5 THINGS CHRISTIAN MEN NEED TO STOP DOING...NOW!

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  • Опубликовано: 4 окт 2021
  • There are some things that Christian men just need to STOP doing. I'm just going to put it bluntly. Men, if you are guilty of any of these 5, I encourage you to seek God to help you stop. Many of the things that I talk about in this video are characteristics of WORLDLY men and not GODLY men.
    If we want to be more like Christ, we as men need to align our character after His and ask ourselves, "Would Christ be doing this?" So, take a look at this video and let me know in the comments (if you are bold enough) which one(s) you may be struggling with at this point in your life.
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  • @thebeatagp
    @thebeatagp  2 года назад +203

    Hey BEAT family! Today, we focus on THE BROTHERS! Men, here are 5 things, as your online pastor (ha...since y'all call me pastor Parr anyway) I encourage you to stop doing. Which one(s) of these do you struggle with currently? On Friday we will come back and focus on the women. Enjoy!

    • @RI.........
      @RI......... 2 года назад +1

      Friday🙏🏾❤️

    • @Grace-xn2om
      @Grace-xn2om 2 года назад +4

      Thanks brother Parr for another good practical message! Looking forward to the one for us women.

    • @jamiestone9158
      @jamiestone9158 2 года назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/d5cFNlKXYbo/видео.html

    • @thebeatagp
      @thebeatagp  2 года назад +3

      @@RI......... Lol!!! Ha. Yes indeed!

    • @timsters5381
      @timsters5381 2 года назад +5

      @@thebeatagp I would say if a Christian man has no care to pursue a relationship to get married, just one to give him affirmation, or just to have a girlfriend he has no right or the privledge to pursue a Christian girl, or even a worldly girl for that matter, I.e. Paul Washer. :P

  • @TheDavisFactor
    @TheDavisFactor 2 года назад +94

    Christian men need to stop cussing. That goes for me as well. When I get really angry they just fly out of my mouth. That's something I need to pray about.

    • @zealousideal
      @zealousideal 2 года назад +6

      I did too. It was hard to stop until or once I got born again and filled with Holy Spirit. Now it won’t even come out. God really changed me and many others I know. Just surrender your life totally and take Him seriously put Him first. Keep praying and reading Bible. It will stop.

    • @flint2080
      @flint2080 2 года назад +4

      Of all things I struggle with it is this. Working on constructions sites all day I find myself struggling with this the most. I never swear at someone, but I do find myself swearing more than I would like. I also use an unhealthy amount of sarcasm.

    • @jasonb7870
      @jasonb7870 Год назад

      True

    • @StephanieJordan-qc7uu
      @StephanieJordan-qc7uu 4 месяца назад

      Stop beating up your wives.

  • @joshuadarcher
    @joshuadarcher 2 года назад +359

    Thank you posting. My wife recently was led by the spirit to look into my social media and dms. She found inappropriate things, likes and flirtatious comments. She then said to me, you tell yourself that you have never cheated but in God’s eyes you have committed adultery!” This broke me to the core. I have since got rid of that social media and I am taking steps to clean up everything. Pray for our marriage and for me to continue in my repentance. Thank you 🙏🏽 and to God be the glory.

    • @tahmercynung2498
      @tahmercynung2498 2 года назад +24

      May the Lord help your marriage to be strengthened in Jesus Name

    • @christopherthake8701
      @christopherthake8701 2 года назад +32

      What stands out to me here, is how great God is, that He gave her the understanding and grace to see those things and work through it with you. I am sure other couples outcomes have not always been the same. God is always helping us!

    • @GiveMeLiquidity
      @GiveMeLiquidity 2 года назад +10

      Good on you for speaking up. Or should I say your wife for speaking up. It would have taken more courage from your wife to step up. That shows love as she was willing to communicate. Now to be blunt. You know the path to the promised land, get your sh*t sorted and don't turn back. You have so much support on your side.

    • @lilyflower5576
      @lilyflower5576 2 года назад +4

      I'm glad You are doing the best for God and Your wife

    • @carolynewandera2843
      @carolynewandera2843 2 года назад +7

      Don't ask for prayers please, just repent and ask for forgiveness from your wife, praying for your marriage won't make things right with you and God

  • @aocnetwork
    @aocnetwork 2 года назад +603

    This needed to be said! Great message. As far as finding value in things/accomplishments…yes it’s a very slippery slope. Everything in this life is hanging by a thread.. so true value is in our Eternal relationship with God.

    • @thebeatagp
      @thebeatagp  2 года назад +73

      God bless you bro Jerren. Thanks for being an active supporter on this channel as I am on yours. So glad we are friends and support one another. Can't wait to see your next documentary. Much love,

    • @aocnetwork
      @aocnetwork 2 года назад +58

      @@thebeatagp thanks brother and looking forward to your next one as well! Much Love.

    • @waltersguitars3336
      @waltersguitars3336 2 года назад +26

      AOC love you guys. You and Allen 😊 God bless🙏🙏

    • @R-BURQUENO
      @R-BURQUENO 2 года назад +12

      @@aocnetwork I JUST CAME FROM YOUR CHANNEL TO THIS ONE 🙏. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH

    • @brotherdavid3500
      @brotherdavid3500 2 года назад +8

      AOC AND ALLEN PARR… my mornings usual start with prayer and your videos be blessed my brothers

  • @kawannadixon4327
    @kawannadixon4327 2 года назад +138

    Anyone who is still addicted to porn is definitely not ready for marriage PERIOD!
    Please ask God to help you and deliver you 🙏🏾🙌❤

    • @XxlightxX
      @XxlightxX 2 года назад

      Thats what I was saying even when I give in im like nope ik im too immature for that rn plus im 23 lol I got so much time.

    • @JESUSbloodALONEsaves
      @JESUSbloodALONEsaves 2 года назад +2

      How long should someone be free before pursuing a godly relationship?

    • @XxlightxX
      @XxlightxX 2 года назад +1

      @@JESUSbloodALONEsaves we are to carry one another burdens and build one another up if he is really trying to get off it. It shows he cares to change for men its harder because we get clogged up and are mind is exploding and it's hard to control it. It doesn't go away even if you pray your mind still doesn't care and demand it and won't let you stop thinking about it and then it feels good and hard to not and you give in its a strong urge every man struggles with it Barley anyone's able to control it.

    • @katelynhenry777
      @katelynhenry777 2 года назад

      For America's sake

    • @anthonywilliams852
      @anthonywilliams852 2 года назад +1

      So I have a question for you. What is an acceptable thorn for a man to have, that he can struggles with, but he is still in an "acceptable" position for marriage??

  • @craftedeyecandies
    @craftedeyecandies 2 года назад +628

    Also, when men hit the like on racy photos it encourages that woman to keep doing what she's doing. Too many women's self worth is based on what people think of their appearance, and in the end it only builds a negative reputation, not her character or healthy self esteem.

    • @si_a_to2086
      @si_a_to2086 2 года назад +15

      Yes, it encourages them to wear that type of dress outside.

    • @Urboy5th
      @Urboy5th 2 года назад +24

      Even down to the profile name which can incline men to interact on your posts. Honestly, a name like “713 Eye Candy” kind of insinuates something other than Christ. Not a bash, just something to bring to light.

    • @jonathansoko1085
      @jonathansoko1085 2 года назад +22

      Yeah Eye Candy may not be the best profile name lol

    • @craftedeyecandies
      @craftedeyecandies 2 года назад +4

      @@Urboy5th nothing about my name would insinuate anything derogatory to someone who loves God in the first place. It might, however, to someone who is hoping to find racy content behind it in my opinion. Just in case you don't know, one great way to be Christ like is to not judge, especially without proper observation to test the spirit behind a thing. The name I chose is for many reasons that I will not spend time breaking down for you. You're entitled to your opinionated errored assumption, I'll stick with the fact of the matter. Much love to you, God bless, and have a superfantastic day!

    • @jeffshrader9195
      @jeffshrader9195 2 года назад +6

      Ok Eye Candy🤣🤣🤣

  • @marty4723
    @marty4723 2 года назад +177

    I can relate to when you talked about stopping porn, that stuff is poison and very dangerous, it almost killed me last year, the Lord took me through a cleansing or a deliverance as some people call it, it was ugly, now I'm completely free from porn.

    • @kevinfancher9591
      @kevinfancher9591 2 года назад +4

      @Jerik G I know you asked someone else; but if you don't mind I would like to share.
      There were several verses and concepts that I had to link together.
      The enemy uses inaccurate preconceived notions (little thoughts that are deceptions) those thoughts become the breeding ground for believing horrible lies about ourselves and others.
      The Bible Project video on 1 Corinthians. The examination of the issue, the proper view of the role of believers gathering and the recap at the end of the video.
      Proverbs 9. I discovered v4 and v16 are the same words. One an invitation to spend my time with wisdom; the other, an invitation to spend my time with folly.
      I can't be in both places at the same time.
      Wisdom makes my heart sorrow shrink.
      Folly makes my heart sorrow grow.
      Ecclesiastes 11:10... I am told to remove sorrow from my heart and not to intentionally bring evil to me through my 5 senses.
      Then Psalm 19:8-13..

    • @TherealBrooks-zc5kc
      @TherealBrooks-zc5kc 2 года назад +10

      Seriously... It took me a long time to stop masturbation and i did it slowly. Now i don't even think about it. No porn... no masturbation

    • @l.a.6522
      @l.a.6522 2 года назад +2

      How did it almost kill u...?

    • @marty4723
      @marty4723 2 года назад +5

      @@l.a.6522 When you’re addicted to porn you’re inviting demonic oppression into your life and when God was cleansing me of porn these demons had been with me for a long time and they didn’t want to leave so this intense feeling of hopelessness saturated my soul which tormented my mind and almost caused me to take my own life. That’s why porn is so dangerous, but Jesus was with me the whole time, He wanted me to understand how sin affects the soul.

    • @l.a.6522
      @l.a.6522 2 года назад +2

      @@marty4723 u got it...

  • @ucytgutta
    @ucytgutta 2 года назад +137

    This is crazy!! I’m a personal trainer, and there are women I follow that post pics that aren’t overly sexual but boarder line. This morning a women posted a pic. I’m not attracted to her at all, so I was gonna like it to give her encouragement. But I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit not to like it. And now this video comes up! I was also delivered later today from demons of anxiety and fear which tormented me as a child. I know I’m delivered!Brothers and sisters of Christ, please keep me in your prayers!

    • @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436
      @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 2 года назад

      Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and RUclips channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.

    • @redsquare4835
      @redsquare4835 2 года назад

      Is this something you often deal with as a personal trainer? Sounds like it would be common 😅

    • @jxguarfn9939
      @jxguarfn9939 2 года назад

      @@vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 you can’t take the mark of the beast by accident right???

    • @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436
      @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 2 года назад

      @@jxguarfn9939
      Where does it say that in the bible?
      Of course, people will be deceived. Satan is a deceiver.

    • @katrinamoxam4930
      @katrinamoxam4930 Год назад +1

      Honestly thank you for sharing this . Gives me hope that God is working on men . Following threw and being obedient is key and I give u so much respect because this world is beyond sexualized and it's not easy . Keep up the amazing work.

  • @ryanjackson7606
    @ryanjackson7606 2 года назад +72

    to the 7 people who gave this video a thumbs down, may the Holy Spirit convict you deeply, this is wisdom right here !!!

  • @michaelberry1746
    @michaelberry1746 2 года назад +346

    Regarding domestic duties - I'm a man who is a full-time housekeeper. This job wears me out like nothing else I've ever done. A brother who's even stronger than me told me something similar. Guys, if your wife is a stay-at-home mom, give her all of the domestic help you can!

    • @jeffcox2455
      @jeffcox2455 2 года назад +17

      Me too, man! Good job! It's super tough getting pulled around every which way. It's hard to do maintenance and make progress at the same time.

    • @roxanavictoria1819
      @roxanavictoria1819 2 года назад +8

      Thanks.

    • @gigahorse1475
      @gigahorse1475 2 года назад +9

      God bless you! 😂☺️

    • @carlosthomas3495
      @carlosthomas3495 2 года назад +29

      One thing men often forget God gave Adam responsibility first and the woman is the "Help mate" not slave, your mother, maid etc...it's really going on as we speak with people I know personally but we just have to pray for those people.

    • @carlosthomas3495
      @carlosthomas3495 2 года назад +6

      @@vodkacannon @Vodkacannon @Vodkacannon hello there just wanted to touch bases with you Man the same God that saved me can do the same for you. If you allow Jesus to be your Lord and Savior. It is never too late man to give you life to Jesus. Salvation is a gift that is given to us and you don't have to do anything out of order, sacrifices etc..

  • @Gottalovenasia
    @Gottalovenasia 2 года назад +454

    Yes, I’m excited to hear the Christian women version!

  • @jack2breeze
    @jack2breeze 2 года назад +96

    I'm not married but when a guy saw me doing my laundry he said, "She makes you do that?!" And looked surprised as if men shouldn't do laundry.

    • @a5anointed705
      @a5anointed705 2 года назад +18

      I feel sorry for whoever he’s married to.

    • @timeeak4599
      @timeeak4599 2 года назад +8

      Funny enough he would probably do the same at home, but try to make out like " he is the man". I don't do such.

    • @sparklegirl5508
      @sparklegirl5508 2 года назад +6

      @@timeeak4599 😂😂😂spot on

    • @KShipsAnalysis
      @KShipsAnalysis 2 года назад +2

      @@timeeak4599FACTSSSSSS

    • @KShipsAnalysis
      @KShipsAnalysis 2 года назад +5

      Those men be the same ones doing their laundry as they should tf

  • @trueheart8739
    @trueheart8739 2 года назад +88

    # 5 is HUGE!! Too many women leading and men are ok with this!! For women it’s exhausting and causes bitterness. Not enough pastors teaching on this.
    Great list, brother!!

    • @exoticsamba492
      @exoticsamba492 2 года назад +2

      And what’s wrong with women leaders? Female leaders existed since the dawn of time. The most powerful Queens have been independent and smart.
      Just say you hate women and go!

    • @katrinamoxam4930
      @katrinamoxam4930 Год назад

      Yep it's a huge Issue and definitely not natural

  • @Andrew-cp3ki
    @Andrew-cp3ki 2 года назад +158

    Current streak with no porn was 14 days, broke it last night. This video came in just in time. I know the Lord is pulling me out, but even when verses come up, I still fail. I think I need to be praying more.

    • @nathanieltheoneandonly5933
      @nathanieltheoneandonly5933 2 года назад +21

      Fasting is key!! Fasting with repentance and prayer is the best way to be delivered!!

    • @lkae4
      @lkae4 2 года назад +10

      Keep up the good fight, brother! Stay in the word, stay in prayer, stay around your spiritual family and get into some tough ministries. Sometimes we can avoid temptation when we're too busy marching on the gates of hell.

    • @itspikachutime5624
      @itspikachutime5624 2 года назад +5

      keep going friend, Gods gonna get you through this.

    • @michaelberry1746
      @michaelberry1746 2 года назад +6

      Fasting is a great tool. One I will add is confession - is there something from your past you need to air out to God? Maybe something you and an ex-girlfriend did, or something inappropriate you said to a woman, etc. Pray about it, ask the Spirit to call to mind any sin that may need to be confessed, and then find a trusted older brother in the faith and tell him what happened.

    • @andreasracha8185
      @andreasracha8185 2 года назад +2

      Hang in there bro keep fighting. Good luck.

  • @ashishishwardan5715
    @ashishishwardan5715 2 года назад +22

    I am Indian Christian 🇮🇳......Please pray for me....I struggle with sexual sins sometimes.........I love Jesus....... please pray for me....

    • @jollygoodgordon5580
      @jollygoodgordon5580 2 года назад +1

      Bless u brother

    • @douglasjohnson6877
      @douglasjohnson6877 2 года назад +1

      So true to all you have said....guilty myself , but still working toward change.... !

    • @ashishishwardan5715
      @ashishishwardan5715 2 года назад +2

      @@douglasjohnson6877 jesus can change our heart.......may the lord forgive us.......I love Jesus so much......I don't want to do any sins......I want to serve lord ....

  • @thegospellens8156
    @thegospellens8156 2 года назад +78

    Great video Pastor Allen! I was guilty of watching porn and being a passive leader. Jesus has a done a huge transformation in my life and now I’m devoted to serving him and advancing the Kingdom

    • @SparksForces
      @SparksForces 2 года назад +3

      Thanks for sharing brother I struggle with porn myself it’s hard and embarrassing to say it, but I feel encourage that you brothers in Christ know the pain and shame and understand how the challenges is to be free from it. God bless you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

  • @f.-j.j.5738
    @f.-j.j.5738 2 года назад +164

    It is very hard on us women when we see that we look nothing like the women our SOs are liking on social media. Even if we take care of our bodies, go to the gym, eat healthy, dress elegantly and neat, take good care of our hair, skin and nails, we are beautiful, but we cannot compete with extreme makeup, fake hair/nails/eyelashes, plastic surgery and Photoshop.

    • @signalfire15
      @signalfire15 2 года назад +4

      Yeah thats true :(

    • @thejohnbeck
      @thejohnbeck 2 года назад +19

      about Photoshop, I saw one interview where Claudia Schiffer (a supermodel) said "I don't look like Claudia Schiffer".

    • @maryguillory2187
      @maryguillory2187 2 года назад +10

      Very true. Feels like lies when they say, "I like you the way you are" when YOU don't look like HER.

    • @jamavestergaard6745
      @jamavestergaard6745 2 года назад +8

      So many celebrity pics are photos hopped. It helped me stop comparing myself because I realized a majority of pics are fake

    • @frankservant5754
      @frankservant5754 2 года назад

      Noone cannot compete with a half naked woman

  • @SpaceDad87
    @SpaceDad87 2 года назад +302

    I was guilty of most of those a couple years ago, and they all stimmed from porn and how it warped everything else. J would say too, if you're struggling with porn be mindfuln of Instagram, snap, movies, etc.. They can trick you into thinking it's not as bad.
    I would say another thing we need to do is find older men to mentor us and younger men to feed into. There's a major lack of that today and in the past few decades.

    • @palipali4264
      @palipali4264 2 года назад +8

      Stop all television. It will stop the programming.

    • @SpaceDad87
      @SpaceDad87 2 года назад +12

      @Joshua Bowman Yeah there is definitely discernment that needs to be done, ex: what am I watching this for or hope to secretly see? Being honest with ourselves helps, and can make it easier to pick what to get rid of.

    • @kngnk815
      @kngnk815 2 года назад +6

      Bro I know, John Doyle made a wonderful video about how porn is destroying the west, a truly disgusting industry

    • @sukaenacornelius9285
      @sukaenacornelius9285 2 года назад +14

      Jesus says if you are to lust then it would be better to cut out your eye. What if did is get rid of all my social media and went to an old prepaid flip phone for a year. It helped ten fold, I still don’t have social media.

    • @SparksForces
      @SparksForces 2 года назад +3

      @@sukaenacornelius9285 not bad but you forgot the battle in the mind. What if you go outside to workout, and do your thing and bam 💥 ! The woman are outside dress inappropriately or you know abit to revealing. Den it there goes my perfect mediation :(
      Including the beach or gym 🙁

  • @FinancialShinanigan
    @FinancialShinanigan 2 года назад +56

    TBH, tese 5 things should be avoided regardless of your gender.

  • @stephenkarla7113
    @stephenkarla7113 2 года назад +22

    Husband's wear your wedding band. I've heard my husband say he couldn't wear his wedding band because of his work. Wear it when your out in public around other women. Its very hurtful to a wife when she sees you not only don't wear it at work but you also don't wear it after work. and I found it disrespectful to me as his wife.

    • @bumblebee4024
      @bumblebee4024 2 года назад +4

      My husband cannot wear any rings or even a wristwatch to work because of the type of equipment at his job. I stopped wearing my wedding ring for a long time until recently when a man tried to talk to me & when I told him I was married, he got annoyed that I wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. So I went on Amazon & ordered a fake diamond wedding band set for $40. It actually looks realist &!very nice. I wear that now so men won’t bother me.

    • @MoeJaxon
      @MoeJaxon 2 года назад +1

      Eehh I get it but not wearing it a wedding band around other women is no big deal. Women won’t care either way.

    • @essiej5229
      @essiej5229 2 года назад +1

      I've seen men and women who do more manual jobs wear those silicone wedding rings. They are flexible and kind of popular. It seems like a good option if they can't wear metal jewelry.
      It is true that some people will try to flirt with you even if you're wearing a ring but stop them in their tracks. It's better to be respectfully blunt with them from the very beginning.

    • @cyriacusduru2312
      @cyriacusduru2312 2 года назад

      Just let people know you are happily married, respect and behave yourself. Our ancestors wore no marriage bands and yet they were faithful. Whoever wants to cheat will cheat even if they wear wedding rings as huge as alloy wheels.

    • @leechjim8023
      @leechjim8023 4 месяца назад

      In some mechanical or electrical jobs it is dangerous to wear rings! As in amputated fingers or electrocution!!!😮

  • @jessielynn
    @jessielynn 2 года назад +45

    Yes! I’m at stay at home mom right now and I’m finding this job so much tougher than my 9-5. I’m exhausted by the end of the day just trying to keep it all together and every day there’s something that didn’t get done. Thanks for acknowledging stay at home moms because it is a thankless job that is not valued very much in society. You bust your butt all day just for hubby to come home and say, “So what y’all been doing today? Just chillin?” Ugh!

    • @mbalihappiness3300
      @mbalihappiness3300 2 года назад +6

      It's definitely a highly respectable job. My mom and I spent 3 days with my nephew, and even it being both of us, we were exhausted by this adorable fella and to add on my dad didn't help with anything 😩. I genuinely respect stay at home moms and moms who go to work as well.

  • @Blue-moon12
    @Blue-moon12 2 года назад +100

    This is such a good and important message in the current climate. Satan is very clever and such a deceiver and fools you to think "it's just innocent stuff"

    • @viviennejordan215
      @viviennejordan215 2 года назад +4

      Sinful things are getting 'Normalised,' unbelievers are not even Aware of it, what's going on.

  • @gyonia
    @gyonia 2 года назад +20

    laughing hard at number 1. 😭 “everybody can see you liked the picture” 💀 it’s true. these points made were on..point! 👌🏾

    • @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436
      @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 2 года назад

      Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and RUclips channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.

  • @EbonyWhitee
    @EbonyWhitee 2 года назад +16

    Evil people are known for putting on the “window dressing” of faith in God, but rejecting the actual power of the Holy Spirit. They want to be seen as spiritual people, or good people but they are not truly following God.

  • @whaddoyoumeme
    @whaddoyoumeme 2 года назад +151

    🔥video, per usual, bro!

    • @thebeatagp
      @thebeatagp  2 года назад +3

      Thanks bro!

    • @SpiritLife
      @SpiritLife 2 года назад +6

      Wow, what an incredible meeting of Godly leaders!! I appreciate what both of y'all do for the kingdom!

  • @yovanmartinez2318
    @yovanmartinez2318 2 года назад +81

    Man God always speaks to me through you Allen. Been talking to a couple girls but I’m too focused on working on myself and my goals. No point leading them on . Thanks Allen

  • @lukiekeyz
    @lukiekeyz 2 года назад +45

    Gems on top of gems Allen. As a single guy I’m realizing how important it is for me to heal from the things that hurt me so I don’t bleed on people that never hurt me. No female deserves that. Way too many of my brothers are trying to find healing in a person. Let’s heal brothers so we can lead even better.

  • @daydream1066
    @daydream1066 2 года назад +23

    As a woman, I approve this message ^_^
    Excited to see the video coming out for women next time! :D

  • @405boy4
    @405boy4 2 года назад +51

    Great message Allen. After my divorce I was constantly flirting with women at work, and pretty much everywhere to help build up my confidence within. It got so bad, I was meeting ungodly women who didn't even agree with my Holy Faith in God. I participated in this ridiculous behavior for almost two years. I even began to become sexually active with these women to please myself. Only thing is that I was still lonely and upset at my x-wife.. Eventually I felt the Holy Spirit speak to me and show me that I would never have peace doing these things.. I remember watching documentaries for atleast 3 days about people's life stories about how there former partners passed on HIV and other STD's to them .From there, I remember getting on my knees with a very long and emotional prayer asking him for forgiveness for my horrible behavior that I carried on for close to two years. I also realized that by surrounding myself with some of my old friends and co-workers who were ungodly; well that wasn't fruit full either. I give God All the Glory because he delivered me from this unfruitful behavior.🙏👍..

    • @brandenharvey9817
      @brandenharvey9817 2 года назад

      I got herpes from a prostitute before I finally listened to the Holy Spirit to stop. Be glad you didn't need that to happen.

    • @405boy4
      @405boy4 2 года назад

      @@brandenharvey9817 Well God Bless you and I hope all is well with you 🙏

    • @angeleyes3469
      @angeleyes3469 2 года назад +2

      It takes a strong man to admit his faults and hold himself accountable... it's nice to see that there are men out there that will do that. It gives me hope.. May Yah bless you and keep you in His perfect peace...

    • @405boy4
      @405boy4 2 года назад

      @@angeleyes3469 God Bless you as well

  • @brando3342
    @brando3342 2 года назад +16

    Stop being weak and caving on convictions. Two of the most important things (I’m not perfect on the convictions bit).

  • @jamesrobinson2017
    @jamesrobinson2017 2 года назад +4

    1. Inappropriate actions with women
    2. Porn
    3. Passive leading
    4. Misleading women
    5. Finding purpose in posessions
    This is powerful. Thank you Pastor! Also, we as man have to stop competing with each other in the body. Support and unity are essential

  • @bradenbunnow8283
    @bradenbunnow8283 2 года назад +5

    If you have to stop liking pictures of women on social media because the pictures they post are too revealing, you’re probably better off unfollowing them altogether. Build those boundaries brothers in Christ 💪🏻

  • @nathanm988
    @nathanm988 2 года назад +66

    6:14 I am guilty of this, I met an awesome Christian girl a while back and we got along pretty well, I eventually mistreated her, and we don’t talk anymore. It made me really reflect on my own life, my values, and my relationship with God. If any of you are guilty of this then I advise you to stop looking for a girl and invest time into your relationship with God :)
    I pray for anyone who is guilty of this, it sucks but it’s something we can all learn from!

    • @viviennejordan215
      @viviennejordan215 2 года назад +1

      Yes, Put The Lord First, Even before Family, then Everything Will Follow.

    • @davidsbgr
      @davidsbgr 2 года назад +1

      Very common for christian men

    • @kaylaleininger2495
      @kaylaleininger2495 2 года назад +4

      It's very refreshing to know a guy can own up to his mistakes and actually do whatever it takes to be better. No one said it's easy, but it's not impossible.
      I'm not saying that I'm a perfect Christian woman - in fact I really look forward to seeing the next video! In an old relationship I was in not that long ago it was hard for me to even talk to a guy about certain things. And it would usually have a lot to do with what was on this list. I felt very discouraged and very self-conscious and he would wonder why.
      Keep growing, Christian man! 👍 Praying for you!

    • @TheRealLastJedi721
      @TheRealLastJedi721 2 года назад

      @@davidsbgr true I did that once too I used her to feel good about myself and felt horrible afterwards girls connect more emotionally and as guys were too passive but since that time I’ve never lead a female astray again

    • @Disciple_of_God.
      @Disciple_of_God. 2 года назад +1

      Amen, it would also help to others to take a vow of celibacy. It may be 3 months, or like me, permanently.

  • @josephpaloma43
    @josephpaloma43 2 года назад +30

    I remember when I watched you under 300k subs. And know you have doubled and still provide Godly advice as you did before. Keep up the blessed work brother.

  • @radicalttc
    @radicalttc 2 года назад +91

    Lust is one of the devil's most powerful weapon. Lust is embedded in the flesh at at young age it's very hard to over come. Even as we are. If you live a life of sleeping around, When you marry ( for men and women) the flesh is still weak and it will be hard to change the flesh. 4 in 5 marriages end in divorce because of it. God is the only way out of the flesh culture.

    • @b.delacroix7592
      @b.delacroix7592 2 года назад +5

      It does seem to be an easy source he uses for temptation.

    • @NewCreationInChrist896
      @NewCreationInChrist896 2 года назад +8

      Lust over anything including porn are thoughts that must be cast down or it will create strongholds in your mind.
      2 Corinthians 10:5
      "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"
      James 4:7
      "Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you."

    • @alamg043
      @alamg043 2 года назад +4

      @@b.delacroix7592 I think one of the most important thing for us as christian, is to follow spiritual direction, and to do so, it's take humility,

  • @RelentlessSportsman
    @RelentlessSportsman 2 года назад +18

    This is SPOT ON imo.
    Thanks for helping men head in a better direction. Benefits all

  • @angieshubee465
    @angieshubee465 2 года назад +30

    Brother Allen, thank you for being a real life teacher. Thank you for bring up those taboo topics that others are NOT teaching. Thank you for marrying the behaviors with the consequences. Bless you Brother Allen for touching on this new issue that is truly breaking up marriages. Can't wait for critique of what women need to stop doing. Heavenly Father cover Brother Allen, his family and ministry in the Blood of Jesus, Amen.

  • @lornajohnson480
    @lornajohnson480 2 года назад +5

    On point with #5 Brother Allen. It all begins in the home. God's Peace and Grace to you all 🙏😊

  • @deedogtx
    @deedogtx 2 года назад +15

    On point, again Pastor Parr! Thank you!

  • @ebertmahon8939
    @ebertmahon8939 2 года назад +5

    Great points of areas we as men have to remain laser-focused on. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and insight.

  • @janellestoermer5479
    @janellestoermer5479 2 года назад +33

    I wish this video had been around 20 years ago when I was a single college student. Guys who showed an interest in me did all these passive-aggressive games to make sure I knew they were interested, but then, when I responded to their interest, they'd pull back, and leave me confused, but then they'd build back up to being really interested and alluding to marraige, and again, when I'd respond to this, they'd deny ever being interested. It made me crazy, and really hurt. Thank you, Brother Allen, for addressing this stuff! I look forward to your next video about women.

    • @falconiustallon
      @falconiustallon 2 года назад +3

      nowadays only Christian women do this to guys... at least thats my experience. they just laugh it off and say "oh im just naturally flirty..."

    • @maryguillory2187
      @maryguillory2187 2 года назад +2

      💖

    • @emmarose6590
      @emmarose6590 2 года назад +3

      Janelle, I thought I was the only one. I have the exact same thing happen to me all the time. I’m 34 now still single and men still do this. Its devastating

    • @janellestoermer5479
      @janellestoermer5479 2 года назад +1

      @@emmarose6590 Thanks so much for sharing. I will be praying for you. I totally get it. I did eventually get married, but he was the first and only who pursued me the "right" way (without all this passive-aggression).

    • @janellestoermer5479
      @janellestoermer5479 2 года назад

      @@falconiustallon I am so sorry this has happened to you. Shame on these women who misled men. Praying for you.

  • @rb10465
    @rb10465 2 года назад +5

    Yes Allen! I am GUILTY of MOST OF THESE! But I'm WORKING ON ALL OF THEM EVERYDAY! JUST KEEP ME IN PRAYER!🙏😇🙌

  • @4knewt505
    @4knewt505 2 года назад +5

    Once again, added to my favorite sermon playlist. I was in prayer all morning for sons and will look forward to the one for women.

  • @kevinrobinson3274
    @kevinrobinson3274 2 года назад +3

    Right on time, God definitely speaking to me!
    Great video, I stopped checking out Facebook, only family posts! You’re right, be intentional, this flesh won’t quit!

  • @horseygirl645
    @horseygirl645 2 года назад +4

    Great information. Thank you for sharing. I’m looking forward to learning what things I might need to be mindful of as a Christian woman.

  • @simplyrobin8086
    @simplyrobin8086 2 года назад +3

    Good Morning Sir Allen Thank You For This Blessings Flow Much Love&Prayers ❤️🙏🏾❤️

  • @robertdavis3036
    @robertdavis3036 2 года назад +5

    I'm trying to be the man that God wants me to be. I'm weak in SO MANY areas! PLEASE, pray for me and I'll pray for you!!!

  • @HoldFastApolpgetics
    @HoldFastApolpgetics 2 года назад +7

    Thank you, Allen… grateful for this video!
    My husband is my dearest friend as God has grown us so close to Himself and one another through praying for one another… as the days are TOUGH. 🙏🏼 Again, needed video

    • @gurteenview
      @gurteenview 2 года назад

      May you cherish deeply what you both have because with both parties been surrendered to Jesus that is how a marriage brings fulment to each of us...

  • @chrisparker6249
    @chrisparker6249 2 года назад +12

    Great points for us men brother, definitely needed this message 🙏👑

  • @jimbojackson4045
    @jimbojackson4045 2 года назад +14

    Fantastic. Amen brother.
    Another thing about liking women's riské pictures: it might encourage them to post more of those because she gets attention.

    • @aralasia1989
      @aralasia1989 2 года назад +2

      This comment needs more 👍

  • @juliogomez9145
    @juliogomez9145 2 года назад +1

    Excellent video! These things had to be said. Thank you for not holding anything back

  • @glorykid1953
    @glorykid1953 2 года назад

    THANKS ALLEN SO GLAD TO YOU ADDRESS THESE SUBJECTS...

  • @lovekay2184
    @lovekay2184 2 года назад +66

    Men need to stop gossiping so much especially about women.

    • @manisymone8622
      @manisymone8622 2 года назад +6

      Men and women!

    • @ZWarrior89
      @ZWarrior89 2 года назад +2

      It goes both ways.

    • @MoeJaxon
      @MoeJaxon 2 года назад +2

      It goes both ways but most times it’s women doing the gossiping

    • @orangeblossom9279
      @orangeblossom9279 2 года назад +1

      Dang I didn’t know guys gossip that much lol. I thought it was only women

    • @spacelinx
      @spacelinx 2 года назад

      @@orangeblossom9279 : Oh yes, men gossip about just as much as women. Examples of things men will gossip about is who is dating who, who’s more jacked than another, various kinds of achievements, often with embellishments of course, and who did them, and who got what and why it’s better than what you’ve got.

  • @patrickbrinkley2934
    @patrickbrinkley2934 2 года назад +17

    My bro, keep up the Lord’s work!!!😎 💪🏿🦁

  • @tntwashpro3863
    @tntwashpro3863 2 года назад +5

    Great advice!!! Now this the type of teaching that needs to take place in men fellowships. This that type of teaching that will cause growth and accountability.

  • @Simplekindofguy1
    @Simplekindofguy1 2 года назад +1

    Spirit filled facts ,
    Thank you Allen for the bold messages.

  • @catrinawilkes5957
    @catrinawilkes5957 2 года назад +10

    I truly appreciate your transparency and you speak the truth from the Bible point of view. I can't wait for you to tell about a Christian women should be before God. God bless you!

  • @jayfreeman5117
    @jayfreeman5117 2 года назад +4

    Thanks for the video Allen!

  • @acasas248
    @acasas248 2 года назад +5

    Great video! I'm 27, got married when I was 25, had my child at 26 and began a life in Christ with my wife a few months ago and it's been a totally new life. Thank you for these videos as I try to lead my family as an honest devout Christian man 👍🏻👏🏻🙏🏻

  • @billyhernandez1645
    @billyhernandez1645 2 года назад +1

    Thank you brother Allen for this video! May our God continue blessing you and your lovely family!

  • @4bnfree
    @4bnfree 2 года назад +5

    I would also add, if you are a man and you are marriage minded, if you meet a woman and later determine she is not what you are looking for in a wife, tell her and let her go. Don't be a thief of her time and make her a miss right now until you find someone else. The longer you mislead her just to have someone for now, the longer you are keeping her from having the person that is for her.

  • @lilsaff21
    @lilsaff21 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much for this: I have some growing in my marriage to do.

  • @terrilynjones3496
    @terrilynjones3496 2 года назад

    No problem brother, it has to b brought out...✨👍👍

  • @charleshiggs6561
    @charleshiggs6561 2 года назад +1

    Thank you brother Allen, definitely food for thought, thank you for the message.

  • @RZFLSports
    @RZFLSports 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for this list Allen. Definitely been guilty of quite a few if these things but I thank you for giving us a list to check out selves. It's also important to look to the Word when it comes to these things to help strengthen our fight

  • @cynthiam3
    @cynthiam3 2 года назад +8

    So true. Can’t wait to see what you have to say for the women.

  • @josesaucedo863
    @josesaucedo863 2 года назад +1

    You spiritually slapped me. I need to step up! Thank you Allen parr!

  • @demarcushoward4294
    @demarcushoward4294 2 года назад

    Amen Brother Allen. Have to agree with all of your points. Nothing but truth.

  • @kyleliston9612
    @kyleliston9612 2 года назад +5

    I am still very young but I thank God that I see this beforehand. I personally struggle with my words of what I praise and uplift, and also with lust.

  • @ritagipson1310
    @ritagipson1310 2 года назад

    Wow!!! AWESOME!!! MUCH NEEDED!!!🙌🏾

  • @coffeemusicandjesus4169
    @coffeemusicandjesus4169 2 года назад

    Thank you for saying this brother Parr! Completely agree!

  • @Knowledgethatsaves
    @Knowledgethatsaves 2 года назад +3

    My brother, this convicted me on many levels. And I'm married. God help me and all my brothers. It's not easy out there!

  • @samuelflores1419
    @samuelflores1419 2 года назад +3

    You will know them by their Fruit! In your heart you know the Truth! Be Careful guy's! Great Reminder to us Men! God Bless you Brother Parr!

  • @christinec.2376
    @christinec.2376 2 года назад +2

    This was great, I can't wait to see what you have for us women of God!😬😳

  • @shivana1552
    @shivana1552 2 года назад

    Praise God thank you for posting this!!!

  • @kaylaleininger2495
    @kaylaleininger2495 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for putting these problems into words. I've dated guys that would do at least a couple of these things. And then they would wonder why I was so self-conscious. It felt like no matter what I would say or do, it was never going to be enough. It was very discouraging.
    Thank you! And I look forward to your next video for women.

  • @MzChosenByGrace
    @MzChosenByGrace 2 года назад +7

    If every believer shared this with a man in their lives, and they shared it from there… and people listened, repented and obeyed… this world would start to look a bit different. Great message Brother Parr.

  • @jamesbender1928
    @jamesbender1928 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Allen, you speak more and more truth every time I watch your videos. Keep up the great work!

  • @MarthaChermack0218
    @MarthaChermack0218 2 года назад

    wow - On point!! Sharing with my ragazze (Italian for babe), cant wait to hear the women video. Thank you!!

  • @Amarjeetsingh-cu1cd
    @Amarjeetsingh-cu1cd 2 года назад +3

    Again blessed and anointed video brother allen.🙏 🙌 ❤ 🇮🇳
    God bless every men and women 🙏 Amen!!!!

  • @jcpatterson2792
    @jcpatterson2792 2 года назад +5

    Allen always got something good going on in hi3 message.

  • @scosta9081
    @scosta9081 2 года назад +2

    I always come away from your videos feeling so grateful for the Godly wisdom you share. I especially appreciate that the truth is spoken without condemnation. May God continue to bless you, your family and your ministry. I am looking forward to seeing what God lays on your heart for women!

  • @jabeilke11
    @jabeilke11 2 года назад

    Amen! I appreciate these encouragements and also the time to listen, reflect, and repent for the times that I have failed to be a solid Christian man in all aspects of my life.

  • @andrewpena9041
    @andrewpena9041 2 года назад +7

    I know some women who are putting their career or future career ahead of pursuing a healthy relationship. I'm not saying to not have the career, just don't pursue it at the expense of a healthy relationship.

  • @fantasyauthorchrispatterson
    @fantasyauthorchrispatterson 2 года назад +4

    #2 has been a tough one for me. Putting my job over my wife and children. I know I have been diligently working on this but this is the one I struggle with the most.

  • @kagisoboloka7521
    @kagisoboloka7521 2 года назад

    Thnx for the message brother Allen😃

  • @raymondmoody2895
    @raymondmoody2895 2 года назад +1

    Well said brother, our Lord wants us to see through His eyes. Our focus must be on Hom every hour of every day. We cannot rely on our own sinful strength, but allow ourselves to be lead by the Spirit. Thank you for your service to Him. Holding you and yours up to Him everyday. God bless Ray

  • @kaleb8438
    @kaleb8438 2 года назад +15

    i’m guilty but i’ve been doing so much better and i love this second one because you mentioned boasting and I just read James a week or so ago and he says to boast in the Lord🙏

  • @shareofmoney
    @shareofmoney 2 года назад +15

    Thank you for sharing this. I can admit that I am guilty of several of these. But I am glad to have been challenged through this video. I pray for all of the brothers including myself that struggle in any area that take us away from God’s will for our lives.

  • @kinowa4381
    @kinowa4381 2 года назад +1

    Hey… you’re right… I was wondering what more to do. Thanks for guiding me. I’m returning to be a Christian again.

  • @reneemcfarlin5751
    @reneemcfarlin5751 2 года назад

    You are teaching what is needed to be said!!!!!

  • @emmarose6590
    @emmarose6590 2 года назад +3

    Please pray I meet a godly man like this. I’m so alone, I have god but I long for human companionship abs to share life with someone.

    • @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436
      @vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 2 года назад

      Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and RUclips channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.

    • @Angelalex242
      @Angelalex242 2 года назад

      Or don't. But to the unmarried woman and the virgins I say, it is better that you remain so, for the unmarried is concerned with how she may please the Lord. But the married woman is concerned with how she may please her husband, and she is divided.

  • @SpicyCornNutzz
    @SpicyCornNutzz 2 года назад +4

    Very very on time word for such a time as this. I'm guilty off not valuing my wife opinions and trying to help me become a better me. I tend to compare her to a nagging women, when i know in my heart that she's absolutely got my best intentions in her heart. Thx Pastor!!!

  • @michaeloyinbo4976
    @michaeloyinbo4976 2 года назад +2

    God bless you brother for this teaching. I really learned from it. 🙏

  • @Jo-ox3ct
    @Jo-ox3ct 2 года назад +1

    Thank you! Thank God for your ministry!!! 🙏

  • @lovedbyYahuah
    @lovedbyYahuah 2 года назад +15

    This was really good!! Excited for the next video for women. I’ll say that I use to think I was being ridiculous or insecure for thinking that a guy liking promiscuous pictures online was a red flag and men have told me as much too. But I realized that nudge in my spirit was from God. And if a man doesn’t see anything wrong with it, then he just isn’t the man for me and that’s okay ☺️

  • @DrezzyEFTP
    @DrezzyEFTP 2 года назад +39

    Awesome message Allen, is by any chance, that you could make a video of how disabled Christians can pursue a relationship/marriage when some people look at us differently based on out physicality

    • @viviennejordan215
      @viviennejordan215 2 года назад +5

      That would be Very Interesting, Thank You for putting it 'Out There.' Great Idea.

    • @kkb892
      @kkb892 2 года назад +5

      Not that he can’t answer that but maybe a disabled believer would have more insight on that based on experience.

    • @WatchfulHunter
      @WatchfulHunter 2 года назад +3

      Non disabled cannot understand the emotional suffering from rejection. But there are good, caring women out there. God cares about you inside. Don't get depressed. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Ask for His love, power and strength.

    • @DrezzyEFTP
      @DrezzyEFTP 2 года назад +3

      @@WatchfulHunter I'm never depressed, I just want him to do a video on it

    • @adammccray9971
      @adammccray9971 2 года назад +2

      Amen, I would love to see a video on that topic.

  • @jamietowler7029
    @jamietowler7029 2 года назад

    Amen brother! We have to guard our testimony in every area.

  • @JayMcd91
    @JayMcd91 2 года назад +1

    Awesome video Parr! I myself struggle with two of the things you listed. Definitely have to be better… thanks for bringing this to light💡 It’s to be better as a Man of God.

  • @sukaenacornelius9285
    @sukaenacornelius9285 2 года назад +13

    The more men see women as an object and yes them as such, the less they aren’t going to value a relationship when they do find a good man. Having a high body count shouldn’t be directly correlated to your self esteem, and the amount of attention a woman gets for her body shouldn’t determine her self esteem.

    • @joshuastoltzfus4910
      @joshuastoltzfus4910 2 года назад

      So agree. I noticed that I couldn't be a good friend to women, or a witness to women at work. I would constantly romanticize them even though they weren't Christian. My mind is more able to be casual and friendly with girls post porn.