My thoughts, exactly. If sister thinks her Mom is so great to live with, move her into your house. I *know* what it's like to want a Mom to care about you but some Mom's just don't have the capacity and you need to give up and move on.
@@spudnut00Agreed! Some people don’t have the tools to be a parent. Just because we love someone doesn’t mean we LIKE them. It’s a difficult choice of course and in my case I didn’t have to do or say anything because she never ever called, wrote, not even a smoke signal. If she couldn’t control me, she didn’t want anything to do with me.
Complete narcissist can’t even see her wrong doing and something so clearly wrong if that made them strong imagine if she would have been a better mom. She is a child
Tbf, my daughters father was a homeless addict for the majority of her life and she’s now about to get a Masters in psychology and Criminal Justice with the goal of helping kids of addicts…and she won’t go near drugs. For the addict to say it though is a slap in the face.
My Mothers best friend of over 60 years, allowed her son to mooch off her into his 70s. It was hard to watch. Mooching is WHAT THESE PEOPLE DO. FINALLY MY mom’s friend went into a nursing home. She asked to. She had had enough. 😢
@@beckymcmanus3367 She isn't responsible for her mother's problems! She was molested because her mother was a drug addict! Her mother has done nothing but take, take, take from her daughter. She wants her daughter's marriage to implode, because she thinks it means she's back on a fast track of depending on her daughter. Run daughter. Run!!!
The daughter was neglected as a child and now she’s stuck in this people pleasing cycle, helping her mother is where she gets her identity and self esteem from. She’s looking for feelings of intimacy but doesn’t understand how to get to them, doesn’t realize that she should be seeking them with her husband and friends. But the daughter doesn’t understand how. Gosh this is sad.
Something missing here. If I lived with my son and his family and had no job I would absolutely do household chores and take care of my grandchildren. If there's friction in the house, whatever the reason, mom needs to find her own place.
It doesn’t make her the better sister/daughter for enabling her mother’s behavior. She chooses to prioritize a woman who never once prioritized her over her marriage and children. Over her relationship with her sister too. Open your eyes.
@@Lisacrazed lol tell me how biden controls large corporations who are reporting record profits…ill wait 😂. I hate biden but blaming him for things that he didn’t do is foolish.
@@Lisacrazeddo you understand that Trump when in office changed up income taxes to go up every year for ten years. It’s a gradually screw so no one notices. But I believe higher income taxes leaves less money for everyone, right. The economy under Biden was affected by Trump’s 4 years. It takes a year or so to pay back those incentive checks. Lolol
Being selfish is not what she wants to be. It is inherent to an addiction. When you are addicted to drugs you have to score drugs all the time otherwise you get real sick. People do anything for it and lose all feelings. In a lot of times people get addicted because the drugs or alcohol takes away the mental pain they have for whatever reason. When you have been addicted for years or decades the behavior becomes away of life. That person does not know anymore how to live a normal life. How to be there for others without thinking all the time what to do to make themselves feel better. Or put themselves first place. They have to learn that again. If something like this happened to you I'm sorry and hope you found happiness
It’s only natural that Aja is ever hopeful for true nurturing from her mom that she never got. She has been parentified since age 6. But first her mother must recover from her addiction and take responsibility for herself and her relationships. I hope that has happened since this aired.
@@opalessence4818 I'm afraid that never will happen the mother does not know how and she will never get her childhood back the way she deserved. I tried for 20 years for my mother to acknowledge the way I grew up and give me some answers but never got it. She better except her mom for who she is and build a relationship from there.
I appreciate my African culture which actively cultivates/ promotes respect between son in law and mother in law. There is no way a mother in law could sleep in a bed a son in law sleeps in let alone entering the matrimonial bedroom.
The daughter has a savior complex. Just because the other sister is letting mom lay in the bed she made does not make her a bad person. The mother hasn’t done anything for herself nor her kids but the kids should keep saving her? Heck no
Why did she spend over $100,000 on things for her mother that are clearly luxuries. I never spent that kind of money on my own family let alone elderly mother. I call BS.
@@whosaidthat9265 if she was just talking about feeding her, taking her to docs apts, that sort of thing, it wouldn’t be nearly that much money. She was talking about expensive trips and cruises. And I bet she pays for mommy’s drugs too.
@@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x yea she can’t allocate ownership of expenses that aren’t living necessities. She’s complaining delusional imo that wig says it all
@@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x yea she can’t allocate ownership of expenses that aren’t living necessities. She’s complaining delusional imo that wig says it all
Especially "mothers" giving birth to drug addicted babies who almost die (or do die) because the babies are going through "withdrawals" after birth. That just kills me.
Why is he calling her selfish dr Phil is so irritating…kids always want that relationship with their mother and it’s hard to accept that you was born to a mom that don’t really care
In our state we have a FIA office. Family Independent Agency and they might be able to help, if you have one in your area. They also can assist with food or medical care.
10 bucks says they go to all this trouble and move her into a room somewhere and she is a complete slob, doesn't work, doesn't pay, gets kicked out and ends up back on the daughters couch
You’re such a negative person! I’ve read your comments, and they’re all self-righteous and judgemental. Who are you to judge this lady? Instead of speaking negatively about her, consider wishing her the best. Or even saying a prayer for her, if you know how.
Both mother and daughter have unrealistic expectations of each other, daughter wants a free babysitter who needs to be oncall, a housekeeper, a cook and have the mother pay $300. Where I live housekeeper $35/hr 4 hrs/dayx20days/mth=$2800mth, childcare=$1600/mth for 1 child +$300/mth = $4700/mth, that's some pretty expensive rent, and taking advantage. Mother wants to be asked to do something and live for $300, no wonder they are at odds.
This mother probably doesn’t have enough money to pay for her own place?! If she’s been doing drugs for most of her life then even if she collects social security it can’t be much?!
If she was really grateful 🙏 she would help around the house without having to be told *point is the mothers entitled and does not see her daughters sacrifices 🙄🙄🙄 she must go live with the angry 😠 sister 😒😒
Your mom and you need professional help!!! Get it now before it is too late!!!! Because your mom is using the addiction as an excuse!!!!! Get her out of your house or you’ll go crazy!!!!!
I see it all the time, people wont get married because the woman can get everything from government while man has good job! Bring back in home social workers to end this tax burden! I had 4 kids and had to pay 500.00 at tax time because my husband and i were trying to do better and rent our beautiful house to live in a fixer upper with no water or heat! Wtf
I do get where she's coming from....she doesn't want to suffer from guilt and worrying about her being on streets. I DO think the .on needs to be gone....but I sure get it
I feel so bad for the Daughter,having to play Mother to her Mother,what a selfish Person this Granny is,In my world the Grandparent is meant to be the rock and center of the Family.It's heartbreaking to see and hear the drug addict Granny justify her behavior,Disgusting,I hope Dr. Phil gives her both barrels
The problem with dealing with drug addicts is that there's no such thing as an ex addict. They use the drugs to self medicate mental illness and even if you stop the drugs which I'm glad she has, the mental illness remains. I hope that Dr Phil gets her mental counseling as well as a place to live.
I couldn't agree more... I'm an alcoholic/addict and drinking/drugs are only a symptom of the problem, not the problem. We drink/use to avoid dealing with the core problem. Take the drugs/alcohol away and you remain with a lot of surpressed trauma.
@@_Y.Not_ Not in my experience. I'm sure there are some perfectly normal people who become drug addicts & then destroy their brains, but in my 43 years of practice, perfectly normal people do not become drug addicts. They may do a bit of recreational drugs occasionally but those who turn to it to cope daily are those who can't cope without it. Which is why it is so hard to get these people into recovery because they could never cope without drugs in the first place.
@@nickisnyder3450 what is a "perfectly normal" person? there is no such thing and the fact that you seem to think their is has me doubting your argument. Using "your experience" and "your practice" does not lend you the credibility you seem to think it does in a youtube comment thread. Absolutely everybody to different degrees have had trials, tribulations and trauma in their life, no one gets through unscathed, its how people deal with that differentiate them, many people have huge amounts of trauma in their life and never touch drugs, some have minor traumas and become addicts, what makes them different? Why are some people able to cope with huge amounts of trauma and others not? Can they cope but have just chosen not to because its hard? Drugs are a choice right up until they become addicted and even then it is a choice. I have a chronic disease that caused me untold pain, surgeries, hospital stays, medication etc...I would do ANYTHING to be able to stop having this disease that will eventually kill me and I have no choice in the matter, I find it very hard to have sympathy for someone who made the choice to start drugs, became addicted, destroyed their mind and body/became a drain on society and has chosen not to take advantage of the myriad of resources available to "cure" them all because they "can't cope".
@user-vx9bn1wc5b Built in babysitter??😂 Her kids are school age and she doesn't even watch her kids full time. She just watches them occasionally. And her daughter is reluctant to be happy because she knows how her mother is and knows that a life coach will likely not change a thing
@@Naturefan354 There are always three sides to a story, her mom’s, her’s, and the truth. The facial expressions did not match the sentiment. It was weird.
The mother is obviously lazy and doesn’t want to work and provide for herself and have her own place when she has a daughter who will take care of her and let her mooch off her eating her food and being lazy watching her tv and laying around all the time. I just can’t believe the husband has tolerated it for this long.
I'm an adult child. And I would WANT to help my mother if she needed. I'm also a mother and I would WANT to help my adult children if they needed. It is called FAMILY. We are there for each other when we need it.
I can’t imagine burdening my child like this. People will do exactly what you let them get away with this. Why would mom get a job when her daughter will let her stay there. Put her out. Change locks.
Mother should have been put in less than 3 months. She never cared for her children. My husband and I offered to build my MIL and My mom their own homes on our property and to let them live in the house with us if they wanted. Sadly my MIL is in heaven now but still would love for my mom to live with us. Hubby os on board. BUT MY MOM IS NOT A JUNKIE. BIG DIFFERENCE. prayers for the daughter who is trying desperately to have a mom in her life when really mom is just using her.
I’m over 40 years old with a Master’s degree in IT but I can relate to this story. I live with my parents but I also can’t wait to move back as soon as I can. There’s drama and arguing almost every day. I don’t think adults living with parents long-term is natural. It’s called being fully independent. Living on one’s own is better for everybody and society.
It's keeping her alive. I'm a recovering addict (sober since 2019) who got rock bottom & my sister let me move in with her under the same conditions minus rent. I know that in order to keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach I have to keep house clean, take care of her kids, and stay sober. It's not a bad trade. That mother is bitter she's sober and will relapse again. I'm grateful for the chance at life again and never want to go back to that life so I do what I have to do with a smile on my face!
The mom is very lazy and selfish they’re probably never gonna have a good mother daughter relationship I barely have one with either of my parents they’re both narcissists and extremely immature and toxic
This is very clearly a severe case cptsd playing out, in both the mother and the daughter. They’re both suffering immensely and it’s just incredibly sad.
The mother is just "using" her.........gave her a rough childhood..........molested multiple times,,,,,,,,,,,there,s NO way I,d have anything to do with her EVER............out of rehab or not.........this woman, nice as she is etc, i,d have her looking after my kids in my own house EVER....the older child has the "right" idea.........have nothing to do with her.................
One solution: the mother needs to move out and fend for herself. No one owes anyone else a thing, not one penny. That mother has to stand on her own two feet. Period. I learned this at a very young age. No excuses. No way should the daughter have a marriage that suffers on account of the mother. That mother needs to get out. Now.
Ummmmm, WHY should she want to watch them just because they're her grandchildren?? She raised her children and apparently isn't interested in raising any more. She clearly said motherhood wasn't something she was cut out for... Unhinged. 😂😂
@@stephsays-503 but she DIDN'T raise her own - Aja was parentified from the age of six. The original arrangement was for her to do chores and look after the children. She seems to have found it too hard, and she's also telling Aja and her husband how to raise their children when she couldn't even get it together for her own daughters. I'm hopeful that the assistance provided will get her adequately equipped to move forward and redeem the second half of her life, now that she seems to have got sober and clean. I hope she can maintain that progress. ❤️
@@GypsyGirl317 Further proving my point... WHY is she being expected to basically help raise her grandkids then?? I understand agreeing to help with them as part of her overall living arrangement but her daughter went overboard with it
I had a friend who broke up with his girlfriend and ask me if he good stay with me until he found something else. After 7 months i asked him if he was looking for a place. He said yes, but could not find any place to live. So i took a day of work and found him a nice apartment in the center of the city for a reasonable price that same they. Shen he came home from work i told him and send him on his way to sign the contract. On a certain moment you have to take matters in your own hands. It was costing my relationship as well because we had no privacy anymore in the way sewanted it.
How dare the sister act like this towards t the sister when she doesn't do ANYTHING for her and Aja has taken care of her her whole life because her mother never did.
Problem solved...she should move in with the angry sister 🙄
My thoughts, exactly. If sister thinks her Mom is so great to live with, move her into your house. I *know* what it's like to want a Mom to care about you but some Mom's just don't have the capacity and you need to give up and move on.
@@spudnut00Agreed! Some people don’t have the tools to be a parent. Just because we love someone doesn’t mean we LIKE them. It’s a difficult choice of course and in my case I didn’t have to do or say anything because she never ever called, wrote, not even a smoke signal. If she couldn’t control me, she didn’t want anything to do with me.
Took the words right out my mouth. Sounds exactly like what she'd love (the other daughter that is). 😅
Absolutely 💯
🎯🎯🎯
Found Aja on Facebook. She looks like she is single. Andy is nowhere in her pictures. Neither is Janet
Just because they are your relatives doesn't mean they're good people.
Did she really just say her addiction made her daughters stronger, like that’s a good thing that happened 🤨
Complete narcissist can’t even see her wrong doing and something so clearly wrong if that made them strong imagine if she would have been a better mom. She is a child
Tbf, my daughters father was a homeless addict for the majority of her life and she’s now about to get a Masters in psychology and Criminal Justice with the goal of helping kids of addicts…and she won’t go near drugs. For the addict to say it though is a slap in the face.
Like she did them a favor or something I can’t 🤦🏻♀️
Right?? Who was going to call her out for that bs?? Insane
Yeah that is totally ridiculous. Sad
saying that her drug addiction is the reason her daughters are so strong today is kinda narcissistic, in my opinion.
My Mothers best friend of over 60 years, allowed her son to mooch off her into his 70s.
It was hard to watch. Mooching is WHAT THESE PEOPLE DO. FINALLY MY mom’s friend went into a nursing home. She asked to. She had had enough. 😢
Dang their rent is CHEAP
Why is the sister so angry at the sister who is helping
To deflect from the way she has callously washed her own hands of any responsibility
@@beckymcmanus3367 She isn't responsible for her mother's problems! She was molested because her mother was a drug addict! Her mother has done nothing but take, take, take from her daughter. She wants her daughter's marriage to implode, because she thinks it means she's back on a fast track of depending on her daughter. Run daughter. Run!!!
I will be damned if I let my mother, knowing she's a drug addict, babysit my precious children and be alone with them, he'll no !!!!! 😡
Right?!?
I swear people don’t listen to themselves
That was my very first thought too.
Shes in recovery did you miss that part?
@@perfectlyimperfect9129 Nobody missed that part. Good grief.
This daughter is conditioned to be the adult in the relationship.
The daughter was neglected as a child and now she’s stuck in this people pleasing cycle, helping her mother is where she gets her identity and self esteem from. She’s looking for feelings of intimacy but doesn’t understand how to get to them, doesn’t realize that she should be seeking them with her husband and friends. But the daughter doesn’t understand how. Gosh this is sad.
I really dont think that sister has any room to say anything when she hasnt been helping her mother at all!!
Yea because she’s done. Neither of these girls owe their mom a dang thing except for a drop off at the homeless shelter.
Something missing here. If I lived with my son and his family and had no job I would absolutely do household chores and take care of my grandchildren. If there's friction in the house, whatever the reason, mom needs to find her own place.
It doesn’t make her the better sister/daughter for enabling her mother’s behavior.
She chooses to prioritize a woman who never once prioritized her over her marriage and children. Over her relationship with her sister too.
Open your eyes.
Are we going to talk about what this mother put her through as a child?
get rid of that mother because you will loose your husband
Get your mother out of your house.
She can get into a recovery house that has women in it.
You have got to get this toxic woman out of your life.
Mom should be in a recovery halfway house
Mom doesn’t want to work!!!
Tell your mom to apply for assistance.
$300 just barely covers her groceries that she’s eating
This was probably before Bidenomics
@@Lisacrazed lol tell me how biden controls large corporations who are reporting record profits…ill wait 😂. I hate biden but blaming him for things that he didn’t do is foolish.
True but the house keeping and babysitting would likely cost WAY more… daughter doesn’t realize how much she’s getting for free.
@@Lisacrazeddo you understand that Trump when in office changed up income taxes to go up every year for ten years. It’s a gradually screw so no one notices. But I believe higher income taxes leaves less money for everyone, right. The economy under Biden was affected by Trump’s 4 years. It takes a year or so to pay back those incentive checks. Lolol
Lol, look at the daughter's and husband face when dr. Phil suggests the mother move. Lmao😂😂
She never had a Mother-daughter relationship and she never will…the mother is a selfish awful person
That escalated quickly
Boy! Tell us how you really feel. Don't hold back now, let it out.
Being selfish is not what she wants to be. It is inherent to an addiction. When you are addicted to drugs you have to score drugs all the time otherwise you get real sick. People do anything for it and lose all feelings.
In a lot of times people get addicted because the drugs or alcohol takes away the mental pain they have for whatever reason.
When you have been addicted for years or decades the behavior becomes away of life. That person does not know anymore how to live a normal life. How to be there for others without thinking all the time what to do to make themselves feel better. Or put themselves first place. They have to learn that again.
If something like this happened to you I'm sorry and hope you found happiness
It’s only natural that Aja is ever hopeful for true nurturing from her mom that she never got. She has been parentified since age 6. But first her mother must recover from her addiction and take responsibility for herself and her relationships. I hope that has happened since this aired.
@@opalessence4818 I'm afraid that never will happen the mother does not know how and she will never get her childhood back the way she deserved.
I tried for 20 years for my mother to acknowledge the way I grew up and give me some answers but never got it.
She better except her mom for who she is and build a relationship from there.
I appreciate my African culture which actively cultivates/ promotes respect between son in law and mother in law. There is no way a mother in law could sleep in a bed a son in law sleeps in let alone entering the matrimonial bedroom.
The other daughter should let mom stay with her. She's jealous
A lot of manipulation on the mothers part . If she’s destitute how can she leave
The daughter has a savior complex. Just because the other sister is letting mom lay in the bed she made does not make her a bad person. The mother hasn’t done anything for herself nor her kids but the kids should keep saving her? Heck no
Why did she spend over $100,000 on things for her mother that are clearly luxuries. I never spent that kind of money on my own family let alone elderly mother. I call BS.
@@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x probably exaggerating. Over 8yrs it can definitely add up but I also doubt it was that much.
@@whosaidthat9265 if she was just talking about feeding her, taking her to docs apts, that sort of thing, it wouldn’t be nearly that much money. She was talking about expensive trips and cruises. And I bet she pays for mommy’s drugs too.
@@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x yea she can’t allocate ownership of expenses that aren’t living necessities. She’s complaining delusional imo that wig says it all
@@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x yea she can’t allocate ownership of expenses that aren’t living necessities. She’s complaining delusional imo that wig says it all
No reason mom couldn’t have done all of this herself….. let the sister have her if shes complaining ….. sad.
No free babysitting
Screw that noise. Just because someone births you doesn't mean they are a good parent.
Especially "mothers" giving birth to drug addicted babies who almost die (or do die) because the babies are going through "withdrawals" after birth. That just kills me.
I know this woman has problems but to blame an entire continent?
Why is he calling her selfish dr Phil is so irritating…kids always want that relationship with their mother and it’s hard to accept that you was born to a mom that don’t really care
I don’t know where these people live but where I live a studio goes for $1500.00 a month
Mom is nuts. Move out lady!
I live outside with 2 cats because I can't find a place, I'm 62yrs female
In our state we have a FIA office. Family Independent Agency and they might be able to help, if you have one in your area. They also can assist with food or medical care.
10 bucks says they go to all this trouble and move her into a room somewhere and she is a complete slob, doesn't work, doesn't pay, gets kicked out and ends up back on the daughters couch
You win, your right
OR she moves, gets a job, starts thriving and her daughter's marriage implodes and she becomes a hoarding drug addict.
You’re such a negative person! I’ve read your comments, and they’re all self-righteous and judgemental. Who are you to judge this lady? Instead of speaking negatively about her, consider wishing her the best. Or even saying a prayer for her, if you know how.
Why would you let her watch your children!? Unbelievable.😮
I know, right,😮 like, wtf are you doing,
Exactly!
The daughter is trying to make it work
Basically, that's what I just said also, that's crazy !!!!!
My first thought too
She should go rent the $375 room
Both mother and daughter have unrealistic expectations of each other, daughter wants a free babysitter who needs to be oncall, a housekeeper, a cook and have the mother pay $300. Where I live housekeeper $35/hr 4 hrs/dayx20days/mth=$2800mth, childcare=$1600/mth for 1 child +$300/mth = $4700/mth, that's some pretty expensive rent, and taking advantage. Mother wants to be asked to do something and live for $300, no wonder they are at odds.
Investagate a lttle more. Bet the daughter is getting a caretaker check.
Why people put up with this insanity? 😂😂😂
I left my parental house when I was 16 and never went back, never ever 🎉🎉
So why don’t the other sister take her in ?😂 problem solved
This mother probably doesn’t have enough money to pay for her own place?! If she’s been doing drugs for most of her life then even if she collects social security it can’t be much?!
Watching this in 2024 makes me mad how much rent has gone up
Bidenomics
I was about to comment the same thing!
Democrats in Congress to print money we don't have backed by anything
I built a tiny home on wheels.
I live for 600 dollars a month.
It saved my life.
@@Lisacrazedyou must be a horrible person. No wonder your friends talk behind your back.😅
100k on her mom but she cant get a good wig??
If she was really grateful 🙏 she would help around the house without having to be told *point is the mothers entitled and does not see her daughters sacrifices 🙄🙄🙄 she must go live with the angry 😠 sister 😒😒
Your mom and you need professional help!!! Get it now before it is too late!!!! Because your mom is using the addiction as an excuse!!!!! Get her out of your house or you’ll go crazy!!!!!
Get out!
I see it all the time, people wont get married because the woman can get everything from government while man has good job! Bring back in home social workers to end this tax burden! I had 4 kids and had to pay 500.00 at tax time because my husband and i were trying to do better and rent our beautiful house to live in a fixer upper with no water or heat! Wtf
I do get where she's coming from....she doesn't want to suffer from guilt and worrying about her being on streets. I DO think the .on needs to be gone....but I sure get it
They are both using each other. Mom wants to be kept up and daughter wants a maid.
The daughter wants a maid and free babysitter.
WDYM? Her mother hardly cleans or cooks and barely watches her kids 😂 That's why she wants her out!
Selfish Dr Phil??????? Are u serious??😳😳😳
I feel so bad for the Daughter,having to play Mother to her Mother,what a selfish Person this Granny is,In my world the Grandparent is meant to be the rock and center of the Family.It's heartbreaking to see and hear the drug addict Granny justify her behavior,Disgusting,I hope Dr. Phil gives her both barrels
That explains her bad wig.
The problem with dealing with drug addicts is that there's no such thing as an ex addict. They use the drugs to self medicate mental illness and even if you stop the drugs which I'm glad she has, the mental illness remains. I hope that Dr Phil gets her mental counseling as well as a place to live.
I couldn't agree more... I'm an alcoholic/addict and drinking/drugs are only a symptom of the problem, not the problem. We drink/use to avoid dealing with the core problem. Take the drugs/alcohol away and you remain with a lot of surpressed trauma.
chicken and egg, many times if not the majority of times it is the drug addiction that brings on the mental illness not the other way around.
@@_Y.Not_ Not in my experience. I'm sure there are some perfectly normal people who become drug addicts & then destroy their brains, but in my 43 years of practice, perfectly normal people do not become drug addicts. They may do a bit of recreational drugs occasionally but those who turn to it to cope daily are those who can't cope without it. Which is why it is so hard to get these people into recovery because they could never cope without drugs in the first place.
@@nickisnyder3450 what is a "perfectly normal" person? there is no such thing and the fact that you seem to think their is has me doubting your argument. Using "your experience" and "your practice" does not lend you the credibility you seem to think it does in a youtube comment thread. Absolutely everybody to different degrees have had trials, tribulations and trauma in their life, no one gets through unscathed, its how people deal with that differentiate them, many people have huge amounts of trauma in their life and never touch drugs, some have minor traumas and become addicts, what makes them different? Why are some people able to cope with huge amounts of trauma and others not? Can they cope but have just chosen not to because its hard? Drugs are a choice right up until they become addicted and even then it is a choice. I have a chronic disease that caused me untold pain, surgeries, hospital stays, medication etc...I would do ANYTHING to be able to stop having this disease that will eventually kill me and I have no choice in the matter, I find it very hard to have sympathy for someone who made the choice to start drugs, became addicted, destroyed their mind and body/became a drain on society and has chosen not to take advantage of the myriad of resources available to "cure" them all because they "can't cope".
I was a crackhead for 3 yrs walked away 5 years ago haven't slipped or even desired to go back and no never went to re hab
Isn't she embarrassed??
The daughter didn’t seem as happy as I thought she’d be when Dr Phil talked about finding the mom a place to move into. 😳
Exactly. She looks like she wants a built in babysitter. The husband is kind of a jerk.
@user-vx9bn1wc5b Built in babysitter??😂 Her kids are school age and she doesn't even watch her kids full time. She just watches them occasionally. And her daughter is reluctant to be happy because she knows how her mother is and knows that a life coach will likely not change a thing
@@Naturefan354 There are always three sides to a story, her mom’s, her’s, and the truth. The facial expressions did not match the sentiment. It was weird.
Daughter just say NO
Asia is codependant
Give her eviction notice. Push her out. Your children shouldn't be around her. Put your family 1st.
Don't bring no alcoholic drug addict in your house it will never end well
Sounds like her mother is there for daycare services, that’s why she’s kept her over
Why doesn't the older sister take the mom I'm confused
Absolutely
The mother is obviously lazy and doesn’t want to work and provide for herself and have her own place when she has a daughter who will take care of her and let her mooch off her eating her food and being lazy watching her tv and laying around all the time. I just can’t believe the husband has tolerated it for this long.
If Aja is wearing a wig, it looks bad!
No doubt that it's a wig.
Maybe and if so, she may have a medical condition. If so, it's not nice to say it looks bad.
Would never take a hand out from my adult children
So you going into the nursing home?
I'm an adult child. And I would WANT to help my mother if she needed. I'm also a mother and I would WANT to help my adult children if they needed. It is called FAMILY. We are there for each other when we need it.
@@marlene56423 even if she allowed men to molest you from 5-7 years old?
It's another person that's ENABLING an ADDICT! STOP IT, it's a CHOICE!
Mom: “It’s a give and take relationship.” Yeah. She gives and you take.
Angry sister needs a roomie!
You haven’t been parenting you are doing case management!
She is like a child instead of the mother.....
Bet the mom has foodstamps too
Get her out before you lose your husband.
An apartment for $670!?! How old is this episode? lol
I can totally understand not wanting your mother out on the street. I can only imagine being in this situation but I doubt it’s easy for some people
Drug addicts......ugh what an exhausting lifelong nonstop issue , that's all they think about 24/7
Why not put the addict in a live-in rehab ?
I can’t imagine burdening my child like this.
People will do exactly what you let them get away with this. Why would mom get a job when her daughter will let her stay there.
Put her out. Change locks.
Wow. CPTSD on a platter. 😵💫😖
Mother should have been put in less than 3 months. She never cared for her children. My husband and I offered to build my MIL and My mom their own homes on our property and to let them live in the house with us if they wanted. Sadly my MIL is in heaven now but still would love for my mom to live with us. Hubby os on board. BUT MY MOM IS NOT A JUNKIE. BIG DIFFERENCE. prayers for the daughter who is trying desperately to have a mom in her life when really mom is just using her.
If mom doesnt like your situation, get the f- out.
They are using the mother to survive too
I’m over 40 years old with a Master’s degree in IT but I can relate to this story. I live with my parents but I also can’t wait to move back as soon as I can. There’s drama and arguing almost every day. I don’t think adults living with parents long-term is natural. It’s called being fully independent. Living on one’s own is better for everybody and society.
It's keeping her alive. I'm a recovering addict (sober since 2019) who got rock bottom & my sister let me move in with her under the same conditions minus rent. I know that in order to keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach I have to keep house clean, take care of her kids, and stay sober. It's not a bad trade. That mother is bitter she's sober and will relapse again. I'm grateful for the chance at life again and never want to go back to that life so I do what I have to do with a smile on my face!
The mom is very lazy and selfish they’re probably never gonna have a good mother daughter relationship I barely have one with either of my parents they’re both narcissists and extremely immature and toxic
This is very clearly a severe case cptsd playing out, in both the mother and the daughter. They’re both suffering immensely and it’s just incredibly sad.
The mother is just "using" her.........gave her a rough childhood..........molested multiple times,,,,,,,,,,,there,s NO way I,d have anything to do with her EVER............out of rehab or not.........this woman, nice as she is etc, i,d have her looking after my kids in my own house EVER....the older child has the "right" idea.........have nothing to do with her.................
Her poor daughter was groomed to be a caretaker.
One solution: the mother needs to move out and fend for herself. No one owes anyone else a thing, not one penny. That mother has to stand on her own two feet. Period. I learned this at a very young age. No excuses. No way should the daughter have a marriage that suffers on account of the mother. That mother needs to get out. Now.
You’re the Grandmother…you think you would want to take care of her children
Ummmmm, WHY should she want to watch them just because they're her grandchildren?? She raised her children and apparently isn't interested in raising any more. She clearly said motherhood wasn't something she was cut out for... Unhinged. 😂😂
@@stephsays-503she was a drug addict she didn’t take care of her children
@@stephsays-503 but she DIDN'T raise her own - Aja was parentified from the age of six.
The original arrangement was for her to do chores and look after the children. She seems to have found it too hard, and she's also telling Aja and her husband how to raise their children when she couldn't even get it together for her own daughters.
I'm hopeful that the assistance provided will get her adequately equipped to move forward and redeem the second half of her life, now that she seems to have got sober and clean.
I hope she can maintain that progress. ❤️
@@GypsyGirl317 Further proving my point... WHY is she being expected to basically help raise her grandkids then?? I understand agreeing to help with them as part of her overall living arrangement but her daughter went overboard with it
In the end - it's only kindness that matters.
Why doesn’t mom make a full commitment to staying sober and go into treatment and then into a structured shelter for addicts.
I had a friend who broke up with his girlfriend and ask me if he good stay with me until he found something else.
After 7 months i asked him if he was looking for a place. He said yes, but could not find any place to live. So i took a day of work and found him a nice apartment in the center of the city for a reasonable price that same they. Shen he came home from work i told him and send him on his way to sign the contract.
On a certain moment you have to take matters in your own hands. It was costing my relationship as well because we had no privacy anymore in the way sewanted it.
How dare the sister act like this towards t the sister when she doesn't do ANYTHING for her and Aja has taken care of her her whole life because her mother never did.
Omg, minus the drugs this is my life with my mom! I would do anything for my mom if it meant I could have a relationship with her
If I were ur husband I would take the kids and get out. To leave her kids with that addict is exposing them to great danger.
Who are they going to blame when the mother moves?? Ha
She's enabling her mother instead of helping her! She needs to be in a sober living environment
It irritates me the dr Phil videos even show up on my feed. He’s such a condescending man I can’t even stand it.