Since this video is now over 2 years old, SOME THOUGHTS: The Pivot -This was a good PIVOT from a stressful nursing job, to a better one for me. I hope other nurses or medical professionals can learn from that. There is other jobs and opportunities. Find something that works best for you. -As I've learned a lot more about medicine I am not as jaded. There are wonderful things in medicine. There is ways we truly can impact patients. -Nursing can be a great job. I still have a desire to make a bigger impact and this desire has sort of plagued me. The route isn't entirely clear -The multitude of questions remain: become MD, NP, or find a different way to impact others health like coaching or business. Regardless, I am very confident that I will find it in time when the time is right. I continue to learn, grow, and just try my best to use my skills to help others. - Keep going. it will get better. Thanks for the kind comments, STAY HARD LETS GOOOO BABY.
I quit, as well. Can't take it no more. I didn't have a new job when I handed in my resignation letter. But I can't take it no more. They don't even let me clear my annual leave because "we're too short staffed". I still don't have a new job and am contemplating leaving the industry. It's getting from bad to worse. It's all about money now. There's no compassion and I absolutely hate the bullying.
Hope you got a job now. I’m currently going into 3 months after leaving my job due to bad management and lazy coworkers. Whatever I was doing to help and make the place better, It’s like putting a bandaid on a big ulcer. I’m thinking ahead of management, many of the older staff will retire and quit very soon and yet, they are just sitting there in interviews and denying them employment just because the nurse asked for a few bucks higher pay than they would like. So now they are short staffed but hires agency nurses which mostly are crap workers. So they can spend 2x your pay on an agency but they can’t give you a better yearly raise. Management doesn’t make sense.
I understand you completely! I should have quit nursing sooner! Right now i am a dental assistant!! I absolutely love it. I got my life back and it's a great opportunity for nurses. Try it. It's not completely out of our realm of expertise. Less money of course but guys, you get to sleep peacefully every night...
I quit nursing and became a Truck driver. It was the best decision I ever made for my mental health. It’s such an amazing feeling to travel to different states and just get paid for it.
I wish I was a man and become a truck driver. It's like my dream job no kidding. But it's not a woman's job. But anyway, I wish you the best, I'm sure you enjoy those trips so much
Being a nurse killed me inside. I have PTSD from working as a nurse. Staffing ratios, mistreatment from patients and families, management blaming the nurses for everything, getting physically assaulted by patients more and more frequently due to the patient population. I would never recommend this career to anyone. The system needs to protect and support nurses, and until that ever happens, it's not worth spending the money and time to become a nurse.
Exactly, I feel like putting up a billboard to dissuade good people who only wish to do something meaningful that benefits humankind. You won't be doing that in nursing, it's like signing up to be in a terribly abusive relationship.
I agree, nurses are used and abused , the money is not worth it! It was the same in the 90’s when I first became a nurse and has steadily gotten worse! I wish I would have picked a different field of study that wasn’t toxic!
I've been a BSN-RN for 7 years. I left bedside nursing in med/surg after 3 years -- because one night, a young "baby" nurse, only 22, came and asked me to do a stroke assessment on her. I laughed, realized she was serious, and did as she asked. Her left hand grip was weak, she could barely push with her left leg against pressure, smile was asymmetrical. I told the charge RN, then called the resident to the floor. The charge said casually: "Ah, you're being dramatic. She's 22, not an AARP member. She's just tired. And we don't have coverage to send her off the floor, everyone has 7 patients." I pointed out that if SHE would just take over the young nurse's patient load, then we could cover her and she could go to the ER to be checked out. But the charge was "exhausted" because she'd worked 10 shifts in a row, and refused to let her go until the resident also said he was alarmed by her symptoms and told her to go to the ER right away. By the time she did, she had to be pushed in a wheelchair because she couldn't walk. She was evaluated and found to be actively experiencing a CVA. A cardiac cath was done, revealing a patent foramen ovale. She was also on the pill, which already increases stroke risk, and coupled with the patent FO, her heart had been spitting small clots and one lodged in her brain. She'd complained to the charge of a severe headache and numbness/weakness on her left side for HOURS --- since 7 PM. She came to me for the stroke assessment at 1:30 AM. Far past the window for TPA to be started in time to avoid permanent damage. She was left with residual numbness/weakness in her left hand/arm, a slight limp, and she can't lift her leg to even cross her legs anymore. AT 22 G*DDAMN YEARS OLD. She was DOWN THE HALL from every single thing she needed to prevent this, but no one gives a sh*t about nurses!!! We are expendable. We're not people, we don't have feelings or illnesses or needs. THAT is why we're all peacing out of this hellish trap of a profession... Nobody looks out for us. We're shamed and belittled for asking for help, for saying we're burned out or depressed or sick. Ridiculed for saying the workload is too heavy, or the patients are too high-acuity for our scope of practice, or we're under mental strain. Told by a CHARGE NURSE that symptoms are all in our heads, and that even if something is wrong, we CAN'T leave the floor because there's no one to take over our patients, even if we're having a damn stroke! It is barbaric, toxic, and abusive. When I was pregnant with my son, I had recurring nightmares that I'd go into early labor while on the floor... and be told, while standing in a puddle of amniotic fluid and having contractions, that "we don't have anyone to cover you, so you can't leave the floor." Then I would end up having my baby in the middle of a hospital hallway floor, with an annoyed float nurse in my face, rudely demanding report from me while I held my newborn baby. Nursing has literally been hell on earth for me, and I feel like it's the worst mistake I've made in my entire life. I loved it for a couple of years, but the good moments are so rare and so far-between that it just isn't enough. Nothing is worth your life, your health, or your sanity. I've struggled with depression since I was a child, but I've never been suicidal until I became a nurse. I'm sick to death of seeing other nurses and management make fun of colleagues and subordinates for struggling, telling them to "toughen up" or "that's just nursing, get over it." People won't understand the damage this attitude has done to the profession until the mass exodus becomes a major crisis everywhere --- especially in the U.S., where the baby boom generation is aging into long-term care and requiring chronic hospital stays and nursing home admissions. That's about to be 25% of the U.S. population with NO nurses to take care of any of them. That's when the fun will really begin.
@@lls1142 Absolutely. My poor kids have a depressed, empty shell for a mom, because it's so draining I have nothing left for them when I come home. I'm VERY close to leaving full-time nursing and getting some type of factory job, and just supplementing with agency PRN shifts if we need extra money. It's just not worth it anymore, but I've got 3 kids to support, so I have to keep going until I have a good replacement. I wish I could've left a long time ago. 💔
@@kimuralove1096 I hear you on that. I'm new in the field and kind of regret leaving the "back of the house" position I had as a laundry aid in the nursing home. but I just couldn't live off of that pay. I was doing it for six years while contemplating whether or not to return to school to be a nurse. and I got to admit looking from the outside it didn't seem like the nurse did anything but pass meds and sit at the computer but now I know what really goes on out on the floor. I've always wanted to work in the labor and delivery but I even hear bad things about that and now I'm just not sure how long I will last in the field. I'm thinking about alternative/holistic medicine now if I can apply nursing to that. But first I want to master my skills. Good luck finding your replacement!
At least you had a doc in the house. It is sick that you try to do things the right way. She could have excused herself to the bathroom and gone down to ER and saved herself, but she didn't. That is sick and cruel. I am so sorry that happened to her and to you and everyone there. My charge nurse had a heartattack and was in our CCU for a long time. Things like this happen. The noc supervisor who had my job in LTC just didn't come in one night. They found her dead in her home. No one told me that story for quite a long time. I only stayed there 5 years but it aged me 10. Again, so very sorry.
It is not only in the nursing field. I worked an an ambulance for the past 14 years and I quit my job last month too. Surprisingly, it was for the same exact reasons as you. You go into the field wanting to make a difference, but the only thing that ends up changing is you. Sometimes you have to sit back and ask yourself, "Is this really the life I want?". I am unemployed, but this is the happiest I have ever been!
And there is a LOT to that. I would rather be happy than go to a job that is toxic and that I hate. Yes, I need money, and I"m looking too, after my last job ended, but there IS that relief of not having to go to that environment again. We'll make it.
Its all of healthcare! I quit my job as a nurse and moved to Colombia where I've met medics, doctors, and nurses who have all quit and built a new life. Its crazy how bad the healthcare workforce is for the people in it
I feel for this guy and all the front line workers. Out of necessity, I have to go to the clinic twice a week, I'm always very respectful to all the people that work there, profusely thanking them for their hard work. It sounds like a lot of them are on call, and some actually sleep at the hospital, because their next shift is only hours away.
I have had two nurses I knew committed suicide over the last seven years. No one cares! But if a CEO jumps out a building the world F#@king stops ! The stress, unrelenting anxiety, demands, entitlement and unrealistic dangerous workload is what killed my friends !!!
14 years as an RN now at the bedside and I’m done put a fork in me. Morally injured, ptsd, doing the work of RN, tech, social work, etc etc. Too much stress! I found you by searching I hate nursing.
It's rough. After a while, it takes its tole on you. You're burnt out both physically and mentally. Documentation is like 90% of what brings about that stress. If you REALLY care about your patients, it can be so hard to see them die because you eventually develop a relationship with them
Jay. You are absolutely right. I am a doctor for 20 years and I am thinking about retiring early for the exact same reasons. You just described the true status of the current health system. Simply it is broken. I command you for your courage to realize and describe the reasons to quit. I believe you speak for so many people who work in health care.
As an LPN, I am considering walking away all together. It’s too much all together. Especially when your really care about your patients. And yes you hit the nail on the head-NEVER APPRECIATED…..AND ITS JUST BIG BUSINESS TO THEM! Continued blessings to you Jay and Mohamed on your next journey. 🙏🏽
In thirty years of being a BSN, RN, I know one thing to be true. You can either be a great nurse, or you can have a healthy, happy, good home life. You can't have both.
I remember in one of my psyc classes that my professor who is a psychologist of 30+ years said how nurses & cops have the most messed up dysfunctional marriages, home life, and children with behavior issues. As a therapist, this stereotype he said in class based off his professional experience has been true from what I've seen thus far counseling adult clients or teens. And the single ones are on antidepressants/Xanax and have awful dating social lives.
@@anitaknight3915 you stand corrected I am on antidepressants and adderall diagnosed at 38 y.o. But I’ve been a nurse 13 years. I remember in my psych class majority of our class had psych background/ or family history and traumatic childhood. It was unbelievable all different races. They say that most people come to be nurses because of past trauma. I think we like to punish ourselves
@@raeRenae1 I agree!!! I think many of us healers in the helping professions come from dysfunctional traumatic backgrounds and that's why we are so empathetic, caring, and compassionate. We are caretakers who want to give what we didn't receive. We have sensitive nurturing personalities that lead toward burnout over giving patterns where we become taken advantage of by wounded and self absorbed individuals.
@@raeRenae1 Yes, I agree with that! Something in us makes us want to constantly be in the middle of it and take it all on for the sake of "advocating" for our patients. It can kill you. But if you try to block part of it out, you feel like you're not doing your job.
We all deserves to be happy! I quit my my job as a registered nurse last two years ago after almost 16 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness Lol 😁but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!!
@@gracedaniels6172 While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 2k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
@@eiraantoinette6793 wow impressive! You're making quite a fortune speaking of investing I have heard about this but I don't really know how to start and make a good investment. Share more info please
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100%! I moved from bedside RN to remote insurance UM 4 years ago and I will never go back. You can spend your shift busting your butt, literally save someone’s life, and all you’ll hear about is that one thing you forgot to chart. Oh, and while doing the work of 2 other nurses because they’re perpetually short staffed. I can’t tell you how many nights I was literally in charge of an entire hospital as a brand new nurse. It’s not safe and it’s not worth it. Good luck on your future endeavors!
You can find the positions on any job search engine, search for utilization review. If you have floor experience, don’t worry about UM experience and apply anyways. Almost everyone I work with didn’t have prior experience in insurance.
If hospitals would hire more CNAs and bring back LVNs things would be so much better and safer. It is so frickin lame they got rid of most of them and just want to dump all this high risk work into one position.
Our hospital recently realized that LPNs were needed back in and did a hiring spree. I am one of those, I just had to get a stand-alone IV certification. My state limits what I am allowed to do, but most everything else I do, an RN does as well. When I was a CNA, I had a hard time finding full-time work for some reason (this was 2 years ago, however). Right now the openings are there for CNAs in our hospital, but it’s very different work from a nursing home.
@@jljordan1 I only work in large metro areas. Never seen an LPN or CNA. Some hospitals are only hiring BSN's. Pts.are much sicker compared to 20 years ago. Critical thinking nurses are so impt. I'm sure you can find LPN's in small cities. We need to get the managers asses out of their offices to help relieve for breaks, etc. I've work on sm. specially floors with 1 manager and 3 assistants & none of them help with relief or anything. Not sure they'd even know what to do. Maybe we have enough nurses & only 24 patients but everybody deserves a damn 30 minute meal break without a damn phone glued to your damn 👂ear.
I'm a nightshift nurse, I'm burned out, my health has tanked, I cannot recover on my days off. EVERYTHING you said was spot on, You have put into words things what I cannot explain even to my spouse and closet friend. I just withdraw and isolate from people that I love and people who love me b/c I am physically and mentally exhausted and just "talking" about it feels like one more thing I cannot do.
I'm a night shift RN as well and feel your pain. I've been a nurse for 10+ years now and so burnt out. I'm currently doing travel at a crazy busy hospital in DC. I wish there was a community or group of nurses to connect with and vent. I wish you the best of luck:-))
Night Shift nurse here too. I NEVER have energy for anything. I’m sinking into depression more and more. This whole pandemic has been a huge stress. I literally have no motivation to be with my family or to do the things I loved doing. I’m eating like shit, sleeping like shit, I never have time for anything. I’m about to lose my shit . I never thought I’d hate this profession so much. I was so excited to “make a difference” when I graduated nursing school. I’m so freaking over this now. Only 5 years in and I’ve lost my soul
Oh my goodness I can't believe that am reading this today because I feel just the same and with no one to vent to. Am planning on my exit soon. I think my health and happiness is more worth
Night shift GN here, working a couple months now, and I am reconsidering this route... in my short months of working , I have experienced so much.. and if I allowed to be tossed to and from... I would be burnt out. Working the night shift is great, however, the recovery be painful most times. This is not good for my overall health... I need sleep. Might I mention I am a mum of five.
If you forget to document one thing or if the person who took care of that patient didn't pass on the message to you, the doctors WILL reach out to your chief nursing officer and you're screwed
I can’t hold a job. It seems the CNOs must screen nurses by abusing them. If I eat 💩, I can hold my job with the knowledge my manager hates my guts and I will be the first to go if we run short of hours.
😮and it continues to stay broken and getting worse!!!! I work as Licensed Nurse Assistant and tested to get into Nursing school BSN RN and every shift I go to just makes me realize NO I AM NOT here to heal anyone but myself!!!!! Therefore I have decided NOT to become a nurse thanks to everyone here sharing truth 😊
I was an RN at the skilled nursing facilities for about 4 years and the stress is so overwhelming that I called it quit and now I’m a Dasher for Doordash and can’t be happier!! Only bad thing about food delivery driver job is taxes/ rapid wear& tear on your car/ gasoline, and that’s all, but freedom and stressfreeare priceless.
I’m a travel nurse and no matter where you work it’s all the same BS. Nurses are overworked and the hospital system is completely burning us out. I agree with everything you said.
Omg I’m a new grad. I literally was like maybe I’m being a brat and just feel incompetent. NO NO the acuity of these patients are high we are short staff!! I feel like my license is potentially at risk. I really thought with nursing I would have compassion for people and just save someone. Wrong again everything is task oriented it’s terrible. Far as mental health working 12s going in when it’s dark and leaving when it’s dark literally makes me depressed. This video is spot on!!
I am a new grad IRT nurse and I get floated everywhere and the ward/unit nurses would give us the patients they dont like. I am rpn and sometimes I get RN patients. I have 2mos experience and my patients have higher acuity than the senior nurses in the ward.
Who knew a single youtube video could change my outlook in life and has answered so many questions on pondering about my future....and don't worry. This is a very good thing. Glad your honest.
I quit being a nurse about 4 years ago. Since then I lost my home I've been unemployed and have had to move from apartment to apartment finding cheaper places to live and move from job to job. I couldn't be happier. Thank God I'm not a nurse anymore!
Your situation isn't funny but I lol'd this because it's so true that it's such a relief to not be a nurse. I hope you find the right situation for you❤.
I have been a nurse for 46 years and I can tell you, all the things you are saying have been there for the entire time I have been nursing. I'm ending my career at the end of the year. I'll miss my peers and some of the patients I have had the privilege to help over the years. I can honestly say the most incredible experiences I have ever had was nursing in third world situations (Palestinian refugee camp, Guatemalan jungle). It was pure joy to be a nurse. Over the years in nursing in the US I have on rare occasion experienced it.
Consider home health nursing. I do wounds all day. I love it. I just drive around the city and see about 6-8 pts a day. First patient seen like around 9, back home by 2-3pm for charting then im done. Im not in one single place for 8 to 12 hrs or around a supervisor trying to micromanage and breathe down my back.. Eff all that noise.
I feel you. I worked at a general ICU for 1 year and 8 months. It’s so hard to handle certain patient populations, you’re right that it wears on you. I am a travel nurse now, I still feel empty after work because of the conditions/broken system. I’m taking some time off after this one because the money isn’t worth my mental health.
can you please explain what you mean the money isnt worth the mental health? all of my nurse clients say this making $8k a week and saying not worth it. I'm currently first semester in nursing school
Hey guys. Yes I can elaborate. Yes I get paid thousands a week but when I say it’s not worth it it’s because my mental health is suffering. When you go to work and are given way more to handle than humanly possible, don’t sit down, don’t eat/drink, and get talked down to by doctors; it truly makes you wonder if the money is worth being miserable all of the time. On top of this, nurses are allowed to be physically and verbally abused by patients and family members. Administration does not care. You are risking your license every day because when that workload is too much you’re bound to make a mistake. In short, the system sets you up for failure and yes money is good but at the expense of being unhappy and anxious 24/7?
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@@Romita68able I can’t do it for money . That’s wrong but our knowledge and the stress liability and hours we put in aren’t equivalent to the pay we receive often. So I suggest you go into with a means to advocate for yourself and desire to change the system as opposed to becoming apart of the broken down mess that it has become. Learn some law on your way and stay informed.
All THE reasons why I left nursing in 2019. I’m now a clinical research associate, working from home and making a significant amount more for a much better job. I’m so much happier and in a much better place mentally. Nursing is broken, nursing is NOT what it used to be, and hospitals are terrible to nurses. I will never look back.
@@katherinestrotman1162 I would love info too!! I am currently working on my pre requisites into nursing. I want to get into aesthetic nursing more than anything. If you know the process to get in now before I have my degree I would love to connect!
Hey Jay, I can relate to so much you have said. I’ve been a nurse for about a year now. Started off as a new grad during COVID in a very acute med tele where we hardly ever had any break relief, CNAs on the floor, and had to do labs ourselves. Worked 12 hr shifts and commuted an hour away. Working there was so overwhelming that I would get anxious the day before my shift so I wouldn’t even enjoy my day off. Eventually I got really burnt out and started feeling depressed for the first time in my life. I even started questioning why I became a nurse. I finally decided to quit and I’ve been at my new job for two weeks now. I hope this is the change I’m looking for in terms of my career and mentally. Hopefully your decision is the change you are looking for too, wishing you the best!
Our upper management made a comment at our weekly meeting after hearing complaints about how unhappy the nurses were. "It's not our job to make you happy. You have to find that within yourself". OK. That was the day I decided on my retirement date. Two years earlier than planned. But I will not give them anymore of "me" and the soul sucking sacrifices I make on a daily basis. My job is the most difficult, it has ever been in 30 years and it will only get worse. Done.
This is why I laugh at when they say '"but you guys make alot of money". So do other professions. They don't understand what high stress does to you. I'm in nursing but will continue my side hustle so I'm not only depending on my job.
Imagine what it is like for paramedics, EMT, teachers, CNAs, counselors, and teachers are treated and paid wayyyy below what most nurses are!!!! The system is broken but those professions are even more unappreciated and underpaid than nurses for all they do and deal with.
It’s funny because what is a lot of money? I know seasoned bedside nurses only making $30/hour. Fast food restaurants are offering $17/hour or more. How does this make sense now? Good money is six figures. Bedside nurses are not seeing that unless they are working tons of overtime. The VA hospitals pay pennies for new grads. Poor things. At least teachers get summers off (I have a family full of teachers so I know this). They do deserve better pay but nurses are literally dealing with life or death so the two cannot really be compared. Nursing is not worth it.
@@kkb2844 I agree that none of these professions are paid well and all underpaid. Nurses go through a ton and it isn't worth the physical and emotional toll. It is great at least teachers get holiday breaks and summers off : ). In a way yeah you can compare. It is just some differences. As counselors/mental health professionals we are dealing with extreme burnout and compassion fatigue as well dealing with non stop mental illness, overdoses, and suicidal attempts/ideation trauma overload on a constant basis with even less resources, support, lower pay yet higher education than RN , and high caseloads with no government funding. The mental and psychological burnout being exposed to vicarious trauma and overburdened broken medical system is horrific for both.
Can I ask what side hustle you are doing, I am tired of nursing too. My husband and I only work a 0.6 to pay the bills , no energy to do more. Looking for side hustle too.
I relate to this 100%. I'm a "new" nurse in the ER, spoke to my colleagues about how they've stuck it out, especially with nightshift, and got imposter syndrome because it didn't seem to bother others as much as it bothered me. Everyone just kinda had that "I gotta do what I gotta do to earn a salary" mentality. But I was fucked deep down, existential crisis because I love trauma, but the conditions were so horrible, you felt like you could give your all and still not make a difference - felt super depleted after shifts and like you, couldn't do anything on days off because I felt like I needed forever to recover before the next shift. Thank you for your insight - at least now I know it's not normal and other people feel the same way.
You wouldn't have imposter syndrome if you have doubts that you should have. You being in a new environment demonstrates that your doubts were completely reasonable. It's not just doubt, it's doubt after accomplishment and achievement in a given scenario.
@@jonjameson6606 maybe impostor syndrome was the wrong term to use.. I was not feeling doubt because of my skills and abilities - I'm a good nurse. I felt doubt because it seemed like I was suffering while the staff around me did not really think (or show) that they were suffering. I felt my patients were being let down, even if I was doing my best and getting to as many patients as I humanly could - the staff around me just went about their day, and did not seem to give thought to the many patients that we could not get to (during our shift) because of impossible staff to patient ratios, lack of stock, and such problems.
@@scorpz_ right on. I didn't mean any disrespect by it if it came off that way. My first instinct is to give you advice but I'm not a nurse. I'm planning on nursing after i get back to walking. Lost a leg in an accident. I can definitely relate. I was a mechanic and getting over run with work you can either get everything done sloppily or get only some of it down right. Anyways, I'm just saying, looking at your profession at the time you're doing it it's absolutely understandable that you'd be psychologically overwhelmed, add in the fact that you had just moved to the ER and it sounds downright terrifying especially when your colleagues made it sound as if they just walked in and knew what they were doing right away. I really hope it worked out for you, whether that meant staying in the ER or leaving.
Awwww The ER is tough and if your in a busy one, turning patient after patient, you can easily feel like that. I worked the floor and then did ER which I liked but I missed connecting with my patients. I never had proper time to teach them diet tricks or small tips to help them with their diagnosis. I recently left that trauma hospital for a smaller one one and went to COVID. I am so much happier because I have a little bit (not much, 6 pts) to educate them about how to get better, PT encouragement, and diet tips. Maybe try PCU, it’s usually 4 pts and you may have more time to help and connect with them.
I'm not in Healthcare, but I have a government job and they're increasingly trying to run us like a corporation. You can't run a government agency like a corporation. We're treated like robots. I barely sleep between Sunday night to Thursday night because the anxiety I feel about what's in store for the next day. In my position, especially with everything that's happened since last year we also get a lot of abuse from the public we have to interact with. They can abuse us verbally but we can't react without repercussions. It makes me even sadder because it wasn't always like this. So I see the toxicity and the ever decreasing employee morale. I love the work and helping people it's just all the other things you and he mentioned. I felt every word except he's a nurse and I'm govt employee. I can't even mention where I work. Lol people think we make so much money but why are employees putting in an extra 20 hours OT weekly? I need the money but I mentally can't do it. So I survive on my basic salary because OT isn't always guaranteed and then you have to go back to surviving on your base pay. I also don't have a lot of options because I didn't go to college. I basically started out of high school, however I do have a tremendous skill set from doing this occupation. I could go to another agency, but they're all pretty much the same. I've been working there more than half my life and I'll have the years in anywhere between now and the next 5, but I won't be old enough to receive my pension w/or penalty and quite a few years before I'll be eligible for SS if it's even still available at that point. I apologize for the long comment and I can't believe the similarities we're all experiencing. Take care and hold on❤
I completely understand, ER nurse for 13 years and I decided change my work status to PRN a month ago. Healthcare just isn’t the same and it’s a toxic environment.
Once upon a time I was considering becoming a nurse, that's not longer the case. I'm happy that I did a lot of research into what it's like being a nurse, it prevented me going down that track. Although the career sounds very much in line with what I'm interested in and I feel like I'd be a great nurse, but the careers has too many apparent problems. It's a broken career. I commend anyone that is a nurse, very under appreciated!
I am feeling the same way, I was recently accepted into nursing school and I am no longer thrilled about having to work 12 hour shits inside a depressing building. I am thinking of going into law enforcement.
Wish I did more research, I ate up the idealized version of nursing and now I’m stuck. I’m the main breadwinner and there’s nothing else I can do with this degree. 💔
It took a lot of courage to do what you did. As a nurse, I had to quit to save myself from extreme stress, anxiety and depression. Thank you for sharing your reasons for quitting nursing!
I have been an ER nurse for 15+ years. I quit my job in August due to complete burn out. I am planning on doing a travel assignment in very near future but watching this video really hit home to me. My anxiety level was so out of control on my days off all I did was sleep. Very depressing. 🤦♀️
thank you! I came in to nursing cause i want to work with children, i have a lot of relatives and friends who are nurses and doctors, i will see their advice on how the current status of hospitals are like for RNs and LVNs thank you thank you! i want to see if i could go straight to medical technician if it's a hospital or if i can skip a hospital straight out of graduation
Done it all, except L&D. It's not just the hospitals. The whole career has gone downhill in the 26 years I've been a nurse. I retire in just over a year. I plan on driving my kid's school bus part time.
I’m literally laying in bed just received a text to pick up a shift. I can’t do it I’m prn and rarely pick up. Besides I just found out my hemoglobin 9 and my iron saturation practically non existent. Nursing is killing me slowly, time to nurse myself!
This is exactly how I feel. I feel guilty for being burnt out when I have only been a nurse for 2.5 years, but I'm drained. We are cogs in the wheel of a business called Healthcare. Patient "satisfaction " seems to be a higher priority than patient safety. Management doesn't have our backs. Patients may swear and be disrespectful yet we get in trouble "for loosing our compassion" because we set kind yet firm boundaries. One can give 120%, but it isn't good enough. Practices and staffing ratios are unsafe. I feel like I'm shuffling patients through the system without giving them care
as a patient, I was praying all four days I stayed in hospital after my abdominal surgery - God please, keep me from being dependent on hospital staff, who did not care, were cold on the brink of being rude, they gossip about you - and you hear it, they make fun of you, they act weird, older staff is better, young chicks were terrible. They handled you as a number, in robotic un humane way. I am still recovering, but thinking to do volunteer job by bedside, just to give patients some break from terrible staff.
I retired from dialysis nursing in 2010 and I honestly can't imagine being a nurse today! The health-care system was going downhill, doctors becoming too specialized, no one is caring for the "whole patient", the nurse who could doesn't have time.
I worked as a medsurg RN, I know what you are talking about. When I told my friends I work 12 hrs and no break, I wake up at 5 and don’t get to eat lunch until 3pm, they don’t believe me. They don’t believe this kind of job exists. But for all you talked about in this video, I have personally experienced them and I know what you are talking about and how it feels.
That initially really broke my heart. Always enjoy your vids. Knowing you have something in the works makes me feel better. I knew you weren't happy. My hope is that you find hope & happiness with your next endeavor. I have faith in you. Jeff, RN.
Say less brother, I totally understand, I work in an ICU unit, one of our patients died today we badged with took all the tubes and wires off and sent him to the morgue. Feels like He was just another number to the doctors and I see everyone around me carry on with their day as nothing happened, my point is that nursing feels so robotic, pushing pill, doing what the doctor says, cannot have autonomy because that the way it is , and I don’t blame everyone is super busy through the day I get it! Can’t even take a great sometimes, Days like this I feel all that study time, school, class after class all that FOR THAT. It’s been almost two years I don’t know for how long I can keep doing this . Ps intro was dope
Medical ICU COVID nurse.. just quit.. the stress and being yelled at.. got yelled at by a 28 year old female.. told HR… they did nothing.. so I am back to software engineering.. way more chill
"He was just another number to the doctors..." Don't take shots at physicians, they're also mentally drained. They have more responsibility as well due to their autonomy. I'm sure he was just another number to management, other nurses, and the CNAs. I've been an EMT/Nurse and patients ARE another number, as bad as it sounds. Why? Because if I took every patient personally, instead of another number, I would be depressed. You can give the best care beause that's your job but you can't care for patients like they're your family. It is what it is.
I will tell you it gets worse! I don’t work ICU but I think I’m numb. I saw so many pts die in LTC I’m on Med/surg but i always thought it was weird that I had to disassociate. Its only hard if it’s someone I got close too. But I think I’m always in fight or flight mode at work. That I have no time to process things.
Feeling appreciated is not asking for too much. It is okay to want to be appreciated as we are human and seek appreciation from many aspects of our lives. I truly hope you understand that it is not asking for a lot and that you realize that you deserve to be appreciated. Best of luck
I’m a male nurse and I’m in case management, I love it. Corporate 9-5 work Monday-Friday. With fridays usually off. I work remotely from home now and pull 6 figures plus additional performance bonuses during the 4th quarter. Benefits are amazing. Best decision of my life. You should consider it. Or get into teaching etc. my schedule allows me to travel and live life on my terms. Nursing has a plethora of options it’s pretty amazing.
Exactly, the hard thing is how bad bedside conditions are, we are gunna continue to lose a lot of nurses. But there is great options outside of the bedsides thanks for sharing and I would love to hear more about your experiences
@@JayFriedrichs 😊We nurses need to transfer all our work ethics, integrity, skills and knowledge into a profession that will appreciate us. Nursing is like factory work. No one respects us unless they need a nurse or we give 2 weeks notice. Take Care and only the best to you my fellow RN!
How did you get into case management ? Did your job require previous work exp before getting hired ? Are you remote temp from Covid or were you hired remote ?
I quit teaching for this same reason. Stress literally kills you physically and mentally, and no amount of money is worth thoroughly martyring yourself.
You did the right thing. It never changes. I graduated from nursing school in 1985 when we were practicing primary care nursing. We did everything without nurse’s aides. One-by-one our backs were destroyed. I quit also. Your path is very normal. Good luck with your future career endeavors!
I’m so glad I saw this video. I was CNA for 3 years to see if nursing was for me. I love doing patient care but the 12/16 hrs did wear and tear to my body. At the hospital I was working they stayed over working us. 12 patients to one aid. Sometimes 15 or the whole hall because we short staffed. My anxiety used to kick in so bad before I went to work. Hell, sometimes I used to call out so I could just sleep. I always wanted to be a nurse but I just feel like as if it’s not worth it. My peace and sanity is worth everything.
No job is worth your peace, mental health or sanity!! CNAs are so overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated. I quit being a cna in a nursing home and withdrew from the beginning of nursing school courses for those same reasons because my health and peace were more important. Given what the medical field has continued to deteriorate and get worse reassures me I made the right decision!
I worked a pediatric clinic for seven years until this month. I went from seeing 11 patients per day (complicated cases, lots of lab draws, injections) to 46 patients on top of phone notes. Company started a covid clinic, didn't have adequate PPE. I used the same N95 for two months because the clinic wouldn't supply them and no one could find them in stores or online. Clinic wouldn't enforce parents wearing masks. I caught mono when I first started at 26, then just about every respiratory disease I came in contact with. My immune system was shot. This last year I caught covid, along with six other coworkers. One of my coworkers in her 30s died two months after infection, company stated it was "unrelated". They never replaced her position. The amount of kids on ADHD meds broke my heart. Moms would come in saying their kid is "too hyper", "doesn't listen unless I yell" (while kid sits there calm, engaged and polite, listening to my instructions) and demand medication to "fix" them. Most of these parents don't let their kids play outside, there's no family meal time, while meals consist of processed carbs and sugar. My heart ached for these neglected family scape goats. Five of us quit this year. My only regret is I couldn't take some kids home with me.
I work pediatric ICU. Management does not care about safety. I was expected to run the picu last Saturday with a brand new grad off orientation for two weeks in general peds who had not even been cross-trained or set foot in the picu before. When I objected due to safety reasons first they ignored me, then they called me unprofessional and disrespectful for stating my concerns. Gaslighting is rampant. I only got salty when I was blatantly ignored and I have 30 years of pediatrics experience. Neither of the managers is a picu nurse.
As a future doctor, it is with a devastated heart to witness the degradation of the healthcare industry. Thank you for serving the healthcare industry!
Hang in there brother. I'm glad to hear you have something else pending. The awesome thing about nursing is how very broad the profession is. If you don't like it in one spot, then there are plenty of options. I'm doing my prerequisites now - and have most done as well as my TEAS and my veterans status will help a bunch getting me a seat in the program for next Fall. I am committed to getting my BSN. I am also 55 yrs old. vp
Great video! Our physical and mental health need attention, and should not be compromised for any reason. I can’t wait to see where you go next! Good luck! 🤗
We appreciate all of you nurses even if your hospital does not.I can only imagine how difficult it must be currently with covid and all.I wish you continued success in your nursing career take care buddy 😊
Bless you! 27 years. I have done 30 but not just hospital. I have worked all over trying to find something that worked for me, but alas here I am, ready to be a youtuber and content creator.
Your story is so resonating, thank you for sharing! It's so unfortunate the healthcare system we are in. As a new grad, I came in wanting to make a difference, but this is far from the truth. It's hard to make a difference in this medical model and it's simply exhausting...
The same here. I never could take a break on nearly every inpatient nursing job I ever had . Not even a bathroom break. Did not eat or drink anything the whole 10 to 12 hour shift.
Appreciate the honesty. I've been thinking about the culture a lot myself as I rotate during my clinicals. There's also no seniority in the medical field. You don't get promoted up to a point where you have a better lifestyle
1000 % agree with you. The system’s broken. I want to quit after 26 years of being a nurse this what I get?! The PTSD, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION work-related.
You will find your way. Sounds like for many of the reasons you listed for wanting to leave pediatrics would be a good fit. Kids want to get better so they can go out and play, and go back to school. They don’t typically return because They don’t want to fallow the doctors advice. Kids actually do get better.
I hear you about nightshift smh. I was begging to get to days. Worked nights for 10 months in an SICU at a level one trauma center. Management thought i was playing about having to leave unless they could move me to days asap-until i sent an email one day that i had accepted a day-shift position in the obs. unit at the same hospital. My body could not take another moment of night shift. I physically could not take it, and I’m glad I left.
One thing about the Night Shift is that you don't have to see Nurse Managers, Doctors are Patient family members; also Night Shift nurses tend to work more closely together. There's more team work mentality on the Night Shift. Nights might be a little hard on the body, especially in the beginning, but if you establish a routine, you can get used to Nights and it's not so bad, plus you make more money on the Night Shift. Just not to deal with Management, Doctors and Family members, makes the Night Shift worth it.
Dude, intro is a movie 🥶 sick edits! Quitting nursing is a TOUGH choice but being in that pursuit of happiness is the move. Keep grinding and get that bread up bro! Next up: freedom bayybeee 😈
I’ve been in healthcare for 40 plus years.In the last 5 years I have fought depression, anxiety, and have recently been diagnosed with Ibs that is worse on nights I have to work.Then they want to offer 15$ an hour extra to come in when they’re short? A big no thank you.I totally feel you.
Wow! This is a true and accurate description. I agree and have experienced this exact scenario. It’s a real eye opener for RN’s who worked so hard for their license then have to work in a toxic environment. This happens everywhere. And FYI Home Care nursing is no better. Good luck to you!
I've never felt soo UNDERSTOOD in my life! Thank you so much for this video and for literally describing and bringing to words my exact thoughts and feelings. I thought I was the only one feeling this way. To a point I even thought I was crazy or immature for feeling that way. I am currently in that process of finding a nee journey and my calling. I got to a point of experience high anxiety and panic attacks just thinking about work. My mental health was declining along with my physical, emotional, and spiritual. Please pray for me 🙏 I want God to guide me from darkness to light. Blessings 🙌
FNP 13 years working with inner city indigent. RN since 2003. I’m so tapped out right now. …. 😴 exhausted. I’m working on an exit plan. Thinking 🤔 about wal mart door greeting 😂 cuz they always are happy. JK but I get up every morning and pray really REALLY REALLY hard for help to get through this shift this day & to be the best version of myself to help others. Then I kill it at the gym for 1-1.5 hours starting at 5 am. I don’t miss cuz this routine keeps me grounded. Oh I always try to keep my expenses to a minimum… just in case I do end up working at Wal Mart🙂
Omg I can’t even begin to tell you how on point this is about the patient population and how much it drains you when you know these people you’re trying to ‘help’ don’t give a shit and are just going to end up coming straight back in to hospital. Hit the nail on the head. The system is BROKEN
Appreciate your information! I know alot of new nurses see the money (depending where they are) and don't understand why nurses leave. You can make great money, but please invest that money so you do have the option to leave/change jobs and not be forced to work in many of these broken systems. You will be so much happier for it.
Valuable life lessons. Follow your heart, trust your gut! Smart man! You will find your niche, nursing embraces human life. We need more Nurses to speak up, Thank you!
I feel you. After working as a night nurse for 38 years, I decided to get out. That was in 2020. I've decided not to renew my license this year since I'll be 65 in a couple months. Kudos to those sticking it out. Unless you've been in the trenches, you don't get it. Good luck to the younger generation who is getting out.
I retired after 32 years of nursing in hospitals. I loved the work but it took a serious toll on my life and health. Stomach cancer, divorce, autoimmune disease and finally a nervous breakdown. But, at 67 I am still alive and healing, proud that I lived a life on the front lines of health care. I saved many lives but had to put up with all sorts of abuse from administrators. It is so sad that nurses are treated so poorly. . But, I always had a job and now have retirement . Hey, you have to work hard in life to reap the benefits. In my next life I hope to be an artist.
One of the managers asked me this morning how everything was going and I just looked at her! I’ve only been here for 8 months and I’m over it! I’m a pill pusher and back charter! I can’t be a nurse cuz I don’t have the time to do so! I start with 5 end up with 6 and most times the admit comes at shift change fresh from the PACU! All the patients want is pain pills and they set alarms. I can’t eat! Can’t pee! No tech 90% of the time! I’m over nursing!
All of this is why I left RN school. Even though I planned to finish once I got my house refinanced so I would have leftover money to go to school and not have to work full-time, I don’t want to. I love patient care as a CNA but I am so burnt out on health care and I don’t want to be chained to a computer all day. Healthcare workers get assaulted and threatened all the time and the pandemic has made my job in hospice so much more stressful. I am seriously thinking of changing fields.
Man, I’m just starting nursing school and see this. It’s making me think about it a little deeper, I hope this isn’t the case for the entire profession.
I just finished in August, now that I’m done I’m feeling like this isn’t what I want to do. I feel like I wasted my time lol but I guess it’ll be something for me to fall back on.
You should shadow some nurses while you're still early and taking prerequisites. If I could go back I would have went into engineering or computer science. Nursing isn't what your instructors and educators make it out to be.
Jay, I am a male RN. I have been in this profession for 3O yrs. I was in your exact situation as a new graduate nurse. I came very close to leaving the nursing profession. The best advise I can offer you is don't throw away all of your training. I found bedside nursing in the hospital to be the most stressful worst possible working conditions out there. Initially I left that position and went into home health care. It had its share of stress but nothing like bedside nursing. Eventually I found an out patient clinic position that was very stress free and fulfilling. And finally I went into case management where I had no direct patient care but instead used all my knowledge to navigate patients through our crazy health care system. Wishing you much success as your professional life journey continues! 💙
Everyone says just keep pushing I know this all too well being in the military. I’m finally clearing out next week and I’m so glad because I myself have not felt healthy since being in it actually broke me in many ways physically and mentally. So I’ve decided to move forward onto a new path something that will fulfill me.
I am only in my first semester of nursing school and I'm feeling this way about school, I can't even imagine myself working in the hospital. I am already debating my decision of being a nurse for these exact reasons.
I wouldn’t do it. If I could go back and do something different I would. The system is broken and I feel like it’s the worst it’s ever been right now. It’s not gonna get better anytime soon.
@@marion-v6o the only good thing is being able to find a job easily and financial security but you can find that with other jobs for less stress. Nursing isn’t ever gonna change until they lose all of us and have no choice but to come up with something different and stop treating us like shit
Since I have learned how to save, invest, and put my money to work to increase my income, I am not worried of losing my job as an RN (registered nurse) or leaving my employment. I want freedom to live my life as I see fit, not just financial gain.
There's a lot of investing options real estate, crypto ETFs but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions
1000000000000000% agree. You described my exact feelings to a T. I even had the same experience as you with not being able to explain what specifically about work was so stressful. I remember my mom asking me why I felt so stressed and I couldn't even verbalize what it was, I truly could not find the right words to describe it. My first new grad job I didn't even finish my preceptorship because I could tell I was not going to be able to stick it out for too much longer. Every single nurse on the floor was voicing how much they hated their job, and how badly they wanted to quit. It was a pedi med-surge floor. I fell into a deep depression, developed anxiety, and as a result of that my GI system went crazy and I couldn't eat anything. Lost a bunch of weight rapidly. I couldn't even get myself to do anything at all on my days off because I was so stressed out about work. What made it harder was the fact that to my family, all I had to do was work 3 days. Piece of cake right? Four days off sounds like a dream! But the truth is no one in my life understood what I was going through. I decided that my health meant way more to me than a job, so I sent in a resignation letter and never looked back. The sad part about it was that I was so incredibly embarrassed about the entire situation that I lied to half of my family about everything. I couldn't tell them I had quit my job so I just acted as if I still worked there, told them I had switched to nights and everything. If they asked how work was I would tell them it was good and then change the conversation. After about 6 months I decided that I needed to try again. I applied for a job at a hospital in my city that is known to have safe ratios, and happy staff. I am starting next week and am feeling super hopeful about this opportunity, everyone I know who works for the unit says they absolutely love it and can't see themselves ever leaving. Crossing my fingers that I can feel the same way that they do!
Good for you to have the courage to put your health first 👏. No job is worth your mental health and well being. Healthcare workers forget to take care of themselves.
Amen!!!! You will enjoy this new position and it will be a good fit for you! I've had similar experiences as you and it's crazy! I could feel I was quickly fading away in all aspects due to this career.
As a bedside nurse of almost 6 years I totally relate to everything you are saying. After several burnouts with a hiatus and then back into the fray I finally hit a wall that no amount of being away could fix. Severe GI issues that stopped almost immediately after I left. You talked about the stress following you around. I couldn’t even enjoy my off days because I just dreaded going back. I make a lot less money now being gone but my mental health is at a place up in the stratosphere compared to where it was. I’m just so much happier not being at the bedside. I should have left sooner.
The no breaks for 12 hours & going without food reminds me of the way I worked in restaurants for years. Nursing is much harder of course, not really comparable at all other than the running around like crazy unable to get a break.
I nursed 21 years as an LPN. The last 2 years of my career was brutal! I’m now an Anglican Priest, and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve said many times that I can’t believe I actually get paid to do this awesome work 🙏💕 Good for you getting out! I know it’s not easy.
That is awesome. I am an LPN now 30 years and getting out of it as we speak. Just went on call and next step is out of there. Anglican Priest? How did that come about? So interesting. I just finished my degree in Metatphysics and working on my Masters and PHD, thinking of looking into being a chaplain.
@@TammiMorrison I joined the Anglican communion about 2-ish years prior to resigning from nursing. The call to ordination came about quite strikingly during an ordinary Sunday service. That was in 2011. In 2015 I went to seminary and discerned, and discerned, and discerned… with the help of a discernment team, of course 😊 I graduated with my MDiv in 2018, did a CPE internship in 2019 and 2020, and in 2021 I was ordained. A long, hard, yet very fulfilling road to a vocation that I absolutely love! Bright blessings as you continue in your studies and possible chaplaincy work 😊 🙏💕❤️
Just started as a new grad in the HVICU; wanted ICU for these exact reasons - to help me not feel like i’m a “pill pusher” and feed onto corporate demands, although there are still some. ICU is where I feel like I can best attend to the needs of one or two patients and while I am still learning how to perform my job, I like that there is a high ceiling for growth and learning rather than putting my body through 12 hours of laborious work for 8-12 patients who I only see for 5 minutes at a time. Props to all the med-surg nurses out there, that is some seriously hard work. I appreciate what you say about focusing on overall health and not just what is presented to us at face value; I always keep in mind the social determinants of health and really do want to change the system in which healthcare is delivered. There is so much possibility that we just aren’t doing for our communities and it is sad to see, but I try my best to focus on what I can do as only one person can.
@@Shamkk ICU pace is much better than dread-surg. But mind you, the stress is different. With ICU you have many patients on the verge of death whereas med surg you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to keep people from going to the ICU. Nursing gave me knowledge of the human body, how it works, and general healing. With that being said I wouldn't feel equipped in the forest for keeping people alive. We are taught pharmaceutical interventions. But nursing definitely gives you a lot in terms of critical thinking and time managament.
Great attitude Will. I ultimately left nursing even though I was in the ICU. I still felt the majority of the patients were disempowered people and I was pushing pills. Best of luck to you on your journey!
I'm surprised as a new grad they would even let you work that unit. You need many years of critical thinking and experience to be that responsible. Good luck & ask lots of questions.🤔
@@Shamkk In the ICU you usually have 2 patients. Depending on the patient, you could have 1 or as many as 3 and if they're really sick I've seen 2 nurses to 1 pt. A whole different ballgame.
Jay, your comments are truthful . I found my career to be the same way . I sweat it out through24 years jumping from one job to another and only staying for 2 years . It was grueling work in hospital . The only places I found some relief and felt like I could help was psychiatric and CD alcohol. I'm presently working private duty nursing with only one patient which is very rewarding .what I ended up with is joints that don't work right from over usage. Occupational hazard!
@@priscamiracle9609 I’m sorry for your plight my friend but i was once in your shoes before i was recommended to Mrs Georgiana Gomez and thats how i passed Nclex
I only studied a lot when i went for the first time last year at but the second time was so easy, all thanks to my aunt who introduced me to Mrs Georgiana am really grateful
Very interesting. My mom was a night nurse (retired years ago), and it took a toll on her health. I graduated with a different degree, but for years felt I should have gone into nursing. However, only recently, I realized I think it probably wouldn't have been a good fit for me and I was SO close to getting into training and started to get nervous, but went on a different path for now. I know there are some nurses who have complained that the burnout and disrespect from patients/staff are real. I'm sure the pandemic was a breaking point for a lot of healthcare workers. Thanks for sharing.
This whole video hit home. 100% hit the nail on the head. I just quit my job as a RN of 10+ years. In my entire career and all the units I worked (med surg, ICU, CVICU, ambulatory) we were never fully staffed. Always short staffed. So draining. Yes I totally agree with patients not wanting to get better. They take a toll on you. Medicine is so broken and not what I thought it was/ what it should be. I want to help people get better, not feed a diabetic a breakfast of juice, oatmeal and a banana and watch them get frustrated their sugar is sky high. I could go on.
Since this video is now over 2 years old, SOME THOUGHTS:
The Pivot
-This was a good PIVOT from a stressful nursing job, to a better one for me. I hope other nurses or medical professionals can learn from that. There is other jobs and opportunities. Find something that works best for you.
-As I've learned a lot more about medicine I am not as jaded. There are wonderful things in medicine. There is ways we truly can impact patients.
-Nursing can be a great job. I still have a desire to make a bigger impact and this desire has sort of plagued me. The route isn't entirely clear -The multitude of questions remain: become MD, NP, or find a different way to impact others health like coaching or business. Regardless, I am very confident that I will find it in time when the time is right. I continue to learn, grow, and just try my best to use my skills to help others.
- Keep going. it will get better.
Thanks for the kind comments, STAY HARD LETS GOOOO BABY.
Love your mentality - Congrats and best of luck on your journey, nursing or not! ❤
I just saw this and concur, u will find your joy:
I quit, as well. Can't take it no more. I didn't have a new job when I handed in my resignation letter. But I can't take it no more. They don't even let me clear my annual leave because "we're too short staffed". I still don't have a new job and am contemplating leaving the industry. It's getting from bad to worse. It's all about money now. There's no compassion and I absolutely hate the bullying.
Hope you got a job now. I’m currently going into 3 months after leaving my job due to bad management and lazy coworkers. Whatever I was doing to help and make the place better, It’s like putting a bandaid on a big ulcer. I’m thinking ahead of management, many of the older staff will retire and quit very soon and yet, they are just sitting there in interviews and denying them employment just because the nurse asked for a few bucks higher pay than they would like. So now they are short staffed but hires agency nurses which mostly are crap workers. So they can spend 2x your pay on an agency but they can’t give you a better yearly raise. Management doesn’t make sense.
So, how are you paying your bills…?🤷🏼♂️🤷🏼♂️
I understand you completely! I should have quit nursing sooner! Right now i am a dental assistant!! I absolutely love it. I got my life back and it's a great opportunity for nurses. Try it. It's not completely out of our realm of expertise. Less money of course but guys, you get to sleep peacefully every night...
@@ameleniIf you don’t mind saying what was your salary when you were a RN and what is your current salary as a dental assistant?
the moment you sit down, patients think you are playing a video game on the computer
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You are so right, the minute you sit down to chart they think you should be up doing something
@@TammiMorrisonhahaha you guys are right.
Patients are difficult and mentally sick sometimes
The thing is most nurses don’t understand that patient needs come before paperwork
@@RorrumaoTell that to the hospitals who require us to do mountains of charting every shift
I quit nursing and became a Truck driver. It was the best decision I ever made for my mental health. It’s such an amazing feeling to travel to different states and just get paid for it.
I would like to ask was it that hard to be an Rn I'm interested in it but I want to know
Are from Michigan, because I know a that quit and became a truck driver.
I wish I was a man and become a truck driver. It's like my dream job no kidding. But it's not a woman's job. But anyway, I wish you the best, I'm sure you enjoy those trips so much
@@Mayrita77 eh... of course you can be.
@@Mayrita77 people say the same thing about male nurses
Being a nurse killed me inside. I have PTSD from working as a nurse. Staffing ratios, mistreatment from patients and families, management blaming the nurses for everything, getting physically assaulted by patients more and more frequently due to the patient population. I would never recommend this career to anyone. The system needs to protect and support nurses, and until that ever happens, it's not worth spending the money and time to become a nurse.
Exactly, I feel like putting up a billboard to dissuade good people who only wish to do something meaningful that benefits humankind. You won't be doing that in nursing, it's like signing up to be in a terribly abusive relationship.
I agree, nurses are used and abused , the money is not worth it! It was the same in the 90’s when I first became a nurse and has steadily gotten worse! I wish I would have picked a different field of study that wasn’t toxic!
I thought it was just me feeling this.
I now realize I'm not alone. I'm burned out, tired, exhausted, and i feel like i lost myself.
I've been a BSN-RN for 7 years. I left bedside nursing in med/surg after 3 years -- because one night, a young "baby" nurse, only 22, came and asked me to do a stroke assessment on her. I laughed, realized she was serious, and did as she asked. Her left hand grip was weak, she could barely push with her left leg against pressure, smile was asymmetrical. I told the charge RN, then called the resident to the floor. The charge said casually: "Ah, you're being dramatic. She's 22, not an AARP member. She's just tired. And we don't have coverage to send her off the floor, everyone has 7 patients." I pointed out that if SHE would just take over the young nurse's patient load, then we could cover her and she could go to the ER to be checked out. But the charge was "exhausted" because she'd worked 10 shifts in a row, and refused to let her go until the resident also said he was alarmed by her symptoms and told her to go to the ER right away. By the time she did, she had to be pushed in a wheelchair because she couldn't walk. She was evaluated and found to be actively experiencing a CVA. A cardiac cath was done, revealing a patent foramen ovale. She was also on the pill, which already increases stroke risk, and coupled with the patent FO, her heart had been spitting small clots and one lodged in her brain. She'd complained to the charge of a severe headache and numbness/weakness on her left side for HOURS --- since 7 PM. She came to me for the stroke assessment at 1:30 AM. Far past the window for TPA to be started in time to avoid permanent damage. She was left with residual numbness/weakness in her left hand/arm, a slight limp, and she can't lift her leg to even cross her legs anymore. AT 22 G*DDAMN YEARS OLD. She was DOWN THE HALL from every single thing she needed to prevent this, but no one gives a sh*t about nurses!!! We are expendable. We're not people, we don't have feelings or illnesses or needs. THAT is why we're all peacing out of this hellish trap of a profession... Nobody looks out for us. We're shamed and belittled for asking for help, for saying we're burned out or depressed or sick. Ridiculed for saying the workload is too heavy, or the patients are too high-acuity for our scope of practice, or we're under mental strain. Told by a CHARGE NURSE that symptoms are all in our heads, and that even if something is wrong, we CAN'T leave the floor because there's no one to take over our patients, even if we're having a damn stroke! It is barbaric, toxic, and abusive. When I was pregnant with my son, I had recurring nightmares that I'd go into early labor while on the floor... and be told, while standing in a puddle of amniotic fluid and having contractions, that "we don't have anyone to cover you, so you can't leave the floor." Then I would end up having my baby in the middle of a hospital hallway floor, with an annoyed float nurse in my face, rudely demanding report from me while I held my newborn baby. Nursing has literally been hell on earth for me, and I feel like it's the worst mistake I've made in my entire life. I loved it for a couple of years, but the good moments are so rare and so far-between that it just isn't enough. Nothing is worth your life, your health, or your sanity. I've struggled with depression since I was a child, but I've never been suicidal until I became a nurse. I'm sick to death of seeing other nurses and management make fun of colleagues and subordinates for struggling, telling them to "toughen up" or "that's just nursing, get over it." People won't understand the damage this attitude has done to the profession until the mass exodus becomes a major crisis everywhere --- especially in the U.S., where the baby boom generation is aging into long-term care and requiring chronic hospital stays and nursing home admissions. That's about to be 25% of the U.S. population with NO nurses to take care of any of them. That's when the fun will really begin.
That is horrible. In tears right now. This is why I support the no job is worth your happiness/health/mental state movement.
@@lls1142 Absolutely. My poor kids have a depressed, empty shell for a mom, because it's so draining I have nothing left for them when I come home. I'm VERY close to leaving full-time nursing and getting some type of factory job, and just supplementing with agency PRN shifts if we need extra money. It's just not worth it anymore, but I've got 3 kids to support, so I have to keep going until I have a good replacement. I wish I could've left a long time ago. 💔
@@kimuralove1096 I hear you on that. I'm new in the field and kind of regret leaving the "back of the house" position I had as a laundry aid in the nursing home. but I just couldn't live off of that pay. I was doing it for six years while contemplating whether or not to return to school to be a nurse. and I got to admit looking from the outside it didn't seem like the nurse did anything but pass meds and sit at the computer but now I know what really goes on out on the floor. I've always wanted to work in the labor and delivery but I even hear bad things about that and now I'm just not sure how long I will last in the field. I'm thinking about alternative/holistic medicine now if I can apply nursing to that. But first I want to master my skills. Good luck finding your replacement!
At least you had a doc in the house. It is sick that you try to do things the right way. She could have excused herself to the bathroom and gone down to ER and saved herself, but she didn't. That is sick and cruel. I am so sorry that happened to her and to you and everyone there. My charge nurse had a heartattack and was in our CCU for a long time. Things like this happen. The noc supervisor who had my job in LTC just didn't come in one night. They found her dead in her home. No one told me that story for quite a long time. I only stayed there 5 years but it aged me 10. Again, so very sorry.
What state did all this occur?
It is not only in the nursing field. I worked an an ambulance for the past 14 years and I quit my job last month too. Surprisingly, it was for the same exact reasons as you. You go into the field wanting to make a difference, but the only thing that ends up changing is you. Sometimes you have to sit back and ask yourself, "Is this really the life I want?". I am unemployed, but this is the happiest I have ever been!
And there is a LOT to that. I would rather be happy than go to a job that is toxic and that I hate. Yes, I need money, and I"m looking too, after my last job ended, but there IS that relief of not having to go to that environment again.
We'll make it.
Its all of healthcare! I quit my job as a nurse and moved to Colombia where I've met medics, doctors, and nurses who have all quit and built a new life. Its crazy how bad the healthcare workforce is for the people in it
What job will you do next?
I feel for this guy and all the front line workers. Out of necessity, I have to go to the clinic twice a week, I'm always very respectful to all the people that work there, profusely thanking them for their hard work. It sounds like a lot of them are on call, and some actually sleep at the hospital, because their next shift is only hours away.
I have had two nurses I knew committed suicide over the last seven years. No one cares! But if a CEO jumps out a building the world F#@king stops ! The stress, unrelenting anxiety, demands, entitlement and unrealistic dangerous workload is what killed my friends !!!
14 years as an RN now at the bedside and I’m done put a fork in me. Morally injured, ptsd, doing the work of RN, tech, social work, etc etc. Too much stress! I found you by searching I hate nursing.
I can't blame anyone for quitting the medical field.
@Cece Princess lmao ofc ur a dietician
It's rough. After a while, it takes its tole on you. You're burnt out both physically and mentally. Documentation is like 90% of what brings about that stress. If you REALLY care about your patients, it can be so hard to see them die because you eventually develop a relationship with them
Been in the field 11 horrible years and I’m ready to leave it and not look back. It’s slave work and mistreatment
Radiology is a better field really, Iam n x-ray technician and i love my job.
Im a nursing student and want to quit already😆
Jay. You are absolutely right. I am a doctor for 20 years and I am thinking about retiring early for the exact same reasons. You just described the true status of the current health system. Simply it is broken. I command you for your courage to realize and describe the reasons to quit. I believe you speak for so many people who work in health care.
Thank you! Retire early and save yourself from stress my friend
Amen
On point! For sure!!
hi doc
As an LPN, I am considering walking away all together. It’s too much all together. Especially when your really care about your patients. And yes you hit the nail on the head-NEVER APPRECIATED…..AND ITS JUST BIG BUSINESS TO THEM! Continued blessings to you Jay and Mohamed on your next journey. 🙏🏽
In thirty years of being a BSN, RN, I know one thing to be true.
You can either be a great nurse, or you can have a healthy, happy, good home life.
You can't have both.
I do ❤️❤️❤️
I remember in one of my psyc classes that my professor who is a psychologist of 30+ years said how nurses & cops have the most messed up dysfunctional marriages, home life, and children with behavior issues. As a therapist, this stereotype he said in class based off his professional experience has been true from what I've seen thus far counseling adult clients or teens. And the single ones are on antidepressants/Xanax and have awful dating social lives.
@@anitaknight3915 you stand corrected I am on antidepressants and adderall diagnosed at 38 y.o. But I’ve been a nurse 13 years. I remember in my psych class majority of our class had psych background/ or family history and traumatic childhood. It was unbelievable all different races. They say that most people come to be nurses because of past trauma. I think we like to punish ourselves
@@raeRenae1 I agree!!! I think many of us healers in the helping professions come from dysfunctional traumatic backgrounds and that's why we are so empathetic, caring, and compassionate. We are caretakers who want to give what we didn't receive. We have sensitive nurturing personalities that lead toward burnout over giving patterns where we become taken advantage of by wounded and self absorbed individuals.
@@raeRenae1 Yes, I agree with that! Something in us makes us want to constantly be in the middle of it and take it all on for the sake of "advocating" for our patients. It can kill you. But if you try to block part of it out, you feel like you're not doing your job.
We all deserves to be happy! I quit my my job as a registered nurse last two years ago after almost 16 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness Lol 😁but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!!
I don't really like my job but I love what it provides for me and my family. This pandemic has people rethinking working
You're right ma'am were you a bedside nurse and how did you plan yourself before quitting
@@gracedaniels6172 While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 2k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
@@eiraantoinette6793 wow impressive! You're making quite a fortune speaking of investing I have heard about this but I don't really know how to start and make a good investment. Share more info please
@@gracedaniels6172 there's a lot of investing options real estate, cr ypto, ETFS, s tocks, but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions
My husband will never go back to the hospital. He is a home health case manager and loves it so much more
100%! I moved from bedside RN to remote insurance UM 4 years ago and I will never go back. You can spend your shift busting your butt, literally save someone’s life, and all you’ll hear about is that one thing you forgot to chart. Oh, and while doing the work of 2 other nurses because they’re perpetually short staffed. I can’t tell you how many nights I was literally in charge of an entire hospital as a brand new nurse. It’s not safe and it’s not worth it. Good luck on your future endeavors!
How did you find the job and what qualifications did you have to get for the job?
How do you get UM experience? All positions I see want experience
You can find the positions on any job search engine, search for utilization review. If you have floor experience, don’t worry about UM experience and apply anyways. Almost everyone I work with didn’t have prior experience in insurance.
@@TheHomesteadTrail thanks for responding
Good to know
Ai
If hospitals would hire more CNAs and bring back LVNs things would be so much better and safer. It is so frickin lame they got rid of most of them and just want to dump all this high risk work into one position.
True!!
Our hospital recently realized that LPNs were needed back in and did a hiring spree. I am one of those, I just had to get a stand-alone IV certification. My state limits what I am allowed to do, but most everything else I do, an RN does as well. When I was a CNA, I had a hard time finding full-time work for some reason (this was 2 years ago, however). Right now the openings are there for CNAs in our hospital, but it’s very different work from a nursing home.
Exactly the weight is too much on the Rn. They are not super humans. We need a team.
You know this is so true I was in the hospital and I noticed that the RN was changing the sheets and cleaning the room once the patient was moved
@@jljordan1 I only work in large metro areas. Never seen an LPN or CNA.
Some hospitals are only hiring BSN's. Pts.are much sicker compared to 20 years ago. Critical thinking nurses are so impt. I'm sure you can find LPN's in small cities. We need to get the managers asses out of their offices to help relieve for breaks, etc. I've work on sm. specially floors with 1 manager and 3 assistants & none of them help with relief or anything. Not sure they'd even know what to do. Maybe we have enough nurses & only 24 patients but everybody deserves a damn 30 minute meal break without a damn phone glued to your damn 👂ear.
I'm a nightshift nurse, I'm burned out, my health has tanked, I cannot recover on my days off. EVERYTHING you said was spot on, You have put into words things what I cannot explain even to my spouse and closet friend. I just withdraw and isolate from people that I love and people who love me b/c I am physically and mentally exhausted and just "talking" about it feels like one more thing I cannot do.
I'm a night shift RN as well and feel your pain. I've been a nurse for 10+ years now and so burnt out. I'm currently doing travel at a crazy busy hospital in DC. I wish there was a community or group of nurses to connect with and vent. I wish you the best of luck:-))
Ditto
Night Shift nurse here too. I NEVER have energy for anything. I’m sinking into depression more and more. This whole pandemic has been a huge stress. I literally have no motivation to be with my family or to do the things I loved doing. I’m eating like shit, sleeping like shit, I never have time for anything. I’m about to lose my shit . I never thought I’d hate this profession so much. I was so excited to “make a difference” when I graduated nursing school. I’m so freaking over this now. Only 5 years in and I’ve lost my soul
Oh my goodness I can't believe that am reading this today because I feel just the same and with no one to vent to. Am planning on my exit soon. I think my health and happiness is more worth
Night shift GN here, working a couple months now, and I am reconsidering this route... in my short months of working , I have experienced so much.. and if I allowed to be tossed to and from... I would be burnt out. Working the night shift is great, however, the recovery be painful most times. This is not good for my overall health... I need sleep. Might I mention I am a mum of five.
Only NURSES understand what you are talking about... From one Nurse to Another...I SALUTE YOU!
YES!
Yes, only nurses understand what we been through, it feels like a job tie your life down and feels like a zombie with no life.
I’m a Medical Assistant as well as an STNA and I’ve worked front lines ever since covid hit even caught it from work so I know the feeling as well
Not only nurses....everyone in the medical field
I am with you 👍🏾
The Healthcare system in one word is BROKEN! 36 years in nursing - covered, bedside, education, and management. I salute you!
Amen. Me as well.
If you forget to document one thing or if the person who took care of that patient didn't pass on the message to you, the doctors WILL reach out to your chief nursing officer and you're screwed
I can’t hold a job. It seems the CNOs must screen nurses by abusing them. If I eat 💩, I can hold my job with the knowledge my manager hates my guts and I will be the first to go if we run short of hours.
😮and it continues to stay broken and getting worse!!!! I work as Licensed Nurse Assistant and tested to get into Nursing school BSN RN and every shift I go to just makes me realize NO I AM NOT here to heal anyone but myself!!!!! Therefore I have decided NOT to become a nurse thanks to everyone here sharing truth 😊
@@danielolortegui8422 Is this from experience?
I was an RN at the skilled nursing facilities for about 4 years and the stress is so overwhelming that I called it quit and now I’m a Dasher for Doordash and can’t be happier!! Only bad thing about food delivery driver job is taxes/ rapid wear& tear on your car/ gasoline, and that’s all, but freedom and stressfreeare priceless.
I’m a travel nurse and no matter where you work it’s all the same BS. Nurses are overworked and the hospital system is completely burning us out. I agree with everything you said.
You’re totally right about that to be honest.
And all the mask and vax lunatics make it even worse.
You ever feel like going on vacation if yes what were the main reasons stopping you?
Wait I thought travel nursing could take off time
And still make great cash
Omg I’m a new grad. I literally was like maybe I’m being a brat and just feel incompetent. NO NO the acuity of these patients are high we are short staff!! I feel like my license is potentially at risk. I really thought with nursing I would have compassion for people and just save someone. Wrong again everything is task oriented it’s terrible. Far as mental health working 12s going in when it’s dark and leaving when it’s dark literally makes me depressed. This video is spot on!!
Try 16s ....
I am a new grad IRT nurse and I get floated everywhere and the ward/unit nurses would give us the patients they dont like. I am rpn and sometimes I get RN patients. I have 2mos experience and my patients have higher acuity than the senior nurses in the ward.
Who knew a single youtube video could change my outlook in life and has answered so many questions on pondering about my future....and don't worry. This is a very good thing. Glad your honest.
I quit being a nurse about 4 years ago. Since then I lost my home I've been unemployed and have had to move from apartment to apartment finding cheaper places to live and move from job to job. I couldn't be happier. Thank God I'm not a nurse anymore!
What were the bigger reason you quit???.
Assuming the money didn't matter.
Are you kidding with this?!? 🤨
Your situation isn't funny but I lol'd this because it's so true that it's such a relief to not be a nurse. I hope you find the right situation for you❤.
What?
I have been a nurse for 46 years and I can tell you, all the things you are saying have been there for the entire time I have been nursing. I'm ending my career at the end of the year. I'll miss my peers and some of the patients I have had the privilege to help over the years. I can honestly say the most incredible experiences I have ever had was nursing in third world situations (Palestinian refugee camp, Guatemalan jungle). It was pure joy to be a nurse. Over the years in nursing in the US I have on rare occasion experienced it.
You helped Palestinians? Wow. Thank you for your long career. I hope to be like you one day
Consider home health nursing. I do wounds all day. I love it. I just drive around the city and see about 6-8 pts a day. First patient seen like around 9, back home by 2-3pm for charting then im done. Im not in one single place for 8 to 12 hrs or around a supervisor trying to micromanage and breathe down my back.. Eff all that noise.
I feel you. I worked at a general ICU for 1 year and 8 months. It’s so hard to handle certain patient populations, you’re right that it wears on you. I am a travel nurse now, I still feel empty after work because of the conditions/broken system. I’m taking some time off after this one because the money isn’t worth my mental health.
can you please explain what you mean the money isnt worth the mental health? all of my nurse clients say this making $8k a week and saying not worth it. I'm currently first semester in nursing school
Hi Hannah. I am currently doing pre requisites for nursing. Can you please tell us more about the compensation being no worthy? Thank you
Hey guys. Yes I can elaborate. Yes I get paid thousands a week but when I say it’s not worth it it’s because my mental health is suffering. When you go to work and are given way more to handle than humanly possible, don’t sit down, don’t eat/drink, and get talked down to by doctors; it truly makes you wonder if the money is worth being miserable all of the time. On top of this, nurses are allowed to be physically and verbally abused by patients and family members. Administration does not care. You are risking your license every day because when that workload is too much you’re bound to make a mistake. In short, the system sets you up for failure and yes money is good but at the expense of being unhappy and anxious 24/7?
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@@Romita68able I can’t do it for money . That’s wrong but our knowledge and the stress liability and hours we put in aren’t equivalent to the pay we receive often. So I suggest you go into with a means to advocate for yourself and desire to change the system as opposed to becoming apart of the broken down mess that it has become. Learn some law on your way and stay informed.
All THE reasons why I left nursing in 2019. I’m now a clinical research associate, working from home and making a significant amount more for a much better job. I’m so much happier and in a much better place mentally.
Nursing is broken, nursing is NOT what it used to be, and hospitals are terrible to nurses.
I will never look back.
I want that job!
@@JayFriedrichs It's a pretty good gig! If you want any advice on how to go this route, I'd be happy to help out!
@@katherinestrotman1162 yes!
@@katherinestrotman1162 I would love info too!! I am currently working on my pre requisites into nursing. I want to get into aesthetic nursing more than anything. If you know the process to get in now before I have my degree I would love to connect!
I worked with CSA’s as a research scientist! What company are you with?
Hey Jay, I can relate to so much you have said. I’ve been a nurse for about a year now. Started off as a new grad during COVID in a very acute med tele where we hardly ever had any break relief, CNAs on the floor, and had to do labs ourselves. Worked 12 hr shifts and commuted an hour away. Working there was so overwhelming that I would get anxious the day before my shift so I wouldn’t even enjoy my day off. Eventually I got really burnt out and started feeling depressed for the first time in my life. I even started questioning why I became a nurse. I finally decided to quit and I’ve been at my new job for two weeks now. I hope this is the change I’m looking for in terms of my career and mentally. Hopefully your decision is the change you are looking for too, wishing you the best!
What’s your new job?
MANAGEMENT makes a huge difference. Totally agree with you.
Our upper management made a comment at our weekly meeting after hearing complaints about how unhappy the nurses were. "It's not our job to make you happy. You have to find that within yourself". OK. That was the day I decided on my retirement date. Two years earlier than planned. But I will not give them anymore of "me" and the soul sucking sacrifices I make on a daily basis. My job is the most difficult, it has ever been in 30 years and it will only get worse. Done.
This is why I laugh at when they say '"but you guys make alot of money". So do other professions. They don't understand what high stress does to you. I'm in nursing but will continue my side hustle so I'm not only depending on my job.
Imagine what it is like for paramedics, EMT, teachers, CNAs, counselors, and teachers are treated and paid wayyyy below what most nurses are!!!! The system is broken but those professions are even more unappreciated and underpaid than nurses for all they do and deal with.
It’s funny because what is a lot of money? I know seasoned bedside nurses only making $30/hour. Fast food restaurants are offering $17/hour or more. How does this make sense now? Good money is six figures. Bedside nurses are not seeing that unless they are working tons of overtime. The VA hospitals pay pennies for new grads. Poor things. At least teachers get summers off (I have a family full of teachers so I know this). They do deserve better pay but nurses are literally dealing with life or death so the two cannot really be compared. Nursing is not worth it.
@@kkb2844 I agree that none of these professions are paid well and all underpaid. Nurses go through a ton and it isn't worth the physical and emotional toll. It is great at least teachers get holiday breaks and summers off : ). In a way yeah you can compare. It is just some differences. As counselors/mental health professionals we are dealing with extreme burnout and compassion fatigue as well dealing with non stop mental illness, overdoses, and suicidal attempts/ideation trauma overload on a constant basis with even less resources, support, lower pay yet higher education than RN , and high caseloads with no government funding. The mental and psychological burnout being exposed to vicarious trauma and overburdened broken medical system is horrific for both.
Earn a lot of money? I think it is a fallacy.
Can I ask what side hustle you are doing, I am tired of nursing too. My husband and I only work a 0.6 to pay the bills , no energy to do more. Looking for side hustle too.
I relate to this 100%. I'm a "new" nurse in the ER, spoke to my colleagues about how they've stuck it out, especially with nightshift, and got imposter syndrome because it didn't seem to bother others as much as it bothered me. Everyone just kinda had that "I gotta do what I gotta do to earn a salary" mentality. But I was fucked deep down, existential crisis because I love trauma, but the conditions were so horrible, you felt like you could give your all and still not make a difference - felt super depleted after shifts and like you, couldn't do anything on days off because I felt like I needed forever to recover before the next shift. Thank you for your insight - at least now I know it's not normal and other people feel the same way.
You wouldn't have imposter syndrome if you have doubts that you should have. You being in a new environment demonstrates that your doubts were completely reasonable. It's not just doubt, it's doubt after accomplishment and achievement in a given scenario.
@@jonjameson6606 maybe impostor syndrome was the wrong term to use.. I was not feeling doubt because of my skills and abilities - I'm a good nurse. I felt doubt because it seemed like I was suffering while the staff around me did not really think (or show) that they were suffering. I felt my patients were being let down, even if I was doing my best and getting to as many patients as I humanly could - the staff around me just went about their day, and did not seem to give thought to the many patients that we could not get to (during our shift) because of impossible staff to patient ratios, lack of stock, and such problems.
@@scorpz_ right on. I didn't mean any disrespect by it if it came off that way. My first instinct is to give you advice but I'm not a nurse. I'm planning on nursing after i get back to walking. Lost a leg in an accident. I can definitely relate. I was a mechanic and getting over run with work you can either get everything done sloppily or get only some of it down right. Anyways, I'm just saying, looking at your profession at the time you're doing it it's absolutely understandable that you'd be psychologically overwhelmed, add in the fact that you had just moved to the ER and it sounds downright terrifying especially when your colleagues made it sound as if they just walked in and knew what they were doing right away. I really hope it worked out for you, whether that meant staying in the ER or leaving.
Awwww The ER is tough and if your in a busy one, turning patient after patient, you can easily feel like that. I worked the floor and then did ER which I liked but I missed connecting with my patients. I never had proper time to teach them diet tricks or small tips to help them with their diagnosis. I recently left that trauma hospital for a smaller one one and went to COVID. I am so much happier because I have a little bit (not much, 6 pts) to educate them about how to get better, PT encouragement, and diet tips. Maybe try PCU, it’s usually 4 pts and you may have more time to help and connect with them.
I'm not in Healthcare, but I have a government job and they're increasingly trying to run us like a corporation. You can't run a government agency like a corporation. We're treated like robots. I barely sleep between Sunday night to Thursday night because the anxiety I feel about what's in store for the next day. In my position, especially with everything that's happened since last year we also get a lot of abuse from the public we have to interact with. They can abuse us verbally but we can't react without repercussions. It makes me even sadder because it wasn't always like this. So I see the toxicity and the ever decreasing employee morale. I love the work and helping people it's just all the other things you and he mentioned. I felt every word except he's a nurse and I'm govt employee. I can't even mention where I work. Lol people think we make so much money but why are employees putting in an extra 20 hours OT weekly? I need the money but I mentally can't do it. So I survive on my basic salary because OT isn't always guaranteed and then you have to go back to surviving on your base pay. I also don't have a lot of options because I didn't go to college. I basically started out of high school, however I do have a tremendous skill set from doing this occupation. I could go to another agency, but they're all pretty much the same. I've been working there more than half my life and I'll have the years in anywhere between now and the next 5, but I won't be old enough to receive my pension w/or penalty and quite a few years before I'll be eligible for SS if it's even still available at that point. I apologize for the long comment and I can't believe the similarities we're all experiencing. Take care and hold on❤
I completely understand, ER nurse for 13 years and I decided change my work status to PRN a month ago. Healthcare just isn’t the same and it’s a toxic environment.
very toxic
@@MR-fe7st Absolutely!
PRN... 😂Love that
Once upon a time I was considering becoming a nurse, that's not longer the case. I'm happy that I did a lot of research into what it's like being a nurse, it prevented me going down that track. Although the career sounds very much in line with what I'm interested in and I feel like I'd be a great nurse, but the careers has too many apparent problems. It's a broken career. I commend anyone that is a nurse, very under appreciated!
I feel that!!! So true
Its a very broken field. You made a wise decision.
I am feeling the same way, I was recently accepted into nursing school and I am no longer thrilled about having to work 12 hour shits inside a depressing building. I am thinking of going into law enforcement.
@@rockNrolla661 Best decision ever. U won't regret it.
Wish I did more research, I ate up the idealized version of nursing and now I’m stuck. I’m the main breadwinner and there’s nothing else I can do with this degree. 💔
It took a lot of courage to do what you did. As a nurse, I had to quit to save myself from extreme stress, anxiety and depression. Thank you for sharing your reasons for quitting nursing!
I’m still a nurse, but I did quit that job/ and the hospital for all those reasons you mentioned. I’m glad you did what was best for you
I have been an ER nurse for 15+ years. I quit my job in August due to complete burn out. I am planning on doing a travel assignment in very near future but watching this video really hit home to me. My anxiety level was so out of control on my days off all I did was sleep. Very depressing. 🤦♀️
Hello Nickchick, how are you? We can be friends if you don’t mind
for me it was team no sleep, terrible.
My advice for RNs: don’t work in a hospital. Work in clinics, dialysis, surgery centers, IT. Nursing doesn’t burn you out. Hospitals do.
Lots of options for sure !
thank you! I came in to nursing cause i want to work with children, i have a lot of relatives and friends who are nurses and doctors, i will see their advice on how the current status of hospitals are like for RNs and LVNs
thank you thank you!
i want to see if i could go straight to medical technician if it's a hospital or if i can skip a hospital straight out of graduation
Done it all, except L&D. It's not just the hospitals. The whole career has gone downhill in the 26 years I've been a nurse. I retire in just over a year. I plan on driving my kid's school bus part time.
@@JayFriedrichsright!!!
All facility shift work will burn you out.
I’m literally laying in bed just received a text to pick up a shift. I can’t do it I’m prn and rarely pick up. Besides I just found out my hemoglobin 9 and my iron saturation practically non existent. Nursing is killing me slowly, time to nurse myself!
Time to nurse myself! Love this
I never pick up extra shifts!! I need my time off!! My job stop calling me. And if they do I don't answer.
@@andreshipp6212 Ik wym I’m going tonight and been off weeks. I’m laying in bed until it’s time to get ready lol. Preserving my energy lol
LOL
take time for yourself! hang in there😊
This is exactly how I feel. I feel guilty for being burnt out when I have only been a nurse for 2.5 years, but I'm drained. We are cogs in the wheel of a business called Healthcare. Patient "satisfaction " seems to be a higher priority than patient safety. Management doesn't have our backs. Patients may swear and be disrespectful yet we get in trouble "for loosing our compassion" because we set kind yet firm boundaries. One can give 120%, but it isn't good enough. Practices and staffing ratios are unsafe. I feel like I'm shuffling patients through the system without giving them care
Well said.. healthcare is a business thesedays..
as a patient, I was praying all four days I stayed in hospital after my abdominal surgery - God please, keep me from being dependent on hospital staff, who did not care, were cold on the brink of being rude, they gossip about you - and you hear it, they make fun of you, they act weird, older staff is better, young chicks were terrible. They handled you as a number, in robotic un humane way. I am still recovering, but thinking to do volunteer job by bedside, just to give patients some break from terrible staff.
I retired from dialysis nursing in 2010 and I honestly can't imagine being a nurse today! The health-care system was going downhill, doctors becoming too specialized, no one is caring for the "whole patient", the nurse who could doesn't have time.
I worked as a medsurg RN, I know what you are talking about. When I told my friends I work 12 hrs and no break, I wake up at 5 and don’t get to eat lunch until 3pm, they don’t believe me. They don’t believe this kind of job exists. But for all you talked about in this video, I have personally experienced them and I know what you are talking about and how it feels.
I rarely ever get a break and if I do someone calls me off if bc there was a fall or some other thing.
That initially really broke my heart. Always enjoy your vids. Knowing you have something in the works makes me feel better. I knew you weren't happy. My hope is that you find hope & happiness with your next endeavor. I have faith in you. Jeff, RN.
Say less brother, I totally understand, I work in an ICU unit, one of our patients died today we badged with took all the tubes and wires off and sent him to the morgue. Feels like He was just another number to the doctors and I see everyone around me carry on with their day as nothing happened, my point is that nursing feels so robotic, pushing pill, doing what the doctor says, cannot have autonomy because that the way it is , and I don’t blame everyone is super busy through the day I get it! Can’t even take a great sometimes, Days like this I feel all that study time, school, class after class all that FOR THAT. It’s been almost two years I don’t know for how long I can keep doing this . Ps intro was dope
Thanks my friend! 😁And exactly. It’s robotic, and not changing anyone’s life. It’s broken and stressful.
Medical ICU COVID nurse.. just quit.. the stress and being yelled at.. got yelled at by a 28 year old female.. told HR… they did nothing.. so I am back to software engineering.. way more chill
@@GoneChatting-iOS How did you get into software engineering?
"He was just another number to the doctors..." Don't take shots at physicians, they're also mentally drained. They have more responsibility as well due to their autonomy. I'm sure he was just another number to management, other nurses, and the CNAs. I've been an EMT/Nurse and patients ARE another number, as bad as it sounds. Why? Because if I took every patient personally, instead of another number, I would be depressed. You can give the best care beause that's your job but you can't care for patients like they're your family. It is what it is.
I will tell you it gets worse! I don’t work ICU but I think I’m numb. I saw so many pts die in LTC I’m on Med/surg but i always thought it was weird that I had to disassociate. Its only hard if it’s someone I got close too. But I think I’m always in fight or flight mode at work. That I have no time to process things.
Feeling appreciated is not asking for too much. It is okay to want to be appreciated as we are human and seek appreciation from many aspects of our lives. I truly hope you understand that it is not asking for a lot and that you realize that you deserve to be appreciated. Best of luck
I’m a male nurse and I’m in case management, I love it. Corporate 9-5 work Monday-Friday. With fridays usually off. I work remotely from home now and pull 6 figures plus additional performance bonuses during the 4th quarter. Benefits are amazing. Best decision of my life. You should consider it. Or get into teaching etc. my schedule allows me to travel and live life on my terms.
Nursing has a plethora of options it’s pretty amazing.
Exactly, the hard thing is how bad bedside conditions are, we are gunna continue to lose a lot of nurses. But there is great options outside of the bedsides thanks for sharing and I would love to hear more about your experiences
Sad the very people on front lines get paid and treated like crap, but the “corporate” employees sitting at home make bank-so messed up
@@travelnurseadventures3225 not just a good thought, a great one 🧐
@@JayFriedrichs 😊We nurses need to transfer all our work ethics, integrity, skills and knowledge into a profession that will appreciate us. Nursing is like factory work. No one respects us unless they need a nurse or we give 2 weeks notice. Take Care and only the best to you my fellow RN!
How did you get into case management ? Did your job require previous work exp before getting hired ? Are you remote temp from Covid or were you hired remote ?
I quit teaching for this same reason. Stress literally kills you physically and mentally, and no amount of money is worth thoroughly martyring yourself.
You did the right thing. It never changes. I graduated from nursing school in 1985 when we were practicing primary care nursing. We did everything without nurse’s aides. One-by-one our backs were destroyed. I quit also. Your path is very normal. Good luck with your future career endeavors!
I’m so glad I saw this video. I was CNA for 3 years to see if nursing was for me. I love doing patient care but the 12/16 hrs did wear and tear to my body. At the hospital I was working they stayed over working us. 12 patients to one aid. Sometimes 15 or the whole hall because we short staffed. My anxiety used to kick in so bad before I went to work. Hell, sometimes I used to call out so I could just sleep. I always wanted to be a nurse but I just feel like as if it’s not worth it. My peace and sanity is worth everything.
No job is worth your peace, mental health or sanity!! CNAs are so overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated. I quit being a cna in a nursing home and withdrew from the beginning of nursing school courses for those same reasons because my health and peace were more important. Given what the medical field has continued to deteriorate and get worse reassures me I made the right decision!
I worked a pediatric clinic for seven years until this month. I went from seeing 11 patients per day (complicated cases, lots of lab draws, injections) to 46 patients on top of phone notes. Company started a covid clinic, didn't have adequate PPE. I used the same N95 for two months because the clinic wouldn't supply them and no one could find them in stores or online. Clinic wouldn't enforce parents wearing masks. I caught mono when I first started at 26, then just about every respiratory disease I came in contact with. My immune system was shot. This last year I caught covid, along with six other coworkers. One of my coworkers in her 30s died two months after infection, company stated it was "unrelated". They never replaced her position.
The amount of kids on ADHD meds broke my heart. Moms would come in saying their kid is "too hyper", "doesn't listen unless I yell" (while kid sits there calm, engaged and polite, listening to my instructions) and demand medication to "fix" them. Most of these parents don't let their kids play outside, there's no family meal time, while meals consist of processed carbs and sugar. My heart ached for these neglected family scape goats.
Five of us quit this year. My only regret is I couldn't take some kids home with me.
That’s terrible! Might second guess my daughter going to nursing school
@@kristymarie6065 there are great clinics out there, I just personally never found them.
@@eimiajillil4716 thank you
Wow, that sounded horrible.
I work pediatric ICU. Management does not care about safety. I was expected to run the picu last Saturday with a brand new grad off orientation for two weeks in general peds who had not even been cross-trained or set foot in the picu before. When I objected due to safety reasons first they ignored me, then they called me unprofessional and disrespectful for stating my concerns. Gaslighting is rampant. I only got salty when I was blatantly ignored and I have 30 years of pediatrics experience. Neither of the managers is a picu nurse.
As a future doctor, it is with a devastated heart to witness the degradation of the healthcare industry. Thank you for serving the healthcare industry!
It is a nightmare! 😢
Hang in there brother. I'm glad to hear you have something else pending. The awesome thing about nursing is how very broad the profession is. If you don't like it in one spot, then there are plenty of options. I'm doing my prerequisites now - and have most done as well as my TEAS and my veterans status will help a bunch getting me a seat in the program for next Fall. I am committed to getting my BSN. I am also 55 yrs old. vp
Great video! Our physical and mental health need attention, and should not be compromised for any reason. I can’t wait to see where you go next! Good luck! 🤗
We appreciate all of you nurses even if your hospital does not.I can only imagine how difficult it must be currently with covid and all.I wish you continued success in your nursing career take care buddy 😊
I can relate 110% I am drained and feel under appreciated 😓 a lot of the time… thanks for sharing! 💕
You are appreciated and of value!!!
@@JayFriedrichs thanks✨ so are you! 😌
in the words of Tupac, "You are appreciated"
27 years of working as an RN in the hospital has taken it's toll on me. I am taking a break right now.
Yes! Good for you!! 🥰
Bless you! 27 years. I have done 30 but not just hospital. I have worked all over trying to find something that worked for me, but alas here I am, ready to be a youtuber and content creator.
Your story is so resonating, thank you for sharing! It's so unfortunate the healthcare system we are in. As a new grad, I came in wanting to make a difference, but this is far from the truth. It's hard to make a difference in this medical model and it's simply exhausting...
If the hospital management would adequately staff the hospital for the situation, it would be a lot easier.
The same here. I never could take a break on nearly every inpatient nursing job I ever had . Not even a bathroom break. Did not eat or drink anything the whole 10 to 12 hour shift.
I agree with you!!! Left nursing and have never thought about going back!!!! Best decision I ever made!!!
Appreciate the honesty. I've been thinking about the culture a lot myself as I rotate during my clinicals. There's also no seniority in the medical field. You don't get promoted up to a point where you have a better lifestyle
Kinza, you raise a good point! Seems like everyone is always grinding without great return.
Come to california!
Nope I work long term care with 29 years experience. Just found out I make 50 cents more then a new graduate.....yep
Kinza come to the philippines. you will be greatly rewarded
1000 % agree with you. The system’s broken. I want to quit after 26 years of being a nurse this what I get?! The PTSD, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION work-related.
I just followed you literally last night after I watched your Pros and Cons of being a Nurse Video and now you quit. 😭
I didn’t quit nursing altogether my friend. Just this job… stay tuned
You will find your way. Sounds like for many of the reasons you listed for wanting to leave pediatrics would be a good fit. Kids want to get better so they can go out and play, and go back to school. They don’t typically return because They don’t want to fallow the doctors advice. Kids actually do get better.
I hear you about nightshift smh. I was begging to get to days. Worked nights for 10 months in an SICU at a level one trauma center. Management thought i was playing about having to leave unless they could move me to days asap-until i sent an email one day that i had accepted a day-shift position in the obs. unit at the same hospital. My body could not take another moment of night shift. I physically could not take it, and I’m glad I left.
Months? Been doing nights for yrs...
One thing about the Night Shift is that you don't have to see Nurse Managers, Doctors are Patient family members; also Night Shift nurses tend to work more closely together. There's more team work mentality on the Night Shift. Nights might be a little hard on the body, especially in the beginning, but if you establish a routine, you can get used to Nights and it's not so bad, plus you make more money on the Night Shift. Just not to deal with Management, Doctors and Family members, makes the Night Shift worth it.
Dude, intro is a movie 🥶 sick edits! Quitting nursing is a TOUGH choice but being in that pursuit of happiness is the move. Keep grinding and get that bread up bro! Next up: freedom bayybeee 😈
THANKS BRO BRO😎
Proud of you brother ❤️ I’m glad you’re putting yourself first
Thanks buddy. Time for us to collaborate soon 👀
I’ve been in healthcare for 40 plus years.In the last 5 years I have fought depression, anxiety, and have recently been diagnosed with Ibs that is worse on nights I have to work.Then they want to offer 15$ an hour extra to come in when they’re short? A big no thank you.I totally feel you.
40+ years, dang you must have seen some shite!
@@midnull6009 you just wouldn’t believe, lol.
Wow! This is a true and accurate description. I agree and have experienced this exact scenario. It’s a real eye opener for RN’s who worked so hard for their license then have to work in a toxic environment. This happens everywhere. And FYI Home Care nursing is no better. Good luck to you!
I've never felt soo UNDERSTOOD in my life! Thank you so much for this video and for literally describing and bringing to words my exact thoughts and feelings. I thought I was the only one feeling this way. To a point I even thought I was crazy or immature for feeling that way. I am currently in that process of finding a nee journey and my calling. I got to a point of experience high anxiety and panic attacks just thinking about work. My mental health was declining along with my physical, emotional, and spiritual. Please pray for me 🙏 I want God to guide me from darkness to light. Blessings 🙌
FNP 13 years working with inner city indigent. RN since 2003. I’m so tapped out right now. …. 😴 exhausted. I’m working on an exit plan. Thinking 🤔 about wal mart door greeting 😂 cuz they always are happy. JK but I get up every morning and pray really REALLY REALLY hard for help to get through this shift this day & to be the best version of myself to help others. Then I kill it at the gym for 1-1.5 hours starting at 5 am. I don’t miss cuz this routine keeps me grounded. Oh I always try to keep my expenses to a minimum… just in case I do end up working at Wal Mart🙂
Omg I can’t even begin to tell you how on point this is about the patient population and how much it drains you when you know these people you’re trying to ‘help’ don’t give a shit and are just going to end up coming straight back in to hospital.
Hit the nail on the head. The system is BROKEN
Hey Jay, I took this as a sign and decide to make the same decision. I relate 100% with you!!!!
Congrats!!! Get something better for you (:
Great video. I am 3 years into my nursing career and am finally ready to leave. You vocalized so well how I feel and experience my job.
Appreciate your information! I know alot of new nurses see the money (depending where they are) and don't understand why nurses leave. You can make great money, but please invest that money so you do have the option to leave/change jobs and not be forced to work in many of these broken systems. You will be so much happier for it.
Valuable life lessons. Follow your heart, trust your gut! Smart man! You will find your niche, nursing embraces human life. We need more Nurses to speak up, Thank you!
❤ thank you for your honesty. Nursing is very tuff. I love your honesty about the patients and everything. 😊
I feel you. After working as a night nurse for 38 years, I decided to get out. That was in 2020. I've decided not to renew my license this year since I'll be 65 in a couple months. Kudos to those sticking it out. Unless you've been in the trenches, you don't get it. Good luck to the younger generation who is getting out.
I retired after 32 years of nursing in hospitals. I loved the work but it took a serious toll on my life and health. Stomach cancer, divorce, autoimmune disease and finally a nervous breakdown. But, at 67 I am still alive and healing, proud that I lived a life on the front lines of health care. I saved many lives but had to put up with all sorts of abuse from administrators. It is so sad that nurses are treated so poorly. . But, I always had a job and now have retirement . Hey, you have to work hard in life to reap the benefits. In my next life I hope to be an artist.
Never to late to enjoy art ❤
Epic video Jay! Thanks for the street cred. Its nice to see you stand up for your health and make the necessary changes in order to thrive.
Hell yeah brotha 🤘🏽
One of the managers asked me this morning how everything was going and I just looked at her! I’ve only been here for 8 months and I’m over it! I’m a pill pusher and back charter! I can’t be a nurse cuz I don’t have the time to do so! I start with 5 end up with 6 and most times the admit comes at shift change fresh from the PACU! All the patients want is pain pills and they set alarms. I can’t eat! Can’t pee! No tech 90% of the time! I’m over nursing!
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All of this is why I left RN school. Even though I planned to finish once I got my house refinanced so I would have leftover money to go to school and not have to work full-time, I don’t want to. I love patient care as a CNA but I am so burnt out on health care and I don’t want to be chained to a computer all day. Healthcare workers get assaulted and threatened all the time and the pandemic has made my job in hospice so much more stressful. I am seriously thinking of changing fields.
These are the exact reasons as a nursing student I do not want to work in the bedside. Great video Jay, keep it up man!
but u need to. every new nurse do
@@denzelb1333 not necessarily lol my sister never worked bedside
@@imbored2693 well thats the basics of nursing. Thats where you learn a lot.
@@Blake34593 not working there anymore. You shut up and cry about yourself too. Lmao
@@denzelb1333 u said every new nurse needs it I’m letting you know they don’t lmfao
Bro.. you took all the words out of my mouth!! Good for you for putting you first! Your always so motivational! Good luck! We’re gonna miss you!
I salute you for standing up on what’s best and right for your life and health in general! You’re an eye opener and inspiration.
I feel this
Man, I’m just starting nursing school and see this. It’s making me think about it a little deeper, I hope this isn’t the case for the entire profession.
Tell me about it!
I’m thinking the same thing! My major is nursing & I know nurses can get jobs anywhere but I heard a lot of ppl quit even just being a new grad
I like your pfp
I just finished in August, now that I’m done I’m feeling like this isn’t what I want to do. I feel like I wasted my time lol but I guess it’ll be something for me to fall back on.
You should shadow some nurses while you're still early and taking prerequisites. If I could go back I would have went into engineering or computer science. Nursing isn't what your instructors and educators make it out to be.
So proud of you!🙌🏼 walk away while you can.
12 hour graveyards were brutal buddy. Totally agree 👍 I hope you regain your spark :) Totally support you J
Thank you my friend. Seeking vitality
Been doing 12 hour nights for the majority of my career...over 14 years.. it really wears on you. Honestly I don't know how much longer I can do it.
I still get anxious Sunday evening because that’s when my first shift of the week began. I quit that job a year ago and still feel that way
Dang! I know that feeling. I just went on call at my job bc I can and I did! So grateful! Next step is resign!
Jay, I am a male RN. I have been in this profession for 3O yrs. I was in your exact situation as a new graduate nurse. I came very close to leaving the nursing profession. The best advise I can offer you is don't throw away all of your training. I found bedside nursing in the hospital to be the most stressful worst possible working conditions out there. Initially I left that position and went into home health care. It had its share of stress but nothing like bedside nursing. Eventually I found an out patient clinic position that was very stress free and fulfilling. And finally I went into case management where I had no direct patient care but instead used all my knowledge to navigate patients through our crazy health care system. Wishing you much success as your professional life journey continues! 💙
Totally ! My view has changed a lot since this video, was just a bad job tbh. Nursing has been a lot better since I quit it
Everyone says just keep pushing I know this all too well being in the military. I’m finally clearing out next week and I’m so glad because I myself have not felt healthy since being in it actually broke me in many ways physically and mentally. So I’ve decided to move forward onto a new path something that will fulfill me.
I am only in my first semester of nursing school and I'm feeling this way about school, I can't even imagine myself working in the hospital. I am already debating my decision of being a nurse for these exact reasons.
Change now. You won't fall that far behind. Do laboratory, pharmacy, or something else if you love the biology/healthcare aspect.
There’s a whole life ahead of you. Happiness isn’t something that you should sacrifice.
I wouldn’t do it. If I could go back and do something different I would. The system is broken and I feel like it’s the worst it’s ever been right now. It’s not gonna get better anytime soon.
i'm thinking of quitting too, i thought i was going to love nursing. but it's made me depressed
@@marion-v6o the only good thing is being able to find a job easily and financial security but you can find that with other jobs for less stress. Nursing isn’t ever gonna change until they lose all of us and have no choice but to come up with something different and stop treating us like shit
Since I have learned how to save, invest, and put my money to work to increase my income, I am not worried of losing my job as an RN (registered nurse) or leaving my employment. I want freedom to live my life as I see fit, not just financial gain.
@KartyYeah I make 3k as extra income from my investing trying so hard to build more side hustle and extra income
There's a lot of investing options real estate, crypto ETFs but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions
That's a great idea, an expert will help you make the best decisions about investing
I can't just wait on my 9_5 job. I do more to earn $$ I think everyone should too
Yeah I work with Rachel Blanc, she's a great expert and has been influential in my financial journey, I recommend her to everyone
1000000000000000% agree. You described my exact feelings to a T. I even had the same experience as you with not being able to explain what specifically about work was so stressful. I remember my mom asking me why I felt so stressed and I couldn't even verbalize what it was, I truly could not find the right words to describe it. My first new grad job I didn't even finish my preceptorship because I could tell I was not going to be able to stick it out for too much longer. Every single nurse on the floor was voicing how much they hated their job, and how badly they wanted to quit. It was a pedi med-surge floor. I fell into a deep depression, developed anxiety, and as a result of that my GI system went crazy and I couldn't eat anything. Lost a bunch of weight rapidly. I couldn't even get myself to do anything at all on my days off because I was so stressed out about work. What made it harder was the fact that to my family, all I had to do was work 3 days. Piece of cake right? Four days off sounds like a dream! But the truth is no one in my life understood what I was going through. I decided that my health meant way more to me than a job, so I sent in a resignation letter and never looked back. The sad part about it was that I was so incredibly embarrassed about the entire situation that I lied to half of my family about everything. I couldn't tell them I had quit my job so I just acted as if I still worked there, told them I had switched to nights and everything. If they asked how work was I would tell them it was good and then change the conversation. After about 6 months I decided that I needed to try again. I applied for a job at a hospital in my city that is known to have safe ratios, and happy staff. I am starting next week and am feeling super hopeful about this opportunity, everyone I know who works for the unit says they absolutely love it and can't see themselves ever leaving. Crossing my fingers that I can feel the same way that they do!
Good for you to have the courage to put your health first 👏. No job is worth your mental health and well being. Healthcare workers forget to take care of themselves.
Amen!!!! You will enjoy this new position and it will be a good fit for you! I've had similar experiences as you and it's crazy! I could feel I was quickly fading away in all aspects due to this career.
How has it been?
As a bedside nurse of almost 6 years I totally relate to everything you are saying. After several burnouts with a hiatus and then back into the fray I finally hit a wall that no amount of being away could fix. Severe GI issues that stopped almost immediately after I left. You talked about the stress following you around. I couldn’t even enjoy my off days because I just dreaded going back. I make a lot less money now being gone but my mental health is at a place up in the stratosphere compared to where it was. I’m just so much happier not being at the bedside. I should have left sooner.
Oh man I’m sorry to hear :/ glad ur not bedside anymore and doing better
The no breaks for 12 hours & going without food reminds me of the way I worked in restaurants for years. Nursing is much harder of course, not really comparable at all other than the running around like crazy unable to get a break.
I nursed 21 years as an LPN. The last 2 years of my career was brutal! I’m now an Anglican Priest, and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve said many times that I can’t believe I actually get paid to do this awesome work 🙏💕
Good for you getting out! I know it’s not easy.
That is awesome. I am an LPN now 30 years and getting out of it as we speak. Just went on call and next step is out of there. Anglican Priest? How did that come about? So interesting. I just finished my degree in Metatphysics and working on my Masters and PHD, thinking of looking into being a chaplain.
@@TammiMorrison I joined the Anglican communion about 2-ish years prior to resigning from nursing. The call to ordination came about quite strikingly during an ordinary Sunday service. That was in 2011. In 2015 I went to seminary and discerned, and discerned, and discerned… with the help of a discernment team, of course 😊 I graduated with my MDiv in 2018, did a CPE internship in 2019 and 2020, and in 2021 I was ordained. A long, hard, yet very fulfilling road to a vocation that I absolutely love! Bright blessings as you continue in your studies and possible chaplaincy work 😊 🙏💕❤️
@@stephaniewood9968 thank you for the encouragement. I’m glad you found something u adore💜
Just started as a new grad in the HVICU; wanted ICU for these exact reasons - to help me not feel like i’m a “pill pusher” and feed onto corporate demands, although there are still some. ICU is where I feel like I can best attend to the needs of one or two patients and while I am still learning how to perform my job, I like that there is a high ceiling for growth and learning rather than putting my body through 12 hours of laborious work for 8-12 patients who I only see for 5 minutes at a time. Props to all the med-surg nurses out there, that is some seriously hard work. I appreciate what you say about focusing on overall health and not just what is presented to us at face value; I always keep in mind the social determinants of health and really do want to change the system in which healthcare is delivered. There is so much possibility that we just aren’t doing for our communities and it is sad to see, but I try my best to focus on what I can do as only one person can.
@@Shamkk ICU pace is much better than dread-surg. But mind you, the stress is different. With ICU you have many patients on the verge of death whereas med surg you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to keep people from going to the ICU.
Nursing gave me knowledge of the human body, how it works, and general healing. With that being said I wouldn't feel equipped in the forest for keeping people alive. We are taught pharmaceutical interventions. But nursing definitely gives you a lot in terms of critical thinking and time managament.
Great attitude Will. I ultimately left nursing even though I was in the ICU. I still felt the majority of the patients were disempowered people and I was pushing pills. Best of luck to you on your journey!
ICU is a train wreck--I left after 4 months-good luck
I'm surprised as a new grad they would even let you work that unit. You need many years of critical thinking and experience to be that responsible. Good luck & ask lots of questions.🤔
@@Shamkk In the ICU you usually have 2 patients. Depending on the patient, you could have 1 or as many as 3 and if they're really sick I've seen 2 nurses to 1 pt. A whole different ballgame.
Jay, your comments are truthful . I found my career to be the same way . I sweat it out through24 years jumping from one job to another and only staying for 2 years . It was grueling work in hospital . The only places I found some relief and felt like I could help was psychiatric and CD alcohol. I'm presently working private duty nursing with only one patient which is very rewarding .what I ended up with is joints that don't work right from over usage. Occupational hazard!
They say third times a charm, am officially a nurse 🎉🎉 for all my repeat test takers don't give up and don't be discouraged.
You will pass everyone has their own season, just keep going pray and believe you will receive
I failed 3 times, i lost money to scams and reviews that never helped but the major thing is that I've not lost hope ,
@@priscamiracle9609 I’m sorry for your plight my friend but i was once in your shoes before i was recommended to Mrs Georgiana Gomez and thats how i passed Nclex
I used some Uworld, some Remar, and read a lil saunders. I did 3 nurse achieve exams and my result came back failed
I only studied a lot when i went for the first time last year at but the second time was so easy, all thanks to my aunt who introduced me to Mrs Georgiana am really grateful
Very interesting. My mom was a night nurse (retired years ago), and it took a toll on her health. I graduated with a different degree, but for years felt I should have gone into nursing. However, only recently, I realized I think it probably wouldn't have been a good fit for me and I was SO close to getting into training and started to get nervous, but went on a different path for now. I know there are some nurses who have complained that the burnout and disrespect from patients/staff are real. I'm sure the pandemic was a breaking point for a lot of healthcare workers. Thanks for sharing.
This whole video hit home. 100% hit the nail on the head. I just quit my job as a RN of 10+ years. In my entire career and all the units I worked (med surg, ICU, CVICU, ambulatory) we were never fully staffed. Always short staffed. So draining. Yes I totally agree with patients not wanting to get better. They take a toll on you. Medicine is so broken and not what I thought it was/ what it should be. I want to help people get better, not feed a diabetic a breakfast of juice, oatmeal and a banana and watch them get frustrated their sugar is sky high. I could go on.