The Childhood Struggles Of Every Sigma Male
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
- The Childhood Struggles Of Every Sigma Male. Are sigma males born, or are they made? This question remains a topic of much debate among many. While the origins of the sigma male traits are still uncertain, one thing is clear: irrespective of how they come to be, all sigma males share a set of common struggles that shape their unique perspective and approach to life. These challenges, rooted in their early years, play a significant role in molding the characteristics that define them as adults. In today's video, we delve into the early life experiences of sigma males, uncovering 7 childhood struggles that every sigma male faces. #sigma #sigmamale #achievegreatness
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f you're curious about the darker childhood struggles that many sigma males face growing up, then you'll definitely want to watch this video. Maybe you can learn something about how sigma males operate that you didn't know before. Either way, I hope you enjoy the video, let me know in the comments if you agree with the points I made.
Chapters
00:00 Intro
00:42 The way society is structured was not in their favor.
02:11 They were overly curious.
03:33 They were forced to be self-reliant
04:47 They didn’t have a normal “Family Life”
06:11 They always knew they were different.
07:25 They were underestimated and doubted.
08:50 Unconventional child paths are hard than adult ones.
10:17 Conclusion (Like & Subscribe!)
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"Mas bale solo que mal acompañado" old Mexican saying
I learned about 6 weeks ago being a sigma, watched 250 videos of sigma, archetypes and psychology searching for the truth being a REAL sigma. Yes, I am. But I also see a relative big difference to the sigma everywhere on RUclips. The sigma should be creative, I am not. I do not have any creative or relative hobbies. This is something I learned from myself before learning being a sigma. AND there was no "pain" in my childhood. But I've seen early being different from others. Maybe the non-creative non-relative things do create another type of sigma, the definite or concrete sigma. What I found out, is, that the zeta male could become a sigma. There are some parallels I saw in this video.
I am 60, and even today I still get called weird. My response “ I am so relieved, for a moment I thought you were going to call me normal, then I would have been really offended” Yep I totally relate to all these points, especially the education system.
@danjsilve Ditto! 62 here, and the only thing government schools ever taught me was that I wanted NO part of the type of life I was being groomed for by them. It also made me think long and hard about liberty (The draft was still on then), autonomy, economics, and social norms....in my elementary school days. I opted out mentally at about 13...and formnally dropped out the day I turned 16, and have never looked back. I actually get embarrassed any time anything I do seems to coincide with "normality" or what is popular- but thankfully, such rarely happens. Who the hell would ever want to "be like ev eryone else" or "a part of the crowd"?! We just want to be ourselves..and have been blessed to see through the conditioning and propaganda which snags most people.
Education system is like Swiss cheese to me... My teachers loved how I always poked the wholes in what they thought us and many felt I was too smart for my own good. [Chuckles] I tell my son all the time... Question everything even what I say and you'll be better off than most!
I love being considered weird because I don’t want to be, “normal”
@@peterryan4199 the education system is for the system. we sigmas are nonconformant, against the system. system means being dependent. sigmas want to be independent, being free. this is something i take with me very deep inside me. so it is not practical for me being a boss, because a boss is also dependent from the system. i found my independence in bitcoin, not working, having no wife, no childs, no pets, no plants. i can go wherever i want whenever i want. i do not have to ask anybody.
Elementary School Report Card always gave me a low grade for "Doesn't Play Well With Others." No shit.
Same lol
necessitates a common frame of reference. None of us had that. For me, I was into advance mathematics when I was a kid. How many my age -- or even a bit older -- could I do math with? I would have to find someone from the university who wanted to spend time with a young kid. May have been a possibility if the adults around me -- parents and teachers -- pursued that for me, but they didn't have a clue themselves. And so, I became self-reliant. And all of us here have similar stories.
Maybe there is a sub-reddit or Discord server we can join -- Sigma Males Lives.
My file had a warning. "Do not engage in power struggles."
I had "Will not go along with what others think, say and do, and punishment has little effect", "is disobedient in thought", and "consistent bad behaviour of reading obsessively, especially to check for himself whatever is told to him. At a loss for how to stop this.".
@darrynreid4500 I can totally relate. Didn't find out I was a Sigma Child until 74 years old. Saw a 3 year old great nephew for the first time this past summer. His personality was classic Sigma. I explained this to his Dad.
"Hard times create strong men"....
Reality
Good quote but it has a darker side. Hard times create hard men hard men create soft times and soft times create soft men So the cycle continues.
Do strong times create hard men? Lol
@@thomassargent6684 some... Most it crushes. Especially now.
I was called weird because I was A Lone wolf 🐺but I didn't care it's better to be alone than A Toxic Company ❤
I strongly doubt that you didn't care. And in your younger years, you also did not know what the words "lone wolf" and "toxic company" even meant or implied. You're using these words to create a romanticized version of your childhood memories because you want to hide the hurt and the pain that you must have experienced if you're an actual Sigma male (or an MBTI INFJ/INTJ or one of the Carl Jungian archetypes, if you want to dive into actual scientific psychology).
I am a Sigma female I was called weird then and am called wierd now. I have learned not to care . Schooling , well they said I was too intellegent for school. I learned more from my Sigma father . He taught me about nature , about being my natural self and to be a rebel to the end . These rules I have followed
I was called weird because I don't try to impress everyone, or I don't use drugs etc. You really need to into consideration who is calling you weird. Even people that aren't weird are actually just good at hiding it and worse, they lie about their likes and their true selves. They live in a prison.
None Of You Know Alone Like Myself, You Sigma’s Are A Mockery Of My Kind. 💯
@@galexymitzelplik9560None Of You See That Your All Just Pretentious & Hiding From Your True Selves…….. Cant Be A Lone Wolf Your Whole Life Otherwise You Will Never Have Kids & You Will Die Alone Too!!!! 💯👍🏻
Raised by a narcissist parent and surrounded by toxic family,I'm blessed to have become a Sigma Empath😊
Not a thing. You have a high iq and trauma. That's it. Sigma not a thing. Empath not a thing. You are special you don't need labels to make it so
Nearly the same for me. I wonder if there’s a correlation.
@KrummyProductions some become psychos,narcissist, sociopath,but becoming a sigma empath I truly owe it to God😅
Same but the I learned the hard way that the empathic tendencies are a weakness if you're not careful.
@@Rumination_Vertex this is true. I had that weakness for most of my life. Building standards and boundaries has helped protect me. Makes me much stronger with a brighter future.
I am a lone Wolf and a sigma male. I have one friend that I actively talk to. I live by myself. I do everything by myself and I prefer to keep it that way. I am more alive alone than I am or ever would be in a crowd. Being in a crowd is hell!! Being around people for me is hell!!!
I am the female version of you
No, if you were you wouldn’t be on here bragging about it. You’re just an antisocial and lonely beta.
you are so fucking corny
I have become this way as I get older
Sig's are born , I don't think most of us survived the forging part. If you are reading this, be thankful, you are already great
The sigma learns to stand on his own two feet relying on no one- you learn quickly that people can and will let you down so you become the strong self sufficient person you need to be. No one owes you in this life so you must blaze your own trail!
Lived it every day!!!!!!!!!!!
Not entirely. We place alpha's in positions to control what we don't want to control without them knowing.
I believe we are born Sigma but we need to mature into our Sigma role.
That is so true. I acted like a beta for much of my life, but it wasn't until I retreated from the would to rediscover my true self that I came into my own. And now I am happy again for the first time in over 17 years
And what a weird journey it has been so far.
I agree
@@jesseschlough4648yeh I could say the same about myself. There is no going back now.
That's it.
Betrayed by friends, disowned by mother, manipulated by a second mother, abandoned by a father.
Adopted by God 🗿
This is quite astonishing to me because I agree with every single point. A lot happened in my childhood and I was very different to the hundreds of other pupils in my school. The teachers of that era were un-prepared for the likes of me and didn't know what to do. I left school at fourteen and started to learn many things. During my working life, many bosses said that I know too much. Many were afraid of me and about what I knew about them, however, some were visibly disturbed by the psychometric test results and panicked.
To the teachers, I was just a bad kid. Because back then nobody looked at what was going on at home. We were on our own. Just trying to survive another day, at such a young age, is something no kid should have to endure.
I learned don't reveal to people what you see and know about them. We may not realize it but it can be very intrusive. Besides it puts people in denial and.on the defense to be read like Hannibal did Clarice. Keep it to yourself, use your high powered perception for personal use.
@@robertclark9 Yeah, me too!
Thanks for this comment. I recognize myself in some points of the videos… However, your comment is really precise and from your life experience.
It’s funny to see how people like others who perform in the way… But when one person performs “too much” in different areas. Some people can feel threatened, and they think this person is dangerous… In the way, that’s stimulating, it pushes this person to learn even more and become better.
If This Is So True About Yourselves, Get Me Talking & Prove Me Wrong Where Nobody Else Can…. Not A Single Person!!!! 💯 Your Literally More Of A Delta Than A Sigma, It Just Sounds Cool As The “Manufactured” Personality Type Thats Only Come Around In Recent Years Because It Was My Kind That Basically Became Extinct When The Alpha’s Doubled Up & Took Control. “Bravo’s” Not Sigma’s & Definitely Not Delta’s!!!! 💯 Bravo’s Would Slap The Alpha’s Around Till The Alpha’s Dont Come Back…. Essentially Proving They Were No Alpha Either, Because Alpha’s Are Just As Fake & Pretentious As Sigma’s Are In Todays Age. As I Said, You “Want” To Be A Sigma Because It Sounds Cool 💯👍🏻
It is less about detaching from others' expectations, and more about being true to oneself. Not conforming doesn't mean ignoring others expectations, it is more like "that won't work for me" and "I'll find my own way".
True.
Exactly.
@borndeafin1ear Well said! Only, I might add that there are forces which seek to manipulate the foibles of human nature to make it seem normal to abide by the expectations of others, and abnormal not to- and schools and the media are amplifying such. I suspect that there might be more of us sigmas around if it were not for these forces actively seeking to repress such traits (and there would also be a lot fewer confused/depressed people around too).
It's like a giant coin sorting machine: The dimes have a space and the quarters have a space...but when a silver dollar (sigma) comes along, it tries to cram him into the smaller spaces...and the only way he can truly remain a sigma if he takes the initiative to break free of that machine.
Very true.
Don’t teach when you are not fitted to do so. Nobody validates you as a sigma apart yourself. So chill.
You truly cannot trust or rely on anybody but yourself, when young maybe sigma's retreated into their own world or imagination? People will regularly disappoint you, it's usually approaching the age of 30 that a switch is flicked and you begin to read, profile and analyse people or situations fairly accurately, although some will mature earlier.
I am 77 and always wondered why I never quite"fitted in". I have watched quite a few of your video's and have been shocked to find that I am not alone. I now realise that I am an archetypal sigma male. I hit 100% of your criteria. Life has been very difficult at times. I wish I knew this when I was in my teens.
Yes, Chuck, there are many of us; but due to our natural selves, we usually find our most comfort in our individual dens, as is appropriate for wolves. I'm now in my mid-80s and quite comfortable with my thoughts and mindful pursuits via the internet.
In addition, I'm fascinated with the myriad of personalities and the resultant manifestations of each as related to social (and cultural) interaction. Those whom I'd thought to be the same or similar can be significantly different in surprising ways. Locating the hidden historical detail causing such a difference can be exhausting, so is usually not pursued. But knowledge of that small tidbit of difference is the big key to avoiding dead end choices.
Continue on your journey; there's no longer an alternate pathway now. Carry on.
Oh, one other thought: when I was 3, I remember concluding that people were insane, or at least crazy or moronic. Then, about 5 years later when I was in the 3rd grade in school, my Dad had a "report card" conversation with me, telling me he expected future report cards to replace Ds and Fs with As and Bs. Puzzled, I asked him how I would do that, because I had no idea as to what I was supposed to do to please his expectations.
I guess he was unprepared for such a simple request but struggled to give me some suggestions on "paying attention" to what the teacher was teaching us. Well, report card after report card I began to improve slightly with each report card. I knew he was disappointed with my progress, but by the second or third "fourth-grade report card," I was able to show a few "A" grades, which encouraged my Dad's pride and relief. I think he might have thought I was a dunce with no hopes for a successful future.
The result was I was learning to be someone I really was not. I was becoming a phony to my self.
Fast forward to an unwanted divorce in my mid-30s, I retreated back into my Sigma male self, where I have secretly remained for decades, despite several co-habitational relationships with various female types. I learned much with each one.
Anyway, there's much more to my "education" from my 40s on but involves too much explanation.
So, like you, I wish I had been in better situations from the start. Instead, I had many pathways and roads to travel to experience all life has.
Good Luck to you.
Yep, Chuck and Xavier! I'm 62 and only learned in the last year or two that there is a name for people like us. I've always thoroughly embraced and enjoyed who I am, and my lonerism, etc. -but I had thought that it was pretty much uniquely me- that I was an anomaly. Interesting to now learn that there is a small percentage of others like us, and that "they" have recognized our breed. Now, when people say "You don't quite seem like an alpha...but you're certainly not a beta.." we can inform them that we are sigmas. Formerly, I just used to say that I'm unique. Now it seems, I'm not so much unique, but instead part of a very small subset.
Me too
How they come to be that be simple
Men bound by logic
Women bound by feeling
Sigma bound by power of will
Well put.
Even as a kid i never fitted in and growing up in a poisonous family made things a lot worse which in a way made life far easier as i done what i wanted and how i wanted.
As for schools,they're simply indoctoronation camps for the masses.I only went for something i enjoyed and then jumped the fence and spent the rest of the day doing my own thing.
I have better grades than like 95% of my classmates which is unusual but I agree to some things about curiosity, self reliance and fitting in, I just do my own thing at school and I try not to be disturbed when I don’t want to, sometimes I make jokes with classmates but that’s all, I will never “belong” to their or any other group, I have one friend who I talk to almost every day and other than that not so much connections, still I don’t consider myself as a “true sigma” I’m only 17 and I am still maturing
@@agsicodpslahavwshxausudusi7327I Like You!!!! 💯
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Your Not Like Other People Here “Pretending” To Be Sigma, Thing Is…. I’m Not A Sigma & What I See Is That All These Pretenders Are Trying To Preach To Be Something Like Me, Whilst Having No Affection In The World Thinking It’s The Right Way To Live Life Being Full On Alone. When It’s Not Otherwise Your Never Gonna Have A Family Of Your Own. These Sigma’s Pretend To Be Humble But Preach That They Are Something Better Than Alpha’s Even Tho They Never Directly Oppose Them, They Just Sit There & Let Alpha’s Play 💯 Not Me, I Hit Them Head On, I Show Affection Because Ultimately Someday I Would Like To Have Kids Of My Own & You Cant Be A Lone Wolf If You Want That. Same Time That Not A Single Person In These Comments Know Alone Like I Do!!!! 💯 Full On Fckn Pretenders…. I Respect Your Comment 💯👍🏻
I’m A Bravo, Bravo Became Near On Extinct 20-40 Years Ago Due To The Alpha’s Doubling Up, Sucking The Beta’s In Who Would Just Be Scared Of The Alpha, Whilst The Rest Pretend To Be Sigma’s Today Not Even Knowing What A Sigma Was 5 Years Ago…….. It Pisses Me Off Tbh 💯
Wow. This is me in a nutshell. I've always relied on myself even when I was young. I was always a loner and I am to this day.
This video describes me perfectly! Earlier in my adult life as a mechanic: One of my bosses criticized me for working too slow. He said I was thinking too much. What???? He wants me to stop thinking???? No way!!!! The other mechanics were doing crappy jobs by taking shortcuts, and were thus getting paid more even though they had far higher customer returns for re-repairs than I had! I got tired of that B.S. and chose another line of work.
I for one appreciate that you excelled in mechanic work. The world needs people like you
Could you not buy your own business, since you have all this knowledge?
Same for me, except in the phone company. I wasn’t slow, but I made sure everything was right when I finished a job- thorough. But all it did for me was I would get everyone else’s repeater job to fix because “oh they are on another job.” Boss wanted the job fixed, and knew the other person screwed it up the first time, they will screw it up again so he would give it to me to fix properly. Pretty annoying.
@@lawrencehammersley4945 I once considered it, but the cost would be immense.
We are not simply talking about a double garage here. I was a semi-truck mechanic, therefore the garages would have to be much larger and in a commercial zone. Thousands upon thousands of dollars of special tools would have to be purchased and waste products stored for eventual recycling, and so forth.
You as a customer may be paying $100+ per hour for labor costs at your shop; but the mechanic only gets one fifth to one third of that. The shop keeps the rest. It would take many years to save up enough money for a down payment for such a shop. It was just not worth it to me.
@@rumblehat4357 Exactly!!! Of course the boss pretends to want the job done correctly; but really he just wants the vehicle out the door and the payment in his hands. The pay incentive is for speedy repairs that hopefully won't come back.
Shops usually pay by the job, therefore; the more half-assed jobs get done: the higher the mechanics paycheck will be!
The over thinking and need for discovery was always a concern my mother had! She always said to me “ your overthinking is going to be the death of you”! 3:03
You dead on. I stood alone trying to fit in but never could. Did my own thing as long as I didn't hurt or put out anyone. Made my own money, spent it on my toys for myself . Graduated with 2 cars, a motorcycle, and 2 parts cars. Parent had one car. I'm 58 next week and still living my own life. A good happy life. Hang in there dudes. It o my gets better overall.
Sigmas are born into their character. The perceived oddities that surrounded me as a youngster only made me stronger and more in tune to who I was as I grew older. Now, decades later, my successes are a result of the character I didn't succeed with the pecking order of kid society. Didn't matter. Patience and growth in the classroom....school and life (education never ends) turned out exceedingly well for me. And I'm not done yet.
You Sound Like A Bravo, Not A Sigma 💯👍🏻
Nobody Even Knew What A Sigma Was 5 Years Ago 💯😂👍🏻
My school reports often said something like, Glen is clearly intelligent but his mind wanders and he often doesn't pay attention in class. Yep, I was always a dreamer. Still am. But I've made my dreams come true. Started travelling from an early age, learned several foreign languages and now live debt free in one of the best places in the world. I turned my creativity and interests into a very lucrative import business. Sure, I've had two marriages and five kids but now live alone in my own place. Kids are mostly grown up and I love 'em all to bits. But being single and financially secure makes me very happy.
Mine said didn't give others a chance and answers up too much. In other words he needs to play dumb so the class favorites can shine. For this I was given bad citizenship grades and slapped and abused by my narcissistic bitch of a mother despite my straight As in grade school. F em.
This is exactly myself I was a single child and grew up very fast . I was always seeking education and learning the wonders of the world , socially, emotionally and physically. Processing in learning and applying logic reasoning. I was never a doormat for no one. I was also a rebel growing up in the 70s
Someone asked recently what im most proud of? Finding my true self. Brings peace there are others like me.
We were definitely born...My grandmother said I talked in sentences before I walked. It frightened her when I first did it.
I was a kid with endless questions ❓❓ So my grandparents (they raised me) got me "The Amazing Book of Facts" vol 1,2,3 They were the size and thickness of phone books. Read it all, page by page. It satisfied me until the last page and the hunger for knowledge continues.....
Other than that is the females, they love my looks but I'm happiest alone.
I can relate to that experience. As a baby, my mom would park me in my push-chair next to the radio: the music would keep me fascinated, and therefore occupied, all day. I could sing most verses of 'Itchycoo Park' (I was born 1968) while other kids had just learnt to say, "Mamma".
Mine was The Book of Lists
#2 - Curiosity...
I remember questioning my family members "who decided this piece of paper that has $10 written on it, can buy $10 worth of candy". Why does the candy store owners, happily, give away all this candy for this piece of paper ?
That question, and other similar questions irritated my parents, grandmother and aunts, uncles, everyone.
They couldn't tell me why, and it irritated me why these grown ups who were supposed to know everything didn't know.
It lead me to realize my elders don't know everything, and I must find answers myself.
My psychiatrist refers to me as a lone wolf. I will not delve into my upbringing but I am always a protector of the weak not requiring gratitude for my actions.
Personally I was born a non-conformist individual/outsider and only learned about "Sigma's" when I was older, like in my 50's older; I just learned to accept how I was overtime before I knew.
If you ain’t an opened minded, you will hate a someone with a sigma personality with no REASONS.
Hey bud, I didn't know sigma ever existed. It fits 90% of what I am. My parents were very Christian and I asked questions in Sunday school... they hate the 'why" . I saw the hipcrosity for what it was. It really sucked to be 12. I'm 56 now. And almost everything described, balance, honesty, trust. Those are golden. I started as a coms person in the Canada military at 17, when I got out I then did CNC sheet metal, got bored and started to train as a machinist . I always had problems with insecure people around me, I just didn't understand what was so hard with a+b=c that they couldn't get. Lots of back stabbing. Jealousy, lies to make themselves feel better, I'm just trying to do my job. Every thing I've done was by the book, by company charter, by union rules and WCB standards. My production is averaging 130%. It's no wonder I actually am the way I am. Thank you for these videos. Take care.
Alright I'll give it up. This was a much different video than all the rest, well done. Watching this reminded me of the universal desire for all kids around the world to rise up above whatever challenges they're currently facing. God bless.
Wow. This is so spot-on. How do you come by this understanding? You are describing my childhood perfectly. Hyper curiosity, not fitting in, I became a voracious reader, and could never find books advance enough for my voracious appetite. They don´t normally point university-level books to a single-digit kid. My parents worried that I did not spend enough time outside playing with other kids, and even took me to a psychologist once about it, who had no clue about what I really was. I spent most of my time reading books, doing experiments, playing around with mathematics, learning physics...!
None of my peers could keep up with me, not even a little. When I finally understood calculus when I was 13, that was a game changer for me. NONE of my peers could approach calculus, not even the smart ones. I told the high school I enrolled in as a freshman that I wanted to take AP calculus, and they told me I had to wait for my senior year!!!! I had to sift through boring math courses that I had already accomplished in my single digits!!!!!! And by the time I was a senior, the AP calculus had disappeared, and the calculus being taught was really pre-calculus!!!! Again, the stuff I did when I was 11 or 12!!!!
Yes, I learned early on that I had to be self-reliant, because the school institutions were doing me no justice. In my algebra class I had used calculus to simply solve a slope problem that was much harder to do the way the teacher was teaching it. She didn't like that I used calculus, but why would I want to use the more long-winded way she was pushing?
This is just the tip of the iceberg here. I could easily write a book about this. Thanks for this episode.
I'm a Sigma INFJ and that was like a walk down memory lane and nailed my youth perfectly. I'm impressed and as I mentioned being a INFJ that's not easy or so they say.... being this is only the 2nd comment I've ever felt I should do on you tube they might be right. (Having notice that you respond to comments as I write this, I most likely wont see it but in advance let me respond, your most welcome and thankyou.)😁
From childhood's hours I have not been as others were, I have not seen as others saw;
I could not bring my passion from a common spring; from the same source I have not taken my sorrows;
I could not awaken my heart to joy at the same tone, and all I loved; I loved alone.
"Alone" - Green Carnation
Thank you for sharing such relevant information for people like me; it was indeed a very, very difficult childhood but it was a blessing in disguise. As I struggled through my younger years, everything now......is EASY and all makes sense. Keep up the great work in helping other young Sigmas know that they are not alone and one day, they will understand who and what they are and that there is a greater purpose for them.
Dad was a Type A workaholic and mom was pathologically insecure and paranoid to the point of mental illness. Both trying to fit me into a box that didn't fit, both WAY overly concerned with what other people think. It's amazing that I turned out as well as I did. I try to be normal, when I can figure out what normal is.
I'm a sigma. Grew up very poor in a solid middle-class area. I had a GREAT childhood! Being a natural loner, and not caring what others think, I embraced my uniqueness! What might have been traumatic for a beta, was perfect for me! It was a chance to hone my sigma traits- to be self-reliant; to stand alone; to not do what everyone else was doing, etc. I never needed to "find myself", as I never lost myself. While I believe that sigmas are largely born this way, I do believe that one's upbringing/environment does play some role in it too- and in my case, my childhood circumstances and environment were just PERFECT, and allowed me to really embrace my natural traits and practice them. I thank God that we never had the money, and that I was never pushed into organized/group activities, or encouraged to "be like everyone else" as THAT would be a hard path for a born sigma. O-K, I actually had a few friends between the ages of 9 and 11...but they were just entertainment....I was just as happy or more so when they weren't around. Damn, I loved my childhood! (Great times in the late 60's/early 70's).
Very interesting. The one thing that kinda goes against this is my parents were the best. A lot of everything else struck true. Especially the need for specialized education for my learning. I was always told that I was smart but I'd stuff homework into my desk in grade school. This was especially true growing up in the 70s to mid 80s in small, rural town USA. Also, I was made fun of for certain things which pushed me down but there were other times that I became leader of certain groups.... interesting!
Nailed it !
My mom raised me alone we had it hard i was bullied in school my mom overworked herself im glad we have it better now but i will never forget what happend in the past and i will learn from it
Another that fits exactly right. I did well in school, but did not like the rigidity and became self-taught for the rest of my life. My parents were non-functional due to alcohol and mental issues, so I had to raise myself on my own. And knew from the beginning I valued different things in life than most, thus always being underestimated. Things sorted themselves out in my 30s and 40s as I began to understand how the rest of the world worked and acclimated to it, but it was rough going until mid 30s. Whereas many people get off to a great start as children and never look back. However, life has a way of evening things out. People who were born with a full head of steam typically trail off in midlife, whereas those who had it rough at the beginning of life find themselves favorable circumstances of their independent making near its end.
As a child i had to grow up very quickly. Mums an alcholic and dad was a biker. I learned very quickly to learn to not fully trust anyone and quickly spot the snakes
There is the lose factor,as we have deaths of a parent[s],early on,and that trauma affects us from our formative years! Facing your own mortality,is a wake-up call,and you make every day count,as it could be your last! That part makes you,an adult overnight, and with all the responsibilities that go with it,plus having made a promise to your father/mother on their deathbed,you keep same,irregardless of any circumstances that come up! Lone Wolf,Wierdo,Non-Conformist,are the least problems of growing up,the biggest,is being true to self,and knowing self[WISDOM],that is paramount! Thank you for the insights,and information! Thank you 😇 😊!!
6 deaths of friends and family in a 9 month time frame while very young does things to you forever.
@@jeffreysnethen9586 Then you can add,deaths of best friends,and school/dorm mates,compounding the grief,as when the anniversaries come along,it still hits,and those chunks out your life are ever present! December and January are the roughest months in my calendar,as then those deaths accumulated! You have survived and thrived,and that in spite of those impediments! Welcome to the Club,and may God keep blessing your every day,that in one way or another gives more than takes,from yourself! Each of us,has done more than we realize,and we have that living philosophy,in which we immerse ourselves! Thank you,and keep on trucking! Thank you 😇 😊!
@@jeffreysnethen9586 it doesn’t matter how old you are when that much loss hits you. I was 35. It’s been 16 years. I’m better but it never goes away. It just waits in the darkness to ambush you.
@@i-..--..--..-i6985 it's TRUE I was 20 didn't know how to heal from it,lost my wife to cancer 3 years ago it brought me right back in that time frame, spent 13 months alone then 2 years grief therapy learned many things about myself if if I didn't want to.
Very good. Fits in perfectly
You hit the making / experiences of a child fighting to survive causing to make a sigma male on the nail’s head. I’m 61 now. Sometimes you got work backwards to know how huh? Ha ha…
I totally agree! I've always been different and have had that pointed out to me many times over the years.
Growingup, Pisces, and a young Sigma Male, is a story that'll never be complete. And so, I am still writing it at 47 years old.
It was exactly how it was growing up
Point numbers 3 & 4 are most intriguing ones for me personally. When I was 16 years old and had just entered the 11th grade, my Dad got a job many miles away but, because he was an alcoholic, my mother felt the need to move up with him not only to watch the money, but also amid concerns he may have been unfaithful to her.
So, they took their chances and left me alone in their house. From a comparatively early age, I had to learn the ropes of bachelorhood and become self-reliant. I had to cook and clean for myself and do my own laundry. At school, whenever I told any of my teachers about my domestic situation, they were broadsided. My situation may have also caused me friction with some of my peers, because of my refusal to cave into their sudden pressure of trying to force me to host a potentially, out-of-control house party.
In hindsight, one could ask if I got a sense of independence at too young an age because now, 40 years later, I remain a bachelor.
I am amazed how these Sigma personality info videos relate to me. Amazing. I thought I was an anomality. Thanks.
I'm 63 and I agree with all points and observations of this video. I was married to a narcissist for forty odd yrs it was a struggle, the thought of my kids having to endure that negative personality made me stay, my sigma qualities gave me strength now they have grown up and left home I was finally able walk away from a destructive toxic relationship and take my power back. Now I am finally able to be my authentic Sigma self. This video and others like it makes me feel valued and validated and so to all the other lone wolves out there I will see you on the trails less often traveled.
very interesting! thank you
Very helpful content. 🙏
Love your videos and thanks for posting them! Found this video very interesting and amazed by it! I experienced most from my younger years in public schools, especially with doing my own research, after questioning teachers, that didn’t have answers or being self reliant.. I wasn’t actually a lone wolf back then but instead I had kids that was rough around the edges wanting to be friends with me or some that wanted to be friends with me, to just take care of other kids that was bullying them! That wasn’t my style to be a bully, instead I was enjoying ,confronting these bullies on there behalf but I knew and felt different from every other kids, I didn’t fear what they feared or even cared about being popular but I did become popular and got Reputation of Not to be mess with.. But I chose most of the Time to be lone wolf 🐺 I could go on and on about this lol but the bottom line to this, I believe Sigma males are born not made
Almost gone through every aspects of topic mentioned in this video.
I agree with this vid and have a couple of additional family issues that brought additional issues. I was happy to learn about sigmas.
Great video. My family was dysfunctional. My dad didn't seen to want any thing to do with me. I hated school and quit my senior year 1967 (got my GED later) I hated team sports and became a greaser, gear head and loved drag racing, fishing and hunting.. Then later switched to riding dirt bikes racing Motocross. Later on I tried skydiving then SCUBA diving. That was the first 20 years or so. Have to add a whole lot of alcohol until 1985. When I had to stop. The gnawing feeling of being different was like a splinter in my mind. It's still there today. Not having a lot of social skills has lead me to some bad relationships with a lot of women.
My childhood was a broken, dysfunctional, chaotic mess. With substance abuse, physical abuse, and mental torture. And I find that many fellow Sigma’s have suffered similar circumstances. However once a Sigma pulls his life together, there’s no stopping him. Sigmas are actually more compassionate than most people feel they are. And for me it’s a result of that memory of being powerless as a child. We know what it is to be invisible. And no one should ever be made to feel that way.
that's me to a 'T' had an overbearing father and my thoughts and habits drove him nuts that I didn't have conformity. He thought I was less intelligent. I did things my own way, Never had many friends, super self-reliant, family was a toxic environment where I got made fun of considerably
I stayed in trouble as a yourh because I questioned everything even god
That was my how my childhood and even my teen years went. I had an idea it all started back there. You nailed it. I was raised like an only child and allowed to make my own choices.
This video is bang on.
I recognized many things. Not all. Many times it put a smile on my face because it brought me back to my childhood. And helped me remember how I felt as a child but mostly as an adolescent, starting to realize I wasn't like my schoolmates or siblings.
I'm left handed as well. My earliest memories of school were the teacher taking the pencil out of my left hand and telling me to use my right hand, but it went back into my left hand. I'm not bad on the pool table though when I get stuck and need to do a right handed shot. It always works and puts off the other player because they can't do it.
Your comment resonates with me. My parents were shocked to see me write with my left then switch to my right. Later on people who catch me doing this are shocked. This in turn has caused some to call me weird.
@@thenomadicham5329 if you’ve never been called weird or an Ahole you are not a Sigma. We’re gifted but not the most tactful beings.😂
This is so true. We are born introverts but morph in the Sigma type as we learn more about ourselves and everything around us. Im 44yo now but when i was little i absolutely lived school as i loved learning. Then i had this one teacher in 2nd grade that failed me simply because she lerceived me as shy and needed to be held back. I had straight A's & B's with 1 C. I remember it well like it was just a few years ago. I was so updet over that one C. That absolutely killed my motivation for school and just did the bare minimum from that point on till i graduated. But i still am always learning new things though.
I found this interesting because it fits me pretty closely, but I confess it kind of bothers me to learn that I'm in a category after all instead of being truly different. I had gotten used to not having a category.
You have described my life and childhood to a scary level! 😮
This video was 100% dead on accurate. I was born a sigma, and received much punishment, and ridiculed because of how I was natured. I grew up in a time when corporal punishment was the standard. I received a many whelp, because I would not conform to societal norms.
I agree 👍 100% with this video 📹. Touched some old feelings and interesting flashbacks. But I still don't consider myself a sigma male. I'm do, however, believe that I'm Transforming into one. That's if I can maintain this momentum to develop and evolve in my life.
Was adopted at 3 days, adopted mother died when i was 7, dad remarried and then life really turned to hell for the next 9 years part of it was the fact that step mom didnt know how to react to boys and had my dad beat my ass toll i was big enough to defend myself. I was always on my own and could only count on myself. Same thing in the military i was an outcast wasnt part of the buddy buddy group, did my own thing, had my own civilian friends, was a supervisor as an E4 did my job was easy. Now thirteen years later after getting out im retired could go back to work if i wanted to but dont need too. I do my own thing still just who i am and thats it. Now have all those women in highschool that are now divorced with kids hitting me up and i could care less bceause to women its all about money lol. Just doing me and thats that.
They aren't born. They are made through hardships
That could be part of it.
True
Excellent breakdown
so true. execpt: no characteristic or personal trait is simply "innate", but rather a mixture of genes and childhood experiences - with, imho, a clear domination of the latter...
Thank you very much..am agreeing with you..
Pretty much nailed it!
100% accurate for my childhood and paths taken through life. Though I still haven't found my place in life or work. I'm just a lost soul on a very lonely path.
*As always, an exact description of my life and personality.*
*It's interesting to me that someone came up with this Sigma profile, like a fortune teller of sorts.*
I dropped out of high school. I'm now 52 and doing quite well. I travel in my own lane, at my own pace. Life is good. Better to be alone than be in bad company.
At an early age my Grandmother taught me how to read,In elementary my reading skills were very advanced according to educational standards of the day, school was too easy but if i didn't care for the course I just did the minimum,that frustrated my teachers but that was the seventies in a rural K - 12 school, interesting video
You described my life with precision. I am 75 now and still an outsider. I have learned I neither like nor trust people and prefer to be by myself even though I am married with 29 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. I tolerate people at best.
I was always "different" from everyone around me. So, I never "fit in." Always felt like, "What's so great about fitting in?" I preferred to "do my own thing."
Had a few good friends, but mostly was always "outside the groups." Was always very analytical of what I saw going on around me, and wasn't interested in being part of it - the price was too high. I had to surrender too much of "self" in order to "fit in."
Why ?? What they were about just wasn't worth the price. Their acceptance wasn't enough compensation. Does that make me a lone wolf, or just someone with a real self-identity and self awareness, and sense of self-worth??
But the harassment and bullying was never "fun". And drove me farther from wanting to associate with those who reacted that way with me. (And instilled an enduring hatred of bullies in me. Watch out for me, bullies - this wolf wears sheep's clothing. I've been taught to live in stealth mode. And I will defend myself, and others. You think you're wolves. But I'm a Sheep-dog. And I'm always watching you.)
My reaction to what others would start, and my non-conformaty would often get me branded anti-social, and a trouble maker. But I wouldn't "start it." I would prefer to just be left alone, and live peacefully. (If being anti-bullying makes me anti-social, does that mean bullying is normal social behavior ?)
I would ask, "Why am I this way? Why don't I fit in?" My mother would tell me, "I was a square peg. And the world will always try to force me into a round hole."
But that doesn't explain WHY I am a square peg. Or why the world is compelled to try to make me into a round one.
Like the Japanese say, "The nail that sticks up will get beat down."
Always blew the SATs out of the water. My teachers never knew what to do with me. I just saw too much "Stupidity" in what was always going on around me, and saw no sense in being a part of it.
George Carlin had a pretty clear eye about how much stupid stuff our days are crammed with. Comedy was his coping process. I just don't have time for the B.S. - life's too short. And I have better uses for my time.
Finally found am awesome little Sigma girl. She's my best friend, and my wife. What do I need with what the world has to offer? We've got each other, and are crazy happy ❤️ together. 😊
Yup. All of this discourse is me. An additional element was a very traumatic childhood starting when I was still a crib baby. I call that my Karma.
I hated school. Although I did well on the tests, I always got in trouble for not paying attention in class. One example is when I was in the second grade and the teacher was having us memorize the addition table by rote. One plus one equals two, one plus two equals three…oh look a squirrel. I wonder how he can remember where he hides all those nuts with a brain the size of a walnut? Does he look at his little world like a grid and remembers how many steps, or does he use references like how far it is from that rock? This prompted the teacher to yell at me to pay attention. One plus four equals five. I suppose back then I was just easily distracted, today they would diagnose me as ADHD. No, I was just a Sigma. I had all this figured out and could correctly answer any question, but it bored me having to keep with the pack and move as fast as the slowest kid. Group assignments were painful as it usually resulted in me doing all the work and the others going along for the ride. Yes, I hated school.
Wow, sounds like my life...Thank you!
'I think, (therefore I am)' you have to extent your struggles and include a 'laissez-faire' growing up (at least this I consider was my case). Even if they let one growing up with not many rules or interference, which in the loosest way could be called struggles while having principles and decency working a child can make up his mind approaching life with confidence, logic and a spine.
This is me to a tee! I'm 59 and I love my own company, hate being around more than 2 or 3 people and never enjoyed a single day at school.
Good video.
This video is the closest match that explains a lot if issues i faced
Great video. Thank you.
I think to exhibit the Sigma trait, you would need to start with some particular wiring of the brain from birth. But, in my opinion, that's not sufficient. I think if the developing Sigma is exposed to tough challenges at some stage of development and age, then the Sigma wiring of the brain is fully established. Like challenges faced as a teenager, for example.
But, then, the real challenge shows up when the adult Sigma personality also turns out to be an ENTJ. That struggle between the introverted and extroverted minds in any individual is very tough. But, in time, because of the foundation of always learning about the world and themselves, as well as their resilience, most Sigma males are extremely happy in their old age.
As an INTJ Sigma I concur. It’s important to remember that the EN and IN refer to thinking modalities and not necessarily our social behaviors, especially in childhood. Being three or more standard deviations above average intelligence does make us socially introverted as we mature because we have so few intellectual peers that we can relate with. Couple that with the fact that the herd’s natural inclination is to beat, sometimes literally, societal outliers into conformity or cast them out.
Spot on... Story of my life..
I don't know whether I'm a Sigma and I'm sure this was a generic video but you described my personality, habits and thought process to a frightening degree.
external validation vs personal authenticity.............................so profound ....there is nothing more to say
I’ve always been a lone wolf and March to the beat of my own drum
As long as I know whatever goal I have inside, my head is achievable and I have the more high ground. I will do what I want.
My family broke apart when I was 10 years old by 11 I was getting myself up for school making my own meals I had to stay out having children too young and had to stay out of handcuffs a lot for young boy to experience. A lot of responsibility.
But through that I learned self resilience and reliability at the end of the day I can depend upon nobody but myself
Play age of 13 I was still too young to get a full-time job so I brought recycling bands of aluminum and newspaper, which was highly profitable at the time vegetables and my father‘s backyard walk through the door selling them and even waited tables at a local restaurant and I emptied the trashcan Had more money than most of my friends and I bought all my own clothes. Bought everything I wanted.
I’ve been that way my entire life and it suits me just fine
The only other person I give my trust to is my wife of 15 years and my two beautiful children
When I was small, I hear sometimes, "you are really like this?"
Or "there is no other like you"
I was thinking about this, why people want to be similar to others, or conform to standards
Slavery is not always chains, I see slavery in ppl mind, if somebody is not free thinker, character
All were spot on
We are a part of all and never really alone. It's illusionary! We can be physically seemingly separated, yet always connected or "a-part of life". I didn't like the emphasis of being a lone, rather than being ALL ONE.
I can just guess that a deep distrust and pain (deep trauma) with or in the origin family can lead to this attitude. They speak a bit about this in the video above.💜
Good luck and love while feeling connected with all.
All these years and now at 70 the truth comes out Amazin wow better late than never
I'm textbook sigma in every way since birth and childhood. I had an awersome childhood, have always had a lifelong awesome relationship with my parents who loved me and raised me right. Not speaking for everyone else, but I was born sigma, not "situationed" into one. Beig a sigma is a natural mindset based on logic and independence and self worth, not a reaction to hardship. There's a lot of people out there who go through the same things and don't turn out to be sigmas.
Interesting!
I had great parents, if I asked what a word meant, had to go read the dictionary. If I didn't like the teacher would not do the work. Despised my 6th grade teacher, parents did too. Ended up in remedial Ehglish in 7th grade. The teacher after the first week told me to show my face and go to library and turn in a weekly book report. Thank you Mr. Fuller.