Me personally, I could never trust a guy I met off a dating app. Bc at the back of my mind, I’m always going to wonder if he still uses or not. I have so many male colleagues who would redownload dating apps whenever they’d get into an argument with their gf/wives… or even when they’d just have a “break” bc they just love the convenience of having a buffet of women on their phone. Smh! A lot of em also said they find women who use apps as desperate so they treat them as such. Please ladies be careful. We live in a very evil, condescending world.
You as a woman be the one to get in trouble for the wrong that they do. They use you are desparate excuse because they like the thrill of having options. They dont want to settle down . The simplest answer is the actual answer to why stuff happens the way that it does. I stay off of them to avoid problems nothing you can do about it.
Personally you need to be e careful regardless of how you meet someone. There are alot of crazy folks on and off line. So I wouldn't just let my guard down just because you met him the old fashioned way.
Tony is not lying ! I’ve only had a short lived experience with online dating and from that I determined it’s nothing but crazies, perverts, and predators up there. It’s probably 1 in a million chance that you’re going to find someone on there who is completely sane and want a serious relationship as well. Ladies be safe and aware !
online is dangerous..will never try it..I was under the impression that the majority of people are on it..until I studied recently mobile app development in which the lecturer gave us the stats of mobil app usage..the lowest stats was for dating apps around 11%.well after banking apps around 30% and 90% social messaging apps.. people aged between 18 and 65 years old..meaning only a minority of people and men actually like and use dating apps ..and like you said..many of them are predators, looking for convenience I d say..if your legs and home are closed until marriage..and you have an opinion..they ll find someone else..etc
@@LA-wv7gf never ben on dating app..but on whats app they use old photos too..its just my tennis and squash group app..and I d meet players to play with and they look nothing like their photos..this is why also online dating is rubbish..some people who looked bad on their photo also looked better in real!
I tried online dating many years ago because I met couples that kept saying they found their spouse on there and said I should try it. After watching this video I realized there was absolutely something off with all of the couples that met on there. Lesson I took away was always think about the people that offer you any advice and how their character/personality is as people. Another thing is A LOT of people settle and mask it as happiness
Truth same !! While I hear stories of people who met. Most do not have the relationship dynamic I want. There is a likelihood the woman runs that relationship. I need a leader man. Real men approach
Yes and they are married for reasons that may be different from reasons you want to be married. I’ve observed and learned that people have different expectations and reasons why they want to be married and sometimes they don’t match or align with my own personal why.
Also everyone can “ LOOK” happy online. So ya never know what’s really going on. The fights, scandals, and disrespect can not be captured in a filtered photo🤐
I finally gave up after this last try. I used a reputable site, background checked the guy before meeting, did not sleep with him, and didn't even kiss until the third date. We went on 4 dates, out in public. I came over to his house for a 5th date and he pinned me to his bed and wouldn't let me get up. He was also doing weird stuff that he hadn't done before, like grabbing me really hard and biting me. I made an excuse about not feeling good and told him I had to go to the bathroom. He let me get up but would then not let me leave his house. He blocked the door and wouldn't let me leave! I literally started to think he was going to kill me. It was terrifying. I told him I texted my sister his name and address and if they didn't hear from me by a certain time to call the police. After hearing that he finally let me leave. I blocked him and reported his profile. Thank God I never told him where I live! I'm so done with online.
@@smiles9599 Wanting sex and being aggressive and forceful are two different things! You can “want” a lot of things, but you can’t force yourself on a woman. She always has the right to move around as she pleases, say no, or leave without restrictions.
My best friend found her husband on Facebook dating app but I still think that’s the exception not the rule. Just had a dude ask for my number recently and I thought “ wow he’s brave and unique, I’ll give him a chance.” Turns out homeboy has several kids , divorced, doesn’t want to go out on dates , said the movies was too expensive 😑, but wants me to come over to his house to watch movies. Absolutely not. Bottom line ladies: weed out the dusties on AND off line.
The red flag is that he actually said movies are expensive when it’s part of the dating process. I gather he would then think anything other than McDonald’s would be expensive too! Girl RUN 🏃♀️ …he a dusty
Look, the ones that are bold and brave are also mostly arrogant with no shame in their game so to me, we need to always let time be the measurement of who a man is and what he is truly about
Wow...yup u do find those online....like Mr. Gaskin said u have to take your time. Me personally I have met some bad ones online and out and about, because I just feel that the same ppl u are meeting in personal, a lot of them have online social media sites, whether it's dating or not.
Yeah this good Tony! Ive done online dating and met nice guys but not necessarily marriage material. I finally deleted the app and told God that I trust him enough to meet my spouse supernaturally. I now have peace and working on my law firm. I feel so happy and content!
After exchanging numbers, I had a guy call me, spoke for an hour and legit asked to come out on the following day and after I said I already had plans, he asked “what about tonight?” Like, wow, what’s the rush?! So Tony makes a good point of guys who are online and rushing through everything just to meet someone at the drop of a hat. Be careful of those men! They aren’t looking for a serious relationship, they are looking for quick and easy! Unfortunately, there are some people who view ‘moving slow’ is a waste of time. It’s a red flag when someone is impatient and can’t understand when they encounter someone who isn’t comfortable moving at lightning speed.
well same thing can happen if you wait. you can wait a week a month or how ever long and he still use you for sex. doesnt make a difference. time dont make a difference
@@zero1188 but of course the same can always happen even if you wait, however, I was commenting on the people who tend to rush. It’s usually (and I say usually) not a good sign
Ladies please LISTEN to Tony, he is 100% talking the truth. I didn’t listen and the guy I met online ruined my life forever, don’t be like me it will be your biggest life regret.
I don't online date because it doesn't feel natural to me. You have to be careful in general whether you date online or not but for me it's a personal choice not to.
I know im 2 years late, and this is true, but I think of it like this: Are you more likely to meet a shark on land or in the water? Predators can be centralized to certain areas or platforms.
1. Never online date unless it’s your only option 2. Keep the conversation on the app for a week 3. Get you a VIO number like a Google number 4. Talk for 10 hours, not text 5. Make the 1st call be on FaceTime 6. Allow the man to initiate a date in a public place after a month 7. Take a Uber and make sure you are not being followed 8. Have 10 in-person dates around 2-3 hours 9. Fully vet before an at-hone date after you become a item 10. Evaluate the person every 3 months
A lot of the men I meant online were using fake names and I didn’t find out their actual name until the first or second date and that says so much to me!!😭 if they’re being suspicious we should be too!
True story....I met my husband online back in 2002. We dated for 4 months and we just celebrated 19 years of marriage. This never happens nowadays with so many " society" rules and crap that is going on. We are definitely an exception to the rule for sure! Lol!
It still happens...just like in your time you thought it was anomaly. Online dating is simply a tool--and it's the primary one for how people meet nowadays. In your time they'd say, "I remember when you'd meet people in person" and those people the prior generation would say "I remember when families had a say in who you'd date"...it's all relative.
Tony you're right as always. I redownloaded a dating app, but deleted it after finishing this video. Online Dating just ain't natural. I'm just gonna pursue my goals and wait for the right man for God to send me. Please don't laugh but youre videos always help me reflect. You're like a father I never had. God bless you.
Tony’s videos are so valuable to women of all ages but unfortunately hundreds will NOT listen & then end up played, scammed, broken hearted, used, abused & tragically even dead. I’ve tried to warn some friends coming out of toxic relationships to “ heal before dealing” (TG) but they refuse to listen. I guess people need to learn the hard way sometimes. 🙏
Mr. Gaskins, it was such an honor meeting you today and seeing you and your father together! You are the true definition of a “realist”. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Keep making these videos!
It's a good advice not only to stick with online dating. Like, you CAN find someone online, not everyone in the apps and sites are there just to play or get as many women as they can. But be open, look around you, meet new people and don't put pressure to yourself. Have a date with someone you met online, what's the worst thing that can happen? If it doesn't feel right, delete the app and try something else. It's not all black and white. This video was fun and interesting, thanks! ❤️
Absolutely. Practice discernment. Don't get overwhelmed. I mean, many people lead busy lives, and right now with corona, alot of people are indoors. I myself am. I'm actually giving it a shot. But I'm not too attached and I'm being cautious. I am a decent person on an app I'm sure there are some other decent people as well.
Tell the truth man of God. Even though Mr Gaskins does not condone online dating, but he is still giving advice on how to move carefully. God bless you.
I’ve been online dating for a while. I’ve dated some men with good heads on their shoulder, even got into a relationship. I took a break for a few years and started back. You really have to weed em out on there. You can catch those bad vibes from the first message convo.
You are so right when you said "if you can't afford a Uber do you need to be dating" Get those priorities in order lol The face you made was EVERYTHING 💯🤣🤣
Everything you said is so accurate in this video, Online dating seems so weird to me and most men use it as a way to get to know you without spending money.
He said "something off about both of you guys to be on the online dating app. You're either desperate, frustrated, up against the clock, something to get on a dating app" 🤣🤣🤣 well damn u right! I don’t get out enough!! Not meeting attractive guys 😂😭 Brutally honest
Online dating has its own species of men. Take it from me, I’m 30 and I’ve used multiple apps since around 2009. I have not met yet one man of quality on there, even as a friend. They a pool of puzzled men with no path whatsoever.
@Jewel Dazzle baby I’m not on it anymore. That’s why I said USED. And not literally all those years consistently, on and off, and it was out of boredom, not for a partner.
Dating online has never been somewhere I thought I’d ever meet my husband. But watching your channel over the years has just been more confirmation not to do it at all. Women who say they online date, I just have to pray for. Especially in the climate we’re in now.
What climate? There is ALWAYS goof and bad people in society. What are you praying about? Many of my colleagues, friends have been in LONG relationships from someone they met online. It is just another tool to meet people. Just be smart about it, but NOTHING wrong about online dating
Great point Tony makes about Uber. Most drivers I've had were wonderful, but there was this one time my driver turned out to be distinctly Narcissistic and downright creepy. I was so thankful I did not put in my exact address as my drop off point!
Great video! It’s funny how the advocates for online dating love to point out that you can meet bad people in person or online (uh yea…never said you couldn’t). I’ve also heard people say that a lot of good men are in jail/prison…perhaps that’s true but I’m not gonna take my chances trying to weed them out. I’ll pull from a different pool.
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We live in the 21st century, everyone is on their phones and online dating especially during this Covid times. You can meet good and bad people anywhere online and offline, just be careful when dating in general ✌
Yes but your chances of meeting a crazy person online are higher. A lot of these online men wouldn’t have the guts to approach you in person so it weeds them out. They feel more bold online and it’s harder for you to discern because you can’t read their energy.
I literally had a guy tell me that he was unemployed. Which I did appreciate him being honest about his employment status and know times are hard. But bruh, If you can’t afford to go out than you don’t date. He told me, we can go and get some cheap beers….. nope that’s not my standard at all. I thanked him and unmatched. But I thought why is he looking for someone when he should be looking for a job. But maybe my priorities are different.
I'm sure that inspite if Tony's previous videos about online dating some people are going to do it anyway. So this is excellent advice for those that choose to do online dating. It's too risky for me but I know everyone does not feel that way
When I saw the title say online dating "Updated" I thought he had now changed his mind about them. Glad he still pretty much feels the same way. Never using those apps again!
And you have to be very very firm about your boundaries and what you are looking for and be willing to cut these men off. And take your time and be patient. Don't be in a rush to hurry and find someone so you can close your profile.
You said it Tony, if you can't afford an uber do you really need to be dating? 😂 Priority is key ppl so don't go broke trying to link up with a total stranger.
Desperate I been single for 5 years… how long am I supposed to wait? Also we women don’t have many options everybody scared to leave the house ten if you do you have to wear a mask so what the man supposed to say excuse me maam can you take your mask down. It’s awful out here. No where to go girl friends with they men or married Im beyond FRUSTRATED!! Just being real
Like meeting a no good dirty nasty man that sleeps around online is going to solve your issues faster. You will be feeling even worse if you meet a man online who is crazy and narcissistic... be frustrated and get a hobby or new look. These online monsters are dangerous. 🙏🏾
Yesss this is great advice. You must confirm the person through FaceTime there are lots of catfish on those sites!! Do not meet up so quickly at first, Talk/FaceTime on several occasions before leading up to the date. Be careful,stay prayed up, meet up in public,let love ones/friends know of your location, remember to protect yourselves and think smart. 💯💯💯💯‼️‼️
#1 Online Dating Rule: Don’t Online Date. Lol… Seriously, though, I know peeps that have met online and have gotten married. But after being persuaded to online date by my friends that were already in committed relationships, these guys online were INSECURE, some were rude, lusty, and seriously lacked confidence. It’s a no for me. However, like Tony said, only do it if you have absolutely no mother choice.
Brother Tony is sent from God and his wife and trying to help us to live a good life through God and those who listen will be healthy and healed…. He is a protection the essence of MEN to stay on watch for us!!!!
Not "Something is wrong wit chu" Tony!?!?!🤣🤣🤣😁😁😁🤣 I have literally felt all those things you said. Frustrated, ticking clock, desperate...I only tried it again because the panoramic (19) and 😒😒😒😒 there is nothing but duties and 40 year old men looking every bit of 60 in the face talking about "what they've got", like a car, house or job is something to brag about at our age (38). It's real sad out here. Hate I wasted my teens and 20's on a Real Winner😒🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😟life could have been so different, but you live and you learn. Thanks for the message came right on time👌🏽
You know Tony I used to believe that online dating can work, but by coincidence I met this guy online that I know and that literally lots of girls I knew shot their shot on him, he also look like he had a gf on Facebook and at that moment your words came to mind " a man has no reason to be online dating" 100% true..so sorry for the lazy men, and they are going online waiting for women to pursue them...very bad type of men.. how they grew up like that!
There is way too much work to put in especially if you are wasting time. It isnt worth the trouble I rather be single than put up with anymore of this.
So far, maybe because it's CA, I haven't had my address on my car or my driver's license. I stopped it years ago. They should really stop making us put our address on anything people can Google or a bouncer can memorize at a club...
I’m actually in the process of building my own dating app & while I was working on it today, and I was like what’s dating etiquette? And I found this video. Definitely going to make me be more careful when I’m on dating apps and even building my app. I want it to be super safe for my users .. thank you
I dont think i could ever meet someone offline. I'm just too old school.. and yes i know there are several success stories but it's just not for me, plus the danger!! Here in Portland, Oregon there was a man who got on a gay dating site and met someone and the guy he met online gave him his HOME address, the guy went there and beat him with a club or bat. The gay man survived. Idk if the attacker was gay or not but EVERYONE who is meeting people online to hook up the same day you meet them, need to rethink that decision..
Listen I've had bad luck on social media....nothing but catfish crap. Never again. Online dating can work but got to be strict rules on your terms. Bumble so far best one cause it's the woman who decided if they want to speak to there potential person or not.
I admit those men are all off I had to block 7 n stop talkn to few they are weird nmy ex baby daddy is crazy mental abusive I met him off Facebook I should’ve saw red flags before I got pregnant now I know better to check off lost over months not jus one month and we together
When I did online date, I always met in the daytime. I dont like being out in the dark at anytime, unless its with someone I am very very comfortable with.
I can always count on Tony to keep it real. This is sage advice & not one lie has been told! Lord knows I don’t want to have to get on another dating app, but if I ever do, these guidelines are a great way to sift out the riff raff
Tony so many thoughts and questions have come up about this topic. First of all I absolutely hate online dating. I’m not desperate at all. It just seems like there are no other options and I live in a major city. I go out by myself all the time because it’s something I enjoy. The problem is men aren’t approaching women 🤷🏽♀️. It’s like everything is online and now the masculine women are pursuing so the men don’t have to do anything. Yet I know a lot of people who have met they’re partner online. I’m torn 🤯 cuz I don’t know where a good man can find me.
Pray about it. Trust your instincts. I'm trying online dating currently and best app by far was bumble. The other apps was trash to be honest. Where I live at honestly either the men not my type or afraid to approach. It's not the way it use to be. I believe with the me too movement has got men to completely won't even compliment women no more either. It rough out here. In person isn't so easy the way Tony is making it sound. It depends where you live at.
I started doing stuff online after my cousin got a divorce and began to date immediately. Initially it was done for fun. After a while I started to notice a pattern in the men. They were socially awkward, self-employed/Uber drivers, truck drivers, men who created and alter ego of what they want it to be, or old men posing as young man. When I came to that realization I knew that you had to dismiss people quick. That’s the benefit of dating online. You can say what you’re looking for. If someone gets out of pocket, thank you next. But I would definitely say it’s a good way to introduce yourself to dating if you’ve been off the market for a while or if you’re trying to heal from a toxic relationship. Because dating in person maybe worse but it kind of gives you what to expect from a man.
Good evening, Mr. Gaskins, God bless you and your family. Continue to speak the truth about online dating. I greatly appreciate your insight. Thank you!!!
In my city , a girl got kidnapped and killed by simply having a profile on online dating app with her photo - a man recognised from the dating app and followed her , kidnapped and killed her . Showing your face on online dating app is dangerous . For this reason among others i d never do online .
I tried during the 2 years pandemic lockdown where I live. So disappointed with the people out there. They wanted attention and entertainment and fantasy, nothing real. And oh yes, they all professed to be Christian!
I agree with you . I have never online dated . It is scary out here ! I talk to people every day about this . I have heard so many excuses too ! I think it puts Us into a Robot mode too ! I believe it is a moral decision too . We are made perfect and should be able to meet and talk to people in person. The excitement too when meeting someone in public , and not online !😊
I met my king on Facebook 2 years ago in 2020, and we finally met 2022. When I met him I was nervous at first but, I did a criminal background check, his background check is clean. He have nothing on his record we met in a public place. We went to Dave and buster's, if a Man not willing to meet you in person that is a red flag.
I know people who met online and they married.. but that was before 2020. Nowadays it is going to be more and more difficult . One need to be careful for sure
I'm giving dating apps a try now bc I don't get out enough. I'm not meeting any guys, especially ones I want to date. But haven't met anyone in person yet from the app. Kinda scared to on the low 😬
I don't do online dating anymore. I met nothing but losers on those apps that other women wouldn't deal with at all and when you tell them you are not interested in dating them anymore they don't want to let go and some got weird on me.
Brother Tony does it again….I listened to him on his original video on this topic! I remember doing a profile to see what would occur based on encouragement from others! Welp I I received “hits” it was literally overwhelming and then began looking at profiles and was like no sir …. Why are you posing like this …. Yes I’m a divorced woman and I had been out of the “dating world” I think I was curious to see what would happen…. I said Lisa get off this you know you are a ENERGY person and I immediately dismantled my profile 😝…. Real talk like Tony said you can meet someone by being out and about and don’t just sit in the house all the time “pre pandemic “ I’m sure the sites have doubled in numbers since pandemic and many ladies were feeling like I have no one to quarantine with. I truly believe what God has for me will appear no chase no desperation. My children are grown and I can actually travel and do fun things and attract the person God has me! Thanks Tony
I am not sure HOW I am even alive now, except by the grace of God! Over the past 4 years, I broke every single rule you just mentioned. Thank you, Jesus for keeping me safe! Looking back now at the men I PERSONALLY had dealings with, I exposed myself REPEATEDLY to scammers, narssists, and quite possibly someone who had capabilities of doing me great harm. From those encounters, I had ZERO REAL dates and developed ZERO REAL friendships.
He said I know you finda unsubscribe...😂😂😂 aww man, but I agree there is something that’s off when you online date and there is some desperation...I own up to it myself so I’m going to delete my app and try again meeting someone just out in real life...I can be honest my age and the clock against me makes me reach out to the app...but I’m going try again, face my fears and let it happen naturally...Thanks again Uncle Tony...but if your app comes out I might try that 💯
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You sound normal. You would approach a woman in public if you were single. But I can’t tell you how many men I have met that have said they’d never approach a woman in public for fear of being accused of harassment. I’ve had several friends meet good men online, but it hasn’t worked for me yet. I recently started going out more but it’s rare I meet single men in my age range at these places or get approached, even though I dress nice and am friendly, so I also am online.
This is honest. When I used to get online to date, I would get a weird/shameful feeling. I would observe everyone that was on there and kinda put pieces together, then it made me check myself. I had to remember who I am.. If it’s too easy, I don’t want it.
Don’t online date. I went against my own word recently and tried it and it was a big fat F. Wasn’t my thing from the jump but someone talk me into being “open”. Scratch that. I last less than a day before I deleted that nasty app.
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Hi Tony, thank you for the advise on how to generally stay safe while online dating. I would ideally love to meet my guy out and about, but I find that guys don’t normally approach me while I’m doing stuff throughout my day. What I like about online dating and what I hope you would address is the fact that when I do see a guy, I don’t know anything about them, their age, marital status, if they are a Christian or not, if they have a good job, sexual orientation etc . out of the 1 or possible 2 guys that approach me they don’t meet the Christian man Criteria. Can you address how not just to meet men but rather Christian men. According to your teaching, my job is to to be seen and if the guy is interested he will pursue. So there goes that one. I do go about my day looking, not always on my phone but still no takers. According to your teaching I should focus on BBB, which I have been, guys do find me attractive…except I will focus more on brand next year ( I plan to take one of your courses) Anyway, Even looking my best, I don’t get as much attention IRL, my photos are up to date and no filter and I do get a lot of likes online. daily we have to wear masks so I guess my eyes are not alluring🤷🏻♀️ according to your teaching then, I should wait until it’s time which it is what it is. I think dating online shows my personality which the guys respond to and I have learned so much about myself and men through the process as I had virtually (no pun intended 😊) no dating experience the last 30 years. Now according to this video, I have to figure out what’s wrong with me psychologically that I’m desperate to go online instead of waiting as I’ve been doing for the last 30 years 🥲. I do apply everything you teach on the dates but mainly that if they are too busy to talk, I send them off with a blessing and I do speak with men to pick up any clues of craziness. I do want someone as excited about me as you are about your wife and I don’t mind if I meet them online tbh. Also, if I meet a guy on the streets wouldn’t I need to take the same precautions? The guy I may meet in person while shopping for groceries could have a dating profile on the side 🙃 🤷🏻♀️ I appreciate you! God bless you and send a prayer for me 🙏
@@gabbistarr3693 lol I’m skinny and pretty but sometimes I feel guys won’t approach me cause I look very young for my age plus I don’t wanna go to clubs and such by myself
I know without a shadow of a doubt that these rules are correct for the usual dating sites,…any thoughts about paid sites where the quality of man might be better since they are investing money?
Thanks for bringing awareness to the inescapable harassment of technology, sad to say that now I’m comfortable. Erky that even general “mentoring “ channels are centered around sex and money. If they would pay me money in real life for copying and mocking me, instead of just hacking it, then I would believe in miracles. Stay strong with self respect 💜
Me personally, I could never trust a guy I met off a dating app. Bc at the back of my mind, I’m always going to wonder if he still uses or not. I have so many male colleagues who would redownload dating apps whenever they’d get into an argument with their gf/wives… or even when they’d just have a “break” bc they just love the convenience of having a buffet of women on their phone. Smh! A lot of em also said they find women who use apps as desperate so they treat them as such. Please ladies be careful. We live in a very evil, condescending world.
and they sure do lol😂 i tried an app got into a relationship went on his phone and saw the app still there months after 🤦🏽♀️..im done with apps lol
You as a woman be the one to get in trouble for the wrong that they do. They use you are desparate excuse because they like the thrill of having options. They dont want to settle down . The simplest answer is the actual answer to why stuff happens the way that it does. I stay off of them to avoid problems nothing you can do about it.
I believe it....I hear men talk about it that same way....shame
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Personally you need to be e careful regardless of how you meet someone. There are alot of crazy folks on and off line. So I wouldn't just let my guard down just because you met him the old fashioned way.
Tony is not lying ! I’ve only had a short lived experience with online dating and from that I determined it’s nothing but crazies, perverts, and predators up there. It’s probably 1 in a million chance that you’re going to find someone on there who is completely sane and want a serious relationship as well. Ladies be safe and aware !
Shame....I never tried it....n never will....I just can't.
@@beefaye6861 same I never tried it..interesting facts dating apps are used by 11% of people..that says it all..
online is dangerous..will never try it..I was under the impression that the majority of people are on it..until I studied recently mobile app development in which the lecturer gave us the stats of mobil app usage..the lowest stats was for dating apps around 11%.well after banking apps around 30% and 90% social messaging apps.. people aged between 18 and 65 years old..meaning only a minority of people and men actually like and use dating apps ..and like you said..many of them are predators, looking for convenience I d say..if your legs and home are closed until marriage..and you have an opinion..they ll find someone else..etc
Noted I’m getting off the app today
@@LA-wv7gf never ben on dating app..but on whats app they use old photos too..its just my tennis and squash group app..and I d meet players to play with and they look nothing like their photos..this is why also online dating is rubbish..some people who looked bad on their photo also looked better in real!
I tried online dating many years ago because I met couples that kept saying they found their spouse on there and said I should try it. After watching this video I realized there was absolutely something off with all of the couples that met on there. Lesson I took away was always think about the people that offer you any advice and how their character/personality is as people. Another thing is A LOT of people settle and mask it as happiness
They do....u can see right thru that fake stuff....its in the 👀
Truth same !! While I hear stories of people who met. Most do not have the relationship dynamic I want. There is a likelihood the woman runs that relationship. I need a leader man. Real men approach
Yes and they are married for reasons that may be different from reasons you want to be married. I’ve observed and learned that people have different expectations and reasons why they want to be married and sometimes they don’t match or align with my own personal why.
Misery loves company
Also everyone can “ LOOK” happy online. So ya never know what’s really going on. The fights, scandals, and disrespect can not be captured in a filtered photo🤐
I finally gave up after this last try. I used a reputable site, background checked the guy before meeting, did not sleep with him, and didn't even kiss until the third date. We went on 4 dates, out in public. I came over to his house for a 5th date and he pinned me to his bed and wouldn't let me get up. He was also doing weird stuff that he hadn't done before, like grabbing me really hard and biting me. I made an excuse about not feeling good and told him I had to go to the bathroom. He let me get up but would then not let me leave his house. He blocked the door and wouldn't let me leave! I literally started to think he was going to kill me. It was terrifying. I told him I texted my sister his name and address and if they didn't hear from me by a certain time to call the police. After hearing that he finally let me leave. I blocked him and reported his profile. Thank God I never told him where I live! I'm so done with online.
Wow that’s deep!
But if a guy is inviting you back to his place he wants sex I think we all know that though.
@@smiles9599 Wanting sex and being aggressive and forceful are two different things! You can “want” a lot of things, but you can’t force yourself on a woman. She always has the right to move around as she pleases, say no, or leave without restrictions.
@@kenyafromcali She does but men are the ones who find it hard to understand or accept.
Oh Brooke, it’s really scary, thankfully you made it out safely.
My best friend found her husband on Facebook dating app but I still think that’s the exception not the rule. Just had a dude ask for my number recently and I thought “ wow he’s brave and unique, I’ll give him a chance.” Turns out homeboy has several kids , divorced, doesn’t want to go out on dates , said the movies was too expensive 😑, but wants me to come over to his house to watch movies. Absolutely not. Bottom line ladies: weed out the dusties on AND off line.
@@LA-wv7gf 🤣🤣🤣🤣Not Barney🦖
The red flag is that he actually said movies are expensive when it’s part of the dating process. I gather he would then think anything other than McDonald’s would be expensive too! Girl RUN 🏃♀️ …he a dusty
Yes dusties are on and offline...weeding out is key in this crazy game of dating
Look, the ones that are bold and brave are also mostly arrogant with no shame in their game so to me, we need to always let time be the measurement of who a man is and what he is truly about
Wow...yup u do find those online....like Mr. Gaskin said u have to take your time. Me personally I have met some bad ones online and out and about, because I just feel that the same ppl u are meeting in personal, a lot of them have online social media sites, whether it's dating or not.
Yeah this good Tony! Ive done online dating and met nice guys but not necessarily marriage material. I finally deleted the app and told God that I trust him enough to meet my spouse supernaturally. I now have peace and working on my law firm. I feel so happy and content!
happy for you!!!!it will come at the right time
After exchanging numbers, I had a guy call me, spoke for an hour and legit asked to come out on the following day and after I said I already had plans, he asked “what about tonight?” Like, wow, what’s the rush?! So Tony makes a good point of guys who are online and rushing through everything just to meet someone at the drop of a hat. Be careful of those men! They aren’t looking for a serious relationship, they are looking for quick and easy! Unfortunately, there are some people who view ‘moving slow’ is a waste of time. It’s a red flag when someone is impatient and can’t understand when they encounter someone who isn’t comfortable moving at lightning speed.
well same thing can happen if you wait. you can wait a week a month or how ever long and he still use you for sex. doesnt make a difference. time dont make a difference
@@zero1188 but of course the same can always happen even if you wait, however, I was commenting on the people who tend to rush. It’s usually (and I say usually) not a good sign
Ladies please LISTEN to Tony, he is 100% talking the truth. I didn’t listen and the guy I met online ruined my life forever, don’t be like me it will be your biggest life regret.
We appreciate the honesty sis 🙏🏾
Forever? What did he do ?
Can you tell us the story for viewer education?
The truth! What did he do though?
How?
You can meet a bad person online or offline. The key is good discernment regardless of where you all meet 🤷🏾♀️
That's very true...but....you're more likely to meet someone with bad intentions online much, much quicker than in the outside world.
There's a lot crazy men on the job too.
I don't online date because it doesn't feel natural to me. You have to be careful in general whether you date online or not but for me it's a personal choice not to.
@@millicentstollenwerck5239 facts. There are crazies everywhere. The crazies will try and date on and offline. So I would just be careful either way
I know im 2 years late, and this is true, but I think of it like this: Are you more likely to meet a shark on land or in the water? Predators can be centralized to certain areas or platforms.
1. Never online date unless it’s your only option
2. Keep the conversation on the app for a week
3. Get you a VIO number like a Google number
4. Talk for 10 hours, not text
5. Make the 1st call be on FaceTime
6. Allow the man to initiate a date in a public place after a month
7. Take a Uber and make sure you are not being followed
8. Have 10 in-person dates around 2-3 hours
9. Fully vet before an at-hone date after you become a item
10. Evaluate the person every 3 months
Note to self.
A major factor is trust. Lies ruin things in a hurry. I get one sniff of a lie, I’m out.
A lot of the men I meant online were using fake names and I didn’t find out their actual name until the first or second date and that says so much to me!!😭 if they’re being suspicious we should be too!
"Individuals who have chosen to be worthless, God didn't make them that way. They chose to be worthless. They chose to be savages."
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I felt really weird doing online dating. I deleted my account after an hour.😂
Two days for me lol. It just don’t sit well on me. I can’t do it.
😂😂😂😂....u silly...but good
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True story....I met my husband online back in 2002. We dated for 4 months and we just celebrated 19 years of marriage. This never happens nowadays with so many " society" rules and crap that is going on. We are definitely an exception to the rule for sure! Lol!
It still happens...just like in your time you thought it was anomaly. Online dating is simply a tool--and it's the primary one for how people meet nowadays. In your time they'd say, "I remember when you'd meet people in person" and those people the prior generation would say "I remember when families had a say in who you'd date"...it's all relative.
Tony you're right as always. I redownloaded a dating app, but deleted it after finishing this video. Online Dating just ain't natural. I'm just gonna pursue my goals and wait for the right man for God to send me. Please don't laugh but youre videos always help me reflect. You're like a father I never had. God bless you.
I’m from Alabama too! Sometimes online dating works and sometimes it doesn’t…Be Careful❤️😊!
Tony’s videos are so valuable to women of all ages but unfortunately hundreds will NOT listen & then end up played, scammed, broken hearted, used, abused & tragically even dead. I’ve tried to warn some friends coming out of toxic relationships to “ heal before dealing” (TG) but they refuse to listen. I guess people need to learn the hard way sometimes. 🙏
“To do online dating, something is a little off in both of y’all “ I screamed 🤣🤣🤣.. welp, no online dating for me 🥴😂
Mr. Gaskins, it was such an honor meeting you today and seeing you and your father together! You are the true definition of a “realist”. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Keep making these videos!
It's a good advice not only to stick with online dating. Like, you CAN find someone online, not everyone in the apps and sites are there just to play or get as many women as they can. But be open, look around you, meet new people and don't put pressure to yourself. Have a date with someone you met online, what's the worst thing that can happen? If it doesn't feel right, delete the app and try something else. It's not all black and white. This video was fun and interesting, thanks! ❤️
Absolutely. Practice discernment. Don't get overwhelmed. I mean, many people lead busy lives, and right now with corona, alot of people are indoors. I myself am. I'm actually giving it a shot. But I'm not too attached and I'm being cautious. I am a decent person on an app I'm sure there are some other decent people as well.
I never thought online dating was necessary and you just confirmed that. Thank you Tony
Tell the truth man of God. Even though Mr Gaskins does not condone online dating, but he is still giving advice on how to move carefully. God bless you.
I’ve been online dating for a while. I’ve dated some men with good heads on their shoulder, even got into a relationship. I took a break for a few years and started back. You really have to weed em out on there. You can catch those bad vibes from the first message convo.
You are so right when you said "if you can't afford a Uber do you need to be dating" Get those priorities in order lol The face you made was EVERYTHING 💯🤣🤣
Everything you said is so accurate in this video, Online dating seems so weird to me and most men use it as a way to get to know you without spending money.
Truth
Because of the virus I don’t cold approach women
@@jameswilson4149 What? So if you met the woman of your dreams in person you wouldn’t approach her because of a virus?? That is BS
He said "something off about both of you guys to be on the online dating app. You're either desperate, frustrated, up against the clock, something to get on a dating app" 🤣🤣🤣 well damn u right! I don’t get out enough!! Not meeting attractive guys 😂😭 Brutally honest
You need to understand that the primary use of online dating is to meet people to have sex.
You right Tony, great tips! I honestly will never online date EVER again...lol, NOPE!
You will end up dead! It’s really not worth it 🤮
Online dating has its own species of men. Take it from me, I’m 30 and I’ve used multiple apps since around 2009. I have not met yet one man of quality on there, even as a friend. They a pool of puzzled men with no path whatsoever.
I think there's a difference with some paid apps
@Jewel Dazzle baby I’m not on it anymore. That’s why I said USED. And not literally all those years consistently, on and off, and it was out of boredom, not for a partner.
You telling the truth.
Dating online has never been somewhere I thought I’d ever meet my husband. But watching your channel over the years has just been more confirmation not to do it at all. Women who say they online date, I just have to pray for. Especially in the climate we’re in now.
What climate? There is ALWAYS goof and bad people in society. What are you praying about? Many of my colleagues, friends have been in LONG relationships from someone they met online. It is just another tool to meet people. Just be smart about it, but NOTHING wrong about online dating
Great point Tony makes about Uber. Most drivers I've had were wonderful, but there was this one time my driver turned out to be distinctly Narcissistic and downright creepy. I was so thankful I did not put in my exact address as my drop off point!
I did online dating and it was the worse. Something I would never do again.
Great video! It’s funny how the advocates for online dating love to point out that you can meet bad people in person or online (uh yea…never said you couldn’t). I’ve also heard people say that a lot of good men are in jail/prison…perhaps that’s true but I’m not gonna take my chances trying to weed them out. I’ll pull from a different pool.
I just want to focus on me in 2022. I rather put my energy into me….dating seems exhausting
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We live in the 21st century, everyone is on their phones and online dating especially during this Covid times. You can meet good and bad people anywhere online and offline, just be careful when dating in general ✌
I agree we can meet crazy in person or online. It's all about great judgement and being cautious
Yes but your chances of meeting a crazy person online are higher. A lot of these online men wouldn’t have the guts to approach you in person so it weeds them out. They feel more bold online and it’s harder for you to discern because you can’t read their energy.
Hey Tony…Not doing any on line dating EVER! Just taking myself out like you stated. Ladies it’s better this way!
“If you can not afford Uber,do you need to be dating?! “🤣🤣🤣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽now that’s the question lol
Baby when he said that 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So what you’re saying is… stay off those apps🤣 got it!!
I literally had a guy tell me that he was unemployed. Which I did appreciate him being honest about his employment status and know times are hard. But bruh,
If you can’t afford to go out than you don’t date. He told me, we can go and get some cheap beers….. nope that’s not my standard at all. I thanked him and unmatched. But I thought why is he looking for someone when he should be looking for a job. But maybe my priorities are different.
I'm sure that inspite if Tony's previous videos about online dating some people are going to do it anyway. So this is excellent advice for those that choose to do online dating. It's too risky for me but I know everyone does not feel that way
When I saw the title say online dating "Updated" I thought he had now changed his mind about them. Glad he still pretty much feels the same way. Never using those apps again!
And you have to be very very firm about your boundaries and what you are looking for and be willing to cut these men off. And take your time and be patient. Don't be in a rush to hurry and find someone so you can close your profile.
I had a friend “chaperone” by date. Lol. It was fun and funny. The guy didn’t know, but it definitely made me feel safe.
Cool 😂....I would do that
You said it Tony, if you can't afford an uber do you really need to be dating? 😂 Priority is key ppl so don't go broke trying to link up with a total stranger.
Desperate I been single for 5 years… how long am I supposed to wait? Also we women don’t have many options everybody scared to leave the house ten if you do you have to wear a mask so what the man supposed to say excuse me maam can you take your mask down. It’s awful out here. No where to go girl friends with they men or married Im beyond FRUSTRATED!! Just being real
Like meeting a no good dirty nasty man that sleeps around online is going to solve your issues faster. You will be feeling even worse if you meet a man online who is crazy and narcissistic... be frustrated and get a hobby or new look. These online monsters are dangerous. 🙏🏾
I never had the desire to online date. After hearing this , I never will. But I pretty much follow these rules anyway. Good looking out as always
Yesss this is great advice. You must confirm the person through FaceTime there are lots of catfish on those sites!! Do not meet up so quickly at first, Talk/FaceTime on several occasions before leading up to the date. Be careful,stay prayed up, meet up in public,let love ones/friends know of your location, remember to protect yourselves and think smart. 💯💯💯💯‼️‼️
#1 Online Dating Rule: Don’t Online Date. Lol…
Seriously, though, I know peeps that have met online and have gotten married. But after being persuaded to online date by my friends that were already in committed relationships, these guys online were INSECURE, some were rude, lusty, and seriously lacked confidence. It’s a no for me. However, like Tony said, only do it if you have absolutely no mother choice.
Brother Tony is sent from God and his wife and trying to help us to live a good life through God and those who listen will be healthy and healed…. He is a protection the essence of MEN to stay on watch for us!!!!
Not "Something is wrong wit chu" Tony!?!?!🤣🤣🤣😁😁😁🤣 I have literally felt all those things you said. Frustrated, ticking clock, desperate...I only tried it again because the panoramic (19) and 😒😒😒😒 there is nothing but duties and 40 year old men looking every bit of 60 in the face talking about "what they've got", like a car, house or job is something to brag about at our age (38). It's real sad out here. Hate I wasted my teens and 20's on a Real Winner😒🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😟life could have been so different, but you live and you learn. Thanks for the message came right on time👌🏽
You know Tony I used to believe that online dating can work, but by coincidence I met this guy online that I know and that literally lots of girls I knew shot their shot on him, he also look like he had a gf on Facebook and at that moment your words came to mind " a man has no reason to be online dating" 100% true..so sorry for the lazy men, and they are going online waiting for women to pursue them...very bad type of men.. how they grew up like that!
I blame it on their moms! They sure raised bad men! 😠
@@BrooklynBaby100 100% true
I never trusted online dating it's just too many crazy people out here you got to be careful even if you meet them online or in person...
You are such a good parent we are blessed to.have you guiding us.
I have never been comfortable with online dating, I totally 💯 agree with what Tony is saying
“Something is a lil off in both of ya’ll.” Lord the true shade! 😂
Yesss 😂
There is way too much work to put in especially if you are wasting time. It isnt worth the trouble I rather be single than put up with anymore of this.
So far, maybe because it's CA, I haven't had my address on my car or my driver's license. I stopped it years ago. They should really stop making us put our address on anything people can Google or a bouncer can memorize at a club...
I’m actually in the process of building my own dating app & while I was working on it today, and I was like what’s dating etiquette? And I found this video. Definitely going to make me be more careful when I’m on dating apps and even building my app. I want it to be super safe for my users .. thank you
I dont think i could ever meet someone offline. I'm just too old school.. and yes i know there are several success stories but it's just not for me, plus the danger!! Here in Portland, Oregon there was a man who got on a gay dating site and met someone and the guy he met online gave him his HOME address, the guy went there and beat him with a club or bat. The gay man survived. Idk if the attacker was gay or not but EVERYONE who is meeting people online to hook up the same day you meet them, need to rethink that decision..
This goes for fb messenger, tiktok and Instagram messages too ladies. Don’t be silly 😘
Listen I've had bad luck on social media....nothing but catfish crap. Never again. Online dating can work but got to be strict rules on your terms. Bumble so far best one cause it's the woman who decided if they want to speak to there potential person or not.
@StretchMarkstheSpot I understand, however, the exception is not the rule.
@@LA-wv7gf online is online. Period. Proceed with extreme caution ⚠️
I admit those men are all off I had to block 7 n stop talkn to few they are weird nmy ex baby daddy is crazy mental abusive I met him off Facebook I should’ve saw red flags before I got pregnant now I know better to check off lost over months not jus one month and we together
When I did online date, I always met in the daytime. I dont like being out in the dark at anytime, unless its with someone I am very very comfortable with.
Great video Tony! There are exceptions to the rule but I’m staying offline! 4 out 5 men are crazy online
I can always count on Tony to keep it real. This is sage advice & not one lie has been told! Lord knows I don’t want to have to get on another dating app, but if I ever do, these guidelines are a great way to sift out the riff raff
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Tony so many thoughts and questions have come up about this topic. First of all I absolutely hate online dating. I’m not desperate at all. It just seems like there are no other options and I live in a major city. I go out by myself all the time because it’s something I enjoy. The problem is men aren’t approaching women 🤷🏽♀️. It’s like everything is online and now the masculine women are pursuing so the men don’t have to do anything. Yet I know a lot of people who have met they’re partner online. I’m torn 🤯 cuz I don’t know where a good man can find me.
Tony would tell you to work on yourself, and when you’re living in your purpose and not worrying about it, you will meet your person.
Pray about it. Trust your instincts. I'm trying online dating currently and best app by far was bumble. The other apps was trash to be honest. Where I live at honestly either the men not my type or afraid to approach. It's not the way it use to be. I believe with the me too movement has got men to completely won't even compliment women no more either. It rough out here. In person isn't so easy the way Tony is making it sound. It depends where you live at.
@@j-tenn226 I will keep that in mind. Thank you 🙏🏽. You’re right
I started doing stuff online after my cousin got a divorce and began to date immediately. Initially it was done for fun. After a while I started to notice a pattern in the men. They were socially awkward, self-employed/Uber drivers, truck drivers, men who created and alter ego of what they want it to be, or old men posing as young man.
When I came to that realization I knew that you had to dismiss people quick. That’s the benefit of dating online. You can say what you’re looking for. If someone gets out of pocket, thank you next. But I would definitely say it’s a good way to introduce yourself to dating if you’ve been off the market for a while or if you’re trying to heal from a toxic relationship. Because dating in person maybe worse but it kind of gives you what to expect from a man.
Good evening, Mr. Gaskins, God bless you and your family. Continue to speak the truth about online dating. I greatly appreciate your insight. Thank you!!!
In my city , a girl got kidnapped and killed by simply having a profile on online dating app with her photo - a man recognised from the dating app and followed her , kidnapped and killed her .
Showing your face on online dating app is dangerous . For this reason among others i d never do online .
@@LA-wv7gf exactly! I feel its the same story..she ignored a message too, never even engaged with him..simply never responded to his message ..
I tried during the 2 years pandemic lockdown where I live. So disappointed with the people out there. They wanted attention and entertainment and fantasy, nothing real. And oh yes, they all professed to be Christian!
Tony you're providing an excellent service for humanity.
I agree with you . I have never online dated . It is scary out here ! I talk to people every day about this . I have heard so many excuses too ! I think it puts Us into a Robot mode too ! I believe it is a moral decision too . We are made perfect and should be able to meet and talk to people in person. The excitement too when meeting someone in public , and not online !😊
Safety is always first good tips brother thank you🙏
I met my king on Facebook 2 years ago in 2020, and we finally met 2022. When I met him I was nervous at first but, I did a criminal background check, his background check is clean. He have nothing on his record we met in a public place. We went to Dave and buster's, if a Man not willing to meet you in person that is a red flag.
I know people who met online and they married.. but that was before 2020. Nowadays it is going to be more and more difficult . One need to be careful for sure
Great tips Tony. I trust online dating. I’ll wait to meet someone naturally.
I'm giving dating apps a try now bc I don't get out enough. I'm not meeting any guys, especially ones I want to date. But haven't met anyone in person yet from the app. Kinda scared to on the low 😬
I don't do online dating anymore. I met nothing but losers on those apps that other women wouldn't deal with at all and when you tell them you are not interested in dating them anymore they don't want to let go and some got weird on me.
I’ve never been a fan of online dating. Although people are people therefore you have to be careful with everybody.
Brother Tony does it again….I listened to him on his original video on this topic! I remember doing a profile to see what would occur based on encouragement from others! Welp I I received “hits” it was literally overwhelming and then began looking at profiles and was like no sir …. Why are you posing like this …. Yes I’m a divorced woman and I had been out of the “dating world” I think I was curious to see what would happen…. I said Lisa get off this you know you are a ENERGY person and I immediately dismantled my profile 😝…. Real talk like Tony said you can meet someone by being out and about and don’t just sit in the house all the time “pre pandemic “ I’m sure the sites have doubled in numbers since pandemic and many ladies were feeling like I have no one to quarantine with. I truly believe what God has for me will appear no chase no desperation. My children are grown and I can actually travel and do fun things and attract the person God has me! Thanks Tony
Please Tony create your own online dating platform 🙏🏾 thank you
I am not sure HOW I am even alive now, except by the grace of God! Over the past 4 years, I broke every single rule you just mentioned. Thank you, Jesus for keeping me safe! Looking back now at the men I PERSONALLY had dealings with, I exposed myself REPEATEDLY to scammers, narssists, and quite possibly someone who had capabilities of doing me great harm. From those encounters, I had ZERO REAL dates and developed ZERO REAL friendships.
The grace! I feel the same way!!!!!!!
He said I know you finda unsubscribe...😂😂😂 aww man, but I agree there is something that’s off when you online date and there is some desperation...I own up to it myself so I’m going to delete my app and try again meeting someone just out in real life...I can be honest my age and the clock against me makes me reach out to the app...but I’m going try again, face my fears and let it happen naturally...Thanks again Uncle Tony...but if your app comes out I might try that 💯
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This is Scary stuff! People please be extra cautious. 💯💯
Tony really hate online dating lol. Thank you so much for all these important tips..God bless 🙏🏾
Excellent pointers to start of the new year 👏 God bless this man and he's beautiful wife and family. He looks out for all.
You sound normal. You would approach a woman in public if you were single. But I can’t tell you how many men I have met that have said they’d never approach a woman in public for fear of being accused of harassment.
I’ve had several friends meet good men online, but it hasn’t worked for me yet. I recently started going out more but it’s rare I meet single men in my age range at these places or get approached, even though I dress nice and am friendly, so I also am online.
Thanks for advice Tony, but I’d rather not date online at all.
This is honest. When I used to get online to date, I would get a weird/shameful feeling. I would observe everyone that was on there and kinda put pieces together, then it made me check myself. I had to remember who I am.. If it’s too easy, I don’t want it.
DANGER, EVEN ON FB. EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW THEM PERSONALLY YOU CAN'T TRUST THEM🤞👌.
Thank you Tony for blessing us with another great video and incredibly valuable information!!!
Online dating isn't for me. What happen to old fashion dating meeting a person at work, being introduced by a friend or face to face.
Don’t online date. I went against my own word recently and tried it and it was a big fat F. Wasn’t my thing from the jump but someone talk me into being “open”. Scratch that. I last less than a day before I deleted that nasty app.
Good for you
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Hi Tony,
thank you for the advise on how to generally stay safe while online dating. I would ideally love to meet my guy out and about, but I find that guys don’t normally approach me while I’m doing stuff throughout my day. What I like about online dating and what I hope you would address is the fact that when I do see a guy, I don’t know anything about them, their age, marital status, if they are a Christian or not, if they have a good job, sexual orientation etc . out of the 1 or possible 2 guys that approach me they don’t meet the Christian man Criteria. Can you address how not just to meet men but rather Christian men. According to your teaching, my job is to to be seen and if the guy is interested he will pursue. So there goes that one. I do go about my day looking, not always on my phone but still no takers. According to your teaching I should focus on BBB, which I have been, guys do find me attractive…except I will focus more on brand next year ( I plan to take one of your courses) Anyway, Even looking my best, I don’t get as much attention IRL, my photos are up to date and no filter and I do get a lot of likes online. daily we have to wear masks so I guess my eyes are not alluring🤷🏻♀️ according to your teaching then, I should wait until it’s time which it is what it is. I think dating online shows my personality which the guys respond to and I have learned so much about myself and men through the process as I had virtually (no pun intended 😊) no dating experience the last 30 years. Now according to this video, I have to figure out what’s wrong with me psychologically that I’m desperate to go online instead of waiting as I’ve been doing for the last 30 years 🥲. I do apply everything you teach on the dates but mainly that if they are too busy to talk, I send them off with a blessing and I do speak with men to pick up any clues of craziness. I do want someone as excited about me as you are about your wife and I don’t mind if I meet them online tbh. Also, if I meet a guy on the streets wouldn’t I need to take the same precautions? The guy I may meet in person while shopping for groceries could have a dating profile on the side 🙃 🤷🏻♀️ I appreciate you! God bless you and send a prayer for me 🙏
I am a RUclipsr and I am shy too. I get embarrassed to record for others to hear.
Love this brother ,God has given you so much wisdom .
What if you really don’t go out a lot?
Start getting out if you can and if you want to potentially meet someone. Tony has videos talking about getting out and places to go
Get out of your comfort zone. Push yourself to go out more. Even if you have to do so on our own
@@gabbistarr3693 and none of them places he talk about work .....at least not for me 🤣. It really boils down to where you live at.
@@gabbistarr3693 lol I’m skinny and pretty but sometimes I feel guys won’t approach me cause I look very young for my age plus I don’t wanna go to clubs and such by myself
I know without a shadow of a doubt that these rules are correct for the usual dating sites,…any thoughts about paid sites where the quality of man might be better since they are investing money?
Thanks for bringing awareness to the inescapable harassment of technology, sad to say that now I’m comfortable. Erky that even general “mentoring “ channels are centered around sex and money. If they would pay me money in real life for copying and mocking me, instead of just hacking it, then I would believe in miracles. Stay strong with self respect 💜
This was 2yrs ago and im barely seeing this! lol
Couldn’t pay me to date online 😳