How to Politely Decline Your Boss’s Request When It’s Outside Your Job Description
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- Опубликовано: 8 май 2022
- Is there a polite way to decline your boss’s request when it’s outside of your job description? Plus, we weigh in on the importance of healing.
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It's sad we even have to fear losing a job over us saying something isn't part of our job. A person in leadership who can't respect that isn't a leader.
I had a boss in hospitality once get irate with me because I suggest someone else train me instead of the 17 year old slack off she assigned. She was upset that I didn’t agree with her decision . I was respectful and asked if there was someone else that could train me because I didn’t think he was capable of giving me the tools I would need to be successful in the job
No one should be in fear of losing their job with so many jobs open right now. This is your time to shine and get all that you want from your boss and employer!
@@CC-si3cr Bosses have to be on the same page tho, but unfortunately they're worried about money and they think an employee being assertive is insubordination
@@milesjohnson7423 yes totally agree they need a yes man and if u have Ur own mind and say no to something they don't like it and shows Ur defying them and not respecting them 🤷♀️
I love Loni pantsuit nice
Adrienne has grown so much over the years. The way she addresses situations is more mature.
Garcelle is two for two.
Speaking as a HR Director, Garcelle nailed it and the other ladies are 150% wrong. Directness matters and is key. The correct response in the example is "No problem Jeff, I'll let your assistant know you need coffee"
Where most employees err is thinking because they work for someone, you have to do whatever they tell you, if not you aren't a team player. By asserting yourself and being direct, it 1. Teaches them you see yourself in an elevated way from your colleagues and 2. They realize you are 100% focused on work. All of the wordy explanations about why you can't get the coffee makes you sound weak.
And in regard to the saying, Garcelle is correct. It's living your best life. Period.
This is why the show is called The Real ya'll😂
I’ve learned this after a few go around in corporate America lol I used to be like okay okay I’ll be there at all hours of the day and night and volunteer to travel when my coworkers didn’t want to. Now I speak up about everything that doesn’t seem fair or just
Yeah sure. That works for some. not for the rest of us. as an HR person, that's something you'll never see as you are blinded by your position. I would have never made it into management if i did anything you suggested. your job is to protect the company so i wouldnt expect you to share anything that would help employee. when I felt stuck and my career hit a plateau, it took a district vp of the fortune 500 company I work for to pull me to the side and tell me what time it was.
"corners are there for a reason. cut them".
to all the employees out there. do what you gotta do to get out of a task. that includes play dumb or purposely do it wrong. that way they won't come back and ask you. don't be direct. I am speaking as someone who was once asked to make coffee. I did. and every restroom in the building was occupied. no one asked me to make coffee again. 🙃
@@JenJHayden Whoa you didn't just say this?😂
To all those that read her post, *DON'T EVER "PLAY DUMB"* on the job or purposely make mistakes to *"CUT CORNERS!* 😱
When at work you must at all times think as if your name were on the building and on the company checks. Managers are no different than those that work for them, in terms of being human. They notice and talk about employees they like and respect vs those they don't.
So if you show you are a weak, ineffective worker, that is *EXACTLY* how you will be labeled.
If you are an employee that hits the ground running everyday, shows up on time, doesn't slack but can be trusted to do your work correctly, you communicate confidently and professionally ....you will be viewed as a trusted employee and rise in the organization.
Leaving all the slack jaw, cut corners, play dumb colleagues stuck exactly where they belong. Beneath you. 💯💯💯
Thank you we are not about to stand here and discuss why I cant get the coffee.
I agree with your point…direct over being passive about it.
Don't be afraid to tell them "no." Employers need to be reminded of boundaries.
They just discussed adult bullying and i would say this is a great example... They pick the ones they know they can do it to.
Yeah those who look weak or demure. I look demure so I get that kind of stuff a lot . When they see I don’t give in they see me as disobedient
Garcelle's response was low-key genius. I'ma borrow that
There’s a difference between taking initiative and being taken advantage of. Great video
I worked retail and we just signed paperwork that said that we will not go into inventory. The next day a manager asked me to go into inventory and send some stuff up. I told him, "no". He said, "I'm your superior and I'm not asking I'm telling you". I told him, "We just signed an agreement to stay out of there, no you need to get it yourself, I'll stay on the floor while you go get it". He asked, " So you want a write up"? I countered with, "You want a grievance? Please make your decision because I have to clock out in 6 min". He chose to get someone else to do it. 😊
He is probably going to retaliate since he knows you work for him and not the other way around
the trick with job descriptions now is that they're including things like "other various duties as assigned" and other vague crap like that so they can justify asking you to do stuff you never agreed to
Yup
GARCELLE!!!! That was gold. 😂
Adrienne that was goooood too.
So I actually stumbled upon a few articles on this accidentally lol. Your job description can change without notice so it’s really nothing you can do unless it is something outside of your capabilities and training. Adrienne has a good point. If it’s something that interferes with your actual projects that is a problem.
When I used to work in retail as a teen my mom would tell me if they ask you to clean the toilets dona terrible job and they’ll never ask you to do again.
A lot of employers use vague language in their job descriptions just for that reason. You have be very cautious when you’re in this kind of situation.
Sometimes you do not have enough work so they have you doing someone else's work. That's happened to me as well.
I once had a job with three bullet points in the job description. It definitely meant the roles were ever-changing. Now I know better than to apply to jobs with vague descriptions. Although, I’ve definitely had very descriptive job descriptions that totally changed once I showed up on day one. It’s so frustrating
Some employers have contracts to where they can ask you to do things outside of your job description, or they will list a vague duty to communicate the same thing
Ikr
The greatest revenge is indifference
It's a simple NO for me. Ain't no other way and everyone I interact with knows me to be this way.
Adrienne hit the nail on the head for me.....the greatest revenge is indifference
Own your own business and consult your damn self. ✌🏼
That part 👏🏾🙌🏾
I love Adrienne’s and Jeannie’s responses.
I feel this test. I just flat tell them “ it’s not my job description. We can revisit what description of my job.”
I learned to say no in my 20s.
I'm dead when loni dropped the peice of paper 🤣🤣🤣
Love this topic... The white looks good on Jeannie.
Keep moving forward with the grace of God 🙏
Adrienne looks so pretty😍
Some of those responses had many words. Garcelle nailed it.
Loni looks so good
I said no for the first time at my job of 4 years. I didn’t even say no to the person who asked me VIA TEXT, but to someone else I thought I was cool with. I was called into the office and later that caused me to part ways with the company because the way they got upset over me saying no despite constantly showing up and dealing with petty BS from grown women. I asked multiple times to transfer departments and they told me no. It was insane. They weren’t even paying me adequately. This was 2 months ago and I’m glad to have started something new since then.
I'm with Jennie. I haven't beem to the dentist either. Thanks for the reminder.
I actually walked away from the job when I found out I was getting fired for declining to carry boxes for someone that wasn’t even my boss and it wasn’t part of my job
Wait they were gonna fire you cus of that. Bruh wth thats so wrong. Can they even legally do that??
@@xxxmickyxxx3, unfortunately yes, in some states, it is legal. Florida is a right to work state and the employer can fire for something like that. They can say the employee isn't being a teamplayer.
It really depends on the job and what’s being asked. If the job clearly does not come under “other duties as assigned”, then definitely a direct yet diplomatic response is appropriate.
Garcelle said it nicely than I would've if my boss ask me to do something like that.
This discussion made me burst into laughter 😂😂😂 as I remembered a scene in "Legally Blonde" where the head lawyer always asked Vivian to get him a cup of coffee and how irritated Vivian was. That character was so misogynistic that I cheered on at the way the character Brooke fired him in court.
I swear that movie never gets old! 😂
Jeannie... that shirt dress is giving me life... I'd like to shop in your wardrobe for free...
Great convo
I understand this very well because it had happened to me
100% with Garcelle. I don't do what I don't want to do. Which is why I go for the jobs I do want to do.
To be honest, I have to spread awareness on the whole procastination part. I have ADHD so for me, doing tasks is extremely EXTREMELY hard... Like very hard because for people with ADHD because our executive function skills are so SO bad... Unless there's some sort of motivation involved, like if it's a test or if it's a last minute deadline, or money. Which is something I see in Jeannie to be honest and if you feel like it impairs your life, please talk to a therapist to get a diagnosis because I know for me, for the longest time I didn't know why I was struggling, why I couldn't finish tasks in time, couldn't even do the basic thing like clean my room... And it gave me severe depression and anxiety because my support system was small and everyone was judging me. Now as an adult, despite having a diagnosis it's still hard to break the habits of neurotypical people and the neurotypical mindset.
There's no shame with having a diagnosis, doesn't mean you're abnormal or strange. It's better to find out earlier on and find ways to help yourself than just struggling alone with nowhere to go!
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing! I relate to your struggle so much. I am positive I have adhd but have yet to be diagnosed. It is really hard to deal with others putting their two cents in on my productivity when they don’t understand that I’m operating on a completely different/very challenging mindset...
Laaadies, u all r looking beautiful!🥰🥰🥰🥰
You should absolutely be able to directly state that something is not within your job description. So long as you do this in a professional manner, it should be accepted. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people in leadership roles who are just trying to show you that they are more powerful and can control you and they can be very vindictive if you challenge their authority.
Also, they usually aren’t asking you to run personal errands for them, but to take on the responsibility of another role.
If you make it a pattern to perform someone else’s duties, you can bet that the employer will continue to ask you to do that job and push your boundaries.
I've dealt with this so many times. Finally realised corporate/office type jobs just aren't for me lol
Lubna B
I started to work for myself
Well from someone who works in fast food, you're subject to do things you're not hired to do.
Exactly! Garcelle really took it from a privileged work environment working in Customer service they can make up an excuse to fire you and get away with it.
I've had situations where I was hired to do a job but due to it being in the starting phases, I did not have any work and wouldn't for a couple of months so I was told to do someone else's job in the meantime. Adrienne and Jeannie's response would not work here. The first thing you want to do in this situation is bring it up to your manager. Tell them you have no tasks related to your job function and you feel you cannot grow and are loosing skills due to this. Ask to be put on another project where you can actually work in your field. Ask for timelines for when that can be arranged. If nothing changes after a month, look elsewhere. It's an employee's market!
I’m with Loni. I will look at the same thing on the floor day in and day out and be like “ I’ll get it later “ 😂🤣😂🤣
my fave is outside of my scope of practice
I wish someone would ask me to pick up the dry cleaning 😭😂
Clearly you'll haven't had regular jobs. That job description usually say "but not limited to". And they usually won't ask u for coffee but they will ask u to do other things
I feel like if you are in a position of power yourself you may be able to respond with that's not my job...also depends on the job, as a teacher I'm constantly doing stuff that 'isn't my job'. I'm a painter, cleaner, carpenter, IT specialist, stage hand lol all of a sudden you got 10 hats on your head!
I love Jeanie’s advice
Stay Humble
Nice job 👍
What's sad about all of this, is that once more the responsibility is put on the victim rather than on the predator.
No boss should be testing who they can abuse & take advantage of. Not all of us are born fighters & ready to put others in their place. We all start young & want to do anything we can to help because we have the energy & it's wrong for anyone to miss use & abuse others.
People who do that to others should be held accountable & be reported to HR immediately. Because it creates an atmosphere of distrust, stress & we all lose out in the end, even the company because after a while no one is the willing to go the extra mile to help the company or each other.
It makes for a cold & unfriendly working environment. It's disgusting!
I would have never thought asking very nicely to one of my employees to make me coffee could be ever thought as predatory behavior. It is something I would easily do for them on any given day
@@Killerdolce1 Obviously you are not testing to see who you can abuse, are you?
Besides, don't worry about what I say, your employees are better placed to observe the long term effect of what you do
to them. No?
@@Killerdolce1 It's best to stick to asking them for things that are in their job description. I am a manager and I either offer to make everyone coffee or someone else offers to make coffee for the office but it's never a ,, You, go make me coffee" type of thing. Like any other situation or relationship in life, it's best to let the person offer than to ask. You will never know what your employee will actually be thinking in that moment because you are the boss and they wont tell you the truth, but most people will not appreciate it.
My biggest procrastination was I waited/waisted 10 years to go to Nursing school and I was always broke and finally when I went to NS it took me only 2 years. Now I have $$$, haneyyy and good life. :)
😂 😂 😂 I was once the only lady in my office and the office manager used to leave all the men he's managing and walk all the way to my division just to ask me for a cup of coffee or send me a text, "hey, can I please have a cup of your lovely coffee".... So I would smile and say OK🙃. Then go make him a cup with little cold milk, lots of hot water, 3 teaspoons of coffee and 8 teaspoons of sugar🤣🤣🤣🤣 he would take one sip and get up, pour it in the sink and make it himself. He stopped asking me😂😂😂😂😂
Dudes use weaponized incompetence literally all the time. Why not you too? Good play.
@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 😂😂😂
3:14 *the way A said that sounded so fragile, my empathetic side felt the soft emotions lol. anyone else?*
I'm with Jeannie on declining the boss's request. Unfortunately, there are lots of taking advantage and overly using power over their subordinates these days. It is all based on your job level, experience, and how valuable to the company. If you are a valuable employee, the boss will not def do it to you or fire you if you decline or have a witty comeback. However, if you are entry-level and new. It is a def circumstance and also depends on how much you need the job. Hah! If you don't then do Lonnie's way and see if still have a job that day. The way Garcelle responded sounded more of an office setting and a higher-level job so maybe can get away. If answer like Adrienne, the boss can come back and say "Aren't you supposed to multi-task and be good at your job. Just asked you to do one little thing and you can't?" Haha! All based on the situation, your work experience, title and how valuable you are to the company.
Exactly if you say no to the wrong person they will be on your ass looking for loop holes of breaking company policies so they can break you or fire you
😂😂😂😂That's right. And I think the boss is likely to pick his target for this task. I don't think he would ask anyone to make him coffee. He will most likely go for someone he considers weaker(one who finds it harder to say no) or is a 'yes' person.
That’s why most job descriptions always have that last line that says “And any other tasks as needed”. 🤔
Lmaoo Garcelle's face on 6:04 when Adrienne was talking about her teeth or whatever popping off and gluing it back on🥴🥴😊😊 she was confused Garcelle be like whaaaat???🤭🤭😮😄😄
I think when they say healing is the best revenge I think the person meant is when someone hurts us they take control of us, our emotions, our feelings our thoughts. But when we heal we retake control of those feelings and emotions which is the best revenge bc those people who hurt you most likely want you to stay down and not find healing and yourself and by doing so and healing your being and soul you take every ounce of control they once had on you. By healing you are showing you are stronger than anything they could dish at you. Healing doesn't mean taking to SM platforms but it means finding a sense of self, emotions, and mental strength :)
Passive aggressive way- Act like your going to do it then forget or drop it.
I’m going to miss The Real. Thank you! 🙏🏽
It depends on if the boss has done anything outside of his/her job description that was to my benefit. If not, then I am not going to be manipulated into doing extra. If yes, then I will stop doing it if he/she doesn't appreciate it. Living abroad for so long, I have been in enough cases where bosses were trying to ''not exactly follow the work contract," or they asked for something extra and/or didn't appreciate when you offered helped.
Saying “That’s not in my job description” sounds combative and just leaves a bad impression. But, I have absolutely said, sure let me have so and so grab that for you. Or say sure and tell the assistant that their waiting for whatever it is. However, this rarely happens to me.
Personally I used to be that person who would quietly just do it. That resulted in me being overworked, disrespected, stressed, and resentful. A few years ago, I said no more and became very direct. Not disrespectful at all. But I wanted to make sure I was clear and I set the tone the FIRST time. I remember I started a job as a grant coordinator and one of the older secretaries (who was like the “unofficial boss” because of who she worked for) comes in my office the second week and tells me to make sure I get my supervisor’s (grant manager) signature on his time sheet which was her job. She actually directed me to do it, didn’t even ask at that. I am not his assistant and that was not my task. She walked out and went in her office. I didn’t feel it was beneath me or anything but that was not my job and I knew immediately that I couldn’t do that even just once because then that would be sending a message. So I went in her office 10 min later and let her know that unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to assist her with this because I was not his Secretary and she would have to arrange something directly with him if she was having difficulty getting his signature. I told her to feel free to ask my assistance on any grant related matters and I would be more than happy to assist.
I will never forget how she leaned back in her chair, looked at me and said “wow…ok I understand. I wish could set my boundaries like that”
Since I begin setting boundaries, I have been threatened with getting fired, I have had to work in hostile environments, and I even felt the need to resign because I refused to be taken advantage of. Point is, it wasn’t always a happy ending but wouldn’t change setting boundaries despite all that. Most employers get annoyed but I have seen the flicker of respect.
I left and started my own company abd make sure I don’t do that to my employees
I just love Loni's laugh 😆🤣
Lmaoo loni's facil expressions when she was like what was the question again 😊😊🥴🥴she always be making the funniest facial expressions😁😁😄😄
Wow unbelievable hahaha 😂 ty my love
I love that color on GARCELLE 💜💜
Being told to do something outside your job scope that you’re not being paid for is impolite. Let’s normalize saying “no”. Otherwise being polite would’ve been not to ask you to do something outside of your job description in the first place. Treat others how you want to be treated.
Nice
I feel like it depends on the environment and the position. I remember I was a trainee lawyer 10 years ago at a US law firm in Paris. One of the Of Cousel (a lady I knew and appreciated before joining that firm) asked one of her trainee to go to the supermarket to buy her some candies and he politely refused. He ended up losing his trainee position few days later... Few years later I am now Of Counsel at a family-sized law firm and I have a young associate who I adore and we are really close. Sometimes she picks up a cup of tea for me or else (even when I don't ask) and there is no particular issue with that. I did not even use it as a test... it is just sometimes you are caught up with work and you may use a little help. However, I would never ask her to do anything she is not comfortable with and if at times she is too busy, too tired or simply could not stop by the coffee shop, I won't be mad at her for that.... long story short, I believe the best is to be direct if you are not comfortable with the request (and even though it may lead you to lose your position - but let's just remember that some of us may not always afford to take the risk. It is a very tricky situation).
Be careful, many job descriptions have this caveat: any other thing designated.
I love Jeannie's outfit!!!!
IM THE. BOSS YOUR JOB IS WHAT I SAY IT IS!
Love Jeanie hair and outfit
Isn't other duties as assigned apart of out of everyday task that's within unwritten agreement of a job function. If anything as G says Human Resources will clarify and employees questions. I think if you're content at a job and can give more than usual than that's what matters
LOL I’m with Garcelle. I’m an Aries though so I ain’t finna be coddling feelings. Fire signs just think straight up. #generalspeaking
Yes we do! ♈️ all day
Amen 🙏🙌
Who is in charge of the teleprompter they literally start every new topic with “I recently came across an article” I be listening to this like girl no u did not! 🤣🤣🤣
I will show them my job description.
Loni! Me, too! LMBO!!!! Oh my stars and stripes! Okay... if I'm trying to make a shot and I miss the waste basket, then I gotta redeem myself. But sometimes... 😏 it might be there for a minute. 😌👀🤭
Well nowadays they add a clause in Ur job responsibilities at the end which says basically u will do whatever addition tasks Ur manager will ask u to do. Coz alot of ppl use the job description as an excuse so now they have that clause. Everyone go read Ur contracts
I just get quiet and work on my tasks in my job description. I am too busy. Let me tell you, if your tasks within your job description are not done, that will cause you stress when they ask you why they were not completed. Be smart, be respectful.
If it has absolutely nothing to do with the job…all… if you ask me to do something that is not within my expertise find someone else who can provide those expertise I shouldn’t have to doing something that’s not required of me jsut because you’re my boss and ask me to do so & I also shouldn’t be afraid to lose my job if I say No
Exactly why I want to really be a boss not just act like one. I often say I am not here to overwork or stress at work. So the minute I start doing that I’m
Wfh or pto.
Unpopular opinion.
If you're asked to do it,do it and do it well. It will eventually work in your favour. I'm a HR manager and my CEO was in the middle of a virtual meeting and asked me randomly I'm starving and I have some medication to take and I asked him if I could order him something and he said yes. On my way back I grabbed him some water. And went back to what I was doing. Trust me he knows it's not my job. I have a master's degree. He is very aware it's not my job. But that what being a part of the team is. Sometimes you do the unflattering jobs to move things along. Ofcourse if it becomes repetitive you may set boundaries. But please be open to doing what you can to move things around.
You asked, that's different ❤
The Torey tweet...
Depending on what the boss ask, and i would say that is not in my job description.
Thank goodness my boss likes to get out of the shop and get her own coffee. Plus, I don't have a car.
Hahahahha I'm sorry I'm sorry... but I'm just 0.26 secs in and Im like... "Uhm...what if YOU'RE THE ASSISTANT??" Thank God I'm already out of situations like that but I still felt like it was not my job to bring my boss coffee as her Exec. Assistant. One thing is to be at the coffee shop yourself and offer to get your boss coffee sometimes as a nice gesture but... NO
I think that’s would be something that would be spoken about prior to accepting and prior to offering the job. Who gets her lunch and coffee etc runs errands ?
The example of getting coffee is kind of old. Almost no manager will ask that in 2022. But they may ask you to organize the department’s holiday party or be the scribe in a meeting. Please never actual say “it’s not in my job description”, that doesn’t land well. You could say I don’t have capacity or something similar.
Jeannie looking real GOOD in that white!!
No.
Wow unbelievable fantastic day amen
Unless I am your PERSONAL assistant, I am not getting your personal meals and beverages. Most of the time in professional work setting when we talk about assistants, we are talking about Administrative or Executive Assistants. This is NOT the same as personal assistant, so if I am someone’s AA or EA, I am not fetching your personal meals. My job is handling meals as far as catering for meeting or events, not running to Starbucks or the local cafe for your lunch. So, don’t defer to their assistant unless it is their PERSONAL assistant.
Just say NOOOOOO!!!!!
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YEA DONT SAY WHAT GARCELLE SAID lol the first one about im sorry but thats not apart of my job description .. YOU WILL I REPEAT YOU WILL GET FIRED.LMAOOO
Exactly! Especially if you not full time
Yeah exactly what I'm saying like no its not that simple for some people 😊🤭🤭lol
I’m so shy that would still do it 😩
I can’t shake the feeling that Jeanie has gotten smug since Jeezie. I am for her happiness. Just feel like she acts differently, not in a warm way.
Avoiding tasks that only take 10 minutes to do..Yeah im that person too!!! I think i just perform better some sort of deadline.
Just say no upfront-they are being disrespectful.
Didn't he shoot someone in the foot?? I'm sorry but i don't take advice from crazy people.