HI Tyness. I think social anxiety disrupts men's life the most when it comes to dating. Typically the women don't have to approach or initiate physical contact like going for a kiss etc. If you cannot walk up to a woman and start a conversation or flirt then you're in big trouble in life. Loneliness, remaining a virgin, posible addictions using drink, drugs, pornography etc. A shy woman in some cultures or times may be considered tolerable or even desirable or "cute" but there is no mercy for a shy guy.
@@outputformat I'm not sure if my comment can through previously so trying again... I completely agree that gender norms are different for men and women and the expectation that man should "pursue" women in heterosexual dating situations makes the experience of social anxiety uniquely difficult in this area. You summed up some of the issues such as loneliness and possible addictions very well. I really appreciate your feedback, and I know other viewers will be able to relate.
7:00 Not surprising. SA is much more crippling for men than for women. I've fought SA along with autism all my life. Psychotherapy of course got me nowhere. It continues to be a struggle despite my being well into middle age
Hey that's me, I'm the boring normal cis guy :) Your videos are so great! you nailed everything. Yeah dating is the thing I struggle with the most because initiating something like that seems impossible. And definitely nobody has ever initiated anything with me :) I was definitely surprised that men seek help more than women. I'll throw out a totally anectodical and unsupported idea that's probably totally wrong. I think for some men, like me, it's very hard to make any connections at all, like a partner or a friend. That happens for a lot of reasons but you mentioned most of the ones I can think of in this video. For example it's not seen as masculine to make deep connections with other men so you don't for fear of being looked at as weird and feminine. And so for men I think it's more likely that they end up in a more dire situation where they have no one, and so they get to a point where they feel like there's no other choice but to try therapy (that's what happened to me). If you're a women with social anxiety you might have a little bit easier of a time finding a couple close relationships like a partner or best friend, and even if you're social anxiety is really bad you think "I've got a partner and a best friend that's fine, so I don't have to go to the scary therapist to work on my anxiety" Because I think if I were in that situation I never would've gone. Sorry long rambly answer. I need to watch your videos more they are so good!!!!!
This is great feedback. Dating is SUCH a big deal/trigger for anxiety because there are so many layers to a dating situation. And, your theory here about men and therapy makes a lot of sense to me. Desperation could very well be the underlying issue. I'm curious to see if this finding is replicated in other research studies and what, exactly, the findings are. I appreciate you watching and commenting SO much!
Coming from woman with social anxiety this sounds very logical. It applies to me. I have a good connection to my family and some deep friendships so I am not that lonely and I think that’s one reason I didn’t go to therapy yet
What are other unique ways that men experience social anxiety?
HI Tyness. I think social anxiety disrupts men's life the most when it comes to dating. Typically the women don't have to approach or initiate physical contact like going for a kiss etc. If you cannot walk up to a woman and start a conversation or flirt then you're in big trouble in life. Loneliness, remaining a virgin, posible addictions using drink, drugs, pornography etc. A shy woman in some cultures or times may be considered tolerable or even desirable or "cute" but there is no mercy for a shy guy.
@@outputformat I'm not sure if my comment can through previously so trying again...
I completely agree that gender norms are different for men and women and the expectation that man should "pursue" women in heterosexual dating situations makes the experience of social anxiety uniquely difficult in this area. You summed up some of the issues such as loneliness and possible addictions very well.
I really appreciate your feedback, and I know other viewers will be able to relate.
7:00 Not surprising. SA is much more crippling for men than for women. I've fought SA along with autism all my life. Psychotherapy of course got me nowhere. It continues to be a struggle despite my being well into middle age
Hey that's me, I'm the boring normal cis guy :) Your videos are so great! you nailed everything. Yeah dating is the thing I struggle with the most because initiating something like that seems impossible. And definitely nobody has ever initiated anything with me :) I was definitely surprised that men seek help more than women. I'll throw out a totally anectodical and unsupported idea that's probably totally wrong. I think for some men, like me, it's very hard to make any connections at all, like a partner or a friend. That happens for a lot of reasons but you mentioned most of the ones I can think of in this video. For example it's not seen as masculine to make deep connections with other men so you don't for fear of being looked at as weird and feminine. And so for men I think it's more likely that they end up in a more dire situation where they have no one, and so they get to a point where they feel like there's no other choice but to try therapy (that's what happened to me). If you're a women with social anxiety you might have a little bit easier of a time finding a couple close relationships like a partner or best friend, and even if you're social anxiety is really bad you think "I've got a partner and a best friend that's fine, so I don't have to go to the scary therapist to work on my anxiety" Because I think if I were in that situation I never would've gone. Sorry long rambly answer. I need to watch your videos more they are so good!!!!!
This is great feedback. Dating is SUCH a big deal/trigger for anxiety because there are so many layers to a dating situation.
And, your theory here about men and therapy makes a lot of sense to me. Desperation could very well be the underlying issue. I'm curious to see if this finding is replicated in other research studies and what, exactly, the findings are.
I appreciate you watching and commenting SO much!
Coming from woman with social anxiety this sounds very logical. It applies to me. I have a good connection to my family and some deep friendships so I am not that lonely and I think that’s one reason I didn’t go to therapy yet
When are coming back 😫? These videos helped
I'm thinking about getting into therapy or counseling and thanks for the information
You are so welcome. I appreciate you watching and leaving your feedback.
@@DrTynessaFranks No problem 😊