She doesn't want to quit drinking. Before you can help anyone, they need to come to terms with their issues and agree they have an issue. SHE IS NOT THERE YET!
Even though she rejected the help, you planted some seeds of hope and help in her mind and heart. You've probably ruined her future drinking because she'll remember every time and hear your voice and your offer in her head. I hope that one day soon, she'll be ready.
Sergei, I know she was somewhat angry at you. It's okay. She got embarrassed because something she thought she was hiding is brought out wide open now & the veil was lifted. Don't give up on her. We will pray for her. Another great story. God Bless
Of course I'd be embarrassed too if it was me! I know Sergei was only trying to help. But there on the internet for the whole world to see! I understand her being angry, but it's to her credit that she calmed down and was friendly after.
Noone likes getting called out but perhaps with all of us praying and her family confronting the behavior, she's not going to drink the same without thinking about it.
Thank you for helping them and taking the son soon for glasses. The Mom may not change, but I would get her the wallpaper and it will help open up more positive dialogue with her. Don't give up , you might get surprised.
You offered, step back, I know you are concerned about these nice chilldren. The mom has some tough decisions. She may never make the right choice, only time will tell. Remember hate the disease not the person. This woman was someone's child at some point. I pray for her.
The drinking culture in Russia is so embedded and considered normal, so it’s hard to get them to change. It’s very different to the rest of the world. Vodka seems almost as normal to drink as water..
@@VioletJoy it’s extremely sad. To me the absolute worst part is all the children born with fetal alcohol syndrome . Many of them get neglected and die or develop more brain damage due to neglect. Lots of the orphanages are horrible and the conditions children with mental disability live in are horrid , the children rarely live past 20 years old in those places . And still the Russian government has stopped all, or almost all possibility for adoption to other countries. Just breaks my heart😔
@malina1239 How absolutely gut-wrenching. Nothing is sadder to me than children being mistreated or hurt. I just don't understand why addicts have children. If nothing else, it's harder on their own lives, so why have them? The children start their lives 100 steps backwards. 💔
It's sad that she declined the treatment for her alcohol dependency. But at least she did not beg for money. Just asked for some wallpaper to make the place look better and to bring her son to an optometrist to check his eyes out. She's showing signs she still has some interest in the well being of her family and not at the point where she wants just the bottle. There's still some hope with this one. Hopefully one day she feels ready to fight off the alcohol demon and ask for treatment.
Sergie, this woman is not ready to give up the alcohol. She seems so angry about something. Maybe it is something in her past. Her mother and father maybe had the same problem. She will do it on her own good time if she really want to. The father was so pleased with his gifts as were the children. You have shown them there is kindness out there. Well done once again. You amaze me every time.
Hopefully the mother gets help she is starting to warm up to you. 🙏 i pray that the car bring them joy and help with better finances. I pray the mother get help 🙏
Some people can't see it. In themselves. She doesn't feel guilty. !!! . Husband so So happy with Car. ...more independence. ...She builds a wall around her. Shame she doesn't want go to clinic. Only thinking about her self. Good luck to Hubby and Children🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
The biggest misconception about alcoholism is they drink every day and have to have it. The. DSM 5 criteria states: legal issues, family issues, financial, behavioral health. She is very typical of denial. She's maintaining that she can control it. Yet all her interpersonal relationships are in shambles. 😢
Recovery is not for those who NEED it, but for those who WANT it. As long as her husband remains co-dependent with her, she has no need to change. And, if nothing changes, nothing changes. 😢
Everyone else has said it all! Also, the children love him because they know kindness from the heart! Just like animals know! Also,your English is awesome! Be well
Hi from Chicago. Just discovered your channel, and I'm watching every episode. Some of us, Americans, greatly admire the Russian people and applaud work like yours! I apologize for what our politicians have done over the decades. Trying to learn true history of Russian people--not so easy. You are sunshine and fresh air. God bless you.
The woman is in denial. Her family doesn't argue, she does. When her family leaves her, she will play the victim. Thank you Team Vasya for what you do for these families ❤️🕊️🙏
Yes. The old..I can quit whenever I want to is the classic sign. Just sad knowing she drinks then wants to fight with everyone. Alcoholics can turn into the most selfish people. Making everyone's lives around them difficult. Such cruelty.
Sergei your offer to not give the wife something makes sense. It is always best to deal with reality than to pretend that something is normal or acceptable! I applaud your wise gifts and your thinking things out, as you try and help people! More power to you! 😍
Thank you sharing your this Video. May be the mom is not aware about her situation and she need more time to accept your help. We viewer respect her but also hope she overcome her drinking. I wish the family you help the best. And you please share your Video with us.
I have seen too many times people who do need help say they can do it on their own. I think it was wrong of her to get angry because you were being very respectful and just wanted to help. I am glad she talked with you and I don't dislike her. I just don't want her to feel judged, but I wish she would have gotten help. It's obviously hurting her in her life, even if she doesn't drink everyday. I have known many people who are sober for weeks, but still alcohol destroys their life. If your children, family, and husband are telling you to stop, you have to stop.
Such beautiful family, clearly this beautiful woman who is caught under the spell of alcohol needs assistance to find her path, it is incredible how she does not understand the impact of the habit has on the people she loves the most.
You handled the situation with the mother very well. She’s obviously in denial. Speaking about her addiction seems to have made her angry. You were very patient and listened to what she had to say. Well done The Dad and kids really loved their gifts!! This may be my favorite trick so far... The metal detector and The car!! “Let’s go look over there...” 🚙👀
Maybe the wife drinks to cope with not having any space! Its such an important thing in relationships to have ones own space and not do everything together otherwise it can be suffocating. Having space brings freshness to the relationship. I wish them all well and that the denial is broken through! The children are very well mannered its nice to see. Greetings from Aus
Alcohol like any drug affects the brain, affects our thinking, our attitude, our beliefs and ideas slowly over time. So slowly that we do not notice the changes happening but others around us can see its progression, but we ourselves cannot. We believe that we have control over this drug when we use it, we can leave it at anytime we choose, that the people around us are the ones at fault. Most addicted people can only see this when they have lost everything and that they are alone by themselves.
Something you do Sergei that is not to be underestimated is to show the world that there are still good people out there. We see too much negativity these days. Not only are you helping individuals in need but you are setting the good example and spreading happiness to many. Good luck to you.
Why is the Mother mad? Public humiliation via internet. She merits compassion no matter her problems. Imagine having one's dirty laundry held out for examination to the world wide web.
Thank you for your generosity to this family. I think the hangover symptoms the mother was describing are called the DTs -- delirium tremens -- and maybe if she realizes that's what she is experiencing she will be more apt to accept help. You did all you can to present the help you're offering, but she must take the final step herself to accept and admit she needs the help and has no power over alcohol. Only then will she be ready to make the change.
Yes, as others have said. It’s good you took the time to talk to her and listen to her. She is in denial, but your talk could possibly help. You were able to walk that fine line between kind and caring, but not believing all she says. You are giving her help by helping her kids and husband. Kindness is never wrong, and it can help in small and large ways.
Sadly alcohol is her master. It’s the first thing she thinks about in the morning and the last thing she drinks at night. Denial is her fear of life without the drink. She has to get help or she will die. Period.
Hopefully she will see that she needs help Step one.. Maybe show her some videos of adults talking about how being raised by an alcoholic has affected them negatively,even after they grew up and tried to start their own lives?
Yes, I noticed and said aloud the EXACT same thing you then said in the video - she never asked anything for herself ... she asked for her son's eyesight. That tells you she's not rotten inside - so believe her or simply ask the boy. Thanks for all your goodnesses.
What a creative way to gift the truck!!!!. The wife is in denial about her alcohol addiction. You don't have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. She probably needs to go get treatment
You gave the father some much needed help, you gave the kids some much needed joy, you gave the mother some great advice. I had just wished you had got that sweet little dog off of that short chain. That’s not how you treat an animal. Thank you for all that you do.
If you know your drinking causes problems, but you can stop anytime, the fact that you don't, means you don't WANT to stop. Whether she can or not seems irrelevant, as she simply doesnt want to, and life hasn't gotten bad enough to inspire change.
Huge life changer for this family. Overwhelmed by your kindness. Thank you for helping this family. Mother doesn't want help and is only thinking about herself. Sad the whole family has to suffer through this. Very sad.
She doesn't want to quit drinking. Before you can help anyone, they need to come to terms with their issues and agree they have an issue. SHE IS NOT THERE YET!
She won't get THERE by herself....she needs someone to help her to get self reflection.
Sad for the children. Another dysfunctional family. No Contact ... Best.
However she told him about the tremors and no alcoholic ever admits that unless they know deep inside they are sick.
Drinking helps to drown your
Sorrows, the abject Poverty
and Hopelessness.
her father warned the husband prior to marriage its not the drink its the woman. notice how she dresss up for the cameras or men
You have the kindest heart, Sergei. The world needs so many more of you.
We shurley do!
Even though she rejected the help, you planted some seeds of hope and help in her mind and heart. You've probably ruined her future drinking because she'll remember every time and hear your voice and your offer in her head. I hope that one day soon, she'll be ready.
Fact
Alkolic need MESSAGE of hope everyday.
You are right.
You showed her love and caring give the seed time..
You’re right.
Sergei, I know she was somewhat angry at you. It's okay. She got embarrassed because something she thought she was hiding is brought out wide open now & the veil was lifted.
Don't give up on her. We will pray for her. Another great story. God Bless
Of course I'd be embarrassed too if it was me! I know Sergei was only trying to help. But there on the internet for the whole world to see! I understand her being angry, but it's to her credit that she calmed down and was friendly after.
Noone likes getting called out but perhaps with all of us praying and her family confronting the behavior, she's not going to drink the same without thinking about it.
Yep.
Yes, I will pray as well for her! 😘🇨🇦
@@tinahale9252 She won't stop drinking, I come from an alcoholic family. I have no pity for alcoholics that ruin the lives of their family!
Ok she drinks or not,but as you said,Sergey,she asked something very important for her child not for her.I just like this!
Thank you for helping them and taking the son soon for glasses. The Mom may not change, but I would get her the wallpaper and it will help open up more positive dialogue with her. Don't give up , you might get surprised.
Right on. She's sick not hopeless
The wallpaper will show you want the best for her.
Try to support with her requests don't encourage anymore treatment for her dependency. Her son is slowly walking out the door.
Totally agree
3.7 have watched this but only 1.1 of you have hit the like button. Every little bit helps please hit thumbs up. Thank you
Don't forget the wallpaper for her daughter's room!
Sergei, it was wonderful to see the smile on the fathers face compared to the last video you did with him.
I love how warm your heart is, don't ever change.
He could never change. It is in his DNA. His father and mother taught him really well.
My grandfather died at 49 from alcohol. It is poison
I hope she can get help and enjoy her kids while they are still young.
My daddy died at 49 from alcohol. I saw this age and it struck me.. same age that my daddy died. He had Cirrhosis of the liver from drinking.
POOR POOR DOG TIED UP. HOPING YOU WILL ALSO HELP THE DOGGIE WITH FOOD n FREEDOM n TEACH THEM HOW TO TAKE CARE OF IT. THANKS N BLESS YOU
The Mother looked happy when the children were opening their presents.
I had hoped she was happy for them
Unfortunately my first thought was..oh no..will she sell their gifts for alcohol..? 😒
You offered, step back, I know you are concerned about these nice chilldren. The mom has some tough decisions. She may never make the right choice, only time will tell. Remember hate the disease not the person. This woman was someone's child at some point. I pray for her.
When did he imply he "hated" her🤦♀️
Omg I thought you hid the keys not whole car🤣
They all say that they can quit drinking anytime they want to. But they never do. You can ask them to prove it, but they can’t.
The drinking culture in Russia is so embedded and considered normal, so it’s hard to get them to change.
It’s very different to the rest of the world. Vodka seems almost as normal to drink as water..
@@malina1239I've noticed that alcoholism seems very prevalent there, which is very sad. 😢
@@VioletJoy it’s extremely sad. To me the absolute worst part is all the children born with fetal alcohol syndrome . Many of them get neglected and die or develop more brain damage due to neglect.
Lots of the orphanages are horrible and the conditions children with mental disability live in are horrid , the children rarely live past 20 years old in those places .
And still the Russian government has stopped all, or almost all possibility for adoption to other countries.
Just breaks my heart😔
@malina1239 How absolutely gut-wrenching. Nothing is sadder to me than children being mistreated or hurt. I just don't understand why addicts have children. If nothing else, it's harder on their own lives, so why have them? The children start their lives 100 steps backwards. 💔
It's sad that she declined the treatment for her alcohol dependency. But at least she did not beg for money. Just asked for some wallpaper to make the place look better and to bring her son to an optometrist to check his eyes out. She's showing signs she still has some interest in the well being of her family and not at the point where she wants just the bottle. There's still some hope with this one. Hopefully one day she feels ready to fight off the alcohol demon and ask for treatment.
I don't think so!
Sergie, this woman is not ready to give up the alcohol. She seems so angry about something. Maybe it is something in her past. Her mother and father maybe had the same problem. She will do it on her own good time if she really want to.
The father was so pleased with his gifts as were the children. You have shown them there is kindness out there. Well done once again. You amaze me every time.
Hopefully the mother gets help she is starting to warm up to you. 🙏 i pray that the car bring them joy and help with better finances. I pray the mother get help 🙏
the mom was lying, but i think she is trying. she s a very proud person with possibly lots of hurt. she will come through!
Some people can't see it. In themselves. She doesn't feel guilty. !!! .
Husband so So happy with Car. ...more independence. ...She builds a wall around her. Shame she doesn't want go to clinic. Only thinking about her self. Good luck to Hubby and Children🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
The biggest misconception about alcoholism is they drink every day and have to have it. The. DSM 5 criteria states: legal issues, family issues, financial, behavioral health. She is very typical of denial. She's maintaining that she can control it. Yet all her interpersonal relationships are in shambles. 😢
Recovery is not for those who NEED it, but for those who WANT it. As long as her husband remains co-dependent with her, she has no need to change. And, if nothing changes, nothing changes. 😢
Oh Sergei you are an angel ❤❤
You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. ❤
Exactly. In the meantime, the rest of the family is suffering. Gena is very loyal to her. I'm not so sure that's what's best for them.
You can show them unconditional love and non judgemental attitude
Throwing light on her illness. Well done
I love that you do God's work. :-)
Everyone else has said it all! Also, the children love him because they know kindness from the heart! Just like animals know! Also,your English is awesome! Be well
Ok. You’ve got me in tears now. You are the kindest man. I’m speechless.
Dear Sergei,
Love to you❤❤❤❤❤
I think she was being very nice.
This poor woman has lied so much, she believes it and hides behind it. So sad. I wish her the best. Freedom
If you keep working with her in time, she may come to admit what is happening and with yours and others help change the course of her life.
Hi from Chicago. Just discovered your channel, and I'm watching every episode. Some of us, Americans, greatly admire the Russian people and applaud work like yours! I apologize for what our politicians have done over the decades. Trying to learn true history of Russian people--not so easy. You are sunshine and fresh air. God bless you.
👍👍👋🙏
Agree 👍
❤❤❤❤ wonderful things you and your Papa do ❤
The woman is in denial. Her family doesn't argue, she does. When her family leaves her, she will play the victim. Thank you Team Vasya for what you do for these families ❤️🕊️🙏
Yes. The old..I can quit whenever I want to is the classic sign. Just sad knowing she drinks then wants to fight with everyone. Alcoholics can turn into the most selfish people. Making everyone's lives around them difficult. Such cruelty.
I totally agree, I have bad vibes towards her.
I do hope she stops drinking for her husband and children but most of all for herself
Sergei your offer to not give the wife something makes sense. It is always best to deal with reality than to pretend that something is normal or acceptable!
I applaud your wise gifts and your thinking things out, as you try and help people!
More power to you! 😍
Thank you sharing your this Video. May be the mom is not aware about her situation and she need more time to accept your help. We viewer respect her but also hope she overcome her drinking. I wish the family you help the best. And you please share your Video with us.
Human kindness, overflowing....
Everyone can change but some need to hit rock bottom, bedrock for some is the catalyst, great things you guys do for others ♥️love n blessings.
Some just need love and non judgemental conversation. Amazing how kindness goes so much further than meanesd and blame
I love the gifts for the little ones
So nice for the gentleman to get the car. He’ll use it well. ❤️🇨🇦
I was waiting for an update on this family!
It's the last episode.
@@granuja9776 😔
You are very kind thank you Sergei 😊
Please take the youngest boy to the eye clinic. I thought in the first video that something wasn't right with his eyes.
I’m addicted to this channel. ❤❤
I like your sense of humor and your generosity
Sergei, there must be something good in that mother otherwise the husband wouldn't stay with her or leave the kids with her.
I have seen too many times people who do need help say they can do it on their own. I think it was wrong of her to get angry because you were being very respectful and just wanted to help. I am glad she talked with you and I don't dislike her. I just don't want her to feel judged, but I wish she would have gotten help. It's obviously hurting her in her life, even if she doesn't drink everyday. I have known many people who are sober for weeks, but still alcohol destroys their life. If your children, family, and husband are telling you to stop, you have to stop.
Such beautiful family, clearly this beautiful woman who is caught under the spell of alcohol needs assistance to find her path, it is incredible how she does not understand the impact of the habit has on the people she loves the most.
From the Great Southern Land. Thank you for this channel. It's one of the few on youtube that's uplifting. May the Lord Bless you. Royce.
What "great southern land??"
@@Tryagain563Australia ? I’m guessing
The big problem of addiction is the denial.
You handled the situation with the mother very well. She’s obviously in denial. Speaking about her addiction seems to have made her angry. You were very patient and listened to what she had to say.
Well done
The Dad and kids really loved their gifts!!
This may be my favorite trick so far...
The metal detector and The car!!
“Let’s go look over there...”
🚙👀
amazing work my friend!!!
god bless you sergei!
Love from Kolkata ( India)❤❤❤
Yes! I think this is the best gift. Surgery is complicated, time consuming ie $$. Thank you guys!
Maybe the wife drinks to cope with not having any space! Its such an important thing in relationships to have ones own space and not do everything together otherwise it can be suffocating. Having space brings freshness to the relationship. I wish them all well and that the denial is broken through! The children are very well mannered its nice to see. Greetings from Aus
That's not why. I'm thinking he watches over her because she gets herself into trouble.
Your videos fill my heart with joy, God bless you !
Alcohol like any drug affects the brain, affects our thinking, our attitude, our beliefs and ideas slowly over time. So slowly that we do not notice the changes happening but others around us can see its progression, but we ourselves cannot. We believe that we have control over this drug when we use it, we can leave it at anytime we choose, that the people around us are the ones at fault. Most addicted people can only see this when they have lost everything and that they are alone by themselves.
You guys are the best. I appreciate you for all you do ❤
Something you do Sergei that is not to be underestimated is to show the world that there are still good people out there. We see too much negativity these days. Not only are you helping individuals in need but you are setting the good example and spreading happiness to many. Good luck to you.
From the bottom of my heart, I thank and bless you.
Why is the Mother mad? Public humiliation via internet. She merits compassion no matter her problems. Imagine having one's dirty laundry held out for examination to the world wide web.
Thank you, great attitude. ❤
None of my actions would I be embarrassed of being told to anyone. Don't do it if you can't own it.
Yes her feelings should definitely be more important than the well being of her children 🙄 touch grass
Trust your instincts toward the mother , you have good judgement .
people dependant on alcohol don't only lie to others they lie to themselves also
Thank you for your generosity to this family. I think the hangover symptoms the mother was describing are called the DTs -- delirium tremens -- and maybe if she realizes that's what she is experiencing she will be more apt to accept help. You did all you can to present the help you're offering, but she must take the final step herself to accept and admit she needs the help and has no power over alcohol. Only then will she be ready to make the change.
You did good ❤
Thank you! You deserve much more views!
Your completly right about the mother.
Yes, as others have said. It’s good you took the time to talk to her and listen to her. She is in denial, but your talk could possibly help. You were able to walk that fine line between kind and caring, but not believing all she says. You are giving her help by helping her kids and husband. Kindness is never wrong, and it can help in small and large ways.
Such an amazing gesture. Even the wife came around . I’m sure this will be of great (ell to this family.
You did right. She does not see her need🙁 it’s sad the children need her. I hope she never gets the keys to the car.
She’s still their mother of course her children need her
Sadly alcohol is her master. It’s the first thing she thinks about in the morning and the last thing she drinks at night. Denial is her fear of life without the drink. She has to get help or she will die. Period.
i click like button even before i see video! hahaha
Always❤😂
Blessings to you Sergei!! ❤🙏
You are so kind to all of them.
Hopefully she will see that she needs help
Step one..
Maybe show her some videos of adults talking about how being raised by an alcoholic has affected them negatively,even after they grew up and tried to start their own lives?
Yes, I noticed and said aloud the EXACT same thing you then said in the video - she never asked anything for herself ... she asked for her son's eyesight. That tells you she's not rotten inside - so believe her or simply ask the boy. Thanks for all your goodnesses.
Thank you for helping this family, and even that little dog appreciates your kindness 🙏💖 Hod bless you and keep you safe wherever you go....
Beautiful!
God job bless u👍👍👏
I hope Luda realised that you only want to help her. I wish her good luck ❤
Great video!
As i promised I will watch all your adds; God Bless ❤️
What a creative way to gift the truck!!!!. The wife is in denial about her alcohol addiction. You don't have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. She probably needs to go get treatment
Trying to FORCE someone to fix their alcohol problem is not the right approach.
Your so kind hearted Sergei , Godbless you
never trust words of an alcoholic
Thank you yet again Sergei ! God Bless You & your crew !
You do so much with so little. I hope you go on forever with your good works. There are so much that can be done in Russia.
People need love to even if there are alcoholics you shouldn't punish her
Thanks!
Bless you
God bless u ,i saluteyour kindness
You gave the father some much needed help, you gave the kids some much needed joy, you gave the mother some great advice. I had just wished you had got that sweet little dog off of that short chain. That’s not how you treat an animal. Thank you for all that you do.
Kakoy je ti krasavhcik serega respect 💯💯💯💯
You have great compassion on the needy in the villages. God bless you.
I feel bad for the poor doggos. They are so short tethered and only want to be around the people. That is sad to me.
If you know your drinking causes problems, but you can stop anytime, the fact that you don't, means you don't WANT to stop. Whether she can or not seems irrelevant, as she simply doesnt want to, and life hasn't gotten bad enough to inspire change.
Exactly!
Huge life changer for this family. Overwhelmed by your kindness. Thank you for helping this family. Mother doesn't want help and is only thinking about herself. Sad the whole family has to suffer through this. Very sad.
Thanks for the great work guys!!
Cheers from Costa Rica!!
Maybe when the wife sees how the general family situation gets better and everyone improves, she will make changes herself.
Bless your heart Sergei for the good deeds you’re doing!!!!❤❤❤