Completely wrong. Where do you guys look at? There is seemingly a lot happening in her. Besides no statistics were mentioned in this video to proof any point given. Nice try of the contender, but very inconsistent material presentation with a lot of unseriously logical reasoning. From a scientific point of view, the content is not trustworthy at all. So again, don't listen to your guts, DO THE STATISTICS.
Right near the end of the interview she said “He used to call me mommy,” as if she already knows he is in the past. I think a truly concerned parent would say, “He calls me mommy,” as if they view him as still with us, which brings me to my next clue when she repeatedly states ,”He is not with us.” She’s confessing that he is dead.
That was *the most* obvious sign to me that she either had something to do with his disappearance, or at least knew or strongly believed that he was not coming back. I don't necessarily think that her mentioning he called her "super mommy" was suspicious because the interviewer had specifically asked about their relationship and if he called her mom, but that mid-statement shift to past-tense was the biggest red-flag for me.
@@gchammertime1557 I did not follow this story either, but as I understand it, at the time of the interview her step-son was only known to be missing. The fact that her statements subconsciously indicated that she already knew he was dead gives a very large red-flag that she had something to do with it. Is it proof? No, absolutely not. There are certainly scenarios where she might personally /believe/ that he wasn't coming back, but wouldn't want to say them, but considering they were in the middle of a search and rescue and she didn't show any signs of hope that he would show up safe and sound...that says a lot...
Exacly! Wen i got set up n accused of something I had TEXTED NOT ACTUALLY DONE!!!! I was UNCONTROLLABLY emotionally distraught and had no idea wot the F was going on! The shock n stress n disbelief was crying uncontrollably for 3 days STRAIGHT!! TRUST me wen I tell u being unfairly set up so ur enemies are puppteering ur loved ones to manipulate an outcome in THEIR favor is THE worst thing ever! It's beyond evil! Mothers DO NOT set up their innocent daughters! They dont! So to find out this dispicable narc neurotic loon tried to do this to me was shocking but lookn bck I pieced together the lies the things she sed n did over the years n it all added up! Not only did she steal my family she abused me and made up rumors which became serious wen the corrupted local authorities got involved! I exposed her lies in court n she didn't even show up or reply with a statement! An indication of her guilt Imo!
Not always accurate because in cases of severe distress or suffer tragic loss, many people dissociate or depersonalize. It's a common coping mechanism. Not to say liars won't be calm and collected, jfyi
What convinced me she was lying was when she said the kid appreciated all that she's done for him. No small child has ever uttered these words, not even Oliver Twist.
And when she said out of the blue that she never forced him to call her "super mommy." What a bizarre thing to bring up. The interviewer just asked "did he call you Mom?" Nobody said anything about using force - except her. Where did that come from? Poor kid.
My son at 6 said he appreciated what i have done for him and his sister so yes kids do say stuff like that. And yes he said he appreciated because i taught that word to my so and daughter.
What stood out to me was: - exsessive head nodding - grinning and smiling -talking about what a great mom she is when her kid is missing while most parents in this situation would feel like a terrible mother -she kept talking in past tence -her eyes kept darting around as if she was nervous -she showed no real sadness or emotion -her voice went higher and higher as she continued the interview
The biggest indication that stood out for me that the women with the missing son was lying, was her stating that her son "used" to call her Super Mom. The question was how is your relationship with him, and she used a past tense AND didn't answer the question. This is the first video of yours I've seen and really liked it. I'm now a subscriber. Thank you!
I noticed: - excessive nodding (to convince the listener) - flattened/pressed lips - emotional distancing (not using his name) - talking about him in the past tense (as if she knows he is dead) - turtle neck - weird shoulder shrugs - inability to answer or weird answers (also about how great she is) - affirmative nodding, while stating 'he is NOT with us' - inability to act out the "sad"/"distracted" emotion when evaluating the question that was asked
@@crystalitsasecrete917Me too. To my mind, that's one thing that can stand alone with no other indicators of lying when someone is speaking about a missing loved one. Even after years have gone by in an unsolved missing persons case, you'll often hear family and friends refer to the person in the present tense.
@@ritabrady4033 exactly my thoughts too. Amber’s facial expressions mirrored this lady’s. The pulled together angry lowered eyebrows. Her looking down etc, etc. Very informative video. Thanks.
She also is constantly avoiding direct eye contact with the reporter and camera- along with the “ believe me look “ - when her eyes are wide open with eyebrows raised completely. Great video.
I knew a manipulative liar who will look at you straight in the eyes while lying made you believe the lie shhss I actually believe she believed her own lies reason why I now try to learn anything I can to spot a liar. I do believe that liars like her will avoid looking at someone in the eyes bc she knows what she did is really bad and will be afraid others will see the truth in her eyes since a lot of ppl say “the eyes are the window to the soul” which I believe to be true.
Excellent introduction to spotting a liar. The problem comes when the person lies so well, he or she actually believes the lie for the moment. When I was still teaching in a private school, I had one student who, even though I saw what he did, lied so consistently without any of the standard "tells", I began to question whether or not I really saw what I know I saw. Good practice for spotting lies is to watch a politician when interviewed.
Omg my Step Child did that when, My husband and I starting dating 6 years ago...I looked like someone with fire coming out my ears.. I loved him through it, We don’t lie no more, because I loved him through what he was doing
What immediately stood out to me from the stepmom interview was the total lack of concern. Any parent that has ever lost their kid for 5 minutes in a store knows the feeling of complete panic. If my kid was missing i would be exploding with fear, worry and desperation. You would be able to feel my panic through the screen, i would cry, i would look like a mess, i would beg. She wasnt concerned at all! She looks like she has lost her hair scrunchie, not her child.
When my second oldest son, Timmy, at 18 months had sneaked off to my neighbors yard, while I was gardening- It was literally two minutes since I had looked at him- I freaked out; dropped everything I was doing. I didn’t even worry about my oldest son. I started walking around our house, and when I couldn’t find Timmy, I started bawling my eyes out. I got some mommy intuition to check my next-door neighbors yard. He was literally rounding the back of the yard to go to the front and heading towards the road. I grabbed Timmy just in time, shaking and crying because I thought I had lost him. That and we lived in the country. People regularly drove way over the speed limit past our houses. The whole situation kept me shook up for the rest of the day. I don’t understand this woman’s lack of emotion at all when she’s thinking about where her stepson is. It’s hard for me not to tear up when I think about our other son, Zechariah, we lost to a stillbirth back in 2015. It wasn’t our fault and it was a genetic defect of his heart, but it still makes us miss him. It’s hard not to cry every once in a while remembering we miss him and he’s not here with us. Anyone who’s had a child missing, even for a second, has 1 million different scary emotions rise up and it’s hard to contain it when people are asking you questions or you’re even thinking about it. If I hadn’t found my Timmy right away, I would have been a disaster of a wreck, called my hubby and sheriff’s department…. I would blame myself for looking away for those 2 min. I still did for the rest of the day until David, my hubby, told me it was ok that I listened to my intuition & Timmy was ok and safe. I also struggle with feeling like a super mommy. I don’t think I could ever have the balls to claim that with my family or friends, let alone recorded on camera!!
When my daughter was about two, we going up to see Grandma. Grandma was having some medical issues but not serious, but we had her lay down in our hotel room. My daughter needed a nap at that time. The weirdest thing is I was not even tired but I ended up falling asleep. When I woke up Grandma was still sleeping, but my daughter was GONE. I was absolutely freaking out! This is before cell phones, so I had to leave the room to look down the hall and check the stairwell. I looked out and found a staff person and just asked her if she had seen a little girl. Thankfully she had a radio and broadcast to all the staff that there was a little girl missing. Evidently my husband had come into the room and she was awake so he took her and they were running around in the lobby. I was a bit upset with him that he did not at least leave me a note!!! Yeah at the same time I was just so thankful that all was okay. But yes I will never forget that utter helpless anguish. This woman had absolute zero emotion regarding a missing child. It just boggles my mind.
You are spot-on with this one! I really appreciated your comment! I had a scary incident like that when my daughter was younger (she was under 2 years old and I was in the middle of potty training her) the family went to a public bowling alley. This was the day my daughter decided to go use the bathroom by herself... Within seconds I was in a panic, running & screaming through the bowling alley, at the top of my lungs," help me find my daughter, she's wearing a pink dress "🙏 With our creators help I did a second search in the ladies restroom... I had not seen her the first time because her legs wear to small and I didn't see her feet under the stall door. I was so blessed that day... But I think my heart may have popped out of my chest. I'll never forget that feeling of grief and loss and panic, it was overwhelming!✌️
There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
"He USED TO call me super mommy" She slipped and said, "USED TO" and then corrected herself. Past tense, maybe because she knows the child is dead. She also said, 'We don't force him to say that" I think that means they do force him, why else would you say it? If you didn't force him you wouldn't feel the need to say it, you'd just answer the question and move on. I just found you and this is like the 3rd video I have watched and look forward to learning things.
I think the "we don't force him" is more like a convincing statement, she realizes that super mommy sounds wierd, it isn't a name a child would come up with. So she tries to convince the viewers that he started saying that himself to make her look better.
@@dellapel4728 yes! He was compressing his lips to hide the smirk on his face while talking to law enforcement. He knew exactly where his wife and kids were
I've studied psychology and am fascinated by human behaviour. The one thing that IMMEDIATLY gave her away that doesn't need much analysis is her lack of emotional attachment to the situation. Whether she is a step mother distant relative, you would show physical emotion. In your face especially the corners of your mouth and forehead as you mentioned,; she displayed either zero or the polar opposite. I'm new to your channel but so far really enjoying your content from a human behavioural aspect whether it be from a physiological or emotional angle. Great stuff 👍
@@nickydaviesnsdpharms3084 I know this is late, but her name is Theresa Belboa and I believe her son was Dalton Olson? I will have another look. The Behavior Panal has a video on them. I believe under "another fake plea"
Wow! I think I just found another worthy topic to educate myself with! As a powerful empath/sigma, I/we tend to attract the worst kind of narcissistic, energy sucking people. Much of the time, these people go hand in hand with lying in order to promote their deceptive agendas. Intuition goes a long way, but when combined with some science, we can build a sturdier fortress of protection. That woman was bone chilling to watch, but now at she's only lying to inmates! Thank you for making these videos. It really matters 🥰
When she was asked "Where do you think he could be?" She first reacted like she didn't know saying "somewhere with... " but then her eyes looked down for a few seconds as she focused in like she was accessing her MEMORY and could actually see where he was, she went there in her head... she knew exactly where he was.
You could tell she was nervous about answering it - because she doesn’t know how someone who. Actually wants their kid back would respond or she is innocent but just did a ton of meth to deal with her pain so she is blinking and making tweaky moves hehehehe
@@imibee5184 I bet she found him- you know because she was trying to hard and never giving up not because she put him in whatever horrific situation she is in
@@imibee5184 I tracked down the news. She was caught in a motel while trying to get rid of the evidence and boy's body. She struck him in the head and left body with her roommates who are also now charged and in jail. This video IS sickening to watch after what I've learned
Yes, in her mind's eye she saw the whole picture and I felt she was seeing him buried in the ground. At that point she had a gleeful look of "finally he's gone!" and she was smiling!!
I am a lawyer who has tried lots of jury trials and taken hundreds of depositions. Only listened to this to discredit it as simplistic by the title, but ......not bad! I have listened to many seminars and critiques of depos where lawyers have seized on a single characteristic of lying, which is complete bs, but this guy is pretty close to the truth.
That can be a confidence destroying position to be in. I'm glad you're free and looking into how to better protect yourself. This is a really informative series and I believe it can do a lot of good when applied appropriately. Stay Safe and Happy! 🌻
Me too. But Im an emphat so besides fact that I know him, I always sense when he lies. We have twing girls so I didn't want for them to grow up thinking thats ok, so I end it, but it was not ease. Interesting is that after split he called me a liar for every thing that I said. Apparently liar sees liars in everybody.
I was gaslighted by my ex. He was deliberate about it; he took his time while he worked all the angles. I rarely think about him now since the topic doesn't come up often.
Me too, and I just hoped it was me misinterpreting the lies and gave the benefit of the doubt, but my gut feeling was different, and I should have trusted that feeling, but that's all in the past as that person left me me and it turned out to be a blessing as I no longer have to put up with that behaviour and total dishonesty and are better off for it as you don't need toxic people in your life, Amen.
Hey thanks for the video. I think some of the signs of she being a lier are: 1. She moves back and forth while talking like she is trying to push/force the listener(s) to take what is not RIGHT to take. 2. The way her hands move is definately the way she wants to keep herself in the power position not in helpless situation. 3. She fixes her glasses. I mean, when someone's lying s/he tries to touch their face/nose/glasses with ONE hand to help herself to sound CORRECT. But if she was honest she wouldn't do that.
The excitement she showed and speedy answer she gave when answering that he called her supermom seems to have been from feeling relieved that she is passed a tougher question that she knows she was not fully honest about.
Hi - I noticed she shrugs excessively, almost to the point where her neck is hidden between her shoulders. She does this along with raising her hands, as if to push the interviewer away. I tried this posture and felt like I was being ultra-defensive - as if I was threatened by harm of some kind. It struck me as odd behavior - if I was a caring parent, I would be staring into the camera begging/screaming for help, with my shoulders back and neck forward. I would not be retracting and pushing people away if I was asking for help. It seems did not want to be interviewed, and felt threatened about answering any questions about the case.
That’s a great way to get in someone’s head. Copy their body language and see how you feel. And it worked! What you’re describing is called “turtling” and it indicates lack of confidence and defensiveness. We’re trying to become smaller subconsciously to not get noticed. Good job
@@TheBehavioralArts Fascinating! I'm a new subscriber but enjoying everything I've seen so far. What stood out to me was how long the woman took to answer a simple question, and then she went off on tangents about things that didn't fit. (Besides the unusual facial expressions. So strange!) As you said, offering more details than necessary & deflecting the real question. Keep up the good work!
She's not crying. Period. And she's very very unemotional. Like emanating if anything smug. And thank you for mentioning the smile thing. I see that another in people close to me and try to tell myself I'm just seeing things but when dealing with a narcissist that's exactly what they want you to think. Thank you for your kindness and absolutely necessary tools.
I worked as a paramedic for 30 years. I was amazed at how quickly I developed the ability to detect lies. All the responder professions share this in common - police, fire, EMS, nurses and emergency department doctors. It seems that continual exposure to liars quickly educates us to detect prevarication. As for the woman with the missing child, nothing in her demeanour ‘feels’ like a person who is upset. She doesn’t appear mentally or emotionally exhausted, she seems to be getting sleep, her eyes aren’t red from crying, she is far too calm and not in any sort of a hurry .. she is not harried at all. Nothing about her gives the impression of a worried parent. She seems to be having a pleasant everyday conversation with reporters and from her demeanour she could be announcing a neighbourhood day of garage sales to raise money for a local charity rather than plead for help finding a missing child.
This was so helpful. Re: inconsistencies with what is expected/"normal," that one needs a huge grain of salt and considering clusters. Some people are just different.
She actually says “not with us, the important thing (pause) he’s not with us” she just said the important thing is that he is not with us, she just spelled it out even without looking at her! Then follows by saying “(oh yeah) and we need to bring him back with us” tightly pressing her lips (yuk, that was really difficult to say) what a monstrous human being!! Thank you for sharing, love your work! xxx
Like you said a Liar sells their story and a truthful person tells! I am using this often! you videos help so much now that I am getting out of narcissistic relationships !
I remember the TV Show some few years back called "Lie To Me" it was so good & direct right on target. It was taken off TV. I guess the media didn't want people too know how to use it on folks. I'm glad your HERE.
I was getting ready to mention that but I'm worried that he hates it, lol. Some of the illogical directions it turned kind of proved that this can't carry a TV series that far. The writers gave him practical superpowers that last season. I do believe in several things they say. Qualifying Statements especially - like the woman here insisting they never forced him to call her Supermom, even though they never asked.
My initial observations was that she had 'certainty' of what she was saying; lack of emotion; pursed lips; nodding constantly, implying "yes, believe me!"; when cued, she faked emotions. I look forward to the other video. These psychological cues fascinate me.
Thank you, a family member lied to me a long time ago. I was trying to figure out what happened in the kindest way I could but they go incredibly angry. The guilt and shame was something I have been holding for so long and I’m glad I can let that go.
My sister has lied about the smallest incident her entire life. The lies aren’t meant to outright hurt anyone; rather, she lies to (1) protect herself from shame or embarrassment over a behavior or life choice she’s made; and (2) to elevate herself above others to feel better, to feel more important; and to be relevant. She’s not lived the fairy-tale life that she imagined she would attain, so these lies are a defense mechanism. When I occasionally bring up the contradictory nature of a ‘story’, she becomes defensive and claims I am hurting/angering her to the point where she cuts off contact for several months. Then, she’ll contact me for “a word to clear the air” and detail how I had emotionally hurt her. This is followed by another month of silence as she provides me time to contemplate the nature of my misdeed - yes, MY misdeed. Thereafter, she has healed enough where all is good and right and she returns to her old self as if nothing had happened. Yeah, the perpetrator of the lie had swiftly become the victim through a question that had exposed her. She will never change, as she believes there is no need. After years of this treatment, I’m simply moving onward by severely limiting my contact. Thanks for reading.
@@probablynot1368 I think you're doing the right thing. Protect yourself first from these energies, you've tried and it backfires on to you causing you emotional harm. You shouldn't carry that for her so you're right to move on and live your life with as much positive energies as you can. 💎💖
It was never your guilt or shame to carry. Let it go the past is gone, you don't live there anymore. Move forward positively with your life as guilt is such a nasty emotion. It causes anxiety and no one wants that.
@@probablynot1368 I'm glad you're limiting contact with that person. It's the only way to deal with someone like that. I've studied a lot about NPD/narcissistic behavior and unfortunately it's not curable (possibly treatable in rare circumstances). Beware of "conversation inducing" and other tactics they use to sneak back into your life. Some are very conniving and will wait years, acting as if they've changed. Check out Dr Ramani's channel if interested in more NPD info. Blessings~
Careful. People see what they want to see. Can end up destroying relationships if you let your detective skills overwhelm your life. Not saying that’s what you’d do. Just a thought. Imagine if somebody put a huge effort into seeing the love and kindness in others. They’d almost certainly inspire the others to act with love and kindness
What I noticed (and I'm no student of behaviors) - (1) When she began to say "I think he's with..." and then she stops herself and looks down --- That absolutely screamed out to me that she was about to say something and stopped/caught herself. (2) When she said, "He used to..." -- so he's dead to her is what I immediately thought. Love your videos. Learning soooo much.
I thought she was implying with God by looking down. She was teying to lead watchers into pity. Most of the time that will get people off your back with asking questions. Just my opinion.
Hi Spidey, I have worked as a psychiatric nurse for 50 years and have just retired. Your channel is so wonderfully educational and I have been sharing it. It is great to put a name and details to what have been intuitive responses to people all my life.Your tips on catching a lie have been particularly helpful to a friend of mine who has a difficult grandchild who has been developing a tendency to lie of late. She is extremely intuitive but to actually have some extra tools at her disposal has been enormously helpful. I only started watching U-Tube about a month ago and am so glad that I stumbled upon your channel. I am very impressed with your friend Chase Hughes too, what I would call a true alpha male who doesn't need to prove it. Thank you so much for this valuable service. Also who was that dreadful stepmom? I have no idea who she is, i am in Australia. i would like to see what happened to her even though i know this is a bit perverse.
Hey Stephanie! Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m glad you are enjoying the videos and that you and your friend are finding the information useful. The step mother’s name is Theresa Balboa, you can look it up but be warned: it’s a horrible story.
@@TheBehavioralArts One thing that stuck out to me is she kept nodding, even when it wasn't necessary. Why would she do that? I love your videos, they are interesting and easy to follow.
@@purple5180 it’s not uncommon for someone trying to sell something to keep nodding as an affirmation for themselves or you. Think of a salesperson telling you how great a product is. Like “yes yes, This is true, yes”
Figuring out if someone is lying has always been a challenge for me. I’m glad I caught this channel and thank you for this greatly informative video. Ur video validates some of the things I already counted on as a “tick” when someone lies. As for the lying stepmom, I hope she is in jail and the child found safe and home with loving family. Stepmom here should be balling her eyes out esp when she mentioned “he called me ……” and it’s like she trying to hide underneath or behind her big eyeglasses. If my step child was lost, I couldn’t stand to wear any glasses bc id be crying so much they’d be in the way. I wouldn’t need to wear my eyeglasses bc my eyes would be AFU from being red and swollen from crying. She is using her hands a lot and moving a lot trying to overdo it or trying to be believable and one should not have to try hard at all in this case. She keeps on talking showing nerves and has the “11” between her brows showing stress, too. Pursing her lips is showing her trying too hard to sound convincing. I can’t believe she didn’t shed a tear during the entire interview. A lot of “I’s” are said trying to make us believe she is such a wonderful mom when she should be only telling how wonderful the child is and how much they miss him. She is so disgusting and I am done.
I have a daughter who, when she’s trying to deny she did or didn’t do something she SMILES! That is a dead giveaway that she’s fibbing! She did it as a child & STILL does! She’s 33! Mom’s have special “radar”. ☺️
Your out-of-the-box thinking and unique perspective turned an otherwise mediocre presentation into a fantastic one *johnson spy* . You did a good job of catching the mistakes and keeping us from wasting time and by taking the wrong path. Your attention to detail really sets you apart from the crowd. Great work! Jack, Your great work has resulted in tangible, beneficial results to me. You’re a force to be reckoned
This has easily become one of my favorite & the realest cyber spy hub major level of mature grown conversations amongst legends intellectual mindsets. Different level of transparency. It's authentic. Dope to see! Salute to *Johnson spy*
There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
I am so glad I found your channel. I appreciate all the effort and time you have spent on all of our behalf in order to educate a public at large. In just a few video’s I have learned so much because of your non-pedagogical and unintimidating style that concisely explains and interestingly demonstrates the easily grasped and remembered concepts. Thank you and I look forward to learning and enjoying your other content.
I knew she was lying first because you TOLD us she was lying before we even saw the video :-) But also, she did demonstrate a lot of visible characteristics and audible ones. The angry look, the "He is with....." and then think for a while response, and the "we didn't force him to say Super Mommy", which to me said they probably DID... Overall, an excellent video illustrating these behaviors, thanks for this channel. Good stuff!
This video is awesome. One thing you didn't mention which is probably due to time constraints is how she rambles about, "he wasn’t FORCED to call me 'Super Mommy', we would never FORCE him..." and continues down that rabbit hole. This begs the question, what WAS the kid "forced" to do?
You are bang on with your insight in your reading of what you quoted. I'd disagree that the video is "awesome" as you highlighted the most blatant and salient part of what she said. He didn't. He's conning people by turning around events. Don't forget, everything has already happened. He's rewinding what's happened and adding his theories/tips to fit. It's a sneaky way of getting people to believe how clever he is and add subscribers. Just ask yourself: "What is he doing that I couldn't do?" Nothing.
@@Tammas yeah ive watched a few of these videos and this dude kinda sounds like a broken record or like he's putting a hat on hat (over explaining and adding more or irrelevant detail than necessary) I find it quite hard to pay attention sometimes, what he's doing is called the "double talk" technique.
omg...I deal with deception all the time as an HR manager. And yes, liars will deflect when they don't want to answer your question and start talking about something completely different hoping you will take the bait.
It bears mentioning that one can lie and show none of these signs. If one feels no guilt, they show no signs of deception in their body language. I had my mind blown by a psychopath one time, and it really woke me up. One really needs Columbo levels of inconsistency detection.
Me too, with a malignant narcissistic X for 22 yrs. He could look you straight in the eyes while he told his lies, but couldn't maintain eye contact when he was being honest. If I could turn back time..........
@@kimsteed9401 We have to make sure to make our suffering count by learning the lessons, otherwise it was for nothing. We can't let them drive us to abandon our tenderness.
Love this video, thanks for making it. A lot of great insight here. These are 18 things which gave me an impression that she was lying. Maybe some of the points are a bit similar, but I agree that these answer where totally off and seemed so staged and insincere to me. 1. Resume/Convincing Statement to build themselves up rather than answer questions directly. 2. Smirking and Smiling at inappropriate or unnatural moments. 3. Blink rate, lots more blinking average is 16 times pr minutes, when something attracts us the blink rate slows down and eyes widen because we want to take as much in as possible, but liars stressed blink way more than normal. 4. Failure to answer the entire question by either diverting or focusing on just a small part of it to avoid other parts of it. 5. Pacifying self-soothing gestures such as touching hands, cheeks, chin, legs repeatedly etc. 6. Lip compression, tightening lips or retracting lips. 7. Inconsistency within the story, a contradiction or a inconsistency in what you would expect a normal person to do or say in the situation or setting. Inconsistent emotions. Tries to look angry rather than sad. 8. Constant nodding in body language as if trying to be agreeable rather than having a caring agenda for the missing boy. 9. Lack of emotion or sadness expressed. Emotions here seems so fake. 10.Dubious delight in eyes 11.The stating of what is the “important” thing as if that is something anyone in the situation needs to be reminded of when a little boy is missing. 12.Lack of specific details to what they have been doing and how to find him. 13.Seeming to care more about her own title than the disappearance of the boy. 14.No sense of urgency, which seems very unnatural in the situation. 15.Stating that was his choice not force, which is a irrelevant detail and give reason to wonder why it might even be suggested that it could be forced for him to call her “super mom”, it certainly gives the impression that she has forced him many times. 16.Her smiling and looking away when she says she does not want to force “that” she does not even state the boy as a person but rather as if he is a object. 17.Stating that he ALSO knows how much she cares about him, which is totally irrelevant to the question and situation, it is as if she is trying to convince herself and others that she cares, as if she is on trial, rather than her showing her care by wanting to find the boy and being concerned about his fear and pain. 18. She also said “he used to call me mommy” as if she knew it was in the past and that he was dead already.
This is what I observed: like in the Chris Watts case, she was smirking 😏 and “super duping”. She thought she had everyone fooled because she knew what everyone else did not.. exactly where her stepson was. She also averted eye contact and was blinking way too much. She also spoke about him in the past tense.
Thank you so very much for this. My Mom raised me telling me people don't lie and I believed her. I never told a lie because that's something I believed people didn't do. Then when I was out on my own, I had a lot of trouble thinking everyone was truthful when they really weren't. I'm a senior now and I'm still trying to learn how to recognize truth from lies. It's very necessary as a Pastor.
I've noticed that many companies won't hire you if you don't believe people are inherently good and trustworthy, which is bonkers to me. Everyone lies; some small, some large; however, I kind of believe it's bizarre to not hire some people if they don't trust others easily.
I understand you completely. Those of us who are inherently honest have a hard time recognizing when others lie. Because I was raised to be honest, and couldn't get away with lying if my life depended on it, I've also had a hard time recognizing liars.
Me too. I go in trusting but often quickly get an education. It is such a foreign process to me that I don’t go in thinking, people are lying. It leaves me innocently going through life and being horribly thrown if I am ever doubted. What?!?!! People expect lies? 😮 I guess they do.
That woman flat out said, " The important thing is he is no longer with us." She undoubtedly slipped up and confessed to actually killing her own kid. And it was all caught on camera. Hopefully that woman is in jail now.
I saw the hint of a smile - she lets a smile slip a few times, the "I got away with something" smile. What's really lacking is panic, stress, desperation...my child were missing I'd be desperate, a total emotional mess. My energy would be fraught. She's so chill. If I turned off the sound and just observed her I would never in a million years think she was particularly upset about anything, much less a missing child.
I agree with you. I once lost my children at a shopping centre. I was in panic mode, no rationality whatsoever. I was in two states of mind. One, a denial my children were missing. Two, the reality they were missing. Once I excepted the reality my children were missing. I could feel tears in my eyes. It was a terrible experience. If there were a hell on earth, I was there. This lady show none of that. No red eyes, nothing.
When the mom said she didn't want to force him to call her "supermommy" she had this forceful look on her face and what briefly looked like she was strangling / forcing someone. A picture literally went trough my mind of her forcefully choking the child. That was what creeped me out first.
Also, why would she even feel the need to say that? *I'm Supermom bc we go to McDonald's every weekend and get ice cream after school * would be great. Instead she goes, *He calls me Supermom and he chose it. We didn't force him to say it at all. It would be wrong to force him. * She's wretched.
@@libradawg9 this is what nailed it for me, too. "we didn't force it?" How on earth would that even cross her mind in that moment if the child was actually missing?
@@DanielBarberMusic If the reporter said *Did you make him say that? * would've made so much more sense. That's a lot of defensiveness for a question that was never asked.
Excellent video, Spidey. Thank you for making it. Yes, I am sick past the top of my head with liars. Somebody correct me if you think I'm wrong, but I think one reason for massive amounts of lying in the world today is because there's just no accountability. And another reason is because most people's values have completely deteriorated. Why is this? I have my ideas... Fear, Narcissism, Manipulation. Others..? Honestly, I don't know how to even begin to make people accountable for lying, because the danger there is that societies would become even more totalitarian than they already are. My answer when crossing paths with liars is to avoid them and surgically cut them out of my life, wherever possible. Another thing about liars is that they are also thieves, and vice versa. These two disgusting traits just go hand-in-hand. My second wife admitted to me she stole from her employer in the past. Stupidly, I married her anyway and as you may well imagine, she lied to me and stole from me too. Why did I make the mistake of marrying her to begin with? I was wallowing in my issues of codependency (a term most folks know nothing about or else have serious misconceptions about). I consider myself a recovering codependent and I can detect severe codependencies in others very quickly now. Someone said, "Bad experiences and suffering come from poor judgment, which, if a person pays attention, can lead to better judgment, resulting in better and better experiences." These days I'm interested in finding the "right" woman for me (I don't demand perfection, no) and I've noticed that most women on social media dating platforms resort to #3: Failure To Answer. I pay close attention to this and can screen them out quickly now, just based on this lying red flag alone. I'm just sayin'. Okay, to all the good and sincere folks out there, I wish you a happy life and may your dreams and mine come true! Cheers, Axel Martinsen
Very informative... I learned a lot. Thank you. You asked at video end, what other clues give her away as being deceptive. Couldn't help but notice her response time to simple questions she would have had knowledge of. Yet she takes sooo long to give answers. You can just see the wheels spinning in her brain, of not saying anything to incriminate herself. Examples: "Where is he now?" "Idk", if she really didn't know; " What does he call you?" Took wayyy too long to come up with " Supermom", when I can just hear him shouting often lol, "you're not my mom!"
She’s just got a “Well,moving on!” attitude! Like she’s in a hurry to put it all behind her,sort of a feigned resigning herself to not finding the child! But it’s those flashes of sheer enjoyment on her face, then followed by all that fake scowling,as she struggles not to show her true state of heart. Pure evil!
I saw that look of excited state too. It was appearing as someone happy to be getting the media attention until probing questions were asked that triggered her. Her whole body language was off too. It was creepy and so unsettling.
I worked with a guy who was a chronic liar. It took me about 6 months to realize his stories were lies and I was embarrassed that I had passed them on to others and had to consciously resolve to not retell them. Eventually I noticed that when he was telling one of his stories the tone of his voice would change. He loved meeting new people he could tell his stories to before they caught on. He actually lied to a couple of FBI agents who were investigating a crime our company was involved in tangentially. He gave them false information and included one of his stories I had heard a couple of times before, but with a different cast of characters. To this day I don't know if he was involved or was just blowing smoke to impress the agents. I wanted to clue the agents in but they must have been on a tight schedule and left before I could get a word in.
There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
Gotta say one thing I've noticed during that woman's clip (that I don't really know if it's deception or not, it's just a gut feeling) is how she keeps nodding over and over, probably seeking acceptance from whoever's asking her those questions. That added to what you mentioned about her talking herself up kind of make sense altogether if you think about what kind of person would be able to commit such a crime and not feel remorseful.
The 1st thing I noticed was something she said: "He knows how much I CARE about him." Not: "He knows how much I LOVE him." Or, assuming the boy's father is still in the picture, even: "...how much WE love him." Of course, saying "...how much WE CARE about him," would be as much of a tell as what she actually said.
Really interesting video. As far as the female goes, I feel like her answer that seemed weird is because she has guilty knowledge but not specific knowledge. Like she is certain that her boyfriend/husband did it in her mind and she doesn't know the full details. EDIT - So, looking it up, I have no idea. She definitely is charged and what a mess.
Nono you could be onto something. She had an accomplice so it’s possible she didn’t know where the kid was in that moment. So your hunch on this CAN be 100% correct.
Haha great question. I talk about my credentials in this weekends video but I’ve definitely studied this intensely. I have a degree and a certification. I hope you’ll enjoy the next video where I go into details 😊
She said about all the things she's been doing, all the things she's done. Only when u hate someone u calculate how much u did , how much loved them. 🤔🤔🤔
Hi✋️ When she answers: Somewhere, but..... and pauses, during the pause she sees the reality of where the child is and how he is. After the pause, saying "he is not with us" feels what she has done and seen
Just found you this morning. This is fascinating and intriguing. I wonder if these techniques would have worked with my younger son. He isn't a liar, but he was a story teller. We could not tell for his first 7 years if what he told us was truth or story. In third grade he convinced his entire class and teacher that 1) his older brother threw our dog off the top stair balcony and broke his leg, the dog was in cast for 6 weeks. At P/T conference, the first thing the teacher asked was, how is your dog doing? We were like, what are you talking about? and 2) that he had an adopted sister who lived in Florida (we're in California). That story had started the previous year, apparently. When he told us stories, he told them with such honesty and conviction, we could only tell they were stories when they became fantastical. Luckily, he is an honest person, but I can see how easily he could have used his talents to be dishonest.
Brilliant; thank you. 🙂I noticed just how long she took to construct (since that is what she was doing) her story. Under duress you would speak quickly, passionately, begging for a response. This was like an interview for a job in terms of the time taken to respond. But the responses were red flagging everywhere. Past-tense usage is a flag, too. Folks stay hoping even if it's a forlorn hope. She was slightly leaning into past-tense talk but it was still a flag for an investigator.
Easy way: Speak with trusted persons often. > Notice if something feels off with others. And learn about intuitive and sensing types - MBTI. As an intuitive: Sensing types often seem a bit off for me but it's not because they're lying. It's just because they are sensing types.
I’m glad clusters are important since I’ve had a habit my whole life to compress my lips in both ways, especially because my lips and mouth get dry very often. I also compress my lips out of compassion/empathy a lot. All of your videos are just awesome!!
Thanks so much!!! I’ve trained a lot of lawyers for jury selection and cross examination. This stuff really really helps. I appreciate you sharing the video so much 🤗
This man really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute you. *Brian hacks Online* . The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of levels. Cheers Alex & looking forward to seeing what you do next!
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There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
As always such a concise and accurate interpretation of her fake and horrible response for her missing stepchild. I felt nauseous after watching this, as I felt her deception in my body. I had many similar observations and feelings when Diane Sawyer interviewed Scott Peterson years ago. He killed his pregnant wife Lacy, but before when she was missing he was interviewed. My "spidey" senses were firing. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It's very helpful.
Her constant hesitation answering, the fact she didn’t break down in tears thinking of him calling her super mommy, the complete lack of hysteria and sense of urgency were what I thought signs of deception. I see your point about resume building but the fact I think she was directly asked what he called her gives reason for her to say that, it was the utter lack of emotion she had saying it. She was so matter of fact about it. As for faves, the first sign for me was how fast he was talking, talking loudly with specific inflection.
I suspect this boy felt her hate and tried to get her to like him by calling her super mommy. Children can feel the emotions of a parent or caregiver. He likely never felt safe or loved.
I studied criminal psych and had a course in NLP and micro-exspressions. The pursing of her lips was one of the most telling. The blink rate can be explained by it being windy outside. I agree her behavior was not that of someone being compassionate and honest. The offer of resume was a bit much as well.
I taught criminology, social psychology, research methods leading me to review current research in psychology journals on Non-verbal indicators of deceit and lying. Overwhelmingly the results concluded that non verbal indicators of deceit and lying including microexpressions have very low validity. Also there was lots of criticisms of body language advocates to rely on single subject known liars. Fallacies in logic such as biased cases, confirmation bias was identified as major methodological problem. Criticism was also leveled as pop body language experts, who are not using the scientific method.
Enjoy your videos. As I am also a producer of voice over commercial content. I find there are an amazing amount of cues in the pitch, tone and diction of an answer that can help you spot a deception. I hear it being covered in pieces but think you can do an entire segment on just that. Thanks again for the great videos!
I have a problem: When I get insecure in some important situations, even though I tell the truth, I can't help but thinking that the listeners think I'm lying, so than I am almost sure I give away all the indicators that make me a deceptive liar, even though I am not. How to overcome this? Thank you
He said in reply to another comment, the stress of not being believed is indistinguishable from the stress of being dishonest. 😂. My extremely honest daughter is like that. Sometimes she is misunderstood. But the people close to her know she is pure gold.
I get the same way. If there is an accusation against me, despite not being guilty of anything, I still feel nervous sometimes. I don't fond that normal.
It's funny how most people will believe a lie and be skeptical about the truth. If I make up an answer about a product that I don't really know about the person takes the bait. When I tell the truth they look at me as if I am possibly bullshitting them 🤔
Hello! Your channel is very important and will help many. Thank you for this presentation. A very interesting study piece by far. So many cues. Her guilt practically overwhelms her ability to control herself actually. The verbal cue at the conclusion suggests that she considers the child is no longer alive. Pure evil on display.
Hi Spidey, I'm from Indonesia. Thanks a lot for making these videos. I have watched some and they are all very informative. Hope one day you analyze a case which involves people from different culture and elaborate how their cultural background affects their expressions. Thanks!
Liars often ask you to repeat yourself when you've asked them something in a clear and audible voice. This is a way to buy time for them to come up with a lie.
7:00 I was a court reporter for 9 years and my ears definitely perk up when somebody does not answer the question asked and even in my personal life it makes me crazy. I constantly think, just answer the question I asked you 😆
Her eyes, they had no empathy. No urgency, no grief. They were cold. No tears, no worry.
Loved your video. I learnt a lot. Thank you.
For me if he lie : 1. sigh 2. eyebrow movement 3. retinal eye movement 4. nose
5. Wrinkles on the forehead
Her face looks relieved definitely not upset at all
Like my mother in law, no soul.
You got it right
Completely wrong. Where do you guys look at? There is seemingly a lot happening in her. Besides no statistics were mentioned in this video to proof any point given. Nice try of the contender, but very inconsistent material presentation with a lot of unseriously logical reasoning. From a scientific point of view, the content is not trustworthy at all. So again, don't listen to your guts, DO THE STATISTICS.
Right near the end of the interview she said “He used to call me mommy,” as if she already knows he is in the past. I think a truly concerned parent would say, “He calls me mommy,” as if they view him as still with us, which brings me to my next clue when she repeatedly states ,”He is not with us.” She’s confessing that he is dead.
Amazing and heartbreaking observation! Great catch!
That was *the most* obvious sign to me that she either had something to do with his disappearance, or at least knew or strongly believed that he was not coming back. I don't necessarily think that her mentioning he called her "super mommy" was suspicious because the interviewer had specifically asked about their relationship and if he called her mom, but that mid-statement shift to past-tense was the biggest red-flag for me.
I noticed that too! She kept referring to her step son in past tense, so sad!
I dont follow the news or these events, but why would she hide that she knew he was dead?
Did she kill him or know who did?
@@gchammertime1557 I did not follow this story either, but as I understand it, at the time of the interview her step-son was only known to be missing. The fact that her statements subconsciously indicated that she already knew he was dead gives a very large red-flag that she had something to do with it.
Is it proof? No, absolutely not. There are certainly scenarios where she might personally /believe/ that he wasn't coming back, but wouldn't want to say them, but considering they were in the middle of a search and rescue and she didn't show any signs of hope that he would show up safe and sound...that says a lot...
Trusting your intuition is priceless.
She used past tense like she knew he was "gone"
Lack of emotion. No tears no panic no grief. That's what stood out to me.
Same!!
Exacly! Wen i got set up n accused of something I had TEXTED NOT ACTUALLY DONE!!!! I was UNCONTROLLABLY emotionally distraught and had no idea wot the F was going on! The shock n stress n disbelief was crying uncontrollably for 3 days STRAIGHT!! TRUST me wen I tell u being unfairly set up so ur enemies are puppteering ur loved ones to manipulate an outcome in THEIR favor is THE worst thing ever! It's beyond evil! Mothers DO NOT set up their innocent daughters! They dont! So to find out this dispicable narc neurotic loon tried to do this to me was shocking but lookn bck I pieced together the lies the things she sed n did over the years n it all added up! Not only did she steal my family she abused me and made up rumors which became serious wen the corrupted local authorities got involved! I exposed her lies in court n she didn't even show up or reply with a statement! An indication of her guilt Imo!
Cx. ;
Not always accurate because in cases of severe distress or suffer tragic loss, many people dissociate or depersonalize. It's a common coping mechanism.
Not to say liars won't be calm and collected, jfyi
What convinced me she was lying was when she said the kid appreciated all that she's done for him. No small child has ever uttered these words, not even Oliver Twist.
And when she said out of the blue that she never forced him to call her "super mommy." What a bizarre thing to bring up. The interviewer just asked "did he call you Mom?"
Nobody said anything about using force - except her. Where did that come from? Poor kid.
I wish i could give this comment an award. "I really appreciate all the hard work my mommy does for me."- said no kid ever.
My son at 6 said he appreciated what i have done for him and his sister so yes kids do say stuff like that. And yes he said he appreciated because i taught that word to my so and daughter.
@@13KimberlyJo Even if they feel it they don't always Express it. Good on you!
RIGHT!!
What stood out to me was:
- exsessive head nodding
- grinning and smiling
-talking about what a great mom she is when her kid is missing while most parents in this situation would feel like a terrible mother
-she kept talking in past tence
-her eyes kept darting around as if she was nervous
-she showed no real sadness or emotion
-her voice went higher and higher as she continued the interview
He’s not with us and that’s an important thing. 🥴 She just literally told the truth Right there
Can I borrow a shovel?
that was the biggest red flag in my opinion
Yes, for me too. That sentence was a micro truth of what really happened. She then tried to explain her answer
The biggest indication that stood out for me that the women with the missing son was lying, was her stating that her son "used" to call her Super Mom. The question was how is your relationship with him, and she used a past tense AND didn't answer the question. This is the first video of yours I've seen and really liked it. I'm now a subscriber. Thank you!
I noticed:
- excessive nodding (to convince the listener)
- flattened/pressed lips
- emotional distancing (not using his name)
- talking about him in the past tense (as if she knows he is dead)
- turtle neck
- weird shoulder shrugs
- inability to answer or weird answers (also about how great she is)
- affirmative nodding, while stating 'he is NOT with us'
- inability to act out the "sad"/"distracted" emotion when evaluating the question that was asked
Reminds me of Amber Heard on the stand
the huge one for me wasn't the body language. It was referring to him in PAST tense.
@@crystalitsasecrete917Me too. To my mind, that's one thing that can stand alone with no other indicators of lying when someone is speaking about a missing loved one. Even after years have gone by in an unsolved missing persons case, you'll often hear family and friends refer to the person in the present tense.
@@ritabrady4033 ya think?
@@ritabrady4033 exactly my thoughts too. Amber’s facial expressions mirrored this lady’s. The pulled together angry lowered eyebrows. Her looking down etc, etc. Very informative video. Thanks.
She also is constantly avoiding direct eye contact with the reporter and camera- along with the “ believe me look “ - when her eyes are wide open with eyebrows raised completely. Great video.
I knew a manipulative liar who will look at you straight in the eyes while lying made you believe the lie shhss I actually believe she believed her own lies reason why I now try to learn anything I can to spot a liar. I do believe that liars like her will avoid looking at someone in the eyes bc she knows what she did is really bad and will be afraid others will see the truth in her eyes since a lot of ppl say “the eyes are the window to the soul” which I believe to be true.
Weird feelings, trying no to catch
Excellent introduction to spotting a liar. The problem comes when the person lies so well, he or she actually believes the lie for the moment. When I was still teaching in a private school, I had one student who, even though I saw what he did, lied so consistently without any of the standard "tells", I began to question whether or not I really saw what I know I saw. Good practice for spotting lies is to watch a politician when interviewed.
Omg my Step Child did that when, My husband and I starting dating 6 years ago...I looked like someone with fire coming out my ears.. I loved him through it, We don’t lie no more, because I loved him through what he was doing
@@xCDF-pt8kj This is the comments section police, that was a dissertation mam
I don’t care
Then, the thing isn't to know if he is lying, but why. 48 Laws of power helps analyze and understand people's motivations and actions.
Psychopaths and professional actors don't necessarily show any of these signs. It's part of their nature.
Eye contact and the fact that she would talk about him in past tense 🙌!
What immediately stood out to me from the stepmom interview was the total lack of concern. Any parent that has ever lost their kid for 5 minutes in a store knows the feeling of complete panic. If my kid was missing i would be exploding with fear, worry and desperation. You would be able to feel my panic through the screen, i would cry, i would look like a mess, i would beg. She wasnt concerned at all! She looks like she has lost her hair scrunchie, not her child.
When my dog disappeared I was frantic! I searched like crazy. Frantically, immediately.
When my second oldest son, Timmy, at 18 months had sneaked off to my neighbors yard, while I was gardening- It was literally two minutes since I had looked at him- I freaked out; dropped everything I was doing. I didn’t even worry about my oldest son.
I started walking around our house, and when I couldn’t find Timmy, I started bawling my eyes out.
I got some mommy intuition to check my next-door neighbors yard. He was literally rounding the back of the yard to go to the front and heading towards the road.
I grabbed Timmy just in time, shaking and crying because I thought I had lost him. That and we lived in the country. People regularly drove way over the speed limit past our houses.
The whole situation kept me shook up for the rest of the day.
I don’t understand this woman’s lack of emotion at all when she’s thinking about where her stepson is.
It’s hard for me not to tear up when I think about our other son, Zechariah, we lost to a stillbirth back in 2015. It wasn’t our fault and it was a genetic defect of his heart, but it still makes us miss him. It’s hard not to cry every once in a while remembering we miss him and he’s not here with us.
Anyone who’s had a child missing, even for a second, has 1 million different scary emotions rise up and it’s hard to contain it when people are asking you questions or you’re even thinking about it.
If I hadn’t found my Timmy right away, I would have been a disaster of a wreck, called my hubby and sheriff’s department…. I would blame myself for looking away for those 2 min. I still did for the rest of the day until David, my hubby, told me it was ok that I listened to my intuition & Timmy was ok and safe.
I also struggle with feeling like a super mommy. I don’t think I could ever have the balls to claim that with my family or friends, let alone recorded on camera!!
When my daughter was about two, we going up to see Grandma. Grandma was having some medical issues but not serious, but we had her lay down in our hotel room. My daughter needed a nap at that time. The weirdest thing is I was not even tired but I ended up falling asleep. When I woke up Grandma was still sleeping, but my daughter was GONE. I was absolutely freaking out! This is before cell phones, so I had to leave the room to look down the hall and check the stairwell. I looked out and found a staff person and just asked her if she had seen a little girl. Thankfully she had a radio and broadcast to all the staff that there was a little girl missing.
Evidently my husband had come into the room and she was awake so he took her and they were running around in the lobby. I was a bit upset with him that he did not at least leave me a note!!! Yeah at the same time I was just so thankful that all was okay. But yes I will never forget that utter helpless anguish.
This woman had absolute zero emotion regarding a missing child. It just boggles my mind.
You are spot-on with this one!
I really appreciated your comment!
I had a scary incident like that when my daughter was younger (she was under 2 years old and I was in the middle of potty training her) the family went to a public bowling alley. This was the day my daughter decided to go use the bathroom by herself... Within seconds I was in a panic, running & screaming through the bowling alley, at the top of my lungs," help me find my daughter, she's wearing a pink dress "🙏 With our creators help I did a second search in the ladies restroom...
I had not seen her the first time because her legs wear to small and I didn't see her feet under the stall door. I was so blessed that day...
But I think my heart may have popped out of my chest. I'll never forget that feeling of grief and loss and panic, it was overwhelming!✌️
There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
"He USED TO call me super mommy" She slipped and said, "USED TO" and then corrected herself. Past tense, maybe because she knows the child is dead.
She also said, 'We don't force him to say that" I think that means they do force him, why else would you say it? If you didn't force him you wouldn't feel the need to say it, you'd just answer the question and move on.
I just found you and this is like the 3rd video I have watched and look forward to learning things.
You nailed 100% of those observations 😊
I think the "we don't force him" is more like a convincing statement, she realizes that super mommy sounds wierd, it isn't a name a child would come up with. So she tries to convince the viewers that he started saying that himself to make her look better.
@@dellapel4728 yes! He was compressing his lips to hide the smirk on his face while talking to law enforcement. He knew exactly where his wife and kids were
I've studied psychology and am fascinated by human behaviour. The one thing that IMMEDIATLY gave her away that doesn't need much analysis is her lack of emotional attachment to the situation. Whether she is a step mother distant relative, you would show physical emotion. In your face especially the corners of your mouth and forehead as you mentioned,; she displayed either zero or the polar opposite.
I'm new to your channel but so far really enjoying your content from a human behavioural aspect whether it be from a physiological or emotional angle.
Great stuff 👍
Yup!
what is that woman's name please? (the black haired woman in the clip) cos i wanna find a clip but dunno what to search for. Thanks
@@nickydaviesnsdpharms3084 I know this is late, but her name is Theresa Belboa and I believe her son was Dalton Olson? I will have another look. The Behavior Panal has a video on them. I believe under "another fake plea"
I completely agree 💯
I noticed the same. Not one sign of emotional upset at all. She also seemed to be enjoying the attention.
Wow! I think I just found another worthy topic to educate myself with! As a powerful empath/sigma, I/we tend to attract the worst kind of narcissistic, energy sucking people. Much of the time, these people go hand in hand with lying in order to promote their deceptive agendas. Intuition goes a long way, but when combined with some science, we can build a sturdier fortress of protection. That woman was bone chilling to watch, but now at she's only lying to inmates! Thank you for making these videos. It really matters 🥰
You have told a hell of a lot about yourself in that statement.
If my child were missing, I'd have tears running down my face and a very desperate urgency to get the facts out. This was quite informative.
I always watch interviews with no sound simply to watch body language. Very enlightening and typically screams the truth!
Rosefunk what a good idea
When she was asked "Where do you think he could be?" She first reacted like she didn't know saying "somewhere with... " but then her eyes looked down for a few seconds as she focused in like she was accessing her MEMORY and could actually see where he was, she went there in her head... she knew exactly where he was.
Did they find him?
You could tell she was nervous about answering it - because she doesn’t know how someone who. Actually wants their kid back would respond or she is innocent but just did a ton of meth to deal with her pain so she is blinking and making tweaky moves hehehehe
@@imibee5184 I bet she found him- you know because she was trying to hard and never giving up not because she put him in whatever horrific situation she is in
@@imibee5184 I tracked down the news. She was caught in a motel while trying to get rid of the evidence and boy's body. She struck him in the head and left body with her roommates who are also now charged and in jail. This video IS sickening to watch after what I've learned
Yes, in her mind's eye she saw the whole picture and I felt she was seeing him buried in the ground. At that point she had a gleeful look of "finally he's gone!" and she was smiling!!
I am a lawyer who has tried lots of jury trials and taken hundreds of depositions. Only listened to this to discredit it as simplistic by the title,
but ......not bad! I have listened to many seminars and critiques of depos where lawyers have seized on a single characteristic of lying, which is complete bs, but this guy is pretty close to the truth.
I was married to a pathological liar. I always knew but doubted myself. One thing you do is give validation. THANKS!
That can be a confidence destroying position to be in. I'm glad you're free and looking into how to better protect yourself.
This is a really informative series and I believe it can do a lot of good when applied appropriately.
Stay Safe and Happy! 🌻
Me too. But Im an emphat so besides fact that I know him, I always sense when he lies. We have twing girls so I didn't want for them to grow up thinking thats ok, so I end it, but it was not ease. Interesting is that after split he called me a liar for every thing that I said. Apparently liar sees liars in everybody.
Probably a psychopath too. Took me 23 years to realize. You just can't believe someone would lie about the most petty things.
I was gaslighted by my ex. He was deliberate about it; he took his time while he worked all the angles. I rarely think about him now since the topic doesn't come up often.
Me too, and I just hoped it was me misinterpreting the lies and gave the benefit of the doubt, but my gut feeling was different, and I should have trusted that feeling, but that's all in the past as that person left me me and it turned out to be a blessing as I no longer have to put up with that behaviour and total dishonesty and are better off for it as you don't need toxic people in your life, Amen.
Hey thanks for the video. I think some of the signs of she being a lier are:
1. She moves back and forth while talking like she is trying to push/force the listener(s) to take what is not RIGHT to take.
2. The way her hands move is definately the way she wants to keep herself in the power position not in helpless situation.
3. She fixes her glasses. I mean, when someone's lying s/he tries to touch their face/nose/glasses with ONE hand to help herself to sound CORRECT. But if she was honest she wouldn't do that.
Finally, someone who is not biased and targeting specific people when there is so many thousand of behaviors to analize, interesting, thank you
The excitement she showed and speedy answer she gave when answering that he called her supermom seems to have been from feeling relieved that she is passed a tougher question that she knows she was not fully honest about.
Hi - I noticed she shrugs excessively, almost to the point where her neck is hidden between her shoulders. She does this along with raising her hands, as if to push the interviewer away. I tried this posture and felt like I was being ultra-defensive - as if I was threatened by harm of some kind. It struck me as odd behavior - if I was a caring parent, I would be staring into the camera begging/screaming for help, with my shoulders back and neck forward. I would not be retracting and pushing people away if I was asking for help. It seems did not want to be interviewed, and felt threatened about answering any questions about the case.
That’s a great way to get in someone’s head. Copy their body language and see how you feel. And it worked! What you’re describing is called “turtling” and it indicates lack of confidence and defensiveness. We’re trying to become smaller subconsciously to not get noticed. Good job
@@TheBehavioralArts Fascinating! I'm a new subscriber but enjoying everything I've seen so far. What stood out to me was how long the woman took to answer a simple question, and then she went off on tangents about things that didn't fit. (Besides the unusual facial expressions. So strange!) As you said, offering more details than necessary & deflecting the real question. Keep up the good work!
what is that woman's name please? (the black haired woman in the clip) cos i wanna find a clip but dunno what to search for. Thanks
@@nickydaviesnsdpharms3084 theresa balboa from houston tx killed her step son 5 year old Samuel Olson
She’s a real monster
@@justjess986 thank you
She's not crying. Period. And she's very very unemotional. Like emanating if anything smug.
And thank you for mentioning the smile thing. I see that another in people close to me and try to tell myself I'm just seeing things but when dealing with a narcissist that's exactly what they want you to think.
Thank you for your kindness and absolutely necessary tools.
I worked as a paramedic for 30 years. I was amazed at how quickly I developed the ability to detect lies. All the responder professions share this in common - police, fire, EMS, nurses and emergency department doctors. It seems that continual exposure to liars quickly educates us to detect prevarication. As for the woman with the missing child, nothing in her demeanour ‘feels’ like a person who is upset. She doesn’t appear mentally or emotionally exhausted, she seems to be getting sleep, her eyes aren’t red from crying, she is far too calm and not in any sort of a hurry .. she is not harried at all. Nothing about her gives the impression of a worried parent. She seems to be having a pleasant everyday conversation with reporters and from her demeanour she could be announcing a neighbourhood day of garage sales to raise money for a local charity rather than plead for help finding a missing child.
Spot on!!
Exactly. So do we really need this self styled genius pointing out these flagrantly obvious details?
When Understanding people is important to their health/ect
@@drtimoshea4087 Yes, we do.
I couldn't have said it better myself!!
This was so helpful. Re: inconsistencies with what is expected/"normal," that one needs a huge grain of salt and considering clusters. Some people are just different.
She actually says “not with us, the important thing (pause) he’s not with us” she just said the important thing is that he is not with us, she just spelled it out even without looking at her!
Then follows by saying “(oh yeah) and we need to bring him back with us” tightly pressing her lips (yuk, that was really difficult to say) what a monstrous human being!!
Thank you for sharing, love your work! xxx
Yes, that's exactly my repsonse, and biggest red flag of her video clip.
Yes I picked up on that exact comment
Somewhere with God.
"not with us" "he's not with us" Is the inbedded confession.
Like you said a Liar sells their story and a truthful person tells! I am using this often! you videos help so much now that I am getting out of narcissistic relationships !
I remember the TV Show some few years back called "Lie To Me" it was so good & direct right on target. It was taken off TV. I guess the media didn't want people too know how to use it on folks. I'm glad your HERE.
I was getting ready to mention that but I'm worried that he hates it, lol. Some of the illogical directions it turned kind of proved that this can't carry a TV series that far. The writers gave him practical superpowers that last season. I do believe in several things they say. Qualifying Statements especially - like the woman here insisting they never forced him to call her Supermom, even though they never asked.
Lie to me is now on Hulu...I am going to rewatch again
That was a great show! I was really sad when there werent anymore more episodes!
My initial observations was that she had 'certainty' of what she was saying; lack of emotion; pursed lips; nodding constantly, implying "yes, believe me!"; when cued, she faked emotions. I look forward to the other video. These psychological cues fascinate me.
Thank you, a family member lied to me a long time ago. I was trying to figure out what happened in the kindest way I could but they go incredibly angry. The guilt and shame was something I have been holding for so long and I’m glad I can let that go.
yes how good of you to let it go. Their reaction was all about them, nothing about you or the way you talked.
My sister has lied about the smallest incident her entire life. The lies aren’t meant to outright hurt anyone; rather, she lies to (1) protect herself from shame or embarrassment over a behavior or life choice she’s made; and (2) to elevate herself above others to feel better, to feel more important; and to be relevant. She’s not lived the fairy-tale life that she imagined she would attain, so these lies are a defense mechanism. When I occasionally bring up the contradictory nature of a ‘story’, she becomes defensive and claims I am hurting/angering her to the point where she cuts off contact for several months. Then, she’ll contact me for “a word to clear the air” and detail how I had emotionally hurt her. This is followed by another month of silence as she provides me time to contemplate the nature of my misdeed - yes, MY misdeed. Thereafter, she has healed enough where all is good and right and she returns to her old self as if nothing had happened. Yeah, the perpetrator of the lie had swiftly become the victim through a question that had exposed her. She will never change, as she believes there is no need. After years of this treatment, I’m simply moving onward by severely limiting my contact. Thanks for reading.
@@probablynot1368 I think you're doing the right thing. Protect yourself first from these energies, you've tried and it backfires on to you causing you emotional harm. You shouldn't carry that for her so you're right to move on and live your life with as much positive energies as you can. 💎💖
It was never your guilt or shame to carry. Let it go the past is gone, you don't live there anymore. Move forward positively with your life as guilt is such a nasty emotion. It causes anxiety and no one wants that.
@@probablynot1368 I'm glad you're limiting contact with that person. It's the only way to deal with someone like that. I've studied a lot about NPD/narcissistic behavior and unfortunately it's not curable (possibly treatable in rare circumstances). Beware of "conversation inducing" and other tactics they use to sneak back into your life. Some are very conniving and will wait years, acting as if they've changed. Check out Dr Ramani's channel if interested in more NPD info. Blessings~
So happy I found you, I’m pretty good with my intuition but I love to learn this skill because I wanna get really a lot better at it.
Welcome to the channel! 🤗
If somebody is liying, they will find a way. A person who loves you, also lies. LIES TO YOU YOU, SO MAKE HIM AND YOU HAPPY. 🙂
Careful. People see what they want to see. Can end up destroying relationships if you let your detective skills overwhelm your life. Not saying that’s what you’d do. Just a thought. Imagine if somebody put a huge effort into seeing the love and kindness in others. They’d almost certainly inspire the others to act with love and kindness
Carlsen, have you seen the show Lie to me?
What I noticed (and I'm no student of behaviors) -
(1) When she began to say "I think he's with..." and then she stops herself and looks down --- That absolutely screamed out to me that she was about to say something and stopped/caught herself.
(2) When she said, "He used to..." -- so he's dead to her is what I immediately thought.
Love your videos. Learning soooo much.
I thought she was implying with God by looking down. She was teying to lead watchers into pity. Most of the time that will get people off your back with asking questions. Just my opinion.
Failure to answer is what I see ALL THE TIME. The intentional liars usually add some tangent that distracts you.
Hi Spidey, I have worked as a psychiatric nurse for 50 years and have just retired. Your channel is so wonderfully educational and I have been sharing it. It is great to put a name and details to what have been intuitive responses to people all my life.Your tips on catching a lie have been particularly helpful to a friend of mine who has a difficult grandchild who has been developing a tendency to lie of late. She is extremely intuitive but to actually have some extra tools at her disposal has been enormously helpful. I only started watching U-Tube about a month ago and am so glad that I stumbled upon your channel. I am very impressed with your friend Chase Hughes too, what I would call a true alpha male who doesn't need to prove it. Thank you so much for this valuable service. Also who was that dreadful stepmom? I have no idea who she is, i am in Australia. i would like to see what happened to her even though i know this is a bit perverse.
Hey Stephanie! Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m glad you are enjoying the videos and that you and your friend are finding the information useful. The step mother’s name is Theresa Balboa, you can look it up but be warned: it’s a horrible story.
@@TheBehavioralArts One thing that stuck out to me is she kept nodding, even when it wasn't necessary. Why would she do that? I love your videos, they are interesting and easy to follow.
@@purple5180 it’s not uncommon for someone trying to sell something to keep nodding as an affirmation for themselves or you. Think of a salesperson telling you how great a product is. Like “yes yes,
This is true, yes”
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Hello from Florida fellow Aussie here 🙂
Man, did you know that I keep a notebook just to take notes while watching your videos? Love it!!! Thank you!
Figuring out if someone is lying has always been a challenge for me. I’m glad I caught this channel and thank you for this greatly informative video. Ur video validates some of the things I already counted on as a “tick” when someone lies. As for the lying stepmom, I hope she is in jail and the child found safe and home with loving family. Stepmom here should be balling her eyes out esp when she mentioned “he called me ……” and it’s like she trying to hide underneath or behind her big eyeglasses. If my step child was lost, I couldn’t stand to wear any glasses bc id be crying so much they’d be in the way. I wouldn’t need to wear my eyeglasses bc my eyes would be AFU from being red and swollen from crying. She is using her hands a lot and moving a lot trying to overdo it or trying to be believable and one should not have to try hard at all in this case. She keeps on talking showing nerves and has the “11” between her brows showing stress, too. Pursing her lips is showing her trying too hard to sound convincing. I can’t believe she didn’t shed a tear during the entire interview. A lot of “I’s” are said trying to make us believe she is such a wonderful mom when she should be only telling how wonderful the child is and how much they miss him. She is so disgusting and I am done.
Well the smirking stood out big time for me. Plus emotionally she doesn’t even seem remotely upset at losing her child.
I have a daughter who, when she’s trying to deny she did or didn’t do something she SMILES! That is a dead giveaway that she’s fibbing! She did it as a child & STILL does! She’s 33! Mom’s have special “radar”. ☺️
Your out-of-the-box thinking and unique perspective turned an otherwise mediocre presentation into a fantastic one *johnson spy* . You did a good job of catching the mistakes and keeping us from wasting time and by taking the wrong path. Your attention to detail really sets you apart from the crowd. Great work! Jack, Your great work has resulted in tangible, beneficial results to me. You’re a force to be reckoned
Thanks *johnsonspy* for the remote access into target's complete phone activities
This has easily become one of my favorite & the realest cyber spy hub major level of mature grown conversations amongst legends intellectual mindsets. Different level of transparency. It's authentic. Dope to see! Salute to *Johnson spy*
Who the hell is Johnson spy??
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There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
Understanding non verbal communication is priceless. Love this science.
This is the something as knowing how to spot a narcissist. God-bless.
I am so glad I found your channel. I appreciate all the effort and time you have spent on all of our behalf in order to educate a public at large. In just a few video’s I have learned so much because of your non-pedagogical and unintimidating style that concisely explains and interestingly demonstrates the easily grasped and remembered concepts. Thank you and I look forward to learning and enjoying your other content.
Love your use of vocabulary: non-pedagogical and unintimidating style. hahaha that made my day.
Agreed 👍
I too am fed up with pedagogical video’s.
Too much teaching.
Grammar being a subject exempt, of course.
I knew she was lying first because you TOLD us she was lying before we even saw the video :-) But also, she did demonstrate a lot of visible characteristics and audible ones. The angry look, the "He is with....." and then think for a while response, and the "we didn't force him to say Super Mommy", which to me said they probably DID... Overall, an excellent video illustrating these behaviors, thanks for this channel. Good stuff!
This video is awesome. One thing you didn't mention which is probably due to time constraints is how she rambles about, "he wasn’t FORCED to call me 'Super Mommy', we would never FORCE him..." and continues down that rabbit hole. This begs the question, what WAS the kid "forced" to do?
*( EXACTLY ! ) €¥£ ^
Exactly
You are bang on with your insight in your reading of what you quoted. I'd disagree that the video is "awesome" as you highlighted the most blatant and salient part of what she said. He didn't.
He's conning people by turning around events. Don't forget, everything has already happened. He's rewinding what's happened and adding his theories/tips to fit. It's a sneaky way of getting people to believe how clever he is and add subscribers.
Just ask yourself: "What is he doing that I couldn't do?" Nothing.
Yep!!
@@Tammas yeah ive watched a few of these videos and this dude kinda sounds like a broken record or like he's putting a hat on hat (over explaining and adding more or irrelevant detail than necessary) I find it quite hard to pay attention sometimes, what he's doing is called the "double talk" technique.
omg...I deal with deception all the time as an HR manager. And yes, liars will deflect when they don't want to answer your question and start talking about something completely different hoping you will take the bait.
It bears mentioning that one can lie and show none of these signs. If one feels no guilt, they show no signs of deception in their body language. I had my mind blown by a psychopath one time, and it really woke me up. One really needs Columbo levels of inconsistency detection.
also if they believe what they are saying it can be impossible to tell
Me too, with a malignant narcissistic X for 22 yrs. He could look you straight in the eyes while he told his lies, but couldn't maintain eye contact when he was being honest. If I could turn back time..........
@@kimsteed9401 We mangle ourselves like we are a wire, with which we will pick the lock of their heart, if we can only just bend the right way.
@@t.c.494 Took me the better part of my life to realize that. Oh, well, better late than never.
@@kimsteed9401 We have to make sure to make our suffering count by learning the lessons, otherwise it was for nothing. We can't let them drive us to abandon our tenderness.
Love this video, thanks for making it. A lot of great insight here. These are 18 things which gave me an impression that she was lying. Maybe some of the points are a bit similar, but I agree that these answer where totally off and seemed so staged and insincere to me.
1. Resume/Convincing Statement to build themselves up rather than answer questions directly.
2. Smirking and Smiling at inappropriate or unnatural moments.
3. Blink rate, lots more blinking average is 16 times pr minutes, when something attracts us the blink rate slows down and eyes widen because we want to take as much in as possible, but liars stressed blink way more than normal.
4. Failure to answer the entire question by either diverting or focusing on just a small part of it to avoid other parts of it.
5. Pacifying self-soothing gestures such as touching hands, cheeks, chin, legs repeatedly etc.
6. Lip compression, tightening lips or retracting lips.
7. Inconsistency within the story, a contradiction or a inconsistency in what you would expect a normal person to do or say in the situation or setting. Inconsistent emotions. Tries to look angry rather than sad.
8. Constant nodding in body language as if trying to be agreeable rather than having a caring agenda for the missing boy.
9. Lack of emotion or sadness expressed. Emotions here seems so fake.
10.Dubious delight in eyes
11.The stating of what is the “important” thing as if that is something anyone in the situation needs to be reminded of when a little boy is missing.
12.Lack of specific details to what they have been doing and how to find him.
13.Seeming to care more about her own title than the disappearance of the boy.
14.No sense of urgency, which seems very unnatural in the situation.
15.Stating that was his choice not force, which is a irrelevant detail and give reason to wonder why it might even be suggested that it could be forced for him to call her “super mom”, it certainly gives the impression that she has forced him many times.
16.Her smiling and looking away when she says she does not want to force “that” she does not even state the boy as a person but rather as if he is a object.
17.Stating that he ALSO knows how much she cares about him, which is totally irrelevant to the question and situation, it is as if she is trying to convince herself and others that she cares, as if she is on trial, rather than her showing her care by wanting to find the boy and being concerned about his fear and pain.
18. She also said “he used to call me mommy” as if she knew it was in the past and that he was dead already.
Beautiful Analysis
Great eye!
This is what I observed: like in the Chris Watts case, she was smirking 😏 and “super duping”. She thought she had everyone fooled because she knew what everyone else did not.. exactly where her stepson was. She also averted eye contact and was blinking way too much. She also spoke about him in the past tense.
Thank you so very much for this. My Mom raised me telling me people don't lie and I believed her. I never told a lie because that's something I believed people didn't do. Then when I was out on my own, I had a lot of trouble thinking everyone was truthful when they really weren't. I'm a senior now and I'm still trying to learn how to recognize truth from lies. It's very necessary as a Pastor.
I've noticed that many companies won't hire you if you don't believe people are inherently good and trustworthy, which is bonkers to me. Everyone lies; some small, some large; however, I kind of believe it's bizarre to not hire some people if they don't trust others easily.
I understand you completely. Those of us who are inherently honest have a hard time recognizing when others lie.
Because I was raised to be honest, and couldn't get away with lying if my life depended on it, I've also had a hard time recognizing liars.
Me too. I go in trusting but often quickly get an education. It is such a foreign process to me that I don’t go in thinking, people are lying. It leaves me innocently going through life and being horribly thrown if I am ever doubted. What?!?!! People expect lies? 😮 I guess they do.
That woman flat out said, " The important thing is he is no longer with us." She undoubtedly slipped up and confessed to actually killing her own kid. And it was all caught on camera. Hopefully that woman is in jail now.
I really like that you show some actual footage to analyze. Nice video!
The crazy thing is we notice these signs subconsciously which leads to our “gut feeling”
Thank you for imparting this wisdom. Much needed for people like me who can read subtext of people’s emotions in the room.
I saw the hint of a smile - she lets a smile slip a few times, the "I got away with something" smile. What's really lacking is panic, stress, desperation...my child were missing I'd be desperate, a total emotional mess. My energy would be fraught. She's so chill. If I turned off the sound and just observed her I would never in a million years think she was particularly upset about anything, much less a missing child.
I agree with you. I once lost my children at a shopping centre. I was in panic mode, no rationality whatsoever. I was in two states of mind. One, a denial my children were missing. Two, the reality they were missing. Once I excepted the reality my children were missing. I could feel tears in my eyes. It was a terrible experience. If there were a hell on earth, I was there.
This lady show none of that. No red eyes, nothing.
When the mom said she didn't want to force him to call her "supermommy" she had this forceful look on her face and what briefly looked like she was strangling / forcing someone. A picture literally went trough my mind of her forcefully choking the child. That was what creeped me out first.
Also, why would she even feel the need to say that? *I'm Supermom bc we go to McDonald's every weekend and get ice cream after school * would be great. Instead she goes, *He calls me Supermom and he chose it. We didn't force him to say it at all. It would be wrong to force him. * She's wretched.
@@libradawg9 this is what nailed it for me, too. "we didn't force it?" How on earth would that even cross her mind in that moment if the child was actually missing?
@@DanielBarberMusic If the reporter said *Did you make him say that? * would've made so much more sense. That's a lot of defensiveness for a question that was never asked.
@@libradawg9 sure would have, and sure is...
Excellent video, Spidey. Thank you for making it. Yes, I am sick past the top of my head with liars. Somebody correct me if you think I'm wrong, but I think one reason for massive amounts of lying in the world today is because there's just no accountability. And another reason is because most people's values have completely deteriorated. Why is this? I have my ideas... Fear, Narcissism, Manipulation. Others..? Honestly, I don't know how to even begin to make people accountable for lying, because the danger there is that societies would become even more totalitarian than they already are. My answer when crossing paths with liars is to avoid them and surgically cut them out of my life, wherever possible. Another thing about liars is that they are also thieves, and vice versa. These two disgusting traits just go hand-in-hand. My second wife admitted to me she stole from her employer in the past. Stupidly, I married her anyway and as you may well imagine, she lied to me and stole from me too. Why did I make the mistake of marrying her to begin with? I was wallowing in my issues of codependency (a term most folks know nothing about or else have serious misconceptions about). I consider myself a recovering codependent and I can detect severe codependencies in others very quickly now. Someone said, "Bad experiences and suffering come from poor judgment, which, if a person pays attention, can lead to better judgment, resulting in better and better experiences." These days I'm interested in finding the "right" woman for me (I don't demand perfection, no) and I've noticed that most women on social media dating platforms resort to #3: Failure To Answer. I pay close attention to this and can screen them out quickly now, just based on this lying red flag alone. I'm just sayin'. Okay, to all the good and sincere folks out there, I wish you a happy life and may your dreams and mine come true! Cheers, Axel Martinsen
Once you've lived with a narcissist, you're well versed in deception and scapegoating.
Very informative... I learned a lot. Thank you.
You asked at video end, what other clues give her away as being deceptive. Couldn't help but notice her response time to simple questions she would have had knowledge of. Yet she takes sooo long to give answers. You can just see the wheels spinning in her brain, of not saying anything to incriminate herself.
Examples: "Where is he now?"
"Idk", if she really didn't know;
" What does he call you?" Took wayyy too long to come up with " Supermom", when I can just hear him shouting often lol, "you're not my mom!"
The best show was "Lie to Me!" It showed in detail all ways to detect deception..
She’s just got a “Well,moving on!” attitude! Like she’s in a hurry to put it all behind her,sort of a feigned resigning herself to not finding the child! But it’s those flashes of sheer enjoyment on her face, then followed by all that fake scowling,as she struggles not to show her true state of heart. Pure evil!
I saw that look of excited state too. It was appearing as someone happy to be getting the media attention until probing questions were asked that triggered her. Her whole body language was off too. It was creepy and so unsettling.
Now I learned those flashes on a perp are just what I described and it’s called Duping Delight!!!
Evil people!!!
Now I have learned those flashes of delight on the face of a guilty person,while lying, have a name- they are called “duping delight”.
It simple, the truth requires no explanation
I appreciate your ways of detecting lies/liars, yet the challenge is how to make them tell the truth.
I worked with a guy who was a chronic liar. It took me about 6 months to realize his stories were lies and I was embarrassed that I had passed them on to others and had to consciously resolve to not retell them. Eventually I noticed that when he was telling one of his stories the tone of his voice would change. He loved meeting new people he could tell his stories to before they caught on. He actually lied to a couple of FBI agents who were investigating a crime our company was involved in tangentially. He gave them false information and included one of his stories I had heard a couple of times before, but with a different cast of characters. To this day I don't know if he was involved or was just blowing smoke to impress the agents. I wanted to clue the agents in but they must have been on a tight schedule and left before I could get a word in.
There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
Most of the time our gut feeling is right,
I'm learning to trust that more as I get older. Chances are were right, amazing video,thankyou
Intuition alone can detect lies 54% of the time in average. It’s higher for women than men. These tips can increase that quite a bit 😊
Gotta say one thing I've noticed during that woman's clip (that I don't really know if it's deception or not, it's just a gut feeling) is how she keeps nodding over and over, probably seeking acceptance from whoever's asking her those questions. That added to what you mentioned about her talking herself up kind of make sense altogether if you think about what kind of person would be able to commit such a crime and not feel remorseful.
Where are the tears and red eyes, if my child was missing I wouldn't be able to make full sentences without breaking down and crying.
Facts 💯 😢
The 1st thing I noticed was something she said: "He knows how much I CARE about him." Not: "He knows how much I LOVE him." Or, assuming the boy's father is still in the picture, even: "...how much WE love him." Of course, saying "...how much WE CARE about him," would be as much of a tell as what she actually said.
Really interesting video. As far as the female goes, I feel like her answer that seemed weird is because she has guilty knowledge but not specific knowledge. Like she is certain that her boyfriend/husband did it in her mind and she doesn't know the full details. EDIT - So, looking it up, I have no idea. She definitely is charged and what a mess.
Nono you could be onto something. She had an accomplice so it’s possible she didn’t know where the kid was in that moment. So your hunch on this CAN be 100% correct.
I can listen to you for hours, I have such respect for your expertise. Is this something you studied, or is it part of your natural ability?
Haha great question. I talk about my credentials in this weekends video but I’ve definitely studied this intensely. I have a degree and a certification. I hope you’ll enjoy the next video where I go into details 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts looking foward to it!!!
She said about all the things she's been doing, all the things she's done. Only when u hate someone u calculate how much u did , how much loved them. 🤔🤔🤔
Today the real trick is finding someone who is telling the truth!
Every single clip (including police detectives regarding innocence;) NONE addressed innocence. That is quite frustrating to me.
Sadly true, we seem to be encouraging deceit as a society.
When she paused and then said “he ‘s not with us”…there is a fraction of a second where you can see that she was saying something she knew to be true
I'm new to this channel but this is incredible. Thank you for such details.
Hi✋️
When she answers: Somewhere, but..... and pauses, during the pause she sees the reality of where the child is and how he is. After the pause, saying "he is not with us" feels what she has done and seen
Wow. Nice!
I believe that you are incredibly accurate and I appreciate your video. Thank you. Please keep your videos coming.
Thanks. You just up'd my lying game. Now I know what not to do when I'm lying.
U funny 🤣 jack
Just found you this morning. This is fascinating and intriguing. I wonder if these techniques would have worked with my younger son. He isn't a liar, but he was a story teller. We could not tell for his first 7 years if what he told us was truth or story. In third grade he convinced his entire class and teacher that 1) his older brother threw our dog off the top stair balcony and broke his leg, the dog was in cast for 6 weeks. At P/T conference, the first thing the teacher asked was, how is your dog doing? We were like, what are you talking about? and 2) that he had an adopted sister who lived in Florida (we're in California). That story had started the previous year, apparently. When he told us stories, he told them with such honesty and conviction, we could only tell they were stories when they became fantastical. Luckily, he is an honest person, but I can see how easily he could have used his talents to be dishonest.
He'd make a geat script writer.
@@lyndaslocs we've encouraged him to write and/or try acting. He's not interested in acting, so maybe he'll give writing a solid try.
Brilliant; thank you. 🙂I noticed just how long she took to construct (since that is what she was doing) her story. Under duress you would speak quickly, passionately, begging for a response. This was like an interview for a job in terms of the time taken to respond. But the responses were red flagging everywhere. Past-tense usage is a flag, too. Folks stay hoping even if it's a forlorn hope. She was slightly leaning into past-tense talk but it was still a flag for an investigator.
Easy way: Speak with trusted persons often.
> Notice if something feels off with others.
And learn about intuitive and sensing types - MBTI.
As an intuitive: Sensing types often seem a bit off for me but it's not because they're lying. It's just because they are sensing types.
I’m glad clusters are important since I’ve had a habit my whole life to compress my lips in both ways, especially because my lips and mouth get dry very often. I also compress my lips out of compassion/empathy a lot. All of your videos are just awesome!!
True. I often do self soothing behaviors behaviors of anxiety but not much of the others.
I already sent the link to several lawyer colleagues of mine as we are all interested when we pick juries as to who is being honest
Thanks so much!!! I’ve trained a lot of lawyers for jury selection and cross examination. This stuff really really helps. I appreciate you sharing the video so much 🤗
Watching that clip with the stepmother made me understand what they mean when they say that someone is "lying through their teeth"...
I believe this information would be beneficial on a daily basis in virtually any line of business and relationships, so, thank you. I'm subbing now:)
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There's a simple way to know if a man/woman is a liar. Ask him/her if he/she believes in god. By the answer he/she will give you ought to know already.
As always such a concise and accurate interpretation of her fake and horrible response for her missing stepchild. I felt nauseous after watching this, as I felt her deception in my body. I had many similar observations and feelings when Diane Sawyer interviewed Scott Peterson years ago. He killed his pregnant wife Lacy, but before when she was missing he was interviewed. My "spidey" senses were firing. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It's very helpful.
Absolutely
Her constant hesitation answering, the fact she didn’t break down in tears thinking of him calling her super mommy, the complete lack of hysteria and sense of urgency were what I thought signs of deception. I see your point about resume building but the fact I think she was directly asked what he called her gives reason for her to say that, it was the utter lack of emotion she had saying it. She was so matter of fact about it. As for faves, the first sign for me was how fast he was talking, talking loudly with specific inflection.
I suspect this boy felt her hate and tried to get her to like him by calling her super mommy. Children can feel the emotions of a parent or caregiver. He likely never felt safe or loved.
Cluster, Consistency and Congruency. 🎉 Top... I love body language analysis.
I studied criminal psych and had a course in NLP and micro-exspressions. The pursing of her lips was one of the most telling. The blink rate can be explained by it being windy outside. I agree her behavior was not that of someone being compassionate and honest. The offer of resume was a bit much as well.
I taught criminology, social psychology, research methods leading me to review current research in psychology journals on Non-verbal indicators of deceit and lying. Overwhelmingly the results concluded that non verbal indicators of deceit and lying including microexpressions have very low validity. Also there was lots of criticisms of body language advocates to rely on single subject known liars. Fallacies in logic such as biased cases, confirmation bias was identified as major methodological problem. Criticism was also leveled as pop body language experts, who are not using the scientific method.
Enjoy your videos. As I am also a producer of voice over commercial content. I find there are an amazing amount of cues in the pitch, tone and diction of an answer that can help you spot a deception. I hear it being covered in pieces but think you can do an entire segment on just that. Thanks again for the great videos!
I have a problem: When I get insecure in some important situations, even though I tell the truth, I can't help but thinking that the listeners think I'm lying, so than I am almost sure I give away all the indicators that make me a deceptive liar, even though I am not. How to overcome this? Thank you
You think bad of yourself and you have a guilty conscious for some reason.
So you get nervous telling the truth? Then start lying 🤥
He said in reply to another comment, the stress of not being believed is indistinguishable from the stress of being dishonest. 😂. My extremely honest daughter is like that. Sometimes she is misunderstood. But the people close to her know she is pure gold.
I get the same way. If there is an accusation against me, despite not being guilty of anything, I still feel nervous sometimes. I don't fond that normal.
It's funny how most people will believe a lie and be skeptical about the truth. If I make up an answer about a product that I don't really know about the person takes the bait. When I tell the truth they look at me as if I am possibly bullshitting them 🤔
That was a great teaching video, I now realize I have an acquaintance who lies to me often.
When the stepmother says that the child is "not with us," she is confessing without confessing outright.
Hello! Your channel is very important and will help many. Thank you for this presentation. A very interesting study piece by far. So many cues. Her guilt practically overwhelms her ability to control herself actually. The verbal cue at the conclusion suggests that she considers the child is no longer alive. Pure evil on display.
Hi Spidey, I'm from Indonesia. Thanks a lot for making these videos. I have watched some and they are all very informative. Hope one day you analyze a case which involves people from different culture and elaborate how their cultural background affects their expressions. Thanks!
head shake, shoulder shrugs delayed reaction. plus she giving off the vibe of " oh know how should i answer this".. well done on the video!
Liars often ask you to repeat yourself when you've asked them something in a clear and audible voice. This is a way to buy time for them to come up with a lie.
I'm not watching to figure out how to catch a liar, I'm figuring out how to seem like a liar without lying. I'll be unstoppable
Why?
@@britthill4975You never know when youll need that skill
7:00 I was a court reporter for 9 years and my ears definitely perk up when somebody does not answer the question asked and even in my personal life it makes me crazy. I constantly think, just answer the question I asked you 😆
Thanks for your educational experience and resources. God-bless.