6 Lessons I've Learned About Online Dating

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  • Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024

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  • @aliabdaal
    @aliabdaal  Год назад +32

    Would highly recommend checking out Brilliant, go to brilliant.org/Ali to get a 30-day free trial + the first 200 people will get 20% off their annual subscription.

  • @sj4267
    @sj4267 Год назад +118

    This is the post-date 8:
    1. What side of me did they bring out?
    2. How did my body feel during the date?
    3. Do I feel more energized or de-energized than before the date?
    4. Is there something about them I’m curious about?
    5. Did they make me laugh?
    6. Did I feel heard?
    7. Did I feel attractive in their presence?
    8. Did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?

    • @frankkennedy6388
      @frankkennedy6388 3 месяца назад

      Sounds like these apply mostly to women. #7 Specifically confuses me as how are you supposed to feel attractive without obvious cues?

  • @croguy
    @croguy Год назад +401

    I love the fact that you associate dating with productivity 😂

  • @arin20
    @arin20 Год назад +874

    Only Ali can do 6 step routine for dating. 😂

    • @unknownname3295
      @unknownname3295 Год назад +19

      When brand deals calls 😀. Ali will always deliver

    • @FizaKhan-zx5rq
      @FizaKhan-zx5rq Год назад +2

      😂😂😂

    • @Lawand
      @Lawand Год назад +1

      I swear😂

    • @shellyt556
      @shellyt556 Год назад +5

      Dude is methodical in everything. Not a bad thing. Glad he has found a formula that works 😅

    • @12345ury
      @12345ury Год назад +2

      I laughed so hard when I read the title of the video

  • @EvelynMoore629
    @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад +63

    *I don't know who needs to hear this, but don't chase comfort at the age of labor, so you won't labor at the age of comfort.*

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад +1

      Always put your finances in good care to ensure that your income rises. Wealthy people achieve there financial goals and acquire riches by seeking help from finance pro(s) but many claim to have achieved success themselves.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад +3

      “The greater the passive income you can build, the FREER you will become.” I feel fortunate to have made productive decisions that have had a lasting impact on my life. Through my finance coach, I've accumulated over a million and recently purchased my first house in January. I've also managed to pay off my mortgage and student loans, and now I'm focused on working towards my retirement by next year.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад

      I operate a wide range of investments and have achieved massive growth in my finances with the help of my financial professional, making my financial goal a reality.

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад

      Sear ch the names if you care!

    • @EvelynMoore629
      @EvelynMoore629 9 месяцев назад

      *DONALD NATHAN SCOTT.*

  • @thetechcornerbusiness
    @thetechcornerbusiness Год назад +56

    Me & hubby met online. 10 years later we are happy married with 2 great kids. Good luck for you Ali 😊

    • @someonev3
      @someonev3 4 месяца назад +1

      I’m 17 and friends with many people. Online dating isn’t the greatest method, as if you just so happen to live in different countries, or even regions, then chances are you won’t meet. I haven’t seen a single online relationship - and I’ve seen many - go past a year or end in meeting up. Good for you, however. Hope you’re doing well!

    • @minatwice6062
      @minatwice6062 25 дней назад

      @@someonev3ur comfusing online dating with internet relationships

  • @JillWhitcomb1966
    @JillWhitcomb1966 8 месяцев назад +6

    I've been meeting people from the Internet since 2001-- sometimes for dating, other times just to meet up with friends. I've always been open to meeting outside of my geographical area, way way outside of it. I currently live in North Dakota where the dating pool is just a tiny puddle, and it's difficult to make friends here, too. Meeting friends or dating from the Internet has given me opportunities to learn about new cultures, travel hundreds if not thousands of miles away to meet up with friends, show friends around when they have traveled here, and opened up entirely new worlds for me.

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Год назад +315

    I’m just happy that Ali is dating someone and is happy in life. I wish you both well.

    • @ugurfidan9639
      @ugurfidan9639 Год назад +13

      I do not know you but i hope you are (or will) date someone and be happy as well.

    • @ssrini2002
      @ssrini2002 Год назад +26

      @LaMelo Ball he’s dating his girlfriend

    • @SimonLiftsLife
      @SimonLiftsLife Год назад +2

      good luck to you and everyone who reads this comment!!!!

    • @Youtuberapiuser
      @Youtuberapiuser Год назад +1

      @LaMelo Ball Izzy Sealey is his GF.

  • @tyrone_music
    @tyrone_music Год назад +71

    lol, that transition to the Brilliant sponsorship was so smooth! Nicely done 6:30

  • @sohinidutta97
    @sohinidutta97 Год назад +19

    The romantic in me is quaking. The scientist in me appreciates this and is invigorated 😂

  • @omerdoganci1802
    @omerdoganci1802 Год назад +21

    The thing about dating is app that they make money based on user retention. The longer single you are the more money they make. There will be matches and dates but it won’t meet the effort you put. I think joining social clubs and activities are much better to have dates.

    • @bonkadoom
      @bonkadoom 9 месяцев назад

      some people don’t have much of those in their area tho or they don’t really have the time to actively participate. tbh dating apps are cashing on people who are busy and don’t have the time to go out, meet and connect with people regularly enough to build a relationship with someone organically. or lonely people who have no friends and don’t get introduced to new faces often. kinda sad but nowadays this is the reality for many of us

    • @kasuki800
      @kasuki800 6 месяцев назад +2

      Step 1: Do Not Buy Any Paid Subscriptions. Ever. Even outside of dating apps.
      Step 2: idk man what else am i supposed to do, talk to people?

  • @steff.y2001
    @steff.y2001 2 месяца назад +1

    It's weird but ever since I have known you married Izzy, I can't stop thinking how you're so good together. It's just crazy for me how two seemingly unrelated RUclipsr from billions of RUclipsrs have found each other and get married? I adore you both and I extend my warmest congratulations. 🎉🎉

  • @anniethecherie
    @anniethecherie Год назад +52

    The way you integrated sponsorship into this video killed me 😂 great video as always!

  • @legendofzoloxolo1425
    @legendofzoloxolo1425 Год назад +16

    I tried for online for 3 years. It’s only people trying to catfish me. Fake accounts. I never got 1 date

  • @mitchellmcminn4928
    @mitchellmcminn4928 5 месяцев назад +1

    Appreciate this. I’m about to try it, because I’m tired of being alone in life and want to meet someone that actually wants to be around me. Tired of fakes and flakes.

  • @s.dittrich8829
    @s.dittrich8829 Год назад +13

    Your videos are so professional! I love your style of editing and I can clearly see the amount of work you've put in :)

  • @YuvirCharles
    @YuvirCharles Год назад +16

    Thanks Ali this really worked , I know have 3 wives and am struggling witth child support

  • @AlexPresa
    @AlexPresa Год назад +12

    I really appreciate those Date Evaluation questions, super helpful with determining how to move forward!

  • @ArtAngelMouse
    @ArtAngelMouse Год назад +59

    Security concern should be for everyone. I've had multiple female stalkers in the past despite telling them I'm gay and I've had unwanted touching/flirting at work from men. I'm sure victimization of men is underreported, I've never gotten interviewed or surveyed. I've heard some stories about Grindr so I'm keeping my guard up and letting my family know what I'm doing and stuff lol.

    • @kyrinbuffalo2244
      @kyrinbuffalo2244 Год назад

      Hope you doin well man

    • @myoutuber77
      @myoutuber77 10 месяцев назад

      I understand the "stalking" women. Gayism is in fashion right now so when you say you are gay they do not automatically fall for it. If you want to shake women you will need to be more original.

  • @CalicoCooperFan
    @CalicoCooperFan Год назад +42

    Good "How to" video. Great content. I like it when you combine information from your personal experience, interviews with thought leaders, and insights you gained from books in your videos. Thanks!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 4 месяца назад

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @Squintillions
    @Squintillions Год назад +37

    My productive guide to online dating: delete dating apps from your phone = save yourself loads of potentially wasted time. Go enjoy your life out in the world.

  • @musaibsaid
    @musaibsaid Год назад +1

    Man I was not prepared for that advertisement transition. I fell for it

  • @kristinaluginina3437
    @kristinaluginina3437 Год назад +10

    Omg thank you so much for this video, I think it will save lots of people from trauma.

  • @matthewbridges3147
    @matthewbridges3147 Год назад +2

    The "I'll fall for you if.." transition was smooth

  • @sx3r952
    @sx3r952 Месяц назад

    I absolutely love how he blends the ads with the content! 😂❤

  • @this_is_sha_me_em8426
    @this_is_sha_me_em8426 Год назад +6

    That Brilliant Sponsorship transition just popped out the almonds & raisins i was eating out of my mouth😦

  • @PartosBarbos
    @PartosBarbos Год назад +19

    Dating market is market. You should understand demand and supply and your competitive advantages.

  • @riddley4382
    @riddley4382 Год назад +7

    7:10 The sponsor turned up unexpectedly😂

  • @Murk.mp4
    @Murk.mp4 11 месяцев назад +1

    that sponsor transition caught me off guard! well played Ali

  • @jensenc___
    @jensenc___ Год назад +1

    i gotta say that ad was smooth, didnt see it coming...

  • @dewi9611
    @dewi9611 Год назад +3

    I'm a muslim, and I was on online dating but this is my first time hear about Mus, lol. Gonna find someone potential in the local Mosque, ig.

  • @LuisPedro9
    @LuisPedro9 Год назад +23

    The beginning is so ridiculous lol. "Why should we care about dating?"
    "WELL THIS STUDY SAYS... !!!"

  • @perksinc.4674
    @perksinc.4674 Год назад +7

    🥺🥺Never thought I'd see a video with him talking about dating ❤️❤️

  • @TheKonkehagia
    @TheKonkehagia Год назад +7

    Thanks for the video! I read also the book that you in the past proposed "How to not die alone" and it was SUPER HELPFUL! thanks also for that!💙

  • @devilinthebelfry7292
    @devilinthebelfry7292 8 месяцев назад +2

    Know what people also never do, stike up conversation on dating apps. From personal experience. I actually get more conversation from someone in person cos they feel rude ignoring you like they apparently do on dating apps.

  • @shravangubbi5670
    @shravangubbi5670 Год назад +2

    Your sponsor plug in was (wait for it..) Brilliant!

  • @winandasworld
    @winandasworld Год назад +7

    Your videos have been helpful Ali. I hope to jump on this as well.
    I also love the quality of your videos, this is so clean and professional 👏👏👏👌

  • @tornado831
    @tornado831 Год назад +9

    This is legit reverse clickbait. I thought its gonna be fake and it was exactly as advertised

  • @varunvarma6028
    @varunvarma6028 Год назад +1

    That segue was probably the smoothest one I have ever seen on RUclips 6:35

  • @CapslockActive
    @CapslockActive Год назад +9

    Your placements are great, they almost fit seamless into the video.

  • @kushagrakanoi
    @kushagrakanoi Год назад +2

    He is the only guy in the world who can associate the word productive with anything and I would believe him 😂

  • @Dinomite1
    @Dinomite1 Год назад +2

    That ending speaks volumes

  • @leventemezo5607
    @leventemezo5607 Год назад +6

    Congrats on your relationship for both of you!

  • @selian_
    @selian_ Год назад +3

    Very smooth sponsor transition, Ali. Have you been taking cues from Graham?

  • @John-3692
    @John-3692 9 месяцев назад

    This is beyond my expectations. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was absolutely astonishing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @guillermo5782
    @guillermo5782 Год назад +1

    Didn't see that Brilliant sponsorship coming. Nicely put!

  • @pinkman1845
    @pinkman1845 Год назад +3

    Never expected to see "Productive Dating" line in my life lol

  • @fahanibrahimhashi
    @fahanibrahimhashi Год назад +3

    This is so on brand, I love it!

  • @HondaVolk
    @HondaVolk Год назад

    My Top 3 Favourite Channels: Ali Abdaal, Alex Renko, Iman Gadzhi! Make my week complete!

  • @sophiewong8501
    @sophiewong8501 Год назад +1

    Ali is so smooth with the sponsored ads 👏🏻👏🏻 well played 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @lewu492
    @lewu492 Год назад +3

    loved that photo in the right upper corner at 3:47 😂

  • @johnwilliamson10
    @johnwilliamson10 Год назад +1

    Activity dates are the way to go

  • @suhanivbhatt
    @suhanivbhatt Год назад +2

    The very title of the video got me goosebumps 😂

  • @Ashishvatsav
    @Ashishvatsav Год назад +4

    his next video, will be like: How to enjoy productively

  • @RonPalacio
    @RonPalacio Год назад +5

    Yooo productive dating 🧠🧠

  • @sak91902
    @sak91902 Год назад

    This is absolutely one of the best channels for life!

  • @abelsiji2481
    @abelsiji2481 Год назад +69

    Not everything has to be "productive" smh🤦‍♂️

    • @sergiearruda443
      @sergiearruda443 Год назад +13

      It's not that deep, nothing wrong in optimising all aspects of life, plus the term is just part of his videos brand...

    • @soundscape26
      @soundscape26 Год назад

      Agreed

  • @beaugreenwood712
    @beaugreenwood712 Год назад +6

    Idk why I’m watching (I’m married) but I also co-sign Hinge! I met my husband off there 3 years ago !

  • @princethemack
    @princethemack Месяц назад +1

    12:55 cuz yall don’t want that

  • @bayyleaf
    @bayyleaf Год назад +7

    thanks for sharing your perspectives around this!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 4 месяца назад

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @nin9249
    @nin9249 4 месяца назад +2

    Why jump from texting to meeting? Usually a phone or video call can rule out wronguns

  • @MySpiritualJourney22
    @MySpiritualJourney22 Год назад

    You never disappoint on your content . I like your contents.

  • @sigurdk13
    @sigurdk13 Год назад +1

    I am literally on my way to my first date and this video popped up 😅😂😂they are spying on ussss😭😩

  • @Marceline374
    @Marceline374 Год назад

    You should make a vid on making genuine friendships in your 20s

  • @banandababa
    @banandababa Год назад +2

    Omg Ali is in love so cute 🥰

  • @MedDeviceEngineerX
    @MedDeviceEngineerX Год назад +1

    Ali talk about anything else but dating. Ali ain't red-pilled

  • @huskygaze
    @huskygaze Год назад

    Productive Dating.... Letsss goooooooo!!!!

  • @katiewilkinson5593
    @katiewilkinson5593 Год назад +3

    Is there an app to meet fellow creatives and musicians?😊

  • @juanpablorios8294
    @juanpablorios8294 Год назад +1

    Captain simbad’s video came true

  • @AnthonyRecenello
    @AnthonyRecenello Год назад

    Great tips Ali! 👌🏻

  • @DarKcuS_
    @DarKcuS_ Год назад +6

    funny how this is not joke video

  • @snehaarvind4773
    @snehaarvind4773 Год назад +1

    that sponsorship timing tho - too smooth

  • @hydrogendioxide483
    @hydrogendioxide483 Год назад +1

    The lady said so many messed up things. Like as a woman I would rather meet my date for the first time in a crowded and safe place like a cafe, I dont care if it looks like a job interview, go to the park with them and what? Let them murder you in the bushes in case they are a psycopath?

  • @candycandy319
    @candycandy319 Год назад +1

    4:31 This photo is so funny XD

  • @arin20
    @arin20 Год назад +55

    Next video, Six step process of managing your girls tantrum.

    • @cedriceric9730
      @cedriceric9730 Год назад +15

      An evidence based guide

    • @isengaurd3795
      @isengaurd3795 Год назад +2

      @@cedriceric9730 😂😂😂

    • @adamsterdam9049
      @adamsterdam9049 Год назад +2

      Just say "relax", if that doesnt work say these, "you must be on your period", "Now i understand why your ex dumped you"

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 4 месяца назад

      Hi

  • @nicholaswilliams9492
    @nicholaswilliams9492 Год назад +25

    Step 1: Don’t

  • @frankkennedy6388
    @frankkennedy6388 3 месяца назад

    I wish the ad didn't interrupt step 2. That being said, what if you have a deal breaker that you want to express even if it comes off as "negative"?

  • @AlfieGordonx
    @AlfieGordonx Год назад +2

    “Prospects” oh Lord god

  • @PartyCrewCoolPAD
    @PartyCrewCoolPAD 2 месяца назад

    Greetings and Salutations
    Well, online dating is a match making service
    It's nothing serious about giving someone the address you have for contact because only certain places are approved & appropriate for your lifestyle
    Great Upload Thanks good luck 👍

  • @himilo101
    @himilo101 Год назад

    Hey Ali, I really enjoy when I am watching your RUclips.

  • @joshuachaires7220
    @joshuachaires7220 11 месяцев назад +1

    Online dating apps consist of 66% men and 34% woman. Those 34% woman have more messages, likes, and more then men. That’s a fact

  • @potential2themax
    @potential2themax Месяц назад +1

    NEVER DO IT !! time and $ waste

  • @emeraldchat
    @emeraldchat 3 месяца назад +2

    despite of how much they've improved, everyone must still stay safe during online chats.

  • @TheMagdalenaBB
    @TheMagdalenaBB 5 месяцев назад +2

    What do you do about burnout? That part is very very real.

  • @TopLevelDating
    @TopLevelDating Месяц назад

    A lot of people miss step 2.

  • @IluvKonig
    @IluvKonig 10 дней назад

    I want a dating app that is more safe and secure, not popular.

  • @Gregski3
    @Gregski3 9 месяцев назад +1

    I cant fathom why some girls have profile photos with guys 🤯

  • @ZainMiah
    @ZainMiah Год назад +7

    Forgot to mention divorce rates are now higher 🤣🤣

  • @wtfveganfood
    @wtfveganfood Год назад +1

    The "players" wink! 🤣

  • @trrra
    @trrra 8 месяцев назад +2

    How do you meet someone in a restaurant?! 🤷‍♀🤔

  • @anxen
    @anxen Год назад +1

    I haz so many deal breakers I can only match with K drama characters 😂

  • @otavioalexandre7575
    @otavioalexandre7575 Год назад

    Amazing stuff bro

  • @theamanmarskole
    @theamanmarskole Год назад +2

    i feel like dating is more complex than studying physics 😒😒😒

  • @Sandysitsattheseashore
    @Sandysitsattheseashore 10 месяцев назад

    Not have others controlling thy phone 24/7 would be a good tip.

  • @birbtechy2329
    @birbtechy2329 Год назад +11

    productive dating? okay.

  • @aarondanaher9426
    @aarondanaher9426 7 дней назад

    2:58 I strongly disagree with allowing payment barriers to build up around one of the more fundamental aspects of social life. This is bordering on the commodification of people, given that the people are essentially the products of these dating apps that you are incentivising us to spend money on.

  • @SergioR00
    @SergioR00 Год назад +4

    Lmao that title is wild. Only Ali could pull that off 😂

  • @joyfultrails
    @joyfultrails Год назад +4

    Never been on a dating app, but they say that a large percentage of the women are just bots. And that the actual women only go for the top 10% of guys. Whereas the guys will go for anything with a pulse. So it just doesn’t work.

  • @sibtain2827
    @sibtain2827 Год назад +1

    Time to increase my productivity on Tinder😂

  • @envbyxk
    @envbyxk Год назад

    instructions unclear, they're all signing up for brilliant