5 Sneaky Ways Narcissists Turn Lies into TRUTH

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  • Опубликовано: 5 ноя 2024

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  • @narcabusecoach
    @narcabusecoach  3 дня назад +8

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    • @beloveddaughter717
      @beloveddaughter717 3 дня назад

      Danish I am now going through the exact same thing as you did !!!

  • @susanmercurio1060
    @susanmercurio1060 3 дня назад +54

    #1: They get louder.
    #2: Guilting: They will swear by all that is holy that they didn't.
    #3: Stonewalling: won't recognize you
    #4: Faking an emergency
    #5: They use your reaction to blame you.

  • @Renee-l7s
    @Renee-l7s 2 дня назад +15

    They are TOTALLY aware of what they are doing.

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x 3 дня назад +23

    When you deal with a narcissist, it’s like you are dancing with a devil so we must have nothing to do with them. They are driven by dark evil forces.

  • @MGTOWPsyche
    @MGTOWPsyche 3 дня назад +46

    They scream and talk loud and bang tables to keep you stressed and lower your ability to stay calm and think clearly as your adrenaline levels get stimulated.

    • @Isabela2024-yr
      @Isabela2024-yr День назад

      Anyone experiencing all the above, I could assure you, you're living with the narcissist. The narcissist that was here with me used to yell at me like I'm deaf and dumb. He shouted at me up to the top of his lungs. Like I committed a heinous crime. My neighbors asked me if I was OK. I said no. I'm leaving with the lunatic. My neighbors lost respect to him. I told everyone who he was. He became so quiet since then. Otherwise, I will expose him more. It's for the best if you can get rid of a guy like him.

  • @theyellowshoe
    @theyellowshoe 3 дня назад +16

    One call to 911 puts the "heart attack" to a screeching halt!

  • @mybiz1006
    @mybiz1006 3 дня назад +14

    You've just described every major media source in the US. LOL with a side order of sobbing ..

  • @ericacecchini3998
    @ericacecchini3998 2 дня назад +5

    Danish? You are truly a pure hearted empathetic individual. Your parents are so lucky to have a son like you that cares and has such intellectual wisdom.

  • @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose
    @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose 3 дня назад +21

    Your deep & compassionate videos due to your own sad experiences helped me to become strong & self-confident again & most importantly, to become aware & immune against narcs & (their) gaslighting b s, so that I can avoid them in a short time because they ALL have the same patterns. That's why they are boooring & want to become us individual unique people. 💙 Thanksss a lot & again, dear Danish!

  • @itchysheets1222
    @itchysheets1222 3 дня назад +17

    “Dementors” exactly!
    This is why I record every time a liar start moving their stupid lips that way I don’t get upset I just get out my receipts.

    • @sbfabtfc1
      @sbfabtfc1 3 дня назад +4

      You are very smart to start recording every time they start lying. Everyone should do this to protect themselves and to show others what the narcissists are really doing.

    • @itchysheets1222
      @itchysheets1222 2 дня назад +1

      @ all the time I’m like “no, you actually said x y z on December 4, 2023 at 3:13pm” any argument whatsoever and I literally go back and play that shit out loud for them. My memory is very good, but you can’t argue with a recording. Got tired of having my memory questioned.

    • @sbfabtfc1
      @sbfabtfc1 2 дня назад +2

      @@itchysheets1222 Love it! What reactions did you get when you played the recordings?

    • @itchysheets1222
      @itchysheets1222 2 дня назад +1

      @ stomping off like a 13 year old. To go down to the basement and get drunk and keep ignoring his family. But it’s still a different, less severe mad than the mad he gets when I just make a solid point that kinda butthurts him that he can’t refute bc it makes too much sense he gets irate at that. He’s gone now though. So there’s that.

    • @sbfabtfc1
      @sbfabtfc1 2 дня назад +2

      @itchysheets1222 That was my next question. I'm glad you are free of that nonsense now.

  • @triptiposwal4841
    @triptiposwal4841 3 дня назад +7

    Yup , their mood , music , actors and script writers . My husband did all you said in this episode and swears alot😂

  • @Renee-l7s
    @Renee-l7s 2 дня назад +3

    Exactly what I went through, had a pokerface when he had to leave like he did nothing wrong.

  • @klarissam8719
    @klarissam8719 3 дня назад +6

    Thank you Danish for sharing this video. My mother is always guilt tripping me,and lying. T hat she is not doing evil,nor saying anything about anyone. Being hateful all at the same time.
    But yeah as always your videos are helpful!

  • @MR-ly4xt
    @MR-ly4xt 2 дня назад +3

    Omg yes! We were in the middle of a restaurant and he pretended he was going to pass out. After the staff asked if he wanted a doctor, funnily enough, he was fine within 5 minutes and ate a 3 course meal. I've never been so embarrassed, the staff were giving me strange looks for the rest of the night. He was totally putting it on.

  • @karenluke3923
    @karenluke3923 День назад +1

    My husband doesn't yell and hates when I raise my voice. He embellishes his stories a lot. He gets his digs in by what he says and the tone he uses. He hates when I don't react.

  • @empressbthealkemisst
    @empressbthealkemisst 3 дня назад +3

    😂😂😂 this is hilarious! These types of people are beyond crazy to help defeating them and take your power back keep growing above your emotional capacity to still be able to be affected by them and their tactics and laugh at them and still stay in your power and set boundaries and cut them off

  • @hettykoster9447
    @hettykoster9447 3 дня назад +6

    They always say ; “ Cross my heart , hope to die “

    • @juliechurch1799
      @juliechurch1799 3 дня назад +3

      Or swear on my kids life they say

    • @hettykoster9447
      @hettykoster9447 3 дня назад +2

      @@juliechurch1799 Yes you’re right ! The do swear on their children’s life 😢

  • @ericacecchini3998
    @ericacecchini3998 2 дня назад +1

    Very true Jaan …… They always have a way to make a lie as if it is actually the truth although it is definitely a lie

  • @Buffy-the-Karenslayer
    @Buffy-the-Karenslayer День назад +2

    You just described my husband😢

  • @jodioravets6805
    @jodioravets6805 3 дня назад +2

    I commend you for recognizing the BS!

  • @Sophie-ur2qb
    @Sophie-ur2qb 3 дня назад +1

    Thank you, Danish, for sharing your experiences 🩷 You're helping so many of us find the courage to finally speak out 🫂
    It's impossible to talk to them when they're screaming over you.
    Lol, not aware... I don't believe any of those lies anymore!!! Nobody can force me. I have been forced enough in my life. No more!
    My mother forced me to have an abortion at 16. She told me I better not tell my father because he would have a heart attack and die. I believed it at the time. She had already blamed me for him being in hospital before. She still tries that 💩 but them guilt traps are just pushing me further away now. Tell me it's all done out of love. Them doubling down is confirming I'm right to get away. She'll never stop trying to shut me up because she knows how wrong she was. It's taken me 18-19 years to stop blaming/hating myself. I'll always miss my baby and I hope one day we'll be together again.

    • @MariaSilva-ix1qc
      @MariaSilva-ix1qc 2 дня назад +1

      @Sophie-ur2qb
      You need to stay away from her PERMANENTLY...you can do it. I stay away from my ex.. .permanently, you can too. The first step is the hardest, then it becomes easier. You will be able to BREATHE🌿

  • @mariacontos2715
    @mariacontos2715 День назад

    Thank you so much! I have experienced everything you describe. It is like you were watching my family from somewhere. Your videos are so helpful to me, they make me see things clearly, get a very different perspective, understand what was going on and that I was not the villain. I can't thank you enough! God Bless you!

  • @CoffeeScribe
    @CoffeeScribe 3 дня назад

    It's so sad to me to hear how your parents treated you. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I wish I could have known you then to keep you from all of that garbage. Thanks for your videos and insights. They're all very good!

  • @itchysheets1222
    @itchysheets1222 3 дня назад +7

    When I was pregnant, cornered me outside at like 2am and wouldn’t let me leave, and I was struggling to get out of his grasp (that’s got to be called false imprisonment or something) and I didn’t know what else to do he was stronger than me so I hauled off and open handed slapped his face and he let me go I think out of shock that I defended myself. Or I guess reactively abused him 😂. I know where we were standing and I’m right handed so I know I slapped the left side of his face. So how did he get a big cut and bruise on his right orbital bone and was sending me pictures of my “abuse” and that’s when I knew his true self. Would terrorize a pregnant woman and play the victim. Baffling. I can laugh about it now. I’m not denying I struck him, I would have done anything to get away from him in that moment, but you don’t get a big bruise and cut on the totally other side of your face from a shorter woman’s small hand open smacking your opposite cheek.
    They can’t believe it when you stand up to them or won’t just go along with whatever they feel entitled to do to you.

  • @bellesterbeatty3571
    @bellesterbeatty3571 День назад

    The earplugs I wore wasn't enough. Nonstop, loud yelling of insanity
    is nothing I miss.

  • @marianamboira783
    @marianamboira783 3 дня назад +12

    Thank you am a victim in this country called Sweden

    • @The_Stockfather
      @The_Stockfather 3 дня назад +1

      Damn they doin it there too!? 😂

    • @deepanshisingh8576
      @deepanshisingh8576 3 дня назад

      ​@@The_Stockfather Does the presence of a narcissist requires a specific place, how idiotic?!

    • @The_Stockfather
      @The_Stockfather 3 дня назад

      @@deepanshisingh8576 found one! ☝️

    • @ferozi_chhori
      @ferozi_chhori 2 дня назад

      @@The_Stockfatherbabe are you retarded?

    • @lucyt-c8092
      @lucyt-c8092 День назад +1

      Get some clarity… watch videos… make a plan … be careful… and GET OUT!

  • @JimjamJammy-g8z
    @JimjamJammy-g8z 3 дня назад +2

    He gets more louder after each fact I speak abt him whn he starts blaming me He isolated me by blaming n fighting with me infront of my parents n siblings n also blames them. It's a step by step procedure. Some years back he started playing with my mind by trying to inject bad things abt my own people by gaslighting. He failed n now starting attacking directly. Made me a living deadbody. Very Vindictive. He made me jobless, no friends, no relatives. Now he is using my son to control me. If our teen son needs anything thn he makes me to beg for basic necessities. Monster is a very small word. Bcos of me my siblings n parents also suffered lot of insults. He always swears on God n tells lies. He plays victim card after each allegation on me. After all the drama he starts emotional blackmail that he will die, n starts playing sick. He exposes himself only on those who r close to me. To the outer world he makes sure that he is the world's best husband.

  • @farhatmom9933
    @farhatmom9933 День назад

    You are always all right I have experience same feeling whole of my life unfortunately that hero is father of my children who never care for us

  • @Michael_Arguello
    @Michael_Arguello 3 дня назад

    Let the healing begin and continue!!!

  • @rahulm2827
    @rahulm2827 3 дня назад

    My mother intentionally prolongs each and every answer when I ask her something.
    I havent seen or met my brother in more than 15 years. He has a serious mental condition because of the childhood abuse by our demon that we both endured all our life.
    And the way my mother told me about my brothers sickness 😢😢😢 She doesnt realize that I am a normal person and neee time to digest such an information.
    She said "Your brother is diagnosed with .... and dont tell anyone. You'll be doing a disservice to him" 😢😢😢
    And its only recently that I realized how my mother lies to me. She really does lie flatly in my face just like you said, Danish.
    My entire life has been so desolate and this slow awakening is the most painful thing.
    Realizing that your entire life you were normal and afforded other people the benefit of doubt and assumed them to be normal. But far from being normal, they are not even human.

  • @masumszone7160
    @masumszone7160 2 дня назад

    She applies those things against me
    .Thanks a lot.

  • @shahidzeb15
    @shahidzeb15 3 дня назад +1

    Danish Bhai i related with all your conversation as I know what I have been through with narcissist

  • @katesantos8473
    @katesantos8473 3 дня назад +1

    Everything I said to resolve something, he takes from me like an idea to turn the table or make exactly what I´ve been said. They dont have a face. they have a mask that threat erveryone, but you, never more.

  • @BrookeABrodack
    @BrookeABrodack 2 дня назад

    If you haven’t already I think you need to talk about how death in a family is like kryptonite to the narcissistic ego. When people are to drawn into themselves and their raw emotions to tolerate their games. It can be a real awakening moment for both the narcissist and the one suffering within the narcissistic relationship.

  • @quellequeen
    @quellequeen 2 дня назад +1

    My ex would say nasty things with a low voice so that when he lied to me,pushed my buttons and not listen to me, which he did quite well, and my voice began to heighten, then he could tell me to calm down and not yell when I was not yelling. He did this all the time so that he would look innocent due to his more calm, quiet demeanor but if my voice went up even a fraction he would weaponize that against me. Now I gray rock and say nothing but facts & only if absolutely necessary.

  • @DSM-fr9
    @DSM-fr9 3 дня назад +1

    2:39 this happened many times. I would not dare to do that.

  • @sacredwaters9
    @sacredwaters9 3 дня назад +1

    #1 Loudness! OMG thank you!!! My mother does this all the time!!! 😠 I HATE this tactic, it is so draining. Not only is it draining it's incredibly ANNOYING.
    #2 Wow! My mom doesn't do the crocodile tears but she shames and lies about what she said and said she didn't say, or I have it all wrong. Smh.
    #3 Stonewalling: My dad used to do this, the silent treatment as though I didn't exist. Now my egg donor mommy dearest is doing it now. 😂 I love it-shes QUIET! Yes!
    #4 I've never experienced this one, if I did I'd 😃 cause it's so dramatic! Why are they so dramatic!! I'm sorry you've experienced this. Yes! They will do evil things and then in 5 minutes or less they'll be laughing their asses off at someone or with someone. It's unnerving.
    #5 My mother tried this tactic on me as a child. Telling "stories" about the horror of my personality as a child and how I abused her as a baby and a toddler. 😮how does one do this? WTH?!
    AS an adult she tried it a couple of times in front of me until I responded cool as a cucumber and began calmly responding and pushing it back on my mother. Bet your assistance she stopped that crap!
    Ugh!
    These people are too much.

  • @Red-hot-sonic-fan
    @Red-hot-sonic-fan 3 дня назад

    Thank for sharing and validating I had similar experiences.

  • @maidenmarian1
    @maidenmarian1 3 дня назад

    Thank you a million, Danish!

  • @ageves8487
    @ageves8487 3 дня назад

    Some don't get loud, some recede and gray wall, because they know they can't trick you, and it makes them seem "mature", more in control of themselves for not reacting harshly, and keeps them from appearing "irrational", and they continue to deflect any and everything that challenges and threatens to expose their deceitful and selective logic. It's a petty way to cope. Watching an being on the receiving end of it is a pretty disfiguring experience, you are treated as an enemy, while being revered, and imprisoned psychologically. It's too many signals. It's disgusting. It's messed up. It's undesirable on every level of existence. Discard them from your life and find peace. ❤

  • @NataliaSusan-h8r
    @NataliaSusan-h8r 18 часов назад

    Since I joined your channel iam recovery 😢i was about to be crazy 😢2yrs with a narc boyfriend has been like a hell life to me😢 thank God i know God and this has helped me alot😢he act so good with people around you but hurt you while you are alone😢 they act like they love God but they hate God, their sorry is for a minute, in the next min you see the worst monster 😢i got confused whenever he got angry he change his profile pic and put a wolf 🐺 picture 😮this made me wonder why, they pretend seriously sick for you to care😢ooh my God my kind and sympathy heart hard caused me a lot with this idiot😢ooh God help me heal and forget about this worst experience 😭 🙏

  • @itchysheets1222
    @itchysheets1222 3 дня назад +15

    Whoever named it “Reactive abuse” is cool with calling self defense “abuse”

  • @funtimeswithhisham5692
    @funtimeswithhisham5692 2 дня назад

    All experiences I had exactly explained. But I still feel like never be sympathetic to anyone 😢. It's been more than 3 years I left them but still 😢....

  • @shahidzeb15
    @shahidzeb15 3 дня назад +3

    My narcissist mother inlaw did heart attack drama with my narcissist husband just to through me out their house bcoz I just raised my voice against them

    • @susannakotoff7095
      @susannakotoff7095 3 дня назад

      my covert religious narc sil said she had a condition when she was exposed wearing a heart monitor wanted sympathy from my bully mil

  • @vineethathomas799
    @vineethathomas799 День назад

    my parents are same.... nothing can be done ...
    .

  • @celiaamorim5159
    @celiaamorim5159 3 дня назад +2

    Claro y conciso👌🏻

  • @rahnibasar4208
    @rahnibasar4208 3 дня назад +4

    Tell me about it 😅

  • @rowenabanerjee100
    @rowenabanerjee100 3 дня назад

    My Narc Ex husband( yet to be official) feigned a heart attack, self injured to post on social media, dumped me with my newborn and completely vanished, but right now my daughter is staying with him and he is the Disneyland Dad and I am presented as the malefic monster. Coping with the desertation by my daughter, still relieved and healing finally leaving the Narc husband.

  • @ericalbright7210
    @ericalbright7210 2 дня назад

    Christine Albright
    "Excellent video"🙏!...
    "Spot on"🙏!...
    "I keep saying it's not worth it"🙏!...
    "Thank you"🙏!...
    "+"!..."🙏"!...

  • @lubnamalik1089
    @lubnamalik1089 3 дня назад

    I hav😢ALWAYS FELT THE PRESENCE OF A DEMONIC ENERGY THAT YOU MENTIONED IN MY MOTHER IN LAW. She has THAT power to change a living and peaceful environment into a battle ground with in seconds.😢

  • @fancypinkg
    @fancypinkg 3 дня назад

    1,2,3,5✅ he has done

  • @rakhis2575
    @rakhis2575 3 дня назад +5

    You were surrounded by narcissistic people
    So sad
    Now what do they think do they repent ?

    • @rajnibhatia6581
      @rajnibhatia6581 3 дня назад +2

      Never ever 😢

    • @rajnibhatia6581
      @rajnibhatia6581 3 дня назад

      Never ever😢

    • @susannakotoff7095
      @susannakotoff7095 3 дня назад

      narcs never apologize because they blameshift and never accountable. Covered by the blood. Repent and stop doing your evil. Being christian and being in christs light is not being a narc, a wolf in sheeps clothing. Antagonizing and gaslighting then enjoying the evil she caused, sadistic and evil

    • @susannakotoff7095
      @susannakotoff7095 3 дня назад

      shes a conartist just like her dad.

  • @shaz3shaz327
    @shaz3shaz327 3 дня назад +1

    We qant to listen your whole story @danish brother

  • @sidnasir5483
    @sidnasir5483 2 дня назад +1

    I have some queries if u can answer through video. If i constantly question a covert narcissist regarding his hidden traits and behaviours. Can he stop behaving like that thinking that he might get caught again by me?
    Second how can i differentiate bw narcissitic traits and npd?

  • @riddhidharaiya5032
    @riddhidharaiya5032 3 дня назад +1

    Having narcissistic parents is a curse...... isn't it? Because destiny has chosen them for you. You can't escape from it and throughout your life they make you suffer. If this is not a curse, then what is the curse??? .......🙏

  • @KomalRatnam
    @KomalRatnam День назад

    Cn u go on ranveer’s ‘beer biceps’ podcast. A lot more people need to be made aware. Thx for ur sharings.

  • @quellequeen
    @quellequeen 2 дня назад

    #5 💯!!!

  • @azninmohona16
    @azninmohona16 3 дня назад

    Hey danish I really want to know how can u actually know what going on a narcissist mind. ? When he go no contacts like fully giving you silent treatment
    .

  • @quellequeen
    @quellequeen 2 дня назад

    Fake scenarios...he would call me, if I didn't answer that very moment and I called back 5 minutes later, he would say, "you never answer your phone, nevermind." Of course he wouldn't answer his phone at 1am, 2am, 3am,4am in the morning. We were married & had children.

  • @Itsmeandthatsok2
    @Itsmeandthatsok2 2 дня назад

    I would say don’t yell at me I’m not yelling, you want to hear me yell?

  • @prutha555
    @prutha555 3 дня назад +1

    Plz make more videos in Hindi..

  • @stupidusedrnames
    @stupidusedrnames 3 дня назад

    He swore on his mother's grave that he didn't cheat. I knew he was lying but thought, nobody LIES ON THEIR MOTHERS GRAVE....right?

  • @sandradorsey5001
    @sandradorsey5001 3 дня назад

    These people exaggerate everything they say . As soon as they open their mouth it starts😖🤯

  • @deepaligupta9753
    @deepaligupta9753 2 дня назад

    Don't argue with these monsters . It's like wrestling with a pig . Pigs don't mind rubbing themselves in mud , but the sane partner will

  • @Alisha_Ayaan
    @Alisha_Ayaan 3 дня назад

    My husband usually says me do that no wife will do to show he is every thing to me what is your comments on this

  • @KLBG78
    @KLBG78 День назад

    They are monsters. Their parents raised bratty monster children that grew into pathetic adult children. Once you see them as the bratty out of control kids that they are they lose all their fake power.

  • @shahidzeb15
    @shahidzeb15 3 дня назад +1

    As i spoiled 8yrs of my life

  • @Ismael1967
    @Ismael1967 3 дня назад +1

  • @cba1950
    @cba1950 3 дня назад

    हिंदी मे ....हिंदी मे .....हिंदी मे

  • @AmericanMaeve
    @AmericanMaeve 3 дня назад +2

    You are very comforting to listen to. 🤍

  • @missmiya1164
    @missmiya1164 2 дня назад