Narcissist men and women are the same. My ex used to come home and talk about his co-worker. I'm sick listening to it. I ignore it. We end up arguing if I say something.
You described my mother exactly! Always had a nasty comment about people. Never anything nice to say. Had verbal fights with everyone and anyone. No friends! I would help her with something and then leave. She would badmouth to my brothers. Never taught us to help each other. Pinned one against the other. Evil !
My husband's mother would do this!!! Gossip and tell tales on people who she acted like she was friends with! I knew that she talked about me and my family behind my back. But I didn't really care because I knew that everything she would tell or say wasn't true! That she had a social problem. Uneducated and couldn't help herself from doing so.Everyone knew how she was! That she told tales and Gossiped about them TOO behind their backs. But it bothered them and upset them! Guess I'm not thin skinned! I know my worth and set standards I have about myself!!!
You are spot on, I have a sister and she is nice as can be when me and my husband visit her, but when she is in front of my other siblings. Or other people, OMG its like a whole different person, mocking, making fun of you how you look dress etc., and she tries to get them to join in, and they do. Left them all behind, put up with this for many years, took me that long to figure out what she was really doing.
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
So true. My father used to be very sarcastic about me all through my childhood. He was nasty about everyone. I had zero self confidence because of him putting me down and making me feel ugly and useless. I also had an eating disorder due to his caustic remarks too. I stopped contact with him and felt such relief.
You just nailed it. An aunty of mine (my mother in law's sister) once called me pretending that she wanted to find out how I was doing. I told her we are all well but it's just that I had lost my brother a month ago. She said sorry but after we concluded our conversation, I overheard her tell someone, "oh, its just that I lost my brother a month ago ". She repeated what I had just told her to someone else. Thing is, she forgot her phone was still on. I heard that.
When they steal from you & lie about it, when caught. Does that qualify them as having no conscience? A narc I know steals money from the church. They know he does & still works in the church to this day. Idk why they refuse to kick him out. I left that church. It is very toxic.
I've had someone messing around in my garden from time to time during the night. I then found my landlords hair balled up and tucked between my potplants! She is a covert narcissist and the end of her hair is the same honey blond
Omg. You have just described my sister. I have caught her so many times making fun of me behind my back or rolling her eyes when I would say something that she thought was stupid. I have never felt comfortable in her company. I don’t enjoy our family get togethers. She actually terrifies me. And I’m the older sister.
I have never heard my narc SIL say anything nice about my brother even though he has never said anything negative about her. I have never heard her say anything nice about her close friends or family either. It’s always criticism and complaints. But she will always have something “flattering” to say to whoever she’s complaining too. Always remember: if someone is talking shit to you about others, they’re talking shit about you to others.
Danish , thank you for your dedication and making time to create your content thats helping people . I must add ,that from many content about narcissistic abuse , weather comming of Phd's , Dr's , therapists or coaches ..your ways of sharing and examples you give simply fills up the voids, weather inbetween others knowledge or book read in many different ways, and that difference in expression is very much needed as everyone has different ways of seing or hearing about the facts . May you and your family be blessed ❤ May you live a long life to help others as you do ❤ May you remeber to take care of yourself also , as burn out and heavy load of your content to make is a real thing ❤ Many blessings and buckets of love to you and all suffering of any abuse and mistreat ❤️ this pain shall pass with your determination and plan . You will make it like many of us . Courage ❤
This is my exact situation with my abusive narcissist mom and narcissist Abusive narcissist father 💔thank you for all your expertise and genuine care to help others out of this abuse 💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you. Both my parents were extremely “two-faced “ with zero authenticity. Dad was a ticking time bomb. Never experienced any physical abuse or physical threats. When it is very subtle, on a daily basis, it takes many years of being with healthy individuals to even begin to acknowledge the covert trauma suffered during those years. If I had been slapped or punched or beaten or sexually abused, then of course it would have been “game over” and immediate severing of all relationships at age 18. Their subtlety along with my empathy allowed it to continue. I now have boundaries and know better. My major personality trait was empathy, which proved to be a near fatal flaw in my past life. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜🛸🖖
I remember my husband got a woman pregnant I didn't know until after I married him He did talk about me I'm so crazy My husband had her scared of me she didn't go for child support I told him when I found out he should pay child support He dumped her and I saw her one day and saw his daughter she looked just like him he couldn't deny it I told her to go for child support She told me how he talked about me so she didn't get child support
My mom is like this and she hates me no matter how much I beg for her love I’ll never be good enough for her to love like everyone else in the family she turned them all against me and I don’t even know what I did wrong very traumatizing
2:38 so sorry . That must hurt. Jesus Christ loves you. Have a personal relationship with Him as Lord and Savior and He will never disappoint you. His live is enduring and unconditional and He is faithful to the end
Danish, thank you for outing the narcissistic peoples and their ways. I really felt awful to have such low opinions of my parents. Now i realize they had issues that had no solutions in spite of my tring to please them.
You can never please them. Nothing is good enough. Don't bother trying anymore, now you know. If anything, they will simply find a way to use it against you.
@@deborahwales1717Truth! Then they make you feel like you've hurt them because they HAD to make such efforts! There are many types of people that I think need their own island away from the rest of us. Now I can add narcissists to the list.
Good evening Danish! I was a victim of a narcissist and yes, I did in fact experience this. It made me feel extremely sad and depressed. I thank you for all your sincerity while sharing your knowledge with us.
Sorry haven't watched video yet strait to comments you will be 100 percent correct brother as always.❤ I am 19 days till my six month Anniversary Free from the EVIL DEMON
In a family cult, they talk bad of themselves and we can't play this game. Dont talk bad too. Let they talk alone and never replicate it to everyone. Just listen and forget. It is different when you talking about how someone act to you and try to find a way to resolve. Later, they will tend a minimize: "oh, i said that but she ir he is not too bad like I said to you."....or " he or she deserves it because ...." They like others suffering.
Wow, you're the very first person that I've seen who also had both a narc father & covert narc mother. When both parents are narcs, it causes high intense levels of c-ptsd in the scapegoat child because they both narc parents need their adrenaline fix. You're the first person I've seen to speak about the trauma bond between two narcs and their individual chaos hungry nervous systems it explains a whole lot about why things were so intensely dramatic, chaotic, why they seemed to hate eachother but wouldn't let go. My mother had 8 different restraining orders on my father, & he broke every one of them!
My dad two adult relatives, one brother , most of boyfriends and I was single for over a decade then the Grand finale my current Nex. Never again, like experts talk about breadcrumbs, trauma bonded fawning etc I have the biggest NARC RADOR NOW❤
You just described my daughter to a T. She will call me from Hi up to ten times a day to talk ugly about her friends and even her husband. Now has taken religion. I’m glad I finally let go. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
My daughter had her fun ghosting me, the pain she caused barely survivable, she avoided our family vacay now off with his to Bali for Xmas, wants to get together, I said why bother, I've not seen him in a yr? They live in town and could bus here, they can lunch without me as in the past, free is free!
What is the most effecting strategy with dealing narcissists and their flying monkeys when they gossip us or spread rumours behind our back? However, we can't be silent all the days when we hear the bad informations about us. I know that the ignoring is the good strategy, gray rock, indifference maybe is the best.
I agree, if we stay silent we will shut ourselves down. First, I speak to myself. Then, I speak up in healing communities like this one, and to safe people. By then, I have received good feedback and I have resisted any need to say all of this to the abusers. Maybe you can see this as a "safety first" approach.
Especially to the new supply to validate why they Screwed you over. So they don’t question why he is having an affair with them. So they think you are a horrible person and they will bash you as well.
This happenned to me. This is exactly what he did behind my back when I went overseas to see family for 1 month. He maintained it was my fault and years later still does!
Danish you have so much wisdom, thank you for freely sharing what you know. The honesty is rare & refreshing. You have really helped me on a soul level. Gratitude for you ❤😊❤
Throw you under the bus in seconds if they’re butt hurt. But don’t do it to them! They act shocked! Bc they’re the victims. You can’t be a victim bc they’re so insecure they think you think you’re all that and they hate that you are secure with yourself. It’s pathetic and they don’t see the illogic in it.
Danish, thank you for sharing!!!!! How refreshing for you to get out in the world and confirm that, no, you're not crazy!!!! Your childhood perceptions and experience are so universal and you are helping many people!!!!! 🌺
This was my ‘mother’… nasty and disparaging with family and close friends. Mimic my voice when I would cry or laugh when something went wrong. Evil bully
I have a parent who wants to be soothed and admired and I don’t really care to do that because it is a one sided thing and it would take all day to listen to them and after you do when something goes wrong they will abuse, demean and degrade you and turn around and do the cycle all over again. Not engaging is the best way.
Exactly. first red flag for me was out of the blue the first three months I was with him Quote I am UNIQUE there is no one better than me , did I run No stayed three years
My mother was a grandiose narcissist and would talk shit about anybody who left out the room. Turns our siblings against one another and never admits fault, punk ass!
My narsisist. Family cult does same they back bit about others after they leave but on face they do like nice. My question how they will get revenge or karma and when
I stopped choosing which restaurant to go to whenever my narc asks me to go out for lunch with them, even if it's my birthday. The last time I picked the restaurant was 8 years ago, for my birthday, and they spent the time complaining and making fun of the menu items. And how the restaurant I picked costs so much, as they looked through the menu and commented on the prices. And then when they received their meal, they complained about how you don't get that much for the price. I can't remember what else they might have said because it was so long ago. But it made me feel like I did something wrong, and I was hoping to have a good time on my birthday (especially since it was the very last birthday that I could have with my mother, as she had cancer, and I was grateful that she was able to attend). She has been going to that restaurant with other people, but it is unknown of whether or not it was her idea to go there or theirs. There are SO many things over the years that she has said and done that were demeaning. If it just happened once in a blue moon (like once a year), I wouldn't be so focused on it. But it just never seems to stop. And I barely ever see them anymore because of how hurtful and unaccepting they are of me. It's a really sad predicament right now. Eventually we are going to have lunch together again, and she will likely ask me why I didn't reach out to her for 4 months, and then this will be the start of a big conversation and confrontation. Whether or not I attend Christmas dinner after that (with that side of the family) will likely depend on how that conversation pans out; since it has become evident that she has told other family members about our conversations (when I tried to have a serious conversation with here about 8 months ago, to try and reconcile with her, with the hopes of improving things. Only to have other family members not wanting to talk to me after (because I guess I am not allowed to tell her that she hurt me (I never raised my voice or dished out insults (I was crying the whole time, which I don't want to do the next time)). So it's just tough, and I wish that life didn't have to be this way.
Basically they behave worse than 5 years old kids, no wonder deep down they are shame driven individuals. Now I can understand why they are so jealous of those who are authentic and have integrity, because they don’t possess these qualities themselves.
Both of my parents are narcissists. I think my father is a psychopath mother is a sociopath. Ended up making an empath who heals thru the pain, still in the process but working hard
I wish I didn't entertain strangers. I am a jolly person and a stupid person. Since I am jolly everyone who wants to be free would talk to me. And also these narcississts. Ex would call me to show he is sensitive. Out of the clear blue sky he would call and say A woman is another woman's nemesis. I am like, why are u saying this. Very futuristic thinking, so he can say I am sensitive, no? They can become a woman to become included. In my case, he pulled all that to hide from the fact that he was a eunuch. Zarna Garg has launced a program to spread LGBTQ awareness. I am not proud that I helped a Eunuch live in an Indian Society. I despise myself for not standing upto him and exposing him.
Yesterday she is spitting at me infront of my 5 year child... and today her traits totally different. Now after seeing videos about NPD I came to know that all these tactics are to wrestle with me but now I am not taking her seriously.
You are wrong , not behind my back . Is 360 ° all around . He doesn’t care 😅I ask him what did you just say about me right in my face talking to other people . He act like I am transparent 😮
I believe it is my brothers covert narcissistic wife who has been running the smear campaign against me for years to my family and turned my own brother against me. It occurred to me yesterday that to do that she has probably told him I am a narcissist, just like our father is who is grandiose narcissist.
I'm sure my mother badmouths me. She doesn't seem to really like anyone 😂 it was normal to hear all sorts after watching her being nice to people. It was when she said something about my sister that got me. My sister spent money on something and that set mother off. She said to me I only have one daughter now. I was like wtf 😬 She said "all my attention will be on you from now on"... oh god no!! I couldn't believe she could say that over something so minor. I think my lil sis bought a handbag. Not the end of the world but you're dead to me now! Lol crazy
He does! Keep watching his videos and search out ones on his playlists, they are great too! Also take his seminars if you can. He has helped me tremendously! Thank you Danish! 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏❤️
@jangunning1676 yes I agree. It has been due to learning so much from posts like this that I have healed so much. Also set strong boundaries with them if you have to have them in your life. However it is much better to have nothing to do with them, even if they are family!
Spineless creatures😂😂😂is right everything you say is right, they say everything about you they do, and how crazy you are and they are the victim being abused, living free like in a hotel with a maid. It’s hard to explain how nasty they are.
Hunmm point is direct on my wicked mother 😢 i wonder why God still allow this evil creatures to be alive and continue causing damage to other human lifes
The issue is that people are getting confused Between mean, bad, criminals people and narcissism You 1st need to learn a narcissistic is not born is made 2nd tgere are 20 levels of narcissistic people if you don’t know the base then you shouldn’t say he/she is a narcissist but instead psychopaths and be careful with these videos …you need a professional to tell you who is who
Oh yes. I met a devil who had chased me to his death and then was trying to play me like how he played with his other exes. He would call so ill about his ex who he dated for 5 years calling her with names like she looks u. gly like a boy and then I got to know from the same ex when she contacted me after I had left him to d.ie that he went back to her and and had lustful s.ex with her. I was like bro, you're a Muslim, can fck a goat also 😂
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Narcissist men and women are the same. My ex used to come home and talk about his co-worker. I'm sick listening to it. I ignore it. We end up arguing if I say something.
You described my mother exactly! Always had a nasty comment about people. Never anything nice to say. Had verbal fights with everyone and anyone. No friends! I would help her with something and then leave. She would badmouth to my brothers. Never taught us to help each other. Pinned one against the other. Evil !
Describes my Mother as well.
My mom too. But she also cinnived and planned my physical and emotional abuse before carrying it out just to savor it.
My husband's mother would do this!!! Gossip and tell tales on people who she acted like she was friends with! I knew that she talked about me and my family behind my back. But I didn't really care because I knew that everything she would tell or say wasn't true! That she had a social problem. Uneducated and couldn't help herself from doing so.Everyone knew how she was! That she told tales and Gossiped about them TOO behind their backs. But it bothered them and upset them! Guess I'm not thin skinned! I know my worth and set standards I have about myself!!!
Absolutely true. Thank God for deliverance. Amen.
Poor fake mothers!
It's their favourite passtime especially if they have an audience
You are spot on, I have a sister and she is nice as can be when me and my husband visit her, but when she is in front of my other siblings. Or other people, OMG its like a whole different person, mocking, making fun of you how you look dress etc., and she tries to get them to join in, and they do. Left them all behind, put up with this for many years, took me that long to figure out what she was really doing.
HA ! They haaate...authentic people.😊❤❤
Believe me they do .
Classic behavior of my ex and my own sisters. Mocking and mimicking exactly. So funny. So unkind.
They are L.O.S.E.R.S.
So sorry you had to endure that.
They are sooooo dramatic! The DRAMA!
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
So true. My father used to be very sarcastic about me all through my childhood. He was nasty about everyone. I had zero self confidence because of him putting me down and making me feel ugly and useless. I also had an eating disorder due to his caustic remarks too. I stopped contact with him and felt such relief.
Finally PEACE!!!
They watch you to find something they can use on you and others. Then even make crap up if they have to.
You just nailed it. An aunty of mine (my mother in law's sister) once called me pretending that she wanted to find out how I was doing. I told her we are all well but it's just that I had lost my brother a month ago. She said sorry but after we concluded our conversation, I overheard her tell someone, "oh, its just that I lost my brother a month ago ". She repeated what I had just told her to someone else. Thing is, she forgot her phone was still on. I heard that.
When they steal from you & lie about it, when caught. Does that qualify them as having no conscience? A narc I know steals money from the church. They know he does & still works in the church to this day. Idk why they refuse to kick him out. I left that church. It is very toxic.
Good for you. 🌺
I've had someone messing around in my garden from time to time during the night. I then found my landlords hair balled up and tucked between my potplants! She is a covert narcissist and the end of her hair is the same honey blond
Omg. You have just described my sister. I have caught her so many times making fun of me behind my back or rolling her eyes when I would say something that she thought was stupid. I have never felt comfortable in her company. I don’t enjoy our family get togethers. She actually terrifies me. And I’m the older sister.
I have never heard my narc SIL say anything nice about my brother even though he has never said anything negative about her. I have never heard her say anything nice about her close friends or family either. It’s always criticism and complaints. But she will always have something “flattering” to say to whoever she’s complaining too. Always remember: if someone is talking shit to you about others, they’re talking shit about you to others.
My kids told me my ex used to make faces at me when my back was turned. I was shocked. I asked him about it and of course he denied doing it.
My ex did it, too. When I would confront him, that coward had a whole novel to tell. Smh.
Danish , thank you for your dedication and making time to create your content thats helping people .
I must add ,that from many content about narcissistic abuse , weather comming of Phd's , Dr's , therapists or coaches ..your ways of sharing and examples you give simply fills up the voids, weather inbetween others knowledge or book read in many different ways, and that difference in expression is very much needed as everyone has different ways of seing or hearing about the facts .
May you and your family be blessed ❤
May you live a long life to help others as you do ❤
May you remeber to take care of yourself also , as burn out and heavy load of your content to make is a real thing ❤
Many blessings and buckets of love to you and all suffering of any abuse and mistreat ❤️ this pain shall pass with your determination and plan . You will make it like many of us . Courage ❤
Thank you so much
What a beautiful loving message. I completely agree with you. Thank you for putting it so nicely. ❤❤❤
This is my exact situation with my abusive narcissist mom and narcissist
Abusive narcissist father 💔thank you for all your expertise and genuine care to help others out of this abuse 💜💜💜💜💜
Yes mimics happened to me too
Thank you. Both my parents were extremely “two-faced “ with zero authenticity. Dad was a ticking time bomb. Never experienced any physical abuse or physical threats. When it is very subtle, on a daily basis, it takes many years of being with healthy individuals to even begin to acknowledge the covert trauma suffered during those years. If I had been slapped or punched or beaten or sexually abused, then of course it would have been “game over” and immediate severing of all relationships at age 18. Their subtlety along with my empathy allowed it to continue. I now have boundaries and know better. My major personality trait was empathy, which proved to be a near fatal flaw in my past life. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜🛸🖖
Yes, your observations describe what I have seen in narcissistic people.
I remember my husband got a woman pregnant I didn't know until after I married him He did talk about me I'm so crazy My husband had her scared of me she didn't go for child support I told him when I found out he should pay child support He dumped her and I saw her one day and saw his daughter she looked just like him he couldn't deny it I told her to go for child support She told me how he talked about me so she didn't get child support
I noticed they are incapable of laughing..a real hardy ..they are also incapable of laughing at themselves..they are only happy when they hurt others
Yes, I noticed this also.
My partner is a from a family of them especially his father. WOW looking back in hindsight I should have run it's a nightmare. 😮😢😢
He was taught to abuse me by his narc mother. She died this year and he is completely lost. Im no longer available ❤
My mom is like this and she hates me no matter how much I beg for her love I’ll never be good enough for her to love like everyone else in the family she turned them all against me and I don’t even know what I did wrong very traumatizing
2:38 so sorry . That must hurt. Jesus Christ loves you. Have a personal relationship with Him as Lord and Savior and He will never disappoint you. His live is enduring and unconditional and He is faithful to the end
Thank u Danish, l went thru it all. Thank u for helping all of us realize we weren't crazy!!!❤❤
Danish, thank you for outing the narcissistic peoples and their ways. I really felt awful to have such low opinions of my parents. Now i realize they had issues that had no solutions in spite of my tring to please them.
You can never please them. Nothing is good enough. Don't bother trying anymore, now you know. If anything, they will simply find a way to use it against you.
@@deborahwales1717Truth! Then they make you feel like you've hurt them because they HAD to make such efforts! There are many types of people that I think need their own island away from the rest of us. Now I can add narcissists to the list.
Good evening Danish! I was a victim of a narcissist and yes, I did in fact experience this. It made me feel extremely sad and depressed. I thank you for all your sincerity while sharing your knowledge with us.
Sorry haven't watched video yet strait to comments you will be 100 percent correct brother as always.❤ I am 19 days till my six month Anniversary Free from the EVIL DEMON
Amen to freedom! 🙏
In a family cult, they talk bad of themselves and we can't play this game. Dont talk bad too. Let they talk alone and never replicate it to everyone. Just listen and forget. It is different when you talking about how someone act to you and try to find a way to resolve. Later, they will tend a minimize: "oh, i said that but she ir he is not too bad like I said to you."....or " he or she deserves it because ...." They like others suffering.
Yes I have ecperience putdowns of everyone from narcisstic mother, my dad just put up with it
Wow, you're the very first person that I've seen who also had both a narc father & covert narc mother. When both parents are narcs, it causes high intense levels of c-ptsd in the scapegoat child because they both narc parents need their adrenaline fix. You're the first person I've seen to speak about the trauma bond between two narcs and their individual chaos hungry nervous systems it explains a whole lot about why things were so intensely dramatic, chaotic, why they seemed to hate eachother but wouldn't let go. My mother had 8 different restraining orders on my father, & he broke every one of them!
All of that describes my parents to a T - wow!
OMG my mother was like that also my partner. Jeez these Narc are definitely from the same side of hell.
My dad two adult relatives, one brother , most of boyfriends and I was single for over a decade then the Grand finale my current Nex.
Never again, like experts talk about breadcrumbs, trauma bonded fawning etc I have the biggest NARC RADOR NOW❤
From the same side of hell. . .
Very well put! You nailed it right there! There are definately demonic infuences behind these people👹
Describes my mother and two older brothers.
You just described my daughter to a T. She will call me from Hi up to ten times a day to talk ugly about her friends and even her husband. Now has taken religion. I’m glad I finally let go. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
My daughter had her fun ghosting me, the pain she caused barely survivable, she avoided our family vacay now off with his to Bali for Xmas, wants to get together, I said why bother, I've not seen him in a yr? They live in town and could bus here, they can lunch without me as in the past, free is free!
What is the most effecting strategy with dealing narcissists and their flying monkeys when they gossip us or spread rumours behind our back? However, we can't be silent all the days when we hear the bad informations about us. I know that the ignoring is the good strategy, gray rock, indifference maybe is the best.
I agree, if we stay silent we will shut ourselves down. First, I speak to myself. Then, I speak up in healing communities like this one, and to safe people. By then, I have received good feedback and I have resisted any need to say all of this to the abusers. Maybe you can see this as a "safety first" approach.
Especially to the new supply to validate why they Screwed you over. So they don’t question why he is having an affair with them. So they think you are a horrible person and they will bash you as well.
This happenned to me. This is exactly what he did behind my back when I went overseas to see family for 1 month. He maintained it was my fault and years later still does!
Danish you have so much wisdom, thank you for freely sharing what you know. The honesty is rare & refreshing. You have really helped me on a soul level. Gratitude for you ❤😊❤
Absolutely true
GOD BLESS YOU DANISH
BLESSINGS AND LOVE
THANK YOU ❤❤❤
Throw you under the bus in seconds if they’re butt hurt. But don’t do it to them! They act shocked! Bc they’re the victims. You can’t be a victim bc they’re so insecure they think you think you’re all that and they hate that you are secure with yourself. It’s pathetic and they don’t see the illogic in it.
Danish, thank you for sharing!!!!! How refreshing for you to get out in the world and confirm that, no, you're not crazy!!!!
Your childhood perceptions and experience are so universal and you are helping many people!!!!! 🌺
This was my ‘mother’… nasty and disparaging with family and close friends. Mimic my voice when I would cry or laugh when something went wrong. Evil bully
I have a parent who wants to be soothed and admired and I don’t really care to do that because it is a one sided thing and it would take all day to listen to them and after you do when something goes wrong they will abuse, demean and degrade you and turn around and do the cycle all over again. Not engaging is the best way.
All the above! Absolutely! Putrid. No integrity is why they hate others who do!
Exactly. first red flag for me was out of the blue the first three months I was with him Quote I am UNIQUE there is no one better than me , did I run No stayed three years
My mother was a grandiose narcissist and would talk shit about anybody who left out the room. Turns our siblings against one another and never admits fault, punk ass!
My narsisist. Family cult does same they back bit about others after they leave but on face they do like nice. My question how they will get revenge or karma and when
He has other posts about that. Look on his channel.
My ex narc would say I never took anything from you
My mother is covert and father grandiose. I had no idea that you experienced what I experienced.
My father is grandiose to, but my mother was malignant. They are both overt narcissists. Lucky us huh !
Yes. I feel for you. Unless you have had that experience, it is very difficult to explain to someone.
Yes I been there just ask a question oh god all holy hell broke loose
Make one comment and you're torn down and mocked, even if you thought you were been humorous!
I stopped choosing which restaurant to go to whenever my narc asks me to go out for lunch with them, even if it's my birthday. The last time I picked the restaurant was 8 years ago, for my birthday, and they spent the time complaining and making fun of the menu items. And how the restaurant I picked costs so much, as they looked through the menu and commented on the prices. And then when they received their meal, they complained about how you don't get that much for the price. I can't remember what else they might have said because it was so long ago. But it made me feel like I did something wrong, and I was hoping to have a good time on my birthday (especially since it was the very last birthday that I could have with my mother, as she had cancer, and I was grateful that she was able to attend). She has been going to that restaurant with other people, but it is unknown of whether or not it was her idea to go there or theirs. There are SO many things over the years that she has said and done that were demeaning. If it just happened once in a blue moon (like once a year), I wouldn't be so focused on it. But it just never seems to stop. And I barely ever see them anymore because of how hurtful and unaccepting they are of me. It's a really sad predicament right now. Eventually we are going to have lunch together again, and she will likely ask me why I didn't reach out to her for 4 months, and then this will be the start of a big conversation and confrontation. Whether or not I attend Christmas dinner after that (with that side of the family) will likely depend on how that conversation pans out; since it has become evident that she has told other family members about our conversations (when I tried to have a serious conversation with here about 8 months ago, to try and reconcile with her, with the hopes of improving things. Only to have other family members not wanting to talk to me after (because I guess I am not allowed to tell her that she hurt me (I never raised my voice or dished out insults (I was crying the whole time, which I don't want to do the next time)). So it's just tough, and I wish that life didn't have to be this way.
Every point is so right ....all my experiences
Yes, it’s common practice. Narcisists are two faced and multiple faced rather.
It's so true bad mouth me and I need mental help!!😵💫😵💫😵💫
Yes all the time
Basically they behave worse than 5 years old kids, no wonder deep down they are shame driven individuals. Now I can understand why they are so jealous of those who are authentic and have integrity, because they don’t possess these qualities themselves.
Blessings 🤗
So sorry you were treated so poorly dear Sir by your own parents ❤🙏💔🙏💖🙏💔
Still find myself doing it ... purposefully trying think good about all....
Sticks and stones may break my bones,that his words will never harm me again! With my x-narc,just rolls off me NOW!😢😭🙀
Both of my parents are narcissists. I think my father is a psychopath mother is a sociopath. Ended up making an empath who heals thru the pain, still in the process but working hard
They still have DNA of chimpanzees inside them..mimicking and following ur actions.. 😆
😂. Good one! 👍🙌😂
Apparently our dna is just as close to pigs !
Always gossiping behind everyone 😮
I wish I didn't entertain strangers. I am a jolly person and a stupid person. Since I am jolly everyone who wants to be free would talk to me. And also these narcississts. Ex would call me to show he is sensitive. Out of the clear blue sky he would call and say A woman is another woman's nemesis. I am like, why are u saying this. Very futuristic thinking, so he can say I am sensitive, no? They can become a woman to become included. In my case, he pulled all that to hide from the fact that he was a eunuch. Zarna Garg has launced a program to spread LGBTQ awareness. I am not proud that I helped a Eunuch live in an Indian Society. I despise myself for not standing upto him and exposing him.
You are describing my Greek mother unfortunately
Yup, they make these ugly faces they all do it, I have seen it🤡👺👹👿 they are cowards.
Yesterday she is spitting at me infront of my 5 year child... and today her traits totally different. Now after seeing videos about NPD I came to know that all these tactics are to wrestle with me but now I am not taking her seriously.
You are wrong , not behind my back . Is 360 ° all around . He doesn’t care 😅I ask him what did you just say about me right in my face talking to other people . He act like I am transparent 😮
Mine would say all in your mental head etc hearing voices in my head they are just sickos
Disgusting this behavior. No one has any business behaving this way when there’s children involved
Ev6true , as usual . This means that there is a very specific set pattern/ programming , according to which , ALL narcissists/reptiles behave
Same
Do you give psychological consultations?
Horrible family story, pls, stay strong and protect Yourself, my dear
Love ur comment narcissistic wounding😂😂
Sisters….
How did u survive and learn values and empathy
I believe it is my brothers covert narcissistic wife who has been running the smear campaign against me for years to my family and turned my own brother against me. It occurred to me yesterday that to do that she has probably told him I am a narcissist, just like our father is who is grandiose narcissist.
What is ultimate karma of narcissistic?
Συνεχεια,κοροιδευουν,δε κοιτουν τα χαλια τους.Τους εχουμε παρει χαμπαριιιι!!!
They have black hearts 🖤
I'm sure my mother badmouths me. She doesn't seem to really like anyone 😂 it was normal to hear all sorts after watching her being nice to people. It was when she said something about my sister that got me. My sister spent money on something and that set mother off. She said to me I only have one daughter now. I was like wtf 😬 She said "all my attention will be on you from now on"... oh god no!! I couldn't believe she could say that over something so minor. I think my lil sis bought a handbag. Not the end of the world but you're dead to me now! Lol crazy
Oh, I called him out, stating that he was out of line with his co-workers, he said "I don't give a f*ck!". The audacity of these people.
Very true - very difficult to handle a boss like this. God is the only reason I'm still at the job
Danish pls suggest way out
He does! Keep watching his videos and search out ones on his playlists, they are great too! Also take his seminars if you can. He has helped me tremendously! Thank you Danish! 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏❤️
@jangunning1676 yes I agree. It has been due to learning so much from posts like this that I have healed so much. Also set strong boundaries with them if you have to have them in your life. However it is much better to have nothing to do with them, even if they are family!
I'm not sure why my narc does shxt...lol
Currently realizing the person formerly known as my mother has been gossiping and talking shi t about me
Spineless creatures😂😂😂is right everything you say is right, they say everything about you they do, and how crazy you are and they are the victim being abused, living free like in a hotel with a maid.
It’s hard to explain how nasty they are.
Hunmm point is direct on my wicked mother 😢 i wonder why God still allow this evil creatures to be alive and continue causing damage to other human lifes
I've been confused about her for years! So sweet and kind. Then she is nasty. Now I know this is called breadcrumbing.
Dead inner child😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉am praying to God to please 🙏 tell putin to push that button asap..😢😢😢hope i meet you in heaven mr danish❤❤❤
W other family members
dont interest to me god and narcisists.i dont love the killers
The issue is that people are getting confused
Between mean, bad, criminals people and narcissism
You 1st need to learn a narcissistic is not born is made 2nd tgere are 20 levels of narcissistic people if you don’t know the base then you shouldn’t say he/she is a narcissist but instead psychopaths and be careful with these videos …you need a professional to tell you who is who
Thier mouth is moving.......
Oh yes. I met a devil who had chased me to his death and then was trying to play me like how he played with his other exes. He would call so ill about his ex who he dated for 5 years calling her with names like she looks u. gly like a boy and then I got to know from the same ex when she contacted me after I had left him to d.ie that he went back to her and and had lustful s.ex with her. I was like bro, you're a Muslim, can fck a goat also 😂