Ladies, remember that we should neither apologize for nor diminish our beauty in order to make ourselves more palatable to others. 🔊 THAT’S NOT OUR JOB!!!!
This really resonates with me. I have experienced this so many times and never understood why. For example, I was invited to attend an event at a co-worker's church. She was the only person at this church that I knew. When I walked in guest were directed to sit in the foyer. The first table had several women and there wasn't an empty chair. I smiled, said hello and walked to the table directly behind the first. I asked if the empty seat was taken and sat down. I did not know anyone there. Well, as it turns out the guest speaker was sitting at the first table with her friends. She gets up to speak and starts talking about how it's our duty to make travelers feel welcome. She kept looking at me. At first I thought it was my imagination. Why would she direct that part of her lecture to me? I wasn't a part of the committee, and I didn't know that she was the guest speaker until she walked to the podium. I later learned that she was offended that when I walked in, I didn't make a greater effort to welcome her! Why should I be responsible for more than a polite hello? Out of all of the people attending she singled me out. She was told that I was not a member, but she was still not happy. I have experienced similar situations and never understood why until now. Thank you❤ If "Be the Beyonce of your own life" isn't already on a t-shirt, it should be🙂
I experience this a lot. They will have several mfs ignore them and not have a problem with it yet once I do the same all hell breaks loose. It’s because they feel inferior to you and you not acknowledging them is confirming their own insecurities
@infinitewisdom1875 You just helped me realize why I never felt comfortable looking at mirrors in public! People don’t mind their business! Since I was younger, girls and woman have rushed me out of bathroom stalls and mirrors! I could literally be in the public bathroom for 8 seconds and get yelled at or pushed out of the way.
This video hits home. When I get dressed, put on make up, do my hair, get my nails and pedicure, everything I do I'm conceited, stuck up, or the famous she thinks she's pretty or better. Like just stop it, let me live. The mental gymnastics are exhausting. Go do something with yourself please.
Yes!!! Even when it comes to dating and friendships id much rather be around people who over exude confidence than those who lack it and play victim. It is tiring and eventually you grow to resent them constantly bringing you down.
I had niggas actually tap me trying to get attention for not speaking to them, a lot of people just want to feel important, you're not going to use me to feel important.
As a man, I have been called stuck up too when I was bit younger- Some females would say" Oh you're not even that hot, you're not all that" because I didn't cater to them or thirsty for them like most men lol
I had something similar happen when I had gone to pick up my son from the school bus. We had a new bus driver who had started in the middle of the year and he was an older, UDSBM. He had brought my son home several times already and I never gave it a second thought. One afternoon, he suddenly made a big deal out of saying that I didn’t say “Hi” to him. I was so taken aback. I was like “What?” And he kept going on about it, and the expression on his face was almost like he was going to cry or just actually was really upset over it! I was flabbergasted. Like, “Dude, I owe you absolutely nothing!” I didn’t say that, but I should have! I have never gone out of my way to greet or say anything to most bus drivers my son has had over the years, and he had rode the bus for a while now. Sometimes I would say hi and sometimes I would just be zoned out thinking about something else. No other bus driver has ever had a problem with me. But suddenly, this fool made such a big deal about it that I felt uncomfortable. So much so that I ended up calling and making a complaint about him. I also stopped saying anything at all to him. Then I eventually had a talk with my husband and had him start picking our son up from school. Eventually, we got a new bus driver and he went back to riding the bus that year. I didn’t think at the time that it was because he was seeking validation from me because of how I look, but as soon as I listened to this video, I know that that’s exactly what he was doing! It brings back memories of similar things that have happened in the past, but that’s all I’ll mention for now.
I’ve had a family member tell me that I think I’m so perfect despite me constantly being open about my faults. I realized immediately that they think I’m perfect and really wanted to be authentic just like me but felt they couldn’t.
I've had several older, UABM say this to me at networking events way more times than I'm comfy admitting. I remember once, i attended an event and was pretty reserved. Mainly, b/c there were speakers. Once the event turned into a networking event, somehow we end up talking about impressions. And when it was my turn...some people said I was "shy, reserved". And out of nowhere...this UABM raised his voice and said "stuck up" and scoffed. I literally wasn't even in a position to speak to him. I just sat down. Just say a girl like me broke your heart in HS and you're still mad😂. And the same thing happened with a CFO at a large corporation networking, but this time I was the life of the party. It was so weird. You'll never win.
@@sunshinegirl1655 right. At my big age, my dad told me to watch my tone b/c it's about "their perception" ...I'm like...I've been here long enough to know people will think whatever they want, so I'm going to do what's appropriate and true to me. TF?
Yeah I have one for you. I compete (& still win) in local festival beauty pageants. I’m actually a pageant emcee so I do often end up working for the event the next year after I win or compete. People say that’s conceited because I have that as a hobby and I also used to be a cheerleader. Several of my fitness friends run into the same thing and it’s literally you’re conceited because you compete. Don’t we all compete for jobs and scholarships and partners too though? So what’s the difference? Make it make sense
INFJ here… I can relate with dealing with the nonsense and pure projections from others. I also don’t care if I’m considered conceited or not at this point. I’ve owned the title personally for myself. I inform acquaintances please refer to me by my formal title when addressing me in a rude demeanor: QUEEN CONCEIT
Reason I’m staying to myself and my African spirits and beautiful black ancestors. Most living people want mediocre and want us to accept that too. They want dull our light.
Cannot tell you the amount of women and men throughout the years of my life who had beef I had no clue about and would say "she's a bitch she doesn't talk to me" or something of the sort. Like..why was that expected of me?? Why am I the one that has to make you feel comfortable?? I didn't expect you to do that for me...nor do I care..but I get labeled for it and they dont..hmmm
When I'm at a restaurant and the waiter or waitress serving me is unexpectedly rude, I would do a couple of things. If possible, I request another waiter. If I'm dining alone, I leave; if I'm with a friend, I ask them to place the order instead. Why? Because I worry they might tamper with my food. I once watched a documentary of people caught on camera where a waitress was caught spitting in a customer's meal because he was arguing with her, and subsequently fired many months later after it came to light. Since then, whenever I encounter rude service, I prefer to switch waiters just in case unless I can see them where I let them know that I can see them.
@12:40 OMG yes, I've been around people like that-strangers, colleagues, etc.-and they all try to trigger me, but I ignore them. I pay them no mind, pretend they don't exist; I don't even turn around to acknowledge their words. And boy, are they mad, lol. Also, when I don't say "hi" to somebody, then I am considered conceited. I could literally be walking by and not say hi, which then provokes a visceral response from them, and I am accused of being full of myself or up myself.
I can no longer stand it when I'm told "you're so humble". No I'm not, I'm just really nice to ppl (also, you're an ENTJ lol I'm a ENFJ. HA! Were cousins😂🤣). I feel like its almost demeaning for ppl to tell you you're supposed to be humble and I feel like that happens our phenotype the most.
I used to start conversations by talking about my relationship problems or my insecurities in hopes of being liked by other women … guess what it only helped in the beginning. They’ll expect u to keep that energy throughout the entire friendship. If u dare show confidence … game over
I’ve definitely noticed, it’s ridiculous I’m not your cheerleader or therapist…. They want us to talk and interact with them so they feel better and accepted.
A friend of mine has a creeper who has been working really hard to find out what kinda house she lives in! So creepy! Can anyone else relate to someone trying to find out what type of “prizes” you have acquired as a result of being beautiful? House, car, etc.! It’s like having a paparazzi, right?!
So glad you brought up Briana Monique... I still follow her... that video got her cnacelled and so many ppl made videos about her. I know that traumatized her. I want her to know we're here for her!
Saaaame....and i can tell she has become so reserved, even when talking she's so particular in her words and always overexplaining her opinions so as to not offend people. I hate that for her.
I like your points. My friend in middle school was conceited and maybe still is. We briefly reconnected after college. Her mother raised her to have good self esteem. But it was to the point that she was always talking anout how cute and special and pretty she was. Her older sister called me ugly once. My friend had no defense for me, lol. But I could Tell her sister was showing jealousy towards me and I did not understand why. And I love a good self esteem. Someone to know they are good looking, dress well and have nice things. But talking about your good looks and such to your friends often is definitely conceited. But the points you made about strangers towards you and other channels are valid for sure
Amen. This video, like the rest are always on point. I love your giving myself & the exoticals useful info on some many levels & topics. ❤❤❤ I love it here.🥰
It is really their own mental illness they are battling !!! There is no way to avoid it because it is all in their head. You are a random person, and you don't owe them a thing. Just excuse yourself whenever they are triggered and let them go back to their own deep-seeded insecurities. Funny one person online said to me "She thinks she the main character" when i didn't personally respond to their comment. Exactly! That is what I am. Get out of here LOL
idk if anyone has experienced this but i wanted to share. my mother is a narcissist and i have a cousin who's close to that, a typical mean girl; both are pretty and they dont get ANY jealousy or pushback from people in fact people mostly worship them, especially my mom. whereas im pretty too but women just hate me and generally give me a hard time my whole life. why is that? do people only like pretty but evil women but dislike the nice sincere ones? i know i sound nuts but this has been my experience.....i think people just generally like narcissists in general
I could relate to this as a black man, when I was working in my office, most of the black guys would talk about me to other co-workers because I didn't acknowledge them- I don't know why some people think they're entitled to your attention--just because a man is black, that doesn't mean we automatically have something in common--most of the time, I don't want to be bothered with people...I don't like small talk or conversing unless its something extremely important...I could care less to speak to a person and a person shouldn't care if I speak to them---I think some people think that's a sign of rejection if you don't speak to them.
I’ve always found it weird how people usually dark skin people will always say light skin people are stuck up or conceited. When in my experience light skin people are the most friendly, approachable and compassionate towards me. Most of the time when I’m out in the streets it’s usually light skin people that smile at me, say hello to me etc. for some reason dark skin people always treat me with coldness, and hate. Shout out to all my light skin women and brothers.
I am not "the pretty girl" in my opinion but I can look pretty. I am around many pretty girls I THINK 🤔 cocky is also aka selective. In my opinion you have to be cocky cautious ⚠️ talking to everyone as a women in general is dangerous When you are pretty the danger is you are used to being around fake people who are nice for agecency but can be low key high hey your biggest hater Soo soo many pretty girls exoticals get abused from my view point. It doesn't start like that, it can become that. Think you should think you are amazing people love to beat people down If someone says I think I am all that I say thank you I should lol It is self esteem I should esteem my damn self who am I waiting for you.. Sppzzt Ooh please, not today I also hate when people try to make me hate me foe what I was blessed with nope nope sorry
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Ladies, remember that we should neither apologize for nor diminish our beauty in order to make ourselves more palatable to others.
🔊 THAT’S NOT OUR JOB!!!!
I will never put myself down to lift someone else up. Ever they’ve tried it a plenty though!
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Thank you 💚💙💜 this video and this comment makes me feel better
It’s so sad and annoying when people yell at you for no reason. It’s definitely envy 😤
This really resonates with me. I have experienced this so many times and never understood why. For example, I was invited to attend an event at a co-worker's church. She was the only person at this church that I knew. When I walked in guest were directed to sit in the foyer. The first table had several women and there wasn't an empty chair. I smiled, said hello and walked to the table directly behind the first. I asked if the empty seat was taken and sat down. I did not know anyone there. Well, as it turns out the guest speaker was sitting at the first table with her friends. She gets up to speak and starts talking about how it's our duty to make travelers feel welcome. She kept looking at me. At first I thought it was my imagination. Why would she direct that part of her lecture to me? I wasn't a part of the committee, and I didn't know that she was the guest speaker until she walked to the podium. I later learned that she was offended that when I walked in, I didn't make a greater effort to welcome her! Why should I be responsible for more than a polite hello? Out of all of the people attending she singled me out. She was told that I was not a member, but she was still not happy. I have experienced similar situations and never understood why until now. Thank you❤
If "Be the Beyonce of your own life" isn't already on a t-shirt, it should be🙂
I experience this a lot. They will have several mfs ignore them and not have a problem with it yet once I do the same all hell breaks loose. It’s because they feel inferior to you and you not acknowledging them is confirming their own insecurities
Hahaha wow😂 crazy. And this is why i avoid people 😂I have no energy to play therapist of people's fragile egos everywhere I go
Relatable. People would try to make me feel bad for looking at myself in the mirror
Right, how is looking in the mirror conceited? 😂
Right...i had a man get mad at me and my bestie while taking a selfie because he was shooting his shot...like...sir...we're not worried about you
@@brioliviahahaha what?🤣 The audacity🙉😂
@infinitewisdom1875
You just helped me realize why I never felt comfortable looking at mirrors in public! People don’t mind their business! Since I was younger, girls and woman have rushed me out of bathroom stalls and mirrors! I could literally be in the public bathroom for 8 seconds and get yelled at or pushed out of the way.
I have had guys call me stuck up for not giving them attention. I would always think “who are you again?”
This video hits home. When I get dressed, put on make up, do my hair, get my nails and pedicure, everything I do I'm conceited, stuck up, or the famous she thinks she's pretty or better. Like just stop it, let me live. The mental gymnastics are exhausting. Go do something with yourself please.
Keep doing you.
Yes!
Yes!!! Even when it comes to dating and friendships id much rather be around people who over exude confidence than those who lack it and play victim. It is tiring and eventually you grow to resent them constantly bringing you down.
THIS!!!
Recently a UABW told me off for not acknowledging her at work. Now I ignore her every time I come in to work.
😂😂😂
@@ExoticalsUnited At first I thought she was some creep that wanted me, but your recording cleared up my confusion. Thanks!
I had niggas actually tap me trying to get attention for not speaking to them, a lot of people just want to feel important, you're not going to use me to feel important.
Yes, they expect you to say hi first and it’s ridiculous because they never even tried to say hello ever
I’ve been called conceited A LOT in my younger years 😅 haven’t heard it in a while though 🥺
It’s a compliment really 🥰
As a man, I have been called stuck up too when I was bit younger- Some females would say" Oh you're not even that hot, you're not all that" because I didn't cater to them or thirsty for them like most men lol
I had something similar happen when I had gone to pick up my son from the school bus. We had a new bus driver who had started in the middle of the year and he was an older, UDSBM. He had brought my son home several times already and I never gave it a second thought. One afternoon, he suddenly made a big deal out of saying that I didn’t say “Hi” to him. I was so taken aback. I was like “What?” And he kept going on about it, and the expression on his face was almost like he was going to cry or just actually was really upset over it! I was flabbergasted. Like, “Dude, I owe you absolutely nothing!” I didn’t say that, but I should have! I have never gone out of my way to greet or say anything to most bus drivers my son has had over the years, and he had rode the bus for a while now. Sometimes I would say hi and sometimes I would just be zoned out thinking about something else. No other bus driver has ever had a problem with me. But suddenly, this fool made such a big deal about it that I felt uncomfortable. So much so that I ended up calling and making a complaint about him. I also stopped saying anything at all to him. Then I eventually had a talk with my husband and had him start picking our son up from school. Eventually, we got a new bus driver and he went back to riding the bus that year. I didn’t think at the time that it was because he was seeking validation from me because of how I look, but as soon as I listened to this video, I know that that’s exactly what he was doing! It brings back memories of similar things that have happened in the past, but that’s all I’ll mention for now.
Wow!
Whewww! I can totally relate!
I’ve had a family member tell me that I think I’m so perfect despite me constantly being open about my faults. I realized immediately that they think I’m perfect and really wanted to be authentic just like me but felt they couldn’t.
I think people can be so jealous of the pretty girl and at times they feel like they have to bring themselves down. Don't do it ladies
I've had several older, UABM say this to me at networking events way more times than I'm comfy admitting. I remember once, i attended an event and was pretty reserved. Mainly, b/c there were speakers. Once the event turned into a networking event, somehow we end up talking about impressions. And when it was my turn...some people said I was "shy, reserved". And out of nowhere...this UABM raised his voice and said "stuck up" and scoffed. I literally wasn't even in a position to speak to him. I just sat down. Just say a girl like me broke your heart in HS and you're still mad😂. And the same thing happened with a CFO at a large corporation networking, but this time I was the life of the party. It was so weird. You'll never win.
You can never win with some people is totally correct. I am tired of trying it just isn't worth the effort.
@@sunshinegirl1655 right. At my big age, my dad told me to watch my tone b/c it's about "their perception" ...I'm like...I've been here long enough to know people will think whatever they want, so I'm going to do what's appropriate and true to me. TF?
@@briolivia 🙂
Yeah I have one for you. I compete (& still win) in local festival beauty pageants. I’m actually a pageant emcee so I do often end up working for the event the next year after I win or compete. People say that’s conceited because I have that as a hobby and I also used to be a cheerleader. Several of my fitness friends run into the same thing and it’s literally you’re conceited because you compete. Don’t we all compete for jobs and scholarships and partners too though? So what’s the difference? Make it make sense
Omg yes ! You’re conceited if they’re competing with you and losing 😂
INFJ here… I can relate with dealing with the nonsense and pure projections from others. I also don’t care if I’m considered conceited or not at this point. I’ve owned the title personally for myself.
I inform acquaintances please refer to me by my formal title when addressing me in a rude demeanor: QUEEN CONCEIT
I'm an Infj too. Same!❤
As an INTP, I totally get this.
Also INFJ here. Hello
INFJ-A honestly felt this in my spirit
Reason I’m staying to myself and my African spirits and beautiful black ancestors. Most living people want mediocre and want us to accept that too. They want dull our light.
I am happy mixed or ambiguous people have their own space, they need it like we all doo
Cannot tell you the amount of women and men throughout the years of my life who had beef I had no clue about and would say "she's a bitch she doesn't talk to me" or something of the sort. Like..why was that expected of me?? Why am I the one that has to make you feel comfortable?? I didn't expect you to do that for me...nor do I care..but I get labeled for it and they dont..hmmm
When I'm at a restaurant and the waiter or waitress serving me is unexpectedly rude, I would do a couple of things. If possible, I request another waiter. If I'm dining alone, I leave; if I'm with a friend, I ask them to place the order instead. Why? Because I worry they might tamper with my food. I once watched a documentary of people caught on camera where a waitress was caught spitting in a customer's meal because he was arguing with her, and subsequently fired many months later after it came to light. Since then, whenever I encounter rude service, I prefer to switch waiters just in case unless I can see them where I let them know that I can see them.
@12:40 OMG yes, I've been around people like that-strangers, colleagues, etc.-and they all try to trigger me, but I ignore them. I pay them no mind, pretend they don't exist; I don't even turn around to acknowledge their words. And boy, are they mad, lol. Also, when I don't say "hi" to somebody, then I am considered conceited. I could literally be walking by and not say hi, which then provokes a visceral response from them, and I am accused of being full of myself or up myself.
17:27 one of the best shifts i’ve made in my life. building your own pedestal and living it up is the only way to flourish 🩷💕
Exactly !
I can no longer stand it when I'm told "you're so humble". No I'm not, I'm just really nice to ppl (also, you're an ENTJ lol I'm a ENFJ. HA! Were cousins😂🤣). I feel like its almost demeaning for ppl to tell you you're supposed to be humble and I feel like that happens our phenotype the most.
I used to start conversations by talking about my relationship problems or my insecurities in hopes of being liked by other women … guess what it only helped in the beginning. They’ll expect u to keep that energy throughout the entire friendship. If u dare show confidence … game over
Right !
I’ve definitely noticed, it’s ridiculous I’m not your cheerleader or therapist…. They want us to talk and interact with them so they feel better and accepted.
Right ! They don’t want you to be your own cheerleader but they want you to be theirs
I love your channel ❤. Everything you say literally resonates with me.
Wow, thank you! ❤️ stay pretty!
I busted out laughing when you sang Diva😂
😂😂😂
This happened to me today . Just now 🤦🏽♀️😂😂 I’m so happy you make these videos . 💜💙💚🇸🇩
A friend of mine has a creeper who has been working really hard to find out what kinda house she lives in! So creepy! Can anyone else relate to someone trying to find out what type of “prizes” you have acquired as a result of being beautiful? House, car, etc.! It’s like having a paparazzi, right?!
So glad you brought up Briana Monique... I still follow her... that video got her cnacelled and so many ppl made videos about her. I know that traumatized her. I want her to know we're here for her!
Saaaame....and i can tell she has become so reserved, even when talking she's so particular in her words and always overexplaining her opinions so as to not offend people. I hate that for her.
I like your points. My friend in middle school was conceited and maybe still is. We briefly reconnected after college. Her mother raised her to have good self esteem. But it was to the point that she was always talking anout how cute and special and pretty she was. Her older sister called me ugly once. My friend had no defense for me, lol. But I could Tell her sister was showing jealousy towards me and I did not understand why. And I love a good self esteem. Someone to know they are good looking, dress well and have nice things. But talking about your good looks and such to your friends often is definitely conceited.
But the points you made about strangers towards you and other channels are valid for sure
Agreed
When you are confident insecure people will view you as conceited!!
exactly!
Feeling myself, I'm conceited - Flo Milli
Amen. This video, like the rest are always on point. I love your giving myself & the exoticals useful info on some many levels & topics. ❤❤❤ I love it here.🥰
The ending made me die laughing 😂😂😂
😂😂
See this is why I need more Scorpio friends they just get it lol …. No bs just straight logic
Omg Exoticals this is too much! Your killing it for me right now😂
Not me snapping my fingers when you said “I’m an over comer” 😂
There’s an Italian movie ‘Malena’. It describes perfectly what beautiful women go through.
"I'm a heathen now!" Same girl lol
It is really their own mental illness they are battling !!!
There is no way to avoid it because it is all in their head. You are a random person, and you don't owe them a thing. Just excuse yourself whenever they are triggered and let them go back to their own deep-seeded insecurities.
Funny one person online said to me "She thinks she the main character" when i didn't personally respond to their comment.
Exactly! That is what I am. Get out of here LOL
😂😂😂 right
idk if anyone has experienced this but i wanted to share. my mother is a narcissist and i have a cousin who's close to that, a typical mean girl; both are pretty and they dont get ANY jealousy or pushback from people in fact people mostly worship them, especially my mom. whereas im pretty too but women just hate me and generally give me a hard time my whole life. why is that? do people only like pretty but evil women but dislike the nice sincere ones? i know i sound nuts but this has been my experience.....i think people just generally like narcissists in general
I could relate to this as a black man, when I was working in my office, most of the black guys would talk about me to other co-workers because I didn't acknowledge them- I don't know why some people think they're entitled to your attention--just because a man is black, that doesn't mean we automatically have something in common--most of the time, I don't want to be bothered with people...I don't like small talk or conversing unless its something extremely important...I could care less to speak to a person and a person shouldn't care if I speak to them---I think some people think that's a sign of rejection if you don't speak to them.
Amen to ALL you said (even though you and I both are Christian raised but not too into it) lmaoo
So relatable 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I’ve always found it weird how people usually dark skin people will always say light skin people are stuck up or conceited. When in my experience light skin people are the most friendly, approachable and compassionate towards me. Most of the time when I’m out in the streets it’s usually light skin people that smile at me, say hello to me etc. for some reason dark skin people always treat me with coldness, and hate. Shout out to all my light skin women and brothers.
God bless you dear one
Yes
Good for you… vain much hahahaha !!
Just admit we apply pressure. And move on with your life.
Youre so gorgeous. Omg
I am not "the pretty girl" in my opinion but I can look pretty.
I am around many pretty girls
I THINK 🤔 cocky is also aka selective.
In my opinion you have to be cocky cautious ⚠️ talking to everyone as a women in general is dangerous
When you are pretty the danger is you are used to being around fake people who are nice for agecency but can be low key high hey your biggest hater
Soo soo many pretty girls exoticals get abused from my view point.
It doesn't start like that, it can become that.
Think you should think you are amazing people love to beat people down
If someone says I think I am all that
I say thank you I should lol
It is self esteem I should esteem my damn self who am I waiting for you..
Sppzzt
Ooh please, not today
I also hate when people try to make me hate me foe what I was blessed with nope nope sorry
💯 people definitely get angry when I don't speak.
🎶 “Im Conceited! I got a reason”🎶