Afraid of change?
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- Опубликовано: 5 июл 2024
- My favorite songs about change are Bob Dylan's "The Times They are a Changin'" and Sheryl Crow's "A Change Would Do you Good."
Honorary mention goes to Aretha Franklin's "Chains" because I thought she was singing "change, change, chaaaaange" when i was a kid... 😬
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I just turned 30 yesterday and I take the biggest exam of my life tomorrow to be a licensed doctor. Two weeks after that I’m moving to a new city. Excited to embrace change and start a new era ✨✨✨
Good luck!
How did it go ?
@@chhug8193 I literally just skipped out of the testing center and I’m positive I aced it. 👌🏾
@@SimieIriarte Congrats!
Congratulations to you Doc 👏 wish you the best life applaud you for your hard work.
I’m more scared of making the wrong decision and later regretting it!
Supposedly it's worse to regret never making the decision in the first place, according to a lot of older people I've spoken with
Just do it. If you regret it, change your mind, change the decision. It‘s your life. You might be surprised where it tKes you. But it goes on. (I‘m 56).
@@Woeschhuesli what if it’s a life changing decision (like picking between two houses or moving to a whole new country?)
elizabeth davis There are no 'right' or 'wrong' decisions. You just choose what is best given the information at the time. If your future self discovers new info that changes your mind that okay and doesn't mean you have failed or made a bad decision, it just been a learning process. For example I chose the wrong degree, a pretty big fuck up, but I don't regret it... I found out the type of job I really don't want instead and that has helped me discover what I actually really love to do, plus I learnt a bunch of invaluable skills.
@@OnixMint You can still change your mind. If you move country but have second thoughts, you've still had a awesome experience in a new country and will appreciate new things about your home county and feel content, better than wondering 'what if i'd moved abroad'...
"The choice may have been mistaken, the choosing was not......you have to move on." -Stephen Sondheim
I really needed this. I’m talking about ending things with my long term boyfriend because I’ve realized I am most likely just a lesbian. And I’m going to boot camp soon. My whole life is about to turn upside down. I feel much better now. “You can get through slight discomforts”. I know I can get through this. ❤️
If you haven't already heard of her,, the RUclipsr Alayna Joy might be your cup of tea, friend. She has a fascinating story about coming out as gay (after believing herself to be bisexual for years!) and breaking up with her male fiancé in April of last year.
I was recently the long-term boyfriend in the same situation. It'll be ok. It'll suck, but it'll be ok. They'll understand (with time, and communication), that staying together when you know something ain't right is a bad deal. It will be painful though. The best thing you can give him is communication, holding nothing back, answering all the questions (if you can do that).
Wishing you all the best as you start this new chapter!
Thank you for posting... I have a similar situation and your comment is really helpful!! 🤗
Update: we “ended things” (which sounds so weird, because it wasn’t nasty or and angry break up at all). He wasn’t even upset. In the past few days we’ve actually been even closer as “just friends” (queerplatonic?) and he’s definitely the person most in my corner. Also I love Alayna Joy! I sent her “coming out again” video to him after the fact and said this was exactly how I’ve been feeling, and he said that makes total sense.
I’m still really nervous for BMT😅 but it’ll be ok. I feel less sad and more free every day. Thanks y’all!❤️
Well, the RUclips algorithm got it just right. This was the first video I saw after literally quitting my job today. Life is change. Change is uncomfortable. Therefore Life is uncomfortable. When you really accept this it becomes so much easier to live fully.
Also something I realized about minimalism: it’s not the stuff that’s the problem, it’s the attachment. I think you can feel like a minimalist in a house full of stuff if you are not attached to it…
From a 53 year old whos lived a tough life id say embrace the quiet unchanging life while you have them change will happen more than you wish in your life time.dont force change when you dont need to unless your looking for it. 😉
I am with you on this, (I am 52). Change happens organically, whether I want it or not. The real challenge (for me) is not to resist it, but to let it happen. To welcome the new state of being, to relax into it, and to grow because of it.
Lefie, I hope you’re doing well! I miss your videos!
Came to see if I missed a new video, but no...
Hope you are doing well Lefie, and that you are enjoying whatever adventure you are on!
I love this for people who achieve steady comfort. I get a lot of anti-fragility from being chronically ill and being married to a fellow disabled person. Sometimes you have to fake it!
So true! Chronically ill here too.
I have a few kinds of chronic pain and fatigue and and am married to a disabled vet. I get it 100%.
The echo reminds me of the time I hid in the school hall with my friends when we were skipping class. It's weirdly appropriate, reminding me how much my life has changed from back then.
Don't let indecision become your decision. Be brave enough to take the risks instead of letting it happen to you.
I just wanted to say I really miss your videos. You are such a good creator. And this video was published on my birthday, so it was a good birthday gift when it was published! :)
Happy belated! 😁
The echo makes you sound like a voice of wisdom speaking from the void. Fitting for the topic.
I’ve been in a rut for the last couple of weeks, and you reminded me that I can actually take action and have some amount of control over how my life is going. Thanks for that.
This is a great reminder that change is constant. Wisdom.
in our world, only impermanence is constant and only uncertainty itself is certain
This could not have come to my notifications at a better time
I love the subtle “woo!” near the beginning haha
For some reason, I have a feeling that co-working in a coffee shop with you would be interesting and productive. If you ever end up in Chicago and need a working buddy - I'm in.
I saw the title and clicked the video right away!!
I mentally need a new video from you. in the past 4 weeks I just keep watching your older videos...
WHERE ARE YOU? :)
The only constant is change!
My entire life has been change, followed by change, followed by change. I really enjoy a bit of stagnation from time to time just to catch my breath!
I have moved 40 times. I have changed careers 8 times. I have just signed up to go back to university (I'm almost 50)!
The only constant is change. Even day to day, minute to minute, we’re changing, growing, learning - all changes. And I agree that failure isn’t bad, it shows you’re trying and that’s just as important as the lessons failure brings. Love your channel! Excited to see where you’re headed next 🤗
I like the fresh layered cut, Lefie. I can’t believe you’re moving again. I am going to lose track of the amount of moves you’ve made. Is this move 6? Including the van? Since you started the channel? Also, how do you not have over 100k subscribers? You’re like YT’s best kept secret. 😊
I didn't think of it as a change muscle before. That's kinda funny because this is very similar to the system I use for my anxiety/phobias and it didn't occur to me to do something similar for change. Pretty cool.
I love this video Lefie, exactly what I needed to hear to start off my week - change is the only constant thing in life. I’m so excited to see what you have to share, I’m sure is stylish, and well thought out 😊
The worst type of change is the one that is imposed on you, I'm talking about when someone break up with you, you are never prepared for that.
Going through this right now and I’m STRUGGLING. It’s way more painful than I could’ve imagined and I wasn’t prepared for it.
This is a great video, Lefie!
It makes me realise the reason I fondly remember my struggles - they were periods of growth and discovery in life.
OMG you are such a VIBE. The calmest vibe
Love the haircut!
I had to wait until this morning to watch because I was in bed when I got notification, husband was sleeping, headphones downstairs charging, and no captions waaaaaah
It was the first thing I thought about when I woke up.
Can’t wait to see where you’ll be next!
♥️
Weird now there are captions 🤷🏻♀️
So good to see you again Lefie! I joined your account around 20,000 subscribers and I knew you would take-off. Wishing you much success for the future.
You are one of the most fully realized human beings I have ever listened to you... My mind just doesn't think nearly as calmly as yours but I eventually arrive 😊.... Thank you for inspiring with such straightforwardness and clarity!!
Love your videos! As Lonie Walker always sang, "Change is good". Btw your index card vision board hack has been so helpful! I'm now in the habit of actually looking at my goals daily and updating them as needed. It primes my day and gets me in the right mindset to do all of the things I need and want to do and overall just keeps me feeling more positive. It was such a simple small thing to do, but the effects have been major. I'm so happy I found your channel! Thanks again!
"Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes" by David Bowie (1971). I'll miss that apartment. I've often thought I'd like to live somewhere like that. Three cats might prefer something bigger, but for me, it would be perfect. I look forward to seeing the next one, though. Oh, and the hair looks great, and also the piercing. Phones are just phones, but white shoes? So impractical, LMAO! :-) Lots of wisdom in a very short video, Lefie!
I’m excited to see your new digs! You made me think about change and to embrace it more…..because it is inevitable. Love your new haircut.
Another great video Lefie, this is a great takeaway about change and overcoming anxiety
Totally thought you were gonna go with "i myself am strange and unusual" abd i got so excited... but then you didnt 😂
Love the message in this one, good luck with the move!
Ohh such a relatable video! Embracing change can be so challenging at times! But it does keep you flexible! 💪
Found you tonight. 3 things: I appreciate your being so vulnerable; change is the only constant - one needs to embrace it or suffer unnecessarily and third why one video a month or did I miss something? Solitude as you have learned takes strength and self confidence when done purposely. Kudos to you!
when you lifted your hands up and I saw the black nail polish I was like yesss we're twins hahaha I love your videos lefie, you're so inspiring!
You're wonderful! I was having some anxiety because I wasn't sure if I should move or not. The reason for me contemplating my move is because I felt that I needed some change (Upstate NY is so comfortable that I don't feel like I would ever leave), but all of the states that I have looked into weren't aligning in what I wanted. Thankfully, now after watching this I can just do small changes like you mentioned ( going without caffeine, cold showers).
Your hair looks so good!🌻
Man, I found you again! Love your videos!All of my subscriptions on my account got deleted and I had forgotten your name... You are hard to find but, glad to have found you again and thanks for this useful video :-)
Randy Crawford 'Everything must change'...love it.
L, this was perfect timing as I'm having a MASSIVE change in my life ATM on multiple fronts and have been dealing with Panic Attacks over them (I never got them before, cus I've never had this much change/uncertainty!). I'm so going to be attempting now this "experimental" changes moving forward as I NEVER want to experience this stress/panic ever again! Thank you so much! ^_^ (PS. I dig the matching black nails to go with your usual outfit. ;P)
Best of luck, gojiack! And thanks!
Love the message! Thank you!
So inspiring
A new adventure, yay. I’m buckled in for the ride, let’s go!
Can I just say I love your dead pan face? It's perfectly hilarious
Idk why but i have been doing this subconsciously in small ways recently. Like going to the store and taking a different route than I usually do if i can, taking a bus instead of ordering a lyft because those are also free now, or walking somewhere I normally don’t. It’s like I am in fact prepping myself for something bigger. I think my brain likes it for whatever reason?
Being autistic myself (and one of my symptoms is hating when anything in my schedule changes, making me anxious), this video is very much needed.
Thank you, it makes my process of trying new things out easier and motivating.
👍 haircut.
No worries, you'll settle down eventually, which may be the biggest change of all 🤗
Timely, thanks Lefie. Wishing you all the best on your move.
Too good 👍 random small changes prepare you for everything in life!
Your comment about changing it up reminds me of what Tim Ferris says about stress. Eustress is good stress (The prefix “eu” like in Euphoria means good) Whereas distress is harmful stress which most little challenges like you’ve done (cold showers) aren’t distressful! Basically avoid distress, and welcome eustress.
Missing your videos on RUclips, so I'm rewatching! Hope you're doing well and that you will come back soon!
Thank you for this reminder, my wonderful Queen Lefie! 👸🏼
You’re awesome keep going with this great content, thanks !
I love change. It's what makes life exciting.
I struggle to relate to this. I am an unstable person (health-related), so managing the day to day life is enough trouble. I love the idea, but I can't imagine sitting down and thinking about how to destabelize my life. I often do the opposite, because my body and life in general throw curveballs on their own.I have to do a lot of things to keep my health in balance. Nonetheless, thanks for broadening my horizon! I will think on this.
Love the message. Love the new haircut (and, no, your last haircut wasn't bad :-) )
Looking good, Lefie! I like your new style ;)
Hmmm...the universe brought this video on my feed. Good timing. Thanks for this.
Congratz on getting the iphone 12 mini😊 that phone is fantastic
Also great subject. Def gave me something to think about
you are a stoic minimalist
The echo was great, it highlighted the point you were trying to make😊
Thank you 😊for sharing. Saved it for future reference.
Yesss love it !
Hey Lefie! It’s Sunday & I’m missing you. You have posted such awesome content over the past two years on so many topics: minimalism, productivity, motivation, van conversion, nutrition, etc. What has been your passion lately? How are you doing after the (?)move?
Hi, Sheena! Thanks for checking in. Needed a break while getting settled, but I'm back 😁 and the topics/passions are slowly evolving...
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO my freaking hero!!!! just by the thumbnail I felt the RESPECT. no words. holy freaking shet
I like this. Thank you.
Yess the new cut is super freshhh👏
I’m someone who actually really likes change and I would definitely attribute it to this “muscle building.” I’m known to change my routines a lot and constantly come up with new personal challenges (keeping my shoulders back for my entire drive to and from work is my current one). But, for me, this is likely a trauma response in that I get uncomfortable when too comfortable and self sabotage by constantly pushing myself in what should be times of rest. I wonder where the balance lies?
"For example: taking gold showers"
Took me a second to realize you said cold :D
Perfect timing
Perfect timing . How do you do that? You're glowing, did you know?
How do you find the energy to make inconsequential changes in your life? I'm currently at a point where I'm pretty overwhelmed with my job, and the very last thing I want to do is make my comfort zone less comfortable, if that makes any sense 😅
Now isn't right for you. Wait for a time when things feel "calmer" before trying to push that out of that comfort zone. Feeling overwhelmed at a place you spend 1/3 of your waking hours is what you need to address right now. Maybe you'll even decide you need to change THAT situation... prayers and luck to you ❤️
Hi Lefie, I train my “Resilienz-Muscle” to get stronger. Thank you for your videos😎
Thanks. I was wondering if you were going to donate your hair soon but maybe not now that you have it styled. I've been showering with lukewarm water lately and now prefer it over hot ones, but I can't say if I can do that once winter gets here.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). WEE MAY SPEND EVERY MOMENT TRYING TO CHANGE SOMEONE BECAUSE WEE KNOE THAT IF WEE ACCEPT THE REALITY WEE WUD HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS THA WEE DONT WANT TO MAKE TAKE ACTIONS THA WEE DON'T WANT TO TAKE AND ESSENTIALLY MAKE CHANGES THA WEE DONT WANT TO MAKE
Miss you Lefie!
Wow! You actually tried sleeping on the floor! I remember commenting on a video suggesting that you give a try and you did it! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this particular subject.
I really liked this video and your constant work for self improvement.
I hope you're well! Greetings from Mexico City!
I like your mindset!
Awesome video. i love your new hairstyle
Loving the echo actually
Okay this is a great topic and love your approach etc etc but YOUR HAIR! It totally suits you! And the piercing!
Cheers to wherever you're headed next :)
Synchronicity… Inertia and Entropy are my journaling prompts for this week. Inertia and Entropy are my prompts because I’ve come to the realization that living a semi-charmed life means that you never have to learn how to cope when things go sideways. Having to learn while things go sideways is soul sucking awful.
Your new haircut looks fabulous on you.
We need another vid,Lefie jonzin over here!!
Love the hair
Oooo leaving us with some intriguing thoughts and questions... where, why, how long, by choice? Time for complete upheaval with new hair (looks fab BTW), sleeping on the floor, new shoes and a new place. Oh the things you must have coming. Must be good based on the sly grin though. Can't wait to hear about it! Ooo Ooo...new "friend"?? :D
I love your new haircut!
Love the haircut!! What style did you ask for when you got it done? I'm looking to do something similar. It suits you!
Thank you! I asked for shag layers with long bangs and brought in a photo for reference.
I’m thrilled 👍❤️
Your call for intentional change as a training sounds a bit like Matt D'Avella's approach to his 30 day challenges last year, no wonder I get some of his videos in the recommendations of this one. ;) Although the purposes between your advice and his motivation differ.
Anyway, being a "pessimistic overthinker" myself, I think I could gain a lot from following your advice. But considering responsibilities I have (real or implied) the aspect of inconsequential change seems difficult and does not leave many bumps on the borders of my comfort zone. Might take some time to figure out how to start about this... or I am overthinking my own overthinking already and should just pick something and roll with it.
However it may really be, thanks for your advice!
1:36 haha, I love it
OMG. This computer of mine had to have been listening to me cause i just said that same thing a couple of hours ago ...."we only like the change we want"..woah .
Change is terrifying. But I’m giving it a go 👍
Geesh... The change for me WOULD be resting and relaxing! I've gone years dealing with crisis after crisis! ( Catastrophic accident, several close friends dying, close loving family members dying and taking care of everything for them (my honour to do so), constant harassments/slander from a few narcacists(incl Landlords son), and can we all say pandemic....dam.
I'm needing some good for a change. Yes please
The echo adds an artistic value.