At 38, I'm not too old, I just don't want to waste my time, energy, money and mental health being uncomfortable. I'm finally prioritizing myself over others.
Which has everything to do with age, buddy. That's why a 25 yo will do all those things and a 36 yo won't, they are OLDER, and, hopefully, wiser. 38 is almost middle aged, you have arrived.
@@Starlight_16 Nah. I wouldn't do this crap at 25. I was a young mother and have just always been very protective of my time, peace, and being with my children uninterrupted. I will tell someone "No" in a heartbeat. My family and friends rarely ask me for anything and when they do, you better believe I'm the last resort.
@@Starlight_16 I'm 27 and realised 3 years ago, that those things are priority for me and many other of my peers are in the same boat it's about your level of self awareness which can increse with age but doesn't have to
🙋🙋 am so done with crazy people, am protecting my mental health at all costs, I've blocked a few too,, am too old for others BS, peace to all, carry on without me ✌️
I just turned 39 a few days ago and my peace of mind and comfort are my top 2 priorities. Gotta single girlfriend that hit 39 a couple days before me and I just can't with her. Her attitude is of a that 23 year old, still wanting to be all at the bar, flirty, seeking male attention. After 5 minutes of talking to her I'm exhausted!!!
When I was in college, so many people would give me rides to the airport, interviews, dr appointments etc. I promised myself that whenever I finally had a car and adult money I would repay those gestures as much as possible. And that’s why I am definitely helping people out more in my 30s.
I have never understood why people hate helping others out so much. My friends can ALWAYS ask me to give them a ride to the airport and to help them move. I think those are stupid things to waste money on.
When you extend your help to ppl that are deserving of it.....then it's a pleasure....These are ppl that will also help you. There are ppl that take advantage of the help others give. They only take take take and gives excuses when asked for a favor or assistance with something. U want to avoid them
I'm going to Canada from London with my nephew (he's 30), we're not sitting together. I'll be in premium economy with my extra leg space and comfort. If he wants to join me, he can pay extra 😂😂
Exactly 💯 I don't wear uncomfortable shoes or uncomfortable underwear or any type of clothing that's uncomfortable. Quality & comfortable everything including people. 👌
Turning 38 in a couple months...Love saying No without feeling guilty, Cutting pointless and toxic people out of my life, comfort Def a top priority, done with heels low wedges and sneakers now, makeup just when I want to not everyday...feels alot better just doing what I want when I want and how I want.
Great list! I sooo agree about floor seats. However, I LOVE driving people to/from the airport. I get to hear their plans, or hear their stories. Most of the time, they are excited, and I love being touched by that.
I am almost 40 and I agree with most. But picking up from and dropping off at the airport I still do because I consider that to be a courtesy to any family and friends. They spent money on a ticket to come and see me...the LEAST I can do is pick them up from the airport.
@@lkgupta23 I'm visiting my folks in the summer. And mentioned we would be arriving around 10:40pm. My mum automatically said someone would be there to pick me up. It's an amazing blessing. We do it for others too as its a common courtesy.
Yes I understand but at the same time, it's 2.5 hours away and I'm not fit for long journeys anymore. I don't mind if they get the bus from the airport that takes them to my town and I get them there.
Exactly anyone who wants to come see me will have a ride to and from the airport even though it is an hour away !! My sorry ass sister wouldn't even give me a ride to the airport after our father passed
@@CannabrannaLammer In that case, you should also understand if people don’t want to visit you, because if driving is annoying for you. Imagine having to figure out transportation in a place you don’t live on top your other travel itinerary and the extra cost 🤷🏿♀️
I'm 50 and I will say that at 36, I was acting and moving around like I did when I was a teenager although I was twice that age. I'm going to stand, climb, do whatever I can and try to keep moving and doing stuff so I can continue to feel this good as long as I can. I do not drink, smoke, I go to bed when I want and that includes early....Mental health; I protect that with all my might. I do what I want, wear whatever I want and will never regret feeling young.
If your knees and back are feeling that way you need to look into restorative exercise not doing less. Number one sign predicting poor aging is loss of mobility. Don’t give it up!
I am 51 and stand with you sis especially on that last one. I have an expression I always say, “ there is nothing more important than my peace of mind”
I’m 53 and I’ve been practicing that last one for a few years. I refuse to spend time in the company of people that don’t make me feel joy. Needless to say, my husband isn’t impressed that I don’t go to his family functions anymore 😂😂😂😂
I'm 30 and I been doing this for a while now. I dont hang with my my husband's family cause alot of them been slandering my name with no mercy. They judged me before they knew me. I'm cool about it now but I learn to enjoy my own company
Recently dumped a couple of “friends”. Too old at 39 for that fake energy and going behind backs speaking negatively about me. If they can’t communicate like adults, they don’t deserve my energy. 👏👏
Hahah, honestly sometimes family members can be the worst. My husband has 8(-9?)aunts, his parents stopped seeing 6 of them. I have never met them, but based on stories they are horrible 🤷♀️
I started that at 28 .. I’m in my 30s .. really didn’t give a f_k since hs I learned at the earliest age that you shouldn’t care or spend for other people that’s not going to help you in the long run
@Mojo No. She's choosing to be an arrogant, self- entitled, whine-about-life loser who can't handle the real world because she has no social skills. She wants everywhere she goes and everything she does to be a safe-space. Life doesn't work like that.
nah these aren’t boundaries lol. concert and clothes thing? that’s just comfort. the airport thing? that ain’t a boundary it’s just selfish lol. nothing inherently wrong with that ig but let’s call it what it is 😭
Same! For me it’s very meaningful to great someone after traveling a long time and also if I travel somewhere to be greeted by people you love. I really value those moments. And also when people are tired it’s nice to help people with carrying stuff, showing them the way because you probably have more energy than them. Hospitality..especially when you don’t see people often.
Interestingly, I imagine she would pick up visitors. I interpreted it as not being the “nice one” who puts others first because someone is too cheap to pay for an Uber in their hometown or something like that. She didn’t mention not picking up visitors. And if she did? Hey…it’s her life. She should be fine with nobody EVER taking her to the airport.
As a 52 year old, I first thought that at 36 she is too young to consider herself old. Then when she began to list what she would no longer put with, I got misty eyed. Welcome to the club sis!
Same! It took me 63+ years and a pandemic to learn how to prioritize my own comfort over everything and everyone else (with a very few exceptions). I’m so inspired by all of these younger women who are learning the lessons it’s taken me so long to learn. May they have wonderful lives!❤
Looking good is only for special occasions now. Other than that it’s a hoodie and joggers 24/7 😂 I mean I feel like I look good in that outfit sometimes? Haha
My mum is 82 and goes for a one to two hour walk most days. She also does yoga daily, lives alone, takes care of her home and garden/yard except mowing the lawn which my nephew does for her. She cooks for herself every day and when the wood is delivered for her log burning stove, she moves all the logs with a wheelbarrow from the drive to the shed. You have to stay active as long as you can to be able to remain active for longer.
It is but If you fix your gaze to what 22 years olds are doing it’s old It’s important to not immerse yourself in the culture of what much younger people are doing or try to keep up with them except on occasion to see how far you’ve come but otherwise it just warps your idea of age
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
@@LtrishaMartina No girl you’re a baby 💕 I wish I could turn the clock back 4 years! 😩 We’re just growing wiser and more prepared for the coming years to have a more enjoyable future 🧘🏽♀️
When you hit 40 forget being comfortable. It's impossible, my body turned on me. It HURTS . there's nothing to make ya comfy. Short of morphine ! I'm kidding. But uh, not about the hurting. Its real.
I'm 26 and I agree with you, no longer wasting my time and energy somewhere that does not give me peace. Comfortable financially , emotionally, physically and spiritually of being my best version is what I want
Yes! Same here. I'm 38 and it's like I finally woke up and stopped given my all to others and myself last. I'm prioritizing my health and mental state first. Not sorry and comfort is everything!
Yes, she’s saying pay for things now. In my world, I wish we could call on one another still and still ask for help from each other. Now, we’re expected to do everything on our own or pay for it. It’s looked down on now in my circle to need help or anything from anyone and that we should pretty much be able to figure it out on our own. Crazy times.
The title is not to be taken seriously it's more like I'm just too old for certain things that I once was OK with you cannot tell her what she is too old for because you are not her you are you.
I hear you on so much of this, especially the trips to the airport. I live outside of NYC and a trip to JFK or LGA is a nightmare that is expensive and not fun!
Wooo chile, wait til you get to the next decade and beyond.. I wear strictly tennis shoes. Nice, clean, cute ones, but tennis shoes nonetheless. I'm probably not going if I can't. 🤷🏽♀️
Seems like a good start to adult hood lol. I also started looking for things and people that serve it’s positive purpose in my life. If is negative, delete and move on. Good reminder, thanks!!! 😊
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
okay but the airport thing... i do that for friends all the time, whether they're visiting me or just need a ride. isn't that just being a good friend? idk im in my 30s and i still do it lol EDIT i didn't realise i'd get so many comments on this 😅 but i think people have made pretty solid points on both ends. in the end, you do you. I'll probably still continue to pick my friends up though lol.
Being around people and heving real meaningful relationships most likely means being uncomfortable from time to time. She describes a guide to loneliness. If you can't stand anybody that means nobody can stand you.
i agree, seems like just so judgemental.. and the airport thing is weird to me, for example if someone i cared about asked me for a favor like that and it was reasonable for me i would always be down to do it bc 1. doing things for ppl u care about is nice and doesnt necesarilly feel like a chore 2. its just about being a friend/family and 3. it means u could hopefully rely on them for the same in the future. it seems like she just doesnt have any many relationships that she wants to put care into if she is so bothered by doing favors for them
@@spacemono5419 it’s most likely a response of being taken advantage of so many times before, which is sad. Setting a very unrealistic set of hard boundaries like this seems more like trying to get a sense of agency. Just an opinion! (Could be a bad take)
@@spacemono5419 not necessarily. Could be she encountered selfish people in life. Airport thing sounded rude though. Self love can easily turn into narcissism.
exactly, i don’t even ask i just order an uber it’s so much easier then having the person wait around and circle the airport until i get my stuff together.
@@MyRamblingRose86 saving money is better because they're super expensive plus you could always just compensate your friend with that money. They would be making a profit and doing a favor that can be returned later sorry you don't have friends like that.
Omg are you serious? Why you have to come here and comment something stupid like that? She obviously don’t want to be on her feet all day, she’s obviously not used to do it and just don’t want to. Why would you turn that into something to be shamed about. Just because your mom has been forced to work until she’s 65 on her feet because of how disgusting the American system is, that’s not this girls fault. Go shame someone else. You’re ridiculous!
Yep. 36 is far from old and I can see not wanting to stand in one place for a solid two hours but if your body can't take it then you need to see what the underlying issue is cause it ain't your age lol
At 35 I decided that I was old enough to be honest. Being honest with myself was the best decision ever. Comfort is more important than anything. Comfortable clothes, relationships, everything is about comfort. Vanity before comfort is for the young.
This should apply to everyone no matter the age. It doesn't matter if you are old or not. Being yourself comfortable and confident means you finally take care of yourself. It does not have to do anything with the age.
I hope you realize that people can't steal your peace from you, you choose let go of it. If you can't leave your house because most people "steal your peace", you're going to wind up isolated and lonely.
When I take international flights I often take the 20-ish hour layover, get a hotel, sleep, eat and see the sights if I want. Arrive in the morning and leave the next morning. ✌️🏽
That’s the way to do it! Get to see more stuff and don’t have to wait around in an airport for hours uncomfortable. Although, to be fair, that depends on the reason for your trip, what time you have, if you can afford expenses, if there’s a layover in a location you actually want to spend time at, etc.
I’m 28 and I can attest to just about all of these. Now I’ll still get a floor seat at an event if I can though. 🤣 Something shifted and I was like, if it’s not comfortable I don’t want it.
Let me add: I no longer sit squished while a clueless man spreads his legs wide in the seat next to me. I also have never given up my extra-legroom seat to the man who tells me he’s tall and needs my upgraded seat for his long legs. I tell them to learn to plan ahead… but recently have pointed to a man directly across the isle and asked him to ask the MAN for his seat. They never do. They only ask me because I’m a woman, and they figure I will go along with it. This happens to me every time I am on an airplane. Sadly, it’s often a man in camouflage uniform. I hate to say no to a service man, but they always ask a female instead of asking a man for his extra legroom chair so I know there’s some malice there, negating my need to show respect for a service man ( which I normally absolutely show respect to).
I don't really have any idea what you're talking about here. As a tall women I've NEVER been asked by a man to move and honestly if a taller, larger, serviceman needed the space Id probably move and I don't even fuck with the military. Like personally as a woman whose been r@ped like 10 times I can't really believe this is what you act like the epitome of marginalization is
Yep. Especially if you paid extra for your seat. Unless that person is paying me the money I’d lose from giving up my seat, I’m not giving it up (and honestly, depending on the flight time, maybe not even then). Either you didn’t plan ahead or you were too cheap to pay and assumed someone would just give up their seat so you’d get it for free. Now, of course there are exceptions to this that I’d give up my seat for, but most times, the person asking does not actually need the seat or it was their own fault for not taking their needs into account when booking.
I was also thinking that if she is not able to be standing for 2 hours at only 36...that might be a "problem". I'm almost 45 and go for walks longer than that 😅
I'm 37 and I get the whole people trying to interrupt mt peace, I'm done with making an effort for anyone that purposely wants to annoy or upset me. Infact I stopped making an effort years ago 😜
Some make sense (no floor seats) some are just selfish (won’t help people who need to be picked up). I hope to love others with my actions until the day that I die.
I don’t know anything about her and I guarantee she’s single. She won’t pick someone up from the airport. Selfish. Men don’t like selfish women and she reeks of selfishness. Guaranteed she dies alone.
I agree with EVERYTHING you said EXCEPT.. come on mannnnnnnn.. YES.. I *will* pick up peeps from the airport.. but.. it's only 10 minutes from my house so.. yeah.. that's a given.. I love it when my peeps fly in for a visit!!
Oh boy. 36 and you can't stand for 3 hours? I didn't start to feel like that until I turned 45. 💯 About wasting your time on people that interrupt your peace. Peace is everything
If you can’t stand comfortably for 2 hours at 36, you should probably get that checked out. That’s worrying Edit: Unless of course, you've already been and know why
Standing for 2 hours would kill me back! I have 4 kids and my back is shot. I can’t even stand for my daughters 45 min long tumbling class with out my back killing me for the next hour 😭
I'm 37, have mild scoliosis and can't stand for like, 30-60 minutes at a time. My knees are ok but my back isn't havin' it. I think it's just age, ya know? Age and your body naturally losing its flexibility. If you're in your mid-30s and you can stand for hours at a time, then you must be in amazing health. Take care of it.
When I worked at a grocery store I would see older people 50+ ringing customers food up. They could and would stand well over 2hrs straight. Sad to be in your 30s and be so old physically. It shouldn't be that way
I do get you, in that sometimes comfort is simply not the affordable choice. But I do think there's a big difference between being not broke and rich. She doesn't have to be rich, she just has to be in a position where she has enough money after essential expenses to pay for comfort. And she also doesn't say how often she does it, so it could be an occasional splurge that she deems is worth it, since she could instead opt to forgo the expense altogether if she didn't think it was worth her time or energy.
I think the not wearing stuff that is uncomfortable for you could apply to anyone. As in not wearing stuff that makes you feel like you have to suck in and stuff like that
@@SL-lz9jr Don't gotta be rich to be rich, either. I make waaay less than 60k a year, and I support a family of 4. Wealth is a matter of perspective, to my family you're pretty fucking rich lol.
At 38, I'm not too old, I just don't want to waste my time, energy, money and mental health being uncomfortable. I'm finally prioritizing myself over others.
Which has everything to do with age, buddy. That's why a 25 yo will do all those things and a 36 yo won't, they are OLDER, and, hopefully, wiser. 38 is almost middle aged, you have arrived.
@@Starlight_16 Nah. I wouldn't do this crap at 25. I was a young mother and have just always been very protective of my time, peace, and being with my children uninterrupted. I will tell someone "No" in a heartbeat. My family and friends rarely ask me for anything and when they do, you better believe I'm the last resort.
@@Starlight_16 I'm 27 and realised 3 years ago, that those things are priority for me and many other of my peers are in the same boat
it's about your level of self awareness which can increse with age but doesn't have to
🙋🙋 am so done with crazy people, am protecting my mental health at all costs, I've blocked a few too,, am too old for others BS, peace to all, carry on without me ✌️
I just turned 39 a few days ago and my peace of mind and comfort are my top 2 priorities. Gotta single girlfriend that hit 39 a couple days before me and I just can't with her. Her attitude is of a that 23 year old, still wanting to be all at the bar, flirty, seeking male attention. After 5 minutes of talking to her I'm exhausted!!!
When I was in college, so many people would give me rides to the airport, interviews, dr appointments etc. I promised myself that whenever I finally had a car and adult money I would repay those gestures as much as possible. And that’s why I am definitely helping people out more in my 30s.
Same!
Same!
I have never understood why people hate helping others out so much. My friends can ALWAYS ask me to give them a ride to the airport and to help them move. I think those are stupid things to waste money on.
When you extend your help to ppl that are deserving of it.....then it's a pleasure....These are ppl that will also help you. There are ppl that take advantage of the help others give. They only take take take and gives excuses when asked for a favor or assistance with something. U want to avoid them
Great for you. She said not any random person. Pretty sure if you are a decent person, returning a favor is given.
I had my first child at 37, worked 12 hrs on my feet until I retired at 63. I'm 75 now ,in excellent health and still going strong.
❤
go head girl
@AliSand man, would be nice to not have hereditary health issues that have my body deteriorating, despite taking care of it 😑
Fair play to you…..they don’t make them like us anymore xx
Good genes that is all. I'm 30 and have varicose veins and my legs hurt so much. Not fun.
I’m 40 and I get it now. It’s all about comfort, mental, physical, spiritual
Right!! Peace is profound
Yes, but for me it's also been getting away from "comfort" in many ways...Comfort has bred a lot of complacency on my part.
I'm going to Canada from London with my nephew (he's 30), we're not sitting together. I'll be in premium economy with my extra leg space and comfort. If he wants to join me, he can pay extra 😂😂
I feel ya sister. My peace of mind is job #1. I don't even watch movies that disturb my peace.
I'm with u on that one, sista!!!
Yes the movie/tv show thing is very relatable
Gosh, even at 18 years old I completely relate to this 🙈
Ditto.And that's most of the movies these days!
I stopped in my early 20s
You're not old. You just found out that your comfort is a priority
Me at 26 yyooo
@@alinamisotchenko2073 I’m 26 too 💕 & I agree
Overeating is my comfort zone. Going to try to stop that though.
@Ana same, our health should be a priority even if sometimes it's hard not to get sushi at 3am 😅
Thank you!
Exactly 💯 I don't wear uncomfortable shoes or uncomfortable underwear or any type of clothing that's uncomfortable. Quality & comfortable everything including people. 👌
Turning 38 in a couple months...Love saying No without feeling guilty, Cutting pointless and toxic people out of my life, comfort Def a top priority, done with heels low wedges and sneakers now, makeup just when I want to not everyday...feels alot better just doing what I want when I want and how I want.
Great list! I sooo agree about floor seats. However, I LOVE driving people to/from the airport. I get to hear their plans, or hear their stories. Most of the time, they are excited, and I love being touched by that.
35 years old and i will always pay more for comfort. There's nothing more important than comfort.
THIS LADY IS NOT OLD, BUT SHE IS SNOOTY.
This!
are you a Taurus sign moon rising or Venus by chance? sounds like it lol my fiancé is a taurus moon
@@spiritualanarchy lol no Virgo
@@spiritualanarchy girl, I just came on her to ask the very same thing 😅
I am almost 40 and I agree with most. But picking up from and dropping off at the airport I still do because I consider that to be a courtesy to any family and friends. They spent money on a ticket to come and see me...the LEAST I can do is pick them up from the airport.
Exactly, I feel like these are basic manners
@@lkgupta23 I'm visiting my folks in the summer. And mentioned we would be arriving around 10:40pm. My mum automatically said someone would be there to pick me up. It's an amazing blessing. We do it for others too as its a common courtesy.
Yes I understand but at the same time, it's 2.5 hours away and I'm not fit for long journeys anymore. I don't mind if they get the bus from the airport that takes them to my town and I get them there.
Exactly anyone who wants to come see me will have a ride to and from the airport even though it is an hour away !! My sorry ass sister wouldn't even give me a ride to the airport after our father passed
@@CannabrannaLammer In that case, you should also understand if people don’t want to visit you, because if driving is annoying for you. Imagine having to figure out transportation in a place you don’t live on top your other travel itinerary and the extra cost 🤷🏿♀️
I'm 50 and I will say that at 36, I was acting and moving around like I did when I was a teenager although I was twice that age. I'm going to stand, climb, do whatever I can and try to keep moving and doing stuff so I can continue to feel this good as long as I can. I do not drink, smoke, I go to bed when I want and that includes early....Mental health; I protect that with all my might. I do what I want, wear whatever I want and will never regret feeling young.
I like this mentality much more ☺️
I'm 38 and I have yet to notice any physical limitiations.
If your knees and back are feeling that way you need to look into restorative exercise not doing less. Number one sign predicting poor aging is loss of mobility. Don’t give it up!
lol right? If you're an able-bodied adult and can't be on your feet for two hours, that's a big problem
💯 agree!!
Growing up feels so good when you start realizing what actually matters in life ❤
This!
Facts
I am 51 and stand with you sis especially on that last one. I have an expression I always say, “ there is nothing more important than my peace of mind”
I’m 53 and I’ve been practicing that last one for a few years. I refuse to spend time in the company of people that don’t make me feel joy. Needless to say, my husband isn’t impressed that I don’t go to his family functions anymore 😂😂😂😂
I'm 30 and I been doing this for a while now. I dont hang with my my husband's family cause alot of them been slandering my name with no mercy. They judged me before they knew me. I'm cool about it now but I learn to enjoy my own company
Good on you
Recently dumped a couple of “friends”. Too old at 39 for that fake energy and going behind backs speaking negatively about me. If they can’t communicate like adults, they don’t deserve my energy. 👏👏
Hahah, honestly sometimes family members can be the worst. My husband has 8(-9?)aunts, his parents stopped seeing 6 of them. I have never met them, but based on stories they are horrible 🤷♀️
Hold fast. No need to suffer such events.
As a 37 year old I can confirm that the older you get the less you give a f**k. Peace over everything and anything else.
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I started that at 28 .. I’m in my 30s .. really didn’t give a f_k since hs I learned at the earliest age that you shouldn’t care or spend for other people that’s not going to help you in the long run
Im 43, I don't understand that feeling, coz I always been like this confiden.
That's me at 18
Some elderly people really let it rip in their old age!
Great 😊 to keep away from negative 👌 people who interrupt your peace.
She not old ... she has good boundaries with people
So basically she’s choosing to get lazier and anti social
@Mojo
No. She's choosing to be an arrogant, self- entitled, whine-about-life loser who can't handle the real world because she has no social skills.
She wants everywhere she goes and everything she does to be a safe-space.
Life doesn't work like that.
nah these aren’t boundaries lol. concert and clothes thing? that’s just comfort. the airport thing? that ain’t a boundary it’s just selfish lol. nothing inherently wrong with that ig but let’s call it what it is 😭
It's called having money. You have more choices when you can afford it
@AudiobyJudy how old are you 😂
Agree on most except the layover part. Traveling to some countries requires layovers.
you had me until the airport thing 😭 i understand not wanting to do big favours for people you barely know but for close friends and family too ??
Same! For me it’s very meaningful to great someone after traveling a long time and also if I travel somewhere to be greeted by people you love. I really value those moments. And also when people are tired it’s nice to help people with carrying stuff, showing them the way because you probably have more energy than them. Hospitality..especially when you don’t see people often.
@@kelseywillow8110
She's just a self-entitled, spoiled whiner who obviously has no social skills.
Talk about a snowflake.
Life isn't a "safe-space".
Interestingly, I imagine she would pick up visitors. I interpreted it as not being the “nice one” who puts others first because someone is too cheap to pay for an Uber in their hometown or something like that. She didn’t mention not picking up visitors.
And if she did? Hey…it’s her life. She should be fine with nobody EVER taking her to the airport.
This is your typical "ALL about me ME " modern female.
Ironically she wants to be picked up and dropped off at the airport I guarantee it.
She may not have close people in her life.
As a 52 year old, I first thought that at 36 she is too young to consider herself old. Then when she began to list what she would no longer put with, I got misty eyed. Welcome to the club sis!
😂😂😂😂I’m 51… Yep, our baby sis
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Lol
Same! It took me 63+ years and a pandemic to learn how to prioritize my own comfort over everything and everyone else (with a very few exceptions). I’m so inspired by all of these younger women who are learning the lessons it’s taken me so long to learn. May they have wonderful lives!❤
57 💯💯💯💯😁
#2 I started doing this at 25… true maturity is prioritizing comfort over looking “good”😂
You can have both though.
I am 25 now and I am so agreeing with number 2 but I prioritize looking good too just not all the time 🤣🤣🤣
Looking good is only for special occasions now. Other than that it’s a hoodie and joggers 24/7 😂
I mean I feel like I look good in that outfit sometimes? Haha
My mum is 82 and goes for a one to two hour walk most days. She also does yoga daily, lives alone, takes care of her home and garden/yard except mowing the lawn which my nephew does for her. She cooks for herself every day and when the wood is delivered for her log burning stove, she moves all the logs with a wheelbarrow from the drive to the shed. You have to stay active as long as you can to be able to remain active for longer.
36 is so young! ❤
It is but at some point you just stop giving a $hit. Lmfao!
Yes it is
It is but If you fix your gaze to what 22 years olds are doing it’s old
It’s important to not immerse yourself in the culture of what much younger people are doing or try to keep up with them except on occasion to see how far you’ve come but otherwise it just warps your idea of age
Lol and people who are 50+ be like: I'm too old to be alive
@@lonababeryI'm 54 and I may be retro, but 50 is not old. I'm just finally getting comfortable with myself and living for me...and my Grandbabies 🥰
I felt this in my spirit!!! I’ll be 38 this year. Comfort is key right now.
Amen!
Me too I'm 38yrs old in May, nope not doing it
Same 🙌🏾
I love This. Especially the last part about Peace. It’s PRICELESS! I’m 40 and agree with all of this!
It’s not because you’re old - it’s because you’re smart. So there. ❤
Stop lying
Its all about perspective
Right. I wouldn't do this mess at 26, let alone 36.
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
Exactly im 20 n been doin these
I'm 39 and I'm not old. My knees and back are still strong, thank you Lord.
Sis im with you lol
Miss the point
But don’t push it, those knees are about to crack.
Lol I’m like, what is wrong with you at 36 that you can’t stand for 2 hours? 😂😂😂😂
Same!
📠 comfort and peace of mind over all else. I’m with home girl on these!
Shit I just turned 26 and I’m already feeling this way 😩🧘🏽♀️
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
I started doing this at around 28!
Good for you!!!! I'm 58 and in the beginning of learning how to respect my own priorities
Because those things have nothing to do with age or being old, it’s just common sense and self care.
@@LtrishaMartina No girl you’re a baby 💕 I wish I could turn the clock back 4 years! 😩 We’re just growing wiser and more prepared for the coming years to have a more enjoyable future 🧘🏽♀️
When you hit 40...comfort & peace becomes PRIORITY.
When you hit 40 forget being comfortable. It's impossible, my body turned on me. It HURTS . there's nothing to make ya comfy. Short of morphine ! I'm kidding. But uh, not about the hurting. Its real.
@@rashaunakovacich1979 early 40s are young, the age can’t cause pain there must be something else
I'm 26 and I agree with you, no longer wasting my time and energy somewhere that does not give me peace. Comfortable financially , emotionally, physically and spiritually of being my best version is what I want
At 25 I agree with you on every single thing, especially inner peace. That's a priority.
I'm 51 and I work those concerts as security. I stand from 5-18 hours straight. Get those floor seats! 😂
I'm 60, work 2 jobs, BOTH on my feet hours on end. That part of being in my home, to keep my PEACE...priceless!
Yes! Same here. I'm 38 and it's like I finally woke up and stopped given my all to others and myself last. I'm prioritizing my health and mental state first. Not sorry and comfort is everything!
I too just joined the 36 club, 36 is a whole new world. Our comfort matters. Amen. Pray you have a fruitful year! 😊🙏🏾❤️
I’m never too old to help my friends out.
yes!
Of course not
She's not old, she just has money lmao
Yes, she’s saying pay for things now. In my world, I wish we could call on one another still and still ask for help from each other. Now, we’re expected to do everything on our own or pay for it. It’s looked down on now in my circle to need help or anything from anyone and that we should pretty much be able to figure it out on our own. Crazy times.
36 is not old. You're wise. Big difference
Iam 37 I feel old I am good.. living a stress free life
The title is not to be taken seriously it's more like I'm just too old for certain things that I once was OK with you cannot tell her what she is too old for because you are not her you are you.
It isn't. Only old people are wise. There is no young wise people.
I've never resonated with a post more than this one! Literally every point she made I'm the same way!
I hear you on so much of this, especially the trips to the airport. I live outside of NYC and a trip to JFK or LGA is a nightmare that is expensive and not fun!
I stoped buying and wearing heels at 28 honestly it’s crazy
I'm with you. Heels ruin your feet. Any kind!
Wooo chile, wait til you get to the next decade and beyond.. I wear strictly tennis shoes. Nice, clean, cute ones, but tennis shoes nonetheless. I'm probably not going if I can't. 🤷🏽♀️
Sounds like a personal issue
@Z She literally started her sentence with "I" so yes it's her personal experience lol
I tolerate lowered wedges at 30, still, but anything without specialty foot pads is just ick anymore. Technology has advanced.
Girl I'm 37 we not that old lol but that last one.....oh yes!!! Peace should be priceless 💯
Absolutely right. As you grow older you want more peace and few people around you that will bring out the best and positive vibe.
COMFORT!!! At 59 I cherish it more than anything in my life except for my kids.
It's good to hear that you stay home all the time ....cause after all it's all about you
For real
I love ending, when she says " I will not be around people who disturb my peace " that part. I 1000% agree. 👍
Being comfortable is a big thing for me. Wether it's clothes or a situation, if it makes me uncomfortable, I'm no longer involved or interested.
Seems like a good start to adult hood lol. I also started looking for things and people that serve it’s positive purpose in my life. If is negative, delete and move on. Good reminder, thanks!!! 😊
That last one described me to a T. Love being in my crib vibing out alone. So peaceful!!! 🎉
Yes and Amen to no more uncomfortable clothes. I’m 35 and I too have made that decision.
You’re living the dream girl! Most of these are actually just ‘I have disposable income now’
💀
Seriously! I was like damn you must have money to buy that extra leg room cause it ain’t just an _option_
Girl you just spoke my whole life
36 is young but the RIGHT time to wisen up!! 👏👏👏👏
I am 22, and have been done with over extending my love,support and assistance with people since I was 20...Too many low vibrational people out there,I only make space for a few people in my life and heart and I don't go clubbing or to extreme live events. Being done with toxicity in your life and finally saying ENOUGH, has got nothing to do with age. More to do with your own individual traumatic life experiences. I've see many young people that are wiser than older people, simply because they have been through more in life, than that entire older person would have experienced in their lifetime....
okay but the airport thing... i do that for friends all the time, whether they're visiting me or just need a ride. isn't that just being a good friend? idk im in my 30s and i still do it lol
EDIT
i didn't realise i'd get so many comments on this 😅 but i think people have made pretty solid points on both ends. in the end, you do you. I'll probably still continue to pick my friends up though lol.
Yes, you’re A good person. Has nothing to do with age.
I would give literally anyone a lift to the airport because trying to get yourself to the airport on time is stressful enough.
@@amandajohnson8116 lol thanks. idk if it makes me a good person, but i'd hope that it makes me a decent friend 😆
@@Shrimpyyyyyyyy ikr??? and it's so expensive to take a taxi/lyft/uber. if i have the car, time and gas money, I won't say no.
She probably doesn't want to deal with LA traffic on the way to LAX. Navigating LAX is already confusing and stressful. I don't blame her.
Girl I don't blame u things change as we get older, so either people get with it or get left behind. I love your attitude ❤
I will do layovers because I have lounge access… level up girl!
No lounge access here but at age 60, just did two layovers going on vacation and coming back. Saved $200 each way doing that!
Sis don’t look 36!!! And this Chinese Top and your hair and glow and confidence 🔥🔥🔥 I’m loving it
I relate to all this except point one. I’m getting my 37 year old knees and back ready for Renaissance. 💃🏾
Girl I immediately followed you... Im 31 and you just described me.
Being around people and heving real meaningful relationships most likely means being uncomfortable from time to time. She describes a guide to loneliness. If you can't stand anybody that means nobody can stand you.
Yes! Love healthy boundaries but in my opinion she’s riding the line of just being kind of an unpleasant person 😅
i agree, seems like just so judgemental.. and the airport thing is weird to me, for example if someone i cared about asked me for a favor like that and it was reasonable for me i would always be down to do it bc 1. doing things for ppl u care about is nice and doesnt necesarilly feel like a chore 2. its just about being a friend/family and 3. it means u could hopefully rely on them for the same in the future. it seems like she just doesnt have any many relationships that she wants to put care into if she is so bothered by doing favors for them
@@spacemono5419 it’s most likely a response of being taken advantage of so many times before, which is sad. Setting a very unrealistic set of hard boundaries like this seems more like trying to get a sense of agency. Just an opinion! (Could be a bad take)
@@spacemono5419 not necessarily. Could be she encountered selfish people in life. Airport thing sounded rude though. Self love can easily turn into narcissism.
@@sebastianrhodes Nah. She crossed that line.
She's a spoiled, self-entitled brat who, obviously, nobody likes.
She's a dreg of society.
Amen. I am not wearing anything I have to tug at or be uncomfortable in or ridiculously high heels. This is confidence that comes with age
If it's not worth picking up someone from the airport. You might have to reconsider your relationship with them.
Ubers are a thing.
exactly, i don’t even ask i just order an uber it’s so much easier then having the person wait around and circle the airport until i get my stuff together.
@@MyRamblingRose86 saving money is better because they're super expensive plus you could always just compensate your friend with that money. They would be making a profit and doing a favor that can be returned later sorry you don't have friends like that.
@@aesanonymous8936 Most people wouldn't want to accept money from a friend.
If I’m flying in town, I’m getting a rental. I don’t want anyone to have to be on my time. 33 here.
My mother is 65 and goes to work spending 4-6 hours on her feet. Girl if your knees and back are that bad, you need to see a doc asap
Omg are you serious? Why you have to come here and comment something stupid like that? She obviously don’t want to be on her feet all day, she’s obviously not used to do it and just don’t want to. Why would you turn that into something to be shamed about. Just because your mom has been forced to work until she’s 65 on her feet because of how disgusting the American system is, that’s not this girls fault. Go shame someone else. You’re ridiculous!
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Your mom has told you that standing for 6 hours doesn't bother her at all?
@@cindyt6909 that's not their point
Yep. 36 is far from old and I can see not wanting to stand in one place for a solid two hours but if your body can't take it then you need to see what the underlying issue is cause it ain't your age lol
I’m just 18, but I already do all of these. Peace and comfort over everything, especially fake “friends”
Crikey I’m 52 and only just stopped doing some of this stuff. Wish I’d seen this when I was 36…36 ain’t old😂
At 35 I decided that I was old enough to be honest.
Being honest with myself was the best decision ever.
Comfort is more important than anything.
Comfortable clothes, relationships, everything is about comfort.
Vanity before comfort is for the young.
This should apply to everyone no matter the age. It doesn't matter if you are old or not. Being yourself comfortable and confident means you finally take care of yourself. It does not have to do anything with the age.
Yea, it does.
And dealing with people is part of life.
She's just self-entitled and whining.
I'm 22, and I already feel you!
I hope you realize that people can't steal your peace from you, you choose let go of it. If you can't leave your house because most people "steal your peace", you're going to wind up isolated and lonely.
You go girl! Im 36 too and feel you with people, I just hang out with my bf, or I hang out with myself
I’m 31 going on 32 and all of these apply to me. Preach ma’am. Preach.
Same 😆✌🏼 I'll be 32 in June!
When I reach my age at 30, my whole perspective in life has changed. Comfort, Quality and Peace are my top most priority!
Exactly and this is not something to be too old for to do, anyone can do and have such mindset👍🏻
When I take international flights I often take the 20-ish hour layover, get a hotel, sleep, eat and see the sights if I want. Arrive in the morning and leave the next morning. ✌️🏽
That’s the way to do it! Get to see more stuff and don’t have to wait around in an airport for hours uncomfortable. Although, to be fair, that depends on the reason for your trip, what time you have, if you can afford expenses, if there’s a layover in a location you actually want to spend time at, etc.
If you can't return it I won't buy it..... Felt that 💯
I just bought shoes and I can’t return them, I don’t like them 😭 I waste 160 dollars
I can relate. I'm not out here impressing nobody. My comfort and peace is very important
Kween ain't aged a day since 25.
I’m 28 and I can attest to just about all of these. Now I’ll still get a floor seat at an event if I can though. 🤣 Something shifted and I was like, if it’s not comfortable I don’t want it.
The peace thing is big. I just turned 40 and I finally realize this and working to protect that in my life. But u got it right girl!
Let me add:
I no longer sit squished while a clueless man spreads his legs wide in the seat next to me.
I also have never given up my extra-legroom seat to the man who tells me he’s tall and needs my upgraded seat for his long legs. I tell them to learn to plan ahead… but recently have pointed to a man directly across the isle and asked him to ask the MAN for his seat. They never do. They only ask me because I’m a woman, and they figure I will go along with it. This happens to me every time I am on an airplane. Sadly, it’s often a man in camouflage uniform. I hate to say no to a service man, but they always ask a female instead of asking a man for his extra legroom chair so I know there’s some malice there, negating my need to show respect for a service man ( which I normally absolutely show respect to).
The military is a voluntary job in the US, please don’t worship them as heroes. They’re not.
Yes ma'am!!!! Taking notes as a 24 Y/O
I don't really have any idea what you're talking about here. As a tall women I've NEVER been asked by a man to move and honestly if a taller, larger, serviceman needed the space Id probably move and I don't even fuck with the military. Like personally as a woman whose been r@ped like 10 times I can't really believe this is what you act like the epitome of marginalization is
Yep. Especially if you paid extra for your seat. Unless that person is paying me the money I’d lose from giving up my seat, I’m not giving it up (and honestly, depending on the flight time, maybe not even then). Either you didn’t plan ahead or you were too cheap to pay and assumed someone would just give up their seat so you’d get it for free. Now, of course there are exceptions to this that I’d give up my seat for, but most times, the person asking does not actually need the seat or it was their own fault for not taking their needs into account when booking.
Well damn, I was 36 dancing for over 3 hours for Ludacris & Nelly's concert
I was also thinking that if she is not able to be standing for 2 hours at only 36...that might be a "problem".
I'm almost 45 and go for walks longer than that 😅
Luda still performs? 👀 good to hear. He’s pretty much the only rapper I’ve ever wanted to hear perform live
@@beckyweiss6072 yes him and Nelly tour together
I'm 37 and I get the whole people trying to interrupt mt peace, I'm done with making an effort for anyone that purposely wants to annoy or upset me. Infact I stopped making an effort years ago 😜
Oh and please don’t call me when you need to move. At 39, my body isn’t set up for all that anymore lol
Some make sense (no floor seats) some are just selfish (won’t help people who need to be picked up). I hope to love others with my actions until the day that I die.
Congrats! Speak your
Mind and find Your Peace!🌟
I'm 34 and work an average of 12 hour days, not standing but walking and running around to get the job done. 2 hours for B seems like a breeze.
I also have a walking around job but for some reason standing is way harder on my body.
You're my soul sister. I swear. This is all me at 37.
This is ridiculously relatable, I agree 100%.
36 is not old! This just sounds like you found yourself. You've matured.
I don’t know anything about her and I guarantee she’s single. She won’t pick someone up from the airport. Selfish. Men don’t like selfish women and she reeks of selfishness. Guaranteed she dies alone.
That bob cut looks really good on you!
I agree with EVERYTHING you said EXCEPT.. come on mannnnnnnn.. YES.. I *will* pick up peeps from the airport.. but.. it's only 10 minutes from my house so.. yeah.. that's a given.. I love it when my peeps fly in for a visit!!
I'm turning 36 next month. Girl, I'm literally right there with you and was nodding in agreement this whole video.
Oh boy. 36 and you can't stand for 3 hours? I didn't start to feel like that until I turned 45. 💯 About wasting your time on people that interrupt your peace. Peace is everything
I'm 27 and I'm like this, too. Well, except for the standing at concerts part :D but the rest - yah. comfort and peace are more important
You seem like such a joyful person 😂
Is this a sarcastic comment? 🤭 coz I think it is but I could be wrong 🙃 if not, I’m sorry for you both🙃🤭
@@dani-88 yes, I think so as well-
If you can’t stand comfortably for 2 hours at 36, you should probably get that checked out. That’s worrying
Edit: Unless of course, you've already been and know why
Well she sounds like a total .....;) anyway
Standing for 2 hours would kill me back! I have 4 kids and my back is shot. I can’t even stand for my daughters 45 min long tumbling class with out my back killing me for the next hour 😭
I don’t even wanna stand for 2 hours and I’m 21
I'm 37, have mild scoliosis and can't stand for like, 30-60 minutes at a time. My knees are ok but my back isn't havin' it.
I think it's just age, ya know? Age and your body naturally losing its flexibility. If you're in your mid-30s and you can stand for hours at a time, then you must be in amazing health. Take care of it.
When I worked at a grocery store I would see older people 50+ ringing customers food up. They could and would stand well over 2hrs straight.
Sad to be in your 30s and be so old physically. It shouldn't be that way
yes!! my comfort is my ultimate priority
Not because you are old it’s because you are rich. There is a huge difference.
Nah. I'm her age. I take in about 60k though aiming for 80k at my next job. And I do exactly what she says. Don't gotta be rich to prioritize comfort
I do get you, in that sometimes comfort is simply not the affordable choice. But I do think there's a big difference between being not broke and rich. She doesn't have to be rich, she just has to be in a position where she has enough money after essential expenses to pay for comfort. And she also doesn't say how often she does it, so it could be an occasional splurge that she deems is worth it, since she could instead opt to forgo the expense altogether if she didn't think it was worth her time or energy.
I think the not wearing stuff that is uncomfortable for you could apply to anyone. As in not wearing stuff that makes you feel like you have to suck in and stuff like that
@@SL-lz9jr Don't gotta be rich to be rich, either. I make waaay less than 60k a year, and I support a family of 4. Wealth is a matter of perspective, to my family you're pretty fucking rich lol.
@@thisbish THANK YOU.