Exactly, self love is needed to use empathy the right way. Despite being hurt you’ll never hurt in the same way. Specially if the narcissist is a blood related person or is related to someone you love.
Thank you for sharing, however "super empaths" don't guard their hearts. They OPEN them to shine their light brighter than ever and to consciously co-create and manifest their dharma/destiny through the Law of Attraction. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you all Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
I think both are actually done.. only not necessarily guarding their hearts more so their energy. I feel like an empathetic person always Kees their heart open it’s a way for us to feel but too much bad energy will cause us to withdraw our own energy... I could be wrong it’s just how I feel. I’m on a path to my own ascension ❤️ i love learning more and more though if I’m wrong or you guys have a diff input I would love to hear it .
On point there...this is exactly what's about to unfold in my workplace...the narc and his flying monkey have just shot themselves in the foot. And I didn't even have to do much other than be myself, be loving and loved by everyone. They absolutely hate the love that's surrounding me because I'm a decent human being and genuinely love people.
Εxactly!! I'm a super empath and i tried to maintain strong boundaries months now because of quarantine, until i engaged unfortunately in a conversation with them. A relationship with them is a total bs, a lie! You'll lose your authenticity and your dignity, if you stay, so you better go away
Distancing yourself is the easy way out.. Sometimes a good slap in the face or square punch shows them you mean business. I have a cousin who was talking me down after years of me being there for him. Tried to be civil but he kept poking at me until I sucker punched him in the face. It made him reflect and snap out of it. He promptly apologized for being a jerk 😂😂😂 I don't condone violence but some people need to be taught not to mistake your kindness for weakness.
I was an empath but because I was target by 2 narcissistic who tried to destroy me for envy, jealousy and they were close to me , I learned to protect myself. I have supernatural gifts and I evolved to a super empath to put them in the place. I loved them and it was painful to do this. It was necessary to keep me alive and preserve my mental healthy.
I relate to this. I also evolved into becoming a super empathe and I get better and better in it because of narcisistic abuse of a close relative who is dear to me but whom I have to keep on a distance.
There is no joy in that either. After years of suffering under two NPD family members and finally learning the nature of that we escaped but absolutely do not wish revenge of any kind.
I was recounting the night my husband sexually assaulted me and when I was done he said “that’s how you remember it” Yes I remember you forcefully trying to have sex with me while I was asleep and lashing out when I said no??? “I’m sorry for whatever you think happened” These fuckin people
Smart empaths don't waste their time and emotions 'destroying' another person. They don't get consumed by court battles or vengeance - those would be goals of a narcissist. Indifference and walking away, is how an empath triumphs and lives the life they decide.
Being indifferent and ignoring them are the best way to survive if you cannot leave him or he is not leaving you. You have to strike when required...other times stay aloof
Unless their loved ones (e.g., their children) are threatened). That's no waste of time. It's about protecting the ones you love at all costs when they're also in the narcissist's reach.
Tell them you want him to Take full custody of the children...them He will Give them Back to you to Revenge...when I wanted my narc Boyfriend to Leave me...I moved towards him...I can t live without...then He Cuts you loose to Hurt you...@@johninmunich
@@mikeodiomasaigh6757 It is, but if he really is a narcissist he will ruin everyone else you love around him. You have to do it to put they many over the one. Nevertheless, I'd suggest talking to a psychologist maybe even as group, with the rest of your family.
It's not stomach feeling it's my breath that tells I am with the wrong person also the entire skin the entire body has certain unpleasant gross blocking heavy tiring sensation... And then I dont open myself there... It's very simple...
Gosh! You just explained exactly what I did to the narcissist I made the mistake of dating for while. Destroyed him and showed him the mirror every time he tried to gaslight me or make me feel any less. Now, I know a term for myself. A super empath. And, may I add "not to be messed with!"
Me too!! Just last week 💪 and I hv more rounds if/when he tries to come back but his mask slipped off and so did mine I guess 😂 Dnt mess with me narcs!!!
NEVER keep yourself busy with "destroying" someone or be better than them. Put your valuable energy in your passions from your soul in a place of love!
@@bumblebee803 wow it's true what you have written... That is why there is a concept called Grahana Shakti .. which means to have patience to absorb all that comes to us . People situation and events... You have got the concept! More power to you ✌️
Very much true but I think they were just trying to give examples of what to do when your in a situation where you can’t really just shut the door and leave
They know our body language and facial expressions. This is why, when we have figured them out, we truly gain the upper hand with them. We don’t have to say much, they see our icy stare back into their eyes as well as our upright posture. They know, that we know.
Tried the stare and told the elderly neighbor what his real name is and he walked away and hasn't been by my house since. These videos if you acknowledge what they're teaching then you practice or apply , it's so cool it works and is giving me a life and a break
Thank me later.. 1.) Their intuition can detect manipulation 2.)They often have a Core identity and high sense of self worth 3.)Empaths listen carefully and remember the small details 4.)Empaths have cognitive and affective empathy 5.) Super Empaths are unsuspecting
The more he devalued me the more insecure I thought he was, the more I felt sorry for him … but I was always in silence. I never told him that. I just knew how severely insecure he is. I left when I was ready and it was amazing. It wasn’t easy but it was 💯 worth it.
For 3 long months I decided to confornt my narc ex to get myself the closure I desperately want.but the thought of seeing him made me sick.nevertheless he came to me,like a scared crow and talked to me 'how are things?I dryly replied and he understood and went away.but I desperately wanted to fight ,yell and just attack him for the hurt he gave me,atleast tell him that he will suffer ,so I invited him for a cup of coffe.he said but I don't like coffee,giving the fake empathy.then his flying monkey called,and then there is this uncomfortable silence because people are watching.i realised there's no use telling him anything.i pra to God that he suffer till the end of his life.now I have decided to go to therapy ,if possible report him.please god..I never asked you anything in my life,give me justicem
Lol. My grandpa said “when the snakes rattles is warning you of his presence because is more scared of you than you at him, respect the snake. But don’t be scared. The snake will never understand how you have control of the situation, not the snake. Something that drags on the floor will never have a different point of view. Unless they are able to become a butterfly.” So don’t run away. They might be a caterpillar disguised as a snake waiting for that one person to help them transform.
As an empath who's ex fiance is a narcissist, he had me fooled but not for long. I saw his true self and it was very disappointing to say the least. Empaths don't want to destroy anyone, we just want to live in peace. He tried to break me, but I got out. Stay blessed 💜.
Glad you were able to see through his nonsense, and able to get away… I’ve never really been involved with this disorder, up until recently reconnecting with my only male cousin. Here I had hopes that we could be good friends, being he came off as a nice guy. Well that didn’t last very long, he got to mocking me in very strange ways, a good handful of times. Then helped him on fixing his headlight which had been filled with water for a month, BLAMED me for the electric being blown, straight up yelling at me, which I calmly said dude, you drove around with the water in your light for a month, who you yelling at…. Always was knocking what I do for a living (just a guy doing what I love, as a woodworker) but it bugs him that he hasn’t any skill set and there I do, a guy that grew up pretty much fatherless from 10 on…. Been around tons of people, just never been treated by someone in such a unprovoked manor. Had messed up being he had asked me if I’d ever get pissed off enough to wanna hit him, I said nah, I’d just be done hanging out. Think that emboldened his actions into crazier outbursts or really negative attacks on me for no reason at all. Mostly with material slanders, but I’m the least material worshipping guy, which bugs him being that’s all the spoiled rotten guy has going for him…it’s like he’s trying to get me to snap, so I’m done, Well that’s where we’re at now. Sad thing is that I know he’s badmouthed me to the rest of his family, and he’s like the spoiled prince, can’t do much wrong…. Just find it hard as all heck to think that they don’t know of his condition, or if he’s been able to control his ways around them for 36 yrs…I went searching to see what type of personality disorder he has, and his traits popped up on narcissism right away. Not an ounce of empathy, his sister broke down crying to us one night about filing for divorce, his response was you’re killing our night, really ruining the vibe. This is how these people are, sickos….
@@norskibull2.021your cousin sounds like a complete piece of crap, you shouldn't snap, you should methodically prepare and plan to beat the shit out of him, so A. He can't identify you, and B. So he still knows it's personal and that he ticked off the wrong guy. C. Hurt him enough that the prospect of you coming back randomly would scare the shit out of him, and finally D. Make sure he knows that if he mistreat you again you are coming back and putting an even worse beating on him, and since your he doesn’t know who you are he'll think twice before treating most people like shit.
The narcissist thought he had me... I told him our relationship was all a fake and he should have stayed Married to his ex - wife. Because they both had the same odor. I knew that would break him and not ever speak to me again. It's been 4 months. Yes he hurt me but I pushed harder. I told if I didn't leave soon I would become his living nightmare. I left and healing and very happy and content.
Same. But eventually I started feeling that the way he wanted me to feel was how he felt inside. I almost lost myself trying to help him heal. Assuming he’s really a good man under it all. He’s not. I’m saving myself now
I have known for years that I am a psychic empath, but have been forced to hide who I am since childhood due to being told that I am way too sensitive, crazy, and delusional to feel how I feel, and that I am just imagining it all. But now that I am in my early 60's, I will no longer hide who I truly am.
I once meet a true psychic and it was amazing. She looked at me and without any conversation, she knew things about my life that were all true. She knew my pain. She was like an angel on earth with a super power. If this is how you are, you are truly gifted. Use your powers in a positive way. But don't let everyone know, there are far more evil people than good.
Mine was baffled when I helped him with some legal stuff and I remembered soooo much detail of his life that he was rattled. You could see the face change. I said be very careful of what you say to me because I remember more than you think 😉 discard followed shortly lol
That last point was a contradiction. The only way to "destroy" a narcissist is to LEAVE. It starves the very attention they crave and use to fuel themselves to gaslight you. Yet no one wants to talk about this. Don't play games with a person who is hurting you. LEAVE.
@Leslie Grace I agree. As a true empath, I do not wish to 'destroy' or hurt anyone, including the narcissist. I prefer to remove myself from the situation. They are too dangerous to play with. Just take away their supply and live the best life. Just leave, if possible.
I think it’s important to note that an empath can work on themselves to become a super empath. Therefore, there is hope for all empaths. For me, the game changer from being a victim turned superhero, was self love. Knowing that I know myself better than anyone helped me not fall prey anymore to my father’s nasty and uninformed opinions about me. Absolutely. Self love all the way.. and standing firm in that identity.
Absolutley, that is exactly what i have done too. Honestly, i don't feel the need to destroy the narcs, they will do that to themselves anyway. They will want to come crying to you when that happens but you will no longer be there. Justice is done.
Brooke you are so right, that is exactly what I am learning right now after 33yrs of marriage to a narcissist, she fed on my lack of love for myself which she created in me ,I am a devastated man after figuring this all out, but I've learned to love myself again and it is giving me the upper hand, bless you Brooke
My narcissistic/toxic ex mistook my empathy and kindness for weakness. I treated her well but she wanted to keep breaking my boundaries. So, I dumped her when she least expected it and blocked her a month ago and I feel free as an eagle!
Thank you for sharing, however, the natural evolutionary path is that we are ALL co-dependent until we reclaim Self-mastery through a kundalini awakening, due to (a)eons of lifetimes of illusive low vibrational subconscious conditioning and programming, for the purpose of soul growth and evolution. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
I find Narcissist hilarious and laugh in the inside while looking in their eyes act ignorant when they try to manipulate, its amusing. Narcissist are s+up!d mentally unwell robot being. Lmao
It takes a while to get back on your feet after a narcissist has broken you, but if we're cautious enough we know what's going on and can rebuild our life from scratch.
@Gemma Dann they don't leave anything to look back to.... If you see what really is left...you find only the remains of a relationship that was already broken from the start
@Gemma Dann I would never give up... we need to use our knowledge and wisdom and emotions to make the evil narcissists lose...i will never be ready to lose when I know who the real manipulator is....now more than ever.... the good people need to recognize their worth and fight evil.
@@marikleinen1189 , I disagree. If you take the time to defend yourself against the actions of a narcissist, you are still giving them the attention they crave. Also, it’s impossible to defend yourself against any kind of accusations because narcs will never acknowledge the truth, no matter how much proof you have. The best thing to do in my opinion is ignore them and all their crazy antics, make them feel like they don’t matter and can have exactly ZERO effect on you or in your life!
@@lh2380 Oh defense can take many forms, distancing is defense, grey rocking is defense~ I'm using "defense" in the sense that's synonymous with "protection, shielding, safeguarding", not "rebuttal, denial, justification".
Thanks for accurately describing gaslighting...I'm getting tired of so many people using it to refer to simple lying. It's not just trying to deceive you, it's a strategy intended to make you question your own sanity.
Hear hear. We adopted the word "gaslighting" as shorthand for a specific technique with a specific goal. People tossing the word around to sound smart is just plain stupid. It's related to, people have forgotten how to be wrong. I don't think people have ever exactly been great at admitting when their facts or conclusions were faulty, but we seem to be in a golden age of "well my opinions are just as good as yours". No, there are still such things as facts, and even if almost everything is at least a little subjective, there's still a lot of true and false in this world. "Gaslighting" refers to a specific technique and goal, and garden-variety lying is a different animal, no matter how hard people try to pretend there's no difference. Just admit that you think saying "gaslighting" will make you sound smart, then work on ACTUALLY being smart instead.
Gaslighting is lying, but it's lying about your reality many many times over and over again, and then calling you names afterwards and swearing at you, finally, requesting you apologize to them for accusing them of whichever they "did not do". Example: Day 1: "I didn't break that cup." Day 2: "I told you yesterday I didn't break the cup." Day 7: "ugh! Stop talking! I told you last week I didn't do it! What is wrong with you? You are bothering me with your nonsense." Day 12: "are you stupid?? What is wrong with you? You must have brain damage cause you keep bringing it up. I told you I didn't. I never did, and I never will. we've been over this before. (Sigh) Look, I'm not repeating myself or talking to someone who doesn't listen, until you smarten up and admit you are wrong, I won't forgive you." Day 18: gives you the silent treatment for a while extra week Day 26: (one week later) you will write me a letter saying "I shall not tell lies". That is your apology for me. Go write it. Day 32: one week later, (I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies) "thank you for apology letter to me. Apology accepted." (Then video evidence appears of them being the one who took the cup) Day 40: "I didn't do it! I didn't! It lies! Lies!!! You people are sick!! Sick!!! Mommy!! Wahhh!!! Those people are b*llying me!!"
My best advice to people, empaths or whatever, is to just leave the narcissist alone, like run in the opposite direction and also cut ties with everyone who might support the narcissist (aka the narcissistic enablers). You can never win with a narcissist, doing any of the things mentioned in the video can get you into even bigger troubles with the narcissist, as they will seek revenge. Just get out of there and don't play the narcissist's game.
True, empats might confront the narcissist and also talk to others about what really happened and how they perceived the situation but the narcissist/psycho tells huge lies and makes it sound like the empath is the narcissist/psycho. They will also use every weakness you told them and turn it into a weapon against you.
I agree. However, there are a few situations in which this is not possible, like when is a close family member. But usually, walking away is the best thing to do.
After they ruined our wedding and filled our first home with horrible memories I had a talk with my wife. We decided to be brave and support each other while peacefully going no contact. We will no longer mold our personalities around these people and I'll be damned if they dig their claws into our children.
@@jumafaro Even if you don't cut ties completely, getting distance is highly recommended (unless they are your spouse, then you probably need therapy to create some personal boundaries or something, I'm not sure how I'd deal with that). But if it's your parent, sibling, or child, you can create a lot of distance. I don't tell my sister anything about my personal life, I don't go on social media, and I only see her once or twice a year. When we were both living in the same area, she would harass me on an almost daily basis and it was hard on my whole family. She's told terrible lies and spread rumours about my parents and her in-laws too. All of us just put up with it for years. Then her husband got a job across the country and they moved. I still love her because she's my sister, but our relationship is much better now that she is incapable of controlling my life.
A super empath never wants to destroy a narcissist. They just happen to have all the natural talents that can cause a narcissist to develop the shakes in their presence.
I have bragging rights of being a super empath! Through out my life I've encountered several narcissists who tried to destroy me and couldn't. I allowed them to stress themselves out trying to destroy me and then at the right time I lowered the boom on them! No more narcissist forever!
It's the way to cut off. To destroy you have to engage. And destroyed narcissist... You should see it once to understand. They just become UNABLE to hurt you or anybody else. They become their true selves - weak and in pain. Miserable and sorry for themselves.
that won't destroy them, they'll just jump to the next victim. to truly destroy the narcissist you have to heal them from narcissism. but that's too hard for most people to even attempt.
I’m a super empath and I have dumped two narcissistic women who were not real friends and they both have been trying to get back into my life and I say NO!
Never take them back bro cause they,ll ruin your reputation & you don,t want that block & delete them for good so you don,t want those red flags appearing again.
Living an open life and not being ashamed of your mistakes makes you able to deal with most people. If they don't like you it's ok. Not everyone's has to be your friend
Yes! This video is on point! The narcissist just wants supply. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative. So the best way to defeat a narcissist is to go no contact and ignore them as much as possible. They can’t stand it when you don’t fall for the bait. That takes their power away and they crumble. They thrive off of attention.
Being an empath makes me feel sorry for narcissist because I know that the reason for them developing narcissism is caused by either genetics or the environment they grew up in. But honestly, I've learned it the hard way that it's basically impossible to "heal" a narcissist. If you ever find yourself stuck in a situation with a narcissist, my best advice is to walk the other way.
The narc. The abuser. Who slandered me to those I held dear..by doing this managed to create a large applauding group of enablers. I am still standing but walked away. I hope they just devour each other. I don't need to watch it either
@@coffeegirl6854 I'm really sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to live through an experience like that. The same thing happened to me, a good friend of mine started to slowly develop narcissistic traits as we grew older. At that time I didn't really know what narcissism was, but I tried to let him know that some of his actions was severely morally wrong. But he ended up turning the blame on me and proceeded to spread fake lies and rumours about me to a lot of close friends of mine. A narcissist that feels threatened will literally do everything to ruin your life. I didn't mean to make this seem about me, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. :)
For empaths, I think awareness is the biggest key. The fact that you're watching this video is half, if not 75%, of the battle. I feel really bad for the empaths who aren't even aware they're "empaths", let alone dating a "narcissist". A few years ago, i didn't even know these terms existed. I just thought i was a weak & stupid person.
My significant other thought the same thing about me. To be honest I was innocent when she came for me at a very young age. The self worth, respect, kindness and the no need for validation from others she soon found out. Basically she thought I was weak. Just today I hung with my coworker who told me he thought was a square giving my appearance and the way I carry myself. I've grown to love the fact that people see in that way.
I don't think narcissists forget everything... I think they choose what information to 'forget' and choose what information to use and recall all to they're advantage. Generally, narcissist are really quite intelligent, just malicious and self centered, vain and cunning. Definitely have two faces. But once you see the two faces, it's impossible to unsee it and go back. It's a sad day to realize the person you loved was really in the relationship only for themselves and only serving themselves. Walk away from the narcissist with only one direction in focus - forward! Never look back!
@@srcoloma they only forget the details that incriminate them. I have the unfortunate misfortune of having two family members who are narcissists (one diagnosed by a psychiatrist) and both of them display this tendency.
My entire family is a group of narcissists. Always acting like they were never wrong for anything. They hold favors over your head to keep you quiet from telling truth. I've recently let them all know how fake they are and I'm working on walking straight out of their lives.
You can do it if you feel you need to! Stay strong. I've only gone 3 months of 'no contact' with my two narcissist sisters, and while I still have moments (if their names come up) that I get sad/mad all over again; generally I am much happier and feel more free.
My covert narcissist mother has been undermining me my entire life, & has shown no sign of giving up her game at age 90. I bought into this until about 3 years ago...when I made a list of her personality traits, & figured she fit the narcissistic personality profile. My siblings are her perfect flying monkeys !! I don't consider I ever had a family...I've been the victim of a disordered person with evil intent. Because I was brainwashed by this dysfunctional dinamic...it set me up to accept a narcissist partner...for the last 41 years. You can't share yourself with these people. ..as they use all info gained against you. You will be better off to go without contact, or as little as possible, & don't share personal info with them, as they will turn it into ammo against you. Be careful with your relationships as we repeat patterns. God is with you, trust your instincts. Disengage with those who work against you. I recommend Dr. LES CARTER, " SURVIVING NARCISSISM " ON RUclips. ..good luck, & God Bless you on your journey...♡☆♡
My whole family mom dad sister brother are all narcissists. They made me crazy and told everyone I was crazy. I neglected my needs to fulfill theirs. I was gaslit lied on humiliated isolated. They are always right never wrong they wanted me to be a failure so they can superior At 38 yrs old I completely went no contact. I have never lived on my own my parents mentally imprisoned me. It’s a struggle but it’s the best decision I made. I was so mentally messed up that I barely finished Highschool and they loved that I didn’t become successful so I would need them forever. I left and never looked back
@@thaniad84 Glad you were able to get away. My family is a lot like that. They're never wrong. I'm the loser than make it without them. The only thing holding me to them is that I have no clue about fixing vehicles and currently I only own one vehicle. So if it breaks down I need help. I'm working on saving for a secondary vehicle for backup anf hopefully I won't ever have to ask for their help again.
All anyone (empath, super empath, or otherwise) has to do to destroy a narcissist is take away the supply of validation and control you give them. Once they can't control you anymore, they can't hurt you either, and that will drive them mad. From there, all you have to do is get away from the narcissist and they will inevitably destroy themself.
@@phoenixrisin2269 I’m in Medellin. It’s all around me. I’ve dealt with different types of narcissists and sociopaths, not knowing at the time that that is what they were but I have gotten gut feelings that I shouldn’t trust them. Here in Medellin I’m learning even more. By culture, people are extremely polite but it’s not always what it seems.
@@bumblebee803 that’s normal. As a child I’ve always had a strong gut. I have lots of stories where I was able to save myself from bad people but there have been times when I ignored my gut instinct and I regretted it later.
As a super empath, I am a nightmare for narcissist people . Yes, I have destroyed many narcissists' lives after they've treated me horribly and like an idiot , they never saw it coming, narcissists never take the time to know you, they are too busy trying to destroy your existence. Thanks for the video ❤
You're very correct. 👍👍👍❤️. Kindness itself is a defense, strength, a thyrapy and medicine against any evil and not a weakness. Continue to be empathetic with boundaries. Kindness yes, no space for shit from anyone in your happiness.
This empath started out with intent to have a beautiful relationship. However, narc was detected so I decided to learn from him. I enjoy growth and know that to grow their may be growing pains, so I told myself I will stick it as long as I can to learn and understand these people. After 7 and a half years I've decided I've learnt all I need to know, I am grateful for the experience and now I'm ready and fully equipped to move on. These are empty damaged Individuals, who use manipulation and control to give them a sense of worth. What they fail to realise is their worth only stems from you. So when you have learnt all you need remove yourself from their existence, I'm pretty sure after 7 years of supply it's going to hit pretty hard when they believed you to be under their control. I am a child of God not a puppet of satan my life will move on and his will continue as it as always been. That's called justice! Asta la vista baby!
@@TaishaOfficial I'm in my fi al year studying psychology, as an empath, I am intrigued with the dark side of people, wanting to know what makes them tick. It's been a great learning experience and everything I choose to do in life is an experiment. Good to k kW there are others out there on the same wavelength. Using these individuals darkness to create light
Amen could not have said it better myself. But as someone else stated be careful moving on because they can be dangerous when they feel they are losing their supply . Make them want to leave you first .
@@lizh1970 I'm a very persistent individual my friend, adversity makes me stronger, I used to self harm emotionally, so allowing a narc to do it took the guilt from me and in return I learnt so much, we are here to learn and grow. I am also an Individual who likes a challenge, that is my character. Some will never understand it. But I'm an observer. My whole life experiences is an experiment. And this experience as taught me being happy is more important than being in a relationship.
I found the method to destroy the narcissist is to ask for examples to support their often flawed argument, especially when they are in verbal attack mode. This unravels them, and they realise they have zero control over you. Once that happens they give you the exit option. Some even help you pack 😂
I just found this out too. You’re right, this works. Or I repeat back what they say and ask if it either makes sense or make them take accountability- they hate for their image to be destroyed. Putting that mirror up shows them just how flawed their thinking is and exposes other people to their train of thought.
I've found this to be one of the best strategies in any conversation - If you're under attack- ask questions. don't let the conversation settle until they have been able to give full context to what it is they're saying. Soon, it'll become clear to both of you that it was an attack and not beneficial. They'll never do it again
true. Simple and strong logic without allowing to stray from the main subject, with no drama no tears no shouting, just pure logic, shows the weakness of the narcissist.. they do not know what else to say or do..
"Empath" is an illusive self-limiting 3D concept. We are infinite and eternal multi-dimensional spiritual beings having a temporary human experience - not ego-based programming and conditioning, including labels. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
Adding to that list is “No Contact, take yourself out of the equation.” If you leave the narcissist completely alone, you’ll be much better off and they’ll be miserable! 💯💯💯
Never engage with a narcissist. As soon as you recognize them get away ASAP and block their access to you. Don’t play games with them or try to outsmart them. You will get pulled in with any interaction.
That's right. An empowered 'super empath' is a narcissistic worst nightmare. What you once tolerated from these narcissistic types, you will no longer tolerate once you empower yourself and learn your self worth. Narcissistic prey's on vulnerable empath types. Stand firm in your truth and your foundation. 🙏❤😘
Since I know he is a narcissist, anytime he comes at me pretending to be someone else, I know its him. The more of the hatred I see he has for me, I do not feel as empathetic towards him. Yes, he had a horrific childhood, he's an adult now. I had nothing to do with what happened and, will not be a punching bag. He can go find fuel elsewhere. Don't want or need him.
@@remyaccc Yes she is right but then again she not and why. " Hurting the narcissist only brings you down to their level. Witch doesn't make you an empath. The only way you can hurt the narcissist is to be the very, very best you can be and hope the best for the narcissist." Witch is my apenion . Take care all their is light at the end of the tunnel
Thank you for your videos. You have greatly helped me to break all ties with my X due to him being a Psychopath Narcissist! I slowly got more down every day! 40 years of a Narcissistic is hard to get away from. He had convinced me & my mental health doctor that I was loosing it! He had me in the mental hospital 8 different times since the year 2000, when I was diagnosed as Bipolar 2. He never told my children I was in there! Well, I'm FREE! I'm getting back to the Real Linda & I will never let anyone make me loose my self esteem & identity! Thank you so very much!
I'm sorry you went through that. My ex-husband, a diagnosed psychopath, did the same thing, and it's hard to explain to anyone who either has no experience themselves, or who isn't experienced in law enforcement or psychiatry. Because those two careers have shown those individuals just how dark human beings can be. If I hadn't had such strong, inviolate sense of self, he might have won. But. He didn't.
Never allow yourself to be vulnerable to anyone period. It’s okay to care about people but never let your guard down. We do not live in a perfect world and people can be unpredictable. As soon as you think that you know someone, they can and will surprise you. Been there and done that myself.
What a sad concept to be living like this closed off when we are meant to share the love as we are all one,instead we are thought to build up the walls!!What a sad sad way to live
@@VocalVocaloid It's your reality,based on how you choose to see the world,everybody is entitled to their own perspective.And yes,I agree that yours is sad,it leaves no room for deeper connection,intimacy and truly getting to know someone
Until you have encountered a narcissist will you know what this video is about .I have and recently did. And the description of a super empath was what was needed to get rid of this foul person forever or make them think twice about communicating with you again. I am not a victim , should be the meaning of a super empath. And yes we feel bad almost to the point of apologetic for how we had to end it but know it had to be done to stand our ground... and stand it firmly Thank you for this.. not so much the name but description. I’m an empath but little more....your description nailed it
It is difficult for some people to learn not to feed the narcissist by becoming upset. The trick is to clean up their messes. When they bad mouth you, you must do damage control
@@ganymeade5151 Can you explain more about the trick being to clean up their messes without getting upset/showing emotion? I’m in the midst of the healing process after many years of being on the receiving end of a covert narcissist. I am without a doubt an empath, but I am certainly not a “super” one, as my self-esteem is not where it needs to be (yet). I’ve been doing a lot of research on recovering from narcissistic abuse, but I have to say, your brief comment here reached me in a way that nothing else has. I’m really not sure why, but I’m certainly glad I took the time to read through the comments now. Thank you for your words, and I do look forward to reading your response, if you’re so inclined to respond. I’m particularly interested in your thoughts about when they bad mouth you to you, as opposed to bad mouthing you to other people…. where the “mess” you are cleaning up for them is yourself.
A narcissist does not like it when you do the same as they do. For example I'm an empath he was a narcissist anytime he gave me the silent treatment I went along with it. I like being alone 99% of the time. So the silent treatment was up my alley. This was my time to get away for days ... Weeks... Even months. I would just leave
Same. If my narc roommate tells me to shut up I'll say, "Fine, not a problem. I will if you will." He then takes it more like a contest. I also like being alone and fee no need to talk.
@@jobrownsmith116 I've actually moved out that same day it started snowing in Austin Texas I was on my way to Portland 0regon where I now reside. And very happy and content.
Yes, imitate them. Do the light version of what they do. They show you how to set boundaries through their actions. If they pull away, it means there’s something they did and you need to pull away from them.
This is spot on!! I'm empathetic but not weak and I can usually spot a narcissist a mile off because they're so different from me. I also learned through time to tell people beforehand what the narcissist in my life was going to say and do beforehand to protect myself. I don't like destroying or hurting someone but if they're relentless about hurting me and mine then game on. I often feel really guilty after exposing them but I won't be hurt anymore. It's really hard when it's family, that hurt's the worst.
Is it ohk to expose them like m being empath dealing same situation now but I want to expose that person but at the same time m feeling guilty or feeling like I should not do like this or hurt that person. I am bit confused what should I do..
You don't need to expose them - or even be involved in any way with them - ever again. You ARE ALLOWED TO WALK AWAY. If this person is affecting your life in a way that is so negative that you are considering revenge, then please just walk away, or whatever possible equivalent you can manage. I don't know the details of your relationship, but the best revenge - especially in regards to narcissists and their ilk - is to live a good life. And NOT in the "look how GREAT I'm doing!" way. A life well lived is for yourself. And if you want to go even further with regards to healing from what this person has done to you? Pray for them [or use some equivalent of prayer if you're not a religious person]. Think about how you are not only on your way to getting better, but wish for that person to GET better, and DO better in the future. And you should mean it. You can't control them, only yourself. If you must get revenge, a life well lived really is the best way to go about it. This world is often shitty enough without more negativity being added. If you can't help out, at least don't hurt, you know? I don't know, maybe I'm wrong. This is basically how I would react, and it's worked out pretty well. Maybe I should have said that at the beginning....whatever you choose to do, I hope it works out as well as possible for all involved. Merry Hollidays and a Nifty New Year's!
I am an empath and I do not have low self esteem. I did get entangled with a narcissist and have experienced all the BS they throw out. Once I started questioning the relationship I went online and learned about the narcissist. I bought books and learned so much about this personality disorder. He met ever single criteria. One day he decided to do his silent treatment game. I was ready. I went no contact and blocked every method of communication with me. He panicked and called out his flying monkey's as expected. I have remained no contact for over two years now and he has tried every trick in the book. I just laugh it off, it has nothing to do with low self esteem and everything to do with being done.
Exactly i hate when ppl say if u fall for a narc u don't love ur self and u have a low self esteem its so wrong its all about being nice and empathetic
The best defense is to call out the narcissistic behavior and have proof to back it up..I've encountered many narcissistic people in my life and its best to walk away and never look back when you unmask them...once trust is broken the relationship is over..
That’s what I did called him out with proof then fell back..blocked mode. Insert flying monkeys, blocked. However I’m called immature and a woman scorned
@@HumbleWorldTraveler Yeah, my guess is they wouldn't care about proof. They can say they didn't mean it that way, then it's another topic that can't be discussed & there's no solution.
YES! Thank you for this video. I am a super empath, and I brought down a narcissist to his knees, which could have been a good thing for him. I don't know cause I ran as far and as quick as I could and started a new life with my husband and children. Never heard of the narcissist again. I was emotionally abused by this narcissist, but I got out stronger. All Glory to God!
I think narcissistic people DO listen. They keep score. In my experience, they remember every single moment and log it to use it against you later so they can twist it bc you don’t recall such itty bitty pieces of info...mostly because it WASN’T that bad
. Spot on......They appear to be "Passive" listeners until they actively want to use what they heard in a negative way. They manipulate what was actually Said into an untruth. However that untruth sounds real because the narc. bases the untruth on your personality. Meaning the untruth SOUNDS like something you could have said.
Most of them dont listen. Because they dont give a fuck about what you are telling them. IF they decide to listen it will be ONLY because they understand the story can give them information they can use later on against you.
As an empath, i just want peace. Years of my father putting me down made me build up a resilience to having my self-confidence crushed. Now, i can see it actively frustrating him when he tries putting me down or calling me names & it not getting a reaction out of me
Personal experience: If someone you suspect to be a narcissist or sociopath randomly tells you, or randomly say about you, that "you're smart" and there's no natural or apparent reason for them to say that, it means they're beginning to recognize that you are onto them and can see through their tricks.
Reading this sent chills down my spine, not because it happened to me, but because it makes me picture a skinwalker (the narcissist) revealing its fangs because it now knows that you know.
@@RitaG4404 I got away from them last year and other than a very brief run-in I've completely ignored that they exist at all. Don't miss them for a second but I do feel a great deal of pity for them cause they'll never be real people.
The narcissist I was dealing with once said I was strong, in a almost trance like state, outta nowhere. The scariest sh!t I’ve ever experienced. And after reading the comment about the skinwalker that’s almost exactly what it felt like 😮 stay prayed up peeps. These demons are real and they’re walking amongst us. It’s never the person you’re dealing with, but the spirit behind that person. 💔
After years of abuse in various forms.....I found myself alone and broken and broke.....being alone took me through the dark night of the soul....that was much sobbing and gnashing of teeth....i was so angry at myself for wasting my life! I grew into myself spiritually and began to heal myself. You need to go through hell...but when you come out of the fire you are like a new being. So strong and positive. I have now found another empath to love. We are both creative and are working on our ideas together. You need to heal yourself first....then you will find the love and life you desire and deserve. Anyone who goes through the dark night....mine lasted about a year....actually truly deserves that love and lifestyle. Good luck....I hope you find your lifes purpose as I have. 🌻
Three months of healing after 12 years with a narcissist, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. I sincerely hope I can get to that point you described. Wish you the best in your new relationship.
Me too, since my awakening. I just got out of a 5 year toxic relationship with a narcissist. I don't wish him ill will, only hope for his healing. I just need my space to be who.
@@cw7821 it takes several encounters to understand if a person is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies you just saw in the moment. Its about consistency. I think they're hilarious. I don't get bothered by them anymore and I save proof of how crazy they are for their flying monkeys. I've ruined the reputation of several narcissists this past year. Its been great. I'm immune to their shit. & Since I'm jacked they won't dare get physical with me. I leg press over half a ton. They don't want to get Spartan kicked. 🤣
@@starttakinnotez how did you destroyed the narcissist reputation? I have heard that they are extremely vindictive, if we destroy their reputation then they will also do the same to us by saying that we are crazy, most likely people will believe their words and not ours
I lost a whole group of friends thru a smear campaign. She got in before I even saw it, but once it happened I knew it the sec i entered the door, I could feel the room was against me b4 I even sat down. It took me the rest of the afternoon to decide while I watched them treat me politely but carefully not to make the narc in the room think they had sided with me, & I decided that I didn’t want to explain myself, if these ppl didn’t feel I was important enough to ask me about what was going on instead of believing lies, I was out. A few yrs later, I had a run in with one of those “friends” who tried to apologize, I didn’t care. I won’t even try anymore with those who don’t see me as worth the time to be on my side or value me enough to at least give me the benefit of the doubt
I am an empath married to a covert narcissist. I've only figured this out within the last year and have found many videos that perfectly mirror my husband. It's so nice to finally find one or two about myself as an empath - not sure if I'm super though lol - and to find that it's not a bad thing at all. It has been my demise throughout most of my life only because I didn't understand the meaning or even what a narcissist was. I just thought I was inviting this abuse somehow and there must be something wrong with me. I felt very alone. I'm finally starting to embrace myself as an "empath" and no longer as a "victim". I've gained a lot more inner strength! Thank you for your video, I'm looking forward to watching more.
@@baronesselsavonfreytag-lor1134 I actually looked into that assessment and I'm going to take it. Thank you for reaching out and letting me know about it.
@@cadoo5591 You're so welcome. You are probably an intuitive type and can really benefit from learning about your strengths and weaknesses, especially if you are INFJ, a new world is opening up for you to live your best life!
I feelJust the same but with roles/sexes reversed. These last few months have blown me away with what I have learnt and how the jigsaw pieces are falling into place.
The narcissist I am involved with actually catalyzed bringing my hidden powers to the foreground. He was flabbergasted by my near photographic memory + ability to stand in my strength & knowledge. The clincher was when I thanked him for challenging me to become the stronger person I am today. I've also been in therapy 10+ years to overcome complex-ptsd from multiple trauma from early childhood. He's never been able to pull that crap on me again...and I gained his respect for not letting him get away with his nonsense. Some narcissists need a strong empath to influence them to grow their own humanity by example. Know who you are & stand on the bedrock of your principles + moral high ground. Do it with Love.
This is great advice if in a relationship with a loved one, family or friends and correctly with love ❤ Best of luck to those who try and hopes it becomes evident early on if it's not! I applaud you for this approach and your courage to use this method and your partners willingness to support you 👏
I stopped loving my narcissist and treated him the way he treated me..ignored him, gaslighted him, was rude and argumentative and after months of this he suddenly changed and was respectful and talked civility and I am wondering if this is a permanent change????
@@gwencannon7560 , if he truly has NPD, no. Learn about this disorder--from scholarly, verifiable sources and not this kinda crap--in order to understand better the cycles and underlying conditions of the NPD individual. It will help you immensely.
It's a highly sensitive person who's worked on themselves and doesn't exhibit the potential downsides of sensitivity..grounded and strong..but still very intense,deep and empathetic.
The most important thing about fighting manipulative people is spotting them. Once you know it becomes really easy to neutralize or manipulate them. They have big red buttons that you can push like an arcade.
Being a dyslexic I have an incredibly acute ability to notice patterns. I can see the narcissist behavior pattern. So it's difficult to manipulate someone like me.
I'm opposite of dyslexic. I can write really well, my stepmom was a malignant narc and also dyslexic. I hope I can see behavioral patterns well too though.
Narcissists need you to play a role that helps them to control you. Just figure out what role you are fulfilling for them and stop or limit doing it. It will usually be a particular role that you commonly do to help them. This is your best defense.
The importance behind the expression, “Stand for something or you’ll fall for anything” I always believed this as it is my motivating force behind all my passions. Ultimately, it is what saved me in my past marriage. I don’t like labels but my ex husband falls heavy on the signs and symptoms of a narcissist and as submissive as I can be, he was not expecting the transparency, patience and direct actions he was served by me. I don’t wish him harm because I will always love him but I hope moving forward, he can reassess his levels of sincerity and honesty. You play, you pay.
Yours is truly the path taken by 'super empaths'... that is the capability to still love the narcissistic person, but know the greatest act of love is to trim their 'power' with tough love actions.... boundary after boundary placed until the narcissistic person fully crumbles under the weight of their own life-long performance. Only by reaching pretty much rock bottom can a narcissistic person have a chance to fully take on their demons... the super empath knows deep down the narcissist suffers greatly from self-doubt, and self-guilt for each action they take which is always self-desctructive of all they so desperately wish for in the first place. It is truly a tragic condition for the narcissistic person themselves and all around them who cares about them for better or worse! 🙏🏼
Exactly as mentioned in the video, narcissist forget things easier, the little things. When the super empath brings the topic up, they can not account for their actions
@@pipomemo5211 that's different. If you by any chance watch a reality tv show. Watch selling sunset and take note of Christine from s1 to s4. She's a textbook narcissist. I personally learn about how narcissist work because of her lmao
This leads to confusion for me because we cannot discuss a topic since they can't remember. It's my recollection vs theirs and they deny it or conveniently don't remember doing or saying it. That's a waste of time for me.
Yeah, your conscience hurts like a bitch for a week but then again no pain no gain is the rule in life. Then it leaves its place to contentedness. I kinda hate how I can't turn off my conscience for narcissists, I wanna be able to switch modes and go full monster on them then go back to normal like nothing happened.
My family is trying to destroy me, and my little girl. I am very protective of her though. I trust in The Lord. I have been trying to be calm, even with all the threats. I am not going to keep allowing them to hurt me. Praise The Lord!
Yay I’m officially a super empath! 👏😁 …….. I’ve known a few narcissists in my time, & helped my best friend escape from her narc husband. She moved to a different country, but I was still near his home. He knew me well enough not to mess with me, & ended up a very lonely man, due to his own actions……..stay strong all of you Empaths x
Ok I'm a Super Empath. I had 3 friends that I realized were Narcs. Being raised in a family of Narcs I recognize them a lot quicker than others, who had more normal families. Once I realize what they are, their negative words + put downs bonce off me. I just smile smugly + leave an uncomfortable silence in which their own internal dialog eats them up + they implode, which makes me laugh out loud. Then I'll state that I didn't realize how jealous they were of me. That's very upsetting for them, that they can't control my emotions. Then I start making firm boundaries they have to stay with in + we know how narcs hate boundaries. Usually the 'friendship' ends sometime after that, from their end, b/c they do demand control + I'm just too much work, LOL. Now I'm a kind, caring, loyal friend but if you take my kindness for weakness + then try to crush me, oh bitch any care I had for you is out the window.
Best way to confound a narcissist is to ignore them and refuse to let them intimidate and bother you. Narcissists are very sick people badly in need of psychiatric help. Narcissists will bad mouth you to important people to defeat you. If so, you will have to do damage control to set the record straight. Gradually, people catch onto them. Then narcissists defeat themselves. Evil eventually burns itself out.
They are always trying to chip away at your self-esteem if you engage them. It can be subtle and not so subtle. I played along for a while because he was an old friend until it became too ridiculous and sad. I went no contact.
This is great. I've literally transformed into a super empath through information and decisiveness after deciding I wasn't putting up with narcs anymore. What a powerful being to become!
I’m delighted to know I’m a super empath. I was born and raised by two major narcissists, and they made me so sick I was seeing people with blue square heads, green triangles coming out of their heads, lived in a pink iridescent bubble, etc. It took 20+ years to heal from it, but I didn’t allow them to fill me with hate as they tried to do. They are both deceased now, and I love the peace and tranquility that surrounds me.
@@maearcher4721 Just a thought but if you think "abandoning" or leaving a narcissist will hurt them. Just remember you aren't special. Theres 8billion people on earth and if you think you matter I promise you don't. you will be replaced. Like always. Cheers!
@@maearcher4721 a narcissist is not emotionally attached to it's prey. They think of the prey like you do a toaster. Thinking you can destroy them is naiive, wanting to just shows they have hurt you and manipulated you into wanting revenge. It gives them more fuel.
Wow, this is really beautiful and true! I guess I’m a super empath. I always knew I was really sensitive compared to others. I always knew that I could read others really easily, and I would use that to take care of people better. My older sister is a narcissist, a dangerous one at that I grew up with her bullying me I always felt like she was jealous of me. She got married, and when she did she got married to a narcissist with anger issues just like her, then they both targeted me. I shouldn’t have let it get as far as it did but finally I started standing my ground and standing up for myself. I used their own tactics against them at some points. This video explains exactly how I got them out of my life. There was violence and physical harm that happened but I came out of it alive thank God. I can tell you I have never felt such peace and happiness until I cut them out of my life! I felt really bad. I wanted to save her because she was my sister, but she would not let me help her or her husband. It got so bad that it was either them or me and I chose survival/ self-preservation. I am grateful to God that I have a great family and support system who helped me out I could not have done it without the support group around me. God and My family. God bless everyone who is going through that kind of abuse. God doesn’t just want us to survive. God wants us to thrive!
The sad part of trying to do anything with a narc will drain your energy one way or the other. just let them be, it isn't our job to fix them up or even destroy. We are too precious to even say a hello to them. 😏
@@morganpeck who says what is in a psychology book is any good anyways. None of it is based on scientific facts, it’s information passed down thru the centuries based on findings from men who thought they were so smart and knowledgeable yet performed lobotomies.
SUPER EMPATHS WAKEUP AND QUIETLY LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK NO MATTER IF THEY ARE IN LOVE AND AT THE END SHE/ HE WONT GIVE A DAMN OF THE NARCISSIST. 😊♥️
Sadly there are a lot of narcissitic Christians, because... 1. Being around Christians gives them more supply because Christians ought to be kind and forgiving, so they tolerate them proably a lot longer than others would. 2. They can shine with fake kindness and faith and people will think even more that they are good, because who could be so faithful and a Monster at the same time.
This was super interesting! I've had several situations where I've confronted a narcissist and then just walked away. It's had some interesting results, and I'm sure they never expected that to happen and that I'd come back begging. Except...I don't. No regrets either. Those are not people I want in my circle.
Walking away completely is enough to set a manipulative and vengeful narcissist off and have them try everything and anything to hurt the empath. I would add to your super empath ability list the fact that the empath doesn't wish the narcissist ill they just want to be left alone to live their lives and they do not respond with the same negative or manipulative behaviors as a narcissist employs (at core we just don't behave that way because we don't think that way, it's just not who we are).
Well, that's what I did. I had some help from someone who bought me a plane ticket and picked me up when he was gone. It was such a close call though, I still can't believe it was probably less than ten seconds. A smarter thing to do would be to call the police and have them there as you're leaving just in case the maniac shows up. I never had contact with him once I left and found out he died almost one year after I left him. I have no idea what killed him, but I'm lucky I don't have to worry about him ever trying to find me now. If anyone is serious about leaving, why would they even consider letting someone know where they are going, or letting them have their phone number? If you are serious about saving your life, then you don't care whether you affected them in some way, you are only supposed to think about yourself at that point. Anything else is unnecessary drama.
@@christianpulisic7784 Thank you, I agree on not needing one in my life. It took to many unsuccessful relationships to get to the point where I could recognize them and not give them the opportunity to be a part of my life or to walk away as soon as the first signs appear (many of them don't show their true stripes for a little while, I think that's how many empaths get pulled down and don't see it for what it really is & end up staying with one of them). I can tell you at least for me it's made finding the right person, the one you don't lose yourself to, the one who truly wants you to be happy and doesn't try to control you, they encourage you and want you to be able to do the things you want to or enjoy doing without guilt tripping or gaslighting you. Are you an empath or have someone in your life who's one?
@@maryb6686 I'm so glad you got away from him safely. When you're in that position it's not as easy to think about details, even something like having the police there. I had a similar experience but no plane ticket. I'd dropped him off at work and a friend met me at my house with a Uhaul truck, helped me load most of my things and left, it's was in my college years and I showed up unannounced at my parents with all my things, I'm lucky I have understanding parents. The strangest part of it was about half way there I suddenly realized that I could hear the music on the radio which had been on the whole time not just that drive. It's scary how much they can influence or manipulate someone. I agree with you about not staying in contact with them, I'm in a unique situation where unfortunately the narcissist I ended up having problems with although I cut off all forms of communication, blocked him on my phone, email and any other way he could see anything about me online he's still a member at the resort I live at and while I have contacted the police and spoken to the manager without proof beyond my reporting it or him trying to physically harm me they can't do anything about it. He doesn't try to contact me but spent a lot of time & energy trying to get someone else to talk about me or join him in his campaign to damage my reputation only to find there were no people who would do either and no one believes his rumors? So I basically just ghosted him, I've put him out of my mind, he doesn't deserve space there and let it go. It's worked for me for a couple of years. He turned to drugs then started selling them and lost the little bit of credibility he may have had and he's alienated himself from all but those who buy drugs from him and 99% of them only speak to him about drugs. All in all he's done the job of keeping him away from me himself, he just made the people he tried to get to tell him about me to be more protective of me. My situation is unique, to anyone else reading my reply I strongly advise doing exactly what Mary B. recommends!!!
When I tried proving the narcissist wrong one time, he called me crazy and delusional. This one I dated for YEARS gaslighted me all the time. Best thing I ever did was leave him. Saw him the other day by chance with another victim. I wanted to take her aside but thought against it. I wish her luck
It's better to take her aside. End the abuse right then and there. I've helped free a few women from abusive men when I tool the time to talk to them about how they abused me.
How can someone be so hurtful to someone who is kind and friendly with no hidden agenda after two times with their same lies I give up I don't even try anymore
Because narcissists are evil and prey on good people who they see as weak and easy targets. Narcissists act intimidating. However, they are cowards. They never confront those who they see as stronger than they are. They prey on good people and hate whatever is good. Narcissists get off on hurting others as it gives them a sense of power. You must do damage control. You are right to get them out of your life.
That you're kind and friendly is why they keep you around. Don't give them what they do not deserve. Save it for someone who deserves your love and apreciates you.
Father forgive them they know not what they do, helps me remember when i was still in bondage and was doing some of the same things that the narcissist does. these are damaged people and they are using the only tools they have , many didn't have parents that taught them or show them how to deal with things properly. their parents were critical all the time about everything and many times abusive too. they grabbed a hold of what they could use out of what they knew and had been shown as a child. your basically dealing with a child regardless of the age of the person.if you can get them to face that inner hurt scared confused child and give it the answers it needs for it to have peace the person can become the adult they havent been able to achieve in life. you gotta think they are terrified inside, they see most things through magnifying glasses so what may be no big deal to us and our view of things but they may actually be thinking that it might kill them. the reason they go to good people is because 1 they don't want to be hurt and if your nice they feel less threatened by you 2 you have the qualities they wish they had, thats why they mimic you and repeat to others the things you say and told them, they want to be like you which is a good sign if you have good qualities that they want to change. if you knew the terror, anxiety, shame, guilt, depression they felt you would not be able to give up and not try anymore.you would do anything to help rescue them from their current hell.i try to remember all the things Christ was going thru , the things he knew were coming, the people he had around him, even the ones he was closest to that wouldn't even claim to know him and how Christ wouldn't stop loving and helping others without getting irritated at all , still having diner with one he knew would be betraying him tomorrow. don't get that anti-christ spirit(Selfish Me-Me Spirit)like the majority of people seem to have at this time. have cuz you'll never make it to where you can live more abundantly like Christ mentioned if you don't break those chains and get the LOVE. got so much more I want to say but gotta go.
It's called divine providence as Swedenborg would write so long ago as not even the narc with their destructive behaviours is given a one way ticket to the hells.
❤A person seeking to destroy another person is a certified Narc. Being confident in who you are is one thing. But knowing who you're dealing with is most important. Knowing keeps you distant in the heart. Understanding you're in the presence of a sick person who never will change and only represents AT ONE TIME all the qualities you were looking for. I'm empathetic to the downtrodden....but I'm no fool. Best bet if someone is a "super empath" write down all the things they did and said to you so you will never forget. Then detach!!
I told my former girlfriend who was a classic narcissist something that really profoundly worked. I said that when I look into your eyes all I see is self-pity and loneliness. " When I look into your eyes"...... Obvious to most people is considered a metaphor, and in this case it is.
@BobSmith-kd4oc I said the exact same thing to my partner a year ago, and he was shocked to say the least. But you know what? For years, he was a PSR for the State…helping children in dysfunctional family situations. So it always amazed me that the amount of schooling he had acquired, he never recognized his own Narcissism. Anyway, after I told him to go back to school and learn about Narcissism, and how I felt about his self-loathing hatred, something clicked inside his brain. it just flat worked….but, out of habit, Initially, after I said it, he went into a *massive* rage. I calmly went into the bedroom and locked the door behind me. I thought he was going to knock the door down and told him if he didn’t stop, I was calling the police. SILENCE. A few minutes later, I walked out of the bedroom, not saying a word to him, got my purse and phone, and left for the night. I went back the next day, calmly, and quietly told him that if he ever acted Iike a spoil rotten Narcissistic brat again, I will leave for good. I also told him this was his own, personal last chance to change into someone who is well respected and loved, instead of someone feared. He stood there, tears in his eyes, and said: “I want to change - I just don’t know how”. I think this only worked because he was ACTUALLY tired and beaten down because of always having to fight for respect. This may not work for other people, and may just work because the Narc is mentally tired.
I am a super Empath. It took time to get here. I mostly just an empath for a long time but I’ve learned and I feel wise now. I feel I have the upper hand. I can read people well.
The actions you advise here just bring you down to the level of the narcissist. Getting away from a narcissist and staying away is the best move, in my opinion. And, when someone wants to tell me of another person’s secrets, I think to myself, “ Uh-oh! This person is not someone in whom I want to confide.”
Well' Super/Nova's/&Empath's at least We knows what, and Whose we're Dealing with, take Precaution, because, they're A pack of Wolves and Dog's. Beware of whom' You play Down
@@patricereed69 They are flying monkeys who need a sense of power and control and who have no respect for anyone. Eventually, people catch onto them and they are not respected except by people like themselves. Show no weakness around them. They are bad people.
I thought the same thing about a neighbor who told me what I did not want to know about another neighbor and I said to myself, "Well, there's nothing about me to gossip about, I'm clean." Ha ha ha, 12 years later we have a falling out and she just made up stories, I wish I knew what she said to everyone that was so good/bad that overnight my other neighbors suddenly disappeared or even yanked a child to scramble away as they saw me returning from my walk. I was suddenly so despicable no one would even talk to me. Must have been a great story, [totally false of course]. This cost me my livelihood and my stupid 'revenge' cost me a lot more.
We're also done a video on signs you're a super empath ---> ruclips.net/video/ROdm4ATMbxA/видео.html
You copied the fantastic video by youtuber Sacha Slone.
Absolutely!!
Wow! I'm that guy! I needed to hear this. I'm the narc killer in the end everytime
@@EkonRekon This channel is awful, they copied the much better video of an original creator sascha slone.
Tha
Super empath is an educated empath, we loose our naiveness, develop our discernment and guard our hearts 💕
Exactly, self love is needed to use empathy the right way. Despite being hurt you’ll never hurt in the same way. Specially if the narcissist is a blood related person or is related to someone you love.
Yes! I have found this to be more and more true, after speaking to another empath.
Thank you for sharing, however "super empaths" don't guard their hearts. They OPEN them to shine their light brighter than ever and to consciously co-create and manifest their dharma/destiny through the Law of Attraction. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you all Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
@@ExcelInLifeFaith-sq3pb why can't a super empath do both?
I think both are actually done.. only not necessarily guarding their hearts more so their energy. I feel like an empathetic person always Kees their heart open it’s a way for us to feel but too much bad energy will cause us to withdraw our own energy... I could be wrong it’s just how I feel. I’m on a path to my own ascension ❤️ i love learning more and more though if I’m wrong or you guys have a diff input I would love to hear it .
A "super empath" doesn't destroy a narcissist. A narcissist destroys themselves trying to destroy a super empath.
Exactly
On point there...this is exactly what's about to unfold in my workplace...the narc and his flying monkey have just shot themselves in the foot. And I didn't even have to do much other than be myself, be loving and loved by everyone. They absolutely hate the love that's surrounding me because I'm a decent human being and genuinely love people.
@@enikobenak5783same here😅
Facts! He’s doing it to himself, I don’t need to do anything but not react.
Thank you. This comment kind of hits on why I am going to comment.
Super empath or not, you better get the heck away from any person that is stealing your joy!
10000%
Exactly😊protect ur happiness and mental health ppl
Εxactly!! I'm a super empath and i tried to maintain strong boundaries months now because of quarantine, until i engaged unfortunately in a conversation with them. A relationship with them is a total bs, a lie! You'll lose your authenticity and your dignity, if you stay, so you better go away
I agree. Walk away
Distancing yourself is the easy way out.. Sometimes a good slap in the face or square punch shows them you mean business. I have a cousin who was talking me down after years of me being there for him. Tried to be civil but he kept poking at me until I sucker punched him in the face. It made him reflect and snap out of it. He promptly apologized for being a jerk 😂😂😂 I don't condone violence but some people need to be taught not to mistake your kindness for weakness.
I was an empath but because I was target by 2 narcissistic who tried to destroy me for envy, jealousy and they were close to me , I learned to protect myself. I have supernatural gifts and I evolved to a super empath to put them in the place. I loved them and it was painful to do this. It was necessary to keep me alive and preserve my mental healthy.
I relate to this. I also evolved into becoming a super empathe and I get better and better in it because of narcisistic abuse of a close relative who is dear to me but whom I have to keep on a distance.
Not necessary to try to destroy a narcissist, get out of the way and watch them destroy themselves!
There is no joy in that either. After years of suffering under two NPD family members and finally learning the nature of that we escaped but absolutely do not wish revenge of any kind.
Agree. Total agree.
@@dboy6400 I agree! even though I wish them the best and prayers for their healing too. 🙏
That’s actually a good advice 👌
@@dboy6400 yes, revenge is bad.. being revengeful will not give peace.. real peace is in forgiving.. as much hard as it is..
Never get into a relationship with someone you feel sorry for, this is the most prominent tactic a narc takes.
Agree
Exactly!
True ...
Yep .
Yes, true
When an empath recalls every detail the narcissist just denies it all or says they don't remember anything.
Actually, they’ll tell you that you’re making it up. That’s the terrible thing about them.
Anything that they do wrong is your fault - Dr Phil
Oh yes the typical I don’t remember 🙄
The fact is they know too
Just ACT Like Not
So they can manipulate again and again
I was recounting the night my husband sexually assaulted me and when I was done he said “that’s how you remember it”
Yes I remember you forcefully trying to have sex with me while I was asleep and lashing out when I said no???
“I’m sorry for whatever you think happened”
These fuckin people
Smart empaths don't waste their time and emotions 'destroying' another person. They don't get consumed by court battles or vengeance - those would be goals of a narcissist.
Indifference and walking away, is how an empath triumphs and lives the life they decide.
Being indifferent and ignoring them are the best way to survive if you cannot leave him or he is not leaving you. You have to strike when required...other times stay aloof
Unless their loved ones (e.g., their children) are threatened). That's no waste of time. It's about protecting the ones you love at all costs when they're also in the narcissist's reach.
Not true I had to get a restraining order he physically abused me and threatened to kill me and my son
@@johninmunich 100 % True, I escaped the marriage, but my son did not. I will stay with my son protecting him.
Tell them you want him to Take full custody of the children...them He will Give them Back to you to Revenge...when I wanted my narc Boyfriend to Leave me...I moved towards him...I can t live without...then He Cuts you loose to Hurt you...@@johninmunich
As a super empath I have learned to just shut the door on narcissists and never look back. Move on with your life and let them destroy themselves!!
Thank you ❤ 💙 💜 💖
That's exactly what you do.
Exactly, it deprives them of the attention they crave good, bad or otherwise.
It is very hard to do when the narcissist is your son?
@@mikeodiomasaigh6757 It is, but if he really is a narcissist he will ruin everyone else you love around him.
You have to do it to put they many over the one.
Nevertheless, I'd suggest talking to a psychologist maybe even as group, with the rest of your family.
If your stomach feelings tells there's something wrong with the persons you meet, there usually is..
Intuition ❤️🙏
This is so true
If we feel like just kicking in the gut for no fault of us
Yes, thank you for reminding, that filing NEVER lie, it's like a compas.
It's not stomach feeling it's my breath that tells I am with the wrong person also the entire skin the entire body has certain unpleasant gross blocking heavy tiring sensation... And then I dont open myself there... It's very simple...
Real empaths don't want to destroy the narcissist, they just want to protect themselves from them.
I'd say most empaths fit your narrative. But not all.
Exactly
No that's just a chicken shit
There are also dark empaths that thrive on ruining others
Actually id say.. They would want too change a Narcissist, As a challenge for themselves. The way you put it. Doesnt seem interesting at all..
Gosh! You just explained exactly what I did to the narcissist I made the mistake of dating for while. Destroyed him and showed him the mirror every time he tried to gaslight me or make me feel any less. Now, I know a term for myself. A super empath. And, may I add "not to be messed with!"
Me too!! Just last week 💪 and I hv more rounds if/when he tries to come back but his mask slipped off and so did mine I guess 😂 Dnt mess with me narcs!!!
@@AnaAcuraErica Hahaha well done!
Or a narcissist
Well done!!
Gaslighting jealousy Darvo playbook see through clown looser
NEVER keep yourself busy with "destroying" someone or be better than them. Put your valuable energy in your passions from your soul in a place of love!
So true. The more vengeful you get the worse karma will come back to you.
Not this time. I’m gonna destroy him
@@bumblebee803 wow it's true what you have written... That is why there is a concept called Grahana Shakti .. which means to have patience to absorb all that comes to us . People situation and events...
You have got the concept! More power to you ✌️
@@chandlerbing3632 Thank you. Best of luck to all of us on our healing journey. No need to retaliate. Keep moving forward.
Very much true but I think they were just trying to give examples of what to do when your in a situation where you can’t really just shut the door and leave
They know our body language and facial expressions. This is why, when we have figured them out, we truly gain the upper hand with them. We don’t have to say much, they see our icy stare back into their eyes as well as our upright posture. They know, that we know.
THAT. And I have straight up told em
Yep give it right back to them .. lol
Tried the stare and told the elderly neighbor what his real name is and he walked away and hasn't been by my house since. These videos if you acknowledge what they're teaching then you practice or apply , it's so cool it works and is giving me a life and a break
Oh yeah! It is my impresion too!
lol yup 😊😇
Thank me later..
1.) Their intuition can detect manipulation
2.)They often have a Core identity and high sense of self worth
3.)Empaths listen carefully and remember the small details
4.)Empaths have cognitive and affective empathy
5.) Super Empaths are unsuspecting
Thank you 🙏🏾
Thanks
Spot on mate
Narcissists also have these traits except for the affective empathy and the unsuspecting part. They are always suspecting.
Thaaaaanks!
The more he devalued me the more insecure I thought he was, the more I felt sorry for him … but I was always in silence. I never told him that. I just knew how severely insecure he is. I left when I was ready and it was amazing. It wasn’t easy but it was 💯 worth it.
Yes, this was how I handled it also, silence and pity.
ABSOLUTELY
You did so well, oK, I can learn from you, thank you
For 3 long months I decided to confornt my narc ex to get myself the closure I desperately want.but the thought of seeing him made me sick.nevertheless he came to me,like a scared crow and talked to me 'how are things?I dryly replied and he understood and went away.but I desperately wanted to fight ,yell and just attack him for the hurt he gave me,atleast tell him that he will suffer ,so I invited him for a cup of coffe.he said but I don't like coffee,giving the fake empathy.then his flying monkey called,and then there is this uncomfortable silence because people are watching.i realised there's no use telling him anything.i pra to God that he suffer till the end of his life.now I have decided to go to therapy ,if possible report him.please god..I never asked you anything in my life,give me justicem
You cant destroy something that's already broken. Just run away.
Oh..yes you can
True true..
You destroy them also by running away.
Lol. My grandpa said “when the snakes rattles is warning you of his presence because is more scared of you than you at him, respect the snake. But don’t be scared. The snake will never understand how you have control of the situation, not the snake. Something that drags on the floor will never have a different point of view. Unless they are able to become a butterfly.” So don’t run away. They might be a caterpillar disguised as a snake waiting for that one person to help them transform.
@@jezruby2
That is an amazing and brilliant statement.
As an empath who's ex fiance is a narcissist, he had me fooled but not for long. I saw his true self and it was very disappointing to say the least. Empaths don't want to destroy anyone, we just want to live in peace. He tried to break me, but I got out. Stay blessed 💜.
Same here
Glad you were able to see through his nonsense, and able to get away… I’ve never really been involved with this disorder, up until recently reconnecting with my only male cousin. Here I had hopes that we could be good friends, being he came off as a nice guy. Well that didn’t last very long, he got to mocking me in very strange ways, a good handful of times. Then helped him on fixing his headlight which had been filled with water for a month, BLAMED me for the electric being blown, straight up yelling at me, which I calmly said dude, you drove around with the water in your light for a month, who you yelling at…. Always was knocking what I do for a living (just a guy doing what I love, as a woodworker) but it bugs him that he hasn’t any skill set and there I do, a guy that grew up pretty much fatherless from 10 on…. Been around tons of people, just never been treated by someone in such a unprovoked manor. Had messed up being he had asked me if I’d ever get pissed off enough to wanna hit him, I said nah, I’d just be done hanging out. Think that emboldened his actions into crazier outbursts or really negative attacks on me for no reason at all. Mostly with material slanders, but I’m the least material worshipping guy, which bugs him being that’s all the spoiled rotten guy has going for him…it’s like he’s trying to get me to snap, so I’m done, Well that’s where we’re at now. Sad thing is that I know he’s badmouthed me to the rest of his family, and he’s like the spoiled prince, can’t do much wrong…. Just find it hard as all heck to think that they don’t know of his condition, or if he’s been able to control his ways around them for 36 yrs…I went searching to see what type of personality disorder he has, and his traits popped up on narcissism right away. Not an ounce of empathy, his sister broke down crying to us one night about filing for divorce, his response was you’re killing our night, really ruining the vibe. This is how these people are, sickos….
@@norskibull2.021 yes some narcissistic people hide there true selves, but eventually it comes to the surface and everyone else will see it .
@@norskibull2.021your cousin sounds like a complete piece of crap, you shouldn't snap, you should methodically prepare and plan to beat the shit out of him, so A. He can't identify you, and B. So he still knows it's personal and that he ticked off the wrong guy. C. Hurt him enough that the prospect of you coming back randomly would scare the shit out of him, and finally D. Make sure he knows that if he mistreat you again you are coming back and putting an even worse beating on him, and since your he doesn’t know who you are he'll think twice before treating most people like shit.
I just left my girlfriend because have personality disorder narcissist. She all the time kiss herself in the mirror. She had me fooled too.
I’m a superempath I never reacted when the narcissist tried to devalue me cause I knew my worth
Of course. They have low self esteem they want u low so they can play u
Same hire .
The narcissist thought he had me... I told him our relationship was all a fake and he should have stayed Married to his ex - wife. Because they both had the same odor. I knew that would break him and not ever speak to me again. It's been 4 months. Yes he hurt me but I pushed harder. I told if I didn't leave soon I would become his living nightmare. I left and healing and very happy and content.
Because a super empath is a psycopath.
Same. But eventually I started feeling that the way he wanted me to feel was how he felt inside. I almost lost myself trying to help him heal. Assuming he’s really a good man under it all. He’s not.
I’m saving myself now
I have known for years that I am a psychic empath, but have been forced to hide who I am since childhood due to being told that I am way too sensitive, crazy, and delusional to feel how I feel, and that I am just imagining it all. But now that I am in my early 60's, I will no longer hide who I truly am.
Better late than never!👍
Moar power to you!!! 🎉
Yes better late than never❤
I once meet a true psychic and it was amazing. She looked at me and without any conversation, she knew things about my life that were all true. She knew my pain. She was like an angel on earth with a super power.
If this is how you are, you are truly gifted. Use your powers in a positive way. But don't let everyone know, there are far more evil people than good.
Dolores, are you an HSP?
We remember every detail and see when the story changes. We may not say anything. Until the appropriate time.
How clever, how amazing, how brilliant and how true!👏 😆😊
Yes, definitely. Can you feel a lie? I usually can, but typically don't say anything.
Exactly that's what I'm:p
Mine was baffled when I helped him with some legal stuff and I remembered soooo much detail of his life that he was rattled. You could see the face change. I said be very careful of what you say to me because I remember more than you think 😉 discard followed shortly lol
Facts 💯
That last point was a contradiction. The only way to "destroy" a narcissist is to LEAVE. It starves the very attention they crave and use to fuel themselves to gaslight you. Yet no one wants to talk about this.
Don't play games with a person who is hurting you. LEAVE.
@Leslie Grace I agree. As a true empath, I do not wish to 'destroy' or hurt anyone, including the narcissist. I prefer to remove myself from the situation. They are too dangerous to play with. Just take away their supply and live the best life. Just leave, if possible.
Narcissist are Evil 😈, they will kill, get away with it, and laugh. Sick. Get Out and Stay Out.
It blows my mind that anyone thinks they can win against someone who hates them already.
Exactly, go no contact. Best thing you can ever do for yourself.
SO JUST LET THEM TAKEOVER AND KEEP LEAVING NAW
I think it’s important to note that an empath can work on themselves to become a super empath. Therefore, there is hope for all empaths. For me, the game changer from being a victim turned superhero, was self love. Knowing that I know myself better than anyone helped me not fall prey anymore to my father’s nasty and uninformed opinions about me. Absolutely. Self love all the way.. and standing firm in that identity.
Well said, Brooke! I agree
Well done!Thanks!
Absolutley, that is exactly what i have done too.
Honestly, i don't feel the need to destroy the narcs, they will do that to themselves anyway.
They will want to come crying to you when that happens but you will no longer be there.
Justice is done.
Brooke you are so right, that is exactly what I am learning right now after 33yrs of marriage to a narcissist, she fed on my lack of love for myself which she created in me ,I am a devastated man after figuring this all out, but I've learned to love myself again and it is giving me the upper hand, bless you Brooke
YAYYYYY! 🥰
My narcissistic/toxic ex mistook my empathy and kindness for weakness. I treated her well but she wanted to keep breaking my boundaries. So, I dumped her when she least expected it and blocked her a month ago and I feel free as an eagle!
Unlike the narcissist,,super empathy doesn’t need or have to depend on other people!
We don't need to...but we do love sharing our life and love with someone.
Thank you for sharing, however, the natural evolutionary path is that we are ALL co-dependent until we reclaim Self-mastery through a kundalini awakening, due to (a)eons of lifetimes of illusive low vibrational subconscious conditioning and programming, for the purpose of soul growth and evolution. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
I find Narcissist hilarious and laugh in the inside while looking in their eyes act ignorant when they try to manipulate, its amusing. Narcissist are s+up!d mentally unwell robot being. Lmao
Consider everything that comes out of Narcissist mouth as stinky fart, everything they do act fake af and don't give them any emotional reaction.
i am naturalgirl xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxooxxo
It takes a while to get back on your feet after a narcissist has broken you, but if we're cautious enough we know what's going on and can rebuild our life from scratch.
100%
@Gemma Dann they don't leave anything to look back to.... If you see what really is left...you find only the remains of a relationship that was already broken from the start
@@sonutab7391 100%
@Gemma Dann I would never give up... we need to use our knowledge and wisdom and emotions to make the evil narcissists lose...i will never be ready to lose when I know who the real manipulator is....now more than ever.... the good people need to recognize their worth and fight evil.
@Gemma Dann Wish you all the best.Keep fighting and never give up 🙏
Narcissists: Attack is the best defense.
Empaths: Defense is the best attack.
Yes, Defense is the best attack with facts and let the Narcissts to provide the facts & proofs and the truth. 😁
@@marikleinen1189 , I disagree. If you take the time to defend yourself against the actions of a narcissist, you are still giving them the attention they crave. Also, it’s impossible to defend yourself against any kind of accusations because narcs will never acknowledge the truth, no matter how much proof you have. The best thing to do in my opinion is ignore them and all their crazy antics, make them feel like they don’t matter and can have exactly ZERO effect on you or in your life!
Perf
@@lh2380 Oh defense can take many forms, distancing is defense, grey rocking is defense~ I'm using "defense" in the sense that's synonymous with "protection, shielding, safeguarding", not "rebuttal, denial, justification".
@@RachelPun good response 👍🏾
Thanks for accurately describing gaslighting...I'm getting tired of so many people using it to refer to simple lying. It's not just trying to deceive you, it's a strategy intended to make you question your own sanity.
Hear hear. We adopted the word "gaslighting" as shorthand for a specific technique with a specific goal. People tossing the word around to sound smart is just plain stupid.
It's related to, people have forgotten how to be wrong. I don't think people have ever exactly been great at admitting when their facts or conclusions were faulty, but we seem to be in a golden age of "well my opinions are just as good as yours". No, there are still such things as facts, and even if almost everything is at least a little subjective, there's still a lot of true and false in this world. "Gaslighting" refers to a specific technique and goal, and garden-variety lying is a different animal, no matter how hard people try to pretend there's no difference. Just admit that you think saying "gaslighting" will make you sound smart, then work on ACTUALLY being smart instead.
Gaslighting is lying, but it's lying about your reality many many times over and over again, and then calling you names afterwards and swearing at you, finally, requesting you apologize to them for accusing them of whichever they "did not do".
Example:
Day 1: "I didn't break that cup."
Day 2: "I told you yesterday I didn't break the cup."
Day 7: "ugh! Stop talking! I told you last week I didn't do it! What is wrong with you? You are bothering me with your nonsense."
Day 12: "are you stupid?? What is wrong with you? You must have brain damage cause you keep bringing it up.
I told you I didn't. I never did, and I never will.
we've been over this before.
(Sigh)
Look, I'm not repeating myself or talking to someone who doesn't listen, until you smarten up and admit you are wrong, I won't forgive you."
Day 18: gives you the silent treatment for a while extra week
Day 26: (one week later)
you will write me a letter saying "I shall not tell lies".
That is your apology for me. Go write it.
Day 32: one week later,
(I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies. I shall not tell lies)
"thank you for apology letter to me. Apology accepted."
(Then video evidence appears of them being the one who took the cup)
Day 40: "I didn't do it! I didn't! It lies! Lies!!! You people are sick!! Sick!!! Mommy!! Wahhh!!! Those people are b*llying me!!"
My best advice to people, empaths or whatever, is to just leave the narcissist alone, like run in the opposite direction and also cut ties with everyone who might support the narcissist (aka the narcissistic enablers). You can never win with a narcissist, doing any of the things mentioned in the video can get you into even bigger troubles with the narcissist, as they will seek revenge. Just get out of there and don't play the narcissist's game.
True, empats might confront the narcissist and also talk to others about what really happened and how they perceived the situation but the narcissist/psycho tells huge lies and makes it sound like the empath is the narcissist/psycho. They will also use every weakness you told them and turn it into a weapon against you.
I agree. However, there are a few situations in which this is not possible, like when is a close family member. But usually, walking away is the best thing to do.
After they ruined our wedding and filled our first home with horrible memories I had a talk with my wife. We decided to be brave and support each other while peacefully going no contact. We will no longer mold our personalities around these people and I'll be damned if they dig their claws into our children.
@@jumafaro Even if you don't cut ties completely, getting distance is highly recommended (unless they are your spouse, then you probably need therapy to create some personal boundaries or something, I'm not sure how I'd deal with that). But if it's your parent, sibling, or child, you can create a lot of distance. I don't tell my sister anything about my personal life, I don't go on social media, and I only see her once or twice a year. When we were both living in the same area, she would harass me on an almost daily basis and it was hard on my whole family. She's told terrible lies and spread rumours about my parents and her in-laws too. All of us just put up with it for years. Then her husband got a job across the country and they moved. I still love her because she's my sister, but our relationship is much better now that she is incapable of controlling my life.
Yes just run away
No body can handle narcissist
A super empath never wants to destroy a narcissist.
They just happen to have all the natural talents that can cause a narcissist to develop the shakes in their presence.
Exactly
❤❤❤❤ BEG UP ❤❤❤❤❤
I think super empaths might actually describe HSP with healthy confidence which matured a bit.
Is that why they find it hard to look me in the eye
That's very smart thought there my friend. 👍
The best way to beat a narcissist is to just walk away and never look back. Think of it as an investment for mental health!
I have bragging rights of being a super empath! Through out my life I've encountered several narcissists who tried to destroy me and couldn't. I allowed them to stress themselves out trying to destroy me and then at the right time I lowered the boom on them! No more narcissist forever!
The only way to destroy a Narcissist is by not caring. As in, there is no relationship.
It's the way to cut off. To destroy you have to engage. And destroyed narcissist... You should see it once to understand. They just become UNABLE to hurt you or anybody else. They become their true selves - weak and in pain. Miserable and sorry for themselves.
True i did that about a week ago and it feels good ❤
that won't destroy them, they'll just jump to the next victim. to truly destroy the narcissist you have to heal them from narcissism. but that's too hard for most people to even attempt.
@@rongikeWhy waste time healing them???
@@rakeshrockyto help evolve and improve humankind
I’m a super empath and I have dumped two narcissistic women who were not real friends and they both have been trying to get back into my life and I say NO!
Awesome! 👍
Thank you for sharing.
Me too!
I'm hayoka not a doormat..
You are lucky that they are only friends, but how will you deal if its your own mother.
Never take them back bro cause they,ll ruin your reputation & you don,t want that block & delete them for good so you don,t want those red flags appearing again.
Living an open life and not being ashamed of your mistakes makes you able to deal with most people. If they don't like you it's ok. Not everyone's has to be your friend
Oh but woke snowflakes are living in a fairy tale world where everyone must like everyone else or they are cancelled.
This is the best Response to this video.... wisdom
amen
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...Yes...that is the reason king Solomon asked for Wisdom of all choices he was given... WISDOM !!
Best advice my Mom gave me before the 1st day of kindergarten and I still use it now! Lol
Yes! This video is on point! The narcissist just wants supply. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative. So the best way to defeat a narcissist is to go no contact and ignore them as much as possible. They can’t stand it when you don’t fall for the bait. That takes their power away and they crumble. They thrive off of attention.
Being an empath makes me feel sorry for narcissist because I know that the reason for them developing narcissism is caused by either genetics or the environment they grew up in. But honestly, I've learned it the hard way that it's basically impossible to "heal" a narcissist. If you ever find yourself stuck in a situation with a narcissist, my best advice is to walk the other way.
The narc. The abuser. Who slandered me to those I held dear..by doing this managed to create a large applauding group of enablers. I am still standing but walked away. I hope they just devour each other. I don't need to watch it either
@@coffeegirl6854 I'm really sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to live through an experience like that. The same thing happened to me, a good friend of mine started to slowly develop narcissistic traits as we grew older. At that time I didn't really know what narcissism was, but I tried to let him know that some of his actions was severely morally wrong. But he ended up turning the blame on me and proceeded to spread fake lies and rumours about me to a lot of close friends of mine. A narcissist that feels threatened will literally do everything to ruin your life. I didn't mean to make this seem about me, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. :)
Every narcissist I know has had some huge disruption to their childhood like a mother dying or leaving the home.
Also know this situation. When i finally decided to walk away it was surprisingly easy.
Sometimes you can’t walk the other way if the narcissist is your mother.
For empaths, I think awareness is the biggest key. The fact that you're watching this video is half, if not 75%, of the battle. I feel really bad for the empaths who aren't even aware they're "empaths", let alone dating a "narcissist". A few years ago, i didn't even know these terms existed. I just thought i was a weak & stupid person.
This happened to me, I wasn't aware until after I left, It helped cause I had a spiritual awakening right after....
My significant other thought the same thing about me. To be honest I was innocent when she came for me at a very young age. The self worth, respect, kindness and the no need for validation from others she soon found out. Basically she thought I was weak. Just today I hung with my coworker who told me he thought was a square giving my appearance and the way I carry myself. I've grown to love the fact that people see in that way.
I don't think narcissists forget everything... I think they choose what information to 'forget' and choose what information to use and recall all to they're advantage. Generally, narcissist are really quite intelligent, just malicious and self centered, vain and cunning. Definitely have two faces. But once you see the two faces, it's impossible to unsee it and go back. It's a sad day to realize the person you loved was really in the relationship only for themselves and only serving themselves. Walk away from the narcissist with only one direction in focus - forward! Never look back!
Yes, but because they filter the information in their favor they loose focus and forget details.
@@srcoloma they only forget the details that incriminate them. I have the unfortunate misfortune of having two family members who are narcissists (one diagnosed by a psychiatrist) and both of them display this tendency.
@@kishwer of course and they also tend to get irrational when exposed
It’s not that they forget, they are just pathological liars and don’t remember their lies.
They did lies and lies.. till they forget wht lies they say.. but super empath remember those clearly.
My entire family is a group of narcissists. Always acting like they were never wrong for anything. They hold favors over your head to keep you quiet from telling truth. I've recently let them all know how fake they are and I'm working on walking straight out of their lives.
You can do it if you feel you need to! Stay strong. I've only gone 3 months of 'no contact' with my two narcissist sisters, and while I still have moments (if their names come up) that I get sad/mad all over again; generally I am much happier and feel more free.
My covert narcissist mother has been undermining me my entire life, & has shown no sign of giving up her game at age 90. I bought into this until about 3 years ago...when I made a list of her personality traits, & figured she fit the narcissistic personality profile. My siblings are her perfect flying monkeys !! I don't consider I ever had a family...I've been the victim of a disordered person with evil intent. Because I was brainwashed by this dysfunctional dinamic...it set me up to accept a narcissist partner...for the last 41 years. You can't share yourself with these people. ..as they use all info gained against you. You will be better off to go without contact, or as little as possible, & don't share personal info with them, as they will turn it into ammo against you. Be careful with your relationships as we repeat patterns. God is with you, trust your instincts. Disengage with those who work against you. I recommend Dr. LES CARTER, " SURVIVING NARCISSISM " ON RUclips. ..good luck, & God Bless you on your journey...♡☆♡
My whole family mom dad sister brother are all narcissists. They made me crazy and told everyone I was crazy. I neglected my needs to fulfill theirs. I was gaslit lied on humiliated isolated. They are always right never wrong they wanted me to be a failure so they can superior At 38 yrs old I completely went no contact. I have never lived on my own my parents mentally imprisoned me. It’s a struggle but it’s the best decision I made. I was so mentally messed up that I barely finished Highschool and they loved that I didn’t become successful so I would need them forever. I left and never looked back
@@thaniad84 Glad you were able to get away. My family is a lot like that. They're never wrong. I'm the loser than make it without them. The only thing holding me to them is that I have no clue about fixing vehicles and currently I only own one vehicle. So if it breaks down I need help. I'm working on saving for a secondary vehicle for backup anf hopefully I won't ever have to ask for their help again.
@DTPIIXART get AAA and find a good repair shop or friend who does car repairs.
All anyone (empath, super empath, or otherwise) has to do to destroy a narcissist is take away the supply of validation and control you give them. Once they can't control you anymore, they can't hurt you either, and that will drive them mad. From there, all you have to do is get away from the narcissist and they will inevitably destroy themself.
Yep but let them leave you or they will make life uncomfortable .
So true
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I’m a super empath. I could read people since I was a child. It’s protected me through life.
You won’t see the histrionic somatic narcissist coming. Learn about them!💪
@canchrper - Me too, to an extent. Been burned enough times.
@@phoenixrisin2269 I’m in Medellin. It’s all around me. I’ve dealt with different types of narcissists and sociopaths, not knowing at the time that that is what they were but I have gotten gut feelings that I shouldn’t trust them. Here in Medellin I’m learning even more. By culture, people are extremely polite but it’s not always what it seems.
@@bumblebee803 that’s normal. As a child I’ve always had a strong gut. I have lots of stories where I was able to save myself from bad people but there have been times when I ignored my gut instinct and I regretted it later.
@@canchrper I think I regret most of the things I've done not listening to my gut, and not knowing any better.
An empath has no interest in wanting to “destroy” anyone.
You got that right!
Very true! 🙌
The psychologist who made this video IS the narc.
@@snowyrain5730 absolutely
True
As a super empath, I am a nightmare for narcissist people . Yes, I have destroyed many narcissists' lives after they've treated me horribly and like an idiot , they never saw it coming, narcissists never take the time to know you, they are too busy trying to destroy your existence. Thanks for the video ❤
You're very correct. 👍👍👍❤️. Kindness itself is a defense, strength, a thyrapy and medicine against any evil and not a weakness. Continue to be empathetic with boundaries. Kindness yes, no space for shit from anyone in your happiness.
@minnie-cb18 Hi I Googled it. There is a lot of information out there, people's like us that have studied the matter and can help you. Good luck.
This empath started out with intent to have a beautiful relationship. However, narc was detected so I decided to learn from him. I enjoy growth and know that to grow their may be growing pains, so I told myself I will stick it as long as I can to learn and understand these people. After 7 and a half years I've decided I've learnt all I need to know, I am grateful for the experience and now I'm ready and fully equipped to move on. These are empty damaged Individuals, who use manipulation and control to give them a sense of worth. What they fail to realise is their worth only stems from you. So when you have learnt all you need remove yourself from their existence, I'm pretty sure after 7 years of supply it's going to hit pretty hard when they believed you to be under their control. I am a child of God not a puppet of satan my life will move on and his will continue as it as always been. That's called justice! Asta la vista baby!
We have the same story... I never thought anyone else would have a mindset like this. Thank you for sharing.
@@TaishaOfficial I'm in my fi al year studying psychology, as an empath, I am intrigued with the dark side of people, wanting to know what makes them tick. It's been a great learning experience and everything I choose to do in life is an experiment. Good to k kW there are others out there on the same wavelength. Using these individuals darkness to create light
You stayed 7 and a half years to learn about it who are you kidding !
Amen could not have said it better myself. But as someone else stated be careful moving on because they can be dangerous when they feel they are losing their supply . Make them want to leave you first .
@@lizh1970 I'm a very persistent individual my friend, adversity makes me stronger, I used to self harm emotionally, so allowing a narc to do it took the guilt from me and in return I learnt so much, we are here to learn and grow. I am also an Individual who likes a challenge, that is my character. Some will never understand it. But I'm an observer. My whole life experiences is an experiment. And this experience as taught me being happy is more important than being in a relationship.
I found the method to destroy the narcissist is to ask for examples to support their often flawed argument, especially when they are in verbal attack mode. This unravels them, and they realise they have zero control over you. Once that happens they give you the exit option. Some even help you pack 😂
I just found this out too. You’re right, this works. Or I repeat back what they say and ask if it either makes sense or make them take accountability- they hate for their image to be destroyed. Putting that mirror up shows them just how flawed their thinking is and exposes other people to their train of thought.
They can NEVER give you an example.
I've found this to be one of the best strategies in any conversation - If you're under attack- ask questions. don't let the conversation settle until they have been able to give full context to what it is they're saying.
Soon, it'll become clear to both of you that it was an attack and not beneficial.
They'll never do it again
true. Simple and strong logic without allowing to stray from the main subject, with no drama no tears no shouting, just pure logic, shows the weakness of the narcissist.. they do not know what else to say or do..
dude not kidding about helping you pack, theyll probly rent the uhaul for you
Proud to be an empath ♥️💪
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"Empath" is an illusive self-limiting 3D concept. We are infinite and eternal multi-dimensional spiritual beings having a temporary human experience - not ego-based programming and conditioning, including labels. Self-awareness is absolutely paramount for authentic mastery. Happy Global Ascension! Sending you Infinite Love and Rainbow Light 💖 🌈 XXX
Adding to that list is “No Contact, take yourself out of the equation.”
If you leave the narcissist completely alone, you’ll be much better off and they’ll be miserable! 💯💯💯
And I don't want anyone to feel miserable, that's my " problem" 🙏
Never engage with a narcissist. As soon as you recognize them get away ASAP and block their access to you. Don’t play games with them or try to outsmart them. You will get pulled in with any interaction.
This I agree with 100%
You are correct, 100 percent.
They'll destroy themselves in the process of destroying you. That's how messed up narcissists can be
That's right. An empowered 'super empath' is a narcissistic worst nightmare. What you once tolerated from these narcissistic types, you will no longer tolerate once you empower yourself and learn your self worth. Narcissistic prey's on vulnerable empath types. Stand firm in your truth and your foundation. 🙏❤😘
Yeah its not super powers. Its experiencing a few narcissistic jerks and learning a pattern that rings alarms.
Since I know he is a narcissist, anytime he comes at me pretending to be someone else, I know its him. The more of the hatred I see he has for me, I do not feel as empathetic towards him. Yes, he had a horrific childhood, he's an adult now. I had nothing to do with what happened and, will not be a punching bag. He can go find fuel elsewhere. Don't want or need him.
@Mary Carroll You're 💯 % right...
@@remyaccc Yes she is right but then again she not and why.
" Hurting the narcissist only brings you down to their level. Witch doesn't make you an empath. The only way you can hurt the narcissist is to be the very, very best you can be and hope the best for the narcissist."
Witch is my apenion .
Take care all their is light at the end of
the tunnel
Thank you for your videos. You have greatly helped me to break all ties with my X due to him being a Psychopath Narcissist! I slowly got more down every day! 40 years of a Narcissistic is hard to get away from. He had convinced me & my mental health doctor that I was loosing it! He had me in the mental hospital 8 different times since the year 2000, when I was diagnosed as Bipolar 2. He never told my children I was in there! Well, I'm FREE! I'm getting back to the Real Linda & I will never let anyone make me loose my self esteem & identity! Thank you so very much!
Your a normal woman.only the guy is abnormal.breakfree 😎
You are lucky to rid off if you are involved in psycodrugs and doctors their aim is to get you binded for life to them and kill your brain
I'm sorry you went through that. My ex-husband, a diagnosed psychopath, did the same thing, and it's hard to explain to anyone who either has no experience themselves, or who isn't experienced in law enforcement or psychiatry. Because those two careers have shown those individuals just how dark human beings can be.
If I hadn't had such strong, inviolate sense of self, he might have won.
But. He didn't.
Never allow yourself to be vulnerable to anyone period. It’s okay to care about people but never let your guard down. We do not live in a perfect world and people can be unpredictable. As soon as you think that you know someone, they can and will surprise you. Been there and done that myself.
Humans are more dangerous than animals that’s for sure!
What a sad concept to be living like this closed off when we are meant to share the love as we are all one,instead we are thought to build up the walls!!What a sad sad way to live
@@carmenalopes4140 it is not sad my friend. It is just reality, and it’s ok.
@@carmenalopes4140 I agree. And it took me way too long to learn this lesson.
@@VocalVocaloid It's your reality,based on how you choose to see the world,everybody is entitled to their own perspective.And yes,I agree that yours is sad,it leaves no room for deeper connection,intimacy and truly getting to know someone
Until you have encountered a narcissist will you know what this video is about .I have and recently did. And the description of a super empath was what was needed to get rid of this foul person forever or make them think twice about communicating with you again. I am not a victim , should be the meaning of a super empath. And yes we feel bad almost to the point of apologetic for how we had to end it but know it had to be done to stand our ground... and stand it firmly
Thank you for this.. not so much the name but description. I’m an empath but little more....your description nailed it
Thank you for sharing! 😊
It is difficult for some people to learn not to feed the narcissist by becoming upset. The trick is to clean up their messes. When they bad mouth you, you must do damage control
Well said!
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@@ganymeade5151 Can you explain more about the trick being to clean up their messes without getting upset/showing emotion? I’m in the midst of the healing process after many years of being on the receiving end of a covert narcissist. I am without a doubt an empath, but I am certainly not a “super” one, as my self-esteem is not where it needs to be (yet). I’ve been doing a lot of research on recovering from narcissistic abuse, but I have to say, your brief comment here reached me in a way that nothing else has. I’m really not sure why, but I’m certainly glad I took the time to read through the comments now. Thank you for your words, and I do look forward to reading your response, if you’re so inclined to respond. I’m particularly interested in your thoughts about when they bad mouth you to you, as opposed to bad mouthing you to other people…. where the “mess” you are cleaning up for them is yourself.
A narcissist does not like it when you do the same as they do. For example I'm an empath he was a narcissist anytime he gave me the silent treatment I went along with it. I like being alone 99% of the time. So the silent treatment was up my alley. This was my time to get away for days ... Weeks... Even months. I would just leave
I am doing the same too and blocked his calls
Same. If my narc roommate tells me to shut up I'll say, "Fine, not a problem. I will if you will." He then takes it more like a contest. I also like being alone and fee no need to talk.
@@jobrownsmith116 I've actually moved out that same day it started snowing in Austin Texas I was on my way to Portland 0regon where I now reside. And very happy and content.
@@aurorasoto5985 That's the best. I'm glad you got away. 🤍
Yes, imitate them. Do the light version of what they do. They show you how to set boundaries through their actions. If they pull away, it means there’s something they did and you need to pull away from them.
This is spot on!! I'm empathetic but not weak and I can usually spot a narcissist a mile off because they're so different from me. I also learned through time to tell people beforehand what the narcissist in my life was going to say and do beforehand to protect myself. I don't like destroying or hurting someone but if they're relentless about hurting me and mine then game on. I often feel really guilty after exposing them but I won't be hurt anymore. It's really hard when it's family, that hurt's the worst.
Is it ohk to expose them like m being empath dealing same situation now but I want to expose that person but at the same time m feeling guilty or feeling like I should not do like this or hurt that person.
I am bit confused what should I do..
You don't need to expose them - or even be involved in any way with them - ever again. You ARE ALLOWED TO WALK AWAY. If this person is affecting your life in a way that is so negative that you are considering revenge, then please just walk away, or whatever possible equivalent you can manage. I don't know the details of your relationship, but the best revenge - especially in regards to narcissists and their ilk - is to live a good life. And NOT in the "look how GREAT I'm doing!" way. A life well lived is for yourself. And if you want to go even further with regards to healing from what this person has done to you? Pray for them [or use some equivalent of prayer if you're not a religious person]. Think about how you are not only on your way to getting better, but wish for that person to GET better, and DO better in the future. And you should mean it. You can't control them, only yourself. If you must get revenge, a life well lived really is the best way to go about it. This world is often shitty enough without more negativity being added. If you can't help out, at least don't hurt, you know? I don't know, maybe I'm wrong. This is basically how I would react, and it's worked out pretty well. Maybe I should have said that at the beginning....whatever you choose to do, I hope it works out as well as possible for all involved. Merry Hollidays and a Nifty New Year's!
I am an empath and I do not have low self esteem. I did get entangled with a narcissist and have experienced all the BS they throw out. Once I started questioning the relationship I went online and learned about the narcissist. I bought books and learned so much about this personality disorder. He met ever single criteria. One day he decided to do his silent treatment game. I was ready. I went no contact and blocked every method of communication with me. He panicked and called out his flying monkey's as expected. I have remained no contact for over two years now and he has tried every trick in the book. I just laugh it off, it has nothing to do with low self esteem and everything to do with being done.
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Nicely done !!!! Yes yes that’s how. They really are so Pathetic! 🫶🏼
Happy to hear your story. Hit home ! Congrats 🍾 🥂
Exactly i hate when ppl say if u fall for a narc u don't love ur self and u have a low self esteem its so wrong its all about being nice and empathetic
The best defense is to call out the narcissistic behavior and have proof to back it up..I've encountered many narcissistic people in my life and its best to walk away and never look back when you unmask them...once trust is broken the relationship is over..
That’s what I did called him out with proof then fell back..blocked mode. Insert flying monkeys, blocked. However I’m called immature and a woman scorned
@@HumbleWorldTraveler Yeah, my guess is they wouldn't care about proof. They can say they didn't mean it that way, then it's another topic that can't be discussed & there's no solution.
Can't always walk away when the narcissist is a relative.
In my extensive experience with this personality type , silence is key , silence , no reaction , walking away
Narcs use the silent treatment to gaslight you🤦♀️ it is so hard to discern who is who
@@truthh8597 but its not the same, the same intention or reason. A narc uses silent treatment temporarily. An empath that walks away is for life…
this videos are like the horoscopes, they say what you want to listen, to make you feel good about yourself.
Exactly, it's all bullshit that people fall for, all for clicks, likes, subscriptions and ultimately money.
YES! Thank you for this video. I am a super empath, and I brought down a narcissist to his knees, which could have been a good thing for him. I don't know cause I ran as far and as quick as I could and started a new life with my husband and children. Never heard of the narcissist again. I was emotionally abused by this narcissist, but I got out stronger. All Glory to God!
Can you explain how u did it. I NEED to know
How did you
Same here! I escaped leaving him looking stupid!
Music is a wonderous tune to distract oneself from the narcissists. Painting/drawing and writing is splendid as well.
-Council of The Super Empaths
I think narcissistic people DO listen. They keep score. In my experience, they remember every single moment and log it to use it against you later so they can twist it bc you don’t recall such itty bitty pieces of info...mostly because it WASN’T that bad
. Spot on......They appear to be "Passive" listeners until they actively want to use what they heard in a negative way. They manipulate what was actually Said into an untruth. However that untruth sounds real because the narc. bases the untruth on your personality.
Meaning the untruth SOUNDS like something you could have said.
However they won't remember any good details about us!
@@markmillington605 WOW YOU are even MORE spot-on!
This is so spot on!
Most of them dont listen. Because they dont give a fuck about what you are telling them. IF they decide to listen it will be ONLY because they understand the story can give them information they can use later on against you.
As an empath, i just want peace. Years of my father putting me down made me build up a resilience to having my self-confidence crushed. Now, i can see it actively frustrating him when he tries putting me down or calling me names & it not getting a reaction out of me
Personal experience: If someone you suspect to be a narcissist or sociopath randomly tells you, or randomly say about you, that "you're smart" and there's no natural or apparent reason for them to say that, it means they're beginning to recognize that you are onto them and can see through their tricks.
Reading this sent chills down my spine, not because it happened to me, but because it makes me picture a skinwalker (the narcissist) revealing its fangs because it now knows that you know.
@@ReimaruArt It didn't really scare me but it's odd that they couldn't keep it to themselves. It was almost like a form of unconscious confession.
It’s nice to know that they know YOU KNOW. It’s the beginning of the end for them and the light at the end of the tunnel for YOU! You CAN get free!!!
@@RitaG4404 I got away from them last year and other than a very brief run-in I've completely ignored that they exist at all. Don't miss them for a second but I do feel a great deal of pity for them cause they'll never be real people.
The narcissist I was dealing with once said I was strong, in a almost trance like state, outta nowhere. The scariest sh!t I’ve ever experienced. And after reading the comment about the skinwalker that’s almost exactly what it felt like 😮 stay prayed up peeps. These demons are real and they’re walking amongst us. It’s never the person you’re dealing with, but the spirit behind that person. 💔
After years of abuse in various forms.....I found myself alone and broken and broke.....being alone took me through the dark night of the soul....that was much sobbing and gnashing of teeth....i was so angry at myself for wasting my life!
I grew into myself spiritually and began to heal myself. You need to go through hell...but when you come out of the fire you are like a new being. So strong and positive. I have now found another empath to love. We are both creative and are working on our ideas together. You need to heal yourself first....then you will find the love and life you desire and deserve. Anyone who goes through the dark night....mine lasted about a year....actually truly deserves that love and lifestyle. Good luck....I hope you find your lifes purpose as I have. 🌻
Thank you! I am on my healing journey now almost a year.. best luck to you and your partner 🌹
Three months of healing after 12 years with a narcissist, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. I sincerely hope I can get to that point you described.
Wish you the best in your new relationship.
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and comments. I wish you all the best and God speed for your healing. 🌻👍🌞
I could’ve written this myself. Parables and all. Thank you for sharing.
@@nopeacewithoutjustice6133 you're most welcome. It is nice to know that my words may have given someone hope and positive thoughts. 🙏🌻🌻
I went from empath to super empath. I feel so empowered being able to set boundaries and consequences with narcissists.
Me too, since my awakening. I just got out of a 5 year toxic relationship with a narcissist. I don't wish him ill will, only hope for his healing. I just need my space to be who.
If you’re such a “super empath” how did you not see the narcissist for what they are? Unless you’re a psychopathic sadistic narcissist hunter
@@cw7821 it takes several encounters to understand if a person is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies you just saw in the moment. Its about consistency. I think they're hilarious. I don't get bothered by them anymore and I save proof of how crazy they are for their flying monkeys. I've ruined the reputation of several narcissists this past year. Its been great. I'm immune to their shit. & Since I'm jacked they won't dare get physical with me. I leg press over half a ton. They don't want to get Spartan kicked. 🤣
@@starttakinnotez how did you destroyed the narcissist reputation? I have heard that they are extremely vindictive, if we destroy their reputation then they will also do the same to us by saying that we are crazy, most likely people will believe their words and not ours
I lost a whole group of friends thru a smear campaign. She got in before I even saw it, but once it happened I knew it the sec i entered the door, I could feel the room was against me b4 I even sat down.
It took me the rest of the afternoon to decide while I watched them treat me politely but carefully not to make the narc in the room think they had sided with me, & I decided that I didn’t want to explain myself, if these ppl didn’t feel I was important enough to ask me about what was going on instead of believing lies, I was out.
A few yrs later, I had a run in with one of those “friends” who tried to apologize, I didn’t care. I won’t even try anymore with those who don’t see me as worth the time to be on my side or value me enough to at least give me the benefit of the doubt
I am an empath married to a covert narcissist. I've only figured this out within the last year and have found many videos that perfectly mirror my husband. It's so nice to finally find one or two about myself as an empath - not sure if I'm super though lol - and to find that it's not a bad thing at all. It has been my demise throughout most of my life only because I didn't understand the meaning or even what a narcissist was. I just thought I was inviting this abuse somehow and there must be something wrong with me. I felt very alone. I'm finally starting to embrace myself as an "empath" and no longer as a "victim". I've gained a lot more inner strength! Thank you for your video, I'm looking forward to watching more.
Keep exploring these things and more. Take a Meyers Briggs assessment and learn about your cognitive functions also. It will really help.
@@baronesselsavonfreytag-lor1134 I actually looked into that assessment and I'm going to take it. Thank you for reaching out and letting me know about it.
@@cadoo5591 You're so welcome. You are probably an intuitive type and can really benefit from learning about your strengths and weaknesses, especially if you are INFJ, a new world is opening up for you to live your best life!
Bless you and hope u find yr true self value and inner faith in yrself to be strong soon.
I feelJust the same but with roles/sexes reversed. These last few months have blown me away with what I have learnt and how the jigsaw pieces are falling into place.
The narcissist I am involved with actually catalyzed bringing my hidden powers to the foreground.
He was flabbergasted by my near photographic memory + ability to stand in my strength & knowledge.
The clincher was when I thanked him for challenging me to become the stronger person I am today.
I've also been in therapy 10+ years to overcome complex-ptsd from multiple trauma from early childhood.
He's never been able to pull that crap on me again...and I gained his respect for not letting him get away with his nonsense.
Some narcissists need a strong empath to influence them to grow their own humanity by example.
Know who you are & stand on the bedrock of your principles + moral high ground. Do it with Love.
Mine told me I love you because you don't take my bullshit
Excellent. More spot on than the video.
This is great advice if in a relationship with a loved one, family or friends and correctly with love ❤
Best of luck to those who try and hopes it becomes evident early on if it's not!
I applaud you for this approach and your courage to use this method and your partners willingness to support you 👏
I stopped loving my narcissist and treated him the way he treated me..ignored him, gaslighted him, was rude and argumentative and after months of this he suddenly changed and was respectful and talked civility and I am wondering if this is a permanent change????
@@gwencannon7560 , if he truly has NPD, no. Learn about this disorder--from scholarly, verifiable sources and not this kinda crap--in order to understand better the cycles and underlying conditions of the NPD individual. It will help you immensely.
There is no such thing like "super empath". What has been described here is just a mentally and emotionally really healthy person.
Secure attachment
It's a highly sensitive person who's worked on themselves and doesn't exhibit the potential downsides of sensitivity..grounded and strong..but still very intense,deep and empathetic.
Someone who is saddened to tears over even the smallest ant's demise is the Super Empath.
I'm highly empathic and used to be so vulnerable. Not any more!!
@ssutherland9019 you're not empathic anymore? That...doesn't sound healthy
The most important thing about fighting manipulative people is spotting them. Once you know it becomes really easy to neutralize or manipulate them. They have big red buttons that you can push like an arcade.
Being a dyslexic I have an incredibly acute ability to notice patterns. I can see the narcissist behavior pattern. So it's difficult to manipulate someone like me.
That's awesome...a great way to explain that perspective..I get it!!!
Many autistic people are also empathic because of our affective empathy
I'm opposite of dyslexic. I can write really well, my stepmom was a malignant narc and also dyslexic. I hope I can see behavioral patterns well too though.
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Narcissists need you to play a role that helps them to control you. Just figure out what role you are fulfilling for them and stop or limit doing it. It will usually be a particular role that you commonly do to help them. This is your best defense.
yes ❤
He wanted me to be his mommy and regulate his emotions. Once I stopped doing that, he changed.
The importance behind the expression, “Stand for something or you’ll fall for anything” I always believed this as it is my motivating force behind all my passions. Ultimately, it is what saved me in my past marriage. I don’t like labels but my ex husband falls heavy on the signs and symptoms of a narcissist and as submissive as I can be, he was not expecting the transparency, patience and direct actions he was served by me. I don’t wish him harm because I will always love him but I hope moving forward, he can reassess his levels of sincerity and honesty. You play, you pay.
Yours is truly the path taken by 'super empaths'... that is the capability to still love the narcissistic person, but know the greatest act of love is to trim their 'power' with tough love actions.... boundary after boundary placed until the narcissistic person fully crumbles under the weight of their own life-long performance. Only by reaching pretty much rock bottom can a narcissistic person have a chance to fully take on their demons... the super empath knows deep down the narcissist suffers greatly from self-doubt, and self-guilt for each action they take which is always self-desctructive of all they so desperately wish for in the first place.
It is truly a tragic condition for the narcissistic person themselves and all around them who cares about them for better or worse! 🙏🏼
When an empath stands up for themselves and voices out.... and do what's needed to be done to get the justice.... it embarrassed the narcissist.
This just sounds like a healed empath to me
Yeah have been an empath with low self love ,now am learning and healing
Yup
Respect yourself
Before respecting anyone else 👍👍👍
You nailed it perfectly, an empathy who's healed from a narcissist won't be susceptible to their tricks
@@G2312 That's awesome!
Exactly as mentioned in the video, narcissist forget things easier, the little things. When the super empath brings the topic up, they can not account for their actions
They'll lie and say something else.
I do forget easily, like what i did yesterday i've already forgotten bout it. Am I a narcissist then?
@@pipomemo5211 that's different. If you by any chance watch a reality tv show. Watch selling sunset and take note of Christine from s1 to s4. She's a textbook narcissist. I personally learn about how narcissist work because of her lmao
This leads to confusion for me because we cannot discuss a topic since they can't remember. It's my recollection vs theirs and they deny it or conveniently don't remember doing or saying it. That's a waste of time for me.
Did they forget or are they gaslighting? 👀👀 gotta watch out.
I did. I destroyed a few including my own family damn proud of it
Yeah, your conscience hurts like a bitch for a week but then again no pain no gain is the rule in life. Then it leaves its place to contentedness. I kinda hate how I can't turn off my conscience for narcissists, I wanna be able to switch modes and go full monster on them then go back to normal like nothing happened.
Destroying is not the right word . I suggest revealing, not accepting, refusing to engage and finally go no contact
omg me too pamela!!!!! xx
Congrats to you! Anytime you can remove a narc from your life, it's such a great feeling!!!
My family is trying to destroy me, and my little girl. I am very protective of her though. I trust in The Lord. I have been trying to be calm, even with all the threats. I am not going to keep allowing them to hurt me. Praise The Lord!
Yay I’m officially a super empath! 👏😁 …….. I’ve known a few narcissists in my time, & helped my best friend escape from her narc husband. She moved to a different country, but I was still near his home. He knew me well enough not to mess with me, & ended up a very lonely man, due to his own actions……..stay strong all of you Empaths x
Ok I'm a Super Empath. I had 3 friends that I realized were Narcs. Being raised in a family of Narcs I recognize them a lot quicker than others, who had more normal families. Once I realize what they are, their negative words + put downs bonce off me. I just smile smugly + leave an uncomfortable silence in which their own internal dialog eats them up + they implode, which makes me laugh out loud. Then I'll state that I didn't realize how jealous they were of me. That's very upsetting for them, that they can't control my emotions. Then I start making firm boundaries they have to stay with in + we know how narcs hate boundaries. Usually the 'friendship' ends sometime after that, from their end, b/c they do demand control + I'm just too much work, LOL. Now I'm a kind, caring, loyal friend but if you take my kindness for weakness + then try to crush me, oh bitch any care I had for you is out the window.
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Good for you man I had pop shoots
I have zero tolerance with narcissists or psychopath and I do spot them quickly😊
There is one right now who wishes she hadn't met me!!!
@Indigo Avatar do tell details , I need to use it on my neighbor
Best way to confound a narcissist is to ignore them and refuse to let them intimidate and bother you. Narcissists are very sick people badly in need of psychiatric help. Narcissists will bad mouth you to important people to defeat you. If so, you will have to do damage control to set the record straight. Gradually, people catch onto them. Then narcissists defeat themselves. Evil eventually burns itself out.
How...? Let we know so we can crush them together
@@nitadavis7438 , I would like to know details also.
They are always trying to chip away at your self-esteem if you engage them. It can be subtle and not so subtle. I played along for a while because he was an old friend until it became too ridiculous and sad. I went no contact.
No contact and don't give them any energy/thoughts
What I’ve learned: If the narcissist heard that you’re sharing their evil behavior first, they’ll talk to you and blame you for everything
Thanks for the heads up
A narcissist will blame you for everything no matter what the outlying situation is. Trust me on this one.
Exactly...thats what happened in my case as well
I will remember this and make sure they don't know that I know.
This is great. I've literally transformed into a super empath through information and decisiveness after deciding I wasn't putting up with narcs anymore.
What a powerful being to become!
I’m delighted to know I’m a super empath. I was born and raised by two major narcissists, and they made me so sick I was seeing people with blue square heads, green triangles coming out of their heads, lived in a pink iridescent bubble, etc. It took 20+ years to heal from it, but I didn’t allow them to fill me with hate as they tried to do. They are both deceased now, and I love the peace and tranquility that surrounds me.
I do not think you can destroy a narcissist You can move on and heal and have joy and peace and that is winning
Yeah you can take their power over you away by removing yourself from the situation; but the narcissist will just go and find someone else to torture.
You can, by ignoring them and making others ignore them too. Without attention, narcissist struggles hard.
@@maearcher4721 Just a thought but if you think "abandoning" or leaving a narcissist will hurt them. Just remember you aren't special. Theres 8billion people on earth and if you think you matter I promise you don't. you will be replaced. Like always.
Cheers!
@@maearcher4721 a narcissist is not emotionally attached to it's prey. They think of the prey like you do a toaster. Thinking you can destroy them is naiive, wanting to just shows they have hurt you and manipulated you into wanting revenge. It gives them more fuel.
Yeah. Becoz trying to destroy a narcissist will only make you feel more exhausted. It's better to go on god's path and heal.
Wow, this is really beautiful and true! I guess I’m a super empath. I always knew I was really sensitive compared to others. I always knew that I could read others really easily, and I would use that to take care of people better. My older sister is a narcissist, a dangerous one at that I grew up with her bullying me I always felt like she was jealous of me. She got married, and when she did she got married to a narcissist with anger issues just like her, then they both targeted me. I shouldn’t have let it get as far as it did but finally I started standing my ground and standing up for myself. I used their own tactics against them at some points. This video explains exactly how I got them out of my life. There was violence and physical harm that happened but I came out of it alive thank God. I can tell you I have never felt such peace and happiness until I cut them out of my life! I felt really bad. I wanted to save her because she was my sister, but she would not let me help her or her husband. It got so bad that it was either them or me and I chose survival/ self-preservation. I am grateful to God that I have a great family and support system who helped me out I could not have done it without the support group around me. God and My family. God bless everyone who is going through that kind of abuse. God doesn’t just want us to survive. God wants us to thrive!
The sad part of trying to do anything with a narc will drain your energy one way or the other. just let them be, it isn't our job to fix them up or even destroy. We are too precious to even say a hello to them. 😏
Yep. Run! Keep your good energy.
Why are people believing they are all Dr's now day's? Your a narcissistic if you believe that you are too good for anyone.
@@morganpeck the experience teaches you much more than a Doctor's degree in psychology can :)
@@morganpeck who says what is in a psychology book is any good anyways. None of it is based on scientific facts, it’s information passed down thru the centuries based on findings from men who thought they were so smart and knowledgeable yet performed lobotomies.
@@ukgaragegold Spoken like a true narcissist! Ta Ta!
SUPER EMPATHS WAKEUP AND QUIETLY LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK NO MATTER IF THEY ARE IN LOVE AND AT THE END SHE/ HE WONT GIVE A DAMN OF THE NARCISSIST. 😊♥️
I did this Sunday. Felt good!
When children are involved they keep their oar in the water.
Best thing to
do. And easy in the end.
Just constantly talk about Jesus and the narcissist will leave you alone
Sadly there are a lot of narcissitic Christians, because...
1. Being around Christians gives them more supply because Christians ought to be kind and forgiving, so they tolerate them proably a lot longer than others would.
2. They can shine with fake kindness and faith and people will think even more that they are good, because who could be so faithful and a Monster at the same time.
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I mentioned I burn frankincense to a narc once, never seen a life form disappear faster 🥰🥰🥰🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
lmao that's a pretty funny tactic that just might work. however not against Christian narcs
😂 Love this
This was super interesting! I've had several situations where I've confronted a narcissist and then just walked away. It's had some interesting results, and I'm sure they never expected that to happen and that I'd come back begging. Except...I don't. No regrets either. Those are not people I want in my circle.
Walking away completely is enough to set a manipulative and vengeful narcissist off and have them try everything and anything to hurt the empath. I would add to your super empath ability list the fact that the empath doesn't wish the narcissist ill they just want to be left alone to live their lives and they do not respond with the same negative or manipulative behaviors as a narcissist employs (at core we just don't behave that way because we don't think that way, it's just not who we are).
bizbit34,You are beautiful 🌹🌷🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Well, that's what I did. I had some help from someone who bought me a plane ticket and picked me up when he was gone. It was such a close call though, I still can't believe it was probably less than ten seconds. A smarter thing to do would be to call the police and have them there as you're leaving just in case the maniac shows up. I never had contact with him once I left and found out he died almost one year after I left him. I have no idea what killed him, but I'm lucky I don't have to worry about him ever trying to find me now. If anyone is serious about leaving, why would they even consider letting someone know where they are going, or letting them have their phone number? If you are serious about saving your life, then you don't care whether you affected them in some way, you are only supposed to think about yourself at that point. Anything else is unnecessary drama.
@@christianpulisic7784 Thank you, I agree on not needing one in my life. It took to many unsuccessful relationships to get to the point where I could recognize them and not give them the opportunity to be a part of my life or to walk away as soon as the first signs appear (many of them don't show their true stripes for a little while, I think that's how many empaths get pulled down and don't see it for what it really is & end up staying with one of them). I can tell you at least for me it's made finding the right person, the one you don't lose yourself to, the one who truly wants you to be happy and doesn't try to control you, they encourage you and want you to be able to do the things you want to or enjoy doing without guilt tripping or gaslighting you. Are you an empath or have someone in your life who's one?
@@maryb6686 I'm so glad you got away from him safely. When you're in that position it's not as easy to think about details, even something like having the police there. I had a similar experience but no plane ticket. I'd dropped him off at work and a friend met me at my house with a Uhaul truck, helped me load most of my things and left, it's was in my college years and I showed up unannounced at my parents with all my things, I'm lucky I have understanding parents. The strangest part of it was about half way there I suddenly realized that I could hear the music on the radio which had been on the whole time not just that drive. It's scary how much they can influence or manipulate someone. I agree with you about not staying in contact with them, I'm in a unique situation where unfortunately the narcissist I ended up having problems with although I cut off all forms of communication, blocked him on my phone, email and any other way he could see anything about me online he's still a member at the resort I live at and while I have contacted the police and spoken to the manager without proof beyond my reporting it or him trying to physically harm me they can't do anything about it. He doesn't try to contact me but spent a lot of time & energy trying to get someone else to talk about me or join him in his campaign to damage my reputation only to find there were no people who would do either and no one believes his rumors? So I basically just ghosted him, I've put him out of my mind, he doesn't deserve space there and let it go. It's worked for me for a couple of years. He turned to drugs then started selling them and lost the little bit of credibility he may have had and he's alienated himself from all but those who buy drugs from him and 99% of them only speak to him about drugs. All in all he's done the job of keeping him away from me himself, he just made the people he tried to get to tell him about me to be more protective of me. My situation is unique, to anyone else reading my reply I strongly advise doing exactly what Mary B. recommends!!!
@@bizbit34 You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌷.I am Christian from the States.You?
When I tried proving the narcissist wrong one time, he called me crazy and delusional. This one I dated for YEARS gaslighted me all the time. Best thing I ever did was leave him. Saw him the other day by chance with another victim. I wanted to take her aside but thought against it. I wish her luck
It's better to take her aside. End the abuse right then and there. I've helped free a few women from abusive men when I tool the time to talk to them about how they abused me.
How can someone be so hurtful to someone who is kind and friendly with no hidden agenda after two times with their same lies I give up I don't even try anymore
Because narcissists are evil and prey on good people who they see as weak and easy targets. Narcissists act intimidating. However, they are cowards. They never confront those who they see as stronger than they are. They prey on good people and hate whatever is good. Narcissists get off on hurting others as it gives them a sense of power. You must do damage control. You are right to get them out of your life.
That you're kind and friendly is why they keep you around. Don't give them what they do not deserve. Save it for someone who deserves your love and apreciates you.
Father forgive them they know not what they do, helps me remember when i was still in bondage and was doing some of the same things that the narcissist does. these are damaged people and they are using the only tools they have , many didn't have parents that taught them or show them how to deal with things properly. their parents were critical all the time about everything and many times abusive too. they grabbed a hold of what they could use out of what they knew and had been shown as a child. your basically dealing with a child regardless of the age of the person.if you can get them to face that inner hurt scared confused child and give it the answers it needs for it to have peace the person can become the adult they havent been able to achieve in life. you gotta think they are terrified inside, they see most things through magnifying glasses so what may be no big deal to us and our view of things but they may actually be thinking that it might kill them. the reason they go to good people is because 1 they don't want to be hurt and if your nice they feel less threatened by you 2 you have the qualities they wish they had, thats why they mimic you and repeat to others the things you say and told them, they want to be like you which is a good sign if you have good qualities that they want to change. if you knew the terror, anxiety, shame, guilt, depression they felt you would not be able to give up and not try anymore.you would do anything to help rescue them from their current hell.i try to remember all the things Christ was going thru , the things he knew were coming, the people he had around him, even the ones he was closest to that wouldn't even claim to know him and how Christ wouldn't stop loving and helping others without getting irritated at all , still having diner with one he knew would be betraying him tomorrow. don't get that anti-christ spirit(Selfish Me-Me Spirit)like the majority of people seem to have at this time. have cuz you'll never make it to where you can live more abundantly like Christ mentioned if you don't break those chains and get the LOVE. got so much more I want to say but gotta go.
@@ganymeade5151 you explained it perfectly.
It's called divine providence as Swedenborg would write so long ago as not even the narc with their destructive behaviours is given a one way ticket to the hells.
❤A person seeking to destroy another person is a certified Narc. Being confident in who you are is one thing. But knowing who you're dealing with is most important. Knowing keeps you distant in the heart. Understanding you're in the presence of a sick person who never will change and only represents AT ONE TIME all the qualities you were
looking for. I'm empathetic to the downtrodden....but I'm no fool. Best bet if someone is a "super empath" write down all the things they did and said to you so you will never forget. Then detach!!
I told my former girlfriend who was a classic narcissist something that really profoundly worked.
I said that when I look into your eyes all I see is self-pity and loneliness.
" When I look into your eyes"...... Obvious to most people is considered a metaphor, and in this case it is.
That's an amazing dialogue. Don't mind if I steal it.... *takes a ss
@@vector3d654 all words are free domain
Well said!
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@BobSmith-kd4oc I said the exact same thing to my partner a year ago, and he was shocked to say the least. But you know what? For years, he was a PSR for the State…helping children in dysfunctional family situations. So it always amazed me that the amount of schooling he had acquired, he never recognized his own Narcissism. Anyway, after I told him to go back to school and learn about Narcissism, and how I felt about his self-loathing hatred, something clicked inside his brain. it just flat worked….but, out of habit, Initially, after I said it, he went into a *massive* rage. I calmly went into the bedroom and locked the door behind me. I thought he was going to knock the door down and told him if he didn’t stop, I was calling the police. SILENCE. A few minutes later, I walked out of the bedroom, not saying a word to him, got my purse and phone, and left for the night. I went back the next day, calmly, and quietly told him that if he ever acted Iike a spoil rotten Narcissistic brat again, I will leave for good. I also told him this was his own, personal last chance to change into someone who is well respected and loved, instead of someone feared. He stood there, tears in his eyes, and said: “I want to change - I just don’t know how”. I think this only worked because he was ACTUALLY tired and beaten down because of always having to fight for respect. This may not work for other people, and may just work because the Narc is mentally tired.
I am a super Empath. It took time to get here. I mostly just an empath for a long time but I’ve learned and I feel wise now. I feel I have the upper hand. I can read people well.
Me too
The actions you advise here just bring you down to the level of the narcissist. Getting away from a narcissist and staying away is the best move, in my opinion. And, when someone wants to tell me of another person’s secrets, I think to myself, “ Uh-oh! This person is not someone in whom I want to confide.”
Well' Super/Nova's/&Empath's at least We knows what, and Whose we're Dealing with, take Precaution, because, they're A pack of Wolves and Dog's. Beware of whom' You play Down
@@patricereed69 They are flying monkeys who need a sense of power and control and who have no respect for anyone. Eventually, people catch onto them and they are not respected except by people like themselves. Show no weakness around them. They are bad people.
I thought the same thing about a neighbor who told me what I did not want to know about another neighbor and I said to myself, "Well, there's nothing about me to gossip about, I'm clean." Ha ha ha, 12 years later we have a falling out and she just made up stories, I wish I knew what she said to everyone that was so good/bad that overnight my other neighbors suddenly disappeared or even yanked a child to scramble away as they saw me returning from my walk. I was suddenly so despicable no one would even talk to me. Must have been a great story, [totally false of course]. This cost me my livelihood and my stupid 'revenge' cost me a lot more.