Secrets To A Successful Marriage - Message to Muslims from the Dark Side
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- Опубликовано: 27 авг 2024
- Na'ima B. Robert offers advice from the dark side of loss to those who still have a significant other.
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Allahu Akbar. Seriously sister. Real talk here!
I feel like crying. and I am a man. I dont care what anyone says about not been masculine enough. I thank Allah for blessing me this mind set.
I've only watched 20 mins of this video and I've come across some key points you mentioned -
11:42 "A successful marriage is one in which spouses can help each other to gain Allah's pleasure and earn jannah"
we have potential spouses and married ones who are too focussed on the dunya aspect. That they don't understand the meaning and blessing of marriage.
12:44 "be intentional" - "verily actions are backed by intention". The spouses are an amanah for each other. Whatever good we do for our spouse, we should have the intention to please Allah.
14:00 "forgetting this is part of my ibadah" - being kind to one spouse, talking in a polite manner, listening to one's spouse, helping around with family and household chores and many small acts are an act of ibadah.
@@bobbertyboyd2280 If a woman tells you to not cry or is visibly uncomfortable with you crying, most of the time it's because they never saw it before (shock) or they feel unprotected(scared something bad happened or is gonna happen since even u a man is crying).
When i saw my father cry for the first time, i felt a insurmountable pain. because he never cried in front of me before, so something bad must have happened to him. It scared me to be honest.
Crying from a pious heart is very positively received in Islam as our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) often cried and encouraged us to do so, as the tears are one of the most beloved signs of one's love and fear for Allah.
@King Sultan I didn't say I cried. I said I feel like crying.
I guess the reason for my emotions are of 2 reasons.
1. I was previously married in which it lasted a year. I would say that my intention for marriage was pure. To this day I believe I was a Just spouse who did not abuse my power of authority. I treated my spouse with respect, kindness and love. and alhamdulillah, I had and willl continue to have this mindset that whatever good I do for my spouse, is an act of reward from Allah SWT.
Unfortunately my spouse did not have that mindset and was concerned about the dunya rather than the akhirah. Which makes me sad.
2. similar to my ex, there are other Muslims out there who are like that. They're too concerned about their wordly life, which then brings a lot of high expectations from either one spouse or both. There are potential spouses who don't have the right intentions for marriage and or don't understand it. some don't even consider a marriage a blessing. it is unfortunately one of the problems with the ummah. We are too distracted by dunya. and that makes me sad and makes me want to cry.
@King Sultan I wish I could say that we were happy from the beginning. We were indeed new to marriage. I knew marriage has its ups and down, and I was prepared to make it work and at points go out of my comfort zone. The same can't be said about my spouse.
Unfortunately after a year of no affection or intimacy at that, with no real connection or commitment from my other half, I ended our marriage. Alhamdulillah my divorce was smooth with no further issues. This was indeed a test by Allah SWT in how I dealt with, I believe a narcissist. Alhamdulillah Allah gave me patience, and did not lose my temper at any point. I reminded my self that she is not mine even though we were married. That she is one of the slaves of Allah, just like I am to him.
@King Sultan indeed brother. Divorce is a very sensitive subject. It's also very sensitive in how you can give divorce. That's why it is recommended for both spouse to go into a marriage with full commitment. That you don't give each other excuses for divorce.
Yes after my divorce, her family just took her belonging and left without a word. I dont think they had anything to say or any blame to push towards me.
@King Sultan jakallahu khair for the duas. Really appreciate it. May Allah make it easy for everyone and bless them with righteous spouse. And for those who are married, may Allah shower them with mercy and love.
5 keys to a better marriage
1. To be intentional.
2. To embrace gratitude
3. To be Aakhirah focused
4. To be realistic
5. To remember death
Mashaallah wow
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Jazaakallahu
Allahu akbar.
I put the number 5 on top 🥺
I’m not a Muslim but I’m blessed by this message. Thanks
May Allah guide sister Ameen ❤
Allah guide u and save u amen 🥺💜
اللهم اهدينا ألي صراتك المستقيم
read about islam you will come to know in religion wise its perfects too
Sister you to know the reality Read Quran in English and Bible then compare. it may Allah guide you
I'm not a muslim but this was a message from a very wise woman. More people need to hear this message 💖
She's Muslim wise woman.
❤
Am I the only one who could listen to this sister talk all day?
BarakAllahu feekum!
No it is not only you me too
Ma sha Allah
Not at all🥺❤️
An absolute gift to the ummah, mashaAlllah. May Allah reward her and grant her and us all the best of both worlds. Ameen, ya Rab
ماشاءالله even me 💕💕i like her 😍
As a revert, Islam has helped me become a better person through the remembrance of death, something I dreaded daily. And thru the remembrance I have become a better wife , mother , friend , daughter and sister Alhamdhulilah. Thank you sister , May Allah bless you and continue to increase you, your message is absolutely amazing!
Alhamdulillah, may Allah grant you Jannah. I feel the same way since practicing.
SubhanaAllah! What a touching sermon. Reminds me of my own story. Being a revert, marrying at a young age of 20, I was blessed with the best husband but he was taken away in a blink of an eye! Literally within 5 mins, he returned to his Maker - no illness, at fajr as we prepared suhoor, on Friday the 18th of Ramadhan 3 years ago. Life has never been the same. Raising our children alone, especially our younger daughters who were 3 & 7 then.... going through the most turbulent times and not having a shoulder to lean on, or just that special someone to talk to...
Never take your loved one for granted. We really never know how much longer we have with each other.
Jazakallahu khair sister for this beautiful talk. May Allah swt bless all couples with love, peace and understanding, and may He swt bless all those looking to marry with sabr, faith and ultimately the coolness of their eyes....aameen
Subhanallah I had yours too may the Almighty Allah rewards you here and here after
innailaye wa inalilaye raji'un 😭
Do u want to meet him in Jannah?
Amen Yarabi
May Allaah, make your affairs easy sis, and reward your patience with good, here and Aakhiraa
very moving ..
i call my mum today
to tell her i love her
and hug my children...
I’m a man. And I love you sister for the sake of Allah. You speak the truth and speak only good. These are testing times, the Shaytaan has infiltrated our houses using his many tools. His objective is to destroy the family unit so then chaos can ensue in the world.
You are doing a service to humanity by holding strong to the Haq. A sister who is trying to guide others to the traditional teachings of our deen.
May Allah reward you and use you to help guide our daughters sisters and mothers.
Am not a Muslim but i got inspired as am learning about marriage
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May Allow guide sister
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May Allah bless you and guide you to the success religion Islam,,we muslims stay single for decades without Adultary fornication, because we control bu fasting frequently and du'a and spiritual ayas from Qur'an for removing desire
Very sad to hear your story if you was with your husband that night may be you could have save him you would have been there at the moment .because I have that experience with my father he was almost brain dead but alhandulillah I was there at the moment I took him to the hospital and he survived seven years he passed 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ 😢 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ 😢 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ 😢 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ 😢 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ 😢 💔 🙏 😔 💙 ❤️ when some one is sick don't wait ♥️ 😢 😄 🎶 😀 💔 ♥️ 😢 😄 🎶 😀 take them to the hospital you could save their lives .
I'm not a Moslem but this sister's counseling has blessed me. God bless you sister.
I am a dad with 4 girls i love my daughter's a lot but my wife does not want to follow the Quran and teaching .please pray for me and my family 👪 as I have my 4 daughter's with me . 🤲💯
May Allah guide your wife and bless all your family amin. Make dua brother for your wife and daughters in the middle of the night, Allah will accept you for sure. amin.🤲🤲
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May Allah bless her with imaan
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Understand that you can not force somebody to follow somethings it's haram little steps and try to be steadfast.
Be a good rolemodle treat her well it's us Muslims that make a example.
May Allah guide your family to the straight path ameen.
Sister, I am so sorry about your husband. Your story blew my mind. I am highly impressed by your strength and perseverance. May Allah continue to grant you wisdom and strength, ameen.
Never been a fan of female Muslim speakers because they basically spew 'Muslim feminism/independence' but this sister really spoke from the heart and I know she will help thousands of couples. I pray that Allah rewards her for everything and also grant her sabr for the lifelong hurt she is enduring. Very moving, relatable and thought provoking video
We all need to hear this message from sister Naima subhanAllah. She woke me up. We live now in a time where the divorce rates are higher than ever! And these unrealistic expectations… ya Allah! You said it so beautifully sis! We are all not perfect we can’t expect to have spouses who don’t have flaws. May Allah forgive us, make us grateful and let us be from those who are focused on the Akhira, Ameen!
Glory to Al-Mighty who guide me to watch this ♥️
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Mad me cried.May Allah bless you for your patience.May Allah keep you and family safe , happy and grant you demised husband Jannathul Firdhous.Aameen.
Jazakillah khairan for the good deed.Aameen.
Allahumma Aamen 🤲
Jazakillah khayr this was a great lecture and I really needed to hear it. My marriage is much better now since I think my mindset has changed - stopped fantasizing about divorce, being more positive, working on my marriage and lots of dua.
Time stamp from the video, if there's any missing
tip or point kindly add below
_MESSAGE TO MUSLIMS_
TIP 1- Be intentional 12:44
TIP 2- Embrace gratitude 16:45
TIP 3- Be akhira focused 23:25
TIP 4- Be realistic 27:05
TIP 5- Remember death 33:48
"The gap between been realistic and expectation
is where frustration lies"
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SubhanAllah been 12 mins into watching this but couldnt stop to comment. SubhanAllah so true this is an amanah. My husband passed away 5 months after my marriage he drowned at sea. But now after 26 years and getting married again you have inspired me so much in a different way. Alhamdulillah blessed with 5 children. May Allah swt reward you for all the work you do in this world and thebherafter. Amazed
Ameen! May Allah bless you in all your affairs.
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Alhamdullilah, Jzk for this talk sister Naima. I cried the whole way through but it was needed. Many points hit home for me. My main take away, *my husband is on a loan to me* and one day he will return to Allah swt, as will I.
Life is so short Subhanah'allah, and that in itself we take for granted. My marriage is a blessing, sometimes I forget how long I searched, worked, prayed, and struggled to find my spouse. May Allah swt forgive us for our short comings and continue to guide us towards him, through eachother. Ameen
Alhamdulillah, I am so glad it resonated with you! Please do take care of your amanat and share the advice with others, insha Allah.
Amin. I also was crying my heart out. Especially when it came to protect the family and the kids.
Jazarakal Allahu khairan.
May Allah preserve our sister in islam. And grant her husband Jannahtul fridaws ❤
Heart touching reminder
I would recommend to all Muslim brother and sister to listen this
Salam alaikum. I wish every married men and women should be listening to this channel so that all the household will be in peace and harmony .
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This can apply to all relationships. Jazak Allah Khairun for the great advice
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I’m not a Muslim but this was deep Thanks Sister
SubhanAllah this Message! Made my day! My life been miserable with my husband! But I been praying to Allah give me courage and patience! I been praying and doing Sujod! May Allah ease everyone!
One of the best speeches I've ever heard 😊😊.... I am so glad that I clicked on this video alhamdulillah.😅😅.. Ur way of delivering the message is exactly what is needed for this young generation to be heard ❤❤..... May Allah grant you and your family, your beloved husband the best of both worlds....
It is so very empowering and emotional at the same time ...
We really need reminders sometimes.....Ur story gave me goosebumps 😢 I can't even imagine what pain you people have to go through... I really want to send you good wishes and good health through my prayers 🤗💗💗... U kept me glued throughout the video ❤❤ alhamdulillah
Thank you sis. The concept of doing things for the sake of Allaah is a deal breaker. Massive!
May Allah help us!
A very strong sister delivering a very powerful speech we all can learn something from, muslims and non-muslims alike.
May Allah SWT make you and your family among the dwellers of Jannah.
You made me cry, thank you sister, Alhamdulillah for everything
Praise be to God for the blessing of Islam and enough of a blessing
So much wisdom in this talk. Thank you sister. May Allah bless you
Yaaaa salaaaam! I needed to hear all of it and honestly, I didn’t want your lesson to end. Mashaa Allah. May Allah grant you endless reward for this. Jazaakallahu khayran!
JazakAllahu khairan!
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May Allah grant him jannah. It was emotional to listen to this. We are a young new family and I have a 2.5 year old son and a lovely wife and I can feel the pain of yours and the other sister who's child had died. SubhanAllah
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You words change my life
Watching it again after months. Needed to get motivated and forgiving. JazakAllah khair. May Allah bless you and your kids. Ameen
This is a good lecture .the crisis in marriage is because of bad foundation. A marriage that's not Islamic, doesn't have Allah as the key aspect is bound for failure in a matter of time. Social media, movies, feminism etc have invaded our homes.
Thank goodness for feminism. Women put up with a lot in the past but no more. Men now need to step up if they want to keep a woman.
@@the8thchurch461 that's what your belief system has lied to women.
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 My belief system? I don't believe in any higher being
@@the8thchurch461 we follow Islam not people's feelings, opinions or emotions
@@mufunyiibrahim3655 So?
I never thought your husband is no more , sister may ALLAH preserved you , honour u for been truthful, jazakhillahu janna
Assalamu alaikum sister, I just want to thank you immensely for this reminder. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear this! Jazaki Allahu khayran ❤️
I'm so glad!
Wow, her story really touched me, in a away I didn't even think of it. Alahu Akbar.
Masha Allah sister your lectures is really awesome I feel the urge to get married may Allah bless me with a good spouse. Ameena Ya Arabi Jazakallhu khair. ❤
Thank you so much sister,I'm a married woman and you don't know how much you have helped me...jazakakallah khair
Alhamdulillah sis na'ima I am so glad u a Muslim my sis ❤❤❤❤❤
Wau. so i copied the transcript and put it into my notes because i need to read them and remind myself everyday🥲 its very helpful, and to think that i found sister Naima from another youtube channel and came here out of 'pure coincidence'. It's qadha. Thank you Allah. thank you sister. may Allah bless you Jannah. May Allah bless my little family.
سلام عليكم و جزاك الله خيرا..
May Allah Guide and Bless you us all.
It came to my Mind ..
When My Mother died I spontaneous made Sudjud Shokr
She Embraced Islam ☪️ over 70 years of age in Norway 🇳🇴..
We were Blessed with her living with us 10 years in Egypt 🇪🇬
She died as a Muslima ..
Was washed Ghusl and prayed upon and that's a Divine Blessing 🙌
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Mashaa Allah
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I listened to the message some days back, and I find it truly amazing...really learnt alot...may ALLAH honey you sister
Sister, you have indeed shared a gift. May Allah reward you for sharing this and may Allah reward us all for implementing it into our marriage and life. Ameen!!
Sister, this is a great message to everyone, I cried while listening and watching your video, Masha Allah! May Almighty Allah bless you and your entire family and grant you Aljannah Fidaus on the judgment day! Barak Allah fikun Sister!
As a Christian believes God will for us all is exactly what you're speaking thanks for this message
Ma Sha Allah! Very insightful speech, all the points got me, walahi! May Allah forgive and amend us all.
ma sha Allah tabarakaallah. jazakillah kheyran sister for the advice. our Deen is Naseeha. everyone who comes here learns something. May Allah grant us the goodness of this life and the hereafter. ameen
It is great to open the door to talking about these issues. Thank you, Sister Naima, may God grant you strength.
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NGL That opening speech hit home really hard! JazakaAllah khairan sister for the reminder.
Asalamualikumwrwb Jazakillahu Khair for sharing your story. My mother recently went thru the same thing and isn't the same. She had a brain stroke. I was just with her the night before speaking to her and by Fajr, our lives changed. May Allah SWT grant her Shifaaun Kaamilah with 3afiyah. Thank you again.
This is the most realistic advise regarding marriage that I have listened to
Barack Allahufik sister,i really needed to hear these words.May Allah SWT grant us the ability to bring this in to our lives.
What a blessing from Allah.. may alkah reward her. We should pass on this vid to everyone we know for real. X
You are so on point with everything ukhti MaashaaAllah tabaarakallah but the part about it being hard out here for single Muslims to find good spouses is real! It’s not how it was 20-30 years ago. So many people are leaving and abandoning the Sunnah only to replace it with Western culture! Allahu musta’ayn!
I have a group of what’s up where we share knowledge of true Islam this lecture is really beneficial I share in my group so all of my sisters can get benefit for there married life jazakallah
Certainly! Bismillah
Ma shaa Allah can I get the WhatsApp group number
As Salaamu Alaikum Sister, Jazak’Allah Khair for this message. I seriously needed to hear this being married for 3 months which is my 3rd marriage.
Alhumduillah, Masha’Allah
Thank you so much sister,have came across this video but it has really added value to me and containing a proper mindset about marriage.
SubhanAllah. This is quite inspiring. Jazakillahu khairan. May Allah bless our marriages and make us more intentional from now on.
JazakiAllah Khayran, sister for this amazing lecture. May Allah bless you and your loved ones. Thank you !
Subhanallah my sis. I am praying so much for you. You have been blessed by the Almighty to explain so beautifully. I really appreciate your advice x
Major Aha moment:
Do it for the sake of pleasing Allah SWT and not that person
Very very deep when you really think about what this means
Alhumdulilah
Maa shaa Allah tabarak...
AlhamduLILLAHI, I listened carefully, noted down and I pray to Allah to make it easy bo imbibe all learnt.
Alhamdulliah I came across this video and it bought so much emotion with the reminders and the beautiful advice , Alhamdulliah such beautiful example.
I am in a extremely difficult situation in my marriage and I ask all the brothers and sisters to pray for me and my family.
May Allah give strength and wisdom guide every husband wife the solution to their problems - Ameen
Sister do you do marriage counselling? If so please forward me your email
Thank you
May Allah bless u sis. Permit me to share this video far and wide as I can especially to the youth.
Beneficial on so many different levels, Alhamdulillah !
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May Allah continue providing you with such wonderful information for the ummah
I'll listen to this beautiful naseeha again and again and again to make I get all the messages. Ma Shaa Allaah your naseeha is very valuable. Jazaakallaahu khoyran sister 💙
Ya Allah what a beautiful talk. Ma shā Allāh Tabārak Allāh! I had to immediately share just after a few minutes of listening to our beloved sister. Allah accept her and raise her! 🫶🏻❤️
A so much need discussion Subhanallah. I benefited a lot from it and I needed to hear this in my actual situation. May Allah accept this as sadaqat Al jari’a
Aameen🤲
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MashAllah MashAllah I Don't know what to say. I'm speechless how this sister explains everything. We should follow every advice to bring peace in our home. Ameen
MashaAllah.... Allah bless you sister. Motivational and very impressive speech.
Alhamdullilai for this platform. Thanks Sister 😊.
Watching from Sierra Leone. 🥰🥰🥰
Ma Sha'Allah. Alhamdulilah. May Allah SWT reward you with goodness.
Jazakhaillahu khairen ya ukhiti may Allah bless you from 🇪🇹🇪🇹🇪🇹
Alhamdulilla sister May Allah bless you for this eye opening message
I am going through tough times in my family life and your words made me rethink...
Jazakkallahkahir❤️❤️❤️
An eye opening speech
Allahumma barik
May Allah grant us ease, and hasanat in dunya&akhirah
I really needed this reminder, JazakAllah Khairan, beautiful reminder.
Thank you sis. Your speech got me thinking and I’ve realised our unrealistic expectations distant us from our spouses.
Honestly being intentional and Allah’s conscious is a deal breaker. Thank you
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SuhanaAllah,may Allah sw bless you my sister.you have offer us golden information. MashaAllah
Wallahi sister gave me unbearable goosebumps for reminding me of death! 😞😞😞😞😞
Through the mercy of Allah, i was drawn to this video and alhamdulillah for your beautiful advice sisters. Even though everything you mentioned, i already know it hit home. We get so sucked up in this dunya bubble and forget why we are here! I realised how much i am truly grateful for! May Allah set grant us all ease in our difficulties and remind us that this dunya is just a test and if we have sabr and reliance on Allah, nothing is difficult.
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Wallahi becoming a housewife and leaving the old life behind has changed my marriage. Feminism has ruined society and many families. If it is possible any way, go back to old roots and live life the way Allah has intended it to be. Men have their roles and women also have their roles. Only this way a family can flourish PERIOD. I am speaking from experience.
Live and let live. Everyone has their hopes and aspirations. Financial independence for a woman is a must. Suppose the husband has an untimely death, divorces or deserts his wife, how is she supposed to carry on ?
@@sm1111 submitting yourself as a housewife is also submitting to the will of Allah. Once you do that you also know Allah will always find a way in those situations mentioned by you. What your are mentioning is only your own fear and maybe even sheytan preventing you to fully submit and let go of pessimism. Even long before I made this decision I have decided to live a life of hope and not fear. It takes a lot of inner work to get rid of conditioning from generation to generation.
@@zemma7963 There is absolutely no harm in being financially independent earning by halal means.
It is your personal decision to be a homemaker and that is fine. But that does not make it mandatory or a universal choice for all women.
We all have our own attitudes, strengths, weaknesses, hopes and aspirations.
Do not shame or guilt trip working women.
The conditioning of women throughout generations is to be a submissive powerless housewife. Not all men are angels.
Just to remind you Hazrat Khatija was a wealthy businesswoman 1400 years ago.
Subhana’Allah this is deep very deep. Changed my perspective
shukran sister for sharing such a beautiful message on marriage. May Allah reward you for your efforts....
The talk is good Alhamdulillah. Sometimes when you show gratitude, their are spouses/other family members who will not mirror the behaviour, but consider that they are the ones who are giving everything where as the other one I.e. you is the free loader. They will never acknowledge your contribution. So in a way, they will always be the dominant one , and you will be the one who always needs to be grateful and keep singing their praises. And they will also use that to prove to others, how great they are.Over some time, it can become detrimental to your reputation. Because you are being grateful and acknowledging their contribution, where as they are confirming that what you are saying is true. And trying to prove , that the whole world goes round because of them.even people around you will start believing that the person who is being acknowledged is the only one doing good. The person who acknowledges is just taking advantage.
Feels like she is talking to me Wallahi😌
May Allah bless us with righteous spouses Amen Yarabi ,and help each other
Mashallah sister this was really helpful may Allah bless us (unmarried people ) with the best husband who really love us for the sake of Allah and always embrace gratitude and hold our hands on the path of deen and akhira AMINN
May Almighty Allah bless your endeavors and grant you Jannah.
Jazakallahu khair sister! May Allah give us the wisdom to sincerely apply all you said. We all enjoyed the talk, but the real question is how many of us will go ahead to work with it. May Allah make it easy for us
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SubhanaAllah. This was so amazing ❤️. Bless you sister
I literally cried listening to this. Such a wake up call.
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Jazzakallahu khaira dear sister.i wish you should come to Burundi and make a such conversation to women muslims here.
It's my first time to listen to you,and from now i'd like to be listening to you as i'm used to listen to @MuftiMenk in sha Allah. Wallahi I'm so touched with the message.(From Burundi ,Ngozi province).
The pain of separation to a child is immense. Please avoid divorce. Especially when you have kids and the marriage is workable. And either of them us trying sincerely. Ego is the enemy and shaitaan works very hard to break families.
v true
My husband doesnt talk to me for so many days of the month his mood changes frequently, and he likes to stay away almost half of the night and only comes home while we are asleep, he comes home only for food and just to play with his kids for a while or for a sleep, he never ever takes us out, on top of that we have financial problems, am pregnant with my 3rd baby, and since i got pregnant is rarely intimate with me. So should i not think of divorce?
@@siham3325 seek couples therapy first and then see which way to go
@@siham3325 I would say no. You have a roof over your head. Yes the finance is tight but is he doing the best he can with what he has? If so look upon him with more mercy. He comes home to play with the children... You will probably never ever get that again if you divorce. Also with the councilling that was suggested, be careful. Some Councillors validate your feelings and you leave feeling your spouse is an even worse than you thought initially. Talk to Allah and complain to Him, ask him to mend the relationship. You do your best... Clean yourself up and dress well and ask Allah to direct his attention to you? Take all issues to Allah and submit it all there. Do not frown when he comes in. Try a more positive approach like 'thank you for working hard for us'.
Fix your intentions as well. You are staying in the marriage for the children and also the first reason is it is half your Deen. Focus on the reward. Focus on the many ayat about patience. Allah's payout is supreme. We like to do things 'for Allah' when we are happy or getting a return. Doing things for the sake of Allah when do not want to do them and doing nice things for the husband you are angry with and probably do not even like right now is not easy. But where else in your life are you excelling in with such flying colours that you think you can get a high level in Jannah through? How many orphans are you raising? How many slaves have you freed? Do you fast year round? Are you even guaranteed shuhada with the delivery of the current pregnancy?
You want him to address his wrongs but that is not something within your control. If you want to see a change in your life... You change yourself. That submission to Allah can change anything. I mean literally... If he is fussy about food... Cook it with Allah's help and ask Allah to protect you from his complaints. Literary talk to Allah about it all. Cry to him, ask him for the solution to any matter however small. Improve how you put forward your argument. If you do that then you will be looking at a different marraige in a year and be glad you didn't give up. Being patient is not easy.
Just like the sister said. Don't get in a fantasy about divorce. If you think this husband is an idiot please remember you will be swapping out one idiot for another. There are no perfect human beings.
@@siham3325 have a talk with him first before you think about getting divorce
Wonderful speech! Allah Akbar! 10 minutes into listening to it and I got emotional, made soujoud to Allah to thank him for allowing me to listen to your speech and learn from it! Doing everything for the sake of Allah only not for anyone else including our spouses was my wake up call! Allah Akbar! What a great incentive for being good and doing good knowing that we are doing it for Allah only and everyone else is nothing but a vassal controlled by Allah.May Allah bless you and reward you sister for your outstanding speech made so easy and accessible to everyone!I would love to have the honor to meet you some day and learn more from you and benefit others! May God bless you and shower you with his love and mercy wa Salam alaikoom!
Recently found you and I love you for the sake of Allah ❤️