This perfectly articulated the importance of being self-aware enough to prioritize your needs. The only thing I would add is, "Be the partner you wish to find." I have to remind myself of that all the time!
☀️ Well said, awareness is huge in life. Truly being grounded and cultivating awareness in all areas of our life is a very healthy practice indeed. Awareness in relationships, and so many other areas such as awareness of a person's diet, any other beliefs about anything under the Sun , awareness of things about the planet itself and surrounding universe . And the list goes on as well as the depth of awareness. Becoming aware that you are aware . And like you said, knowing what you want as well as aware of how you're showing up for your spouse. Jillian is such an awesome person!
Your definition of an unhealthy relationships is absolutely correct! There isn't trust, there isn't respect. "Where you don't feel like you can be yourself." (It's my special nightmare) Also when you feel chronically misunderstood and unseen and unheard 🥵This happened to me. I get out of such relationships quickly because it kill me. I want to live and be happy in a loving, prosperous relationship for both partners. That's why I know very well the answer to the question of what type of relationship I need. 😊Thank you so much ❤️
Jillian, I listened to this clip 4 times now. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are changing lives and I hope that a lot of younger woman and men will here this too.
"Little tiny heart attacks every day from anxiety.." Hits so true. I never knew it was even possible to feel this way before my most recent romantic relationship.
I love the calmness in your messages and podcast. Some very solid advice in choosing a partner. Completely agree with finding someone who agrees on a life well lived.
There is research on this and there are significant gender differences. Men do better in any relationship than no relationship but women suffer in all areas when in a bad relationship. Both do best in a healthy, thriving relationship.
Girls display a heightened sensitivity to emotional cues compared to boys, a trait influenced by higher estrogen levels. This sensitivity drives them to seek responses, interpreting neutral expressions as signals that they might be doing something wrong. The belief that, by "doing it just right," they’ll get the reaction they seek often continues into adulthood, leading some women to pursue emotionally unavailable partners with the hope that they can earn their affection. As Louann Brizendine explains in *The Female Brain*, "It’s the same kind of instinct that keeps a grown woman going after a narcissistic or otherwise emotionally unavailable man-'if I just do it right, he’ll love me.'"
This is just SO good! I am really taking in your teachings and know I am in the process of showing up as the woman/partner/future wife I am meant to be. Thank you Jillian! 🙏❤️
Mmmmmn, there is much good in this talk! I will return to listen again. I’ve been listening in for a while yet this is my first time commenting. Thank you for your conversations on what is such a sensitive topic.. ✨💖✨
Hi Jillian, could you also please add the topic of relationship with narcissists people? Either as a partner or family member and what piece of advise you would provide for someone to navigate these type of relationships. Thanks
I was just hoping to get some feedback, but when my ex boyfriend was mad at me about letting a couple in line go ahead of us, he squeezed my hand in anger and told me that we were there first. I had to say "ow" for him to stop and he didn't apologize after. Is this considered a sign of potential for physical abuse?
I'm certainly no expert and I keep an open mind learning more about everything in life in my personal journey. The younger we are - typically the more we have to learn for sure. My two cents worth in your particular circumstance would be that his thoughts and actions were obviously immature to begin with . There's really never any need to begin inflicting pain on another person for any kind of reason across the board. If he has a difference of opinion, it can be conveyed politely to you and definitely without inflicting any physical pain of any kind. It's immature for sure and disrespectful for sure maybe not a high-level abuse at this point or in the beginning but it's not a healthy way to be and can definitely become more abusive as time goes on and definitely can become more physically abusive if you never come to terms with your boyfriend and explain this behavior is not acceptable. If tables were turned he wouldn't appreciate this from someone for example he wouldn't appreciate being smacked across the face and then told we were in line first. LOL all things begin with awareness and then learning more as you go. After awareness of anything in life you begin a healthier practice of things and practice a healthier way. You can begin practicing healthy boundaries and they're not necessarily boundaries to keep people away but rather boundaries for people to understand what you will accept and what you don't accept. As time goes by, if we make efforts to respect and adapt to people's boundaries then it's a good thing. Showing each other love, respect and compassion. On the other hand if we don't make an effort to respect people's boundaries and don't show love or compassion and understanding, then sometimes it's better to put distance between yourself and certain people temporarily and sometimes it becomes a permanent. It's really not a worry to let go of friends, family or whatever relationship if you're making a healthy choice long-term. Because you must always be aware . . . there is no shortage of people in this world. LOL there are others to get to know and have friendships or relationships with ❤️☀️🙏🏼✌🏽
Maybe we need to slow down and be still, could be the addiction to short videos and instant gratification be the root of your anxiety? Maybe, I struggle as well but that's what this generation lost and needs back.
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This perfectly articulated the importance of being self-aware enough to prioritize your needs. The only thing I would add is, "Be the partner you wish to find." I have to remind myself of that all the time!
☀️ Well said, awareness is huge in life. Truly being grounded and cultivating awareness in all areas of our life is a very healthy practice indeed. Awareness in relationships, and so many other areas such as awareness of a person's diet, any other beliefs about anything under the Sun , awareness of things about the planet itself and surrounding universe . And the list goes on as well as the depth of awareness. Becoming aware that you are aware . And like you said, knowing what you want as well as aware of how you're showing up for your spouse. Jillian is such an awesome person!
Your definition of an unhealthy relationships is absolutely correct! There isn't trust, there isn't respect. "Where you don't feel like you can be yourself." (It's my special nightmare) Also when you feel chronically misunderstood and unseen and unheard 🥵This happened to me. I get out of such relationships quickly because it kill me.
I want to live and be happy in a loving, prosperous relationship for both partners. That's why I know very well the answer to the question of what type of relationship I need. 😊Thank you so much ❤️
Jillian, I listened to this clip 4 times now. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are changing lives and I hope that a lot of younger woman and men will here this too.
I'm glad it's resonating with you!
"Little tiny heart attacks every day from anxiety.." Hits so true. I never knew it was even possible to feel this way before my most recent romantic relationship.
I love the calmness in your messages and podcast. Some very solid advice in choosing a partner. Completely agree with finding someone who agrees on a life well lived.
Yes! Thank you!
There is research on this and there are significant gender differences. Men do better in any relationship than no relationship but women suffer in all areas when in a bad relationship. Both do best in a healthy, thriving relationship.
Girls display a heightened sensitivity to emotional cues compared to boys, a trait influenced by higher estrogen levels. This sensitivity drives them to seek responses, interpreting neutral expressions as signals that they might be doing something wrong. The belief that, by "doing it just right," they’ll get the reaction they seek often continues into adulthood, leading some women to pursue emotionally unavailable partners with the hope that they can earn their affection. As Louann Brizendine explains in *The Female Brain*, "It’s the same kind of instinct that keeps a grown woman going after a narcissistic or otherwise emotionally unavailable man-'if I just do it right, he’ll love me.'"
Im a boy and this is my experience tho
This is just SO good! I am really taking in your teachings and know I am in the process of showing up as the woman/partner/future wife I am meant to be. Thank you Jillian! 🙏❤️
Mmmmmn, there is much good in this talk!
I will return to listen again.
I’ve been listening in for a while yet this is my first time commenting.
Thank you for your conversations on what is such a sensitive topic..
✨💖✨
Appreciate your support!
Hi Jillian, could you also please add the topic of relationship with narcissists people? Either as a partner or family member and what piece of advise you would provide for someone to navigate these type of relationships. Thanks
Fascinating
Thank you! This is immensely helpful for me as I’m figuring out how my next relationship will be 😊
I’m glad you found this helpful! I wish you the best of luck with your next relationship.
Very wise…
WOW. I had made a video along similar lines, just a couple of days back
Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom with us.
That's awesome! I love that we're both spreading awareness about healthy relationships.
@jillianonlove thank you so much. I'm feeling so humbled receiving your response
Great video thank you
You're welcome! Glad it resonated with you.
Love this channel
Thanks for watching :)
❤️&☀️
Another excellent video Kit Kat !!
On point, thorough and Crystal Clear delivery !! ❤ 🙂
This video is amazing, thank you so much i will watch with my partner
Please do!
I was just hoping to get some feedback, but when my ex boyfriend was mad at me about letting a couple in line go ahead of us, he squeezed my hand in anger and told me that we were there first. I had to say "ow" for him to stop and he didn't apologize after. Is this considered a sign of potential for physical abuse?
definitely a warning sign. that was a really minor thing and he hurt you over it
I'm certainly no expert and I keep an open mind learning more about everything in life in my personal journey. The younger we are - typically the more we have to learn for sure. My two cents worth in your particular circumstance would be that his thoughts and actions were obviously immature to begin with . There's really never any need to begin inflicting pain on another person for any kind of reason across the board. If he has a difference of opinion, it can be conveyed politely to you and definitely without inflicting any physical pain of any kind. It's immature for sure and disrespectful for sure maybe not a high-level abuse at this point or in the beginning but it's not a healthy way to be and can definitely become more abusive as time goes on and definitely can become more physically abusive if you never come to terms with your boyfriend and explain this behavior is not acceptable. If tables were turned he wouldn't appreciate this from someone for example he wouldn't appreciate being smacked across the face and then told we were in line first. LOL all things begin with awareness and then learning more as you go. After awareness of anything in life you begin a healthier practice of things and practice a healthier way. You can begin practicing healthy boundaries and they're not necessarily boundaries to keep people away but rather boundaries for people to understand what you will accept and what you don't accept. As time goes by, if we make efforts to respect and adapt to people's boundaries then it's a good thing. Showing each other love, respect and compassion. On the other hand if we don't make an effort to respect people's boundaries and don't show love or compassion and understanding, then sometimes it's better to put distance between yourself and certain people temporarily and sometimes it becomes a permanent. It's really not a worry to let go of friends, family or whatever relationship if you're making a healthy choice long-term. Because you must always be aware . . . there is no shortage of people in this world. LOL there are others to get to know and have friendships or relationships with ❤️☀️🙏🏼✌🏽
Deal breaker
I’m kind of worried I’m not capable of one
🥲🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🍀
Put it at 1.25 - 1.5 speed to save ur time
Maybe we need to slow down and be still, could be the addiction to short videos and instant gratification be the root of your anxiety? Maybe, I struggle as well but that's what this generation lost and needs back.
Exactly.
Well said, such as slowing down to learn the way of Taoism 🕉 . Which can be applied to any life . ☮️