growing up "ugly"- effects of beauty standards

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  • Опубликовано: 5 ноя 2024

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  • @ayaizkewL
    @ayaizkewL 6 месяцев назад +156

    it hurts to see your channel being so underrated

    • @proper.role.model.819
      @proper.role.model.819 6 месяцев назад +8

      Because everyone else is following the trends but us!

    • @Kazi_mm
      @Kazi_mm 6 месяцев назад +7

      Well everyone start somewhere she’ll get at the top all RUclipsrs struggle at first

    • @buffybbyxx
      @buffybbyxx 6 месяцев назад +1

      literallyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

    • @helenogbonna3361
      @helenogbonna3361 6 месяцев назад

      Madison beer and Kylie Jenner took me

  • @sstrawberrymusic
    @sstrawberrymusic 6 месяцев назад +70

    at times like this feel so lucky that i dont have siblings to be compared to..

  • @jonathanranaivo298
    @jonathanranaivo298 6 месяцев назад +44

    Katy is so real, she made me cry fr😭

  • @gabbiwisteria
    @gabbiwisteria 6 месяцев назад +33

    Madison was not like everyone else she is extraordinarily beautiful and that is why people tore her down. Happens to any ‘too beautiful’ celeb eg. Marilyn Monroe, Megan Fox. Usually, people who don’t fit the standard are bullied about it but people who fit it a bit too well are also bullied about it but not in the same way.

    • @Partycitybaex
      @Partycitybaex 5 месяцев назад +2

      Yes this has happened to me too my whole life. It’s hell

    • @freedommobile-zh7oy
      @freedommobile-zh7oy 4 месяца назад +6

      ​@@PartycitybaexOM, G, it must be so hard being good looking. I feel so bad for you.😂

    • @Partycitybaex
      @Partycitybaex 4 месяца назад +1

      @@freedommobile-zh7oy yes thank you

  • @Katie_Woo
    @Katie_Woo 6 месяцев назад +87

    I was the "ugly" sister and my dad and grandfather bullied me relentlessly about how I looked completely different from everyone else in the family- my nose was different, I was little and skinny with curls.
    Cut to adulthood and I wanted my nose done so I looked like the rest of the family.
    At 18 my dad's uncle called my sister a gorgeous girl and looked at me and said "not you" I exploded into anger and was ready to throw punches I'd had enough. Until I realised that at 18 I TOWERED OVER HIM AND HE LOOKED TERRIFIED.
    well now at 38 I LOVE that I don't look like a single person in the family, I stand out and I'm 5ft7 they're all 5ft, I'm a fit hourglass shape and they're Apple shaped, and I don't want to blend in anymore. I embraced it all and I learned how to style this body, how to work with my hair and highlight my unusual features, zero surgery. But it took time and getting space away from the negative family members to feel at home in my skin ❤

    • @joydanleigh7711
      @joydanleigh7711 6 месяцев назад +3

    • @SocialExperiment232
      @SocialExperiment232 6 месяцев назад +5

      I had this exact thing! My family was all 5ft except for my dad so naturally I was the tallest woman in my family (in the whole country, it seems sometimes) and they treated me like the family circus freak. Everyone would make fun of how huge I was, how big my feet were, how skinny and not curvy I was, and how I was never gonna find a man to love me. Especially one of my older cousins. She seemed keen on breaking me down every chance she could. I remember this one ocasión before my 9th grade prom where I chose to wear sneakers cause I knew I would be bullied if I wore heels and she just went off on me about how stupid I looked with sneakers and a dress. She knew I couldn’t wear heels but still made fun of me for not wearing them. Well fast forward to now and I’m married with a husband that adores me a happy healthy kid and she’s still single and she just found out she can’t have kids. Life has a way of making things come full circle sometimes.

    • @Katie_Woo
      @Katie_Woo 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@SocialExperiment232 oh life has a funny way of levelling the playing field in unexpected ways. I'm so glad you found your happiness that's a fantastic thing to read 🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @Mariah-525
      @Mariah-525 6 месяцев назад +1

      Girlie what?? You look absolutely stunning in your pfp

    • @Katie_Woo
      @Katie_Woo 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@Mariah-525 thank you (slight tear in the eye reading your reply) I learned about the right makeup techniques for my bone structure and what hair colours suited my skin tone and it came together quite well. I wish I'd known when I was younger and saved myself a lot of unnecessary stress and self-loathing.
      Thank you for your lovely words 🙌

  • @lorienrhiannonmorganpaulson
    @lorienrhiannonmorganpaulson 6 месяцев назад +27

    I love your videos so much... No exaggeration when I say that your videos are my favourite on RUclips. I just love your editing skills and I really value the topics you discuss.

  • @amandaredd3057
    @amandaredd3057 6 месяцев назад +24

    Bump being in the spotlight, for real. These are people who are clearly beautiful but have assholes in Hollyweird critiquing literally EVERYTHING, as well fans (or not-so-much fans) with no life spitting vile garbage about them CONSTANTLY. Why is it more common to say ugly things about others rather than kind ones? I mean, we're not supposed to be working overtime breaking eachother down! We're meant to build eachother UP! Yeah, celebs can have that life if it comes with perpetual negativity, breaking down your self esteem

    • @Cassie-xx5fb
      @Cassie-xx5fb 4 месяца назад

      Their words show what's in their hearts. It's sad.

  • @MeghanBean
    @MeghanBean 6 месяцев назад +18

    Aw I feel bad for Katy

  • @buffybbyxx
    @buffybbyxx 6 месяцев назад +15

    omg i never heard about what happened to Katy perry

    • @SocialExperiment232
      @SocialExperiment232 6 месяцев назад +4

      I feel like she’s a good case study for how this industry is just counterproductive. Are we really ok with these people being tortured like that for our entertainment?

  • @pipsli
    @pipsli 6 месяцев назад +7

    your vids are so healing like fr 🖤🙏

  • @chokoprty
    @chokoprty 6 месяцев назад +5

    Wow you talk AMAZING truth. Thanks

  • @QuarioQuario54321
    @QuarioQuario54321 2 месяца назад

    I do not like being good-looking, so I do nothing about my weight or appearance. I even sometimes want to be ugly.

  • @wellersonoliveira5334
    @wellersonoliveira5334 6 месяцев назад +7

    Yay sistah just uploaded 🧡

  • @ivettemolina7800
    @ivettemolina7800 6 месяцев назад +3

    Watching the Katy perry part honestly made me feel for her! 😢 Even though I’m not a fan of hers nor a celebrity, I definitely feel the expectations women have of being perfect all the time in this age is just ridiculous and unattainable!!

  • @greyLeicester
    @greyLeicester 5 месяцев назад +2

    Wow it is amazing what a difference having a top lip made on Miss Beer 😅

  • @tinyspeckofuniverse
    @tinyspeckofuniverse 6 месяцев назад +6

    Feel like this one is the best so far🩷your content gets better and better!

  • @Xamry
    @Xamry 6 месяцев назад +3

    Be the version of yourself that’s sustainable. Period.
    It really is that simple.

  • @wellersonoliveira5334
    @wellersonoliveira5334 6 месяцев назад +162

    About the "tanning", I find ironic how white women often made fun of indigenous/black women phenotypes/hair style in the past, but now they are trying to replicate, doing intense tanning, using braids and doin' lip injections...

    • @nickiminaj0882
      @nickiminaj0882 6 месяцев назад +31

      those aren't the same women

    • @Blackbrabx
      @Blackbrabx 6 месяцев назад +34

      ​@@nickiminaj0882 exactly generalizing white woman is just as discriminate as generalizing black women

    • @KamariaNias
      @KamariaNias 6 месяцев назад +33

      ​@@BlackbrabxYes I agree with the need to stop generalizing any ethnicity and see each others as Individual rather than thinking of a group having the same mindset

    • @user-sg4ov7ng4h
      @user-sg4ov7ng4h 6 месяцев назад +10

      reminds me of a "theory" on why people tan.
      the standard was to be the whitest you could be because it meant you didn't work outside in the fields, and now it's tan because it means you travel

    • @user-427Serenta
      @user-427Serenta 6 месяцев назад +18

      Not all white women feel that way about other races. I personally think maybe those woman were jealous. A lot of different races try out different styles and get inspiration from other races. Shame can go both ways.

  • @shaynalee
    @shaynalee 6 месяцев назад +12

    I love your videos Leilani! Just discovered you yesterday and have been binge watching everything ❤

  • @Xamry
    @Xamry 6 месяцев назад +4

    I can’t imagine a life in which I’m easily impressionable
    That is no life

  • @AJ_aayy
    @AJ_aayy 5 месяцев назад +2

    I kinda feel bad for Kylie now.. damn no wonder she became who she is. She never felt good enough to be appreciated like Kendall.

  • @natashawest5174
    @natashawest5174 6 месяцев назад +2

    I love your content!! ❤thanks for posting frequently. I always get excited when I see you in my notifications ❤

  • @cioch2297
    @cioch2297 3 месяца назад

    If the internet tore madisyn beer down for her looks they would absolutely DESTROY me 😭

  • @modinamonawara5731
    @modinamonawara5731 Месяц назад

    Madison also had breast implants and other things done. I know she gone through so much so did the other ones. I hope You'll look into this

  • @buffybbyxx
    @buffybbyxx 6 месяцев назад +3

    i don't even here about katy perry anymore

  • @scarsscars2424
    @scarsscars2424 2 месяца назад

    you are every refreshing any many people need to get off tiktok and watch you videos.

  • @xeternalflowerx2000
    @xeternalflowerx2000 6 месяцев назад +6

    I’m actually so confused was Katy’s natural hair colour light brown or blonde 🤔

  • @_walkietalkie_
    @_walkietalkie_ 6 месяцев назад +4

    omg I love your videos so much

  • @buffybbyxx
    @buffybbyxx 6 месяцев назад +3

    bella looks a bit like Alison Dilaurentis

  • @art.junk13
    @art.junk13 4 месяца назад +1

    Commenting for algo

  • @noyasworld9546
    @noyasworld9546 6 месяцев назад +4

    RANDOM QUESTION BUT WHAT IS YOUR ZODIAC SIGN

  • @Aknayros
    @Aknayros 6 месяцев назад +13

    Off-topic but still important comment: as a man, I don't understand why women on average don't want to be treated like objects but many of them keep posting explicit photos on social media (e.g., Instagram) and keep on collecting explicit comments often made by men and full of emojis like saliva and eggplants... Would they feel fine if they didn't post such photos or receive such comments? Is that an ego boost? Don't they feel "too much observed and stared at"? Isn't this behaviour contradictory? I think there is something I still can't get. It could be the topic for a new video. P.S. I really appreciate replies by women.

    • @VampyStar405
      @VampyStar405 6 месяцев назад +28

      As a young women, I feel like most us us do things like that just to be accepted. For example, I'm the type of person nobody really wanted to be around, I was to werid, to loud and annoying for some, but growing up I felt like the only way people would actually accept me or treat me like human was to be explicit. Now, I have never posted explicit things but I have thought about doing so at a very young age because I felt like people, especially men just want things like that, like on social media I see so many girls doing explict things and they get more likes, more comments and shares but if someone was being themselves then they would have less of that.

    • @Aknayros
      @Aknayros 6 месяцев назад +16

      @@VampyStar405 So this contradictory behaviour stems out of insecurity, which means that insecurity/desire of validation by others is stronger than moral values (e.g., say 'no' to objectification in contemporary society)? That's scary, told by a man! By the way, sometimes I think this is done out of imitation (i.e., "All my friends to this, so I do this too without even thinking in order not to be seen and treated differently") but, again, I need feedbacks by women. Actually, in the last part of the comment, you stated something similar. Basically, it should be a mix of validation and blind imitation which is hidden through a false feminist moral. If I am correct, this is even scarier.

    • @VampyStar405
      @VampyStar405 6 месяцев назад +18

      @@Aknayros Exactly! I found a video that is a bit similar to this a few weeks ago called: "your not ugly, your just not willing to get naked" by one of my favorite youtubers named NK's World kinda goes into this a bit more deeper into this topic. If you have anytime, i would like for you to watch it, it may help out with your curiosity :)

    • @Aknayros
      @Aknayros 6 месяцев назад +11

      @@VampyStar405 I'm already a member of that channel, I am watching a lot of videos about beauty standards. As a male, I find them interesting since they give you some critical tools when you are creating a (healthy) self-improvement mindset for yourself. For instance, you can find the best balance between the red pill content and, on the other side, some warnings about contemprary issues, dynamic beauty trends, toxicity of social media, misoginy etc. At the same time, these channels shed light on today's social issues. People on average think that women cannot be understood; actually, if you let them talk and help them overcome the 'observer paradox', you can understand them a lot. Of course, you will never understand women if you let MEN talk about women all the time.

    • @shatteredteeth
      @shatteredteeth 6 месяцев назад +4

      i'm a woman, my response would be a majority of us don't want to be treated like objects, not in real life at least, unless they directly tie in their self worth to their looks & how much attention they get from men. some women are shallow & self absorbed, obsessed w their looks & vanity (like the kardashians & other celebs), but _plenty_ of us aren't. imo a woman who is v provocative on social media is likely insecure /OR seeking external validation, im sure the bottom line is they want to be seen & enjoy the attention they receive (which i can admit i love attention i receive, when men & women treat me like im pretty). we also just live in the onlyfans era where the internet gives lots of money, attention, followers and fame to attractive women who post half-revealed bodies, so it could just be a career move on a womans behalf, & i wouldn't blame her for that lol. but even if a woman is not intentionally seeking attention & they just wholesomely think they look good, being degraded & hyper-sexualized for showing skin is unfortunately ingrained in men (it seems) since the beginning of time. but also i think women who are attractive & meet the beauty standard are the only ones who rlly get treated like objects, like influencers or OF girls, if ur kinda "ugly" or average i feel like a majority of us women fly under the radar & just get treated normal. bc i've also seen plus size influencers get dragged for posting explicit photos, so again i think its a beauty standard thing. personally if i show skin in real life or social media, i wouldnt mind the attention, as long as people stay respectful. that seems to be a boundary a lot of (men) cross since they correlate: women showing their body = object.

  • @estheraiyelabola9593
    @estheraiyelabola9593 6 месяцев назад +1

    Subscribed!