How to tell if she is co-dependent
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This can also be a multitude of things. Anxious atachment style being one of the reasons people act like this.
Definitely anxious attachment
Sometimes emotional abuse can be an issue. Some narcissists will play mind games so the person feels like something is constantly wrong with the relationship. Many times people disappear to test the person as well....Games
A man kept asking me if I liked him and if i still liked him again and again. Then he would ask me how I felt about him and about things. I really liked him ALOT. I just told him I liked him whenever he asked me I said yes. That did not make me like him any less.
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As a person who doesn't date because, you know, climate change, is being with a co-dependent person a bad thing?
My girlfriend is and I’ll say if it’s a woman, no. As a man, yes.
@@nsmiguel99 Right? Cause the girl was clearly the co-dependent partner in this scenario, and I'm like that's all of the women I've dated.
Co-dependency can materialize in way more worse eay than the rather cute innocuous examples this Shorts video exposed. At it's worst coming from either gender /both genders, it's not only extremely detrimental to mental health but also just ruins the experience of life, trapping people in a toxic bubble. For example, try to work out how the same pathology of the "How much do you love me? Please, you NEED to answer!" obsessive situation that depends on the validation of the other whether it comes voluntarily or forced, can also lead to a more complicated situation of something like perhaps "Why are you at the kiosk next door to our apartment building buying a cold drink for yourself? I don't care if you got one for me too! I specifically TOLD you that I hate to come home to the apartment and be alone!" ~ situations like this one can spiral into any direction of relational hell-scape, where the invalidation of the others personal needs and personal agency in favor of one's own need for validation and control, is not only actively seeked through attention and submission in a positive fashion (not exactly the sense of morally good, but as in the co dependency pathology being positively realized), but also is sought through punishment and degradation in a negative fashion (again not exactly morally negative, but rather how the co dependency pathology obsession is still realized in a negative counter-fashion)
@@maxads1134 Everyone seeks dependency of their partner, period. It's a major point of even having a relationship. This video failed to clarify how the problem occurs when these behaviors become pathological, overly obsessive, and responsible for creating a toxic relationship and/or a personality disorder that impedes/controls our life in any way. Unfortunately the easier way we go about this situation when in it, rather than breaking up, is to alao become co dependant, seeking the same relief for the obsession by either mirroring the received behavior or materializing it in similar or even seemingly completely different behaviors/actions which are metamorphasized from the same psychological niche yearning to be filled. Unfortunately seeking out that co dependsncy yearning and fulfilling it eventually is akin to an addict who has such a tolerance they can't even get high anymore. The good feeling/validations are consciously hollow and all that's left is a pattern of destructive behavior towards oneself and those around.
"codependency has nothing to do with dependency"
She seems high.. lol
He’s not diva divine
She’s only a 4 or 5 for him? I say end it.
Easy, that’s his actual gf!
This ain’t it. This is anxious attachment.
Women literally demand that men allow them to be codependent in relationships. It's a huge part of what drives their attraction for men.
And as a man it is your job to provide and protect
@@DateOnCompany Actually, I'm a graphic designer/apparel designer/manager... THAT'S what my job is. Anything else I do is a courtesy for the people I love. I am happily divorced and intend to remain single. Feminism has changed things, women want to work now, so they can pay their own bills and they can contribute 50% for dating also. I will no longer enable codependent relationships. It isn't healthy for anyone.
@@KingKoopa1 did you use to have a codependent relationship? if so what happened?
@@DateOnCompany Of course I have... 2 long term ones, one being a marriage that I ended. The other flings and short term dating situations were almost all also codependent with the exception of one. Women only date up, and they expect their men to take care of them. The scenario that they prefer literally IS codependency. You have to understand that women believe it is men's responsibility to fit the bill for them, and to stick our necks out for them the majority of the time. That's what their ideas of a, "real man" is. When you step outside of this role, they don't like it. They want to be cared for like children, they want to be swept off their feet and doted over. This ultimately leads to you as a man becoming a codependent enabler, and unless you are a complete simp, it also leads to the eventual demise of the relationship. So now, I keep my distance, unless they make it easy, or unless they offer to pay their fair share for dates etc... It's a new day for me... And it should be a new day for ALL men!
I don’t like how it showed the person who wasn’t codependent was shown in a more relaxed and easy going way and how the guy favored that person/women more. One is not better than the other and too much of one can be too imbalanced. It is okay to be codependent and realize it. It doesn’t make you a bad person. You just need to learn more about it and in turn learning to be more healthier for yourself and your life and relationships.
I don't see these as sure signs of codependency however a co dependent person could think these thoughts and ask these question but "this conversation" does not represent co dependence in and of itself.
i never heard that how much do you like me is like middle school
This is stigmatized. For a codependent in recovery this is insulting because being Co-dependent isn't that black and white.
It isnt
Why are they soo monotonous and awkward? They seem soo scripted
Lmaooooo
Where is the love?
It is definitely scripted.
Dating time: Ask your date if she wants to see your "co-dependent." Works every time.
Codependence by TcTeam
This is not “codependency.”
Then what is?
Then what is?
@@DateOnCompany The idea of being needy isn’t the same as being codependent. You can look this up in any introductory psych textbook.
Codependency is basically enabling bad behavior; e.g. codependents often pair up with partners who have drug addictions or other self-destructive mental conditions or behaviors.
A man who is codependent will want to change the habits of his addict girlfriend while also feeling better about himself by way of taking on the caretaker role. There’s more to it, of course, but even a basic Google search will give you an idea of why this video doesn’t fit the bill.
Cheers!
@@RyanWattersRyanWatters thanks for this ryan!
Its called BPD. This looks like Laf across from roam.
You’re crazy
This is not BPD. A person with BPD would start a fight, tear down the other partner, push them away, then freak out because they’re being abandoned.
So far I see no positive comments, so here’s the first! This is actually so on point and definitely can be a sign of codependency. I was able to connect with it and it helped bring awareness to myself even though it was straight forward and simple! Keep these shorts going 😇
Thanks!
This isn’t being codependent, this is someone who has anxious attachment.
She's cute.
Wow
Eye opener
Something i need to work on
Silly