I totally relate... It's hard to be yourself when you have to be on guard all the time.A lot of gay men just want someone to manipulate and if you are not going to be their doormat ..they leave. The problem is we want a meaningful,loving ,real authentic relationship in the gay world and it's rare.
I'm 30 yr old gay, never been in a relationship, it's really hard to find a partner within the community that is not full of themselves, pretentious, superficial and all about lust, I'd rather be single than with someone that is toxic. I want a simple gay men.
I am 31 and in the very same position as you. My experience with the gays since coming in out when I was 17 has been nothing short of disastrous. Whether by bitching/backstabbing between/by friends or being cheated upon by romantic partners, I didn't find a lot of good in the gay community. Its not you, the community gays are mean people, that's just how it is. It resonates when you say that it takes a part of you away every time. I need to believe I might be able to recover what was lost eventually but I know it can only happen by going my own way. I am fortunate to have good straight male friends. They accept me for who I am and we all support each other. And the best part is, its all drama-free. Being single and out of the community might just be the only way to be safe.
I'm 32. It sounds like you are pursuing people who don't want a relationship my friend. Yes, they might not be very clear with you or open about what they want. But let their actions speak for themselves. And also, Grindr, don't use that app to meet men you want to be in a relationship with, not saying it doesn't happen, but the majority of people on that app are NOT looking for long term relationships. Use another app. And stick to your morals, have your 10 non-negotiables, and if it doesn't work out with someone, it doesn't work out! no hard feelings, they weren't someone you connected with. I met my boyfriend of 3 years (future husband) while volunteering at a local LGBTQ+ community center. Do your thing, but look for people who want the same thing, straight from the beginning. Be clear with what you want straight out of the door. You want someone who wants the same things and if someone is turned off by that, then they aren't the right person for you at that moment. I would be careful about lumping our community (gay men) into one box, we are a very diverse community. And some people struggle because they have been through very difficult situations and circumstances. We all struggle with being selfish, that is human. Look at yourself, focus on your growth and self-inquiry. You will attract someone who does the same.
I think you don't attract those kinds of people, but, sadly, there are so many traumatized, abused, affection starved queer people out there, and that affects our interpersonal relationships. I'm a people pleaser myself, and I also felt like being taken advantage of in the past, it makes it very hard to be vulnerable. But I think a good first step is to be happy with yourself, and where you are. You're so young, there's no rush, and if you go in a relationship with all these weights, it's only going to be a detriment to yourself. I found my current partner after I was comfortable being by myself, and it has been a journey; learning to be vulnerable, working on differences, being there for each other. You'll probably never find a perfect person, "the one", those people don't exist, no one will ever match all your desires in a partner, but I'm sure you'll eventually find someone that loves you, isn't abusive and wants to be with you, and is willing to work on your relationship to make it the best it can be. Wishing you the best!
32. Have had to reckon with a lot of abusive dynamics starting from home life as a kid. The idea of romance as it exists today is a cover for toxicity that facilitates coercive abuse and using partners as a fleshlight. Most people are not suites for relationships. This isn't new- look at all the people who stayed together despite the fact that they drag each other down. The dirty secret is that those picture perfect relationships are extremely rare. Most people are too damaged to genuinely invest themselves in other people. Being with those people is not better than solitude. Adults mostly never become wise or mature. The reason we're raised with morals in fairy tales is that there has always been a deep need. The community has really become very sick. It is mostly not a supportive place anymore. It's competitive and really sketchy. Your impulse to please or reconcile with people doesn't just come from a place of accountability, it comes from a fear of rejection. Many people have learned to pull this lever, and the moment you apologize they absorb the message, "I have something to be angry about!" because they are immature. You are suffering from a different kind of immaturity. There are ways to maneuver this world with idealism and empathy but it cannot happen while you value yourself for your relationships to others. Recovery is never complete. Any change is change. Seeking a relationship is not the solution to your problems.
I think it has more to do with being human in a disjointed world rather than being gay. It's exactly the same in the heterosexual world. People equate relationships to other parts of their life, in that it must have a payout come with it. There must be "something" in it for "me". When you have very few expectations, wants, desires and put it out to the universe quietly and with grace it will come back. First one must stop wanting in a desperate way. The worst people came into my life when I was being neurotically needy. Your neither. 💚
The honest, caring guys with love to give another person are hard to find because they too withdraw and decide to stay single because they've been hurt too many times. It's such a loss. Like Pygmalion perhaps you can construct your perfect partner or just see and value the good qualities of the very imperfect man who adores you.
Im 16 days away from been 30, I been out and about, longest relationship was probably 6 months to a year and men just dont ever seem to want me for a relationship always attract the ones the are looking for sex. Sadly i don't think I ever experienced what people say " falling in love" is always been I like this person but they just dont go further than something deeper. It use to bug me so much and hated this feeling hopelessness in love, but as time went im realizing that maybe that idea of love im seeking maybe just isn't for me or isn't real and thays okey because maybe the version of love thats for me is not meant to be " normal". Sometimes we get stuck in our ideal way to seek love and what if in this lifetime I'm supposed to have something different.
It makes me so sad to hear your story… The only to things in life there are certain… we get life and life will be taken from us on day…. Every thing else we have to take as it comes….. 🙏❤️ So please don’t be afraid to live your life and met some one ❤ Don’t think about getting hurt, cause every one in our life, could hurt us…. You seem ro be a sweet, kind, beautiful and lovely person, and you are needed in life and some one should be so lucky to need you some day as his better half 😊❤ Love and hugs from Denmark ❤
Social media and dating apps warps guys view on dating... they'll see you but have other guys in their shopping cart ready to go. This feeds how guys treat each other, promotes narcissism, and that the grass is always greener. So glad I came out and starting seeing guys in the early 90's, it was much simpler, you had to go out and meet people. I was lucky, I met my partner very early and we've been together 30 years now. Lord knows how I'd deal with dating today, as it just seems so toxic. Good luck to you mate, be true to yourself and you'll be fine. Also, 28 is not old, so stop feeding that narrative. :) x
Honestly gay life can be very lonely! Not that I'm not intellectual or do not have the ability to make friends. It's just the lifestyle of the community has its criteria That I feel I do not fit.
Hugggs..... Too you. My love... I'm dealing with same n too all here specking from your heart ❤️.... Yes, mind games.. . . I'm Italian, Maltese..... 😂 The gay community is so very, vane
I'm older than you now, and I've gone through phases like this. Maybe it's them and their issues, maybe it's our issues too, and together it makes it impossible to last. I had a bf who started putting me down and enjoying it, and I usually have pretty good self esteem. Didn't last of course, because I could never forgive him. Him refusing to apologize for it, didn't help his case one bit. This is just one example. Narcissism, macho man mentality, power struggles, past traumas, etc. all comes to a boil in LTRs. My take: enjoy your life single (yes, you'll get there), focus on your good friends (not club friends/there's a place for those too, but on the fringe) and career, and don't even think of a LTR. If it happens, great, and take your bloody time. But if not, you won't be disappointed, or feeling bad. And I mean long lasting LTRs, because the shorter ones, everyone will have those. As long as you truly enjoy your life with the people in it, you'll feel good anyway. Most of my best times were with best friends, people I really felt comfortable with. LTRs can be a lot of drama. Who needs that?! The mother of a good gay friend told me once that her marriage had lasted more than 50 years. She asked me, you know how many years happy or content in that LTR? Maybe half. And you'll need to put up with A LOT of crap, even abuse. I don't think many of us are willing to compromise or put up with any of that. Sign of the times, unrealistic expectations, the culture of "me", who knows. Cut yourself some slack and focus on good friends and having a content, sometimes happy, life. The rest may come later on.
I’m on the other side of this. I was with my partner and husband of 20 years, he was my soul mate, my entire adult life from 20 years old until 40. He died of Glioblastoma brain cancer 2.5 years ago. We were happy and monogamous. which is incredibly rare. i don’t fit into the “gay world” we liked kayaking, biking, going to coffee, the theatre, travelled. lived the simple life outside the city. We didn’t even have really any hay friends, mostly straight married couples, so now I’m in a world of a selfish narcissist and sex addicts. I think its the dating apps that have ruined dating, now polyamorous, thruples and open seems to be the standard and they still play around on the side. i mean if it works for them great. not what i’m looking for. I’m 42 now and there is a strong possibility I will be alone into my 50’s and 60’s, if I make it to that age. I also find it really hard to make friends as you get older and its almost impossible to have gay friends, all they want is to sleep with you. But I totally get what you’re saying. it sucks you have not experienced it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure he was grateful to have you help him through his struggle with cancer. And I'm sure nobody will ever measure up to him for you. Treasure his memory ❤️ It's hard out here but we continue trying 🙏
I totally understand you. I've done the same thing where I try to protect myself and end up closing all bridges for vulnerability with another guy. I'd say the solution is to take your time to heal, I would recommend reading Byung-chul Han The Agony of Eros in which he talks that the current paradigm breeds a narcissistic epidemic. I don't think it's only us gays but our problem is that we have a reduced pool of potential suitors and perhaps more importantly a limited space where encounters can happen.
If love was easy to get, it wouldn't be special. It has to be hard so that when you get it, you appreciate it. The other person has to want it as much as you do. It is a constant give and take. Both people need to be in the right frame of mind in order for a relationship to work.
Good luck. My experience says that 99% of gay guys are as you describe. It appears very convoluted: influences from genetics, family dynamics, stereotyping, and other factors. My help and solution has been with a "shrink" of some sort. It can be very enlightening but getting through change and acceptance is not for the faint of heart. It is very painful but no other way. Once on the other side it's like Nirvana. Try it but commit to the change - no matter what it feels like.
You should always stand up, for your well being. Most men ( sadly) are always keeping their options open. Your suspicions are probably spot on, their behaviors are shady. You are a very handsome lad , maybe, the right guy , will find you , when you least expect it. ❤
I hear your inner feelings that we should talk about with people that feel the same way. You will get through this keep strong and when you find divine love you'll know when it enters your life.
Gay, lonely and single at 65.😞 It seems all you guys here (in your 30s/40s) still have a long way to go. Courage, then. 🤗 ps: are you all in the US? Europe anyone?
You’re beautiful and perfect physically, remember everyone we only know this man’s side of the story and in a world of narcissistic traits and mental Abuse ,everyone needs to practice accountability and mindfulness, mental health is number one for me
I can totally relate to your dating situation, I am a Transwoman , 27 , and I can 100% relate to you. I guess people that we are looking for , like the one’s in our checklist are the one’s who aren’t into commitment, and being cutesy with someone, I tried dating 2 guys who really wants to be with me and Personally asked me to be exclusive with them, and somehow, even i tried to look past the checklist, I still can’t gamble myself to loving someone who I really am not into in the first place. Idk what to do at this point so I guess im just gonna wait for the people im intereated in to grow up or get tired of playing around and be ready to settle
Same situation as you just minus the lonely. Finding someone to share it with would be wonderful but if I don't meet that special person/soul mate, I still have so much in my life to be happy and grateful for.
Two things are certain… you are worth dating and love does exist for you in this lifetime… keep trying ❤ we’re on the same boat but we’ll see land one day, babe. I promise.
I completely understand this and how you are feeling. Damn, I wish we were closer and in the same country 🫣 stay strong. You will find your soulmate. Stay vulnerable, its a great quality. Peace, light and love to you.
You are good looking, and young, and that accent is dreamy. make them chase you, not the other way around. Act like you don't need them and one day, you will find your soulmate. If finding someone and falling in love was easy, we would all be snatched up. I have been there, 20 years with the same person and now am single again and its like having to start all over again at 52. Sometimes it takes a while. Have patience, it will happen for you 😊😊
Ciao caro Tu sei adorabile , sensibile , empatico , profondo e con intelligenza emotiva … vedrai ! Troverai il vero amore , arriva quando non lo aspetti ma il tuo cuore lo riconoscerà … investi su di te e non permettere a nessuno di usarti e non rispettarti ! Un caro abbraccio dall ‘ Italia ! Perché non fai un viaggio a Firenze , Roma e Venezia ? Ciaooo e buona vita
I don’t want to be gay, it’s been nothing but heartache, I’ve never much been in the pride scene and especially now, I think the pride lgbtq agenda is evil. I am a Christian as well so I have conservative views on most things and because of that I have not found my footing or a partner. And I think I’ve been vulernable many times but have been cheated on every time so of course it’s made me want to put walls up and cause paranoia. It’s difficult to draw the line between what you know is wrong and right and question what you should be willing to put off and what not too or when to walk away and when not too. But I think if someone doesn’t value you and thats shown more with actions than words, that’s not love, that’s not your person. Because people that love you don’t want to hurt you. We might not relate on the Christian conservative aspect but I can relate to much of what you said. People want to complicate it and excuse their partners actions because of those rose colored glasses but often the answer is right in front of your face and you just don’t want to see it and that’s been me before.
I bless you and validate you🙂💛❤️💚💙💜🧡🩷 this is the time for us to work on ourselves and the excellent skills of intuitive discernment and sitting meditation 🧘♂️ breathing and mindfulness. Perhaps explore energy work as well and more delicious nourishing healthy food travel and nature walks. You are a child of God Spirit and Energy And you will get the best at the best time
That was me ten years ago. Now I'm ... gay, lonely and single at 38. 😂
I totally relate... It's hard to be yourself when you have to be on guard all the time.A lot of gay men just want someone to manipulate and if you are not going to be their doormat ..they leave. The problem is we want a meaningful,loving ,real authentic relationship in the gay world and it's rare.
@@larryd6991 agreed it's hard to be present with someone when your scanning for red flags
I'm 30 yr old gay, never been in a relationship, it's really hard to find a partner within the community that is not full of themselves, pretentious, superficial and all about lust, I'd rather be single than with someone that is toxic. I want a simple gay men.
I am 31 and in the very same position as you. My experience with the gays since coming in out when I was 17 has been nothing short of disastrous. Whether by bitching/backstabbing between/by friends or being cheated upon by romantic partners, I didn't find a lot of good in the gay community. Its not you, the community gays are mean people, that's just how it is. It resonates when you say that it takes a part of you away every time. I need to believe I might be able to recover what was lost eventually but I know it can only happen by going my own way. I am fortunate to have good straight male friends. They accept me for who I am and we all support each other. And the best part is, its all drama-free. Being single and out of the community might just be the only way to be safe.
I'm 32. It sounds like you are pursuing people who don't want a relationship my friend. Yes, they might not be very clear with you or open about what they want. But let their actions speak for themselves. And also, Grindr, don't use that app to meet men you want to be in a relationship with, not saying it doesn't happen, but the majority of people on that app are NOT looking for long term relationships. Use another app. And stick to your morals, have your 10 non-negotiables, and if it doesn't work out with someone, it doesn't work out! no hard feelings, they weren't someone you connected with. I met my boyfriend of 3 years (future husband) while volunteering at a local LGBTQ+ community center. Do your thing, but look for people who want the same thing, straight from the beginning. Be clear with what you want straight out of the door. You want someone who wants the same things and if someone is turned off by that, then they aren't the right person for you at that moment. I would be careful about lumping our community (gay men) into one box, we are a very diverse community. And some people struggle because they have been through very difficult situations and circumstances. We all struggle with being selfish, that is human. Look at yourself, focus on your growth and self-inquiry. You will attract someone who does the same.
I think you don't attract those kinds of people, but, sadly, there are so many traumatized, abused, affection starved queer people out there, and that affects our interpersonal relationships.
I'm a people pleaser myself, and I also felt like being taken advantage of in the past, it makes it very hard to be vulnerable. But I think a good first step is to be happy with yourself, and where you are. You're so young, there's no rush, and if you go in a relationship with all these weights, it's only going to be a detriment to yourself.
I found my current partner after I was comfortable being by myself, and it has been a journey; learning to be vulnerable, working on differences, being there for each other. You'll probably never find a perfect person, "the one", those people don't exist, no one will ever match all your desires in a partner, but I'm sure you'll eventually find someone that loves you, isn't abusive and wants to be with you, and is willing to work on your relationship to make it the best it can be.
Wishing you the best!
My Boyfriend just broke with me ( I did catch him cheating ) after 5 years of the relationship. Now I am 28 and forced to be single..
32. Have had to reckon with a lot of abusive dynamics starting from home life as a kid. The idea of romance as it exists today is a cover for toxicity that facilitates coercive abuse and using partners as a fleshlight. Most people are not suites for relationships. This isn't new- look at all the people who stayed together despite the fact that they drag each other down.
The dirty secret is that those picture perfect relationships are extremely rare. Most people are too damaged to genuinely invest themselves in other people. Being with those people is not better than solitude. Adults mostly never become wise or mature. The reason we're raised with morals in fairy tales is that there has always been a deep need.
The community has really become very sick. It is mostly not a supportive place anymore. It's competitive and really sketchy.
Your impulse to please or reconcile with people doesn't just come from a place of accountability, it comes from a fear of rejection. Many people have learned to pull this lever, and the moment you apologize they absorb the message, "I have something to be angry about!" because they are immature. You are suffering from a different kind of immaturity. There are ways to maneuver this world with idealism and empathy but it cannot happen while you value yourself for your relationships to others.
Recovery is never complete. Any change is change. Seeking a relationship is not the solution to your problems.
At least you’re in your 20s wait til your lonely and single at 30 it’s even worse
Imagine in your 40s. It's like being non-existent.
I think it has more to do with being human in a disjointed world rather than being gay. It's exactly the same in the heterosexual world. People equate relationships to other parts of their life, in that it must have a payout come with it. There must be "something" in it for "me". When you have very few expectations, wants, desires and put it out to the universe quietly and with grace it will come back. First one must stop wanting in a desperate way. The worst people came into my life when I was being neurotically needy. Your neither. 💚
The honest, caring guys with love to give another person are hard to find because they too withdraw and decide to stay single because they've been hurt too many times. It's such a loss. Like Pygmalion perhaps you can construct your perfect partner or just see and value the good qualities of the very imperfect man who adores you.
Im 16 days away from been 30, I been out and about, longest relationship was probably 6 months to a year and men just dont ever seem to want me for a relationship always attract the ones the are looking for sex. Sadly i don't think I ever experienced what people say " falling in love" is always been I like this person but they just dont go further than something deeper. It use to bug me so much and hated this feeling hopelessness in love, but as time went im realizing that maybe that idea of love im seeking maybe just isn't for me or isn't real and thays okey because maybe the version of love thats for me is not meant to be " normal". Sometimes we get stuck in our ideal way to seek love and what if in this lifetime I'm supposed to have something different.
It makes me so sad to hear your story…
The only to things in life there are certain… we get life and life will be taken from us on day…. Every thing else we have to take as it comes….. 🙏❤️
So please don’t be afraid to live your life and met some one ❤
Don’t think about getting hurt, cause every one in our life, could hurt us….
You seem ro be a sweet, kind, beautiful and lovely person, and you are needed in life and some one should be so lucky to need you some day as his better half 😊❤
Love and hugs from Denmark ❤
Social media and dating apps warps guys view on dating... they'll see you but have other guys in their shopping cart ready to go. This feeds how guys treat each other, promotes narcissism, and that the grass is always greener.
So glad I came out and starting seeing guys in the early 90's, it was much simpler, you had to go out and meet people. I was lucky, I met my partner very early and we've been together 30 years now. Lord knows how I'd deal with dating today, as it just seems so toxic. Good luck to you mate, be true to yourself and you'll be fine. Also, 28 is not old, so stop feeding that narrative. :) x
Invest in yourself first!!!! you are a Darling Honey!!!!
Honestly gay life can be very lonely! Not that I'm not intellectual or do not have the ability to make friends. It's just the lifestyle of the community has its criteria That I feel I do not fit.
Hugggs..... Too you. My love... I'm dealing with same n too all here specking from your heart ❤️.... Yes, mind games.. . . I'm Italian, Maltese..... 😂 The gay community is so very, vane
I'm older than you now, and I've gone through phases like this. Maybe it's them and their issues, maybe it's our issues too, and together it makes it impossible to last. I had a bf who started putting me down and enjoying it, and I usually have pretty good self esteem. Didn't last of course, because I could never forgive him. Him refusing to apologize for it, didn't help his case one bit. This is just one example. Narcissism, macho man mentality, power struggles, past traumas, etc. all comes to a boil in LTRs.
My take: enjoy your life single (yes, you'll get there), focus on your good friends (not club friends/there's a place for those too, but on the fringe) and career, and don't even think of a LTR. If it happens, great, and take your bloody time. But if not, you won't be disappointed, or feeling bad. And I mean long lasting LTRs, because the shorter ones, everyone will have those. As long as you truly enjoy your life with the people in it, you'll feel good anyway. Most of my best times were with best friends, people I really felt comfortable with.
LTRs can be a lot of drama. Who needs that?! The mother of a good gay friend told me once that her marriage had lasted more than 50 years. She asked me, you know how many years happy or content in that LTR? Maybe half. And you'll need to put up with A LOT of crap, even abuse. I don't think many of us are willing to compromise or put up with any of that. Sign of the times, unrealistic expectations, the culture of "me", who knows. Cut yourself some slack and focus on good friends and having a content, sometimes happy, life. The rest may come later on.
Focus on yourself and the right person will come to you don't chase attract the right partner vibe attracts vibe universal law no 1!!!!!
No. I meet my husband at 39. I’am 53. The day you will decide what you really want. Really want . You will reject all the unfit guys.
Thank you for speaking your peace. There are many of us who feel the same. Let's hope it gets better.
I’m on the other side of this. I was with my partner and husband of 20 years, he was my soul mate, my entire adult life from 20 years old until 40. He died of Glioblastoma brain cancer 2.5 years ago. We were happy and monogamous. which is incredibly rare. i don’t fit into the “gay world” we liked kayaking, biking, going to coffee, the theatre, travelled. lived the simple life outside the city. We didn’t even have really any hay friends, mostly straight married couples, so now I’m in a world of a selfish narcissist and sex addicts. I think its the dating apps that have ruined dating, now polyamorous, thruples and open seems to be the standard and they still play around on the side. i mean if it works for them great. not what i’m looking for. I’m 42 now and there is a strong possibility I will be alone into my 50’s and 60’s, if I make it to that age. I also find it really hard to make friends as you get older and its almost impossible to have gay friends, all they want is to sleep with you. But I totally get what you’re saying. it sucks you have not experienced it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure he was grateful to have you help him through his struggle with cancer.
And I'm sure nobody will ever measure up to him for you. Treasure his memory ❤️
It's hard out here but we continue trying 🙏
my dad died of a brain tumor like that in 2013. also relate to a lot of what you wrote here. dating in the gay world can be challenging for sure.
You attract the vibe you put out!!!
I totally understand you. I've done the same thing where I try to protect myself and end up closing all bridges for vulnerability with another guy. I'd say the solution is to take your time to heal, I would recommend reading Byung-chul Han The Agony of Eros in which he talks that the current paradigm breeds a narcissistic epidemic. I don't think it's only us gays but our problem is that we have a reduced pool of potential suitors and perhaps more importantly a limited space where encounters can happen.
If love was easy to get, it wouldn't be special. It has to be hard so that when you get it, you appreciate it. The other person has to want it as much as you do. It is a constant give and take. Both people need to be in the right frame of mind in order for a relationship to work.
That is a really nice way to put it. You're absolutely right!
Ooop clock it. Same here, turned 29 lonely, gay and single
Good luck. My experience says that 99% of gay guys are as you describe. It appears very convoluted: influences from genetics, family dynamics, stereotyping, and other factors. My help and solution has been with a "shrink" of some sort. It can be very enlightening but getting through change and acceptance is not for the faint of heart. It is very painful but no other way. Once on the other side it's like Nirvana. Try it but commit to the change - no matter what it feels like.
@@BatchelderPatrick I have been involved in therapy for years, it helps to some degree
You should always stand up, for your well being. Most men ( sadly) are always keeping their options open.
Your suspicions are probably spot on, their behaviors are shady.
You are a very handsome lad , maybe, the right guy , will find you , when you least expect it. ❤
I hear your inner feelings that we should talk about with people that feel the same way. You will get through this keep strong and when you find divine love you'll know when it enters your life.
Gay, lonely and single at 65.😞
It seems all you guys here (in your 30s/40s) still have a long way to go. Courage, then. 🤗
ps: are you all in the US? Europe anyone?
You’re beautiful and perfect physically, remember everyone we only know this man’s side of the story and in a world of narcissistic traits and mental
Abuse ,everyone needs to practice accountability and mindfulness, mental health is number one for me
@@joshuarock4631 and I definitely agree I can be toxic and insecure sometimes which can push people away 🙏
I can totally relate to your dating situation, I am a Transwoman , 27 , and I can 100% relate to you. I guess people that we are looking for , like the one’s in our checklist are the one’s who aren’t into commitment, and being cutesy with someone, I tried dating 2 guys who really wants to be with me and Personally asked me to be exclusive with them, and somehow, even i tried to look past the checklist, I still can’t gamble myself to loving someone who I really am not into in the first place. Idk what to do at this point so I guess im just gonna wait for the people im intereated in to grow up or get tired of playing around and be ready to settle
Same situation as you just minus the lonely. Finding someone to share it with would be wonderful but if I don't meet that special person/soul mate, I still have so much in my life to be happy and grateful for.
Two things are certain… you are worth dating and love does exist for you in this lifetime… keep trying ❤ we’re on the same boat but we’ll see land one day, babe. I promise.
Wow this is totally me too and what I go through!! You're AMAZING and so glad I've watched this! Hope you find Mr right soon gorgeous! ❤✌️
Thank you so much!!
I completely understand this and how you are feeling. Damn, I wish we were closer and in the same country 🫣 stay strong. You will find your soulmate. Stay vulnerable, its a great quality. Peace, light and love to you.
From my experience, ppl could tell I'm a sensitive person. IMO it's super easy for us to fall for it .. idk why . It just is
You are good looking, and young, and that accent is dreamy. make them chase you, not the other way around. Act like you don't need them and one day, you will find your soulmate. If finding someone and falling in love was easy, we would all be snatched up. I have been there, 20 years with the same person and now am single again and its like having to start all over again at 52. Sometimes it takes a while. Have patience, it will happen for you 😊😊
Ciao caro
Tu sei adorabile , sensibile , empatico , profondo e con intelligenza emotiva … vedrai ! Troverai il vero amore , arriva quando non lo aspetti ma il tuo cuore lo riconoscerà … investi su di te e non permettere a nessuno di usarti e non rispettarti !
Un caro abbraccio dall ‘ Italia !
Perché non fai un viaggio a Firenze , Roma e Venezia ?
Ciaooo e buona vita
I don’t want to be gay, it’s been nothing but heartache, I’ve never much been in the pride scene and especially now, I think the pride lgbtq agenda is evil. I am a Christian as well so I have conservative views on most things and because of that I have not found my footing or a partner. And I think I’ve been vulernable many times but have been cheated on every time so of course it’s made me want to put walls up and cause paranoia. It’s difficult to draw the line between what you know is wrong and right and question what you should be willing to put off and what not too or when to walk away and when not too. But I think if someone doesn’t value you and thats shown more with actions than words, that’s not love, that’s not your person. Because people that love you don’t want to hurt you. We might not relate on the Christian conservative aspect but I can relate to much of what you said. People want to complicate it and excuse their partners actions because of those rose colored glasses but often the answer is right in front of your face and you just don’t want to see it and that’s been me before.
He speaks slowly. Play at 1.25x You won't notice that the speed has been increased. The silent pauses can still take forever to get through.
The silent pauses are for dramatic effect lol
I bless you and validate you🙂💛❤️💚💙💜🧡🩷 this is the time for us to work on ourselves and the excellent skills of intuitive discernment and sitting meditation 🧘♂️ breathing and mindfulness. Perhaps explore energy work as well and more delicious nourishing healthy food travel and nature walks. You are a child of God Spirit and Energy And you will get the best at the best time