The most horrible part of being in a situation like this is not knowing what narcissism is - not knowing what your dealing with - it took me 59 years to figure out what narcissism is - people suffer needlessly for years and years - so thank you for educating us
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I’m a male in a marriage for 29 years who never understood what this was. Your videos have literally made sense out of nonsense. I tried everything to make her happy and now only understand what this is. Your insight is incredible. The best of all videos on this subject I’ve seen. It’s almost like you’ve lived my life
I listen to a lot of content on narcissism to help me navigate my life post narcissist. The way you explain things is amazing and unique. I can tell youve lived through it. If you're not a professional in this area you should seriously consider going into this field. Thank you so much for your channel. God bless you. This is helping me so much!❤
Thank you. You’re an amazing speaker and I always take away important realizations from your videos. This time it was “he Reveled in the opportunity to make her feel shame and criticize her because that is what made him feel in control of the relationship.” What a lightbulb moment!!
Holy crap my marriage to the T at this point I feel I’ve wasted 15 years of my life my daughters life he has never believed me when I’d say I love you I tried providing myself stop having anything to do with my family I had no friends for 14 1/2 years everything is my fault I’m a liar cheater I’m nasty it’s been mind games betrayal belittled lied to cheated on called horrible names truly a wast of time and the best part about it all I’m stuck here with him I’ve burned all my bridges trying to prove myself
I am so thankful to see such a young person speaking out against this sneaky coercive behavior. How in the world do you have so much knowledge on this subject at such a young age? Ive found that they have to be the "master" at everything. I had mine try to get me to call him that a couple of times (jokingly)?
That happened to me it was fishing, when I fell for his passion, and I thought it was love connection , but wholly it was control, when I didn't want to clean the fish with him, or tidy up to boat, or complaining that why did he have to hop out of the boat to unjam it when it got stuck in the mud on the shallow side of the water. I started hating his passion, when he named the boat after me, with a sign on it to show everyone he loves me. But treats me with contempt when I start saying no I don't want to go fishing today 😞
Hey there Hope you're enjoying your week. I have to say I'm confident this WILL be the year I completely forget about ALL narcs from my past. I am FINALLY getting my own closure after being trauma bonded to that female covert narc I told you about for 4 1/2 yrs who smear campaigned me almost 5 yrs ago 😁. I kept ruminating due to sadness of not getting christ-like closure (which I now realize I'd never get from her), anger when I broke no contact to discover those vulgar things she posted and vulgar pages she follows online confirming she is a religious fraud, AND most of all my own paranoia that she'd smear me again if/when I become a public figure as I'm an aspiring actor. It's crazy that I spoke with someone who told me that *calling out a narc publicly to avoid a smear campaign will only create one* 😯😅. I actually feel stupid now because me calling her out ignited her smearing me to others. I'm thinking "if I had known me calling out that covert narc on Facebook on her bad behavior almost half a decade ago would've caused her smearing me to other people, I would've never contacted her at all 😂." I know publicly exposing negative things I discovered about her on social media will only result in another smear campaign, probably even worse 😅.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I just am FINALLY accepting any further/future exposing of her on my end will ALWAYS just = more smearing and dismissive on her end.
All your points are very true. I just learned and had to rewatch The Shining as an adult …Wendy was actually suffering from schizophrenia. I believe there’s a breakdown on YT. Nothing from her viewpoint was real.
😅❤yes my sister always made me feel ashamed, I said to her you don't think i am good enough for you do you? , her answer was simply no, no, no, which told me yes, it was true because she would have vehemently denied it, after feeling intense shame after she winrd and dined ,e at a restaurant, treating and talking to ,e like a chi d, i walked away😂 feeling intense shame, thats when i went no contact, i don"t answer her calls, been 6 months omuch more power and peace, not having her put me down!
If you're not on the same page it ain't happening maybe when young you can get close for a while but if you both don't put in effort it dies and once you've lied betrayed it's done its not difficult as much as nacasists make it because it's never true and empaths know that
The most horrible part of being in a situation like this is not knowing what narcissism is - not knowing what your dealing with - it took me 59 years to figure out what narcissism is - people suffer needlessly for years and years - so thank you for educating us
You’re welcome. And I totally agree! That’s the whole reason I do this. Thanks for watching!
Perfectly said!
In the beginning, we just thought they were control freaks or something
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I’m a male in a marriage for 29 years who never understood what this was. Your videos have literally made sense out of nonsense. I tried everything to make her happy and now only understand what this is. Your insight is incredible. The best of all videos on this subject I’ve seen. It’s almost like you’ve lived my life
I listen to a lot of content on narcissism to help me navigate my life post narcissist. The way you explain things is amazing and unique. I can tell youve lived through it. If you're not a professional in this area you should seriously consider going into this field. Thank you so much for your channel. God bless you. This is helping me so much!❤
I noticed that too. Telling someone about the emotional abuse was the only thing that would get it to stop for a minute
Thank you. You’re an amazing speaker and I always take away important realizations from your videos. This time it was “he Reveled in the opportunity to make her feel shame and criticize her because that is what made him feel in control of the relationship.” What a lightbulb moment!!
Love your explanation clarity that other videos try to but I couldn't understand.. God bless you 🙏
Holy crap my marriage to the T at this point I feel I’ve wasted 15 years of my life my daughters life he has never believed me when I’d say I love you I tried providing myself stop having anything to do with my family I had no friends for 14 1/2 years everything is my fault I’m a liar cheater I’m nasty it’s been mind games betrayal belittled lied to cheated on called horrible
names truly a wast of time and the best part about it all I’m stuck here with him I’ve burned all my bridges trying to prove myself
I am so thankful to see such a young person speaking out against this sneaky coercive behavior. How in the world do you have so much knowledge on this subject at such a young age? Ive found that they have to be the "master" at everything. I had mine try to get me to call him that a couple of times (jokingly)?
Awww. Thank you so much. I’m not sure how young you think I am, but I’m in my 40s. Plenty of time to learn some things the hard way.
This was my enire existence with my ex narc. You explained my relationship better than I ever could.
24:44 😊
Why do they think that emotionally socially financially mentally shaming/ abusing the mother of his children like this ? Is a good thing to do!?
That happened to me it was fishing, when I fell for his passion, and I thought it was love connection , but wholly it was control, when I didn't want to clean the fish with him, or tidy up to boat, or complaining that why did he have to hop out of the boat to unjam it when it got stuck in the mud on the shallow side of the water. I started hating his passion, when he named the boat after me, with a sign on it to show everyone he loves me. But treats me with contempt when I start saying no I don't want to go fishing today 😞
Hello sweetie just subscribed! Thank you soo much for your videos!! There soo helpful and relatable!❤
You’re welcome. Thanks for watching!
Your videos are spot on right to the point! Appreciate the honesty!
Love your content
Thank you!
Hey there
Hope you're enjoying your week.
I have to say I'm confident this WILL be the year I completely forget about ALL narcs from my past.
I am FINALLY getting my own closure after being trauma bonded to that female covert narc I told you about for 4 1/2 yrs who smear campaigned me almost 5 yrs ago 😁. I kept ruminating due to sadness of not getting christ-like closure (which I now realize I'd never get from her), anger when I broke no contact to discover those vulgar things she posted and vulgar pages she follows online confirming she is a religious fraud, AND most of all my own paranoia that she'd smear me again if/when I become a public figure as I'm an aspiring actor.
It's crazy that I spoke with someone who told me that *calling out a narc publicly to avoid a smear campaign will only create one* 😯😅. I actually feel stupid now because me calling her out ignited her smearing me to others. I'm thinking "if I had known me calling out that covert narc on Facebook on her bad behavior almost half a decade ago would've caused her smearing me to other people, I would've never contacted her at all 😂."
I know publicly exposing negative things I discovered about her on social media will only result in another smear campaign, probably even worse 😅.
Sometimes we have to learn the hard way, but it’s never too late to start ignoring narcissists!
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I just am FINALLY accepting any further/future exposing of her on my end will ALWAYS just = more smearing and dismissive on her end.
All your points are very true. I just learned and had to rewatch The Shining as an adult …Wendy was actually suffering from schizophrenia. I believe there’s a breakdown on YT. Nothing from her viewpoint was real.
😅❤yes my sister always made me feel ashamed, I said to her you don't think i am good enough for you do you? , her answer was simply no, no, no, which told me yes, it was true because she would have vehemently denied it, after feeling intense shame after she winrd and dined ,e at a restaurant, treating and talking to ,e like a chi
d, i walked away😂 feeling intense shame, thats when i went no contact, i don"t answer her calls, been 6 months omuch more power and peace, not having her put me down!
Wow, Susan and I had the same relationship 😂
The shame game gets old real quick. Nobody needs a whining nag.
If you're not on the same page it ain't happening maybe when young you can get close for a while but if you both don't put in effort it dies and once you've lied betrayed it's done its not difficult as much as nacasists make it because it's never true and empaths know that
How do I recover from all this , put a video so I can feel about my self 🙏
...and you said you're not a professional...thanks.
Do you have any videos about DARVO? Thanks
A lot of them touch on the principle, but I haven’t done a video specifically on that subject. Thanks for the idea!