Thanks Tony! Be blessed! I think women always struggle with their ex moving on because we want to be known as the one he regrets losing. It’s hard but we as ladies have to focus on our growth and healing as this is the only thing that matters. I am a firm believer that if a man is meant for me, God will put us together in the right time and season.
Agree that and like Tony said we feel like they don’t deserve to be happy we want karma for them for what they did to us. This is how I feel about my ex...I’m trying to heel though, but it is a struggle and we have a child so I have to somewhat be a part of his life because my daughter comes home and tells me all about it.
1.when he dont say "I love you" anymore. 2. When he takes forever to respond to your messages 3. When he text you instead of answering the phone 4. When he dont ask you for pics 5. When he erase your whole text thread on the daily 6. When you need his opinion on something and gives little to no answer 7. When he forces you to go out with your gfs for a night out 8. When he dont get jealous of any attention you get from other guys 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
He has moved on and it finally hits home for SOME of you out there....When he shows up the next day with his new women/wife. If this doesn’t wake you up, please go get your head examined. LET IT GO. God Bless, Be Safe.
If a man is moved on emotionally ladies move on and let go. Ladies Dont settle for less or keep wasting your time. Heal learn and grow love and respect yourselves. God will bring the right man he ordain for us at the right place and time. God bless everyone. You right tony thank you and God good advice. 👏👏☺👍
You know what really hurt hurt??? When we love ..we really love deeply with everything...we love love and it takes us a long time to heal and move on...
Me I just did everything he said I stopped talking and calling you left me so I'm moving on emotionally you call I let the kids answer he hang up sometimes then he has finally text now he know that I'm not wasting my energy not going to lie I'm hurting but this shall pass.......Was any help needed between eye appointment, not having school and you working?
Yes sometime as women we have to accept the fact that men move on. We should move on and do our work for ourselves. No hard feelings at all. I didn’t waste time moving on and learning to love myself first. Thanks for the video COACH!☝🏾
Blessed Brown Beautiful yes, while were in relationships we should always do work on that which is not pleasant...al the while, so that if you have to move on, you're healed when you move on, or it will be so much easier without looking in with too much sadness, in public or in private.
Most people don't understand that there are women like us who are hopeless romantics harbouring hope for the relationship... letting go is not as easy as people make it out to be. So with this information I can at least assess if all hope is lost for real... Thanks Tony you're heaven sent.
I’m watching and commenting at the same time, so I’m not sure if you mentioned this. But when he erases all pics of you two together off his social media...he’s moved on. Hurts like crazy, but never settle for second best. Keep living out loud and grow through it. 🌹
I don't even know about this one because my ex did that but his butt hasn't done any of the things Tony listed and text me a couple weeks ago lol. I did remove pics of him from my social media as well, but for me it was just not being able to see the memories. Because I love pictures so much.
That’s what I did Tony to get through my divorce. God and feeding my brain the knowledge you was and still is giving help me get past my divorce and prepare myself for a new person in my life. I don’t have social media the only thing I use you tube for is watching you and sometimes TD Jakes. I only want things that can feed my brain positivity not negativity!!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 me too! I start reading Joel olsten books listening to more gospel and praying and it has help a lot! God has Gracefully broken me because he replaced things in my life and still blessing me until this day! It’s been almost been 3 yrs separated and 2 yrs divorced. Thoughout my divorce and separation God has blessed me with a new job that pays well to help me live on my own and pay bills, put positive ppl in my life, moved to a new town, got a new Mercedes Benz when I was not looking for one at all. God has been wonderful to me and I learn to depend on him only because he’s been there when I thought I couldn’t make it on my own and needing my ex husband to survive! God was showing me to no depend on no man but him.
5 signs he has moved on emotionally: 1. When he I unfollowed/blocks you on social media 2. When he cuts off your family 3. When he is not contacting you 4. When he is cordially pleasant 5. When he has I’ll feelings/unbothered
when i cancelled the relationship, he would always say i'm not finished yet. so, i stayed and let him end it all the while we were both living separate lives. I had already moved on. But when i gave up the sex, he all of a sudden fell out of love. Another 6 year loss but I refuse to be bitter.
Thanks Tony for putting this out there. You don’t know how many lives you’re touching and saving in some part of the world. People are hurting and just a few encouraging words will put the light switch back on. 🙏
This is spot on. Ran into my ex recently and he saw me and avoided me like a plague. I was wondering what that meant lol. I just figured it was guilt...
Be blessed Tony and everyone who chimes in. I'm new to this channel. These videos have truly been a blessing to me through this trial that I'm currently going through. Please pray for me.
This video has let me know I as a women have mentally and emotionally moved on and I'm married. Unhappily may I ad...The next step is to move out and get a divorce because I'm already gone. Eye opening!!!!
Thank you sooo much for the message at the end. I now know that my ex has really moved on and I must do the same. After being together for over 15 years and putting up with so much, as real good women do, it's time for me to find real happiness. We started as good friends and he had a really bad divorce and was going through a lot. I was what your wife was to you, I listen and supported him through a bad situation and that's how we got together. It's been 7 months since we have been apart, we both got our own place last November and that's when it all started going down hill. There was something going on with him but I couldn't figure out what it was and then he lost his job, so it got worse. I wanted to sit down with him and see what he needed from me and discuss what was going on, but he kept telling me that we would soon. A month later he finally called me and said that it would be best for us to go back on being friends just like when we first started. He said that we have had more ups then downs and that he didn't want to loose what we had built with our families. He wanted his children and my nieces and nephews to still be part of us. So we see each other at church every Sunday and HE texts me twice a week to say good morning and to have a blessed day. He finally found a job through a mutual friend of ours , whom I asked her to keep an eye on an opportunity at her job. So I prayed and he landed a position working with our mutual friend. Thank you again for your videos, they are very helpful and I'm hopeful that God will send me the right men.
A man can contact you and not be interested...players do that play mind games to get you to sleep with them and no contact means he is with his new supply...lmao woman crush everyday...😂😂😂😂
100%. I'm not the nosy type but after 14 years of being completely single no boyfriends or anything I decided through my friend to try to date. I hated it because I have been married for 10 and a half years and then after that I was in a four-year relationship with somebody that was more of a soulmate then my husband was and he was calm and I really needed that after abusive husband. I think I was sillier than he because I'm a Sagittarius and he's a cancer but the rest of our astrological chart lined up and we were exactly the same song for Rising Moon and Mars and then are Venus was trying because his is in cancer & mines and Scorpio. I was just looking it up one time because I couldn't believe how well we got along after a year or so in apparently maybe that's why or it was God's Will and he knew who I needed to be with & who Victor needed to be with. We have three and a half years of getting along Practically Perfect in the last 6 months a little challenging because I got tired of people asking me when we were going to get engaged and if we were going to get married because to me I had only been divorced like for plus years and I wasn't really in a rush for that. I could have done with it or without it and I honestly didn't think he was mature enough all ready for that yet because he was three and a half years younger than I and even at 29 I don't honestly know if he was really ready to get married and he wasn't thinking we had a future together & it was because two months before we broke up I was 10 days late and here I am 32 and already had two kids and he was almost 29 and he had none of that experience. "It Don't Come Easy!" I thought it was really kind of stupid and really immature to think that way just because I was 10 days late. Really? Then he contradicted himself by asking me have you not thought about the possibility that I might want to have kids one day? Wth? Looking Back Now I didn't know if he thought or assumed I didn't want any more kids, or because he didn't want to have children or get married to me in the future. It hurt like crazy for both of us than we were the best friends and best of everything but we let go and after six weeks or so I was feeling better and definitely by 8 weeks I was doing great. he showed up at my house three and a half months later unannounced during my lunch break from the law firm and he looked like crap. I don't know if he was still hurt but I don't think so and perhaps he could have been tired from working night shift. I was pretty ticked because I thought "here you are after-- three and a half months and you're bringing back memories I wanted to forget and I did let go of them 2 months ago". He said he felt like when we broke up that I didn't get enough closure and I told him I had all the closure I really needed the day after we broke up when I called him and I asked him if he meant what he said, and he said yes... I told him that was my first closure or second and then the rest of my closure has been the past three and a half months. he said he just wanted to know and then he got up and left only to call me 11 months later, thank God, from a pay phone and asked if he could come over. I was definitely beyond all of that and had a horrible injury and just diagnosed with lupus and lay off of my Law Firm job a week after September 11th 2001. his wife may have been the same but mine was a lot different and we talked for three hours while I sat on the couch and he said on the loveseat. he told me if I wanted to use his computer at home to do cover letters I could come over to his house anytime I wanted and he would just leave the key out for me when he went to work at night because I was likely going to go over there around 8 or 8:30 after my kids went to school. I would go over about two days a week and I tried all ways to get out of there before he came home around 9:30. twice he got there before I left between the 1st of October and January. the first time we just talk for a while and then the second time he told me that if I wanted to I could take the key to his apartment so I could come over anytime I wanted to and then he didn't have to always leave it under the mat!! he doesn't give any of his friends the key to his house and even though he trusted me as a person and we were on good terms and even decent friends it's just weird and he never gave his kidney to even his best friend. needless to say I freaked out then and it wasn't the one time he took me out to lunch. granted he did not do that quickly it took can probably three and a half months to ask me that or tell me and we would talk occasionally a couple times but I did my best to not go over there. he gave me this beautiful Peruvian rug made from alpaca fur for Christmas. I just baked him some goodies. he said his mom and dad were always asking about me and then his mom actually sent me a Facebook friend request in December of 2016 and we talk maybe twice a year. she asked me early on in the conversation if I was married and I said oh heck no. she told me that Victor was 45, and he still hadn't gotten married or had kids; but he got his Masters in Social Work degree . He was getting ready to take his exam to get license to be a licensed clinical social worker. I think that he and my daughter must have finished their master's degree at the same time because she finished in August 2015, but she wasn't able to take her licensing exam until May of 2018 and she failed the first time. She had to wait 3 months to take it again and then she passed. Yay! his mom told me when I talked to her last week that he has not had a serious relationship or one that has lasted for more than two to four months since we broke up. Im shocked!! we were anything but just casual friends after 2002 and I haven't even talked to him since but I'll talk to his mom from 2016 on. she messaged me the night my daughter was having her first baby on New Year's Eve. I just had to send her newborn pictures because I was over the moon. Judy said that the whole family came in for Thanksgiving and that Victor was asking about me and if she had heard from me or we had talked and she said , "o not since last year." I think it's good to remain friends from a distance without ever having any bad feelings. now that I look back 19 years ago I think maybe I really should have told him if it was just me he couldn't see himself with or what but I didn't think about that in October 2000 when he came to see me because I had done everything I could to just get over it. now it really doesn't matter because it's been so long and Lord we are on friendly terms even if it's at a distance and it doesn't really matter now and so stuck in our single ways
1. Removes from social media 2. Cuts off your family and friends 3. When he’s not contacting you 4. When he is just polite in person 5. No bad feelings
I’m so glad my mother teach me morals and too be independent and responsible and to never run behind a boy and that they’re stupid at an early age, may my mother Rest In Peace
Thank you Tony and may god bless you and your family 🙏 I was with my partner for 30 years from the age of 15. He has left and come back so many times. Watching your videos is really helping me in my road to healing. Most things you say in your videos is like your talking about my ex. You have given me the strength to get through these days. I know that I deserve better and god has a plan for us all. Be blessed and keep up the good work you are sincerely appreciated 🙂
I appreciate you so much for this video. Omg 😣 Lol I just got off my guys page. He's been posting like crazy to get my reaction so I unfollowed on Instagram and unfriended him on Facebook but I'm still stalking both social media accounts to see what he will post next 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 this video was for me hahah be blessed! ☮💜 I need help lol
I'm recently a new subscriber and I just want to thank you for all of your powerful and inspiring knowledge. God Bless You and Your Family! Your words of wisdom have been so helpful and inspiring. #BeBlessed
I think evey man iv been with had moved on mentaly with me...because i was at a low place in life and had low self esteem and i let them without walking away
What if he deleted ALL of his social media! Literally everything and it’s been a year since the break up! Either he’s hiding the new woman or literally butt hurt! Kind of happy he did because I moved on much quicker now knowing what he’s doing! Kind of thankful for that!
@@hellosunshine3647 Actually, I said GTFO NOW on Oct 26th. He was not ready yet. I was 💯 Had everything neatly waiting for him when he got home from work. 👋🏼👋🏼
Amen. .Me to I was seeing this guy for 5 mths seen him one morning by the next day noting he went ghost for 3mths and we hung out one weekend and I be damn he went ghost again and 4 days ago here comes a txt from ol Casper. So I txt back and said hey stay ghost cause you can't make your mind up.
Be Blessed! Mr. Tony Gaskins your message was getting extremly good and very deep, I wish you had more time. You was hitting All the KEY POINTS. Be Blessed! In Jesus Name. AMEN
Sis, if you have brought this up to that man and he’s still liking other females pictures, he does not respect you and he’s still looking. You’re not his end game. Leave before you get left. A MAN will not entertain other females in any way if he’s serious about you, especially if you’ve brought it up to his attention.
Blocking is very aggressive. Anyone who you cared for that blocks you is not worth worth repairing anything with. It's a huge example of disrespect. It loves they don't value you.
I move on for many many many many years now 🤗 when I was LEAVING, he was crying to my mother and telling her please stop your daughter from moving out and LEAVING this relationship we have, my mother said no, I can not do that , she gave you three chances 🤗 you both when to CHRISTIAN counseling and WORLDLY counseling 🤗 it did not work 🤗 and the lord told me , he is going to call you soon , but he don't known how you call you and what to said to you 🤗 JESUS was on POINT, he call me in 2010 🤗 he said, don't say anything, let me talk , I said ok 🤗 that was all, EVERYBODY move on, move FORWARD 🤗 and nobody look back 🤗 I am a PRAYER WARRIORS 🤗 I PRAY alot 🤗 AMEN HALLELUJAH 🤗 PRAISE HIM 🤗
THANK YOU, so much for ALL that you do, for everyone of us, esp me, Tony!! I watch all your videos, and follow your Q&A’s on FB, and I also have purchased 2 of your books... I’m reading MIW now, and I love it and it’s so informative and knowledgeable! I’ve learned SO much from you, from following you and listening and doing everything you have said to do, about myself and how to get past so much!! I truly Thank god for you really, bc You do help So many of us, and if not for your videos, your post, your Q&A’s, and esp your books, I don’t think I’d be where I am at now, with loving myself more, and learning how to navigate and be able to move past hurt from my past relationship.. you’ve helped me to see and know what to do, so much more than you know and I just want to say THANKS, SO MUCH! I will continue to follow you on everything, and also share all that I can.... you are the real deal, Tony! #BlessedFam #BeBlessedEveryone 🙏🏼👌🏼💯
Anybody that wants to let me go, let me go. my thing is, I cannot lose myself for people. thank you for letting me go whoever has. thank you. Even if it hurts for a season… thank you. what’s for me and whose for me will be here with me. thank you For removing me.
I just wanna have a understanding in the meaning to when a man say to a woman do things that going take care of you and benefit you. don't worry about him
Never entertain a confused man. If you haven't sat down to have a serious conversation with him about why he does what he does, try that first, and pay very close attention to his answers. That will tell you what he's really looking for. And it may not be you. A good question to ask would be "If the Apocalypse ended, who would you get to first?" The answer I got was, "whoever is closer." I obviously wasn't his priority. Told me he had other girls. I told him not to worry and that I could take care of myself, and IMMEDIATELY stopped putting effort in. I wasn't playing that game. I was done. This was a conversation I had with a bi-polar man. I hope this helps.
Thank you for your teaching . now i see all red flags that had in all my relationship mens and family . thanks. And. I've also learn things about my self too. Keep teaching . thanks
I’m not going to accept a man once he moves on block me I’ll help you by dropping you and not on Facebook in life ..... Please believe I’m done Hon a bun I don’t hate you I dismiss you ✋The Creator 💜created Me to love and be loved. I Love how he created me a vessel of his my God I refused to be used. I’m learning how to respect the power of loving me....
Thanks Tony! Be blessed! I think women always struggle with their ex moving on because we want to be known as the one he regrets losing. It’s hard but we as ladies have to focus on our growth and healing as this is the only thing that matters. I am a firm believer that if a man is meant for me, God will put us together in the right time and season.
Amen! Thanks for sharing! #BlessedFam
Agree that and like Tony said we feel like they don’t deserve to be happy we want karma for them for what they did to us. This is how I feel about my ex...I’m trying to heel though, but it is a struggle and we have a child so I have to somewhat be a part of his life because my daughter comes home and tells me all about it.
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Amen
Truth... 💯💯
1.when he dont say "I love you" anymore.
2. When he takes forever to respond to your messages
3. When he text you instead of answering the phone
4. When he dont ask you for pics
5. When he erase your whole text thread on the daily
6. When you need his opinion on something and gives little to no answer
7. When he forces you to go out with your gfs for a night out
8. When he dont get jealous of any attention you get from other guys
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Oh wow, you have my daughter's name. Beautiful:)
Thanks babe cleaning today and want to order some food.
Oh this hurts 😔
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Yup! That’s about sum it up right
NO COMMUNICATION IS A RESPONSE‼️😱😱😱. SO IVE MOVE ON‼️‼️‼️
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You can't be mad when he's looking healthy, whole and blessed...YOU can BE healthy, whole and blessed!!! 🧡👏
He has moved on and it finally hits home for SOME of you out there....When he shows up the next day with his new women/wife. If this doesn’t wake you up, please go get your head examined. LET IT GO. God Bless, Be Safe.
I don't care if he's moved on. I have moved on!😠
Exactly
Preach!!!!
Exactly
Lol ok
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If a man is moved on emotionally ladies move on and let go. Ladies Dont settle for less or keep wasting your time. Heal learn and grow love and respect yourselves. God will bring the right man he ordain for us at the right place and time. God bless everyone. You right tony thank you and God good advice. 👏👏☺👍
Major facts 💯💪
what if he moved on mentally but not emotionally. should i still hold on🤔 i broke up with btw
It’s so hard
I think I'll just get a puppy🤷🏽♀️🐶
puppies are so cute
Great idea...thinking to do that too...!
Lmbo 😂 would be much easier thanks for the ideal
You know what, i think i'm following in the same foot steps. I'll get 2 puppies and just chill. I give up on relationships.
Thiiiiissssss!!!! 😂😩
I’m a man an this is ALL FACTS!!!
Thanks for the confirmation, I think! Hahaha
You don’t speak for ALL men
@@amerokeewiya1320 doesnt make it not be facts
Thanks for confirming it
You know what really hurt hurt??? When we love ..we really love deeply with everything...we love love and it takes us a long time to heal and move on...
Amen,so very true!!
Me I just did everything he said I stopped talking and calling you left me so I'm moving on emotionally you call I let the kids answer he hang up sometimes then he has finally text now he know that I'm not wasting my energy not going to lie I'm hurting but this shall pass.......Was any help needed between eye appointment, not having school and you working?
Yes sometime as women we have to accept the fact that men move on. We should move on and do our work for ourselves. No hard feelings at all. I didn’t waste time moving on and learning to love myself first. Thanks for the video COACH!☝🏾
Thanks for sharing! #BlessedFam
Blessed Brown Beautiful yes, while were in relationships we should always do work on that which is not pleasant...al the while, so that if you have to move on, you're healed when you move on, or it will be so much easier without looking in with too much sadness, in public or in private.
One stupid woman blocked me. Almost 2 months later. She's the one crying when she hears my name. She's a total nut job.
Most people don't understand that there are women like us who are hopeless romantics harbouring hope for the relationship... letting go is not as easy as people make it out to be. So with this information I can at least assess if all hope is lost for real... Thanks Tony you're heaven sent.
The second he ended the relationship I blocked him from everything🤷🏽♀️
Ayana Cespedes the second I was deleted on fb after a argument I went ahead and blocked him 🤷🏽♀️
I’m watching and commenting at the same time, so I’m not sure if you mentioned this. But when he erases all pics of you two together off his social media...he’s moved on. Hurts like crazy, but never settle for second best. Keep living out loud and grow through it. 🌹
I don't even know about this one because my ex did that but his butt hasn't done any of the things Tony listed and text me a couple weeks ago lol. I did remove pics of him from my social media as well, but for me it was just not being able to see the memories. Because I love pictures so much.
That’s what I did Tony to get through my divorce. God and feeding my brain the knowledge you was and still is giving help me get past my divorce and prepare myself for a new person in my life. I don’t have social media the only thing I use you tube for is watching you and sometimes TD Jakes. I only want things that can feed my brain positivity not negativity!!
Girl, I did the same exact thing! 9mod isn’t Divorce=Peace and Healing👍🏽
Well said
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 me too! I start reading Joel olsten books listening to more gospel and praying and it has help a lot! God has Gracefully broken me because he replaced things in my life and still blessing me until this day! It’s been almost been 3 yrs separated and 2 yrs divorced. Thoughout my divorce and separation God has blessed me with a new job that pays well to help me live on my own and pay bills, put positive ppl in my life, moved to a new town, got a new Mercedes Benz when I was not looking for one at all. God has been wonderful to me and I learn to depend on him only because he’s been there when I thought I couldn’t make it on my own and needing my ex husband to survive! God was showing me to no depend on no man but him.
5 signs he has moved on emotionally:
1. When he I unfollowed/blocks you on social media
2. When he cuts off your family
3. When he is not contacting you
4. When he is cordially pleasant
5. When he has I’ll feelings/unbothered
Takesha Feagin
Or when he tells you he needs some space.
Thank you !!
What if he still wants to be around my mother to hail I find it strange and he has a new gf. I told him I'm not comfortable with that...
After how long is that?
The clarity of this message is so on point!!
when i cancelled the relationship, he would always say i'm not finished yet. so, i stayed and let him end it all the while we were both living separate lives. I had already moved on. But when i gave up the sex, he all of a sudden fell out of love. Another 6 year loss but I refuse to be bitter.
Well I just wished him well in his new relationship and I’m moving on. Be blessed
Thanks Tony for putting this out there. You don’t know how many lives you’re touching and saving in some part of the world. People are hurting and just a few encouraging words will put the light switch back on. 🙏
This is spot on. Ran into my ex recently and he saw me and avoided me like a plague. I was wondering what that meant lol. I just figured it was guilt...
FACTZ 💯
Be blessed Tony and everyone who chimes in. I'm new to this channel. These videos have truly been a blessing to me through this trial that I'm currently going through. Please pray for me.
This video has let me know I as a women have mentally and emotionally moved on and I'm married. Unhappily may I ad...The next step is to move out and get a divorce because I'm already gone. Eye opening!!!!
Please move on someone who doesn't value you doesn't deserve your time.
You deserve better folks
Thank you sooo much for the message at the end. I now know that my ex has really moved on and I must do the same. After being together for over 15 years and putting up with so much, as real good women do, it's time for me to find real happiness. We started as good friends and he had a really bad divorce and was going through a lot. I was what your wife was to you, I listen and supported him through a bad situation and that's how we got together. It's been 7 months since we have been apart, we both got our own place last November and that's when it all started going down hill. There was something going on with him but I couldn't figure out what it was and then he lost his job, so it got worse. I wanted to sit down with him and see what he needed from me and discuss what was going on, but he kept telling me that we would soon. A month later he finally called me and said that it would be best for us to go back on being friends just like when we first started. He said that we have had more ups then downs and that he didn't want to loose what we had built with our families. He wanted his children and my nieces and nephews to still be part of us. So we see each other at church every Sunday and HE texts me twice a week to say good morning and to have a blessed day. He finally found a job through a mutual friend of ours , whom I asked her to keep an eye on an opportunity at her job. So I prayed and he landed a position working with our mutual friend. Thank you again for your videos, they are very helpful and I'm hopeful that God will send me the right men.
“MC Tuesday” 😂😂😂😂 MCM it’s Monday Tony... he said what y’all say WCW “women crush Wednesday@ 🤔 i can’t help but laugh. Tony is hilarious
TiffanyB TV lol
I’m DEAD 🤣🤣
I fell the hell out 😂 MC Tuesday 💀
Yes...Tony really is hilarious 🤣
TiffanyB TV .. Yes 🤣🤣🤣😂😂 that part was so funny !!
Be blessed. Wish everyone well and get yours like Tony says - it's important to keep it positive.
A man can contact you and not be interested...players do that play mind games to get you to sleep with them and no contact means he is with his new supply...lmao woman crush everyday...😂😂😂😂
Dtella55
HE’S A PIMPING PLAYER.....RUN. Do not get your feelings caught up in this drama.
FACTZ💯
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Yeah narcissist pretend to be all in.
100%. I'm not the nosy type but after 14 years of being completely single no boyfriends or anything I decided through my friend to try to date. I hated it because I have been married for 10 and a half years and then after that I was in a four-year relationship with somebody that was more of a soulmate then my husband was and he was calm and I really needed that after abusive husband. I think I was sillier than he because I'm a Sagittarius and he's a cancer but the rest of our astrological chart lined up and we were exactly the same song for Rising Moon and Mars and then are Venus was trying because his is in cancer & mines and Scorpio. I was just looking it up one time because I couldn't believe how well we got along after a year or so in apparently maybe that's why or it was God's Will and he knew who I needed to be with & who Victor needed to be with.
We have three and a half years of getting along Practically Perfect in the last 6 months a little challenging because I got tired of people asking me when we were going to get engaged and if we were going to get married because to me I had only been divorced like for plus years and I wasn't really in a rush for that. I could have done with it or without it and I honestly didn't think he was mature enough all ready for that yet because he was three and a half years younger than I and even at 29 I don't honestly know if he was really ready to get married and he wasn't thinking we had a future together & it was because two months before we broke up I was 10 days late and here I am 32 and already had two kids and he was almost 29 and he had none of that experience. "It Don't Come Easy!" I thought it was really kind of stupid and really immature to think that way just because I was 10 days late. Really? Then he contradicted himself by asking me have you not thought about the possibility that I might want to have kids one day? Wth? Looking Back Now I didn't know if he thought or assumed I didn't want any more kids, or because he didn't want to have children or get married to me in the future. It hurt like crazy for both of us than we were the best friends and best of everything but we let go and after six weeks or so I was feeling better and definitely by 8 weeks I was doing great. he showed up at my house three and a half months later unannounced during my lunch break from the law firm and he looked like crap. I don't know if he was still hurt but I don't think so and perhaps he could have been tired from working night shift. I was pretty ticked because I thought "here you are after-- three and a half months and you're bringing back memories I wanted to forget and I did let go of them 2 months ago".
He said he felt like when we broke up that I didn't get enough closure and I told him I had all the closure I really needed the day after we broke up when I called him and I asked him if he meant what he said, and he said yes... I told him that was my first closure or second and then the rest of my closure has been the past three and a half months. he said he just wanted to know and then he got up and left only to call me 11 months later, thank God, from a pay phone and asked if he could come over. I was definitely beyond all of that and had a horrible injury and just diagnosed with lupus and lay off of my Law Firm job a week after September 11th 2001. his wife may have been the same but mine was a lot different and we talked for three hours while I sat on the couch and he said on the loveseat.
he told me if I wanted to use his computer at home to do cover letters I could come over to his house anytime I wanted and he would just leave the key out for me when he went to work at night because I was likely going to go over there around 8 or 8:30 after my kids went to school. I would go over about two days a week and I tried all ways to get out of there before he came home around 9:30. twice he got there before I left between the 1st of October and January. the first time we just talk for a while and then the second time he told me that if I wanted to I could take the key to his apartment so I could come over anytime I wanted to and then he didn't have to always leave it under the mat!! he doesn't give any of his friends the key to his house and even though he trusted me as a person and we were on good terms and even decent friends it's just weird and he never gave his kidney to even his best friend. needless to say I freaked out then and it wasn't the one time he took me out to lunch.
granted he did not do that quickly it took can probably three and a half months to ask me that or tell me and we would talk occasionally a couple times but I did my best to not go over there. he gave me this beautiful Peruvian rug made from alpaca fur for Christmas. I just baked him some goodies. he said his mom and dad were always asking about me and then his mom actually sent me a Facebook friend request in December of 2016 and we talk maybe twice a year. she asked me early on in the conversation if I was married and I said oh heck no.
she told me that Victor was 45, and he still hadn't gotten married or had kids; but he got his Masters in Social Work degree . He was getting ready to take his exam to get license to be a licensed clinical social worker. I think that he and my daughter must have finished their master's degree at the same time because she finished in August 2015, but she wasn't able to take her licensing exam until May of 2018 and she failed the first time. She had to wait 3 months to take it again and then she passed. Yay! his mom told me when I talked to her last week that he has not had a serious relationship or one that has lasted for more than two to four months since we broke up. Im shocked!! we were anything but just casual friends after 2002 and I haven't even talked to him since but I'll talk to his mom from 2016 on.
she messaged me the night my daughter was having her first baby on New Year's Eve. I just had to send her newborn pictures because I was over the moon.
Judy said that the whole family came in for Thanksgiving and that Victor was asking about me and if she had heard from me or we had talked and she said , "o not since last year." I think it's good to remain friends from a distance without ever having any bad feelings.
now that I look back 19 years ago I think maybe I really should have told him if it was just me he couldn't see himself with or what but I didn't think about that in October 2000 when he came to see me because I had done everything I could to just get over it. now it really doesn't matter because it's been so long and Lord we are on friendly terms even if it's at a distance and it doesn't really matter now and so stuck in our single ways
Well, sounds like I've successfully moved on! Proud of me because I have done the work!!!
I'm not here for the advice, I just enjoy hearing Tony talk. He's funny without trying.
This doesn’t apply to narcissists because they never cared from the beginning. They have never been emotionally invested.
Wow, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear, thank you Tony Gaskins
1. Removes from social media
2. Cuts off your family and friends
3. When he’s not contacting you
4. When he is just polite in person
5. No bad feelings
I’m so glad my mother teach me morals and too be independent and responsible and to never run behind a boy and that they’re stupid at an early age, may my mother Rest In Peace
🙏🏾❤️
I except this message wholeheartedly.
Learning each day how to happy with myself first . because i was broken. From all my past relationship,family relationships. Working on it everyday.
Be blessed.thank u for being an honest upfront man. You are what I call a real man...blessings on you relationship with your wife.
Perfect time to watch on my lunch break 👏🏼
Awesome! Thanks for watching! #BlessedFam
I know this is for guys but I think I’ve moved on emotionally.
Goes both ways!
Same
@@TonyGaskins yup...& everything you named I’ve done & I still have feelings so I don’t agree with what you were saying. People know how to front well
I'm watching this and crying cause it's my situation...
Thank you Tony and may god bless you and your family 🙏
I was with my partner for 30 years from the age of 15. He has left and come back so many times. Watching your videos is really helping me in my road to healing. Most things you say in your videos is like your talking about my ex. You have given me the strength to get through these days. I know that I deserve better and god has a plan for us all.
Be blessed and keep up the good work you are sincerely appreciated 🙂
🙌🙌Amen!!
**The Blessed Tribe**
True Jewels, I'm a witness!!
Thanks Brother Tony.
Be blessed
Thank you!! #BlessedFam
@@TonyGaskins You're welcome!
Always Dropping These Gems 💎 To Us! Thanks Brother!
BIG BROTHER BE BLESSED!😊
I appreciate you so much for this video. Omg 😣 Lol I just got off my guys page. He's been posting like crazy to get my reaction so I unfollowed on Instagram and unfriended him on Facebook but I'm still stalking both social media accounts to see what he will post next 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 this video was for me hahah be blessed! ☮💜 I need help lol
Draw close to GOD and he will draw close to you GOD is all you need love yourself
I'm recently a new subscriber and I just want to thank you for all of your powerful and inspiring knowledge. God Bless You and Your Family! Your words of wisdom have been so helpful and inspiring. #BeBlessed
This video is just what the doctor ordered.🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Thank u for making me laugh with the "blue's clues" 😂😂 u def answered all my questions
Wow I was just saying yesterday you should do a video on move on emotionally..
I think evey man iv been with had moved on mentaly with me...because i was at a low place in life and had low self esteem and i let them without walking away
You are so funny and wise... Be Blessed as you are a blessing.
What if he deleted ALL of his social media! Literally everything and it’s been a year since the break up!
Either he’s hiding the new woman or literally butt hurt!
Kind of happy he did because I moved on much quicker now knowing what he’s doing! Kind of thankful for that!
Damn he still has a weak spot for me 😂 and I've gained weight. 🤦🏾♀️😭😭 We have 2 kids together. Yes do the work ladies on yourselves
He hasn’t moved out yet. According to him he can’t find a place. We’ve been broken up one months 😢
Boy GET OUT🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️
@@hellosunshine3647 Actually, I said GTFO NOW on Oct 26th. He was not ready yet. I was 💯 Had everything neatly waiting for him when he got home from work. 👋🏼👋🏼
You go then:)
Tony is giving us the game. Thanks for sharing. I wish more of us listened and learned.
I’m done with this “Casper the Ghost” analogy! 💀😭
Amen. .Me to I was seeing this guy for 5 mths seen him one morning by the next day noting he went ghost for 3mths and we hung out one weekend and I be damn he went ghost again and 4 days ago here comes a txt from ol Casper. So I txt back and said hey stay ghost cause you can't make your mind up.
Be Blessed to all of you and bless you Tony for all of your valuable information. I had a feeling you were the Tampa Bay area
Confirmation- be blessed!!!
Tony, not blues clues! Imma need that to stop lol! Be Blessed!
Be Blessed Tony ..🌟🌟🌟
Thank you ...
I am not on Social Media ...however will share ...
Be Blessed! Mr. Tony Gaskins your message was getting extremly good and very deep, I wish you had more time. You was hitting All the KEY POINTS. Be Blessed! In Jesus Name. AMEN
Be Blessed, I think we both are emotionally not over it, but im making the decision for both of us because it has to happen, love isn't enough.
Exactly love is never enough.
“He knows you like to play ‘blues clues’”-ah hahahahaha!
Such an inspirational story am touched dealing with a toxic person now cut him my life happier ever single, love to watch all your videos ❤💕
Be Blessed 😥😥💔💔 I needed this!
BE BLESSED. SO TRUE
I am so blessed by this message.
BE BLESSED TONY/WIFE &FAMILY
Not throwing her in the air Tony lol
Took me out!! Doing the absolute most on the gram!! 🤣🤣🤣
You are a blessing to us all.. Be blessed ALWAYS..
Be blessed! 💫 TG funny as hell 😂
When are you going to do the video about relationships when it comes to social media and liking other females pictures Etc....
Yes Tony I, WE need this video ASAP
Sis, if you have brought this up to that man and he’s still liking other females pictures, he does not respect you and he’s still looking. You’re not his end game. Leave before you get left. A MAN will not entertain other females in any way if he’s serious about you, especially if you’ve brought it up to his attention.
I dont have a problem with my dude liking photos. Shoot I like photos...
I know that this isn't for ladies but from the description, I believe I've moved on emotionally from my ex. I guess it goes both ways.
Blocking is very aggressive. Anyone who you cared for that blocks you is not worth worth repairing anything with.
It's a huge example of disrespect. It loves they don't value you.
I do not believe someone can help you heal. Healing does not come from a person. It CAN ONLY come from God.
Thank you for your service Mr. Gaskins. Be Blessed.
Thank you. This is the confirmation that I need.
I move on for many many many many years now 🤗 when I was LEAVING, he was crying to my mother and telling her please stop your daughter from moving out and LEAVING this relationship we have, my mother said no, I can not do that , she gave you three chances 🤗 you both when to CHRISTIAN counseling and WORLDLY counseling 🤗 it did not work 🤗 and the lord told me , he is going to call you soon , but he don't known how you call you and what to said to you 🤗 JESUS was on POINT, he call me in 2010 🤗 he said, don't say anything, let me talk , I said ok 🤗 that was all, EVERYBODY move on, move FORWARD 🤗 and nobody look back 🤗 I am a PRAYER WARRIORS 🤗 I PRAY alot 🤗 AMEN HALLELUJAH 🤗 PRAISE HIM 🤗
Thanks for all the hugs.
God bless your heart Tony 💚
BE BLESSED EVERYONE 💙
THANK YOU, so much for ALL that you do, for everyone of us, esp me, Tony!! I watch all your videos, and follow your Q&A’s on FB, and I also have purchased 2 of your books... I’m reading MIW now, and I love it and it’s so informative and knowledgeable! I’ve learned SO much from you, from following you and listening and doing everything you have said to do, about myself and how to get past so much!! I truly Thank god for you really, bc You do help
So many of us, and if not for your videos, your post, your Q&A’s, and esp your books, I don’t think I’d be where I am at now, with loving myself more, and learning how to navigate and be able to move past hurt from my past relationship.. you’ve helped me to see and know what to do, so much more than you know and I just want to say THANKS, SO MUCH! I will continue to follow you on everything, and also share all that I can.... you are the real deal, Tony! #BlessedFam #BeBlessedEveryone 🙏🏼👌🏼💯
Anybody that wants to let me go, let me go. my thing is, I cannot lose myself for people. thank you for letting me go whoever has. thank you. Even if it hurts for a season… thank you. what’s for me and whose for me will be here with me. thank you For removing me.
I just wanna have a understanding in the
meaning to when a man say to a woman
do things that going
take care of you and benefit you. don't worry
about him
Blessed Mr. Gaskins by this.
VRY GOOD READINGS. UR VOICE AND ENGLISH BOTH ARE GODD . UR FORECAST IS ALSO GOOD.
It’s the same signs with a woman. When a man see that a woman doesn’t care about him anymore he need to understand that she moved on
Be blessed!!! Thank you Tony! You've really helped me over these years❤
Be blessed brother🙏🏽 Thank you for all that you do❗
Be Blessed... Y'all
No matter how many videos of Tony I watch, I still can’t crack my ex who is the most bi polar and confused man I’ve ever met 🤦🏽♀️
Never entertain a confused man. If you haven't sat down to have a serious conversation with him about why he does what he does, try that first, and pay very close attention to his answers. That will tell you what he's really looking for. And it may not be you. A good question to ask would be "If the Apocalypse ended, who would you get to first?"
The answer I got was, "whoever is closer." I obviously wasn't his priority. Told me he had other girls. I told him not to worry and that I could take care of myself, and IMMEDIATELY stopped putting effort in. I wasn't playing that game. I was done. This was a conversation I had with a bi-polar man. I hope this helps.
Keep up the great work ...you are blessed, and I pray continue to remain a keep the blessings coming your way.
Be blessed ,at wk 4:13 am Thank you sir for this word God bless you and your Family.# you are helping me!!
Be blessed, thanks Tony! ❤
Thank you for your teaching . now i see all red flags that had in all my relationship mens and family . thanks. And. I've also learn things about my self too. Keep teaching . thanks
looking forward to the video about the role of social media in relationships.
Great word, Be Blessed.
I’m not going to accept a man once he moves on block me I’ll help you by dropping you and not on Facebook in life ..... Please believe I’m done Hon a bun I don’t hate you I dismiss you ✋The Creator 💜created Me to love and be loved. I Love how he created me a vessel of his my God I refused to be used. I’m learning how to respect the power of loving me....
Thanks Tony for sharing your heart with us. I'm a new subbie been watching for 4 days and I'm grateful. Blessings to you and your family. #beblessed
Blessed Tribe! Thx Tony . God Bless You. I’m doing the work.