Reaction to Dax -To Be A Man (MEGA REMIX) [ft. Atlus, Phix, Brutha Rick, The Mediary, Thagreatwhite
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As a man, it's been instilled into us since birth. Men will not burden woman with our problems, we carry that alone. When you ask your boyfriend and he doesn't want to tell you, it's because he cares, and will not allow you to carry any of that weight.
This is exactly how I feel. This is a great way of explaining why we keep things to ourselves.
And not only is a man not going put our problems on our women. But we will take as many of her problems off her shoulders as we possibly can on top of our own.
Truth, self-relfected with those words and both comments before mine.
Truer words have never be spoken.
So true. And I'm not even out of my teens and yet the only people I can talk to are other guys.
The only way a man can share his feelings is if he's the submissive.
I often hear people say that men can share their feelings. However, that's true only in the fantasy of a woman's mind. If a man shows his fears, he is automatically put aside. A woman needs the man to be strong; nothing else works in reality.
If you're a woman, meet your man at the end of the day with open arms and no questions. That tells him that you are there for him. Men are simple. If a man believes that he is your protector and that you appreciate him, he will always be there for you.
That hug and appreciation gives us exactly what we need to keep pushing. We dont need to talk about our stresses with our wife. We need our wife to understand We have a lot on our shoulders, show appreciation, and be the cure to our headaches instead of a cause.
The unfortunate truth of the matter is that no matter who it is that tells us its OKAY to be vulnerable with them, it almost never works out how it should. For a lot of men (myself included), the significnt others we have had throughout our lives who have assured us that its okay to show our emotions and be vulnerable with them, its always different when we actually DO it. They wind up using those vulnerabilities against you as a weapon during arguments or breakups. Hell, some of them, they just get completely turned off. A lot of women believe men are simply emotionally constipated, or that we just dont have any measure of emotional intelligence. But thats not true at all. Most men (at least in my own experience) do feel. Very deeply. Its just that society as a whole tells us its wrong for us to have any excess of emotion beyond anger. Young boys/men are often actively punished for showing emotion or crying, whereas young girls/women are encouraged to, and rewarded for expressing theirs. Its easy to not notice, because its been that way for so long. The cycle needs to be broken. Its one of the main reasons, i think, that we lose over 800,000 men a year globally to s*icide.
In my life I have had 6 very deep connections with women, of those 6 only 2 (1 was my grandmother) didnt use my vulnerability against me, and one of those 6 was my mother, who is not one of the 2. I almost ruined my marriage because I had a hard time allowing myself to be vulnerable. For many men, the pain it causes outweighs the pain you are relieving, so it just isnt worth it.
@jeromysmith2486 I find a character in one of my favorite shows says it best. He says "it's possible he expected you'd know without him saying anything. Men prefer, in general, to let their actions speak, instead of words." I won't lie, I'm guilty sometimes of the same thing I have issues with when women do it. That is to say, not being fine even though we say we are. That said, there's a difference. Usually, they say nothing because we should KNOW why they're angry, according to them. We say nothing because when men are in pain, they don't want to burden anybody else with it, ESPECIALLY their loved ones. Not to mention it being far more accepted, in today's world, for women to speak when they hurt than it is for men to do it. We aren't all lucky enough to have partners who truly MEAN it when they ask us to be vulnerable with them, and those of us who are that lucky.... well, they need to hold onto that person and never let go. It's not easy to find. Especially in western society.
I definitely understand where you guys are coming from but why not see a therapist then? Theres many affordable ones or some you can get through insurance but what matters is talking to someone. I do hope this changes as well ❤
@@kctv524 Unfortunately therapy doesn't work for most men. its sad but true. Most men find that if we have problems we want ways to actually fix them, just talking about the issue we have doesn't solve them. When we do talk about our issues they usually get thrown back at us at a later date in an argument/ or confrontation, or worse we have to apologise because us telling how we feel makes our partners upset, and then it becomes a whole new issue of trying to comfort our girlfriends/partners because of how our feelings made them feel. I'm lucky to have found my wonderful wife, who has never judged me for expressing my feelings to her, and has completely supported me through my darkest times, I would move mountains for this woman if she asked me too as a result of how she treats me. it's a shame that it took me so long to find a woman like her, truly one of a kind.
@@kctv524 were it so easy. I can barely afford both rent and food, I can't imagine trying to pay for a therapist. I know I need one, regardless of my biological sex. But the point is that it shouldn't be this way o begin with. I shouldn't need a therapist to express my emotions. It should be as acceptable for me to cry as a woman. I shouldn't feel like I have to keep my emotions to myself. I shouldn't feel like nobody gives a shit about my emotions.
I am sorry about this comment but no it hasn't changed most men do not have a place to go to talk about there feelings or the stress they go threw and you can't always go to your partner in life they never look at you this same way. I love your compassion. Be blessed.
We go through a lot and nowhere to release the pressure, there's way too many that'll only use it against us later on.
This guy is right. A man cannot display their true emotions.
I agree 100% amazing review. But it's only has got worse in 2024. Be we need to come together and this world for all mental anguish. But like he says, I Don't Expect You To Understand"
Please tell your boyfriend that "he's got this" from time to time. These simple words carry are truly motivational for many men.
As a man I can tell you many of us are fine with dealing with stresses of our jobs internally, in fact dealing with it is just part of the job. It does come naturally and it is an important capability. On the job it is absolutely not OK to let emotions impact your effectiveness, perhaps most obvious in military tactical environments, because the wellbeing of others depends on your focus and determination. Nobody wants to hear their fellow fighters complaining or feeling sorry for themselves (there is no point, and they don't). I for one prefer to find my own peace of mind, I don't need or want to burden anyone else and I honestly don't want to talk about it. I simply wish for a peaceful, loving home...which I'm now old enough to understand is the only thing that is really worth fighting to protect.
It is important to note most men, even combat vets, ultimately enjoy full lives with those they love no matter what they must come to terms with internally.
This is why the lyrics say "I don't expect you to understand what it's like to be a man". Even though modern times have been a little more forgiving openly about mental health and men's emotional state, you will notice that most of the men in this video are young men not older men, which means even with a bit more acceptance, nothing has really changed. We work what we hate to provide for what we love.
Men are problem solvers, they are protectors, they measure their success in life not by the numbers they pull in via a paycheck but by the successes of those they are entrusted to love, protect, and provide for. Most men carry the weight of their decisions on them like a pair of clothing and judge themselves based on the condition of that clothing. So if circumstances around start falling apart, we lose a job, we can't get our kid into that better school, our wife feels a need that we are not immediately able to fulfil, we wear those issues like they are our fault. We feel like we fail, because once again we measure our success by the success of others, and if they are not where they want to be, we shoulder that as if we are the fault causing that.
Even though there are women who support their man and are good to their man, if that man went through any relationships where a woman didn't they might shy away from being honest or real with you because the last person they trusted to be vulnerable with used that vulnerability against them. If we can't feel safe with the person we are supposed to feel the most safe with, we will be less and less likely to be vulnerable with them or any one else in the future. Especially when that vulnerability is used against us further down the road. Most men try to provide safety, but in turn rarely feel safe enough with anyone to be that exposed.
Many men feel that when the going gets tough, that those we provide for get going. Dax said in his original version of "To be a Man, Unconditional love is for women, children, and dogs." Men often face this reality because when we struggle or suffer who can we turn to without the potential for them to throw the struggles back in our face. As long as we provide, put on a happy face, and keep everyone safe we are accepted and loved. But as soon as we falter, fail, struggle internally, or attempt to express that struggle we get shut down. Not all, but some, wonder "Would they stay with me if I was unable to provide an easier life for them? Would they be here for me or are they just here for the security I provide?"
Men are also quiet emotionally by nature to a certain extent because they want to shield everyone from the horrors they may face from day to day. They also invest so much of their love and emotion into the relationships that matter most to them. Which is why Widowers tend to suffer worse than Widows. Women tend to have a pretty deep inner circle plus their children if the man dies, men tend to only see there spouse as that very best friend so when she is gone we have little to no one to turn to. Which then brings up the line in this remix, "We grow cold, dark, and numb as we slowly die. You ever why it's mostly men who commit suicide? We figure why not we are already dead inside." Our partners are our emotional anchor and without them and without support we just contain the pain and eventually shut down.
Men find purpose in being a provider, or protector, or a form of security. All human being struggle discovering what the purpose of their life is, what anyone's purpose is. Being these things are what make men feel like their lives matter, like their existence matters. I personally believe in God and the hope that He provides that my life is precious to Him, precious enough for Him to provide Jesus as a way to bridge the gap and connect with me. So in that faith I find an even greater purpose, but even I struggle, I can't imagine how much more those men without faith and with no family scream inside their minds trying to discover why they exist, which I know both men and women feel this way. Imagine having your world fall apart around you and no one to turn to and no one to trust.
Men also feel they have to make a name for themselves, because that name, that proof that they existed is the only way to measure up to everyone else's expectations of them. I bear the surname Ryan, and as such I have often felt I need to bear the legacy of that name gloriously. Mostly because of many of the horrors my father, his father, and the fathers before that created. I am the ender of a multi-generational curse, one formed long ago, and as such I want to do everything in my power to do what is right for the sake of my faith, the sake of my wife who I adore, the sake of my children I didn't rear into this world but are mine through an even stronger bond then DNA; Love. So when I falter and fail, I often bear the pain of feeling I am not living up to this new generational bond. I just want to love, provide for those I do love, and truly be loved unconditionally in return.
You seem to be a deeply caring and emotional young woman, and I hope as more and more people discuss these internal issues men face, that you grow in that caring and wisdom. We may never understand the opposite sex completely, but we should do everything we can to be kind, loving, and supportive of anyone we cross paths with. Thank you for your tears, and for your review of this wonderful message within this song.
As an old divorced vet, with TBI and PTSD, existing under a VA program for homeless vets. Who spends most of his time alone fighting the battle within, yeah this hit home for me. It is what it is.
This is why men are more conservative and woman are more liberal. The ladies have lost their way.
First time watching your reactions. I look forward to seeing more! Thank you!
We missed you!!!!
You are loved more than you know! Blessings! 🙏
You should check out the original with Dax's verses. If you haven't already, he went very deep as well
🎉🎉🎉 thank you for your kind words!!! I love you 😍
Yay, KC’s back. Great reaction, looking forward to more videos👊🍻
So glad you're back. Please react to more Mr Wobbles
Fantastic reaction. Watching you grow through this video was amazing. Love the men in your life with the fierceness they love you. Thank you for this.
Thank you for watching this. Just listening to your boyfriend is probably enough for him. Most men learn very early to not be vulnerable around their woman because you risk losing her respect.
Cry around your woman: Divorce. Lose your job: Divorce
Get sick: Divorce.
Not all....but most.
Check out Hi Ren by Ren. It's amazing. Words can't describe it
KC im glad ur back
And i could say abaut what im pasing thue every day but im not a open book
Woman have NO ideal
Ya but sometimes when we talk bout it women will use it against us
One last thought about men opening up to their significant other...
the woman will Always use anything a man says, doesn't say, do or doesn't do, against the man, always.
Ask any man... a woman will bring up something that she knows will 'punch him below the belt" with a moment of weakness or something he said, etc... even from 10 years ago.
she will always blame him for how she chooses to feel.
God help the man that ever falls off his 'white horse' in front of his significant other.
Exactly. You ain't lying
This mega remix song deserves a spot on the radio
Yea us guys can’t tell the one that we are with cuz once we do they thing that we are weak and they start to go looking for a different man
Yes, Hi Ren is definitely worth it!
It's easy for someone to say, "just open up. We'll understand most of the time." As men, we won't risk that "most of the time" part. Pair that with the fact that we refuse to allow our spouse to carry our weight and worry, and you get the same answer when you ask 90% of men how they're doing and that is, "I'm fine." It's ingrained in our DNA.
Should have watched the original version of this first to get Dax's full message... Your first pause and comment shows that you really don't understand at that point and the original describes it better
NF mansion please! Love Dax
To really try to understand the depth of this message as a woman you should WATCH THE REACTION OF MEN watching this. I guarantee you have NEVER SEEN SO MANY MEN CRY. This song is a healing. Men finally feel as though they have been seen. Dad gave them a SAFE SPACE to express what they can not say.
That second ladies verse is probably the most poignant for us men, because for many of us, that's the first time we've ever heard a woman say "I'm sorry" like that and not in a "I'm sorry that happened to you" type of way, if that makes sense
You are so sweet. But some advice, men are stoic by nature. If you listen to the song again none of the men are complaining, just explaining. The highest population of emotional men,,, is in prisons. Generally us men don't have the emotional Super Power that women have we're simplly different. This video is a very good look for you and your kind heart.
Tried taking my life about 10 years ago. Still gets those thoughts to try again but I remind myself I have my family and friends. Don't wanna sadden them
No straight hard working men are put down. We do try .
No it's not change. Women have careers as a man i think thats an amazing push forward for women. Although, women don't work as much as men and they don't push as hard as men. We are engrained with this. Women are more likely to not work over time because they want to socialise or just not work, thats when the man beside that women goes to work. So you can have a career and not have to make sure everything is going to be done. I hear all the time "i make more money than him, i provide more" great, but in the future you will hit a wall and the man will make it so you don't feel it.
The girl at 10 minutes I didn't even know I needed to hear Her words so badly.That's a good song❤😢
Men are not allowed to look weak...
You say the word "but" or "should" etc.
A woman has no respect for a man who is not providing, that is why they get stuck in a rut.
When a man marries, it is out of un-conditional love; He wants his woman to always be the woman he fell in love with...
When a woman marries, it is based on conditional 'love'; He has to have a certain income and have the ambition to make more, to provide more, never leave her wanting, always be strong so she can be weak... etc.
It is very, very, very rare that a woman will have respect for a man if he shows any weakness, especially in today's society.
listen to the original of this song by Dax... it how it has always been and will always be, for men.
This song hits so real and deep it scares me even to admit that. :(
Trust me when i say this, as long as your their for him when hes struggling thats all he cares about, the response you get from him may not always show that, but just know he appreciates you recognizing he didnt have the best day, even if his response is "' i dont want to talk about it"
Nothing has changed. If we show emotion, people want nothing to do with us. Man are just used, betrayed and abandoned. We suffer more than anyone and no one cares. Not even when we are dead and gone. Women just move on to the next guy
Great song great message this is what what got me into dax. Most songs are huge in messages. I relate a lot with this song. I love how other men show their side rather than just him, so he aint speaking for all us men. We all walk different but similar paths in life.
Im not sure if you do recommendations or requests but I'll ask here.
You should totally react to dax - dear alcohol (mega remix)
The reason why as men we keep everything inside is because we are taught to do so, me personally! The softest thing i have been told when i was showing emotions, was to suck it up!! SOME Women don’t realize how painful this is!! Now ok, we are the ones that are supposed to provide and protect, the issue isn’t there, but the issue accrues when we have to do that towards a woman who doesn’t appreciate it or even worse takes it for granted; i’m not trying to make all men look angels because that would be fake too but the mental and emotional damage we as men go through, just because we don’t speak up about it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, how many men have been through hell because of the evil behavior of SOME women?? COUNTLESS!!
Therapy doesn't work for men, men want solutions to problems. Therapist dont give solutions they just ask questions.
awww KC crying has to be the cutest thing ive seen all 2024
Bro, she said she feels like that’s hiding feelings has changed. I shared my emotions with my girl at the time a while back , and she told me she “needed a man not a boy.”
Men don't talk! Our best friends are for our best jokes.. we cope in our own way. No one can help with that. Our main idea is problem solving women don't solve the problem, they want someone to listen to their problem not a solution
I cried to my wife because of depression, worst thing I ever did.
I am new to your channel. Love your reaction and what you said.
I'm sure you're already aware of this, but when a man expresses how he's feeling deep inside, he's entrusting you with something more precious than any of his other possessions. How you respond to his vulnerability teaches him whether it's safe to open up to you ANYMORE. It doesn't matter if you agree with what he's sharing. I've been married multiple times and I grew to learn that really sharing my deepest feelings with my wife didn't help anything. My current wife is the only woman (including my mother) that has actually made me feel appreciated for what I do. You don't have to win every disagreement because you can only draw so much liquid from a cup before it's completely empty. More than making your man feel loved, make him feel appreciated and he will move heaven and earth to take care of you.
Love the emotional reaction. Well, it is how we feel as a man. Not all men or male is a MAN, need to understand this. Hope you react to the original as well, and all DAX songs, cause he is another level.
like the gentlemen of this thread, he doesn't want to give you any burden. The best thing you can do is be his peace and quiet, hug him and never forget to tell him that you value him and respect him, please laughter is the best cure!
So happy to be back!
If your first reaction, as a woman, is not to hug and show appreciation to the good men in your life... you haven't understood nor even heard a word.
The thing is whenever men have a problem most woman compare it to their own problems. Over time we just deal with it on our own.
I can go on any dating site and in less than a hour I can give you a hundred names for women that want a masculine man ,a man that doesn't cry this song is a good start because it brings awareness but the world has a very long way to go
Think about cave men. If a bear wanted your cave, the men had to face the bear. He can't have a breakdown. He can't get weepy. He doesn't have time to talk about his fear about the situation. He FEELS those things, but he must suppress them and take action. He simply must face the bear. If he does not, does his family have confidence in him as the protector?
Even after, if he breaks down, does his family have confidence in him for the next time? Or does that imply a lot of doubt in his own ability, and therefore, doubt from his family?
So it is evolutionary psychology that women are attracted to stoicism. You can't help it if you "fall out of love" with a guy who expresses emotion. You probably don't even know that's WHY you feel different. But men experience this. We've seen it happen with relationships or even friends.
For women, their survival in those societies revolved around social connections with the other women in their groups. Women usually performed their tasks, gathering, tanning hides, cooking, etc communally with the other women. Having good relationships is how they built security in the society. So women crave social connection.
The problem is, those evolutionary psychological needs are still a part of our instinct, but not understanding them, women misplace the responsibility on men to satisfy them both despite them being mutually exclusive.
A woman SHOULD be getting her social/emotional needs met by their female friends, not the men. If her man is too emotional, she can't help it but feel less confident in him as a protector/provider, and she loses her attraction to him. She THINKS she wants him to be "emotionally available" without understanding that her need for that does not mean HE should be satisfying it, and it will actually harm her "vibe" about him.
This is one of the reasons why women are so adept at "reading the room" emotionally. It helped them with other women, but it has another effect. They should be able to tell when her man is going through something without him actually verbalizing it. Men don't have this sense and I think women REALLY have no clue that they see a part of the world that is truly invisible to men.
A man doesn't have the same need to express emotion as women. A man just needs SUPPORT AND CONFIDENCE from his woman that he will work through it. That doesn't mean he can never express those emotions, but it is not safe for him to do so until he knows his wife has COMPLETE confidence in him, which could take YEARS, or possibly never.
Ok 1 sub from Indonesia. Be strong,❤
You have to watch the original music video for “to be a man” by dax. Not the remix with darius rucker but the orignal video 🙏🙏🙏🙏
There are thousands of wives out there that would rather watch there husband die than watch him break down in tears
Nope...when a man is vulnerable, their partners loose faith and attraction to the...that's what MOST women do
No ma’am that is looked at as a weakness. Ask a man who he calls to get help. You will be shocked by the answer.
Cried in front of an ex girlfriend one time, she dumped me like 2 hours later cause to her only men who are "pussies" cry. What she didn't know was i was battling many demons back then
As a man I have heard if you need to talk come see me im here for you, well I can tell you now its all talk and bullshit, they say it to feel good about themselves, whenever anyone says it to me now I just say it's all good I will serve my purpose until I die then my life insurance can continue to provide when im gone, then I turn and walk away, its not worth any further effort than that
Tetap semangat sayang.. 💪
Kamu tetap yg terbaik dan tercantik di dunia ini.. 😊
I would say that is not true. Most woman want a strong man, as soon as we cry, it's over. I know, my wife lost all feeling for me the first time I cried in front of her. It was night and day.
My only advice I can give is a home needs to be a place of peace for a man. No man that I know wants to go work and stress all day and come home feel as he has to do the same thing. You would be susprised at what a genuine complament can do for a relationship. Unfortunately opening up for a man does not turn out well for him in the end.
No one will want to follow a weak leader. If you are a weak leader you are over throw… a man can express his feeling but don’t mean it will be understood. Sometimes they just hear what u got to said and just replaying with okay or I am sorry. It take a lot more then that. Has a Man U bottle it up util it over field some times it end in death or sometime you find some who actually understand and keep you in your fit.
We’re are all the female comments are there still decent women who see men’s pain because we feel invisible to most
No man I know shares any feelings . It's mad how many women I have watched that think men share . They really don't.
You need to react to Dax's Dear Alcohol Mega Remix.
Your rant at the end is the reason why you will never understand, most men do seek understanding in friends the issue is then we hear things like your hanging out with the boys to much or you're spending the little bit of free time you have with them, after working all week and then coming home and fixing things around the house and hearing her issues there is no time really left to deal with our own, and we want to provide her with all we can so we push ours aside and when we finally do get to deal with ours we get shit for it, like why are you always doing this or always doing this even if it is only a few hours a week. And as far as a specialist you mean an office that is open monday -friday 8-5 the same hours we have to work, so we have to take time off of work nah that wont happen we got stuff she wants upgrade we have car and house payments that she wanted we cant there is no way sure if we had a job where we were the boss sure but we are talking about mostly blue collard men here.
Tell your wife she says…. She doesn’t get it?
First!😅
You just said you don’t listen to your own boyfriend and now you’re trying to justify why you don’t
what you are saying at 3:20 is a very ignorant view of things... thats not the reality we live in
You obviously have no clue. The moment a man shares his feelings with his girlfriend or wife, she starts to see him as weak and loses feelings for him. Innthe real world, when you do what a woman asks, she will leave you and take at least half of everything you've ever worked for and she'll get to live off your paycheck to go find a guy that didn't do what she asked for. You may think you want a man that will open up to you emotionally, but the moment he does, you'll lose attraction to him. It's not necessarily your fault. Women just expect men to be able to open up like women until they do. No woman wants a weak man and thats how you'll see him if he does it. That's why we have to just bottle it up and keep pushing forward.
hi
sooooo I'm going through it, living trying to provide for family and I'm very emotional now days, its fucking annoying.
my question is why does everything have to be a fight......... just in general, the simplest things, niece wants to make a cuppa
no
then you make it for her
no I don't want to
should i make it then
noooooo your taking sides
she's 12 and it's a fucking cup of tea
why did i have to explain to my niece that she is not a cunt
you don' undrtsand
that hasnt changed at all, its shut upi and deal with it. your old lady doesnt want a guy that cries, get out of your fairy take
Looking to God isn't a good place to start as a man???????wtf you smoking????
maybe not for you
I said IS a good start haha sorry if it wasnt clear
We dont expect you to understand
but she does.... so like whats your point?
Tell your bf to pickup a trade. The one industry that won't die and easy to run and operate once you gain word of mouth. Peaceful.
Sorry. I am a man I have no one to call or talk to. Yet I grew up with my Father and Mother. It is just what it is