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Комментарии • 737

  • @me_not_me
    @me_not_me 5 лет назад +1881

    Making $125k and need to move-in with their kid? Ridiculous🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @roxannegordon6162
      @roxannegordon6162 5 лет назад +101

      Why did this man have to call Dave??? This is so silly! "They refused to sell their car." waaaaaaa....

    • @sunset6010
      @sunset6010 5 лет назад +31

      Talk about being Losers !

    • @TitoMolina604
      @TitoMolina604 5 лет назад +24

      They probably offered him $1000 a month and he could by a new car with it. Don't think he's being completely honest.

    • @kinyattarocsheen6170
      @kinyattarocsheen6170 5 лет назад +4

      Sun Set lol

    • @kinyattarocsheen6170
      @kinyattarocsheen6170 5 лет назад +6

      It’s a tough situation being that there senior citizens already!

  • @jimh712
    @jimh712 5 лет назад +778

    Dude your wife is right..
    Listen to her
    If your parents don't change
    They will live with you for ever

    • @lovethemflowers
      @lovethemflowers 5 лет назад +15

      They young couple has to make it INCONVENIENT for the parents to stay there too long. Whether they vacuum later in the evening, maybe something more subtle, but they have to try and make it uncomfortable for the parents to stay there too long.

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 5 лет назад +10

      @@lovethemflowers That's passive aggressive behavior, but it does work. I think parents do this to their adult kids, too..hehe

    • @jimh712
      @jimh712 5 лет назад +1

      @Cali Prynce
      Simple enough
      We don't have room

    • @whatevergoesforme5129
      @whatevergoesforme5129 4 года назад +5

      @@lovethemflowers My aunt did some passive aggressive stuff so that her mother-in-law would refuse vacationing there. She would stop buying groceries and leave her fridge empty on days. She would cook once in a while despite being a good cook and let her mother-in-law cook for the family. Her mother-in-law was a good cook as well but she was expecting to be served and not to serve and do the shopping at her age. In other words, she allowed her mother-in-law to take over the house when she was vacationing there as my aunt gritted her teeth. Of course, it tired out her mother-in-law in the end. At least her husband did not accuse of her bumping head with his mother because the latter was allowed to run the house for the timebeing.

    • @thomasdonlin5456
      @thomasdonlin5456 3 года назад +2

      There needs to be a redefinition of honoring thy father and mother.

  • @patriciadebnam879
    @patriciadebnam879 5 лет назад +1297

    He should be more concerned about the fact that his wife is about to file for divorce ...

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +9

      How do you know?

    • @sitcomchristian6886
      @sitcomchristian6886 5 лет назад +37

      I know right???

    • @eeyorestars
      @eeyorestars 5 лет назад +144

      @@IWantToMature85 Because no sane person would let people who refuse to actually work on themselves and their debt, and will refuse to move out, live with them. These people are mismanaging their money in the worst way and allowing them to move in with this young, growing family will enable them to spend more. That extra money that was going towards their mortgage? Now it's going towards fun spending. (And yes, I do think they'll overstay their welcome). She's said she doesn't want them to move in and if he doesn't listen to her she's gone, guaranteed.
      Edit: My mother has done something similar to my grandparents. She said she'd only be staying a few months while she found a place to stay that was her own and now she's been there over a year with zero plans to actually leave.

    • @Dobiegal
      @Dobiegal 5 лет назад +136

      @@IWantToMature85 it's not rocket science. A woman expecting a baby does not want her in laws moving in after having her own place with her husband. She wants PRIVACY.
      Walk into a barn and go handle a litter of newborn kittens. Pick them up ohh and ahhhhhh over them and then go check on them the next day. Chances are the momma cat will have moved the litter somewhere else. Same thing. Mothers don't appreciate intruders. And parents shouldn't EVER expect to move in with their children.

    • @kurtjames9487
      @kurtjames9487 5 лет назад +15

      @@IWantToMature85 pull your head out, Zachy.

  • @DisabilityExams
    @DisabilityExams 5 лет назад +780

    70 & 65 - they are NOT going to change.

    • @MegaSnow121
      @MegaSnow121 5 лет назад +28

      Oh, they can if they want to. They just sound demanding and selfish. I hope the son stood up to them. With $125 000/year retirement, they can make it in their own.

    • @samanthasmiles9112
      @samanthasmiles9112 5 лет назад +16

      They will if they are forced to. People need to stop taking others responsibility. This guy is nuts if he let's his parents move in.

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 5 лет назад +12

      @@samanthasmiles9112 Plus it sounds like they just invited themselves..."We're moving in with you"...yeah, since when?

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 5 лет назад +7

      It might be that they are trying to live like they did when they were working and now are not earning enough to sustain that lifestyle.
      They could probably rack up the debt when they work as they could cover the repayments, fancy meals, constant shopping, several holidays and probably buying the most ridiculous stuff.
      I can bet you the mother has shoes she has never worn. There house repayment is not the issue either.
      They are bound to have several thousand dollars per month available after the mortgage.

    • @lynn.d1015
      @lynn.d1015 4 года назад +3

      JDave Foster they will when they are on the street

  • @ariefraiser140
    @ariefraiser140 5 лет назад +701

    My parents would be too proud and too ashamed to even consider this.

    • @DewTime
      @DewTime 5 лет назад +40

      Arie Fraiser as it should be. If they’re pulling $120K a year they can get their act together.

    • @asadb1990
      @asadb1990 5 лет назад +22

      my parents are too proud to move in. but never too proud to get verbally abusive to shake me down for money. and they do that in the most demeaning way by comparing me to other friend's kids.

    • @triniwondawoman
      @triniwondawoman 5 лет назад +6

      mine too

    • @leopaul4955
      @leopaul4955 5 лет назад +6

      As would I. I'm debt free. I didn't know about Dave Ramsey but I (we)had common sense.
      I would not only not ask for help from my children but in fact set them free from debt. All college paid for. Used cars paid for and paid for their insurance as well. Also 100% of their weddings and a down payment on each of their homes.
      I ended up giving one of my homes (not the deed) to live in rent free for about 7 yrs. now.
      I had in the deal that they pay for the property taxes. Never did they. They call for every little thing that breaks so we pay for it. Basically trashed the home that I worked so hard and with such love. I love this child with my whole heart, but it hurts to see such disrespect. Giving anyone something for free is never a good idea.

    • @sherahbrown1411
      @sherahbrown1411 5 лет назад +4

      @@asadb1990 uhhh, really not cool.

  • @simplypatti6705
    @simplypatti6705 4 года назад +212

    “Do not let these people move in with you.” THIS is why I like Dave Ramsey. He’s brutal. And truthful.

    • @fdm2155
      @fdm2155 4 года назад +5

      LOL, I didn't think that was brutal...just DIRECT. The caller already knows his parents are a train wreck.

    • @wandahaines7143
      @wandahaines7143 2 года назад +8

      Never, never, never let anybody move in with you

  • @poodlegirl55
    @poodlegirl55 5 лет назад +536

    Greedy, selfish parents. Do you know how many retired people would kill to have 125k a year? My husband and I only bring in 50 k but we are fine. We actually only spend about 20k a year because we have zero debt.

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 5 лет назад +31

      My poor retired parents barely scrape by. They don't even make anywhere near 50k and they would never ask me for a dime.

    • @blacksnk
      @blacksnk 4 года назад +6

      M J I made at one point 90,000 single guy. I was banking 10% and doing two vacations a year at age 35. I now make much less, but still doing ok with no debt. My mind is blown with these parents!

    • @whatevergoesforme5129
      @whatevergoesforme5129 4 года назад +6

      The problem is many people, young and old, do not like to live below their means or to delay gratification or to give up something to make ends meet.

    • @shanemullin6777
      @shanemullin6777 3 года назад

      @@shannon2748 that's pretty badass of your parents. I found out the hard way that it's one thing to SAY you won't ask anyone for help, and another to actually deal with a crisis yourself. I asked my parents to help me out financially recently, which is something I thought I'd never do. To refuse to ask for help even when they have no other options must be a testament to your parents' willpower

    • @jameslastname9171
      @jameslastname9171 3 года назад +2

      That household with disruptive parents and a newborn. Whheeewwwww-weeeee!

  • @QueenBeeBeautyXO
    @QueenBeeBeautyXO 5 лет назад +840

    That's a NIGHTMARE WAITING TO HAPPEN!! Do NOT LET THEM MOVE IN!!

    • @erato1
      @erato1 5 лет назад +27

      It is also a divorce on the way.

    • @Ashley-os1ce
      @Ashley-os1ce 4 года назад +4

      Right ! Don’t help your mother and father, let them live in their car cause you are not a human being! Regular normal human being should be helping father and the mother

    • @amselsmith2518
      @amselsmith2518 3 года назад +4

      @@Ashley-os1ce There's a difference between being broke because of expensive medical bills and being broke because you're stupid with your money. It is the same as the difference between charity and enabling.

    • @Ashley-os1ce
      @Ashley-os1ce 3 года назад +1

      @@amselsmith2518 I helped my Mom even she was an alcoholic, I didn’t want her to end up on the street. Was she stupid ? She definitely was, but it was my responsibility to help her. Even though I was broke myself at that time even though I was angry with her behavior. But if I didn’t help I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night . She gave me my life.

    • @amselsmith2518
      @amselsmith2518 3 года назад +3

      @@Ashley-os1ce Charity is not enabling. There is no amount of shaming or moralizing that justifies enabling someone's bad habits by paying for their stupidity.

  • @scorpion8rage
    @scorpion8rage 5 лет назад +628

    "Wherefore a man shall leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be two in one flesh."
    Time to grow up and be a man.

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 5 лет назад +14

      He just needs to tell the parents the truth. They need to see an accountant who can do financial advice for them. They should be living the life with that $125,000 per year retirement.
      Right now they should be debt free and living in pure luxury with money in the back spare as well.

    • @nemo7782
      @nemo7782 4 года назад +11

      He is being a man. It is his parents who are acting like complete children.

    • @Donna-6516
      @Donna-6516 25 дней назад

      I agree. Don't let them take advantage of you. Your wife should come first.

  • @carnivoreRon
    @carnivoreRon 5 лет назад +440

    He has a wife and a BABY to think about FIRST!! These parents are bad new. I bet they will try to cause strife between him and his wife. She and her relationship with his wife is at stake. He is willing to ignore HER wishes. Shame on him.

    • @radigeorgiev9662
      @radigeorgiev9662 5 лет назад +10

      That's the best thing a man can do. Make his own manly decision as a real alpha. That's what makes him a MAN.

    • @echobean5222
      @echobean5222 5 лет назад +19

      Radi Georgiev That’s what makes him a miserable idiot 😂

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 5 лет назад +6

      Those parents can still be straightened out as they have the income. They just need to be made to see the truth. If they then decide to ignore it the son needs to separate himself from them.
      What he needs to realize as well is that his parents debt could affect him if they move in.

  • @sunset6010
    @sunset6010 5 лет назад +506

    My sister has 22 CREDIT CARDS, rolled debt into mortgage 2x.
    She can NOT live on $10,000 gross.
    Trust me : THEY WILL NOT CHANGE
    DO. N.O.T. LET THEM MOVE IN !!

    • @scorpion8rage
      @scorpion8rage 5 лет назад +30

      Too late.
      They were already starting to move in, he said. 🤣

    • @shazz286
      @shazz286 5 лет назад +4

      How did she open 22 credit cards?

    • @sunset6010
      @sunset6010 5 лет назад +9

      @@shazz286 good question.
      Good credit score.

    • @bangladeshirealtor
      @bangladeshirealtor 5 лет назад +2

      shazz286 by applying for them genius lol

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 5 лет назад +1

      @@bangladeshirealtor
      The question how did they obtain 22 cards. Applying for them does not give them the access to credit.

  • @roxannegordon6162
    @roxannegordon6162 5 лет назад +370

    ooops!!! they've already moved in. Now he has to MOVE THEM OUT!!!! What are the chances of THAT happening???? NOT!! The wife is moving out before his parents.

  • @simonwoodson8029
    @simonwoodson8029 5 лет назад +302

    If you let them move in,that means they will no longer have a mortgage payment. That's extra money for them to spend. Don't do it.

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 3 года назад +7

      That’s the parents thinking exactly.
      O goodie more money to spend. LoL

    • @marilynbartlett1850
      @marilynbartlett1850 10 месяцев назад +2

      And then they’ll spend the caller’s money

  • @virtuous_committed
    @virtuous_committed 5 лет назад +370

    This is bananas. Who in this earth make $120,000 in retirement and is still broke. THAT'S CRAZY. Parents or not they WOULD NOT come in my house. Like my parents use to say. You're grown you figure it out.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +4

      If he was in this situation then his parents would help him so why can’t he help them? They have done a lot for him.

    • @butteredbread1756
      @butteredbread1756 5 лет назад +1

      Mya Mya can’t really generalize like that in this situation. Maybe his parents have done a lot for him which is why he’s okay returning the favor. Many parents do a lot for their kids into adulthood

    • @GoogleAccount00
      @GoogleAccount00 5 лет назад +3

      Amen sis

    • @VeniceK
      @VeniceK 4 года назад +16

      @@IWantToMature85 do you think that letting them move in and having that extra money to spend is the best way to help them? Or them actually remaining independent and fixing their finances? You don't think 2 ppl should be able to live off $100+ grand a year? The fact that they earn that much in retirement means they made a ton of money in their working years. Dont you think $125+ grand a year is a large sum for a retiree? Considering they dont have to work so there are no work related expenses like gas, or lunch or whatever. They dont have under age kids. And as a married couple they can downsize to a smaller place (at $2500 a month mortgage sounds like a lot of house for 2 ppl).

    • @blacksnk
      @blacksnk 4 года назад +10

      Zechariah Cameron do you know how many couples would love to make 120,000 and NOT WORK! That is some serious cash for a childless couple! I make little more than half that and I’m single doing good. Sell that friggin house and live in a cheap apartment, not live with other family members. My mind is totally blown with this!

  • @ekitten89
    @ekitten89 5 лет назад +269

    Look at the terrible position he’s putting his wife & soon-to-be new baby in! -b/c I see the wife moving out, with the baby in tow. He’s sacrificing his own family to enable his parents’ spending addictions.

    • @lovethemflowers
      @lovethemflowers 5 лет назад +21

      If the wife is already thinking this isn't a good idea, imagine how she'll feel about it after a week of sleep deprivation from the baby's frequent awakenings. The couple will have a tough enough time adjusting to the new baby. They DO NOT need parents living with them. Like the husband said, they value their privacy. Now he has to make sure those parents know that and that this will be a very temporary situation.
      At least the son DOES know the details of his parents' financial situation. Lot of kids aren't sure what the parents income is or how much debt they have.

    • @ladyv5655
      @ladyv5655 4 года назад +10

      And the parents are selfish a-holes to knowingly impose themselves and their bad choices on their son and his family.

  • @vane12685
    @vane12685 5 лет назад +334

    Ive been talking about Dave Ramsey to my parents here and there. Trying to get them to jump on the bandwagon but not being pushy cuz I know they are not in a great financial. Ive been telling them about how in 2 months we will be debt free and how we will only use cash now. Out of nowhere my dad tells me he paid off 2 store credit cards! He was so excited and I realized he has really been listening to me.

  • @Dancing77Kat
    @Dancing77Kat 4 года назад +65

    This man has no respect for his wife. Also, I don't know why he called if he wasn't going to take Dave's advice. And once they are in the house, they will not move out.

  • @ChicagoTRS
    @ChicagoTRS 5 лет назад +125

    Refuse to sell your car, refuse to do this, refuse to do that, we cannot change our spending...I am refusing your request to move in with us. Love you parents, but not gonna happen, never gonna happen. Figure it out on your own...you have the income to fix things if you get on the slash and burn, beans and rice plan.

    • @ekitten89
      @ekitten89 5 лет назад +4

      ChicagoTRS - SNAP! Truth.

  • @michaelwoods4495
    @michaelwoods4495 4 года назад +46

    My wife and I are 73 and we get by just fine on $80k per year. We actually save $600 a month because we don't know what else to do with it, though we did give away $3000 to charity so far this year. These old people are nuts!

  • @tidittii4383
    @tidittii4383 5 лет назад +328

    He's going to let them move in.

    • @LittleHatori
      @LittleHatori 5 лет назад +30

      Ikr. Wish I had some popcorn.

    • @NatashaVincent
      @NatashaVincent 5 лет назад +34

      Intergenerational living is fine but these specific parents sound too stubborn to make it an enjoyable experience

    • @Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes
      @Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes 5 лет назад +17

      I bet she will file for divorce if he lets them stay too long.

    • @KParks
      @KParks 5 лет назад +13

      And they'll never leave.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +1

      Gumardee coins and banknotes she should forgive him. He’s trying to help out his parents.

  • @jeniffercollado69
    @jeniffercollado69 5 лет назад +119

    The wife will leave him if he allow his parents to move with them. He is a papa&mama’s boy. He need to put BOUNDARIES in place. His parents are a mess.

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack5779 5 лет назад +97

    New baby on the way?? DO NOT LET THEM MOVE IN!!! It will never end and they will take you and your family down with them!!

  • @alnonymous2482
    @alnonymous2482 5 лет назад +36

    Way back when (many years before Dave Ramsey) my in-laws ran into some financial difficulty and moved in with us. They did move out but it put such a strain on our relationship that irreparable damage was done and things were never the same. DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO MOVE IN WITH YOU. If you do, you'll be sorry.

  • @samanthasmiles9112
    @samanthasmiles9112 4 года назад +68

    I like how Dave immeduatly started to end the call when he realized their was no hope for this guy.
    "Well what do I do when they move in?"
    "Dude, I just told you to not let them in."
    "Yea but..." music starts to play as the camera fades out. 😂😂 Cant help people that want to drown.

  • @philanderwicks
    @philanderwicks 5 лет назад +145

    He’s making all kind of excuses for his irresponsible parents. When the in-laws becomes outlaws, I’m sure his marriage will definitely hit some turbulence.

    • @getbuckets5718
      @getbuckets5718 5 лет назад +1

      He loves his parents

    • @stpierreforjesusthesavior984
      @stpierreforjesusthesavior984 10 месяцев назад +5

      @@getbuckets5718 more than his wife. Parents have to grow up and learn to stand on their own 2 feet.

    • @vaska1999
      @vaska1999 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@getbuckets5718 Which is nice, but he's about to start enabling their crazy spending habits at the expense of his own family!

  • @BrianVelez
    @BrianVelez 5 лет назад +145

    .... I don’t even make 1/8th of what they make and I’m sustaining a 2 1/2 person house hold and running an online business and still managing to keep my expenses at a low. They need a reality check. Don’t allow them to move in.

    • @DiscoFang
      @DiscoFang 5 лет назад +9

      Brian Velez 2 1/2 people? That sounds a neat magic trick.

    • @DiscoFang
      @DiscoFang 5 лет назад +8

      Where does the other half stay?

    • @SidewaysEightSix
      @SidewaysEightSix 5 лет назад +7

      Cassette Walkman him, his wife, and his kid. Sigh.

    • @mikejackson7881
      @mikejackson7881 5 лет назад +5

      @@DiscoFang a kid or baby most call 1/2... duh

    • @amazinglats6020
      @amazinglats6020 3 года назад +3

      Dayum an 8th of 120 grand is 15 grand holy cow dude

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack5779 5 лет назад +69

    He'll call next for divorce advice and child support!! Hope he really enjoys mommy and daddy.

  • @mikiring3
    @mikiring3 5 лет назад +68

    He's going let his parents move in and his wife will leave him. How can he not see that?

    • @randyadams1312
      @randyadams1312 2 года назад +4

      Exactly, especially after the parents try to tell them how to parent the baby and treat them like children.

  • @samanthasmiles9112
    @samanthasmiles9112 5 лет назад +40

    I am so happy I am not this man's wife. These parents are horrible. People starving in the world and they are trying to take down their children because they dont know how to live off of $125,000. Enabling hurt people. If he takes in his parents, he is a part of the problem.

  • @AnnMitt
    @AnnMitt 5 лет назад +127

    Move into senior apartment. $600-700/mo rent.

    • @kimjong-un5562
      @kimjong-un5562 5 лет назад +10

      There income is to high

    • @canman5060
      @canman5060 5 лет назад +10

      Not qualify because of their high income.

    • @mariejones7136
      @mariejones7136 5 лет назад +4

      Where are their apts for 700..not in ny

    • @AnnMitt
      @AnnMitt 5 лет назад +10

      @@mariejones7136
      Michigan has plenty of senior apartments for under $700-800/mo. There's no income restriction either. This is just plan apartment, not assistant living. My mom lived in one. $650/mo. One bedroom.

    • @mariejones7136
      @mariejones7136 5 лет назад +1

      @@AnnMitt Michigan is way too cold for me lol..

  • @IamtheGL
    @IamtheGL 5 лет назад +207

    Your parents are no longer your priority when you have a family of your own.

    • @ChrisMFlorida
      @ChrisMFlorida 5 лет назад +15

      well maybe not quite like that... but in this situation.. true! If they are not in good health and have a place to live or need help with things then yes, but being a leach.. nope!

    • @kimmyymmik
      @kimmyymmik 4 года назад +5

      I agree. I would never put my kids through something like this.

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      @allisonw1853 4 года назад +1

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      @lilbean4606 4 года назад +2

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      @allisonw1853 4 года назад +1

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  • @kinyattarocsheen6170
    @kinyattarocsheen6170 5 лет назад +47

    Wow, Dave Ramsey be giving the hard cold facts!

  • @ColtonLoberg
    @ColtonLoberg 5 лет назад +82

    TELL EM DAVE

  • @psharpe5904
    @psharpe5904 5 лет назад +61

    Call and ask for advice, hear the answer, still try to justify doing it your way. Genius.

    • @michaelb.8953
      @michaelb.8953 5 лет назад +8

      His life is about to take a turn for the worse if it hasn't already.

  • @rleonekc07
    @rleonekc07 5 лет назад +20

    125k per year, they should have a house PAID OFF in retirement.

  • @bryanjacobs1423
    @bryanjacobs1423 5 лет назад +79

    Pete needs to learn the ancient word that will set you free: "NO."

  • @Vydio
    @Vydio 5 лет назад +29

    "They've already got some of their stuff moved in." Put it on the porch, or a storage unit. Good luck getting them out once they move in completely.

  • @Coananlover
    @Coananlover 4 года назад +17

    My parents would sooner be homeless than ask to move on with me ESPECIALLY if they were making money like that. I just dont understand people.

  • @myjeanification
    @myjeanification 3 года назад +9

    A traumatic brain injury took me out of the workforce at 54 and I manage to live on a whole lot less without the help of my children.

  • @windsongshf
    @windsongshf 5 лет назад +16

    These children being guilted by their parents to solve their problems make me so angry I could spit! Arrrrrg!

  • @luminous6969
    @luminous6969 5 лет назад +138

    Looks this guy needs to go to Walmart and pick up a spine and two testicles.

    • @oladimejiakande9070
      @oladimejiakande9070 4 года назад +1

      Exactly

    • @bobbyweirddick6556
      @bobbyweirddick6556 4 года назад +2

      Luminous maybe you’d have a better chance in the black market.

    • @MsJoyce31202
      @MsJoyce31202 4 года назад

      But he was so good to set up a budget for them. That's kind of neat. But I wonder where he gets his values from (financial ones) because they seem to have skipped his parents? Does he get the values from an uncle, etc?

    • @kitsontuli2713
      @kitsontuli2713 4 года назад +1

      😭😭😭😭

  • @Elsneakakaze
    @Elsneakakaze 4 года назад +11

    Literally the moment he says mom n pop wont sell their car
    YOU WILL NOT LET THESE PEOPLE MOVE IN WITH YOU.
    I love dave so much

  • @sobc2737
    @sobc2737 5 лет назад +91

    He is definitely going to let them move in out of guilt. And I bet it's his mother that's driving the move. They are going to ruin their marriage and traumatize his baby. This man is so weak that he can't protect his wife and baby. This is a disaster waiting to happen.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +4

      What is so bad about helping about your parents? They’re the reason why you’re here and have helped you out. Only an ungrateful kid wouldn’t help them

    • @Machiavelli876
      @Machiavelli876 5 лет назад +6

      @@IWantToMature85 Your own family is more important than your parents.

    • @chompyandstompy8114
      @chompyandstompy8114 5 лет назад +12

      What his parents are doing is toxic.

    • @TagW110
      @TagW110 5 лет назад +1

      @Heather Tinniehill my first thought when I heard this: Pete - grow a pair of balls.

    • @michaelb.8953
      @michaelb.8953 5 лет назад +11

      @@IWantToMature85 It is the job of a parent to help their kids grow up. it's not the job of a child to help their parent's grow up.

  • @gilmendoza8092
    @gilmendoza8092 5 лет назад +42

    This will destroy their marriage guaranteed

    • @gemsix876
      @gemsix876 4 года назад

      Sunamer Z nah man they’re already divorced

  • @EALionheart
    @EALionheart 5 лет назад +49

    Unfortunately, Dave gets call all the time that involve families or individuals that don't know how to "get by" on six figures. The debt epidemic in this country has infected the minds of too many people.

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 5 лет назад +4

      There's something seriously wrong if you can't "get by" on a six figure salary. You should be living the life of King Midas.

  • @theresabruntom5435
    @theresabruntom5435 5 лет назад +13

    My brother has been hopping from relative to relative because he lived an out of control lifestyle. No way would I let him move in with me.

  • @raulgolfs
    @raulgolfs 5 лет назад +33

    Ohh I’m listening to this episode right now on the podcast! 👍🏽. Great work you guys out at Ramsey Solutions! 🙌🏽. Do not let them move in! AND ABSOLUTELY LOVE THE RANT THAT COMES RIGHT AFTER THIS SEGMENT! 🙏🏽

  • @mzgemini0006
    @mzgemini0006 5 лет назад +78

    Soooooooo his question was should his parents move in.. Dave says no and now his question is since they are moving their stuff in what's the best plan??? He knows the answer he is not going to follow it though.. like why call .... why???????

    • @wahinepaddler4
      @wahinepaddler4 5 лет назад +26

      As soon as he said they already moved in some of their things..the music started to play 🤣😂

    • @strudlebae5831
      @strudlebae5831 5 лет назад +8

      Narcissistic parents have strong holds over their kids.

    • @DiscoFang
      @DiscoFang 5 лет назад +15

      Well he lied right from the get go. He said they were planning on moving in when it turns out the reality is they're already moving in. He clearly finds it easy to lie to himself about the situation. Not good.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +1

      Parents raise kids, put them through, pay for college, put them through sports, etc. Nothing is wrong with him helping them out

    • @hookstavaris
      @hookstavaris 5 лет назад +8

      Zechariah Cameron by helping out do you mean enabling their bad spending habits?

  • @wkdravenna
    @wkdravenna 5 лет назад +23

    125k in Ohio/Kentucky is plenty.

    • @pricardo333
      @pricardo333 5 лет назад +2

      I make less than that in the Bay Area, and I'm getting along better than those parents.

  • @erato1
    @erato1 5 лет назад +13

    They will never leave because he does not have the strength to tell them no.

  • @thepracticalblade9013
    @thepracticalblade9013 2 года назад +6

    This is insane. The world has a terrible financial literacy problem. It's amazing how many people have GOOD money coming in, and they still manage to burn it all.
    I once was tasked with going through an ex-executive's email records at the company i worked at in order to find some of his old files. Among his work emails were also personal ones. Guy was making over $400k/year and most of his emails to his wife were about how they weren't sure they were going to be able to pay their bills that month. The country club they belonged to ran them $700/week, but removing that expense was "off the table". Insanity.

  • @carrietoo
    @carrietoo 5 лет назад +18

    I don't see the point in taking in people financially capable of taking care of themselves.

  • @TheCobruhAlienat0r
    @TheCobruhAlienat0r 5 лет назад +35

    This guy on the phone sounds like he's 500lbs and can barely breathe.

  • @coffeewithmike3916
    @coffeewithmike3916 5 лет назад +32

    This dude needs to be a man grow a pair and nuts get his house in order and do not let those parents in and I repeat this is not a drill !

  • @kellyanna94
    @kellyanna94 5 лет назад +17

    Anyone else notice at the end when Pete tries to respond but Dave presses the "mute" button? Lol!

    • @viceb7
      @viceb7 4 года назад

      😂 I went back to see it

    • @jackedkerouac4414
      @jackedkerouac4414 3 года назад +1

      That's an excellent tool one that's needed in a lot of these call-in shows

  • @chadj.w.anderson5473
    @chadj.w.anderson5473 5 лет назад +21

    With all due respect to the caller, they've got you fooled man, they want you to co-sign their bad decisions.

  • @canman5060
    @canman5060 5 лет назад +9

    This is absolutely ridiculous. My wife and I are in our 60's and we are on our owns.

  • @grayandgray
    @grayandgray 5 лет назад +26

    This guy is going to be the loser in this deal, his wife will kick him and his parents out. Hopefully, she comes here to hear the video and read the comments! He's crazy to foist this on his family just when they've set their own path so solidly.

    • @heidithaw1072
      @heidithaw1072 5 лет назад +4

      He asking for his marriage to break up. I would take my family if there was a need bur this is crazy.

  • @wanefelicia8779
    @wanefelicia8779 4 года назад +11

    His parents prob guilt trip the heck out of him....shame on families that do that 🤮🤢

  • @marcarrera4904
    @marcarrera4904 5 лет назад +21

    Agree with you dave!! Yes dont let them move in why because they dont want change if they wanted to change then yes help them but they will just be in another mess again!!

  • @MarineMike77
    @MarineMike77 5 лет назад +17

    Hey Pete, I'm going to be tactful and say grow a set... Stand with your wife and unborn baby. They are your responsibility not your parents. Trust me, I understand you want to honor and respect your parents. You can and should with clear and healthy boundaries.

  • @MASTER.SON.
    @MASTER.SON. 3 года назад +3

    When the caller said he and his family got out of about 100k of debt in 4 years rly got to Dave. I think he was reminded why he does this. So sweet.

  • @mugen3603
    @mugen3603 5 лет назад +29

    Trying to be a good son... ends up failing as a dad and a husband. Brilliant.

  • @T.Pink.
    @T.Pink. 5 лет назад +28

    So they're refusing to sell their car, but he's willing to allow his parents to move in & mooch off he & his wife. Wow. I hope he gets some help- enabling is caustic, & will likely cost him his marriage. He should not care more about their situation than they do. His first priority should ALWAYS be his wife & unborn child.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад

      T. Girl parents are always there for their kids so he’s returning the favor

    • @mikejackson7881
      @mikejackson7881 5 лет назад +1

      @@IWantToMature85 they can get help from a distsnce...

  • @DiscoFang
    @DiscoFang 5 лет назад +13

    Crazy. Letting them move in is just gonna have the effect of them getting a pay rise. They'll just increase their spending.

  • @covercalls88
    @covercalls88 3 года назад +11

    When it comes to two adult women in the same household, there can be only one boss.

  • @DewTime
    @DewTime 5 лет назад +12

    Really dumb idea. If he doesn’t have the audacity to make them sell their car and go on a budget, how is he gonna have the heart to kick them out when the time comes? He never said how long they plan on staying. What if two weeks in the wife ends up losing her mind. The in-laws may have conflicting views on parenting. Is he gonna put his foot down for that?

  • @brandonclayton1252
    @brandonclayton1252 5 лет назад +10

    2:47 agreed, we can physically move people. but until they mentally move themselves. you really can't help em until they want it bad enough!! that's on life💯

  • @ZedGirl
    @ZedGirl 4 года назад +5

    He hung up on him 😂😂
    ..."cause you're not strong enough..."

  • @michtig
    @michtig 3 года назад +3

    People that are emotionally attached to things at any cost while losing money and peace of mind AND burdening those close to them are the worst. I saw my best friend lose a decade of peace of mind to her parent's poor decision making about money and housing.

  • @MentorShelly
    @MentorShelly 5 лет назад +9

    Don't let them move in if you want you keep your sanity

  • @magicworld3242
    @magicworld3242 4 года назад +5

    Don't let your parents move in. My sister and her husband moved in with my parents and they NEVER moved out.

  • @harrisonwintergreen1147
    @harrisonwintergreen1147 5 лет назад +5

    "they're planning on moving in with us" - they way caller said this sounded like mom & dad TOLD him and didn't ASK
    Parents earn $125k (top 20% of households) but spend like they were in the top 5%

  • @bobmarker6812
    @bobmarker6812 4 года назад +3

    Amazing how many people are financially immature.

  • @vince7735
    @vince7735 4 года назад +7

    Put their stuff into storage and help them find a place they can afford.

  • @lisaotj9676
    @lisaotj9676 4 года назад +6

    When my MIL asked to move in with us "temporarily" my husband didn't even ask my opinion. He said yes...LOL...So that month leading up to her moving in, I didn't complain or say anything, but boy did I pray! Every moment I thought about it, I prayed for some way for it to not happen. Well she didn't move in and she is still alive and the "crisis" wasn't as severe as it was made out to be. I was so relieved...However, five years later I finally revealed to my husband that that whole month leading up to her moving in I had every intention of leaving him with his mama if she started to make living there unbearable. Sons are loyal even in situations where they clearly don't have to be and their judgement can be clouded when everything is an emergency... I hope that couple gets through it all. Living with in laws might not seem like a big deal to some but when a spouse has bad intuitions about it, there is most likely serious problems lurking.

  • @lgee9027
    @lgee9027 5 лет назад +18

    These people😭😂😂😂 Dont let your parents stress you out

  • @nikkole9951
    @nikkole9951 5 лет назад +16

    He needs to listen to his wife and not let them move in. Stop being such a wimp and set some boundaries! I wouldn’t want my husband’s mother moving in with us either. This is a disaster waiting to happen. Having them move in will only enable their foolish behavior. That being said, I doubt he will take Dave’s advice anyway. So, have fun signing the divorce papers.

  • @samanthasmiles9112
    @samanthasmiles9112 5 лет назад +6

    I pray this man says no to these parents. They are going to take themselves down and everyone with them. Enabling hurts people. Just say no.

  • @myvictorianow
    @myvictorianow 5 лет назад +4

    I love now people ask for help then straight up ignore it or refuse to listen..

  • @fellok7105
    @fellok7105 5 лет назад +9

    Lol, if I were this wife I'd be running in the opposite direction in a heart beat.

  • @samanthasmiles9112
    @samanthasmiles9112 4 года назад +7

    Let me get this straight. They want to move in with you so you can pay their bills and they can keep shopping. These people are horrendous people. They would rather ruin their son financial future over selling a car? Wow. Run kid. Run from your toxic horrible parents. You're poor wife 🤦‍♀️

  • @beingaman1014
    @beingaman1014 2 года назад +2

    Hey Mr Dave, I don't have a financial question at the moment but I do want to thank you for having a clean show I can play on RUclips with my kids so they can hear the stories that help me explain money with examples so they can have wholesome information about financial understanding

  • @nkyryry
    @nkyryry 5 лет назад +17

    In case this guy is reading through these comments trust me from experience dude it’s not a good idea. They’re not getting out of debt. Living with you will just free up more cash for them to spend. It’s the hardest when it’s your mom & dad but you should tell them no.

    • @IWantToMature85
      @IWantToMature85 5 лет назад +1

      If your parents help you then you should help them

    • @nkyryry
      @nkyryry 5 лет назад +5

      Zechariah Cameron fine line between helping & enabling.

    • @Machiavelli876
      @Machiavelli876 5 лет назад +5

      @@IWantToMature85 Why are you under every comment posting this nonsense?

  • @MarioHernandez-ci4cc
    @MarioHernandez-ci4cc 5 лет назад +17

    He's going to end up divorced & living with mama & papa

  • @Sayless1
    @Sayless1 5 лет назад +29

    I learn a lot experience from you thank you

  • @cellogirl11rw55
    @cellogirl11rw55 4 года назад +13

    If my parents ever asked to move in with me I would say, "I love you guys, but you're not moving in with me. I've got my own life now, but, I'll gladly help you find another place to live."

  • @michellewilliams1550
    @michellewilliams1550 4 года назад +2

    Dave you answered this man question great. .

  • @Funwithnine
    @Funwithnine 5 лет назад +13

    Dude is asking for a divorce moving those people on over his wife's wishes!

  • @wanyinavybes421
    @wanyinavybes421 5 лет назад +13

    Just don’t let moving in happen, period. Don’t you be an enabler of bad behaviour, they wiil break your home too with their lunacy.

  • @butchthurman4685
    @butchthurman4685 5 лет назад +3

    The real question is why do you have a house payment at 70 to begin with?

  • @rickwalker5203
    @rickwalker5203 5 лет назад +11

    Run in the opposite direction!

  • @et1016
    @et1016 5 лет назад +12

    Unbelievable, this guy sounds as responsible as his irresponsible parents. 😩

  • @almarosa154
    @almarosa154 5 лет назад +11

    They need to move into an assisted living home. Sell everything they have. Have a cash car.
    Your parents are going to spend EVEN MORE if they move in- for them its going to be "yaaayy!! We have more money to spend!!"
    Or set up a POA and YOU TAKE OVER ALL OF THE FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES... PAY THEIR BILLS etc...and GIVE THEM AN ALLOWANCE... Bt realistically o doubt your parents will allow it... They're nt going to listen to you...

    • @almarosa154
      @almarosa154 5 лет назад +2

      @@dorothyhere2945 omg!!! Oooo snap!!! Nevermind!!! They're better off in an efficiency small studio and need to live off beans and rice😊

  • @siegfriedbraun5447
    @siegfriedbraun5447 5 лет назад +6

    "Hey Dave, the horses have all left the barn and the darn barn burned down; how do I get those horses back?"

  • @Jean-qn4fy
    @Jean-qn4fy 4 года назад +6

    Wow! This is good advice. My mother (the hoarder who drives everyone's lives with insane) TOLD me some years ago that she was coming to live with me because she was broke. Uh, no. Actually, she had no life of her own and hates living on her own. She had money coming in. She just wanted to hand it all to my brother for his pie-in-the-sky financial schemes and blow whatever was left on junk while having us take care of her. No. Absolutely no. She somehow came up with enough to buy herself a condo and now lives in it with said brotherv and her hoard?

  • @nkyryry
    @nkyryry 5 лет назад +5

    The main problem here is they’re retired. The retired life style is what they want, not the fresh out of college paying off student loans lifestyle. But that’s the choice they made.

  • @LaDa620
    @LaDa620 4 года назад +3

    I wish I would have heard or someone tell me thos b4 I moved my family in. It ended in me filing an eviction

  • @wanda520
    @wanda520 4 года назад +3

    Don’t do it ! Tough love.

  • @normanladdleschnitzel1928
    @normanladdleschnitzel1928 4 года назад +4

    I just realized that Dave Ramsey is the responsible person's Jerry Springer 😂