I’m trying to understand why the family has treated OP with such disrespect and contempt on her birthday and other occasions. I was a twin. My twin died because of medical complications. My parents NEVER brought up her passing at my birthday. They celebrated me for the miracle that my survival was! I was always grateful for the way they treated me. Any family that treats a child like this group of idiots did, doesn’t deserve to have her in their lives. Be happy. Find people who love you for who you are. You are worthy of love and happiness. Happy birthday to you and many more!
It's classic narcissist parent behavior. They pick one kid to be the golden child and feed on the misery of the other child. The golden child becomes a narcissist, too, and proceeds to feed off the misery of the other kid. OP will always be the victim of these emotional parasites unless she breaks away from them.
Everyone handles stuff differently. My birthday (which is this coming Saturday) is a doozy. I was born 12 years to the day of my grandma's death. My favorite Tio died on my 21st birthday. My old school Dean killed his wife, MIL, and 3 kids on my birthday. One of my other Tios had a heart attack on my birthday. My Tio who died on my 21st, his son died on my birthday.... You get it.. I don't celebrate my birthday, and neither does my family.
Yeah, that's because your parents are sane human beings. My best friend actually went through the same experience. Her twin sister died at birth as well. But sadly her mother was/is insane and constantly told her that "her sister would've been smarter/prettier/better" every time she was upset. My friend went no contact with her but she still suffers from the experience today.
a teen girl on her first Period telling a grown ass woman, who has probably had theirs for at least a decade "you don't understand what I'm going though" that dad is going to be in for a rough ride if he doesn't nip this attitude in the butt fast.
I was thinking the same thing. She's a grown woman who had at least a dozen+ periods. SHE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT'S GOING ON. That would be akin to a teen boy getting upset at a grown man because it's awkward about the things going men go through.
But but all periods are different you can’t tell a woman to suck it up. Nah she is just getting a taste of what men deal with all the time. Period time is a duck and cover time
@@user-de2wv8ri8n didn;t say she had to suck it up, I said it was ridiculous for a teen to tell an adult "you don't understand what I'm going though" also, the brat was a fine all dam day and turned into a shit when the two guys got home and assaulted Ops son.
Story 1: So not only is your real birthday about your sisters childhood cancer, but your makeup party is also about your sisters miscarriage. If sister was truly that devastated about her cancer and miscarriages , she wouldnt be coming to your parties in the first place. She would be grieving at home in private. She's an attention seeker who thrives off of people feeling sympathy for her. Tell me who the hell announces their miscarriage at someone elses party.
We all know who along with the type of people supporting this. Maybe when OP cuts them all out of her life, sis will stop having all these tragedies? At least OP will finally have moments dedicated to her.
I almost wonder if she lied about the miscarriage. If it weren't for her husband mentioning it, I'd say she was, but maybe she lied to him or he's in on it.
Story 3 - Stepdaughter 'I'm trying to make you understand that I'm on my period'...to a woman...who had her own first period at the stepdaughter's age...that bad logic Also notice she calm down after OP order them to get out? Yeah what a brat
😂😂😂 I am laughing at this AH girl being allowed to terrorize the whole family because she started her period. Can it be annoying? Sure. Do some women have crippling pain? Yes. Do most? No. Is it an excuse to be an AH? Nope!
Every woman that I know who has crippling pain is in too much pain to be a jerk. I put my daughter on birth control because her hormones were so bad, and her cramps were disabling. She usually just messaged me that she hurt too bad to go to school, and stayed in bed. She didn't use it as an excuse to completely disregard the family. She still bleeds and has cramps, even on birth control, but she can function now. That brat got it in her head she could behave however she wanted and blame her period. Imagine how she'll be if she gets pregnant.
Tell me yiu have a golden child without saying it. 23 year old doesn't want to work doesn't want to do chores to live at home. Wants you and her sister to pay for her to live in a apartment. Forget it.
Story one-I'm assholey enough to start hosting twice a month parties/gatherings just to see what the sister presents as her current sad story. Have a friend quietly record it, make a "woe is me" montage. 😄 Seriously though, OP should post a trusted friend to play security at any future gatherings to deny Mom, Dad & Sis access.
I'm assholey (I like this word) enough to start taking bets on when and why the sister ruins OP's parties. I'd loudly ask "Who has nine minutes" or "Who bet hangnail?" OP could also announce "OK, plan B, I'm moving the party to the bar, if we hurry, we can still make the reservations"
@@rosaazure make it like a football pool in a pub. You buy squares, and when they are all sold you reveal the “scores”. The squares will include things like blocked salivary glands and now she can’t spit, washed her hair and can’t do a thing with it, got a mosquito bite and is now on a malaria watch.
Insist on being a bride's maid just so she can suddenly become "super week" and "faint" as she's walking down the isle. Then if OP doesn't cancel the whole event to be by her sister's side in the hospital then her parents will call her selfish.
Period story: that is one manipulative child. Boyfriend needs to be so for real and wake up. Being on your period sucks, but its not "get whatever i want" and "abuse everyone around me" time. Also, bf is NOT putting his daughter first. Hes neglecting her by refusing to parent and is enabling her manipulative outbursts. Caving to tantrums and enabling their cruelty hurts your child.
Yeah as soon as she said "I'm on my period so nothing I say or do can be held against me" I knew she was milking it. Not only that, but she waited for the men to be home to start up...As in she waited for the people who don't know what its like to have one to come home. Op is right, if she let them stay, that would be every month until daughter moved out because BF had no interest in controlling his daughter. He can be the one who deals with it, because as someone who was also once a teenage girl, it will only get much, much worse.
And OP needs to prioritize her son which she has. Diane planned to make him her punching bag. I dare she tries this in her dad’s next relationship because I see the cops getting involved.
Op should have told the girl that she's not the first woman to get her period and that she better just get used to it since she's going to have it every month for the next 30+ years. It's like, "Honey, you ain't special because you got your period. Females have been dealing with it for thousands of years."
I mean, anyone with a bit of sense would know what she's doing is self-serving teenage nonsense. Unless they were raised from infancy in an all male household with no female interaction or access to the internet or media depicting women they SHOULD have learned at some point that no woman ever acted like that. It'd be big news if almost 50% of the world's population enacted the Purge every 4 weeks or so.
i've been having periods for more than 30 years now. thankfully only about 10 more years left. and i went to an all girls school. nobody turns into the hulk due to their period.
And if someone tried, I’m pretty sure there were at least a dozen other she hulks to stop her. Being on your period doesn’t create a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.
i've honestly never heard of weaponized periods, but here we are. if she really has something going on they need to take her to the doctor(PMD? i think its called) but she also may just be a brat. heck i've had my period since i was 9 and i'm bipolar and never acted like this
Ohhhh sweet heart, I used to be like you....dreaming of when periods stopped.... then.... came menopause and I would give everything to go back.... being menopausal can last up to a decade... im two years in and I seriously was thinking about ending it all before i started on hormones as I could no longer go on with 40 50 or some days 60 hot flashes. The moodswings are 10 worse than being premenstrual and the weight gain and the 100 other things. I'd give anything to get through this.... and I could potentially be on this for years.... and then have a couple of normal years and then die. Great...just great. Xxx
@@DemonAngel you would have to be a terrible mother and father to think that way about the day your kid was born. even though the other kid was diagnosed that day she did survive.
period story: even if it’s not true i’d just say “well i’m on my period so i can’t be held accountable for kicking you out.” make everyone realize how dumb it is to excuse violent behavior just because of a normal bodily function.
We've stepped away from a friendship because his kid is exactly like this on her cycle. He gives her whatever it takes to make the screaming stop. They have 9 pets, lizard, dogs, pig, fish, salamander, turtle....a few other things you can just find in your yard. No cats. Surprisingly. The pig is 100lbs. The kid is an absolute terror.
Meh, I can't really blame the BF, as a guy, I can't say anything about a girl on her period. He says something, "men don't know so they can't say", and if he says the wrong things, "why do men think they can tell women what to do with their bodies." He definitely should've slapped her, that's what my Grandma did with her daughters when they got hit with puberty. And that's also what my aunts later did with my cousins, and currently my cousin's have been doing their swings with my nieces. OP definitely should've lifted the SD by the collar, shake her like they're in a telenovela, and said that she's had them for years.
Story 2: YTA, your 23 year old daughter needs to start adulting. She needs to get a job to start supporting herself. Owe and move her back in with you till she can pay her way.
And the other kids see this and likely feel like they have no need to work hard and move out because either OP will take care of them. Or if they do work hard and move out, OP will expect them to take care of a freeloader.
Nobody! She's probably never even there, she's out partying, trying to find a man to take care of her! So Sad! Sis: "I'm moving out! But I don't want to work, so you'll have to pay all of my bills!" Mom: "OK honey, just give me the total amount & I'll work something out with OP & send you the money!" OP should give mom this post & tell her she won't get any money until she reads it All of it! Don't give her any money regardless, because OP is going to have to fund mom's golden years after she spends all of her retirement money on sis! Don't give mom cash either, because you'll find out that she's eating crackers & sitting in the dark! Because even then she'll be giving your cash to sis😢!!!
@@marleneperry6972 the 29 year old has the same mother as the 23 year old. Clearly it's not just the parent's supportive or non supportive nature that makes productive adults.
Right? I can only hope that was a troll Cab someone really be that stupid? I hope the mother will be broke and the golden child will dump her and everybody else goes NC
OP should probably give mom this post & Make her read it, "No you can not eat anything or go to sleep, until you read the whole thing & Then you are going to write a list of everything you did wrong & the results of those wrongs! Then write what you are going to do to rectify the mess You've Made!" Then tell mom that they both need therapy before it's too late! Might need therapy all around! What is this doing to the younger kids? Really it's probably too late already😢!!! OP has a good job & mom's gonna need help for herself in the near future & OP shouldn't be giving mom money to help her then find out later that mom's been living on crackers with no running water because she gives that money to the blood sucking leach! Fix it now or go NC & don't look back! The problem with that is that there are two more kids who are under age😢!!! So Sad!!!
Period story: the phrase "making my life harder" says it all, the ex bf is a peacekeeper, which makes him the biggest asshole. Peacekeepers dont care about doing the right thing, they just want to avoid conflict at all costs, even if it means siding with bad people
story 2 wow tell me you have a favorite child without telling me you have a favourite child, my eldest is 24 if he ever got in financial trouble and needed help I would be there in a split second, but if he told me he DIDN'T want to work and expected me to support him I would ask him what shelter he wanted me to forward his mail to
Even then Debbie Downer didn’t make announcements at people’s events. She usually made her comments in passing when others made comments. In other words, the sister is worse than Debbie Downer.
@@michal31131 yea, but it matter? She's a full grown adult. Op has told her that it's a problem and she shrugged it off. I'm also betting that Op's friends have mentioned it before because of the sister crashing Op's birthday party. At this point she is completely responsible for her own actions.
S3 , Op when I got my first period ,I asked my mum for help and all I got was shown how to use sanitary pads and I went to school with a few extra pads in my school bag and told the teacher in private in case I needed to change the sanitary pad . You dodged two bullets one being his daughter who made a fuss about starting her periods and the father who enabled the behaviour .NTA periods are a bodily function in a female and every female needs to accept it as normal and keep on living .
And “being on my period” is not an excuse everyone will accept. It was also rich if the now ex to say that OP doesn’t understand. OP, a woman whose had many periods and has given birth, wouldn’t understand? Nah! OP understands but just won’t play into those games.
I was 10 when I started. My cramps were major. Mom took me to the doctor,he put me on darvocette . When I was 12, I started having massive mood swings. 1 minute, bawling. Next minute snapping. We went back to the doctor. He put me on diazepam. The darvocette and diazepam made it possible for me to survive without becoming permanently curled in a ball crying for days or my family and friends worrying that I was going to end someone. I was so happy to get my hysterectomy.
My first period started during a holiday when we planned a family trip to a small amusement/nature park with my much younger cousins. Like, literally everyone was already in the car except my mom who´s in bathroom and me, who waited my turn to pee before we go. I suddenly felt very wet between my legs, and since there´s nobody in the house, simply pull down my pants and voila, everything was already red and dripping. We delayed the trip for about half an hour while my mom show me how to use the pads, scrub the pants, and mop the floor. She asked me if I´m still okay to go (since I´m one of the designated babysitter), and I said yes because I didn´t feel anything at that time. The cramps and mood swing hit about 90 minutes later while we were in the middle of the hiking trail in the park, with me having to run after the 5-years-old cousin I was assigned to watch over. I couldn´t do anything except tried to ignore it and cried on my mom´s lap at that night.
Story 2: The eldest daughter is right on the money. Get up and get working. Btw who wants to bet the 2 youngest kids won't get a college fund because of the mooch
Yeah I see OP going back to her previous parenting method after the outcome of child two. I see either the teens not trying so OP could look after them or block OP asap to keep from being harassed like oldest sister to support deadbeat.
I see OP “suddenly” going back to her previous parenting style with the youngest daughters. Yeah I see them blocking their mom asap so she doesn’t try to bleed them dry like their oldest sister.
I mean not necessarily. I pick my birth control specifically so I have as few periods as physically possible (I've had an implant and the pill together just to avoid them). I mean I don't actually like a raging bitch when I have them either. Its not uncommon for women not to have periods or if your on the pill to have light ones
@@vincentlucario5450 i can tell you that a period after 14years on hormonal birth control was 1000x worse than I remembered. I very nearly didn't have children and was extremely reluctant to have a 2nd one that's how bad I found having a proper periods. Also it's not an experience universal to all women.
@@julierichardson800 sure, but neither is claiming that women in general don’t know how periods work/feel like especially when you consider the context.
The tattoo story....I don't really blame Op and I'm sleeved up married to a man with no tattoos. He knows I love them, I know he loves MINE but has no interest in getting any. We both know that about each other and respect it. She knows he has a strong aversion. To keep pushing it is disrespectful and tone deaf.
I remember my first period. I asked my mom a couple of questions, put my underwear in the wash, and figured out how to use women’s sanitary supplies. It all probably took half an hour to sort through. I’m just shaking my head at how anyone could excuse that kind of behaviour from that girl.
"Someone hurt me, therefore it's okay to arbitrarily hurt someone who didn't because they're related to that person in some way" is a really shitty lesson to teach your child.
Story 3: that girl is full of crap, sometimes girls can be a bit sensitive and easily irritated, but they don’t act like this. You’ve been getting your period longer than her have you or anyone you ever known acted like this? I know it’s never happened to me or anyone I know. I was showed how to put on a pad and my dad gave me ice cream , that’s all that happened my first time (he thought that was what you do for the first time). Also, unfortunately happened in my school uniform. So she need to stop acting like you don’t know what having a period is like, and your BF need to stop enabling her because she’s clearly faking it to get what she wants.
I didn’t even get ice cream lol or the talk about it. My mom handed me a book to read and that’s it. 🤷🏻♀️ but I can attest to this, no woman I have ever known acts like this. I do get a bit snappy and sensitive but usually I’m very apologetic afterwards. I only get snappy if I’m overstimulated.
The fact that the girl comments ‘you can’t hold anything I do against me because I’m on my period’ is amusing AF. Girlie is going to participate in some bad behavior (worse than this crap) and then goes before a judge… The law doesn’t give a rip about her cycle.
I am about to start, and I cried during a documentary about elephants. Lol I started for the first time before school( thank god) so my mom calmed me down.
If I want to go swimming when I'm menstruating, I go swimming. Also, everything I normally do. In most cases, it's not a disability. I hope the daughter pulls her woe-is-me crap on girls her own age. They'll shut her down real quick.
Story 1: ...those are quite some "conveniently timed" problems the sister seems to have. My petty self would probably start making bets with my friends about the sister. "Hey, my birthday is coming up. What do you think she'll pull up this time? My money is on another cancer flare up!" Just imagine her go on her speech only for one of the friends to go "Yes! I won!" and parade around while she expects sympathy.
Who the hell taught an 11 year old to act that way? Because I really doubt she learned that by herself. Grandpa? An uncle? The rhetoric of 'women lose control on their period' usually comes from men so ex-bf needs to find out which family member did that. Unless it was him, of course.
I assume she's been watching tiktoks or something with these tropes and hasn't understood that those are exaggerated for humorous effect. To be fair on her, she is very young and clearly doesn't get any proper parenting from dad. Maybe now that he's realized his spoiling her has negative consequences for him, he'll step up.
Final story. While I understand that the OP should prioritize his daughter and her wishes. He needs to sit down with his daughter and stress to her that she should not take her frustration with her mother out on an innocent third party. Else the next thing will be having to meet with school officials regarding his daughter bullying her step brother.
That first story, if in the future OP is bulldozed into inviting her sister and parents to her wedding, she needs to provide all of her invited friends and sympathizers bingo cards. When sister inevitably makes an announcement to focus attention on her precious self, one or more people can shout BINGO.
My mom had that and her were 'it's safer to hide behind the couch and through chocolate her way' periods but it turned out there was a medical issue and they fixed it
Who the hell tells a child that their older child had a cancer diagnosis on the day of their birth?! And if it's such a big deal, why not just celebrate the op's birthday on a different day from the very start? So it's just a family tradition to celebrate op on the weekend closest to the date? The parents created this mess.
Period story: “she told me she was just trying to get me to understand.” I’d have told her, “sweetheart, I understand it’s something new and it doesn’t make us feel the best, but unfortunately you have to learn to continue on with it. We’re here to support you, but that doesn’t mean allowing you to treat people badly. I remember what it was like to have my first. I was on a plane, I was overheated, I was cramping really badly and I threw up. Never once did I hit, shove, or steal food off of anyone.”
Dad says to tell "Period Girl" that you also have them and you can show her what a real PMS cycle is like if she keeps her crap up. Then remind her that you threw them out when you weren't on your cycle and to think about that! Also Dad says to design the wife"s tattoo in your handwriting, "I don't respect my husband's opinion!!!"
Jesus, I heard of Weaponized incompetence but never Weaponized periods. That excuses going to get her so far in real world. “I can’t be charged for a crime because I’m on my freaking period.”
Story 2: Hmmm, I wonder if OP has a favorite child? A child that she coddles and shields from all of the cruelties of adult life. A child that she's willing to throw her other children under the bus to support. You know, I think she does and it's the 23 year old. And as long she continues to treat the grown a$$ woman like the spoiled brat she is, she'll ALWAYS be the AH. YTA.
Story 3: Ok, the daughter was pressing her luck after what she did with the OP's son and all the other stuff too. Seriously, the OP is better off without those people.
Story 1: really, every single milestone you had, she would jet so happen to have something bad happened to her? Especially your 16th birthday, she’s seriously ran to the party your friends planned for you to let you and all of them know about something that happened three weeks earlier? Why didn’t she say anything three weeks ago when it was taking place? Also, when you mentioned her husband came up to you are we talking about the same person that left her when they were engaged? Even if there’s a chance, some of these things are true I don’t believe for one second they’re all true. You sit there doing this on purpose and maybe it’s about time you celebrate it without your family so for once you can enjoy yourself without worrying about your sister ruining it.
#2: OP is an AH. Your daughter is not responsible for helping her lazy sister. "She's too lazy to work, so don't buy a house and give her the money instead, or you are being selfish."
Story 3: NTA, she was trying to see what she could get away with, and your BF let her get away with whatever she wanted to do. If you didn't kick them out, it would have just kept getting worst.
Story 4: sounds more like your her excuse to not get a tattoo. She knows you don’t like it, but you made it clear you’re not going to stop her and she can do whatever she wants with her body. That is a very mature and appropriate response given how you feel about tattoos, and yet that’s not enough for her. You have to design the tattoo for her otherwise you’re preventing her from getting it? I don’t buy it. If she really wanted a tattoo, would she just get it, probably with something already in mind. Ask her why do you have to be involved in the process for her to get one she knows you don’t like them, and I already told her you’d be fine if she got one?
A study done in Sweden, where they tracked thousands of people with and without tats over decades, has revealed that people with tats developed lymphoma cancer at a noticably greater rate than those without. Think about that before getting inked.
@@velvety2006 Yup, try before you buy. What if she finds she can't tolerate the needle for the 15-30 minutes (or more)? Being left with a partial is even worse.
parents raised a golden child attention seeking monster when OP finally goes NC is she going to ruin her own children's achievements because how dare they take attention away from her honestly though I'd be scared for them I've seen too many crime stories where the wife get's jealous of her children and kills them there's another story like this but a somewhat good ending adopted sis finally hurt herself enough to be committed and the family finally tired of her BS called out the parents who still didn't care
First Story: when asked why she left the party, OP just accurately point out sister's husband told her All Non Family Should Leave, so she complied, clearly not being family enough for anyone even to notice she'd left...
I've been having a period since I was 12. And though there are moments I've acted like a monster. After letting my Mom see/hear this. I was an Angel compared to this Spawn of Satan....I think Satan wouldn't even claim her.
Last story. Epic revenge of a little girl. I love it. Now the day of the party her own mother that sounds like she wasn't coming to the party has to stay at home and listen to a crying child. Lol
And that last comment was a 🤦 moment. The birthday is already revolving around the stepbrother, and nobody is making it that way except the birthday girl.
@@blindbrad4719I totally agree with not inviting him. For one she won't want to see her own mother who should be hosting dropping off her new kid or not being there at all, both are likely hurtful and to top it off she would have to be around the kid that's just stole her life. It sucks for the kid but it's entirely his new step mums making. Where was the mother's anguish when it was her own tears at no longer being welcome with her more than token weekends so she can focus on her new family?
Hurting an innocent party to get back at someone who’s wrong you is an epic it’s petty. Hopefully OP gets his daughter into therapy so she can learn to not punish people had nothing to do with the problem.
@@engiskar7895 I mean he's a pawn but I can't blame the girl for not wanting him there. Why should she 'be the bigger person' here. Where was her mum's concerns when she was undoubtedly crying about being dropped for this kid? So yeah it's not the kids fault but he absolutely shouldn't be at the party.
The girl on her period yep I acted like the father and now I don’t talk to my daughter because she falsely accused me of starting a physical fight with her and I went to jail just got off probation the 29th she’s a narcissist
I have adenomyosis a form of endometriosis. My periods are HORRIBLE. Painful, heavy, you name it. I have NEVER treated people the way that girl treated OP, her son, and her dad. Not even when I had my first. NTA
Story 1: honestly OP get away from them as soon as you can your sister has turned every celebration involving you into Pity Parties for herself it's like she has no personality beyond "oh woe is me" and your parents just keep enabling her, proof is the fact when OP's friends threw OP a party that the sister showed up uninvited and kept fishing for pity by only telling sad stories. the fact no one missed OP for 2 hours is another point against her she could have made that announcement at any time but specifically chose a time to get attention away from OP and on herself and she has nerve saying OP was "cold" when she clearly can live without the pity attention anymore. Story 2: got to stop holding their hand eventually and trust me the only reason the 23-year-old doesn't want to work is likely because you have handed her everything on a silver plate and her mentality has become "why would i work when Mom takes care of everything" you've created a leech who doesn't even have to work to stay attached to her victim. Story 3: the kid was clearly milking the first monthlies for all it's worth and Dad not knowing how to handle it just gave in to all her demands instead of seeing Story 4: her body her choice but she needs to realize there may be unintended consequences doing something her partner hates
Story 2--the OP lost me when they wrote "We have to spend lots of money her so she can afford her life as she doesn't really want to work." What is WRONG with these parents? MAKE HER GET A FREAKING JOB OR BE HOMELESS, DAMMIT!!! Why they're shrugging their shoulders and supporting this lazy leech I just can't understand. Seriously, there aren't enough expletives to emote how angry and annoyed I am at these parents. And there are teen daughters still in the house observing what happens. What the hell is OP gonna do if THEY decide they just wanna mooch off mom the rest of their lives, since the 23 year old is allowed to? The universe help us; stupidity like this will smother us all long before the sun explodes!
A teen telling a woman with a child that she was just trying to make her understand what it was like having a first period? Is there an equivalent to mansplaining called teensplaining? If her first period was truly that painful she didn't need chili and ice cream, she needed an emergency OB/GYN appointment.
Story 2. YTA. Why the heck should your oldest support your youngest? Your youngest is 23 years old. High time she gets out and gets a dang job. Quit babying her. Nobody likes to work but everybody has to. It's called life.
I had hellish periods. I was in pain, moody, huge mood swings, my whole body was not doing what it was supposed to and i was practically bl33ding to d3ath. I never acted out to my siblings and i was rude i apoligized. My family knew and never held it against me but thats because i actually was just a regular teen with heavy periods. Not some manipulative monster who only thought of herself. Daughter is a nightmare and believe me when i say, shell be put down a few pegs if shed ever dare to act like that at school. Schools will usually understand that you miss a few days when you first had your period but they will not tolerate you missing a whole week of school every month for the rest of your school days. And no boss will put up with it either and youll get fired. 😂
I think period stepmom made the right decision to end the relationship, but the petty part of me kinda wished she waited til her next period and then acted in the the same ridiculous way to see how boyfriend and stepdaughter liked it.
She's clearly been watching movies/tiktoks or something with "watch out, always pander to your gf when she's on her period if you value your life!" tropes and doesn't realize this is humor/exaggerated for effect. It would obviously not be workable for every woman in the world to turn into an entitled out-of-control toddler 1 week out of every 4. It would really do her good to understand that being violent to her brother and throwing huge tantrums while on her period is just as unacceptable as she'd find her mom/stepmom/teacher yelling at her and cancelling outings and unreasonably punishing her when they're on their periods.
I had a friend whose sister died at 15 in a car crash on his birthday and they never celebrated it after. That at least is a major traumatic event, a cancer diagnosis if it hadn't been that exact day so it's memorable I doubt they would even remember. Like why are they not remembering happy moments like remission as a family instead of focusing on such a negative.
So your mother as just given birth to you, and a medical practitioner decides that is the perfect time to announce that her first born as cancer,who in their right mind thinks that is the perfect time to break such news? tbh I wonder if the sister is actually sick of it the parents are as much of the attention seekers as the golden child, because 24 years is a very long time to not succumb to this dreadful disease, I speak as someone who as lost over 30 family members to it!
St-1. NTA. Your sister is an an attention seeker. Celebrate your birthday with your friends stop inviting your family, she has them wrap around her fingers, it’s too much!
Story 1: NTA. Let’s assume everything that has happened to your Sister is 100% true. This still doesn’t need to be said at your party. She can afford to have a tragic life in the company of her immediate family alone.
S1. Next birthday keep your mouth closed. Spoiled sis can't ruin the party if she doesn't know there is one. Or, go somewhere as far away as you can. Then tell your family the party is happening at a different place that's in the opposite direction & takes a couple of hours to get to. Then shut off your phone & ask the others to shut theirs too. By the time they realize that they can't find where you are it'll be too late to crash the real party. Good luck
Story 2: tell me who the Golden Child is without telling me who the Golden Child is. This mother is insane, I'm surprised she hasn't enlisted the two younger daughters to get part-time jobs to help the 23yo because...faammillyy!!
As someone who has suffered PMDD (PMS on steroids) since my first period, I literally screamed and cried i couldn't find the dress i wanted to wear to school that morning, I had to learn to not abuse people and my behavior wasn't excused just because of my hormones. Get her hormones checked and put her on birth control. It helps. A LOT
Tattoo story: it doesnt sound like your wife genuinely wants a tattoo, bc she has no idea what art she wants. I think this is some kind of power struggle. If she actually wants the tattoo for the art, and not to prove a point to you, then good. But as it is, it sounds like shes trying to prove something.
Shes trying to change him, first it will be helping design one, then another, then get op to get a small tattoo, then another cuz he was already involved with 3, whats another small one etc etc
Story 3: What does the father think a period is? Does he think she's terminally ill? Seeing what a spineless idiot he is, we can probably guess how she became such a brat before OP met her. She was likely spoiled rotten whenever she had a boo boo because the dad is too weak and lazy to actually parent her.
The Only Reason why OP is TA is because after all she went through she still wanted to seek approval from them at all. Leave them all and begin a new family and new friends and a new life without them
My wife has Endometriosis, talking about periods with her makes her laugh because hers have always been erratic and weird. I cant imagine a kid coming up and telling her "you dont know what im going through"
Tattoo story: tattoos are very personal, to my way of thinking. I'm later 40s. I got my first tattoo last year, and it is in remembrance of my dad. My husband got a tattoo to symbolize everyone important in his life, and he really loves it, but I'm not as fond of the item that represents me. But it isn't on my body. He likes it, and I have moved on.
My stepdad died on my niece’s 10th birthday. That day was terrible and her birthday obviously was not celebrated, however, we made up for it the following year and since then, no one mentions my stepdad on that day. We all mourn out of her sight, when we have the opportunity.
Last story: OP should have told Ex that if they knew how much their child has cried because parent is ignoring her.. and If the parent doesn’t care how much the child has cried for the lost parent relationship then OP doesn’t give twi shits about the stepchild..
Yta. Why does your oldest have to fund your second child. If the 2nd doesn't want to go to college, fine. It isnt for everyone. But she still needs to pay her own way. Even if that way is to a trailer park. She was handed over 20k and blew it. She could have bought a small house, but didn't. Time for her to grow up. Lmao ask her to get a part time job. No, she needs to get a full-time job.
3. NTI. This child is being taught to behave badly for a normal human function. No one needs to learn to navigate her bodily functions except her. She wants to act like that and her dad wants to support it, they can get the heck out.
29 year old doesn't want to pay $2k a year, but will pay $500 a month? Umm... i cant believe shed pay anything but that is.$6k a year as opposed to $2k.
Story 1: I really don't understand families like OP's. I love my sisters too much to do anything like that to them and they would never do that to me. Its really easy to be happy for and proud of people you love.
Some parents are just idiots. You support a 23yrs's life while they sit at home doing nothing at all. What kind of parenting is this? I hope no one helps these idiots
S2 no. I wouldnt help a sibling who doesnt work. The op is CLEARLY favoring the golden child to the point she's willing to burn the other child to keep it going. Its not selfish, its insane As for the period story... maybe the father simply has no idea what he's supposed to be doing? Because that's what it sounds like to me, he doesn't know what to do and has taken the 'just do it to keep the peace' response
You have new family and your friends. Go no contact with the awful people who regret your being born. Sister either had a loss some time ago and waited to announce it then or was insane enough to go to a party moments after her loss. Either way there was no need for her to be there or announce there. She wants attention.
Story #2: the eldest child is TA for even thinking about giving the younger child a single penny. The 23 year old is spending all her money on a "Tyrone or Chad", mark my words
3rd story. NTA periods do NOT give anyone child or otherwise a free pass, to be abusive, or entitled or the right to dictate to others to cater their days around her period. I had nasty periods growing up and as an adult. I never treated others like this. She needs to get over herself. and people need to stop enabling her unacceptable behavior!!! You dodged a bullet OP. The BF is enabling awful behavior and it's only get worse.
Nta. Starting your period doesn't give you permission to start abusing ppl. She might just find herself bleeding from other places besides down there if she attacks the wrong person. Courts won't care what time of the month it is when she gets arrested for assault.
1st story: OP should invite everyone for a big announcement and say that she is pregnant As soon as sister "remembers another one of her recent tragedies" she should just tell them it was a prank and she wanted to see if sister will ruin yet another of her milestones Then just go no contact Years later she should contact them on a random day and tell them the good news: she is with child As soon as the sister starts with her newest grievance, she can tell them oh what good luck because I got married X years ago on (date) and my child was born on (date from months ago). So fortunately my happy news do not overlap with your sad news - I already thought my happiness was causing your problems After this back to no contact
I’m trying to understand why the family has treated OP with such disrespect and contempt on her birthday and other occasions. I was a twin. My twin died because of medical complications. My parents NEVER brought up her passing at my birthday. They celebrated me for the miracle that my survival was! I was always grateful for the way they treated me. Any family that treats a child like this group of idiots did, doesn’t deserve to have her in their lives. Be happy. Find people who love you for who you are. You are worthy of love and happiness. Happy birthday to you and many more!
My mom was born on the day that her grandma and uncle lost their home in a fire. No one ever treated her bad because of it.
It's classic narcissist parent behavior. They pick one kid to be the golden child and feed on the misery of the other child. The golden child becomes a narcissist, too, and proceeds to feed off the misery of the other kid. OP will always be the victim of these emotional parasites unless she breaks away from them.
Everyone handles stuff differently. My birthday (which is this coming Saturday) is a doozy. I was born 12 years to the day of my grandma's death. My favorite Tio died on my 21st birthday. My old school Dean killed his wife, MIL, and 3 kids on my birthday. One of my other Tios had a heart attack on my birthday. My Tio who died on my 21st, his son died on my birthday.... You get it.. I don't celebrate my birthday, and neither does my family.
Yeah, that's because your parents are sane human beings. My best friend actually went through the same experience. Her twin sister died at birth as well. But sadly her mother was/is insane and constantly told her that "her sister would've been smarter/prettier/better" every time she was upset. My friend went no contact with her but she still suffers from the experience today.
@@ButtonsCasey Damn, I wouldn't be "your friend". I am not superstitious but I will stay the Hell away from you
a teen girl on her first Period telling a grown ass woman, who has probably had theirs for at least a decade "you don't understand what I'm going though"
that dad is going to be in for a rough ride if he doesn't nip this attitude in the butt fast.
I was thinking the same thing. She's a grown woman who had at least a dozen+ periods. SHE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT'S GOING ON. That would be akin to a teen boy getting upset at a grown man because it's awkward about the things going men go through.
But but all periods are different you can’t tell a woman to suck it up.
Nah she is just getting a taste of what men deal with all the time. Period time is a duck and cover time
@@user-de2wv8ri8n didn;t say she had to suck it up, I said it was ridiculous for a teen to tell an adult "you don't understand what I'm going though"
also, the brat was a fine all dam day and turned into a shit when the two guys got home and assaulted Ops son.
@@Arylwren1chss don't feed the trolls
Story 1: So not only is your real birthday about your sisters childhood cancer, but your makeup party is also about your sisters miscarriage. If sister was truly that devastated about her cancer and miscarriages , she wouldnt be coming to your parties in the first place. She would be grieving at home in private. She's an attention seeker who thrives off of people feeling sympathy for her. Tell me who the hell announces their miscarriage at someone elses party.
We all know who along with the type of people supporting this. Maybe when OP cuts them all out of her life, sis will stop having all these tragedies? At least OP will finally have moments dedicated to her.
I almost wonder if she lied about the miscarriage. If it weren't for her husband mentioning it, I'd say she was, but maybe she lied to him or he's in on it.
@@akl2k7 He asked OP to take off work to support the sister. The sister who felt well enough to go to a party needs OP to miss work for her.
@debl3063 Good point. Most normal people I've known who have had a miscarriage would stay home and grieve, not go to a party and crash it.
@@akl2k7and probably wouldn’t tell others right away
"I'm just trying to make you understand!"
Cue every other woman on the planet laughing hysterically
Story 3 - Stepdaughter 'I'm trying to make you understand that I'm on my period'...to a woman...who had her own first period at the stepdaughter's age...that bad logic
Also notice she calm down after OP order them to get out? Yeah what a brat
IDK why OP didn't get in her face and point this out to her.
😂😂😂 I am laughing at this AH girl being allowed to terrorize the whole family because she started her period. Can it be annoying? Sure. Do some women have crippling pain? Yes. Do most? No. Is it an excuse to be an AH? Nope!
Every woman that I know who has crippling pain is in too much pain to be a jerk. I put my daughter on birth control because her hormones were so bad, and her cramps were disabling. She usually just messaged me that she hurt too bad to go to school, and stayed in bed. She didn't use it as an excuse to completely disregard the family. She still bleeds and has cramps, even on birth control, but she can function now. That brat got it in her head she could behave however she wanted and blame her period. Imagine how she'll be if she gets pregnant.
Tell me yiu have a golden child without saying it. 23 year old doesn't want to work doesn't want to do chores to live at home. Wants you and her sister to pay for her to live in a apartment. Forget it.
Story one-I'm assholey enough to start hosting twice a month parties/gatherings just to see what the sister presents as her current sad story. Have a friend quietly record it, make a "woe is me" montage. 😄
Seriously though, OP should post a trusted friend to play security at any future gatherings to deny Mom, Dad & Sis access.
oh you could raise running costs for the parties by running a "sister tragedy sweepstakes"
I'm assholey (I like this word) enough to start taking bets on when and why the sister ruins OP's parties. I'd loudly ask "Who has nine minutes" or "Who bet hangnail?" OP could also announce "OK, plan B, I'm moving the party to the bar, if we hurry, we can still make the reservations"
@@rosaazure make it like a football pool in a pub. You buy squares, and when they are all sold you reveal the “scores”. The squares will include things like blocked salivary glands and now she can’t spit, washed her hair and can’t do a thing with it, got a mosquito bite and is now on a malaria watch.
@@rosaazure I´ll make a bingo board with possible excuses. A special ice cream date for every bingo.
Cold 😅😂
At this point I believe if ever OP in story 1 gets married, her sister will pretend to die right in the middle of the venue
After she would crash the wedding, no way OP would invite her willingly
Insist on being a bride's maid just so she can suddenly become "super week" and "faint" as she's walking down the isle. Then if OP doesn't cancel the whole event to be by her sister's side in the hospital then her parents will call her selfish.
She will throw herself down the stairs
Period story: that is one manipulative child. Boyfriend needs to be so for real and wake up. Being on your period sucks, but its not "get whatever i want" and "abuse everyone around me" time.
Also, bf is NOT putting his daughter first. Hes neglecting her by refusing to parent and is enabling her manipulative outbursts. Caving to tantrums and enabling their cruelty hurts your child.
Yeah as soon as she said "I'm on my period so nothing I say or do can be held against me" I knew she was milking it. Not only that, but she waited for the men to be home to start up...As in she waited for the people who don't know what its like to have one to come home.
Op is right, if she let them stay, that would be every month until daughter moved out because BF had no interest in controlling his daughter. He can be the one who deals with it, because as someone who was also once a teenage girl, it will only get much, much worse.
And OP needs to prioritize her son which she has. Diane planned to make him her punching bag. I dare she tries this in her dad’s next relationship because I see the cops getting involved.
Op should have told the girl that she's not the first woman to get her period and that she better just get used to it since she's going to have it every month for the next 30+ years. It's like, "Honey, you ain't special because you got your period. Females have been dealing with it for thousands of years."
@@jedimasters1462and they did so without Midol and menstrual cups all without going berserk and harming people around them.
or being told to just suck it up because it is the curse of Eve and you have to pay for the sins of Eve as a female
I mean, anyone with a bit of sense would know what she's doing is self-serving teenage nonsense. Unless they were raised from infancy in an all male household with no female interaction or access to the internet or media depicting women they SHOULD have learned at some point that no woman ever acted like that.
It'd be big news if almost 50% of the world's population enacted the Purge every 4 weeks or so.
i've been having periods for more than 30 years now. thankfully only about 10 more years left.
and i went to an all girls school.
nobody turns into the hulk due to their period.
What they don't tell you is your bladder will start leaking so you might as well have periods because you'll always be wearing pads.
And if someone tried, I’m pretty sure there were at least a dozen other she hulks to stop her. Being on your period doesn’t create a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.
i've honestly never heard of weaponized periods, but here we are. if she really has something going on they need to take her to the doctor(PMD? i think its called) but she also may just be a brat. heck i've had my period since i was 9 and i'm bipolar and never acted like this
I turn into Ed from that one episode of Ed Edd n Eddy when he had the rock in his shoe 😂. Quiet but deadly.
Ohhhh sweet heart, I used to be like you....dreaming of when periods stopped.... then.... came menopause and I would give everything to go back.... being menopausal can last up to a decade... im two years in and I seriously was thinking about ending it all before i started on hormones as I could no longer go on with 40 50 or some days 60 hot flashes. The moodswings are 10 worse than being premenstrual and the weight gain and the 100 other things.
I'd give anything to get through this.... and I could potentially be on this for years.... and then have a couple of normal years and then die.
Great...just great. Xxx
the day she was born her sister was diagnosed with cancer and because of this her family has no happy memories of that day? seriously?
This is what gets me
@@DemonAngel you would have to be a terrible mother and father to think that way about the day your kid was born. even though the other kid was diagnosed that day she did survive.
@@michaelautrey6641 it's sad but OP seems to have good friends. That should help.... Hopefully
I have to wonder what doctor was going to give the family that kind of news the same day the daughter was born.
@@user-wr3vt8uq4s I didnt even think of that
period story: even if it’s not true i’d just say “well i’m on my period so i can’t be held accountable for kicking you out.” make everyone realize how dumb it is to excuse violent behavior just because of a normal bodily function.
She is a zilla.
Period zilla
Bride zilla
Preagnant zilla
Entitled mom zilla
There Will be many post about her in the years to come 😉
We've stepped away from a friendship because his kid is exactly like this on her cycle. He gives her whatever it takes to make the screaming stop. They have 9 pets, lizard, dogs, pig, fish, salamander, turtle....a few other things you can just find in your yard. No cats. Surprisingly. The pig is 100lbs. The kid is an absolute terror.
Story 3: OMG you gotta be kidding. Well boyfriend you lost your relationship because you were spineless
Nah he has a spine, just will do anything to have peace
He's just a doormat for his daughter
As the OP, she should have told the brat “I go through this every single month. It doesn’t get any easier.”
Meh, I can't really blame the BF, as a guy, I can't say anything about a girl on her period. He says something, "men don't know so they can't say", and if he says the wrong things, "why do men think they can tell women what to do with their bodies." He definitely should've slapped her, that's what my Grandma did with her daughters when they got hit with puberty. And that's also what my aunts later did with my cousins, and currently my cousin's have been doing their swings with my nieces.
OP definitely should've lifted the SD by the collar, shake her like they're in a telenovela, and said that she's had them for years.
Story 2: YTA, your 23 year old daughter needs to start adulting. She needs to get a job to start supporting herself. Owe and move her back in with you till she can pay her way.
And the other kids see this and likely feel like they have no need to work hard and move out because either OP will take care of them. Or if they do work hard and move out, OP will expect them to take care of a freeloader.
I think it's funny, that she moved out because she didn't want to do her chores at her mother.
Who is doing the chores in her own appartment?
O Hell no, once I was 18...I was on my own...sheesh, the stupid young these days...
Nobody! She's probably never even there, she's out partying, trying to find a man to take care of her! So Sad!
Sis: "I'm moving out! But I don't want to work, so you'll have to pay all of my bills!"
Mom: "OK honey, just give me the total amount & I'll work something out with OP & send you the money!"
OP should give mom this post & tell her she won't get any money until she reads it All of it! Don't give her any money regardless, because OP is going to have to fund mom's golden years after she spends all of her retirement money on sis!
Don't give mom cash either, because you'll find out that she's eating crackers & sitting in the dark! Because even then she'll be giving your cash to sis😢!!!
@@marleneperry6972 the 29 year old has the same mother as the 23 year old. Clearly it's not just the parent's supportive or non supportive nature that makes productive adults.
Story 1: For OPs 16th birthday, one she spent with friends, her sister (a whole 22 year old adult) arrived at OPS FRIENDS house, uninvited.
That sister is pure evil!
@@nancyomalley6286 Sister is cancer.
Story 2: What a ridiculous mother. How to raise a completely useless adult.
Right?
I can only hope that was a troll
Cab someone really be that stupid?
I hope the mother will be broke and the golden child will dump her and everybody else goes NC
Because she changed her parenting style. smh
OP should probably give mom this post & Make her read it, "No you can not eat anything or go to sleep, until you read the whole thing & Then you are going to write a list of everything you did wrong & the results of those wrongs! Then write what you are going to do to rectify the mess You've Made!" Then tell mom that they both need therapy before it's too late! Might need therapy all around! What is this doing to the younger kids? Really it's probably too late already😢!!! OP has a good job & mom's gonna need help for herself in the near future & OP shouldn't be giving mom money to help her then find out later that mom's been living on crackers with no running water because she gives that money to the blood sucking leach! Fix it now or go NC & don't look back! The problem with that is that there are two more kids who are under age😢!!! So Sad!!!
@@sgm8265 that doesn't make her any less ridiculous.
@sgm8265 because 23 year old is her Golden Child and is 'above' the parenting style that worked
Period story: the phrase "making my life harder" says it all, the ex bf is a peacekeeper, which makes him the biggest asshole. Peacekeepers dont care about doing the right thing, they just want to avoid conflict at all costs, even if it means siding with bad people
story 2 wow tell me you have a favorite child without telling me you have a favourite child, my eldest is 24 if he ever got in financial trouble and needed help I would be there in a split second, but if he told me he DIDN'T want to work and expected me to support him I would ask him what shelter he wanted me to forward his mail to
story 1 wow OPs sister is Debbie Downer come to life
Even then Debbie Downer didn’t make announcements at people’s events. She usually made her comments in passing when others made comments. In other words, the sister is worse than Debbie Downer.
And proud of it. Yikes 😬
Waaa waaaa waaaaa.
@@piotrfagan9672
Only because the parents enable it
@@michal31131 yea, but it matter? She's a full grown adult. Op has told her that it's a problem and she shrugged it off. I'm also betting that Op's friends have mentioned it before because of the sister crashing Op's birthday party. At this point she is completely responsible for her own actions.
"as she doesn't really want to work"
This is not a reason.
S3 , Op when I got my first period ,I asked my mum for help and all I got was shown how to use sanitary pads and I went to school with a few extra pads in my school bag and told the teacher in private in case I needed to change the sanitary pad . You dodged two bullets one being his daughter who made a fuss about starting her periods and the father who enabled the behaviour .NTA periods are a bodily function in a female and every female needs to accept it as normal and keep on living .
I wouldn't get them out yet... i would wait my periode and than do the same thing as her. If he protest to my behavior you know he is a hypocrite...
And “being on my period” is not an excuse everyone will accept. It was also rich if the now ex to say that OP doesn’t understand. OP, a woman whose had many periods and has given birth, wouldn’t understand? Nah! OP understands but just won’t play into those games.
I was very young when i got my first, my mum sent a note to my (female) teacher, explaining it. And went to school with some pads and panadol!!
I was 10 when I started. My cramps were major. Mom took me to the doctor,he put me on darvocette . When I was 12, I started having massive mood swings. 1 minute, bawling. Next minute snapping. We went back to the doctor. He put me on diazepam. The darvocette and diazepam made it possible for me to survive without becoming permanently curled in a ball crying for days or my family and friends worrying that I was going to end someone.
I was so happy to get my hysterectomy.
My first period started during a holiday when we planned a family trip to a small amusement/nature park with my much younger cousins. Like, literally everyone was already in the car except my mom who´s in bathroom and me, who waited my turn to pee before we go. I suddenly felt very wet between my legs, and since there´s nobody in the house, simply pull down my pants and voila, everything was already red and dripping.
We delayed the trip for about half an hour while my mom show me how to use the pads, scrub the pants, and mop the floor. She asked me if I´m still okay to go (since I´m one of the designated babysitter), and I said yes because I didn´t feel anything at that time.
The cramps and mood swing hit about 90 minutes later while we were in the middle of the hiking trail in the park, with me having to run after the 5-years-old cousin I was assigned to watch over. I couldn´t do anything except tried to ignore it and cried on my mom´s lap at that night.
Story 2: The eldest daughter is right on the money. Get up and get working.
Btw who wants to bet the 2 youngest kids won't get a college fund because of the mooch
not taking that bet, I'm dumb but not that dumb
@@vaseline69 😂 You win the Internet for the day
Yeah I see OP going back to her previous parenting method after the outcome of child two. I see either the teens not trying so OP could look after them or block OP asap to keep from being harassed like oldest sister to support deadbeat.
mom probably wants them to get a job right out of high school to help support said mooch
I see OP “suddenly” going back to her previous parenting style with the youngest daughters. Yeah I see them blocking their mom asap so she doesn’t try to bleed them dry like their oldest sister.
OP has periods monthly too.. so she definitely knows about how it effects people and what the pampered child is doing is ridiculous! Keep them out!
I mean not necessarily. I pick my birth control specifically so I have as few periods as physically possible (I've had an implant and the pill together just to avoid them). I mean I don't actually like a raging bitch when I have them either. Its not uncommon for women not to have periods or if your on the pill to have light ones
@@julierichardson800I think op knows what having a period feels like.
@@vincentlucario5450 i can tell you that a period after 14years on hormonal birth control was 1000x worse than I remembered. I very nearly didn't have children and was extremely reluctant to have a 2nd one that's how bad I found having a proper periods. Also it's not an experience universal to all women.
@@julierichardson800 sure, but neither is claiming that women in general don’t know how periods work/feel like especially when you consider the context.
The tattoo story....I don't really blame
Op and I'm sleeved up married to a man with no tattoos. He knows I love them, I know he loves MINE but has no interest in getting any. We both know that about each other and respect it. She knows he has a strong aversion. To keep pushing it is disrespectful and tone deaf.
I feel like she was testing OP and didn’t want a tattoo. I think OP handled it well.
@@lorilancaster5917 what a stupid test if so
@@venusbleu5764 couldn’t agree more
I remember my first period. I asked my mom a couple of questions, put my underwear in the wash, and figured out how to use women’s sanitary supplies. It all probably took half an hour to sort through. I’m just shaking my head at how anyone could excuse that kind of behaviour from that girl.
"Someone hurt me, therefore it's okay to arbitrarily hurt someone who didn't because they're related to that person in some way" is a really shitty lesson to teach your child.
Also in this case it is outright bullying behavior.
"that crap may work with your father, but i am a female too and i know what a period is like. Straighten up!"
Story 3: that girl is full of crap, sometimes girls can be a bit sensitive and easily irritated, but they don’t act like this. You’ve been getting your period longer than her have you or anyone you ever known acted like this? I know it’s never happened to me or anyone I know.
I was showed how to put on a pad and my dad gave me ice cream , that’s all that happened my first time (he thought that was what you do for the first time). Also, unfortunately happened in my school uniform. So she need to stop acting like you don’t know what having a period is like, and your BF need to stop enabling her because she’s clearly faking it to get what she wants.
I didn’t even get ice cream lol or the talk about it. My mom handed me a book to read and that’s it. 🤷🏻♀️ but I can attest to this, no woman I have ever known acts like this. I do get a bit snappy and sensitive but usually I’m very apologetic afterwards. I only get snappy if I’m overstimulated.
The fact that the girl comments ‘you can’t hold anything I do against me because I’m on my period’ is amusing AF.
Girlie is going to participate in some bad behavior (worse than this crap) and then goes before a judge…
The law doesn’t give a rip about her cycle.
I am about to start, and I cried during a documentary about elephants. Lol I started for the first time before school( thank god) so my mom calmed me down.
If I want to go swimming when I'm menstruating, I go swimming. Also, everything I normally do. In most cases, it's not a disability. I hope the daughter pulls her woe-is-me crap on girls her own age. They'll shut her down real quick.
@@steffiphill She honestly need to be nipped in the bud. Before she got herself pregnant and discover the pregnant mother priviledge.
Story 1: ...those are quite some "conveniently timed" problems the sister seems to have.
My petty self would probably start making bets with my friends about the sister. "Hey, my birthday is coming up. What do you think she'll pull up this time? My money is on another cancer flare up!"
Just imagine her go on her speech only for one of the friends to go "Yes! I won!" and parade around while she expects sympathy.
I would love to see this
Who the hell taught an 11 year old to act that way? Because I really doubt she learned that by herself. Grandpa? An uncle? The rhetoric of 'women lose control on their period' usually comes from men so ex-bf needs to find out which family member did that. Unless it was him, of course.
I assume she's been watching tiktoks or something with these tropes and hasn't understood that those are exaggerated for humorous effect. To be fair on her, she is very young and clearly doesn't get any proper parenting from dad. Maybe now that he's realized his spoiling her has negative consequences for him, he'll step up.
@@tfrtrouble those videos also overdid it with overpriced ways to comfort oneself during period.
Final story. While I understand that the OP should prioritize his daughter and her wishes. He needs to sit down with his daughter and stress to her that she should not take her frustration with her mother out on an innocent third party.
Else the next thing will be having to meet with school officials regarding his daughter bullying her step brother.
That first story, if in the future OP is bulldozed into inviting her sister and parents to her wedding, she needs to provide all of her invited friends and sympathizers bingo cards. When sister inevitably makes an announcement to focus attention on her precious self, one or more people can shout BINGO.
That's perfect, I'd definitely help out with that
I bet that girl will get 2 or 3 periods every month
My mom had that and her were 'it's safer to hide behind the couch and through chocolate her way' periods but it turned out there was a medical issue and they fixed it
Luckily she doesn’t play hockey. She couldn’t handle 3 periods per night.
Who the hell tells a child that their older child had a cancer diagnosis on the day of their birth?! And if it's such a big deal, why not just celebrate the op's birthday on a different day from the very start? So it's just a family tradition to celebrate op on the weekend closest to the date?
The parents created this mess.
Period story: “she told me she was just trying to get me to understand.” I’d have told her, “sweetheart, I understand it’s something new and it doesn’t make us feel the best, but unfortunately you have to learn to continue on with it. We’re here to support you, but that doesn’t mean allowing you to treat people badly. I remember what it was like to have my first. I was on a plane, I was overheated, I was cramping really badly and I threw up. Never once did I hit, shove, or steal food off of anyone.”
Dad says to tell "Period Girl" that you also have them and you can show her what a real PMS cycle is like if she keeps her crap up. Then remind her that you threw them out when you weren't on your cycle and to think about that!
Also Dad says to design the wife"s tattoo in your handwriting, "I don't respect my husband's opinion!!!"
Jesus, I heard of Weaponized incompetence but never Weaponized periods. That excuses going to get her so far in real world.
“I can’t be charged for a crime because I’m on my freaking period.”
Story 2: Hmmm, I wonder if OP has a favorite child? A child that she coddles and shields from all of the cruelties of adult life. A child that she's willing to throw her other children under the bus to support. You know, I think she does and it's the 23 year old. And as long she continues to treat the grown a$$ woman like the spoiled brat she is, she'll ALWAYS be the AH.
YTA.
Story 3: Ok, the daughter was pressing her luck after what she did with the OP's son and all the other stuff too. Seriously, the OP is better off without those people.
Story 1: really, every single milestone you had, she would jet so happen to have something bad happened to her? Especially your 16th birthday, she’s seriously ran to the party your friends planned for you to let you and all of them know about something that happened three weeks earlier? Why didn’t she say anything three weeks ago when it was taking place? Also, when you mentioned her husband came up to you are we talking about the same person that left her when they were engaged?
Even if there’s a chance, some of these things are true I don’t believe for one second they’re all true. You sit there doing this on purpose and maybe it’s about time you celebrate it without your family so for once you can enjoy yourself without worrying about your sister ruining it.
#2: OP is an AH.
Your daughter is not responsible for helping her lazy sister.
"She's too lazy to work, so don't buy a house and give her the money instead, or you are being selfish."
Words spoken by an abusive mother to her scapegoat daughter so that Golden Child can laze about all she wants!
Story 3: NTA, she was trying to see what she could get away with, and your BF let her get away with whatever she wanted to do. If you didn't kick them out, it would have just kept getting worst.
Story 4: sounds more like your her excuse to not get a tattoo. She knows you don’t like it, but you made it clear you’re not going to stop her and she can do whatever she wants with her body. That is a very mature and appropriate response given how you feel about tattoos, and yet that’s not enough for her. You have to design the tattoo for her otherwise you’re preventing her from getting it? I don’t buy it.
If she really wanted a tattoo, would she just get it, probably with something already in mind. Ask her why do you have to be involved in the process for her to get one she knows you don’t like them, and I already told her you’d be fine if she got one?
A study done in Sweden, where they tracked thousands of people with and without tats over decades, has revealed that people with tats developed lymphoma cancer at a noticably greater rate than those without. Think about that before getting inked.
It sounds like she wants to slowly change ops stance on it by slowly goading him into liking tattoos
also if she is not sure what she wants yet why not get those washable ones
@@velvety2006 Yup, try before you buy. What if she finds she can't tolerate the needle for the 15-30 minutes (or more)? Being left with a partial is even worse.
@@user-wr3vt8uq4s what if she gets one and she hates it within a few months? removal is pretty expensive from what i understand
parents raised a golden child attention seeking monster when OP finally goes NC is she going to ruin her own children's achievements because how dare they take attention away from her honestly though I'd be scared for them I've seen too many crime stories where the wife get's jealous of her children and kills them
there's another story like this but a somewhat good ending adopted sis finally hurt herself enough to be committed and the family finally tired of her BS called out the parents who still didn't care
First Story: when asked why she left the party, OP just accurately point out sister's husband told her All Non Family Should Leave, so she complied, clearly not being family enough for anyone even to notice she'd left...
I've been having a period since I was 12. And though there are moments I've acted like a monster. After letting my Mom see/hear this. I was an Angel compared to this Spawn of Satan....I think Satan wouldn't even claim her.
Last story. Epic revenge of a little girl. I love it. Now the day of the party her own mother that sounds like she wasn't coming to the party has to stay at home and listen to a crying child. Lol
So you are glad that the boy is crying?
Really?
And that last comment was a 🤦 moment. The birthday is already revolving around the stepbrother, and nobody is making it that way except the birthday girl.
@@blindbrad4719I totally agree with not inviting him. For one she won't want to see her own mother who should be hosting dropping off her new kid or not being there at all, both are likely hurtful and to top it off she would have to be around the kid that's just stole her life. It sucks for the kid but it's entirely his new step mums making. Where was the mother's anguish when it was her own tears at no longer being welcome with her more than token weekends so she can focus on her new family?
Hurting an innocent party to get back at someone who’s wrong you is an epic it’s petty. Hopefully OP gets his daughter into therapy so she can learn to not punish people had nothing to do with the problem.
@@engiskar7895 I mean he's a pawn but I can't blame the girl for not wanting him there. Why should she 'be the bigger person' here. Where was her mum's concerns when she was undoubtedly crying about being dropped for this kid? So yeah it's not the kids fault but he absolutely shouldn't be at the party.
S2. Is OP serious? How can she not think that she is the ahole. At 23 the girl is an adult. She needs to get a job. This is just, wow.
No way she showed up at YOUR party to announce her loss ? wtf is wrong with her ? Sounds like NPD
Last: "I did right by my daughter on her birthday."
The girl on her period yep I acted like the father and now I don’t talk to my daughter because she falsely accused me of starting a physical fight with her and I went to jail just got off probation the 29th she’s a narcissist
I have adenomyosis a form of endometriosis. My periods are HORRIBLE. Painful, heavy, you name it.
I have NEVER treated people the way that girl treated OP, her son, and her dad. Not even when I had my first. NTA
Story 1: honestly OP get away from them as soon as you can your sister has turned every celebration involving you into Pity Parties for herself it's like she has no personality beyond "oh woe is me" and your parents just keep enabling her, proof is the fact when OP's friends threw OP a party that the sister showed up uninvited and kept fishing for pity by only telling sad stories. the fact no one missed OP for 2 hours is another point against her she could have made that announcement at any time but specifically chose a time to get attention away from OP and on herself and she has nerve saying OP was "cold" when she clearly can live without the pity attention anymore.
Story 2: got to stop holding their hand eventually and trust me the only reason the 23-year-old doesn't want to work is likely because you have handed her everything on a silver plate and her mentality has become "why would i work when Mom takes care of everything" you've created a leech who doesn't even have to work to stay attached to her victim.
Story 3: the kid was clearly milking the first monthlies for all it's worth and Dad not knowing how to handle it just gave in to all her demands instead of seeing
Story 4: her body her choice but she needs to realize there may be unintended consequences doing something her partner hates
Story 2--the OP lost me when they wrote "We have to spend lots of money her so she can afford her life as she doesn't really want to work." What is WRONG with these parents? MAKE HER GET A FREAKING JOB OR BE HOMELESS, DAMMIT!!! Why they're shrugging their shoulders and supporting this lazy leech I just can't understand.
Seriously, there aren't enough expletives to emote how angry and annoyed I am at these parents. And there are teen daughters still in the house observing what happens. What the hell is OP gonna do if THEY decide they just wanna mooch off mom the rest of their lives, since the 23 year old is allowed to? The universe help us; stupidity like this will smother us all long before the sun explodes!
A teen telling a woman with a child that she was just trying to make her understand what it was like having a first period? Is there an equivalent to mansplaining called teensplaining? If her first period was truly that painful she didn't need chili and ice cream, she needed an emergency OB/GYN appointment.
Story 2. YTA. Why the heck should your oldest support your youngest? Your youngest is 23 years old. High time she gets out and gets a dang job. Quit babying her. Nobody likes to work but everybody has to. It's called life.
I had hellish periods. I was in pain, moody, huge mood swings, my whole body was not doing what it was supposed to and i was practically bl33ding to d3ath. I never acted out to my siblings and i was rude i apoligized. My family knew and never held it against me but thats because i actually was just a regular teen with heavy periods. Not some manipulative monster who only thought of herself.
Daughter is a nightmare and believe me when i say, shell be put down a few pegs if shed ever dare to act like that at school. Schools will usually understand that you miss a few days when you first had your period but they will not tolerate you missing a whole week of school every month for the rest of your school days. And no boss will put up with it either and youll get fired. 😂
I think period stepmom made the right decision to end the relationship, but the petty part of me kinda wished she waited til her next period and then acted in the the same ridiculous way to see how boyfriend and stepdaughter liked it.
She's clearly been watching movies/tiktoks or something with "watch out, always pander to your gf when she's on her period if you value your life!" tropes and doesn't realize this is humor/exaggerated for effect. It would obviously not be workable for every woman in the world to turn into an entitled out-of-control toddler 1 week out of every 4. It would really do her good to understand that being violent to her brother and throwing huge tantrums while on her period is just as unacceptable as she'd find her mom/stepmom/teacher yelling at her and cancelling outings and unreasonably punishing her when they're on their periods.
I had a friend whose sister died at 15 in a car crash on his birthday and they never celebrated it after. That at least is a major traumatic event, a cancer diagnosis if it hadn't been that exact day so it's memorable I doubt they would even remember. Like why are they not remembering happy moments like remission as a family instead of focusing on such a negative.
So your mother as just given birth to you, and a medical practitioner decides that is the perfect time to announce that her first born as cancer,who in their right mind thinks that is the perfect time to break such news? tbh I wonder if the sister is actually sick of it the parents are as much of the attention seekers as the golden child, because 24 years is a very long time to not succumb to this dreadful disease, I speak as someone who as lost over 30 family members to it!
Story #1 Too bad it never occurred to OP's parents that they have severely failed their kids, OP more than her sister.
i hope she does not invite her sis and parent to her wedding. they will destroy it if given the chance
“No happy memories” gee thanks family. Ass!
Who announces a loss at a party let alone someone else’s party ? That’s insanity.
Just imagine what the sister would do if her cat got the hiccups. Gasp. Clutch my pearls. The mind boggles.
Story 3 NTA: I wonder if the girl learned it from her mother and that's why the BF is divorced.
I had the same thought. It seems like the most logical reason for that nonsense.
St-1. NTA. Your sister is an an attention seeker. Celebrate your birthday with your friends stop inviting your family, she has them wrap around her fingers, it’s too much!
Story 1: NTA. Let’s assume everything that has happened to your Sister is 100% true. This still doesn’t need to be said at your party. She can afford to have a tragic life in the company of her immediate family alone.
But that takes the fun out of ruining OP's celebrations, doesn't it?
S1. Next birthday keep your mouth closed. Spoiled sis can't ruin the party if she doesn't know there is one. Or, go somewhere as far away as you can. Then tell your family the party is happening at a different place that's in the opposite direction & takes a couple of hours to get to. Then shut off your phone & ask the others to shut theirs too. By the time they realize that they can't find where you are it'll be too late to crash the real party. Good luck
I am pretty sure the oldest daughter didn't get $25 thousand when she moved away.
The second story….. I’d disown the mother..
First sister is entitled and suffering main character syndrome. just insane
The parents created a narcissistic monster!
Story 2: tell me who the Golden Child is without telling me who the Golden Child is. This mother is insane, I'm surprised she hasn't enlisted the two younger daughters to get part-time jobs to help the 23yo because...faammillyy!!
As someone who has suffered PMDD (PMS on steroids) since my first period, I literally screamed and cried i couldn't find the dress i wanted to wear to school that morning, I had to learn to not abuse people and my behavior wasn't excused just because of my hormones. Get her hormones checked and put her on birth control. It helps. A LOT
Tattoo story: it doesnt sound like your wife genuinely wants a tattoo, bc she has no idea what art she wants. I think this is some kind of power struggle. If she actually wants the tattoo for the art, and not to prove a point to you, then good. But as it is, it sounds like shes trying to prove something.
Shes trying to change him, first it will be helping design one, then another, then get op to get a small tattoo, then another cuz he was already involved with 3, whats another small one etc etc
She should get a temp tattoo, just so that she can change her mind
Story 3: What does the father think a period is? Does he think she's terminally ill? Seeing what a spineless idiot he is, we can probably guess how she became such a brat before OP met her. She was likely spoiled rotten whenever she had a boo boo because the dad is too weak and lazy to actually parent her.
The Only Reason why OP is TA is because after all she went through she still wanted to seek approval from them at all. Leave them all and begin a new family and new friends and a new life without them
My wife has Endometriosis, talking about periods with her makes her laugh because hers have always been erratic and weird. I cant imagine a kid coming up and telling her "you dont know what im going through"
Tattoo story: tattoos are very personal, to my way of thinking. I'm later 40s. I got my first tattoo last year, and it is in remembrance of my dad. My husband got a tattoo to symbolize everyone important in his life, and he really loves it, but I'm not as fond of the item that represents me. But it isn't on my body. He likes it, and I have moved on.
My stepdad died on my niece’s 10th birthday. That day was terrible and her birthday obviously was not celebrated, however, we made up for it the following year and since then, no one mentions my stepdad on that day. We all mourn out of her sight, when we have the opportunity.
Last story: OP should have told Ex that if they knew how much their child has cried because parent is ignoring her.. and If the parent doesn’t care how much the child has cried for the lost parent relationship then OP doesn’t give twi shits about the stepchild..
It would be so fitting if when op's parents get old and the golden daughter is too busy to help them, OP tells them to go pound sand.
Yta. Why does your oldest have to fund your second child. If the 2nd doesn't want to go to college, fine. It isnt for everyone. But she still needs to pay her own way. Even if that way is to a trailer park. She was handed over 20k and blew it. She could have bought a small house, but didn't. Time for her to grow up. Lmao ask her to get a part time job. No, she needs to get a full-time job.
3. NTI. This child is being taught to behave badly for a normal human function. No one needs to learn to navigate her bodily functions except her. She wants to act like that and her dad wants to support it, they can get the heck out.
29 year old doesn't want to pay $2k a year, but will pay $500 a month? Umm... i cant believe shed pay anything but that is.$6k a year as opposed to $2k.
She probably thought the mom said $2k a Month
13:07 how psychotic they are???? That calls coming from inside the house.
Story 1: I really don't understand families like OP's. I love my sisters too much to do anything like that to them and they would never do that to me. Its really easy to be happy for and proud of people you love.
Some parents are just idiots. You support a 23yrs's life while they sit at home doing nothing at all. What kind of parenting is this? I hope no one helps these idiots
S2 no. I wouldnt help a sibling who doesnt work. The op is CLEARLY favoring the golden child to the point she's willing to burn the other child to keep it going. Its not selfish, its insane
As for the period story... maybe the father simply has no idea what he's supposed to be doing? Because that's what it sounds like to me, he doesn't know what to do and has taken the 'just do it to keep the peace' response
Wow that kid needs to get some education on periods. And bf needs to grow a spine and take parenting classes. Get them out of your life too
It took them TWO HOURS to notice??
You have new family and your friends. Go no contact with the awful people who regret your being born. Sister either had a loss some time ago and waited to announce it then or was insane enough to go to a party moments after her loss. Either way there was no need for her to be there or announce there. She wants attention.
Story #2: the eldest child is TA for even thinking about giving the younger child a single penny. The 23 year old is spending all her money on a "Tyrone or Chad", mark my words
3rd story. NTA periods do NOT give anyone child or otherwise a free pass, to be abusive, or entitled or the right to dictate to others to cater their days around her period. I had nasty periods growing up and as an adult. I never treated others like this. She needs to get over herself. and people need to stop enabling her unacceptable behavior!!! You dodged a bullet OP. The BF is enabling awful behavior and it's only get worse.
Story 2: Mom is the a-hole. The #2 daughter is the freeloader and the selfish one.
And the Golden Child! 👸
Nta. Starting your period doesn't give you permission to start abusing ppl. She might just find herself bleeding from other places besides down there if she attacks the wrong person. Courts won't care what time of the month it is when she gets arrested for assault.
When he sister showed up in the first story she should have been kicked out of the party
2-YTA. It’s time for her to start adulting😒
1st story:
OP should invite everyone for a big announcement and say that she is pregnant
As soon as sister "remembers another one of her recent tragedies" she should just tell them it was a prank and she wanted to see if sister will ruin yet another of her milestones
Then just go no contact
Years later she should contact them on a random day and tell them the good news: she is with child
As soon as the sister starts with her newest grievance, she can tell them oh what good luck because I got married X years ago on (date) and my child was born on (date from months ago). So fortunately my happy news do not overlap with your sad news - I already thought my happiness was causing your problems
After this back to no contact