"Lazy" Grandson Has No Motivation
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- "Lazy" Grandson Has No Motivation
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Michelle says she is at her wits’ end with her jobless 22-year-old grandson, Conner, who, according to her, isn’t just lazy but has “failed to launch.” Michelle claims Conner, who has lived with her for the last year, does not regularly shower, brush his teeth, shave, clean his room, or change his clothes. He also has never met his girlfriend of five years in person because, according to Michelle, “that would involve having to leave the house.” Conner says Michelle is overreacting and that at 22, he “shouldn’t have life figured out.” He says he hasn’t yet met his girlfriend in person because of finances. Conner’s mother, Jamie, says she agrees Conner is lazy but believes her mother Michelle is making matters worse by being too strict on him. Dr. Phil arranges for Conner to have a one-on-one session with life development coach Mike Bayer to understand why Conner may be struggling to launch and discusses his new book, One Decision. Will Conner accept the help offered to him? Tune in to find out!
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Hey look it’s a human
please make a long video for an episode and not parts
No
got the Tshirt ages ago :)
No initiative here. It is what it is.
Dude obviously has depression. People think it means being sad, but having no motivation is a huge part of it - especially when it comes to hygiene and stuff.
yeah man some of these comments are brutal, the stigma around mental illness still needs to be addressed.
Grandma is the real problem
Absolutely, so glad I saw this comment- the rest of them were just making me sad. The stigma is real and sadly, until someone actually goes through a severe debilitating bout of depression, I do not believe that they can ever really truly understand the extent of what happens to someone who is suffering from very real depression. Unfortunately I think the term is also overused, people mistake sadness for depression and that can give you misconceptions about it. I thought I was depressed many years ago, it wasn’t until a few years ago when I went through a serious depression that almost ended my life that I realised what it meant to have severe depression. After experiencing that, I will never judge somebody who is suffering like that. It is horrible when people think you are just not trying. NOBODY would EVER choose to be depressed, it is not something you can’t fix on your own, especially when you are at the point of being unable to leave your house. I wish more people understood it better.
@@airconditioner7178 Yes, and he gets publicly humiliated on the show. "Dr" Phil and that crappy life coach are a pair of bitches ganging up against him. That could drive him to suicide.
@@pm8401 yeah trendy garbage "life coach" pppfffft
"he doesn't wanna brush his teeth, he doesn't wanna take a shower" That sounds like depression and needs help, not derision...
And sleeping all day, not leaving the house and having no motivation
Never accept help from a fat boomer.
Sounds like PDA to me, Pathological Demand Avoidance.
Exactly! I can vouch for this, I had official diagnosed depression for 3 years. What people seem to forget is that this is a "boomer" show and that I think it's literally impossible for someone like dr. phil to relate and truly understand.
Worst episode of Dr Phil ever, I feel this kid. I wish I was in his place because I'd get in trouble by going of the script.
I hope he doesn’t kill him self after this show because that’s depression and this happening to someone with depression can be super fatal like I bet he’s hella triggered
You got a really basic view on this
Granny:”I have to bang and yell at the door” Also Granny: “cmon sweetie”
Many guests on Dr. Phil are usually upper middle class people who whine about how hard life is despite having pretty much everything or they are just petty, entitled, and narcissistic.
They made him the way he is
Being nice for the cameras
@@TheMillerChild you kind of know what you're getting into when you sit down with Dr Phil though. that's his schtick, straight forward, direct, no bs. considering it seems to me like they tip toe around him, he may have needed just that, direct communication and help. while it's not uncommon to spend tons of time at home, esp now, and half the day gaming, it's also not healthy. spending 17 hours a day in front of a video game isn't a healthy life no matter what the current climate is like. plus, comparing peoples issue is never really relevant. there is always someone that has it better and theres always someone that has it worse. it's all relative to the person. you're basically saying he's fine because at least he's not out there murdering people and burning down buildings? lol what?!
“Lazy grandson”
Discord mods: are you challenging me?
Lol hhha
@@signity5540 my Mom is like the mom that the 41 year old was talking about like controlling and having to be everything perfect my mom is like that towards everyone
@@TheMillerChild stop spamming this ridiculous shite everywhere
@@robjj5373 what was it?
@@weareprojectzorgo oh that's sad
Sounds like depression. I was struggling with it for a long time. You don't care about brushing your teeth or taking a shower. You just want to do something that makes you feel good. Sounds like video games are his thing. Thank your lucky stars it isn't drinking or drugs.
I don't know man, my mouth tastes terrible if I don't brush my teeth.
@@bubbashubbs298 you really don’t know
stars?
How did you help your depression?
@@1OOOODAY5 I changed everything. I switched jobs, got a new licensing. I went to therapy. I dropped the friends in my life who didn't give a damn about me. I started exercising. I quit drinking. I re-arranged my house room by room. If I didn't change, I was going to die, so I changed everything.
If he's into games and stuff maybe a comic book store or card game store would suit him well. Work with his passions. There are always ways to succeed when you're passionate about it.
Good luck with him getting hired. Working with your passions is like winning the lottery
Not always
Nah, not gonna work. You need to be really strong willed to land such a job
Owning a comic book/card store is a huge gamble. Not a lot of demand for what they have to offer.
He sounds depressed. Hope he gets help.
Im working on it i moved after the show to be with my gf who is helping me get better
@@connertrout9465 good for you! When was this filmed anyways?
@@VeeAmericanEagle about a month ago
@@connertrout9465 i'm happy to hear you're working on it and doing better!!!
@@connertrout9465 she’s an Angel. Don’t worry, you’ll find your ways. I have hope for you! 🙏🏼
2019: lazy slob
2020: quarantine hero
Dr Phil is not the man for this job, he's no psychologist nor is he a psychiatrist. To many of us it's obvious that there's more to it than him just being "Lazy" and I fear that Doc did more damage than good.
You’re absolutely right Dr. Phil lacks the insight to really understand what’s going on, he sounds shallow and like the grandma. Old fashion way of thinking, one sided, ignorant. I absolutely do not see him as a therapist I see him as a talk show host giving us his opinions and that’s it. I think the label dr. Phil needs to be taken off the show. It will give people the wrong ways of thinking, also does he really have a degree? But if he does he went to school probably a long time ago and the ways of thinking back then was more limited to how it is now.
Dr Phil is a Psychologist. “Dr. Phil”
@@lilybug246 "Dr" Phil lost his certification 12 years ago, it's like calling Bill Nye a scientist when all he has is a bachelors degree that he only barely succeeded in in engineering
He always does more damage then good. Ever heard about the ranches he Reccomends? Im surpirsed no one has canceled him
Actual title : depressed grandson has no motivation.
Don't blame him for being this unmotivated when he has a horrible family tht would throw him onto a TV show to attone for his sins..
Really. He knew 5 years ago that he would be on Dr. Phil? Are you related to this idiot?
@@annhenry3135 Do you feel better about yourself when you insult ppl?
I'm sorry but he would have been out of my house the first year. If that makes me horrible family then oh well.
@@asdfghjkl3003 Id say the opposite to that would be getting him actual help Instead of needing public sympathy, but what do I know.
@@asdfghjkl3003 oh well is exactly what good parents say
Connor count: 28
They said Connor’s name 28 times in this video
I was gonna ask if anyone's counted 😂
28 times in 5 minutes, i’m impressed
Maybe she forgot pronouns exist
I went back and counted, too! How annoying....
😂😂😂.
Seems like Granny has an obsession with the name.
This isn’t laziness, it’s depression.
I agree with you but, you still need to put the work in to deal with your depression.
Nah.
This is also reality TV. There are things that could go on behind the scenes that we don’t know. Seeing Phil McGraw yell at calling and seeing him being attacked just shows me that Dr. Phil’s take on this is at the very least mislead. The underlying problem here isn’t being dealt with. They are just telling him to fix it. It’s really sad.
@@erikjohnson5549
I speak from experience when I say that is not as easy as it sounds. Even though I have a supportive family (unlike him), it still took me years to work through my depression and push myself to make a better life for me. My depression will never disappear like I want it to, but it's a lot more manageable now. I hope the poor guy gets the help and support that he needs.
@@steviechan5792 i feel you, Depression will never go away, even if it do, the slightest discomfort or sad feeling will put you in a state where you regret everything
"he's 22 years old and doesn't know how to shave" if that's all the facial hair he has, he doesn't need to worry about shaving grandma
And electric shavers make it idiot-proof. That is, even this dolt could manage it.
@@Tassie85 lol
Maybe he knows how to trim?
She wasn't talking about his facial hair haha jk
@@Tassie85 wtf
He’s just quarantining... for 5 years.
He knew what was coming.
Lol
@Bob Dobran how tf is she responsible for him being lazy?
LOLZ!!!!!
@@gamercatsz5441 Idk, maybe the fact that his family probably fueled his depression. Or at least made it worse.
This screams severe depression to me, not laziness.
Always that one parent that has an excuse
That's a fair assessment but, even if you have depression you still have to try and work your way out of it.
You can't just sit there and wallow in it, the first person that needs help him, is himself.
@@erikjohnson5549 That's easy to say but much harder to practice if everyone reacts the way Dr.Phil is acting towards him. Many depressed/suicidal people never get the help they need because these are the sorts of things people will say to them. Especially if there isn't a super obvious reason as to why they would be depressed.
more excuses
@@erikjohnson5549 easier said than done lmao
POV: You’re here because you relate to being like this guy at a much younger age
How dare you call me out
i- yeah 😀
@@askmewhocandiceis yes
I RELATE TO HIM NOWWW AND IM 15 😭
@@koko1144 same
The mother is a huge issue,the grandma should not have to tell her grown grandson to clean he should be doing that anyway. And the mother considers that badgering? Really? I can see where he gets it
Connor has, thinks, and does everything. He’s unstoppable.
Oh, if I were 40 years younger.....
He’s 22, when our grandparents were 22 they had accomplished so much more.
@@Marlevlyn life is different now, stop comparing it like that. He has issues he needs resolved but it has nothing to do with how his grandparents lived.
@@paddycraig 🤣🤣🤣
This kid has a major problem. He has been allowed to be lazy and every one around him have allowed it. If he wasn’t allowed to sit around and get away with not being like every other adult in the world and pay their own bills, he would be much more productive.
Ehh... try putting him in rice
Love this
Lol you're the best!
UNDERRATED
He needs a total structured life. Mom has enabled this thru the years.
No he does not. Grandma needs to make him homeless. Let him try it for a month
It's a shame, if he wasn't so defensive or have the chip on his shoulder about his entitlements and his excuses/justifications about his limitations - he'd probably have people around him offering him support. My hunch from so much of how his behaviour is described and how he presents himself, is he appears to fit the criteria as one of the many kids that slip through the cracks of the education system for an undiagnosed inattentive type ADHD with or without a specific learning impairment like dyslexia etc. For young guys in particular it's easier to fit in and call yourself lazy or disinterested when he's actually unable to read or have the working memory it takes to learn the same things as his peers without modifications. Young adults who get to where he is without his GED or drivers licence have very little in life to gain self esteem from, hence the over confidence he seems to have developed as a coping strategy to keep others from becoming aware of his true limitations. It's a bloody shame really, one the education system needs to be accountable for because there doesn't seem to be very much this kid has come out of schooling with apart from a finely tuned defence mechanisms and a sense all he's good for is gaming. It's equally as hard to see how he defends himself completely unaware of how poorly he's coming across as it is seeing him being shamed by those that supposedly love him most as well as the 'experts' whose role is to help him.
Shut up
@@alijuma1279 shut your mouth
he is my cousin lmao we always make fun of him
Why doesn't he go live with his mom then? Grandma shouldn't have to take care of her daughters 22 yr old son.
I guarantee grandmas still financially supporting her too
Grandma needs to throw all guilt away and send Conner home to mom, then go on vacation with her friends. Grandma only had so many years left on this earth and she needs to enjoy her life now. Don’t enable laziness.
if her daughter is the same then she failed as a parent
THIS!!!👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Preach
The grandmother should say....If I didn’t parent right the first time, I shouldn’t shouldn’t try it with the grandkids. Then she should send Conner back home to mom, and take off on fun vacation with her friends and enjoy the years she has left on this earth.
depression and not keeping up with guidance
I've been through that. It's called depression and anxiety.
It's still not an excuse to be lazy and do nothing
@@anti1training By saying that you agree that you know absolutely nothing about depression and anxiety.
@@anti1training if you look up the symptoms of anxiety and depression, you'd know that both can be really draining for someone and make them not see a point in doing anything. It takes motivation to do things. Sometimes, people don't have the motivation to do things because of depression. The definition of lazy is "Unwilling to work or use energy." If you don't have any to begin with because you're depressed, you can't really use energy therefore, you come off as lazy.
I totally understand what you’re saying. I have dealt and still deal with severe depression and anxiety with panic attacks. That being said I am more happy than I have ever been in my life because I decided to move away from my hometown and pursue the career and lifestyle that I really want. It was a huge change for me and I was very unsure about it but just getting out of that environment has done wonders for me. I can’t even explain how happy I am today compared to the past 15 years of my life. It does piss me off when people say that people with depression are lazy. It’s more so that it just feels impossible to do the little things that people call normal. Depression makes these things damn near impossible but there is a way to deal with it in a healthy way. He needs a good therapist and a structured plan! If not he’s just going to stay in this same process for the rest of his life and that’s all he going to create more Misery. An object at rest stays at rest. I also think that there’s and aspect of enabling from his mother. Environment can cause depression and depression can cause a bad environment but there is a way to break that cycle. People like myself who deal with severe depression are always looking for a way to not be depressed. It’s not some thing that we enjoy. It just doesn’t seem that he even wants to change.
@@amandasantini6265 Not true. I know very much about it, and how it's not an excuse not to work
When a Boomer vs a Doomer.
Boomers are fat.
@@Cbd_7ohm and bald
@@bohcxhobo601 and named phil
Doomer moment
@@runeistaken Dr. Phil is also a creep and a fraud since all the stuff about Turnabout Ranch got exposed. Whoopsie….
Sorry whats his name again?? 😂🤦
I think I heard Frank
Is it conner maybe? Not sure...🤣🤣🤣
For the 26th time it’s Connor! Lol
I think grandma said Con-Her. 😅
Rusty Shackleford
Lets be honest, 2020 has made not only him but a lot of others the same way. I mean after being home stuck for most of the year has driven us into depression and laziness.
Move to state that doesn't have a communist governor.
Umm he was like this before 2020
@@adoreivette7373 It doesn’t matter, it’s already here
@@inoita11 exactly thank god im in Florida
In 2020, I got into marathon running for the first time in my life.
He probably is wicked depressed
“Wicked Depressed” is right. He reminds me of my brother with autism.
Doesnt look like he's ever showered. Or brushed his teeth...
Because he doesn’t actually brush his teeth or showered...
Why doesn't he just become a youtuber
Ong
Because youtubers don't take showers 👍
Lol if only it was that easy
Some people are unmotivated to even upload RUclips videos and I'm a prime example of that 😂
It's pretty hard to make a decent living at RUclips, especially during the pandemic, as ad revenue has gone down because of it. Your subscriber count pretty much has to be at least in the six-figure range with plenty of loyal viewers to really make a comfortable income, plus there's no benefits & you're taxed higher because it's your "small business."
Lack of confidence. Lack of a positive outlook in life.
Extremely agree with the outlook in life. I was a heroin addict from 17 until 20. After I got sober I realized getting sober was the first step. I now am more positive than ever. I own a car a house and I have a little Yorkie with me! I was a Connor thinking the world owed me everything and a bag of gold.
@@jordansmith3721 Wow, you're awesome! Congrats on being clean and able to enjoy life now, I wish you all the best mate.
And yet Dr. Phil continues to pressure him and basically feed into it
I too have no confidence and now have a negative outlook on life
He's not stupid, hes unmotivated and that is just as much on the parents as him. Hes not lazy, he is depressed and traumatized by his father's death and no one wants to address it.
Sounds like the grandma might be a narcissist, that would explain the hyper dependency Connor has on her. My mom is a narcissist so I know how narcissistic personalities are through caretakers. You can’t tell by how she invaded his privacy while he was not there and showed his messy bed. That’s exactly what narcissistic mothers do which is a lack of privacy and embarrassment of others. By showing his messy room to the whole world how do you expect him to get any motivation to change his life when the whole world knows how lazy he is. This is the worst she could’ve done to Connor by bringing this to dr.phil which brings me to another sign of her narcissism, Lack of empathy. She doesn’t care or recognize how Connor would feel by bringing him on the show. This poor kid Connor is a victim of their abuse. And yet the whole world blames him, and acts like it’s all his fault. He probably has clinical depression too if I were to guess. That would explain his lack of motivation
My mom is the same. The cripple you emotionally.
Facts, my mom and life is very similar to Connor's situation
thank you for posting this comment
Same at the end of the day there’s no professional parent we all have our flaws
maybe he’s just depressed
Is that really a excuse, he even refused to get help, if that was the case
Nah, I’m 22 and living with my grandma, last year I went through depression but I fought through it and stuck in at collage, helped around the house and payed my bills, this guy is just lazy and childish.
Well done to you, but that doesnt mean he can do the same.
@@ponderingsofagirl Of course he can. Depression is luxury of people that has very few problems and a lot of free time to think about them. White, loved, middle class, first world country kids. I'm from a 3rd world country and except the rich, almost nobody is depressed. They have no time for it. Go to a refugee camp in Africa and ask who is self mutilating or who wants to die. Nobody. They all want to live, they all believe life can be better. Then you see that one in five UK kids are cutting themselves... Because is for sure horrible to be a kid in UK... Now go to Hamptons or Billionaires Lane. All depressed.
@@HrishitDasA this is all fake and acted.
Depression and Undiagnised ADHD, explains the chronic unemployment and inablity to perform personal care tasks. Dr. Phil perfectly demonstrates how to exacerbate your patients undesirable behaviors
Connor seems really depressed. Poor hygiene is a huge part of this, he will lose those teeth though. I wonder if he games with his mom Jamie? Definitely takes after his mother too. I don't blame him entirely, even though is he the problem and the solution.
No motivation, no drive, hard time sleeping, afraid to go outside. Mother says it has always been like that. This guy needs to check if he has a diagnosis that can be treated. Making him feel bad like this is not ok if you haven’t already determined it really is so called “laziness”. Dr Phil seems more interested in following the narrative of the show then figuring out what is really going on with this kid.
Turn off the internet he uses on him.I can’t imagine he is paying for it.
Wouldn’t that be a start ?
Lmao if she did that I'm pretty dammm sure he won't be so quote on quote ...( CALM)
My first thought 👍
Needs it for job applications.
@@rambojoe2323 job applications??!!!
That would be the last thing he’d use it for!
So instead of helping him with his depression, you bully him into feeling suicidal
Girl, if he wants to act like a child, treat him like a child. Which means sit down with him in front of the computer and teach him how to find a job. Disconnect the wifi and take him out. Apply to jobs in person, buy interview clothes, eat at a park and talk about how to get started on the GED. There's even jobs that help with that. Teach him and push him. Some kids need to be pushed.
This is one of the most accurate comments I read here. It's not about treating him as a child, but wrongfully assuming that everyone will have the knowledge or confidence to pursue new things. Teaching step by step and supporting is the best way, not just expect it to be done.
“He’s never met his girlfriend in person because that would involve him having to leave the house…” I laughed so hard 😂
Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin, for their hands refuse to work
-------- Proverbs 21:25
The one who is too lazy to look for work is the same one who wastes his life away
------- Proverbs 18:9
@@binjilllkthe Bible is very judgement towards people who don’t hurt anyone. As that guy in the video sees it he’s having the time of his life so in his eyes he’s not wasting his life away
@@binjilllkalso the Bible promotes slavery
I honestly feel DrPhil isn’t right on this one. The guy sounds honestly depressed and berating him like that isn’t helping him. Also living at home when you’re 22 isn’t bad, it can be expensive to rent let alone buy a house and become self sufficient
“Oy vey you’re an evil lazy goyim, if you don’t wanna work and get an apartment to make us Jews richer”
Dr phil never right his not even licensed since 20+ years. He literally makes money off of desperate people who are typically brought on show by their narcissistic abusers so they can humiliated them more making a profit which is why he always sides with the parents cuase they are the ones making him money by victim blaming
With everything Dr. Phil is about, it kinda seems like my whole family should be on Dr. Phil lmfao 🤣
Wouldn’t be surprised if he’s the leader of the “Reaper Lords MC” in Red Dead 2 Online...
O
I had a good paying job for 5 year until covid happened, It is very depressing constantly getting turned down at job interviews
Wait a minute, this kid is 22 years old and dosent at least have a GED????
I know someone 28 who doesn’t have a ged
What is that
@@milkkeato7613 General Education Diploma/Graduate Equivalency degree. People who did not complete high school can sit an examination and receive this. It can be like receiving a high school diploma.
Oh thank you! X
@Ayden Coulson That’s rare.
Consider yourself blessed you are less than one percent of the population who becomes successful without education.
Damn an actual doctor would try to help him, not belittle him. I feel really bad for Connor and hope he gets better.
How tone deaf do you have to be to have these discussions during COVID? My daughter is in college, had a job she enjoyed and they closed the INDUSTRY down, she struggled to find another job. She finally found a job but it was literally the ony place that called her back out of like 30 places. She hates it. Seriously, Phil, you're this clueless??
The effects of not having a father in the home.
Hes not lazy, he just hasn't found his purpose yet. He needs to join an esports team or start creating comic books! Find something to love
Agree!
That's most likely never going to happen or turn out well
I was living like that before he was born! Here's to the next generation of socially awkward unemployable weirdos!
That’s what I was thinking! I’m shocked at the amount of 20 somethings and older who are living with their parents still with no full time job. Like how can they be proud of themselves living like that? So many unemployable entitled losers
I think you misinterpreted his comment
@@cortneyrens.. Hey steady on. Young ones, these days can't always get
Jobs. Not everyone is appealing to interviewers in this shallow world. So many
People are very depressed too.
@@cortneyrens- Also many are living with
parents through others charging exorbitant rents and no housing available.
Are you in the real world.
It's nice too if people can live with parents (if they can
support each other and get along).
I used to think it was sad when I heard about ppl in their 20’s or 30s!! even living with their parents now I see how unmotivated and lazy they are, no self discipline or pride on their part it’s prettypatheitc when you have no self pride
The grandmother looks young enough to be his mom...
Good for her 👍🏻
It's like they all had each other 20 something years apart.
Robin McGraw has another customer! 😁. _(4/13/2023)_
Everyone thinks the grandmother is being to "hard" on the two of them, they are forgetting that their behavior is only controlled by them it shouldent be someone else's fault that your a crappy parent or an unmotivated kid
I’m getting severe _m’lady_ vibes.
The fact they think shaming him into being motivated is the best course of action just shows how much "Dr" Phil knows and understands about mental health.
This dude is depressed af
'He can spit all kinds of information on comic books, but schoolwork?'
Neurodivergency? Autism/ADHD could both cause this kind of thing and I'm getting those vibes from him.
Yeah I agree, it must be extreme because I got my GED at 16. I also largely blame Connor's parent and grandmother, clearly he's had no structure in his life; eight months ago that would've been me. The solution isn't to humiliate him, its counseling by an actual doctor...
@@kamieaston3016 Yes, facts. And a specialist in that field or someone who's willing to treat those types of conditions.
I got mine at 18, but I'm stuck in a very similar boat right now. Nobody here will help me and I live with an abusive parent, and I have little structure so I find comfort in my special interests and can't really get into a proper pattern or education.
I leave in a couple months to another state so I can see someone who is, and live with people who have been there and are super supportive.
@@abandonedchanneld8031 Dang man, sorry to hear about that. It was the inverse for me, my parents practically shielded me from the world. I'd say they loved me too much, which was fine (not really) for me emotionally, but when it came to doing stuff on my own I never felt independent. Even going to highschool I was always quiet and shy, avoidant and nervous. I think I missed some odd 60-80 days of high school just staying at home; I was homeschooled throughout my younger grades you see. I excelled in all of my classes say for Math, which both of my parents failed to teach me. So I was in 9th grade pretty much unable to do multiplication or even basic addition. I was depressed and I missed a majority of my days, somehow still managing to stay ahead, or even catch up with all the other students. Eventually my teachers started to notice my decline and put me in school counseling; which helped some but not a lot.
They (my parents) made the world easy for me, which in turn made me somewhat lazy. *It isn't my responsibility, my mom will take care of it.*
Was pretty much my mentality at that age. They shielded me and loved me to the point where I had no structure of my own, and I think that's largely because I lost my actual father at a younger age.
Ironically the thing that saved me was a video game I'd say, if you've ever played Life is Strange. Pretty cool game, and I felt a connection with some of the characters. Gone through similar stuff and it made me realize that my choices had consequences. That eventually I'd have to start living my own life.
A year and a half ago my mother had a brain aneurysm and it was discovered my step father, practically my father had been cheating. These two things would have destroyed me a year earlier, and it just felt like a wake up call. I forgave my step father and he and my mother repaired their relationship over the next few months, until she had a brain aneurysm. Thankfully he was driving and immediately rushed her to the hospital, they had to lifeflight her to the city and it was a pretty jarring event. Especially on my younger sister, who has just recently been diagnosed with PTSD from it.
My mother would recover pretty much at a 100% over the next half year. My step father was forced to quit his job and find a new one, working full time as water hauler. My sister needed to attend school, and so that ultimately put my mothers care in my hands. It wasn't anything too difficult, but I had to form a schedule around it and memorize a whole bunch of pills she was taking at the time. Was kind of tough, my mother's condition was so bad at one point she would forget everything every 30 minutes. It took about four months for that to go away and she "woke up" as she said, forgetting that six months of her life had passed entirely. During that time I got into l art, I wanted to do something that I loved to do. A career gamer isn't much of a career if you don't make something of it. I wasn't fancy for computers, and I wasn't good at hardly anything. Suffice to say I bought a beginner sketch pad and loved it. Burning through three 100 page pads in under four months, and decided to transition to digital art not long thereafter. It's been almost eight months since then and I've pregressed far.
Aside from that, they recently got remarried and we are planning to move to a bigger city for better job opportunities. I'm working on getting my drivers liscence and finding a job. I wouldn't say I'm reformed, but I'm changed.
Saty the path friend, you'll get there.
What’s crazy to think is that I am a lot like this guy, but I’m not lazy, and I’m not entirely sure he is either. For me, my depression makes me feel unmotivated to do anything and I have a hard time with it but I do the best I can. For him tho, it feels as though he has completely given in
Connor this Connor that, hey grandma try listing some GOOD qualities about him.
EXACTLY!!!!
He has none
He's probably had years of that growing up.. he seems to be pretty confident with how entitled he is..
May I dare ask where is the father? This young man is the toxic fallout of the single mom revolution in America.
It’s typical. I know from experience.
Sounds like depression and ADHD
Tbh hes only 22 and sounds very depressed at times, hes deff not worse than alot of ppl that have been on this show. I hope he gets help.
I think he is facing game or porn addiction because he has depression reflecting in his behavoir of lazyiness and time wasting
it sounds like he has depression and really needs support and empathy, not whatever this is. i really hope connor gets the help he needs
@Daniel Rodriguez I've seen you comment something similar on multiple other comments by women, stop being so weird lmao
@@Xenomorphasized Can't blame a man for trying lmfao
@Vali Never said it's not shitty, just making light.
All I see are boomers bullying a 22 year old gamer.
That's depression..ive been there
when i was in my 20s living at moms, it would make me feel better when i heard about 30 year olds that lived with their parents. so now im 30 years old living at my parents so id like to pass on the good vibrations. youre welcome society for my contribution
So have you heard of any 40 year olds living with their parents?
Or 50- and 60-year-olds living with their parents? _(4/13/2023)_
Being that judgmental and brag about the small details won’t get anyone up on their feet unless you take action first.
I'm surprised that I'm able to game for hours some days and be perfect at my education, hygiene, diet, and motivation.
Take a shot every time she says Connor... have fun 🤣
Sounds like a case of depression with the son, the mother hasn’t stepped up so the grandma has to put in the firm hand with no leniency, and now the kid is lost...
Grandma: "he doesn't wanna brush his teeth, he doesn't wanna take a shower"
Me: are you challenging me?
My depression is shooketh
🤢
Sorry, grandma is getting on my nerves. "Connor, Connor, Connor.."
I'm on Connor's side. 😏
I’m 23
At 22 I was exercising 2 hours a day
Learning a language/can shave
I’m still live with parents
Still played video games
At 23 I replaced games with coding
My nicely done bullying him in front of millions of people instead of actually giving advice that would help him
This video seems directed to me
I WAS HERE THE FIRST SECOND!!!
He is so obviously depressed? How do they not see this?
22, he still young.
The thing is when you are 19 you're young but 20 you're magically an adult.
yeah he's got a lot of time to turn his life around but trust me it's better to do it now rather than later and have regrets like i do i wish i would've been working since graduating hs and not waiting till 22 to get a job then work for a couple yrs then lay around for a couple now im 29 and working hard and saving money but i think about how much money i could of had if i would've looked for new work right leaving a job and not chillin and playing
Humiliation doesn’t cure depression or motivate anyone. What a trash episode.
I can’t believe the irresponsibility of others
This just proves that dr Phil is no psychologist. He’s just a dude who like talking
It’s easy for you to say that, as someone who suffers from depression I see the signs already. It’s easy to point fingers and judge. Also the pandemic and finding work isn’t easy for anyone and so many people being laid off because businesses can’t cope with restrictions. You sit there on your little throne and humiliate a young man who’s struggling, making out he does nothing, when in reality, you’re doing nothing to help him. Easy to judge someone when you’ve got everything you want, then having to get someone else and criticize this poor dude, wtf is wrong with you? Your judgement sucks and your show does too, seems as though you’ll do anything for view nowadays. Shame on you
stop making excuses for them all I have Parkinsons and state 4 cancer, I go through depressions spells but I work part time, have a 35 acre farm that I work these sorry people need to be kicked out and learn how it is in the real world
Finally A person i can relate too on dr.phil show!!!
A lot of them are actually somewhat reasonable people. It's just that the show likes to make specific cuts to show their upmost worst
Dang! He's depressed, man! Help him break the cycle. Don't humiliate him. It's not gonna change anything. Get him a therapist!
connor has been quarantining long before it was cool ...
im exetremely lazy and I game all the time but........ dude you gotta shower and brush your teeth man
Happy 2021 to dr Phil and everyone who see’s this post
happy 2021
thx bro
Thanks?
Why is he even living with his grandma?
lol i have friends like this... at 32
The fact that your reaction to that is "lol" and not "I hope they're alright" or "Hopefully they get better" says a lot hahaha
Depressed
I saw this on my TV 👁👄👁
@Daniel Rodriguez how I legit saw this on my TV lmao
Connor this, Connor that. Connor, Connor, Connor . . . Sounds like a broken record. _(4/5/2023)_
Connor’s grandma does not look old enough to have a 22 year old grandson and his mom looks more like she’s his sister
Depression
There’s no doubt in my mind that he’s suffering from depression. I’ve suffered from it and it seriously fucks you up.