15 Things Never to Do With a Narcissist (Be Careful!)
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- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
- Sometimes it’s not plain that you’re dealing with a narcissist because real abuse is not obvious. They are so good at reeling your heart that it seems magical. However, their narcissistic behaviors will be visible in every area of their lives including workplaces and friendship. It’s unreal how sour they can turn out to be. If you feel you have already done a couple of the things we’re about to share, please remember that you’re not the problem.
Narcissists are master manipulators. They eye their victims and pick out those who’ll easily fall for them. They don’t stop there, they mimic your traits making you feel like you have so much in common. There is always room to patch up the wall. When their whiskers pop out, here’s what you should remember.
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Don't overshare
Don't try to change them
Don't justify what they do
Don't argue with them
Don't give them a second chance
Never let your guard down
Don't prove them wrong
Don't pick a fight with them
Don't be over confident
Never take what they say at face value
Don't fall in love with them
Never expect an apology
I'm doing pretty good because before I couldn't handle not blasting off with the mouth, honestly.
I did put to much energy into his bull crap because apparently, I just couldn't handle it. I have a grasp now and I hope that I don't jump on his ass ever again but ya know I can see the temptation of wanting to kick his ass again but why should I? He likes it and is a freak that indulges in provoking. So now I say to myself should I? Or shouldn't I? Not. I better not cause he's a little b-tch that is all f-cked up in a mans body. What a loser. Nothing like knocking his ass around though...lol
He never apologizes.
Best thing is to run from them!!!
@@nd612 it’s definitely not worth it. Use the energy of wanting to kick his ass and put it towards yourself a hobby, a facial or go to an axe throwing facility to release the anger
Observe don't absorb and once you know you go you get out and you stay out 🙏
Words to the wise and more so the unwise … If you are dating someone and you think they are a narcissist, RUN! RUN for your LIFE!
🎯 AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!
@@tamarawilliams276 took only one suitcase and never looked back but it may take a lifetime to heal from the abuse
@@-3lory You will never look at many things the same way again. But use this experience as a " school of hard knocks" 101 class.. I left, only to return after many promises, and apologies.. which were found to be lies. Nothing changes with these creatures...I repeat.. Nothing changes. So don't be fooled..stay gone Joanne. Returning only reinforces their beliefs that you deserve what they do to you. Blessings to you in Yeshua 🙏
never return! thankyou
@@-3lory I wish happiness and peace for you. ❤️🙏
I was definitely guilty of number one, over sharing, any and everything was thrown back in my face. I picked up on it fast and stopped telling him stuff. And I didn’t introduce him to any of my friends . He accused me of not having friends.
I think we all have a bit of it in us, I did same as you and she threw it all back, I over offered, she got nasty and nastier, then apologized and at the same time let me know she was talking to a so called friend of mine, sad thing is I've been here before!
@Ima Wake +q
Overstating is an aspergers trait too
In one word, narcissists are predators.
Their related to the devil!!..to the outside world they are nice people...to the poor people that live with them they are mental and should be locked up in an asylum!!!..
a parasite that will eventually make u too weak to escape. more like a zombie virus.
1. Don't overshare
2. Don't expect them to be loyal
3. Don't try to change them
4. Don't justify their behaviors
5. Try not to insist on your point of view
6. Never give them a second chance
7. Never let your guard down
8. Don't try to prove them wrong
9. Don't pick a fight with a narcissist
10. Don't be over confident around a narcissist
11. Don't allow them into your social circles
12. Never take anything they say at face value.
13. Don't fall in love with them
14. Never expect an apology
15. Don't buy into the narcissist version of who you are.
12. They like to pick fights and argue, they make you look like you are the crazy one.
@@Revelation18-4 that was not number 12. The one I have on the list is accurate.
Don't give them money.They will never give you back.Mine took 7000 from me and then disappeared. I ve learnt afterwards he lives this way.
OMG 😳 the last few months I’ve finally been free from my so called Best Mate whom is a narcissist he did everything they’ve mentioned and advice you don’t do with them. He would want to borrow money 💴 or something you’ve got that he likes then a few days later the money he’d never pay back & the things he’d sell it behind your back. We’ve also stopped contact with him altogether.
@@Revelation18-4 Perioddd! 💯
They don’t always share. It’s another way to control you and make you unhappy. Ask a question but you won’t get the truth, ever, even though they want all your information. They act so honourable but it’s an act.😡
This is SO, SO true!!! All of what you said.
i agree !!
Yes yes this. Ask you loads of questions want to know all about you yet refuse to share themselves, also expect and demand loyalty and respect they don't give back
The saddest part is that you dont recognize you are with a toxic narciisist until its too late.
Never too late
if u could recognise that u are a narcissist, its never too late. because malignant narc will Never admit that they are a narc.
I ended the relationship & blocked him from everything, I wasn't even dating him long & he was calling me his wife to everybody, I told him marrying him would make my life hell he didn't disagree he said I wouldn't let it, he said he wanted someone to put up with his BS, I asked him what he mean by that he never told me but I found out.
You got lucky you found out early on. Before wasting loads of time. I’ve found, that most people have no idea about narcissist personality disorder, and they could be puzzled for years while being the victim.. until they split and then they start to figure out about this disorder. You dodged a bullet.
OMG! The 'future faking' is so true.
@Mary Carroll Bahahahahaha That is awesome! 😆 🤣 😂 Thanks for the laugh! Please update with future conversations!
Still healing from damage and I will never ever forget it
Oh man, they are so sneaky! I mean the coverts. They are the problem. And so alluring in the early going. That’s something to watch out for. And if they are super engaging when you first meet... flashing red warning light.
You have to really learn what to look for. Then look. And act. Think with your brain. You will save yourself a lot of healing time if you can spot them and leave.
The only statement that doesn’t pertain to my experience with a narc is probably the “misinterpret sarcasm and jokes as personal attacks”. That’s actually one thing she says about me…often. She will direct the most crude and inappropriate comment at me then be “surprised” when I take it wrong. “I was joking” or “cant you take a joke”?? Obviously I am speaking from our circumstances. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen in others experiences.
This is great info thanks for sharing.
Dr Phil, you are so right. My mom always said, you couldn't joke about it if you weren't thinking it. Bingo!
Thank you for this...after alot of research I now understand the evil that I'm actually dealing with....it's horrible and i cry everyday for strength to go away for good
No worries... if you are struggling to be a better person.... you’re not a narcissist.
Facts, they have no desire to be or do better..
@@ShayLove84Fam1st only when they are in a corner and feel perhaps it can sway your thoughts of them. It’s never really genuine.
Here’s another take.... they know they’re life is stuck and they see others such as yourself going on and becoming happy. It’s at that point, they really want to excel but there’s just not enough integrity and drive to make the change. Temporary change for a month or so at best but then the mask comes off again. They cannot be something other than what they are. The damsel in distress thing, always pulls me back in until I realize how miserable I am once again for being completely ran over and taken advantage of. They will slander you behind your back, laugh in your face while you’re going broke to help,..... then cry and work on your empathy when they get stuck again. Just a horrible cycle because we committed ourselves... plus kids are involved and they can just rip your heart out. Truly they are people who are very shallow and use others all though life as they try to climb to the top without actually putting in the work.
Sadly i think most of us for survived narcissist did all the things that are suggested not too. But its good that more and more awareness is coming so that maybe people will start seeing red flags sooner and will run!
The biggest problem I ran into with a manager that turned out to be narcissist, was how subtle and aloof they appear while doing things to ruin you.
maybe the "covert" or "vulnerable" type?
@@bareforbiddenlighterz6552 I definitely think Covert. Seems more grandiose, though. Has a work place Hero vibe. A FOMO on absolutely anything happening. When he first became manager, everyone complained that he was a micromanager, which he at first verbally accepted in front of his boss, but then started denying and disagreeing behind closed doors that what he was doing was ever micromanaging. He pivoted to secretly micromanaging everything, which is even more confusing. If a project is assigned to a group of people, he will meeting with each person individually and give them tasks, when in the past we would meet as a team to make a project plan. Now the group will start throwing tasks at each other, thinking the other members in the group asked them to do it, and confusion abounds once we start asking each other questions about the task and everyone saying "I thought it's what YOU wanted!"
Like I said, It's very subtle. He got so relentless about inviting himself into other people's meetings and projects, where he had no authority, that five years into it people automatically want to run everything by him... and then we often start reworking a project based on his input before the client even sees it, and then the client says it's not what they asked for at all. It is very odd, OCD, control freak, PollyAnna, incompetent/denial kind of narcissism. You can't confront him about it, or he will double down on his OCD/Control, and even further remove you from any of the process. Which is where I have ended up.
I used to keep a steady pace of delivering four projects a month, intake to delivery, to not even being delegated a project until it has sat on the narcissist's desk for 8 months to a year. Literally. It's insane.
had a "friend" who i basically felt sorry for.. thought they suffered from depression and anxiety and the mistake was projecting myself onto them and assuming they experienced emotion like i did.. they were extremely quiet, "humble", self-effacing etc the complete opposite of what i thought a narcissist was but it built up to a point of frustration that they had a "problem for every solution" and constant negativity where i straight up called them out and told them i had been finding out about covert narcissism and did not want them in my life because they were draining my energy and happiness! at This point the mask came off they became extremely aggressive and threatening then completely disappeared from my life! they cannot stand the truth!
Oh how I wish I wasn’t lured into marriage by a covert narcissist. Cuz he was molded by a malignant narcissist mother. So now I am bound to these evil people with my children being their pawns and the duo has literally vent all five of my children against each other and of course me their Mom. I will be combating these evil entities until they are 6 feet under. SO EXHAUSTING
I’m so sorry about this for you. I experienced it as well. Praying that you know - or you will come to know the love of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is because of Him- and only Him that I’ve been able to survive the pain and come to the place of healing that I have. I would be nothing without Him. God bless.
flowers leave not for yourself put for your childerns.
just tell yourself u have a mission to do: don't let any of your children become narc like them. to make your suffering worth something useful.
A narcissists begging is the most funniest weakest thing they can do. I honestly laugh about it.
It's SO FAKE, as it is. They imitate YOUR feelings but cannot show the authenticity like You do.
Me too. It is comical
Be careful they will use your words or vocabulary to make you feel that there is a connection. The mirroring is the first sign you should look for.
When they beg it's pathetic and 🤣
They are so patient, and that is the only admiring character they have.
my brother is one. I over shared then cut him out of my life, Its crazy how evil they can be. He wont change because. other peoples pain .makes him laugh. He slanders and lies horrible things, then acts like he has done nothing wrong. Getting away from his abuse gave me a new lease on life. That is the only good that came out of a relationship with him. In 2tim;3 in the Bible says to have nothing to do with these people. As much as I would like to have a relationship with my own brother. I stay away from him and am better off for it. It's sad but the only way. This video describes their condition perfectly. well done
10th point is spot on.. They help you sometimes by making sure they did and deserve to be on top
This pod cast is excellent. I wish I had this advice before my life was destroyed by my narcissistic husband.
Yes, me too!!..there the sufferers cos they lost the best thing they ever had in their life....
I have been through hell with my daughter and because I love her and I gave her to her every time she was nice to me she wanted something from me and I fell for it, now I'm broke and she doesn't let me see my grandkids I gave her a picture of my grandson the first born to put on the fridge and she didn't want it or she said I only want pictures of my kids some of her fake friends, I got so much pain because I gave her all my money in my savings, and I made a mistake to give her my Social Security number I don't know what she's doing with the number she's very conniving aggressive and mean, she gets along with her father because he's like a piece of wood he never says anything the only thing he does is put the kids against me so in other words I'll have to live by myself when I give them a very privilege life, but someone told me no matter what don't talk to her the only hurt I have I miss my grandkids,Help me please
Yes i absolutely agree..... The same patterns show.... How can i stay away fromthis narcissistic husband of mine for the last 38 years???? Help
Watching this helped me to see more clearly what govts around the world are doing to their citizens. All the different toxic manipulative tactics our authorities are using...wow! Pretty tough to walk out or run from your government and authorities. As a collective we may need psychology consultants and councillors to help us all navigate through this and survive. 🧜♀️🌞🌿
You know what is amazing about your observations? People watch stuff this and do not see the BIGGER picture, how this applies to governments. Amazing mental gymnastics
Yeah you on the nails head btw
Very correct . Every thing. I have been dealing with 1 who others may not believe is a narcist because of his calm and oh so good polite behaviour. Even I got to know the real one that he is very slowly. It leaves you in a very sad place. I always knew what not to give them intuitively. .You're right. It takes a strong one to see through them and deal intelligently. -- Preethi
This video exactly explain there toxic behavior. They will turn your weaknes and flaws against you. Especially if you have childeren with them. They will use them as leverage. Stay strong believe in yourself you are worth it live your life love you for you! ♥️🇳🇱
you are so right,only solution is to stay away from them and do not fall in any of their traps,they want you near them but not with them,they are so sick...
It’s amazing by how much a narcissist will color one’s perception of the world around them. To the victim, they think in terms against the backdrop of recovering from their gaslighting, assault and cunning manipulation. The upshot to this having escaped from the clutches of such an abuser, is the fresh perspective one has on life. The struggle to full recovery from the healing may last a lifetime. To those who have suffered from a narcissist, pray that by God’s grace He’ll give us the wisdom and discernment to always be ahead of the curve for future times. God bless!!! 🙏❤️
Another good point I notice about a narcissists is bad character. I notice good and bad character. The biggest turn off about them to me is, They love when bad things happen to people but extremely jealous about good things happening to people. They'll put a spin on it every time if it's good but laugh if it's bad. I can't deal with that!
I’ll do whatever tf I want to narcs.
Sincerely,
A former empath who got tired of their shit and became extremely good at fucking their minds.
Stand tf up people!! smmfh
Agree. 30 years was enough and then i attacked. I stopped everything all at once and gave him his own treatment back. Did not go down well for him. Me....i am just fine and healthy. No regrets.
Love this! Did it to my older sister.
I'm dealing with this with a relative. Awhile back I got fed up with the treatment & didn't speak to them for a yr or longer. Then they called ne & gave it another chance. Now it's happening again. I shd have know better because I've researched it enough. But I was stupid enough to thk just maybe this person had changed...but no! Back to the same ole, same ole. It's exhausting!!!!
I gave it another chance I meant
I know what you mean...I have CHF and eventhough I actually feel pretty good....I never know. I know none of us do but when you get diagnosed w/something like that it really mks you think! I've went back to contact but I've learned not to share anything personal. Sometimes I still get told what I shd do, lol, that doesn't work with me. I'll do the opposite. I'm not trying to be difficult with that person, but I'm an adult & can think & decide for myself.
I did the exact same thing with a narcissist friend. Total regret for letting her back in my life. There's a honeymoon period, then back to her manipulative evil ways. It's horrible !!
I don't agree. The narcissist is the one who doesn't share they come off as nice but they always keep secrets
Yep - especially coverts
If you want to know if it fact or fictitious, watch his lips if they moving. He’s LYING.
@Mary Carroll I worked at the hosp, for years. He would come in to see me some times.(watching me) some of the ladies said to me, he looks so innocent. I agreed that was what got me into that situation. Biggest mistake I ever made! It stills bothers me, that I got suckered so badly. And it costs me big! Is it normal for the narcissistic individual to be so tight with money. I mean tight unless it was about his wants.
Yup.
So true... Mixed signals confusion just a mess.
What a miserable entity. This Jezebel demon.
DECEMBER 25, 2021
“I AM THE GIFT that continuously gives~bounteously, with no strings attached. Unconditional Love is such a radical concept that even My most devoted followers fail to grasp it fully. Absolutely nothing in Heaven or on earth can cause Me to stop loving you. You may feel more loved when you are performing according to your expectations. But My Love for you is perfect; therefore it is not subject to variation. What does vary is your awareness of My loving Presence. When you are dissatisfied with your behavior, you tend to feel unworthy of My Love. You may unconsciously punish yourself by withdrawing from Me and attributing the distance between us to My displeasure. Instead of returning to Me and receiving My Love, you attempt to earn My approval by trying harder. All the while, I am aching to hold you in My everlasting arms, to enfold you in My Love. When you are feeling unworthy or unloved, come to Me. Then ask for receptivity to My unfailing Love.”
(JESUS CALLING)
I ran into a few narcissists,the best thing to do is stay away from them
From now on when I see my friend's ex at the casino,I will do what all her other friends are doing,
Walk away!
I had always been the type of girl that would drop a guy if he sneezed wrong. I got with my narc about 8 yrs ago and I never understood why I let him get away with so much that I had never put up with from others before. I'm jus learning in the last year that he is a narc n I have never dealt with one before. After taking his side chick on vacation and trying to turn tables on me when I confronted him I decided to end it. We have a child together n when he tries to do things to start a argument I either walk away, don't respond to text or hang up. When he tries to turn the conversation to us I spin it right back to our son. It has been a rocky road but I'm standing firm, doing shadow work, going to therapy, meditation and focusing on myself and he hates it but I'm not giving in. I'm finding my old self and I've missed her...glad she is slowly resurfacing ☺️
Screw that. Don't give these fools the right of way. YOU DO YOU. They'll adjust. Just be tough.
Good advice. My best friend is a narcissist and I’m a dark empath-I know what he is and he understands what I am capable of-we have a fun and edgy relationship.
Yes and demons will win 🤷♂️
Karma knows your address. 😂
Q: Why was the narcissist that I was married to able to have what appears to be a very good marriage with his 2nd Wife? He demonstrated all the classic narc traits with me, so how has he been able to clock 16 years with the next woman. She is admittedly well known to be a bully, yet she is way more than he deserved. 🤷🏻♀️Maybe these types do better with tough people who don’t tolerate their running rackets on them….
I had made my own lists if character traits that checked all of these boxes from experience with family, friends and husband's. I was physically attacked while my decedent husband took what I said wrong, while on alcohol.
This is true gold. Thank you for this. God bless 🙏🏻
No matter how much we try , there are so many of them who cross our path daily and cause unnecessary hurdles, frustration, anger, negativity and make us feel abused instead of feeling useful and purposeful. As understanding on this subject evolves I sincerely pray with all my heart cures and treatments develop to heal narcissists instead of combating them or falling in a vicious loop to defeat them. If there needs to be a better tomorrow for everyone this needs to be amongst top priority, else million more will continue to be infected with narcissism each day ( in all age groups old, young or children ) and consequence being we suffer endlessly throughout our lives being toyed around their will. 🦋🦋🦋
My co-worker is a very extreme narcissist. It is amazing how this video describes her exactly!
Am I the only one thinking that it's sad that narcissists are always presented like the pure evil? Why isn't anyone talking about how they became narcissistic?
I think it's really important to talk about how to act with narcissistic people bc they can be very toxic. But we shouldn't forget they're victims too and most importantly - still human.
No way
Very good and helpful video! Thank you!
Talk to them, make eye contact with them, trust them, spend or lend them money, be anywhere near them. They are evil.
They initiate fights or arguments even if its worth for nd wasting time which is not relevant nd they make you feel you're wrong nd guilty that make you feel sad nd low self esteem
Such a n excellent video. I'm really experienced this. Recently broke up with a friend who got all the qualities said in this video. 100% true.
Thanks for sharing this.
Excellent video.
Thank you.
Peace 💕🇺🇲
Glad you enjoyed it
I would add a 16th thing. If you even suspect someone is a narcissist, don’t leave your animals alone with them.
I have heard a self confessed narcissist and psychopath admitting the narcissists like to secretly torment animals, even their own pets which they pretend to love.
agree. they will do worse to the pet/human they dislike, discreetly.
@@spaideman7850 yes but they don’t have to dislike them. Their sadism is generalized.
Accurate video!
I'm high school student living in a Narcissistic Family, Wish me luck guys😭.
No point in giving my opinion to my husband. He will target that in a most hostile way.
Time too go then
Same here. It is like trying to fart against thunder. Waste of time. Energy.
Tell him to f. off then and leave. It's domination, bullying, abuse, manipulation, control. No one needs a human being like that.
Yaa yaa they do not apologize thts one I have seen .
@Mary Carroll that is fake apology in simple words .
They r no 1 . Manipulators and they love future Faking.
They show let's say a smiling face in front but r jealous , envy angry from within for yr success .
Tht is Narcistic patern .
Plz stop believing them and be silent hence forth for yr piece of mind . But keep a note of their pattern for better understanding .
Split personality, wants to know everything about me but shares nothing, wants to keep me in the dark/shadows of his life, easily triggered, future faker, attention/reaction seeker, all the symptoms shown by the covert narcissist I made the mistake of inviting in for a ONS over a year ago. He has continued to seek me out for supply ever since despite being in a relationship (and lying about it) the whole time.
I'm absolutely sick of this idiot and the toxic situation I got myself into.
Excellent video. Great advice.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Around me Narcissists . N they hurt me everyday. I just can use earplug because they Will use fake cough for get a care n hurt me . Many narsisstic around me . Too toxic
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At first I fell for his fake anger and after 22 years woke up yesterday to his act of anger to push me to an argument. I walked away laughed at this ugly angry fake act and said I’m not doing this and moving on with my schedule and life.
Never trust the devious bastards any farther than you can throw them. Don't turn your back on them.
So true! Thank you.
I already dealt with these 😈, I am free THANKS GOD
Very true and real!
My narrcistic son mimicked my words..I would say something and he'd repeat word for word what I'd said...narcissists listen to you and store away what you tell them for future use...they want your love but make it impossible to love them...my ex would make promises and when it came time to deliver he'd say..
" where in hell do you get these ideas? " narcissists never apologize fir anything they do..its always " you made me do this "... your fault.
Regulatory lawyers for healthcare professionals all over... How dyou know when a regulatory lawyer is lying?
They're talking or writing or communicating, let's face it, they're against a whistleblower...
God will show them. God is my witness Gareth, Jackie etc
All true....
so out there
An old friend recently persuaded me to play something on the guitar, like "weird that I've known you for so long and never heard you play anything". So I strummed a couple of verses of Jumping Jack Flash and Malted Milk. Her reaction was "Wow, I didn't think you had it in you". Sounds like a compliment, but is it really? To know someone owned five guitars for more than ten years and be surprised that they can play a bit? I'm confused.
TW// 💀 SIBLINGS
I’m trying to move out, I have a complicated situation that I will try to make short. My mom is a narc, she does everything like this video. I wanna leave, but I DO love her as a mother. My mom lost three of her children before I was born that was caused by her negligent actions. In the blk community we “don’t talk about it” so everyone ignored it and moved on. She turned into this because everyone kept giving her the “benefit of the doubt” because of what she went through. But what ppl also forget is that my dad, me and my brother are still going through it BECAUSE my mother will not move on from it.
Imma make this even shorter, she fakes having a good mood to others except me and my dad. She treats us like 💩 while giving everyone else the princess treatment. My dad and I both plan on leaving her alone.
Yep !!spot on
NOW I think *I'm* the Narcissist! 🤣
Many are
It's ok, just blame it on your parents cause they caused it lol! At least u can see it and first step is admitting it, right! My monster-in-law is textbook and so is my wife's brother. So of course my wife as well can be completely full of herself. It's all she has been taught BUT like you she can see it clearly, has educated herself and has worked her ass off, about 5 yrs of therapy. I'm thankful that she sees it clearly so I can call her out and she can knock it off and redirect.
So good on you for seeing it within yourself, now to do the hard work!
I think its perspective...you can have alot of these traits....while having a big heart, EMPATHY, and the best of intentions...they have none of this. They really dont.
The NARCISSIST I was married to for 20 years would ABSOLUTELY NEVER even say "I think I'm a NARCISSIST". Even her brother was calling her a narcissist, yet I didn't clue to what true a NARCISSIST/EMPATH relationship is all about...still scares me...I was facked up and she knew what she was doing.
They know what they are and could NOT care less...its facken sick.
I'm far from perfect, I ended up using alot of alchol and drugs to "ignore" my situation....
When I was going to detox and begin 100 day treatment program, she was packing my suits to make sure I still made it to an important meeting the following day..😬🙏😁🤣.....I'm struggling for my life and sanity, and she was making sure her gravy train wasnt derailed....
After 4 years sober and working a great job...and investigation found that slanderous emails to corporate HR were written by her and sent under fake accounts and local community club wifi.
We were sharing our two kids for 18 months of seperation...she was monster the whole time...threats, undermining, lies, manipulation....I rose above it and was strong.
I asked for a fair 50/50 final divorce agreement...she took my kids and cut all contact. Installed cameras and calls the cops if I knock on the door...and her new boyfriend is right with her....
They are dangerous and disgusting human beings...I raised the kids in every spare moment, hockey, cheer, activities, diapers, bathing, teaching to read, homework, etc....she just ripped them away...O CONTACT....I got lawyers but they she stonewalling and they dont want to take a trial case...so I have lost time...a solid plan and CFS will extract them safely....I'm a fair, nice guy....I didn't want this bullshit....
They DO NOT understand fair and nice...I was very angry and frustrated...
I'm sorry for writing so much...I obviously need help....🙏😔
@@bradleyhoughton2858 Thank you for sharing. You are not alone. It is just disgusting madness from these people. Is ok to be hurt. Mad. Sad. Feel helpless. Plse take one step at a time for your kids sake. You will be the ultimate parent cause the kids grow up and make up their own minds. Stay healthy mentally to make the right decisions for your kids. Been there. Done that. But it all works out if you stay calm. My prayers for wisdom, calm and solution will be with you. Love from Africa.
@@bradleyhoughton2858 I can't image what you went thur you are strong.
Never get attached to anyone. Dont fall in love, dont think the sex was mutual. The truth is they are here on Monday, gone on Tuesday.
Idk if i'm a narcissist or not cause when he broke up with me i did beg and plead him to stay, idk i felt like my world was crumbling down and i even think i just better of dead 😭 i even said that to him but i'm aware that i dont wanna die just because of him and i wouldnt be happy either if he stay because of pitty. Maybe I thought he would take that as a joke and then taunt me but at the end he will stay and said that he is just joking (just like our prev break up). I always feel like i'm the one who always sacrifice and justifying whatever he did. At the beginning of our relationship i said that i'm not looking for a wishy washy relationship, i'm looking for marriage and he said that he is serious about me and want to marry me. He said all of these wonderful future plans for us etc. He is also the type of person who loves control. He really did controlled my life. He didnt allowed me to connect with my male friends even he gets jealous over my female friends and that he never allowed me to really spend time with other people except my family member. But he on the other side did all the things he demanded me to not do. He even cheated on me, and he blame me for it. He said he did it because of me. 😭 I always forgave him for whatever he did, even the fatal ones like cheating, but in the end he said i was boring and make him uncomfortable. I just idk i feel like i have done everything he said he wanted in a woman, i accept all his flaws, his condition, his rules etc. I have to live by his rules but he himself can live how ever he please 😭 i do love him and want to make everything works, to fix everything but he didnt want it he said its just a waste now, its useless. I do planning to give him a gift, the thing that he really really wanted for his birthday because it was my plan long before we broke up, i just want to make him happy and wish that he really give me another chance to fix everything and be willing and open to also see his fault 🙏
They’ll never share a story where they come out wrong or badly. They have no sense of humour, which to me means being able to laugh at one-self.
never ever have a kid with one. they control and want you to be their captive. use old information you share to hurt you back. and he now wonders why there is no communication. zero trust.
Thats bin pritty much done to me exactly that to me I just don't learn 🤦🏾
So, like Dolores Umbridge, Barty Crouch Sr., Cornelius Fudge, and Rufus Scrimgeour?
I’m pretty sure those two people who fell backwards on the couch racked their heads together.
Great great video.
I was coming home from having a major surgery. My stomach and esophagus had closed from bleeding ulcers. I could not even swallow my own saliva. Just giving you and idea what I went thru. Very very painful, the first evening home and he goes to the shower and comes out let’s just say in the mood. My reply was no, absolutely not, he wined and kept saying please, please let me. And stood my ground and said NO! He threw himself around like a toddler and acted like a toddler.
I understand you. May God help you to have a life in all its fullness.
I was not very knowledgeable about these things, there were red flags, but I refused to believe any Christian could be bad. Was I ever wrong, anything he did for me I always heard…well you got this or what did I get. I told him after our first Xmas don’t buy me anything! I went to nursing but did not finish, I see something and say you’d better get that looked at. His reply would be… you don’t know anything about it! I told I think that’s cancer, he refused to believe me. I made him go to the the thru his boss. When the doctor came in, he immediately said that’s “CANCER” I got really dirty looks.
They never admit to anything. They have NO REMORSE, NO EMPATHY, they are selfish in all aspects of life ( they need it, they want it, they’re gonna get it) I’ve never experienced anything like this in my life, but my experience has awaken a lot in me. NEVER EVER AGAIN!
Narcissist looked into the water and saw his own reflection and fell in love with himself. Count Dracula looked into his reflection but he could not see it because he did not have one.
Thank You
Ive gone toe to toe. I made him cry so that’s something
Wooooow great message
the funny thing is I think it was from a month until the 8th month mark he always used to say to me oh yeah I'm always wrong you're always Right. I said that that's not true but you keep doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome what do you expect I even said to him once do you expect someone just to knock on your door and offer you a job to become a rockstar it's like no you got to work at it all you do is drink 24/7 pass out the 10 times a day play video games and stagger everywhere
100% true!
My ex boyfriend hands down. Wish I knew about this 25 years ago
How are you doing now
Hoping that advances in the field if medicine can diagnose these people with congenital maldevelopment of their personality/ emotions and these with genetic absence of empathy early enough so that innocent empaths longing for a soul mate to share their life may be spared a tragic life. They may also be saved from the consequences of having emotionally disabled narssistic children who might add to their woes. May God save the unfortunate.
I have siblings and a momma that's narcissistic. I know full well they are toxic ppl. I need to walk away but how do ya do that with family? I love them but I don't fall for the b.s. they think they're pullin on me.
It gets old.
So true
One thing NOT to do with a narcissist (just ONE thing). If you are driving down the road and you happen to see your your narcissistic bully walking in front of your car..............DON'T swerve out of the way in order to not run them over. Yes, that's right! Just keep on steering your car right towards them and gun the gas peddle!!!!!!!
16 don't expect them to ever tell the truth
I got a great idea don't even associate with them that will give you 15 less things to do.
#1 DONT ASSOCIATE AT ALL WITH THEM EVER AT ANY TIME.
If I said this to my psychiatrist, they'd call me paranoid.
Excellent!
17 years wasted. Wasn't even real. Didn't know what a narcissist was. I do now
Sounds like Corrie (upt..) barristers in England
My father
ANYTIME A PERSON THINKS AN MARRIED PERSON LOVES THEM IS A DAMN FOOL.
Only if the person really is married, or if they are married and have no intentions of ending their marriage. Plenty of people fake being married for strange reasons.
What about openly telling narcissists what they are? I recently got so fed up with a narcissist that I told him clearly that he is only a racist, homophobic, rude and ignorant loser. I have added that, although he believes to be great, in fact he is devoid of any skills and talents and, in his life, he has only scored a lot of failures and can survive only by taking advantage of other people, until they understand what a despicable person he is.
From experience ‘no’. Pointless as pissing in the wind. They won’t hear you because it is not about them - it’s about how they affect you
@@MJ-qb5ph Thank you. I think you are right. But at least I got rid of that guy. All best and thanks again.