Talking from 30 years of experience with schizophrenia and anxiety my advice would be try finding friends within the mental health community who share your own experience and you can relate to. Go to some support groups. Maybe volunteer one afternoon a week in a charity shop or join a walking group. Attending a friendly local church is a nice way also to meet people. Loneliness comes and goes and it is something we all experience. I wish you well in finding some good friends 👍
Hey Stephen we went to the same high school, I had no idea you were dealing with any of this. I wouldn’t say you have no friends ik we didn’t talk a crazy amount in high school and I lost contact with a lot of people after joining the military but always thought you were a chill person . Your always welcome to come hangout, I also have struggled with depression for years and I’m glad to see your choosing to talk about it. I always found that a hard thing to talk about. Anyways it’s Esteban if you want to hang out some time let me know, I am in the general area. If you need someone to talk to I’m here man. Hope you feel better.
Hang in there Stephen. Living in your 20's with schizophrenia can be really tough. But, it can get a lot better in your 30's and 40's. Always hold out hope for making friends. A lot of people your age have difficulty making friends as adults. It's not just you or people with schizophrenia. But, you are friendly, kind, compassionate, and intelligent. You have a lot going for you. Always hold out hope!
Stephen if u have one amazing friend or two ur lucky u have an amazing personality and thankyou for sharing mental issues on line u have helped others. And ur videos have taught me a lot about schizophrenia keep positive smile laugh enjoy life take ur meds ur blessed
My son was diagnosed when he was 25 and he's now 35. He lives at home, has never lived independently. Lives with his dad, my ex husband. This illness is the saddest thing, and I'm always feeling so broken hearted for him. He's still a good and loving person, and everybody just loves him (family mostly) he's quiet and stays home basically doing nothing. I've just discovered your channel, Stephen! Thank you. And bless your heart .... and your father too ❤
Ou so much for talking about things my son is going thru this with him not even saying hes having issues I cry all the time I love that he loves God but hes having so many delusions this is so hard on everyone I'm praying for you I'm so glad you started this channel ty so much
My son is 20 and is the good respectable person he has always been.He has many cousins his age and does not reach out neither do the cousins.I am trying to figure out how to bridge the gap but then I start to ask myself is it really thier problem.Should I expect that from them to reach out to him? I think about the future all of the time and him living alone is a thought that plagues me often.
We have a drop-in center for people with mental illness. There are support groups and lots of fun activities. It’s easier being with people who understand what it’s like to live with a mental illness.
We had all that I'm Newport Rhode island but they got all this 💰 and then celebrateed with cut staff and shiny new offices and no more community room .. It's all clinical now and the community suffers so much and it creates more full beds at the mental health center 😢😢😢
As someone who deals with social anxiety and PTSD I can relate. You want friends, but having them around can be overwhelming. I, too, play video games, and it reminds me of a time when I only felt safe in another world. The mental health load you're carrying is uniquely yours, but I understand the weight of a load.
You’re so articulate and intelligent Stephen. I really understand the tight spot you’re in concerning making friends. Have you considered joining zoom groups? My wife is in several zoom groups with people who have the interests as her. Even zoom group therapy would be a start. I know that with schizophrenia nothing is easy and isolation is a terrible feeling. I admire you bravery and enjoy your videos.
You are so inspiring and brave !!! You are going to make lots of friends by sharing your story on your channel. You are helping so many other people with mental illness build up the courage to go out there and live life. My daughter struggles with the same fears you have shared and she is trying new things too like going to the grocery store. Some days are going to be better than others but I only see positive things for you in the future !!! Keep moving forward 😊
Your videos are very helpful! I am 34 years old and I was diagnosed with schizophrenia when I was 29 and I had zero friends. But three years later, I am better now and I think it's from Just facing my fears and being on better medicine. And I think after much practice of just getting out of the house it gets easier and I think u will make friends u just got to be patient.
You are an inspiration to so many people. I'm sure you'll make lots of good friends when you start participating in community activities again. Keep on believing in yourself Stephen. You have so much to give that I'm sure most people would feel privileged to be your friend once they get to know you.
You're not alone, Stephen. I have 35 and can barely leave the house alone. Let alone most people I know live in other countries. And I mostly am on my phone. Sometimes I see the videos of you walking by yourself and I Say wow I wish I could do that (the pandemic Made me even more isolated). And we all love Pokémon (and súper smash brothers haha)... Sending You hugs and You are not alone ❤❤❤
Stephen's story is both heartbreaking and inspiring. He has bravely shared his experience of living with schizophrenia and finding solace in the nostalgia of playing Pokemon. Thanks, @life-is-here
It's important to Stephen get support moving from Pokemon to new interests that help him grow, learn and be interested in the world around him. Stephen has schizophrenia as my own father did.
I understand not having friends. What helped me meet new friends was attending group therapy. Also I attend a Clubhouse in Orlando called Kate's Place Clubhouse for the mentally ill and that helped me meet new friends. They have Clubhouses all over the world you may want to check your area.
Thanks Natashia! That is a wonderful idea! I have heard about the Clubhouse and even have a book about it. I would like to go to the nearest one someday.
This video deeply resonates with me. For the first time in my life, I have managed to defeat many of my schizophrenic symptoms. But doing so came at a price. It brought me awareness of a profound void and loneliness that has gripped me so tightly. My own intrusive thoughts have me attempting to relive a past I can no longer have. And I can never truly speak with anyone about my own personal experiences because they are very quick to dismiss and invalidate including a gentleman that claims to be a mental health professional, but did me a disservice. This is yearning to be by someone. Just one person. To hang out and share experiences. Talk about anything. And just be ourselves is something appealing. It seems fictional. Perhaps a state of arrested development. But regardless of age, I think it’s needed. A human can only isolate themselves for so long. They need someone. And that is part of our biology.
Oh man...this whole topic of schizophrenia and loneliness has me in tears....reading your comment was so touching. My Mom is Schizophrenic, in her 70s now and never treated. I'm just learning what schizophrenia is this past year....not even a year yet. I had no idea, but it explains so much, but also raises more questions. Including my own mental health. I notice a change in my mental state and sometimes wonder if I could be Schizophrenic too. No idea if it can develop later in life or if brain injuries can trigger it. Or if my issues are just related to my brain injuries.
Thank you Stephen for sharing, it’s helping me understand my husband’s situation. He was very bubbly & outgoing he like you has really gone into his shell, very quiet. He has gone to men shed, that helps he also is walking. Do you have any groups that you can join? That have things you’re interested in. You’re doing a epic job with your channel, be proud of yourself. Hey I’m in Australia & you’re making a impact on my life. I do hope you feel better soon God bless Penny 😊
Bro you are an amazing person and I'm glad you're blossoming and exploring yourself and hobbies. I'm 25 I have had sza for about a year now and your channel makes me feel like I have a friend or even brother that has the same funk as me. Because of you I started walking, and now I've done 2 5ks walking ( with my headphones in the whole time) but you inspired me to get out and get active and now I'm trimming off my olanzapine weight little by little. I love you as a person and fully support you on your journey as well, you've inspired me and so many others. What if you made a Facebook group or something for the channel?
For sure no pressure at all, and I'd like to add that the community you've built already is beautiful sometimes it's important to look at the harvest you've already planted
Suffering from bipolar disorder and paranoid schizophrenia with social anxiety as well myself, i struggle to keep in touch with friends. The whole distrust issue plagues my mind. I applaud you Steven for your videos gives me hope to know im not alone. With my bp manic last year, i caused a lot of trouble in my local community, which i regret every day up until now, which has given me schizophrenia paranoia, constant fear that i will die if im alone in public. I will seek professional help and will continue to take my medications which cause me an awful tremor in my hands 😑, its very disturbing and difficult to feed myself in public with also bad anxiety on top of it. I will continue to watch your videos Steven. Best Regards from Australia 👍 mate!
You need to do a TED talk or something. You are such a like able guy, not to mention, inspirational. You have taught me so much! I am sad you have had to go through this but being able to share your insight, and your managing your situation is so helpful. Parents of kids who share similar struggles can feel helpless, but you give us hope. Also, everyone feels lonely at times. Getting involved with people with similar interest is a huge help because you have something to talk about rather than getting overwhelmed with conversation topics. Keep up the good work!
I always hate it when people say "oh it'll get better" and I'm thinking, well what about right now? I can say you will and you do have great days, they will become more frequent. Don't look for them they just happen. Remember you're just coming to terms and understanding your diagnosis and entering into adulthood. That's a lot to deal with. You will forever be learning new things. Take one moment at a time. ✌️🙂
Hi Stephen. I can relate, going to the shops was incredibly stressful for me. My teenage years were full of stress. Now that I'm on Cloz, the majority of that has stopped.
Totally okay not having friends! sometimes our needs & our interests change overtime... I feel like I don't have a lot of friends due to a lot of people not understanding how I think & lack of social skills. So, what I recommend is meeting people on forums/ shared interests. There are lots of overlap between schizophrenia & Autism. So you can get friends that way! Autistic people are super happy about sharing one specific interest. My previous boyfriend had Schizophrenia & we would talk about his interests. But from what you are talking about it sounds like you would benefit from a very empathetic friend / autistic friend that understand various triggers that you have.
Omg Stephen the screen is blurry because I'm crying as I'm listening to you share your feelings about the loneliness that can come with schizophrenia....I'm not only thinking of you and how you must feel...but my Mom who was diagnosed with acute schizophrenia, must've been in her 30s, I was pre-teens somewhere. She's in her 70s now and has never gotten treatment. We have a rocky relationship because she was very abusive, we've gone years without talking in the past. We've been talking again the last 3 years or so and i learned she's completely isolated, other than her husband, who I suspect has a personality disorder, he seems highly narcissitic. I really didn't understand schizophrenia until this past year. Since she never received treatment and my dad ultimately had to divorce her and got custody of me because she was so cruel and abusive towards me, and my dad sometimes. She scared me to death. Not only the physical stuff, but her odd behavior and her screaming. Blood curdling screams for no apparent reason, or she'd rock back and forth in a chair with her arms around her legs drawn up to her chest and stare off into space and not acknowledge me. Or she'd say I'm the spawn of satan or say I talk to the devil, and chase me around the house with rope to tie me up. It was horrifying for me as a child being left alone with her not having any idea what was going on. My Dad was an interstate truck driver, he'd be gone for days to a week or two at a time. So he didn't see what was happening at home on a regular basis until he eventually got work locally and was home every night. There's a lot more...I could write a book about everything that happened...but I'll get to the point. Fast forward to now, I've only seen my Mom for short stints a handful of times since her and Dad split up in the 80s. And every time things go sideways in the most outrageous ways. Her and the man she married after Dad live in hotels because they've been evicted many times for not paying rent, including with me twice. I'm torn because she's (they're) struggling more than ever in their 70s and facing another eviction as I'm writing this and have no idea where they're going to go. My Mom is bed ridden, hasn't seen a dr in many years, last I saw her 9 years ago her teeth were rotting, she has some serious sounding symptoms, has no friends, although a few years ago I asked my Aunt from my Dads side of the family if she wouldn't mind chatting with my Mom occasionally because I couldn't keep up with it by myself and Mom was very needy. Understandably, but still she'd give me guilt trips for not being able to be at her beck and call or read her mind (she hasn't worked since roughly the 80s, around the time she was diagnosed). A police welfare check was sent to them recently because her husband hit her and like I said she's bed ridden and in bad health and she called one of her prayer lines and told them just so she could get prayer (in her innocent naive mind) not having any clue that was going to happen. She got excited and thought they were sending a welfare check, as in money. Then when they explained that the police come to check on your safety she thought she'd got to jail! That's how naive she is! I don't know what to do. I keep thinking there's got to be resources to help her, but with her in denial about her diagnosis and the fact nobody knows except me, I just recently told my Aunt and she had no idea. Her husband doesn't even know. I don't know what to do, if anything. All my friends say let it be. It'll drag me down. As long as she's in denial and as long as it's been that she hasn't had treatment for schizophrenia and at her age it may be too late. I just don't know. I'm brand new to understanding what schizophrenia is and the different levels or types. I just don't know what to do and my heart hurts 💔
Stephen, you are a most admirable fellow. The poet Rilke says “Love is for what all else is but preparation. I think the good and worthy ones are getting their souls made ready and worthy to receive all the wonderful love and light you have to give. As the mother of a grown child who struggles with paranoid schizophrenia I have found strength and hope as you bravely share your heartfelt journey with us. God Bless You, dear sir!!!!!!!
Hi Stephen, There are many people out here that are capable of loving you deeply and fully. I for one, appreciate your brave and beautiful presentations to explain schizophrenia, how it is living with the illness on a day to day basis. I have suffered from this disease not due to having the illness myself, but suffering as my whole family was suffering, witnessing my Mother (helpless) living day to day with all of the disability of this disease without medication, or much support. Mom stayed home and pretty much acted out the horrible symptoms without relief. I am now 71, and I actually had dual grief reaction upon her death. On one end, I was deeply grieving her passing, and another, relief with the hope, that mom was finally free of this illness. Thank You, so much for your dedication and incredible effort to transcend schizophrenia, and do your best to live a life with as much positive energy that you can muster. Please know, I would like to make it clear that you can consider this old man a friend ❤for whatever time I have left on this planet. And yes, I went long periods as a young man before I could find a few really good friends, but in the end I found my best friend. We have been living together happily, going on 30 years to date.
Hello Stephen! I empathize with you🤗 . I'm so sorry! I am a 43yo woman with schizophrenia. I get that loneliness feeling often. I really don't have friends either. I had one friend and he is now my partner. Life will feel better. You are wonderful at expressing yourself and I'm sure you will make at least one close friend for sure! Hang in there! I will be glad to be your online friend😊
Hello Stephen. I ran into your channel about a month ago. My son has schizophrenia, and watching your videos is a tremendous help. You and your father have given me lots of insight, and how to help my son. Thank you so much! The very best to you1
hey Stephen. What you have to remember is that you are not fundamentally different from anyone else. I don’t know if that will resonate but what I mean is that you may experience things differently but you are first and foremost a human and humans exist to connect with each other :) so you will, I’m sure. You’ve already made such a huge difference with this channel. It’s very inspiring. Don’t think I forgot about my own! I’m working on it. I think it’s going to be called The Brain Storm. I’ll keep you posted! -Susanna P.S. like that silly song goes, “you’ve got a friend in me”…I know we don’t know each other really but hopefully when I start this channel you will find out more about me and what my experience is like!
Thank you for sharing Stephen, I am going through this issue as well. I have always had problems finding friends and keeping friendships going. I am lucky as I found my soulmate and we are married.
Hi Stephan, You amaze me. I mean, How you can work through these extremely challenging issues on a daily basis? I just don't know. One thing I really like about you is your honesty and authentic presentation of yourselves and how you feel. People that are extremely honest always have a special place in my heart. I can understand part of your loneliness. Like you, my friends have all gone in different directions and I am around others, well, not very often. Stephan, If I had the power to put you back together as you were before, I would do it in a heartbeat. Let's both manifest a future with friends, love, and happiness. The last two Christmases' were especially hard for me. I decided to take the focus off of me being alone for Christmas. So a few days before Christmas, I went to a local Walmart and gave money to a few total strangers. I just said to them May I give this to you?, handed them an envelope with money, and walked away. This action gave me great peace and I was able to keep my spirit from taking a nose dive. Stay strong, Stephan. I know you can do it. I wish you the very best.
Hang in there Stephen...it'll get better. You are a wonderful young man and you will yet have many friendships. I would like to have another pen pal...it's been a while since I've had any. Im a grandmother and of course much older than you are, but if you don't mind getting mail from someone that's older...😊 Let's just see how it goes. Right now I'm going through a lonely stage as my grandchildren all have their own lives and they do not stay in touch as much as I'd like. Hope you are well. I love to follow you on your online journey with mental wellness...I like to keep it up beat. 😊 Grandma Wutzke
Please do not worry. The world can be evil. God will put people in your path at the right time. AND you are helping people all over the world right now by showing people it is ok to talk about mental health. You are special and God is working through you and your parents.
Hi Stephen, I love that you are helping so many people better understand. My son has been suffering over 10 years without any relief. I need all the advice I can get to better help him. Where do you live. You and him seem to have very similar likings. If you could please help me help him get his life back. You are giving me hope ♥️
I just discovered your channel. I have a son with Autism (formerly Asperger' Syndrome High Functioning). I see much of your pain and concern in him. He is 19 and has no friends. He enjoys interactions when they take place and he wants friends but people don't "get"/understand his way of communication and style. They don't care to take the time to actually talk to him and find out what a great soul he is. I can tell that you are a kind soul also. I can tell that you would be a fantastic friend for anyone. I pray that both you and my son will one day find that, at least one, real friend who will fill that void which all of us enjoy. Peace and love to you my friend. Your heart is golden. I wish you and my son could meet. You would get along great.
Please know that you are worthy of friendship and love, despite how challenging it can feel to reach out to new people at times. People WANT to get to know you! The way that will happen is by slowly letting your guard down with people that feel safe & comfortable, and by being authentically YOU. I know how difficult loneliness is, but the only way we can combat feelings of isolation is to keep putting ourselves out there when we can❤. It may not feel easy, but small steps in the right direction will eventually get you to your destination 😊
Hi Stephen, there are many lonely people out there that dont have friends. Not just people with mental illness. Dont lose hope. There are some nice people out there who will like you as you are. You are a great guy deserving of friendship and love. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry you're experiencing such a challenging season of life. Even as a non-schitsophrenic, pretty neuro-typical person, I'll say it's difficult to make friends as an adult. Hopefully as you progress on your wellness journey it will be easier for you. All the best to you, my friend. ❤
Stephen, once again I can definitely relate to this. The emotional roller coaster, or the wave as you refer to it, is also prominent in my battle. Schizophrenia is such a complex cocktail of emotions. I am glad you responded to my reactions to the other two videos I have seen. I have a lot of videos to catch up to you on. Recognizing our differences from most other people is key to understanding ourselves. Even though I only came across your videos recently I am so happy you responded. I will watch more videos. over time
My grandson is your age and going through the same things you are. I wish you and he could be friends. But as you say these things are hard for you both. He's a sweet really smart young man. Please don't ever give up hope. I wish there was some way to get him to listen to your videos, but not sure if that is possible for him, and not sure I should even bring it up. Maybe you can address this in one of your videos. Whether or not to ask him to watch your videos. He tries to keep me from worrying and I know he does not want us to treat him as if he is sick. Your opinion is very important to hear. Thank you for your videos.
Friends are not everything, I hope that you learn to cherish alone time and solitude. You are so gifted and blessed with the vision that no one else can see. God is with you. Alone is okay!!!!
Awesome video Stephen. A really brave and difficult subject to approach and you are the first person Stephen I have seen tackling it. 🙂I think being able to read others is a quick way of knowing how best to speak to someone to initiate conversation. Easy starting points are noticing when someone is looking down, stressed etc. Then it's just a case of initiating conversation from a genuine place of concern for their welfare (e.g. to the lady serving you, you're looking a little stressed today, is everything okay). Initiating conversation is very much a learning curve, but don't go holding your self back, you have so much potential in making a real difference to others. In terms of romantic relationships, everyone wants a relationship that elevates them in some way. The more potential someone has to make someone feel good about themselves, build on their self-esteem etc. the greater the possibilities. Giving someone genuine recognition can also be a great way of validating someone, lift their spirits, make them proud of themselves, their accomplishments etc, or if they have gone out of their way to make a difference, to give recognition is to show appreciation, show respect all the while encouraging them to do more. It's all a learning curve, the more we converse the quicker we learn and you will develop your own way of doing things (if you haven't already). Hope this has been of some use. 🙂
@@SurvivingSchizophrenia Don't go over-thinking it Stephen, you've got this. 🙂 If you ever want to compare notes, send me a e-mail (it can be found on the "about" section on my RUclips channel)...
You are not alone-so many of us feel the same way. I am with the others who watch your channel wishing you all the very best! I think you will find friends because you are determined to work on improving your life in so many ways. So many of us are lonely. Sending you positive thoughts and resilience.
Excellent video of you being you! We all experience these moments! You are allowing people to see the benefit of expressing how they feel! This truly gives others permission to safely and lovingly share their feelings!
Hi Stephen! I'm sorry for everything you're going through. I hope that you make some very understanding and supportive friends in the near future. I think there is still a stigma attached to certain mental illnesses such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, etc. My mom was diagnosed with schizophrenia; I remember some of her struggles growing up. Sadly, she is no longer with us. (Rest in peace mom. Until we meet again). As we get older, I think it becomes more difficult to make friends. I'm an introvert, and also diagnosed with major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. I isolate quite a bit. I also can be at a party or be in a room full of people and feel very much out of place, detached, and alone. I would say that I have 1 close friend, but we both have very busy lives and don't talk to each other much or see each other much. Hang in there! I'm going to take a nap to recharge. Have a lovely day! 😊
I see people mentioning the Clubhouse. The Clubhouse in my town has a cafeteria/snack counter, an exercise center, a job skills/education center for people looking for jobs or people who want to finish high school or go to a trade school/college. Clubhouse members have also gone on some neat trips to water parks, amusement parks, camping trips, etc.
You have such a beautiful soul, Stephen. You will make it because of that. In the meantime you are helping and bringing comfort to so many out there. This is your strength. Keep going and doing what you are doing. You will be rewarded sooner than later. ❤
Hey Stephen, I myself have been diagnosed with Schizophrenia in my early 20's, I have found relief through medication, in my opinion what I found helpful in confronting loneliness is to partake in activities where you will have to interact with other people, this can be as simple as working on your education, and forming study group with people you'd like to work towards a common goal such as passing an exam, also finding a career path that fulfills you is also a helpful strategy as this can bring some much needed purpose in your life, undoubtedly you will be able to meet people along the way, in essence you'll be killing two birds with one stone, I know these things are much easier said than done; as a schizophrenic myself I have found that Avolition, one of the negative symptoms of this condition is something quite arduous to tackle head on, but remember life is more of a marathon than a sprint, so try and find the pace that works for you, I hope you found this helpful:)
Stephen, I think you’re right, that things will improve in the future for you. Best wishes to you and in the meantime, know that you’re being a good friend to others simply by posting your videos.
Oh sweet young man please remember you are delightful and so brave to talk about these painful feelings of loneliness and sadness. You are a treasure for humanity just keep going and shine your light ❤
Heeeeeey hey hey 👋🏼 Stephen from West Monroe Louisiana!! I just wanted to thank you so much for your bravery in your honesty and effort to help the world begin to understand your diagnosis and trek through your world in the world. Please please don’t give up and know there are many out here struggling with this and other like diagnoses. As a God daughter of a wonderful lady suffering with similar struggles as yourself I really appreciate your videos bc I am wanting to understand so that I can better care , love and educate others who don’t understand or disagree. Please know you have friends and people like me sending you good vibes and looking forward to your continued success in managing this diagnosis. Take care Stephen and rock on 🤘🏼 Also you are very blessed to have a dad (and mother I’m sure ) who are so dedicated to helping and understanding you!!! ❤
Loneliness really hit me too during the pandemic. They had us start isolating and for a lot of people (like me) it is like it never stopped. I don't really enjoy Pokémon as much as I used too, but I do sometimes like playing video games. I have about 2 close friends but they kind busy with their own lives. Me being Schizophrenic and disabled, I have a lot of time on my hands. Lately I have having anger and rage issues too, so that hasn't helped.
Thanks for sharing. I am schizophrenic and I am autistic as well. I have never had really friends, only acquaintances. Hang in there, I am also stuck since I completely have zero interest in meeting new people. Even since when I was a kid, I could not interact with people. We are all different, I still hope sometimes to have a friend or multiple friends, but somehow I started accepting that being alone is my path. You are not alone❤
When I was in my 20s I was very antisocial. I was afraid to talk to strangers and meet new people. If I went to a cafe where student and young people would go I would get very uncomfortable and feel like I just want to get out of the cafe. But I told myself.... Just go with the flo....just sit and enjoy your night. Enjoy the cafe and the design of the cafe and look around to see what people are doing and listen to the music. Now I have no problem approaching to people I don't know for small talk. I have one best friend and few friends who I only say hello on the street or cafe.
Stephen I feel for you I have schizophrenia and I’m alone I have family thank god but I want people I can relate to now that I’m 28 I feel like I don’t know how to make real genuine friends
Hi Stephen. You are helping many people w your testimonials. Know that you may not think that you aren't a great communicator but you certainly are. I listen to you often. My son Quentin also has the same diagnosis..it's been a sad struggle..a fight for friends .a day without overthinking..but it does improve as years go by. Yours will to and you will feel joy again. 🙏😍
Bro, I went through two failed relationships, the latter with kids and all sorts of horrible mind games. Today the kids don’t even talk to me because she accused me of so many false things. I get loneliness; it’s horrible, and the trauma left me with my counselor thinking I might be schizoaffective about 7 years ago; which came to naught but I did end up with some problems which seriously affected my perception and job. So what I’m saying is that I can be empathetic to your situation. So, message me, I’ll be your friend.
You are a lovely young man. I have trust in knowing that you will meet young folks that relate to you and will love you for who you are. consider that someone out there is feeling just like you and is looking for you to bond with. I believe they will appear in the best time that works for both of you. Best wishes and love, Samuel....
I don't have schizophrenia, but can relate to feeling uncomfortable in a crowded room. I think some people are just more at ease in the company of others. Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe hold a door for someone as you go into a store and simply smile and make eye contact. Do it as often as you can and get used to interacting in a helpful way. Baby steps.
Hi Stephen! You are so amazing and brave sharing your story. Someone else mentioned Clubhouses and I know they can be really helpful. Also many NAMI groups have Peer groups that meet and do activities together. It would be others that struggle with mental health so they can relate and be supportive. I am sure you can call first and speak to the group leaders which may help you feel more confident. Take good care!
You are an extraordinary and extremely brave person. You may be alone, but you are providing the public like me educational information on how horrible of a disease you have. So always know that although this disease is terrible you are literally making it your calling. So for I thank you and respect you.
I am new to your channel so forgive me that this video was posted a while back and I am just now commenting but I am just now seeing this and didn't want to not comment. I hope you will see my comment. I am 52 and believe me when I say life brings friends in and out of your life. You will definetely have many new friends. I definetely think you will make new friends on the channel. There will be lots of chances to make new friends. Ways you wouldn't even think about. So don't over think it and don't let it get you down. I promise things always get better.
As a person who suffers from loneliness and isolation I wanna say thanks for putting this out there. Even tho I have a completely different set of issues I can still relate and learn and draw inspiration from your courage and strength. I like your videos and advice like going out exercising eating well and walking, raising inner awareness. It makes me happy to see you smile and hang in there through all the challenges. Thanks for the inspiration and I hope you’re having a wonderful day too 😊
My advice is to invite all your friends that knew each other to the pub. They should come to see each other if not you. You can then talk to them to make them realise your still the same old friend they knew before your diagnosis. I recommend you actually say to them, ‘ look I’m not violent and am gentle.’ But mainly talk about funny stories about the past. Laugh about your past and join in the Micky taking even about your past delusions Your friends will eventually invite you out guaranteed, especially if your cheerful and funny and cheer up their day. I know this as I’m schizophrenic, and used to be really ill. Hope this advice helps.
I don’t have friends either. I’m depressed l tried getting out l panic. I’ve been depressed for many years . I don’t trust friends when l had one she try to destroy my life. I recently lost my grandson 33 to fentanyl. I’m going through a very hard time. I know how you feel about being isolated. The tiredness l don’t like at all. I can talk to certain people but others no. I’ve been watching you and l have seen you grow and get stronger. You have a loving family. I wish you all the best. I believe your doing good. You make me smile to see you talk about this that was my problem l didn’t want to talk or be around anyone. I didn’t like me at all . I’m a believer in Gods word and him. Without him l wouldn’t be here today. I have good days l have bad days but on bad days l rely on Jesus help. Please keep doing your videos and trust in you for getting better. I know you will God bless you and your family 🙏
My grandmother encouraged me to go find activities in the community. I moved from California to Oklahoma and I'm having to start over. I feel you. I'm in my 30s and I also have schizophrenia and high functioning autism. Hang in there bro. You'll make friends and it takes time. I'm glad that you're sharing this. God's with you. 😎 I've been working on building friendships with church and work. I hope great things for you and if you ever feel lonesome just talk to God. That's what I do.
I lost all my school friends in my early 20s with schizophrenia and my social skills faded to nothing... I only have one friend now of well over 30 years... You only need very few Good friends... Even Oprah Winfrey says the same thing ha... Hope it works out soon 🙂
That you for your openness and honesty. You have extra challenges, but be assured this is a season in your life; it's not forever. See if there is a pokemon group in your area, or a game store that hosts game events, add maybe try attending. Find community and church group events and try them out. Do some volunteer work. Anywhere you can interact with people. You've got a heart to connect and you appear so caring. You have a lot to offer to a friend. You'll overcome some if your challenges and have a friend in the future. Take care.
You're an amazing young man. I bet you are a wonderful friend to others. I wish you every happiness.. Keep doing you and the rest will fall into place. X
Thank you for sharing this Stephen I no it not easy I have a son going through the same thing just hang in there I’m 🙏🏿 🙏🏿for you to find a good friend
You are so sweet. You have inspired so many people. Keep going. You only one person to be that teue freind. And dont think its because of you that ypu dont have freinds. Lots of people are lonely these days. Thats the way it is.
Would you consider playing MMORPG? After I was no longer in school I found that was a GREAT way to make friends and the pressure is off or if you have a bad day you can just take the day for yourself. Just a thought. Hope you’re feeling better, and you always have all of us! Thank you for sharing your life.
Stephen, have you ever considered having a P.O. Box so your subscribers can send you cards/notes of support?? You're always uplifting others & you fill us with hope!! Just a thought!!❤❤❤
Hey there. I just wanted to say that your an amazing young man. I enjoy hearing about your experiences. Of course I wish you the best in your healing journey. Keep it up. Your doing an excellent job!
I like how you turn a negative feeling into an opportunity to get better. It isn't as easy for me. Hey, have you ever thought flying a drone and making videos? It's fun and relaxing for me. I also like to work out, that helps a lot. You can also do it at home. You only need a few dumbbells and watch some RUclips videos and you're ready to go. No matter how many friends a person has, at the end of the day your real friends are less than the fingers in one hand :") Peace ✌️ Stephen and keep smiling to life. Thanks for sharing your experience. It feels like group therapy.
Lots of people dont have friends...its a hard life for some people even people without mental illness. However i think you will meet someone very special someday because you're very special...you will meet a group of people to call friends and find your way because God loves you and you deserve it.❤
Such an honest and touching video. It really makes me want to make a bigger effort to help my son connect with some friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
You are really a nice guy and you will make friends. Church groups and community support groups with people your own age might be a good place to start. I don’t believe in organized religion but you might meet folks who are committed to being kind and helpful! That’s the most important thing anyway. Kindness and a willingness to be good to other people is what is most important, and you might have a fun time with people in support groups and church groups. You are very appealing and likable! More power to you! Best wishes!
Talking from 30 years of experience with schizophrenia and anxiety my advice would be try finding friends within the mental health community who share your own experience and you can relate to. Go to some support groups. Maybe volunteer one afternoon a week in a charity shop or join a walking group. Attending a friendly local church is a nice way also to meet people. Loneliness comes and goes and it is something we all experience. I wish you well in finding some good friends 👍
Thank you Graham for the good advice!
Excellent advice ❤
GREAT suggestions Graham.
Yeah, that is good advice.
Hey Stephen we went to the same high school, I had no idea you were dealing with any of this. I wouldn’t say you have no friends ik we didn’t talk a crazy amount in high school and I lost contact with a lot of people after joining the military but always thought you were a chill person . Your always welcome to come hangout, I also have struggled with depression for years and I’m glad to see your choosing to talk about it. I always found that a hard thing to talk about. Anyways it’s Esteban if you want to hang out some time let me know, I am in the general area. If you need someone to talk to I’m here man. Hope you feel better.
Wow Esteban, that is so cool that you reached out to Stephen & invited him to hang out. Way to go.
Hang in there Stephen. Living in your 20's with schizophrenia can be really tough. But, it can get a lot better in your 30's and 40's. Always hold out hope for making friends.
A lot of people your age have difficulty making friends as adults. It's not just you or people with schizophrenia. But, you are friendly, kind, compassionate, and intelligent. You have a lot going for you. Always hold out hope!
Thank you very much! I will definitely hold on to hope
One true friend is worth a thousand fake ones.
@@dramatriangle Totally agree, better to have a few true friends that many fake ones.
Stephen if u have one amazing friend or two ur lucky u have an amazing personality and thankyou for sharing mental issues on line u have helped others. And ur videos have taught me a lot about schizophrenia keep positive smile laugh enjoy life take ur meds ur blessed
Pray that God will bring you a friend that is just right for you. I've prayed for friends and God answered my prayers.
I'm honored to be your schizo internet friend and I hope you're happy and healthy my guy
Thank you McDizzle!
@@SurvivingSchizophrenia find a gf
You really help me understand what my daughter goes through and it helps me to be a better support to her. Thank you.
Thank you Theresa!
So true.
My son was diagnosed when he was 25 and he's now 35. He lives at home, has never lived independently. Lives with his dad, my ex husband. This illness is the saddest thing, and I'm always feeling so broken hearted for him. He's still a good and loving person, and everybody just loves him (family mostly) he's quiet and stays home basically doing nothing.
I've just discovered your channel, Stephen! Thank you. And bless your heart .... and your father too ❤
It's very hard to live with it's disabling I'm dealing with it and it's hell on earth
How come hes not living with you? If I may ask.
Ou so much for talking about things my son is going thru this with him not even saying hes having issues I cry all the time I love that he loves God but hes having so many delusions this is so hard on everyone I'm praying for you I'm so glad you started this channel ty so much
My son is 20 and is the good respectable person he has always been.He has many cousins his age and does not reach out neither do the cousins.I am trying to figure out how to bridge the gap but then I start to ask myself is it really thier problem.Should I expect that from them to reach out to him?
I think about the future all of the time and him living alone is a thought that plagues me often.
We have a drop-in center for people with mental illness. There are support groups and lots of fun activities. It’s easier being with people who understand what it’s like to live with a mental illness.
Thank you Shelley for your excellent idea! I am looking into local drop in support centers as a way to make friends.
That sounds great
Really great idea
We had all that I'm Newport Rhode island but they got all this 💰 and then celebrateed with cut staff and shiny new offices and no more community room ..
It's all clinical now and the community suffers so much and it creates more full beds at the mental health center 😢😢😢
As someone who deals with social anxiety and PTSD I can relate.
You want friends, but having them around can be overwhelming.
I, too, play video games, and it reminds me of a time when I only felt safe in another world.
The mental health load you're carrying is uniquely yours, but I understand the weight of a load.
You’re so articulate and intelligent Stephen. I really understand the tight spot you’re in concerning making friends. Have you considered joining zoom groups? My wife is in several zoom groups with people who have the interests as her. Even zoom group therapy would be a start. I know that with schizophrenia nothing is easy and isolation is a terrible feeling. I admire you bravery and enjoy your videos.
Thank you very much Paul
You are so inspiring and brave !!! You are going to make lots of friends by sharing your story on your channel. You are helping so many other people with mental illness build up the courage to go out there and live life. My daughter struggles with the same fears you have shared and she is trying new things too like going to the grocery store. Some days are going to be better than others but I only see positive things for you in the future !!! Keep moving forward 😊
Thank you very much Glen for your kind comment and for sharing!
Your videos are very helpful! I am 34 years old and I was diagnosed with schizophrenia when I was 29 and I had zero friends. But three years later, I am better now and I think it's from Just facing my fears and being on better medicine. And I think after much practice of just getting out of the house it gets easier and I think u will make friends u just got to be patient.
Thank you Lauren for sharing and your support!
Do you care to share what meds seemed to help you the most? We are trying to get our 32 yr old son stabilized. He has been on Zyprexa for a few years.
You are an inspiration to so many people. I'm sure you'll make lots of good friends when you start participating in community activities again. Keep on believing in yourself Stephen. You have so much to give that I'm sure most people would feel privileged to be your friend once they get to know you.
Thank you very much Catherine! That makes me feel good
You're not alone, Stephen. I have 35 and can barely leave the house alone. Let alone most people I know live in other countries. And I mostly am on my phone. Sometimes I see the videos of you walking by yourself and I Say wow I wish I could do that (the pandemic Made me even more isolated). And we all love Pokémon (and súper smash brothers haha)...
Sending You hugs and You are not alone ❤❤❤
Thank you very much Diana! It means so much to me!
Stephen's story is both heartbreaking and inspiring. He has bravely shared his experience of living with schizophrenia and finding solace in the nostalgia of playing Pokemon.
Thanks, @life-is-here
Thank you very much!
It's important to Stephen get support moving from Pokemon to new interests that help him grow, learn and be interested in the world around him. Stephen has schizophrenia as my own father did.
I understand not having friends. What helped me meet new friends was attending group therapy. Also I attend a Clubhouse in Orlando called Kate's Place Clubhouse for the mentally ill and that helped me meet new friends. They have Clubhouses all over the world you may want to check your area.
Thanks Natashia! That is a wonderful idea! I have heard about the Clubhouse and even have a book about it. I would like to go to the nearest one someday.
This video deeply resonates with me. For the first time in my life, I have managed to defeat many of my schizophrenic symptoms. But doing so came at a price. It brought me awareness of a profound void and loneliness that has gripped me so tightly. My own intrusive thoughts have me attempting to relive a past I can no longer have. And I can never truly speak with anyone about my own personal experiences because they are very quick to dismiss and invalidate including a gentleman that claims to be a mental health professional, but did me a disservice. This is yearning to be by someone. Just one person. To hang out and share experiences. Talk about anything. And just be ourselves is something appealing. It seems fictional. Perhaps a state of arrested development. But regardless of age, I think it’s needed. A human can only isolate themselves for so long. They need someone. And that is part of our biology.
Oh man...this whole topic of schizophrenia and loneliness has me in tears....reading your comment was so touching. My Mom is Schizophrenic, in her 70s now and never treated. I'm just learning what schizophrenia is this past year....not even a year yet. I had no idea, but it explains so much, but also raises more questions. Including my own mental health. I notice a change in my mental state and sometimes wonder if I could be Schizophrenic too. No idea if it can develop later in life or if brain injuries can trigger it. Or if my issues are just related to my brain injuries.
Thank you Stephen for sharing, it’s helping me understand my husband’s situation. He was very bubbly & outgoing he like you has really gone into his shell, very quiet.
He has gone to men shed, that helps he also is walking. Do you have any groups that you can join? That have things you’re interested in.
You’re doing a epic job with your channel, be proud of yourself. Hey I’m in Australia & you’re making a impact on my life. I do hope you feel better soon God bless Penny 😊
Thank you very much Penny!
Bro you are an amazing person and I'm glad you're blossoming and exploring yourself and hobbies. I'm 25 I have had sza for about a year now and your channel makes me feel like I have a friend or even brother that has the same funk as me. Because of you I started walking, and now I've done 2 5ks walking ( with my headphones in the whole time) but you inspired me to get out and get active and now I'm trimming off my olanzapine weight little by little. I love you as a person and fully support you on your journey as well, you've inspired me and so many others. What if you made a Facebook group or something for the channel?
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Thank you McDizzle! I am not currently on Facebook or other social media, but hopefully I will be in the future when I feel I am able to.
For sure no pressure at all, and I'd like to add that the community you've built already is beautiful sometimes it's important to look at the harvest you've already planted
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You are a great guy! I think you could make some nice friends at church by joining some groups.❤
Suffering from bipolar disorder and paranoid schizophrenia with social anxiety as well myself, i struggle to keep in touch with friends. The whole distrust issue plagues my mind. I applaud you Steven for your videos gives me hope to know im not alone. With my bp manic last year, i caused a lot of trouble in my local community, which i regret every day up until now, which has given me schizophrenia paranoia, constant fear that i will die if im alone in public. I will seek professional help and will continue to take my medications which cause me an awful tremor in my hands 😑, its very disturbing and difficult to feed myself in public with also bad anxiety on top of it. I will continue to watch your videos Steven. Best Regards from Australia 👍 mate!
You need to do a TED talk or something. You are such a like able guy, not to mention, inspirational. You have taught me so much! I am sad you have had to go through this but being able to share your insight, and your managing your situation is so helpful. Parents of kids who share similar struggles can feel helpless, but you give us hope. Also, everyone feels lonely at times. Getting involved with people with similar interest is a huge help because you have something to talk about rather than getting overwhelmed with conversation topics. Keep up the good work!
This is so real for so many. Again thank you for being so honest. You are amazing and i really hope you find some like minded people.
Thank you very much!
I always hate it when people say "oh it'll get better" and I'm thinking, well what about right now? I can say you will and you do have great days, they will become more frequent. Don't look for them they just happen. Remember you're just coming to terms and understanding your diagnosis and entering into adulthood. That's a lot to deal with. You will forever be learning new things. Take one moment at a time. ✌️🙂
Thanks Pauline for your profound advice! I will try to take life one moment at a time
Hi Stephen. I can relate, going to the shops was incredibly stressful for me. My teenage years were full of stress. Now that I'm on Cloz, the majority of that has stopped.
Thank you very much John
Totally okay not having friends! sometimes our needs & our interests change overtime... I feel like I don't have a lot of friends due to a lot of people not understanding how I think & lack of social skills. So, what I recommend is meeting people on forums/ shared interests. There are lots of overlap between schizophrenia & Autism. So you can get friends that way! Autistic people are super happy about sharing one specific interest. My previous boyfriend had Schizophrenia & we would talk about his interests. But from what you are talking about it sounds like you would benefit from a very empathetic friend / autistic friend that understand various triggers that you have.
Also feel free to DM me! I am quite busy with work right now but always open to chat!
Thanks very much Joseph!
Omg Stephen the screen is blurry because I'm crying as I'm listening to you share your feelings about the loneliness that can come with schizophrenia....I'm not only thinking of you and how you must feel...but my Mom who was diagnosed with acute schizophrenia, must've been in her 30s, I was pre-teens somewhere. She's in her 70s now and has never gotten treatment. We have a rocky relationship because she was very abusive, we've gone years without talking in the past. We've been talking again the last 3 years or so and i learned she's completely isolated, other than her husband, who I suspect has a personality disorder, he seems highly narcissitic.
I really didn't understand schizophrenia until this past year. Since she never received treatment and my dad ultimately had to divorce her and got custody of me because she was so cruel and abusive towards me, and my dad sometimes. She scared me to death. Not only the physical stuff, but her odd behavior and her screaming. Blood curdling screams for no apparent reason, or she'd rock back and forth in a chair with her arms around her legs drawn up to her chest and stare off into space and not acknowledge me. Or she'd say I'm the spawn of satan or say I talk to the devil, and chase me around the house with rope to tie me up. It was horrifying for me as a child being left alone with her not having any idea what was going on.
My Dad was an interstate truck driver, he'd be gone for days to a week or two at a time. So he didn't see what was happening at home on a regular basis until he eventually got work locally and was home every night.
There's a lot more...I could write a book about everything that happened...but I'll get to the point.
Fast forward to now, I've only seen my Mom for short stints a handful of times since her and Dad split up in the 80s. And every time things go sideways in the most outrageous ways. Her and the man she married after Dad live in hotels because they've been evicted many times for not paying rent, including with me twice.
I'm torn because she's (they're) struggling more than ever in their 70s and facing another eviction as I'm writing this and have no idea where they're going to go. My Mom is bed ridden, hasn't seen a dr in many years, last I saw her 9 years ago her teeth were rotting, she has some serious sounding symptoms, has no friends, although a few years ago I asked my Aunt from my Dads side of the family if she wouldn't mind chatting with my Mom occasionally because I couldn't keep up with it by myself and Mom was very needy. Understandably, but still she'd give me guilt trips for not being able to be at her beck and call or read her mind (she hasn't worked since roughly the 80s, around the time she was diagnosed). A police welfare check was sent to them recently because her husband hit her and like I said she's bed ridden and in bad health and she called one of her prayer lines and told them just so she could get prayer (in her innocent naive mind) not having any clue that was going to happen. She got excited and thought they were sending a welfare check, as in money. Then when they explained that the police come to check on your safety she thought she'd got to jail! That's how naive she is!
I don't know what to do. I keep thinking there's got to be resources to help her, but with her in denial about her diagnosis and the fact nobody knows except me, I just recently told my Aunt and she had no idea. Her husband doesn't even know. I don't know what to do, if anything. All my friends say let it be. It'll drag me down. As long as she's in denial and as long as it's been that she hasn't had treatment for schizophrenia and at her age it may be too late. I just don't know. I'm brand new to understanding what schizophrenia is and the different levels or types. I just don't know what to do and my heart hurts 💔
Stephen, you are a most admirable fellow. The poet Rilke says “Love is for what all else is but preparation. I think the good and worthy ones are getting their souls made ready and worthy to receive all the wonderful love and light you have to give. As the mother of a grown child who struggles with paranoid schizophrenia I have found strength and hope as you bravely share your heartfelt journey with us. God Bless You, dear sir!!!!!!!
Hi Stephen, There are many people out here that are capable of loving you deeply and fully. I for one, appreciate your brave and beautiful presentations to explain schizophrenia, how it is living with the illness on a day to day basis. I have suffered from this disease not due to having the illness myself, but suffering as my whole family was suffering, witnessing my Mother (helpless) living day to day with all of the disability of this disease without medication, or much support. Mom stayed home and pretty much acted out the horrible symptoms without relief. I am now 71, and I actually had dual grief reaction upon her death. On one end, I was deeply grieving her passing, and another, relief with the hope, that mom was finally free of this illness. Thank You, so much for your dedication and incredible effort to transcend schizophrenia, and do your best to live a life with as much positive energy that you can muster. Please know, I would like to make it clear that you can consider this old man a friend ❤for whatever time I have left on this planet. And yes, I went long periods as a young man before I could find a few really good friends, but in the end I found my best friend. We have been living together happily, going on 30 years to date.
Hello Stephen! I empathize with you🤗 . I'm so sorry! I am a 43yo woman with schizophrenia. I get that loneliness feeling often. I really don't have friends either. I had one friend and he is now my partner. Life will feel better. You are wonderful at expressing yourself and I'm sure you will make at least one close friend for sure! Hang in there! I will be glad to be your online friend😊
Hello Stephen. I ran into your channel about a month ago. My son has schizophrenia, and watching your videos is a tremendous help. You and your father have given me lots of insight, and how to help my son. Thank you so much! The very best to you1
hey Stephen. What you have to remember is that you are not fundamentally different from anyone else. I don’t know if that will resonate but what I mean is that you may experience things differently but you are first and foremost a human and humans exist to connect with each other :) so you will, I’m sure. You’ve already made such a huge difference with this channel. It’s very inspiring. Don’t think I forgot about my own! I’m working on it. I think it’s going to be called The Brain Storm. I’ll keep you posted! -Susanna P.S. like that silly song goes, “you’ve got a friend in me”…I know we don’t know each other really but hopefully when I start this channel you will find out more about me and what my experience is like!
Thank you Susanna for the encouragement! It does resonate with me. I’m very much so looking forward to seeing your channel!
You truly are an inspiration and educator to all who are struggling or know someone who is struggling. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing Stephen, I am going through this issue as well. I have always had problems finding friends and keeping friendships going. I am lucky as I found my soulmate and we are married.
Thank you and congratulations!
Hi Stephan, You amaze me. I mean, How you can work through these extremely challenging issues on a daily basis? I just don't know. One thing I really like about you is your honesty and authentic presentation of yourselves and how you feel. People that are extremely honest always have a special place in my heart. I can understand part of your loneliness. Like you, my friends have all gone in different directions and I am around others, well, not very often. Stephan, If I had the power to put you back together as you were before, I would do it in a heartbeat. Let's both manifest a future with friends, love, and happiness. The last two Christmases' were especially hard for me. I decided to take the focus off of me being alone for Christmas. So a few days before Christmas, I went to a local Walmart and gave money to a few total strangers. I just said to them May I give this to you?, handed them an envelope with money, and walked away. This action gave me great peace and I was able to keep my spirit from taking a nose dive. Stay strong, Stephan. I know you can do it. I wish you the very best.
You are such a kind and intelligent human so I think you will be a wonderful friend to other kind people. All of us here are your friends.
You will. There are stages in life. You are helping many thru your sharing and that will lead you somewhere.
Thank you Bob!
Hang in there Stephen...it'll get better.
You are a wonderful young man and you will yet have many friendships.
I would like to have another pen pal...it's been a while since I've had any.
Im a grandmother and of course much older than you are, but if you don't mind getting mail from someone that's older...😊
Let's just see how it goes.
Right now I'm going through a lonely stage as my grandchildren all have their own lives and they do not stay in touch as much as I'd like.
Hope you are well. I love to follow you on your online journey with
mental wellness...I like to keep it up beat. 😊
Grandma Wutzke
You have 3.58K friends and counting. We're all here with you and rooting for you!! Big hugs, Stephen. ❤
Please do not worry. The world can be evil. God will put people in your path at the right time. AND you are helping people all over the world right now by showing people it is ok to talk about mental health. You are special and God is working through you and your parents.
Hi Stephen, I love that you are helping so many people better understand. My son has been suffering over 10 years without any relief. I need all the advice I can get to better help him.
Where do you live. You and him seem to have very similar likings. If you could please help me help him get his life back.
You are giving me hope ♥️
Thank you for sharing Lisa. I live in Southern California. I wish your son all the best
I just discovered your channel. I have a son with Autism (formerly Asperger' Syndrome High Functioning). I see much of your pain and concern in him. He is 19 and has no friends. He enjoys interactions when they take place and he wants friends but people don't "get"/understand his way of communication and style. They don't care to take the time to actually talk to him and find out what a great soul he is. I can tell that you are a kind soul also. I can tell that you would be a fantastic friend for anyone. I pray that both you and my son will one day find that, at least one, real friend who will fill that void which all of us enjoy. Peace and love to you my friend. Your heart is golden. I wish you and my son could meet. You would get along great.
I know feeling of lonliness lately but i try to escape it. I would meet up but i live in Poland. Sending you much love.
Thank you very much!
Please know that you are worthy of friendship and love, despite how challenging it can feel to reach out to new people at times. People WANT to get to know you! The way that will happen is by slowly letting your guard down with people that feel safe & comfortable, and by being authentically YOU. I know how difficult loneliness is, but the only way we can combat feelings of isolation is to keep putting ourselves out there when we can❤. It may not feel easy, but small steps in the right direction will eventually get you to your destination 😊
Hi Stephen, there are many lonely people out there that dont have friends. Not just people with mental illness. Dont lose hope. There are some nice people out there who will like you as you are. You are a great guy deserving of friendship and love. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry you're experiencing such a challenging season of life. Even as a non-schitsophrenic, pretty neuro-typical person, I'll say it's difficult to make friends as an adult. Hopefully as you progress on your wellness journey it will be easier for you. All the best to you, my friend. ❤
Stephen, once again I can definitely relate to this. The emotional roller coaster, or the wave as you refer to it, is also prominent in my battle. Schizophrenia is such a complex cocktail of emotions. I am glad you responded to my reactions to the other two videos I have seen. I have a lot of videos to catch up to you on. Recognizing our differences from most other people is key to understanding ourselves. Even though I only came across your videos recently I am so happy you responded. I will watch more videos. over time
My grandson is your age and going through the same things you are. I wish you and he could be friends. But as you say these things are hard for you both. He's a sweet really smart young man. Please don't ever give up hope. I wish there was some way to get him to listen to your videos, but not sure if that is possible for him, and not sure I should even bring it up. Maybe you can address this in one of your videos. Whether or not to ask him to watch your videos. He tries to keep me from worrying and I know he does not want us to treat him as if he is sick. Your opinion is very important to hear. Thank you for your videos.
We are all your friends.
Thank you for sharing.
You already are a great friend by putting yourself out there. People will see you are a good guy. It will happen.😊
Youre really, smart, kind and empathetic. I think youll meet some ppl soon. You just have to put yourself in places where you can meet ppl
Friends are not everything, I hope that you learn to cherish alone time and solitude. You are so gifted and blessed with the vision that no one else can see. God is with you. Alone is okay!!!!
Awesome video Stephen. A really brave and difficult subject to approach and you are the first person Stephen I have seen tackling it. 🙂I think being able to read others is a quick way of knowing how best to speak to someone to initiate conversation. Easy starting points are noticing when someone is looking down, stressed etc. Then it's just a case of initiating conversation from a genuine place of concern for their welfare (e.g. to the lady serving you, you're looking a little stressed today, is everything okay). Initiating conversation is very much a learning curve, but don't go holding your self back, you have so much potential in making a real difference to others. In terms of romantic relationships, everyone wants a relationship that elevates them in some way. The more potential someone has to make someone feel good about themselves, build on their self-esteem etc. the greater the possibilities. Giving someone genuine recognition can also be a great way of validating someone, lift their spirits, make them proud of themselves, their accomplishments etc, or if they have gone out of their way to make a difference, to give recognition is to show appreciation, show respect all the while encouraging them to do more. It's all a learning curve, the more we converse the quicker we learn and you will develop your own way of doing things (if you haven't already). Hope this has been of some use. 🙂
Thank you John! It was very helpful! I still get overwhelmed during social interactions, but am working on it.
@@SurvivingSchizophrenia Don't go over-thinking it Stephen, you've got this. 🙂 If you ever want to compare notes, send me a e-mail (it can be found on the "about" section on my RUclips channel)...
You are not alone-so many of us feel the same way. I am with the others who watch your channel wishing you all the very best! I think you will find friends because you are determined to work on improving your life in so many ways. So many of us are lonely. Sending you positive thoughts and resilience.
Excellent video of you being you! We all experience these moments! You are allowing people to see the benefit of expressing how they feel! This truly gives others permission to safely and lovingly share their feelings!
Thank you very much Gayla!
Hi Stephen! I'm sorry for everything you're going through. I hope that you make some very understanding and supportive friends in the near future. I think there is still a stigma attached to certain mental illnesses such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, etc. My mom was diagnosed with schizophrenia; I remember some of her struggles growing up. Sadly, she is no longer with us. (Rest in peace mom. Until we meet again). As we get older, I think it becomes more difficult to make friends. I'm an introvert, and also diagnosed with major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. I isolate quite a bit. I also can be at a party or be in a room full of people and feel very much out of place, detached, and alone. I would say that I have 1 close friend, but we both have very busy lives and don't talk to each other much or see each other much. Hang in there! I'm going to take a nap to recharge. Have a lovely day! 😊
I see people mentioning the Clubhouse. The Clubhouse in my town has a cafeteria/snack counter, an exercise center, a job skills/education center for people looking for jobs or people who want to finish high school or go to a trade school/college. Clubhouse members have also gone on some neat trips to water parks, amusement parks, camping trips, etc.
Thank you Melissa very much for sharing and your kind comment! I hope you have a happy and healthy rest of your day!
You have such a beautiful soul, Stephen. You will make it because of that.
In the meantime you are helping and bringing comfort to so many out there. This is your strength. Keep going and doing what you are doing. You will be rewarded sooner than later. ❤
Hey Stephen, I myself have been diagnosed with Schizophrenia in my early 20's, I have found relief through medication, in my opinion what I found helpful in confronting loneliness is to partake in activities where you will have to interact with other people, this can be as simple as working on your education, and forming study group with people you'd like to work towards a common goal such as passing an exam, also finding a career path that fulfills you is also a helpful strategy as this can bring some much needed purpose in your life, undoubtedly you will be able to meet people along the way, in essence you'll be killing two birds with one stone, I know these things are much easier said than done; as a schizophrenic myself I have found that Avolition, one of the negative symptoms of this condition is something quite arduous to tackle head on, but remember life is more of a marathon than a sprint, so try and find the pace that works for you, I hope you found this helpful:)
Thank you so much Shane for your very helpful comment and suggestions! I really appreciate it!
Stephen, I think you’re right, that things will improve in the future for you. Best wishes to you and in the meantime, know that you’re being a good friend to others simply by posting your videos.
Oh sweet young man please remember you are delightful and so brave to talk about these painful feelings of loneliness and sadness. You are a treasure for humanity just keep going and shine your light ❤
Wow... Very Touching. Thank You for sharing your Life Experience
You are our friend ❤❤❤❤
Thanks again for sharing yourself. we are your friends.and always keeping you in my prayers.
Thank you Farida! That means a lot to me!
Never give up! Sending you hugs, it will improve
You help me understand that I am not alone in this
Thank you very much. That means a lot to me!
Heeeeeey hey hey 👋🏼 Stephen from West Monroe Louisiana!!
I just wanted to thank you so much for your bravery in your honesty and effort to help the world begin to understand your diagnosis and trek through your world in the world.
Please please don’t give up and know there are many out here struggling with this and other like diagnoses.
As a God daughter of a wonderful lady suffering with similar struggles as yourself I really appreciate your videos bc I am wanting to understand so that I can better care , love and educate others who don’t understand or disagree.
Please know you have friends and people like me sending you good vibes and looking forward to your continued success in managing this diagnosis.
Take care Stephen and rock on 🤘🏼
Also you are very blessed to have a dad (and mother I’m sure ) who are so dedicated to helping and understanding you!!! ❤
Loneliness really hit me too during the pandemic. They had us start isolating and for a lot of people (like me) it is like it never stopped. I don't really enjoy Pokémon as much as I used too, but I do sometimes like playing video games. I have about 2 close friends but they kind busy with their own lives. Me being Schizophrenic and disabled, I have a lot of time on my hands. Lately I have having anger and rage issues too, so that hasn't helped.
Thanks for sharing. I am schizophrenic and I am autistic as well. I have never had really friends, only acquaintances. Hang in there, I am also stuck since I completely have zero interest in meeting new people. Even since when I was a kid, I could not interact with people.
We are all different, I still hope sometimes to have a friend or multiple friends, but somehow I started accepting that being alone is my path.
You are not alone❤
Well done mate. Really inspiring. I can tell you're a good guy. God bless you.
I am so sorry to hear about your loneliness. I pray you find a way to resolve this. You are so well-spoken and handsome.
When I was in my 20s I was very antisocial. I was afraid to talk to strangers and meet new people. If I went to a cafe where student and young people would go I would get very uncomfortable and feel like I just want to get out of the cafe. But I told myself.... Just go with the flo....just sit and enjoy your night. Enjoy the cafe and the design of the cafe and look around to see what people are doing and listen to the music. Now I have no problem approaching to people I don't know for small talk. I have one best friend and few friends who I only say hello on the street or cafe.
Thank you very much Kerli!
Hi there. Im becoming a huge fan of you . I like watching your videos. Stick with everything bud. Thanks again haveca great night
Stephen I feel for you I have schizophrenia and I’m alone I have family thank god but I want people I can relate to now that I’m 28 I feel like I don’t know how to make real genuine friends
Hi Stephen. You are helping many people w your testimonials. Know that you may not think that you aren't a great communicator but you certainly are. I listen to you often. My son Quentin also has the same diagnosis..it's been a sad struggle..a fight for friends .a day without overthinking..but it does improve as years go by. Yours will to and you will feel joy again. 🙏😍
Bro, I went through two failed relationships, the latter with kids and all sorts of horrible mind games. Today the kids don’t even talk to me because she accused me of so many false things. I get loneliness; it’s horrible, and the trauma left me with my counselor thinking I might be schizoaffective about 7 years ago; which came to naught but I did end up with some problems which seriously affected my perception and job. So what I’m saying is that I can be empathetic to your situation. So, message me, I’ll be your friend.
You are a lovely young man. I have trust in knowing that you will meet young folks that relate to you and will love you for who you are. consider that someone out there is feeling just like you and is looking for you to bond with. I believe they will appear in the best time that works for both of you. Best wishes and love, Samuel....
I’m so sorry that you are lonely. I hope you find a friend and more friends after that. Thank you so much for sharing. I am rooting for you. 👍👏🎉
I don't have schizophrenia, but can relate to feeling uncomfortable in a crowded room. I think some people are just more at ease in the company of others. Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe hold a door for someone as you go into a store and simply smile and make eye contact. Do it as often as you can and get used to interacting in a helpful way. Baby steps.
Hi Stephen! You are so amazing and brave sharing your story. Someone else mentioned Clubhouses and I know they can be really helpful. Also many NAMI groups have Peer groups that meet and do activities together. It would be others that struggle with mental health so they can relate and be supportive. I am sure you can call first and speak to the group leaders which may help you feel more confident. Take good care!
Thank you very much Lisa for the great suggestions!
You are an extraordinary and extremely brave person. You may be alone, but you are providing the public like me educational information on how horrible of a disease you have. So always know that although this disease is terrible you are literally making it your calling. So for I thank you and respect you.
I am new to your channel so forgive me that this video was posted a while back and I am just now commenting but I am just now seeing this and didn't want to not comment. I hope you will see my comment.
I am 52 and believe me when I say life brings friends in and out of your life. You will definetely have many new friends. I definetely think you will make new friends on the channel. There will be lots of chances to make new friends. Ways you wouldn't even think about. So don't over think it and don't let it get you down. I promise things always get better.
As a person who suffers from loneliness and isolation I wanna say thanks for putting this out there. Even tho I have a completely different set of issues I can still relate and learn and draw inspiration from your courage and strength. I like your videos and advice like going out exercising eating well and walking, raising inner awareness. It makes me happy to see you smile and hang in there through all the challenges. Thanks for the inspiration and I hope you’re having a wonderful day too 😊
My advice is to invite all your friends that knew each other to the pub. They should come to see each other if not you. You can then talk to them to make them realise your still the same old friend they knew before your diagnosis. I recommend you actually say to them, ‘ look I’m not violent and am gentle.’ But mainly talk about funny stories about the past. Laugh about your past and join in the Micky taking even about your past delusions Your friends will eventually invite you out guaranteed, especially if your cheerful and funny and cheer up their day. I know this as I’m schizophrenic, and used to be really ill. Hope this advice helps.
Thank you for the suggestion
I don’t have friends either. I’m depressed l tried getting out l panic. I’ve been depressed for many years . I don’t trust friends when l had one she try to destroy my life. I recently lost my grandson 33 to fentanyl. I’m going through a very hard time. I know how you feel about being isolated. The tiredness l don’t like at all. I can talk to certain people but others no. I’ve been watching you and l have seen you grow and get stronger. You have a loving family. I wish you all the best. I believe your doing good. You make me smile to see you talk about this that was my problem l didn’t want to talk or be around anyone. I didn’t like me at all . I’m a believer in Gods word and him. Without him l wouldn’t be here today. I have good days l have bad days but on bad days l rely on Jesus help. Please keep doing your videos and trust in you for getting better. I know you will God bless you and your family 🙏
You make friends by just being who your are in front of the camera. You are a very kind person. You'll get there.
My grandmother encouraged me to go find activities in the community. I moved from California to Oklahoma and I'm having to start over. I feel you. I'm in my 30s and I also have schizophrenia and high functioning autism. Hang in there bro. You'll make friends and it takes time. I'm glad that you're sharing this. God's with you. 😎 I've been working on building friendships with church and work. I hope great things for you and if you ever feel lonesome just talk to God. That's what I do.
I lost all my school friends in my early 20s with schizophrenia and my social skills faded to nothing... I only have one friend now of well over 30 years... You only need very few Good friends... Even Oprah Winfrey says the same thing ha... Hope it works out soon 🙂
Thank you Alexander!
That you for your openness and honesty. You have extra challenges, but be assured this is a season in your life; it's not forever.
See if there is a pokemon group in your area, or a game store that hosts game events, add maybe try attending. Find community and church group events and try them out. Do some volunteer work. Anywhere you can interact with people.
You've got a heart to connect and you appear so caring. You have a lot to offer to a friend. You'll overcome some if your challenges and have a friend in the future.
Take care.
You're an amazing young man. I bet you are a wonderful friend to others. I wish you every happiness.. Keep doing you and the rest will fall into place. X
You have almost 4,000 people that love and support you xo
we are with you dear, we are all in the same waves....so much love to you!!!
Thank you for sharing this Stephen I no it not easy I have a son going through the same thing just hang in there I’m 🙏🏿 🙏🏿for you to find a good friend
You are so sweet.
You have inspired so many people.
Keep going.
You only one person to be that teue freind.
And dont think its because of you that ypu dont have freinds.
Lots of people are lonely these days.
Thats the way it is.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing your beautiful heart and vulnerability❤️.
Would you consider playing MMORPG? After I was no longer in school I found that was a GREAT way to make friends and the pressure is off or if you have a bad day you can just take the day for yourself. Just a thought. Hope you’re feeling better, and you always have all of us! Thank you for sharing your life.
Stephen, have you ever considered having a P.O. Box so your subscribers can send you cards/notes of support?? You're always uplifting others & you fill us with hope!! Just a thought!!❤❤❤
Thank you very much for your support and your great suggestion! I’m definitely going to consider it!
Awesome! It would be a way for us to give back to you for all of your honesty and insightfulness!!
Hey there. I just wanted to say that your an amazing young man. I enjoy hearing about your experiences. Of course I wish you the best in your healing journey. Keep it up. Your doing an excellent job!
I like how you turn a negative feeling into an opportunity to get better. It isn't as easy for me. Hey, have you ever thought flying a drone and making videos? It's fun and relaxing for me. I also like to work out, that helps a lot. You can also do it at home. You only need a few dumbbells and watch some RUclips videos and you're ready to go. No matter how many friends a person has, at the end of the day your real friends are less than the fingers in one hand :") Peace ✌️ Stephen and keep smiling to life. Thanks for sharing your experience. It feels like group therapy.
Lots of people dont have friends...its a hard life for some people even people without mental illness. However i think you will meet someone very special someday because you're very special...you will meet a group of people to call friends and find your way because God loves you and you deserve it.❤
Such an honest and touching video. It really makes me want to make a bigger effort to help my son connect with some friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
Thank you. Ur honest which so many " normies" are not.
Thank you!
You are really a nice guy and you will make friends. Church groups and community support groups with people your own age might be a good place to start. I don’t believe in organized religion but you might meet folks who are committed to being kind and helpful! That’s the most important thing anyway. Kindness and a willingness to be good to other people is what is most important, and you might have a fun time with people in support groups and church groups. You are very appealing and likable! More power to you! Best wishes!