Building Collective Pretty Privilege & Staying on Code As Exoticals -Dark Femininity
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
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As a white woman, I really love and respect this channel. You’re so right, classy women who are living their best lives don’t feel jealous and threatened by other beautiful women.💜
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I am a young adult (18) with 4c hair but when I wear extensions/ wigs with a looser texture I feel way more confident because the texture off the hair easily hides my “chubby” cheeks and it looks natural on me. ,Because I have a more Somalin looking facial structure I definitely look more “ambiguous” with this hair texture on. My mother does have an Indian father but we both don’t share his phenotype. Most women don’t want to admit it but looser hair textures are heavily admired which isn’t bad. The envy of people who naturally have that phenotype is what is wrong. It’s ok to have a preferences for what you think are beautiful but when you shame people that naturally has what you consider to be beautiful than your just reassuring how beautiful you think they are. I love this channel because it really sheds light on the unauthenticity in the black(all shades included) community.
That’s fine. I only get mad when people wear curly hair then they make fun of others who were born that way. This is why I don’t talk crap about other phenotypes being “ugly” or “mediocre”, because I know at some point I will probably use a beauty enhancement to make me look more similar to them 😂💅🏼
Well said! I really love this channel even as an UABW.
I can’t state enough how difficult it’s been to accept my lighter skin as a black woman these last few years. I am dedicating 2024 to accepting my lighter skin shade and learning to be confident despite the unfortunate comments I get from brown and dark skin black women. It’s been hard! But thank you EU!!!❤
Represent your light skin girl! Our skin shade is the bomb! We can wear any shade of hair and makeup! Be proud of your light skin!! I am! 😍🥰
Yes! This summer my goal is to wear more yellow (I always felt like wearing yellow was a way of “flexing” a light skin tone and I internalized the projections of other people.) Also I am NOT getting a tan this summer like I did last year .
@@ExoticalsUnitedpurple also looks really beautiful and lighter skin because when I did my purple eyeshadow, last month, which is when I finally really started wearing makeup, I realized it looks very beautiful on lighter skin. ✨
I agree, ever since this colorism conversation started, I have had a lot of light skinned guilt and there were times when I wished I were darker just because of the daily shaming from the toxic talking points.
I knew there were flaws in the colorism argument, I just couldn't pinpoint what they were at that time until I found this channel. I am too getting over that and embracing myself again unapologetically.
@@ExoticalSauceyes exactly!! The guilt got to me so badly that i allowed myself to be put down because I consider myself an activist and ally!! But I can stand with others without allowing people to bully me and speak down on my lighter shade. Love this channel❤
Never give another person the ability to decide your worth! Make sure to never showcase yourself as a victim guys
EU do you know I come back and forth to rewatch past videos until a new one appears.
I’m honestly considering starting a page.
Thank you for not being a hater and pushing us to get our EXOTICAL TAXXXXX!! 😂
Omg please start a channel! I want to binge other peoples channels! I don’t wanna be the only one making the content ! 😂
ME TOO!
I appreciate this channel and space. I am dark skinned however culturally I am West Indian and fitting into black culture has been hard. I also have an Asian husband and will have mixed kids. I’m glad you are empowering the in betweeners 💖🙏🏿
Wow beautiful 🧡💛❤ You look stunning your your profile pic too. Your kids must be super beautiful
@@yasminogbu8929 thanks 💖 I saw yours and you are stunning too. You could model
I was on TikTok last night and I saw so many mean videos about us. The videos are starting to effect my mental health I don’t think they’re going to stop making these videos and it’s getting worse.
Can you please send the tik tok videos to me !
I think she watches your channel because you were the first person talking about our issues and she is mocking us. @@ExoticalsUnited
@@ExoticalsUnited her name is Milka thee movement . I can’t send the videos on gmail as it won’t send
Exotical tax!! I feel like a lot of the content creators that used to bash us felt like they could because there weren’t many of us making content. So they could easily say it was just you being delusional. As more of us keep popping up we’re like a cute little army of beautiful women and who could ignore that? 😂💛
Thank-you so much for the shout out my love! 💕💕⚜️⚜️ You’re so right about us propping ourselves up and then propping up others who share our sentiment. So often, people want to be the “super star” of a movement and get all the accolades. I had someone tell me I was copying another Goldensphere creator when I first launched my channel & I was like first of all, I hadn’t even heard of that creator when I first thought to create a channel but even if I did, isn’t the whole point to spread the word as far as it can go? To gather our people and create a community for them? The more people that get on board and help to develop this community, the more others will feel comfortable joining. Humans like to be apart of a thriving group. It’s the reason most mixed people just joined up with black people in the first place. They couldn’t be white but they needed to be apart of something so they just went black. We have to show them that there is a thriving in between community for them to identify with. If the goal is for this to be a cult of 40 people following one single leader then that’s something different but if we want to create a massive shift in identity, that’s going to take multiple people standing up and helping out and creators like you get it ❤
Yes! I want to be a part of a group! I don’t want to be a lone wolf out here ! Plus it’s fun being able to binge other peoples content as opposed to always having to make it myself 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited Omg yes! I love binging your content & all the new content that’s out there 😂 it also helps to reaffirm yourself like ok, it’s not just me being weird, there really are a ton of others out there going through the exact same things and feeling the exact same way. We get gaslit by monoracials so much that we really do need eachother and to know that it’s not just me.
Thank you for including Dark Skinned Exoticals. The teasing and other issues ftom the others that have a Western African look need this information @exoticalunited
Glorilla looks like La Lupe. Old Skool Queen of Latin Soul!
Thanks for the shout-out beautiful 💛 You've done great work and raised awareness cheers to you 🥂 and cheers to all of us 🥂 💛💛💛💛
You are so welcome 😍
Right. There def are benefits to pretty privilege when you get all done up and go shopping. People working in these stores are less likely to follow you around thinking you're trying to steal. You might actually get free stuff handed to you!!!
I can say coming a lightskin myself. I've been told that I resemble someone like Chico Debarge, Chris Brown and Drake and others.. Also with the back ground I have. I have Native American, White and French in the bloodline. So when ppl ask if I'm mixed I tell them I'm a melting of those things... And I have been told I can pass for either Puerto Rican or Dominican.. All that I take that as a good thing.
Sometimes, I like to wear long curly extensions with golden blonde highlights with pink lip stick and nails just to play up my racial ambiguity... I like to keep people wondering.🤣
but to speak to your point about supporting our phenotype would be to learn about and teach my kids about light skinned historical figures and their contributions to the advancement of African Americns and the rest of the world and also delve into the heritage, language and history of my own Creole roots!
Right! I THINK SYNTHETIC WIGS SIMPLY LOOK BETTER THAN MY HAIR IN CERTAIN SCENARIOS ! I’m not afraid to admit my faults, insecurities, when I think something else is “prettier” etc. it’s not a big deal. Only the most insecure people try to come off as perfect 24-7. NO ONE HAS PERFECT CONFIDENCE ALL THE TIME AND THATS OK. and that’s exactly why I don’t talk shit about ANYONES phenotype- because I know at some point I’m going to morphe my phenotype into being closer to theirs so I can social climb 😂😂💅🏿💅🏾💅🏼💅🏻💅🏽
@@ExoticalsUnited
exactly! I love the colors in the synthetic extensions better than I like the human hair... There is more of a variety and it's less expensive... All of it is temporary, so when I'm done I just toss it in the trash and get a new one💕
I do the same with helping those who are more close to my phenotype and who are ambiguous. I’m usually more friendly and I’ll go out of my way to support them or tip them or compliment them or all! Helping build that exotical tax and help build up our community! ❤❤❤ I even complement uabw’s hair when they wear hair that’s closer to my phenotype or a looser textured hair..like thanks for the exotical tax ma’am! 😂
i'm wondering if anyone else experienced where you catch a pretty woman looking at you and them smiling afterward almost shyly ( they look at you for a bit after you make eye contact and then break eye contact but they're still smiling. like is this a thing? It happened twice this month to me. wondering if this is a phenomenon or i'm reading too much into it. anyway i think the energy exchange between pretty women can be very warm
Omg yes! I love smiling at other pretty girls especially if they look like me or if they’re children 👧
This is a video that we all need right this moment 🎉🎉🎉 Also I remembered writing down affirmations and people would compliment almost word for word about what I wrote down. So I can identify so much with what you said. And thank you for the shout out😊
Yes! I love your channel and I am a firm believer in affirmations and validating yourself !
@@ExoticalsUnited Thank you😍. Yes they truly are
I love your point about journaling affirmations. I always get compliments that I’m pretty but honestly, due to my weight, I haven’t been feeling so pretty. I have let myself go big time! I will writ it down these affirmations while working on unbigging my back 😂
Can you make a video responding to the celebrity China doll calling Mariah Lynn a colorist as an insult? She is starting a light skin vs dark skin war and claim we treat them like sh@t when they are the ones that treat us like sh@t due to jealousy and hate? In Mariah's defense she has never said or done anything that was racist towards dark skin women and her being light skin does not make you colorist. I'm so sick and tired of their obsession with bashing us for no damn reason 😡. We really need to separate from these people. I'm so happy more and more exotical channels are speaking out finally.
Stop the lies... please stop......Y'all are not innocent.......I think yall being called out today is heartbroken for your egos....... Trust and believe the women that lashed out on me are light skin women. I have been having a hard time with lighter shades women. I don't respond and don't care for the ignorance of stupid minds...it's just amusing to me. Yesterday it was Black women .. and I am Black....wtf
Excellent, especially the part about victimhood. Loved it!
EU, this was excellent. And you're right about gatekeeping what you (we) do b/c too many of us over share. I've learn how to have a open conversation w/ ppl for networking purposes with having to divulge details that can be used against me while remaining approachable. If anything tye best way we can stay on Code is to gatekeep more. I've seen one culture/ society get pulled apart due to wanting acceptance from other groups now about 30% of them are confused about basic life things (I won't say which group that it is tho). From beginning to end, this was an informative and excellent video.
I've found myself going the extra mile to support and appreciate other exoticals since this channel came into my life! We stay on code over here!
I came across a channel yesterday called the Ugly Girls Club, I was like wow lol. So yeah your channel and talking points are popping up everywhere to the point where people are creating like you said spin off channels
Your perspective is so therapeutic 🙏🏽 💖
Thank you for helping other women grow. That's incredible
Thank you for the shout out i agree with the important of allies!❤❤
Yes we CANNOT let other communities try to separate us! It’s only a matter of time before this becomes a mainstream conversation and I want all of us to get our exotical Taaaaaaaax! 😍
💃 💃 💃@@ExoticalsUnited
Great video and a gentle reminder for us to stay on code!!!
be SEEEEEN! I used to want to have an afro...no I still do. I think its different from me. I have a half Brittish half Bantu grandad so my features are real but Ill never have melanin like you guys...and I think its so unique to be able to flex an afro or longggg twists...or white bathing suits XOX. cornrow with twists and the bandana-thats cute too
Thank you for this, I have noticed all of these different forms of attention and it was and is very uncomfortable at times and overwhelming to deal with cause I don’t consider myself “pretty “ but this video helps digest and understand what is happening and makes me feel less under attack or in a dangerous situation. 👍🏽 🎊 🎉 ❤ but I still feel the need to “be safe” and protect yourself 👐🏾🤟🏽✊🏾
I write a lot too in a journal & feel everyone should!
So have you made a video addressing them telling us to admit our privilege? Personally, I don’t think any type of privilege exist, and I grew up only around white people. How do we respond to that? Secondly, even if I did believe we had privilege, I wouldn’t care, nor could they make me feel bad for it. Then, what is admitting said privilege going to do? Nothing! I think they just don’t want to admit their jealousy and saying they’re mad over that is an easy cop out. I see the whole privilege situation similar to someone getting mad at a coworker for making more than them and being like, admit you make more than me😂😂😂 it sounds so stupid because what is supposed to be next after admitting privilege?? Like what do they expect to happen next? I remember you saying privilege is given to you, which is true, so it’s nothing we can control at the end of the day. So what do they want? I won’t give it but I’m curious because it always ends at them wanting us to admit this privilege… but then that’s it!
I have a video coming up about that soon because I grew up as a “dark skinned black” woman (I know I’m mixed/light skinned, but everyone in my school was white and I was the only person of color, therefore I had the similar experience of being the darkest in the class etc .)
They want us to admit our privilege plus a few things left unsaid:
1. They want us to feel bad/apologize for said privilege
2. They want us to dim our light so they can shine brighter
3. They want us to pass on opportunities because they are not getting to same.
4. They want us to downplay our beauty to make them feel more comfortable
@@ExoticalsUnited oh that’ll be interesting. I’ve given up trying to understand/ sympathize with them, but since it’s coming from you it’ll give me the perspective that I need. I forget that many of us who grew up around whites have different experiences because I’ve never felt “othered” so it’s hard for me to understand this privilege thing and I just don’t believe it exist for any race or complexion. Not sure if because of that I come off as dismissive… can’t wait for your commentary!
7:31 yes indeed. Their babies will need this channel.
Ahhhh anytime you post...my heart smiles😍
I love your channel ❤️
I feet like I found my tribe ❤
Love what you are doing!!
I’m soooo here for it! Can’t wait until we start viewing your podcast!(hint-hint)
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Whatever your ethnicity is you have the right to embrace it ❤❤
I would like worldwide pretty privilege because I would like to become a print model and make money off my looks but I notice none of the models look like me, my features are on the bigger side and my face is on the chubbier side and I never see any models that have big features and big faces only Small faces / features pedestalized / seen as THE prettiest but I'm learning to accept/ embrace my features thanks to this channel 💙
You are such a bi@th and I LOVE IT!😜
I'm not a huge makeup fan, but my shade is Clinique's: 'Sand', its so exspensive but the coverage is amazing.!😊
Aw thanks ! 😍
@@ExoticalsUnited You're welcome! 😉😜
Years ago i was looking for content featuring light skinned girls or women for positive images for my little daughter but couldn't really find anything 😞. Your video randomly popped up on my timeline the other day like wow 😊. Do you think your channel is apporiate for all ages?
Hi. If your daughter is under 16yrs old, I'd say that maybe you can watch the videos yourself and then relay the messages in the videos as a mother to her. You know your daughter's personality as well as her temperament, so you'd probably know best how to express these messages in a way that is most beneficial for her.
If she's 16 or over, I think she's old enough to listen to the videos on her own. You could start by watching a video with her and you two can talk about it together. Then, she subscribe to the channel and watch the other videos at her own leisure.
Just be sure to encourage her that it is okay to come to you if she has anything she'd like to discuss that she heard in any of the videos. This is just my opinion, I'm no expert.😊 I hope it helps, though.💫🩷💫💛
This is a line that we should all live by 9:14
The beginning for representation is such a bad look
Would Glorilla be considered an exotical ?
Yup! She’s in my videos . “Exotical” just means being mixed or “ looking mixed” (aka benefitting from an “ism”. Colorism, texturism or featurism.) glorilla benefits from colorism and because of that, she’s at risk for being the target of the other two “isms”, and she’s also likely to have her success invalidated and tied to her skin tone . For more info please watch my what is an exotical” series because this channel includes BOTH MIXED AND MONO BLACK women. What we all have in common is benefitting from “isms” and being thrown in and out of blackness due to our features or dna.
@@ExoticalsUnited what would you consider me by looking at my profile picture? I have 4C hair but I do have light skin. I also have dark brown eyes but they are pretty. I've been told that I'm light skin for a black person, and that I think I'm all that just because I'm light skin by a Dusty light skin do LOL. But then I have a big bulbous nose so I guess I would because I can get thrown in and out I feel like an experience microaggressions due to my light skin
I'm glad to finally see a woman who looks like me with a big nose, being represented in the media. She looks similar to me, I have been having her most recent song yeah I'll go on repeat ❤ @@ExoticalsUnited
I have heard of people stating that she only got to where she is is because of her skin color just because she's light skin which is not true at all she can actually rap / is talented@@ExoticalsUnited
My RUclips : AfrocentricBaddies ❤
Honestly came up with it from the top of my head 😂❤ @@CreoleLadyMarmalade
good video as always.