Interracial Couples On Parents' Disapprovals & Dealing With Hate Online | ZULA Perspectives | EP 36
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- Опубликовано: 28 окт 2021
- In this episode of ZULA Perspectives, We invited 3 pairs of interracial couples to share their woes prior to getting together and dealing with certain people's negative perceptions of their relationship. Watch this video to find out more!
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It takes time and acceptance and with a pinch of understanding, love is truly such a wonderful thing. Do share with us if you have any stories of your own that you would like to share down in the comments below!
hi i was confused at the part abt religion. y was there a difficulty between catholic and christian since being catholic is alr being christian
there the same but different like salvation n what not.. christians dont believe in some of the books that catholics believe in... also catholics are lead by the pope and christians arent... im not so certain tho im not religious at all... so dont quote me on that entirely
I've dated a few foreigner before LDR, alot of flying around, our religions and cultures are totally different but it's very interesting to share and learn something new with each other.
Still loving strong with my current gf.
Love ? I don't think so. Maybe later. For a start ,it's just attraction of needs and curiousity. I too thought really so. I went deeper to understand the ratio of men and women in Singapore , down to Chinese women to Chinese men then to the total . And why Singapore government supporting and encouraging , simple, low birth rate, ageing population and more singles, a simple quick fix worth supporting. As for so called "love" , everyone is better educated, the men of different race live all their life growing up together with women of different race , especially Chinese there are so much more compared to their own ,they are normal man , wouldn't they take liking on any of them ? attracted to them . I am a Chinese male I would be attracted to women of other races too. For the Chinese women sadly for truth , they are known to be accepting and accomodating , decades ago there are the SPGs for Caucasian men , then now well not uncommon or surprising, they want the same thing such as attention and special experience , if you can offer , they will take it. One big groups are SIA cabin crew , I personally knew many who are as such , they don't like men of their race in fact, they found unattractive , they only attracted to different race. If they can ditch their surname or change their children's identity , they would really go for it. I don't mean to be harsh but that's what it is. Singaporean Chinese male many I know, has to resort to foreign partners , seriously tho, I do think Singaporean Chinese male is being prejudice and discriminated by its own women of same race . Well , I must say men of other races are tough and really making effort to get what they need and wants so no issue here . Can only blame the Chinese men of lacking the skills needed. One perception of Chinese women such as a few of my SIA friends are, Chinese men only want sex and not romantic enough, not offering enough attention and not westernised , not of higher classed or having nice career position and English proficiency is bad . That's word for word.
@@user-fd7rj9zm3j 😦
These couples are too cute, can’t believe anyone would hate on them. They’re just jealous! Love is love and no one should judge you for your choices. Wish all of you the happiness you deserve❤️
They probably are the accounts with no picture that don’t dare to even say a word in real life
@Si Dunue all ok as long as you don’t force your opinions or thoughts onto others that are in interracial relationships
Agree! ❤
rudy and jp such a cute couple!!
rudy and jp's r/s is so mature and respectful. glad they're married, they seemed like the perf match for each other. ps, sherrin is so gorg??!! girl don't let anyone tell u otherwise!
Thank you for featuring us! 😍😍 We enjoyed filming this with you! ❤️
Congratulations 🎈! 🎉
You guys are so cute
I think this is one of the sweetest Zula videos I have ever seen!
I used to dream of getting into an interracial relationship. As I grew older and get to experience different cultures, I realized it's not going to be easy. But I think people nowadays are more open and accepting towards these kinds of relationships. There will be hurdles, of course, but who said going to a relationship is easy, right?
often times, the difference in religion is the biggest hurdle. particularly with the in laws.
Nothing is going to be easy. The journey of life will be complicated anyways,no matter what,no matter who is your partner. Those been told to me by older generations. Just love and be loved,this is the only thing matters after all.
I swear still not for Chinese
In a dream world, love and marry whoever you want. In this real world, one is naive and foolish for not considering differences in religion and culture. Want to go ahead despite differences? Learn the hard way and no one to blame when things go south.
I’m mixed as well so growing up I never really saw interracial relationships as different or uncommon? But as I grew up, I realised ya there is an actual stigma around such relationships. It’s honestly mind boggling 🤯 if the stigma is around now imagine what my parents had to go through back then when it was way more traditional
People need to wise up. Love is blind until your relationship goes south because of cultural and religious differences.
In a dream world, love and marry whoever you want. In this real world, one is naive and foolish for not considering differences in religion and culture. Want to go ahead despite differences? Learn the hard way and no one to blame when things go south.
Hahah Allen funny sia (esp the last part).. love his personality
Awww all of these couples are really sweet and cute together 😭😭😭
All look beaten down
What I learned from me a Chinese girl who used to date Malay guy is that, it's very important that when you're with someone of another ethnicity, you are truly happy with your partner, your partner makes you feel comfortable being yourself, they are encouraging, respectful and supportive, you're feeling peace and calm with them, you can grow with them, you can see a life with them. I think that strong bond and connection will help you and your partner to remain steadfast and strong with each other through any obstacles. Belief in your relationship and your partner is the most important thing in facing ignorant people and those who are prejudicial and disrespectful. In the end, anyone who has something shitty to say about you and your partner, they are projecting their own beliefs, insecurities, hurts and ignorance onto you, they fear what they don't understand, it's nothing to do with your relationship, or you as a person. I hope this helps.
Can I ask you a question, why Chinese girls always embarrassed Chinese men like that? Cause from comment area, I can see a lot of Indian men said Chinese girl prefer Indian men more than Chinese guys. Is it true?
SO CUTE ALL 3 OF THEM
8:07 "Every relationship has their own problems, it's just a matter of whether the couple can deal with the problems or not." Very well said
They’re all so adorable!!! All loves here 🥰
I love Yixi and Sherrin
This was awesome... thank you for making this video. It was inspiring and lovely.
I am very happy that more and more people open up to interracial relationships 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Relationship Happiness does not necessarily come from the same cultural as what some of older generation said.
Can we have an episode of a relationship/marriage with a different religion, especially christian and buddhist?
normally christian cannot be w other religions like islam because of religious reasons, not bc of racism or stuff, but there are others who do it, not sure if it wld be a good idea though
@@ber245 ive heard that muslims are allowed to marry people who believe in either of the abrahamic religions eg christianity or judaism. they call them the people of the book
Christianity has changed through the years :) you do not need to be in a relationship with a christian though would be great if your partner is 1, as both would believe that god is the center of their relationship. But there are alot of relationships/marriages now adays where 1 person is a christian & the other is not. Regardless of religion, most importantly is that both party respect each other religion & that the partner that is not a christian, understands that their partner usually attends church on a sunday & is fine with it too.
@@claricetan540 Things would be entirely different when in-laws are consious about it regardless how respectful you are towards your spouse - that's the toughest part.
@@steffitan8926 true 😅
Wow. Thanks for the content! Way to go Rudy for respecting your partner’s decision. So glad I’m aren’t the only one.
I (Chinese gal) recently just got married to a Malay (Muslim guy). We went via civil marriage too but his family are hoping I convert (to Muslim) and pressured him to get me to convert ASAP as I am currently pregnant and they are concerned that the kid isn’t born Muslim. Thankful for my hubby being there and supporting my decision.
Your husband respect all the races and culture, his the true muslim unlike some who pressured others.
Stay loving 💕
Rooting for you! My husband and I went with the civil route with too (except my side is the Muslim side) :)
@@probablecat i’m really desperate for stories like yours, because my partner is a non muslim. How did it go with family??
@@dilara8 Not great at first tbh, my parents could not accept it which was really hard to deal because it meant them potentially not giving their blessing and attending the wedding. They did eventually come around though :) Wishing you all the best!
@@probablecat Hey, can we get in touch please? I have a very similar situation to yours and I could really do with some help and advice 🙏
Unfortunately it seems like the Chinese parents were the ones who didn't accept their relationships at first. So much underlying (and overt) racism in Singapore.
I was about to comment about this lol
It’s not even racism but your comments are.
If it’s racism because some parents do not accept interracial relationship, then can you explain to me, why do non-muslim need to force convert to islam whenever you are having relationship with muslim? If not you gonna get those comments from the family?
At the end of the day, racism not only in Singapore or even in certain race. Tbh, All races are racist, you can choose not to agree with it, but look at Indonesia and Malaysia.
At least Indians not that racist, and being bullied by y’all.
@@user-zp1tq1jd3l what is ur point???? why bring religion into this when he was discussing about race? and it’s ignorant to say that it’s not racism, it’s probably just too normalised and accepted that you don’t even realise it (or that you’re one of them!)
@@sophiearul2033 He's one of them. Lots of Singaporeans become strangely defensive when we bring up racism and I've learned that it's because they are guilty of it, in the past or even present. Mixing religion up with race further shows how out of his depth he is!
@Si Dunue Lol ok. If that's what helps you sleep at night. I would unpack why your personal preferences are what they are. Often it's deep-rooted beliefs and perceptions about other races. And if these beliefs apply to an entire race of people rather than a few individuals, then I'm sorry to break it you friend, but it's racism.
wow loving the great vibes ❤
This is so cute! It's nice seeing just Asian interracial marriages represented. We all have very similar cultures, and also very rich cultures, history, & cuisines which makes a person's world so much bigger.
Thank you for sharing your experiences, you guys are awesome! A really heart warming video with these wonderful couples!
Inter racial relationships & marriages are very common these days. 😊 I am so happy that these couples hit it off well in their relationships. All the very best to you guys. 🙏
Love is really a wonderful thing. I can relate very well with their struggles in the initial phase. All the best to the couples!
If you intend to make another video but with married couples, I'm in!
So sweet they went through so much but they nv gave up their love ❤️
Love them all. But JP and Rudy are just sweethearts
awww this is so cute! hehes
Would love to watch an interview for interabled couples!
Such cute couples!! Rooting for all of them!
Even for same race or gender couples also will have upz and downz~ so stay strong everyone!! especially in this pandemic situation!! JIAYOUS!! 🌈
So how, is your bf Indian, Malay, Bangla, Ang Moh or Pinoy?
@@Emsyaz Any of it is still better than balless and penniless Chinese Ah Beng.
So sweet!!
Awesome 👍 support you guys all the way. Best Wishes.❤️
SO CUTE😭
Omggggggg my fav Singaporean interracial couple!!!
4:56 can relate to it! My wife is a foreigner + Christian, while I am a Singaporean + Catholic. We made it work
I am a Muslim converted to chatolic because my partner is chatolic...and he is guiding me to our Lord..for almost 1 year we are debating about religion... Thank God he opened my eyes...
omg my favourite couple from tiktok 😭😭
so cute! ☺️❤️
My heart is so full
I was in an interracial relationship in India, and people literally made my life hell. I am glad to see more couples coming out like this.
I wish u all happiness always. All of u are so sweet.
Yall are so cute :')
I love sherin and yixi couple
These couples are freaking cute la
Interracial couples are just like any couple. As long as the person is still with a human, not with an animal, it's fine. There's no need to hate. I know interracial couples deal with things like different cultures, religion and all, but it's all part of the journey, right? In the end of the day, they are still two human beings in love.
Nowadays it is more widely accepted to date interracial. My parents dated each other during the racial riots in the 60s. Yet they persevere and got married. So it is whether you place each other as priority.
there are rumors CIA is the one istigated racial riots in the 60s.🤔
As a New Yorker I find this very interesting.
Nowadays many mix couple or marriage couple around the world. I think communication and understanding is very important for each other.so when family can accept no problem for their relationship
People got nothing better to do meh than to tell other interracial couples to not be together 🙄
They jealous lah
@@Emsyaz Crazy old folks will tell them not to be together. So the old folks in SG must faster meet their maker hor. Otherwise racial riots will happen again.
I've seen one of the couples on tiktok! They recently made a funny dance video lol
ah very lovely couples!! i almost forgot its october and not february 🤣🤣
wahhhh damn cute sia they all
They all are cute. I really like the Indian guy. He’s a keeper.
Love the way became yin n yang 🤟
Interviewed in June 2021.
One day ❤️❤️❤️ hope will find someone tooo 😊
A lot of times a lot of questions goes on in my head about interracial. Like just among chinese cross dialect is an issue. Like the little things, one person wants teochew porridge, the other wants cantonese mush, these little things that are an issue. How do they bridge their difference?
do more videos like this
The young Indian girl is very pretty.
I dated someone from China when I was 31 years old but his work permit ended six years ago in Singapore. So our relationship ended. 😢
100% true
The is the singapore i dream for
Love this. i think you should feature lgbt interracial couples who face an even bigger hurdle... (and for everyone else remember not to take things for granted ok.)
That will be very hard to find them since the whole society is against them if you know the whole same-sex issue in Singapore. They probably exist just don't want to be found. Interracial couple at least they still are able to get marry, have children, housing benefit from the government etc
❤
I like Yi Xi's Mother kind to Sherry as a concerned person.
Things will change if Rishi Sunak type of person being elected to become Singapore's Prime Minister for the first time. We are still living in ancient civilization if diversity is not being practiced here in Singapore.
Truly multiracial Singapore!
I can relate to Emily (Yes my name is Emily as well). I'm dating a Filipino guy and my mom didn't want to acknowledge him as my boyfriend. Still to this day she doesn't approve of our relationship. 😭
Wish for your happiness and the acceptance day from your mom will soon arrive 🙏🏽 It takes time for our parents to come into acceptance of what is not norm until they see how well you have been taken care of.
@@StarrySunnie thank you so much. I needed to hear that 🥺
Wah the Salsa girl's mom very fast uh... once she heard Rudy is malay straight away ask if got smoke/ got tattoo. Why la auntie... why...
Most Malay men dont have tattoo.
@PUJ foodiekitch She's uneducated, living under the rock. That's why.
make a sesion about different nationality couple please
If people want an peaceful world start accepting interracial couples. The more we learn to break the boundaries which makes us comfortable, the more we will learn there is only one race. The human race.
Indian guys should not be racist and discriminatory towards Indian girls.
Im not even Indian but I notice Indian guys hating their own women.
@@Emsyaz There seems to be an unconscious undertones of racial rivalry that I've noticed is very prevalent when it comes to those that are overtly pro-interracial relations, as opposed to simply being for stable relationships in general. Interracial being accepted as the atypical choice is also different from pushing interracial as the norm, and some even go as far to use interracial as a means to disproportionately push their men onto the women of other groups, so its clear to see there is a racist element to a lot of the interracial promotion ,that isnt simply about 'love' as some call it, is creating and indeed causing racial resentment. And so people will react in kind often when seeing such overt displays of interracial especially when people promote and try to establish it as the norm in such selective and one sided ways. So ironically this overt push may indeed be a contributing cause of further resentment between groups by using instances of interracial to normalise and encourage it as social practice prescriptively, to the detriment of racial identity of a foreign nation or to ones own when applied in reverse to the extreme. Individuals that develop relations with one another, that just so happen to be with someone of another group, is one thing, promoting interracialism as a general good for humanity is another topic entirely that needs its own conversation. Many now are even going as far to suggest that the social practice of interracialism as a lifestyle is the 'better' choice to say same race couples, and seems to be more about gaining racial leverage over another group by claiming large segments of a people's men/women, to the point where it can be considered an act of racial rivalry and not so much individual instances of love. The dominant group that obviously benefits more from the interracial exchange will be more inclined to be for it and call anyone who disagrees with the mass promotion of the practice as racist, when the irony is that its racial interest that is motivating their push for interracialism to this extreme. In the case of a number of african immigrants in Europe many try to now insinuate that if white families are not openly for their white sons and daughters to date interracially they are racist when there is no equality in this exchange due to disparities in gene dominance and demographic numbers when you look t the numbers of whites and the number of blacks globally, so clearly there is racist motive that blacks would have when forcing acceptance of a social standard instead of simply recognising individual instances of interracialism when not prescribed or imposed to be accepted as the norm. Its clear because of this that many will use either genetic dominance disparities or disparities in numbers in population size between rival groups to justify racial expansionism over the land and women of another group when it works to their advantage which is a dishonest primal mechanism all humans are capable of indulging in. There is also the matter of war to consider that involves interracialism. During times of war what would typically happen is the men of one people would be killed and the women of the group would be taken to be bred with, so to suggest that interracialism is solely fuelled by love and has no historic ties to conquest and racial expansionism is just lying to themselves. So ultimately to frame interracialism as being innocent and loving and that there is apparently no reasons or contexts in which the practice and its promotion can be bad is a dishonest one. So is assuming people's opposition to a social practice implies hated or a feeling of superiority to the other group. Some families genuinely want to preserve their racial heritage so believe the right to exist as a people matters more than how some others who do not care about race and want everyone else to mix might think about it.
@@Emsyaz If you are talking about racial predation and primal urge to conquer urges, that are part of what a people is inclined to unconsciously do through various means, I believe that urge to conquer exists in all people. Those that indulge in it the most do not consciously understand their behaviour from a biological outlook, but will rationalise their urge to conquer another group in the name of love, through aggression towards anyone that disagrees with their behaviour, or through social demonization. Which is ironic because those that partake and promote interracial themselves do not wish to be stigmatised for it but believe based on their social values and attitudes regarding interracial, that they have the right to demonise those who disagree with the social practice they are choosing to indulge in and selectively promote. Do you see that there are many layers to this interracial matter than simply 'this is for love', when there are clearly things to gain beyond love as to what some suggestion, and there may also be primal drive to conquer which I do not see many people talk about honestly? The faculties for pair bonding and love in the conventional sense is actually a secondary response to the urge to reproduce and conquer when it comes to mating. Its why most men are willing to have sex with many women but do not necessarily feel any attachment or obligation to pair bond with a woman. Pair bonding is actually more of a secondary response that develops with time. Which we, as a society, have only recently started to develop, but are likely to distance ourselves from as biological survival mechanism kick in again to conquer or be conquered so to speak due to racial rivalry and an acceleration towards globalisation interracialism and its proponents are ironically causing. Many are simply too horny or driven by this biological mechanism to consciously think about the long term ramifications of normalising such social practices as an inherent 'good'. Such practices when encourages makes competition the primary motivator for why people for instance defame or attack those to whom they disagree with them, in a 'kill or be killed' sort of way. We as a planet are accelerating towards mutual self destruction both in terms of racial identity and in terms of overpopulation/lack of sustainable development.
@@Emsyaz yes u are right
Many Indian guys want only fair skin women whether it's those Bollywood type or chinese Korean ang moh don't care.
Indian also if the girl is fair then yes indian guys will go for her.
It's like that. U can see some Chinese girls with rich indian guy with condo car etc.. She gets a stable partner and he gets a fair skin girl
This is how it works not just in SG but around the world. Most guys are attracted to it just like that 🤷
@@Emsyazs an indian woman it's true,also we hate them for their Behaviour,creepy,don't know how to date,they don't know meaning of consent,want fair girls etc.,still they hate us
Early
4:20 studio looks like JJsalsarengue
Salsa girl cute!
did zula hire a new video editing intern, spotted 2 spelling mistakes in the caption! keke
Kudos to the Malay and Chinese couple for going for civil marriage. My SO and I have been together for five years and we're also going for civil marriage (getting married on February) and keep both of our Faith. Throughout our five years, we have met a lot of people within our circle (most especially his Malay family who have even made countless racial slurs and offensive remarks towards me) who are still not as accepting as we would hope them to be. To be honest, we feel that interfaith relationships are more of a taboo topic these days compared to LGBTQ and now, more and more people and media channels have been speaking about transgenders too.
We hope that you help pave the way when it comes to hearing out the stories of people who are of different Faith yet still able to love one another.
If there's anything I wish the video tackled is also them talking more about the negative side of things more especially for the Malay/Chinese couple. There's just so many passing remarks said towards inter-faith relationships especially with Malays and other religions. Also, things like how they are planning to raise their child, legal stuff too (it's really more complicated when one partner is Muslim).
Nevertheless, thank you so much for covering this topic. I have high respects for your channel especially after you did the interview with a Singaporean transgender and am looking forward to see your channel grow further!
Seconded on wanting to hear about the negative side of things!
Sorry to hear about what you're facing :( My (Muslim) family couldn't accept that I wanted to marry my Partner in a civil ceremony too, but they eventually came around. Hope your partner's family does too.
Are you against LGBTQ??? What did that community do to you to deserve your condemnation?
May Allah bless n guide you to the straight path my friend 😊
@@probablecat u marry chinese girl?
Some people are not willing to be open minded about inter racial relationship regardless whether or not they are indian,chinese,malay or any other race for that matter because they have been taught differently with negativity about other race when they were young. And until today there is still people saying no to inter racial relationship
Kau kahwin cina ke?
Video is good but please spell check your subtitles ;p got quite a few typos ;p
Huh the Indian girl is the prettiest one in the video. Who is calling her ugly?
Lovely
As a Chinese I get a sort of sentiment from my family and friends of the same race that dating a non-chinese is less acceptable than a chinese, is this the case for other races as well, in interracial relationship? just curious...
in Singapore, the sentiment is largely found in chinese families. there are some here and there in the 2 other races but very rarely.
@@sintiayuliani9123 oo thanks
My parents expect me to be dating the same race too! But I broke the boundaries anyways ahhah
In my frank opinion as minority race, seems like mostly a Chinese sentiment that's stems from some kind of superiority complex. Other races definitely have reservations about dating outside your race but usually it's not about desirability but rather compatibility due to religion etc. They may not be the happiest but they're not gonna give you shit or make derogatory remarks about your partner etc. I guess just raised differently.
If u are guy then it's hard that opposite family would even accept u.
Awww Rudy :)
Good for you. Meanwhile i cant even get any girl regardless of background lol.
🤣🤣🤣
Try harder
Hahahaha all the best .. a girl is waiting for you somewhere..time will make it happen 😀
The Indian girl is so cute
Tan Boon Lee Ngee Ann poly lecturer confirm kpkb 🤣🤣
Other race ah? Even in the same race also I got no gf HAHAHAHAHA
Try harder
As long as you click just go for it. Love knows no gender, age, race or religion.
29th July 2021
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I think the Indian girl is much better looking than her bf, why would people target her?!
Well because beauty is subjective some people just think she is ugly compare to her boyfriend. Is as simple as that.
Nah She s not haha
cuz of her skin colour :(
Agreed. She has very good features.
Racism.
the dad telling him to not call his daughter again is kinda scary....if it were me I would have cried for like a month lol, it's one of my biggest fear of dating interracial
All the best!
Only can tell after they all get marry.
1st Pair... Cat.&Chris religion is different... c'mon lar.... 🤔
It is :) you can research more about it
All relationships take work. Interracial or not.
no one wanna admit it, its the looks that they only care about, then its all breaking that delusion from there
Because of the racism in Singapore, I did not expect to be asked out on a date by a very popular, handsome and smart Italian boy in my university. It made me really nervous and I messed up the entire date. I think it's because dark skinned girls are looked down upon a lot more and naturally it is extremely rare that Chinese guys consider us brown girls.
well why do you want to be accepted what is this inferiority complex do you see certain types of men as superior
What accent is this?
Singaporean
singapore/ malaysia
Lol singaporean all have the same accent across the 3 races.
Wait a sec, isnt catholic also Christian?? Haha ,the girl Said he's catholic and she's christian 🤦♀️
Christian Catholic and Christian Protestant are different religion. They have different church and different ways of praising the God. I saw Catholic parents not allowing their children to marry Christians, and vice versa, because it is not ideal for each of their religion.
Finally interracial content that include malay and chinese, instead of black and a white person
East Asians 90 percent of the time like to marry other East Asians of there own nationality and if they are not available or on the market then they will go for North Western European Whites or Ashkenazi Jews while other races and ethnciities they would begrudgingly accept if even those other groups were not accessible yeah.
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