into).
And according to psychiatrist Jung, he also sees many different feminine archetypes and masculine ones.
We aren’t all the same.
Let’s give room for our personalities to be expressed and accepted, within the parameter of Islam.
👏
Subhanallah!!
As an Entj female I really appreciate your comment
beautifully written sister. Theres of course the matter of Haya here and that Islamically the home is the womans hijab- if circumstances will allow it. Like you said, women need to be more nurturing and less dominant and men need to step up!
Mashallah sister
Umm Khalid!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Love you my sister naima please invite them again. Loved it
SubhaanAllah amazing podcast❤❤
ASSALAM Alaykum. Together till Jannah.
Great points🙏
As a man young in almost in mid 20s this conversation give me chill, may Allah make it easy for unmarried people and strange the bond of marriage, marriage is beautiful thing if you follow teachings of Islam!
Truly ❤
آمین یا رب العالمین
Barakallahu feekum!
I love the way Daniel’s wife has her hijab it’s how I’ve always wanted to cut my hair
Asalam alaikum, barakallahu feek for this healthy conversation and insight. Allah accept.
Question I have which I hope you could address is...like you mentioned many times that society is creating this ideology of feminism and women wanting to work etc, so would you not say that society is what needs changing and the social thinking/order since that is what is pushing this ideology of feminism and individualism? Expecting individuals to change with constant certain ideologies being pushed seems to me like we are trying to address a symptom but not necessarily addressing the root solution. Alhamdulillah we know we have am Islamic way of living through Quran and Sunnah so would you say that is the path we should be pushing in all aspects from social/economic/adaab etc. I would love to know your thoughts x
Top content ماشاءالله
Love that the children role play the stories of the seerah !!!
found bro here MASHA~ALLAH ---[KASHMIR INDIA ]
Brother Daniel is one of the few brother's on RUclips who I actually take seriously.
Same here bro are u from Bangladesh 🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩
@@afzalhossain1429 yes brother I'm Bangladeshi
@@Finggy me too bro
@@afzalhossain1429 balani bhai
@@Finggy eito Alhamdulillah tomar ki khobor tomar desher bari koi
very good insights, unfortunately the audio was very weird :(
@ 28:12 the brother described qualities that he linked to toxicity but I'm confused on how he came to that conclusion. If he or anyone could clarify this I'd appreciate it
Mashallah,great points
Wow ...loved it
Thank you Dear sister
"A ship that has two captains sinks." - An Egyptian Saying
This was nice
الحمد لله حاضر وجزاكم الله خيرا
Islamic credentials are seen as "basic" by alot of practicing Muslim women and women tell each other "have high standards don't accept basics"
Amazing....... Ma sha allah 🤩🥰🇸🇦🥰
very nice video
Disagree strongly that early marriage can prevent molestation of women (which is implied that she is at risk of by entering the formal workforce). Women are targets of SA at any age, often by people closest to them (family and community members), and less often in the workplace (though of course it still happens).
Thats media brainwashing. Women get raped in frat parties they go to willingly knowing full well they'll get drugged and raped.
Yeah agree with you there. Theres a lot more to SA than just being unmarried.
Yup !! Sometimes little BABIES ARE SO SA’d does that mean we should get babies married ? No. SA has nothing to do with age
Early marriage allows the woman to be under care and protected from these things as this is the LITERAL purpose of marriage. Your point is Null. Unless you mean Abusive husbands but thats different point. In that context , choose your spouse wisely.
@@Moody.Smiruaithe woman would already be under the protection of her dad, brothers, uncle. Women don't require the husband to come and save them unless they're completely alone for some reason
The way sister Umm Khalid laughs and gets shy❤️😍
Started thinking of marriage when I was 4.
Was determine to marry when I was 19.
Still want to marry and I'm 26. 😁
😂
May Allah make it easy for all unmarried brothers and sisters
Ma Sha Allah, l love you all
Sis Naima, please check your Internet connection. It cuts in and out.
There is always issues with networks and we should set the standard as everything has to work 100 percent
Internet always have issues
She's here in Egypt and it's one of the worst internet connections in the world.
umm khalid facebook follower here
came here for umm khalid
Quran and sunna is the only way!❤
Subhannallah
Its very difficult to find a REAL Muslimah in the states. Even our sisters with hijab have minds that are in the social gutters of society. I've met many sisters in my search for a spouse only to see how bad the situation is.. May Allah guide us all
What did u find when u searched?
@@saifullahkhan1202 .. the most common thing I noticed was the so-called feminist beliefs many sisters carried in their hearts as if Islam failed to give them their rights. Sisters in the United States and abroad even are requesting the 'rights' that the typical American women asks for but without taking on the responsibilities that they do also all while benefitting from the Islamic dowry and other rights Islam gives her. They basically want to take advantage of what both (Islamic and western) systems have to offer by without carrying the responsibilities. For example most American born women, if they work, will help with the financial requirements of her husband to some extent but a muslimah will not despite her demand to work and continue college. This was by far the most common thing I've see and I've sat down to discuss marriage with Muslim women from Palestine (my origin) morocco United States (birthplace).
@@saifullahkhan1202 many women will speak beautifully not realizing that their hidden motives are revealed in other ways contrary to the beautiful words they speak and claims they make.
@@amjadsulieman1148 women unfortunately have a herd mentality so they chant the same things in unison. Ask them if islam doesn't give them rights then why do ask for rights of a wife in marriage? Ask them to be firm at one thing either adopt islam whole or the Western idea whole, it's not a buffet. This is just pure leach behavior to be frank. Wanting benefits that come from traditional responsibilities of the husband while demanding western freedom is treacherous, it's toddler behavior, no accountability. She won't fulfill her islamic duties neither will she take on half of her share if she wants western freedom, then this is just female narcissism. At the end it is the problem of their parents that they didn't make them understand the hikmah behind the difference in a woman's and a man's gender roles and how they are opposite yet complimentary. If you want to counter these propaganda being pushed onto your future kids make sure to read them seerah of thr sahaba and sahabiyat to your kids so they can understand what being a muslim means.
I don't blame you I'm an x-feminist woman 🤮
Good talk
We need a platform for traditional minded Muslims in usa/Canada to get married . Like an online platform.
Too many liberals or feminists or career oriented sisters on the main apps,
Etc
I guess for now you can go with sharing proposals the traditional way by word-of-mouth, no pun intended
43:39 💯 indeed there is chaos without islamic gender roles.
Allah sent the Quran and our messenger for our guidance. Allah has not sent his messenger or message down to make our lives difficult. It is to make it easy. But we don't give much thought about our roles because we are distracted with how society will think of it. Some even say or think its boring, strict or even barbaric.
Doing house chores is pretty boring ngl
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Until u have to do them yourself
Marriage is a beautiful/ serious experience! Every Muslim should try his best to get married as soon as possible! With all beautiful things you will have with marriage, there are a lot of responsibilities and hard work that comes with that 🤝
No body is perfect, try to turn a blind eye to the negative things, and focus and appreciate the positive things 🥳
Umme_khalid and Danial are Husband wife,
masha allah, i didn't know that
We should marry very early even if we don't have jobs. The father should support the son and his wife till he starts working. This should not be difficult especially considering how few children parents these days have, so one more person to maintain is not difficult at all.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ lot's of love 💞
Long time no see brother Daniel
Hope will get wife like daniel’s wife😊
May Allah bless you 🧡🧡
السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
I love you all my siblings in islam 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Oh the Queens are meeting 💙💪👍
I think of feminism in terms of I have the right to choose to stay at home, and if I work I should get a fair wage and benefits, what am I missing?
Why are we assuming that the brother represents all men?! His opinions are his only. And his wife is obviously molded by him.
because they are based on the quran and sunnah. You cant really disagree.
The higher education and career path which they are saying stands in the way of early and successful marriage is not only from women being conditioned but men too. We are taught that success lies in serving the corporate world, men and women and for us Muslims it is made to look like the height of achievement to work for a company regardless of whether their values are in harmony with our Deen and whether they serve our Islamic purpose in life.
This idea of selling all our time to strangers doing often meaningless or not v important things is not in harmony with good family and community life.
Public life should serve the community and family, not vice versa. It's not either career or marriage but both husband and wife using the skill set that Allah Granted them to benefit themselves, their community including extended family neighbours and friends and serving the wider society, sometimes fisabilillah and sometimes for economic gain.