Day In The Life With a Newborn. 1 MONTH!! | From Olympian to Mom
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- Come join us for a day in the life taking care of baby Lottie! When we wake up, how often (if ever) she sleeps, how often she breastfeeds, how we split responsibilities, how many diapers we change (too many to count) and more!
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Oh honey, the postpartum period is such a weird and difficult time. With the massive hormone shift, exhaustion, and new responsibility of keeping a little human alive, it is overwhelming. And no one really talks about how hard it is. You are doing great mama. Keep up with your fluids and nutrition to help your energy levels. And keep going outside for walks - fresh air, a change of scenery and the dopamine release from the exercise is so great for you.
Great, smart advice here! 👍 It’s been 30 years since I had a baby, but I remember feeling depressed sometimes and also that I couldn’t wait to return to work. It’s so strange going from full-time worker to being at home with an infant!
We combo fed our son, and it was a great choice for us. I pumped after every breastfeeding session and we chose to do bottle feeding in the evening and overnight. This allowed me to mentally rest (because breastfeeding is a JOB) and then I could pump milk for him. We did formula too. You’re doing great! ❤
Being a first time mom is really hard. The feelings of isolation, especially during the nights, were hard for me. I remember my husband and I having a conversation when our first was two weeks old. She would cry so much in the evening and we would take turns walking her around the house. With tears in my eyes I said “what have we done.” I say all this, because what you’re feeling is completely normal. So allow yourself to feel it and don’t feel guilty. You’re a great mom and you are what she needs. It does get better I promise. You’ll find your groove and continue to bond with that beautiful girl. ❤
My children are grown but I still remember how hard it was with my first baby. I had some of the same feelings you expressed. Don’t doubt yourself. You are doing a good job. It will get better.
Postpartum is no joke. The hardest time for me was being up all alone at night feeding my baby. It was the most alone, scared, and helpless feeling I’d ever had. My daughter was colicky like Lottie. I thought it would never get better…but it did!
Same; omg the middle of the night feedings we’re some of the loneliest times of my life.
@@mary-annemonckton288 ❤️ It has been 26 years for me and I still get anxiety when I remember those nights.
I came for the olympics training etc - I'm staying for your amazing post-partum coverage. Babies are SO HARD. No one has it easy. (source - I have 2 adult daughters) I think the influencer nonsense on parenting can paint a TERRIBLE and dishonest picture of this phase of parenting. Your videos are honest and all the (honest) moms and dads out there - FEEL YOU. It will get better. Easier in most ways. Harder in others. You are doing an AMAZING job. We all just have to keep trying - that's all we can do. Just keep it up. My 2nd baby was a preemie - and cried for WEEKS and MONTHS when she came home from the hospital. I cried along with her. I ended up on antidepressants for a short time - just to get through. It's a tool. No judgement. PLEASE know you're not alone. I pumped and nursed 2nd baby for as long as I could - then moved to bottles/formula. I felt like a failure. It was a balance between my mental health and nursing benefits. My daughter is FINE - fine fine. Hang in there - don't give up. Sleeep when you can. Don't be hard on yourself. Get as much help as you can - don't judge yourself.
You guys are doing sooo good! Being parents is hard and indeed more people should talk about it. But it gets better, trust me! Our daughter turns 1 next month and it has been both the best and hardest year of my life. Don't feel guilty about asking for help, a happy mama = healthy mama. Mental health is so important as a parent
Ps I feel personally flattered that you said that being pregnant and being a mom is harder than going to the olympics, wow! All parents should feel proud!
Everything you are feeling is completely normal! I went through horrible post partum depression with my first. It was horrible!!!! I felt so alone, even with all of the support. We got through it though. You will get through this. There will come a day when you barely remember how hard it was. It’s so worth it. Just get through these first few months. Sleep deprivation makes everything feel so much harder. Hang in there. Reach out to your dr if you feel you have post partum depression. It’s very real, common, and very treatable. Do not feel like a bad mom for everything you are feeling. You are not alone!! Reach out to me if you want. I’ve been there and know exactly what you’re going through. ❤️
I admire how real she is. It does annoy me when people glorify it so much. I really appreciate this outlook. People always are on me because I don't want children. I respect people who take this journey but I respect the honesty about how hard it is.
Postpartum is so real and I remember it like it was yesterday. My daughter had days/nights mixed up and didn’t sleep well at first. Lack of sleep is a form of torture for a reason!! This phase was so hard for me - and it absolutely gets better!! You guys are doing amazing. Take the help - guilt free!! She’s beautiful and has amazing parents. Thanks for sharing the REAL parts of having children!! 🩷🙏🩷
THIS! Thank you for being so real. I couldn’t agree more that this isn’t talked about enough. Our baby was born at the end of September and personally, I felt the same way as you and felt that guilt for feeling such, like you. As the days progress, I have focused on the small wins (like maybe she doesn’t take as long to feed, has a longer sleep sesh, etc) and focus on treating each session as a new one. I told my hubby countless times that I felt like a bad mom because I couldn’t calm him and thought it would be intuitive. It’s not, and so many have told me that they are inconsistent at this age, learning and developing even though it might not feel like it, and let me just say that weeks 3 and 4 were the roughest so far, but the past few days he’s just gotten better. It will get better! Lean into your support system like you’ve been doing and from one new mom to the next, I’m rooting for you! One day, or on those rough days, one hour at a time. WE can do this! #mamasunite
Mykayla, thank you for being so honest. I haven’t had kids yet and I want to, but between my job and autoimmune disease I’m always exhausted and don’t know how I’ll get through this. Seeing other people post on social media they do make it seem easy and I wonder why can’t I be like them? But your honesty makes me realize….everyone has it hard….but not everyone is real about it. Thank you for being real.
Thanks for being so open and honest about this first period with a newborn. I had my baby girl a few days before you, and I'm so glad to see I'm not the only one feeling this way! We are made of something special 💪
Mykayla what you're feeling is so normal, but it doesn't make it any easier. It's SO HARD to have a baby. The first few months are brutal. You're trying to get your own body healed while caring for this little human, you're exhausted, and I think there's an expectation to be so happy and over the moon...but the reality can be radically different. There's too much pressure on women to make it look easy. The mom guilt you're feeling - wow, it's like you were reading my past thoughts. My daughter is almost two and it's so much better. There are still plenty of challenges, but I finally found myself again and I know I'm a good mom. You and Jonas have so much love for little Charlotte and that's the most important thing. This phase doesn't last forever. You are a wonderful mother ❤🎉
Baby Lottie is adorable! I feel like parents put extra stress on themselves for example: breastfeeding instead of pumping. I had 2 children, did not breastfeed or pump. I formula fed. I had no help at all, and sure there were stressful days, but I was in full control of my children and once they got a little older and I was able to get more sleep, things got 1000% better! My advice to new parents is to remove any unnecessary stress, and absolutely if you are lucky to have help, Take the help and never feel guilty about it! ❣
I'm impressed how well you are doing - I can't imagine how hard it must be. Be sure to take those offers of help - looks like grandma is really enjoying it, too!
Don’t worry I felt exactly like this when I had my baby I felt like I knew I loved her but it was hard to feel it and felt like I didn’t want her sometimes then have severe mum guilt for even thinking that! She’s 6 months old now and everything got better when she got to about four months old, your doing amazing thank you for being so honestly about postpartum x
Loved seeing such a raw view of the newborn phase! I love the authenticity of your content because it is so relatable and by sharing your experience, you are helping all the future mamas!
The first three months are the hardest! Someone told me this before having my first and it’s totally true! Just make it through those first few months when she doesn’t sleep good and everything gets easier! You’re doing a great job mama!
Oh Mykala, be so so kind to yourself. You carried and brought a HUMAN BEING into this world AND you are sustaining that adorable little snugget all by the incredible power of your body. You and Jonas are doing a wonderful job, she is safe, fed, happy and blessed and that means you got this!
She is so adorable! Being a mom is so so difficult. Your so strong and your going to be an amazing mom!! You've got this! Sending love from maryland ❤
Good for you being so vulnerable and honest. You’re doing amazing and it will get better ❤
You guys are doing amazing. So good. Just wait for that first smile right around 2 months, that's when you finally feel like all that hard work starts to pay off.
My babe is almost 7 months now and the entire video resonated with me ❤ it may feel like you’re not doing the right thing at times but you are trying your best and you all are learning. Just know you are the entire world to your little one. She is blessed to have a loving and caring mama. You are in the thick of it the first 2-3 months but it gets easier
My baby is around that same age as yours. I’m a first time mom and I have the exact same feelings. It’s so hard but worth it! Thank you for showing the real side of postpartum newborn life.
Thank you Molly for getting MyKayla out for a walk! When I had PPD my friends came and made me go for walks. It was HUGE to do that! It mentally got me in a 'fresh' mode and gave me energy and was able to better care for my baby!
I had my first baby 6 months ago and it is SO hard. Thank you for being honest. I was so not prepared for just how hard it was. The first few weeks especially for me were by far the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.
Yes, it's true. People need to talk about it more. I have one daughter so far, now a toddler, and I was definitely crying a lot the first few weeks due to lack of sleep, feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, and cluster feeding.
As people have told you before, it gets easier at 3 months! They start to have more smiles (and maybe giggles), and more of a personality, and often they are better sleepers because they figure out the difference between day and night.
Just wait for the toddler stage! There are definitely still challenges, but it's SO fun too! Hang in there! It's great that you have help from family.
Thank you for sharing a day in your new life with cute baby Charlotte. It really is a lot of new things and an overwhelming situation. Just feel what you have to feel in order to be better adjusted to parenthood. You are doing the best for your baby girl. I admire that you are so well organized and glad that you´re receiving help from your beautiful moms. Infinite love and blessings always...
Things are crazy after having a baby. Especially you're first! You're doing a BEAUTIFUL job. I struggled awfully after having my first. The experience was overwhelming and the emotional strain was unreal. My oldest is now in grade school, and while each subsequent child is still a challenge, NOTHING compares to the struggle of the first. Keep it up. You are truly doing a great job. It will get better.
I totally understand. When I had my first child, we didn’t have help the first two weeks. We thought we could do it all ourselves, but we were so wrong! I had some postpartum depression, and I thought we had made a terrible mistake. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I wasn’t getting any sleep, and I felt like I was losing brain cells every single day. Someone then told me that babies usually settle down around the six week point. And things did improve from that time on because my son started to be able to go longer between feedings. That was a big breakthrough for us. I hope your beautiful daughter will settle in soon and that the feedings become easier. You should start to get better sleep in the next month or two. And I mean maybe four or five hours at a time which will seem like bliss! You’re both doing a fine job, we believe in you!
Mykayla & Jonas You’ll are doing so good. Keep up the great work. Your never a bad Mom its an adjustment all the way around. Yes when HELP is AVAILABLE always take it. Going for a walk Mykayla thats good for your mental health too. Jonas is so supportive and a Great Dad! 👍🏼❤️👍🏼❤️
My oldest son, the calm collected football player now in college D1. Would cry and cry and cry, and then I would cry. I did not take the help offered to me. I learned well for the second baby. You guys are doing great.❤️🙏🏾
I guess I was very blessed. With baby one, he was perfect behavior wise. I was so overjoyed with how good he was.
Baby number two, screamed all the time. I immediately went to our pediatrician and found out she was allergic to milk,breast or formula. She was put on soy bean formula and the change was immediate! Always check first thing in regard to babies diet. It was a life saver for me.
Go easy on yourself this first year. It’s all new. Take one day at a time. You are not a bad parent. You both are rockstars. We’ve all been there ❤️
You’re right - it is SO hard!! But children are such a blessing and it will all be totally worth it!
I’m 35 weeks pregnant watching your videos and extremely nervous about becoming a mom. This will be my first child therefore feeling overwhelmed. Thanks for making these realistic videos that give me an idea of what lies ahead. I think you’re doing great.
I would just encourage you to take some good vitamins ( I personally take vitamin injections once a week starting at around 5 weeks before my due date, plus I ask for a vitamin drip right after baby.....that helps tremendously with the baby blues....often almost eliminating them pretty much . That makes the newborn stage so much better to handle. --- From a mom of 7 ...had my 7th 3 weeks ago. Also finding some good baby probiotics now already to have on hand when your baby comes , also some natural infant gas drops from mountain meadow herbs .....is what I make sure I have on hand. Also putting some good nipple cream on your nipples right after each feed right from the start before they are sore at all, helps them to not get as sore....you will still feel some. But it hurts very very bad if you've used nothing at all . You can do it mama!! Wishing you all the best!!
I wish more people posted realistic baby content instead of making it seem like everything is sunshine and rainbows. There are so many new moms out there who think they aren't doing it "right" because they don't look like Instagram moms with perfect hair and makeup with a newborn. I'm happy that MyKayla is showing the reality of how hard it is, even with help. Love seeing Grammy in there. My mom could barely stay away when the grandkids came along. I wish you the best with your baby.
@@ralphmarthadueck6663 Thank you so much for the tips! This is very helpful and good to know. I really appreciate it. Congrats on your 7th child!
After I had my son , I didn't feel like myself again till he was 2 months old. Sleep, eating and showering is what missed the most. You just pushed a baby out and now you can't rest and heal from it. The crying from a newborn is so loud plus it's like a knife thru your heart. It gets better. Trust me.
Hang in there… I felt the same and kept thinking no one told me the truth about how hard it is. My daughter is now 20 and love her more than anything but when she was a baby I didn’t think I would make it. No matter what people tell you it’s so much harder and you don’t know or understand unless you go through it. We only had one child by design 😀. You lose your own life and your whole world changes.
My mother and mother in law stayed for the first month. THANKGOD. I had post natal depression. I’m with you mumma. Your doing great 😊
Those first few weeks are so hard. It does get better though mama. Prayers for you sweetie! Embrace the help you have and let them help. And do rest when she’s sleeping as much as you can
So I am 3 months in and even with an “easy” baby it was rough (especially the first couple of weeks). I also remember saying that no one seems to talk about or warn you of how you’ll feel about your life changing. I just remember crying after coming home because I missed life the way it was and I felt lost. It has gotten easier but I still have my moments. It’s ok (and completely normal) to break down. I cried everyday in the shower for probably 2 weeks. You are doing great!
I felt the same way as you with my first. It was so hard. Breastfeeding was so hard and painful for at least the first 6 weeks. Then it got better for me. The nights are so hard when your breastfeeding all alone and so tired. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Accept the help and rest when you can! For me things got better around 6 months but it’s different for everyone! And now I have three kids. You can do this!
Myk, you're a great mom, and I'm so glad for you that you're able to open up and share how hard it is. That alone helps you feel less isolatated and alone. I work in maternity and have cared for hundreds and hundreds of newborns and their families for the first 6 weeks - All new moms feel like you do, their greatest fear is 'getting it right'. Give yourself permission to be 'imperfect' - cos it's impossible to be 'perfect' - end of the day, if you're alive, Lottie is alive, you're winning!! 💜💜💜💜
Welcome to motherhood. It’s definitely not easy!!!! Everything you have said brings me back to my pregnancies! My boys are 21 and 24. The first one was extremely fussy. He ended up being lactose intolerant which solved some of the fussiness thankfully. I didn’t produce enough milk so we had to bottle feed (formula). That’s when I finally got a little bit more sleep. I think all moms go through it. You’re doing a good job! Don’t feel bad about things that you say (I felt those same things). Postpartum is so so hard the first time around! You got this!💕
Exactly what you said! IT IS SOOO HARD!! I quit googling at social media after becoming a mom. It feels like a never ending marathon but it wont always be this way. You will marvel at yourself reflecting back on this period of your life or you may just forget it entirely! We have a 5, 3 yr old and a baby on the way in a few short weeks. The first baby was by far the hardest, everything being so new and my anxiety sky high at that time. You guys are doing great. Comparing yourself to unrealistic mom images will only make you feel crappy. It's hard and you can do it! xo!
Mykayla you’re doing great! I’m 8 months PP and this has been the hardest season of my life. It’s extra hard becoming a mom & yes I agree thst it’s not talked about enough. Some days your just getting to the next hour. You will get into a rhythm it just takes time to adjust. God will use motherhood to grow you in ways you never imagined. It does get easier. You got this! It’s ok to cry and breakdown..you’re not alot in thst and it’s very normal..keep taking those walks with other moms and get outside when you can. Depend on the Lord for your strength.
❤ Exhaustion is the worst. I did it alone. I’ve no idea how. So proud of myself and my daughter who’s now 16. You’re doing great. It gets easier xxx
You guys are doing amazing! Baby girl is so precious! Love the content and keep the vlogs coming. 💜💜💐🤩
You’re doing amazing and you’re an amazing mama and do not ever let yourself think otherwise, you know your baby best and you are doing. So. Good. 🎉 love the videos you guys have been a light in my feed since you began your RUclips
Things will get easier!!! 4months is usually when they start to get easier!!
I’m so sorry that breast feeding is hurting you so much!!! It happened to my sister when she was breast feeding so she stopped and used formula…
You’re doing amazing Myk! ❤ be gentle with yourself. It’s all a learning curve. I’ve never heard someone say being a parent is an easy job! Especially with your first. You’re figuring it out 🫶🏼✨
Oh girl I feel all of this ❤️ I also pushed for 4 hours and then they got my son out with a vacuum! Stressful delivery. Colicky and gas troubles for the first couple of months. Sleep deprived. It didn’t really fully hit me until 5 months just how much sleep deprivation affected me and my mental health. I have PPD and PPA. I used to absolutely dread nighttime. I was trying so hard for my son to sleep in his snoo bassinet and then crib and NOTHING worked! So I just prayed for God to intervene and He gave me the biggest peace about co sleeping (we use a side car crib with a newton crib mattress and I C-curl up next to him) and we’ve been getting so much better sleep and it’s so much easier to nurse him being right there by me. I know it’s frowned upon but if you do it safely (safe sleep 7 guidelines) it’s the best and most natural way to get sleep and you’ll notice when you start to sleep better again you will feel so much better. Soon all the wake ups during the night will lessen and you won’t even have to worry about changing her diaper til the morning! It’ll get to the point where you just wake up and nurse (sometimes I do it in my sleep- moms are so amazing🤩) and since your not physically getting out of bed it makes such a difference. I also had to go dairy free for the first few months and it did help!! I weaned back into it around month 4/5 and now I limit it but I still eat dairy! I too am obsessssedddd with Nesquik chocolate milk I had to drink it every morning while pregnant lol! It’s hard the first couple of months it really is. Survival mode. Give yourself lots of grace & love! You are an amazing momma. It’s so evident how caring you are and I love how you are open and honest about the struggles. Having help is such a blessing. When you are ready, a nice pedicure does wonders for a nice little treat out. I used to nurse my son right before I left and then I would have an hour or two to myself once in awhile! Things get better 💜💜
You are both doing amazing! Don’t be afraid to ask for help! I have no clue how my parents got us to sleep through the night at 6 weeks old. She’s so beautiful. Keep up the great work. 💕💕💕💕
A Good Mom asks for help! Trust me, it’s super hard work and you’re doing an Amazing Job and I’m Personally very Proud of you!! And she is soooooo Cute!
She is just adorable! ❤ keep up the amazing work mama! You’re doing amazing!
You have heaps of GREAT advice here but I'll add - set a timer to remind YOU to eat. I was very emotional, quite the mess, with my first for months. Finally I realized part of that was I was nursing constantly but not eating enough or regularly enough to fuel my body which left me extra tired/depleated. Take care of YOU and that truly helps take care of Baby.
I wish as a first time mom people talked in-depth about postpartum and how hard it was… just remember that it’s a phase asking for help doesn’t make you a bad mom it takes a village to raise kids your doing an amazing job ❤
My son is 3 weeks old and I feel you on all of it! Postpartum has been very challenging and I appreciate your openness ❤
Congratulations!!
The cat at the 20:50 minute mark is awesome on the box overseeing her people:) Congrats on a precious baby girl
Don’t ever think you are a bad mom for some of the things that you think. It’s all normal you do love your baby, but nobody said that raising a newborn was going to be easy. Just keep doing what you’re doing and love your little one and you’re going to be OK.
I sobbed the entire first month. It’s so so hard. It gets so much more fun! Hang in there!
It’s been 30 years since I had a baby, but I remember feeling depressed sometimes and also that I couldn’t wait to return to work. It’s so strange going from full-time worker to being at home with an infant! Thank goodness for moms/grandmas coming over to help. Then you can sleep!
You’re doing great! Breastfeeding will get easier I promise, definitely look at wake windows (60mins is recommended for a 4 week old) is my only advice as an overtired baby is so hard ❤ xx
Stopping breastfeeding was the best decision for me. Mentally, physically. All around. My baby is happy, fed, and I am doing the best for him
I just want you to know that you are doing an AMAZING job! I know how hard it is and I know it doesn’t always feel like it. You are a wonderful mama and you are doing great! I promise it will only continue to get easier. Newborns are HARD and you are tired and worn out. Remember to give yourself grace! You don’t have to look perfect or feel perfect and those moms on social media are only showing the highlights. Remember that! Comparison is the thief of joy. Soak in this time, live in your sweatpants and just do what you need to get through the day. You are doing a wonderful job!!
Hi, MyKayla. Has anyone told you to stop the soy along with the dairy? I had to do that with my 5th (she's 3 now.) She would cry so much for hours every evening. I stopped dairy, and it helped a little, but my pediatrician told me I needed to stop soy as well, because the protein is similar. It took a couple of weeks to get out of my system, but she turned into a completely different baby! From then on, I DID NOT mess up at all! I checked EVERYTHING I ate, because I couldn't go through that again. Anyway, you are doing GREAT, and it will get better! I always went through a few weeks of rocking the baby and just staring at the wall and crying. Those hormones are REAL, but everything will balance out! I know everyone says this, but the days really are long and the years really are short! You've got this!
I've been there, those early months were hard, I never did well sleep deprived. ❤ You can do this!
You are amazing!! Don’t beat yourself up!!
I love you Makayla! I am struggling with how you are handling all this. Yes, it is so hard. I have had 4 kids but if things are not working….change them. There is no reason why you can’t pump after feeding and let your husband feed Brest milk at night so you can sleep. You don’t have to put your baby to sleep. Buy a swing or a fancy bouncer. They are lifesavers for fussy babies. You are not stuck. You have options that will make your life so much easier. I promise.
This was really interesting, thank you so much for sharing! It made me reconsider how I want to prepare for my future child (the help I will need and what I might not be able to do while they’re still a baby)
The rest of the message is important too, but I wanted to make sure you know that breastfeeding shouldn’t hurt if the latch is right! I breastfed my first baby for over a month before I got help from a lactation consultant and oh what a difference! As soon as I got help with the latch, my cracked nipples instantly stopped hurting while nursing! If it hurts, get help latching your baby, she’ll get more milk when the latch is right and will probably sleep longer as well 😉👍
What you’re going through is totally normal, but also super hard. With my first baby I went through everything you’re describing, including feeling like I don’t want him sometimes 😓 oh, the guilt! But it’s just so hard to feel love when your mental and emotional resources are depleted… it’ll pass! Take all the help you can get, ask for help early and often, sleep as much as you can and get out for some air 💕
Love the postpartum honesty, I am pregnant with twins and it’s been an awful pregnancy so I’m ready for it to be over but at the same time I’m not ready to take care of two little newborns. I wish there was a pause button between the two to recharge your battery before diving into the next phase of parenthood.
you are looking fantastic! Yep...MOMhood is HARD! Nursing was hard for me, too. Sometimes if you have your pediatrician check to see if she is lip-tied or tongue-tied --- that helps with breast feeding! Hang in there...sometimes it is just plain hard. It DOES get better!
This time passes. I was alone with premie twins and a 2 year old brother. My ex worked 11p-7a after 8wks home to help. We had no help. Scott screamed from 11-530. He fell asleep and his twin Ellen woke up at 6a. They. Are now 37 and 39. IT GETS BETTER❤
I am SO grateful for this video. Your experience is identical to mine (7 week old baby boy, first kiddo, born at home) and you make me feel so normal! I wondered the same things- how are other moms doing this? Why is my baby crying all afternoon and evening? How are those moms going out and doing things?! Why is breastfeeding and latching SO HARD and SO PAINFUL?! When does it get better???? Thank you for normalizing the struggles, you’re the only one who seems to address these things!
Ps Charlotte is stunning ❤
Aww! your a good mommy,your wonderful parents ❤️
You're doing great, and your feelings are normal. I found breastfeeding to be very isolating. I'm glad I did it, but I can't tell you how many times I cried because I had to hole away to feed the baby while others were living life. Even if you go to parties you end up alone in a bedroom feeding, you try to go shopping and end up in a dressing room feeding, you go to a restaurant and end up in the car feeding. It's so hard on moms. Dads try but they can't truly understand how much bodily autonomy is lost when breastfeeding. Be patient with yourself and the baby. It's ok to recognize that being a new mom is not always (and often not) magical. Ignore everyone's social media. I promise their lives are not as good as their posts make them out to be. Never be ashamed of asking for or accepting help. It truly takes a village to raise a child. ❤
Your post reminds me that my mother, who had four kids in five years, once remarked that those years of breastfeeding made her feel like she was nothing more than a cow. 😢
You’re doing amazing! Throw her in the wrap she’ll sleep constantly and you can get more stuff done. I was hesitant with my first baby and now I wish I had done it sooner. Dad and wear her too! Congratulations!!!
I struggled with postpartum anxiety. I switched to exclusively pumping at 3 weeks pp, which it is a lot of work. It helped my mental state because family was able to help feed my daughter.
Ah I felt exactly the same!! ❤❤❤ Thanks for sharing this
Try a bottle feeding at bedtime. It will keep her full for a longer period of time. Putting her on a schedule may give you extra time for yourself. My first child was not on a schedule and it was really hard. I had twin boys when my first son was thirteen. The schedule made such a difference. The twins were easier than my first son.
The first 6 to 12 weeks are sooooo hard! They are trying to figure out how to be out in the world. Then the fun begins in my opinion! They start showing their personality more and being awake more!
Remember sweetie, when Charlotte is just squirming that is actually part of her sleep cycle. Even when she is stretching her arms and legs, until her eyes are open and she is crying, let her stay in her cradle. Those pre-wake moments are important to her. Charlotte is adorable!!❤️❤️
I also have asked for a lot of help and I am so glad I did because I don't know how I would have survived without it with the total lack of sleep. Never feel guilty about it, it is the wise thing to do ❤
You are doing a great job with her. I remember going through this many years ago when I had my daughter. PPD wasn't as in the open as it is now. Thank goodness I had support to get me through it. If breastfeeding hurts, you could try pumping and giving it to her in a bottle. That may help both you and her. Great job though momma!
I tell everyone that motherhood is the hardest thing I've ever done! It brings so much joy, but also so dang hard! I didn't realize how hard it was beforehand either...
Sometimes advice or insight is given and isn't taken on board until time arrives.
Asking for help is definitely ok!
Getting into a routine makes things so much easier... it gradually gets adjusted as the baby gets older.. Things will settle down as baby gets older.
A supportive hubby helps a lot!
Baby first - housekeeping can wait.
In Australia we have paw paw ointment that breastfeeding mums will often use.
She's getting older, she's learning how to feed etc. She will settle more quickly. There will be a time where they'll sleep right through the night. It's a learning curve for everyone.
The infant months are no joke, on top of all the hormones rushing through our body making us go nuts! I felt the same way and didn't think I was doing anything right. I got to the point that I needed to be hospitalized for my PPD. I just had another baby and had a tough time starting around week 3. I felt the same way, that I didn't want her. Definitely continue to ask and accept help. You need to be healthy first. And I look up to you to continue your breastfeeding journey. I started to breastfeed with our new baby and pushed through, but with my hormones effecting my mental health again, it was best to switch her to formula. Just remember that as long as your baby is fed, you are doing the right thing. You do what is best for your family. Thank you for speaking out as well!
My son who is now 25 gave me a run for my money when he was a baby!! He had really bad colic and NEVER slept!! Thank god I lived with my parents!! I remember sitting on the couch bawling my eyes out because I was exhausted!! My mom took him and I slept for almost 9 hours!!! It takes a village to raise a child!! You guys are doing great!!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤
It took at least 8 weeks to feel comfortable with breastfeeding. I tried pumping to alleviate the toll and have my husband help and it just felt like more of a job because I was doing it on top of nursing her. If you have a hakkaa, that helped build a freezer stash. Stick with it, it’s so worth it! It gets better, I promise!
You’re the best mom because you’ve asked for help! My mom never asked for help and great for her ego, to this day she can say she did it all on her own, but the reality is that I had a pretty bad childhood, with a mom who was stressed and angry all the time (and when you’re a kid you always think it’s your fault) and me having to take care of myself without any help very often because my mom couldn’t do it all (she worked too).
Please, ask for help.
I breast fed for about 2 1/2wks. Nights were really hard as my daughter wouldn’t latch, I had to pump, like all the time. I didn’t sleep, I was miserable and leaking in the morning. It was the beginning of August, so it was so hot. She napped, I would nap. I did the best I could and felt guilty for switching to formula, but my daughter ended up sleeping a few hours longer at night. My husband worked road construction as the head road mechanic, so he worked about 18hr says. I had help here and there when he was working, but my daughter and I had a routine that worked for us and she’s 9yrs old now and still needs a routine. It will be a little bit easier as they get older as they will be able to do more on their own. You’re not alone. You are a strong woman, you got this!!❤
Asking for help is ok, struggling is normal, I am so glad you are talking about it!
If you are struggling with breastfeeding I would highly suggest a lactation consultant- it doesn’t have to be painful!
Try the “tiger in the tree” hold on her. The pressure on her tummy feels good. Bicycle her legs when she gets fussy to get the gas out. It goes by fast. Good luck!
Oh man… I remember the postpartum craziness. I could not breast feed. Pumping was so much easier for me and my mental health. I still had to get up to pump in the night but it was so much easier. And don’t feel bad for sometimes wishing you didn’t have her. I felt that with both of my girls. It’s 100% normal. You are an amazing mom! Just keep hanging in there mama!
Oh my. This is exactly what I went through. Bless you girl, thank you for normalising this❤ try to take it one day at a time. Find something good in every day, and time will help you. This will pass, and guess what: YOU WILL MISS IT. I promise.
Please don’t be afraid to combo feed if that works out best for you and for your baby! My baby never latched so i have been pumping and supplementing with formula as needed, and she has napped great and started sleeping through the night at 2 1/2 months! All babies are different, so you are just finding your groove! Your mental health is worth so much!
Don’t let social media fool ya with it looking easy. It’s so hard but time flies so fast and before you know she will be 2. Keep up the amazing work. Moms don’t get enough credit, especially stay at home moms 🥰
I’m a optional gymnastics coach in MA. With my first boy, I got so delirious and overwhelmed I remember dropping my newborn to my mom at work and driving to the gym to go to work feeling the relief for not only a break, but having a life as well 🤣🥰
Did Jonas get any parental leave!? Back at work when she’s only a month old, you’re a super hero Myk!! Thank you for the honest reality of parenthood, we need more content like that!
You’re not a bad mom.. first baby & newborn is not easy even with easy babies. You’re learning and she’s learning how to be out in the real world instead of cuddled in the womb. You’re all doing fine!! Caleb is doing better than I expected- seeming to have a great attitude!! 👍👍 Good job dad.