Like me, who has an interrogation tomorrow for back to school after the Christmas break and its on 5 entire chapters and I want to kms but instead of studying I'm on this platform help 💀😭
Thats what someone said to me. I shared with him about someone that I knew in my family who was so academically advanced, popular, fit and beautiful but she just went down the wrong path with drugs. Sometimes smart people have so much weight on their shoulders from others that they don't know how to mentally handle it. Everyone expects them to figure it out and know how to solve their own problems but ....they forget those are people too.
It amazes me how people NEVER hold the teenager accountable for making bad choices and always " surely the parents did something to make him like that" no just no. You should know teenagers sometimes just make these horrible choices without realizing the consequences.
@Phentic No, its not enough. Because one side, especially a parent's side of the story, can be biased. We don't know how this kid was treated, we don't know what their home life was like, we don't know what lead to the kid experimenting, we don't know if the parents have made major mistakes that they are omitting. I'm sure we are all familiar with stories of parents lying or pretending to be victims or pretending good parents with bad kids (when its the opposite). Am I saying the parents are bad people? Absolutely not, but my point is, we don't know the absolute truth.
@@PhenticWill teenagers make bad choices on their own? Yes. But do they also have things that make them turn to that? Yes. We are not sure what his life was like, we are only hearing the parent’s side of it. So how is exactly is that “enough” information when we are not sure about their family life? Do you know this family?
@@princess7jasminebut you're still making excuses for his behavior There is causation which is the reason behind all of it. There's a reason for everything that happens But an excuse is saying that it's okay to react like that to that reason. What he did is not okay at all No matter how he was treated My ex-husband abused me for 15 years. He raped me and manipulated me and played with me. But I didn't realize it was abuse because he never hit me. My parents neglected me. I have an Asian mother and they're very particular. Basically if you don't meet all their standards or failure and kind of unlovable You think I went and did all this stuff? No. I didn't go out and go to sleep around or go do drugs or go do all this other stuff that I technically, according to your justification, should have had the right to do What he did is not justifiable at all Yet you are saying that what he did is okay because it was the result of bad things happening to him Get a brain
I guess him being smart was not only a gift but also a burden to him. Being too intelligent makes people lonely and they overthink. Also most of them see so many problems that they need to solve in their eyes because they are so smart and no one else could do that but them
@@lola-ws3jr Intelligence is various factord adding up. Knowledge and fast learning are one big part of it. No one will be over the top in all of these factors, but OPs son is definitely over-average intelligent. Normally you're either socially intelligent or intelligent in technical stuff like maths and so on. That often makes the latter socially awkward or at least struggling to find friends and so on.
My brother had a similar story. Great kid, wonderful student, smartest person the family had ever seen. Unfortunately the mental problems that he inherited hit him hard. He became a pathological liar, started taking drugs and eventually became homeless. He died of a drug overdose over a year ago.
My apologies. As a mother I can't imagine how hard it has been. We sweat blood bringing our babies into the world & the majority of us go above and beyond. I'm also a recovering addict. I often ask why I'm here and others aren't. For me it's grace. You did all you could it is not your fault. Continue to cherish your sweet memories. Thank you for sharing this story. It may have helped other parents and addicts survive this horrific disease. Blessings
A dead beat dad is a father who gives up on their child for no good reason he tried he did his best to help his child till he couldn’t for his and his wife sake
@@wasted.paper_cl1pThat's not true, it's usually friends and people you trust or look up to that pull you into addiction. It has nothing to do with one's home life, anyone who says their home caused their addiction is lying to themselves to hide their own mistakes.
@wasted.paper_cl1p no that’s false, people turn to substances for all sorts of reasons and just because the kid turned to substances doesn’t mean they had a bad parent or parents
Its like i try to tell both my mom and older sister, when my sister calls my mom a crappy mom and my mother feels guilty. Truth is my mother didn't fail her, my sister WANTED to fail HERSELF. My mother did EVERYTHING, always chasing her down to keep her out of trouble. As the middle child my older sister took ALL of my mothers attention trying to save her, be there for her, care for her...and all my sister did was throw it in her face and basically slap her back in the face with it. My older sister made our older brother and i end up in the shadows with how much attention my sisters bad, wild, toxic and abusive behavior demanded. My mother worked two jobs, went to school all while dealing with cancer. And my sisters bad behavior demanded any other moment she had wanting to be a gangster. My mother is a strong smart woman, but even she couldnt control someone else choices. My sister ending up in prison multiple times and ending up in bad situations was no one's fault but her own. We had a good mother, but my sister did nothing but throw it back in her face. She doesnt think she had a good mother because she is such an absolute abusive narcissist too strung out on drugs to see what was right in front of her.
My half sister was the same. A genius. School was "too easy" for her, so she found thrills in boys and drugs. It ruined her life. Now her daughter is adopted by her grandparents and my sister is a drug mule between Washington and Canada. I hope things are better but the last time I saw her years ago, she was leaving the state for good and told me "You never deserved to be MY little sister" and to "Never look for her" I always loved her, looked up to her, but she seemed to resent me for it, so I stopped trying when she turned 17.
His kid wouldnt have turned to substances in the first place if he was a good dad. Kids aren’t good their whole lives and then just suddenly become a troublemaker for no reason. It is 100% the parents fault
@@wasted.paper_cl1p , oh please!! You HAVE to be joking!! Prisons are PACKED with people who "were such good kids/students"... And no one blames their parents. Ted Bundy, Rodney Aculla, and others also were "good kids/students"... whose families hid their real behavior to "protect them".. and they didn't need drugs to turn them that way. So many convicted killers have become so from drug addictions.. and they used to be "start students/athletes/whatever" as well! Grow up!! There are also millions of homeless people who "had such bright futures.. till drugs. There are again also so many stories of parents who "get a call" that ends up with them finding out their "golden child daughter/son" has had a months/years long drug habit.. and had no clue. And no.. in many of those cases of the latter two situations was there every any neglect or other abuse from a parent/the parents. they thought "I can try this stuff once.. what is the harm?".. but then they are hooked in no time. Seriously.. what echo chamber of intellectually dishonest histrionic cognitive dissonance have you been living in?!?!? You just want a reason to blame someone for something because of your own unreliable narrative/perception/experience.
@@wasted.paper_cl1p it's not always the parents fault. Making bad friends and outside influence can also lead to this. And yea that child is 15 when he started taking substances, he should know the difference that what he is going is right or wrong.
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As much as I sympathize with OP, I'd like to hear their son's side of the story. Was it a traumatic experience that led him to experiment? Was it being in the wrong crowd? Was it due to being under pressure?
I think so too. Like he was really smart so maybe an overactive mind he was trying to dull out to feel normal/ok? Undiagnosed neurodivergence or mental health problems? I don’t know what his social life was like, if he got bullied, or what the inside of his brain feels like.
It’s ok to lie about stuff serious or traumatic that you want to forget. I lie about my 14 inch scar on my thigh because I don’t want to say I had cancer. I make up fun lies like shark attack, surfing accident in Hawaii, piranhas in the Amazon, etc. ❤ you don’t have to live in the past, live towards the future. Life will be more enjoyable. I’m not saying forget your son, I’m saying forget all the bad stuff. It’s ok to ignore him because of what he went through, you need time to heal.
Well at least you tried but if you let him live with you at the time he would drag you down with him so it was a good thing you kicked him out eventually your wife so she couldn't help him no more he was too far gone even before kicking him out you try to help him you're not a bad parent he had everybody saying parents love a good home and go to school and a good future but he messed it up
Stop assuming everything is the parents. He was 15 at the time, three years until he is an adult. If he chooses to use substances then that is his fault. If it was influenced by someone, it could be by a friend or a dealer.
It's really weird the biggest pshycos are from the nicest families. In my experiences people who got abused as kids grow up to be bad at life but not evil. Evil is born
It didn't say anything about how he turned to substances. While it might not have been from his family, he could have gotten involved through a friend or someone else, without knowing him or every detail in his life there's no way to know
He’s locked up. He can’t hurt anyone else, including the parents, nor himself in prison. Why not accept his calls? Why not write to him? I guess forgiveness is not really a thing.
Your problem was putting him on such a high pedestal at a young age. You didn’t humble him, so because of that. The only high he was able to get as he got older was drugs. It’s genuinely shocking to me. How many parents don’t realize we are how we are because of our actions? Yes, he was brilliant. He was doing amazing things. Just say good job. Don’t get him so High , at a young age, that he needs to find it as an adult.
Kinda fishy. Most people who became addicts have a reason based on abuse. That they deny his existence and they "couldn't do anything" is weird to me. There's something missing
Not necessarily. When I was little there was a guy who lived in our neighborhood. He was a very genius guy. But at 16 he got into drugs. He didn't grow up in an abusive household because his mother and father were some of the best people I've ever met till this day. He was the youngest child out of three and the most loved one. But he still turned to drugs just 2 months after his 16th birthday. His parents didn't disown him until he got into murder and stuff. When he did, that was the last straw. He's in jail for around like 5-6 years. But compared to him I grew up in a "fairly" abusive household where my parents were not extremely abusive but they weren't loving either. But compared to that guy I was abused. I didn't touch a cigarette or even alcohol. I haven't dated anyone yet. I'm 21. Neither do I sleep around with multiple people like my friends do. So yeah. As someone who grew up in a situation close to this. This all comes down to you only. No matter the cause. Yeah there are exceptions to these things.
You dont have to be abused to do drugs. You really dont. It often comes from a bad friend group. The problem with addicts is also that the more support they get, the longer it usually takes. Often they need to hit rock bottom to find the strength to improve.
Nope. People having unnecessary sympathy for addicts is what is fishy. Sometimes people just make bad choices and ruin their brilliant life. My brother got video game addiction and ruined his life. There's nothing more to this.
Was in no way abused; from a middle- middle class family in KY with both parents and little siblings... Had a knee injury in 2004 and was hooked on oxys before I graduated in 2007. Used a needle for about a decade... It was an injury that got me hooked- not looking for an escape... 9yr sober on March 24 2025
You seriously only blame him? Some of this story is missing. Why did he get into these substances in the first place? For spite? Or is it just some random trauma that shoved him to do it? Ngl the way you talk about him is super eerie too. Like you want to wash your hands off of him. Which isn’t right, he’s still your son afterall and you’re still his father even if you go low contact. It’s super fishy and I guess I’m just nosy to see if this so called parent actually traumatized their poor child into actually doing drugs.
He's your son. There's no unconditional love here. He made mistakes, bad ones. How do you stop loving him for that? I am astounded. Sounds like he might have had some childhood issues.
And how would you feel after helping your son but he doesn't accept it? "Oh, i love my son so much. He's addicted to substances and killed people. He's such an angel"? Like, you stupid?
Bro killed a few people, it's a little hard to love a murderer. His son lost his "Unconditional love" when he decided to start using substances at 15. Less fortunate children have lost that love a lot easier than OP's son, why don't you go comment this under a post where the kid ISN'T a murderer.
You are 100% to blame, drug problems can be controlled, and if therapy doesn't help you have to find help elsewhere. I have a cousin whose IQ is well over 150. If he wasn't supported in a timely manner and punished with too much free time and too few demands, he wouldn't be able to develop. You shouldn't give up on your son, Jesus died for our sins, he died for our forgiveness, don't take it away from him. bring him back to the one who heals everyone jesus
100% to blame? Oh please, there may be things he left out, but sometimes kids make bad friends and bad choices. He said that they tried everything. The dad gave so much to help his child, only for the kid to not improve. The guy killed people, it's understandable that the father doesn't want anything to do with him.
You got this wrong... OP did everything for his son and all his son did in return is use his own mother and father They love him, but there's nothing they can do Only he got locked up he knew what he did was bad I'm not saying that God won't fogive him But he hurt his parents in every way possible
Jesus can totally help him 100% but it's up to the son if he wants to turn to Jesus or not. No matter how many times they'll try to convince him to turn to Jesus, if the doesn't want to, he won't.
Sometimes the smartest people do not make the best choices.
Like me, who has an interrogation tomorrow for back to school after the Christmas break and its on 5 entire chapters and I want to kms but instead of studying I'm on this platform
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Thats what someone said to me. I shared with him about someone that I knew in my family who was so academically advanced, popular, fit and beautiful but she just went down the wrong path with drugs. Sometimes smart people have so much weight on their shoulders from others that they don't know how to mentally handle it. Everyone expects them to figure it out and know how to solve their own problems but ....they forget those are people too.
Remember kids, being smart and being wise are completely different
True words
It amazes me how people NEVER hold the teenager accountable for making bad choices and always " surely the parents did something to make him like that" no just no. You should know teenagers sometimes just make these horrible choices without realizing the consequences.
We are only hearing one side of the story here, remember that.
@@princess7jasmine And? It's literally enough? He got addicted after experimenting.
@Phentic No, its not enough. Because one side, especially a parent's side of the story, can be biased. We don't know how this kid was treated, we don't know what their home life was like, we don't know what lead to the kid experimenting, we don't know if the parents have made major mistakes that they are omitting. I'm sure we are all familiar with stories of parents lying or pretending to be victims or pretending good parents with bad kids (when its the opposite).
Am I saying the parents are bad people? Absolutely not, but my point is, we don't know the absolute truth.
@@PhenticWill teenagers make bad choices on their own? Yes. But do they also have things that make them turn to that? Yes. We are not sure what his life was like, we are only hearing the parent’s side of it. So how is exactly is that “enough” information when we are not sure about their family life? Do you know this family?
@@princess7jasminebut you're still making excuses for his behavior
There is causation which is the reason behind all of it. There's a reason for everything that happens
But an excuse is saying that it's okay to react like that to that reason.
What he did is not okay at all
No matter how he was treated
My ex-husband abused me for 15 years. He raped me and manipulated me and played with me.
But I didn't realize it was abuse because he never hit me.
My parents neglected me.
I have an Asian mother and they're very particular. Basically if you don't meet all their standards or failure and kind of unlovable
You think I went and did all this stuff?
No. I didn't go out and go to sleep around or go do drugs or go do all this other stuff that I technically, according to your justification, should have had the right to do
What he did is not justifiable at all
Yet you are saying that what he did is okay because it was the result of bad things happening to him
Get a brain
I guess him being smart was not only a gift but also a burden to him. Being too intelligent makes people lonely and they overthink. Also most of them see so many problems that they need to solve in their eyes because they are so smart and no one else could do that but them
He was academically smart which doesn't mean intelligent
Sounds lonely 😌
@@lola-ws3jr Intelligence is various factord adding up. Knowledge and fast learning are one big part of it. No one will be over the top in all of these factors, but OPs son is definitely over-average intelligent. Normally you're either socially intelligent or intelligent in technical stuff like maths and so on. That often makes the latter socially awkward or at least struggling to find friends and so on.
My brother had a similar story. Great kid, wonderful student, smartest person the family had ever seen. Unfortunately the mental problems that he inherited hit him hard. He became a pathological liar, started taking drugs and eventually became homeless. He died of a drug overdose over a year ago.
im so very sorry for your loss bruh
My apologies. As a mother I can't imagine how hard it has been. We sweat blood bringing our babies into the world & the majority of us go above and beyond. I'm also a recovering addict. I often ask why I'm here and others aren't. For me it's grace. You did all you could it is not your fault. Continue to cherish your sweet memories. Thank you for sharing this story. It may have helped other parents and addicts survive this horrific disease. Blessings
That’s not being a dead beat father a real dead beat would have left him before he was born or when he’s was little
True
That's what mine did
@Clarkkie555Damn, how are you doing now?
Wdym who are you?
@@Idontknowhattonamethislol Wdym, who are you?
A dead beat dad is a father who gives up on their child for no good reason he tried he did his best to help his child till he couldn’t for his and his wife sake
He still gave up
His kid wouldnt have turned to substances in the first place if he was a good dad
@@wasted.paper_cl1pThat's not true, it's usually friends and people you trust or look up to that pull you into addiction. It has nothing to do with one's home life, anyone who says their home caused their addiction is lying to themselves to hide their own mistakes.
@wasted.paper_cl1p no that’s false, people turn to substances for all sorts of reasons and just because the kid turned to substances doesn’t mean they had a bad parent or parents
@@wasted.paper_cl1p Absolutely not, some teenagers just make horrible choices, it’s not the parents fault.
Its like i try to tell both my mom and older sister, when my sister calls my mom a crappy mom and my mother feels guilty. Truth is my mother didn't fail her, my sister WANTED to fail HERSELF. My mother did EVERYTHING, always chasing her down to keep her out of trouble. As the middle child my older sister took ALL of my mothers attention trying to save her, be there for her, care for her...and all my sister did was throw it in her face and basically slap her back in the face with it. My older sister made our older brother and i end up in the shadows with how much attention my sisters bad, wild, toxic and abusive behavior demanded. My mother worked two jobs, went to school all while dealing with cancer. And my sisters bad behavior demanded any other moment she had wanting to be a gangster. My mother is a strong smart woman, but even she couldnt control someone else choices. My sister ending up in prison multiple times and ending up in bad situations was no one's fault but her own. We had a good mother, but my sister did nothing but throw it back in her face. She doesnt think she had a good mother because she is such an absolute abusive narcissist too strung out on drugs to see what was right in front of her.
I’m so sorry that happened, I hope your sister could somehow lead herself into the right path
Dawg you write like Greg heffley
Damn the burrito looks good
I know right i wish i could jump in and eat
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Frrrr that burrito looks delish
@@GodsBelovedMitchell that is not the point
That burrito looks so good
He was smart but being smart doesnt equal to wise.
Being smart is really depressing, a lot of very smart people dull their senses to avoid understanding things deeply for a while.
I feel for the parents in this story,it's hard to watch those you love screw up their lives so badly.
My half sister was the same. A genius. School was "too easy" for her, so she found thrills in boys and drugs. It ruined her life. Now her daughter is adopted by her grandparents and my sister is a drug mule between Washington and Canada. I hope things are better but the last time I saw her years ago, she was leaving the state for good and told me "You never deserved to be MY little sister" and to "Never look for her"
I always loved her, looked up to her, but she seemed to resent me for it, so I stopped trying when she turned 17.
These ai voices are getting way to expressive. It's getting uncanny.
that good ol' adidge "you're dead to me"
Who thinks the father in this case is a Deadbeat?!?!? How?
His kid wouldnt have turned to substances in the first place if he was a good dad. Kids aren’t good their whole lives and then just suddenly become a troublemaker for no reason. It is 100% the parents fault
@@wasted.paper_cl1p , oh please!! You HAVE to be joking!! Prisons are PACKED with people who "were such good kids/students"... And no one blames their parents. Ted Bundy, Rodney Aculla, and others also were "good kids/students"... whose families hid their real behavior to "protect them".. and they didn't need drugs to turn them that way. So many convicted killers have become so from drug addictions.. and they used to be "start students/athletes/whatever" as well! Grow up!! There are also millions of homeless people who "had such bright futures.. till drugs. There are again also so many stories of parents who "get a call" that ends up with them finding out their "golden child daughter/son" has had a months/years long drug habit.. and had no clue. And no.. in many of those cases of the latter two situations was there every any neglect or other abuse from a parent/the parents. they thought "I can try this stuff once.. what is the harm?".. but then they are hooked in no time.
Seriously.. what echo chamber of intellectually dishonest histrionic cognitive dissonance have you been living in?!?!? You just want a reason to blame someone for something because of your own unreliable narrative/perception/experience.
@@wasted.paper_cl1p , so the kid shouldn't take any responsibility, right? That is what you are saying.
@@wasted.paper_cl1p it's not always the parents fault. Making bad friends and outside influence can also lead to this. And yea that child is 15 when he started taking substances, he should know the difference that what he is going is right or wrong.
@@wasted.paper_cl1p not dad's fault, you're dumb for claiming kids choices doesn't mean they're responsible for them
"To me,my son died when he was 15,and i've been mourning him even since."
Spreading the gospel❤
Ezra 7:28 says:
"and who has extended his good favor to me before the king and his advisers and all the king’s powerful officials. Because the hand of the Lord my God was on me, I took courage and gathered leaders from Israel to go up with me."
This verse means that, if you're scared of something, know that God, our Lord, is with you!
Amen!❤✝️
❤❤❤ it's disgusting what bad "friends" can do and drugs.. ❤❤❤ I am very sorry.. you did nothing wrong ..
Was there too much pressure for the kid?? Parents putting too much on him??
EQ, emotional intelligence is the best thing you can ever have.
The kid was burnt out
He had a bright future but he chose drugs poor boy 😞
All the druggies I know were deemed to be Really Smart, but for unknown reason they just fell over.
My husbands nephew started out the same drugs in highschool then in and out of jail for drugs. You can not fix an addict.
Imagine OP telling someone his son died, and that person actually lost a child themselves… OP? You need to get your damn story straight.
We all have a story to write sometimes we're the villain in somebody else's story.
Extremely sad
As someone with teenagers....they do what they want regularless of ehat they were taught growing up
How did the child get access to drugs so young?
He thought he was smarter than everyone...
As much as I sympathize with OP, I'd like to hear their son's side of the story. Was it a traumatic experience that led him to experiment? Was it being in the wrong crowd? Was it due to being under pressure?
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What caused him to experiment with drugs? I wonder if he was self medicating for something.....
I think so too. Like he was really smart so maybe an overactive mind he was trying to dull out to feel normal/ok? Undiagnosed neurodivergence or mental health problems?
I don’t know what his social life was like, if he got bullied, or what the inside of his brain feels like.
Emotions, basic need of being connected to source and ability to deal with fear and pain in life. Always over intelect and achievement.
It’s ok to lie about stuff serious or traumatic that you want to forget. I lie about my 14 inch scar on my thigh because I don’t want to say I had cancer. I make up fun lies like shark attack, surfing accident in Hawaii, piranhas in the Amazon, etc. ❤ you don’t have to live in the past, live towards the future. Life will be more enjoyable. I’m not saying forget your son, I’m saying forget all the bad stuff. It’s ok to ignore him because of what he went through, you need time to heal.
Wow, this is a hard one😢
Good Will Hunting bad ending
Well at least you tried but if you let him live with you at the time he would drag you down with him so it was a good thing you kicked him out eventually your wife so she couldn't help him no more he was too far gone even before kicking him out you try to help him you're not a bad parent he had everybody saying parents love a good home and go to school and a good future but he messed it up
Nah, something here isnt adding up, the father is leaving things out
Stop assuming everything is the parents. He was 15 at the time, three years until he is an adult. If he chooses to use substances then that is his fault. If it was influenced by someone, it could be by a friend or a dealer.
It's really weird the biggest pshycos are from the nicest families. In my experiences people who got abused as kids grow up to be bad at life but not evil. Evil is born
It didn't say anything about how he turned to substances. While it might not have been from his family, he could have gotten involved through a friend or someone else, without knowing him or every detail in his life there's no way to know
Wouldn't this be like in the news or smth?
How very sad.
I wonder what happened.
Not to be that guy but I was better at math than my uncle(who was the third best at math in my entire family) when I was 3.
Well WOMP WOMP
Edit: I'm kicking
He’s locked up. He can’t hurt anyone else, including the parents, nor himself in prison. Why not accept his calls? Why not write to him? I guess forgiveness is not really a thing.
No need to forgive.
Your problem was putting him on such a high pedestal at a young age. You didn’t humble him, so because of that. The only high he was able to get as he got older was drugs. It’s genuinely shocking to me. How many parents don’t realize we are how we are because of our actions? Yes, he was brilliant. He was doing amazing things. Just say good job. Don’t get him so High , at a young age, that he needs to find it as an adult.
Stupid people win stupid prizes for free
How much you wanna bet that this story is fake??
Poor boy
Write your kid!! He desperately needs you!!
Kinda fishy. Most people who became addicts have a reason based on abuse. That they deny his existence and they "couldn't do anything" is weird to me. There's something missing
Not necessarily. When I was little there was a guy who lived in our neighborhood. He was a very genius guy. But at 16 he got into drugs. He didn't grow up in an abusive household because his mother and father were some of the best people I've ever met till this day. He was the youngest child out of three and the most loved one. But he still turned to drugs just 2 months after his 16th birthday. His parents didn't disown him until he got into murder and stuff. When he did, that was the last straw. He's in jail for around like 5-6 years. But compared to him I grew up in a "fairly" abusive household where my parents were not extremely abusive but they weren't loving either. But compared to that guy I was abused. I didn't touch a cigarette or even alcohol. I haven't dated anyone yet. I'm 21. Neither do I sleep around with multiple people like my friends do. So yeah. As someone who grew up in a situation close to this. This all comes down to you only. No matter the cause. Yeah there are exceptions to these things.
Not all cases, people can get addicted because of peer pressure or other things
You dont have to be abused to do drugs. You really dont. It often comes from a bad friend group.
The problem with addicts is also that the more support they get, the longer it usually takes. Often they need to hit rock bottom to find the strength to improve.
Nope. People having unnecessary sympathy for addicts is what is fishy. Sometimes people just make bad choices and ruin their brilliant life. My brother got video game addiction and ruined his life. There's nothing more to this.
Was in no way abused; from a middle- middle class family in KY with both parents and little siblings... Had a knee injury in 2004 and was hooked on oxys before I graduated in 2007. Used a needle for about a decade... It was an injury that got me hooked- not looking for an escape... 9yr sober on March 24 2025
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This is awful 😢
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Call the police
WDYM he already has life
Go see him or reply to a letter.
You seriously only blame him? Some of this story is missing. Why did he get into these substances in the first place? For spite? Or is it just some random trauma that shoved him to do it?
Ngl the way you talk about him is super eerie too. Like you want to wash your hands off of him. Which isn’t right, he’s still your son afterall and you’re still his father even if you go low contact.
It’s super fishy and I guess I’m just nosy to see if this so called parent actually traumatized their poor child into actually doing drugs.
Exactly. The dad clearly abused his son or was unavailable or something to have the kid go to substances in the first place
@@wasted.paper_cl1pWhere is the proof of that, the son could have been genuinely curious, especially with a mind like his
@@wasted.paper_cl1pWhere is the proof of that, the son could have been genuinely curious, especially with a mind like his
People seem so ready to jump abuse when a teenager makes a bad decision
@AHaylett It's a possibility too.
And the way the dad talks abut them doesn't help avoid this assumption
Lying to People that he's dead isn't right either lies aren't good
He's your son. There's no unconditional love here. He made mistakes, bad ones. How do you stop loving him for that? I am astounded. Sounds like he might have had some childhood issues.
He is a murderer? What do you expect ? It's not always the family or the childhood people can be mean, narcissist or Psychopath by their choice
Didn't you hear the story? He tried.
And how would you feel after helping your son but he doesn't accept it? "Oh, i love my son so much. He's addicted to substances and killed people. He's such an angel"? Like, you stupid?
You are for real on that plant
Bro killed a few people, it's a little hard to love a murderer.
His son lost his "Unconditional love" when he decided to start using substances at 15.
Less fortunate children have lost that love a lot easier than OP's son, why don't you go comment this under a post where the kid ISN'T a murderer.
🚩 Evil Son 💊 (🪦👦)
failed parenting
Of course you blame the parents. If you act like this then your parents failed :/
Fake ahh
Your job as a parent is to forgive
Call me crazy but if my kid ruins, let alone ends another person's life, I'm disowning their ass.
@@jordinurban4994one of the only sane people in this comment section 😭
Forgive a murderer???
You are 100% to blame, drug problems can be controlled, and if therapy doesn't help you have to find help elsewhere.
I have a cousin whose IQ is well over 150. If he wasn't supported in a timely manner and punished with too much free time and too few demands, he wouldn't be able to develop.
You shouldn't give up on your son, Jesus died for our sins, he died for our forgiveness, don't take it away from him.
bring him back to the one who heals everyone jesus
100% to blame? Oh please, there may be things he left out, but sometimes kids make bad friends and bad choices. He said that they tried everything. The dad gave so much to help his child, only for the kid to not improve. The guy killed people, it's understandable that the father doesn't want anything to do with him.
drug problems can only be controlled by the person themselves wanting to stop
You got this wrong...
OP did everything for his son and all his son did in return is use his own mother and father
They love him, but there's nothing they can do
Only he got locked up he knew what he did was bad
I'm not saying that God won't fogive him
But he hurt his parents in every way possible
Jesus can totally help him 100% but it's up to the son if he wants to turn to Jesus or not. No matter how many times they'll try to convince him to turn to Jesus, if the doesn't want to, he won't.
@@jam-tea
I was talking about the father (OP)
How old are you?
Just a question