The only thing that I disagree with is whatever 'bond' there was in the beginning was not really a bond at all. Just manipulation to get what they can out of us.
18 years in getting no better i always thought she would get older and mature. So i sacrificed and have been waiting torturing myself still at square 1
“There’s a tiny chance you might survive” That’s a great point. Especially since, it seems as if this expectation is part of the unconscious spell within the exploitative mechanisms of any dynamic with a narcissist or highly narcissistic person.
@@emmamonroe3311 I’d imagine, at minimum, a fair amount… Narcissists, and or highly toxic people in general, are notorious for driving people to the brink and beyond.
@@agent_exodus that’s why my ex narc always use to say to me after the accident I can’t believe how strong you are. All that did was confuse me. I had no idea at the time.
I would feel after a few meetings , thst something is not right and that there is something empty about her interaction or interest in me , even though they would say things that would make someone think that they love you
They repeat words back to you... we feel the emptiness of those words... usually you'd feel the warmth and genuiness...but with these people you feel the lack of depth and shallowness
Mine is so hard to get over because while there were subtle signs of emotional abuse, I was still somewhat in the idealization phase. There was just subtle signs of not being truly loved but every time, something big he did countered that I doubted myself. I also didn’t know the extent of how bad things could get and I couldn’t outrightly say I was being abused. Although the last 2 weeks showed a whole different side and even at that, describing it to someone can’t even put the full perspective. I just experienced betrayal and discard suddenly and I’m still lowkey in denial. If he was raising his voice at me, calling me names or Godforbid hitting me, it would have made more sense. It’s so painful when you miss someone that hurt you
You have so many great insights I will suffer through the bogus opinions about how there was something weak, vulnerable or needy about many victims. They take the best in the best people and use it to destroy us because the envy us. No weakness here, my childhood and bad decisions only made me better in every way.
Couldn't agree more about the vulnerability. Some have occupations where that element is in every interaction. Thing is the miscalculation. Everyone human has a time when they are susceptible. After time tames down the wound, intellectual reasoning allows the recovery of logic and ultimately when you have been used. What a nasty acidity it leaves. That taste is something you never experienced before but will never forget. Especially the methods of deception. That is their lasting legacy. Quite frankly in hindsight I admitt I was a rank amateur. Even those early odd tells were right in front of me. The desire for a change out of a loss that crushed your life cannot be done in a giant leap. Only in small steps do you heal as best as possible. The list...hmmm. it's voluminous contents still remains in a magazine rack with other narc publications. Used to look at it. Then only the first page. Then just the rack. Nows it's behind a chair out of sight. Some day we may go no contact with that rack. Instead of experiences, narc awareness preventatives are much more fruitful.
Believe me. You make them feel "Powerful" and they will run with it for eternity. They are the lowest of the low.
With age , things can only get worse , as narcissistic behavior gets more stealthy and sophisticated
THESE INTER-ACTIONS ARE SELF-ABUSE!
Another fine video.👏🏽 Simply the Narc is not worth it …. and sadly, on every level they are WORTHLESS.
You are a source of a life giving changing decision to get away from this toxic **it hole I'm living with. Thank you.❤
The only thing that I disagree with is whatever 'bond' there was in the beginning was not really a bond at all. Just manipulation to get what they can out of us.
Yes. Definitely not a bond in a good kind of way. A toxic bond. A trauma bond. The same kind of bond that an addict has to their addiction.
Still trying to get my brain to catch up to reality, but thanks to your videos I am in a much better spot. ❤
18 years in getting no better i always thought she would get older and mature. So i sacrificed and have been waiting torturing myself still at square 1
Really Good Information Here !
This is a really helpful video. You express yourself so clearly.
“There’s a tiny chance you might survive”
That’s a great point. Especially since, it seems as if this expectation is part of the unconscious spell within the exploitative mechanisms of any dynamic with a narcissist or highly narcissistic person.
I wonder how many of suicide victims did this due to the narcissists behaviors that we will never ever know about.😑👈🏻
@@emmamonroe3311 I’d imagine, at minimum, a fair amount…
Narcissists, and or highly toxic people in general, are notorious for driving people to the brink and beyond.
@@agent_exodus that’s why my ex narc always use to say to me after the accident I can’t believe how strong you are. All that did was confuse me. I had no idea at the time.
@@emmamonroe3311 I was tasked at being “the rock”… for my former dementor.
Groomed, rather… but nevertheless.
@@agent_exodus your stronger becuz of that. Bless your heart. Stay strong.👊🏻
Damn good one ‼
Thanks !
I would feel after a few meetings , thst something is not right and that there is something empty about her interaction or interest in me , even though they would say things that would make someone think that they love you
They repeat words back to you... we feel the emptiness of those words... usually you'd feel the warmth and genuiness...but with these people you feel the lack of depth and shallowness
Mine is so hard to get over because while there were subtle signs of emotional abuse, I was still somewhat in the idealization phase. There was just subtle signs of not being truly loved but every time, something big he did countered that I doubted myself. I also didn’t know the extent of how bad things could get and I couldn’t outrightly say I was being abused. Although the last 2 weeks showed a whole different side and even at that, describing it to someone can’t even put the full perspective. I just experienced betrayal and discard suddenly and I’m still lowkey in denial.
If he was raising his voice at me, calling me names or Godforbid hitting me, it would have made more sense. It’s so painful when you miss someone that hurt you
Great video, where are the nice people
They are everywhere. Just like the horrible people are.
You have so many great insights I will suffer through the bogus opinions about how there was something weak, vulnerable or needy about many victims. They take the best in the best people and use it to destroy us because the envy us. No weakness here, my childhood and bad decisions only made me better in every way.
best video so true omg
Couldn't agree more about the vulnerability. Some have occupations where that element is in every interaction. Thing is the miscalculation. Everyone human has a time when they are susceptible. After time tames down the wound, intellectual reasoning allows the recovery of logic and ultimately when you have been used. What a nasty acidity it leaves. That taste is something you never experienced before but will never forget. Especially the methods of deception. That is their lasting legacy. Quite frankly in hindsight I admitt I was a rank amateur. Even those early odd tells were right in front of me. The desire for a change out of a loss that crushed your life cannot be done in a giant leap. Only in small steps do you heal as best as possible. The list...hmmm. it's voluminous contents still remains in a magazine rack with other narc publications. Used to look at it. Then only the first page. Then just the rack. Nows it's behind a chair out of sight. Some day we may go no contact with that rack. Instead of experiences, narc awareness preventatives are much more fruitful.
I call it "Poo-Poo Voodoo," but yeah.
Another great video. Thank you for posting.
Brilliant video thank you 🙏
Wow, you are good, maybe the best.
This is so good
They are NOT worth anything
Unbothered it s story telling 😂