Some will come say that "what condition is this when it forbids that what Allah has permissed! This contract is breakable!" But dude, where was this mentality of yours before? If you were gonna break the oath anyway, you shouldn’t have accepted it in the first place causing distress to the other person😑
What did Allah(saw) tell muhammand when his wives forbid him from sleeping with his concubines? "O Prophet, why do you forbid [yourself] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking to please your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." (Surah At-Tahrim 66:1)
@@Potacrow there is a big difference between signing a contract and seeking someone's approval. He will be sinful for breaking the contract, but his marriage is still valid. The contract is there so the 1st wife can get out of the marriage without financial burden because he is the one who broke it, just like the sheikh said
@Potacrow first of all it’s not concubines, they were all his wives. The level of patience the prophet and his wives had were unparalleled. Now if u see that someone has stipulated something which is halal for you in a contract, why would u accept it in the first place? You can just walk away and look for an option which relates to you.
@@BlankSpace357 that ayah was revealed bc Aisha and another one of his wives didn't want him to sleep with his concubine and then Allah revealed the ayah that Allah has made it lawful for him and they shouldn't outlaw it you don't even know the reason for revelation may Allah guide you
@@IYeleven ikr. If I'm his only wife I'm more than happy to help financially with bills or groceries or whatever he needs in order to lessen the burden, because I know it's tough in this economy. But the minute I'm not the only wife all financial support will be pulled back. Wouldn't even give him a penny, and he can watch while I grow my savings because I get paid even if I don't work, lol.
Permissable is not same with obligation. A good wife doesnt mean she lost her emotion, she could be angry, she could be jealous, she could have different opinion with her husband. And many as man use ayat to point out their right to have more wifes, dont skip the part where it says that the best man is the one who treat their woman best. If you dismissed your wife's feeling so you could get married again, could you really call yourself the best man? Allah hates divorce, but it's permissable. He knows best, and He is the wisest
@laylaali3849 no one makes it forbidden. But if your wife couldnt accept it and ask for divorce, thats her right too. Just dont throw ayat at her and make her feels like a bad woman
@laylaali3849 It's not halal for one who can not do justice and can't complete his duties between their wives and children equally.. U should focus on that, too Very few men can manage all these things.. that's why polygamy is NOT HALAL for every man
@@30goals It makes a lot of ladies not want to get married at all. No wonder world population is said to plummet. Most ladies will not put up with such disrespect.
Why are you searching for a negative in such a light hearted atmosphere ? The laughing is not really because its actually funny its because its a uncomfortable topic Question was asked sheikh answered it was a good question too islam is about clearing doubts and seeking knowledge everybody in that room is now more educated
@@joefoe262 Shall we joke about you sharing your wife with another man? It's pretty much the same things except one is allowed and the other isn't in this world.
so if a Muslim man has been tempted by women… He has no self-control, he has to marry her? Otherwise, he will cheat on his wife… “i have to marry second wife or i will sin 😢” what idiotic shit is that
Nah, the man who think that way is idiotic. A righteous man is the one with self control. Don't trust those men who say they have every right to stuck their stuff in any hole they find available. They will argue and they will use whatever hadith or ayah to their advantage. Just leave them away.
@@abdelrahmanalsaid3630you gotta control yourself just how women control themselves when they see a good looking man while their husbands is looking like a pototo beg.
If you have agreed upon the condition on nikkah day you can't break the contract now years after and if you do wife has a legal right to ask for divorce as a condition upon which both partners have agreed is now going to break.
Answer- if the marriage contract is broken then the marriage continues unaffected. But when one of the spouse go to the Islamic court to seek divorce or khula refering to the breaking of marriage contract then the marriage is dissolved by the permission of the court and the permission of Allah.
Put first condition not to have second wife and second condition if he does he has to pay you certain huge amount. Put your conditions very strictly. Never believe a man. They never care about your feelings they just care what they want.
@@muzzammilkamran5948False you can make any demand you want in the contract as long as the demand is halal. If a wife marries a billionaire and she demands that he buys her new luxury car every 5 years she can put that in the contract. No one forces you to sign the contract.
if the guy signs such contract he is dumb, he has the full right to say no. You can put your condition as strictly as possible, the guy can deny as strictly as he can. He can say no to marriage if he doesn’t agree with the condition. And if you cheat and lie then yo will be sinful. So the guys need to say no to marriage if they don’t agree with the condition. This is not Non Muslim marriage that he has to pay certain huge amount of money for breaking condition, you are the type of person would ask for alimony, what is considered as stealing in Islam’s, alimony is haram, if you unlawfully take someone’s money according to Islam, you are a thief, will be punished for it.
yes according to you, rasulallah saw is a liar who only cares about what he wanted and also all of the prophets and ulama and righteous people. and if youre not muslim but ahlul kitab, the prophets are liars, and if youre athiest, your father and your ancestors are all liars and selfish. shame on you.
Yes and no, Allah says in the Quran to keep your promises. So he might be sinning for breaking his promise but this is dependent on the situation and the couple.
After children women usually don't Bec don't want to leave children to stepmother. Women mind is all children while man eyeing secretary. Hay you we can do that too if you come and look at your children faces more.
Women who let their husbands sign that contract do it because they are striving for a loving and comfortable marriage. They don’t want their marriage or their heart split in two. Men have to respect that. Otherwise a man must never promise a woman falsehood especially when she’s trusted him and had her kids with him.
Women are maturally more attracted to a man who already has women. So shut up if yoy dont know or understand things. Women can be extremely jealous, thats just petty and superficial, not genuine emotions or "heart ripped in two"
@ if he never signs that he won’t have another wife and promises his wife what she wants then okay. Otherwise do not marry a monogamous woman. Go find your polygamous type and spare the others the hardships.
@sakuranagifr another thing is I’d like to share with you my child is when you grow up older and turn to your 30s is that pleasure won’t have time in your life as much as taking care of your children and the burden you’ll be facing of financial work. I would suggest you stop dreaming of this la la second wife world because if you’re not a millionaire by your late 20s and have not fulfilled your wife’s desires after marrying over her then you will face God with a body half tilted when the day comes. Control your materialistic desires. This world is not worth hardships not on you or on your future wife.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
This is absolutely disgusting! Allah entrusted these men with the responsibility of supporting vulnerable women, particularly widows, orphans, and captive believing women during specific circumstances. Yet, here they are, discussing how they can marry multiple wives purely for lust to avoid falling into haram. It’s baffling that many women haven’t realized that most of Shariah rulings (many of which remain disputed) contradict the Quran. These individuals rely on circumstantial Hadiths and historical events to manipulate rulings because the Quran’s verses are much harder to distort.
@ that’s exactly why you have a (one) wife! Men are also commanded to lower their gaze, so this excuse about “having a secretary you might be attracted to and wanting to avoid falling into haram” is nonsense. Nowhere in the Quran is lust mentioned as a justification for polygamy. Instead of behaving like an animal with no self control, follow Allah’s command to lower your gaze and act with discipline!
@@mzzgenius5999 Single men are also commanded to lower their gaze, do you see the flaw in the argument? Do you even know the literal meaning of the word "Nikah"? Lust in Islam is not like other religions. Islam is a sex positive religion. The only requirement in polygyny is equality, the "reason" has nothing to do with its permissibility. Please look into fiqh of marriage.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
How is it in the womans favour when the man can also stipulate things in the marriage contract? For example, the man can stipulate that he will let the woman only work if she will give him a x% of her salary.
@ sorry I dunno about that. I thought the man suppose to provide financially all the time. The woman keeps her money the man has no rights to that. But she can help him if she wants to from her free will. My main favour for the marriage contract is the issues off the husband not to take a second wife. You see I’m a single Muslim woman so I’m not really bothered about this stuff and stress thinking about it. And if I am ever to get married in the future, then I’m aware of my rights etc. ❤️
@RazuAhmed-z8v yes it is true in the basis. However a man can stipulate it. And if he stipulated it and she agreed then she cant retract from that. Of course this does not mean that a man can force his wife to work. It is for when the wife wants to work herself. See Sharh Riyadh Assaliheen of sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen 6/143,144.
@RazuAhmed-z8v “The husband is obliged to spend upon his family, upon his wife and children, on a reasonable basis, even if the wife is rich. The husband is obliged to spend, and that includes cases where the wife is a teacher, and it has been stipulated that the husband allow her to continue teaching. Yet he has no right to take anything from her salary, not half and not more or less. The salary is hers, so long as it was stipulated in the marriage contract that he should not prevent her from teaching and he agreed to that. So he does not have the right to prevent her from teaching, and he does not have the right to take anything from her salary; it is hers. But if it was not stipulated that he allow her to teach, then when they got married he said: Do not teach, then in this case they should come to an agreement however they wish. For example, he could say: I will let you carry on teaching on condition that you give me half of your salary, or two thirds, or three quarters, or one quarter, and the like, according to whatever they agree upon. But if it was stipulated (in the marriage contract) that she may teach, and he accepted that, then he does not have the right to prevent her and he does not have the right to take anything from her salary.” (Sharh Riyadh as-Salihin, 6/143, 144)
Things are very simple. If he married another woman, get a divorce and marry another man 💅🏻✨ you dont need to suffer for someone else's pleasure. Pack up and go~
@Halal_Dan On the contrary to your statement, I am married for 12 years with a man who actually has consideration, compassion, emotion, strength, integrity, intelligence to know it would emotionally kill the first wife. You, on the other hand see women as mere object, once you have enough and your passion passes, right, next one pls. While your first wife drowns in sorrow but you couldn't care less. Multiple wives dont work in this day and age, and if does, she's only into his material things only. I.E. no love is found there. PS, you should consider changing your username, it doesnt match your int. Assalamu alaikum.
@@PeachesNSalt you need to get OUT of your hindu upbringing. You have been badly raised. Women like you BEG married men to marry them when you are slapped with a divorce. Oh the irony and the hypocricy 🙄🙄
Jazakallah shaikh for introducing me to this right of putting conditions.. I wasnt aware of this before.. Now i will make sure to put this condition in my nikkah nama in shaa Allah
With respect - during the life of Prophet Muhammad ( s.a.w.) there were some companions who never got married till old age and pass away or some pass away in battle. Based on authentic Hadith believers who never got married in the world - Allah will give them a spouse in Jannah. So dont worry. Pray Tahajjud for a good spouse & ask Allah to give you a spouse that will be a "cool comfort to your eyes". If it is good for you to be married here it will happen Insya Allah. Otherwise concentrate on your ibadah for Allah & you will get a spouse in Jannah.
Not everybody on this earth gets married. Muslim or non muslim face a similar challenge. This is test from Allah. Make dua & try to find a spouse & put your trust in Allah.
However in the end the wife suffers.. As the husband will say I don't want you anymore as I am getting a new one.. a woman's life is destroyed as no one wants to marry a divorcee nowadays!
Have faith in Allah sis, divorced men marry divorced women. Nowadays, divorced men are also undesirable for first-time married women because they come with a lot of baggage, whether it’s children or ex drama.
Mentioning a condition is allowed in Islamic marriage. Remember Musa(A.S.) also signed a contract to marry and serve for 8 years?? Although he stayed for 10 years!!! When this is halal, why not the first wife's condition? I wonder why no one in the comments mentioned about this incident from Quran.
Wife should also divorce husbands if he does not earn enough money and is not able to keep her as she was kept by her father.....this is allowed in islam. So women stop marrying broke men....and men who cant give you living standard as your father gave you at home. Demand mahr as you wish....becoz islam gave you permission......look men are accessing their rights.....even you should accesses your rights which Allha gave you. Husband should take responsibility of your kids ..of their school fees electricity bills food shelter books cloths toys ect ......women are allowed to earn their own money and husband does not have right on their money. Bibi Khadija also earned her own money through bussiness. So take mahr as you wish their ia no restrictions...if a man is not aggreing to high mahr then go and see other men for marriage prospects. Islam gave right access your right as men are accessing. 😊
@All-purposefacts brother... My intention was to say that putting condition is allowed in Islam. It doesn't mean to incite everyone to exercise that. By the way, most of the things you mentioned are allowed. But remember Allah always weighs the intentions of the person doing that act. Everyone has to answer before Allah on Judgement day.
The laughing here during the question is a wild sign of vice, it is amazingly bad to see. It's surprising seriously spiritual people in Islam would react like this about this particular question. "The marriage is valid... she has right to run away legally..." what a absolute trainwreck of a moral theology and wildly emasculating and certainly not "conservative" this is just as bad as any wild progressive liberal, and Muslims will argue it isn't.
Don't confuse muslims who have a narcissistic personality with emotional healthy muslims. Even muslims can have mental health disorders. Those who make jokes out of this and actually try to manipulate things for their own gain are narcissists and they also can be preachers. They love control and do not have any empathy quite the opposite of our Prophet. Please know the difference. There are men who are absolutely gentlemen and are very very considering, have a soft spot and caring about their women but those kind of men are rare. Also the culture and brain capacity plays a role. Some people are just so twisted in their head or never dealt with their own traumas. But like I said not all muslim men are like that I as a woman can attest to that. Btw I would rather listen to suleyman van ael if I was you, Allah saved my islam through him.
I am sure they didn’t mean it that way. Rather than looking at it negatively look for the good and assume best of your Muslim brothers. You can always ask another Sheik for an answer if you’d like to know more about that question.
Wow what a fair solution!? The contract is broken so she can ask for a divorce and leave! Where will she go? She is not young and beautiful any more. There is not a long queue of men asking to marry her!? She has kids. She is not working. She has no financial resources. What is she going to do after she divorces? There is no alimony in Islam. She will be penniless on street if her family does not offer to support her. Sisters, if you plan to include no second wife condition on your marriage contract, you need to add financial consequences for your husband if he breaks the contract. Put a condition like "if he breaks the contract, he will pay $........, he will give you the family home or he will buy you a condo, etc." Otherwise you will be the one suffering. He will be the one enjoying his life with his young new wife.
As you said, there is no alimony in Islam. No man is going to agree to losing his asset like that. She can either stay married or leave with nothing, that is what Islam came with (as default).
@@moonwalkerr87 No man would agree to losing assets like that! If he refuses to sign, it will be clear that he has no intention of keeping his word, and she will be spared from marrying a liar and ruining her life. Instead, she will marry someone who values her and is content with her, without seeking a second, third, or fourth wife.
@@heavenlymilano Every one is free to do as they wish. I'm not here to tell anyone anything. What you are suggesting is this: "I know the concept of alimony is not Islamic, but I'll introduce it anyway". A man may refuse it simply because it is un-Islamic. Marrying several wives is Islamic, alimony is un-Islamic. But I'm not here to tell anyone what to agree to.
@@heavenlymilano We will add this for sure...Insha Allah this will give much security for life than any simple marriages..and it will be better for both..husband and wife now they will think again before taking any decisions for life that they are suitable for each other or not..
[𝐑𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐛 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫] Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alaihi wa sallam- said: "Allah will build a house in Heaven for whoever is diligent in observing 12 Sunnah Rak'at (as follows): 4 Rak'at before and 2 after the Zhuhr (Midday) Prayer, 2 after the Maghrib (Sunset Prayer), 2 after the ‘Isha (Evening) Prayer and 2 before the Fajr (Dawn) Prayer." (Hadith sahih narrated by at-Tirmidhi No. 379 and by others. Hadith No. 6183 in Sahih al-Jami’.)
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
If the man breaks his promise & a women can't take it ,then divorce him ,take what you can & search for an honest Muslim, take time & don't let the disappointment from one ex husband effect your attitude & thinking . Be more careful but not too much as to put another off. If they can remarry so can you. The only advantage you can be free from the liar. Good luck ladies .
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions, except a condition that forbids what is permissible or permits what is forbidden.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352). And: “Whoever stipulates a condition that is not in the Book of Allah it is not valid, even if he stipulates a hundred times.” Narrated by al-Bukhari (2155) and Muslim (1504).
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymin (رَحِمَهُ اللهُ) said: “If she stipulates that he should not take another wife, this is permissible. Some of the scholars said that it is not permissible, because it is restricting the husband in something that Allah has permitted to him, and it is contrary to the Quran in which it says (interpretation of the meaning): “then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four” [al-Nisa 4:3]. It may be said in response to that that she has a reason to ask him not to marry another wife and she is not transgressing against anyone. The husband himself is the one who is giving up his right; if he has the right to marry more than one, he is giving it up. So what is to prevent this condition being valid? Hence the correct view with regard to this matter is the view of Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), which is that this condition is valid.” (Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/243)
@Djungelsoda2 What I understood that it means she has the right to choose to divorce him if he takes 2nd wife. It's not forbidding what is permissible but it is restricting it. "This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them). "
I don't want to prevent my future husband from having a second wife. However what I do want is for him to divorce me if he does and mahr will be returned. Can I stipulate that?
I feel like I’d be okay with him getting a second wife because it would take many obligations and duties off of me for at least a good, restful amount of time. I’d be able to make time for myself while he’s busy with her.
@@moonwalkerr87 regardless, this is the correct way for her to think as this is one of the many benefits of polygyny (it's a massive benefit for women, if only they knew).
yeah, while for me if i'm only thinking of him as a provider and not a lover, so not gonna do more than what i should do as a wife. If he has a problem with financials, that's his job to make things right again.
For people saying this isn't right because Allah made it permissible. Then why is 'misyar' marriage allowed? The woman gives up her rights (financial and time from the husband) and that's his duty. How can one be allowed and not the other. Yall need to be consistent.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@@syedkhaleelullah2979 y‘all really need to stop comparing yourselfs with the Prophet saw and sahabas 😂 you ain’t half as good as them. So women may accept being the second wife of the prophet but not you. You ain’t the same.
After children women usually don't Bec don't want to leave children to stepmother. Women mind is all children while man eyeing secretary. Hay you we can do that too if you come and look at your children faces more.
We are taught men commit sins if they give a second look to a women. The first can be done accidently but to turn & look again is a sin. So when men view another women to marry they are & have already been committing the sins ,therefore they are not good Muslims. Sins are committed by the eyes , then the mind .
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@@allykhan8594 lol this has nothing to do with marriage. Go find yourself a woman that is into polygamy. You act like you’re being transgressed for not having multiple women 🙄. Leave monogamous minded women alone, we don’t want what you want. Find yourself a woman that does want it. It’s that simple. END OF.
@@ciller98Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@@shaidasabah2606 lol these men think they have lines of ladies out there waiting to share them. They know in reality it’s hard to find such a lady. They can go be with the polygamous approving one and leave the rest of us monogamous minded women alone
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@ This right was given to muslim women by Allah . SHUT UP and cry about it in silence behind a closed door . and if you have any problem with it go and discuss it with a Sheikh
@@syedkhaleelullah2979 Here we go again . Boy go cry about in silence this right is given by Allah . Don't marry a woman with this condition as simple as that
The nikah is contract. From what I know most muslims have a marriage certificate and usually at the back is a "standard" contract that the husband cannot ill treat the wife , he must provide for her etc. So contracts are part of Islamic practice. But you need to check with Hadith scholar if they wrote down the contract 1400 years ago in Saudi. Back then most arabs could not read or write.
Even otherwise, we are not allowed to marry a second just for just or attractions. A second marriage is left open for a man when his wife is not fulfilling her obligations, whether she is too sick or out of spite. And if he marries, he should maintain both with equity and kindness without showing partiality for one over the other.
@aadilabdulla for what i know that rulling came down in times where there was a need of women with no husband to be protected. Wasn't the prophet that example? For as far as i know he married his wives in order to help them( widosw) or to build a relationship between different tribes. But for sure now all you want to have a harem for your pleasure and women has to stick to have only one man. Sick people aren't you?
Wife should also divorce husbands if he does not earn enough money and is not able to keep her as she was kept by her father.....this is allowed in islam. So women stop marrying broke men....and men who cant give you living standard as your father gave you at home. Demand mahr as you wish....becoz islam gave you permission......look men are accessing their rights.....even you should accesses your rights which Allha gave you. Husband should take responsibility of your kids ..of their school fees electricity bills food shelter books cloths toys ect ......women are allowed to earn their own money and husband does not have right on their money. Bibi Khadija also earned her own money through bussiness. So take mahr as you wish their ia no restrictions...if a man is not aggreing to high mahr then go and see other men for marriage prospects. Islam gave right access your right as men are accessing. 😊 For the fact is presntly there are more men than women in this world. Dont k ow about future. Women have more options especially countries like india.
Well, I think it's only a logic that Allah is actually limitting men from too many marriages because in the end of the verse said that "If you can't be fair then it's better just one"
Wrong.he does not say that all. The condition of fairness is attached to keeping ONE wife. Allah COMMANDS you to have a minimum of TWO wives and in order to have just one you have to have a justifiable reason which you will be asked about on the day of Judgment. You DO NOT need a justifiable reason to marry two, you need a justifiable reason to marry just ONE.
Men tend to use this specific verse to marry more than one woman, I know, I understand that it's what Allah said, but they don't really think that the ideal number of wife they should have is one. Just because Allah said it's allowed to have four wives, you men make it as an excuse to marry whatever you like without really think about things beyond that verse. I'm not gonna say things like responsibility and bla bla bla because you're not even think about it at the first place
@razamughal4582 bruh wtf? Where did this coming from 🤣 Then if you are poor, how can you be responsible for your 2 wives and kids? I know Allah is giving us everything we need, but how sure are you that you can provide a good environment for your family? It is always the wives and kids who took the consequence of your doings
@@muzzammilkamran5948 perhaps that depends on the islamic council in the country as my country is Sunni & we follow Syafie school of thought. Here the fatwa allows both male & female to make a pre nup & if both parties sign the contract they must abide by it.
@Shinobu2506. Yes, one can be unmarried. There is nothing wrong with it. Marriage is not fard for everyone..If we can take care of us and stay pure, then marriage is not necessary..
Such women would divorce even if they hadn’t stipulated the condition in the marriage contract if their husband were to marry again. So does it really matter?
@@tafis007If there is no valid reason such as neglect or abuse, a judge will not grant khula if the wife does not return her mahr. You are probably referring to a civil marriage which has nothing to do with an Islamic nikah.
Thank you! Why is it so hard for men to do this? Let her go and marry someone else don’t be selfish and torture her like that. They really think Allah won‘t hold them accountable?
@Thatsfine1998_ are you dumb or something. You letting a culprit lost who will surely do same to others. Don't bring your religion into this. It's you who don't want to solve anything here on this earth, rest of us want to have thing working better and efficiently
Sometimes I am confused with some brothers and their lack of Islamic knowledge. brothers, why are some of u so willing to give up the rights Allah Azzawajal gave you for something as fleeting as "love" or the silly version of it that is "modern love"?
@@syndromefam30 Yes, by hurting the feelings of your own wife and children, you think you are going to be loved LOL Are you sure that you can do justice and follow your duties between your multiple wives equally ?? If no, then you're not even permissible for multiple marriage.. but may be you don't interested to know that what ALLAH says in Quran
Islamic scholars have made multiple wives a norm. Having multiple wives is not encouraged by islam just only allowed and there are many struct rules to follow. No islamic scholars talk about real thing just know about make. People marriage this or that.
@@bluecat7684 at least read full verse and then understand it is only allowed in quran 4:3 not encourage. Don't take verse out of context like many mufti do.
@@bluecat7684 you are only focusing on part you wanna hear. And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. Here Allah said to us about orphans. If you can't raise orphans 1,2,3 or etc marry them if you want help them get married (on more verse I read) become their guardians. Secondly if you cannot do justice between your wives then have only one. Nowadays even rich can't justice to one wife. There no where Allah encourage to have more than one wife. It is about orphans do you have orphans does everyone has orphan girls? Mufti twist however they want and people believe what they want to hear so have logical reasoning. If you wanna know about more than research on (Javed ghamdi) he is best open minded scholars.
@@bluecat7684 "default is multiple" lmfao. Am I living on another world, because from what I know there's an equal number of men and women around the world.
But you agree with misyar marriage? It's a man's duty to financially provide the needs of the family but the woman can give up her rights in a misyar contract. BE CONSISTENT!
But is putting such conditions valid.... making something impermissible whic Allah made permissible....if everyone starts putting one or the other conditions in different spheres of life which Allah has made valid than how will Allahs law prevail....just wondering
Look it's more like that second marriage is only allowed that the first wife must allow you. If the first wife tells you no and you still marry you have went against Allah's word. And this condition was mutually agreed upon so Allah doesn't really mind it.
permissibility does not mean obligation. the condition is valid. Whoever thinks it's invalid, wouldn't get into a contract to begin with. The guy asking the question got what he wanted by lying, and therefore he is the one who will be sinful for breaking the contract, just like sheikh said.
Yes. It's valid in Islam. It's called Ta'liq. It's similar to pre-nuptial agreement. Not everybody has this but in my country, there are several agreements added automatically. Like if my husband were to disappear without any trace for more than 6 months, then I am allowed to go to syariah court to get a divorce. That's just one example. But the women can definitely put the no polygamy clause in their ta'liq and the guys can definitely say no and reject these women. Allahu a'lam
@@alihasan678 you would hate the husband of your sister to do what the prophet and the sahaba did and allah ordained in Quran? Allah has said in surat muhammad (ذلك بأنهم كرهوا ما أنزل الله فأحبط أعمالهم) (That is because they hate that which Allah has sent down (this Quran and Islamic laws, etc.), so He has made their deeds fruitless) So you either dislike the what allah has revealed or you were too weak to stand up for yourself and now you're coping with this nonsense.
@@Khushnuma0645 she can't replace him with this, only ask for divorce, which she doesn't have any grounds for without this clause! Shocking ! She actually doesn't have any valid reason for divorce if her husband marries other women, Many scholars also consider this clause in the contract invalid, what is wrong with marrying other women again ?
@@Abdur-Rahman862 And by "right head" you means the one in your pants of course Instead of taking advantage of someone, just don't marry someone who doesn't want that, you don't have a word to say about what to "allow" to a women which isn't even your wife yet Go negociate with her daddy if you want someone which has the power to "allow" or "forbid" something from her
Don’t take shariah as a laughing matter: I agree with the latter part, not the former one. Of course he can marry second, third or fourth by default but all the wives have the right to act against it within shariah in order to fight for their rights.
If the faith purports to be "equal", then why cant a woman have (A) 4 husbands (B) Divorce the husband by saying 'talak' 3 times ? (Oh yes, because its not written so in the book) womens rights?
Allah has made both men and women equal and Quran is proof of that. Don't twist Qurani ayat and do not through hadith that go against fundamental of islam.
If you want a second wife you give me money, the average income in the country we live in. I want a years worth. I will not tell you to divorce me or make something permissable unpermissable.
Stop making up things, men won't marry windowed women if they were not attracted to them in the first place. Let me explain, would you as a man would like to sponsor another man who's windowed, no right. But a women, you'd be receptive to it, it's coz they have built in mechanism to make the men want to take care of them, and at the same time made them also needy of that care. Attraction plays a big role in widows getting married again.
Remember Allah will not hold you accountable for false oaths so he can tell his wife that he didn’t mean it when he make it. And secondly he can marry a second wife outside without telling her so either way women cannot escape in Islam sorry.
@@ultimatereaction7173 What’s the contradiction, you need to prove your claim right in the first place, there is no evidence that you are not held accountable for false oaths and much AGAINST it
I just need to ask 1 question .all women aresaying man shouldn't get married 2nd time and all.we shoudl oppose it.point is why women cant focus man needs to be practice muslim.rarely i heard women leave man or husband not being practicing muslim and he is doing haram stuff But If he does halal, 2nd marriage women leave.
Some will come say that "what condition is this when it forbids that what Allah has permissed! This contract is breakable!"
But dude, where was this mentality of yours before? If you were gonna break the oath anyway, you shouldn’t have accepted it in the first place causing distress to the other person😑
What did Allah(saw) tell muhammand when his wives forbid him from sleeping with his concubines? "O Prophet, why do you forbid [yourself] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking to please your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."
(Surah At-Tahrim 66:1)
@@Potacrow there is a big difference between signing a contract and seeking someone's approval. He will be sinful for breaking the contract, but his marriage is still valid. The contract is there so the 1st wife can get out of the marriage without financial burden because he is the one who broke it, just like the sheikh said
@Potacrow first of all it’s not concubines, they were all his wives. The level of patience the prophet and his wives had were unparalleled. Now if u see that someone has stipulated something which is halal for you in a contract, why would u accept it in the first place? You can just walk away and look for an option which relates to you.
@@BlankSpace357 that ayah was revealed bc Aisha and another one of his wives didn't want him to sleep with his concubine and then Allah revealed the ayah that Allah has made it lawful for him and they shouldn't outlaw it you don't even know the reason for revelation may Allah guide you
@@BlankSpace357 do you know the reason that ayah was revealed ?? If you don't it's not good to speak on things you're not knowledgeable on
All they want to do is get a second wife when they cannot even take care of the one they have at home. Greed
Tell him to add a 2nd and watch your relationship with him improve
@@therizzardofoz_x
Then he better pay all the bills and the rent of both. No woman in her right mind is about to help him financially by going 50/50 😂
Men are out here struggling to even find one wife and they dream about many
@@IYeleven ikr. If I'm his only wife I'm more than happy to help financially with bills or groceries or whatever he needs in order to lessen the burden, because I know it's tough in this economy. But the minute I'm not the only wife all financial support will be pulled back. Wouldn't even give him a penny, and he can watch while I grow my savings because I get paid even if I don't work, lol.
@IYeleven of course he should, it's his wives' rights
Permissable is not same with obligation. A good wife doesnt mean she lost her emotion, she could be angry, she could be jealous, she could have different opinion with her husband.
And many as man use ayat to point out their right to have more wifes, dont skip the part where it says that the best man is the one who treat their woman best.
If you dismissed your wife's feeling so you could get married again, could you really call yourself the best man?
Allah hates divorce, but it's permissable. He knows best, and He is the wisest
Allah also made taking more than one wife halal, neither you nor I can ever make it forbidden when Allah has made permissible
@laylaali3849 no one makes it forbidden. But if your wife couldnt accept it and ask for divorce, thats her right too. Just dont throw ayat at her and make her feels like a bad woman
@laylaali3849 It's not halal for one who can not do justice and can't complete his duties between their wives and children equally.. U should focus on that, too
Very few men can manage all these things.. that's why polygamy is NOT HALAL for every man
@laylaali3849 Polygamy is NOT HALAL for every man. Allah made it very clearly in the Quran. You should know that, too
@@laylaali3849Polygamy is NOT HALAL for every man. Allah made it very clearly in the Quran. You should know that, too.
The fact they all start laughing is so telling
@@30goals
It makes a lot of ladies not want to get married at all. No wonder world population is said to plummet. Most ladies will not put up with such disrespect.
shut up
Why are you searching for a negative in such a light hearted atmosphere ? The laughing is not really because its actually funny its because its a uncomfortable topic Question was asked sheikh answered it was a good question too islam is about clearing doubts and seeking knowledge everybody in that room is now more educated
@@joefoe262 Shall we joke about you sharing your wife with another man? It's pretty much the same things except one is allowed and the other isn't in this world.
@@IYeleventhat isn’t the reason for the population decrease at all what
so if a Muslim man has been tempted by women… He has no self-control, he has to marry her? Otherwise, he will cheat on his wife… “i have to marry second wife or i will sin 😢” what idiotic shit is that
Nah, the man who think that way is idiotic. A righteous man is the one with self control. Don't trust those men who say they have every right to stuck their stuff in any hole they find available. They will argue and they will use whatever hadith or ayah to their advantage. Just leave them away.
Sinning can be simply looking or talking with that person with the wrong intention.
Why muslim men not lowering their gaze 😂
@@abdelrahmanalsaid3630you gotta control yourself just how women control themselves when they see a good looking man while their husbands is looking like a pototo beg.
If you have agreed upon the condition on nikkah day you can't break the contract now years after and if you do wife has a legal right to ask for divorce as a condition upon which both partners have agreed is now going to break.
Answer- if the marriage contract is broken then the marriage continues unaffected. But when one of the spouse go to the Islamic court to seek divorce or khula refering to the breaking of marriage contract then the marriage is dissolved by the permission of the court and the permission of Allah.
And you did a sin as well.
@@harshitanand7254
Are you a convert from hinduism ?
@@LollaSahar3402Who?
@@LollaSahar3402That's not a sin. Lying and deceiving your wife is a sin.
Mashallah with the humor it makes it easier to relate and understand. A fantastic Da’i alhamdullilah. May Allah reward him
amin
Put first condition not to have second wife and second condition if he does he has to pay you certain huge amount. Put your conditions very strictly. Never believe a man. They never care about your feelings they just care what they want.
No second condition is haram and not valid because allah halal for u only mahar and Gifts,,,other any thing u demand will haram
@@muzzammilkamran5948False you can make any demand you want in the contract as long as the demand is halal. If a wife marries a billionaire and she demands that he buys her new luxury car every 5 years she can put that in the contract. No one forces you to sign the contract.
if the guy signs such contract he is dumb, he has the full right to say no. You can put your condition as strictly as possible, the guy can deny as strictly as he can. He can say no to marriage if he doesn’t agree with the condition. And if you cheat and lie then yo will be sinful. So the guys need to say no to marriage if they don’t agree with the condition. This is not Non Muslim marriage that he has to pay certain huge amount of money for breaking condition, you are the type of person would ask for alimony, what is considered as stealing in Islam’s, alimony is haram, if you unlawfully take someone’s money according to Islam, you are a thief, will be punished for it.
yes according to you, rasulallah saw is a liar who only cares about what he wanted and also all of the prophets and ulama and righteous people. and if youre not muslim but ahlul kitab, the prophets are liars, and if youre athiest, your father and your ancestors are all liars and selfish. shame on you.
💯that’s the reason,why I live alone
I'm sick .
Please make dua for me .
Dua lipa
I saw u in another video just stop...
استغفر الله
Don’t make joke of Du’a
May Allah grant you complete shiffa
Why? @rightouserightouse-wh6rw
So basically, it does not stop the husband from getting a new wife, it gives her the green card to divorce and keep the mahr.
Yes and no, Allah says in the Quran to keep your promises. So he might be sinning for breaking his promise but this is dependent on the situation and the couple.
Yes,don’t marry
Believe me,as a woman it’s the best to live alone
After children women usually don't Bec don't want to leave children to stepmother. Women mind is all children while man eyeing secretary. Hay you we can do that too if you come and look at your children faces more.
Fr stress free and happy😂@@Shinobu2506.
In the same way that he cannot stop her from getting a new husband, he can just divorce her😂😂
Women who let their husbands sign that contract do it because they are striving for a loving and comfortable marriage. They don’t want their marriage or their heart split in two. Men have to respect that. Otherwise a man must never promise a woman falsehood especially when she’s trusted him and had her kids with him.
Women are maturally more attracted to a man who already has women. So shut up if yoy dont know or understand things. Women can be extremely jealous, thats just petty and superficial, not genuine emotions or "heart ripped in two"
no this is his right
@ if he never signs that he won’t have another wife and promises his wife what she wants then okay. Otherwise do not marry a monogamous woman. Go find your polygamous type and spare the others the hardships.
@sakuranagifr another thing is I’d like to share with you my child is when you grow up older and turn to your 30s is that pleasure won’t have time in your life as much as taking care of your children and the burden you’ll be facing of financial work. I would suggest you stop dreaming of this la la second wife world because if you’re not a millionaire by your late 20s and have not fulfilled your wife’s desires after marrying over her then you will face God with a body half tilted when the day comes. Control your materialistic desires. This world is not worth hardships not on you or on your future wife.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
This is absolutely disgusting! Allah entrusted these men with the responsibility of supporting vulnerable women, particularly widows, orphans, and captive believing women during specific circumstances. Yet, here they are, discussing how they can marry multiple wives purely for lust to avoid falling into haram. It’s baffling that many women haven’t realized that most of Shariah rulings (many of which remain disputed) contradict the Quran. These individuals rely on circumstantial Hadiths and historical events to manipulate rulings because the Quran’s verses are much harder to distort.
Shut ur mouth respectively. Saying shariah contradicts Quran is the epitome of ignorance. Ur a clown
Is lust only for first wife? What is the point of nikah if it is not the place to satisfy lust in a halal way? Make it make sense.
@ that’s exactly why you have a (one) wife! Men are also commanded to lower their gaze, so this excuse about “having a secretary you might be attracted to and wanting to avoid falling into haram” is nonsense. Nowhere in the Quran is lust mentioned as a justification for polygamy. Instead of behaving like an animal with no self control, follow Allah’s command to lower your gaze and act with discipline!
@@mzzgenius5999 Single men are also commanded to lower their gaze, do you see the flaw in the argument? Do you even know the literal meaning of the word "Nikah"? Lust in Islam is not like other religions. Islam is a sex positive religion. The only requirement in polygyny is equality, the "reason" has nothing to do with its permissibility. Please look into fiqh of marriage.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
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Please make dua for my mum who is ill❤
will make dua for her, may Allah heal her. Ameen
@@simplelifecooking413 may Allah swt give your mother complete health and happiness, ameen
So all the single ladies out there, don’t forget the marriage contract it’s in our favour ❤
For divorce then yes it is
How is it in the womans favour when the man can also stipulate things in the marriage contract? For example, the man can stipulate that he will let the woman only work if she will give him a x% of her salary.
@ sorry I dunno about that. I thought the man suppose to provide financially all the time. The woman keeps her money the man has no rights to that. But she can help him if she wants to from her free will. My main favour for the marriage contract is the issues off the husband not to take a second wife. You see I’m a single Muslim woman so I’m not really bothered about this stuff and stress thinking about it. And if I am ever to get married in the future, then I’m aware of my rights etc. ❤️
@RazuAhmed-z8v yes it is true in the basis. However a man can stipulate it. And if he stipulated it and she agreed then she cant retract from that. Of course this does not mean that a man can force his wife to work. It is for when the wife wants to work herself. See Sharh Riyadh Assaliheen of sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen 6/143,144.
@RazuAhmed-z8v “The husband is obliged to spend upon his family, upon his wife and children, on a reasonable basis, even if the wife is rich. The husband is obliged to spend, and that includes cases where the wife is a teacher, and it has been stipulated that the husband allow her to continue teaching. Yet he has no right to take anything from her salary, not half and not more or less. The salary is hers, so long as it was stipulated in the marriage contract that he should not prevent her from teaching and he agreed to that. So he does not have the right to prevent her from teaching, and he does not have the right to take anything from her salary; it is hers.
But if it was not stipulated that he allow her to teach, then when they got married he said: Do not teach, then in this case they should come to an agreement however they wish. For example, he could say: I will let you carry on teaching on condition that you give me half of your salary, or two thirds, or three quarters, or one quarter, and the like, according to whatever they agree upon. But if it was stipulated (in the marriage contract) that she may teach, and he accepted that, then he does not have the right to prevent her and he does not have the right to take anything from her salary.” (Sharh Riyadh as-Salihin, 6/143, 144)
Things are very simple. If he married another woman, get a divorce and marry another man 💅🏻✨ you dont need to suffer for someone else's pleasure. Pack up and go~
You want every woman to be as WORTHLESS as you? 🙄
The feminist sees divorce as the solution yet wonders why she's 40 with no husband or kids
@Halal_Dan On the contrary to your statement, I am married for 12 years with a man who actually has consideration, compassion, emotion, strength, integrity, intelligence to know it would emotionally kill the first wife. You, on the other hand see women as mere object, once you have enough and your passion passes, right, next one pls. While your first wife drowns in sorrow but you couldn't care less. Multiple wives dont work in this day and age, and if does, she's only into his material things only. I.E. no love is found there.
PS, you should consider changing your username, it doesnt match your int. Assalamu alaikum.
@@PeachesNSalt you need to get OUT of your hindu upbringing. You have been badly raised. Women like you BEG married men to marry them when you are slapped with a divorce. Oh the irony and the hypocricy 🙄🙄
@@PeachesNSalt women like you BEG to marry MARRIED MEN when you are slapped with a divorce 🙄🙄. You have been badly raised by a hindu mother.
Jazakallah shaikh for introducing me to this right of putting conditions.. I wasnt aware of this before..
Now i will make sure to put this condition in my nikkah nama in shaa Allah
Brown muslim?? 😭
Okay I agree your terms and condition
Biased muslim
Hey sis same😁
@@Sadiyabhatt__ yes🥲🥲
To think that unfaithful men like these are getting married, meanwhile I'm rotting alone.
You will find the right women inshallah, Allah will make the time right my brother ❤
@@jjkoiz InshaAllah, but unfortunately my patience is running out
@RedmanFacturer-ej6cl It's a new year brother, anything can happen, just stay positive and make dua and it'll happen inshallah
With respect - during the life of Prophet Muhammad ( s.a.w.) there were some companions who never got married till old age and pass away or some pass away in battle. Based on authentic Hadith believers who never got married in the world - Allah will give them a spouse in Jannah. So dont worry. Pray Tahajjud for a good spouse & ask Allah to give you a spouse that will be a "cool comfort to your eyes". If it is good for you to be married here it will happen Insya Allah. Otherwise concentrate on your ibadah for Allah & you will get a spouse in Jannah.
Not everybody on this earth gets married. Muslim or non muslim face a similar challenge. This is test from Allah. Make dua & try to find a spouse & put your trust in Allah.
However in the end the wife suffers.. As the husband will say I don't want you anymore as I am getting a new one.. a woman's life is destroyed as no one wants to marry a divorcee nowadays!
but nothing to do.. Its better to not stay with a man like this.
Try telling that to men who have lost majority of their wealth and custody of kids in divorce in the west. Just shut up if you have no knowledge
Then stay with him and don't divorce when you know that nobody wants to marry a divorcee.
There are also many male divorcees who would accept another divorcee.
Have faith in Allah sis, divorced men marry divorced women. Nowadays, divorced men are also undesirable for first-time married women because they come with a lot of baggage, whether it’s children or ex drama.
Alhamdulillah this contract has helped so much ...but Me and him this is the way Wallahi ❤
He can marry second if he wants
Don’t trust that contract
@@Shinobu2506.
But she will get to keep the mehr and divorce him
@@Shinobu2506.She can also separate from him with this contract.
@ she can make a khula without contract
@@Shinobu2506.
If she takes khula she has to give back the mehr which is why this contract is better
Mentioning a condition is allowed in Islamic marriage. Remember Musa(A.S.) also signed a contract to marry and serve for 8 years?? Although he stayed for 10 years!!! When this is halal, why not the first wife's condition? I wonder why no one in the comments mentioned about this incident from Quran.
Wife should also divorce husbands if he does not earn enough money and is not able to keep her as she was kept by her father.....this is allowed in islam.
So women stop marrying broke men....and men who cant give you living standard as your father gave you at home. Demand mahr as you wish....becoz islam gave you permission......look men are accessing their rights.....even you should accesses your rights which Allha gave you.
Husband should take responsibility of your kids ..of their school fees electricity bills food shelter books cloths toys ect ......women are allowed to earn their own money and husband does not have right on their money. Bibi Khadija also earned her own money through bussiness.
So take mahr as you wish their ia no restrictions...if a man is not aggreing to high mahr then go and see other men for marriage prospects.
Islam gave right access your right as men are accessing. 😊
@All-purposefacts brother... My intention was to say that putting condition is allowed in Islam. It doesn't mean to incite everyone to exercise that. By the way, most of the things you mentioned are allowed. But remember Allah always weighs the intentions of the person doing that act. Everyone has to answer before Allah on Judgement day.
Plz dua for me. I'm sick n so many calamities happening on me
Tell me,what do you have for problems?
@@humaira_youtube
Sister please do istighfar tasbih and your 5 daily prayers
May Allah give you shifaa and peace of mind and solve all your problems
May Allah make it easy for us
The laughing here during the question is a wild sign of vice, it is amazingly bad to see. It's surprising seriously spiritual people in Islam would react like this about this particular question.
"The marriage is valid... she has right to run away legally..." what a absolute trainwreck of a moral theology and wildly emasculating and certainly not "conservative" this is just as bad as any wild progressive liberal, and Muslims will argue it isn't.
Agreed, then they want women to accept being the butt of their jokes
Don't confuse muslims who have a narcissistic personality with emotional healthy muslims. Even muslims can have mental health disorders. Those who make jokes out of this and actually try to manipulate things for their own gain are narcissists and they also can be preachers. They love control and do not have any empathy quite the opposite of our Prophet. Please know the difference. There are men who are absolutely gentlemen and are very very considering, have a soft spot and caring about their women but those kind of men are rare. Also the culture and brain capacity plays a role. Some people are just so twisted in their head or never dealt with their own traumas. But like I said not all muslim men are like that I as a woman can attest to that. Btw I would rather listen to suleyman van ael if I was you, Allah saved my islam through him.
@@asmaekh5037 thanks yes agreed.
The issue though is that doctrinally it's not great.
Can a Muslim please defend this video and counter my post. I am not being smug, I can't understand how this is possible
I am sure they didn’t mean it that way. Rather than looking at it negatively look for the good and assume best of your Muslim brothers. You can always ask another Sheik for an answer if you’d like to know more about that question.
Hasta la vista!!!
Nice & true, Sheik🤣🤣🤣🤣
Shame on these men laughing and making jokes on second wife as if it's a joke. May you all go through the same situation Ameen sum ameen
May Allah help our brother understand and make it easy for the sister involved 🤣
Wow what a fair solution!? The contract is broken so she can ask for a divorce and leave! Where will she go? She is not young and beautiful any more. There is not a long queue of men asking to marry her!? She has kids. She is not working. She has no financial resources. What is she going to do after she divorces? There is no alimony in Islam. She will be penniless on street if her family does not offer to support her. Sisters, if you plan to include no second wife condition on your marriage contract, you need to add financial consequences for your husband if he breaks the contract. Put a condition like "if he breaks the contract, he will pay $........, he will give you the family home or he will buy you a condo, etc." Otherwise you will be the one suffering. He will be the one enjoying his life with his young new wife.
As you said, there is no alimony in Islam. No man is going to agree to losing his asset like that. She can either stay married or leave with nothing, that is what Islam came with (as default).
Wow
@@moonwalkerr87 No man would agree to losing assets like that! If he refuses to sign, it will be clear that he has no intention of keeping his word, and she will be spared from marrying a liar and ruining her life. Instead, she will marry someone who values her and is content with her, without seeking a second, third, or fourth wife.
@@heavenlymilano Every one is free to do as they wish. I'm not here to tell anyone anything. What you are suggesting is this: "I know the concept of alimony is not Islamic, but I'll introduce it anyway". A man may refuse it simply because it is un-Islamic. Marrying several wives is Islamic, alimony is un-Islamic. But I'm not here to tell anyone what to agree to.
@@heavenlymilano We will add this for sure...Insha Allah this will give much security for life than any simple marriages..and it will be better for both..husband and wife now they will think again before taking any decisions for life that they are suitable for each other or not..
The ruling is very simple honestly .
[𝐑𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐛 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫] Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alaihi wa sallam- said: "Allah will build a house in Heaven for whoever is diligent in observing 12 Sunnah Rak'at (as follows): 4 Rak'at before and 2 after the Zhuhr (Midday) Prayer, 2 after the Maghrib (Sunset Prayer), 2 after the ‘Isha (Evening) Prayer and 2 before the Fajr (Dawn) Prayer." (Hadith sahih narrated by at-Tirmidhi No. 379 and by others. Hadith No. 6183 in Sahih al-Jami’.)
This is my favourite sheikh for sure. May Allah bless him with more wisdom
Alhamdulillah 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤thank you so much Sheikh 😂loving these videos! Keep them coming 🤲🏾
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
😂😂😂😂 Sheikh Assim may ALLAH SWT bless you in everyway.... best reply 😂
As far as I know you must not shorten the words Subhanahu wa Taala
Putting this in my contract ❤ any man that disagrees can leave
If the man breaks his promise & a women can't take it ,then divorce him ,take what you can & search for an honest Muslim, take time & don't let the disappointment from one ex husband effect your attitude & thinking . Be more careful but not too much as to put another off. If they can remarry so can you. The only advantage you can be free from the liar. Good luck ladies .
What if the society you live in reject women who are divorcees, with disabilities, dark complexion older in age or just anything
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
We live in a time where we all know our rights but we dont know our responsibilities. Lets all become great spouses to our others halves.
JazakAllah khairan kaseer
Mashaa Allah
He is just full of wisdom❤❤❤❤
YOU are AWESOME ❤ MASHAALLAH ❤❤
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions, except a condition that forbids what is permissible or permits what is forbidden.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352).
And:
“Whoever stipulates a condition that is not in the Book of Allah it is not valid, even if he stipulates a hundred times.” Narrated by al-Bukhari (2155) and Muslim (1504).
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymin (رَحِمَهُ اللهُ) said:
“If she stipulates that he should not take another wife, this is permissible. Some of the scholars said that it is not permissible, because it is restricting the husband in something that Allah has permitted to him, and it is contrary to the Quran in which it says (interpretation of the meaning): “then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four” [al-Nisa 4:3].
It may be said in response to that that she has a reason to ask him not to marry another wife and she is not transgressing against anyone. The husband himself is the one who is giving up his right; if he has the right to marry more than one, he is giving it up. So what is to prevent this condition being valid?
Hence the correct view with regard to this matter is the view of Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), which is that this condition is valid.” (Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/243)
@Djungelsoda2 What I understood that it means she has the right to choose to divorce him if he takes 2nd wife. It's not forbidding what is permissible but it is restricting it.
"This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them). "
Jazakallah khairan for Hadiths, never realized this rule.
I don't want to prevent my future husband from having a second wife. However what I do want is for him to divorce me if he does and mahr will be returned. Can I stipulate that?
@Cherries2249 Yes you can but why would you dislike what Allah has allowed?
Sheikh is the most savage Sheikh ever😂
I feel like I’d be okay with him getting a second wife because it would take many obligations and duties off of me for at least a good, restful amount of time. I’d be able to make time for myself while he’s busy with her.
@hans-d2o alhamdulillah, you're thinking in the correct way
But that’s not the reason you should be "okay". This is his right and decision to make. The right alone should be the reason.
@@moonwalkerr87 regardless, this is the correct way for her to think as this is one of the many benefits of polygyny (it's a massive benefit for women, if only they knew).
yeah, while for me if i'm only thinking of him as a provider and not a lover, so not gonna do more than what i should do as a wife. If he has a problem with financials, that's his job to make things right again.
@@therizzardofoz_xits not correct. Its actually not in womens nature to want polygamy
Excellent answer! 😅👌
Barakallahu fiiik Syeikh :D
For people saying this isn't right because Allah made it permissible. Then why is 'misyar' marriage allowed? The woman gives up her rights (financial and time from the husband) and that's his duty. How can one be allowed and not the other. Yall need to be consistent.
They fail to understand that she can‘t make it haram for him but she can make sure she has the right to leave and take the dowry as well.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@@syedkhaleelullah2979 y‘all really need to stop comparing yourselfs with the Prophet saw and sahabas 😂 you ain’t half as good as them. So women may accept being the second wife of the prophet but not you. You ain’t the same.
The ironic thing is, this type of men won't get far in life
After children women usually don't Bec don't want to leave children to stepmother. Women mind is all children while man eyeing secretary. Hay you we can do that too if you come and look at your children faces more.
@@moodmeditation4458
What happened to man lowering the gaze? I’m surprised the sheikh jokes about this.
Mashallah, may Allah guide us and keep us on right path.
We are taught men commit sins if they give a second look to a women. The first can be done accidently but to turn & look again is a sin. So when men view another women to marry they are & have already been committing the sins ,therefore they are not good Muslims. Sins are committed by the eyes , then the mind .
Okay, but this also applies to first wife. This has nothing to do with polygyny.
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
I told my wife I am marrying you by the sunnah of Allah and his messenger and I will not accept any condition that goes against either.
But you can put not having a second wife inside the contract so how is it against?
Qu'ran 5:87
O ye who believe! Forbid not the good things which Allah hath made lawful for you, and transgress not, Lo! Allah loveth not transgressors
this doesnt have to do with marriage. a woman has right to say no. thats it
@@allykhan8594
lol this has nothing to do with marriage. Go find yourself a woman that is into polygamy. You act like you’re being transgressed for not having multiple women 🙄. Leave monogamous minded women alone, we don’t want what you want. Find yourself a woman that does want it. It’s that simple. END OF.
Sure the ayah says marry them by, 2, 3 or 4 ...then if you can do Justive marry only 1; whole not atking secind wife is non sensical;
@@ciller98Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
Beautiful patience.❤️
.beautiful..spanish ❤..
Thanks❤
a lot of men are crying 😂😅
@@shaidasabah2606
lol these men think they have lines of ladies out there waiting to share them. They know in reality it’s hard to find such a lady. They can go be with the polygamous approving one and leave the rest of us monogamous minded women alone
Polygamy is not the prb nudity is u have prb against islamic laws which is maded by god and since 1400 years ago no muslims womens argued like u ppl are doing now a days so called some liberal modern muslim women when the wives of prophet didn't argued and the wives of shabas didn't argue than who r u?
@ this right is given By ALLAH shut up and cry about in silence 🤧😢
@ This right was given to muslim women by Allah . SHUT UP and cry about it in silence behind a closed door . and if you have any problem with it go and discuss it with a Sheikh
@@syedkhaleelullah2979 Here we go again . Boy go cry about in silence this right is given by Allah . Don't marry a woman with this condition as simple as that
The most hilarious and humourous way of responding to a very sensitive question ever😂
Sheikh doesn't know what hanky panky means. It doesn't mean looking good, it means intercourse.
Please make dua for me😢
Mashallah .
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
I would like to know if this was practiced in the time of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم or his companions
The nikah is contract. From what I know most muslims have a marriage certificate and usually at the back is a "standard" contract that the husband cannot ill treat the wife , he must provide for her etc. So contracts are part of Islamic practice. But you need to check with Hadith scholar if they wrote down the contract 1400 years ago in Saudi. Back then most arabs could not read or write.
Even otherwise, we are not allowed to marry a second just for just or attractions. A second marriage is left open for a man when his wife is not fulfilling her obligations, whether she is too sick or out of spite. And if he marries, he should maintain both with equity and kindness without showing partiality for one over the other.
Evidence that we can't marry for attraction if one is capable and just? Are you making halal into haram?
@@mohamedaatif9727but if you only marry for attraction, your marriage wont last
No you can marry a second for any reason. Don't speak about islam with no knowledge
That’s your opinion not the rulings of Islam. As long as you treat them all equally you are allowed to even if none of the previous wives agree to it.
@aadilabdulla for what i know that rulling came down in times where there was a need of women with no husband to be protected. Wasn't the prophet that example? For as far as i know he married his wives in order to help them( widosw) or to build a relationship between different tribes. But for sure now all you want to have a harem for your pleasure and women has to stick to have only one man. Sick people aren't you?
Marriage is for the benefit or men. Studies show Women are happier single and childfree. They lead peaceful lives.
BS, everyone's happier while married. But it heavily depends on who you marry
Lol sheikh is so funny 🤣😹
Is sheikh in Nairobi
Wife should also divorce husbands if he does not earn enough money and is not able to keep her as she was kept by her father.....this is allowed in islam.
So women stop marrying broke men....and men who cant give you living standard as your father gave you at home. Demand mahr as you wish....becoz islam gave you permission......look men are accessing their rights.....even you should accesses your rights which Allha gave you.
Husband should take responsibility of your kids ..of their school fees electricity bills food shelter books cloths toys ect ......women are allowed to earn their own money and husband does not have right on their money. Bibi Khadija also earned her own money through bussiness.
So take mahr as you wish their ia no restrictions...if a man is not aggreing to high mahr then go and see other men for marriage prospects.
Islam gave right access your right as men are accessing. 😊
For the fact is presntly there are more men than women in this world. Dont k ow about future. Women have more options especially countries like india.
Well, I think it's only a logic that Allah is actually limitting men from too many marriages because in the end of the verse said that "If you can't be fair then it's better just one"
Wrong.he does not say that all. The condition of fairness is attached to keeping ONE wife. Allah COMMANDS you to have a minimum of TWO wives and in order to have just one you have to have a justifiable reason which you will be asked about on the day of Judgment. You DO NOT need a justifiable reason to marry two, you need a justifiable reason to marry just ONE.
what is wrong with you
Men tend to use this specific verse to marry more than one woman,
I know, I understand that it's what Allah said, but they don't really think that the ideal number of wife they should have is one. Just because Allah said it's allowed to have four wives, you men make it as an excuse to marry whatever you like without really think about things beyond that verse. I'm not gonna say things like responsibility and bla bla bla because you're not even think about it at the first place
@@MilaRochmaniyah they do NOT have a choice to marry one. The MINIMUM has to be two even for a POOR MAN
@razamughal4582 bruh wtf? Where did this coming from 🤣
Then if you are poor, how can you be responsible for your 2 wives and kids? I know Allah is giving us everything we need, but how sure are you that you can provide a good environment for your family?
It is always the wives and kids who took the consequence of your doings
Yep that makes sense ❤
Brutal 😂😂😂😂
Its permit only in hambali school of of thoughts ,other 3 school reject and disagree with this,,
Test yourself for narcissism. You have free tests online
@asmaekh5037 ???
That is incorrect. In the Syafie school - nikah contract with conditions from both parties is allowed & both must follow the contract terms.
@lilyrosesoul0077 not in shafi,,,,, the imam of shafi school r still saying this type of condition r not allowed in nikkah contract
@@muzzammilkamran5948 perhaps that depends on the islamic council in the country as my country is Sunni & we follow Syafie school of thought. Here the fatwa allows both male & female to make a pre nup & if both parties sign the contract they must abide by it.
Stay unmarried as a woman!!!
You will never have this problems and fear inside you
No man
No broken heart
True. Less headache and less chances of getting an std which he might contract from the Second Lady he gets secretly married to.
So you discourage people to marry ??
@ yes,it’s better for the sisters to live alone
@@TensaZanota
I suppose it’s better for our health to stay single lol
@Shinobu2506. Yes, one can be unmarried. There is nothing wrong with it. Marriage is not fard for everyone..If we can take care of us and stay pure, then marriage is not necessary..
Allah ما شاء الله سبحان الله sheikhs humour🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Such women would divorce even if they hadn’t stipulated the condition in the marriage contract if their husband were to marry again. So does it really matter?
Yes. The mahr.
@moonwalkerr87 In my country, women get the mahr even if they initiates the divorce.
@@tafis007If there is no valid reason such as neglect or abuse, a judge will not grant khula if the wife does not return her mahr. You are probably referring to a civil marriage which has nothing to do with an Islamic nikah.
@@tafis007
Which country are you from ?
@@IYeleven Bangladesh
just divorce and marry the second one.. that's it
Thank you! Why is it so hard for men to do this? Let her go and marry someone else don’t be selfish and torture her like that. They really think Allah won‘t hold them accountable?
@Thatsfine1998_ are you dumb or something. You letting a culprit lost who will surely do same to others. Don't bring your religion into this. It's you who don't want to solve anything here on this earth, rest of us want to have thing working better and efficiently
@@Thatsfine1998_you really think Allah would not hold you and those kind of men like you accountable for your injustice behavior against the wife?
Animal behavior
@@Shinobu2506. what? Read my comment again 🤦🏻♀️
I heard somewhere that marrying the second wife is still permissible regardless of the contract
It's permissible but your first wife then has a right to divorce on those grounds
@@Halal_Danit’s not permissible, it’s a sin bc he broke the contract, but his marriage stays valid
Sometimes I am confused with some brothers and their lack of Islamic knowledge. brothers, why are some of u so willing to give up the rights Allah Azzawajal gave you for something as fleeting as "love" or the silly version of it that is "modern love"?
Damn u gave me a new perspective noice 👌
Selfish people like you dont know what love is
@@ANOblkstrMALY
Did your dad think like you in regards to your mother ?
100% truth. But it's not for everyone.
@@syndromefam30 Yes, by hurting the feelings of your own wife and children, you think you are going to be loved LOL
Are you sure that you can do justice and follow your duties between your multiple wives equally ?? If no, then you're not even permissible for multiple marriage.. but may be you don't interested to know that what ALLAH says in Quran
Allahumma Ameen 🙏🙏🙏
Islamic scholars have made multiple wives a norm. Having multiple wives is not encouraged by islam just only allowed and there are many struct rules to follow. No islamic scholars talk about real thing just know about make. People marriage this or that.
It IS encouraged by Islam very explicitly in 4:3
@@bluecat7684 at least read full verse and then understand
it is only allowed in quran 4:3 not encourage. Don't take verse out of context like many mufti do.
@@saifurrehman5007 It says marry 2, 3, or 4, but if you cannot be just marry 1, so the default is multiple
@@bluecat7684 you are only focusing on part you wanna hear.
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].
Here Allah said to us about orphans. If you can't raise orphans 1,2,3 or etc marry them if you want help them get married (on more verse I read) become their guardians.
Secondly if you cannot do justice between your wives then have only one. Nowadays even rich can't justice to one wife.
There no where Allah encourage to have more than one wife. It is about orphans do you have orphans does everyone has orphan girls?
Mufti twist however they want and people believe what they want to hear so have logical reasoning.
If you wanna know about more than research on (Javed ghamdi) he is best open minded scholars.
@@bluecat7684 "default is multiple" lmfao. Am I living on another world, because from what I know there's an equal number of men and women around the world.
Why is he so yellow, he looks like a emoji or a Simpsons character on allah fr fr 😭🙏
This shouldn't even be allowed in the marriage contract
Yes it should be allowed
Too bad it can be and it is halal to state this in the contract. Go cry about it...
But you agree with misyar marriage? It's a man's duty to financially provide the needs of the family but the woman can give up her rights in a misyar contract. BE CONSISTENT!
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Go in a corner and cry your heart out🎉 your kind of men almost ruined my islam.
Sounds fair
But is putting such conditions valid.... making something impermissible whic Allah made permissible....if everyone starts putting one or the other conditions in different spheres of life which Allah has made valid than how will Allahs law prevail....just wondering
Look it's more like that second marriage is only allowed that the first wife must allow you. If the first wife tells you no and you still marry you have went against Allah's word. And this condition was mutually agreed upon so Allah doesn't really mind it.
Yes it is valid! Go and study first buddy!
@@beyourself6548no there is no need permission of fisrt wife
permissibility does not mean obligation. the condition is valid. Whoever thinks it's invalid, wouldn't get into a contract to begin with. The guy asking the question got what he wanted by lying, and therefore he is the one who will be sinful for breaking the contract, just like sheikh said.
Yes. It's valid in Islam. It's called Ta'liq. It's similar to pre-nuptial agreement. Not everybody has this but in my country, there are several agreements added automatically. Like if my husband were to disappear without any trace for more than 6 months, then I am allowed to go to syariah court to get a divorce. That's just one example. But the women can definitely put the no polygamy clause in their ta'liq and the guys can definitely say no and reject these women. Allahu a'lam
Assalamualaikum warahmathullahi wa barakathuhu hi guys ❤
Walaykum salaam warahmotuLLAHi wabarakatu. Hello 🤗
What kind of a spinless man agrees to such an emasculating contract ?
Exactly. If she stipulates this in the contract, walk away and replace her
@@therizzardofoz_x She can replace you too with this contract ..That's why you guys are so offended 🤣
I agreed to it. I wouldn't want it for my own mother or sister so why would I do that to my wife?
@@alihasan678 you would hate the husband of your sister to do what the prophet and the sahaba did and allah ordained in Quran?
Allah has said in surat muhammad (ذلك بأنهم كرهوا ما أنزل الله فأحبط أعمالهم)
(That is because they hate that which Allah has sent down (this Quran and Islamic laws, etc.), so He has made their deeds fruitless)
So you either dislike the what allah has revealed or you were too weak to stand up for yourself and now you're coping with this nonsense.
@@Khushnuma0645 she can't replace him with this, only ask for divorce, which she doesn't have any grounds for without this clause! Shocking ! She actually doesn't have any valid reason for divorce if her husband marries other women, Many scholars also consider this clause in the contract invalid, what is wrong with marrying other women again ?
If you're a guy, please don't go for a woman who plans to stipulate this "no second wife" nonsense. Think with the right head.
If she wants to stiplute this and you want a 2nd wife then simple,DONT MARRY HER
@@Abdur-Rahman862 And by "right head" you means the one in your pants of course
Instead of taking advantage of someone, just don't marry someone who doesn't want that, you don't have a word to say about what to "allow" to a women which isn't even your wife yet
Go negociate with her daddy if you want someone which has the power to "allow" or "forbid" something from her
How about you don’t marry the woman who sets that condition? Just a thought.
@@Abdur-Rahman862 If you have the power to "allow her" something, you're already her husband and already signed the paper
Or say before first marriage that I want to marry a second wife Also. In that way you can find a wife who is ready to have another wife.
If they can change the contract why not.
If I wanted a second wife my current wife would annihilate me 😂😂
She doesn’t play games. Im scared of her. I want many children but I guess not.
Don’t take shariah as a laughing matter:
I agree with the latter part, not the former one. Of course he can marry second, third or fourth by default but all the wives have the right to act against it within shariah in order to fight for their rights.
If the faith purports to be "equal", then why cant a woman have (A) 4 husbands (B) Divorce the husband by saying 'talak' 3 times ? (Oh yes, because its not written so in the book) womens rights?
Acha hai pakistan main financial issues hain isliye mard 2nd marriage ka option expenses k waja sy rkhta hi nae 😂
Qasme😂
Allah has made both men and women equal and Quran is proof of that. Don't twist Qurani ayat and do not through hadith that go against fundamental of islam.
If you want a second wife you give me money, the average income in the country we live in. I want a years worth. I will not tell you to divorce me or make something permissable unpermissable.
Fine to have two , if you follow Sharia law properr, otherwise, son stay grounded.
Then she can take a 2nd husband? Only fair
Asta lavista nailed it 🤣🤣🤣
We all want beneficial sunnah but fards….naaaahhhhh
hasta la vista🤣
Islam allowed only orphan maintainers to marry more than 1 that too if they couldnt control the lust
Stop making up things, men won't marry windowed women if they were not attracted to them in the first place. Let me explain, would you as a man would like to sponsor another man who's windowed, no right.
But a women, you'd be receptive to it, it's coz they have built in mechanism to make the men want to take care of them, and at the same time made them also needy of that care.
Attraction plays a big role in widows getting married again.
@kledmohd4230 this is not about widow marriage
This is regarding men allowed to marry 4 wives maximum at a time
Which is interpreted wrongly
@@jalilirfan and what is the wrong interpretation
@@jalilirfanshow proof or show yourself out
@@kledmohd4230 where in quran it is said any man can marry upto 4 wives at a time can you let me know, does it refer to all common man?
Don’t show this to any women 😂
Give evidence from the Quran or sunnah.
If i don't accept your condition i will not marry you.
Remember Allah will not hold you accountable for false oaths so he can tell his wife that he didn’t mean it when he make it. And secondly he can marry a second wife outside without telling her so either way women cannot escape in Islam sorry.
Escape what? A free home and food and clothes ?
@ escape from the husband taking a second wife if he wants to.
Uhhh Allah does hold you accountable for breaking oaths. It’s considered lying, and Allah mentions in Ali Imran that his curse is upon the liars.
@ clear contradiction then. So the Quran is not from Allah. Because if this book is from other than Allah you will find in it a lot of contradictions.
@@ultimatereaction7173 What’s the contradiction, you need to prove your claim right in the first place, there is no evidence that you are not held accountable for false oaths and much AGAINST it
I just need to ask 1 question
.all women aresaying man shouldn't get married 2nd time and all.we shoudl oppose it.point is why women cant focus man needs to be practice muslim.rarely i heard women leave man or husband not being practicing muslim and he is doing haram stuff
But
If he does halal, 2nd marriage women leave.
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